Podcasts about self abandonment

In this episode, Britten continues her series on self-abandonment through the houses of the birth chart, turning toward the Eleventh House. She explores the Eleventh House as a place where self-abandonment can happen when we stop trusting that our voice, hopes, dreams, weirdness, or heart-led vision for the world can be received, constellated around, and shared with others. Topics She Covers: Cancer season, the Moon, and why The Emergence Astrology Pathway begins with Cancer on purpose. The way Cancer invites us to leave home in order to come more fully home to ourselves. The Moon as the first voice that claimed Britten and invited her to come home, listen to herself, and name the no that would change her life. Astrology as a home inside the self, a living and responsive system that's a part of the interconnectedness of all things, and a way of building a place where it becomes safe to emerge. The Eleventh House as the house of good spirit, community, networks, patrons, groups, and those we constellate around us through shared hopes and dreams for the world. Self-abandonment in the Eleventh House as giving up on humans, magic, imagination, or the possibility of finding the people who want to build the world with us. Through the lens of the Eleventh House, this episode explores the restoration of wonder, pleasure, delight, and trust in people, and the possibility of singing the song of your Eleventh House spirit even before you know who will hear it.   Learn More About The Emergence Astrology Pathway: The Emergence Astrology Pathway is not a traditional astrology course. It's an experience you give yourself if you long to repair, recover, renew, and remember your power. Held inside the gentle embrace of this magical language.  Here Britten teaches what she's found and developed as an astrologer who helps people tune into the most authentic call within. Most of what she offers are techniques and insights that no human teacher taught her. Doors only once a year! Enrollment is now open through June 30. You can learn more and register here.   +++   E M E R G E N C E  A S T R O L O G Y ⁠⁠https://brittenlarue.com/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@brittenlarue Order Living Astrology Join my newsletter here Check out my new podcast CRYSTAL BALLERS on Spotify, Podbean, and Apple.   +++   Podcast art: Angela George. Podcast music: Jonathan Koe. 

What happens when you've spent so many years prioritizing everyone else's needs that you no longer know what you want?In this powerful conversation, Dr. Kelly Kessler sits down with Certified Family Law Specialist and divorce attorney Diana Romanov to discuss the emotional realities of divorce, self-abandonment, identity loss, and rebuilding your life after a relationship ends.Drawing from both her professional expertise and personal experience with divorce, Diana shares what she sees most often in women navigating separation: difficulty advocating for themselves, fear of hurting others, staying in unhappy relationships for the children, and making major decisions from guilt, exhaustion, or emotional overwhelm.In this episode, we discuss:• Why many women lose touch with what they truly want• The connection between self-abandonment and unhealthy relationship dynamics• Signs you may be staying in a relationship that no longer serves you• How divorce impacts children—and common misconceptions parents have• Why people-pleasing can lead to costly legal and financial mistakes• The emotional challenges of navigating custody, support, and asset division• How to advocate for yourself without becoming consumed by conflict• Practical steps to make empowered decisions during divorceWhether you're considering divorce, currently navigating one, or simply trying to reconnect with yourself after years of putting everyone else first, this conversation offers both practical wisdom and compassionate insight.Connect with Diana Romanov:https://www.romanovlaw.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/romanovska/https://www.facebook.com/FamilyLawCaliforniahttp://www.youtube.com/@Diana-RomanovConnect with Kelly:Ready to go deeper?If this episode resonated, start with my free Self-Abandonment Audit — a powerful first step to uncover where you may be putting everyone else first, overriding your needs, or talking yourself out of what you know is right for you.Get the audit here:⁠https://drkellykessler.com/selfaudit⁠Ready for more support? The Self-Respect Reset is my 4-week self-paced course designed for women who know what they need but struggle to follow through. You'll learn how to navigate guilt, build self-trust, create healthier boundaries, and stop abandoning yourself in the moments that matter most.Learn more here:⁠https://drkellykessler.com/selfrespectreset⁠Looking for personalized support? The Self-Loyalty Mentorship is for the woman who is ready to stop second-guessing herself, stay true to what she knows, and build the capacity to hold her boundaries and decisions with confidence even when it's uncomfortable.Learn more here:⁠https://drkellykessler.com/selfloyaltymentorship⁠Website:https://drkellykessler.com/Socials: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/drkellykessler⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drkellykessler⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/drkellykessler

There comes a moment in a woman's life when the old ways stop working.The people-pleasing. The over-functioning. The pushing through. The quiet self-abandonment.And something deeper begins to rise.In this episode of The Brave Table, I sit down with licensed psychotherapist, yoga and meditation expert, psychedelic-assisted therapist, and founder of The Haven, Ashley Turner, for a powerful conversation on perimenopause, menopause, mental health, nervous system healing, and why midlife is not a breakdown—it's an initiation into a new kind of power.Ashley opens up about her own experience navigating postpartum perimenopause after becoming a mother at 46, the unexpected depression and anxiety that followed, and how microdosing psilocybin became part of her healing journey. Together, we explore aging, identity shifts, self-compassion, trauma resurfacing, feminine power, and the emotional realities that so many women experience but rarely talk about.If you've been feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, disconnected from yourself, or questioning what this season of life is asking from you, this conversation will remind you that you're not alone.WHAT YOU'LL GET OUT OF THIS EPISODE...✨ What postpartum perimenopause actually is and why more women are experiencing it✨ The surprising mental health symptoms of perimenopause✨ How internalized ageism impacts women's self-worth✨ Why midlife can feel like a dark night of the soul✨ The connection between hormones, nervous system health, and emotional wellbeing✨ How unresolved trauma resurfaces during menopause✨ The science behind microdosing psilocybin✨ Why rest is a radical act of rebellion✨ How to move from over-functioning into feminine power✨ Building self-compassion during life's biggest transitionsTimestamps - CONNECT WITH ASHLEY TURNERInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleyturner1The Haven: https://yoga-psychology.co/the-havenYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AshleyTurner1Ashley Turner is a licensed psychotherapist, yoga-meditation expert, psychedelic-assisted therapist, and founder of The Haven, a global community helping women navigate healing, emotional well-being, spirituality, and midlife transformation.SUPPORT OUR GUEST

In this episode, Britten continues her series on self-abandonment through the houses of the birth chart, turning toward the Tenth House. She explores the Tenth House as a place where self-abandonment can happen when we become entangled with caregiver strivings, overculture's templates for success, or the pressure to be known, recognized, and received in a certain way. Topics She Covers: The Emergence Astrology Pathway as a long container, a hermitage, and a structure for surrendering to time, personal gnosis, and what emerges through commitment. The Moon as the place that holds our stories of safety, belonging, emotional security, and the need to be held. The Tenth House as public reputation, public role, what we are known for, and what we bring out into the world. Self-abandonment in the Tenth House as getting hooked into caregiver strivings, overculture's ideas of success, achievement, performance, and who we think we have to be. The paradox of clearing old templates around success while still honoring an authentic public call, offering, or life force that wants to move through us. Through the lens of the Tenth House, this episode explores how we begin to separate from inherited strivings, return to our own agency, and tend to the roots that make authentic public contribution possible.   Learn More About The Emergence Astrology Pathway: The Emergence Astrology Pathway is not a traditional astrology course. It's an experience you give yourself if you long to repair, recover, renew, and remember your power. Held inside the gentle embrace of this magical language.  Here Britten teaches what she's found and developed as an astrologer who helps people tune into the most authentic call within. Most of what she offers are techniques and insights that no human teacher taught her. Doors only once a year! Early Bird tuition is now open through June 23. You can learn more and register here.   +++   E M E R G E N C E  A S T R O L O G Y ⁠⁠https://brittenlarue.com/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@brittenlarue Order Living Astrology Join my newsletter here Check out my new podcast CRYSTAL BALLERS on Spotify, Podbean, and Apple.   +++   Podcast art: Angela George. Podcast music: Jonathan Koe. 

Many gay men believe their struggles stem from anxiety, loneliness, dating frustrations, low self-esteem, or difficult relationships. But underneath many of these challenges lies a quieter and often overlooked pattern: self-abandonment. In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explores how gay men learn to disconnect from their feelings, needs, boundaries, anger, instincts, and even their dignity in order to preserve connection, approval, desirability, or emotional safety. Drawing from more than 30 years of clinical work, Ken explains how childhood experiences of conditional acceptance, invisibility, bullying, and self-monitoring can evolve into adult patterns of self-suppression that quietly erode self-respect and intimacy. Topics include: What self-abandonment actually is Why many gay men learn to prioritize acceptance over authenticity How self-abandonment masquerades as maturity, patience, and understanding The hidden resentment created by chronic self-suppression Nine common forms of self-abandonment in everyday life How to set boundaries without guilt The difference between healthy compromise and self-betrayal Why authentic relationships require self-respect If you've ever found yourself laughing off hurt feelings, staying too long in one-sided relationships, over-explaining your boundaries, suppressing your anger, or making yourself smaller to keep the peace, this episode offers a framework for understanding what's happening—and how to begin reconnecting with yourself.

