Podcasts about avoidant attachment

In this episode, I'm joined by attachment coaches Marta and Duncan for an open conversation about breakups, attachment, and why knowing you should move on doesn't necessarily make it easier to do.We talk about what keeps us emotionally attached, why some breakups are harder to recover from than others, and what may actually be happening underneath the urge to hold on, reach out, or hope they'll come back.This isn't an interview. It's three attachment coaches having an honest conversation about the psychology of letting go and what it takes to finally begin moving forward.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

We spend a lot of time asking why our partners behave the way they do.But how often do we ask ourselves what our own childhood taught us about being an adult?In this episode, we explore how the lessons we learned growing up shape our relationships today - from anxious and avoidant patterns to what secure attachment actually looks like in everyday life.We'll talk about responsibility, boundaries, compassion, and why understanding someone's past doesn't mean you have to build your future around it.If you've ever wondered why the same relationship patterns keep showing up, this conversation is for you.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

New series, new co-host. Cassie (https://x.com/FutureDrSassy) is an occupational therapist, a researcher, and a certified pelvic floor therapist — and starting now, she and I are going to have the conversations about sex and intimacy that nobody had with any of us growing up.This first one starts where all of it starts: childhood. What you watched your parents do — the hand-holding, the date nights, the kisses in the kitchen, or the total absence of all of it — became your blueprint. So when Mr. Anxious does his research and figures out his wife is avoidant, my first question is always the same: what were her mom and dad like? And the answer is always the same, too.So I asked Cassie the question every guy in that spot is really asking: my wife is cold, her whole family is cold, she's agreed to work on it — is it realistic to think she ever becomes my sexy wife? Or am I asking for a personality transplant?Her answer is more hopeful than you'd expect and slower than you'd like. We get into why side-by-side beats eye-to-eye with an avoidant partner, why shared activities work when date nights don't, the bell curve of how long repair actually takes (hint: about as long as the damage took), and the question you have to answer honestly before you start: what does progress actually look like to you — and are you willing to wait for it?Then it gets heavier. What happens when therapy uncovers sexual abuse in her past — and why it shows up as everything from pain with intimacy to the opposite extreme. What stress does to the pelvic floor. Why oxytocin matters more, not less, as her hormones change. Why nurses statistically have more orgasms (really — it's a knowledge thing, and it proves the point of this whole series). And the part you guys won't love: how YOUR insecurity — about toys, about her curiosities, about "am I not enough?" — is half the wall.We're calling this project the Intimacy Lab. There's a free private group to go with it — link below. Strict rules on entry, because we're going to talk about sensitive stuff and it needs to stay a safe place for men AND women. The future episodes get saucier than this one. Fair warning.

It is frustrating when a partner can't give you what you need especially after they promised or implied they could. We try to change them - or their mind. We hope they can change and become the person we thought they were when we first met. We struggle with the fear of the relationship ending, lashing out with hurtful words, doing things that causes more damage - and then regretting them all when we are calm. This episodes walks you through what you can do before the damage is done. Breathing tips as promised in this episode -Practice 5 minutes a day and build from thereFocus on your breathing and learn its natural rhythm before you do anything. Intentionally breathe deeply - in and out. Ask your doctor about box breathing exercises and if it's right for you. This is great for calming the nervous system and helping us respond with clear intentions instead of reacting.Please leave a review...I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

► Build secure relationships without losing yourself: https://understandable.net (ad)Welcome to today's episode! In this video I get vulnerable and share with you how avoidant attachment shows up in the bedroom.► Links and Resources:Avoidant Attachment Darkest Coping Mechanism Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zLyK-Yi1QpE► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Introduction02:38 Childhood Origins06:08 The Dating Phase07:14 The Rollercoaster Phase09:44 The Mechanical Phase13:03 The Drought Period16:02 Solutions and Healing20:03 Setting Boundaries► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

What if she already loves you as much as she is capable of loving anybody? And it's still not enough for you.Not because she's cruel. Not because she's punishing you. Not because there's a switch you haven't found yet. The tank just isn't that big.I had an attachment expert named Cassie on my live stream, and she told me a story I haven't been able to shake. She'd been with an avoidant man who discarded her with no real explanation. Nine months later they ran into each other and he lit up like he hadn't seen her in twenty years. Then he told her he loved her for the first time. "I love you more than anybody or anything I've ever loved. But I can't be what you need."She believed him. Both halves of it. His love was real, and it was still smaller than what she needed.I sat there listening and thought, half the men watching my channel are living that exact story with the roles flipped.Because you've heard your own version of that sentence. "I love you, I'm just not a very sexual person." "It's not you, it's me." "I don't know why I'm like this."And you didn't believe her. You treated it like a puzzle. You lost the weight, you did the chores, you stopped complaining, you did the counseling, you handed her the books. You escalated to every department in the building looking for a different answer.In this video I'm talking about capacity. What it is, why it's not the same thing as willingness, and why you cannot beg, argue, therapize, or hand a thousand books into somebody's capacity getting bigger. People build that alone, if they ever build it at all.Cassie put it a way I liked. It's like a feral cat. All the chasing in the world does nothing. All you can do is stop.And I'll be straight with you about the part most guys get wrong. "Stop chasing" is not a strategy to get her back. If you're doing it to get her back, you're still chasing. You've just gotten quieter about it.

