Podcasts about avoidant attachment

Welcome back to the Restoring the Soul podcast with Michael John Cusick. In this episode, Michael and AJ Denson dive deeper into the transformative concepts from Michael's book, Sacred Attachment: Escaping Spiritual Exhaustion and Trusting Divine Love. Picking up where they left off, the conversation centers on the “Four S's” of attachment—Seen, Soothed, Safe, and Secure—and explores how these elements shape our spiritual and relational lives.Together, they reflect on the nuances of secure and insecure attachment, the power of rupture and repair in relationships, and how even well-intentioned parents and caregivers can struggle to meet these needs. Michael brings personal stories and practical insights, offering hope for healing attachment wounds, whether through new relational patterns or divine love.The episode also tackles the complex reality that attachment styles are not fixed but evolve with our circumstances and emotional states. Through compassionate storytelling and relatable examples, the hosts unravel what it means to be “soothed”—the crucial experience of knowing someone has “got you” in moments of distress, vulnerability, and everyday life.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

Candice Tamara is a trauma-informed relationship and self-concept coach who helps driven, anxiously attached individuals become secure in love. After healing from a deeply traumatic childhood and years of anxious attachment, Candice transformed their inner world, rewired their identity, and became the secure version of themselves they once thought was impossible. They have now helped hundreds of people break anxious/avoidant patterns, regulate their nervous system, and create deeply secure, emotionally available relationships, without chasing love or abandoning themselves. Candice is the creator of the Candice Tamara Secure Method™, a transformational process that blends attachment healing, subconscious reprogramming, EFT tapping, nervous system work, and the Law of Assumption to create rapid, lasting change. They are also the host of the F*CK TRAUMA Podcast, where they teach listeners how to shift their self-concept, step into secure love, and become the version of themselves who is chosen, supported, and deeply valued.    Key Topics:  ⭐ Anxious vs Avoidant Attachment As The Core Relationship Dynamic ⭐ Why We Attract The Same Person In A Different Body ⭐ Abandonment vs Engulfment: The Two Sides Of The Same Fear ⭐ Nervous System Activation As The Real Trigger Behind Conflict ⭐ Why Pulling Away Feels Like Survival To One And Rejection To The Other ⭐ Commitment Anxiety On Both Sides (Even When You Think You Want It) ⭐ Breakups: Relief, Regret, And The Attachment Cycle ⭐ Outsourcing Safety Instead Of Building Inner Security ⭐ Self-Abandonment As The Hidden Pattern In Anxious Attachment ⭐ Independence As Survival In Avoidant Attachment ⭐ Expanding Emotional Capacity Instead Of Trying To Change Your Partner ⭐ Regulation Before Communication: Why Space Can Save A Relationship ⭐ Personal Responsibility As The Turning Point In Healing ⭐ Retraining Your Version Of Love By Reprogramming Subconscious Beliefs ⭐ Growing From Insecure To Secure Attachment Through Inner Work Connect With David - The Authentic Man:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe    Connect With Candice Tamara:   Instagram: @candicetamara_ YouTube: @candicetamara_ Website: https://www.candicetamaracoaching.com/ Free masterclass, Stop Sabotaging Love: https://www.candicetamaracoaching.com/signuptomasterclass  F*CK Trauma Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5xbXmtF2JZUgMqgmGNhao6?si=RroJ1OMoS-ygiTD4JIXUIQ    Chapters 00:00 – Intro 02:37 – What Love Felt Like Before Healing (Anxious Attachment) 04:12 – Growing Up Without A Healthy Model Of Love 06:28 – Why You Keep Attracting The Same Person 08:54 – Dating Your Parent In A Different Body 11:21 – Anxious vs Avoidant: Breaking The Stereotypes 14:03 – Subconscious Beliefs & Identity Formation 17:12 – Projection: Why It's Not Actually About Your Partner 20:40 – Abandonment vs Engulfment: The Core Fear 24:18 – Pulling Away & Nervous System Triggers 28:05 – Rumination, Overthinking & Internal Shame 31:42 – Commitment Anxiety Explained 35:27 – Breakups: Relief, Regret & Emotional Cycling 39:50 – Boundaries: Healthy vs Protective Withdrawal 43:18 – Communication Breakdown: Reactivity vs Shutdown 47:36 – Emotional Capacity & Nervous System Regulation 51:22 – Can A Relationship Survive If Only One Person Does The Work? 55:48 – Taking Responsibility Instead Of Blame 59:30 – Retraining Your Version Of Love 01:03:12 – Final Reflections & Key Takeaways  

Welcome back to another episode of Restoring the Soul with Michael John Cusick. In today's conversation, Michael is joined by AJ Denson as they dive into the foundational building blocks of healthy relationships and spiritual well-being—the "Four S's" of attachment: seen, soothed, safe, and secure.Picking up from their previous conversation on Attachment Neuroscience and the Trinity, Michael unpacks how the story of God is ultimately a story of profound attachment, beginning with the indivisible unity of the Trinity itself. The discussion explores how these four components of attachment shape not only our childhood experiences but also our spiritual lives and adult relationships.Together, they reflect on what it means to be truly seen and delighted in, drawing parallels between the secure love a child needs and the way God knows and loves us deeply. With honest stories, cultural insights, and a grounding in Scripture, this episode offers hope for healing and restoration, even in the places where attachment may have been broken.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

They act like they are over you the moment you breakup and that is crushing. But is that what they really feel? There is a lot of "experts" on what avoidant attached person feel during breakups. I have on average 70 avoidant attached people on speed dial and I am sharing what they all say they go through during breakups. It's astounding how they all have the same breakup story. Leave a comment and let me know your thoughts on this podcast. Much love, AnnalisaI would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

These affirmations are made with love for anyone caught in the anxious avoidant trap/cycle. This community knows push and pull relationship and how anxiety provoking it isListen to this if you need to stabilise and reclaim your sense of selfThese words from Carly Ann are designed to help regulate your nervous system, soften anxiety, and support attachment healing without pressure or force.Perfect for moments of overthinking, relationship anxiety, emotional overwhelm, or when you feel stuck between reaching out and pulling away.anxious avoidant attachmentattachment style healingnervous system regulationrelationship anxietyemotional safety & self-soothingListen when you need calm, reassurance, and a reminder that you are safe Sign up for Hidden Gems for Anxious Minds ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Carly Ann ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠

Send a textHave you ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “Why did I do that… again?”You care. You love them. You want it to work. And yet when things get intense, you shut down, go quiet, and disappear emotionally.In this episode of Love Shack Live, we unpack what avoidance really is (hint: it's not a character flaw) and why shutting down is often a nervous system protection strategy that once worked really well… but now costs you connection.You'll learn what's happening inside the avoidant partner, why the anxious partner panics when the conversation goes silent, and how this dynamic can trap both people in a loop of pressure, withdrawal, and resentment.Most importantly, we'll show you a different path: building emotional safety and emotional capacity in small, practical steps so you can come back to the table without spiraling or disappearing.Because shutting down isn't who you are. It's what you learned.And you can learn something new.In This Episode, We CoverWhy emotional withdrawal is one of the strongest predictors of relationship breakdownThe real reason avoidance happens (and why it can feel like danger in the body)What anxious partners often do in response, and why it accidentally makes things worseHow both partners end up in “shutdown” in different waysThe shift from courtroom energy (punishment + certainty) to classroom energy (curiosity + skill-building)What emotional safety actually is (and why it's not the same as comfort)A simple “start here” practice: rebuilding safety in 5-minute roundsA quick emotional temperature check (1–10) to know when you're resourced enough to talkHow to get support if you're stuck in the avoidant/anxious loopTimestamps: 03:08 Debunking the ‘They Don't Care' Story: Everyone Can Be Avoidant04:13 What Shutdown Feels Like in the Body (A Real-Life Example)07:42 Pressure Makes It Worse: The Partner's Panic & the Stories We Make Up08:40 Anxious vs. Avoidant: Opposite Coping Styles Collide09:48 The CPR Metaphor: Why Reassurance Can Feel Suffocating11:55 Shame, Self-Judgment, and the Spiral on Both Sides21:52 The Real Goal: Regulate First, Then Come Back to the Table25:54 ‘Understand Me First': How Conversations Turn Into Fights27:55 Be the First to Listen: How One Person Can De‑escalate the Fight28:56 Understanding Isn't Contagious: Compassion for Anxious vs. Avoidant Dynamics30:57 Stop Making Up Stories: Get the ‘Intel' From the Person, Not Your Head33:12 The Consensus Trap: Why Friends & Social Media Can't Explain Your Partner35:45 “They Don't Deserve It” vs. “You Do”: Regulate for Your Own Sake38:18 Courtroom vs. Classroom: Trade Punishment for Curiosity (and the Lightbulb Moment)41:32 Emotional Safety 101: It's Uncomfortable, Triggering, and Still Necessary42:28 The Safety ‘Cheat Sheet': Slow, Skillful Back‑and‑Forth (5 Minutes at a Time)50:09 Wrap-Up + Get Support: Key Takeaways, Next Episode, and Clarity Call52:05 Emotional Capacity ‘Temperature Check' + Closing Rituals

"Feelings are signals, not facts."In this lecture, Christan and Tarrah explore the world of Avoidant Attachment. Learn why you might be "Heisman-ing" the people you love and how to transition from survival mode into true intimacy.In this lecture:Friendship Court: A ruling on "Conflict Avoidance" and the danger of the "I'm Fine" response. The Artist Corner: Why your bedroom environment dictates your mental stability. Lesson: The difference between guarding your heart and barricading it.Class Dismissed! If you're ready to stop hiding and start healing, leave us a 5-star review! Peace!

Do you take things personally?It's a hard pattern to break as, of course, our lives are our personal responsibility, and when we engage with others and the world. When we take things personally that are not personal, we suffer.Do you get offended easily?Do your feelings get hurt easily?Do you struggle with insecurities that you will not be chosen?Taking things personally serves to perpetuate the fears that we are unworthy and that we need validation of our worth from the external world.It's a trap.Free yourself! Thanks for listening! Follow leah on IG, FB & TK @leahthemodernsage for more!

Attachement styles have a big impact on the success, failure, and happiness of relationships. A person can live through 6 lifetimes in 30 minutes because their partner didn't text back fast enough. That's what anxious attachment looks like. Guest Alina Zyakun specializes in healing women with anxious/avoidant attachment with her proven Self Trust Method. Learn about that and how spot avoidant attachment people early in dating.  Guest Alina Zyakun

If you love someone who shuts down, pulls away, or goes emotionally quiet when things get close, this episode is for you. You might feel confused, lonely, or like you're constantly guessing where you stand. Today, you'll learn why people are avoidantly attached, why pursuing closeness backfires, and how to love an avoidant partner without chasing, over-explaining, or disappearing yourself.____________________________Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/avoidant-attachment-in-relationships Get the Scripts! Loving an Avoidant Partner: 10 Things to Say and Not Say When They Pull Away. This guide gives you clear scripts, common traps, and repair language so you can show up grounded, direct, and self-respecting: https://abbymedcalf.com/avoidant-partner-scripts Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack. You'll get...✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby_________ Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/

"Trauma is not what happens to us, but what we hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness. The salvation, then, is to be found in the body..."What if trauma isn't something to heal or release but something that formed intelligently in response to life?In this episode, I sit down with Will Rezin of Trauma & Somatics for a deep, grounding conversation on trauma, attachment, procrastination, nervous system regulation, and why so many of us never actually feel completion, only “what's next?”This episode isn't about fixing yourself. It's about understanding how you formed and what becomes possible when survival isn't the only goal anymore.

In this personal episode, Ms. Elle shares a powerful link between the fear of intimacy and entertaining dismissive-avoidant relationships, and how to embrace personal power to dominate life without reactivity to past abuse. Don't miss this powerful conversation! Listen now!Support the showSUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL

Most men in sexless marriages did exactly what they were told to do.They opened up more.They communicated better.They became more emotionally available.They went to therapy.And somehow, the sex life didn't come back.In many cases, it disappeared completely.In this episode, I explain why that happens — especially when you're married to a dismissive-avoidant partner.We'll talk about:Why “more emotional connection” can actually create less attractionHow anxious and avoidant attachment styles quietly kill desireWhy many men work on themselves and then realize the relationship itself isn't healthyWhy dismissive-avoidant partners often resist getting helpAnd why effort and effectiveness are not the same thing in long-term relationshipsThis isn't about blaming women.It's about understanding dynamics most men were never taught — and why doing everything “right” can still lead to a sexless marriage.If you're confused, frustrated, or starting to question your relationship, this conversation will likely hit close to home. Check out my book! https://deadbedroomfix.comJoin the Brotherhood! https://helpformen.com/join

