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Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)Have you ever noticed a never-ending cycle of drama amongst your family or friend group? In this episode, we talk about how the Drama Triangle might be the hidden pattern keeping your relationships stuck in painful cycles. Whether you're supporting a loved one with mental illness or navigating difficult family dynamics, this pattern will keep you trapped in the pain instead of solving it.Stephen Karpman's Drama Triangle describes three roles that create and sustain relationship dysfunction: the Victim (feeling helpless and powerless), the Persecutor (critical and blaming), and the Rescuer (rushing to fix problems). What makes this pattern so challenging is how people shift between these roles, maintaining the pain while never actually resolving underlying issues.We identify places where we can spot the drama triangle in our own lives—from childhood experiences with divorced parents to adult relationships—showing how these patterns created confusion and heartache. These triangles often form because we're desperately trying to maintain stability, even when that stability is painful.The good news is that understanding these patterns gives you the power to break free. We explore practical ways to step outside your habitual role and ultimately break down the triangle entirely. Rather than seeing these behaviors as character flaws, we frame them as adaptations that once served a purpose but may now be limiting your growth and happiness.This conversation highlights how recognizing these patterns can help you create more authentic connections with loved ones struggling with mental health challenges. Check out KulaMind.com to learn more about our online platform designed to help you break toxic patterns and find peace while supporting someone with mental illness.Resources:https://karpmandramatriangle.com/dt_article_only.htmlSupport the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested. Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Si hoy estás aquí porque te ha dolido ver ese número en la báscula, si sientes que te golpeó, te lastimó, te desmotivó, quédate conmigo. Este episodio es breve, va al grano, y lo grabé pensando especialmente en ti. Yo he estado ahí. He sentido esa punzada en el pecho al ver un número que no esperaba. Ese número que parece decir: “vas mal”, “no sirvió de nada”, “otra vez fracasaste”. Y sí, lo sé. Ese número puede doler. Mucho. Pero hoy quiero compartirte una perspectiva que puede cambiarlo todo: el modelo psicológico conocido como el Triángulo Dramático de Karpman. Este modelo, desarrollado por el psiquiatra Stephen Karpman, explica cómo muchas veces, sin darnos cuenta, nos posicionamos en tres roles disfuncionales: víctima, verdugo y salvador. Estos roles —y vivir encarnando estos roles— evidentemente no nos llevan a ser. Nos impiden ser. Son un bloqueo para poder ser las mujeres que verdaderamente queremos ser. Es un obstáculo real. Desde estos roles no podemos crear nuestra mejor versión. Y ahora te pregunto: ¿Cómo se ve esto en nuestra relación con la báscula? Yo me convierto en la víctima, la báscula (o más bien, el número que aparece) es el verdugo, y mi salvador puede ser la comida, el vino, una amiga que me dice “ya, olvídalo”, o incluso esa voz interna que me justifica para soltarme. Pero, cuando me meto en ese triángulo, pierdo mi poder. Me inmovilizo. Me desgasto. Me desconecto. Si esto te está resonando, respira profundamente y escucha esta propuesta. Si has solido sentirte como la víctima ante el número en la báscula, la propuesta es que, en lugar de quedarte en ese papel, elijas ser la que se hace cargo, la que sabe estar consigo misma. Quizá es momento de reconocer que sí hay un dolor que hay que sanar, que hay que trabajar, pero que esta situación específica del número en la báscula puedes enfrentarla de una manera diferente: desde la creatividad, desde la curiosidad, desde preguntarte: ¿Qué puedo aprender de este momento? ¿Qué puedo aprender del número? ¿Qué oportunidad me está dando este número para crecer? Y en lugar de buscar un salvador, busca una guía. No alguien que te apapache y te diga lo que quieres oír, sino alguien que te acompañe con amor, claridad y verdad. Yo estoy aquí como tu coach. Y te digo con el corazón: no estás sola. Pero también te digo: yo no puedo salvarte. La única que puede salvarte eres tú. Y aquí está lo más revelador: ese número en la báscula no tiene que cambiar para que tú cambies tu manera de verte, de sentirte y de actuar. Puedes decidir hoy mismo dejar de sufrir, volver a ti y caminar hacia tu mejor versión. Si quieres hacerlo acompañada, si quieres transformar esta experiencia desde el amor y con claridad, entra a