Are the manipulating you by telling you what you want to hear? It's a lot deeper than this and this episode breaks it down. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

A full hour LIVE with therapist and author Laura How — one of the very few women publicly saying what she says about sexless marriages. So few, in fact, that the wives in her own village have stopped saying hello.We covered a lot of ground: whether you should stay when the in-love feelings fade, why "I fell out of love" is usually an ego defense, what attachment dysfunction actually is (hint: it's arrested development, and it's everywhere), the rise of "the ick," why your algorithm has convinced you all women are avoidant, and the myth that a wife who isn't intimate with you must be getting it somewhere else.Then I saved the hot-button for last. I told Laura about the men who feel forgotten after kids arrive — husbands demoted to co-parent and roommate for 18 years — and about the reaction that message always gets online: "You big baby. Change more diapers, then maybe I'll have energy for you." I asked for her honest take.Her answer: "I reject it entirely. I call BS." What follows — on staying lovers after kids, the "devouring mother," what your children actually feel when mom and dad are okay, and why a woman keeping her sexuality alive is something she does for HERSELF — is the strongest ten minutes on this topic I've had on this channel. 

Register for the Secure Self Challenge hereIn today's episode, we're talking once again about how attachment patterns shape our experience of conflict in relationships, with a particular focus on avoidant attachment. We talk about why avoidant folks instinctively pull back from conflict, as well as often-used conflict strategies including appeasement, defensiveness, dismissal, and disengagement.

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Access the replay for the Anxious Attachment Protest Behaviour workshopIn today's Ask Steph episode, I'm answering the question of: "How do I talk to my partner about their avoidant attachment without them feeling labelled?" I share some thoughts on how best to approach this, and what isn't likely to land well.

Last chance to register for the free Anxious Attachment Protest Behaviour workshopToday's episode is the fourth and final instalment of my deep dive series into fearful avoidant attachment, and this episode is one for the partners (with a focus on anxiously attached partners). I share guidance around how to be mindful of your own tendency to overfunction, and how this can lead you into codependent dynamics. I also offer some thoughts on how best to lovingly support your fearful avoidant partner, while also honouring yourself and ensuring there is accountability around any difficult behaviours in the relationship. LinksVisit my website: stephanierigg.com Free resources for anxious attachment: stephanierigg.com/free-resources

How do we choose love over fear when relationships get hard? Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from an episode that you might have missed.  This advice from Trevor Hanson will guide you through common communication landmines, why fear is the #1 killer of relationships, and how to move through fear by accessing our primary emotions and communicating without self-protection. I'm joined by Trevor Hanson, a marriage and family therapist who has helped thousands of individuals and couples heal attachment wounds and build secure, connected, confident relationships. His work has been featured by the Gottman Institute, and he's the founder of The Art of Healing, where he teaches frameworks for transforming insecurity into emotional safety. Listen to our full episode with Trevor here. Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. Follow Trevor on Instagram Trevor's website: https://theartofhealingbytrevor.com For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Avoidant attachment is not coldness, and it is not emotional unavailability, it is emotional unprotection. If you keep pushing away the people you most want to keep, this video shows you why it happens and the concrete steps to start healing it.Relationship and childhood trauma recovery specialist Kenny Weiss breaks down avoidant attachment as a survival pattern built in childhood, not a personality flaw. You will learn why you go cold when closeness gets real, why you can feel emotionally unavailable to the one person who matters most, and what a love avoidant, codependent person actually needs to do to heal. It speaks to the shutdown or avoidant partner, and to the over giver exhausted from loving one.Kenny teaches that the love avoidant is the falsely empowered end of the codependence spectrum, so the way out is not more independence but interdependence. He walks through the five core symptoms of codependence first named by Pia Mellody and gives one concrete healing step for each. He ties the pattern to the Worst Day Cycle™, the unconscious loop of trauma, fear, shame, and denial that keeps the avoidant stuck.Avoidant attachment is not emotional unavailability, it is emotional unprotection, a survival persona built when childhood closeness meant engulfment. The love avoidant learned that being close meant being consumed, so the adult nervous system reads intimacy as danger and withdraws to survive.Healing avoidant attachment is not about becoming more independent, because independence is the avoidant's defense. It is about building interdependence, two whole people who choose to share a life by mutual agreement.Kenny Weiss is a relationship, communication, and childhood trauma recovery specialist and the creator of the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™. He is the author of Your Journey to Success and Your Journey to Being Yourself.More from Kenny: The Two Codependent Personality Types, and Codependent vs Narcissist, 3 Critical Differences.TOPICS COVERED: avoidant attachment, emotionally unavailable, emotional detachment, why do I push people away, love avoidant, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, how to heal avoidant attachment, codependency recovery, five core symptoms of codependence, falsely empowered codependent, enmeshment, interdependence, boundaries vs walls, attachment styles, Kenny Weiss, Worst Day Cycle0:00 — Avoidant Attachment Is Emotional Unprotection1:10 — Why You Pull Away From the People You Want2:30 — How Smothering Parents Create a Love Avoidant4:15 — Your Independence Is Codependence in Disguise5:30 — Step One, Rebuild Worth From the Inside7:00 — Step Two, Build a Gate, Not a Wall8:30 — Step Three, Say the One True Thing10:00 — Step Four, Let Someone Meet a Need11:30 — Step Five, Practice Being, Not Doing13:00 — If You Love an Avoidant, Where to Start

Resources5-Step Boundary Setting Process (google doc)ArticlesWhat is Enmeshment, and How Do You Set Boundaries?Enmeshment vs. Codependency: 7 DifferencesWhat is Enmeshment? 12 Signs To Spot It + How to HealUnderstanding the Fawn Response: Coping Mechanism in Trauma Recovery by Mona Kirstein, PhDIs it Codependency or Trauma Bonding? How to Tell the DifferenceBooksSet Boundaries, Find Peace* by Nedra Glover TawwabHow to Do the Work* by Dr. Nicole LePera  Become a member of The Soul Horizon community (or give a one-time donation) to support the podcast. Thank you for your generous support—it breathes life into The Soul Horizon.

