Podcasts about avoidant attachment

One of the most sought after answers in our time right now is how to manage a relationship with an Avoidant Attached person and, what is really going on in their minds. This episode helps an Avoidant Attached person understand themselves better, as well as starter healing journey. It also helps those who are interested in understanding and appreciating their avoidant attached friends and partner better.Drop a comment and let me know how this particular episode changed your perspective.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

This is our 200th episode of Reimagining Love! And to celebrate, Dr. Alexandra is in-studio with her husband, Todd, to answer your questions. They cover topics such as emotional interdependency versus codependency, infidelity and avoidant attachment, resentment in a marriage, identifying needs in a situationship, and navigating grief and identity formation after divorce.Thank you so much for submitting your listener questions! Even when they are not selected for these Mailbag-type episodes, they continually inform our content.We love to hear from you! Submit a Listener Question here:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Resources worth mentioning from the episode:Thriving Through the Holiday Chaos on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/holidaysFor Question 2 (infidelity + avoidant attachment) -Dr. Alexandra's E-Course  - Can I Trust You Again? (rebuilding after betrayal or deceit) https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceitReimagining Love episode, When You're the Affair Partner https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/when-youre-the-affair-partner/Reimagining Love Episodes on Attachment:Jessica Baum (releasing in February 2026)From the Inside Out: Attachment Theory & Mindful Parenting with Dr. Dan Siegel: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/from-the-inside-out-attachment-theory-mindful-parenting-with-dr-dan-siegel/Exploring Attachment: Transform Your Relationship Patterns with Thais Gibson: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/exploring-attachment-transform-your-relationship-patterns/Secure Attachments: The Felt Sense of Love with Julie Menanno: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/secure-attachments-the-felt-sense-of-love-with-julie-menanno/For Question 3 (resentment in marriage) -Reimagining Love episode, My 9 Favorite Resentment-Busting Strategies https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/my-9-favorite-resentment-busting-strategies/Reimagining Love episode, When Shame Blocks Repair https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/when-shame-blocks-repair/For Question 4 (identifying needs in situationship) -Reimagining Love episode, Is Your “Situationship” Working? https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/is-your-situationship-working/Dr. Alexandra's E-Course - Intimate Relationships 101: https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/offers/Q7LEbtEX/checkoutFor Question 5 (navigating grief and identity formation after divorce) -Reimagining Love episode, Guidance for the Newly Single: 5 Strategies for Stability and Healing https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/guidance-for-the-newly-single/Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Cultivate connection by subscribing to Dr. Alexandra's newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Learn from Dr. Alexandra (E-courses: Intimate Relationships 101 or Can I Trust You Again?): https://dralexandrasolomon.com/learn-from-alexandra/Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Many anxious and secure attached persons have dated avoidant attached persons who seemed really ready for a long term committed relationships until.... things got heavy. Many were left confused at their behaviours as some avoidant back-peddled, withdrew, seem to gaslight or altogether ghosted. In this episode, one of my guests shares her distress in trying to navigate her relationships as she tries to learn about her ex's behaviours, and her own. Give this a listen if you want to feel seen and validated while gaining some insights into the mind (and actions) of an avoidant attached person. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

If you've ever felt incredible chemistry with someone… only for them to suddenly pull away, go cold, or confuse the heck out of your nervous system, this episode is for you. We break down the real signs of avoidant attachment (without shame, without villainizing, and with so much nuance), so you can finally understand what's happening in your relationships and what to do next. These are the strategies I wish someone had explained to me back when I was on the dating rollercoaster. Get ready for clarity, healing, and a powerful next step toward secure love.Inside the episode:The 5 subtle but unmistakable signs of avoidant attachment (including the ones most people miss).Exactly what to do if you recognize these patterns in someone you're dating without abandoning yourself or slipping into “pick-me” mode.How to slow the emotional pace, communicate securely, and finally break the anxious–avoidant cycle so you can attract healthy, reciprocal love.If this episode hit home, if you feel that pull in your chest saying, “It's time… I can't repeat these patterns for another year,”, I want you to know this:✨ You are not broken. Your attachment system is simply waiting for the right support to finally feel safe.And I've helped nearly a thousand people do exactly that.The Empowered.Secure.Loved. Program is closing applications at the end of this year, and I don't want you to miss your chance. This December, we're offering something we have never offered before:Secure December: A Farewell Sale — 70% Off (Limited Time)This is the final opportunity to join ESL before doors close. If healthy love is a 2026 non-negotiable for you… apply now.Your future self will thank you.Your heart will thank you.And I can't wait to support you inside the program.

Many of us believe that holding an avoidant accountable means talking to them like they are an idiot and we are their parent. How many of us liked it when our parents, or anyone in authority held us accountable? No one! We revelled and worse, you ignore and avoided as much as we could. Yes- my anxious attached friends. Even you did that.Most people are online telling us that we need to hold avoidant attached persons accountable and that is true. However, what we think is "holding them accountable" is actually coming across to them as "control."Let's sort out this messy issue but highlight what we think is an ultimatum, what the avoidant hears and how we can do "accountability" right.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