The Drama Triangle Explained: How to Reclaim Your Power The Drama Triangle, a concept developed by psychologist Stephen Karpman, illustrates how individuals can become entangled in a cycle of emotional exhaustion and conflict through three distinct roles: the victim, the rescuer, and the villain. Each role plays a significant part in perpetuating drama in our lives, often without our conscious awareness. Host Tonya Leigh explores the concept of the Drama Triangle, a framework that reveals the subconscious patterns we create in our lives. The discussion highlights how many people gravitate towards drama, whether for a sense of identity, adrenaline, or connection, often without realizing it. Tonya emphasizes that while some drama may serve a purpose, much of it keeps us trapped in familiar, chaotic states, preventing us from experiencing peace and ease in our lives.  Tune in as we break down the three roles in the Drama Triangle—victim, villain, and hero—and how to recognize and escape these patterns to achieve a more elegant and fulfilling life. 00:47 - The Allure of Drama: Why We Create It 01:03 - Craving Peace and Elegance 02:09 - Role 1: The Victim 04:16 - The Victim's Self-Image 07:10 - Role 2: The Rescuer 09:50 - Examples of the Rescuer Role 11:07 - The Rescuer's Self-Image 16:00 - Role 3: The Villain 19:30 - Examples of the Villain Role 22:26 - The Villain's Self-Image 23:32 - Stepping Out of the Drama Triangle 24:03 - Becoming the Main Character Quotes: "What we crave is a sense of ease, a sense of peace, a sense of elegance in our lives, which means that we're going to have to give up some of the drama." "You're not the problem, but you are the solution." "If you want to grow your impact, if you want to have more ease in your life, you must be willing to let other people fail." "I'm only valuable when I'm needed." "The control, the criticism, and the blame comes from a fear of losing control, of not being enough, of being exposed." "You're the main character, but more importantly, you're also the writer and the director." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel   

Do you want to create more healthy relationships with your partner, family, co-workers and friends? In today's episode, Katie shares a powerful framework for understanding your patterns in relationships, the Drama Triangle. It's time to shine a light on the unconscious patterns that are sabotaging your relationships so you can get out of the Drama Triangle! Ayurveda School is in session! Click here to learn more and start studying Ayurveda today! In this episode about the Drama Triangle, you'll hear: ~ An invitation to study with us in Ayurveda School! ~ What is the Drama Triangle? ~ Psychiatrist Stephen Karpman ~ Are there really so many narcissists? ~ The danger of labeling and “othering” people ~ Dissolving the labels you've given yourself ~ Characteristics of our inner victim, perpetrator and rescuer ~ Carl Jung's theory of projection ~ How to identify when you're projecting ~ The Vedic concept of Samsara ~ How to recognise when you're playing the victim, perpetrator or rescuer in your relationship ~ Examples of common dysfunctional relationship patterns ~ How to break free from the Drama Triangle ~ The Jungian concept of self-integration ~ How to develop more mature, healthy relationships ~ Awareness as a digestive enzyme ~ Taking radical responsibility for our feelings ~ Get our free mini-course about Women's Wisdom and Ayurveda for Women! Other resources mentioned in this episode: ~ 2025 Chakra Yoga Nidra Workshop: Study with Katie and other luminary teachers this fall in the Bahamas! ~ 2026 Chakra Yoga Nidra Retreat: Deep dive into the chakras with Katie as your guide in the beautiful Bahamas! ~ Sign up for our newsletter on our website ~ Follow us on Instagram and Facebook ~ Katie's latest book, Glow-Worthy Get the full show notes here: www.TheShaktiSchool.com/podcast/

Dans cet épisode de "Parlons introspection", je vous invite à plonger avec moi dans un sujet souvent méconnu mais fondamental pour notre bien-être : le triangle de Karpman. En tant que coach intuitive et passionnée par la connaissance de soi, je suis ravie de partager avec vous comment ce schéma relationnel, élaboré par le psychologue Stephen Karpman dans les années 1960, peut influencer nos vies de manière insidieuse. Nous allons explorer ensemble les trois rôles que nous adoptons fréquemment dans nos interactions : le persécuteur, la victime et le sauveur. À travers cet épisode, je vous propose une véritable introspection personnelle, en vous aidant à comprendre comment ces dynamiques se manifestent dans votre quotidien, que ce soit dans votre famille ou au travail. Je vais vous donner des exemples concrets qui vous permettront de vous identifier et de reconnaître ces schémas. En prenant le temps de réfléchir à nos comportements et à nos interactions, nous pouvons amorcer un cheminement intérieur vers une meilleure communication interpersonnelle et un bien-être accru.Je vous encourage à prendre du recul et à observer vos relations sous un nouvel angle. En responsabilisant les autres et en changeant votre posture, vous pouvez transformer ces interactions souvent conflictuelles. Je partagerai également des conseils pratiques pour identifier les signaux d'alerte qui indiquent que vous entrez dans ce triangle relationnel, ainsi que des astuces pour éviter de vous y laisser piéger. Cet épisode est une invitation à la libération émotionnelle et à l'exploration de soi. Je suis persuadée qu'en prenant soin de nous et en cultivant la compassion envers soi-même, nous pouvons nous libérer des croyances limitantes et de l'incertitude qui nous freinent. Ensemble, nous allons apprendre à nous percevoir autrement et à embrasser notre authenticité. Rejoignez-moi pour ce voyage d'introspection où nous allons explorer les mécanismes sous-jacents de nos interactions et découvrir comment, grâce à la numérologie stratégique et au coaching intuitif, nous pouvons nous reconnecter à nous-mêmes. Préparez-vous à catalyser vos atouts et à devenir la meilleure version de vous-même.