In this episode of the Optimal Body Podcast, Doc Jen and Doctor Dom, both doctors of physical therapy, welcome back Shannon Algeo, psychotherapist and author of The Power in Your Hands. Shannon explores how smartphone and social media use mirrors insecure attachment patterns, introducing the concept of technology attachment to explain how people unconsciously turn to technology to manage anxiety, avoid emotions, and seek connection. The conversation covers how virtual interactions lack the embodied cues essential for genuine human bonding, the dangers of solitude deprivation, and the societal nature of technology attachment and the pain of digital addiction. Shannon encourages listeners to exercise compassion, small behavioral experiments, and collective action to help reclaim presence, creativity, and authentic human connection. Shannon's Resources: The Power in Your Hands Shannon on IG Shannon on YT Shannon's Website We Think You'll Love: Free Week of Jen Health Jen's Instagram Dom's Instagram YouTube Channel What You'll Learn from Shannon: 2:31 The Genesis of the Book 4:19 Attachment Theory and Technology Attachment 8:21 Virtual vs. Real World 10:51 Attachment Styles and Social Media 15:44 Negativity Bias Online 19:17 The Dangers of Instant Answers 22:10 The Importance of Solitude 30:08 Parenting in the Digital Age 36:25 The Grief of the Unlived Life 42:08 The Influencer's Dilemma 46:48 Is "Doomscrolling" Actually Relaxing? 52:15 Hope for the Future 58:07 How to Start Disconnecting For full show notes and resources visit https://jen.health/podcast/467 Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Today I'm answering three questions I get asked constantly. And I picked these three on purpose, because they build on each other. The first one is the controversial one: can a fearful-avoidant actually have a successful relationship WITHOUT going to therapy? People want me to say no. I'm not going to say no. But I'm also not going to give you the comfortable answer.The second question is one almost everyone struggles with: how do I know if what I'm feeling is anxiety, or if it's a real need I should actually honor? Because those two things feel identical in your body, and most of the internet can't tell you the difference.And the third one is personal, and a lot of you have felt it: "I feel abandoned every single time my partner goes off to a team dinner or out with friends. How do I get over this?" We're going to take that one apart together, because the real answer isn't what you think it is.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

If you ever thought healing your attachment was impossible - here are two other people who were able to do it. Today I did something I never did before - I had a discussion with who I have witnessed working on healing their attachment styles. This episode gives you three certified coaches walking you through what healing looks like, our experiences in our past and current relationships, how attachment styles shows up and how we all react differently to triggers from a secure space. We are excited to teach you everything we know. Leave a review and let us know what you think. Share this with your friends and don't forget to subscribe. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Work with me for free: https://www.skool.com/inspired-life-method-9441/Most people trying to heal anxious or avoidant attachment are focused on the wrong thing. You can read every book on attachment theory, understand your patterns completely, and still repeat the same cycles in every relationship. That is because your attachment style is not the root cause. It is a symptom of something deeper — and until you address that, the patterns stay.In this video, Lewis breaks down the exact four-step framework he uses with paying clients to heal at the root and build the secure, loving relationships you know you are capable of.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS VIDEO:Why labeling yourself as "anxiously attached" or "avoidantly attached" actually reinforces the pattern neurologicallyThe three-part framework behind every attachment pattern: identity, behaviors, and triggersWhy nothing outside of you triggers you — it reveals the unhealed hurt that is already inside youThe difference between a nervous system survival response and an identity threat (and why this changes everything)The four-step ARII process — Awareness, Regulation, Reflection, and Integration — and how to apply each step the next time you get activatedSecure attachment is not a personality type you were born with or without. It is the result of healing your identity at the root. When the wounds underneath your patterns are addressed, the patterns stop running you. You are not broken. You are patterned. And patterns can change.Drop your biggest takeaway in the comments below.Subscribe for weekly content on healing, identity, and creating a life you actually love.

This week's episode is the much-requested Part 3 of my deep dive on fearful avoidant attachment — and today, we're talking about what it takes to heal. We cover shame, self-compassion, accountability, self-sabotage, nervous system regulation, and more.And while far from being exhaustive, my hope is that today's episode will offer a roadmap to support you on your path to healing if you struggle with fearful avoidant patterns. Subscribe to my Substack⁠Register for my free workshop on Understanding Anxious Attachment Protest Behaviours: http://stephanierigg.com/protest-workshop-opt-in

It's crushing when your avoidant partner disappears. But why are they doing it...and what can you do. On of the most disruptive things happening in avoidant- anxious relationships is when the avoidant partner suddenly disappears without an explanation. We want to understand their motives, explain how this hurts us, try harder but perhaps if we understand why they tend to do this we can rest at ease - or make some hard decisions that will benefit us. This podcast is meant to guide you if you're going through this or if you've gone through this. For my book - From Anxious to Secure - https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/from-anxious-to-secureFor my mini online program - Boundary Bootcamp - https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/boundary-bootcampTo book a session with me - https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/book-a-session-with-me-ui52g6pvTo Subscribe to School of Attachment - https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/weekly-coaching-tools--strategiesDisclaimer: I am a certified coach with a psychology background, not a licensed therapist. The content I share is for educational and informational purposes and is based on Attachment Theory principles. I am currently funding and researching a personal project on attachment behaviors and feelings with 175 individuals. This page is not a substitute for professional therapy, diagnosis, or treatment. Please use discernment and consult a qualified mental health professional for personal advice.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Short personal update as well as a conversation around the collective struggle we face in romance. We think we are alone, but we are not. Tune in to learn more.Visit my website here.

