Podcasts about self abandonment

Today's episode is a special one. I hand the mic over to my friend Angela for a deep, no-holding-back conversation about my book In Pursuit. We get into the writing process, the messy middle, the self-abandonment patterns we carry, and what it really takes to live a life that feels like home to yourself. This isn't an interview as much as it is a soul-level conversation between two coaches about purpose, discomfort, emotional mastery, and the wild courage required to become who you were meant to be. If you've ever felt like you were “living in black and white,” chasing the next achievement, or waiting for the rulebook that everyone else seems to have…this episode is for you.In This Episode, We Explore:The limiting beliefs and inner narratives I had to rewrite in order to write In PursuitWhat “the prison” looks like and how to know when you're living in itUnderstanding the Arrival Fallacy and Arrival AddictionWhy so many of us abandon ourselves on the way to our goalsThe nervous-system side of people-pleasing, boundaries, and emotional discomfortHow to stop outsourcing your worth and start building self-trustWhat it truly means to succeed without abandoning yourselfWhat I'm personally “in pursuit” of right nowWhat it means to live an unblocked lifeClick HERE to watch this episode on YouTube.If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or tag me on IG with your biggest takeaway. Your support helps these conversations reach more people who need them.Links and Resources:Order my #1 New Release book In PursuitIf you love what you're hearing on the podcast, you've gotta check out my private coaching offers. Click HERE to learn more about one-on-one coaching with me!Get your complimentary copy of The Unblocked Journal to help bring awareness to perfectionist thinking and what it's creating in your life.Join My Do The Thing Community  Let's Connect:Follow me on Facebook & Instagram: @JessicaSmarroShare your thoughts and experiences with the hashtag #UnblockedPodcast and tag @jessicasmarro!

Today's podcast covers the topic of self abandonment. We often identify abandonment as taking place within a dyad or within interpersonal relationships. However, we can abandon ourselves in various ways. These ways can range from self-doubt to more serious self abuse, with many more forms in between. When self-abandonment occurs, this opens the door to despondency and despair. When we do not abandon ourselves, and maintain self compassion, we will not down-spiral emotionally.

We talk a lot about boundaries, but almost always in the context of protecting ourselves from other people. This episode is about the boundary no one talks about: the one you hold with yourself. I'm diving into containment, which is the ability to feel your emotions fully without discharging them onto someone else, and why lack of containment quietly destroys intimacy, even when you think you're "just being honest."  Moreover, I truly believe that every human is capable of emotional regulation, and am pulling apart the idea floating around the New Age / polarity world that men should be the stoic containers for the unbridled rage and emotional expression of women.  We'll explore: Why the most important boundaries are self-boundaries How emotional dumping differs from real vulnerability, and examples of the difference between the two Why anxiety, sadness, and fear can be just as uncontained as anger The difference between sharing to connect vs. spilling to feel better How to be raw, honest, and unrehearsed without abandoning responsibility Why containment is a human relational skill - not a gendered one This isn't about suppressing emotions or trying to be nice (which is often dishonesty in disguise.) It's actually an invitation into deeper intimacy, true connection, and allowing your authenicity to shine through in a way that invites others in rather than pushing them away unconsciously. It's about self-leadership, relational safety, and learning how to feel everything without making the people you love pay for it. So much to unpack here! Let's dive in, AND... Don't forget to check out my BRAND NEW podcast Love in Practice, co-hosted with my husband Kelly Gardner. You can find it on Youtube or anywhere you listen to podcasts! Listen here.   CONNECT WITH EMILY Grown Ass Woman Era: Group details HERE Book a Connection Call With Emily To Work Together COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Get Your FREE Guide "The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship" here Follow Emily on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Website: https://emilygoughcoaching.com/  BOOK: "You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection

What if the hardest part of healing isn't forgiving others — but returning to the part of yourself you left behind?In this episode of The Lucas Mack Show, Lucas shares a deeply personal story from childhood — a moment of abandonment that shaped how he learned to survive by disconnecting from his true self. What begins as a seemingly small memory reveals a universal pattern: when fear, pain, or trauma overwhelms us, we don't just endure it — we abandon parts of ourselves to stay safe.As adults, that survival strategy becomes a prison.We wear masks.We armor up.We perform strength.And slowly, we lose touch with the innocent, truthful, loving self we once were.In this episode, Lucas explores:How childhood trauma teaches us to abandon our inner childWhy survival masks feel protective but keep us stuckThe difference between coping and healingWhy freedom requires facing, naming, and speaking past painHow to become the hero and rescuer of your own inner innocenceThis isn't about blaming the past — it's about reclaiming what was lost.Healing begins when you stop waiting for someone else to save you…and choose to return to the part of you that never stopped longing for truth and love.You don't heal by becoming stronger.You heal by becoming whole.If you've ever felt disconnected from yourself, stuck in performance, or afraid to slow down and feel — this episode is for you.

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Every one of us has lived through something that could've broken us. This episode is about the people who refused to stay broken. In this Harder Than Life Best Of mashup, you'll hear powerful moments from Darren McCarty, Ezra Frech, Forbes Riley, and Dana Grant — four humans who took their pain, their trauma, their disabilities, their failures, their rock bottoms, and turned them into fuel. These stories prove one thing: Pain doesn't define you. It refines you. If you're healing, rebuilding, or climbing out of something heavy, this episode will remind you what you're made of. Key Takeaways:

Welcome back to The Summer of Me! In case you're new here, Kendra is diving deep into her personal journey, navigating through self-abandonment, divorce, and the realization that she needed to reclaim her own identity. Reflecting on her wake-up call, Kendra is here to encourage women to prioritize themselves and take small, intentional steps toward their true selves. Tune in for practical advice and the validation that it's never too late to choose yourself.  TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 Introduction 00:12 The Slow Loss of Identity 01:02 Personal Stories of Self-Abandonment 04:59 Realizations and Turning Points 11:37 The Summer of Me 15:46 Reinventing Myself 17:18 Encouragement and Conclusion LINKS: Follow Kendra on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendrafornow/ Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SummerofMe Produced by SocialPodcast.co