Are you tired of being stuck in the same argument again and again?Do you feel like you're caught in a never-ending cycle of drama, conflict, and emotional chaos in your relationship?Are you ready to break free from toxic relationship dynamics and take your relationship to a new level of understanding and respect?If you have answered "Yes" to any of these questions, this episode is for you.In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs introduces listeners to the Drama Triangle, a model developed by Stephen Karpman that explains the toxic dynamics in many relationships. Alastair dives into the three key roles within the triangle—the Persecutor, the Victim and the Rescuer—and explains how individuals can break free from these unhealthy patterns to create happier and more loving relationships. This episode provides valuable insights for anyone feeling trapped in a cycle of conflict, blame and emotional chaos. Alastair also offers personal support through his website, AngerSecrets.com, where listeners can book a free 30-minute anger assessment call.Key Takeaways:Understand the Drama Triangle and its three roles: Persecutor, Victim and Rescuer.Recognise the Drama Triangle patterns and how they fuel conflict in relationships.Learn strategies to step away from these roles for healthier interactions.Gain insights on creating calmer, more respectful and successful relationships by breaking free from the Drama Triangle.Resources Mentioned:Visit angersecrets.comBook a free 30-minute anger assessment call at angersecrets.com/free-callWatch a free anger management training at angersecrets.com/trainingTime Stamps00:00 Introduction: Breaking Free from Toxic Relationship Dynamics00:30 Welcome to the Anger Secrets Podcast01:24 Understanding the Drama Triangle02:57 The Persecutor Role04:06 The Victim Role05:16 The Rescuer Role06:09 Switching Roles in the Drama Triangle07:34 Illustrating the Drama Triangle: John and Mary09:11 Breaking Free from the Drama Triangle10:23 Conclusion

In this ep, we break down the Drama Triangle, a concept from psychologist Stephen Karpman. We explore the roles we fall into during conflict: the Victim, who feels helpless; the Villain, who blames and criticises; and the Hero, who swoops in to "save" others but reinforces dependency. Learn how these patterns create cycles of miscommunication and unresolved conflict, and how recognising them can help you break free of any unhelpful patterns in your life.  'Til next week, Powrsuiters! Got a topic you want us to discuss? Email us at ⁠hello@powrsuit.com⁠ Join Powrsuit on LinkedIn and Instagram, and be sure to check out our Membership Network at ⁠www.powrsuit.com.

In this episode, we dive deep into the complexities of office dynamics and explore the Drama Triangle, a powerful psychological model developed by Dr. Stephen Karpman. Join Jean Balfour as she uncovers the roles of the Villain, Victim, and Hero that often play out in workplace interactions, leading to unproductive and toxic environments.Jean Balfour shares practical strategies for recognising and disrupting these patterns. Learn how to transform your office culture by promoting healthier communication, fostering accountability, and building a supportive work environment.Tune in to discover how you can break free from the cycle of drama and create a more positive and collaborative workplace.Resources: Blog on Understanding the Drama Triangle at WorkCheck out Conscious Leadership and their work on Drama Triangle Experience an Introduction to our Coach Training Programmes with our Free Taster Course: https://courses.baileybalfour.com/course/coach-training-introductionSign up to our newsletter to learn more about upcoming programmes: https://baileybalfour.com/subscribe/

Are you stuck in repetitive, unhelpful and even codependent patterns in your relationships? Well, you're not alone; this episode is about breaking that cycle. I'm diving into the intriguing world of the Drama Triangle, introduced by Stephen Karpman. This concept has been a game-changer for me, and I think it could be for you too!In this episode, we're exploring those all-too-familiar roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer, and how they might be secretly running the show in your relationships. But here's the cool part: I'm also introducing you to the Empowerment Dynamic, a fantastic approach by David Emerald that flips the script and transforms these roles into something positive and, well, empowering!I'll share my own journey (spoiler alert: it's been quite a ride!) and give you some real, tangible ways to shift from feeling stuck to feeling in control. We'll talk about becoming a Creator in your life, embracing challenges, and coaching others (and yourself!) to find solutions that work. This video is not just theoretical; it's packed with actionable steps and reflection exercises to help you make meaningful changes in how you relate to others.Whether you're dealing with recurring conflicts or seeking to enhance your relationships, this video is a must-watch. You'll learn how to shift from being a passive participant in drama to an active creator of healthy, fulfilling relationships. Join me on this journey of self-discovery and relationship transformation.

