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Enjoy this encore of Career Notes. Executive Security Advisor at IBM Security Limor Kessem says she started her cybersecurity career by pure chance. Limor made a change from her childhood dream of being a doctor and came into cybersecurity with her passion, investment, discipline, and perseverance. Limor talks about how we must tighten our core security and at the same time we allow innovation to help us move forward with the times. She's been fortunate to have been able to stand up for others and has had others support her. She said that is very motivating and has allowed her to really explore every possible thing in her career that she can contribute without limiting herself to a certain role. We thank Limor for sharing her story with us. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Enjoy this encore of Career Notes. Executive Security Advisor at IBM Security Limor Kessem says she started her cybersecurity career by pure chance. Limor made a change from her childhood dream of being a doctor and came into cybersecurity with her passion, investment, discipline, and perseverance. Limor talks about how we must tighten our core security and at the same time we allow innovation to help us move forward with the times. She's been fortunate to have been able to stand up for others and has had others support her. She said that is very motivating and has allowed her to really explore every possible thing in her career that she can contribute without limiting herself to a certain role. We thank Limor for sharing her story with us. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we hear from 4 awesome students at a school in Victoria, Australia. They share their experiences of racism and what they wish those around them had done. We highly recommend visiting RacismNoWay for fantastic resources on being an upstander, dealing with bias and racism. Did you know that Grow Your Mind is a wellbeing program you can get into your school? Written by teachers, for teachers, we have lesson plans, videos, animations, an album on Spotify full of non-painful yet life-affirming songs AND we also have a few awards under our belt. Find out more by visiting GrowYourMind.Life Production Scriptwriter and executive producer: Alice PeelProducer, editing & sound design: Cinnamon Nippard Copyright Grow Your Mind 2025. All rights reserved.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode is through the eyes of Rosie, a kid trying to find their feet in high school. Core messages are around being true to yourself, being kinder than necessary, and an upstander's important role in shutting down racism. We strongly encourage you to head to our website and download a free teaching guide to use with your students before playing this episode and episode 4. You will hear racist slurs in this episode. Did you know that Grow Your Mind is a wellbeing program you can get into your school? Written by teachers, for teachers, we have lesson plans, videos, animations, an album on Spotify full of non-painful yet life-affirming songs AND we also have a few awards under our belt. Find out more by visiting GrowYourMind.Life Production Scriptwriter and executive producer: Alice PeelProduction, editing & sound design: Cinnamon Nippard Copyright Grow Your Mind 2025. All rights reserved. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Alice Fornari, who wrote the section of the Antiracism Module titled Diversity and Cultural Humility, discusses the section concepts including calling in vs. calling out, and an upstander. She is an Associate Dean of Educational Skills Development at Zucker School of Medicine at Hofstra/Northwell and Vice President of Faculty Development for Northwell Health comprised of 23 hospitals. Her role aligns UME, GME and the CME continuum. She is a fellow of the Association of Medical Education of Europe. She received the Distinguished Career Award for Excellence in Teaching and Educational Scholarship in 2021 from the International Association of Medical Science Educators. She was co-editor of the new IAMSE Manual entitled Mentoring in Health Professions Education: Evidence-Based Strategies Across the Continuum. In 2022, she received the AAMC Northeast Group of Educational Affairs “outstanding medical educator award” and graduated from the Academy for Professionalism in Health Care Leadership program in 2021.  

Do you, as an educator or parent, wish there was a guidebook for combatting antisemitism? Look no further than Lynne Azarchi and Harlene Lichter Galen's new curriculum: Countering Anti-Semitism and Hate: A How-to Guide for Youth, Family, and Educators.  In a conversation with David Bryfman, the authors share insights from three years of research and emphasize the importance of transforming bystanders into upstanders by instilling pride in Jewish identity. Together, they explore how stereotypes and tropes have caused generations of harm and why fostering strong Jewish identity is essential for equipping youth to stand up against bias. This guidebook is a resource for parents, educators, and anyone looking to empower the next generation to face hate with knowledge, strength, and dignity. Purchase the guide here.This episode was produced by Dina Nusnbaum and Miranda Lapides. The show's executive producers are David Bryfman, Karen Cummins, and Nessa Liben.  This episode was engineered and edited by Nathan J. Vaughan of NJV Media.  If you enjoyed the show, please leave us a 5-star rating and review, or even better, share it with a friend. Be sure to subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts and be the first to know when new episodes are released. To learn more about The Jewish Education Project visit jewishedproject.org where you can find links to our Jewish Educator Portal and learn more about our mission, history, and staff. We are a proud partner of UJA-Federation of New York. 

October is Bullying prevention month. I couldn't let the month get past without touching on the importance of teaching students to be "upstanders" as a key bullying prevention strategy. I am introducing the concept of an upstander as someone who witnesses bullying and intervenes to stop it, in contrast to a bystander who does nothing.We will discuss the benefits of empowering students to be upstanders, including preventing future bullying, supporting targets, and reducing bullying-related anxiety and depression. I will also touch on several teaching strategies for introducing the upstander concept, such as traditional lessons, interactive games, and digital resources. Some highlights from this episode include: Learning the importance of teaching students the different roles in bullying (bully, target, bystander) and avoiding stigmatizing language like "victim." Diving deeper on the concept of an upstander is defined as someone who witnesses bullying and intervenes to stop it, in contrast to a bystander. Highlighting the numerous benefits of teaching upstanders as a highly empowering bullying prevention  Teaching methods, including lessons, games, Boom Cards, and videos, to introduce and reinforce the upstander concept. Listen in and see what you can implement before the month is over!    Resources mentioned: Join my school counselor membership IMPACT here! If you are enjoying School Counseling Simplified please follow and leave us a review on Apple Podcasts! Check out this Upstander blog Connect with Rachel: TpT Store Blog Instagram Facebook Page Facebook Group Pinterest  Youtube More About School Counseling Simplified: School Counseling Simplified is a podcast offering easy to implement strategies for busy school counselors. The host, Rachel Davis from Bright Futures Counseling, shares tips and tricks she has learned from her years of experience as a school counselor both in the US and at an international school in Costa Rica. You can listen to School Counseling Simplified on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, and more!

SUSAN COTTRELL is an international speaker whose TEDx talk has 1.6 million views. OutSmart magazine called her “The Mother of All MamaBears.” The Advocate dubbed her “our favorite affirming matriarch.” She is a prominent voice for the LGBTQ community and their faith parents who has been featured on ABC's 20/20, Nightline and Good Morning America, on NBC News Out, and as a contributor on the Our Bible app. She […]

This is our final installment of our three-part mini-series highlighting topics that will be covered in AVMA's Journey for Teams Educational Sharpenings. In this episode, we are focusing on how to be an upstander and stay interviews. We are joined by Dr. Latonia Craig, AVMA's Chief Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion Officer and Dr. Jen Brandt, AVMA's Director of Member Wellbeing and Diversity Initiatives. They discuss the significance of being an upstander in the workplace, the implementation of stay interviews to gauge employee satisfaction, and the importance of trust and communication in leadership. The episode offers practical advice on fostering a supportive and inclusive culture in veterinary settings.To learn more about all these resources, visit journeyforteams.orgRemember we want to hear from you! Please be sure to subscribe to our feed on Apple Podcasts and leave us a ratings and review. You can also contact us at MVLPodcast@avma.org Follow us on social media @AVMAVets #MyVetLife #MVLPodcast

'You don't want to go somewhere you can't see yourself in.' This week, Mike Short, professor and advocate, shares his experiences with diversity and equity in academia. While the world has taken many steps forward, Mike acknowledges the many weaknesses and failures of the current system, particularly when it comes to sexual harassment and discrimination.  Host: Katie Koestner Editor: Evan Mader Producer: Emily Wang

You've heard the term "bystander," but probably not "upstander." What is it? Hosts Rob Lawrence, Maia Dorsett and Hilary Gates are joined by University of Pittsburgh's Rickquel Tripp, MD, MPH, CDR, USNR: Vice Chair of Diversity, Inclusion & Health Equity, Department of Emergency Medicine; Associate Professor of Emergency Medicine; EMS Medical Director, Penn Hills, SouthEast Regional, Lower Valley and Foxwall; Emergency Department Attending Physician. Dr. Tripp teaches us about implicit bias and how an upstander will not stand quietly by but will instead engage in support of a person or group who may be being bullied or attacked.  How should we teach this in our EMS systems? How do we create a safe space and a culture that celebrates this behavior? Bias is often motivated by fear, anxiety or the unknown. Resources: NAEMSP Pre Conference Workshop: "Empowering Leadership: Building Equity and Excellence into EMS Systems" on Jan. 8, 2024 8 am-5 pm Upstander Handout The Fearless Organization by Amy Edmonson This podcast is sponsored by EMS Gives Life.  Would you consider becoming a living organ donor? For more info visit www.emsgiveslife.org Check out the Prodigy EMS Bounty Program! Earn $1000 for your best talks! Get your CE at www.prodigyems.com  Follow @ProdigyEMS on Twitter, FB, YouTube & IG.

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*Content warning: divorce, conversion therapy, reorientation therapy, cyberstalking, stalking, fraudulent reporting, emotional and psychological abuse, death threats, and criminal threats. Danny Cords is an organizational psychologist and victim advocate from Seattle. He began harnessing his voice and speaking out for others after leaving conversion therapy in his late teens. But his advocacy mission only intensified after being subjected to years of cyberstalking. He hopes to bring awareness and healing to victims all over the world, as well as legal change too. His related (and unrelated) work and efforts have been featured on the stage, television, radio, podcasts, and more. We are extremely grateful that Danny was willing to share all that came next in his personal, professional, legal, and media journeys. This conversation is even more timely, considering October is Cyberstalking Awareness Month. Danny Cords's website https://www.dannycords.com/ Cybersecurity & Infrastructure Security Agency Info on Cyberstalking Awareness Month https://www.cisa.gov/cybersecurity-awareness-month Rand Corporation on Cybersecurity https://www.rand.org/topics/cybersecurity.html Stalking Prevention, Awareness, & Resource Center stalking statistics https://www.stalkingawareness.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/General-Stalking-Infographic.pdf Organization for Social Media Safety https://www.socialmediasafety.org/ End Tab endtab.org The GSBA https://thegsba.org/ Strictly Stalking Podcast https://www.instagram.com/strictlystalkingpod/ And don't forget to check out Ten Things to Tell You with Laura Tremaine on your preferred podcasting platform! For additional resources, please visit: http://www.somethingwaswrong.com/resources

The prospect of renewed covid restrictions and mandates has a lot of us in a defiant mood. James Howard Kunstler warns those who are tempted to push such measure that we won't be fooled again. The meteoric rise of Oliver Anthony into the public's consciousness has a lot of people wondering why his popularity is exploding. James R. Harrigan has an especially solid take of what this young singer has tapped into. Another fantastic article about Oliver Anthony comes to us courtesy of Tom Luongo. Tom points out that the young man's popularity show us that authenticity--not fame--is the new coin of the realm. This may seem like a strange way to approach the value of the 4-H program but there's a lot of truth in this article. Chloe Coleman advises, in the event of apocalypse, find the nearest 4-H club. Article of the Day: Margaret Anna Alice has a marvelous essay on "How to Be an Upstander." For clarity, an upstander is someone who recognizes when something is wrong and acts to make it right. Good advice for all of us. Sponsors: Monticello College Life Saving Food  TMCP Nation Climbing Upward Quilt & Sew

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Kim and Ernest discuss what it means to be an upstander, and the advantages that upstanders have when confronting bias, prejudice and bullying.

Political hostility is on the rise. The increasing polarisation in the political landscape stands hand in hand with political disengagement and apathy of third parties, and presents a challenge to our democratic institutions. This growing hostility couldn't be more palpable than on the web. Scrolling on your favourite social media platform, you probably run into some hate speech from time to time. How do you typically react in these situations? While research within political science has focused on the hostility and explored how politically hostile behaviour develops, much less attention is given to bystanders and the potential of pro-social bystander reactions to mitigate the negative impact of online political hostility.So this week, we have invited Lasse Lindekilde (Political Science at Aarhus University) & Simon Karg (Political Science at Aarhus University & Interacting Minds Centre) from the STANDBY project to discuss how their research focuses on reactions of bystanders when exposed to online political hostility.Through an array of mixed methods, this project aims at studying the behaviour of bystanders on various social media platforms. How do we react when we encounter online hostility targeted at others? What makes an UPstander and what motivates them? What role plays the platform's incentives in managing hate speech? To learn more about STANDBY, its team, their research, and resources mentioned in the episode, visit the Show Notes on our website.

Kidsbridge is the only evidence-based center dedicated solely to youth in the country, with more than 2,500 preschool, elementary, and middle school youth improving their social-emotional skills each year. Visiting youth divide into small groups to discuss strategies for addressing: bullying, cyberbullying, stereotypes, media literacy, UPstander strategies, bias, diversity appreciation, and other related topics. During Covid, Kidsbridge programs are remote -wherever the students and teachers might be.She graduated from Penn State University (B.A. in Anthropology) and earned an MBA in marketing/marketing research from Columbia University, winning many awards and been published both in local newspapers and academic journals.She is a frequent speaker to major educational groups, including the New Jersey Education Association, the New Jersey School Counselors Association, and the New Jersey Afterschool Conference, as well as the American Alliance of Museums.An active social justice partner Lynne is:Co-founder of La Convivencia – an interfaith social justice advocacy coalitionCo-founder of the Coalition of Natives and Allies – CNA to address racist sports mascotsCo-founder, Sister of Salaam Shalom –SOSS –West Windsor chapterBoard member for American Jewish Committee- Princeton, Capital Philharmonic of NJ, Greater Trenton Jewish Cemeteries, and the Jewish Community Center Abrams Day Camp.Awards:One of three finalists for former New Jersey First Lady Mary Pat Christie's NJ Heroes Award for nonprofits focusing on anti-bullying (2016)Inducted into the New Jersey Women's Hall of Fame (2012)American Conference on Diversity Award – Princeton ChapterCommunity Partner Award – Isles YouthBuild (community-based youth program dealing with high dropout and low employment rates)Merrye Hudis Shavel Pearl Award for Outstanding Community Leadership from the Jewish Federation of Princeton Mercer Buckshttps://empathyadvantagebook.com/about-lynne/

Most of us can recall examples of when a leader or someone we know brought to attention a policy, way of doing things or something someone said that overpowered someone else or a group of people. And we ALL have opportunities to speak up for those who have less power than we do - whether it's someone of another gender or race or a beneficiary.   But how do we speak up in a way that is productive and more likely to have a positive impact? In this episode Chen Kandungure and I discuss when to speak up, when to not speak up, best practices in speaking up on behalf of others, what to do when we speak up and nothing happens and more. Resources mentioned: Becoming a Better Leader Through Greater Self-Awareness Lizzo changing song lyrics based on fans' comments

You just heard from special guest Ada Okafor. Ada is a full-time attorney, diversity equity & inclusion strategist, real estate investor, and business owner of a Minuteman Press in Paoli, PA. She is also a full-time mom to 2 little girls and a full-time wife to a solider. LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ada-okafor-esq-48a05726/ Email Ada: ada.esedebe@gmail.com ~~~~ A podcast for parents who are struggling with taking care of their own wellness and who want to feel seen, feel better, and have more energy. Beth runs an online group program that helps busy parents fit in diet and exercise so they can feel their best, while also finding community, support, accountability and long lasting relationships. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Get a free 5 day Refresh: https://www.bewellwithbethphl.com/freeworkshops Join The Refresh: https://www.bewellwithbethphl.com/TheRefresh Keep the conversation going, join the private WhatsApp group here: https://chat.whatsapp.com/Hd9XqgRVad41mzNUYd55UU ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Email us: Hello@bewellwithbethphl.com Podcast created by Beth Auguste - Registered Dietitian, Nutritionist, Fitness trainer and overloaded mom of two young kids.