Hi lovers, it's officially love month, and leading into Valentine's Day, we're revisiting some of the most powerful relationship advice we've heard on the podcast, from 3 of the internet's top couples therapists and relationship experts.Whether you're single or in a long-term relationship, this episode is for you if you're grappling with an anxious or avoidant attachment, fear around intimacy/relationships, or learning how to regulate and rebuild during conflict.Thankfully, I've had the privilege of talking with the best when it comes to navigating love and partnership, which has helped me immeasurably in building the foundation of my own relationship. So today, I'm bringing you a roundup of the top advice from:❤️ Baya Voce, MSW, Relationship Repair Expert (Supervised by Esther Perez): The art of repair, and how to maintain love and connection through conflict. Baya's 4-step relationship repair framework, why curiosity is the antidote to defensiveness, and how to stay regulated during conflict. (Listen to our full episode here.)❤️ Trevor Hanson, Marriage & Family Therapist, Founder of The Art of Healing: Why fear is the #1 killer of relationships and how to communicate through it. Plus, how to navigate common communication “landmines” and how anxious & avoidant partners can build safe emotional intimacy. (Listen to our full episode here.)❤️ Jess Baum, Psychotherapist, Couples Counselor, & Author of Anxiously Attached: How our attachment styles are amplified or healed based on your relationship, breaking our anxious attachment patterns and prioritizing consistent love, recognizing red and green flags in chemistry, and moving from codependency to interdependence. (Listen to our full episode here.)Wherever you are in your relationship journey, know that you are loved!  Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

I wish someone had told me this when I first started dating. I made so many mistakes that landed me in some questionable relationships. The tips I share here has helped me choose a partner I enjoy life with. I'm breaking down the red flags to look out for, the green ones to pay attention to, the pace to move at so you don't end up with someone who blindsides you. This would help if you've been dating someone for a while or if you're now getting into the dating work. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Three years ago, Sabrina Zohar hit rock bottom after losing everything she thought defined her. In this raw anniversary episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, she reflects on the journey from heartbreak, identity collapse, and losing her sense of direction to rebuilding her life through self-trust, nervous system healing, and emotional growth. This episode explores grief, attachment patterns, worthiness, and what happens when the path you were certain about disappears. Joined by her partner (romantic and business) Ryan halfway through, Sabrina unpacks anxious and avoidant dynamics, boundaries, communication, and why healing doesn't mean never being triggered again. If you've ever felt lost after a breakup, attached to outcomes, or afraid of being seen, this episode is a reminder that you're not broken. You're becoming. If you're ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you're serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Go to Quince.com/SABRINA for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home. Text SABRINA to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, plus FREE shipping. Message and data rates may apply. This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina ============================= Chapters 00:00 – When Your Life Doesn't Go the Way You Planned 03:12 – Losing Your Identity After a Breakup or Career Collapse 07:05 – Hitting Rock Bottom and Rebuilding From Scratch 10:48 – Why We Attach Our Worth to Relationships and Success 14:32 – Healthy Relationships Still Trigger Your Nervous System 18:10 – Anxious and Avoidant Attachment in Real Life 22:05 – Boundaries, Communication, and Emotional Safety 26:18 – Why Being “Too Much” Was Never the Problem 30:12 – Letting Go of Control, Validation, and External Approval 34:40 – Healing Without Perfection or Constant Positivity 38:20 – Final Takeaways: Self-Trust, Growth, and Becoming Yourself Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Embrace Breakthroughs With The “Heal From a Breakup” Course. Free for Life With a 7-Day Trial https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-breakup-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-breakup-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-01-23-26&el=podcast   If you have a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style, healing doesn't mean forcing yourself to become someone you're not — it means learning a new, healthier relationship with vulnerability, emotions, and connection. In this video, Thais Gibson shares 5 hard but deeply transformative truths that can support dismissive avoidant healing, reduce emotional shutdown, and help you build relationships that feel safe, balanced, and sustainable. These truths may feel uncomfortable at first, but once integrated, they can fundamentally change how you experience intimacy, self-worth, and connection. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why emotions are not something to avoid, but powerful feedback tools How vulnerability creates safety, not weakness Why receiving support is a key part of healthy interdependence How compromise strengthens connection without self-abandonment Why being imperfect does not mean you are defective ⏱️ Timestamps: 00:00 – These Truths Can Transform Your Life 00:35 – 1. Your Feelings Are Your Friends 02:03 – 2. Vulnerability Is Healthy and Necessary 03:10 – 3. Leaning on Someone and Receiving Support From Them Is Not Weak 04:34 – Ending Codependency Course Promo 04:55 – 4. It Is Important to Make Concessions in the Form of Compromises 05:37 – 5. It Is Normal and Human to Have Flaws Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

What happens when you have been friends for what seems like forever - you lose each other and find each other and in your older years decide to date but then to be blindsided by the avoidants pull away???Sarah shares her journey through friendship to falling in love with her friend and then the heartbreaking pulling away that started a journey into examining her anxious attachment style and healing. This is for you if you've ever been confused about your relationship going great and then suddenly coming to a halt. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Social media will tell you that anxious-avoidant relationships are doomed. That avoidants are narcissists. That anxious people are just codependent. I'm here to tell you that's oversimplified BS that keeps people stuck.In this episode, I'm breaking down the anxious-avoidant dynamic with the nuance it actually deserves. After healing my own anxious attachment and being in a relationship with someone who's fearful-avoidant and has been actively working in therapy for over three years, I've learned that this isn't about finding a villain - it's about two nervous systems trying to feel safe in completely different ways.We're covering:The protest-withdrawal cycle: what it actually looks like and why it happens4 damaging myths social media spreads about this dynamic (and why they're wrong)What secure attachment would actually do in these moments - not as theory, but as a real, usable frameworkHow to hold both empathy AND boundaries at the same timeThe real questions to ask yourself if you're in this cycle right nowWhy "just stop chasing" and "just communicate better" aren't solutions -they're oversimplificationsThis episode doesn't tell you to leave or stay. It gives you the tools to make that decision from a grounded, informed place. Because you deserve relationships that feel secure, and you're capable of creating that - but only if you're willing to do your own work.Whether you're anxious, avoidant, or watching this pattern play out in your relationship, this one's for you.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Learn about fearful-avoidant attachment—the push-pull dynamic affecting adults in relationships. Find out how childhood trauma shapes connections, the mental health risks involved, and evidence-based therapies like EMDR that can break generational cycles and foster lasting healing. Learn more at https://missionconnectionhealthcare.com/mental-health/attachment-disorder/disorganized-attachment-style/ Mission Connection City: San Juan Capistrano Address: 30310 Rancho Viejo Rd. Website: https://missionconnectionhealthcare.com/

Annalisa answers followers questions. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