In this episode, we're thrilled to welcome back Nerida Bint, our first-ever repeat guest! Together, we dive into the complexities of the human experience, exploring the awe-inspiring, the uncomfortable, and everything in between. We discuss why change can be unsettling, examine some of the toxic language that's all too common today, and offer practical advice on how to address it. This is an episode you won't want to miss! Show Notes: The Karpman Drama Triangle was first described by Stephen Karpman in the 1960s. It is a model of dysfunctional social interactions and illustrates a power game that involves three roles: Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor, each role represents a common and ineffective response to conflict. The Drama Triangle Explained Nerida Bint contact details: Instagram @neridabint Join the mailing list Nerida's link tree with a bunch of resources and ways to connect - Nerida Bint | Linktree Nerida mentions some YouTube clips she is obsessing over with regard to manifesting, persisting and trusting the process at the moment - here is an example.

“From my perspective, one of the reasons we tell stories is it helps give us a sense of who we are, we use stories to affirm our identity. And that's part of the reason why we don't actually like to call them stories, because if we call them stories, and we begin to see that the self is actually rooted in construction, made up interpreted reality, it can be very threatening to us and to our sense of who would I be without this story. And so that's one of the things that I really love about this is you can begin to see that my sense of self has to change, if I'm willing to look at my stories, what is going to happen is my sense of who I am is going to change.” So says Courtney Smith, a coach, facilitator, and dear friend who is schooled and trained in many different modalities: Conscious Leadership Group, Byron Katie's work, the Alexander Technique, and the Enneagram. She is one of my favorite thought partners because of the range of her intelligence and the structure of her mind: She was a math econ major who happens to have a J.D. from Yale and a masters in public health from NYU. Before taking a turn toward the mystical, she was a McKinsey consultant. So in short, she's a multi-hyphenate Renaissance woman whose bookshelf looks much like mine. You might remember Courtney from our conversation on Pulling the Thread about the Enneagram—if you missed it, there's a link in the show notes—but today, we're going to talk about Stephen Karpman's Drama Triangle: What it is, how to know when you're in it, and how to move past it…while recognizing that you'll be in another one soon enough. We also do a little bit of live coaching and role-playing, so you all will really get a sense of how this powerful tool works.  Meanwhile, if you want to work with me and Courtney, together, we're hosting a workshop from May 17-19 at the Art of Living Retreat Center in Boone, North Carolina. It's called “Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness” and will be a combination of On Our Best Behavior and Courtney's techniques. Honestly, I can't wait—I hope you'll all join us. The link to sign up is also in the episode page, or the link in bio on my Instagram account, @ eliseloehnen.  MORE FROM COURTNEY SMITH: My Workshop with Courtney at AOLRC: “Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness” First Pulling the Thread episode: “The Practical Magic of the Enneagram” Courtney's Website ALSO MENTIONED: The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leaders Elise's Substack Newsletters: Ending the Manel The Perception (and Reality) of Scarcity Who Gets to Be an Expert? To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to Best Friend Therapy and this season's opportunity for Emma to therapise our beloved guinea pig, Elizabeth Day, whilst offering some psycho-education for us all about the Transactional Analysis concept of the “Drama Triangle” - why and how we end up repeating conflict in relationships (be they personal or professional) and what we can do to change it.The Drama Triangle was developed by Stephen Karpman in the 1960's and tells us about three unhealthy roles we take on in drama - the Rescuer, the Persecutor, the Victim.Elizabeth talks about a time she adopted the role of Rescuer as a way of defending her Victim and she recognises the futile task of trying to solve someone's problems when they are not yet ready to change. She also tells us about the guilt she feels when she fails the other person and we uncover the unconscious motivations that are keeping her stuck. Listen along with an example of your own and ask yourself:If you're the Rescuer, what are your feelings and needs? If you're the Persecutor, what can't you tolerate really? If you're the Victim, what are your options to take back control? Emma explains and gives examples of how to channel more productive, constructive Adult communication using Acey Choy's “Winners Triangle”, to remove the conflict and get closer to the results you want.---The original reference for the Drama Triangle is: Karpman MD, Stephen (1968). "Fairy tales and script drama analysis". Transactional Analysis Bulletin. 26 (7): 39–43. https://www.karpmandramatriangle.com/pdf/DramaTriangle.pdf Choy, Acey (1990). The Winner's Triangle Transactional Analysis Journal 20(1):40 https://www.scribd.com/document/577707612/Winner-s-Triangle And this brilliant book by Ian Stewart and Vann Joines is a great introduction to all things TA, including Eric Berne's work on Games: https://amzn.eu/d/eZEkUmD ---Best Friend Therapy is hosted by Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp. --- Social Media: Elizabeth Day @elizabday Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell Best Friend Therapy @best.friend.therapy Email: contact@bestfriendtherapy.co.uk

Hay actos muy sutiles que son violencia y la víctima no lo percibe o pierde su fuerza para salvarse, o a veces estamos rescatando constantemente a los demás, sin darnos cuenta que a veces, sobrepasamos límites y nos convertimos en un perseguidor. Existe un modelo llamado "El triángulo dramático de Karpman", creado por el psicólogo Stephen Karpman, el cual explica los conflictos interpersonales que nos llevan a adoptar el rol de víctima, perseguidor o rescatador. En entrevista con la psicologa Martha Ortiz hablaremos de este triángulo dramático y como podemos salir de el.

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 96 - What to do when they're not OK Series: How to support without rescuing is now LIVE! Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide When someone we know is going through a rough time, the temptation is to rush in and rescue them. However, this may not only be detrimental to them but also to ourselves. In this episode we discuss why being a rescuer is a problematic dynamic, the importance of meeting your own needs and supporting the other person with their outcomes. In this episode, we cover… How being a rescuer comes up in the drama triangle developed by Dr. Stephen Karpman. We will discuss this dynamic more in future episodes How trying to rescue someone not only disempowers us but the other person who we are trying to support How people become rescuers to avoid dealing with personal issues How rescuers help other people to feel good about themselves through getting their needs met or masking their unmet needs in that way. This may be an unconscious drive and it doesn't undermine the good intentions of the person trying to helps out How the first step to avoid being a rescuer is to meet our own needs We point out the difference between being Selfirst and meeting our needs through being a rescuer How a lot of what happens regarding our needs happens without our awareness. It is therefore important to meet our needs in such a way that it doesn't drive our behavior without our awareness How staying connected to the outcome of supporting someone else prevents us from rescuing them How the exception to this is if we are responsible for someone else's situation. Then it is ok to take responsibility and address that How remembering that we and the other persons are both creators, helps us support them in what they want to create How there may be different options of what the other person is trying to create and how our role as supporter is to support the outcome they want How strategic questions might help the other person understand what outcome they want How questions can be stepping stones for the person to get from where they are to figuring out the outcome they want The importance of being mindful of how we're asking the questions, when we're asking the questions, the pace at which we ask them, where the other person is at when you're asking the questions and also if they would like help in figuring out the outcome How just being there for someone and letting them know you are there for them is a great way of supporting someone without becoming a rescuer How acknowledging and witnessing someone through an emoji, or simple phrases like “I hear you”, “I feel you”, “I'm here for you” can be very healing How holding space for someone and sending love can be extremely supportive without having to be a rescuer How because everyone is different, people may need support in a different ways even in the same situation How there is a way to help someone who doesn't have the capacity to help themselves without acting as a rescuer How trying to fix something or a situation for somebody can prevent them from learning how to deal with the situation for themselves  Why it is important to offer support in a way that honors where you and the other person are both at and in line with your both capacities How it may be easy to be pulled into the rescuer dynamic if someone wants to be rescued How it's important to keep in mind that if someone is really not ok, then we might not be the right person to support them. In this situation we can support them to get the right support Episode references: Episode 61 - Friendship Series: Clearing NigglesEpisode 46 - How to hold space for someone

 Episode 12 of the Midlife Worthy Moms Podcast for the Graceful Empty Nester! In today's episode, we're delving into the fascinating concept of the Drama Triangle, a psychological framework developed by Stephen Karpman in the 1960s. It uncovers the intricate interplay between personal responsibility and power during conflicts, shedding light on the dynamics of co-dependent relationships. It's like a roadmap for understanding the roles we often unconsciously slip into when conflict arises – the Victim, the Rescuer (or enabler), and the Persecutor. Through heartfelt anecdotes and insightful analysis, we'll explore how recognizing these roles in ourselves and others can lead to more constructive and compassionate communication. Join me as we explore these roles and discover how to transcend them, creating healthier and more harmonious connections. And don't miss out on the upcoming Worthy Moms Warrior Workshop on September 16th, where you'll learn strategies to become the Warrior Mom of an adult child. Check out the show notes for more details and sign up today, use this link:  https://www.midlifediscoveries.com/GrabFreeGrab Your Free Course, Thriving in a Divided Family: https://www.midlifediscoveries.com/ThrivingGrab Your Free Course, Thriving in a Divided Family: https://www.midlifediscoveries.com/ThrivingVisit the website at: https://www.midlifediscoveries.com/

