OFF STAGE with Lisa O'Neill

This week, I'm laughing my way through a birthday audit. I use my birthday like an end-of-financial-year review: what's working, what needs fixing, what does version 5.6 of me need? I'm talking food, fitness, why I don't drink, and the line I keep coming back to: if you fuck up your body, you've got nowhere to live.

Action breeds confidence and I'm deep in an action phase this birthday week. I'm talking about why worrying is just worshiping your problems, the beautiful tension between "I am ashes and dust" and "the world was made for me," and my genuine advice for your next birthday: lie about your age, but go up. Because old age is a privilege.

I spent $90 getting my aura cleansed, and it got me thinking about why we'll spend that on an oil change without blinking but not on ourselves. This week, I'm talking about bodywork, energy cords, closing open loops, and having an actual meeting with your body to ask it what it needs. The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

When you're running here, there and everywhere, your energy takes a hit. So this week I'm getting my aura cleansed between Sydney and Wellington. I'm talking about magnetic healing, why disease can show up in your energy field months before your body, and the simple truth underneath all of it: no one else is going to look after your energy. That's your job.

Every feeling you have has a vibration and once you know the ladder, you can't unsee it. This week, I'm sharing the chart I've been showing at conferences (print it, stick it on your fridge), the small things that lift my vibe, and why sometimes the healthiest thing is to sit in your shit for a bit before climbing out.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

We're at the midpoint of the year so what happened to all those January promises? This week, I'm talking about the three things I'm passionate about, the three F's everyone should sort by 40 (fitness, friends, finances), and my favourite thing in the whole world: taking responsibility for wherever you are, even when it's not your fault. You've got six months. Don't waste them.

Your people can make or break you so why do most of us pay so little attention to where our energy actually goes? This week, I'm making the case for auditing your people: leaning into the ones who lift you, gently leaning away from the ones who drain you, and getting prescriptive about the good ones you're still missing. Because hope is not a plan.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

You're the biggest brainwasher in your own life and most of the cruel stories you tell yourself came from other people years ago. I want you to catch it. Course correct. When you hear yourself say something cruel, talk back. Grab a friend to pull you up. And find your line — mine, from Louise Hay, is "I'm safe and loved." That's the good kind of brainwashing.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

Busy is a choice, stress is a choice, joy is a choice. And here's the uncomfortable bit. If you don't make a decision, that's still a decision. Sometimes there's no good option, just the best bad one. So what's yours right now?

We sit around thinking "soon I'll feel amazing and then I'll do something." Flip it. Go do something then see how you feel. The energy comes after the action.

I'm not a natural rester. My ADHD and my packed life don't make space for it. So I taught myself, and after a weekend lying down at a retreat in the Coromandel, I'm not tired for the first time all year. This week, I'm talking about why rest goes deeper than sleep, what trees can teach us, and why "I haven't got time" is the exact belief keeping you exhausted.

Your life moves in the direction of your strongest thought. So what's yours right now? Mine is lucky. This week, I'm talking about why that one word is changing everything, plus a moment at a women's conference in Queenstown that absolutely got me, and why everything, the tea you drink, the person you sit next to, the time you go to bed is an energy decision.

Sometimes you have to reintroduce yourself from scratch. This week, I'm talking about getting to know myself again at 55, why "what are you into?" is a better question than "what do you do?", and why having an answer matters more than you think.

I got a cold and it reminded me that having a system matters. This week, I'm sharing everything I reach for when my body starts sending warning signals potassium broth, a hot whiskey remedy that a Scottish friend swears by, and the permission to tap out before you actually need to.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

I used to exercise because I felt like I had to. Now I do it because it's a privilege and my body can and that shift has changed everything. This week, I'm talking strength, flexibility, coordination, and why falling in love with taking care of yourself is one of the most powerful decisions you'll ever make.

find another layer waiting underneath. This week, I'm talking about how to actually do it. The list, the plan, and yes, burning the paper, whether it's clutter, a habit, or a person who's been glued into your life way past their expiry date.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

This week when I opened my planner to page 146, I found Byron Katie's quote staring back at me: I am a lover of what is, not because I'm a spiritual person, because it hurts when I argue with reality. I've been using her four questions for about 20 years and I'm still not done with them. They're that good.The four questions are simple. Is it true? Can you absolutely know it's true? How do you react when you believe it's true? And who would you be without the thought? I walk you through all of them this week.

I'm great at buying supplements. Taking them? That's where it falls apart. This week I'm talking about why I think every woman needs them, how to figure out what you actually need, and the simple tricks that help me remember to take the damn things. Your body has been asking for this. Time to listen.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

When life throws rocks in your path, you can't always move them - but you can be the water that flows around them. This week Lisa shares the visualisation keeping her grounded through a genuinely ridiculous week, plus discovery calls, a seafood boil, and why you should watch the Jacinda documentary even if you hate politics.

This week's Energy Wisdom lesson is about asking for help. We're shit at it because we're really capable. When you ask for help, you're giving people an opportunity to be generous, so do it as a game. Be specific, and don't feel guilty. The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

Elizabeth Lisa wrote the most stunning book called Broken Open and there's a quote that says, "the difficult times we fear might ruin us can break us open and help us blossom." My cup has overflowed with hard stuff but it's making me better not bitter. Hard is good because it stretches us. I'm in that stretchy bit where you can feel your muscles tweaking.

