Fate Resilience

Ever wonder why you are avoiding a problem? or a person? We talk about avoidance and why we do it! We know that it can get in the way, but it also is such a great insight into our feelings about a topic. So rather just settling for "not going there" let's look at the WHY.Episodes are posted weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fate_resilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

Often we'll do things out of fear or because we love other people. But how many times can you think of doing something because you love yourself?Episodes are posted weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fate_resilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

In a fast paced world full of dead lines and an attitude of "I'll sleep when I'm dead," how do we meet our needs? Join us for this week's episode as we continue talking about Self-Compassion!Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fate_resilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

Do care bears and therapy have a lot in common? Well, we are going to fudge it so it does! We talk about how a Caring Force can help us recognize the potential for self-compassion, and in turn compassion for others. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays.Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

This sounds like the topic of a philosophy class- what is Common Humanity? Well, we address this and discuss why it's an important part of the self-compassion process. Without understanding how we all relate we have no way of focusing on our own needs. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays.Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

We have talked a lot about neurofeedback, and let's talk about what it is! We have loved learning more research-based approaches to helping people feel they're doing better. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays.Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

We may seem like we are just saying the same thing with different words, but self-compassion is made of something that sounds similar, self-kindness. How do we learn to be kind to self? Well, we start with the fact that as children we WANT to be kind to ourselves and others, and then everything goes downhill from there.... jk, but really things start changing as we start learning more about our surroundings. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays.Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

In taking apart the things that help us with our Self-Compassion, one thing we need to start with is being aware of the here and now. We need to be aware of if we are assessing our needs appropriately, and our ability to fill those needs. We talk about how this isn't just about doing mindful exercises, but how we can accurately assess.Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

Question: Who doesn't need Self-Compassion? Answer- Trick question, everyone needs self-compassion! We start the discussion of why it is an important topic for everyone and what makes up the basics!Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

What is one of the best ways to find motivation? Follow your values! Whenever we work from a values-based thinking we can have a stronger drive to accomplish our goals.Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays.Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

Did last week's episode feel out of place? Well if you felt that you passed the test! We accidentally switched this and last weeks. So, after you listen to this one, go back and give Ep 87 another listen!Often we are motivated by what we are afraid may happen. So what happens when we do things out of the FEAR of what will happen if I don't do something? Well, we will let you knowEpisodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays.Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

"It is better to run towards something than away". Is that Pintrest quote true with Motivation? We talk about how looking for the benefits of the changes we are trying to enact is helpful. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays.Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

So what happens when we have a problem, but our habits are helping us at times? How do we navigate through sometimes our problems work for us?Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

When we are having process resistance in our motivation to change, we need to learn how to first, validate the process is effective, and second, learn to work with that resistance and continue on our journey. Accomplishing our goals can often come about in ways we weren't anticipating. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

How many times do we encounter moments that we want to go outside of our goals or our plans and we have a really good reason for doing so? Meet Justification! One of the ways we get sidetracked in our motivation is by thinking we can have things both ways. So let's talk about how we get around that and back to a grounded state. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

One of the things we can feel when our motivation isn't going the way we planned, or when it doesn't look like someone else's progress is the feeling of Hopelessness. We discuss ways to identify that in your quest to be true to your motivation and ways to combat it while validating your emotional space. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

When we are trying to be Motivated and feel Fear it can be really uncomfortable to sit with . We want to use that as a reason why we need to just stop. Once we understand fear (and sometimes Anxiety)'s role in motivation we can then work through that resistance. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

When we are Motivated it can feel so exciting to be able to work towards our goals, but when we lose that motivation due to Anger arising it can feel like a huge stumbling block. Join us as we talk about how Anger affects our ability to continue with progress. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

Why can Motivation be so hard to find, and to continue to use to pursue our goals? We talk about what Motivation is, and then in the next few weeks discuss ways we can beat the things that come up to distract us. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

As we prep for a new year, goal setting can be the best and the worst for our mental health. We look at what SMART goals encompass, and how we can find the best way to support the steps we want to be taking. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

We got a question from a listener!What is the difference between a LCSW, LMFT and LCMHC? Oh and let's throw Psychology and Psychiatry in there too! We address all those areas and try to give a good background for all of those areas. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

Maybe we go on a couple of tangents... but we talk about Loneliness and Isolation. What is the issue with them, how to we combat it, and how does it ultimately affect us, and those around us?Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

Not only during the holiday season, but in every season, is the urge to fill our time to the brim. It is great to be productive, but when does it go too far? Listen in as we talk about what it may look like once you cross the path of being an "overscheduler". Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

As the Holiday Season is approaching we wanted to talk about how those stressors impact us, and ways we can help ourselves enjoy whatever we chose to be part of!Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

Join us as we look at what finding peace, mindfulness, and grounding all have in common. We also discuss what zoning out is in relation to that, and how to make the most of your downtime. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