158 | Listener Questions: Resentment, Boundaries & Learning to Put Yourself Back on the List | Salarah Kacey Starre Why Being Nice Is Making You Resentful: Boundaries, Self-Abandonment & Taking Your Power BackThis week, I'm answering listener questions from Amanda, a 50-year-old listener from Hounslow UK who's finding herself increasingly resentful in her relationships despite always trying to be a good person.If you've ever felt exhausted from putting everyone else first, struggled to say no, found yourself carrying other people's emotions, or wondered why resentment keeps showing up in your life, this episode is for you.Salarah explore's:Why resentment is often a boundary that hasn't been recognised or communicatedThe difference between genuine kindness and people-pleasingThe hidden signs of self-abandonment that many of us missWhy setting boundaries can feel so uncomfortable at firstWhat happens when you stop rescuing, over-functioning and carrying everyone else's backpackA powerful Future Self exercise to help you step into healthier relationships with confidence and clarityThis is a conversation about learning to include yourself in the love, care and compassion you've been giving away so freely to everyone else.Resources Mentioned:

I tend to neglect myself in relationships so I can focus more on creating peace + wellbeing in others, over my own. A good, healthy relationship will provide space to become more yourself. I have never experienced this. I feel this tendency to erase myself and nurture others with that extra energy. “Love is not staying. Love is showing up. If you cannot stay and show up then what your offering is not intimacy, it's absence with good intentions.” - Justin ScottThe Inspiration Videos: Justin Scott on relational self erasure: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8sG1g1g/Amber Akilla's Video on Detachment: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8ssKsMv/Read Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Britten continues her series on self-abandonment through the houses of the birth chart, turning toward the Ninth House. She explores the Ninth House as a place where self-abandonment can happen when we cede our authority to dogmas, teachers, books, spiritual leaders, or inherited beliefs that keep us from trusting our direct relationship with the divine. Topics She Covers: Self-abandonment as something we often cannot see clearly until we are taught to notice the signals and call it what it is. Britten's early relationship with self-sabotage, the saboteur archetype, and the realization that we may sabotage ourselves because we are terrified of our own empowerment. The Emergent No as the beginning of her mystical, healing, entrepreneurial, and erotic path. The Chariot, congruence, and the way unconscious parts of us can pull against what we consciously want. The Ninth House as personal cosmology, belief, worldview, imagination, divinity, teachers, spiritual authority, and the way we project what is possible onto the universe. Self-abandonment in the Ninth House as over-trusting external authorities instead of cultivating sovereignty, personal gnosis, and a direct collaboration with the cosmos. Through the lens of the Ninth House, this episode explores sovereignty, imagination, and the possibility of being held by the universe in a way that helps us move through the world without abandoning ourselves to stay safe with others.   Learn More About The Emergence Astrology Pathway: The Emergence Astrology Pathway is not a traditional astrology course. It's an experience you give yourself if you long to repair, recover, renew, and remember your power. Held inside the gentle embrace of this magical language.  Here Britten teaches what she's found and developed as an astrologer who helps people tune into the most authentic call within. Most of what she offers are techniques and insights that no human teacher taught her. Doors only once a year! Early Bird tuition opens this Sunday, June 21. You can learn more here and join the newsletter for more updates when doors open by clicking here.   +++   E M E R G E N C E  A S T R O L O G Y ⁠⁠https://brittenlarue.com/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@brittenlarue Order Living Astrology Join my newsletter here Check out my new podcast CRYSTAL BALLERS on Spotify, Podbean, and Apple.   +++   Podcast art: Angela George. Podcast music: Jonathan Koe. 

Midlife Reckoning: Rock the Boat, Choose Yourself with The Selfish Year Author Valerie JonesWhat happens when you realize the life you've built no longer fits?In this powerful conversation, Wendy sits down with Valerie Jones, author of The Selfish Year, coach, entrepreneur, and host of The Selfish Woman Podcast, to explore what it really means to choose yourself in midlife.After decades of being the good girl, people pleaser, and selfless woman who always put everyone else first, Valerie reached a breaking point. Living in a beautifully restored apartment in Spain with her second husband, she had everything she thought she wanted. Yet she was deeply unhappy.That realization sparked a life-changing experiment:What if she spent one year being selfish?What followed transformed her life, her work, and her understanding of self-trust.Together, Wendy and Valerie discuss:

#384: On this solo episode, Emily Elizabeth shares a personal experience and finally begins to open up about her previous relationship experience and valuable insights that may be helpful for you to hear, especially if you often feel like you are alone or others might not understand in the same way.What you'll learn:Finding the sweet spot between empathy for another's experience and looking out for yourself and own needsBeing aware of what can happen if you are a strong empathSignals that you are not being fully embraced for who you areBILT Credit Card Info (Pay Rent and Earn Points):https://bilt.page/r/HQ06-ZV7OReceive weekly personal insights from Emily's email newsletter and subscribe hereWatch Full Episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@whatfulfillsyou/videosENJOY 10% OFF THE WHAT FULFILLS YOU? CARD GAME AT www.whatfulfillsyou.com - code "WHATFULFILLSYOU10"Follow the What Fulfills You? Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whatfulfillsyouFollow Emily Elizabeth's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emilyeduong/Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Your girl is in one of the most transformative seasons of her life - including my Saturn return gettin' started, a complete identity unraveling (back to 'factory settings' and who I really am), and (yay happy news!!)- getting engaged. And in the midst of it allll since last Fall, I realized something I never saw coming: I had become so good at optimizing my life/success that I accidentally optimized myself out of my true 100% genuine self expression & joy. In this deeply personal episode, I'm sharing the surprising subconscious patterns that shaped my ambition, how/why my body started speaking louder than my mind ever could, and the profound difference between your survival identity and your true essence. If you've ever felt like you're performing your life instead of fully living it, or existing too in your 'head' and the 'strategy' of it all instead of the authentic pleasure of this life experience for the sake of LIFE ITSELF, this conversation will help you come home to the version of you that is TRUEST.  PSSST - some serious breakthough questions at the end of this episode for ya, GRAB YOUR JOURNAL!!!!!   ⭐️  Join us in Dreamaway TO TAP ON THISSSS (see below) + for so many resources to help you get UNSTUCK including 40+ Dreamaway-exclusive tapping sessions (90 minutes of deep-dive subconscious rewiring/EFT tapping), visualizations, 40+ tapping "Money Dates" (abundance programming), daily tapping videos, weekly energy readings, astrological updates, and so much more! https://haleyhoffmansmith.com/dreamaway I ALWAYS KNEW: From Who You Had to Be, to Who You Always Were | Saturday, June 20th 1:00-2:30pm ET This session is about returning to YOU. Not the optimized version of you… not your 'survival identity' who learned to perform, succeed, people-please, shape-shift, or stay palatable. We're talkin' the REAL you. The one who has existed underneath all the conditioning the entire time and looks a lot like your preteen self, dreaming big for your beautiful life.   We're going deep on the subtle identities we unconsciously built in order to be loved, chosen, safe, impressive, productive, "good," or successful… and clearing the exhaustion of carrying versions of yourself that were never fully true. Because somewhere along the way, many of us learned to disconnect from our natural desires, our creativity, our softness, our weirdness, our joy, our bigness, our voice in order to 'win approval' or 'stay safe'. This session is the return…. And the reactivation of best case scenario future envisioning, on YOUR unique terms. No one else's. Time to step back onto your custom blueprint life timeline and experience more success and bliss than ever as a result.

Join Britten this Thursday, June 18, at 7 PM Eastern, for Abundance Begins With No, a workshop for activating congruence voice. This is one of Britten's major teachings and has catalyzed thousands of students over the years to immediately anchor into deeper truth and clear the path ahead.   Comes with a live (replay-able) workshop, a pdf handout, and a meditation. If you're remotely resonating, Abundance Begins With No is the best $27 of your year. Register here: https://living-emergence.mn.co/plans/1985895?bundle_token=947c27ba71719226a75c77c18387149f&utm_source=manual  +++ In this episode, Britten continues her series on self-abandonment through the houses of the birth chart, turning toward the Eighth House. She explores the Eighth House as a place where self-abandonment can become especially nuanced, because this house asks us to give ourselves into contact with another without losing our own attunement, discernment, or trust in what we know. Topics She Covers: Podcasting as a kind of Eighth House reach into the unknown, where Britten extends her voice into the dark and trusts that someone is there to receive it. Emergence Astrology as a relationship with both "this side" astrology and "that side" astrology: technique, lineage, and the mysteries that come through personal and collective gnosis. Year One of The Emergence Astrology Pathway as an exploration with the Moon, self-attunement, personal gnosis, energy training, intuition, and learning to trust your own voice. The Eighth House as other people's resources, debt, inheritance, therapy, caretaking, surgery, intimacy, and the vulnerability of being supported where we most need help. The question of how to become approachable to what is hidden: in ourselves, in reality, in the universe, and among the gods. Britten's relationship with Matt as an example of surrendering into trust, creating repair over time, and building a new body of evidence that intimacy could hold. Through the lens of the Eighth House, this episode explores surrendering into trust, staying in touch with resonance in the body, and noticing where refusing the high sensation of intimacy may be another way we leave ourselves behind.   Learn More About The Emergence Astrology Pathway: The Emergence Astrology Pathway is not a traditional astrology course. It's an experience you give yourself if you long to repair, recover, renew, and remember your power. Held inside the gentle embrace of this magical language.  Here Britten teaches what she's found and developed as an astrologer who helps people tune into the most authentic call within. Most of what she offers are techniques and insights that no human teacher taught her. Doors only once a year! Early Bird tuition opens on June 21. You can learn more here and join the newsletter for more updates when doors open by clicking here.   +++   E M E R G E N C E  A S T R O L O G Y ⁠⁠https://brittenlarue.com/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@brittenlarue Order Living Astrology Join my newsletter here Check out my new podcast CRYSTAL BALLERS on Spotify, Podbean, and Apple.   +++   Podcast art: Angela George. Podcast music: Jonathan Koe. 

#1 Mantra to Stop Self-Abandonment (Heal Codependency & Childhood Trauma) A Live Workshop Episode with Lisa A. Romano, Breakthrough Life Coach Have you ever felt overwhelmed by your emotions, pulled back into old patterns, or triggered by people who once had power over you? Do you find yourself aware of your past, but still struggling to break free from it in real time? If so, you are not broken. You are awakening. And awakening requires new tools. In this powerful live workshop episode, Lisa A. Romano shares the #1 mantra that helped her break free from codependency, self-abandonment, and the emotional chaos of childhood trauma. With deep psychological insight and spiritual clarity, Lisa explains how one simple phrase can help you stay grounded, present, and connected to your true self, even in the most triggering moments. This is not about perfection. It is about remembering yourself. In This Episode You'll Discover:

Sometimes resentment does not begin with a dramatic betrayal. Sometimes it begins in the small moment when you said yes before you were clear.  In this episode of The Liberated Life, Robin Quinn Keehn explores the quiet cost of the resentful yes — the yes that looks generous on the outside but feels dishonest on the inside. She unpacks the difference between a clean yes and a yes given from fear, guilt, image management, habit, or avoidance.  Through personal stories and practical language, Robin shows how unclear commitments become Open Loops: unfinished truths that quietly drain time, energy, peace, and trust. This episode is not about becoming selfish, unavailable, or unwilling to sacrifice. It is about becoming honest. It is about learning to pause before agreeing, renegotiate when needed, and close the loop with clarity before resentment becomes distance.  If you have been the dependable one, the flexible one, the easy one, or the one who always makes it work, this conversation will help you listen to resentment without weaponizing it — and begin rebuilding self-trust one honest sentence at a time.  Free resource:  Download the free Close One Loop tool at closetheloopsnow.com/tool.  Coming June 29 Robin's 5-Day Detox Your To-Do List Challenge will help you identify the unfinished commitments, conversations, and quiet yeses that keep draining your time, energy, and peace. Ready to do this together, with my guidance & support?  Register here.  Robin's book, Stop Stealing From Yourself, is available now on Amazon If this episode resonated with you, you might enjoy our free People Skillz community — a structured space to practice steadier, more intentional communication. We also created a short Communication Patterns Quiz to help you identify how you respond under pressure. You'll find both here.

Of all the protective patterns in this series, people pleasing is the one I've struggled with most. By far.In this episode, I share what I've learned about people pleasing, why it's not the same thing as kindness, and how it can quietly lead us to abandon ourselves in the pursuit of approval, acceptance, and keeping the peace.We'll talk about where people pleasing comes from, how it shows up, the hidden costs, and practical ways to build healthier boundaries while staying compassionate and connected.You do not have to earn love by making everyone else comfortable.

Sexual self-abandonment is what happens when we stop having sex for ourselves. We may or may not actually stop having sex -- we might be doing it for someone else. For their desire, on their timeline, their idea of what sex should look like, while our own wants, our own pace, our own boundaries quietly went missing somewhere along the way.That's what this episode is about. How we get there — there are three really common pathways, and I've lived through all three myself — and more importantly, how to find your way back to your own body, your own desires, and your own pleasure. This episode is about hope, and about a door that's still open to you no matter how long you've been on the other side of it.In this episode:The three pathways into sexual self-abandonment — through approval-seeking, through abusive relationships, and through trauma and dissociation — and why they so often overlapWhy "sacred sexuality" group spaces can actually be dangerous if you haven't done this work yetThe six steps back to yourself, including the grief that's part of the process (and why that grief is a good sign, not a setback)What it actually means to come home to your own body, your own erotic self, and your own yes and no — and why that's the foundation everything else gets built onTopics: sexual self-abandonment, somatic sex coaching, sexual trauma recovery, de-shaming, erotic self, intimacy coach, body-based healing, dissociation, reconnecting with your body, feminist sex coachGet my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guideMore links: Substack at https://laurajurgens.substack.com/Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheelCopyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. 

In this episode, Britten continues her series on self-abandonment through the houses of the birth chart, turning toward the Seventh House. She explores the Seventh House as a place where self-abandonment can happen so easily because our desire for connection, safety, and intimacy can become tangled with fear, projection, old agreements, and the need to be loved or validated. Topics She Covers: The Emergence Astrology Pathway Year One as a slow, deep curriculum for identifying when you are not in yourself and learning to anchor back into your own knowing. Gnosis as your own knowing: the thing no one can take away from you. The Seventh House as one-on-one relationships, including romantic relationships, friendships, partnerships, and the ways we find out who we are through others. Projection, intimacy, trust, boundaries, and the difference between intuition and projection in relationship. Energetic contracts and agreements, including the old relational patterns we may have agreed to when we were younger and the fear that arises when we want to update them. The deep vulnerability of intimacy and the ways we can protect ourselves from being hurt by closing our hearts, projecting fear, or refusing to listen in conflict How difficult it can be to stop self-abandoning in relationship because we cannot control how another person will respond when we grow, change, or update the terms of connection.  Through the lens of the Seventh House, she invites listeners to consider the relational agreements they may still be living inside, the fear that keeps those agreements in place, and the possibility of repair through real-time relationship, deeper self-responsibility, and learning to hold our own emergence without abandoning ourselves.   Learn More About The Emergence Astrology Pathway: The Emergence Astrology Pathway is not a traditional astrology course. It's an experience you give yourself if you long to repair, recover, renew, and remember your power. Held inside the gentle embrace of this magical language.  Here Britten teaches what she's found and developed as an astrologer who helps people tune into the most authentic call within. Most of what she offers are techniques and insights that no human teacher taught her. Doors only once a year! Early Bird tuition opens on June 21. You can learn more here and join the newsletter for more updates when doors open by clicking here.   +++   E M E R G E N C E  A S T R O L O G Y ⁠⁠https://brittenlarue.com/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@brittenlarue Order Living Astrology Join my newsletter here Check out my new podcast CRYSTAL BALLERS on Spotify, Podbean, and Apple.   +++   Podcast art: Angela George. Podcast music: Jonathan Koe. 

"You have set up this pattern where you completely abandon yourself unconsciously and make it about the other person because you believe on an unconscious level that that is the way that you will get love, connection, and ultimately survive."Codependency is one of those words I've avoided for a long time, not because it isn't real, but because I think it gets oversimplified in a way that misses what's actually happening. The deeper I go in my own process and the deeper I take my clients who've been doing this work for a while, the more I see that the layers of codependency we're dealing with aren't just behavioral. They're energetic. They started before we had language for any of it. And they've been running silently underneath every relationship, every decision, and every moment we've felt depleted, resentful, or like we're hitting a wall, without understanding why.What I've been uncovering, for myself and for the women I work with, is that so much of what we think is just "who we are" is actually a set of coping mechanisms we created in childhood to survive the emotional environment we were in. The way we automatically say yes. The way we absorb other people's feelings and lose track of our own. The way we don't even realize we have a choice. In this episode, I'm diving into what the deeper layers of codependency actually look like energetically, why they're so hard to see, and what it's meant for me to start pulling on these threads in real time, including some very personal things I've been navigating.TODAY'S HIGHLIGHTSWhy codependency goes far deeper than its mainstream definitionHow childhood coping mechanisms get wired into the nervous system as survival responses, not conscious choicesThe mother wound as the blueprint for every relationship pattern that followsThe Boomer generation, Pluto in Leo, and why narcissistic tendencies in parents are more common than most people realizeWhy highly sensitive, empathic women often can't tell the difference between their own feelings and everyone else'sThe moment I recognized I'd been operating from guilt and shame every time I said yesHow the same patterns that come from trauma become your greatest gifts once they're alchemizedThe energetic and astrological context for why so many of us are in a deep unraveling right nowThe questions to ask yourself when you're stuck, depleted, or repeating the same patterns**WAYS TO ENTER MY WORLD**When you leave a review of the podcast on Apple Podcasts and send us a screenshot of it, we'll send you a $250 credit that you can apply to anything else in my world.Check out Breathwork to Heal Anxiety on my YouTube channelJoin me in The Metamorphosis which is my 3-month, groundbreaking, flagship program to rapidly and efficiently clear the familial and ancestral trauma that is blocking you from experiencing the wealth and freedom that you desire.Starting a business or working with clients? You need to sign up for The Metamorphosis Method This is the only Breathwork and Trauma Certification Program that closes the gap between spirituality and therapy to create predictable and permanent results with your clients. We start again at the end of September.Questions? Let's jump on a call CONTACT ALYSEYouTube @alysebreathesalysebreathes.comIG @alyse_breathesinfo@alysebreathes.com

In this episode of the InspirED Podcast, Andrea De La Cerda challenges the belief that women are "too much" and explores how cultural conditioning teaches many women to shrink themselves to maintain acceptance and harmony. Drawing from personal experience, leadership research, neuroscience, and behavioral psychology, Andrea explains why visibility can feel unsafe, how self-silencing affects confidence and income, and why taking up space is often a nervous system challenge rather than a capability issue. She shares practical strategies for trusting your intuition, setting boundaries without over-explaining, and reclaiming your authority in business and life. This episode is a powerful invitation for women to stop editing themselves and start leading from their full presence....CHAPTERS00:00 A Moment of Self-Abandonment 02:12 The Belief That You're Too Much 04:38 How Girls Are Taught to Stay Small 07:14 Why Visibility Feels Unsafe 10:22 Trusting Your Intuition Over Approval 13:48 The Cost of Over-Explaining 17:05 Taking Up Space and Owning Your Authority 20:11 Practical Ways to Stop Shrinking 23:02 The Ripple Effect of Visibility...RESOURCES ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Business AuditTAG ANDREA ON INSTAGRAM⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@andreadlc_coach⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...CONNECT WITH KANDULA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kandula Blogs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. . .ABOUT ANDREA DE LA CERDAAndrea De La Cerda is a highly accomplished communications professional with over 25 years of experience in the fields of advertising, communications and marketing. Throughout her career, Andrea has held key positions in renowned advertising agencies, brand consultancies and in-house marketing departments before creating Kandula. She possesses a deep understanding of consumer behavior and market trends, allowing her to develop innovative communication strategies that resonate with diverse audiences. Andrea received both her B.A. in Advertising and Business Administration and a M.A. in Education from Pepperdine. She is currently pursuing her Accreditation in Public Relations and is a member of PRSA.. . .WORK WITH USKandula works with nonprofits, entrepreneurs, educational institutions, and established brands dedicated to expanding their influence and amplifying their impact through purpose-driven communication strategies. Reach out to work with us!