The Marianne Williamson quote in my planner says "everyone is on a spiritual path, most people just don't know it." What does your soul need? Not just courage, but permission or a shove to be braver. Our triggers are our teachers, crisis is a curriculum, the cave you fear holds the treasure you seek, and when was the last time you had your head held?

I'm recording this from Shanghai and I am absolutely living my best life. Eight incredible women, markets where the answer is always yes, and a city that runs entirely on possibility and contrast. This week I'm staying in the moment, because that's where the magic is.

This week's Energy Wisdom lesson is all about spiritual energy and beliefs. Some people were told what to believe, but I was raised by an atheist father and Presbyterian mother, so I got stuck in the middle and got to choose, which is actually a gift.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

Iris Apfel says, "You don't find out who you are unless you work at it." The greatest project we ever work on is ourselves, and you're not a $5 note so don't find yourself. Try different things and reinvent yourself every two years instead of becoming forgetfully the same.

This week's Energy Wisdom lesson is all about mental energy, the stuff that either makes you mental or stops you from being mental and how much clarity you have when your brain feels fuzzy, scattered, muddy, or crunchy.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

I get concerned about all the energy going into people being stressed and hating. Here's the recipe for an amazing life: stay present to where your feet are and find ways to enjoy every moment, hour by hour infusing your world with fun because it's hard out there.

nspiration is energy and if you feel uninspired, it's because you've abandoned yourself doing boring shit instead of living. Make a list of what inspires you. Movies, recipes, podcasts, sunsets, everyday people doing good human shit and go find some wow this week.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

We are awake for 100 hours a week: 30 hours to be human, 40 hours of work, leaving 30 hours, but where does it actually go? Keep a tally this week because the Buddha says "the trouble is you think you have time" and maybe you haven't.

Today's question is: how youare you? Are you at the epicentre of you or miles away from it? Look at what you're wearing. Is it the you or just the cleanest shirt? You're an unrepeatable person, so how can you be 100% you today?

I just found the most gorgeous poem, Dear Body, written by Jan Brierton. It really aligns with my view on our bodies and how we need to look after them and love them and make friends with them.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

I don't know who said it, but someone famous said that we die twice. We die the first time when our heart stops beating and the second time we die is when people no longer mention our name, when they stop talking about us.

People don't really know what makes them happy and people don't know how to get happy. And I've spent a lot of time thinking about this, and I reckon there's ten steps that we have to go through to get happy.

In the Energy Book, I wrote about the five major contaminators that we can come across. The Drama Queen, the Human Dumpster, the Control Freak, the Virtuous Victim, and the Mighty Narcissist. In this episode, I'm sharing with you how to handle each and what they're teaching you. You've always got power: journal, practice "fuck off" in the car, and remember it's not your job to fix them.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

This week, the quote on my planner is a Brené Brown one of choosing courage over comfort. Outside of the comfort zone is the stretch zone. Courage means to be scared and do it anyway. and that's where you have to step into courage.

Today's quote is Emily Dickinson's "I dwell in possibility" and I love that hope is the thing with feathers that perches in your soul.

Taking responsibility for your body means investigating what's wrong, asking why it's happening, making informed decisions, being proactive with tests, and not just outsourcing everything to doctors without understanding what's going on.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

If you're a high capacity human, you will often attract low capacity people. You give other people permission to be an underdoer and you over function.

My greatest piece of advice this week is organise, don't agonise by Nancy Pelosi. Whatever you're stressed about, organise it.

Re-mattering and re-membering are about rejoining yourself (reconnecting with your soul's desires) and reclaiming your importance (teaching yourself and others that you matter again).The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

Maya Angelou wrote that we need to treat life as art because the routines we follow, we often forget that life is an ongoing adventure. The sooner we realize that, the quicker we'll be able to treat life as art, to bring all of our energies to each encounter, to remain flexible enough to notice and admit when what we expected to happen did not happen. We need to remember that we are created, creative.

Marty Supreme got me thinking about Rabbi Simcha's teaching: carry two pieces of paper saying "I'm everything" and "I'm dust." This year, I'm committed to being intentional, asking "what is my intention?" in every moment, knowing what deserves my all-in commitment and what deserves letting go.

Energy isn't something that happens to you. It's the result of conscious (or unconscious) decisions you make every single day about what you eat, wear, surround yourself with, and do.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

I'm taking my five words (authentic, creative, responsible, thoughtful, kind) and applying them to what they look like to myself, to my people and in my business. Five words, three categories. That's a little matrix that I'm playing with.

I'm filming a brand new podcast with my friend Peter Cook. It is a podcast to support business owners because it's hard out there being one. We want to add some inspiration and a few ideas out there into the world of business.

I've always been very keen on people having power. I have five different ways for reclaiming personal power: saying no, creating a daily spiritual practice, auditing relationships, receiving help, and caring for your physical body. Go get your power back.

A really freeing way to look at your energy is just to play a game of could. There's so many possibilities. Think about what you could change and see how that makes you feel.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

Happy first week back for me and maybe for you. What's happening in your week? What are you doing? What is your focus? Go out there and have an amazing day.

Pottering and pondering is what I've been doing. I think that is the greatest thing you can do right now, to start pondering what's possible. Start pottering, get a journal, start pondering what you want and what is your year going to look like.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

I've learnt over the years that when you're in the hectic times, you've just got to slow all the way down. This is the time of year we're going to need a lot of kindness.

"If you're exhausted about your heart's obsession with the fixed past and your mind's focus on an uncertain future, your lungs are the perfect place for you." I love this line from John Roedel's poem, My Brain and Heart Divorced. It's just divine.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz