Fist Bump with Kristen Duke

Sharing my thoughts to you teen friends about coming out as gay after the parenting podcast interview with a mom whose son came out. Listen to that after, or encourage your parents to listen, you can do that here: Teens Coming Out Message me on Instagram ANYTIME @FistBump.Podcast Or send me an email! kristenduke@gmail.com I love hearing from you, and hope to be a trusted adult friend if you don't have one to turn to.

My friends, I hope you haven't known the pain of sexual abuse, but if you or a friend have, please listen to this episode. If you have not, I share some prevention tools and how to set boundaries so hopefully in your dating experiences you can advocate for yourself.  I mention my blog post at KristenDuke.com where I share some links and a printable you can download to read by yourself or with your parents on setting boundaries and hopefully preventing future abuse, as well as tips for Trauma Therapy if you have PTSD from past abuse.  Please email or message me on Instagram if you feel you don't have a trusted friend to talk to, I don't want you to be alone. kristenduke @ gmail.com FistBump.Podcast on Instagram

Sharing a snippet of my chat with Ruby from @8passengers as we talk about teens and dating, along with things to look for and include on your LIST and what are red flags.  For more of our chat, tune into the Beyond Good Intentions parenting podcast episode #94 where we go more in depth on this topic. Go to my website www.KristenDuke.com to download a printable list for you to consider and then make your own list for qualities you'd like to look for in dating for a future spouse. It's not too early to start thinking about it NOW! Join our chats on @FistBump.Podcast

As a follow up to last weeks episode, I wanted to focus on body image specifically. Your body is not an ornament, it's an instrument.  Support the podcast by shopping on Amazon through our Amazon store: https://www.amazon.com/shop/capturingjoykristenduke Email me or DM at @FistBump.Podcast on Instagram

I hope you will all take the chance to listen to this episode and dieting and eating disorders. My guest struggled for 15 years, and she has a lot of great insight to hopefully stop any negative thinking before it starts, or IN ITS TRACKS. I've got two free prints that go along with this episode that you can print at: https://kristenduke.com/teens-and-eating-disorders/ If you feel your parents could benefit from a similar topic, have them listen to episode #91 from the Beyond Good Intentions parenting podcast.  Join us at @FistBump.Podcast if you're not already there!

I'm sharing a little GLITTER analogy in the episode today to offer an idea for when you are on emotional overload.  I've got a print you can download here: GLITTER print You'll see it's on the post where I'm trying to help parents respond to teens emotional whirlwinds. I think it's OK to have moments where you roll your eyes, but best to talk it out when emotions have settled on both sides.  Listen and email me with any extra thoughts or leave an iTunes review!

In this FIRST episode of 2020, I'm speaking with a certified counselor all about tips for RELIEVING STRESS! It's a quick listen, if you love it you can: Share with a friend Comment on @FistBump.Podcast IG Leave an iTunes review!

Whether your parents are divorced or not, I encourage you to listen to this episode, because it can help you better understand your friends with divorced parents.  And if you DO have friends whose parents are divorced, PLEASE SHARE THIS EPISODE! Head on over to Instagram and share your thoughts over there: @FistBump.Podcast  Shop our AMAZON STORE for our favorite things!

Do you feel like your parents are controlling? Are you exhibiting self control? Listen up, and hear my thoughts on how to help your parents let go of the reins a little bit. @FistBump.Podcast

My friend Emily is just barely 17, already enrolled in college, has a few businesses under her belt, and guess what? Didn't graduated high school!  There are so many routes to get to a career destination, and Emily opened my eyes to other options. Join the discussion this week on the @FistBump.Podcast Instagram page. It's ok to seek out alternative options!  You can find Emily a few places on Instagram: @TheSheJewels @EmilyLoderup @EmLoderupPhotography I hope you'll look her up! I'm also grateful to those who share this episode or any other episodes on Instagram or texting your friends that might enjoy it. Our AMAZON store shopping is a great way to support this podcast as well, so check out our favorites!

This episode is about how to avoid isolation and better monitor yourself on those beloved SCREENS that we all love! Our devices are so amazing: they get us to where we want to go, allow us to check out and forget about life for a bit, and have unlimited technology at our fingertips. But it can also be to our detriment, and we all need to do our part to monitor ourselves. PLEASE LISTEN AND SHARE! AMAZON STORE: I added a few nature posters that you can hang in your room and remind you to GET OUTSIDE! It's good for the soul. Ted Talk: Why screens make us less happy.

Whether you have already started dating, or waiting for that day, this episode covers all of your questions, and if not, we will be discussing more on Instagram this week at @FistBump.Podcast.  Dating is FUN, but you have to go into it with realistic expectations, knowing it's also HARD and emotional and meant to be discussed with a parent or trusted adult friend that can help you navigate these rough waters.  My friend @Kaylee.Burton is my guest today, and I love hearing her thoughts on teen dating! She is 21, so has stepped into the college dating realm, so she has fresh, recent perspective on teen dating. Check out the book: Dating Never Works Until it Does in our AMAZON store.  Continue chatting with us on Instagram: @FistBump.Podcast

Do you feel trapped? This episode is about getting free of the trap, and being connected to reality. I hope you'll listen all the way through.  Please message me on Instagram (@FistBump.Podcast) or email me at KristenDuke@gmail.com with any questions or concerns or ANYTHING!  Episode guest is @Freein13 on Instagram

My fabulous teen friend Jenny is here to chat today about a sports injury that took over a lot of her high school experience and sat her on the bench of her favorite sport, soccer. She is someone I really look up to, and felt heartbroken that she had to experience this as a teen, but I'm grateful she's here to share her story with all of you, in hopes it can give you strength as well. Check out our favorite strength training gear in our AMAZON STORE. Share this episode with a friend who has had a sports injury. Join us on Instagram at @FistBump.Podcast Leave a review on iTunes!

Grateful to have my 18 year old friend Eross as my guest today. I love hearing from my teen friends, and he is someone I see as positive in so many instances, I knew he'd be a great interview to chat about challenges. He just graduated high school and is heading out on a mission in a few days, so I'm happy to was about to record this chat before he leaves! If you loved this episode, listen to a few others! Share the podcast with your friends with a link or screenshot. Leave us a review on iTunes, too! Check out our favorites for our teen friends in our Amazon store.  Nominate a friend or topic on @FistBump.Podcast on Instagram.

Ok, so this episode is all about Bullying. Whether you've experienced it or seen it, please listen! And share with your friends! Amber from @TeenTake30 has some great tips really for anyone that has experienced unkindness. She shares how we can prepare our mind for such things. She also explains the definition of Bullying, which is good because I think that word is really overused.  Check out the AMAZON store for some gratitude journals and meditation accessories!

This week I launched my oldest son Tyler out into the adult world, and before that, I interviewed him on the Beyond Good Intentions parenting podcast all about how he was prepared to launch. Though I'm not chatting with him on this episode,  I chat about some things you can ask for help in learning to do before you fly the coop, move out, launch into the world!  I also invite you to listen to #76 of Beyond Good Intentions if you'd like to hear more! See the AMAZON STORE for a bunch of things we got to send him on his mission. Thanks for sharing with others!

You can't be in perpetual motion all the time. It's important to slow down, and if you feel your life has too many things going on, sit down and talk to your parents about how you can find balance. Chatting with my friend @BeckyProudfit, and we also chatted to the adults about the same topic in the Beyond Good Intentions podcast episode #75, so have your parents listen if this is something they need to hear! Somehow I was able to slip in a story about myself playing basketball in middle school.  Shop in the AMAZON STORE for our favorite goodies or anything you might need!

I'm very excited to chat about the process of making strawberry jam! The preserving process, and how we can apply it to our life and relationships.  Tune in, share with your friends, and discuss it together! Check out the Amazon store with all of the strawberry goodness I found!  

Some of you may have already started a new school year, while others have a few more weeks. In this episode I share some tips that will help you by making some personal goals and just my own thoughts about how to start your year off fabulously.  Come chat with us on Instagram at @FistBump.podcast   Check out our favorite TEEN BACKPACKS in the AMAZON store!  

After an email from a fabulous teen listener, I put together my thoughts on how to avoid toxic friendships for this episode. While sharing a good deal from a book I'm reading with my teens: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teenagers. It's a fun book with pictures and short stories highlighting each habit, give it a try!

Whether you are already on social media or not, in this episode I talk about my best tips for navigating social media in a safe way. Most importantly, aim to be in tune with yourself, take a break if you need to! Listen with your parents and discuss it.  Grab the e-book HERE: Teens and Social Media I also chatted about my AMAZON store in the episode: My favorite phone case and my daughters Air Pods. Grateful in advance for any shares of this episode, iTunes reviews, or just joining in the party on Instagram at @FistBump.Podcast 

I love that Claire will willing to chat about her Depression and help dispel the stigma that it should be kept in secret. She's learned from her mom that having depression is just like a common cold, and isn't to be met with shame.  Our Amazon episode product is an ear bud case, listen as to WHY! I also asked if anyone is interested in becoming an intern for the podcast, message me on Instagram or email me: kristenduke@gmail.com  