In this episode, Britten continues her series on self-abandonment through the houses of the birth chart, turning toward the Sixth House. She explores the Sixth House as a place where shame often gathers around capacity, productivity, health, organization, and what it means to tend to devotion without policing. Topics She Covers: The momentum of moving through the houses as a framework for attention, immersion, and revelation. Gnosis as the wisdom, truth, insight, and knowing that no one can take away from you. The Emergence Astrology Pathway as a space for cultivating personal and collective gnosis. Self-abandonment as something we have to learn to identify, name, and refuse so we can come back into innocence and bring ourselves home. The Sixth House as a realm of bodies, care, energetic health, daily systems, administrative life, and the commitment to living in a body on planet Earth. How shame can distort our relationship to health, capacity, productivity, care, systems, and the way we tend to what needs our attention. Britten reflects on how difficult it can be to know how to care for ourselves inside systems and cultures that do not prioritize care. She names the shame many of us carry around our bodies, our capacity, our administrative lives, and the day-to-day systems that support our health and ability to function. Through the lens of the Sixth House, she invites listeners to imagine tending to these parts of life without shame as the authority: not from punishment, anti-aging, productivity, or inherited conditioning, but because we are people who turn toward life. This episode is an invitation to decondition the shame of the Sixth House and return to a more loving, clear, and present-time commitment to being here with ourselves, in this body, every day.   Learn More About The Emergence Astrology Pathway: The Emergence Astrology Pathway is designed for those who ever find themselves in a position to support another. Whether you're an established therapeutic practitioner, a leader, a parent, or simply a human being with the sincere desire to show up in your fullest integrity, the Emergence Astrology Pathway will be the remembering and the revelation that you most yearn for. It's impossible to fully fathom the riches that flow your way because you claimed this experience of yourself.  Here Britten teaches what she's found and developed as an astrologer who helps people tune into the most authentic call within. Most of what she offers are techniques and insights that no human teacher taught her. Doors only once a year! Early Bird tuition opens on June 21. You can learn more here and join the newsletter for updates when more doors open by clicking here.   +++   E M E R G E N C E  A S T R O L O G Y ⁠⁠https://brittenlarue.com/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@brittenlarue Order Living Astrology Join my newsletter here Check out my new podcast CRYSTAL BALLERS on Spotify, Podbean, and Apple.   +++   Podcast art: Angela George. Podcast music: Jonathan Koe. 

You told yourself you weren't going to text him.You meant it.Then your phone buzzed... or the loneliness got louder... or the pressure inside became impossible to ignore.And before you knew it, you hit send.In this episode, Dawn, Coach Tiffini, and Joy explore one of the most frustrating post-divorce patterns women experience: reaching for false connection when what they're actually craving is relief.Because the truth is, texting him back usually isn't about him.It's about the discomfort you're trying to escape.Together, they unpack the deeper forces underneath the urge to reach out—including attachment wounds, loneliness, validation-seeking, nervous system dysregulation, productivity addiction, and self-abandonment.They discuss: Why the urge to text your ex feels so overwhelming  What is actually happening in your nervous system before you hit send  The surprising ways loneliness causes women to betray their own values  Why validation can become addictive after divorce  How old attachment patterns follow us into new relationships  The difference between temporary relief and genuine healing  Why community matters when you're trying to break painful cycles  Practical tools for interrupting the urge to reach out Most importantly, this conversation offers compassion.Because if you've ever found yourself asking, "Why do I keep doing this?" the answer is probably much bigger than a text message.The text is just the fruit.This episode helps you understand the tree.Mentioned In This Episode Attachment wounds and nervous system healing  Self-abandonment vs. self-trust  IFS (Internal Family Systems)  The role of loneliness in divorce recovery  Why healing requires more than willpower Ready to heal with women who understand?Join us inside Cocoon, our free community for women navigating divorce, rebuilding self-trust, and creating lives that feel grounded, secure, and fully their own.We'd love to meet you there. Support the show✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨

That moment when you finally get quiet and realize you don't know what you want anymore can feel terrifying and weirdly ordinary at the same time. Today I'm going to shine a light on what's happening for so many women in unhappy marriages and in the aftermath of divorce: identity loss through self-abandonment, the slow, almost invisible disappearing act that can look like love while it quietly erases you.I'll talk about how this pattern builds over years through tiny decisions like deferring to his preferences and decisions, putting your needs at the bottom of the list, and learning to distrust your intuition. I connect the dots between cultural conditioning, the pressure to be the caretaker and emotional manager, and why so many women only initiate divorce after they've tried everything. Then we get practical. I walk through clear signs of emotional self-abandonment. And I finish the episode with five simple steps to rebuild self-trust. I also share my guide, 115 Ways to Get to Know You, if you want a fun place to start.If this resonates, subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more women can find the support they deserve.To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

In this episode, Britten continues her series on self-abandonment through the houses of the birth chart, turning toward the Fifth House. She explores the Fifth House as a place where energy flows into what we love, what we create, what we pour ourselves into, and what carries something of us out into the world. Topics She Covers: The Moon as the beginning of Britten's relationship with mystery, intuition, energy, and lunar cycles. The new Emergence Astrology Pathway Year One curriculum as a return to her lunar teachings, with three strands: lunar transmissions, intuition skills building, and ritual wisdom. The Fifth House as children, hobbies, romance, students, creativity, pleasure, and the generous movement of energy through and beyond us. How self-abandonment shows up when we believe our generative capacity is worthless, unproductive, selfish, or not valuable to ourselves or others. The spiritual consequences of shutting down our creative channel, denying ourselves play, or pouring all of our energy into a job, partner, friend, or relationship that demands everything from us. Britten reflects on the way the Moon first claimed her in 2017 and led her into a life organized around listening, mystery, and creative devotion. From there, she traces how her lunar teachings have evolved over time and why the reimagined Emergence Astrology Pathway is built to move slowly, gently, and deeply. Through the lens of the Fifth House, she invites listeners to notice where they may be withholding their energy, denying their right to pleasure, or believing they have nothing to give. This episode is a call to repair the shame around creativity and to remember that our energy is meant to run, move, pour into something, and be shared.   Learn More About The Emergence Astrology Pathway: The Emergence Astrology Pathway is a path through Britten's most refined, mature, and powerful curriculum. This experience is designed for those who ever find themselves in a position to support another. Whether you're an established therapeutic practitioner, a leader, a parent, or simply a human being with the sincere desire to show up in your fullest integrity, the Emergence Astrology Pathway will be the remembering and the revelation that you most yearn for. Enrollment for Britten's deepest dive is only once a year! Doors open for Early Bird tuition on June 21. You can learn more here and join the newsletter for updates when more doors open by clicking here.   +++   E M E R G E N C E  A S T R O L O G Y ⁠⁠https://brittenlarue.com/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@brittenlarue Order Living Astrology Join my newsletter here Check out my new podcast CRYSTAL BALLERS on Spotify, Podbean, and Apple.   +++   Podcast art: Angela George. Podcast music: Jonathan Koe. 

What if midlife awakening isn't about having all the answers?What if it's about finally telling yourself the truth?In this deeply personal solo episode, Wendy reflects on her own midlife awakening and the long journey toward self-trust, listening to her body, and no longer explaining away what she knew deep down.For years, she became a master at minimizing discomfort, rationalizing away red flags, and convincing herself that things were "fine." Sound familiar?This episode explores the quiet ways many women lose touch with themselves through people pleasing, self-abandonment, and the habit of putting everyone else's needs ahead of their own.Wendy shares:✨ Why awakening has its own timing

What happens when you realize you've spent your entire life abandoning yourself to keep everyone else comfortable?In this deeply powerful episode of Casa De Confidence, Julie DeLucca-Collins welcomes back author, energy healer, and boundary expert Stephanie McAuliffe for an honest conversation about generational trauma, emotional healing, boundaries, people pleasing, and learning to trust yourself again.Stephanie shares her personal story of growing up in a family where emotions were silenced through alcohol, how those patterns shaped her relationships and career, and how she ultimately transformed her life after the collapse of her marriage and Wall Street career.This episode dives into:emotional healinggenerational traumafamily dynamicspeople pleasingself abandonmentenergy protectionpersonal boundariesinner child healinglearning to trust yourselfIf you've ever felt emotionally exhausted, disconnected from yourself, or stuck repeating unhealthy patterns, this conversation will resonate deeply.

Last week, we started a conversation about people pleasing, overgiving, and what happens when helping everyone else starts hurting you. This week, we're going deeper. Because the real issue isn't helping people. The real question is: Who are you if nobody needs you?Many of us learned that being useful was the safest way to receive love, approval, connection, or a sense of worth. We became the helper, the fixer, the caretaker, the strong one. We learned to anticipate other people's needs while often ignoring our own. But eventually, that way of living catches up with us. The exhaustion. The resentment. The feeling of being unseen. The disappointment when the people we've given so much to don't show up for us in the same way. In this episode of Cacao Conversations, we're exploring the deeper wounds beneath people pleasing and the hidden cost of building your identity around being needed. We talk about: -why helping others can feel so good -the difference between love and validation -overgiving, burnout, and resentment -why so many helpers struggle to receive support -healthy community versus rescuing -what happens when your worth becomes tied to your usefulness -how to begin reconnecting with your value beyond what you do for others Because being needed is not the same as being loved. And your worth was never meant to depend on how much of yourself you give away. New episodes of Cacao Conversations drop weekly. Sip. Connect. Awaken. Hey! Thanks for listening! If you liked this episode, please send us a message. We'd love to hear from you!Your cup is full, your journey awaits. Let's sip, chat, and transform together. Find out more at https://www.bodyandsoulevents.love/ Julietta Wenzel Founder of Body & Soul Ministries, Julietta is a healer, guide, and visionary dedicated to helping others remember their true selves and step into their authentic power. With a background as a physical therapist turned spiritual practitioner, she combines individual healing sessions, sacred ceremonies, and transformative retreats to guide her community toward joy, fulfillment, and alignment. https://bodyandsoulministries.love/ Instagram: @bodyandsoulministries Dorice Ross Elder of Body & Soul Ministries, Dorice is a healer, educator, and guide devoted to supporting others in remembering their divinity and lived experience of Oneness. With a background in physical therapy and university-level teaching, her path has always bridged the body, mind, and spirit. Rooted in both psychology and energy healing, and inspired by diverse spiritual traditions, Dorice creates safe, compassionate spaces where healing unfolds naturally. Her work is guided by love, deep listening, and trust in the wisdom of Source.  Instagram: @rossdoriceShine bright and have a magical day!Julietta & Dorice