Explore the confusing world of disorganized attachment - where wanting closeness collides with fearing it. Discover what causes this push-pull pattern, how it shows up in relationships, and the surprising ways dissociation plays a role. Plus, practical healing strategies you can try today. Visit https://missionconnectionhealthcare.com/mental-health/attachment-disorder/disorganized-attachment-style/ Mission Connection City: San Juan Capistrano Address: 30310 Rancho Viejo Rd. Website: https://missionconnectionhealthcare.com/

Subscribe to my YouTube ChannelToday's episode is a follow-up from last week's deep dive into fearful avoidant attachment. This week, we're looking at the fearful avoidant in relationships — how these patterns play out, how that changes over the lifecycle of a relationship, and how it can differ based on the other person's attachment style. LinksUnderstanding Your Avoidant Partner CourseFree resources for attachment healingTake my attachment style quiz

What if the patterns in your relationships are not just about communication, compatibility, or choosing the wrong person, but subconscious wounds your nervous system learned years ago? In this episode, Dr. Taz sits down with Thais Gibson, PhD, bestselling author, counselor, speaker, attachment theory expert, and founder of The Personal Development School, to explore how attachment styles, childhood conditioning, core wounds, subconscious programming, and nervous system regulation shape the way we love, fight, connect, and pull away.In this episode, Thais explains why the conscious mind often cannot overpower the subconscious mind, and why so many people keep repeating the same relationship patterns even when they know better. She breaks down the four attachment styles: secure, anxious, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant, and explains how each style can show up in adult relationships, dating, marriage, family dynamics, conflict, ghosting, love bombing, emotional shutdown, clinginess, and the painful push-pull cycle.Dr. Taz and Thais discuss why affirmations may not be enough to heal deep core wounds, why the subconscious mind responds more to emotion and imagery than language, and how childhood experiences can become the lens through which we interpret adult relationships. Thais also shares a practical 21-day rewiring exercise using memory, emotion, visualization, and repetition to help shift core wounds like abandonment, betrayal, shame, unworthiness, and fear of being trapped.If you're listening to this and thinking, “I know something is off in my body, but I don't know where to start,” join the Circle here:

Avoidant attachment is not coldness, it is a six-part survival system the avoidant built before they could read, and until you can name all six parts, no relationship advice will reach them.If you are the partner who keeps reaching, or the partner who keeps disappearing, this video maps the exact internal architecture of the avoidant: the six sub-personalities that take turns at the wheel, the three core fears underneath, and the pathway out that attachment-style content cannot offer.Kenny Weiss is a relationship, communication, and childhood trauma recovery specialist. He teaches the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™. He names what most attachment content misses: avoidants don't avoid people, they avoid the shame they believe connection will expose. Avoidance is not one shutdown, it is six survival selves working together.The six sub-personalities Kenny maps inside every love avoidant are the Protector who runs the perimeter, the Rationalist who neutralizes emotion with logic, the Lone Wolf who built an identity around needing no one, the Wall-Builder who constructs a fortress disguised as a lifestyle, the Performer who looks confident to conceal shame, and the Ghost who disappears during conflict. Each part was a brilliant childhood adaptation. In adult intimacy, each sabotages the connection both partners actually want.Underneath those six selves sit three core fears: the fear of being consumed because a parent once swallowed you emotionally, the fear of being seen because you believe what is underneath is not enough, and the fear of being responsible because closeness once meant emotional labor you did not consent to. The Emotional Authenticity Method™ is the six-step process that rewires the blueprint, ending with Feelization, where a new emotional addiction to safe closeness replaces the old wiring.Kenny Weiss has helped thousands of adults stop the pursue-withdraw dance, end emotional shutdown, and rebuild intimacy from the Authentic Self instead of the survival persona. His work is a blueprint rewrite, not symptom management.TOPICS COVEREDavoidant attachment, love avoidant, why do I push people away, emotional shutdown, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, six sub-personalities, three core fears, shutdown avoidant partner, pursue withdraw cycle, avoidant in conflict, intimacy avoidance, falsely empowered codependent, Worst Day Cycle, Authentic Self Cycle, Emotional Authenticity Method, Kenny WeissTIMESTAMPS0:00 — The Suitcase You Are Not Allowed To See1:30 — Why The Cold Story About Avoidants Is Wrong3:00 — Meet The Protector5:00 — Meet The Rationalist6:30 — Meet The Lone Wolf8:00 — Meet The Wall-Builder9:30 — Meet The Performer11:00 — Meet The Ghost12:30 — The Three Core Fears15:00 — The Worst Day Cycle Of Avoidance17:00 — The Authentic Self Cycle Rewrite19:00 — The Emotional Authenticity Method For Avoidants22:00 — The Sixty-Second Experiment That Starts Staying

Subscribe to my YouTube ChannelIn today's episode, we're diving deep into the fearful avoidant (or disorganised) attachment style. We're talking about where it originates, and what some of the core belief systems are that drive fearful avoidant patterns. Make sure you're following or subscribed to the show to catch Part 2 next week, where we explore how the fearful avoidant attachment style shows up in relationships.LinksCheck out my free attachment healing resourcesTake my attachment quiz

You may have been dating and anxious attached and they seem put together. They are not the needy and clingy ones you heard about. They don't remind you of your ex who was needy and clingy. You might even think you're being tricked. Are they manipulating you? Chances are you have bummed into a not so rare gem. There are emotionally mature anxious attached gems that can behave in very secure ways and that is healthy for a long- term relationship. However, you don't want to sabotage these relationships by testing them too much because these are the ones that won't stick around and beg like your emotionally immature ex probably did - and you don't want to risk that. If you're anxiously attached, this may trigger you or help you to grow if you're ready for that. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

