The Self Leadership LAB

If you're a loyal listener, you probably noticed that Laura disappeared after COVID hit. You would be correct. So what's up with her? Where did she disappear to? Well, those questions and more will be answered in this show. Tune in to get the scoop! Resource: Leaving 2020 Behind

If you want to learn how to keep your relationship strong, this show is for you. Learn four specific self leadership strategies for more peace and fulfillment in your love relationship as well as the common relationship pitfalls you can avoid by using them. Lastly, gain insights into why these strategies may be simple in theory, but not necessarily easy in practice. Oh, and what you learn today isn't just applicable to loving partnership but can be used in any relationship, business or personal. Listen, you'll be happy you did…so will your partner. Resources: 044 | Finding Love Through Self Leadership 002 | The #1 Must Have Tool for Self Leadership    

The path to love can be fraught with stress and struggle. Today Laura shares 3 must-do self leadership strategies to help you access more ease and grace in your process of finding the one. You'll also leave the show with a clear idea of what might get in your way so you can be on the lookout for those watch-outs. And to top it all off, you'll even have strategies to overcome them! A must-listen if you're looking for partnership. Resources: 024 | Intention in the Workplace 042 | Secrets to Sustainable Change, Pt 2 043 | Secrets to Sustainable Change, Pt 3 Book: Shine Your Light, Illuminate Your Love

It's no accident that by mid-January, most New Year's Resolutions are already a thing of the past. That's because traditional resolutions are a recipe for almost certain failure. Laura shares a powerful alternative to making those large all or nothing commitments. Listen to learn a much more sustainable (and fun) way to create change; one that almost guarantees success. Resources: 041 | Secrets to Sustainable Change, Pt 1 042 | Secrets to Sustainable Change Pt 2  

You say you want to make a change, yet aren't doing it. Can you relate? Maybe you never started, perhaps you started then lost focus, or maybe you're waiting for motivation to kick in. Whatever the case, this show is for you. Learn how to overcome all of those barriers by using a different engine to fuel your change. What will keep you moving on your goals? A powerful WHY, that's what. Listen up to hear Laura share 4 steps to find your very own powerful WHY. Resources: 014 | How I to Sober 015 | Gain Power Over Procrastination 041 | Secrets to Sustainable Change, Pt 1

Whether you set New Year's Resolutions or not, this show is for you. Laura encourages you to just say no to traditional change methodology, which can feel huge, heavy and impossible. Instead, say yes to a much more fun way to create the lasting change you crave. Let's get this desire off your list once and for all, shall we? Resources: 040 | Surviving Holiday Gatherings

Let's face it…sometimes you dread attending a family, work or community holiday event, am I right? It's natural to not resonate with everyone or everything that goes on there. So, since you've decided to go, how can you thrive through your commitments, rather than barely survive. Is it possible? Let's find out.   Resources: 039 | Loving Your Body

You've heard it before: “Love your body, accept yourself.” It's a lovely concept but how on earth do you do it? It's so easy to get lost in comparing yourself to others and itemizing your flaws. What Laura shares today could put a whole new lens on this concept and give you a new way of looking at things to make loving your body a no brainer rather than an “I wish.” Resources: 038 | Making a Difference Don Miguel Ruiz The Mastery of Love

Feeling the enormity of the change you feel is needed in the world can feel insurmountable, leaving you feeling hopeless and helpless. Well, there is another way and that other way comes to us from two influential women: Rigoberta Menchú Tum and Mother Teresa. Listen to start making a greater difference today. Resources: 037 | Stress Less: The Holiday Edition Rigoberta Menchú Tum Mother Teresa

The holidays ahead will be filled with peace and joy, right? Hmm, maybe not. Hectic schedules, family obligations, and a pile of extra to-dos can leave you feeling anything but. Join Laura and The Self Leadership LAB to learn specific strategies to rise above three common holiday stressors. What you learn today can impact you well beyond the holiday season. Resources: 036: How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

If you find yourself unable to say no with a calendar full of things you really don't want to do, you may be a people pleaser (see Ep 035). If you're tired of being tired and unfulfilled, this show is for you. Learn a 4-step process to rid yourself of this life-sucking pattern once and for all.   Resources: EP 035: Are You A People Pleaser EP 002: The #1 Must Have Tool for Self Leadership

If you've ever wondered why you find yourself over committed, exhausted and depleted, this show is for you. You'll have the opportunity to take a short quiz to see if you have a pattern common to many…people pleasing. While generously doing for others can feel great at times, the scales can easily tip into overwhelm, resentment and a lack of self-care. Even a loss of identity. Listen to learn the ins and outs of this common, sometimes destructive, pattern. Resources: 001: What is Self Leadership & What Can It Do For Me?

Are you waiting until you have just the right education, financial situation, job, relationship, etc. before you can feel confident? That if you just had that one thing you would finally be willing to put yourself out there in a new way? That's cool, but just know that this strategy usually doesn't work. Plus, believe it or not, you don't have to wait for anything. You can feel confident right now. Listen and learn how to do just that.  

Today Laura takes a moment to connect with you in order to inspire you to take a moment to connect with someone else. To move beyond small talk. To share a piece of yourself with another human being. To take one small action to do what you can to combat the feeling of isolation pervasive in our modern world. Will you join her in this simple experiment? Resources: 032 | Does Change Have To Be Hard? 026 | Growth Mindset

We do it all the time…say we want to make a change, then don't do anything about it. This can leave us feeling frustrated and confused. One reason we get stuck is because part of us believes that change is going to be hard. What if it doesn't have to be this way? What if it were possible to change in an instant? Hear Laura share evidence that this is indeed possible. Is it possible for you? Let's find out. References: 031: Same S%!t Different Decade  

You swear…never again! Never again will you fall victim to that same old pattern. Then a bit later…there you are…ugh…not again. Think that same old boyfriend or girlfriend who keeps showing up: different face, different clothes, different decade, same old s%!t. So what do you do? Tune in to today's show to learn how to find freedom and break these patterns once and for all using an innovative approach from Laura's studies in Spiritual Psychology. References Ep 030: Letting Go of Old Guilt, Shame and Blame University of Santa Monica  

Are you weighed down by old feelings of guilt, shame and blame? Do these feelings cause you to play small, second guess yourself and feel generally not good enough? It doesn't have to be that way. Here, Laura shares an innovative way to release these feelings once and for all using a powerful concept borrowed from her unique education in Spiritual Psychology. Haven't you suffered long enough?

You get your hopes up, then, BAM. You're crushed. That outcome that you wanted so badly just didn't happen. What if this roller coaster of emotions could be avoided? What if there was a simple concept that could save you from this pain? Well, there is. Listen to this show to hear Laura share her secrets with you.

Part two of a series on mastery. Laura picks up where she left off in Episode 027. Now that we know what mastery is, what gets in your way of attaining it? So many things. It's a wonder we ever become great at anything…ever. Learn the likely pitfalls on the path so you can be more able to avoid them and get what you really want. Content is largely based on the book Mastery, by George Leonard. Resources: Mastery by George Leonard

The path to mastery is not for the faint of heart. It takes patience, commitment and a willingness to not always be good at something. The road is often paved with frustration, self-judgment and steps backward. It's a wonder we continue on the path at all. Actually, many of us don't. Join us for an introduction to this important concept, borrowed from George Leonard's book, Mastery. Resources: Mastery by George Leonard

Dr. Carol Dweck, author of the book Mindset says, “When you change your mindset, you change your world.” Truer words were never spoken. If you're feeling limited in your life, chances are excellent the limitation is not coming from the outside; it's likely coming from the inside instead. This show will help you understand the qualities, motivations, challenges and core beliefs of each mindset: fixed and growth. Most importantly, you'll learn how to step into your full potential by shifting from a fixed to a growth mindset. From that place, your possibilities are endless.  

Do you feel like you are at the mercy of what life throws at you? It's not fun, is it? Learn to trade in your stress and struggle for ease and grace. You can feel free every day of your life – the path to freedom is closer and more in your direct control than you might think.

Our workdays can be jam-packed with different activities, people, and challenges. If we're not careful, one can blur into the next. Employing intention can make you infinitely more effective by adding mental space, energy, and focus to each unique event. Listen up, this is a good one.

The road to happiness can be paved with frustration, uncertainty and impatience. What if there is another way? What if happiness is much closer than you think? In this episode, Laura will lead you down a different path. A more graceful path. Listen to learn how to lead yourself to a whole new way of being. Resources: Shine Your Light, Illuminate Your Love by Laura Dewey Lao Tsu The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron The Power of Your Other Hand by Lucia Capaccione AA The Serenity Prayer

You have SO much to do and never enough time to do it. No matter how hard you try you just can't seem to get on top of it…ever. Overwhelm has officially arrived. This show picks up where Episode 021 left off. There, you got an outer strategy to better cope, now learn a meaningful inner strategy. The kind of strategy that can cut this pattern off at its root, rather than just putting a bandaid on the surface. Learn a whole new way to deal with an old, familiar feeling.