Learning to shut out negative thoughts is something that so many teens struggle with. I spoke about this a bit in Fist Bump episode #3 Battling Insecurities. So if you haven't already listened to that one, DO IT! I had my family listen recently to two different podcasts recently, all of us together, with plans to listen to the third. It's great to be able to listen with someone else, take notes, and then discuss. That's what we did, one on a car trip, one in our family room. All are linked below for easy listening. Fist Bump episode #7 on Anxiety and Perfectionism with Leigh Germann, she is a therapist and Oprah's Super Soul Podcast: Michael Singer-- Free Yourself from Negative Thoughts Overcoming Anxiety by Brooke Castillo (this is the one we haven't listened to altogether yet, but I listened solo and really want them to hear). If you struggle with negative thoughts, PLEASE take the time to listen to the above links.  Consider shopping on AMAZON going through our store to support this podcast. Anything you buy, when going first through this link within 24 hours, helps! Head on over to Instagram and message me about anything we discussed or questions you want me to ask my teen friends who recently graduated from high school! @FistBump.Podcast on Instagaram.  

In this episode I'm talking with Amber about Body Confidence and steps we can all take to obtain it. She talks about the difference between comparison and competition, and the importance of CARBS in life!  Resilience and self love is so important, because we will experience people in our life that don't like us, but what we really need is to remember long term. She shares some steps on how to do that in this episode. AMAZON ITEM FOR THE EPISODE: Strength training bands I also talked about a book that my kids and I will be discussing this summer on Instagram, every Monday at 10am CENTRAL called: The 7 Habits for Highly Effective Teens.  You can see all of our episode AMAZON recommendations in the Amazon Store. Follow along on Instagram: @FistBump.Podcast 

Surviving childhood leukemia brought on a great deal of survivors guilt for Jamie. She felt like a disappointment, uncertain why she survived when she had known so many other cancer patients that she adored, who weren't so lucky. She was bullied in high school, felt angry towards her parents, and just didn't understand why she was so special to have survived. She speaks of her suicide attempts, wanting to quiet the voices in her head. As an adult, and coming through on the other side, she travels around teaching youth about the importance of talking to someone when they are in these dark places.  I was happy to hear her weigh in on Affirmations, because it's a HOT TOPIC right now. She spoke about the power behind the positive words we speak, when we start to believe them. Find Jamie at @SurvivingTheBubble on Instagram Head to the AMAZON store to support this podcast! 

Last week I told you I was going to delve into my teenager journals, and in this episode, I'm telling you about my first BIG crush in middle school! I got some good laughs looking back, but also pretty pleased to see that middle school ME had a healthy dose of self confidence.  I truly believe that in writing we discover ourselves, and I hope you've taken the challenge to practice.  Come chat about it with me on Instagram: @FistBump.Podcast Leave a review, send me a DM, when you buy on AMAZON, go through my link first to help me fund this podcast!

"Writing regularly is the path to self discovery." My husband gave me a gift last year with this quote attached, and I have thought about it over and over since then. As a teenager, I was an avid journal writer, and looking back, I truly believe that because I wrote so much about my day, my friends, my feelings, my frustrations, that I developed a good healthy dose of self confidence and awareness. I really got to know and understand myself, and that has really benefitted me in my life. Come listen to my thoughts on this, and since it's episode TEN, I've issued a challenge that I'd love your help with and a reward for joining in! Make sure you are following @FistBump.Podcast on Instagram! I loaded the AMAZON STORE with a few cute journals and I encourage you to also check out SIMPLY FORTIFY for some really nice journals. I also referenced MY LOVE STORY in the intro if you'd like a nice beach reach this summer!

I got a fabulous review from "Boo Boo" and they suggested I share an episode on how to be more active, because they said teens can be on their phone too much. So I took that info and made this episode to address that concern.  I shared some info from two posts I've written previously on KristenDuke.com which are these: Benefits of Outdoor Activities 25 Exercise Ideas to do with family or friends AMAZON favorites for TEENs Thanks for the iTunes reviews, and come share your favorites activities on the FistBump.Podcast Instagram page!

I am so thrilled to have my amazing friend of 35 years on the podcast today talking about Dating and Waiting (for marriage to have sex). She is gorgeous, athletic, and has one of the coolest jobs I know, but hasn't found "the one" yet. She shares about making a promise to herself when she was a teenager, and how that has been tested, but she has held her ground, having integrity.  She talks about how she's seen other have loneliness, commitment issues, feelings of insecurity doing what "everyone else is doing." Whatever you choose for yourself, I hope this inspires you to love yourself, and have integrity. >>>Our Amazon episode product is a few cute prom dresses I found as well as a mens suit and tie set I found, so check out this weeks FAVORITES FOR TEENS on this link right there. >>>If you aren't already following on the @FistBump.podcast instagram page, head there to see pictures of my friend and I!