What happens when someone who is working on their attachment style meets with an avoidant attached style person who may not be working on their healing - they set boundaries. How does that work out? Listen to this podcast as Sarah explains the hot and too heavy too soon dynamics of her relationship, setting boundaries and what happened next. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Rejection hits some men harder than others. For a lot of guys, it's not just discomfort—it feels like danger. One cold look from your wife. One delayed text. One “Can we talk later?” from your boss. Suddenly you're spiraling, apologizing, chasing, overreacting, or completely shutting down.This isn't weakness. It isn't you being dramatic.It's rejection sensitivity—and most men who grew up in chaotic, unpredictable, or emotionally unstable homes are living with it without ever knowing what it's called.In this episode, I'll break down:— Why some men live relationships on “hard mode” — How your childhood wired your brain to scan for danger — Why neutral things feel like personal attacks — Why you over-apologize, over-explain, and overreact — How rejection sensitivity contributes to sexless marriages — Why anxious men attract avoidant or narcissistic partners — And, most importantly, what you can do to rewire thisIf you're neurodivergent (ADHD, autism, etc.), this is going to make even more sense. RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) is something I see constantly in men in my audience and inside The Brotherhood.You're not broken. You're trained. And you can retrain yourself.If you want deeper work on this, my book REBUILD and our Brotherhood community are powerful tools to help you break out of this pattern and build confidence, boundaries, and emotional stability.► Get my book REBUILD on Amazon (hardcover, Kindle, or audiobook for members): https://a.co/d/e6KBqYE► Join The Brotherhood – private men's community, daily Zoom groups, 1,300+ hours of audio, coaching, and more: https://helpformen.com/join

One of the most sought after answers in our time right now is how to manage a relationship with an Avoidant Attached person and, what is really going on in their minds. This episode helps an Avoidant Attached person understand themselves better, as well as starter healing journey. It also helps those who are interested in understanding and appreciating their avoidant attached friends and partner better.Drop a comment and let me know how this particular episode changed your perspective.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

This is our 200th episode of Reimagining Love! And to celebrate, Dr. Alexandra is in-studio with her husband, Todd, to answer your questions. They cover topics such as emotional interdependency versus codependency, infidelity and avoidant attachment, resentment in a marriage, identifying needs in a situationship, and navigating grief and identity formation after divorce.Thank you so much for submitting your listener questions! Even when they are not selected for these Mailbag-type episodes, they continually inform our content.We love to hear from you! Submit a Listener Question here:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Resources worth mentioning from the episode:Thriving Through the Holiday Chaos on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/holidaysFor Question 2 (infidelity + avoidant attachment) -Dr. Alexandra's E-Course  - Can I Trust You Again? (rebuilding after betrayal or deceit) https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceitReimagining Love episode, When You're the Affair Partner https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/when-youre-the-affair-partner/Reimagining Love Episodes on Attachment:Jessica Baum (releasing in February 2026)From the Inside Out: Attachment Theory & Mindful Parenting with Dr. Dan Siegel: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/from-the-inside-out-attachment-theory-mindful-parenting-with-dr-dan-siegel/Exploring Attachment: Transform Your Relationship Patterns with Thais Gibson: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/exploring-attachment-transform-your-relationship-patterns/Secure Attachments: The Felt Sense of Love with Julie Menanno: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/secure-attachments-the-felt-sense-of-love-with-julie-menanno/For Question 3 (resentment in marriage) -Reimagining Love episode, My 9 Favorite Resentment-Busting Strategies https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/my-9-favorite-resentment-busting-strategies/Reimagining Love episode, When Shame Blocks Repair https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/when-shame-blocks-repair/For Question 4 (identifying needs in situationship) -Reimagining Love episode, Is Your “Situationship” Working? https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/is-your-situationship-working/Dr. Alexandra's E-Course - Intimate Relationships 101: https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/offers/Q7LEbtEX/checkoutFor Question 5 (navigating grief and identity formation after divorce) -Reimagining Love episode, Guidance for the Newly Single: 5 Strategies for Stability and Healing https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/guidance-for-the-newly-single/Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Cultivate connection by subscribing to Dr. Alexandra's newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Learn from Dr. Alexandra (E-courses: Intimate Relationships 101 or Can I Trust You Again?): https://dralexandrasolomon.com/learn-from-alexandra/Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Many anxious and secure attached persons have dated avoidant attached persons who seemed really ready for a long term committed relationships until.... things got heavy. Many were left confused at their behaviours as some avoidant back-peddled, withdrew, seem to gaslight or altogether ghosted. In this episode, one of my guests shares her distress in trying to navigate her relationships as she tries to learn about her ex's behaviours, and her own. Give this a listen if you want to feel seen and validated while gaining some insights into the mind (and actions) of an avoidant attached person. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

If you've ever felt incredible chemistry with someone… only for them to suddenly pull away, go cold, or confuse the heck out of your nervous system, this episode is for you. We break down the real signs of avoidant attachment (without shame, without villainizing, and with so much nuance), so you can finally understand what's happening in your relationships and what to do next. These are the strategies I wish someone had explained to me back when I was on the dating rollercoaster. Get ready for clarity, healing, and a powerful next step toward secure love.Inside the episode:The 5 subtle but unmistakable signs of avoidant attachment (including the ones most people miss).Exactly what to do if you recognize these patterns in someone you're dating without abandoning yourself or slipping into “pick-me” mode.How to slow the emotional pace, communicate securely, and finally break the anxious–avoidant cycle so you can attract healthy, reciprocal love.If this episode hit home, if you feel that pull in your chest saying, “It's time… I can't repeat these patterns for another year,”, I want you to know this:✨ You are not broken. Your attachment system is simply waiting for the right support to finally feel safe.And I've helped nearly a thousand people do exactly that.The Empowered.Secure.Loved. Program is closing applications at the end of this year, and I don't want you to miss your chance. This December, we're offering something we have never offered before:Secure December: A Farewell Sale — 70% Off (Limited Time)This is the final opportunity to join ESL before doors close. If healthy love is a 2026 non-negotiable for you… apply now.Your future self will thank you.Your heart will thank you.And I can't wait to support you inside the program.