We're taught to toughen up, care less, harden ourselves. But you probably already know that none of that actually works. It doesn't make us safer or more confident, it just sends us into a tug of war with ourselves. In this episode, April unpacks the powerful middle ground — where softness and self-respect can live together — and shares a story that reframes what real strength can look like.In This Episode:Why “toughening up” disconnects you from your instinctsThe trap of believing softness equals weaknessHow we confuse fear-based posturing with strengthThe difference between the performance of confidence and genuine grounded powerWhat it looks like to be clear without being cruelHow to listen to your body's cues instead of overriding themThe third option between collapsing and attackingWhy real safety lives in self-trust, not force.Key Takeaways:Softness isn't vulnerability to harm — it's your internal compass.If you have to try to force someone to respect you and treat you well- you're dealing with a completely different problem.Power isn't making others bend to your will; it's knowing you can have your own back in any room you walk into.Discernment comes from staying connected to yourself and listening to your emotions, not armouring up and shutting down.Links Mentioned:Join the Bold as Love Collective Experience (starting January)Learn more about the programConnect with April on Instagram / EmailWant to get better at speaking up? Sign up for the free on-demand workshop that will help you be more confident in standing your ground when you're dealing with a boundary bulldozer. Sign up here.Get on the Newsletter List here.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Please note:This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Send us a textThis episode dives into the emotional tug-of-war women face when we're told to rise above, take the high road, and keep the peace — even when it costs us our truth. In this episode, Jacquelynn breaks down the difference between emotional maturity and emotional self-abandonment, how to set boundaries with integrity, and what it looks like to choose self-respect over silence.This is your reminder that being the bigger person doesn't mean shrinking who you are.In this episode, we explore:Why “being the bigger person” is so often weaponized against womenThe difference between maturity and people-pleasingHow to respond calmly without suppressing your emotionsThe signs you're abandoning yourself in the name of peaceWhat grace really looks likeHow to set boundaries without guiltPractical steps to protect your peace while staying alignedListen if you've ever been told:“Just let it go,”“Don't stoop to their level,”“Be the bigger person.”Because this episode is your permission slip to stop losing yourself for the sake of keeping everyone else comfortable. Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched!Start for FREEDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show

#355: We need to talk about burnout - and not just the kind that comes from working too many hours or answering emails at 10 p.m. This week, I'm addressing that bone-deep exhaustion that's become the background noise of so many of our lives, where your body feels like it's moving through wet cement and everything feels like way too much. I'm talking about the burnout that happens even on maternity leave, even in retirement, even while doing things you genuinely love. This isn't a work problem that a vacation can fix. It's about the chronic, relentless abandonment of yourself in the name of keeping everyone else comfortable. Tune in this week to discover how emotional outsourcing keeps us trapped in the burnout cycle. You'll learn why your nervous system reads disappointing others as life or death, and most importantly, you'll get a practical remedy for starting to source safety internally and becoming your own North Star once more. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/355 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:Buy Your Copy of End Emotional Outsourcing Today!Please support the book by reviewing it on Amazon or Goodreads. It helps the book reach more folks who are still living in old survival patterns and don't have language for it yet. Drop your screenshot at beatrizalbina.com/book and you'll get access to thank-you gifts and raffles for free breathwork sessions, coaching, and audiobook copies. I appreciate you more than you know. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

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Sometimes, in the name of love, we slowly dim our own light. We shape-shift to keep the peace, stay quiet to avoid losing someone, or give more than we have so we don't disappoint. But there is a vast difference between loving someone and abandoning yourself.This episode is your reminder that you can return to yourself at any moment. It's never too late. You can begin today.✨ CHANGES – December 13th, New York CityThis end-of-year workshop is your space to release what's weighing you down, reset your energy, and walk into 2026 with clarity, power, and emotional freedom. If you've been craving a fresh start, a breakthrough, or a moment to breathe and realign… CHANGES is for you.Join me.https://mailchi.mp/e69896ad15c5/changescambios

Tenderoni Hotline #8: This week on Feminist Wellness, I'm joined by the wise and wonderful Mary Jelkovsky, author, podcast host, and founder of Mary's Cup of Tea, for a deep and playful conversation on healing emotional outsourcing, letting go of perfectionism, and reclaiming your self-worth. We explore how so many of us were conditioned to earn love by being agreeable, productive, or self-sacrificing, especially those of us who are eldest daughters, children of immigrants, or socialized as women in patriarchal systems. Together, we unpack the invisible pressure to be “good” and how it robs us of self-trust, the link between people-pleasing and nervous system dysregulation, and the cultural and generational stories that shape codependency and first-gen expectations. We talk about how to stop managing other people's feelings and come back to your own, how projection shows up in relationships, and the power of presence work in interrupting old survival patterns. You'll laugh, reflect, and walk away with new insights into how emotional outsourcing shows up in your life and what it truly means to begin choosing you. Order your copy of End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en Check out Mary's podcast: Mary's Cup of Tea: www.maryscupoftea.com

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What if the thing keeping you stuck isn't your strategy, your team, or your market? What if it's how often you abandon yourself without even realizing it?In this episode, I sit down with Danielle Laura, a human design expert, clairvoyant, and former healthcare executive who completely transformed her life after experiencing what she calls "soul death." Danielle shares her journey from climbing the corporate ladder to losing everything when she finally chose to honor her gifts, and how she built an unshakable sense of self-loyalty in the process.We get into the real signs of self-abandonment that most entrepreneurs miss, why visionaries and creatives often feel like outsiders, and the micro-moment shifts that can change your entire trajectory without burning you out. Danielle also shares her favorite nervous system regulation practices and explains the difference between maintenance seasons and evolution seasons in business.If you've ever felt like you're living someone else's life, or you're so busy taking care of everyone else that you've lost yourself, this conversation will give you the permission and the practical tools to choose yourself first.In this episode, you'll learn:[04:46] Danielle's journey from healthcare executive to experiencing "soul death"[08:47] How human design and gene keys became the missing link[15:06] Signs you're living in self-abandonment (and don't even know it)[20:40] The "future cost" question that makes hard decisions easier[27:55] Why micro-moment shifts beat massive life overhauls[35:17] Nervous system regulation practices for high achieversHere are the resources mentioned in the show:Follow @_daniellelaura_ on Instagram Listen to H.O.T Talks PodcastDanielle's WebsiteJoin the 21-Day Creativity to Cashflow ChallengeAre you enjoying the podcast? We'd be so grateful if you gave us a rating and review! Your 5 star ratings help us reach more businesses like yours and allows us to continue to deliver valuable content every single week. Click here to review the show on Apple podcast or your favorite platformSelect “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review”Share your favorite insights and inspirationsIf you haven't done so yet, make sure that you subscribe to the show wherever you listen to podcasts and on Apple Podcast for special bonus content you won't get elsewhere.xo, Tracy MatthewsFollow on Social:Follow @Flourish_Thrive on InstagramFollow @iamtracymatthews  InstagramFollow Flourish & Thrive Facebook

In this episode of the Spirit and Soul Podcast, Tiffany delves into the concept of self-abandonment, exploring its roots, manifestations, and the journey towards reclaiming one's true self. She emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, setting boundaries, and the impact of childhood conditioning on adult behavior. Through personal anecdotes and insights, Tiffany encourages listeners to recognize their patterns of self-abandonment and take steps towards authenticity and empowerment.  

When burnout hits, most people think they're simply tired. But underneath the exhaustion, there's often a deeper driver: shame — that quiet voice that says, “You're failing. You should be stronger.”In this episode, Dex unpacks how shame silently fuels isolation and self-abandonment in high performers, and what it really takes to break that destructive cycle.Through the story of “Mark,” a high-achieving executive who spiralled into withdrawal and disconnection, Dex reveals the hidden mechanisms of shame and how they erode confidence, relationships, and health — all while convincing us to “work harder.”You'll learn practical, immediately usable steps to reclaim self-trust and reconnect with your power — even in the middle of burnout.What You'll LearnWhy shame is the invisible engine of burnoutThe Shame–Isolation–Self-Abandonment Loop and how it traps high performersThe biology of shame: how it drives withdrawal and shutdownWhy masculine conditioning amplifies shame in leadershipFour Steps to Break the Shame Spiral:Name the shamePractice tiny acts of self-connectionReach out to a safe personRecommit to self-respectKey Quote“Shame isn't proof that you're broken. It's proof that you care deeply about how you show up. Burnout recovery begins not when you fix yourself, but when you stop abandoning yourself.”ResourcesFree AI Coach for burnout relief: Dex AI Coach – private, expert, free, and can reduce shame in minutes.Book a free consultation: dexrandall.comSend us a text----------------------------------- Burnout Resources:Start 1-on-1 burnout recovery at https:/mini.dexrandall.comChat with Dex AI Coach https://app.coachvox.ai/share/dexrandallConfidential. Expert. Free. Solve problems fast.For even more TIPS see FACEBOOK: @coachdexrandallINSTAGRAM: @coachdexrandallLINKEDIN: @coachdexrandallYOUTUBE: @dexburnoutcoachSee https://linktr.ee/coachdexrandall for all links

Are you tired of saying yes when every part of you is screaming no? In this week's episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Annalie Howling — performance coach, trauma specialist, and boundaries queen — to unpack the truth about people pleasing, approval addiction, and why so many of us feel guilty putting ourselves first. We dive deep into the psychology behind saying yes, how it's linked to childhood conditioning, and what it actually takes to stop caring what everyone thinks. If you've ever been called “too nice,” struggled to set boundaries, or felt drained trying to please everyone — this one's for you. ✨ Who It's For: Chronic people pleasers who can't say no Anyone struggling with guilt, shame, or overgiving Women tired of being the “good girl” Anyone learning to protect their peace & energy

How do we show up not only for other people but for ourselves during seasons where so much is being demanded of us? Today, I'm answering questions from our text community on how to break cycles of burnout, over-giving, and self-abandonment. As we approach the holidays, we can start to feel the build-up of pressure to continuously show up, even at the expense of ourselves. That's why I'm sharing tangible steps you can take to set clear boundaries & expectations, reclaim your focus, and bring your energy back into yourself, so you can show up as your best version this season! HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 How to reclaim your focus and creativity after burnout. 11:00 How to keep your desire to serve in tact WITHOUT feeling like you're being taken advantage of. 15:10 Where does a feeling of lack come from + how do you fill it? 20:20 Ways to support yourself (+ others) during challenging seasons. 26:30 Where can you negotiate your own healing? RESOURCES + LINKS Join the waitlist for the 2026 Powerhouse Women Event HERE FOLLOW Powerhouse Women: @powerhouse_women Lindsey: @lindseymarieofficial Visit the Powerhouse Women website: powerhousewomen.co Join the PW Community Facebook Group: facebook.com/groups/powerhousewomencommunity

#123: On today's episode, Emma Klipstein, podcast host behind Too Much, jumps on the podcast to share her story. How she started her community, why she started pursuing healing, and the truth behind what happened with her ex co-host. The girls get into: all things datingbreaking unhealthy relationship patternswhat it looks like to self abandon, and how we can stand in our confidence healing from narcissistic dynamics, and what the red flags look likeconfidence vs securitythe truth behind love bombing how to manage friendship and romantic betrayal & MORE CONNECT BELOW:follow Emma herefollow Too Much hereCONNECT with HAN:follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com

Leigh Ann welcomes Dr. Nima Rahmany, a leading expert in shadow work, emotional regulation, and healing attachment wounds. Dr. Nima shares his journey from a successful chiropractic career to becoming a leading expert in emotional regulation and healing attachment wounds. Driven by his own experiences with toxic patterns, Dr. Nima now helps individuals break free from cycles of codependency and self-abandonment. The conversation explores how repressed emotions can contribute to disease and look deeper at the fawn response, a stress reaction characterized by people-pleasing behaviors. Dr. Nima discusses childhood patterns that lead to fawning and offers insights on transforming these responses in our adult relationships.Product Discount Codes + Links:Healing Alchemy Membership: Learn MoreRise Centered: Website (Discount Code: ACCRESCENT15)Rogershood Apothecary: Website (Discount Code: LEIGHANN10)Where To Find My Guest:Dr. Nima - WebsiteDr. Nima- InstagramRelated Episodes:Podcast Ep. 193: Britt Piper - Body-First HealingPodcast Ep. 167: Dr. Gay Hendricks - Are You Sabotaging Joy, Peace, and Alignment?Podcast Ep. 9: Dr. Ellen Vora - True and False AnxietyWork w/Leigh AnnLearn: What is EVOX Therapy?Book: Schedule a Session or FREE Discovery CallMembership: What is The Healing Alchemy MembershipConnect w/Me & Learn MoreWebsiteInstagramTiktokYoutube

Instead of learning to fill our own cup, we outsource the task to others like the narcissist. To avoid the tragedy that always follows these toxic pairings, we need grow ourselves and become whole and self sustaining.

What if setting boundaries isn't about pushing people away — but about finally choosing yourself? In this powerful and deeply relatable conversation, Harvard-trained clinical psychologist Dr. Sabrina Romanoff joins Surviving Roots host Cari Fund to unpack the hidden patterns that shape our relationships — from friendship breakups and people-pleasing to the repetition of childhood wounds in our adult lives. Together they explore: Why boundaries are acts of preservation, not rejection. How self-abandonment begins in childhood — and how to stop repeating it. The psychology behind friendship breakups and envy. What “getting comfortable in the uncomfortable” really looks like. How to know if someone is a battery or a generator in your life. Why guilt can actually be a sign of healing. Whether you're untangling toxic dynamics or learning to stand in your worth, this episode will help you reconnect with the version of yourself you've been betraying just to keep the peace. ✨ Connect with Dr. Sabrina Romanoff: @drsabrinaromanoff

If you've ever struggled with self-love or battled your harsh inner critic, join me for this conversation with relationship expert Dr. Margaret Paul.Dr. Paul explains her powerful Inner Bonding® self-healing process, a six-step pathway to heal self-judgment,reconnect with your true self, break free from old patterns and heal your relationship with yourself.Key Takeaways:Self-Healing Begins Within: External achievements, relationships, or validation can't heal old wounds. Genuine healing starts by building a loving relationship with yourself and uncovering the false beliefs you've absorbed over time.Recognizing Self-Abandonment: Many of us unknowingly repeat patterns from our upbringing, including self-judgment, staying stuck in our heads, numbing emotions, or making others responsible for our feelings. Noticing these behaviors is the first step to real change.The Power of Intentional Self-Love: Shifting your intention from controlling outcomes to learning how to love yourself is transformative. When you are filled with love from within, you naturally improve your relationships and well-being.Highlights 05:49 Healing Beyond Trauma08:38 Self-Abandonment 16:24 Self-Care and Inner Bonding29:04 Elevating Your LifeImportant Links

Are you exhausted from constantly trying to make everyone else happy, and losing yourself in the process? Today, we're talking about breaking free from the burnout of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and emotional outsourcing, and how to regulate your nervous system, trust yourself, and stop abandoning your own needs for the comfort of others.We're joined by Beatriz Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP, a Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing and Breathwork Practitioner, and Master Certified Somatic Life Coach. Bea unpacks the hidden cost of emotional outsourcing™, AKA the survival habit of looking to others for validation, self-worth, and emotional regulation, instead of tuning into yourself.We dive into polyvagal theory, recognizing when you're in functional freeze, and using somatic tools and nervous system mapping to heal the patterns of codependency, self-abandonment, and avoidance that keep you stuck.If you've ever Googled “how to stop people-pleasing,” “why do I care so much what people think,” “how to heal my nervous system,” or “how to set boundaries without guilt,” this episode is for you.Tune in to learn about:What Emotional Outsourcing really means — and why it's a nervous system response, not a personality flawHow people-pleasing, perfectionism, and codependence develop from early survival patternsPolyvagal theory 101: how understanding your vagus nerve can help you stop self-abandoningAre you in a state of functional freeze? How to recognize and heal from itUnderstanding social hypervigilence (and the empath paradox)How to set boundaries and make decisions without guilt or second-guessingNervous system mapping and somatic tools to interrupt your automatic responsesHow to find balance between flexibility and authenticityHow to stop “performing” to earn love and acceptancePractical tools for reclaiming your identity, rebuilding self-trust, and honouring your own needs without fear of conflictFollow Bea's Instagram and podcast. Buy Bea's book End Emotional Outsourcing! For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

You weren't born to hold it all. You were born to hold what matters.In this raw and refreshingly honest conversation, George sits down with speaker, coach, and boundaries expert Beth Jones to explore the pressure-cooker reality of modern leadership, especially for women who've been taught to carry everyone and everything. Together, they unpack the sneaky ways burnout shows up in high performers, the emotional cost of people-pleasing, and how to lead with integrity without abandoning yourself in the process.This isn't just about saying “no.” It's about remembering who you are when the world demands more than you can give. If you've ever felt exhausted by expectations, stretched by your own ambition, or unsure where you end and everyone else begins — this episode is your permission slip to breathe.What You'll Learn in This Episode:How to tell the difference between capacity and obligationWhy high performers are especially prone to burnoutThe invisible cost of people-pleasingWhy boundaries aren't walls — they're invitations to deeper connectionThe difference between support and saviorismHow spiritual practice can anchor your leadership Key Takeaways:✔️The boundary isn't to keep others out — it's to keep you in.✔️Over-functioning is not leadership. It's fear in disguise.✔️Rest is not something you earn — it's something you're worthy of.✔️If your love costs you your peace, it's not love — it's self-abandonment.✔️You don't need to prove your worth through exhaustion.✔️Your spiritual alignment is your leadership strategy.✔️Holding space doesn't mean holding everything. Timestamps & Highlights[00:00] – Introduction: leadership without losing your center[03:30] – Beth's story: burnout, breakdown, and breakthrough[09:15] – Why women leaders are burning out in silence[15:42] – The trap of being the “emotional rock” for everyone[21:18] – What boundaries really are (and what they're not)[27:00] – High performers and hidden people-pleasing[32:46] – The addiction to being needed[38:14] – How to lead without carrying everything[44:02] – Spiritual practices that restore your energy[49:55] – Rest as resistance (and productivity detox)[55:35] – How to reclaim your voice and capacity[1:00:40] – The difference between holding space and self-abandonment[1:05:18] – Final thoughts from Beth + how to work with herConnect with Beth Jones:Website: https://empoweredsurvivors.com/Instagram: @bethjoneshealingmentorPodcast: Let's HEAL! PodcastWork With Beth Your Challenge This Week:What boundary have you been afraid to set?Screenshot this episode, tag  @itsgeorgebryant and @bethjoneshealingmentor with your takeaway — or DM George what landed the deepest.Ready to build a business (and life) that supports your nervous system and your soul? Start here:Join The Alliance – The Relationship Beats Algorithms™ communityApply for 1:1 Coaching – High-performance support without self-sacrificeLive Events – Get in the room where clarity, healing, and strategy converge: mindofgeorge.com/event 

Join Lindsey as she sits down with Jillian Turecki, Certified Relationship Coach, Teacher, Author, and Host of the Podcast, Jillian On Love. Be the first to hear insights from Jillian's brand new book, "It Begins With You: The Nine Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life." Morning Microdose is a podcast curated by Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik, the hosts and founders of Almost 30, a global community, brand, and top rated podcast.With curated clips from the Almost 30 podcast, Morning Mircodose will set the tone for your day, so you can feel inspired through thought provoking conversations…all in digestible episodes that are less than 10 minutes.Wake up with Krista and Lindsey, both literally and spiritually, Monday-Friday.If you enjoyed this conversation, listen to the full episode on Spotify here and on Apple here.

Send us a text✨ Our first video podcast episode — now streaming on Spotify only!The Libra New Moon at 28° on October 21st brings a moment of truth: peace without boundaries isn't peace — it's exhaustion.In this episode, we unpack what happens when keeping everyone happy costs you your own balance.You'll learn why constant peacekeeping leads to emotional burnout, how Mars and Mercury at 20° push you to reflect before reacting, and why rest, honesty, and simplicity are your real reset points right now.This is your reminder that harmony starts within — and it's okay if not everyone likes it.Support the show

In this episode, we sit down with Susan V, Eva's dear friend and facilitator of The Work of Byron Katie, to discuss how to stay connected to yourself — in conflict, in love, and when you're single.They unpack how shame turns into perfectionism, how to take responsibility without collapsing into guilt, and making peace with being single. Susan shares how she released the idea that love would “save” her, and how that shift made space for her to stay connected to herself when she found herself in a loving relationship.  This episode is for anyone who's ever over-apologized, abandoned themselves for love, or struggled to stay true to themselves when things get messy.We discuss:  Being whole in relationship — How to be yourself while staying connected to others.Accountability vs. shame — Taking responsibility for your impact without turning it into self-blame.Perfectionism trap — How trying to “get it right” keeps you from experiencing fulfillment and safetySinglehood & self-worth — Letting go of the idea that being single means you're unlovable  Real love — Why healthy relationships come from wholeness, not from finally being “healed enough.”About Susan:Susan Vielguth is a Facilitator of The Work of Byron Katie, whose work is rooted in the liberation that comes from questioning our painful beliefs. You can learn more about Susan at theworkwithsusan.com.Susanwww.theworkwithsusan.comwww.instagram.com/reclaimyourlight/EvaSign up for Awakening for FREEhttps://dogged-trailblazer-8821.kit.com/756fe8553dEva's instagram: @iamevaliaoBook a discovery call with EvaKyleyKyley's Instagram: @kyleycaldwellKyley's free mini-course

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Burnout isn't a personality trait—it's a pattern we learned to survive. Today we get real about self-abandonment: how it forms in the motherline, why it spikes at growth edges, and how to rebuild a life where your body is listened to first. We move from abstract “self-care” to concrete, embodied practices that create safety, restore radiance, and make sustainable leadership possible.I walk through the signs you're crossing your energetic limit line, the subtle ways numbing masquerades as rest, and a simple morning framework to reclaim center. Hand over heart, hand over womb, breath into the pelvic bowl—these small gestures rewire trust in your system. We explore somatic tools like swaying and hip circles, plus practical nourishment shifts—hydration, protein, nature, and clear boundaries—that stabilize your baseline. You'll hear how the Flower of Life Akashic Method supports untangling inherited depletion so you can harmonize with your own templates for prosperity, capacity, and flow.If expansion has been feeling like a threat, this is your map back to yourself. Mothering your needs isn't indulgence; it's infrastructure for sovereign leadership. From there, you'll create more with less push, speak fewer words with more weight, and lead from overflow rather than depletion. Ready to deepen? Join the five-day Radiant Morning Power Hour in Telegram for daily Akashic transmissions and grab the practice PDF. Want private support? Matriarch, my nine-month initiation for women at the edge of evolution, has two open spots. Subscribe, share this with a woman who needs it, and tell me: what's one need you'll honor today?Join me for Sovereignty Series: A 3 Week Feminine Reset for Midlife Women beginning Oct 22th. Email tara@tarapreston.com for details.Click here for the details: https://www.facebook.com/share/p/19wLfdjMfU/FREE: Sacred Nourishment for Midlife Radiance: subscribepage.io/midliferadianceguide Reach out to tara@tarapreston.com to learn more about ways to work with her through your life reinvention.

Are your boundaries quietly wrecking every part of your life?Break down the hidden ways loose boundaries lead to burnout, resentment, and even unemploymentExplore how boundary issues sneak into your friendships and make you feel like "the only one who gives a sh*t"Learn how weak boundaries in romantic relationships can erase your sense of self—and how to reclaim itDiscover the link between poor boundaries and the toxic work cycles you can't seem to escapeStart defining what you actually want—without guilt, shame, or self-abandonmentLinks:

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The Uplift app is here! Try it free for 30 days   I need to tell you something, and it may sting a little. You know that woman who's always the helper? She's the first to say yes, the one solving everyone's drama, answering texts like it's her full-time job. She's incredible—but here's the hard truth: she's vanishing. Slowly, yes, by yes, she's losing herself. She's so busy showing up for everyone else that she's forgotten how to show up for herself. And if you're thinking, “Oh goodness… that's me,” then we need to talk. Because what you've been calling kindness might actually be quiet self-betrayal. What appears to be selflessness is often just dysfunction in disguise. And today, I'm handing you the roadmap to stop people-pleasing, reclaim your voice, and start honoring your own God-given needs—without guilt, without apology. You were never meant to be everyone's fixer. You were meant to live free, bold, and beautifully aligned with who God created you to be. Let's get you back to that. Listen in to learn more:  (02:31) - 3 Reasons Smart Women Keep Putting Everyone Else First (05:39) - Why You're Absolutely Allowed to Have Needs (and Not Feel Guilty About It) (06:11) - The Brain Science: Why What You Don't Name Never Gets Prioritized (07:50) - The Powerful Shift: When You Honor Your Needs, Everything Changes (08:13) - Simple, Practical Steps to Start Honoring Your Needs Today WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE     I hope you loved this episode!

Not to break your entire self-image or whatever, but abandoning all your needs and desires for the sake of your partner actually doesn't make you a good person. Sorry not sorry. Sure, maybe it feels good to oh-so-f*cking-selflessly lay your needs down to fulfill your partner's instead. To be the “good girl.” The “cool girl.” To play the hero in his story. Right up until resentment starts burning so badly you think you've got a f*cking ulcer. Truthfully, self-abandonment is a relationship-killer. But it can be a subtle one, especially when you don't know what the fuck self-abandonment even LOOKS like. That's why I'm walking you through all the ways self-abandonment slinks out of the shadows and sets you on the path to complete relationship meltdown—and how to finally shine a light on it so you can clock it, own it, and clean it up. Martyrhood isn't a good look on you, babe. It's time you tried something new.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  These aren't just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD. Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out: https://michellepanning.com/awakening  Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Have you ever tried to build a life while constantly criticizing yourself and wondering why nothing feels stable? Maybe you push yourself under the bus, act like your own worst critic, or apologize for your needs. When you reject yourself, every boundary crumbles and every goal feels impossible because you're building on quicksand.   In this episode, we dive into why self-acceptance is the real antidote to self-abandonment. We talk about how patterns of people-pleasing, over-functioning, and constant apologizing were survival strategies that made sense at the time, and how they can now keep you stuck. Learn a five-step process to start practicing self-acceptance that will help you make decisions from a place of self-trust, deepen your relationships, and show up fully as yourself.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.ambitious-ish.com/81   Ready to make this fall different? We have limited spots open for coaching this fall, so schedule a consultation with us: https://www.kelleandnina.com/

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I've come to believe that play and creativity can completely change the way we move through our days. For me, it started when I decided to bring Halloween back into my life and create a whimsical “crow lady” character, and that one spark of joy gave me more energy, focus, and flow than I'd felt in years.    In this episode, I share how that experience opened my eyes to the bigger question of why joy matters so much in medicine and in life, and why so many of us, especially women in medicine and working moms, tend to abandon it. What would happen if you treated joy as a vital sign, right alongside sleep or nutrition? How might your days look if your calendar held space for wonder and curiosity, not just obligations? I'll walk you through simple flow enhancers like gratitude, novelty, and embodiment, as well as the disruptors that scatter our attention. My hope is that this conversation encourages you to see play as a prescription for resilience and growth, and maybe even helps you reclaim your own sparks of joy.   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Introduction and Halloween Confession 03:34 Becoming the Crow Lady and Finding Flow 05:09 Glee and Creativity Boost Productivity 07:42 Self-Abandonment and the Need for Play 10:37 Play and Creativity as the Sixth Vital Sign 13:08 Flow Enhancers vs. Flow Disruptors 16:40 Practical Tools to Protect Your Flow 18:05 Catalyst Question on Gamifying Your Day   Links Catalyst Archetype Catalyst Advantage   Connect with Lara:  Website The Catalyst Way YouTube Instagram  Facebook LinkedIn TikTok     Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm

Ever feel like you're giving so much of yourself to everyone else that you've forgotten who you are? Today, I'm talking with Angie Hawkins, Inner Glow Coach and author of Running in Slippers, about the journey from burnout and self-abandonment to stepping fully into your confidence, worth, and power.Angie shares her story of resilience, vulnerability, and courage, from hitting emotional rock bottom to leaping out of helicopters, bungee jumping, and cliff diving, and how true bravery often looks like allowing yourself to be seen. We dive into:How self-abandonment shows up in your life and businessPractical ways to rebuild trust with yourselfWhy fear often lives in the moments we're most ready to shineReclaiming your inner glow and leading unapologeticallyThis conversation is for anyone ready to stop chasing approval and start living with purpose, confidence, and impact.Tune in and discover how to stop abandoning yourself and start radiating the love, happiness, and success you deserve.Let's continue the conversation!Conversation with Mayi Lenz Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/mayilenz/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Conversation with Mayi Lenz Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/ConversationswithMayiLenz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For show notes visit⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://conversations.mayilenz.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Today we’re unpacking a pattern so many strong women carry: the trauma of over-responsibility. Why do we take on all the blame? Why does it feel safer to carry the emotional load alone than risk someone being upset with us? From peacekeeping to people-pleasing, we dive into the hidden wounds behind this dynamic—and the ways it silently builds resentment, robs us of connection, and stunts the growth of everyone involved. This is a raw, honest convo on what it means to stop performing emotional labor for two, and start honoring your voice, needs, and truth. If you’ve ever been scared to express how you really feel because it’s easier to just say, *“it’s my fault”… this one’s for you. Follow us on Instagram @sherises.podcast Join us in our Facebook forum

In this episode, Dr. Danielle gets real about a topic too many Christian women silently carry: codependency. If you've ever lost sleep over someone else's choices, kept quiet to “keep the peace,” or felt guilty for taking care of yourself, this conversation is for you. Dr. Danielle unpacks what codependency really is—not just an addiction issue, but a pattern of self-neglect disguised as love. Learn how it shows up in your body, why it keeps you from healing, and how to start reclaiming your God-given identity.This isn't about quick fixes. It's about breaking free from bondage, choosing truth over people-pleasing, and learning to live whole and free in Christ.SERVICES & MEMBERSHIPS:$7 Mentorship: How to Fix Your Energy, Cravings, and Mood in Just One Day

Send us a textHow many times have you forced yourself to stay in a job, a relationship, or even a “healing” practice that secretly drained your soul? In this unapologetic episode of The Dimple Bindra Show, we're exposing the truth about why women push themselves into toxic cycles that don't feel good, and how to finally break free.If you've ever felt the weight of burnout, betrayal trauma, toxic love, or emotional abuse, this conversation will hit home. You'll discover why exhaustion isn't weakness, it's your body screaming for freedom. Your intuition, your feminine energy, and your truth are the medicine you've been waiting for.Here's what you'll learn inside this no-BS, healing-from-the-inside-out episode:Why “should” is the most dangerous word in your vocabularyHow forcing yourself to perform is actually self-abandonmentThe hidden ways your body has been protecting you all alongClear signs that your job, relationship, or healing journey is out of alignmentA grounding exercise to get radically honest about what you've been forcingSoul-level declarations to reclaim your truth, power, and embodimentThis isn't another motivational pep talk. This is a wake-up call for your nervous system. If you've been faking smiles through burnout, staying silent in toxic relationships, or numbing yourself with “spiritual to-do lists,” this episode is your permission slip to stop performing and start living in alignment with who you really are.✨ Not sure why you keep sabotaging your healing or staying stuck in survival mode? Take my free Healing Archetype Quiz to uncover the hidden pattern blocking your power and discover how to rise as the woman you were born to be.✨ Take the free Healing Archetype Quiz

This episode is a special one because I was interviewed on the Girls Gone Wellness Podcast and the questions they asked me were so good that I knew I had to share it with you here.If you've ever wondered how to break free from anxious spirals, stop attracting emotionally unavailable partners, or move from self-abandonment to secure love, this conversation is for you.Inside this episode, we talk about:The four main attachment styles (and how they actually play out in dating + long-term relationships)Why anxious and avoidant partners feel “magnetized” to each other (and how to break that cycle)The difference between trauma bonding and genuine emotional intimacyPractical tools to self-soothe, stop self-abandonment, and rewire toward secure love✨ If you loved this episode, make sure to share it on Instagram and tag me @drmorgancoaching — I'd love to hear your takeaways.And I want to give a huge shout-out to the incredible hosts of Girls Gone Wellness!

Today on Can't Be Contained, I am beyond excited to welcome back one of my absolute favorite humans, Terri Cole. If you've been around this space, you already know she's the OG boundary queen, psychotherapist, bestselling author, and a woman who has radically changed the way thousands of us show up in life and love. This conversation? It's all about reclaiming yourself. We go deep into boundaries—not as some rigid rulebook, but as your sacred rules of engagement with the world. We talk about what it really takes to release resentment, stop self-abandoning, and create the kind of relationships that feel safe, alive, and deeply nourishing. Terri and I get real about: ✨ The difference between standing in your truth vs. getting hijacked by old triggers ✨ The sneaky ways high-achieving women (yes, us) fall into codependency—especially with our work ✨ How to clean up energetic leaks so you can reclaim your freedom + vitality ✨ Why empathy (not advice) is the medicine your relationships are craving ✨ Simple, doable steps to set and express boundaries—without drama, guilt, or shame And because Terri is pure magic, she shares her signature “three cues for clarity” that will shift the way you understand your reactions forever. We even explore what it looks like to have a codependent relationship with your own business (yep, it's a thing) and the liberation that comes when you finally choose YOU. If you're ready to call your energy back, stop doing it all, and step into more joy, more wealth, and more love—you don't want to miss this one. Terri brings the wisdom, the heart, and the fire… and my prayer is that this episode feels like a giant permission slip to stop overgiving and start thriving. Check the show notes for Terri's free toolkit, her incredible community, and all the details on what she's creating next, you'll want in. Claim a Free 30-Day Trial in GoHighLevel: http://www.pausebreathwork.com/highlevel Join the Women & Wealth Event: https://www.pausebreathwork.com/wealth Learn How to Grow Your Income, Impact and Freedom by Becoming a Certified Breathwork Facilitator: https://do.pausebreathwork.com/breathwork-training About Can't Be Contained Can't Be Contained' is the unscripted, unedited – fully uncontained journal entries & real-life experiences of those who follow their bliss & intuitive hits, the freedom seekers, the sacred rebels – the ones who are here to disrupt what preceded us & create what is ahead of us. Subscribe now to stay tuned for every episode!   For full show notes, resources, and links: https://www.samanthaskelly.com/episode-351-terri-cole-no-more-self-abandonment/   The Pause Breathwork App is the #1 app to clear stress using your breath. Download the app here: https://pause.live/Pause-Breathwork-App   

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What if the guilt and shame you carry as a mother or caretaker weren't yours to begin with?In this episode of The Big Silence, Karena Dawn sits down with Vanessa Bennett, LMFT, licensed depth therapist, and author of the new book, The Motherhood MythFrom growing up as a “parentified child” to raising her daughter with intention, Vanessa shares how generational wounds, from the “witch wound” to the “mother wound”, shape our lives in ways we may not realize. Together, they explore self-abandonment, the myth of perfection, codependency in relationships, and how to reclaim your identity through micro moments of self-choosing. Whether you're a mother, daughter, partner, or friend, this conversation offers tangible ways to break cycles, set boundaries, and follow the breadcrumbs back to yourself.How Do We Heal Generational Wounds Without Losing Ourselves?Vanessa reveals how recognizing inherited patterns and our part in them is the first step to breaking free.(00:00:22) Depth Psychology and the Path to IndividuationVanessa explains depth psychology as the “psychology of the soul,” focusing on the whole being and the unconscious.Her upbringing as a parentified child and how it shaped her initial decision not to have children.The importance of holding your upbringing objectively to heal. “They're not all bad. And also, they're not all good.”(00:06:11) The Trinity Wound: Witch, Sister, and MotherThe witch wound: epigenetic trauma silencing women's power, sexuality, and individuality.The sister wound: competition among women fueled by scarcity thinking.The mother wound: how women unconsciously uphold patriarchy and pass down harmful narratives.Why ending these cycles starts with self-awareness and modeling change for the next generation.(00:12:30) Self-Abandonment, Guilt, and Rebuilding Your Sense of SelfGuilt and shame are by design. They are tools of societal control, not signs you're broken.Accept guilt as part of the process, then act anyway.Use “micro moments” (like saying no when you mean it) as bricks in the foundation of self-trust.Following breadcrumbs: orienting toward what makes you feel alive, even if it's small or scary.(00:22:09) Codependency, Resentment, and Healthy BoundariesWe live in a codependent culture that teaches us to outsource our emotional regulation.Resentment as a diagnostic tool: a signal that a boundary is being crossed or unspoken.Attachment styles are fluid and change depending on the relationship dynamic.The link between resentment and projection and how awareness can stop the cycle.Why attraction often fades when relationships take on a parental dynamic, and how both partners can reclaim responsibility for their own happiness.(00:32:50) Friendships, Attachment Styles, and CommunicationVanessa and her co-host model conflict resolution through a commitment to talk about issues openly.The cultural trap of expecting a partner to “reparent” us and why it can kill romantic attraction.Building safety without losing mystery or eros in long-term relationships.(00:40:17) Therapy, Accessibility, and the Power of Group WorkWhy therapists need therapists, and the stigma that still exists around seeking help.Alternative paths to healing: coaches, low-cost...

You've grown — but others still expect the old you. If you've been shrinking to keep the peace, this episode helps you stop self-editing and start honoring who you've become, without apology.You've evolved. But the people around you — family, clients, old colleagues — still relate to the version of you that no longer exists. And without realizing it, you begin shrinking. You soften your words. You avoid saying what's true. You tone it down to keep connection intact.But here's the truth: shrinking doesn't preserve connection — it fractures authenticity.In this episode of Identity-Level Recalibration, Julie Holly helps you name this stretch with compassion and clarity. You'll learn why your nervous system resists visibility, how “don't be too much” becomes a quiet script, and what to do when you feel the pull to edit your voice or shrink your spark.You'll also hear how Julie navigated a personal season of outgrowing a table she once set — and why honoring identity growth sometimes means releasing roles that no longer align.This episode is a deep exhale for anyone who's tired of self-abandoning for the sake of loyalty, image, or familiarity. If you've been shrinking — even subtly — this is your permission to stop.In This Episode, We Cover:Why we shrink even when we're proud of our growthThe nervous system's hidden role in tone-policing yourself“Don't be too much” — how it shapes our identity expressionJulie's personal experience of outgrowing a table she createdHow to model identity integrity in leadership and lifeWhy alignment requires visibility — even when it's uncomfortableA fresh take on Michelle Obama's Becoming and identity as evolutionHow ILR helps you outgrow survival roles and honor your next chapterToday's Micro-Recalibration:Ask yourself:Where have I been shrinking so others don't feel stretched?Where am I still apologizing for who I've become?Anchor this:“Shrinking doesn't preserve connection. It fractures authenticity.”If people look to you — whether in your family, your workplace, or your friend group — you're shaping culture. Model what it looks like to stand in your integrity. Not arrogantly, but unapologetically.Let them see the real you — even if they're still catching up to her.If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

Today, I'm talking about a pattern that's silently robbing high-achieving Black women of money, joy, and energy: self-abandonment.  What is Self-Abandonment? Self-abandonment happens when you leave yourself emotionally, mentally, or physically to secure someone else's comfort, approval, or validation. It's when you side with others over yourself. We do this because somewhere along the line, we learned being fully ourselves wasn't safe. For Black women, this is compounded by generations of being told our bodies, voices, and desires needed to be managed to avoid backlash. 5 Signs You're Abandoning Yourself: You override your "no" - Agreeing to things that make you dread your calendar You need a "good reason" to rest - Otherwise, you feel guilty You shrink your joy - Speaking less, dimming your shine, or even stopping yourself from laughing You defer your decisions - Letting others decide for you, even on things that deeply impact you You gaslight yourself - Downplaying your needs or telling yourself you're overreacting The Cost Is Too High Studies show: The APA found that suppressing authentic self-expression is linked to higher cortisol and inflammation levels Harvard Business Review reports Black women face the steepest emotional tax in professional settings, leading to earlier burnout Chronic self-abandonment is associated with higher rates of depression, anxiety, and stress-related illness For high earners, this shows up as: Emotional: Loss of self-trust, chronic resentment, burnout Physical: Sleep disruption, weight fluctuations, immune issues, hypertension Relationship: Surface-level connections, resentment in partnerships The Path Forward Ask yourself: "What would I choose if I didn't need anyone's approval?"   Take Action Take my free quiz to discover how your nervous system and survival patterns may be blocking your clarity:

Amber Rae, an internationally acclaimed author, illustrator, and speaker, is a force in the world of self-discovery and empowerment. With her bestselling books like "Choose Wonder Over Worry" and "The Answers Are Within You," she has touched the lives of millions across nearly 200 countries. Amber's work, filled with emotional depth and wisdom, has not only resonated with audiences globally but has also empowered individuals to embrace their authentic selves. Through her advocacy for journaling and her transformative workshops for global brands, she has become a beacon of inspiration for those seeking the courage to choose self-honoring paths. Amber's latest book, "Lovable," reflects her commitment to guiding others to rediscover their worthiness, making her a sought-after mentor for those on a journey of self-trust and authenticity.   The key moments in this episode are:  00:02:04 - Embracing Imperfection and Honesty  00:10:57 - Embracing Flickers of Awareness  00:15:12 - Reevaluating Ambition  00:25:00 - The 51% Rule  00:29:00 - Choosing Self as a Radical Act    Connect with Amber Rae Website: amberrae.com Instagram: @heyamberrae Book: amberrae.com/loveable   Connect with Amina AlTai Website: aminaaltai.com Instagram: @aminaaltai TikTok: @theaminaaltai Linkedin:   linkedin/in/aminaaltai  Book: aminaaltai.com/book