I am a love bomber. A narcissist. A gaslighter. A ghoster. A breadcrumber.In this episode, we discuss these overused terms and how they can be used to invoke the drama triangle (a model created by Stephen Karpman that needs a victim, perpetrator, and bystander in order to create exquisite drama), and how that can lead to a static, boring terrain that is no fun to date in.This episode is part cultural critique, part love philosophy, part intro to the drama triangle and shadow work, and a personal exploration of how many of these behaviors can be understood from a more compassionate lens.

Dans ce nouvel épisode de votre chaine de podcasts Une Alchimie de l'Eveil, Iker Aguirre vous présente un triangle infernal qui a tendance à polluer toutes les relations humaines. Développé par le psychologue américain Stephen Karpman il décrit trois rôles que l'on peut avoir tendance à adopter dans nos relations : persécuteur, victime, sauveur. Chacun de ces rôles offre une place dans le monde et une image de soi spécifiques. Il sera question des caractéristiques de chaque rôle, telles que la dominance du persécuteur, la victimisation de la victime et l'aide excessive du sauveur.  Nous sommes tous concernés, découvrez dans cet épisode comment ce triangle peut nous affecter et aussi comment faire pour transcender son influence et opter pour un rapport nouveau à soi et aux autres.     Dans cet épisode pour découvrirez :

 In today's episode, I am teaching about the drama triangle. It was created in the 1960s to explain the unhealthy roles that people take on to deal with conflict. We have all been a part of a drama triangle before and it isn't just in our teen years! Once you are aware of the 3 roles people take on, you will notice many areas in your life that you have seen this or been a part of it. The good news is, now that you are aware of it, you can change it. You can adopt new healthy roles when conflicts arise.  Find my podcastEmail me: ccoufal@betterregulatethannever.comText me: 785-380-2064More information Help me with my research. I would love to hear from you. Can I interview you?

Intro Today, we will discuss a common pattern that many busy people experience, which is a major contributor to body burnout and can result in energy, mood, and gut issues. This pattern is known as "People Pleasing." Next week, we will feature a special client story with Brian, who experienced chronic headaches, brain fog, exhaustion, anxiousness, and stinky body odour. At the deepest root-cause level, his health issues stemmed from a chronic "people pleasing" pattern. We had a great conversation, and we can't wait for you to hear from Brian next week. But now, let's dive into "people pleasing." What is "People Pleasing"? Here are ten characteristics of a "people pleaser": Difficulty saying no Overcommitting Avoidance of conflict Need for approval Difficulty asserting themselves Self-sacrifice Anxiety or stress Lack of boundaries Difficulty prioritizing Guilt Additionally, according to Stephen Karpman's Drama Triangle, a people pleaser may assume the role of a "rescuer." In this mode, the person does not value other people's capacity to help themselves, appears self-sacrificing, is overly helpful and facilitative, likes to be needed, prone to unnecessary meddling, and engulfing. Five Body Systems That Breakdown When You People Please Here are five key areas of the body that we see breaking down time and time again when people are constantly "rescuing" others but failing to care for themselves: Stress and Sex Hormones Microbiome Imbalances Digestive Organ Damage Mitochondria Retraction Nervous System If you are a self-diagnosed people-pleaser, and your body is failing you, we can test and recommend a program to help you break this pattern. Root Cause of People Pleasing People pleasing is a symptom of a deeper subconscious dysfunction. Simply stopping people pleasing behaviour is not enough because it's a symptom of a root-cause wound. People pleasing behaviour is often caused by a belief that you're not enough, worthy, lovable, capable, successful, or good. Examples of how this can show up include low self-esteem, fear of rejection, and deflecting own issues. To address health issues caused by people pleasing, it's important to address the root cause and reprogram the subconscious mind. Conclusion The body doesn't just “break-down” for no reason. There's ALWAYS a subconscious (or MIND) component to health issues. We hope you've gained a deeper perspective on not only where your symptoms may be stemming from, but WHY. And a reminder that next week we will hear from our client Brian and how he overcame his own chronic headaches, brain fog, exhaustion, anxiousness & stinky body odour using our body-mind-environment Ending Body Burnout Method! Show Note Links: Sign up for Filly's “Root Cause of Emotional Eating” Masterclass on 22 May 2023, held for Natural Medicine Week Take our Ending Body Burnout Assessment here Check out how you can work with us here Disclaimer: This Ending Body Burnout Show podcast and any information, advice, opinions or statements within it do not constitute medical, health care or other professional advice, and are provided for general information purposes only. All care is taken in the preparation of the information in this Podcast. Chris & Filly Functional Medicine does not make any representations or give any warranties about its accuracy, reliability, completeness or suitability for any particular purpose. This Podcast and any information, advice, opinions or statements within it are not to be used as a substitute for professional medical, psychology, psychiatric or other mental health care or natural medicine health care. Chris & Filly Functional Medicine recommends you seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Inform your doctor of any changes you may make to your lifestyle and discuss these with your doctor. Do not disregard medical advice or delay visiting a medical professional because of something you hear in this Podcast. To the extent permissible by law Chris & Filly Functional Medicine and the Ending Body Burnout Show Podcast will not be liable for any expenses, losses, damages (including indirect or consequential damages) or costs which might be incurred as a result of the information being inaccurate or incomplete in any way and for any reason. No part of this Podcast can be reproduced, redistributed, published, copied or duplicated in any form without the prior permission of Chris & Filly Functional Medicine.