Many of us believe that holding an avoidant accountable means talking to them like they are an idiot and we are their parent. How many of us liked it when our parents, or anyone in authority held us accountable? No one! We revelled and worse, you ignore and avoided as much as we could. Yes- my anxious attached friends. Even you did that.Most people are online telling us that we need to hold avoidant attached persons accountable and that is true. However, what we think is "holding them accountable" is actually coming across to them as "control."Let's sort out this messy issue but highlight what we think is an ultimatum, what the avoidant hears and how we can do "accountability" right.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

What if the way your needs were met in infancy still shapes your ability to feel safe, seen, and supported today?Welcome to the end-of-year challenge: The Return to Magic. Today, Lacy, Jessica, and EMDR-certified LMFT Janelle dive deep into the foundation of all manifestation work: your earliest subconscious blueprint set in childhood. This episode explores the powerful programming from ages zero to 18 months. It's a period most people don't remember, but it's when your soul touched down into your human body—and profoundly shapes who you are today. This early stage is where safety, secure relationships, and boundaries are formed, and Janelle helps us understand how the presence (or absence) of these things can leave us feeling out of balance.This conversation is a reminder that our TBM practice is here to bring us back to our most whole selves. We are not destined to stay stuck in old patterns or loops that don't serve us. We can start from the very beginning and manifest the lives we're meant to embody. This is the work that changes everything. It's time to return to your magic.Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: Big End of Year SALE - 30% off Annual and Monthly Subscriptions Return to Magic - 15 Day Manifestation ChallengeA 15-day guided journey to reparent your inner child, reconnect with your magic, and step into this new year as your most confident, regulated, and magnetic self yet. Join our membership to access! (pre-week Dec 1st, kickoff Dec 8th!) The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential.LEARN MORE HERE Get the latest from TBMJoin us at the How To Manifest Speaking Tour - LA 12/6 (Early Bird Discount available) Join our HTM Book Club! Walk step by step through the TBM Manifestation Process with Lacy and Jessica as we read HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips Join the Pathway now - NEW End of Year Challenge launching Dec 1st! Big End of Year SALE - 30% off New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryReady to find out what's holding you back? Try our Free Clarity Exercise Be an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation StorySubmit to Be a Process GuestWhat did you manifest during the Money Challenge? Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! This Episode is brought to you by: ARMRA - Use code TBM for 15% off Colostrum: Immune Revival - Immune barrier superfood  Fatty15 - go to fatty15.com/TBM use code TBM at checkout to get an additional 15% off your 90-day subscription Starter Kit In this episode we talk about:The real reason your manifestations feel stuck — and how early unmet needs are the causeWhy the most formative manifestation blueprint is set between 0–18 monthsThe power of skin-to-skin contact and early co-regulation with caregiversHealing the nervous system through somatic reparenting and new DI'sHow trauma from inconsistency or neglect creates current-day self-worth blocksCreating secure attachment with the universe — the TBM method's deeper layerReclaiming trust, touch, routine, and reliability through new subconscious experiencesOverwriting your origin story through the reparenting processWhy boundaries, autonomy, and safe exploration matter so deeplyReleasing perfectionism, people-pleasing, and rebellion patterns from toddler yearsRediscovering intuition, creativity, and authenticity buried beneath early shameHow to self-soothe as an adult by attuning to your inner child's unmet needsRecognizing that your inner child is your spiritual guide back to wholenessMentioned In the Episode: Expanded x Ep. 383 - The Return to Magic: How to Cut Through the Noise and Get Your Spark BackExpanded x Ep. 186 - The Difference Between Fear & Intuition with Taylor Paige - Angel Reader & Intuitive242 Manifestation Blocks, Navigating The Unknown, And Creating Our Most Magical Lives with Jessica Gill of TBMJoin our HTM Book Club! Walk step by step through the TBM Manifestation Process with Lacy and Jessica as we read HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips Find our Money Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Shadow DI, Safe DI, and Purpose & Soul's Essence DI) Join us at the How To Manifest Book Tour!LA 12/6Limited VIP & Early Bird Discount available HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Pre-Order NOW The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM's Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way.At TBM, we've redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. This process helps you reprogram limiting beliefs at the subconscious level so you can create the life most aligned with your authenticity.Each week, we take you inside the TBM practice to help you expand your subconscious to believe what you desire is possible. Through expert interviews, thought leader conversations, TBM teachings, and real member success stories, you'll learn how to: – Rewire your subconscious mind and step into your worth – Heal your inner child and integrate shadow work – Set boundaries, strengthen intuition, and reclaim self-worth – Manifest relationships, careers, abundance, and experiences that align with your true selfWith over than 40 million downloads and a global community in over 100 countries, Expanded has become the gold standard in manifestation content. Think of it as your weekly practice for expanding your mind, believing what you want is possible, and manifesting the life you're meant to live.Past guests include leading voices such as Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest. Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast

Friendship is one of the topics we get asked about most, so we brought back Dr. Marisa Franco, one of the world's leading voices on human connection. We dive straight into the heart of modern friendship and start with something that influences every relationship we have: attachment styles. Marisa explains how these patterns begin in childhood, how they show up differently in adulthood, and why none of us fit neatly into one category. We explore one of the biggest questions we hear from listeners: if you tend to be anxious or avoidant, do you end up attracting friends with the same tendencies? Marisa shares one of her biggest challenges in her research—secure people continue to find each other easily, while those who struggle with connection often repeat the same patterns with similar types of friends.Since many of you are new moms or navigating school-aged seasons, we ask Marisa what to do when a friend needs more from you than you can realistically give. She reminds us that it's okay to say no and that saying no with kindness helps preserve the relationship.Although friendship looks natural from the outside, we share honestly that it hasn't always been effortless for us either. Amy opens up about how isolating early motherhood felt and why making new friends during that time was unexpectedly hard. If you're in a season where friendship feels like it has to fall to the bottom of the list, Marisa offers a powerful reminder of why connection still matters—and what small steps can help bring it back to the forefront.Finally, we talk about the hardest part of friendship: knowing when it's time to end one. Should you let the relationship fade or have a more direct conversation? Marisa shares how to discern which path is right, and she gives guidance on something we rarely talk about—grieving a friendship.LINKS AND RESOURCES:Listen to HERself episode #145 Dr. Marisa Franco on the Importance of Adult Friendship; https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/adultfriendshipRead Dr. Marisa Franco's Book; Platonic: https://amzlink.to/az0lb2DLKWeWk Follow Marisa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco/Dr. Marisa's Website: https://drmarisagfranco.com/HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastLMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELFLet's connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