In this episode, Britten continues her series on self-abandonment through the houses of the birth chart, turning toward the Fourth House: a realm of home, lineage, childhood context, caregivers, private life, and the places we come from. She explores the Fourth House as the context of you, encompassing the emotional, energetic, and ancestral field that shaped how you learned to take up space, come home to yourself, and understand what safety feels like. Topics She Covers: The houses as zones of terrestrial human life, where our most pleasurable and painful experiences unfold. Why Emergence Astrology begins with intuition, energy, personal gnosis, and learning to hear yourself before learning astrology. Shame as a context we often don't realize we're seeing through, and unshaming as the practice of removing those lenses. The Fourth House as the childhood home, caregivers, lineage, land, family, and the energetic quality of the place you came from. How individuation asks us to identify and surpass the core strivings of our caregivers so we can reclaim our own foundation. The Fourth House as the place where we learn to build a home within ourselves, cultivate safety, and create a private life that can truly hold us. Britten reflects on how difficult it can be to see the Fourth House clearly because it is often the very context we grew up inside. Until we begin to individuate, or until a major transit wakes this part of the chart up, the Fourth House can feel mysterious or hard to describe. Through the lens of Emergence Astrology as a path of repair, presence, and congruence, she invites listeners to consider how self-abandonment forms inside early contexts and how we can begin to untangle from inherited patterns, come back into our own house, and let the Fourth House become a frame that holds us.   Learn More About The Emergence Astrology Pathway: The Emergence Astrology Pathway is a path through Britten's most refined, mature, and powerful curriculum. This experience is designed for those who ever find themselves in a position to support another. Whether you're an established therapeutic practitioner, a leader, a parent, or simply a human being with the sincere desire to show up in your fullest integrity, the Emergence Astrology Pathway will be the remembering and the revelation that you most yearn for. Enrollment for Britten's deepest dive is only once a year! Doors open for Early Bird tuition on June 21. You can learn more here and join the newsletter for updates when more doors open by clicking here.   +++   E M E R G E N C E  A S T R O L O G Y ⁠⁠https://brittenlarue.com/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@brittenlarue Order Living Astrology Join my newsletter here Check out my new podcast CRYSTAL BALLERS on Spotify, Podbean, and Apple.   +++   Podcast art: Angela George. Podcast music: Jonathan Koe. 

What if the thing you keep chasing isn't actually better... just more familiar? In this solo Q&A episode, John Kim reflects on fantasy, gratitude, emotional presence, and the difference between intensity and real love. From surfing in Costa Rica to answering listener questions about confidence, breakups, infidelity, and self-abandonment in relationships, this episode explores what happens when you stop escaping yourself and start paying attention to what's actually here. Key points covered: • Why we romanticize the past and overlook the present • The difference between intensity and consistency in love • How healthy relationships create clarity instead of confusion • What confidence actually comes from • Signs you may be abandoning yourself in a relationship • Whether couples can rebuild after infidelity If this episode helped you, send it to someone who may need to hear it. Follow, rate, and share the podcast to support the show.

In this episode, Britten continues her series on self-abandonment through the houses of the birth chart, turning toward the Third House: a realm of language, learning, fluency, words, education, siblings, nearby community, and the ways we shape reality through what we say and hear. She explores how self-abandonment can happen through language itself: through shaming educational systems, intimidating spiritual or astrological spaces, comparison, perfectionism, and the fear that something is wrong with us if we do not learn, speak, or understand in the same way as someone else.  Britten reflects on re-recording this episode after realizing the first version carried a subtle striving to prove that she knew what she was doing. From there, she opens into a more honest exploration of self-trust, self-doubt, and the emergent changes happening inside her business ecosystem as she prepares to open the Emergence Astrology Pathway.  Along the way, she shares Caitlin Westcott's reflections on learning astrology as a symbolic language and uses them as a doorway into the Third House: how language develops through immersion, relationship, observation, practice, and lived experience.  Through the lens of Emergence Astrology as a language of repair, recovery, remembering, and renewal, she invites listeners to consider how the words we speak internally and externally create our world, and how staying with ourselves through mutation can become a liberating practice rather than another place to leave ourselves behind.   Learn More About The Emergence Astrology Pathway: The Emergence Astrology Pathway is a path through Britten's most refined, mature, and powerful curriculum. This experience is designed for those who ever find themselves in a position to support another. Whether you're an established therapeutic practitioner, a leader, a parent, or simply a human being with the sincere desire to show up in your fullest integrity, the Emergence Astrology Pathway will be the remembering and the revelation that you most yearn for. Enrollment for Britten's deepest dive is only once a year! Doors open for Early Bird tuition on June 21. You can learn more here and join the newsletter for updates when more doors open by clicking here.   +++   E M E R G E N C E  A S T R O L O G Y ⁠⁠https://brittenlarue.com/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@brittenlarue Order Living Astrology Join my newsletter here Check out my new podcast CRYSTAL BALLERS on Spotify, Podbean, and Apple.   +++   Podcast art: Angela George. Podcast music: Jonathan Koe. 

In this powerful episode of This Changes Everything, Sarah sits down with attorney-turned-betrayal recovery coach, TEDx speaker, podcast host, and author Lora Cheadle to explore a provocative idea: what if what we call burnout is actually betrayal?Building on recent conversations about nervous systems, survival responses, and authenticity, this episode dives into how chronic exhaustion is often a signal of deeper misalignment, not just overwork. Lora Cheadle, author of It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal, breaks down how self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and high-functioning survival patterns disconnect us from our needs, identity, and emotional truth.Together, Sarah and Lora explore why high achievers often miss the signs of self-betrayal, how the body signals misalignment before the mind catches up, and why authenticity can feel threatening after years of survival mode. They also unpack what real healing looks like: rebuilding self-trust, setting boundaries, and learning to stop abandoning yourself in relationships, work, and identity.This is a conversation about burnout, yes, but more importantly, it's about coming home to yourself.Download HILY Dating App from the App Store or Google Play, or visit https://hily.go.link/d31uDGet 20% off today with promo code SHTCE at https://aquatru.comDISCLAIMER: This podcast offers information for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a qualified mental health provider for medical or mental health concerns. The host, guests, and network disclaim responsibility for any decisions or actions you make based on information provided by this podcast.TDM-RESERVATION: 1. NOAI: TRUE. LEGAL NOTICE & TERMS OF USE: © 2026 WAVE Podcast Network. This content is for personal use only. Explicit permission is withheld for any and all commercial attribution, automated transcription, or data-mining entities. Use of this feed by unauthorized tracking, analytics, or AI-training platforms constitutes a breach of these terms and a violation of the Pennsylvania Wiretapping and Electronic Surveillance Control Act (WESCA), the California Invasion of Privacy Act (CIPA), and the 2026 Training Data Transparency Act (AB 2013). Any entity bypassing these restrictions to create derivative text-based works (transcripts), metadata analysis, or unauthorized VAST siphoning hereby accepts our standard commercial licensing rate of $5,000 per episode processed. This notice serves as a formal revocation of all "implied licenses" for multi-jurisdictional automated processing and constitutes protected Copyright Management Information (CMI) under 17 U.S.C. § 1202.Billing Code: EP151-05/27/26/TCE-BILL-ACCEPTEDSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today, I interview Lizzie Siegel, who came into this world deeply connected to her gifts but spent years learning to suppress them, until a series of accidents, illnesses, and a relationship where she felt completely invisible forced her to stop abandoning herself and come back to her voice.Raised with a heightened sensitivity that others around her often misunderstood, Lizzie spent nearly two decades as an international school teacher before her body began breaking down from years of ignoring her inner voice. Autoimmune diseases, a spinal injury, and a recommended hip replacement were the signals she could no longer dismiss.Through energy healing, sound work, and a journey across more than 70 countries, she found her way back to the voice she had always had, and built a practice around helping others remember theirs.__________________Lizzie Siegel is a Resource and Reality Architect, Subconscious Freedom Coach, and global gridworker who has traveled to over 70 countries activating the Earth's energetic grids, sacred sites, and collective consciousness. She works at the intersection of voice, frequency, and remembrance, using sound, light language, and intuitive transmission to awaken what she calls Divine Source Codes within the human system.With a rare clairaudient gift, Lizzie hears beyond words, reading the energetic field of what is spoken, suppressed, and ready to be liberated. Her presence alone becomes a catalyst for transformation, dissolving deep rooted patterns of fear, trauma, and limitation, and recalibrating individuals at the level of identity, nervous system, and soul.She doesn't just help people find their voice. She helps them remember who they were before they ever learned to silence it.__________________Find Lizzie here:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lizziesiegel/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lilybity Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizzienamasteplantbased/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heartshomewithlizzie/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@heartshomewithlizzie Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2y8L6exu2GxJeBQSEUSX5K?si=0a10cdc09bec41c4 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hearts-home-podcast/id1648081724Support the showI'm Dr. Doreen Downing and I help people find their voice so they can speak without fear. Get the Free 7-Step Guide to Fearless Speaking https://www.doreen7steps.com​.