⏱ TIMESTAMPS  00:00 Being called to expand  04:33 Inner world  09:07 External patterns  13:10 Create internal safety  15:29 Aligned relationships  20:16 Emotional mastery  22:42 Observe behaviours  25:47 Who am I?  27:17 Expanders  So many people right now can feel their soul calling them toward:  ✨ deeper relationships  ✨ authentic visibility  ✨ purpose  ✨ aligned success  ✨ community  ✨ expansion  …but every time they move toward it, something in them freezes, hides, people pleases, chases, or self-sabotages.  This isn't just mindset. This is attachment. This is relational trauma. This is nervous system wiring.  I share my own journey healing complex trauma, disorganised attachment, visibility fears, entrepreneurship, and what it actually takes to stop shrinking and start becoming who you truly are. If you've been healing for years but still feel stuck between your old life and your next evolution… this podcast is for you ❤️  £11 to join Expansion Code here Live or replay after june  here  Join community here Join Year Programme here Free resources & work with me hereJoin my community IT ENDS WITH ME hereJoin my year programme for entrepreneurs and light works for business and money expansion aligned to overflow here Follow me on socials: Instagram: Tik tok: You tube:Substack: Details on how to work with me here

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How To Repair Relationships & Create Lasting Emotional Connection https://offer.personaldevelopmentschool.com/relationship-repair?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=relationship-repair&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-04-17-26&el=podcast Sometimes it can be incredibly confusing to figure out whether someone is a Dismissive Avoidant who needs time to open up or whether they're simply not that interested in the relationship. Both situations can look similar on the surface, lukewarm communication, mixed signals, or slow progress. But there are very clear differences between someone who is Avoidant but invested and someone who is breadcrumbing. Understanding the difference between Avoidant Attachment and a lack of interest can save you a lot of confusion and emotional energy in dating. Episode Summary In this episode, Thais Gibson explains how Dismissive Avoidant behave when they are genuinely interested in someone and shares the key signs that someone may actually be breadcrumbing you instead. In this video, you'll learn: •  How Dismissive Avoidant behave when they're genuinely interested in a relationship •  The key difference between slow emotional warming and breadcrumbing behavior •  Four major signs that someone may be breadcrumbing you •  Why consistency and effort matter more than labels or Attachment Styles •  What to do if someone's actions aren't meeting your relationship standards Key Takeaways ✔️ Dismissive Avoidant may be slower to warm up but still show consistent effort ✔️ Someone who is interested will initiate contact and make plans regularly ✔️ Breadcrumbing often shows up as chronic inconsistency in time, attention, and plans ✔️ Last-minute responses and lack of acknowledgment for missed communication can be red flags ✔️ Clear personal standards help you decide whether a relationship is meeting your needs ✔️ Understanding your own boundaries can prevent you from staying in unhealthy dynamics Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

If you've ever wondered whether your attachment style is fixed, good news: it's not. In this conversation with therapist and author Jessica Baum, LMHC (Anxiously Attached; SAFE), we unpack practical, step-by-step ways to heal attachment wounds, shift anxious attachment and avoidant patterns, and build secure attachment—in real relationships, not just in your head. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

If you've ever watched a good relationship fall apart and couldn't explain why, or you've been on the receiving end of someone who kept one foot out the door, this episode is going to give you so many aha moments. We're in Part 2 of our four-part series on attachment styles and relationship development, and today we're diving deep into avoidant attachment. I'm breaking down what's actually happening in the nervous system, the brain, and the body at every single stage of relationship development, from early dating all the way through long-term partnership, and why avoidantly attached people keep sabotaging love even when they genuinely want it.Inside the Episode:The core wound behind avoidant attachmentHow avoidant attachment derails connection at every stageThe anxious-avoidant trap and why the chemistry is so electricReady to stop the cycle and build something that actually feels safe? I have a limited number of Private 1:1 Coaching spots open. If you're done running the same patterns and you're ready to do the real work, apply here: www.drmorgancoaching.co/esl-breakthrough

Welcome back to Restoring the Soul with Michael John Cusick. In this episode, Michael John Cusick and AJ Denson continue their exploration of the “four S's” of attachment—seen, soothed, safe, and secure—focusing today on the final S: secure. Together, they dive into the meaning of secure attachment, both psychologically and spiritually, and how it's reflected in our relationships with God and others.Drawing on personal experiences, biblical narratives, and insights from attachment theory, Michael explains how secure attachment is foundational to human flourishing and to our sense of inner peace—even in life's most challenging moments. They discuss the difference between secure and insecure attachment, the impact of technology on connection, and what it means to be loved by God in both our strength and vulnerability.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

Many men think their dating struggles come down to "not finding the right woman." But what if the real issue isn't who you're choosing—but a pattern you keep repeating? You meet someone, feel excited, and everything starts off strong. But as things deepen, something shifts. Doubt creeps in. You find reasons to pull away. And before you know it, you've created distance-again. In this episode, David dives into the hidden pattern behind this cycle and reveals why it has nothing to do with her-and everything to do with what's happening to you. He unpacks the concept of avoidant attachment and explains how past experiences, emotional conditioning, and unconscious protection mechanisms shape your behavior in relationships—often without you even realizing it. Rather than chasing someone new or blaming external factors, David introduces a powerful shift: learning to stay, communicate, and lean into emotional intensity instead of running from it.