In this episode we talk about patterns in your relationships which tend to keep you firmly entrenched in roles which can be very disempowering.  You might often find yourself coming to the rescue of others, always making sure that you look out for others.  Or you may find that you frequently end up in a victim role where you feel put upon or disregarded by others. We discuss the drama triangle, a model of problematic interactions and conflict in relationships. This model was developed by Stephen Karpman, over 40 years ago and it is still very relevant to developing an understanding of relationship dynamics today.In today's episode we focus in particular on two roles of the drama triangle: that of the rescuer and the victim. If you are interested in finding out more about the drama triangle and Transactional Analysis you might want to listen to  our earlier episodesAre you always the victim, persecutor or rescuer in conflict situations? - Understanding the drama triangle How to use Transactional Analysis to communicate betterThe Relationship Maze courses:What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course:  https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.

El triángulo dramático de Karpman es un modelo psicológico y social de la interacción humana en el análisis transaccional, descrito por primera vez por Stephen Karpman, en su artículo de 1968 "Fairy Tales and Script Drama Analysis". El modelo de triángulo dramático se utiliza en la psicología y la psicoterapia.​ En este episodio te doy ejemplos y te cuento cómo salir del triángulo dramático de Karpman. ➡️Momentos destacados del episodio: 00:00 Qué es el triángulo dramático de Karpman 00:31 Los 3 roles en el triángulo dramático 01:33 Ejemplo de comportamiento del triángulo dramático 04:41 Cómo salir de un juego psicológico 05:55 Cómo dejar de poner límites y abrirte 08:10 Los juegos psicológicos Te mando un gran abrazo. Á𝐥𝐞𝐱 𝐑𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐫𝐚 🍀

In this episode, we focus on how to master your consciousness to create growth in your life. Switching from victim consciousness to master consciousness takes time, patience, and intentional energy and effort. If you're spending much of your life people-pleasing and now, deeply desire to connect back to yourself and honor yourself, this episode is for you. WHAT WE TALKED ABOUT The hierarchical structure of doing for someone else, whether in the corporate or academic space, can create victim consciousness. In Dr. Stephen Karpman's Drama Triangle, there's the victim, the villain, and the hero. All three characters represent victim consciousness. We, women, were taught to be nurturers, to be giving, to put ourselves last, and be the hero. What are we left with? No energy, no time for ourselves, and no opportunity to be in our full divinity and goddess energy. The villain is the one blaming other people and making someone's life hell because they, themselves, are in a hell state. The victim feels like a round peg in a square hole and unworthy. Victim consciousness is a collective issue of blaming other people and no one is taking responsibility for themselves. The Empowerment Triangle by David Emerald, on the other hand, shifts us from being a victim to a creator, a villain to an encourager, and a hero to a coach. Master consciousness or Christ consciousness is figuring out how you can transmute the bad energy to good energy and lift your energetic vibration. If we attract something that's unpleasant, we can make a choice to roll with this vibration or lift our vibration and shift the energy. We need to feel our emotions and what we're going through but we don't have to react. Tai Chi teaches us to come back to our zero point and figure out how we can encourage instead of blame. “Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.” Going from hero to coach means you don't just encourage but you also want to teach. As we teach, we grow; as we grow, others grow; and as others grow, we grow. When you evolve backward, you move away from God. Evolution is about getting closer and closer to God. Embodying master consciousness is getting closer to God. Money is not evil. It's a tool for exchange and communication. It's a language. What makes money evil is people's misuse and control of it. We are the new earth leaders who are able to utilize the technologies, tools, insights, and knowledge for good, for co-creating heaven on earth, and for co-creating opportunities for everyone to experience wealth. As we master our consciousness, we can connect deeper into realities. And, as we connect to these realities, we understand deeply who we are. Be a master of your consciousness and understand the trajectory of your life path. This connects us directly to Source and makes us experience abundance, wealth, and prosperity that we can share with our ancestors and starseeds. Let me know what your takeaway is on this episode by sending me an email at erin@erinpatten.com or DM me on Instagram or LinkedIn. Check out all The MetaBusiness Millennial episodes on iTunes, Overcast, Stitcher, Spotify, or my website at themetabusiness.world! Appreciate you subscribing, leaving a review, and sharing it with your friends. Much love and light, Erin "Master EL" Patten WANT MORE? Stay connected with simple solutions to level up your life + business. Receive your weekly Sol Full inspiration with MetaBusiness Letter. Which MetaBusiness Avatar Are You? Take this free 15-question quiz to find out now. Running around looking for answers only to get more confused and waste more time and money? In this masterclass, I'll be providing you with actionable information you can use to help get back into alignment and live your best life. Podcast Disclaimer: By accessing this Podcast, I acknowledge that the entire contents and design of this Podcast, are the property of The MetaBusiness World, or used by The MetaBusiness World with permission, and are protected under U.S. and international copyright and trademark laws. Except as otherwise provided herein, users of this Podcast may save and use information contained in the Podcast only for personal or other non-commercial, educational purposes. No other use, including, without limitation, reproduction, retransmission or editing, of this Podcast may be made without the prior written permission of The MetaBusiness World, which may be requested by contacting admin@themetabusiness.world. This podcast is for educational purposes only. The host and guests claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein.