“The lessons of history can help educators and students stand up to bigotry and hate,” says Brian Fong, Program Director for the California Facing History and Ourselves chapter. Through this organization, Brian works to help others engage in complex topics, such as race and sexuality. Ultimately, Brian aims to nurture an empathetically challenging environment to facilitate positive change. During his first year of teaching, Brian faced his blind spots through his diverse body of students. Realizing that he needed to become an upstander in society, a person who defends those different from them, Brian began his journey promoting inclusion. He encourages the listeners to have brave conversations that can foster change. Tune into this week's episode of The Language Alchemy Podcast for a straightforward conversation on disrupting the bystander effect. Learn more how you can respond as an upstander when you hear someone making an intolerant comment. Quotes • “The lessons of history can help educators and students stand up to bigotry and hate.” (3:40 - 3:45 | Brian) • “We can talk to one another to prolong a dialogue rather than shut down a conversation.” (14:49 - 14:56 | Brian) • "Being an upstander is tiring, and it's challenging. The more we can have allies and the more people are willing to embrace an upstander mindset, the less burdensome it becomes.” (28:05 - 28:18 | Brian) • “Let's find ways that we can be upstanders together because that will make it easier for this to be the norm, rather than by bystanding." (28:20 - 28:28 | Brian) • “The less we have opportunities to sit in each other's company to share our stories, the less we learn, and the more that we allow other stories and other narratives to be told about us rather than by us for one another.” (31:43 - 31:56 | Brian) Links To learn about Facing History and Ourselves and donate, click here: https://info.facinghistory.org/san-francisco-bay-area-25th-anniversary To view Loretta Ross Ted Talk, click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xw_720iQDss To ask your communication questions, click here: languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To join the mailing list, visit: languagealchemy.com Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqDI Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm

Sandy chats with Howard Prager (Chicago, IL) author of Make Someone's Day about the value of being an upstander. He also discusses the VIP Model (V=view, I=identify, P=plan) in leading your cause.Beat the Big GuysHost: Sandy Rosenthalhttps://www.sandyrosenthal.netConnect with Sandy on Instagram: @beatthebigguysProducer: Jess Branashttps://www.branasenterprises.com

Conversations: Damilola Olukoju, Software Engineer at Inlaks Nigeria and Director at Women Who Code Lagos interviews Garima Saxena, Assistant Vice President at EXL. They discuss Garima's 13 years of experience in furnishing data insights, analytics, and visualization, to drive business and boost revenue in a number of health-related fields, as well as her role at EXl, the challenges she's faced, and the importance of diversity in tech. Career Nav: A talk entitled Bystander to Upstander, and LGBTQIA Inclusion, with Casey Watts, Founder of Happy and Effective. Talks Tech: In Women Who Code Talks Tech, we have Hina Sakazaki, Software Engineer, Dialogflow NLU at Google, talking about Adapting ML Research to Make Training AI For Games Fun.

Welcome friends to Everybody Speaks Music, Season 3 Episode 1, thank you so much for downloading the show! Today Kris and Mojo are joined by the inspiring Pete Dankelson of Pete's Diary.  We talk about how Pete has overcome his challenges to become an awesome player and inspiring speaker and change agent!

Welcome friends to Everybody Speaks Music, Season 3 Episode 1, thank you so much for downloading the show!Today Kris and Mojo are joined by the inspiring Pete Dankelson of Pete's Diary. We talk about how Pete has overcome his challenges to become an awesome player and inspiring speaker and agent of change.

Stand Up is a daily podcast. I book,host,edit, post and promote new episodes with brilliant guests every day. Please subscribe now for as little as 5$ and gain access to a community of over 800 awesome, curious, kind, funny, brilliant, generous souls Check out StandUpwithPete.com to learn more NEWS FROM Tuesday April 5 2022  34 minutes Steven Greenhouse is a senior fellow at The Century Foundation, where he writes about wages and working conditions, labor organizing, and other workplace issues. Before coming to The Century Foundation, he was a reporter for the New York Times for thirty-one years, spending his last nineteen years there as its labor and workplace reporter, before retiring from the paper in December 2014. He is the author of Beaten Down, Worked Up: The Past, Present, and Future of American Labor, published by Alfred A. Knopf in 2019. As the New York Times' labor and workplace reporter from 1995 to 2014, he covered myriad topics, including conditions for the nation's farm workers, the Fight for $15, Walmart's locking in workers at night, the New York City transit strike, factory disasters in Bangladesh, and Scott Walker's push to cripple public employee unions. Greenhouse joined the New York Times in September 1983 as a business reporter, covering steel and other basic industries. He then spent two-and-a-half years as the newspaper's Midwestern business correspondent based in Chicago. In 1987, he moved to Paris, where he served as the New York Times' European economics correspondent, covering everything from Western Europe's economy to the collapse of Communism in Eastern Europe. After five years in Paris, he served as a New York Times correspondent in Washington for four years, covering economics and the Federal Reserve and then the U.S. Department of State and foreign affairs. Greenhouse's most recent book, Beaten Down, Worked Up, looks at key historic episodes that built the nation's labor unions and shows how unions and worker power helped build the world's largest, richest middle class as well as a fairer, more democratic America. The book explains how the decline of worker power in recent decades has hurt workers and the nation, fueling income inequality and weakening the voice of workers in politics and policymaking.  The book also examines the future of the labor movement, looking at new forms of worker power, such as the Fight for $15, the #RedforEd teachers' strikes, and some innovative efforts to lift Uber drivers and other gig workers. A native of Massapequa, New York, Greenhouse is a graduate of Wesleyan University (1973), the Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism (1975), and NYU Law School, from which he graduated as class valedictorian in 1982. His first book, The Big Squeeze: Tough Times for the American Worker, was published in April 2008 by Knopf. It won the 2009 Sidney Hillman Book Prize for a non-fiction book that advances social justice. Greenhouse has also been honored with the Society of Professional Journalists Deadline Club award, a New York Press Club award, and a Gerald Loeb Award for Distinguished Business and Financial Reporting. He continues to freelance for, among others, the New York Times, the Washington Post, the Los Angeles Times, the New Yorker, the Guardian, the Atlantic, the American Prospect, the Columbia Journalism Review, AARP Magazine, and Nieman Reports.   1:05 Dr. Omékongo Dibinga is the UPstander. His life's mission is to inspire all across the globe to take a stand when they witness an injustice, no matter how small or large. He is a motivational speaker, trilingual poet, TV talk show host, rapper, and professor of cross-cultural communication at American University. His Urban Music Award winning work has best been described by Nikki Giovanni as “outstanding, exciting, and new while being very old.” His book, From the Limbs of My Poetree was described by Essence Magazine as “a remarkable and insightful collection of exquisite poetry that touches sacred places within your spirit.” He was one of 5 international recipients out of 750,000 to win the first ever “CNN iReport Spirit Award.” He has received over 1,000,000 views on CNN.com. Omékongo's writings and performances have appeared in O Magazine, as well as on TV and radio from CNN, BET, and the BBC to NPR, Music Choice, and Voice of America in millions of homes in over 150 countries. He has also written songs for major motion pictures as well as organizations such as NASA and the Enough! Project. He has spoken before the United Nations, partners with the State Department to conduct youth leadership trainings overseas, and speaks to leadership and youth student conferences across the country. Omékongo's music and writings have appeared alongside artists such as Sheryl Crow, Angelina Jolie, Norah Jones, Damien Rice, Angelique Kidjo, Don Cheadle, and Mos Def. He has shared the stage with Wyclef Jean, OutKast, Sonia Sanchez, Dennis Brutus, Emmanuelle Chriqui, The Last Poets, and NFL great Aaron Rodgers. Internationally, he has shared his work in over 20 countries on 3 continents. Omékongo has studied at Harvard, MIT, Princeton, Georgetown, Morehouse, and The Fletcher School, where he earned his M.A. in Law & Diplomacy. He earned his Ph.D. in International Education Policy at The University of Maryland (UMD) where his dissertation centered on the global hip-hop phenomenon and Jay-Z. At UMD, he also worked with the Southern Poverty Law Center's “Teaching Diverse Students Initiative.” He worked for four years as the lead Teaching Assistant to Dr. Michael Eric Dyson at Georgetown University. He provides leadership, educational and diversity empowerment as a consultant and motivational speaker for organizations, associations and institutions. He has featured/lectured nationwide in venues from TEDx and Harvard to Russell Simmons' Hip-Hop Summit and the Nuyorican Poets Café. His rap mixtape series “Bootleg” promotes positive hip-hop with remixes of songs by Tupac, Notorious BIG, Jay Z, Nas, 50 Cent, and others. His 1,000,000 Youth Campaign has directly impacted over100,000 youth across the globe to date. He has also partnered with Intel on its campaign to make their computer processors free of minerals that come from the war in the Congo. Omékongo has published and produced 7 books, 7-fusion music and motivational CDs, and one independent DVD. His motivational book G.R.O.W. Towards Your Greatness! 10 Steps to Living Your Best Life has received praise from great motivational speakers such as Willie Jolley. His most recent book “The UPstander's Guide to an Outstanding Life” is a life balance book for students. For more information, please visit www.upstanderinternational.com. All things Jon Carroll  Follow and Support Pete Coe Pete on YouTube Pete on Twitter Pete On Instagram Pete Personal FB page Stand Up with Pete FB page

New episode of Love&BLoved!!! My guest says:" Prevention is a vital solution to combat the crime of human trafficking. Prevention = Hope for us and those we serve."Joining me today is Ashlie Bryant. Ashlie Bryant is an innovator, leader, social entrepreneur and advocate for children around the globe. She believes in the power of the human spirit and the ability for anyone to thrive and achieve. 2010, Ashlie founded 3Strands Global Foundation in response to a trafficking incident in California. Over the past twelve years, she has led the organization to exponential growth. She was integral in the development of a global anti-trafficking training and curriculum, PROTECT, now live in nine states and several countries. To date, the program has reached over 80,000 adults and more than 500,000 youth. Ashlie expanded 3Strands programming to include a direct services program called Employ + Empower. This program that has placed over 450 survivors and at-risk youth in sustainable jobs in the last four years in Sacramento and San Francisco and is expanding to Texas this year.On today's episode Ashlie is going to share : 1. Collaboration is key2. Advocating for vulnerable populations3. Prevention Changes EverythingEnjoyed this episode? Let us know what your biggest aha was in the comments below! We look forward to reading them!E-mail: ashlieb@3sgf.orgPersonal Website: www.3sgf.orgSocial Media Links: https://www.facebook.com/3StrandsGlobalLinkedIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/3strands-global-foundation/mycompany/?viewAsMember=true

Setting Boundaries with Teens to Stop Weight Bullying First on the playlist for the week is "We're not gonna take it" by Twisted Sister, a real get you pumped up to set some powerful boundaries with bullies 80's rock song. Video is hilarious too in case you want to transport yourself back to the 80’s. When it comes to setting boundaries, are you an avoidant or compliant or are you an aggressive or manipulative controller? I doubt you're a controller if you are reading this blog, and most likely are an avoidant or compliant who doesn't want to deal with conflict or hasn't been taught the skill of setting a boundary. I get you. That's where I've been most of my life, especially when it comes to setting boundaries for myself. You are worthy of setting boundaries. Sometimes teens don’t want to share if they are being bullied, let alone set a boundary and speak up. Boundary setting is self-love superpower. Setting boundaries and following through creates self-trust that you have your own back. Did you know we were created to set boundaries? Setting boundaries is a part of living a healthy life and I'm not talking about food boundaries or being strict and rigid with boundaries. I love the book, “Boundaries” by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend. Check it out! How do you decide when and in what situations to set boundaries? What are the different kinds of boundaries you can set? I guarantee you are setting boundaries even when you don't think you are. Sitting in class, Jill couldn’t help but feel someone staring at her. She turned her head and he was staring right at her, the kid with his hoodie on, sitting behind and diagonally to her, just watching her. So creepy. Jill could literally almost feel his breathing. Her Mom said, “Maybe he likes you.” “Um, no. He’s trying to make a statement about me being fat.” “How do you know that?” “I just know.” “Did you talk to the teacher about it?” “Yes, I tried anyway, but she said to ignore it and it will stop. But, that hasn’t worked. All I want to do is just sit in class in peace and it’s so hard to focus when someone keeps staring at me.” Jill (not her real name) was a patient of mine and I was so sad that she was being bullied sitting in class. How creepy and distracting! Keep reading this blog and you’ll see how the IME Community teen members suggested coaching Jill to set boundaries. Our society and culture lack boundaries because of the entitled belief that it’s okay to openly comment on another person’s body. The reality is humans can be harsh and boundaryless at times and we all experience aggression toward us in our life as part of our common humanity. I know if you’re reading this, you’ll agree with me that it’s not okay to weight bully anyone. Bullies are cowards. It’s true. What’s also true is, you don’t have to fix or solve the bully or change yourself in any way. You don’t cause or control all the things in life. If you spend your time thinking that it shouldn’t be happening and hope the bully will wake up and be a decent human and stop bullying, you may be wasting your time. Also, if you’re spending time wishing it wasn’t happening when it is, that won’t help either. What you can control is how you show up to create self-trust that you will have your own back. Another truth is you are not powerless and you can create boundaries to stop the bullying for you. I know what you’re thinking because I was in your shoes as someone who was more passive and non-confrontational. I had never been taught to set boundaries for myself. I thought I had to be nice all the time and then hope it would just go away. Now, I look back on my life, at the times that I set a boundary with a bully, and there have been many, and it’s just absolutely glorious to look back on. The level of self-trust and self-worth that I created just perpetuates itself. It has given me so much self-confidence. Here are some more Boundary setting false beliefs that you may have: It’s mean to set a boundary. It will make things worse for me. I can’t set a boundary. I will feel guilty if I set a boundary. Do you know what an Upstander is? Are you like me? You can stick up for someone else at the drop of a hat, but when it comes to yourself, that’s a different story. Sticking up for a friend or peer who is being bullied is called being an Upstander. I will talk more about being an Upstander in an upcoming blog. Did you know you can be your own Upstander? What did I do with Jill’s situation? I took it to the community and let the teen IME Community members coach on it and it was epic. We had been coaching on the different kinds of boundary setting and they were able to coach on setting a physical boundary, an emotional boundary, a verbal boundary, and how Jill could advocate for herself to create a plan so the bullying will stop. Create a Physical Boundary: Let's take a boundary setting approach to stop bullying for ourselves too. Remember, you can always walk away and that is setting a physical boundary and is not giving up. Walking away is a powerful boundary and without words can send a powerful message. Move to a different seat. Talk to your teacher about sitting somewhere else if there is assigned seating. Change classes if you need to. (I know. I know. The bully should be the one to change classes.) Take a different route to class if possible. Change up the timing of your route to class. Word Boundaries Jill might try: You’re making me feel uncomfortable. I’m uncomfortable with you staring at me. Stop staring at me. I’m uncomfortable. Setting boundaries with words: From a Psychology Today article, memorize a simple statement is the #1 thing to do from “8 Things Kids Can Say and Do to Stop Bullying” by Signe Whitson, L.S.W. She calls them Bully Bans. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/passive-aggressive-diaries/201801/8-things-kids-can-say-and-do-stop-bullying Let’s practice some boundary setting words (Bully Bans): Stop saying that to me. I heard you the first time. Stop bullying me. You’re crossing the line. Whatever. My ears work just fine. I heard you the first time you said it. Way to be original. Emotional boundaries are powerful: Bullies project their weaknesses and insecurities onto their victims. Bullies are not coming from a powerful place when they bully. They are coming from a weak place of insecurity. The bully’s insecurities and weaknesses are not ours to fix or solve. Let’s believe them when they say who they are. I’ve heard so many stories from teens about how they defended themselves and then ended up with the same consequence as the bully. Setting a boundary isn’t fighting back as much as it is diffusing the situation to stop the bullying for you. In other words, don’t get in the mix with the bully. Don’t degrade yourself to the level of the bully. That doesn’t mean you don’t stand up for yourself and make powerful bully ban statements. By all means, please do. You can even do a mental rehearsal. It’s like a play you’re writing and you’re the hero who saves the day for yourself. Recognize you don’t cause or control what another human being says. What you do control is how you want to show up and where to put your attentional focus. That’s powerful. Remember, our thoughts create our feelings and our feelings drive our actions or inactions. If you are feeling stuck and powerless in a bullying situation, try to write down your thoughts and beliefs about the situation. If you keep believing that thought without challenging it or realizing your brain is attached to it because of fear (is a human response and makes sense), then you will stay stuck with that belief, the fear and the inaction. Why you shouldn’t ignore bullying: The problem with letting bullying go is that the bullying has to go somewhere and guess where it’s going to go? To you. If not challenged, you may start to internalize it. Or, you may believe if you change something about yourself, like your body size, that your bully will stop. That’s not always true. If you believe you are the one that’s broken and not the bully, you may restrict your eating or binge eat to cope with the stress to avoid the stress of bullying. By the way, I want you to know that I know it’s not always as easy as creating boundary statements or talking to a trusted adult to create a plan to stop the bullying. I encourage you to talk with your doctor because bullying is a preventative health issue and also work with a therapist to heal from trauma. Remember, you are unbroken and a perfectly incredible magic being who is meant to live your fun life. Remember, Bullying comes from a place of complete weakness, powerlessness, and insecurity. Here are your action steps: Visit Stopbullying.gov Write your Bully Bans Write down some beliefs you have about setting boundaries. What would it feel like to have your own back and set a boundary for yourself? Massive self-trust and massive self-worth? Do a mental rehearsal. Visualize and practice it using your Bully Bans. Role play and say your Bully Bans with casual confidence. How do you want to show up for yourself? One powerful decision creates powerful clarity for your next step. Make sure you connect with a trusted adult to help create a plan so the bullying stops for you. I've got your back. I only care about helping you and when I coach you in IME Community, we are going to stay in your lane and not in the business of the bully trying to convince or thinking they shouldn't be bullying or waste our time figuring out why they are bullying. We believe them when they have shown us who they are. Let them be who they are and let them be wrong about you. Self-love superpower, Dr. Karla, ActivistMD See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today we're exploring the word “personification.” What do you think it means?Okay, wordsmiths! Now it's your turn! Share your writing with us or record a voicemail and send it to listen@akidspodcastabout.com. And let us know what other words are on your mind!Check out other podcasts made for kids just like you by visiting akidsco.com.