Overwhelm – that feeling of having waaay too much to do and not enough time to do it. That feeling that can leave you totally stressed out, run ragged and convinced you're a failure. That's just the way it is in today's world, right? Not necessarily. Is there another way? Rumor has it, there just might be. Tune in to hear Laura share a simple yet effective strategy to bust through the no-win pattern of overwhelm.

You know what you love to do, you know what you're great at, and you're looking for (or creating) a job doing it. You want to work in your passion full time. There's only one problem: It hasn't happened yet. Do you abandon your dream to pay your bills? Is there another way? Can you live your passion AND survive financially? Find the answers to these questions and more here! Resources:   Ep 030: Thriving Through Emotional Ups and Downs   Rich Litvin: Prosperous Coach Community (and more)

Feeling low? Learn a fun and satisfying way to elevate your emotion and increase your energy. Self-leadership is all about taking dominion over your thoughts, beliefs, emotions, and actions…having the ability to choose what serves you rather than feeling like a victim of circumstance and simply reacting to what life brings you. Today's strategy is yet one more great tool for your self-leadership toolkit!

Face it, it's hard to do hard things. Unless you are one of the few excited by the prospect of doing the hard stuff, knowing you have something difficult ahead can leave you with a sense of dread and awash with procrastination. There's good news - you can learn to lead yourself more effectively through this struggle, perhaps giving up the struggle entirely. Listen to learn three strategies to help you do just that.

If you're prone to worry, you know it can suck the life out of you, leaving you full of stress, anxiety and even insomnia. What's the alternative? Laura shares four strategies to help you escape the insanity of worry to find the peace that is waiting for you within.

What's next for me in my life? A big question, for sure. One we often feel we need to know the answer to now. If we don't, it's not OK. In this episode, Laura leads you through this issue, rife with uncertainty and discomfort, and leads you to a gentle alternative. A different way of looking at this question to leave you feeling more grace and less stress. Join us, will you? Resources: Ep 015: Gaining Power Over Procrastination  The Surrender Experiment by Michael Singer Apply to Coach with Laura Dewey

Are those undone tasks sucking the life out of you? You are not alone. In this episode, learn what causes you to become stuck along with strategies to bust through your procrastination with energy and purpose. Stuck no more!

Your host, Laura Dewey, shares about her progression from first drink to problem drinker, along with the moment that finally propelled her toward her last drink, and ultimately, her long term sobriety. A must listen for anyone who wants an inside look into the insanity of addiction and/or insights into the process of overcoming it. This show is a testament to the power of the human spirit. Part two of a 2-part series. Resources: Ep 013: Alcoholism: Your Questions Answered

Hi, I'm Laura, and I'm an alcoholic. This show brings the subject of addiction into the light from the first person reflections of your host. It also sets out to answer frequently asked questions about alcoholism and addiction, like: How do I know if I have a problem with alcohol? Why can't people just stop? Is addiction a disease? How do I help someone who I think has a problem? And more... Resources: 2017 Stats on Addiction Article: Addiction Defined as Brain Disorder (ASAM) 20 Questions – Am I an Alcoholic? Alcoholic's Anonymous Al-Anon

Laura shares the benefits and pitfalls of developing clear communication along with 4 steps to help you communicate more clearly as the sender, allowing you to be more effective at work and in your personal life. This episode follows the 2-part series on Active Listening (Episodes 10 & 11). It is recommended that you listen to those first, as the content is referenced here. Lead yourself to greater success through honing the skills of clear communication. References: Episode 010: Active Listening Part 1 Episode 011: Active Listening Part 2

Our inner wisdom can be a wellspring of information. But listening to ourselves can be as difficult as listening to another person, if not more so. The same obstacles exist. Learn to discern the differing voices of your head and heart, then use the 5 Advanced Listening Skills shared in the previous two episodes to gain more understanding of what's really happening inside of you. Magic can happen when you tap into that inner wisdom!