We often learn about the healing power of giving and receiving forgiveness. We talk about all the levels of that, how it truly is helpful, and when forgiveness does not mean letting it go at times. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

This week we look at ways to support our sexual health. We talk about getting education about what Healthy options are out there, and ways we can validate that part of ourselves. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

One of the hardest things is learning that you have a chronic illness, and not knowing how that will affect the different areas of life. We talk about the gambit of illnesses, and what we have noticed in their correlation with mental health. Join us as we validate, and try to offer support for issues we know don't have an "easy cure". Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

Remember when it was SO much easier making friends with the kids at school, or on the soccer team, or the art club? We talk about how these friendships change as we get older, and how our needs help us dictate the kinds of people we keep in our lives.Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

Does Religion have a place in therapy. We talk about how we see people bring up the topic of Spirituality and Religion, the similarities and the differences. We talk about how we are able to respect the faith and beliefs of those who come into the office, and how to advocate for yourself when you need it. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

As we wrap up reviewing Stages of Change we finish with Maintenance and Relapse. We talk about how Relapse is less of a scary scenario and more of an opportunity to learn as we work to Maintain the progress we have built. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

What can be one of the LONGEST Stages of Change, turns out to the one of the shortest episodes! We talk about what it looks like to be Acting on the things we would like to improve upon, and how long that usually takes to "take". Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

The shortage stage in change is Preparation. What does that look like? We talk about how it can look in a few ways, and we LOVE the way James Clear outlines it in Atomic Habits. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

Often one of the hardest places to be in the "change" process is at the beginning. We try to break down why it is such an important place, and why you don't need to "just do it". Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

In our last multipart series for a bit we are covering Stages of Change!We cover things like power struggles, what it means to start out on a path to change, and what to do when a toddler won't stay buckled up in a car. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

Hailey's favorite episode was when we talked about going from a Victim mindset to a Creator role. With this change, we open up our options and become more empowered. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

Jan's favorite episode was when we were discussing the PACE acronym and worked through what Curiosity means! Being curious helps us grow and helps us be able to evolve in ways we hadn't thought were possible. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

Taylor's pick for his favorite episode is Meeting the Emotions: Anger. In this episode, we see what Anger means to us, what it's trying to tell us, and what its purpose is!Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

We are revisiting some of our favorite episodes over the next few weeks. This week we are re-listening to our top all-time episode about Self-Care. Why do we need it? Listen in as we explore why taking care of yourself is one of the most valuable things you can do to help regulate stressors and maintain balance. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

In the conclusion of our Boundaries Series, we talk about how we are able to decide how "deep" we want our boundaries to go! Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

So what makes up trust? (Credibility + Reliability + Intimacy)/Self Interest = TRUSTWe break down the Trust equation in today's episode and talk about how important it is in creating a healthy boundary. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

Often when we talk about Boundaries we wonder how we make up this Trust we can have for ourselves and others. Freedom and Responsibility are key parts of that Trust that allows us to create healthy relationships with others, and ourselves. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

Boundaries have a funny way of making things more complicated at times, but once you understand why we bring things up into parts it actually makes it easier to decide what you NEED from the boundary. In this episode, we break down the different groupings of boundaries into another way, subsystems. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

In today's episode, we talk about how we find hierarchy in boundaries. Often we think that means one partner is "better" than the other, but we look at what that means when talking to others around you. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

We have more triangles! We probably should have gone into geometry..... we are going over how triangulation happens in relationships and how those often are connected to power struggles. Those are all things that the lovely BOUNDARIES concept can help with!Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

When we think about boundaries, we often feel overwhelmed by everything we need to protect. We need to start with priorities of what we work on first. In this episode, we talk about what priorities we can pay attention to, and the process that takes. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

When discussing Boundaries the not as known companion it has is Values! How do we find those values? What do we use them for when finding boundaries? We begin that discussion and would love to include you!Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

Boundaries are a MUCH needed topic when we think of our relationships with others and how to be balanced and healthy. In this episode, we talk about just the basics as we prep for a deep dive into what Boundaries are, How we make them, and all other things Boundaries related. Check back weekly for our multiple-part series on the topic!Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

So we have worked through past traumas and are trying to see how we can continue to grow, this is when we reach a point of Self-Actualization! Learn more with us about how we continue the process of healing and how it can lead us to ultimately a better place in our journey. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

While we are healing from our past traumas we go through an Awakening process, what meaning did I find, how does this impact who I am, what do I want to take from this? Join us as we discuss more of this part of the Growth process. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com

What does Transformation look like after trauma? We go over Riding waves and what the difference between Self Sabotage vrs. Self Love is. Episodes will be posted Weekly on Tuesdays. Find us on Instagram and Facebook @fateresilience! Message us your questions and we would love to feature those in future episodes; fateresilience@gmail.com