What if the way your needs were met in infancy still shapes your ability to feel safe, seen, and supported today?Welcome to the end-of-year challenge: The Return to Magic. Today, Lacy, Jessica, and EMDR-certified LMFT Janelle dive deep into the foundation of all manifestation work: your earliest subconscious blueprint set in childhood. This episode explores the powerful programming from ages zero to 18 months. It's a period most people don't remember, but it's when your soul touched down into your human body—and profoundly shapes who you are today. This early stage is where safety, secure relationships, and boundaries are formed, and Janelle helps us understand how the presence (or absence) of these things can leave us feeling out of balance.This conversation is a reminder that our TBM practice is here to bring us back to our most whole selves. We are not destined to stay stuck in old patterns or loops that don't serve us. We can start from the very beginning and manifest the lives we're meant to embody. This is the work that changes everything. It's time to return to your magic.Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: Big End of Year SALE - 30% off Annual and Monthly Subscriptions Return to Magic - 15 Day Manifestation ChallengeA 15-day guided journey to reparent your inner child, reconnect with your magic, and step into this new year as your most confident, regulated, and magnetic self yet. Join our membership to access! 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Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! This Episode is brought to you by: ARMRA - Use code TBM for 15% off Colostrum: Immune Revival - Immune barrier superfood  Fatty15 - go to fatty15.com/TBM use code TBM at checkout to get an additional 15% off your 90-day subscription Starter Kit In this episode we talk about:The real reason your manifestations feel stuck — and how early unmet needs are the causeWhy the most formative manifestation blueprint is set between 0–18 monthsThe power of skin-to-skin contact and early co-regulation with caregiversHealing the nervous system through somatic reparenting and new DI'sHow trauma from inconsistency or neglect creates current-day self-worth blocksCreating secure attachment with the universe — the TBM method's deeper layerReclaiming trust, touch, routine, and reliability through new subconscious experiencesOverwriting your origin story through the reparenting processWhy boundaries, autonomy, and safe exploration matter so deeplyReleasing perfectionism, people-pleasing, and rebellion patterns from toddler yearsRediscovering intuition, creativity, and authenticity buried beneath early shameHow to self-soothe as an adult by attuning to your inner child's unmet needsRecognizing that your inner child is your spiritual guide back to wholenessMentioned In the Episode: Expanded x Ep. 383 - The Return to Magic: How to Cut Through the Noise and Get Your Spark BackExpanded x Ep. 186 - The Difference Between Fear & Intuition with Taylor Paige - Angel Reader & Intuitive242 Manifestation Blocks, Navigating The Unknown, And Creating Our Most Magical Lives with Jessica Gill of TBMJoin our HTM Book Club! Walk step by step through the TBM Manifestation Process with Lacy and Jessica as we read HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips Find our Money Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Shadow DI, Safe DI, and Purpose & Soul's Essence DI) Join us at the How To Manifest Book Tour!LA 12/6Limited VIP & Early Bird Discount available HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Pre-Order NOW The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM's Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way.At TBM, we've redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. 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Friendship is one of the topics we get asked about most, so we brought back Dr. Marisa Franco, one of the world's leading voices on human connection. We dive straight into the heart of modern friendship and start with something that influences every relationship we have: attachment styles. Marisa explains how these patterns begin in childhood, how they show up differently in adulthood, and why none of us fit neatly into one category. We explore one of the biggest questions we hear from listeners: if you tend to be anxious or avoidant, do you end up attracting friends with the same tendencies? Marisa shares one of her biggest challenges in her research—secure people continue to find each other easily, while those who struggle with connection often repeat the same patterns with similar types of friends.Since many of you are new moms or navigating school-aged seasons, we ask Marisa what to do when a friend needs more from you than you can realistically give. She reminds us that it's okay to say no and that saying no with kindness helps preserve the relationship.Although friendship looks natural from the outside, we share honestly that it hasn't always been effortless for us either. Amy opens up about how isolating early motherhood felt and why making new friends during that time was unexpectedly hard. If you're in a season where friendship feels like it has to fall to the bottom of the list, Marisa offers a powerful reminder of why connection still matters—and what small steps can help bring it back to the forefront.Finally, we talk about the hardest part of friendship: knowing when it's time to end one. Should you let the relationship fade or have a more direct conversation? Marisa shares how to discern which path is right, and she gives guidance on something we rarely talk about—grieving a friendship.LINKS AND RESOURCES:Listen to HERself episode #145 Dr. Marisa Franco on the Importance of Adult Friendship; https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/adultfriendshipRead Dr. Marisa Franco's Book; Platonic: https://amzlink.to/az0lb2DLKWeWk Follow Marisa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco/Dr. Marisa's Website: https://drmarisagfranco.com/HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastLMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELFLet's connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

A few weeks ago I talked about avoidant attachment, but I realized I needed to take you deeper. There are actually two very different forms of avoidant attachment, and understanding the difference can completely change how you interpret your spouse's behavior and how you respond to it.In today's episode, I'm breaking down the difference between dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant attachment, how each one develops, and the specific ways they show up in marriage, especially after kids. I'm also sharing which one my spouse resonates with and how understanding this has changed the way we navigate conflict, emotions, and connection in our relationship.If your partner withdraws, minimizes emotions, gets overwhelmed by big feelings, or swings between closeness and distance, this episode will help you finally understand why.Tune in to discover:• The core fear behind avoidant attachment and why it develops• Key traits of dismissive avoidant partners and how they show up after kids• Why fearful avoidant partners crave closeness but also pull away• How these styles influence conflict, emotions, and communication• Why understanding your partner's pattern helps you respond with more confidence and careConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callThe Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-systemGet your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Send us a textIn this powerful episode of The Sober Butterfly Podcast, Nadine sits down with Bryan Power to explore how attachment styles, childhood wounds, emotional triggers, and deep inner work can transform relationships from the inside out.Bryan shares his remarkable journey—from a sudden breakup and restraining order to rebuilding a healthier, stronger marriage through self-awareness and integrated attachment theory. Together, they unpack the six pillars of emotional healing inspired by Thais Gibson's work: core wounds, needs, emotions, boundaries, communication, and behaviors.This episode offers actionable tools for anyone navigating relationship challenges, breaking toxic patterns, or healing from trauma. Whether you're partnered, single, or somewhere in between, Bryan's story is a reminder that change is possible—and love can be rebuilt when we learn to understand ourselves.Resources Mentioned:

Welcome back to Part 2 of the Attachment Style SOS Series! Today I'm breaking down avoidant attachment in a way that finally makes sense through the lens of the nervous system, your early experiences, and the cultural messages that reward emotional distance. If you've ever craved connection but shut down the moment it gets close, this episode is going to be a game-changer.Inside the episode:Why your nervous system sees closeness as overwhelm, not safetyThe childhood patterns that taught you to suppress your emotionsHow culture glorifies independence and unintentionally reinforces avoidance✨ Last chance to apply to the Empowered.Secure.Loved Program!We're closing applications this year, and this is the final opportunity to join us with the Black Friday Offer before it's gone forever. If your healing has been on the back burner, take this as your sign, apply now.

Struggling with relationship anxiety and fear of intimacy or rejection? This episode will guide you through anxious and avoidant attachment patterns, to the core healing that can help us find confidence and security in relationships.I'm joined by Trevor Hanson, a marriage and family therapist who has helped thousands of individuals and couples heal attachment wounds and build secure, connected, confident relationships. His work has been featured by the Gottman Institute, and he's the founder of The Art of Healing, where he teaches frameworks for transforming insecurity into emotional safety.We break down the real reasons we often feel insecure, anxious, avoidant, or fearful in relationships… and how to finally feel secure, grounded, and confident in love. You'll learn the tools, communication shifts, and emotional skills that create safe + connected relationships.In this episode, we cover:How to build real confidence in relationships (and the cost of not working on your confidence)Why insecurity, fear, and jealousy appear — even in good relationshipsPractical tools for anxious attachment self-soothingWhy fear is the #1 killer of relationships and how to move through itHow avoidant partners can build emotional intimacy without feeling overwhelmedFear-based motivation vs love-based motivationHow to navigate communication “landmines'How to support a partner who feels fear or anxiety in the relationshipThe TEMPO framework and how it interrupts anxious spiralsFollow Trevor on InstagramTrevor's website: https://theartofhealingbytrevor.com  Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Send us a textIn this latest conversation with our favourite Boomers, Barb and Tim revisit the topic of avoidant attachment—why it happens, how it shows up, and what it feels like when you're in a relationship with someone who has it. Building on their previous discussion, they explore the nuances between dismissive and fearful avoidance, the classic pursuer–distancer dynamic, and why so many people are suddenly recognizing these patterns in themselves and others.Tim opens up about his own disorganized attachment style and the healing work he's done through self-awareness and Internal Family Systems therapy. Barb shares her experience growing up in a chaotic home and how that shaped her people-pleasing tendencies. Together, they break down the common signs of avoidance, the cultural factors that can influence it, and the emotional “dance” that often forms between anxious and avoidant partners.It's a thoughtful, honest conversation about recognizing our patterns, understanding the people we love, and learning how to move toward healthier, more connected relationships.To connect with Tim, visit his website at https://timwadecoaching.com/Find us on Instagram @convoswithboomerspod .If you like our show, make sure you follow us on your favourite Podcast player. Feel free to rate and review our show and tell us what you'd like to hear, and what other topics you'd like Barb to explore!