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Send us Fan MailWhy do some relationships feel safe… while others feel chaotic?In this powerful episode of Joey Pinz Conversations, Joey Pinz sits down with relationship and attachment trauma expert Bev Mitelman to unpack the psychology behind attachment styles, emotional regulation, and the path to inner peace.Bev shares her journey from a chaotic childhood to becoming a certified attachment trauma practitioner, helping people break toxic relationship cycles and rebuild self-worth. Together, they explore anxious vs avoidant behaviors, emotional maturity, nervous system regulation, radical honesty, and whether suffering is optional.This conversation blends science, philosophy, and lived experience — and ends with a profound truth: peace may be the precursor to happiness.If you've ever struggled with communication, people-pleasing, emotional distance, or repeating unhealthy relationship patterns — this episode is for you. 

My client decided to share what it's like for her to be a fearful avoidant attached person. We often think that only men are avoidant attached but what happens when it's a woman. Client S shares how she thinks and feels when she gets overwhelmed and what it looks like to heal. She talks about what she is going through as she manages her emotions during a breakup and what she would do differently if/when she gets back with her partner. Join us for this one plus hour chat . I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Ending Codependency Course — Free Forever! Start Creating Relationships That Last. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-codependency-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-codependency-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-03-25-26&el=podcast If you grew up in a divorced home, you may still be carrying subconscious relationship patterns that affect how you love, connect, and feel safe today.  Divorce is common but that doesn't mean it isn't traumatic. When a family unit breaks apart, children often form subconscious beliefs like “love doesn't last,” “people leave when things get hard,” or “my needs don't matter.” These beliefs don't disappear with age they quietly shape how you show up in relationships until they're consciously healed. In this episode, Thais Gibson walks you through five powerful healing shifts to help you stop replaying those patterns and begin rewiring your attachment wounds at the root. You'll learn how trauma creates subconscious relationship “stories,” how those stories drive behavior without conscious awareness, and why many adult children of divorce struggle with vulnerability, emotional expression, and unmet needs. Thais also walks you through practical mindset and behavior shifts you can begin using immediately to stop replaying these patterns and start creating secure, healthy connections. This video is especially powerful if you identify with Anxious Attachment, Avoidant Attachment, people-pleasing, emotional shutdown, or fear of commitment.  Key Takeaways • Trauma always leaves a story and that story shapes behavior • Subconscious beliefs drive up to 95% of relationship patterns • Exposure work and intentional behavior shifts help recondition the nervous system • Healthy relationships require needs, communication, and positive framing • Vulnerability is a skill that can be safely relearned over time Timestamps 00:00 – If You Were a Child of a Divorced Home 00:47 – 1. Trauma Leaves a Story 02:30 – Write Your Top Relationship Beliefs and Note Where They Came From 03:58 – 2. Notice How You Behave When You Believe That Story 06:32 – 3. Ask Yourself, “How Do I Want to Behave Instead?” 08:25 – 4. You Learned That Your Needs Are Not Okay or That Others Won't Meet Your Needs 10:10 – Positive Framing 11:22 – Somatic Course Promo 11:43 – 5. Re-learn How to Be Vulnerable 13:54 – Subscribe For Daily Content Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Secure attached people don't beg or chase when an avoidant wants to breakup. They also know when to call it quits...and in this episode - that is what we are discussing. We will discuss...- a secure attached timeline to a deciding a breakup, - how they communicate breaking up- what they heal during breakup- how they respond when avoidant circles back 

Let us know what you think about the podcast!Episode 208: When “Good Behavior” Comes at a Cost: How Behavior-Focused Parenting Disconnects FamiliesAre you wondering why your adult child won't talk to you—even though they always seemed like the “easy one” growing up?In this episode, we explore how parenting that focuses only on behavior—obedience, manners, doing the “right” thing—can lead to emotional distance between parents and their adult children. This kind of behavior-focused parenting often results in adult children who perform in their relationships rather than show up authentically. They become experts at people-pleasing, suppressing their true feelings, and maintaining the image of being the “good” child… all to preserve attachment.If you've been feeling rejected by your adult child, or like you're walking on eggshells around them, this episode will help you understand the root causes of that disconnect.You'll learn:Why focusing only on behavior creates emotional disconnectionHow attachment needs drive children to “perform” instead of express themselvesThe long-term effects of emotional suppression: defensiveness, stonewalling, performative gesturesWhy many adult children feel lost in their relationships—even when they're “doing everything right”How to shift from behavior control to emotional connectionWhat “differentiation of self” looks like in parent-adult child dynamicsHow to begin rebuilding trust and repairing relationships without needing to control the outcomeThis is especially for you if you've searched for:“how to reconnect with an estranged adult child”“parenting adult children relationships”“why does my child hate me”“emotional healing for moms”“healing after estrangement”or “how to fix a broken relationship with adult child”You're not alone. Many parents find themselves here—and there is a way forward.Ready to take the next step? Visit tinagosney.com to learn how you can work with me as your family relationship coach. I help moms like you move from fear and confusion to clarity and connection in your relationship with your adult children. Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

Welcome back to the Restoring the Soul podcast with Michael John Cusick. In this episode, Michael and AJ Denson dive deeper into the transformative concepts from Michael's book, Sacred Attachment: Escaping Spiritual Exhaustion and Trusting Divine Love. Picking up where they left off, the conversation centers on the “Four S's” of attachment—Seen, Soothed, Safe, and Secure—and explores how these elements shape our spiritual and relational lives.Together, they reflect on the nuances of secure and insecure attachment, the power of rupture and repair in relationships, and how even well-intentioned parents and caregivers can struggle to meet these needs. Michael brings personal stories and practical insights, offering hope for healing attachment wounds, whether through new relational patterns or divine love.The episode also tackles the complex reality that attachment styles are not fixed but evolve with our circumstances and emotional states. Through compassionate storytelling and relatable examples, the hosts unravel what it means to be “soothed”—the crucial experience of knowing someone has “got you” in moments of distress, vulnerability, and everyday life.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