A few weeks ago I talked about avoidant attachment, but I realized I needed to take you deeper. There are actually two very different forms of avoidant attachment, and understanding the difference can completely change how you interpret your spouse's behavior and how you respond to it.In today's episode, I'm breaking down the difference between dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant attachment, how each one develops, and the specific ways they show up in marriage, especially after kids. I'm also sharing which one my spouse resonates with and how understanding this has changed the way we navigate conflict, emotions, and connection in our relationship.If your partner withdraws, minimizes emotions, gets overwhelmed by big feelings, or swings between closeness and distance, this episode will help you finally understand why.Tune in to discover:• The core fear behind avoidant attachment and why it develops• Key traits of dismissive avoidant partners and how they show up after kids• Why fearful avoidant partners crave closeness but also pull away• How these styles influence conflict, emotions, and communication• Why understanding your partner's pattern helps you respond with more confidence and careConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callThe Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-systemGet your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Send us a textIn this powerful episode of The Sober Butterfly Podcast, Nadine sits down with Bryan Power to explore how attachment styles, childhood wounds, emotional triggers, and deep inner work can transform relationships from the inside out.Bryan shares his remarkable journey—from a sudden breakup and restraining order to rebuilding a healthier, stronger marriage through self-awareness and integrated attachment theory. Together, they unpack the six pillars of emotional healing inspired by Thais Gibson's work: core wounds, needs, emotions, boundaries, communication, and behaviors.This episode offers actionable tools for anyone navigating relationship challenges, breaking toxic patterns, or healing from trauma. Whether you're partnered, single, or somewhere in between, Bryan's story is a reminder that change is possible—and love can be rebuilt when we learn to understand ourselves.Resources Mentioned:

Welcome back to Part 2 of the Attachment Style SOS Series! Today I'm breaking down avoidant attachment in a way that finally makes sense through the lens of the nervous system, your early experiences, and the cultural messages that reward emotional distance. If you've ever craved connection but shut down the moment it gets close, this episode is going to be a game-changer.Inside the episode:Why your nervous system sees closeness as overwhelm, not safetyThe childhood patterns that taught you to suppress your emotionsHow culture glorifies independence and unintentionally reinforces avoidance✨ Last chance to apply to the Empowered.Secure.Loved Program!We're closing applications this year, and this is the final opportunity to join us with the Black Friday Offer before it's gone forever. If your healing has been on the back burner, take this as your sign, apply now.

Struggling with relationship anxiety and fear of intimacy or rejection? This episode will guide you through anxious and avoidant attachment patterns, to the core healing that can help us find confidence and security in relationships.I'm joined by Trevor Hanson, a marriage and family therapist who has helped thousands of individuals and couples heal attachment wounds and build secure, connected, confident relationships. His work has been featured by the Gottman Institute, and he's the founder of The Art of Healing, where he teaches frameworks for transforming insecurity into emotional safety.We break down the real reasons we often feel insecure, anxious, avoidant, or fearful in relationships… and how to finally feel secure, grounded, and confident in love. You'll learn the tools, communication shifts, and emotional skills that create safe + connected relationships.In this episode, we cover:How to build real confidence in relationships (and the cost of not working on your confidence)Why insecurity, fear, and jealousy appear — even in good relationshipsPractical tools for anxious attachment self-soothingWhy fear is the #1 killer of relationships and how to move through itHow avoidant partners can build emotional intimacy without feeling overwhelmedFear-based motivation vs love-based motivationHow to navigate communication “landmines'How to support a partner who feels fear or anxiety in the relationshipThe TEMPO framework and how it interrupts anxious spiralsFollow Trevor on InstagramTrevor's website: https://theartofhealingbytrevor.com  Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Ever feels like your avoidant partner never wants to do anything during the holidays? Avoidant attached persons can have a love/hate relationship with holidays and it had everything to do with their attachment styles. As an anxious attached partner, you probably love the holidays - getting the perfect presents, planning get-togethers and meals, involving your partner in everything... While on the other hand, your avoidant partner wants to do anything (crawl on a hole) but be a part of what they see as too much. This episodes dives into why the avoidant attached partner wants to hide from the holidays, your friends and most of their own people. We share five things avoidant attached persons don't want during the holidays and what you can do to help them feel more relaxed - and get them involved. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Is your heart aching for an avoidant ex? This episode is your essential guide to navigating this incredibly painful and confusing situation. We cut through the generic advice to give you an attachment-based framework for what to do next.In this episode, you will learn-The Avoidant Mindset - What is really going on in their head post-breakup? (It's not what you think).The Power of Secure Energy - How to become the one thing an avoidant is subconsciously drawn to.Strategic Communication - What to text (and what NEVER to text) to reopen the door without scaring them off.The Foundation of All Reconciliation - Why your personal healing is the non-negotiable first step to getting them back.If you're ready to trade your anxiety for a clear, empowered plan, this episode is for you.Subscribe and listen now!I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

In this powerful call-in episode of Dr. Judy WTF, Dr. Judy unpacks the difference between being in love and truly loving someone. She explains why the dopamine-filled highs of infatuation can feel like a drug, why those “butterflies” rarely last, and how real love is built on stability, shared values, and emotional safety. Using her Mind Map® system and attachment theory, Dr. Judy traces how childhood wounds, “holes in the soul,” and inconsistent parenting create anxious and avoidant attachment styles that play out in adult relationships.A courageous caller shares how growing up with emotionally unavailable parents led him to repeatedly fall for partners who don't have time for him. Dr. Judy walks him through her “What the Freud”® repetition principle—why we keep choosing rejecters and secretly hope they will finally heal our original pain. She also explores whether the in-love feeling can come back in long-term relationships, how to rekindle sparks with date nights, play, sex, and shared growth, and why becoming the cause of your healing (instead of at the effect of others) is the real path to healthy, mature love.

If your spouse ever seems emotionally distant, shuts down during hard moments, or “stays busy” instead of connecting, this episode will help you understand why. In this follow-up to last week's conversation on anxious attachment, I'm diving into the five key traits of avoidant attachment and how they impact your marriage.Whether this is your attachment style or your partner's, understanding these patterns will completely change how you interpret their behavior and how you can respond in ways that build trust and safety instead of disconnection.Tune in to discover:• The core fear that drives avoidant attachment • What's really happening when your partner pulls away• Why closeness can sometimes feel uncomfortable• The link between logic, emotional shutdown, and invalidation in marriage• How to build safety and closeness with a partner who tends to pull awayThe Holiday Connection Challenge: https://marriedafterkids.com/holiday-connection-challegeConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callThe Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-systemFREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptinFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Today we dive into the mind of an avoidant- - what makes them shut down? - what are the thinking when they shut down? - what are the feeling when they have the urge to run away or shut down? - why do they walk away? And what you and your partner can do to save your relationship. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Thinking About Becoming a Certified Relationship Coach? Start With Our Free IAT Ebook, Where You'll Learn Real Tools From the Program That You Can Begin Applying With Clients Today. Download Your Free Guide Here: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat/info?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-ebook&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=uF12gKGWOtM&utm_content=pod-10-28-25&el=podcast Fearful Avoidants don't walk away because they're indifferent — they walk away because fear overwhelms them. Understanding why they leave suddenly can help you respond with clarity, protect your emotional well-being, and navigate the aftermath of a breakup. In this video, Thais Gibson explains why Fearful Avoidants may regret leaving relationships and how their subconscious mind drives their intense shifts between anxiety and avoidance. You'll gain insight into their behavior and learn how to respond in a healthy, empowered way. You'll learn: ✅ Why Fearful Avoidants rapidly shift between anxious and avoidant states, and what triggers these swings ✅ How the subconscious mind stores emotional “warehouses” of past trauma that influence present relationship behaviors ✅ Why breakups often happen as a protective strategy, not a reflection of true feelings ✅ How unmet needs and poor communication can push Fearful Avoidants to pull away ✅ How recognizing triggers and past imprints can help you avoid taking their behavior personally ✅ Practical strategies for communicating your needs and setting boundaries in challenging relationships ✅ How insight and self-work can transform relationships and prevent repeating painful cycles Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  00:46 – Fearful Avoidants Shift From Feeling Anxious to Avoidant 06:08 – Integrated Attachment Theory™ Certification 07:01 – 1. They May Threaten to Leave to Get Away From the Pain 09:42 – 2. They Are Not Good at Communicating Their Needs 13:02 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