Ever feels like your avoidant partner never wants to do anything during the holidays? Avoidant attached persons can have a love/hate relationship with holidays and it had everything to do with their attachment styles. As an anxious attached partner, you probably love the holidays - getting the perfect presents, planning get-togethers and meals, involving your partner in everything... While on the other hand, your avoidant partner wants to do anything (crawl on a hole) but be a part of what they see as too much. This episodes dives into why the avoidant attached partner wants to hide from the holidays, your friends and most of their own people. We share five things avoidant attached persons don't want during the holidays and what you can do to help them feel more relaxed - and get them involved. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Is your heart aching for an avoidant ex? This episode is your essential guide to navigating this incredibly painful and confusing situation. We cut through the generic advice to give you an attachment-based framework for what to do next.In this episode, you will learn-The Avoidant Mindset - What is really going on in their head post-breakup? (It's not what you think).The Power of Secure Energy - How to become the one thing an avoidant is subconsciously drawn to.Strategic Communication - What to text (and what NEVER to text) to reopen the door without scaring them off.The Foundation of All Reconciliation - Why your personal healing is the non-negotiable first step to getting them back.If you're ready to trade your anxiety for a clear, empowered plan, this episode is for you.Subscribe and listen now!I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

In this powerful call-in episode of Dr. Judy WTF, Dr. Judy unpacks the difference between being in love and truly loving someone. She explains why the dopamine-filled highs of infatuation can feel like a drug, why those “butterflies” rarely last, and how real love is built on stability, shared values, and emotional safety. Using her Mind Map® system and attachment theory, Dr. Judy traces how childhood wounds, “holes in the soul,” and inconsistent parenting create anxious and avoidant attachment styles that play out in adult relationships.A courageous caller shares how growing up with emotionally unavailable parents led him to repeatedly fall for partners who don't have time for him. Dr. Judy walks him through her “What the Freud”® repetition principle—why we keep choosing rejecters and secretly hope they will finally heal our original pain. She also explores whether the in-love feeling can come back in long-term relationships, how to rekindle sparks with date nights, play, sex, and shared growth, and why becoming the cause of your healing (instead of at the effect of others) is the real path to healthy, mature love.

Send us a textIn this insightful episode, Barb sits down with our favourite relationship coach Tim Wade to explore the often misunderstood world of Avoidant Attachment. Together, they unpack how this attachment style develops, what it looks like in relationships, and why those with avoidant tendencies may struggle with closeness despite craving connection.Tim sheds light on the emotional patterns that drive avoidant behavior and offers practical advice for fostering deeper intimacy — whether you're the one pulling away or loving someone who does. Find Barb on Instagram @barbjanet .If you like our show, make sure you follow us on your favourite Podcast player. Feel free to rate and review our show and tell us what you'd like to hear, and what other topics you'd like Barb to explore!

If your spouse ever seems emotionally distant, shuts down during hard moments, or “stays busy” instead of connecting, this episode will help you understand why. In this follow-up to last week's conversation on anxious attachment, I'm diving into the five key traits of avoidant attachment and how they impact your marriage.Whether this is your attachment style or your partner's, understanding these patterns will completely change how you interpret their behavior and how you can respond in ways that build trust and safety instead of disconnection.Tune in to discover:• The core fear that drives avoidant attachment • What's really happening when your partner pulls away• Why closeness can sometimes feel uncomfortable• The link between logic, emotional shutdown, and invalidation in marriage• How to build safety and closeness with a partner who tends to pull awayThe Holiday Connection Challenge: https://marriedafterkids.com/holiday-connection-challegeConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callThe Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-systemFREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptinFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Today we dive into the mind of an avoidant- - what makes them shut down? - what are the thinking when they shut down? - what are the feeling when they have the urge to run away or shut down? - why do they walk away? And what you and your partner can do to save your relationship. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Thinking About Becoming a Certified Relationship Coach? Start With Our Free IAT Ebook, Where You'll Learn Real Tools From the Program That You Can Begin Applying With Clients Today. Download Your Free Guide Here: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat/info?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-ebook&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=uF12gKGWOtM&utm_content=pod-10-28-25&el=podcast Fearful Avoidants don't walk away because they're indifferent — they walk away because fear overwhelms them. Understanding why they leave suddenly can help you respond with clarity, protect your emotional well-being, and navigate the aftermath of a breakup. In this video, Thais Gibson explains why Fearful Avoidants may regret leaving relationships and how their subconscious mind drives their intense shifts between anxiety and avoidance. You'll gain insight into their behavior and learn how to respond in a healthy, empowered way. You'll learn: ✅ Why Fearful Avoidants rapidly shift between anxious and avoidant states, and what triggers these swings ✅ How the subconscious mind stores emotional “warehouses” of past trauma that influence present relationship behaviors ✅ Why breakups often happen as a protective strategy, not a reflection of true feelings ✅ How unmet needs and poor communication can push Fearful Avoidants to pull away ✅ How recognizing triggers and past imprints can help you avoid taking their behavior personally ✅ Practical strategies for communicating your needs and setting boundaries in challenging relationships ✅ How insight and self-work can transform relationships and prevent repeating painful cycles Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  00:46 – Fearful Avoidants Shift From Feeling Anxious to Avoidant 06:08 – Integrated Attachment Theory™ Certification 07:01 – 1. They May Threaten to Leave to Get Away From the Pain 09:42 – 2. They Are Not Good at Communicating Their Needs 13:02 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

If you can crush it at work but feel lost at home, this episode is your blueprint to restore emotional safety in marriage—fast.Attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith joins host Greg Denning to decode why so many driven men struggle with intimacy, connection, and calm at home. You'll learn how early attachment patterns wire your nervous system for constant cortisol and how to retrain it so your wife and kids finally feel safe with you. Adam lays out the four levels of safety every husband must provide (physical, resource, emotional, bonding) and the four levels of peace a wife can return (calm, gentle speech, loyal partnership, executive co-leadership). You'll discover practical, science-backed tools—co-regulation, oxytocin/vasopressin bonding, and negotiation frameworks—that turn conflict into teamwork and stress into stability.Whether you're an entrepreneur or a busy professional, you'll walk away with step-by-step tactics to regulate your nervous system, communicate like a CEO/COO team with your spouse, and build a legacy your kids will carry for generations. If “being present,” “bonding,” and “feeling close” have felt vague or unreachable, this conversation makes them actionable.Key Takeaways✅ Attachment styles significantly influence how we connect with others.✅ Men often struggle with emotional safety due to their upbringing.✅ Emotional safety is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships.✅ Men must provide four levels of safety for their partners.✅ Women need to feel safe to express their emotions and concerns.✅ Building a legacy starts with creating a secure family environment.✅ Personal sovereignty is essential for mature masculinity.✅ Nervous system regulation is key to emotional health.✅ Healthy relationships require effort and intentionality from both partners.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Attachment Theory02:24 Understanding Attachment Styles06:02 The Importance of Emotional Connection09:15 Actionable Steps for Men10:52 Four Levels of Safety for Relationships21:48 The Role of Women in Emotional Safety29:42 Navigating Chaos Together30:12 The Power of Physical Connection32:16 The Four Levels of Peace in Relationships35:40 The Role of Fathers in Building Trust37:20 Executive Partnership in Marriage39:54 The Legacy of Family Dynamics42:39 The Importance of Healthy Family Structures44:33 The Reality of Big Families48:49 The Path to Personal Sovereignty58:09 Mature Masculinity and Legacy BuildingResources for Adam:Use Code: BETHEMAN10 for 10% off!Homepage: https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=betheman&utm_____medium=affiliate&utm_medium=affiliateCourses:https://adamlanesmith.com/product/the-attachment-bootcamp/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliatehttps://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-love-an-avoidant-man/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliatehttps://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-build-a-secure-marriage/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliateCoaching:https://adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliatehttps://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliatehttps://adamlanesmith.com/group-coaching/?utm%20source=betheman&utm%20_%20_%20medium=affiliateRESOURCES FOR GREG:Let me help you in your journey to becoming a more Purpose Driven Leader:Free course! Adventuring With Your ChildrenFree! Greg's ⁠⁠Recommended Reading List for Parents & Youth⁠⁠Get Greg's NEW Formidable Family Man BOOK!Join Greg's  90-DAY HEALTH & FITNESS CHALLENGE! Podcast: The Formidable Family Man PodcastCheck out this podcast for families Extraordinary Family Life PodcastJoin the Formidable Family Man Masterclass and Tribe⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram:⁠@greg.denning⁠Follow me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/greghdenning Gather with us at the ⁠World School Family (Beach & Farm) Resort⁠ in Portugal

It can be intoxicating when two avoidants meet. There is chemistry and calm. But what happens when there is too much chemistry and calm for two people who are used to chaos? They may become bored and distant until there is a disconnect. And what happens after the disconnect? One or both can flip into their anxious state and seek reasons to stay connected- like a business venture on this case. This episode highlight how the brain works in the background to cause us to self-sabotage long before the relationship has a chance. We also talk about the red flags you don't want to miss during the first meetup. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Sarah felt seen and validated until things turned for the worse with her avoidant attached partner. He then got up and left. You will see yourself in her story? You will learn from this coaching session how to navigate feelings the confusion and feeling of betrayal after being love bombed and discarded. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Every couple faces relationship struggles—from missed appointments to moments of miscommunication. But the way we interpret those struggles often determines whether they turn into distance or deeper connection. In this episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love, Kim and Kyle explore how attachment styles shape our reactions when things go wrong and why secure couples repair quickly while insecure patterns can spiral into conflict.At Healing Moments Counseling, we know that life can be messy and that does not mean your relationship is broken—these messy moments are opportunities to build trust, intimacy, and resilience. With empathy, self-soothing, and honest communication, even the most frustrating moments can become stepping stones toward secure love.Key Takeaways:Learn to trust your partner's intentionsSelf-soothe when frustration arisesTurn relationship mistakes into repairCommunicate impact without blameBuild teamwork through conflictSecure couples don't avoid conflict—they transform it into an opportunity for growth and connection. This episode will show you how to move from blame to bonding, and how to use everyday challenges as a pathway to intimacy.Follow The Roadmap to Secure Love on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

JESSICA BAUM is a licensed psychotherapist whose journey began with a lifelong curiosity about the “Whys” of life why we feel, connect, and experience the world the way we do. This passion led her to specialize in trauma, attachment theory, and interpersonal neurobiology. Jessica believes that connection to ourselves and others is at the heart of healing, and she uses a range of modalities to help individuals and couples return to wholeness. She is the founder of the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach, a private group practice, and she leads the Conscious Relationship Group, a global coaching company offering support to clients worldwide. Jessica is a certified addiction specialist and Imago couples therapist with advanced training in EMDR, experiential therapy, CBT, and DBT. Her bestselling book, Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love, established her as a trusted authority on healing attachment wounds and building secure, fulfilling relationships.Grab Jessica's freebie: https://jessicabaumlmhc.com/interview.Ashlynn Mitchell is the voice behind This Is Ashlynn, a show redefining what it means to thrive in midlife. She is also the former cohost of the top 10 podcast The Betrayed, The Addicted & The Expert. After a public divorce that ended a 21-year marriage, she turned pain into purpose. For over 10 years, she has coached women through the messy, magical process of healing and reinvention after betrayal, divorce, or years of self-abandonment.With two teenage daughters and a life rebuilt from the ground up, Ashlynn leads with lived experience. Through coaching and soulful retreats, she helps women trust themselves again, reclaim joy, and stop playing small, with or without a shared experience of betrayal or divorce. Her work is for women ready to own their story, their pleasure, their peace, and their power. When she's not coaching, you'll find her hiking, roller skating, or dancing like no one's watching.Find her at www.thisisashlynn.com and on Instagram @this.isAshlynn

-Do you avoid dating “avoidants?” Do you struggle with avoidant attachment and want to be more understood? This week's episode is for both of you! Let me be your breakup buddy! Get direct access to my calendar here to schedule a FREE consultation.Yay! I am having a great “attachment nerds” chat today with colleague and — certified attachment coach Ashley Kaylor about all things related to the dismissive/avoidant “type.” We break it down! A few things we cover: -The characteristics of dismissive/avoidant attachment behavior -Some “causes” of avoidant attachment -Navigating dating someone who with dismissive/avoidant attachment tendencies -Overcoming dismissive/avoidant attachment -Myths and misconceptions about “avoidants” Go show Ashley some podcast love! Learn about her work at Ashleykaylor.comWant to learn about my breakup or secure attachment coaching? Head over to my website: ⁠JaniceFormichella.com⁠ and my IG: ⁠@janiceformichella⁠⁠Download The Broken Heart Repair Kit: The 3-step Method to Beating Your Breakup ⁠ ____________________________________________________________________________Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On with Janice Formichella is an inclusive space for all adults who are looking to heal their hearts and have happy relationships. I believe that love is love and that there are a wide variety of different types of relationships and that all are valid. I recognize each individual's right to self-identify. As a podcast host, I am dedicated to making this a safe space for all and strive to portray that in my content. I welcome feedback on my efforts and thank you for being a part of the community.

It wasn't easy for her , but Sarah felt like she had no choice but to shut herself away or withdraw  from the demands and overwhelm - even if that sometimes came from her children. In this episode, Sarah tells what happens in the mind of a avoidant when they are going through their deactivation and what they think during this time. She also shares how she healed after her partner abandoned her and their children, and how she deals with romantic relationships now. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

It was supposed to be a romantic Vegas trip… until I got hemorrhoids, threw up in a $900 suite, did shrooms (allegedly), and had second thoughts about Bookman.Why? Because this man did the unthinkable… he texted back, planned dates, opened doors, used empathy, and was willing to change. Is this too good to be true… or have I met my match? You tell me.Welcome to Part 1 of Finding My Husband: Vegas - where romance meets chaos, Russian standards meet American men, and emotionally stable men are the new red flag. I said what I said.(dating podcast • Vegas trip chaos • attachment theory • love bomber or match • relationship overthinking • female hosted podcast)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Very little is more devasting  than the condition of being blindsided and betrayed by an avoidant attached persons. Sure they have their reasons but that doesn't negate the pain their sudden exit cause when we are the ones left behind. In this episode, Sarah (name changed) shares her struggles to get through a breakup (divorce) with her ex and her determination to heal. We can all see ourselves in her story- we feel her pain and we root for her. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Send us a textIn this episode, we sit down with therapists Rebecca Webster and Pablo Alvarez of Connection Counselling to break down how attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, disorganized, secure) show up during separation and divorce, and what actually helps. We cover emotional regulation vs flooding, why boundaries matter, and why not bad-mouthing the other parent is non-negotiable if you want secure, resilient kids. You'll hear practical guidance on co-parenting, the danger of using kids as emotional support, litigation vs mediation, and how to avoid panic decisions (like giving up decision-making) when you're dysregulated.Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed by our podcast guest are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the hosts or the podcast. We value diverse perspectives and aim to provide a platform for thoughtful discussion and exploration of different ideas.Got any comments, suggestions or queries? We'd love to hear from you! DM us on Instagram @dirty.laundry.podcast to be featured on one of our upcoming episodes. Also, don't forget to rate and review our show on your favourite podcast player.

Attachment Theory Expert Adam Lane Smith joins Gabby Reese to dive deep into Anxious & Avoidant Attachment and the neuroscience of secure relationships. Learn how to heal your nervous system and unlock true monogamy through co-solving life's challenges. Adam Lane Smith reveals the hidden science that governs our bonds, explaining how our nervous systems are "fried" by modern life and how attachment science is the future of human connection. Discover the chemical keys to lasting partnership, including the vital role of vasopressin, the hormone released when couples overcome stress and solve problems as a team.Gabby and Adam discuss: How to understand and shift your personal attachment style (Anxious, Avoidant, Disorganized) to secure. The difference between oxytocin and vasopressin and how to naturally increase your bonding hormones. Gabby's personal story of almost divorcing Laird Hamilton and the pivotal shift that transformed her marriage through honest, brave communication. The biological imperative of a "safe perimeter" and the dynamic of healthy masculinity and femininity. Why the greatest form of resilience for a child is a secure family they can always return to. How relationships can become your "medicine" and your greatest tool for a regulated nervous system and a resilient life. Connect with Adam Lane Smith:https://adamlanesmith.com/https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam For more on Gabby Instagram @GabbyReece: https://www.instagram.com/gabbyreece/ TikTok @GabbyReeceOfficial https://www.tiktok.com/@gabbyreeceofficial The Gabby Reece Show Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@GabbyReece  The Gabby Reece Show podcast is produced by Rainbow Creative (https://www.rainbowcreative.co/)  Thank You to Our Sponsors The Reecet - Join Gabby Reece for a transformative women's retreat designed to simplify and reframe what it means to be healthy. Learn more at https://amphora.la/thereecet Laird Superfood - High-quality ingredients paired with incredible taste. Use the code GABBY20 for 20% off your purchase at http://lairdsuperfood.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Intro: Fried Nervous Systems & Attachment 03:55 The Monogamy Hormone: Vasopressin 07:14 Gabby's Story: Almost Divorcing 14:19 Secure Parenting: Safe Perimeter 19:30 The 4 Layers of Male Safety 30:00 Re-Parenting & Going Secure 36:10 Masculine and Feminine Roles 45:10 Adam Lane Smith's Path 53:20 Effeminate Men vs. Feminine 59:15 The Cost of Non-Commitment 08:45 How to Heal Anxious Men 01:13:50 Conflict Builds Strong Bonds 01:21:10 Anxious Attachment Needs Solving 01:32:00 3 Steps to Secure Attachment Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Not all avoidants look the same. In this episode, I break down the two common ways avoidant attachment shows up in relationships: the Passive Avoidant, who protects themselves by shrinking back, and the Rigid Avoidant, who protects themselves through control and high standards. You'll learn how to spot the difference, why it matters, and how each can begin moving toward more secure and fulfilling relationships.Learn about Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.Instagram: @thejessicadasilvaClient Stories

Have you ever been totally into someone and then suddenly… you get the ick? One minute you're feeling the spark, the next you're questioning everything over something as small as flip-flops. Getting the ick can feel like a dealbreaker, but does it really mean your relationship is doomed - or is it pointing to something deeper inside of you? In this episode, I talk with therapist and journalist Matt Hussey about what the ick really is, why it shows up, and how to handle it without panicking or shutting down. We'll look at the biology of disgust, the ways old hurts and perfectionism can shape our reactions, and how curiosity can transform that “ugh” moment into an opportunity for growth and connection. Matt also points out (as he shared in Vogue) that sometimes the ick is less about your partner and more about self-protection. Instead of working through discomfort or vulnerability, we latch onto surface-level quirks. Understanding that difference between a fleeting ick and a real red flag can help you respond with clarity instead of fear. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 What Is the Ick? 03:00 Getting the Ick in Modern Relationships 11:13 Why Curiosity Matters More Than Snap Judgments 22:07 Self-Protection, Trauma, and the Ick 29:15 How to Handle the Ick in Relationships 38:29 Avoidant Attachment and the Ick 44:10 Fantasy vs. Reality in Love Reflect with me for a moment: What has triggered the ick for you in the past? Did it reveal something about your partner, or did it say more about what was happening inside of you? And how might curiosity change the way you respond the next time those feelings come up? If you'd like more support around communication and connection, check out my Communication That Connects Free Training and take the How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz for a clear snapshot of what's working and what could use care. And let's stay connected - join me on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube, where I share more tools to help you grow in love and life. If this episode sparked a question or an idea you'd like me to explore next, I'd love to hear from you. Let's talk! I also want to thank today's sponsor, Headway. As much as I love books, finding time to read isn't always realistic. That's why I use the Headway app - it gives me key takeaways from incredible books in minutes. I use it almost every day as part of my own growth. You can save 25% when you go to makeheadway.com/lhs and use promo code LHS. Let's keep learning and growing together.

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Imagine craving the warmth of a campfire. You love the light, the comfort, the shared stories. You want to be close enough to feel its heat. But the moment someone says, "Here, tie this rope around your waist and anchor yourself to this log right next to the flames," you panic. The very thing that offered comfort suddenly feels like a trap. The fire hasn't changed; the constraint has.This is the daily reality for many with an avoidant attachment style when they hear the word "commitment." It's not the shared future, the inside jokes, or the quiet companionship they fear. In fact, they often deeply desire those things. What triggers their alarm system is the label itself. "Commitment" sounds like a contract, a loss of self, a final closing of doors. It translates in their mind to obligation, expectation, and the slow erosion of their most cherished value: autonomy.On this podcast, we're not going to villainize the avoidant or patronize the partner who wants security. We're going to climb inside this paradox. We'll explore why the same person who plans a vacation with you six months from now can freeze up when you call them your "boyfriend" or "girlfriend." It's a confusing cha-cha on the intimacy-autonomy seesaw, and understanding that this is cha-cha and not a waltz is the first step to changing the dance entirely.Support the show

Send us a textYou hit send. You see the “Delivered” tick turn to “Read.” And then... nothing. The silence is louder than any notification. Your mind starts racing: Are they hurt? Are they ignoring me? Did my message come on too strong? Was it the wrong emoji?Before you spiral into that abyss of overthinking, we want you to hit pause. The reason for that silent phone likely has very little to do with you, and everything to do with their internal wiring- their attachment style.In this episode of Decoding Attachment Style, we're applying the science of human connection to one of the most common and anxiety-inducing modern dilemmas: the unanswered text to an ex. We're moving beyond playing games and making guesses, and giving you a practical framework to understand the silence.We'll break down exactly how the four attachment styles - Anxious, Dismissive Avoidant, Fearful Avoidant, and Secure - typically process and respond (or not respond) to communication from a past partner. You'll learn…Why your Dismissive Avoidant ex might see your text as a pressure cooker of expectations and need to flee.How your Anxious ex could be overanalyzing every syllable, desperate to reply but terrified of getting it wrong.The reasons a Secure ex might respond with kindness and clarity, but not the reconciliation you hope for.What it means when a Dearful Avoidant (Disorganized) ex's response is hot, cold, and completely confusing.Stop decoding their messages and start decoding their behavior. This episode will give you the clarity you need to stop staring at your screen and start moving forward.Support the show

Today's episode discusses what avoidant attachment looks like early on... which is useful if you've convinced yourself that your partner bait and switched you! Having an objective understanding of each other can transform relationships... and if you're dating right now, this gives you some red flags to look out for if you don't want to be a pursuer forever!Subscribe if you love the DPM show! ⁠https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠ and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Own Your Own Shit!"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit ⁠https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/⁠For therapy or coaching, contact us at ⁠https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

Why do we keep repeating the same patterns in our relationships—no matter how much we want things to change? The answer often lies in our attachment style.In this episode of Linda's Corner: Inspiration for a Better Life, I'm joined by Jack Bohannan, a Relationship & Intimacy Coach and host of the Polarity Unscripted Podcast. Jack helps clients—most often women—heal attachment issues through embodied relationship role play using the Somatica Method. His work offers a path toward creating meaningful, secure, and lasting relationships.Together, we explore:What attachment theory is and why it matters in today's worldThe four main attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidantHow childhood experiences shape the way we connect (or disconnect) as adultsThe three essential components of healing: understanding, new experiences, and collaborationHow Somatica therapy offers a safe space to practice those components and rewire old patternsA powerful conflict repair method that ends fights and deepens connectionIf you've ever felt stuck in cycles of unfulfilling relationships or wondered why intimacy feels so hard, this conversation will bring clarity, hope, and tools for change.Learn more about Jack Bohannan: 

 Avoidant Attachment – The Pull to WithdrawIn this episode, we explore the core traits, beliefs, and relationship patterns of dismissive/avoidant attachment — a style often rooted in early experiences where emotional needs were minimized or dismissed. You'll learn how these protective strategies form, the impact they can have on intimacy, and practical steps to move toward secure, balanced connection without losing your independence.Whether you recognize these patterns in yourself or in someone you love, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and tools for change.In this episode, we mention the How We Feel app that you might want to consider if you are working on emotional awareness. What You'll Learn in This Episode:The childhood experiences that often shape dismissive/avoidant attachmentHow core beliefs like “I can only count on myself” influence adult relationshipsCommon behavioral signs, from emotional suppression to conflict avoidanceThe hidden anxiety behind emotional distancePractical strategies to build emotional tolerance and safety in relationshipsHow to balance independence with authentic vulnerabilityTools to repair connection after withdrawingCourage to Thrive Intensive – October 14-17, 2025 | Spanish Fork, UTAre you ready to begin healing from betrayal and reclaim your life? Join us for the Courage to Thrive Intensive, a transformative four-day experience designed to help women process trauma, set healthy boundaries, and rebuild trust in themselves and their relationships. Through a mix of somatic healing, practical tools, group support, and expert guidance, you'll gain clarity, release what's holding you back, and step into a life of hope, strength, and purpose.Whether you're just starting your healing journey or looking to deepen it, this intensive provides a safe and nurturing space to connect, grow, and thrive. Reach out to the Choose Recovery Services office by calling or texting (702) 277-9145. Or email them at info@chooserecoveryservices.com for more information. We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

In this powerful solo episode of The Authentic Man Podcast, host and men's dating & relationship coach David Chambers tackles a hidden relationship killer that quietly sabotages love from the inside: avoidant attachment. If you've ever felt the spark with someone only to suddenly pull away, go hot-and-cold, or find yourself chasing freedom instead of connection — this episode is a mirror. David reveals how avoidance shows up in men as emotional shutdown, shallow intimacy, hyper-independence, and constant fault-finding — and why these patterns aren't strength, but fear. Left unchecked, they destroy trust, kill attraction, and keep you stuck in cycles of failed dating and unstable relationships. Drawing from years of coaching hundreds of men (and his own journey through avoidant patterns), David unpacks the unhealthy masculine and feminine energies at play — and shows why being guarded, distant, or overthinking everything is not the answer. Most importantly, he shares a practical roadmap to break the chains of avoidance, open up emotionally, embody healthy masculine leadership, and finally build the kind of love that feels safe, passionate, and lasting. Whether you're tired of short-lived flings, struggling with commitment, or already in a relationship that feels unstable, this episode is your guide to move from avoidance to authentic connection — and to stop pushing love away. #DatingAdviceForMen #AuthenticManPodcast #AvoidantAttachment #MasculineFeminine #MensCoach #EmotionalIntimacy #RealConnection      

This episode originally aired on April 3, 2023 (Episode 343), and we're bringing it back because it resonated with so many of you. Whether you're reflecting on a past relationship, navigating one right now, or supporting clients through these dynamics, the lessons are worth revisiting. Why are people with anxious attachment styles and avoidant attachment styles drawn to each other? Can anxious-avoidant relationships work, and most importantly, can they be healthy and satisfying? Yes, they can. But the key is through your understanding of yourself, and of your partner. When you develop true understanding and empathy for your differences, you can create profound connection, and a genuinely secure and healing relationship for both of you. This episode is going to show you how. If you're in an anxious-avoidant relationship, or have been in one before, I hope it helps you understand these dynamics from a new perspective, and empowers you to move toward greater connection and security. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Attachment Styles Matter   02:42 Core Conflict: Desire for Closeness vs. Space   07:04 The Push-Pull Dynamic of Anxious and Avoidant Partners   11:08 Can Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Be Healthy?   16:09 Finding Compatible Partners & Building Security   17:02 Strategies for Anxious Attachment   18:06 Strategies for Avoidant Attachment   33:04 Why Anxious and Avoidant Partners Are Drawn Together   42:05 Avoidant Discomfort with Closeness & Anxious Pursuing Behaviors   45:06 Doing the Work: Self-Awareness and Self-Management   49:04 Practical Tools for Avoidant Partners   55:00 True Love as a Conscious Choice   Want to know where your relationship stands today? Try my free How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz. It gives you quick insights into what's working well and where you might want to focus your growth together. If this resonated with you, let's keep it going. I share more relationship advice and tools on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube, and I'd love to hear your thoughts too, whether it's feedback on the show, questions about past episodes, or ideas for what you'd like me to cover next. Let's talk! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self

Join a crow, a fawn, and Luis on a morning walk to chat about the avoidant attachment style.  There is a myth that avoidant attachment style folks are narcissistic psychopaths. He challenges this through the lens of somatics, seeing the avoidant attachment style as a habit in bodies that don't have capacity for connection. Their lack of capacity for their own feelings makes connection feel repressive work. So they push connection away. Instead of processing the feelings they often soothe the big feelings they don't have capacity for with porn, cheating, and addictions. Join Luis for a three-day in-person workshop connecting whole foods nutrition, somatic wisdom, and stress recovery at Kripalu. You can read more about, and register, here. You can register for the FREE Food Therapy session here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/events/food-therapy-supporting-adhd-with-nutrition Sign up for our 6-month Embodied Relationships group, beginning in October: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/relationship-groupUse the discount code QJSVR73G to save 10% if you register before August 31st.----You can learn more on the website: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/ Learn more about the self-led course here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/self-led-new Join the waitlist to pre-order Luis' book here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/the-book You can follow Luis on Instagram @holistic.life.navigationQuestions? You can email us at info@holisticlifenavigation.com

Send us a textIs it okay for your partner to take space and drop off the face of the earth without responding to your texts or calls? Not if you're in a serious committed relationship. This podcast explains why and what you should do. If you're avoidant attached and want to know how to ask for space without your partner getting upset- listen to this podcast. Please share this podcast if you found it helpful. Support the show

In this episode, Sabrina sits down with Tom Stroud from Love Is Blind UK to tackle your biggest dating dilemmas—avoidant attachment, emotional intelligence, and why modern dating feels so polarized. They debunk myths like "if he wanted to, he would", discuss texting anxiety, and share personal stories of growth from avoidance to security. Want to submit your questions or profile to the show? Send in your text threads, your profile screenshots, or anything else to inthetrenches@sabrinazohar.com for a chance to be featured on a future episode. Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! If you've ever felt like you're too much, not enough, or always chasing validation in dating or relationships, the Self Love Course gives you the tools to rebuild your worth from the inside out HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can't control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Get 35% off your entire order at Lolablankets.com by using code SABRINA at checkout. Experience the world's #1 blanket with Lola Blankets. Visit https://trovatrip.com/trip to find your next adventure! The $100 promo code SABRINA applies to all trips. Function includes over 160+ lab tests—so you can better see what's happening under the surface and actually take action. . Visit www.functionhealth.com/SABRINA Hero Bread is offering 10% off your order. Go to hero.co and use code SABRINA at checkout. Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

This week Rose is back and we are joined by a brand new guest, Larry, my best friend Nina's partner. Larry has never been on the pod before but when he told me he has ghosted a lot of women in the past (not Nina of course) I knew we had to get him on. With Rose still reeling from being ghosted by “Miller” we decided to get inside the mind of a ghoster and unpack why it happens, from attachment styles to dating habits, and hear a straight male perspective on the whole thing. Send us your questions and stories to be featured on da pod https://www.brokegirltherapy.com/contact-page Support our sponsors and BGT by using the codes below: BetterHelp: As a listener, you'll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at BetterHelp.com/brokegirl Mood: Mood.com PROMO CODE: BROKEGIRL for 20% off your first order Dipsea: DIPSEAstories.com/brokegirl Stefanie Maegan https://www.instagram.com/brokegirltherapy/ https://www.instagram.com/stefaniemaegan/ Rose McAleese https://www.instagram.com/rose_ettastone/ https://thenewblogontheblock.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if your patterns didn't define you, but showed you EXACTLY where you can grow?Why do we keep choosing the same people—even when we know better?If you've felt luckless, stuck, or so far away from the loving partnership you want in life, we've got the MOST expansive episode for you.In this powerful conversation, Jessica welcomes renowned relationship teacher and NYT best-selling author and podcast host, Jillian Turecki, for a grounded, radically honest look at why our love lives can feel stuck, painful, or endlessly cyclical—even after doing years of self-help work.They explore what it really means to take accountability without blame, why nervous system regulation is the missing piece in most relationship advice, and how to tell the difference between a need and a wound. Jillian opens up about her own divorce, how her father's betrayal shaped her patterns, and what it took to fully reclaim her worth.You'll also hear practical tools for pausing reactivity, unpacking unhealthy dynamics, and moving from “I am this” to “I'm working on this.” Whether you're heartbroken, dating, partnered, or reflecting on your past, this episode will give you a new framework for conscious love.Healing your relationship patterns isn't about finding the perfect person—it's about becoming your truest self so the most aligned dynamic can find you.**Trigger Warning: Brief mention of “Big T” childhood traumas between 50:35 through 51:18 **Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: Join the Pathway MembershipUse code EXPANDED for 20% off your first month! Join our membership to access the TBM Money Challenge Now Live!The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential.LEARN MORE HERE Get the latest from TBMJoin our Money Challenge - 3 weeks to your next level of abundanceTake our Free Money Quiz - find out what level of wealth consciousness you are at Join the Pathway now to get full access to our Money Challenge when it launches June 2nd, 2025 – Join the Pathway (use code EXPANDED for 20% off first month) New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryReady to find out what's holding you back? Try our Free Clarity Exercise Be an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation StorySubmit to Be a Process GuestWhat did you manifest during the Money Challenge? Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! This Episode is brought to you by: Seed - Use 25MAGNETIC at checkout for 25% off your first month@seed's DS-01® Daily Synbiotic Bon Charge - 15% off with code MAGNETIC Infrared PEMF MatThe BON CHARGE Infrared PEMF Mat is my absolute go-to product! I use it almost daily to ground my nervous system, drop in deeper into my meditations & help my body recover after big hikes. The highest quality and most biohacking stacked mat I've seen on the market! Use code MAGNETIC at checkout for 15% off. us.boncharge.com/MAGNETIC In This Episode We Talk About:How to take accountability in relationships without falling into self-blameThe connection between childhood wounds and adult relationship dynamicsRecognizing emotional needs vs. surface-level triggers in partnershipWhy reactivity destroys connection—and how to build the pause muscleThe myth of finding “everything” in one personHow trauma bonds are formed through shared emotional woundsHow personal accountability and nervous system regulation can lead you to your highest selfMoving from fixed identity (“I am avoidant”) to fluid healingTools for catching black-and-white thinking and inner protector partsShifting from victimhood to empowerment in family relationshipsWhy your partner is a mirror—and how to read the reflectionChoosing partners as a reflection of your evolving self-worth Mentioned In the Episode: Jillian's book: It Begins With You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life Find our Money Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership (Including the Conflict DI, Self-Love DI, and Reset DI) Connect with Jillian!Jillian on IG @jilliantureckiJillian's podcast On LoveIt Begins With You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast

Conflict is part of every relationship, but how we handle it is what really matters.In the final episode of our mini-series with cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa, we're diving into what's actually happening in your brain during conflict, and how your patterns, reactions and even past experiences can shape the way you argue, avoid, or shut down.We unpack the difference between healthy and unhealthy conflict, how to stop reacting on autopilot, and the small communication shifts that can lead to stronger, more secure relationships.Whether you avoid conflict at all costs or tend to meet it head-on, this episode is full of practical tools to help you navigate tough conversations with more self-awareness and a little less drama.More from Alexis: @alexisfernandezpreiksaFollow us: @movewithus | @racheljdillon

We often talk about the emotional distance of avoidant attachers—but what if that “selfishness” is actually a protective coping mechanism?In this episode, I unpack how avoidant attachment can stem from emotional neglect and how hyper-independence becomes a substitute for unmet emotional needs. I share a personal story, common patterns I see in clients, and why adjusting expectations (on both sides) is key for healthy, interdependent relationships.Whether you're dating someone avoidant or navigating your own avoidant patterns, this episode will help you better understand the “why” behind the behavior—and how to create more compassion and clarity in your relationships.*Learn about Attachment Coaching with Jessica HERE.

Unlock the secrets to building healthy relationships with avoidant partners in this episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show. Sabrina breaks down the realities of dating someone with avoidant attachment, debunks common myths, and shares practical tools to foster genuine connection. Whether you're struggling to understand an avoidant partner or want to improve your own relationship skills, this video offers expert advice and actionable steps for deeper intimacy and trust. What you'll learn: - What avoidant attachment really means in dating - Signs you're dating someone with avoidant tendencies - Myths vs. facts about avoidant attachment styles - Tools and strategies to build real connection - How to communicate and set boundaries effectively Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! If you've ever felt like you're too much, not enough, or always chasing validation in dating or relationships, the Self Love Course gives you the tools to rebuild your worth from the inside out HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can't control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Hero Bread is offering 10% off your order. Go to hero.co and use code SABRINA at checkout. For a limited time, IDEO U is offering my listeners FIFTEEN PERCENT OFF SITEWIDE! Go HERE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

If you've ever felt anxious when they pull away—or like you shut down when things get too close—this is for you. In this video, I'll teach you how to heal your attachment style for good. If you're ready to join the 21-Day Confidence Love Challenge and step into your most magnetic and confident self, join here: ➡️ https://www.confidencelovechallenge.com/

In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, we dive into the complexities of commitment by exploring our contrasting perspectives—one of us grappling with a fear of merging in relationships, the other reflecting on a tendency to overcommit. We unpack how childhood experiences, parental relationship models, and societal pressures shape our views on intimacy, boundaries, and compatibility. From the gamification of dating culture to generational differences in approaching relationships, we examine the challenges Gen X and Gen Z face in defining commitment. We also discuss the emotional weight of erectile dysfunction and the unrealistic expectations placed on male sexuality. Through honest conversation, we question traditional norms and explore the idea that commitment doesn't have to be one-size-fits-all—sometimes, a redefined or intermittent approach may lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Commitment Phobia 00:02:21 - Commitment & Relationship Anxiety 04:40 - Commitment & Childhood Trauma 07:39 - Commitment Phobia & Dynamics 10:25 - Commitment, Casual Sex & Polyamory 13:10 - Commitment Issues & Attachment 15:14 - Avoidant Attachment & Dynamics 17:41 - Commitment vs. Incompatibility 20:00 - Commitment & "Perfect" Partners 22:20 - Dating Exhaustion & Sex Drought Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ  (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social:  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text