Welcome back to another episode of Restoring the Soul with Michael John Cusick. In today's conversation, Michael is joined by AJ Denson as they dive into the foundational building blocks of healthy relationships and spiritual well-being—the "Four S's" of attachment: seen, soothed, safe, and secure.Picking up from their previous conversation on Attachment Neuroscience and the Trinity, Michael unpacks how the story of God is ultimately a story of profound attachment, beginning with the indivisible unity of the Trinity itself. The discussion explores how these four components of attachment shape not only our childhood experiences but also our spiritual lives and adult relationships.Together, they reflect on what it means to be truly seen and delighted in, drawing parallels between the secure love a child needs and the way God knows and loves us deeply. With honest stories, cultural insights, and a grounding in Scripture, this episode offers hope for healing and restoration, even in the places where attachment may have been broken.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

They act like they are over you the moment you breakup and that is crushing. But is that what they really feel? There is a lot of "experts" on what avoidant attached person feel during breakups. I have on average 70 avoidant attached people on speed dial and I am sharing what they all say they go through during breakups. It's astounding how they all have the same breakup story. Leave a comment and let me know your thoughts on this podcast. Much love, AnnalisaI would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Do you take things personally?It's a hard pattern to break as, of course, our lives are our personal responsibility, and when we engage with others and the world. When we take things personally that are not personal, we suffer.Do you get offended easily?Do your feelings get hurt easily?Do you struggle with insecurities that you will not be chosen?Taking things personally serves to perpetuate the fears that we are unworthy and that we need validation of our worth from the external world.It's a trap.Free yourself! Thanks for listening! Follow leah on IG, FB & TK @leahthemodernsage for more!

If you love someone who shuts down, pulls away, or goes emotionally quiet when things get close, this episode is for you. You might feel confused, lonely, or like you're constantly guessing where you stand. Today, you'll learn why people are avoidantly attached, why pursuing closeness backfires, and how to love an avoidant partner without chasing, over-explaining, or disappearing yourself.____________________________Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/avoidant-attachment-in-relationships Get the Scripts! Loving an Avoidant Partner: 10 Things to Say and Not Say When They Pull Away. This guide gives you clear scripts, common traps, and repair language so you can show up grounded, direct, and self-respecting: https://abbymedcalf.com/avoidant-partner-scripts Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack. You'll get...✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby_________ Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/

Three years ago, Sabrina Zohar hit rock bottom after losing everything she thought defined her. In this raw anniversary episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, she reflects on the journey from heartbreak, identity collapse, and losing her sense of direction to rebuilding her life through self-trust, nervous system healing, and emotional growth. This episode explores grief, attachment patterns, worthiness, and what happens when the path you were certain about disappears. Joined by her partner (romantic and business) Ryan halfway through, Sabrina unpacks anxious and avoidant dynamics, boundaries, communication, and why healing doesn't mean never being triggered again. If you've ever felt lost after a breakup, attached to outcomes, or afraid of being seen, this episode is a reminder that you're not broken. You're becoming. If you're ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you're serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Go to Quince.com/SABRINA for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home. Text SABRINA to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, plus FREE shipping. Message and data rates may apply. This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina ============================= Chapters 00:00 – When Your Life Doesn't Go the Way You Planned 03:12 – Losing Your Identity After a Breakup or Career Collapse 07:05 – Hitting Rock Bottom and Rebuilding From Scratch 10:48 – Why We Attach Our Worth to Relationships and Success 14:32 – Healthy Relationships Still Trigger Your Nervous System 18:10 – Anxious and Avoidant Attachment in Real Life 22:05 – Boundaries, Communication, and Emotional Safety 26:18 – Why Being “Too Much” Was Never the Problem 30:12 – Letting Go of Control, Validation, and External Approval 34:40 – Healing Without Perfection or Constant Positivity 38:20 – Final Takeaways: Self-Trust, Growth, and Becoming Yourself Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Embrace Breakthroughs With The “Heal From a Breakup” Course. Free for Life With a 7-Day Trial https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-breakup-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-breakup-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-01-23-26&el=podcast   If you have a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style, healing doesn't mean forcing yourself to become someone you're not — it means learning a new, healthier relationship with vulnerability, emotions, and connection. In this video, Thais Gibson shares 5 hard but deeply transformative truths that can support dismissive avoidant healing, reduce emotional shutdown, and help you build relationships that feel safe, balanced, and sustainable. These truths may feel uncomfortable at first, but once integrated, they can fundamentally change how you experience intimacy, self-worth, and connection. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why emotions are not something to avoid, but powerful feedback tools How vulnerability creates safety, not weakness Why receiving support is a key part of healthy interdependence How compromise strengthens connection without self-abandonment Why being imperfect does not mean you are defective ⏱️ Timestamps: 00:00 – These Truths Can Transform Your Life 00:35 – 1. Your Feelings Are Your Friends 02:03 – 2. Vulnerability Is Healthy and Necessary 03:10 – 3. Leaning on Someone and Receiving Support From Them Is Not Weak 04:34 – Ending Codependency Course Promo 04:55 – 4. It Is Important to Make Concessions in the Form of Compromises 05:37 – 5. It Is Normal and Human to Have Flaws Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