My friend! If you feel the need to be perfect, and get anxious about it, I hope you'll listen to this episode with my friend, a mental health professional, Leigh Germann. I heard her speak a few years ago at a conference, and I am so excited that I got her to share a few thoughts with you in this episode.  Check out the de-stressor Phantom Thinking Putty in the AMAZON store.  Share this episode with your parents and friends and TALK about it!!! I'd love you to message me or comment on instagram your thoughts! Instagram: @FistBump.Podcast

I'm chatting with my friend Avery in this episode, a fellow teen wanting to know thoughts on how to improve conversation with people. I love that she asked, and I love even more that she was willing to come on and chat with me! Message me on Instagram and share any topics you'd like me to cover and if you're up for coming on the show! Amazon item of the week: Would you Rather Game Cards @FistBump.Podcast on Instagram

When life gives you lemons: make lemonade. This is a phrase you've likely heard in your life, right? I wanted to dissect it, discuss it, share with you some lemons I've had thrown at me this week, and hopefully help you see that we can turn our sour life "lemons" into something else. Episode AMAZON favorite: Lemon Squeezer (I use it daily) Alex Boye' Lemonade Video (Fun and funny and catchy song) What to do when life gives you lemons. Quotes used from this business article.  Benefits of Drinking Lemon Water I also love this Lemonade song Thank you for sharing this episode and our Instagram with your friends!  @FistBump.Podcast on IG

You make mistakes, mistakes don’t make you. It’s not how we make mistakes, but in how we correct them that defines us. In this episode, we talk about something that seems to be a major concern for teens, imperfectionism. We talk about the difference between shame and guilt, and I share a clip from one of my favorite TED Talks: Listening to Shame. I encourage you to click on that link and listen to it after this episode! >>>Our Amazon item that we love that I mention in this episode is the game Telestrations! Have you played before? Check it out on Amazon and if you purchase that or ANYTHING within 24 hours, it sends a little thank you our way. See all of our favorites for teens on Amazon. If you haven't already, join us on Instagram at @FistBump.Podcast  Share the link for this episode or any other with your friends, we appreciate it!

We all have insecurities, and in this episode we talked about the opposite of insecure and what we can do to flip it around. >>>Our Amazon featured product for this episode are CRAZY SOCKS! I love unique socks and I think some might feel insecure to wear them, but I say EMBRACE THE CRAZY! I've always loved the fun individuality that comes from wearing them, and they are surely a conversation piece! I've linked to a pair of llama socks above, but you can see more socks (and some with matching ties) in the Favorites for Teens section of the Amazon Store.  Ted Talk I referenced: Overcoming Your Insecurity and Looks Aren't Everything (by a model) If you loved this episode, please consider leaving a review on iTunes! Come on over to Instagram and chat with us, too @FistBump.Podcast 

What is grit? I read a handful of descriptions in this episode, and I also share a brief interview with my brother Russ who recently completed a 100 mile race.  >>>I shared about our favorite Camelbak Hydration Backpack in this episode. We love it for hikes (hands free water system) and my boys love it to take on long runs.  Article I referenced: When to Quit I'd love you to leave an iTunes Review. I won't hate if you share this with your friends. Come chat with me on Instagram @FistBump.Podcast

Welcome to the very first episode of the FIST BUMP PODCAST! I thought I'd kick off this very first episode sharing about an experience when I was a teen with loneliness.  I also talk about the distinction between being lonely or sad and depression and how to tell the difference.  I referenced this article on the podcast: What Causes Loneliness Check out the AMAZON STORE for our favorite things. I'd love you to leave an iTunes Review. Come chat with me on Instagram @FistBump.Podcast Thanks for joining along, if you enjoyed it, please share this with your friends!  

Welcome to the Fist Bump podcast, I'm Kristen Duke, and with this podcast, I aim to share positivity and encouragement to teenagers, offering a virtual FIST BUMP on the daily through this podcast and Instagram @FistBump.Podcast I've run a parenting podcast, Beyond Good Intentions for the past year, and I decided to start this second podcast just for teens because I think they could use some extra encouragement and positivity.  Thanks for checking this out...I'd love you to listen, share, offer suggestions for future discussions, and come back for more! I would also LOVE for you to leave an iTunes review if you are excited about this!