If you can crush it at work but feel lost at home, this episode is your blueprint to restore emotional safety in marriage—fast.Attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith joins host Greg Denning to decode why so many driven men struggle with intimacy, connection, and calm at home. You'll learn how early attachment patterns wire your nervous system for constant cortisol and how to retrain it so your wife and kids finally feel safe with you. Adam lays out the four levels of safety every husband must provide (physical, resource, emotional, bonding) and the four levels of peace a wife can return (calm, gentle speech, loyal partnership, executive co-leadership). You'll discover practical, science-backed tools—co-regulation, oxytocin/vasopressin bonding, and negotiation frameworks—that turn conflict into teamwork and stress into stability.Whether you're an entrepreneur or a busy professional, you'll walk away with step-by-step tactics to regulate your nervous system, communicate like a CEO/COO team with your spouse, and build a legacy your kids will carry for generations. If “being present,” “bonding,” and “feeling close” have felt vague or unreachable, this conversation makes them actionable.Key Takeaways✅ Attachment styles significantly influence how we connect with others.✅ Men often struggle with emotional safety due to their upbringing.✅ Emotional safety is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships.✅ Men must provide four levels of safety for their partners.✅ Women need to feel safe to express their emotions and concerns.✅ Building a legacy starts with creating a secure family environment.✅ Personal sovereignty is essential for mature masculinity.✅ Nervous system regulation is key to emotional health.✅ Healthy relationships require effort and intentionality from both partners.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Attachment Theory02:24 Understanding Attachment Styles06:02 The Importance of Emotional Connection09:15 Actionable Steps for Men10:52 Four Levels of Safety for Relationships21:48 The Role of Women in Emotional Safety29:42 Navigating Chaos Together30:12 The Power of Physical Connection32:16 The Four Levels of Peace in Relationships35:40 The Role of Fathers in Building Trust37:20 Executive Partnership in Marriage39:54 The Legacy of Family Dynamics42:39 The Importance of Healthy Family Structures44:33 The Reality of Big Families48:49 The Path to Personal Sovereignty58:09 Mature Masculinity and Legacy BuildingResources for Adam:Use Code: BETHEMAN10 for 10% off!Homepage: https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=betheman&utm_____medium=affiliate&utm_medium=affiliateCourses:https://adamlanesmith.com/product/the-attachment-bootcamp/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliatehttps://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-love-an-avoidant-man/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliatehttps://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-build-a-secure-marriage/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliateCoaching:https://adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliatehttps://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliatehttps://adamlanesmith.com/group-coaching/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliateRESOURCES FOR GREG:Let me help you in your journey to becoming a more Purpose Driven Leader:Free course! Adventuring With Your ChildrenFree! Greg's ⁠⁠Recommended Reading List for Parents & Youth⁠⁠Get Greg's NEW Formidable Family Man BOOK!Join Greg's  90-DAY HEALTH & FITNESS CHALLENGE! Podcast: The Formidable Family Man PodcastCheck out this podcast for families Extraordinary Family Life PodcastJoin the Formidable Family Man Masterclass and Tribe⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram:⁠@greg.denning⁠Follow me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/greghdenning Gather with us at the ⁠World School Family (Beach & Farm) Resort⁠ in Portugal

It can be intoxicating when two avoidants meet. There is chemistry and calm. But what happens when there is too much chemistry and calm for two people who are used to chaos? They may become bored and distant until there is a disconnect. And what happens after the disconnect? One or both can flip into their anxious state and seek reasons to stay connected- like a business venture on this case. This episode highlight how the brain works in the background to cause us to self-sabotage long before the relationship has a chance. We also talk about the red flags you don't want to miss during the first meetup. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Sarah felt seen and validated until things turned for the worse with her avoidant attached partner. He then got up and left. You will see yourself in her story? You will learn from this coaching session how to navigate feelings the confusion and feeling of betrayal after being love bombed and discarded. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

JESSICA BAUM is a licensed psychotherapist whose journey began with a lifelong curiosity about the “Whys” of life why we feel, connect, and experience the world the way we do. This passion led her to specialize in trauma, attachment theory, and interpersonal neurobiology. Jessica believes that connection to ourselves and others is at the heart of healing, and she uses a range of modalities to help individuals and couples return to wholeness. She is the founder of the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach, a private group practice, and she leads the Conscious Relationship Group, a global coaching company offering support to clients worldwide. Jessica is a certified addiction specialist and Imago couples therapist with advanced training in EMDR, experiential therapy, CBT, and DBT. Her bestselling book, Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love, established her as a trusted authority on healing attachment wounds and building secure, fulfilling relationships.Grab Jessica's freebie: https://jessicabaumlmhc.com/interview.Ashlynn Mitchell is the voice behind This Is Ashlynn, a show redefining what it means to thrive in midlife. She is also the former cohost of the top 10 podcast The Betrayed, The Addicted & The Expert. After a public divorce that ended a 21-year marriage, she turned pain into purpose. For over 10 years, she has coached women through the messy, magical process of healing and reinvention after betrayal, divorce, or years of self-abandonment.With two teenage daughters and a life rebuilt from the ground up, Ashlynn leads with lived experience. Through coaching and soulful retreats, she helps women trust themselves again, reclaim joy, and stop playing small, with or without a shared experience of betrayal or divorce. Her work is for women ready to own their story, their pleasure, their peace, and their power. When she's not coaching, you'll find her hiking, roller skating, or dancing like no one's watching.Find her at www.thisisashlynn.com and on Instagram @this.isAshlynn