What if the way your needs were met in infancy still shapes your ability to feel safe, seen, and supported today?Welcome to the end-of-year challenge: The Return to Magic. Today, Lacy, Jessica, and EMDR-certified LMFT Janelle dive deep into the foundation of all manifestation work: your earliest subconscious blueprint set in childhood. This episode explores the powerful programming from ages zero to 18 months. It's a period most people don't remember, but it's when your soul touched down into your human body—and profoundly shapes who you are today. This early stage is where safety, secure relationships, and boundaries are formed, and Janelle helps us understand how the presence (or absence) of these things can leave us feeling out of balance.This conversation is a reminder that our TBM practice is here to bring us back to our most whole selves. We are not destined to stay stuck in old patterns or loops that don't serve us. We can start from the very beginning and manifest the lives we're meant to embody. This is the work that changes everything. It's time to return to your magic.Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: Big End of Year SALE - 30% off Annual and Monthly Subscriptions Return to Magic - 15 Day Manifestation ChallengeA 15-day guided journey to reparent your inner child, reconnect with your magic, and step into this new year as your most confident, regulated, and magnetic self yet. Join our membership to access! (pre-week Dec 1st, kickoff Dec 8th!) The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential.LEARN MORE HERE Get the latest from TBMJoin us at the How To Manifest Speaking Tour - LA 12/6 (Early Bird Discount available) Join our HTM Book Club! Walk step by step through the TBM Manifestation Process with Lacy and Jessica as we read HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips Join the Pathway now - NEW End of Year Challenge launching Dec 1st! Big End of Year SALE - 30% off New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryReady to find out what's holding you back? Try our Free Clarity Exercise Be an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation StorySubmit to Be a Process GuestWhat did you manifest during the Money Challenge? Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! This Episode is brought to you by: ARMRA - Use code TBM for 15% off Colostrum: Immune Revival - Immune barrier superfood  Fatty15 - go to fatty15.com/TBM use code TBM at checkout to get an additional 15% off your 90-day subscription Starter Kit In this episode we talk about:The real reason your manifestations feel stuck — and how early unmet needs are the causeWhy the most formative manifestation blueprint is set between 0–18 monthsThe power of skin-to-skin contact and early co-regulation with caregiversHealing the nervous system through somatic reparenting and new DI'sHow trauma from inconsistency or neglect creates current-day self-worth blocksCreating secure attachment with the universe — the TBM method's deeper layerReclaiming trust, touch, routine, and reliability through new subconscious experiencesOverwriting your origin story through the reparenting processWhy boundaries, autonomy, and safe exploration matter so deeplyReleasing perfectionism, people-pleasing, and rebellion patterns from toddler yearsRediscovering intuition, creativity, and authenticity buried beneath early shameHow to self-soothe as an adult by attuning to your inner child's unmet needsRecognizing that your inner child is your spiritual guide back to wholenessMentioned In the Episode: Expanded x Ep. 383 - The Return to Magic: How to Cut Through the Noise and Get Your Spark BackExpanded x Ep. 186 - The Difference Between Fear & Intuition with Taylor Paige - Angel Reader & Intuitive242 Manifestation Blocks, Navigating The Unknown, And Creating Our Most Magical Lives with Jessica Gill of TBMJoin our HTM Book Club! Walk step by step through the TBM Manifestation Process with Lacy and Jessica as we read HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips Find our Money Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Shadow DI, Safe DI, and Purpose & Soul's Essence DI) Join us at the How To Manifest Book Tour!LA 12/6Limited VIP & Early Bird Discount available HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Pre-Order NOW The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM's Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way.At TBM, we've redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. This process helps you reprogram limiting beliefs at the subconscious level so you can create the life most aligned with your authenticity.Each week, we take you inside the TBM practice to help you expand your subconscious to believe what you desire is possible. Through expert interviews, thought leader conversations, TBM teachings, and real member success stories, you'll learn how to: – Rewire your subconscious mind and step into your worth – Heal your inner child and integrate shadow work – Set boundaries, strengthen intuition, and reclaim self-worth – Manifest relationships, careers, abundance, and experiences that align with your true selfWith over than 40 million downloads and a global community in over 100 countries, Expanded has become the gold standard in manifestation content. Think of it as your weekly practice for expanding your mind, believing what you want is possible, and manifesting the life you're meant to live.Past guests include leading voices such as Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest. Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast

Friendship is one of the topics we get asked about most, so we brought back Dr. Marisa Franco, one of the world's leading voices on human connection. We dive straight into the heart of modern friendship and start with something that influences every relationship we have: attachment styles. Marisa explains how these patterns begin in childhood, how they show up differently in adulthood, and why none of us fit neatly into one category. We explore one of the biggest questions we hear from listeners: if you tend to be anxious or avoidant, do you end up attracting friends with the same tendencies? Marisa shares one of her biggest challenges in her research—secure people continue to find each other easily, while those who struggle with connection often repeat the same patterns with similar types of friends.Since many of you are new moms or navigating school-aged seasons, we ask Marisa what to do when a friend needs more from you than you can realistically give. She reminds us that it's okay to say no and that saying no with kindness helps preserve the relationship.Although friendship looks natural from the outside, we share honestly that it hasn't always been effortless for us either. Amy opens up about how isolating early motherhood felt and why making new friends during that time was unexpectedly hard. If you're in a season where friendship feels like it has to fall to the bottom of the list, Marisa offers a powerful reminder of why connection still matters—and what small steps can help bring it back to the forefront.Finally, we talk about the hardest part of friendship: knowing when it's time to end one. Should you let the relationship fade or have a more direct conversation? Marisa shares how to discern which path is right, and she gives guidance on something we rarely talk about—grieving a friendship.LINKS AND RESOURCES:Listen to HERself episode #145 Dr. Marisa Franco on the Importance of Adult Friendship; https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/adultfriendshipRead Dr. Marisa Franco's Book; Platonic: https://amzlink.to/az0lb2DLKWeWk Follow Marisa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco/Dr. Marisa's Website: https://drmarisagfranco.com/HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastLMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELFLet's connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.