Kim Scott is all about creating workplace environments where everyone can really be their best selves and reach their growth potential, and her latest book https://kimmalonescott.com/just-work (“Just Work”) offers a valuable framework and set of tools to help address many of the workplace injustices that too many of us have endured over the years.  The book is timely because it reflects how the traditional norms are fundamentally changing. The future of work will center around a workplace that respects everyone's individuality while also enabling them to collaborate effectively so we can ultimately do our best work. Becoming an Upstander at Work To create that ideal workplace, leaders have to understand that it's their responsibility to create a just work environment — and learn how to be what Dr. Philip G. Zimbardo calls an upstander. In my conversation with Dr. Zimbardo in https://www.conniewsteele.com/episodes/18 (episode 18), he talked about the bystander effect. That's when we observe injustice happening, but take no action or even confront it. An upstander is someone who takes action in these situations. And I think being an upstander when you see bias, prejudice, or bullying in the workplace is something that many people have wanted to do but have never felt they had the ability to do. So it's wonderful to now have a framework and a set of tools so that we can all collectively work towards a better workplace. The Why Behind “Just Work” Kim's first book was “Radical Candor: How to Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity.” But she had a conversation that helped her realize that being radically candid isn't equally easy for everyone — particularly people of color who already have to navigate bias and stereotypes. Kim realized that she, like almost all business leaders, had played a role in preventing Just Work in the past, both in the sense of justice and in the sense of just getting stuff done.  We aren't usually doing this on purpose. But when we don't use our power to be upstanders and make work a place where everyone feels supported, we are still perpetuating injustice. What are Workplace Injustices? (And How Do We Respond to Them?) Workplace injustice is not a monolithic problem, it has specific parts. And if you can break a big problem down into smaller parts, it becomes easier to solve. Kim identifies the root causes of workplace injustice as bias, prejudice, and bullying, and the way we respond to each problem is different: Bias is unintentional. It's an unconscious thought that we have, but not a conviction or belief.  Kim shares a real story of a situation where two teams were meeting to negotiate a deal. One team was composed of two men and one woman. As the other side filed into the room, they  ended up sitting by the two men leaving the one woman alone at the end. That woman was the one that had the most expertise for her team and was the one who could win the deal. However, the other side was only addressing questions to her colleagues. This is where a male co-worker was able to use an ‘I statement' to be an upstander. When he stood up and said “I think we should switch seats,” it made everyone realize what was happening, made a victim of injustice feel more respected, and allowed them to get back to work. That's often all it takes to address bias; kindly making people aware of it. Prejudice is a conscious, negative belief about another person, usually rooted in cultural stereotypes.  Kim shares an experience that her business partner witnessed. They were hiring and the best candidate was a Black woman with natural hair, yet the hiring manager said they couldn't hire her because of her hair. The best way to deal with prejudice in the moment is with an ‘It statement,' as opposed to  a ‘You statement' or ‘I statement.' A You statement (e.g. You are being racist) can feel accusatory and make...

I am so excited for todays episode! I am going to be speaking with ANOTHER BULLYING ADVOCATE! Her name is Amber Robbins and she has built an amazing company called STAND and Cheer Co. She is so amazing guys. We are going to be talking about her mission and how she ended up in this amazing space. Yall gonna love this one For speaking inquiries email me bullies.speaker@gmail.com or my assistant liz@savethekids.org. Make sure to go follow me @bulliesbe.gone and @savethekidsinc Go follow Amber @standandcheerco and co check out her content and linktree to join her stand academy! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