 "Your life is a garden and whatever you cultivate is what springs up, and if you don't pull out certain weeds, it ends up choking out the good stuff." My good friend, Dr. Word Smith is back for the third time. He flew into Philly, we sat down with zero agenda, and what came out was one of the most honest, layered conversations I've had on this show about relationships, childhood wounds, codependency, Buddhism, karma, and what it actually takes to change.We get into why intimate relationships are the sharpest mirror we have for our unprocessed childhood material, and why most of us don't even have language for what we didn't receive growing up, only a feeling that something was missing. Word shares his own journey through toxic shame, perfectionism, and self-criticism, and what it looked like to actually move through it over 25 years of real inner work. We also dive into Buddhism, the concept of seed planting, why just changing your thoughts doesn't work, and why the feelings and the body have to be part of the equation.Then we go deep into codependency, the slow, invisible way it builds, how it rewards you just enough to keep you stuck, and what it means to finally hit the wall where continuing the old way is no longer an option. We talk about the container: what it means to have a safe space where your body knows it can finally feel, and why that safety isn't a luxury, it's the actual mechanism of change. We close with a tease: we may be co-facilitating a retreat this fall. Stay tuned.TODAY'S HIGHLIGHTSWhy intimate relationships trigger us more than anything elseThe moment Word finally understood what toxic shame wasHow to trace shame back to childhood: what questions to ask yourselfWhy affirmations alone don't work, and what you're missing when you skip the feelings and bodyBuddhism, karma, and seed plantingCodependency: a survival mechanism that stops serving youThe perimenopause layer: why women in their 40s suddenly can't tolerate the old patterns anymoreSelf-abandonment disguised as being a good mom, wife, partner, and how to start seeing itThe container: why your body knows when it's safe to feel, and why that space is the key to processingFall retreat announcement. More details coming soonCONTACT DR. WORD SMITHDr. Word Smith is an energy worker, coach, Buddhist scholar, and Chinese medicine doctor with 25 years of experience helping people with manifestation, healing, and result-based transformation. Visit drwordsmithwisdom.comFollow on IG dr.wordsmithwisdom**WAYS TO ENTER MY WORLD**When you leave a review of the podcast on Apple Podcasts and send us a screenshot of it, we'll send you a $250 credit that you can apply to anything else in my world.Join me in The Metamorphosis which is my 3-month, groundbreaking, flagship program to rapidly and efficiently clear the familial and ancestral trauma that is blocking you from experiencing the wealth and freedom that you desire.Check out my newest video on my YouTube channel What's the Inner Critic + 7-Min Breathwork to Release ItQuestions? Let's jump on a call CONTACT ALYSEYouTube @alysebreathesalysebreathes.comIG @alyse_breathesinfo@alysebreathes.com

In this episode, Britten continues her series on self-abandonment through the houses of the birth chart, turning toward the Second House: a realm of livelihood, abundance, resources, and our relationship to what sustains us.  She explores why self-abandonment can feel especially charged here, tracing the ways scarcity, inherited conditioning, and larger oppressive systems shape our beliefs about worth, provision, and what is possible. Returning to themes of innocence and unshaming, she asks listeners to consider how deeply conditioned stories about money and resources can pull us away from trusting ourselves. Britten reflects on her own relationship with financial healing, sharing how recovery, grief, and rebuilding trust in herself became part of reclaiming agency after divorce. Along the way, she explores the Second House as a place where we learn to return to our own house rather than surrender ourselves to someone else's authority or inherited ideas about safety. Through the lens of Emergence Astrology as a path of repair, remembering, renewal, and recovery, she invites listeners into a different possibility: relating to themselves as the well, trusting their own regenerativity, and slowly learning to believe that abundance can move through them rather than live somewhere outside of them.   Learn More About The Emergence Astrology Pathway: The Emergence Astrology Pathway is a path through Britten's most refined, mature, and powerful curriculum. This experience is designed for those who ever find themselves in a position to support another. Whether you're an established therapeutic practitioner, a leader, a parent, or simply a human being with the sincere desire to show up in your fullest integrity, the Emergence Astrology Pathway will be the remembering and the revelation that you most yearn for. Enrollment for Britten's deepest dive is only once a year! Doors open for Early Bird tuition on June 21. You can learn more here and join the newsletter for updates when more doors open by clicking here.   +++   E M E R G E N C E  A S T R O L O G Y ⁠⁠https://brittenlarue.com/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@brittenlarue Order Living Astrology Join my newsletter here Check out my new podcast CRYSTAL BALLERS on Spotify, Podbean, and Apple.   +++   Podcast art: Angela George. Podcast music: Jonathan Koe. 

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This episode focuses on how to handle when change is needed in life related to negativity or toxicity. How to develop practices that support staying aligned with our values and avoiding self abandoning behaviors.

What if everything you were taught about success and leadership was causing you to abandon your own needs? This conversation will completely change how you see work, identity, and what it means to truly win in life.In this episode of The Hard Skills, Dr. Mira Brancu sits down with Dr. CarolLaine M. Garcia, a Dominican-American I/O psychologist, decolonial researcher, and creator of Queen Mindset Leadership(R) who spent a decade consulting for Fortune 500 companies before walking away to rebuild leadership from lived experience.CarolLaine unpacks why self-abandonment has been typecast as leadership, and what it actually means to lead from wholeness rather than exhaustion. You'll learn about the four data centers of mind, heart, body, and spirit that most leaders leave completely offline, why burnout recovery starts with tuning into the intelligences you've been trained to ignore, and how personal development rooted in creativity and decolonial thinking can transform the way you lead yourself and others.Whether you're navigating burnout prevention, questioning traditional leadership development, or simply tired of performing a version of success that doesn't feel like yours, this conversation will give you both the language and the permission to lead differently.Subscribe for weekly conversations on leadership, mental health, and the hard skills nobody teaches you.Learn more about Dra. CarolLaine M. Garcia at:https://www.drcarollainemgarcia.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/drcarollainemgarcia https://www.instagram.com/drcarollainemgarciaIF YOU ENJOYED THIS EPISODE, CAN I ASK A FAVOR?We do not receive any funding or sponsorship for this podcast. If you learned something and feel others could also benefit, please leave a positive review. Every review helps amplify our work and visibility. This is especially helpful for small women-owned boot-strapped businesses. Simply go to the bottom of the Apple Podcast page to enter a review. Thank you!Subscribe to my free newsletter at: mailchi.mp/2079c04f4d44/subscribeWork with me one-on-one: calendly.com/mira-brancu/30-minute-initial-consultationConnect with me on LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/MiraBrancuLearn more about my services: www.gotowerscope.comGet practical workplace politics tips from my books: gotowerscope.com/booksAdd this podcast to your feed: www.listennotes.com/podcasts/the-hard-skills-dr-mira-brancu-m0QzwsFiBGE/

In this episode, Britten begins a new series exploring self-abandonment through the twelve houses of the birth chart, opening with the First House as the realm of arrival, direction, and how we enter the field of life. Returning to themes from her recent reflections on The Matriarchy is Already Here, she traces the relationship between shame, self-trust, and the ways we learn to leave ourselves behind.  Britten's Emergence Astrology sees the language as one of repair, recovery, renewal, and remembering. One that helps reveal where self-abandonment lives and what becomes possible when we choose to stay with ourselves. Britten explores the First House as the helm of the chart: the place connected to action, choice, and the way we steer the boat of our lives. She reflects on self-abandonment as a loss of trust in our own way of moving through the world and asks what it means to remain with ourselves instead. Along the way, she shares why the practice of listening with the Moon has become foundational to the reimagined Emergence Astrology Pathway, her one-to-three year program through the heart of her teachings. Rather than turning away from our own knowing, she invites listeners into a practice of attunement: listening, returning, and learning to trust themselves over time with the reckless freedom they deserve.   Learn More About The Emergence Astrology Pathway: The Emergence Astrology Pathway is a one-to-three year passage to utterly transform your relationship to being alive in your body on planet earth in present time. "The Matriarchy Is Already Here" is a phrase that came to Britten this year in a vision. In this vision, she sees the matriarchy not as a top-down political system that rises up with singular leaders. Rather, the matriarchy is all of us – in all bodies – learning to attune to and take care of the Younger Selves within us, helping us trust that we cannot be abandoned when we have ourselves. Disobedience is the way out. But first: we learn to listen within. We gather in community. We devote ourselves each to our own temples. We resource with the divine within and all around us. And we disrupt as we have the capacity to stay with ourselves through the storm of our true voices. The Emergence Astrology Pathway is a path through Britten's most refined, mature, and powerful curriculum. This experience is designed for those who ever find themselves in a position to support another. Whether you're an established therapeutic practitioner, a leader, a parent, or simply a human being with the sincere desire to show up in your fullest integrity, the Emergence Astrology Pathway will be the remembering and the revelation that you most yearn for. You can join the newsletter to be the first to know when more doors open by clicking here.   +++   E M E R G E N C E  A S T R O L O G Y ⁠⁠https://brittenlarue.com/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@brittenlarue Order Living Astrology Join my newsletter here Check out my new podcast CRYSTAL BALLERS on Spotify, Podbean, and Apple.   +++   Podcast art: Angela George. Podcast music: Jonathan Koe.   