-Do you avoid dating “avoidants?” Do you struggle with avoidant attachment and want to be more understood? This week's episode is for both of you! Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.Yay! I am having a great “attachment nerds” chat today with colleague and — certified attachment coach Ashley Kaylor about all things related to the dismissive/avoidant “type.” We break it down! A few things we cover: -The characteristics of dismissive/avoidant attachment behavior -Some “causes” of avoidant attachment -Navigating dating someone who with dismissive/avoidant attachment tendencies -Overcoming dismissive/avoidant attachment -Myths and misconceptions about “avoidants” Go show Ashley some podcast love! Learn about her work at Ashleykaylor.comWant to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠ ____________________________________________________________________________Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

It was supposed to be a romantic Vegas trip… until I got hemorrhoids, threw up in a $900 suite, did shrooms (allegedly), and had second thoughts about Bookman.Why? Because this man did the unthinkable… he texted back, planned dates, opened doors, used empathy, and was willing to change. Is this too good to be true… or have I met my match? You tell me.Welcome to Part 1 of Finding My Husband: Vegas - where romance meets chaos, Russian standards meet American men, and emotionally stable men are the new red flag. I said what I said.(dating podcast • Vegas trip chaos • attachment theory • love bomber or match • relationship overthinking • female hosted podcast)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Attachment Theory Expert Adam Lane Smith joins Gabby Reese to dive deep into Anxious & Avoidant Attachment and the neuroscience of secure relationships. Learn how to heal your nervous system and unlock true monogamy through co-solving life's challenges. Adam Lane Smith reveals the hidden science that governs our bonds, explaining how our nervous systems are "fried" by modern life and how attachment science is the future of human connection. Discover the chemical keys to lasting partnership, including the vital role of vasopressin, the hormone released when couples overcome stress and solve problems as a team.Gabby and Adam discuss: How to understand and shift your personal attachment style (Anxious, Avoidant, Disorganized) to secure. The difference between oxytocin and vasopressin and how to naturally increase your bonding hormones. Gabby's personal story of almost divorcing Laird Hamilton and the pivotal shift that transformed her marriage through honest, brave communication. The biological imperative of a "safe perimeter" and the dynamic of healthy masculinity and femininity. Why the greatest form of resilience for a child is a secure family they can always return to. How relationships can become your "medicine" and your greatest tool for a regulated nervous system and a resilient life. Connect with Adam Lane Smith:https://adamlanesmith.com/https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam For more on Gabby Instagram @GabbyReece: https://www.instagram.com/gabbyreece/ TikTok @GabbyReeceOfficial https://www.tiktok.com/@gabbyreeceofficial The Gabby Reece Show Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@GabbyReece  The Gabby Reece Show podcast is produced by Rainbow Creative (https://www.rainbowcreative.co/)  Thank You to Our Sponsors The Reecet - Join Gabby Reece for a transformative women's retreat designed to simplify and reframe what it means to be healthy. Learn more at https://amphora.la/thereecet Laird Superfood - High-quality ingredients paired with incredible taste. Use the code GABBY20 for 20% off your purchase at http://lairdsuperfood.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Intro: Fried Nervous Systems & Attachment 03:55 The Monogamy Hormone: Vasopressin 07:14 Gabby's Story: Almost Divorcing 14:19 Secure Parenting: Safe Perimeter 19:30 The 4 Layers of Male Safety 30:00 Re-Parenting & Going Secure 36:10 Masculine and Feminine Roles 45:10 Adam Lane Smith's Path 53:20 Effeminate Men vs. Feminine 59:15 The Cost of Non-Commitment 08:45 How to Heal Anxious Men 01:13:50 Conflict Builds Strong Bonds 01:21:10 Anxious Attachment Needs Solving 01:32:00 3 Steps to Secure Attachment Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Not all avoidants look the same. In this episode, I break down the two common ways avoidant attachment shows up in relationships: the Passive Avoidant, who protects themselves by shrinking back, and the Rigid Avoidant, who protects themselves through control and high standards. You'll learn how to spot the difference, why it matters, and how each can begin moving toward more secure and fulfilling relationships.Learn about Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.Instagram: @thejessicadasilvaClient Stories

Have you ever been totally into someone and then suddenly… you get the ick? One minute you're feeling the spark, the next you're questioning everything over something as small as flip-flops. Getting the ick can feel like a dealbreaker, but does it really mean your relationship is doomed - or is it pointing to something deeper inside of you? In this episode, I talk with therapist and journalist Matt Hussey about what the ick really is, why it shows up, and how to handle it without panicking or shutting down. We'll look at the biology of disgust, the ways old hurts and perfectionism can shape our reactions, and how curiosity can transform that “ugh” moment into an opportunity for growth and connection. Matt also points out (as he shared in Vogue) that sometimes the ick is less about your partner and more about self-protection. Instead of working through discomfort or vulnerability, we latch onto surface-level quirks. Understanding that difference between a fleeting ick and a real red flag can help you respond with clarity instead of fear. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 What Is the Ick? 03:00 Getting the Ick in Modern Relationships 11:13 Why Curiosity Matters More Than Snap Judgments 22:07 Self-Protection, Trauma, and the Ick 29:15 How to Handle the Ick in Relationships 38:29 Avoidant Attachment and the Ick 44:10 Fantasy vs. Reality in Love Reflect with me for a moment: What has triggered the ick for you in the past? Did it reveal something about your partner, or did it say more about what was happening inside of you? And how might curiosity change the way you respond the next time those feelings come up? If you'd like more support around communication and connection, check out my Communication That Connects Free Training and take the How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz for a clear snapshot of what's working and what could use care. And let's stay connected - join me on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube, where I share more tools to help you grow in love and life. If this episode sparked a question or an idea you'd like me to explore next, I'd love to hear from you. Let's talk! I also want to thank today's sponsor, Headway. As much as I love books, finding time to read isn't always realistic. That's why I use the Headway app - it gives me key takeaways from incredible books in minutes. I use it almost every day as part of my own growth. You can save 25% when you go to makeheadway.com/lhs and use promo code LHS. Let's keep learning and growing together.

Male attention, moving on, and the truth about fast love.MAGNETIC AFFIRMATIONS (25 MINUTE):https://youtu.be/diRQevBDhio?si=RnB1gMEk4SqYlhljMAGNETIC AFFIRMATIONS (1HR+): https://21-day-break-up-glow-up-challenge.teachable.com/p/making-mind-magnetic-affirmations-all-eyes-will-be-on-you-793498