01:56 - Episode Intro: Who is Casey Watts (https://twitter.com/heycaseywattsup)? * Happy and Effective (https://www.happyandeffective.com/) 02:25 - “Gay” vs “Queer” * Cultural vs Sexual * Black vs black * Deaf vs deaf 06:11 - Pronoun Usage & Normalization * Greater Than Code Episode 266: Words Carry Power – Approaching Inclusive Language with Kate Marshall (https://www.greaterthancode.com/words-carry-power-approaching-inclusive-language) * Spectrum of Allyship (https://aninjusticemag.com/the-differences-between-allies-accomplices-co-conspirators-may-surprise-you-d3fc7fe29c?gi=decb57b48447) * Ambiguous “They/Them” 16:36 - Asking Questions & Sharing * Ring Theory (https://www.everhomehealthcare.com/post/ring-theory-and-saying-the-right-thing-in-2020) * Don't Assume * Take Workshops * Find Support * Set Boundaries * Overgeneralization * Do Your Own Research – Google Incognito (https://support.google.com/chrome/answer/95464?hl=en&co=GENIE.Platform%3DDesktop) 28:16 - Effective Allyship * Reactive vs Proactive * Parenting * Calling Out Rude Behavior – “Rude!” * Overcoming Discomfort; Getting Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable * Recognizing Past Mistakes: Being Reflective * Stratejoy (https://stratejoy.com/) * Celebrate Progress * Apologize and Move On * Microaggressions: Prevention & Recovery (https://www.happyandeffective.com/workshops/list/avoiding-microaggressions) * happyandeffective.com/updates (https://www.happyandeffective.com/updates) Reflections: Mannah: The people on this show are all willing to start and have conversations. Casey: I will make mistakes. I will find more support. Mandy: Reflection is always a work in progress. It's never done. Keep doing the work. People are always evolving and changing. This episode was brought to you by @therubyrep (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) of DevReps, LLC (http://www.devreps.com/). To pledge your support and to join our awesome Slack community, visit patreon.com/greaterthancode (https://www.patreon.com/greaterthancode) To make a one-time donation so that we can continue to bring you more content and transcripts like this, please do so at paypal.me/devreps (https://www.paypal.me/devreps). You will also get an invitation to our Slack community this way as well. Transcript: PRE-ROLL: Software is broken, but it can be fixed. Test Double's superpower is improving how the world builds software by building both great software and great teams. And you can help! Test Double is hiring empathetic senior software engineers and DevOps engineers. We work in Ruby, JavaScript, Elixir and a lot more. Test Double trusts developers with autonomy and flexibility at a remote, 100% employee-owned software consulting agency. Looking for more challenges? Enjoy lots of variety while working with the best teams in tech as a developer consultant at Test Double. Find out more and check out remote openings at link.testdouble.com/greater. That's link.testdouble.com/greater. CASEY: Hello, and welcome to Greater Than Code, Episode 268. I'm Casey, and I'm here with co-host, Mannah. MANNAH: How's it going? I'm Mannah and I'm here with Mandy Moore. MANDY: Hey, everybody. It's Mandy and today, I'm excited because we are doing a panelist only episode. So our host and panelist, beloved Casey Watts, is going to take us through Casey did a LGBTQ panel for Women Who Code Philly a couple weeks ago and it went really great. He offered to do a show to talk about the subject in more depth on the show. So we're here to do that today. So without further ado, why don't you give us a little intro, Casey? CASEY: Sure. I'm going to start by talking about who I am a little bit and why I'm comfortable talking about this kind of stuff. My name's Casey, I'm a gay man, or a queer man. We can get into the difference between gay and queer [chuckles] in the episode. I live in D.C. and I really like my community groups that I'm in to be super inclusive, inclusive of people of all kinds of backgrounds and all the letters in LGBTQIA especially. MANDY: That's awesome. So right there, you just gave us an in. Can we get into the difference between gay and queer? CASEY: Yeah. I love it. People lately use the term “queer” as an umbrella term that represents all the letters in LGBTQIA especially younger people are comfortable with that term, but it is reclaimed. Older people, it used to be a slur and so, like my cousin, for example, who's older than me hesitates to use the word queer on me because she knows that it used to be used to hurt people. But queer people like this as an umbrella term now because it is just saying we're not the norm in gender identity, or sexual, romantic orientation, that kind of stuff. We're not the norm. We're something else. Don't assume that we're the norm and then it's not describing all the little nuances of it. It's just like the umbrella term. So I'm definitely queer and I'm gay. Another distinction that I really like to make and that's cultural versus specifically what the term means. So I'm gay and that I'm attracted to other men, but I don't hang out at gay bars and watch RuPaul's Drag Race like the mainstream gay man does in media and in life. I know a lot of people who love that I'm not comfortable there. I don't like it. I think drag queens are fun I guess, but they're also really catty and mean and I don't like that, and I don't want that to rub off on me personally. Instead, I hang out in groups like the queer marching band which has a ton of lesbian women, bisexual, biromantic people, asexual people, intersex people, and trans people and has all the letters in LGBTQIA and I love that inclusive community. That's the kind of group I like to be in. Some of the gay men there talk about RuPaul's Drag Race, but it's like a minority of that large group. I love being in the super inclusive cultures. So I'm culturally queer, but I'm sexually romantically gay. So depending on what we're talking about, the one is more important than the other. I have a story for this. Before the pandemic, I got a haircut at a gay barber shop. It's gay because D.C. has a lot of gay people and there's a gym above the barber shop that's pretty explicitly gay. They cater to gay people. They have rainbows everywhere. I got my hair cut and this woman just kept making RuPaul's Drag Race references to me that I didn't get, I don't get it. I don't know what she's saying, but I know the shape of it and I told her I don't like that and I'm not interested in it. Please stop. She didn't because she was assuming I'm culturally gay, like most of her clientele and it was really annoying and she wasn't seeing me, or listening to what I was saying and I was not seen. But she's right I was gay, but I'm not gay culturally in that way. Does that make sense? That's kind of a complex idea to throw out at the beginning of the episode here. A lot of people take some time to get your head around the cultural versus sexual terms. MANNAH: Yeah. That is interesting especially because with so many identities, I guess that's true for every identity where there's a cultural element and then there's some other thing. For instance, I'm a Black man and no matter where I hang out, or what I'm interested in, I'll always be a Black man, but there is associated with both masculinity and specifically, Black masculinity. CASEY: Yeah, and I like the – lately, I've been seeing lowercase B black to mean a description of your skin color and uppercase B Black to mean a description of the culture and I like that distinction a lot. It's visual. Deaf people have been using that for years. My aunt's deaf so my family has a deaf culture. I'm a little bit deaf culture myself just by proxy, but I'm not deaf. I'm capital D Deaf culturally in amount. Her daughter, who she raised, my deaf aunt, is culturally Deaf way, way more than the average person, but not fully because she's not deaf herself. So there's all spectrum here of cultural to experiencing the phenomenon and I was happy to see, on Twitter at least, a lot of people are reclaiming capital B black. And for me, it's capital Q Queer and lowercase G gay. That's how I distinguish into my head—culturally queer and I'm sexually gay. MANNAH: So one of the things, I've been thinking about this since our intro and for those of you listening, our intro is scripted and as simple as it was like, “Hey, my name is Mannah,” and passing it off to Mandy. Generally, when I introduce myself – I just started a new job. I introduced myself with my pronouns, he/him, because I think it's more inclusive and I want to model that behavior and make sure that people around me are comfortable if they want to share their pronouns. I do think that this is championed by the queer community and as a member of that community, I'd just love to hear your take on people being more explicit with that aspect of their identity. CASEY: I love the segment. Pronouns is a huge, huge topic in this space lately especially. I like to start from here, especially with older audiences that we used to have mister and miss in our signatures and in the way we address letters and emails, and that's gone away. So including pronouns is a lot like just saying mister, or miss, but we've dropped the formality. I'm glad to be gone with the formality, but we still need to know which pronouns to use and it's nice to have that upfront. I like and appreciate it. I try to include pronouns when I remember it and when I'm in spaces where that's a norm. I like to follow that for sure every time there. But I'm not always the first person to introduce it. Like if I was giving a talk and there were 30 older white men in the audience who've never heard of this idea, I might not start with he/him because I want to meet them where they're at and bring them to the point where they get it. So I'm not always a frontrunner of this idea, but I love to support it, I love to push it forward, and help people understand it and get on board. It's like there's different stages of allyship, I guess you could say and I really like helping people get from a further backstage to a middle stage because I don't think enough people are in that space and there are plenty of people getting people who are in the middle stage to the more proactive stage. Like, “We should use pronouns!” You hear that all the time in spaces I'm in. It's possible I can get pushback for that kind of thing, like even meeting people where they're at, and that frustrates because I want to be effective. I don't want to just signal that I'm very progressive and doing the right things. I want to actually be effective. I give workshops on this kind of thing, too. That's where we're coming from for the today's talk. MANDY: I think on the last show, it might have been Kate Marshall who said that normalizing pronouns is really important to do, but not just when there's an obvious person in the room who you're not sure. Maybe we even started off on the wrong foot on the show by not saying, “Hi, I'm Mandy, my pronouns are she and her.” Just adding that in to normalize it would be a really good step, I think. CASEY: Yeah, love it. Here's where I like to come with my role. Say, “Plus one, I love that idea. Let's do it now.” I like to activate the idea once it's in the room, but it takes someone brave to bring it up in the first place and it's a different amount of social energy, maybe in a different head space you have to be in to be that first person. But being the second is also very important and I like to help people understand that, too. If you're the second person, that's still being helpful. Maybe you can become the first person in some groups, but I want to celebrate that you're the second person even. That's great. Yeah, I think that's a good change we could do. MANNAH: You mentioned allyship and I think that that is why am so proactive in introducing myself with pronouns because I do present as a traditional man. Well, maybe not traditional, but I present as a man and I have the ability to deal with some of that pushback. We talk about superpowers on the show. I feel like one of my superpowers is I am willing to engage in those conversations, even if they are difficult. CASEY: Mm hm. MANNAH: So I can use my powers for good by starting that conversation perhaps, or starting to build that norm. Whether, or not I am doing it for anyone in particular, it is important for me to do it wherever we are. So I think that just wherever we can make spaces more inclusive with the way we can conduct ourselves and our language, it's important. CASEY: I have a framework to share that's kind of related to that. So there's a spectrum of allyship—that's my title for it anyway—that goes from an active detractor all the way over to an active supporter of an idea. In this case, the active supporter would be getting pronouns to happen in a space where they're not happening. And then in the middle, maybe you're neutral, not doing anything. In the middle on either side, there's a passive – like you're not doing anything, but you kind of support the idea. You're kind of against the idea, but you're not taking any action. And then on the active part, there's even a split between and being proactive and reactive. So for pronouns, I guess the way I'm self-describing here is I'm a reactive pronoun person. For better, or worse, that's where I'm at on that spectrum and that's where I like to help move things along. So I can talk to people who are more maybe passively against the idea because I'm not so far on the right. I like to use the spectrum for another purpose, which is moving people from one space to the next is valuable and often invisible. If you can get someone to be loudly against pronouns to just be quiet, that's a step forward. You've persuaded them a little bit to go in that direction, or if they're there to neutral, or neutral to passively supportive, but quiet about it. A lot of this kind of progress with people who aren't active supporters is invisible and that can be really frustrating for people; it feels like you're not making any progress. So for people who are allies and want to be allies, there's a step forward you can do for yourself, which is getting yourself from being reactive to being proactive. But you're not just helping the people in the room, but helping people who could be in the room, or might be in the future. Reactive to proactive. MANDY: I've been doing that a lot with just actually referring to everybody as they/them no matter if I already know how they present, or not. That, to me, is just the most inclusive way to refer to people in general. CASEY: Yeah, that's generally a safe practice, but there are people who don't want to be called they/them. MANDY: Hmm. CASEY: For example, I have some friends who… Let's imagine a trans man who wants to be considered he/him, they are very invested in this and they want the – If you keep calling them, they/them, even if they correct you, “He/him is my pronouns,” then they're going to be upset about that, pf course. But it is a safe, starting point because the ambiguous they is just generally, it's good grammar, the APA endorses it even. You're allowed to use they when it's ambiguous by grammar rules. But if you know someone's pronouns and it isn't they/them, it's generally better to use those because they prefer it. MANDY: Yeah. That's what I meant. If somebody says to me, “I would prefer you call me she/her, he/him.: But when I'm first, like if I'm even talking to say my dad and I'm talking about work, I would be like, “I have a friend, they did this.” CASEY: Yeah. That's ambiguous day and that's perfectly appropriate there. MANDY: Yeah. But as far as like addressing somebody on a regular basis who wants to be referred to as one, or the other, I have no problem doing that. I've just been training myself to use ambiguous terms because I see and I think it's wonderful. My daughter's 12 and almost all of her friends are non-binary. So when I meet them, or I'm talking about her friends for me, it's just more, I don't want to say easy. I don't want to make it sound like I'm doing it, like taking the easy way out, but I'll just be like, do the they/them stuff to have the conversation and then once I find out more, we can transfer over to the he/him, she/her as I'm corrected, or being asked to do one, or the other. CASEY: Right, right. It's definitely safer to assume you don't know than to assume someone's gender based on how they looked, for sure and the ambiguous they is perfect for that. Even for people who use they/them as pronouns, there's a switch in my head at least—you probably feel it, too—from ambiguous to specific. Like now I know they/them is their pronouns. MANDY: Yeah. I've had no problem. When my daughter has brought new people over, who I know are non-binary, I will say to them even if I already know, because she's told me, I'll be like, “What pronouns do you prefer?” And every single time these are 12-year-olds, 13-year-olds, they're like, “Thank you for asking.” CASEY: Yeah. MANDY: Because a lot of times, I feel it's not very accepted yet. So when I hear, or when they hear me say, “How would you like me to refer to you?” They smile so big. CASEY: Yeah, you're treating them like the individual person they are. MANDY: Exactly, and they're like, “Thank you,” and now I'm known as the cool mom. [laughs] CASEY: Ah. Great. [laughs] Yeah. If I could snap my fingers and change a behavior of mine, that would be one. I would consider everyone's pronouns unknown until they tell me and it also varies by context. I don't even want to trust secondhand. Like if Mandy, you said he for Mannah before I met him, I wouldn't assume that's his pronouns. If maybe you are assuming, or maybe you heard it from someone and they were assuming, or maybe based on context, it's different. I want to hear it from the person, ideally. MANDY: Yes. CASEY: I also don't necessarily want to go around asking for pronouns actively all the time. I'd rather us offer them upfront, or have them in our usernames, or something so it's less verbiage in the air about it. I like it to be normalized. We don't have to think about it. That's a dream state. But for now, I'd rather ask people directly than assume anything. But it's a hard habit because I've been trained from school and everything, since a young age, to assume someone's gender and not to use they at first. That's what we've been trained and I love this trend of untraining that. Ambiguous they is accepted and we should start with that. MANDY: I love seeing people proactively put pronouns in their Zoom profiles, or their Zoom names and at conferences, I love the conferences having badges, or stickers. CASEY: Yeah. MANDY: I love that. CASEY: It's helpful. MANNAH: I want to change directions slightly and go back to something you said about the spectrum and how we move people – I don't remember the exact words you used, the two polar opposites. CASEY: Yeah. MANNAH: But how to move people towards a more inclusive mindset, let's say and wherever you are on that spectrum, you might not know how to move forward and the way to kind of deal with that, you might have questions. I just want to hear from you how you would like to be approached with questions around how do you feel about pronouns, or whatever it might be relating to your culture, or your, I guess, I'm going to say sexual identity. CASEY: Yeah. MANNAH: People are unsure how can they approach you with questions in a way that's respectful and a way that will allow them to learn more about you? CASEY: Good question. I feel like you're reading my mind a bit here. I want to start with another framework that you might have heard of. It's the circles of grief Ring Theory. Like if someone just lost their parent, then you need to pour support into that person who's closest to them and if you're outside like a more distant family member, or a friend, pour support in and then the grief gets stumped out. That's the framework, generally. So there's a lot of rings. People who are closer to it are affected more directly and people who are outside are affected more indirectly. That applies to asking people personal things, too. So I'm directly affected by being queer and I've been discriminated against and people have said bad things to me before. To ask me about it and to bring up those feelings could harm me in some way so you can't just assume everybody's comfortable talking about their experience. Like, “Tell me about how you feel about your dead mother.” It wouldn't be sensitive either because they're experiencing the pain directly, but sometimes people do want to talk about that and they're comfortable, they processed it, and they want to help spread the word. So I'm one of those people; you can ask me anything. Even if you don't know me, you can DM me on Twitter. Anyone listening, ask me a question about queer things. I'll point you to a resource, or answer it myself. I'm offering because I'm comfortable at this point. But a lot of people aren't and, in that case, you could ask if someone's comfortable, that's not a bad idea, or you could ask people who are in further circles out. Like you don't need to ask a queer person about queer experiences if you can read about it in an article online, or watch a documentary, or talk to friends who have other queer friends and they know some things about it. It's not as good as secondhand experience hearing from someone with firsthand experience, but you're causing less harm by making the ideas come up again. So you have a range of ways you can find out more about what it's like to be queer and I encourage you to think about all the different ways you can learn about a thing. You don't have to depend on the person who has [chuckles] this negative experience to do it. Another way you can learn more is by doing workshops, like the ones that I facilitate. So I was thrilled to have a good audience at Women Who Code Philly, actively asking question and learning things, and that's a space where you're supposed to ask questions and learn. I've heard of some people have peers they can talk to like peer support; people you can go to, to ask questions like that. Like my cousin asks me questions sometimes about her kids and that's like peers. Some companies actually have support groups like a weekly, or monthly meeting for people in the company to ask these questions that they have [laughs] and they don't know where to ask them and they can all learn from it. I've seen in some Slacks, there's a Diversity 101 channel in one of the Slacks I'm in people can ask questions like when would you, or would you not use this word? That's a space dedicated to asking questions like that and if someone like me wants to go in and contribute, I can answer questions there, but I don't have to. I know I'm welcome to, and I know I'm not pressured to, and that's a great middle ground and that's a lot of options. You've got to figure out what works for you, who you have around, who you can offer the support to, and who you can ask for the support from. Both directions. MANDY: It's great to have someone like you offering to do that and take on because it is of emotional labor and sometimes when people are curious, I know for me as being bisexual, some people are just like trying to – they're asking out of curiosity, but it's more like, “Give me the dirty details,” or something like that. CASEY: Yeah. MANDY: Sometimes it's like, “We just want to know because I don't – so I want to know what it's like for you,” and I'm like, “I'm not going to share just because –” right now, I am in a monogamous heterosexual relationship. Normally, if I was in a single state, a lot of people just try to ask questions that sometimes can be, I find it more inappropriate and they want to know because they're interested in the salacious details, or something like that. CASEY: Right. MANDY: That rubs me the wrong way and I can usually tell when somebody is asking, because they're genuine, or not. CASEY: There's a big difference between asking to get to know you as a person in the context you're in with the background you have versus asking for salacious gossip. [laughs] MANDY: Yeah. CASEY: And the one is much more kind than the other. It sounds like you've done a good job setting boundaries in these situations saying, “That's not appropriate. I'm not answering that. Sorry about it,” or something like that. MANNAH: Not sorry. CASEY: Not sorry. MANDY: Well, in the same token, it's something that bothers me, too because I feel like a lot of times, I just don't even tell people that I'm bisexual. CASEY: Yeah. MANDY: Because it's easier to not answer the questions because once you open that can of worms, then everybody comes at you and wants to know this and wants to know details. “Have you ever done this?” Or, “Have you ever done that?” It rubs me the wrong way again. CASEY: Right. MANDY: So sometimes I feel almost resentful. I feel resentful that I can't be my full self because it causes people to just ask and the whole conversation, or the whole time I spend with them is focused on this one thing and it's like for me, it's just not a big deal. CASEY: Right, right, right. Like on my Twitter profile—I like to use this as an example—I list out like 10, 15 things about myself on my Twitter profile and there is one little rainbow flag emoji in there at the end and I'd rather you talk about any of the other things probably. I'm willing to share that I'm queer and rainbow I affiliate with, but so much more to me, [chuckles] I'd rather you learn about me before that. MANDY: Yeah. CASEY: But it's the newest, novelist thing to those people who don't otherwise get exposed to it. They fixate on it sometimes and that, they might not realize, can be harmful. It can hurt people like you. It does hurt people. [chuckles] MANDY: It absolutely does. It makes me uncomfortable. So it's not an aspect that I talk about much, especially living in rural/suburban Pennsylvania. It's something that I just kind of, aside from my internet friends and tech community, that a lot of people still don't know about me. CASEY: Right. I can imagine not wanting to share. I used to not share my sexuality either in a lot of contexts and still when I go somewhere like the south, if I go to a place that has more bigotry around, I'm not holding my partner's hand there. I might get attacked even, that happens still in certain environments, they don't get it. Okay, I want to acknowledge that people asking these questions might have good intentions and they're making a mistake and I want to explain what I think the mistake is. MANDY: Yes. CASEY: People want to be treated as individuals, but you can go too far in that extreme and treat someone like an individual and ignore their background. Like it doesn't matter that you've been queer. It doesn't matter that you're Black. It doesn't matter, I'm just going to treat you like an individual. Ignoring all this background is its own kind of overgeneralization in a way is ignoring that background and context. And then there's another way you can do an exaggeration, which is only focusing on that background in context and ignoring the person's individual traits and their individual experiences. The best thing to do is to treat them like an individual who has this context and background putting them both together. So maybe these people are trying to understand you better by understanding this context. Maybe—I'm being very generous— [chuckles] some of these people are probably not this, but some people honestly want to know more about your context to understand you and that's thoughtful. They're just going about it in a way that's not the most helpful, or kind to you and I appreciate those people. But then there are other people who want to use the background and context to overgeneralize and just treat you as a member of this group, a token member, and that is a problem, too. So it's like two ingredients and if you put them together, that's the best and a lot of people focus on one, or the other too much. The individual experience versus the group background context experience. MANNAH: Yeah. That was really well put. I do think that as I said earlier, I'm someone who is very willing to have these. However, the downside of that is that becomes who you're and instead of the entire human being and the other – to take it a step further, some people are uncomfortable with that identity, or uncomfortable thinking about those things. Think about the discrimination that you might face and rather than confront it, or address it, they would rather just not deal with you, or limit their interact. CASEY: Right, yeah. MANNAH: So this is not a question for Casey, this is just something to the group. How can we navigate that and wanting to being willing to share of ourselves, but recognizing that there is some social backlash that can come from that? CASEY: I think my number one thing I want allies to understand is they can support each other in being allies and it can take work to be comfortable talking to each other, to support each other. You don't have to just depend on the queer people to learn queer about things. If one of you learns and one ally learns, they can teach another ally the concept, or the idea, or share how to navigate it. I did a Twitter poll for this, actually. Not a huge sample size, but still. A lot of people only have 1 to 3 people they can talk to about things like this. That's very few and they might not cover all the different situations. So that's my number one thing to help people navigate it is get so support, find support, be support for other people and you'll get support in return for that, too. That's your homework. Everyone, write this down. Find 10 people you can talk to about inclusivity related topics, 10 people. MANDY: And Google exists for a reason. So always, when things come up, I like to Google and I've gotten push back about that several times. “Well, I don't want to put that stuff into my search engine because then all of a sudden, I start getting gay targeted ads,” or something. CASEY: That's true. That's a real concern. [overtalk] MANDY: And I'm, “It's not –” Well, hello, incognito mode. CASEY: Right. MANDY: Thank you, everyone. That's a thing. Use it. [laughs] CASEY: Yeah, and you don't have to feel icky using incognito mode. You can use it because you don't want to ads tracking you. MANDY: Exactly. CASEY: Some people use it for everything. They never use the regular browser mode because they don't want the tracking. It's work to learn things about other people and so, that's why I like to focus on the support part. If you get support from people, maybe you can both be looking up stuff and sharing articles with each other, and that's really multiplying the effects here. MANDY: Absolutely. MANNAH: So we started homework for allies. I think now it might be a good time to talk about what makes good ally. We talked a little bit about how it can feel voyeuristic. Mandy, you talked about how people asking questions can sometimes feel a little picky and we talked about some better ways to asking questions. But are there any other ways that either both, all of us would like to see people be more effective ally? CASEY: Yeah. I want to call back to an earlier point. I want to see more people switch from being reactive to being proactive. To being the first voice. Me included, honestly. Whenever you can get away with it and whatever helps you be proactive, do those things, which might be the support thing I keep talking about. Getting support to be more proactive, becoming accountable to people. If you're already an ally, I'm assuming you're being reactively supportive some of the times. A lot of the people I talk to, who consider themselves allies, would agree, but taking that next step. And there's a different spectrum for each issue, like pronouns is one. Pronouns being shared in meetings. How proactive, or reactive are you for that? I don't even know. There are thousands of things [chuckles] that you can do to become more proactive. MANDY: I would like to say for allies, teaching our children love and not hate. I see a lot of nastiness coming from children and that comes from parents. It's really sad to see sometimes the amount of people who don't – they just spew hate and they're like, “I'm not referring to this person as a pronoun.” Like, “They/them, no. They're a this, or they're –” It saddens me to no end when you are around children to model nasty behavior and I think if you are not the person doing that yourself and you're around it, and you see somebody say something and say, “That's not okay, don't. Do you understand how you sound? Do you understand what you're saying? Do you understand that you're having an effect on everyone around you by giving your nasty opinions and that kind of thing?” CASEY: Yeah. I've got a one word, one liner thing that I like to pull out and I'm proud every time I say it. “Rude,” and I can walk away. It can happen in the grocery store. Someone can say something. It doesn't matter the nuance, what's going on and how I might explain it to them in fuller language. I can at least pull that one word out, rude, and walk away and they are called out for it. I'm proud whenever I can call someone out. MANDY: Yeah. CASEY: I don't always do it, though. The stakes can seem high and it takes practice. So this is homework, too. If you see someone and saying something hurtful to another person, it's your responsibility if you dare claim this to defend the other person and call the person rude, or however you would say the same thing. Say something. MANDY: Yeah, say something. MANNAH: I think that that can be really hard for allies. CASEY: Yeah. MANNAH: And if I had one piece of advice for allies, it would be that sometimes allyship is uncomfortable and that is something that you have to navigate. You can't pick and choose when you're going to… Well, that's not true. There's some discretion, but recognize that being a part-time ally, or a tourist in that space has an effect on people and not confronting your own insecurities, or your own feelings limits your effectiveness in allyship. CASEY: Yeah. It can be a deep question to ask yourself what made me hesitate that one time and what can I do to not hesitate helping next time? You can journal about it. You can talk to friends about it. You can think about it. Doing something more than thinking is definitely more helpful, though. Thinking alone is not the most powerful tool you have to change your own behavior. Yeah, it is uncomfortable. One thing that helps me speak up is instead of focusing on my discomfort, which is natural and I do it, for sure, I try to focus on the discomfort of the other person, or the person directly affected by this and I really want to help that person feel seen, protected, heard, defended. If you think about how they're feeling even more, that's very motivating for me and honestly, it helps in some ways that I am a queer man, that I have been discriminated against and people have been hateful toward me that I can relate when other people get similar experiences. If you haven't had experiences like that, it might be hard to rally up the empathy for it. But I'm sure you have something like that in your background, or if not, you know people who've been affected and that can be fuel for you, too. People you care about telling you stories like this and it is uncomfortable. [chuckles] Getting comfortable with that discomfort is critical here. MANNAH: One of the things that is very uncomfortable is, I think that as we go through life, we all grow is being reflective on the times when maybe we're not inclusive, or maybe were insensitive. At least being able to those situations, I feel like is a great first step. CASEY: Mm hm. MANNAH: Saying, “Hey, I said this about this group of people,” or “I use this word.” Maybe you didn't fully know what it meant and recognized the impact at the time, but being able to go back and be reflective about your behavior, I feel like is a very important skill to help become a more well-rounded individual. CASEY: Yeah. Agreed. And it's a practice. You have to do it. The more you do it, the easier it gets to process these and learn from them. It's a habit also, so any of the books that talk about learning habits, you can apply to this kind of problem, too. Like a weekly calendar event, or talking to a friend once a month and this is a topic that comes up. I don't know, there are a ton of ways you can try to make this habit, grow and stick for yourself, and it varies by person what's effective. But if you don't put it into your schedule, if you don't make room and space for it, it's really easy to skip doing it, too. MANDY: Yeah. It's amazing to look back. Even myself, I'm not the same person. I was 10, 15 years ago. I'm sure. Even as being a bisexual person that back in high school, I called something gay at one point just referring to, “Oh, that's gay.” CASEY: Yeah. MANDY: I'm sure I – [overtalk] CASEY: I'm sure I did it, too. MANDY: I'm sure I've said that. Knowing that I'm not that person anymore, recognizing that, and looking back at how much I've grown really helps me to come to terms with the fact that I wasn't always woke on this subject. We do a lot of growing over our lives. I'm in my 30s now and I've done so much growing and to look back on the person who I used to be versus the person I am now, I get very proud of how far I've come. Even though it can suck to look back at maybe a specific instance that you always remember and you're like, “Oh my God, that's so cringy. I can't believe I did that.” Having those moments to be like, “Well, you know what, that might have happened in 2003, but this is 2022 and look how far you've come.” CASEY: Love it! Yeah, growth. MANDY: Like that just makes me feel so good. CASEY: Yeah. We need the growth mindset. MANDY: And having discussions like this is what has gotten me to this place. Entering tech. I entered tech 12 years ago. I know this because my daughter's 12 and I always like, I'm like, “Okay so when my daughter was born, I got into tech. That's when I started actually becoming a decent person.” [laughs] So I measure a lot of my timeline by my daughter's age and it's just amazing to go back and see how much you've grown. Honestly, you should – another piece of homework, if you can just sit back and think about who you were before and who you are now and reflect on that a bit. MANNAH: We talked about normalizing pronouns, but I think it's also important to normalize sharing that story that you just told. I know I had a similar story where wherever I am on the wokeness scale, I was definitely much less so a couple years ago. I just did not have the same – I did not have enough experiences. I did not think about things in the same way. I did not challenge myself to be empathetic as much as I do now. It is a process and we're all somewhere on that journey. Who you are, like you said, 10 years ago is not necessarily who you are now. If it is, I don't know. I hope I'm not the same person in 10 years. I hope I'm always growing. So to make sure to share with others that it is a process and you don't wake up one day being woke. It is something that takes work and a skill that is developed. MANDY: Oh, you definitely have to do the work. Every year, I do a program. It's an actually a wonderful program. It's called Stratejoy. I can put the link in the show notes. But every year there's this woman who you sit down, you take stock of the last year and she asks a lot of deep questions. You journal them, you write them down, and then you think about what do I want to see? What can I improve? What do I want to do? How can I do so? And then we have quarterly calls throughout the year and really sit down, write it down, talk about it, and reflect on it because it is work. A lot of people make fun of people who read self-help books and I love fiction books just as much as the next person, I want to get away and read before bed at the end of the night, too. But it's really important for me to read books that make me feel uncomfortable, or make me learn, or make me think. I read a lot of books on race. So You Want to Talk About Race was one I read and it had a profound effect on me to read that book and take stock of myself and my own actions. It can be hard sometimes and it can cause anxiety. But I think in order to grow as a person, that's where you need to be vulnerable and you need to say, “No, I'm not perfect. I've done this thing wrong in the past and I don't know this, so I'm going to do what I can to educate myself.” CASEY: Another thing I hear a lot is some people say, “You should not celebrate any progress you make. You should always just feel bad and work harder forever.” Do you ever hear that kind of sentiment? Not in those words. MANDY: Yeah. CASEY: But if you ever say, “I learned a thing and I'm proud of it, here's what I learned,” there's someone on the internet who's going to tell you, “You are terrible and wrong and should do even better. Forget any progress you've made. You're not perfect yet,” and that is so frustrating to me. So here's something I'd like to see from more woke allies is less language policing, more celebrating of people who make progress. A lot of it's invisible, like we talked about on the spectrum. I do like when people get called out for making mistakes, like there's an opportunity for learning and growth, but you don't have to shame people in public, make them feel really bad about it, and embarrassed in front of the whole company. You could maybe do it privately and send a message to the companies talking about the policy in general like, “Don't use this word, don't do this thing.” You can do it very tactfully and you can be very effective. You don't have to just be PC police to the extreme. But if you are PC police to the extreme, I'm glad you're doing something. That's good. But you can be more effective. Please think about how you can be really effective, that's my request for all my woke friends. It can go overboard. It can definitely go overboard, being a language police. MANDY: Yeah, and it can make people who are trying to quit. CASEY: Right. That's a huge risk. I want to give all this a caveat, though, because if – here's an example from a friend's company. There was a presentation and there ended up being a slide with Blackface on it, which if you don't know is a terrible, awful thing that makes Black people feel really bad and it makes the person showing it seem like they are malicious, or oblivious and it shouldn't happen. And then we were wondering like, “What should someone have done in that situation?” Call it out, for sure and move on publicly is a good call there to protect any Black people in the room feel like they're being protected and heard, but not necessarily shaming the person and giving them a 5-minute lecture during that. You can be effective at getting the person not to do it again in private later calling it out to defend the people in the room. Protecting is goal number one for me, but what can you do to change the company culture effectively is a piece that I see a lot of people skipping. If you are just 5 minutes yelling at a person that might make them shut down, you're not being your most effective. So it's a hard walk to balance protecting people, calling people out, and changing the culture. But it's possible and it's work. I guess, it's really two things you're balancing, protecting the person, making them feel part of the group included and cared for versus changing the culture of the group and of the individual. We want both outcomes, ideally. But if I had to pick one, I'm going to pick protecting the person first and then the larger change can happen afterwards. MANDY: Yeah. And if you do mess up, which I've done. I've accidentally misgendered somebody and I felt terrible. All night, I kept apologizing to this person and finally, this person took me aside and said, “You're making it worse by keeping apologizing. Let it go.” CASEY: Yeah. MANDY: So also, not rehashing and banging your head against the wall multiple, multiple times. Apologize and move on. MANNAH: Yeah. If your apology is sincere, then you shouldn't need to repeat it multiple times. Make sure that the person you're apologizing to hears it and make whatever amend need be made. But I do think if you over apologizing, it's more for you so you feel better than it is more for the person that you potentially offended. CASEY: Right and I don't expect you to know that without having thought about it like you are right now. Take this moment and think about it deeper. This is intriguing to you. It is natural to want to apologize forever, but it is also harmful and you can do better than that. I offer a lot of workshops in this vein. Like there's one called Bystander to Upstander. There's another LGBTQIA inclusion where I go through a whole bunch of charts and graphs. There's one called preventing and recovering from microaggressions where you can practice making a mistake and recovering from it in a group. The practice is the key here, like really making a mistake and recovering from it, getting that the muscles, the reactions, the things you say to people, it does take work to get that to be a practice. Even if you already agree you want to, it's hard to put it into practice a lot of the time. I give workshops, including these, for community groups a couple times a month and if you want to get updates on that, that's at happyandeffective.com/updates. Also, I do these for companies so if you think your company would benefit from having these kinds of discussions, feel free to reach out to Happy and Effective, too. That's my company. MANNAH: Well, with that, I think it'd be a great time to move to reflections. What do y'all think? I think this whole episode has been one big reflection to be quite honest, but does anybody want to share anything in particular that has stood out to them throughout the hour we've just spent together? MANNAH: I'm happy to kick it off. I think that we've made some really good suggestions around how people can create more through their own actions. Create more inclusive environments. I do want to say that these are not things that are kind of stone. There are a lot of ways. Everybody's an individual, every situation is different, and I don't want to be prescriptive in saying you have to do certain things. I do want to say that when I'm speaking, this is my experience and these are things that I think can help. So please don't take what I say to be gospel. They are suggestions and if you disagree with them, then I'm happy to have that conversation. But recognize that the people speaking on this panel don't necessarily have the answers, but they are people who are willing to start this conversation. CASEY: The thing I want people to take away is—and you can repeat after me, everyone—I will make mistakes. Good, good. I heard it. I will find more support. Awesome. You're great. Okay. You're on the right path for this now. Mandy, over to you. MANDY: This is not something that you do once and you're done. This kind of reflection and this kind of work is always going to be a work in progress until the day you're no longer here. It's not something you can read a book and be like, “Okay, I did that. I'm good now. I know things.” It's constantly changing and evolving and you need to do the work. You need to have empathy for others and realize that everybody is constantly changing and just because somebody isn't one ting one day, they might be something the other day. I tell my daughter all the time because she's very unsure about who is she and I'm like, “You don't have to know right now. Just because you think you're this, or you're this right now, in 2 years, you might feel differently and you might be this.” So people are always evolving, always changing, and that doesn't just go for how you present either your gender identity, or sexual identity but it also just goes for who you are. I always try to grow as a person and the work is never done. CASEY: No one has all the answers, no one knows everything, and anyone who says they do is lying because it's going to change. It will change. MANDY: Awesome. Well, thank you so much, Mannah and Casey for having this conversation today. I know it's uncomfortable, I know it's a hard thing to talk about, and I'm so grateful that you both showed up to have it. If we want to continue these conversations, I invite anybody who's listening to reach out to us. If you'd like to come on the show to talk about it, reach out to us. We have a Slack channel that we can have private conversations in. You can find that at Patreon.com/greaterthancode and donate as little as a dollar to get in. We do that so we keep the trolls out and if you cannot afford a dollar, please DM any one of us and we will get you in there for free. So with that, thank you again for listening and we will see you all next week.