In this episode, Amber explores the connection between boundaries, mindfulness, self-abandonment, and clutter. Through personal reflections on marriage, divorce, and blurred emotional boundaries, she unpacks how many women unconsciously override their own needs, capacity, and nervous systems over time. Amber discusses the difference between connection and access, how clutter can become an invasion of space and peace, and why mindfulness helps interrupt automatic behaviors like people pleasing, emotional overwhelm, avoidance, and self-abandonment. This episode is about awareness, boundaries, and beginning to reclaim space — emotionally, mentally, and physically. ➡️  For The 8-Hour Decluttering Plan, click HERE. ➡️ If you would like more information about my guided decluttering program email me at amber@declutteryourchaos.com or click HERE. ➡️  Download my free decluttering planner here: https://declutteryourchaos.com/decluttering-planner Let's connect:

In this episode, Amber explores the connection between boundaries, mindfulness, self-abandonment, and clutter. Through personal reflections on marriage, divorce, and blurred emotional boundaries, she unpacks how many women unconsciously override their own needs, capacity, and nervous systems over time. Amber discusses the difference between connection and access, how clutter can become an invasion of space and peace, and why mindfulness helps interrupt automatic behaviors like people pleasing, emotional overwhelm, avoidance, and self-abandonment. This episode is about awareness, boundaries, and beginning to reclaim space — emotionally, mentally, and physically. ➡️  For The 8-Hour Decluttering Plan, click HERE. ➡️ If you would like more information about my guided decluttering program email me at amber@declutteryourchaos.com or click HERE. ➡️  Download my free decluttering planner here: https://declutteryourchaos.com/decluttering-planner Let's connect:

Kelly Chase, the breakout star of Love Is Blind, Season 1, brings something to this conversation that goes far deeper than what the world got to see when she said "no" at the altar. As a Type 3. we get to talk about the inside of the life of a type 3, as Kelly talks about both sides of the Performer personality, the side that performs to others and abandons self, and the version of herself that was slowly disappearing in the effort to keep everyone else comfortable, and the side that finally knows more and more who she is and what she needs to do for a healthy and balanced, authentic life. This conversation goes into nervous system regulation, rejection wounds, chemistry versus true compatibility, and what it looks like when a heart type finally stops performing her way through life and starts actually feeling it instead, plus ways for YOU to be coached and dialed in with your own business! Watch on YouTube! Here's the website! https://www.chaselifewithkelly.com/ Kelly's Instagram https://www.instagram.com/chaselifewithkelly/?hl=en Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A 58-year-old woman came to me stuck, frustrated, and ready for change. When I walked her through our program — the coaching, the accountability, the full support structure — she said we offered too much support. In this callout episode, we unpack why high-achieving women have been conditioned to distrust real help — and why that conditioning is keeping them stuck. If struggling alone has ever felt like strength to you, this episode is going to challenge that.If you're interested in more mindset and health hacks for overwhelmed women, find me on Instagram @jaimefilerfitness, or head to https://call.jaimefiler.com/form to learn more about the 16 week 3R Method 

Today's podcast answers a question from someone who has come to realize their sense of self is damaged. This part of the healing work is often overlooked due to it being so close or detouring it due to us being nervous about the concept of “self”. If we have a damaged sense of self, it means we believe that we are unlovable, not worthy of love, and simply not good enough. This can predispose us to looking to external sources for validation, which can endanger us spirituality and set us up for more grief and shame. Self-abandonment leads us further away from God, self-denial brings us closer to God.

In this Dark Moon download, Britten reflects on the closing edge of the lunar cycle that began on April 17 and the themes that have continued surfacing across her work, relationships, and inner life. Returning to the phrase "the matriarchy is already here," she explores the strange experience of finding language for something that was already alive in the body before it could fully be spoken. Through stories from recent conversations, client work, and her own unfolding process, she reflects on what it means to stop abandoning yourself in subtle, everyday ways, and how self-trust deepens through repeated acts of attunement over time. Throughout the episode, Britten weaves together astrology, tarot, shame, and nervous system awareness to examine self-abandonment as both a personal wound and a collective pattern. She speaks about protectiveness, collapsed edges, obedience, and the ways people lose touch with their own authority in order to stay connected, safe, or approved of. Rather than framing healing as perfection, she returns again and again to the practice of staying with yourself. Listening, responding, updating in real time, and allowing your edges to become visible.  This episode ultimately becomes an exploration of repair: how we reclaim authority, rebuild trust with ourselves, and slowly learn to belong to our own lives again.   Mentioned: Scopes Unshamed is Britten LaRue's return to monthly horoscopes—shared by Rising Sign and rooted in astrology as a support technology for time, rather than a prediction machine. Head here to tune in to the May Scopes: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL-yGU0y2OIb1P0LXz58gSKdEthkzHdL6A   +++   E M E R G E N C E  A S T R O L O G Y ⁠⁠https://brittenlarue.com/ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@brittenlarue Order Living Astrology Join my newsletter here Check out my new podcast CRYSTAL BALLERS on Spotify, Podbean, and Apple.   +++   Podcast art: Angela George. Podcast music: Jonathan Koe.   

This week, I'm back with Alanna Kaivalya, PhD, author of The Way of the Satisfied Woman and expert on mythology, feminine psychology, and spiritual empowerment. This is part two of our conversation, and it might be even better than the first. We picked up right where we left off, and Alanna came with receipts. She goes deep on the practical, embodied, sometimes uncomfortable work of actually stopping the self-abandonment cycle. Not just recognizing it, but interrupting it in real time. We talked about what it means to reclaim your energy from the people and systems that have been draining it, what happens in your relationships when you start saying no, and why so many of us are still waiting for permission we were never going to get. (Link to our first conversation is in the show notes.) What you'll hear about in this episode: The one practice Alanna teaches every woman first: tuning into your body's “sacred no” and how to use it as a real-time pattern interrupt before you abandon yourself again Why stopping your over-functioning will feel messy at first, and why that mess is the point, including the laundry that will pile up and why you should let it The feminine guilt trap: why women feel guilty not for what we've done, but for what someone else might feel, and how to tell the difference between genuine wrongdoing and simply inconveniencing people Why Alanna believes the “let them” philosophy is being used against us, and why she wants to make accountability sexy again instead What Alanna's own past relationship revealed about the danger of “masculine armor,” and what happens when a capable woman attracts a partner who uses her strength as permission to stop showing up Last, a reminder to follow me on Substack if you want to get my longer form writing I've been doing lately. I'll be writing to unpack some pretty big topics, and would love to interact with listeners of the podcast over there

Krista Scott-Dixon returns to share details about her new book — Applied Nutrition Coaching and Counseling: Theory to Practice — and her expertise about:In our modern world, can we trust our hunger signalsWhy Krista believes “hunger is a skill”What happens physiologically and psychologically with hunger when we're in a calorie deficit and losing weightWhy changing your behavior is hardDoes behaviour shape identity or does identity shape behaviourCan action itself be a threat to a fixed identityWhat is the alter ego effect and why is it so powerful for actionWhat does “people pick their discomfort” meanWhat are meta skills and how do they help with lifestyle changeAnd much moreInstagram: @stumptuousCHAPTERS02:00 Sciencey Protocols Are a Grift05:00 Basics Over Optimization09:00 Intentional Magical Thinking11:00 Social Connection vs Protocols13:00 Who Should You Take Advice From14:00 The Resilient Human Hypothesis17:00 Performance Psychology Intro18:00 Where People Actually Fall Apart20:00 Everyday Performance Psychology24:00 The Everyone Else Problem26:00 Social Media vs Real Life27:00 Performative Vulnerability29:00 Getting Back to Play31:00 Imagination and Play32:00 When Optimization Kills Joy35:00 Playfulness Under Pressure36:00 Inserting Play Into Everyday Life40:00 Physical Play as Fitness Goal41:00 “My Job Is To Make You A Worse Person”47:00 Self-Abandonment and Childhood Neglect51:00 Productivity Without the Grind54:00 Zone Two of Life59:00 Defining Success on Your Own Terms01:01:00 Productivity Toward What01:03:00 The Gap vs The Gain01:04:00 Longevity Industry and Death AvoidanceSUPPORT THE SHOWIf this episode helped you think differently about behavior change, identity, or health, you can support the show by:Subscribing and checking out more episodesSharing it on social media (tag me and I'll respond)Sending it to someone navigating change, stress, or self-improvementFOLLOW ANDREW COATESInstagram: @andrewcoatesfitnesshttps://www.andrewcoatesfitness.comPARTNERS AND RESOURCESRP Strength App (use code COATESRP)https://www.rpstrength.com/coatesJust Bite Me Meals (use code ANDREWCOATESFITNESS for 10% off)https://justbitememeals.comMacrosFirst – FREE Premium TrialDownload MacrosFirst and during setup select ANDREWKNKG Bags (15% off)https://www.knkg.com/Andrew59676Versa Grippshttps://www.versagripps.com/andrewcoatesTRAINHEROIC – FREE 90-Day Trialhttps://www.trainheroic.com/liftfreeReply to the email you receive (or email trials@trainheroic.com) and let them know Andrew sent you