Active listening is so difficult because you have to work against your nature to do it. Our default way of being leads us away from listening, rather than towards it. Over two episodes, learn about that plus five specific active listening skills to help you deepen relationships, understanding, intimacy, peace and productivity. What's in it for you to become a skilled listener? Listen and find out. Resources: The Self Leadership LAB Podcast Episode 010 The Self Leadership LAB Podcast Episode 002 About  Stephen Covey The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Active listening is so difficult because you have to work against your nature to do it. Our default way of being leads us away from listening, rather than towards it. Over two episodes, learn about that plus five specific active listening skills to help you overcome your nature to deepen relationships, understanding, intimacy, peace, and productivity. What's in it for you to become a skilled listener? Listen and find out. Resources: The Self Leadership LAB Podcast Episode 2 About  Stephen Covey The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Why wake up one day exhausted, burnt out, and feeling like you've lost yourself when you can do something else? In this episode, Laura shares how you can take a proactive approach to your well being. You'll be led through a 3-step process that will leave you better able to get on track quicker or, better yet, not go off track in the first place.  Get your FREE EPISODE TOOL HERE.  References: Ep 004: 10 Ways to Process Emotions in a Healthy Way

You'll be much more apt to get what you want in a relationship (love, family, business, or community), if you take the time to identify what you're seeking. This episode provides the time, space, and context for you to do just that. In addition, you'll receive a powerful self leadership tool to employ if you're not finding what you seek. Listen to learn those secrets and more!

This episode answers the question, “What is love?”  Laura takes a deep dive into the concept of unconditional love and discusses common misconceptions and barriers associated with love. All to provide context and insights so you can lead yourself more effectively in whatever love relationships you hold dear.   

A fun fable written and read by your host, Laura Dewey, about creating healthy love relationships. Isolated from Ep 6: How to look for love in all the right places. Laura's gift to you. Have fun, download and share it with others who could benefit from its important message.

Learn THE place to find the love you're looking for. Hear how Laura went from eternally single, dysfunctional and unable to be close, to having a healthy, happy, thriving marriage. Looking for love or not, this episode is packed with learning to help you find and maintain healthy, deeply satisfying relationships and love partnerships.  Resources: The Power of Intention by Wayne Dyer Shine Your Light, Illuminate Your Love by Laura Dewey A Tale of Two Buckets: A fable about love. Find it isolated on a bonus episode of this podcast, just after Ep 6

A Valentine's Day ditty to whet your appetite for the next episode. Episode 6 will delve deep into Laura's path to love after a lifetime of the insanity of longing for relationship paired with an inability to really have one. You'll also learn THE place to find the love you're looking for. Looking for love or not, Episode 6 is packed with learning to help you maintain healthy and loving relationships.

Life can be challenging for sure, but does it have to be stressful? Can stress reduction be just a thought away? Could stress, in fact, be optional? Instead of stressed, could you feel in control, confident and clear-thinking? Find out for yourself by experimenting with the 3 simple strategies for stress reduction introduced in this episode. Resources: Download your FREE EPISODE TOOL HERE Byron Katie; The Work: http://thework.com/en The Ladder of Emotions: Self Leadership LAB Episode 3

Without the proper guidance, it's easy to choose destructive strategies to cope with emotions: denying, stuffing, addiction to alcohol, drugs, food, shopping, gambling, drama, even excessive busyness. These strategies often lead to physical issues and even more emotional difficulty – exactly what you're trying to avoid by employing the defective strategy. In this episode, Laura shares 10 strategies to help you process emotions in a healthy way, so feelings can pass through you as they are intended, leaving you clear and equipped to function at your very best. Part 3 in a 3-part series on emotional self mastery. We recommend you listen first to Episodes 2 & 3 for best results. Get your FREE EPISODE TOOL HERE.

Hear actual stories of how four people are using the space to create high energy emotions, and how sliding up the ladder helps them be more effective at work and more peaceful within themselves.

Most of us are raised to think of emotions as either good or bad: If you're happy, that's good. If you're angry, that's bad. But is this thinking accurate? How can I better deal with upsetting emotions? Why do emotions exist, anyway? These questions and more are answered by Laura in this episode. The visual tool she provides has the potential to give you a new level of freedom and control no matter what you're feeling. Part 2 in a 3-part series on emotional self mastery. We recommend you listen first to Episode 2 for best results. Get your EPISODE SUPPORT TOOL HERE

Daily challenges can make you feel like you're on an emotional roller coaster. Instead of being at the mercy of the maniacal, invisible driver, learn to take the wheel, go at your own speed, straighten out the track and feel more in control. Laura teaches the psychology and physiology of emotions, helping you to master your ability to respond rather than react. The side benefit? A significant reduction in stress. What are you waiting for? Part 1 in a 3-part series on emotional self mastery. Get your EPISODE TOOL HERE

If you ever wonder why you SAY you want to do something, know HOW to do it, and yet aren't doing it – self leadership may be the culprit. In this episode, Laura introduces herself and shares about the concept of self leadership, along with its many benefits. Improved productivity, relationships, confidence, job performance, peace of mind, self-worth, and so much more can be found through the magic of self leadership. Tune in and learn what The LAB can do for you.