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Recently a male colleague asked me what he could do to support women at work, and I told him to start by being an ally. Simply speaking up when someone makes a derogatory comment about women, even if it seems innocent enough, is how men can practice this. When one of his colleagues made a comment to him about the size of their female coworker's breasts, he spoke up. He said, “Don't do that. Don't speak about her like that. It's not cool.” While this might seem like a small action, it is really an incredibly powerful way to create equality at work. By speaking up, my male colleague instantly reset the standards for how men speak, think, and interact with each other and the women in that office.  The challenge with allyship is it generally involves spending your privilege. It is uncomfortable. It requires speaking up. Taking action. Calling out inequality, even if you benefit from it. The intervention of bystanders often acts as the crucial brake on acts of bullying and discrimination. We can help bystanders become upstanders or allies by making them aware of the problem of inaction.  Joining us on today's episode is Rohit Bhargava and Jennifer Brown, authors of the book 'Beyond Diversity', who will share the difference between bystanders and upstanders, and how you can take action to tackle inequality when it plays out at work.

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Executive Security Advisor at IBM Security Limor Kessem says she started her cybersecurity career by pure chance. Limor made a change from her childhood dream of being a doctor and came into cybersecurity with her passion, investment, discipline, and perseverance. Limor talks about how we must tighten our core security and at the same time we allow innovation to help us move forward with the times. She's been fortunate to have been able to stand up for others and has had others support her. She said that is very motivating and has allowed her to really explore every possible thing in her career that she can contribute without limiting herself to a certain role. We thank Limor for sharing her story with us.

Executive Security Advisor at IBM Security Limor Kessem says she started her cybersecurity career by pure chance. Limor made a change from her childhood dream of being a doctor and came into cybersecurity with her passion, investment, discipline, and perseverance. Limor talks about how we must tighten our core security and at the same time we allow innovation to help us move forward with the times. She's been fortunate to have been able to stand up for others and has had others support her. She said that is very motivating and has allowed her to really explore every possible thing in her career that she can contribute without limiting herself to a certain role. We thank Limor for sharing her story with us.

When it comes to bullying, we can all be part of the solution! As parents, we have a responsibility to raise upstanders. When bullying happens there are usually bystanders. An upstander is someone who takes a stand to help stop the bullying. This can be done in many ways including calmly confronting the bully or removing the target from the situation. Listen as Amber Robbins shares other ideas, that she and her family have learned first hand, on how to raise upstanders that change the world for good. 