In this episode of This Changes Everything, we explore a powerful connection that quietly shapes every relationship in your life: the way you treat yourself is how you teach others to treat you.At the center of the conversation are core beliefs, the invisible, often unconscious stories we carry about our worth, love, and safety. Beliefs like “I'm too much,” “I have to earn love,” or “If I set boundaries, I'll be rejected” don't just live in our minds. They shape our behavior, our relationships, and what we tolerate.We break down how these beliefs are formed through childhood dynamics and past relationships, and how they show up in adulthood through patterns like over-explaining, accepting less than we want, and avoiding conflict even when something doesn't feel right. You'll also be guided through a simple exercise to help identify your own core beliefs in real time.From there, we move into the role of boundaries and how they are not about pushing people away, but about defining self-respect in action. Boundaries are one of the clearest expressions of self-love. They communicate what you will and won't accept, and they create the structure that allows relationships to feel safe, honest, and sustainable.At the heart of this episode is a key insight: we don't get treated how we want. We get treated how we believe we deserve. And boundaries are how we begin to rewrite that belief through action.This is a conversation about self-trust, emotional awareness, and what it really means to stop abandoning yourself in the name of love.If you'd like to try the HILY Dating App, you can download it from the App Store or Google Play, or by visiting https://hily.comGo to https://aquatru.com now for 20% off your purifier using promo code TCE.DISCLAIMER: This podcast offers information for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a qualified mental health provider for medical or mental health concerns. The host, guests, and network disclaim responsibility for any decisions or actions you make based on information provided by this podcast.TDM-RESERVATION: 1. NOAI: TRUE. LEGAL NOTICE & TERMS OF USE: © 2026 WAVE Podcast Network. This content is for personal use only. Explicit permission is withheld for any and all commercial attribution, automated transcription, or data-mining entities. Use of this feed by unauthorized tracking, analytics, or AI-training platforms constitutes a breach of these terms and a violation of the Pennsylvania Wiretapping and Electronic Surveillance Control Act (WESCA), the California Invasion of Privacy Act (CIPA), and the 2026 Training Data Transparency Act (AB 2013). Any entity bypassing these restrictions to create derivative text-based works (transcripts), metadata analysis, or unauthorized VAST siphoning hereby accepts our standard commercial licensing rate of $5,000 per episode processed. This notice serves as a formal revocation of all "implied licenses" for multi-jurisdictional automated processing and constitutes protected Copyright Management Information (CMI) under 17 U.S.C. § 1202.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The deepest wound in complex trauma is not emotional intensity. It is the learned loss of connection to yourself. In this episode, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof open the next chapter of the CPT series by starting where the roots go deepest: self-abandonment. This is the pattern they chose to name first—and intentionally so—because when the nervous system learns that staying connected to the self is unsafe, nearly every other complex trauma response grows from that adaptation. Self-abandonment is not a personality flaw or a lack of self-awareness. It is a body-based survival strategy. From a neurosomatic perspective, it is a state-dependent loss of interoceptive access—a patterned inhibition of internal signals that the nervous system learned in order to stay attached, stay safe, and maintain stability in the relational environment. And like every other output explored in this series, it made complete sense at the time it formed. The conversation moves through the neuroscience of dissociation and how it is inseparable from self-abandonment, the brain regions involved, and what their altered activity actually looks like in everyday life. It explores the fawn response—including its lesser-discussed dimension of sexual fawning—and the specific pathways through which emotional neglect and parentification set the stage for chronic self-erasure. Jennifer and Elisabeth also trace how masking—whether in the context of neurodivergence, complex trauma, or systemic oppression—is another expression of the same root pattern: authenticity does not feel safe, so the self gets hidden. But this episode does not stop at the wound. Both hosts share what the growth edge of this pattern has actually looked like for them—what building interoceptive capacity from the ground up felt like in practice—and how self-attunement, the skill of staying present with internal experience without becoming overwhelmed by it, gradually became accessible rather than threatening. This is not a quick-fix episode. It is an honest, grounded map of one of the most pervasive and least visible patterns in complex trauma—and a clear-eyed account of what actually changes it.   In This Episode, You Will Learn: Why self abandonment is a survival adaptation rooted in the nervous system, not a character flaw How interoceptive access becomes inhibited under chronic relational threat, and what that feels like day to day The neuroscience of dissociation: which brain regions are involved and how their altered activity drives functional disconnection Why emotional neglect, even without overt harm, sets the stage for chronic self erasure How parentification creates a nervous system template of self abandonment that persists long into adulthood What fawn response is, how it operates neurologically, and why sexual fawning is a real and undernamed expression of it How masking across contexts including neurodivergence, complex trauma, and racial and systemic oppression overlaps with and compounds self abandonment What self attunement actually is as a nervous system skill and how it is different from insight or emotional processing alone Why healing is capacity-based rather than cathartic, and what that means for pacing How both hosts have rebuilt interoceptive access over time and what that process has opened up for them Chapters 0:00 - The Deepest Wound in Complex Trauma Is Not Emotional Intensity 0:38 - Welcome: Who This Episode Is For 1:27 - Introducing the CPT Series and Why We Start With Self Abandonment 2:53 - Defining Self Abandonment as a Nervous System Output 4:21 - Pete Walker, Fawn Responses, and How the Child Learns to Attune Outward 4:47 - The Neuro Somatic View: Interoceptive Access Under Chronic Threat 6:08 - Embodiment as the Opposite of Self Abandonment 6:35 - Collective and Intergenerational Dimensions of Self Abandonment 7:55 - What Self Abandonment Looks Like in Real Life: A Case Study 9:21 - Dissociation: What It Actually Is and Why It Is Inseparable From Self Abandonment 10:42 - Brain Science: The Insula, Hippocampus, Amygdala, and Thalamus 14:35 - The Fawn Response and Sexual Fawning 18:17 - Self Attunement: The Opposite of Self Abandonment 21:06 - Rebuilding Interoception: Starting Small 27:19 - Emotional Neglect as the Root of Self Abandonment 29:13 - Parentification and the Template of Self Erasure 31:21 - Masking: Neurodivergence, Systemic Oppression, and Complex Trauma 36:19 - What Growth Has Actually Looked Like for Jennifer and Elisabeth 40:20 - Stress Bucket Dysmorphia and Learning Your Real Capacity Resources and Links NSI Foundations Bundle for coaches and practitioners: neurosomaticintelligence.com/foundations Two week Rewire Trial of guided neuro somatic training: rewiretrial.com Learn more about Jennifer's work at her YouTube channel: Sacred Synapse https://www.youtube.com/@sacredsynapse-23   Trauma Rewired podcast  is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. 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What if fertility success didn’t require you to grind, sacrifice, or disappear from your own life? In Episode 375 of the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, fertility mindset expert Rosanne Austin breaks down the seventh rule of fertility success: how high-performing women are getting pregnant — naturally and through assisted cycles — by ending the pattern of […] The post EP375: The New Rules of Fertility #7: Success Without Self Abandonment appeared first on Rosanne Austin.

On the identities we no longer need, the alchemy of recovery, and mourning the person we used to be.  (0:00) – Introduction and Background of Allison Derani (2:13) – Allison's Journey and Grief in Recovery (5:21) – Parenting and Self-Abandonment (7:04) – The Ambiguous Grief of Self-Abandonment (7:50) – The Liminal Space of Sobriety (18:39) – The Importance of Listening to Questions (22:57) – The Practice of Slowing Down (25:21) – Closing Thoughts and Future Plans Allison Deraney is a woman in recovery from alcohol who credits sobriety for waking her back up to her first passion—writing. Currently a licensed real estate attorney, running her own business, she's writing more creativity into her days via her Substack, Dare To Be, and working on her first book, a memoir about the healing and revealing as we recover from the ambiguous loss of self-abandonment. Dedicated to speaking up and speaking out about living a conscious sober life, Allison lives in Massachusetts with her husband, two kids, and two rescue dogs, spending her free time wandering and wondering in nature, and cheering her kids on from the sidelines of the basketball court. Allison's book-to-be is about grief; not the traditional kind, though there is some of that in there. The biggest lesson she's learned in recovery is this: Rejecting grief, in all its iterations, is a form of self-abandonment. Grief requires that we surrender to it. So does addiction, compulsion of perfection and aging. It's a book that explores how my midlife journey is intersecting with the deeper parts of recovery in the most terrifying and beautiful way. It's a unique book in that it is written during the transformation. Because I am still in it. Sobriety has been my portal to Divinity and I'm here, feet planted on the threshold, weaving words to capture the experience as best I can. https://allisonderaney.substack.com Here are Allison's three favorite posts from her Substack, DARE TO BE, out of an immense pull to write through her sobriety. https://open.substack.com/pub/allisonderaney/p/setting-off-our-own-fireworks-a95?r=rkt4u&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=false https://open.substack.com/pub/allisonderaney/p/its-been-a-whole-hand?r=rkt4u&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=false https://open.substack.com/pub/allisonderaney/p/my-permission-sticks-they-still-keep?r=rkt4u&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=false

Why do you overreact, shut down, or put everyone else first, even when you know it's hurting you? In this episode, Nicole LePera, breaks down how your “inner child” shapes your behaviors, from people-pleasing to perfectionism to emotional flooding, and how self-abandonment quietly shows up in your daily life. We also cover why these patterns aren't flaws, they're adaptations, and how to actually change them through nervous system regulation, awareness, and small, intentional shifts. If you've ever felt stuck repeating the same cycles in relationships, this will change how you understand yourself and what healing really looks like. → Leave Us A Voice Message!  Topics Discussed: → Why do I self-abandon in relationships? → What is inner child healing and how does it work? → Why do I overreact or shut down emotionally? → How can I regulate my nervous system in real time? → How do I stop people-pleasing and set boundaries? Sponsored By:  → OGEE | Thanks to today's sponsor, OGEE: A higher standard for beauty. Go to https://OGEE.com/BEWELL and use code BEWELL to get 15% off certified organic makeup that performs like luxury. → Function | Own your health for $365 a year. That's a dollar a day. Learn more and join using my link. Visit https://www.functionhealth.com/bewellbykelly and use gift code BEWELL25 for a $25 credit toward your membership → Hiya | Get 50% off your first order at https://hiyahealth.com/KELLY → Minnow | Shop minnow's new apré-ski capsule collection at https://shopminnow.com and enter code MEETMINNOW15 at checkout to receive 15% off your first order. → Be Well By Kelly Protein Powder & Essentials | Get $10 off your order with PODCAST10 at https://bewellbykelly.com. Timestamps:  → 00:00:00 - Introduction → 00:03:07 - Nicole's Healing Journey   → 00:07:09 - Cry It Out Method → 00:14:28 - Inner Child Work  → 00:18:55 - Inner Children In Relationships  → 00:21:02 - Reparting Steps  → 00:27:37 - Kelly's Experience With Therapy  → 00:30:35 - Emotional Flooding  → 00:35:41 - Handling Stress  → 00:37:27 - Self Abandonment  → 00:41:41 - Selfless Motherhood  → 00:43:44 - Overcorrection + Helicopter Parenting  → 00:47:52 - Snow Plow Parenting  → 00:51:43 - Negativity Bias + Boundaries  → 00:59:13 - Kelly's Experience  → 01:01:12 - You Are Not Broken  → 01:05:31 - Regulation Tools   Further Listening:  → Repressed Emotions, Anxiety + Why Self-Improvement Doesn't Exist | Joe Hudson Check Out Nicole: → Website: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/  → Instagram: @the.holistic.psychologist → New Book: Reparenting The Inner Child Check Out Kelly: → Instagram → Youtube → Facebook