Amber Robbins and her family have experienced bullying first hand. It lasted for years and even led to her family moving. As a result, she is passionate about this topic and on a crusade to educate others. Bullying is more than a fight on the playground. It is unwanted, aggressive, repeated, and includes an imbalance of power. Listen to hear more about how to recognize if your child is a target or the bully and the long term affects of this behavior.    StopBullying.gov    

How often do you emcee events? Is it something you want to add to your skill set but don't know where to get started? This week's episode was recorded live at INFLUENCE 2021 with our four emcees Eliz Greene; Omékongo Dibinga, PhD, CSP; Patty Hendrickson, CSP; and Jeff Civillico. In this episode our four guests discuss what it takes to become an emcee, how to be an extraordinary emcee, and even share a few horror stories. Key Takeaways It's a marathon, train for it Not make yourself the story Always find the pot of gold Become so Crucial they can't do it without you next time   Who are our guests? Eliz Greene Eliz Greene is a speaker and author with an impressive career that spans two decades. Her focus is on how stress impacts all areas of our lives, including our health, wellness, and professions. Omékongo Dibinga, PhD, CSP Omékongo is the UPstander. His life's mission is to inspire all across the globe to take a stand when they witness an injustice, no matter how small or large. He is an international speaker, trilingual poet, TV talk show host, rapper, and professor of Inter-cultural Communication at American University, where he also serves as a faculty affiliate to the Antiracist Research & Policy Center. Patty Hendrickson, CSP Patty is a booked and busy interactive leadership speaker. She has a Masters of Business Administration; is an association leader; and author. She creates an inviting space where engagement is the norm and creatively finds ways to give content “legs” so learning and camaraderie continue after the program. Jeff Civillico Jeff Civillico recently celebrated 10 years on the Las Vegas Strip as a Headliner with Caesars Entertainment at the iconic hotel properties The LINQ, The Flamingo, and The Paris. Jeff now takes his renowned clean comedy show to live, virtual, and hybrid corporate events and conferences nationwide. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on Unorthodox, we're observing Tisha B'Av, the Jewish day of mourning, and Tu B'Av, the Jewish Valentine's Day, all at once. First we hear from Menachem Kaiser, author of “Plunder: A Memoir of Family Property and Nazi Treasure,” his story of attempting to reclaim an apartment building in Sosnowice, Poland that his family owned before the Holocaust, and his unlikely discovery of a familial connection to... Nazi treasure hunters. Then we talk to NFL reporter Jori Epstein and Holocaust survivor Max Glauben about collaborating to write “The Upstander,” a book that tells the story of Max's life and the lessons he wants to share. And finally, in honor of Tu B'Av, the Jewish Valentine's Day, we check in with Unorthodox listeners Sabrina and Brian Cartan, who ran into Jeff Goldblum while taking their wedding photos this weekend. Send us your stories for our upcoming special episodes. Were you or someone you know a Jewish scout? Do you have stories of apologies given or owed, for our annual Yom Kippur Apology episode? Leave us a voicemail (under a minute long) at (914) 570-4869, or record a voice memo on your phone and email it to unorthodox@tabletmag.com to be featured on the episode. Like the show? Rate us on iTunes! Subscribe to our weekly newsletter to get new episodes, photos, and more. Join our Facebook group, and follow Unorthodox on Twitter and Instagram. Get a behind-the-scenes look at our recording sessions on our YouTube channel! Get your Unorthodox T-shirts, mugs, and baby onesies at bit.ly/unorthoshirt. Want to book us for a live show? Email producer Josh Kross at jkross@tabletmag.com. Check out all of Tablet's podcasts at tabletmag.com/podcasts. Sponsors: AJWS supports activists working with vulnerable communities around the globe throughout the ongoing pandemic. Make your twice-matched, tax-deductible donation today at AJWS.org/unorthodox. Harry's is a great shave at a great price. New customers can get a Starter Set for just $3 at harrys.com/unorthodox. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Para nuestro primer episodio, tuvimos la oportunidad de platicar con Jesús Horacio González, senador por el estado de Nuevo León, con más de quince años de experiencia en empresas multinacionales en México y Europa, ocupando posiciones ejecutivas en inteligencia estratégica, asuntos corporativos, recursos humanos y proyectos de operación. En la administración pública, se ha desempeñado como Asesor en el Senado de la República, Regidor ciudadano y Secretario de Ayuntamiento en dos de los más importantes municipios del Estado de Nuevo León, San Pedro Garza García (2012-2015) y San Nicolás de los Garza (2015-2018); lo que le ha permitido adquirir amplio conocimiento y experiencia mediante estudios y operatividad en las áreas de Seguridad Pública, Desarrollo Urbano y Participación Ciudadana. Hablamos sobre la importancia de tomar en cuenta la violencia estructural para incluir a todas y todos en las decisiones políticas de nuestro país, la polarización que vivimos a nivel nacional, la razón por la que decidió dedicarse al servicio público y mucho más. Pueden seguir a nuestro Upstander en: Página de internet: https://jesushoracio.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jesushoraciomx/ Sigue a Upstanders en Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/up_standers/ Manda tus preguntas, comentarios o sugerencias a: upstanders.pod@gmail.com

Finding balance as an entrepreneur is difficult most of the time. Jolene Risch, president and founder of Risch Results, not only balances a career of helping companies find and recruit diverse talent and her private life - she has managed to also spend a large portion of her time giving back to the community with her philanthropy.Jolene founded Risch Results in 2007 after seeing local companies struggle with successfully meeting their goals for recruiting and business growth in today’s rapidly changing workplace. Leveraging 20+ years of experience, Jolene has developed a variety of innovative tools to design and deliver solutions for improved organizational performance. She is also an active board member of the Dallas Holocaust and Human Rights Museum. Jolene is also an alumni of the Goldman Sachs 10,000 Small Businesses Intensive Program.Learn more at rischresults.com.Learn more about the Dallas Holocaust and Human Rights Museum at dhhrm.org.Learn more about Chanel Christoff Davis at www.ddhtax.com or on social media @SalesTaxHelp @FollowTheLeaderPodOutro music: "Everyday Sunshine" by aneleh

Upstander Training aims to empower people to take action to step in, de escalate and prevent bullying, harassments and violence acts against the Asian community. Carlyn Cowen speaks to HMM how this training can be utilized to assist other vulnerable communities like the LGBTQIA, Black & Brown and Native American. Carlyn is an advocate for the Upstander Training because "When we take care of each other the entire community is safer." Interview by HMM correspondent Aileen Javier. For more information about the Chinese-American Planning Council and their different programs please visit their website at: https://www.cpc-nyc.org/

Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior that involves a perceived or real power imbalance that is repeated over time.  Amber Robbins shares her expertise and person experiences about bullying and the importance of not being just a bystander but an Upstander.  When witnesses to bullying intervene, the bullying stops within 10 seconds more than half the time.  We can teach our kids to be kind but also to have personal boundaries and to stand up for others who need them.     Stop bullying website Amber Robbins website Latter-day families stand podcast

This episode is a "talk story" session with three community members with prevention education backgrounds discussing their experience with bystander intervention. Learn about how being an upstander can help prevent sexual violence. They also share the challenges of being an upstander, as well as the importance of bystander intervention, and a few tips on what you can do.

Jori Esptein, USA Today NFL reporter of the Dallas Cowboys, and author of newly released Holocaust memoir, the Upstander, joins Rabbi Erez Sherman, on Yom Hashoah, Holocaust Remembrance Day. Jori shares her strong connection to her faith, her commitment to telling the story of the Holocaust, and her ability to tell deep stories on and off the field. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Judah tells an ominous Passover story, takes calls from the phones, hits us with some new jokes, and asks us all to be upstanders. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/judah-hall/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/judah-hall/support

Mary needed a friend. We've all been Mary at different times in our lives. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kimberly-b-lewis/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/kimberly-b-lewis/support

Jordan and Zach are joined by the dynamic duo of Jori (USA Today reporter, Cowboys & NFL) and Zach (Dunkaholic, Hillel/UT Women's Basketball/Westbrook enthusiast) Epstein to preview Super Bowl LV and reflect on the 2020 NFL season (19:35). From Dak's contract, to Tompa Bay's chances, to a guide to keeping Shabbat as a professional in the sport industry, this episode has it all! Also: Welcome to AA, dog bites, Coach Jason Witten, the Other Terry Bradshaw, and Bachelor Recap!!! We also talked to Jori about her new book, The Upstander, which will be out in March but is already available for pre-order! To hear more about the book, listen here (1:14:38). Click here to pre-order: https://www.amazon.com/Upstander-Surviving-Holocaust-Glaubens-Dismantle/dp/1642937843/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=the+upstander+jori+epstein&qid=1612382952&sr=8-1 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

How do we raise the next generation to be upstanders, who will speak out and seek help when they see injustice? Texas Holocaust Remembrance Week is January 25-29, 2021. Nammie Ichilov, CEO of the Jewish Federation of San Antonio and Director of the Holocaust Memorial Museum of San Antonio, offers recommendations about developmentally appropriate ways to teach children about the Holocaust, at home and in schools.

In this Q & A episode of the Demystifying Diversity Podcast, Daralyse and AnnaMarie delve more deeply into the topics discussed in episode seven, Survival After Genocide: A Conversation about the Enduring Impact of the Holocaust and the Human Capacity for Resilience. Daralyse and AnnaMariespeak about the importance of learning history for the sake of not repeating it and reveal the insights they've gleaned from hearing the stories of survivors. They discuss Holocaust education and the disparity of information between various states. Daralyse and AnnaMarie share their outrage and sadness that there are those who deny the Holocaust and they speak about the devastation that comes from anti-Semitism. In this episode, you will have the opportunity to explore the areas of overlap and intersection that we share as humans and to move from bystander to upstander. Learn more at: https://www.demystifyingdiversitypodcast.com/ Resources to explore: Demystifying Diversity: Embracing Our Shared Humanity by Daralyse Lyons Buy the Book I'm Mixed! by Maggy Williams (Daralyse Lyons' pseudonym) Buy the Book Dos Idiomas, One me: A Bilingual Reader by Maggy Williams (Daralyse Lyons' pseudonym) Buy the Book Upstander Project Visit the Website Names Not Numbers Visit the Website Jewish Virtual Library, US States Requiring Holocaust Education Visit the Website The Diary of A Young Girl by Anne Frank Buy the Book I Never Saw Another Butterfly Anthology Buy the Book Daralyse's WHYY Piece Middle School Documentary Project Read More/Listen Here Daralyse's WHYY Piece - Singing For Survivors Listen Here CNN Coverage - Muslim community that raised 200,000 dollars in 4 days for Synagogue victims Read More The Tower article - Jewish community raises money for Muslim community Read More National Liberty Museum Visit Website The National Museum of American Jewish History Visit Website Herbert D. Katz Center for Advanced Judaic Studies Visit Website JFCS Holocaust Survivor Support Program Visit Website Huffington Post Article “Anti-Semitism Is A Big Problem At American College Campuses, According To New Report” Read Article ADL Visit Website Slate article/ Bari Weiss Review Read More Auschwitz Birkenau Memorial Foundation - Read Survivor Stories Here (((Semitism))): Being Jewish in America in the Age of Trump by Jonathan Weisman https://www.amazon.com/Semitism-Being-Jewish-America-Trump/dp/1250169933 Healing Racial Trauma: The Road to Resilience by Sheila Wise Rowe https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Racial-Trauma-Road-Resilience/dp/0830845887 Thoughts from a Unicorn: 100% Black. 100% Jewish. 0% Safe. By MaNishtana https://www.amazon.com/Thoughts-Unicorn-Black-Jewish-Safe/dp/0615747582 Episode sponsor: VitaSupreme. For 20% off your supplement order, visit vitasupreme.com/pages/diversity and enter the code: diversity Click Here

If you see something wrong in the workplace, what should you do? Business leader Angélique Parisot-Potter says you should speak up, even when it's scary. Sharing her personal experience of voicing concerns at work, she offers three lessons on standing up for what's right.

If you see something wrong in the workplace, what should you do? Business leader Angélique Parisot-Potter says you should speak up, even when it's scary. Sharing her personal experience of voicing concerns at work, she offers three lessons on standing up for what's right.

If you see something wrong in the workplace, what should you do? Business leader Angélique Parisot-Potter says you should speak up, even when it's scary. Sharing her personal experience of voicing concerns at work, she offers three lessons on standing up for what's right.

Episode Notes Dr. Natalie H. Strand, MD. Assistant Professor of Clinical Anesthesiology and Pain Medicine, Mayo Clinic, Arizona Dr. Natalie Strand is a double board certified pain physician at Mayo Clinic in Arizona. She is the director of neuromodulation and the director of pain research. She was awarded the Lisa Stearns Legacy Diversity Award this year by ASPN. She lives with type 1 diabetes, and was awarded Woman of the Year by Diabetes Sisters and Advocate of the Year by Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation for her work promoting equity and opportunity for those living with diabetes. Dr. Strand went to Mayo Clinic School of Medicine, did her transitional year at Mayo Clinic, completed anesthesiology residency at UCLA, and completed her pain medicine fellowship at Mayo Clinic. She has authored over 20 peer reviewed articles, several book chapters, and one book. She has lectured nationally and internationally at several pain society meetings. She also won CBS's The Amazing Race in 2010, becoming part of the first all female team to win. Twitter @DrNatStrand strand.natalie@mayo.edu This podcast is powered by Pinecast.

Responding to Workplace HarassmentIn this episode, herdacious host Lorelei chats with Amy about how we can respond to workplace harassment. As the head of the SAFE Institute, Amy brings her leadership expertise to guide us through a variety of responses when witnessing harassment of others and for ourselves. With the conversation ranging from distinguishing the difference between harassment and misconduct to developing an interruptive, managerial response, Amy emphasizes the unique responsibility each of us holds responding to harassment. Together, we can support our co-workers and protect ourselves, ensuring that we all feel valued, secure in our workplaces, and most of all, safe.Host: Lorelei GonzalezCo-host: Amy AverettIn her current role as director of SAFE Institute, Amy leads a team of trainers and consultants to provide harassment prevention support to companies in Central Texas and beyond. From working at the Alamo Drafthouse to starting her own nonprofit, Amy's experience allows her to successfully lead the SAFE Institute and manage the revenue generated by SAFE's work to support services for people experiencing sexual and domestic violence. Amy founded her own nonprofit organization, Austin Voices for Education and Youth, where she aimed to engage stakeholders in improving public schools and supporting healthy youth development. When Amy isn’t offering a helping hand, she is an avid practitioner in the wonderful world of improv!Things you will learn in this episode (chapter markers available): What is harassment? 4:32Leadership response 7:05Fear of retaliation 11:27From bystander to "Upstander" 13:16Being targeted 16:43Coping strategies 21:15You just got served! 25:14Femme fact: Suffragette White 28:10Resources mentioned in this episode: SAFE Institute (workplace harassment training)SAFE Alliance Austin (helpline) RAINN (hotline) Filing A Charge of Discrimination (guided article)Spot (incident documentation)Episode sponsors: HERdacity Moonray Looking for additional resources on this topic? Check out our blog post “HER Side: Toxic Work Spaces”Loved what you heard on herdacious and want to share with friends? Tag us and connect with HERdacity on social media:Twitter: @herdacityFacebook: @HERdacity Instagram: @herdacityLinkedIn: HERdacity Email: herdacious@herdacity.orgFor up to date information on HERdacity events, webinars, podcasts, and community activities, join our newsletter here. Disclaimer: While we appreciate our sponsors' support in making this show possible, herdacious content is curated with integrity and honesty.Support the show (http://herdacity.org/donate/)

Join Change Catalyst Founder & CEO Melinda Briana Epler with Daralyse Lyons on understanding what it means to be an upstander: an individual who sees wrong and takes action – an important part of allyship. We talked about Daralyse Lyons's upbringing as a biracial child, and what led her to become an advocate and an upstander. In this fascinating conversation, We learned about:Colorism and the dangerous path of bias based on skin color.The difference between an upstander and bystander.The important asset of intersectional diversity in the workplace and product development process.Leading by example and the inclusive leadership path you can choose to lead in the workplace.Some of our favorite quotes:“Once people start to connect with other people in a way that is emotional and real and maybe visceral, it becomes impossible to disengage at that point”“I don't pretend to know what's best for any person. But I do think that when we start allowing ourselves to be defined by society and by other people's expectations of us, that's a huge problem”“One thing that people can do if they really want to be allies, is not to superimpose our own definitions on to other people, but to ask them.”“I think that this idea that we have to kind of rank people, and rank ourselves, is so problematic”“The bystanders are actually the ones who tend to make up the majority of the social collective, and who tend to be the ones who have the ability to – if they will step into that upstander role – ensure these atrocities don't happen, or at least we could stop them a lot sooner”Additional resources: Learn more about Daralyse on her website: https://www.daralyselyons.com/Demystifying Diversity Podcast https://www.daralyselyons.com/demystifying-diversityThe Upstander Project at https://upstanderproject.org/“Let's Define Upstander” at Not in Our Town: https://www.niot.org/blog/lets-define-upstander“Perpetrators, Collaborators, and Bystanders” at Holocaust.com.au: https://www.holocaust.com.au/the-facts/perpetrators-collaborators-and-bystanders/“Dying of whiteness” by Jonathan M. Metzl, How the politics of racial resentment is killing America's heartland: https://www.dyingofwhiteness.com/[image description: image of Daralyse Lyons  (Mixed woman with brown curly long hair, smiling) and Melinda Briana Epler (white woman with red hair and glasses, smiling), with the text "Episode 26: Exploring what it means to be an upstander" image shows black background with red and white text]⭑⭑If this is helpful, don't forget to subscribe to our podcast and like this episode!⭑⭑For more about Change Catalyst, and to join us for a live recording, visit https://changecatalyst.co/allyshipseriesYoutube: youtube.com/c/changecatalystTwitter: twitter.com/changecatalystsFacebook: facebook.com/changecatalystsLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/changecatalysts Support the show (http://patreon.com/changecatalysts)

Lisa Dinhofer, MA, CT, known as “The Crisis Tamer’, works with subject matter and circumstances most people turn away from. She mentors companies past traumatic and destabilizing events, workplace abuse and crisis communications to regain stability, establish a new normal and build resilience. Lisa was an employee at the World Trade Center during the 1993 bombing and was still working in NYC during 9/11. She draws from those first hand experiences of workplace trauma and lessons learned from other workplace tragedies.Lisa is a certified Thanatologist with a sub-specialty in trauma, trained counselor, trained mediator, and a crisis communication specialist with 18+ years of professional experience training, consulting, coaching, debriefing and public speaking. Lisa works with a diverse client base within both for-profit and non-profit organizations. She currently serves as a designated coach for an on-line community based in the UK for people struggling with addiction and is a credentialed provider with an EAP.Lisa’s areas of expertise include: unexpected/traumatic disruption | active shooter and employee violence | COVID-19 issues | addiction issues | workplace grief from death and non-death losses | trust building, Target and ‘Upstander’ training following bullying and sexual harassment | burnout and resilience building | mergers & RIF aftermath issues | scandal | employee termination and other difficult conversations.She served as an Adjunct Instructor in the Graduate Thanatology program at Hood College, Frederick Maryland and is President of Koden Consulting Services.Follow Knowledgeable Aging: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Knowledgeable-Aging-102638398162823 Twitter: https://twitter.com/KnowledgeAging Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowledgeableaging/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/knowledgeable-aging/?viewAsMember=true Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/05OHF9FkmhzCO5PDsyGfGq Newsletter: https://www.knowledgeableaging.com/newsletter/

"The incident bothered me all day and the following many days. I couldn’t quite put a finger on what it was and brushed it aside and stopped thinking about it. In the wake of recent events, it dawned upon me that it wasn’t the patient’s comments that bothered me. It was the fact that no one standing in the room witnessing the conversation stepped in. Not during the conversation, and not after. Considering I’ve worked with my colleagues every single day, and in the same place for the last 12 years, I felt strangely betrayed. Stories like this happen every day and are sadly more common than we realized. There will always be racist, insensitive, inappropriate comments by people across life. Its how we react to them is what will shape our lives. Most individuals have asked how they can help. Well, start by being an upstander and not a bystander. That will mean the world to us, people of color, and immigrants. And let’s start teaching and training students in medical school, nursing, and technical schools how to identify and stand up to inappropriate comments. It may take us a few generations to make seismic changes, but we must start now." Aasma Shaukat is a gastroenterologist and can reached on Twitter @aasmashaukatmd. She shares her story and discusses her KevinMD article, "Be an upstander and not a bystander." (https://www.kevinmd.com/blog/2020/07/be-an-upstander-and-not-a-bystander.html) This episode is sponsored by The Nuance Dragon Ambient eXperience (DAX). The Nuance DAX solution makes it possible to forget the tech-toggling and reduces documentation burdens no matter how or where care is being provided. (www.kevinmd.com/nuancedax)

In celebration of Mediation Week starting October 19, Attorney-Mediator Kristin Rizzo joins Dr. D on MINDSET Mondays to explore workplace disputes and resolutions that range from micro-aggressions to unconscious and/or subconscious biases. Workplace cultures can either foster (non-retaliatory) or hinder (retaliatory) reporting and investigating concerns | complaints. Kristin's brings to the table some fascinating topics... 1) Are you a Bystander or an Upstander? 2)What are the options for dispute resolution from a continuum perspective? 3) How an open mindset and communication are critical at every stage of the process to uncover underlying, sometimes hidden, contributors to conflict. 4) What are the benefits of the "mediation" approach? What else might be involved. Kristin is a power-house of knowledge and experience as a full-time legal neutral. She is the Owner/Founder of Rizzo Resolution and specializes in employment neutral services, including mediation and independent workplace investigation. As an employment attorney who spent years specializing in the strategic representation of employees and businesses in a wide range of employment law and civil litigation matters, Kristin understands both employee and management perspectives, and offers a specialized approach to the work she performs. Having helped many people and companies in workplace disputes, Kristin supports the goal of others seeking to resolve disputes efficiently and productively providing answers to people and companies by finding and delivering facts underlying workplace conflict. Kristin has been recognized as a San Diego Super Lawyer in Employment Litigation and Alternative Dispute Resolution, and by the San Diego Metro Magazine as a top leader under 40. Kristin values service to the San Diego community and volunteering her time to helping others thrive. She served as the President of the San Diego County Bar Association, a multi-million-dollar organization representing approximately 10,000 attorneys and legal community members; and she currently sits on the University of San Diego School of Law’s Board of Visitors and is a Commissioner on the San Diego City’s Human Relations Commission. You can learn more about Kristin here: https://rizzoresolution.com/news/ https://rizzoresolution.com/media/

Going back to school is the topic hot on everyone's minds right now… and whether you're a mom or not, everyone seems to have an opinion. On one hand, we hear that we may be damaging our children (both educationally & emotionally) by restricting their socialization. On the other hand, we hear from experts and teachers across the country who say there is no possible way to return to school safely.We’re joined today by Nicholas Ferroni, a high school history teacher from Union, NJ who has a thing or two to say on the matter… and there’s no one whose opinion we value more. Why? Nicholas has been noted as one of the "100 Making a Difference” and one of the "Most Influential Educators In America;” he was named "Upstander of the Year" by the Human Rights Campaign for his work with LGBTQ youth; he designed a social experiment on the important of gender equality in politics that Whoopi Goldberg called “the best social experiment ever” (no big deal!)... oh and he was named the Sexiest Teacher Alive by People Magazine - CASUAL!!Nicholas is a walking, talking example of that which he preaches… he is a social activist who educates, mentors and inspires students causing them to not only BE inspired & to INSPIRE OTHERS. We’re grateful he’s here today to inspire us, and shed some light on this sticky topic from his view on the front lines of the conversation. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

 “Becoming Kareem” by Kareem Abdul JabarA PLACE INSIDE OF ME by Zetta ElliotThese resources are for teens review first for tweens:The Hate You Give, By Angie Thomas: the book and movieI am not Dying with You Tonight by Kimberly Jones and Gilley Thomas There is also two pretty intense movies Thirteenth- pretty intense.When They See Us film on Netflix by Ava Duverney

Deana and Kira answer a listener question about teaching our kids the difference between telling and tattling. How do we raise upstanders without raising tattletales? Do you have questions for us? Consider becoming a member of the FFP Family and get your questions answered every month in our live Q&A. Space is limited. Visit https://patreon.com/FFP to become a member!

My guest today is the courageous Jessica HickmanAs the founder of Bullyology and Upstand Academy, Jessica is known globally as ‘The Bullyologist’. Bullyology is a professional anti-bullying methodology derived from personal experiences and meticulous research, dedicated to breaking the silence on bullying while striving to promote healthy workplace relationships.Jessica’s mission is to create thriving workplace cultures where individuals are empowered to be Upstanders rather than silent bystanders.Jessica has worked across the UK and Australia in multiple industries including public and private sectors. She is known for her work delivering an improved workplace culture winning multiple industry awards. Delivering motivational workshops with passion and commitment to engage internal staff and external clients on ‘unspeakable’ topics. Her passion lays with delivering social inclusion programs to promote equality, psychological safety and trust within the workplace.Jessica describes how she now uses her adversity as her superpower to make a difference for others. She is super passionate and driven to do this and we chat about:Jessica’s journey to becoming known as the BullyologistThe Upstander effectTips to becoming an UpstanderThe shift in bullying now more people are working from homeHow we can all make a difference in this spaceLinksBullyology

Dr. Jasmine Marcelin is an infectious disease physician, a leader in her organization, an award winning educator, national speaker and lecturer, and active mentor. In this week's episode, we step into a hard, but important conversation regarding unconscious bias. We: define unconscious bias examine its history and evolution explore the importance of a tribe; social circle, community of safety and support outline practical steps to reduce unconscious bias and increase diversity and inclusion in healthcare organizations https://www.unmc.edu/intmed/divisions/id/faculty/marcelin.html  Dr. Lisa Cooper's RESPECT model. https://hub.jhu.edu/2018/06/14/lisa-cooper-equity-panel/  https://www.bloomberg.com/opinion/articles/2018-08-28/doctors-can-fight-implicit-bias-against-african-american-patients Hear Dr. Marcelin deliver a live, half-day workshop on unconscious bias at Creighton University's 4th Annual Emerging Leader Symposium, this September 22nd. https://gradschool.creighton.edu/events/emerging-leader-symposium  

Are you aware of the free learning modules online? On this week's #ThoughtfulThursdays episode, Lorenzo shares his thoughts on continuing your learning and shares some cost-free modules that are currently online. Unconscious Bias, with Stacey Gordon, founder and CEO of Rework Work Diversity, Inclusion, and Belonging, with Pat Wadors, chief talent officer at ServiceNow Confronting Bias: Thriving Across Our Differences, with inclusion strategist and author Verna Myers and Arianna Huffington, founder of The Huffington Post and Thrive Global Skills for Inclusive Conversations with Mary-Frances Winters, founder and CEO of The Winters Group Communicating about Culturally Sensitive Issues with professor and consultant Daisy Lovelace Communicating Across Cultures with Tatiana Kolovou, faculty member at Kelley School of Business Bystander Training: From Bystander to Upstander with consultant and trainer Catherine Mattice Zundel   Check out our suggested Leadership Books and Podcast Gear: HYL Suggestions Buy Lorenzo's leadership book here: Vision, Clarity, Support: A Leadership Crash Course on the 3 Pillars of Success #Leadership #HackingYourLeadership #StarkEngagementConsulting #LifeOfLozo lozo@lifeoflozo.com chris@starkengagement.com Hacking Your Leadership Website Hacking Your Leadership Instagram Leadership Memes Twitter

Dr. Michele Borba tells the story of Lucy who showed the world on a Dateline TV special how powerful kids can be, and just what it takes to be an Upstander. Parents, educators, and kids listening will learn how they can recognize cruelty & step in to stop bullying in their schools and communities. Kids don’t come with instruction books, but through this podcast, Dr. Borba will communicate necessary information to help you cultivate a child with moral courage that you can be proud of! Way to go Lucy! #Empathy #Parenting #MoralCourage #CyberBullying #Bullying #Educators --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/publicandpermanent/message

Podcast Guest ISSA SECK - Social Wellness Personal Trainer & Life Coach and Author of Bully Proof: Bullying Stops Here Founder of FitCamp 90 and the A.B.C Anti Bully Camp Issa is a Personal Trainer, Life Coach and Founder of FitCamp90. He is a retired Pro MMA Fighter with a black belt in taekwondo, a bleu belt in Jiu Jitsu and expert level in Muay Thai and Kickboxing. He has a solid background in competitive sports with over 17 years of experience. He understands how to motivate and bring the best out of people even in their worst days.Favorite Quote: “You Don't have to be Great To Start But You Have To Start To Be Great” Issa is also the author of the book “Bully Proof: Bullying Stops Here” and the architect of the Anti Bullying Camp, conflict resolution and build self esteem program, he is your guy if your child is having any of these issues. His ideas on becoming an UPstander are good for all of us to attend to in this current world climate! https://www.fitcamp90.com https://www.facebook.com/groups/1617762715131157/ https://www.facebook.com/antibullycamp/ https://www.amazon.com/BULLY-PROOF-Bullying-Stops-Here/dp/1775118703 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kristina-welsome/message

Today's story is from Matthew 21:12-17 where Jesus clears the temple, teaching us that Jesus wants us to stand up for what's right. We also take a very practical look at what it looks like to stand up for what's right when you see someone being treated wrongly. Our memory verse is, "Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong." 1 Corinthians 16:13 All scripture is from the NIrV and follows along with the Go! Curriculum we use on Sunday mornings. Also referenced in this episode is children's book author Trudy Ludwig. Trudy's books promote a message of anti-bullying, empathy and standing up for what's right. You can find here Amazon page HERE. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/familygoandgrow/message

Living a life of purpose gives your name a wonderful mark in this world. Today, Dr. Diane Hamilton talks to Dr. Omékongo Dibinga who is an UPstander motivational speaker, trilingual poet, TV talk show host, rapper, and professor of cross-cultural communication at American University. Dr. Dibinga shares the ordeal he went through with bullying, being suicidal, and finding hope amidst all the circumstances. Reshaping the hip-hop world and focusing on helping people find common ground in these uncommon times, Dr. Dibinga notes that regardless of what generation we belong to, there are opportunities for change. Whether people acknowledge it or not, the fact remains that there are a lot of misconceptions about AIDS. Dr. Diane Hamilton interviews Justin Miller, the Co-Founder and CEO of Care for AIDS on today’s show. Justin introduced a book he co-authored called Beyond Blood and explains some misconceptions about AIDS and what their non-profit organization is doing to help the people affected by it. With guidance from Bono’s words, Justin also talks about how his advocacy has given shape to his perseverance to get rid of AIDS. Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share!Here’s How »Join the Take The Lead community today:DrDianeHamilton.comDr. Diane Hamilton FacebookDr. Diane Hamilton TwitterDr. Diane Hamilton LinkedInDr. Diane Hamilton YouTubeDr. Diane Hamilton Instagram

Omekongo Dobomga Omékongo Dibinga is the UPstander. His life’s mission is to inspire all across the globe to take a stand when they witness an injustice, no matter how small or large. He is a motivational speaker, trilingual poet, TV talk show host, rapper, and professor of cross-cultural communication at American University. His Urban Music Award winning work has best been described by Nikki Giovanni as “outstanding, exciting, and new while being very old.” His book, From the Limbs of My Poetree was described by Essence Magazine as “a remarkable and insightful collection of exquisite poetry that touches sacred places within your spirit.” He was one of 5 international recipients out of 750,000 to win the first ever “CNN iReport Spirit Award.” He has received over 1,000,000 views on CNN.com. Justin Miller Justin Miller is the Co-Founder and CEO of Care for Aids. He received his degrees from Vanderbilt and Emory. Justin grew up in Fayetteville, GA, and has spent the past decade working to solve some of the world’s most complex social problems with the heart of an entrepreneur. He has dedicated his life and leadership to empowering people throughout East Africa to live a life beyond AIDS. He is one of the authors of Beyond Blood: Hope and Humanity in the Forgotten Fight Against AIDS.

Gossip has no positives. None. It can be really challenging at times to avoid the pull of knowing the latest word on the street with a friend or family member or keeping up on the dish at work. Gossip impacts the ability to trust other people, it is often based on convoluted information and hurts more hearts than we can fathom. Learning how to dodge the gossip bullet and refrain from its lure is the focus of today's episode.We're rocking out positive talk to squelch the negative. If you're interested in supporting Goodness Chick's weekly Pod, hop on www.patreon.com/goodnesschick

“On a scorching hot day in July 1936, thousands of people cheered as the U.S. Olympic teams boarded the S.S. Manhattan, bound for Berlin. Among the athletes were the 14 players representing the first-ever U.S. Olympic basketball team. As thousands of supporters waved American flags on the docks, it was easy to miss the one courageous man holding a BOYCOTT NAZI GERMANY sign. But it was too late for a boycott now; the ship had already left the harbor.” Andrew Maraniss joins me today to discuss his AMAZING book GAMES OF DECEPTION!  I LOVED this book. All of my history buffs and basketball fans will be over the moon reading this book!  Enjoy, my friends!

On this Episode of the Transformational Leader Podcast, we sit down with Dr. Omekongo Dibinga. A motivational speaker, trilingual poet, musician, TV talk show host, and a professor…what doesn’t he do?! Also, an UPstander with a life mission to inspire all those across the globe to take a stand when they witness an injustice. With writings and appearances in places like O Magazine, as well as on TV and radio from CNN, BET, and the BBC to NPR, Music Choice. The list goes on and on about all of his accomplishments and it is truly an honor to have sat down with a transformational leader like himself.   We dove right into what brought Dr. Dibinga to his journey in leadership and got raw and deep. As he said to us “They say leaders aren’t born, they’re made.” He shared there were three challenges he faced as a child: being bullied, poor and growing up in a crack epidemic. Dealing with these challenges made him want to beat the statistic of failing. “One of the things I learned about being a leader is you got to reach people where they are.” It’s all about the connection and understanding the people you’re speaking with. Come listen along as we talk all about connections and how Dr. Dibinga got to where he is today!   *** This episode is brought to you by the John Maxwell Team. Learn how the John Maxwell Team Leadership, Coaching, Speaking, and Training Development Program can help you take your organization, leadership, and life to the next level. Book a free call with a Program Coordinator at: https://johnmaxwellteam.com/talk     *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com 

Listen to Michael and Eugene, as they discuss one of the most rapidly growing epidemics within schools today- bullying. Learn how to become an UPSTANDER, rather than a bystander.Support the show (https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=552559)

Rick will have a discussion with Omekongo Dibinga about his latest project, Grow Towards Your Greatness. Dr. Omékongo Dibinga is the UPstander. His lifes mission is to inspire all across the globe to take a stand when they witness an injustice, no matter how small or large. He is a motivational speaker, trilingual poet, TV talk show host, rapper, and professor of cross-cultural communication at American University. His Urban Music Award winning work has best been described by Nikki Giovanni as “outstanding, exciting, and new while being very old.” His book, From the Limbs of My Poetree was described by Essence Magazine as “a remarkable and insightful collection of exquisite poetry that touches sacred places within your spirit.” He was one of 5 international recipients out of 750,000 to win the first ever “CNN iReport Spirit Award.” He has received over 1,000,000 views on CNN.com. Please join Rick for what will be an exciting and passionate conversation!

Hello everyone! Today on Teach Me, Teacher, we are talking about the power of men in the classroom with none other than Nicholas Ferroni. I had the pleasure of hearing Nicholas speak at Get Your Teach On this year, and I KNEW I had to have him on the show to share his insight and perspective on education. Nicholas Ferroni is a nationally recognized educator and activist who educates, mentors and inspires students to reach their goals while driving a national dialogue about education reform. Named "Upstander of the Year" by the HRC (Human Rights Campaign) for his outspoken advocacy and support for LGBTQ youth, Nick was also noted as one of the "100 Making a Difference" and one of the "Most Influential Educators in America." His expertise and strong opinions about education and revisionist History have made him a sought after expert on national platforms including ABC's 'The View,' MSNBC, ABC, HLN and more. It's hard to find someone as outspokenly POSITIVE about education than Nicholas, and I'm honored to have him on the show. Enjoy!   Support Teach Me, Teacher by checking my memoir for educators here.  Check out Teach Me, Teacher Presents: Reading – Writing Workshop here.  Like our the show’s music? Check out our theme music creator, Bryan Pascarella, here.  A special thank you to Viewsonic for sponsoring this episode of the podcast! Please check out their amazing resources for teachers here.  

Ok, so this episode is all about Bullying. Whether you've experienced it or seen it, please listen! And share with your friends! Amber from @TeenTake30 has some great tips really for anyone that has experienced unkindness. She shares how we can prepare our mind for such things. She also explains the definition of Bullying, which is good because I think that word is really overused.  Check out the AMAZON store for some gratitude journals and meditation accessories!

Todd and Cathy discuss Jon Krakauer's book Missoula: Rape and the Justice System in a College Town and the documentary the Bystander Moment (ZPR and The Tribe Men's Group are hosting a free screening of this movie at the Elmhurst Public Library on July 9th at 7 pm). They discuss the statistics and trauma of sexual assault, and the why it's important to talk to our kids about entitlement, desire, and consent. They explain what it means to be an Upstander and why supporting and speaking up for others is a socially responsibility.

Todd and Cathy discuss Jon Krakauer's book Missoula: Rape and the Justice System in a College Town and the documentary the Bystander Moment (ZPR and The Tribe Men's Group are hosting a free screening of this movie at the Elmhurst Public Library on July 9th at 7 pm). They discuss the statistics and trauma of sexual assault, and the why it's important to talk to our kids about entitlement, desire, and consent. They explain what it means to be an Upstander and why supporting and speaking up for others is a socially responsibility.

Todd and Cathy discuss Jon Krakauer’s book Missoula: Rape and the Justice System in a College Town and the documentary the Bystander Moment (ZPR and The Tribe Men’s Group are hosting a free screening of this movie at the Elmhurst Public Library on July 9th at 7 pm). They discuss the statistics and trauma of sexual assault, and the why it’s important to talk to our kids about entitlement, desire, and consent. They explain what it means to be an Upstander and why supporting and speaking up for others is a socially responsibility.

In this episode I speak with Margaret Atkinson's (@fmargret) class about their Upstander brand project. Connect with them on Twitter @UpstanderBrand and check out Real World Scholars @RWScholars who have provided the class with #EdCorps grants in order to be able to do this work.

Speaking up. Saying something. In one second lives can be altered or even lost due to one person's poor decision. The truth is we can be witness to these decisions and we have a choice to say something or stay silent. Self harming behaviors come in many forms (driving under the influence, abusing drugs, cutting, toxic relationships, etc.). I believe when we know someone is placing either themselves or others in harms way our words have the potential to make a difference. Sometimes our words have the ability to encourage someone to get help, support or alter their decisions. In today's episode we chat about how important it is to have a voice, to speak up and even to ask for help when needed. I share a bit of personal loss in my own life that could have been prevented with one voice. The Precious Gems Memorial (https://preciousgemsmemorial.com/) was formed in memory of our girls as well as conveying the message of the dangers of driving under the influence. I hope you have an opportunity to visit the site.

Dr. Omekongo Dibinga tells Somers High School students to be an Upstander, not a Bystander.

In the debut episode of Season 2 of Pod In Search Of Man, we get to hear from Ruth Messinger, the former president of AJWS and Manhattan borough president, as she shares stories from her many experiences covering Rabbi Heschel, the current political climate, and her views on education. Take a listen and enjoy!

Dr. Omékongo Dibinga is the UPstander. His life’s mission is to inspire all across the globe to take a stand when they witness an injustice, no matter how small or large. He is a motivational speaker, trilingual poet, TV talk show host, rapper, and professor of cross-cultural communication at American University. * You are invited to join our community and conversations about each episode on FaceBook at https://www.facebook.com/MutuallyAmazingPodcast and join us on Twitter @CenterRespect or visit our website at http://www.MutuallyAmazingPodcast.com**   SCROLL DOWN TO READ THE TRANSCRIPTION LISTEN TO THE SHOW BELOW via Audio, and/or Read the Transcription   Omékongo’s BIO:   Dr. Omékongo Dibinga is the UPstander. His life’s mission is to inspire all across the globe to take a stand when they witness an injustice, no matter how small or large. He is a motivational speaker, trilingual poet, TV talk show host, rapper, and professor of cross-cultural communication at American University. His Urban Music Award winning work has best been described by Nikki Giovanni as “outstanding, exciting, and new while being very old.” His book, From the Limbs of My Poetree was described by Essence Magazine as “a remarkable and insightful collection of exquisite poetry that touches sacred places within your spirit.” He was one of 5 international recipients out of 750,000 to win the first ever “CNN iReport Spirit Award.” He has received over 1,000,000 views on CNN.com.   Omékongo’s writings and performances have appeared in O Magazine, as well as on TV and radio from CNN, BET, and the BBC to NPR, Music Choice, and Voice of America in millions of homes in over 150 countries. He has also written songs for major motion pictures as well as organizations such as NASA and the Enough! Project. He has spoken before the United Nations, partners with the State Department to conduct youth leadership trainings overseas, and speaks to leadership and youth student conferences across the country. Omékongo’s music and writings have appeared alongside artists such as Sheryl Crow, Angelina Jolie, Norah Jones, Damien Rice, Angelique Kidjo, Don Cheadle, and Mos Def. He has shared the stage with Wyclef Jean, OutKast, Sonia Sanchez, Dennis Brutus, Emmanuelle Chriqui, The Last Poets, and NFL great Aaron Rodgers. Internationally, he has shared his work in over 20 countries on 3 continents.   Omékongo has studied at Harvard, MIT, Princeton, Georgetown, Morehouse, and The Fletcher School, where he earned his M.A. in Law & Diplomacy. He earned his Ph.D. in International Education Policy at The University of Maryland (UMD) where his dissertation centered on the global hip-hop phenomenon and Jay-Z. At UMD, he also worked with the Southern Poverty Law Center’s “Teaching Diverse Students Initiative.” Across the country he has worked with school districts on culturally relevant instruction including Washington DC, Texas, New York, Ohio, Florida, Massachusetts, and California. He worked for four years as the lead Teaching Assistant to Dr. Michael Eric Dyson at Georgetown University. He provides leadership, educational and diversity empowerment as a consultant and motivational speaker for organizations, associations and institutions. He has featured/lectured nationwide in venues from TEDx and Harvard to Russell Simmons’ Hip-Hop Summit and the Nuyorican Poets Café. His rap mixtape series “Bootleg” promotes positive hip-hop with remixes of songs by Tupac, Notorious BIG, Jay Z, Nas, 50 Cent, and others. His 1,000,000 Youth Campaign has directly impacted over 100,000 youth across the globe to date. He has also partnered with Intel on its campaign to make their computer processors free of minerals that come from the war in the Congo.   Omékongo has published and produced 7 books, 7-fusion music and motivational CDs, and one independent DVD. His motivational book G.R.O.W. Towards Your Greatness! 10 Steps to Living Your Best Life has received praise from great motivational speakers such as Willie Jolley. His most recent book “The UPstander’s Guide to an Outstanding Life” is a life balance book for students. For more information, please visit www.upstanderinternational.com.   Social media links: Twitter/Facebook/Instagram: @omekongo   BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS: 1. Think and grow rich by Napoleon Hill 2. Stamped from the beginning by Dr. Ibram X. Kendi 3. The 7 habits of highly effective people by Dr. Stephen Covey

The podcast will examine Weil’s Upstander Action Guide. Meredith Moore, the head of D&I and Social Responsibility, will provide an overview of what an Upstander is and what behaviors an Upstander exhibits. She also will discuss the launch session that involved an interactive theatre group acting out scenarios of an Upstander intervention and the impact and outcomes from the Upstander program.

Companies were surprised to hear the EEOC recommend that they should consider providing bystander intervention training as a tool for reducing incidences of harassment and discrimination in the workplace. In this episode we talk with SHIFT founder, Katherin Nukk-Freeman, about what Bystander Intervention training entails and how companies can benefit from creating an Upstander Culture.

Deepa Iyer explores how bystanders become upstanders in the context of the train tragedy in Portland and white nationalism. Joseph Santos-Lyons with the Asian Pacific American Network of Oregon and Debjani Roy with Hollaback join the conversation.

Deepa Iyer explores how bystanders become upstanders in the context of the train tragedy in Portland and white nationalism. Joseph Santos-Lyons with the Asian Pacific American Network of Oregon and Debjani Roy with Hollaback join the conversation.

This week Katie and Jess educate themselves on two Indigenous Australian women in light of Reconciliation Week.

Our guest is famous for his social experiments with students. Most are very enlightening, but today he's talking about one that was an epic fail. Follow: @NicholasFerroni @Jonharper70bd @bamradionetwork Nicholas Ferroni is a revered high school teacher who mentors his diverse students with deep personal commitment and care. Nick was recognized as one of the "Most Influential Educators in America," as well as named "Upstander of the Year" by the HRC.

(So many people tuned in at once we were kicked off the server twice!!!!!) Dr. Omékongo Dibinga is the UPstander. His life's mission is to inspire all across the globe to take a stand when they witness an injustice, no matter how small or large. He is a motivational speaker, trilingual poet, TV talk show host, rapper, and professor of cross cultural communication at American University. His Urban Music Award winning work has best been described by Nikki Giovanni as “outstanding, exciting, and new while being very old.” His book, From the Limbs of My Poetree was described byEssence Magazine as “a remarkable and insightful collection of exquisite poetry that touches sacred places within your spirit.” He was one of 5 international recipients out of 750,000 to win the first ever “CNN iReport Spirit Award.” He has received over 1,000,000 views on CNN.com. Omékongo's writings and performances have appeared in O Magazine, as well as on TV and radio fromCNN, BET, and the BBC to NPR, Music Choice, and Voice of Americain millions of homes in over 150 countries.He has also written songs for major motion pictures as well as organizations such as NASA and the Enough! Project. Omékongo's music and writings have appeared alongside artists such as Sheryl Crow, Angelina Jolie, Norah Jones, Damien Rice, Angelique Kidjo, Don Cheadle, and Mos Def. He has shared the stage with Wyclef Jean, OutKast, Sonia Sanchez, Dennis Brutus, Emmanuelle Chriqui, The Last Poets, and NFL great Aaron Rodgers.  Omékongo has studied at Harvard, MIT, Princeton, Georgetown, Morehouse, and The Fletcher School, where he earned his M.A. in Law & Diplomacy. Heearned his Ph.D. in International Education Policy at The University of Maryland (UMD) where his dissertation centered on the global hip-hop phenomenon and Jay-Z.