In this episode, Joanna revisits The Drama Triangle by Stephen Karpman, and its altogether more empowering counterpart called The Empowerment Dynamic. Listen in as our Host explains the three dysfunctional personas of the Drama Triangle and the three C's of The Empowerment Dynamic, whilst sharing her understanding of these concepts.    As Introverts, we frequently hear that we should be different and must alter some aspect of our personalities to conform to social norms. This often leads to subconscious programming of falling into victimhood and relying on others for external validations or answers.   Start taking personal responsibility by switching off the Drama Triangle and stepping into The Empowerment Dynamic today!   KEYPOINTS:   Stephen Karpman's Drama Triangle Three dysfunctional archetypes of the Drama Triangle Three C's of Empowerment Dynamic   PRODUCTS / RESOURCES:   Email your suggested topics for the Introverted Leader Series to Joanna@flourishingintroverts.com   What Type of Introvert are you? Find out by taking this quiz: yourintroverttype.co.uk   Visit Joanna's website here: flourishingintroverts.com   Join the Flourishing Introverts Facebook community of like-minded introverts here: web.facebook.com/groups/Introvertscorner   

#1 : Décodage des jeux psychologiques qui existent dans les relations toxiques au sein de la famille. On verra comment passer du triangle dramatique de Karpman au triangle vertueux de l'épanouissement. Références Livres : "L'emprise familiale: comment s'affranchir de son enfance?", Marie Andersen, ed. Poche marabout 2011"La puissance de l'acceptation", Lise Bourbeau, éd.pocket 2007 "Ecoute ton corps" Tome 1, Lise Bourbeau, éd. E.T.C INC 1987"Décodage biologique des maladies" Christian Flèche, éd. le souffle d'or 2019 "Le triangle dramatique de la manipulation à la compassion", Stephen Karpman, éd.interéditions 2020"Du triangle dramatique au triangle compassionnel" , Jérôme Lefeuvre et Pierre Agnès, ed.interéditions 2020 Retrouvez moi sur Youtube, instagram, & Linked in.Retrouvez tous mes accompagnements holistiques sur mes sites internet : Accompagnement reconversion et businessAccompagnement thérapie holistique

Le triangle de Karpman est une figure d'analyse psychologique proposée par le psychiatre américain Stephen Karpman en 1968. Il décrit les rôles que nous pouvons prendre dans des relations sociales déséquilibrées. Le triangle de Karpman permettrait de désamorcer des relations conflictuelles et de manipulation. Les trois rôles du triangle de Karpman sont la victime, le persécuteur et le sauveur. Celui que nous allons endosser, conduit inconsciemment quelqu'un d'autre à en adopter un aussi. Par exemple, si je me mets en posture de victime, je vais avoir tendance à imputer tous mes malheurs à un persécuteur, soi-disant responsable de ma malchance ou de ma douleur. Comme un collègue qui m'empêcherait de m'épanouir au travail. Je lui fais endosser le rôle de persécuteur. Quels sont les rôles du triangle de Karpman ? Mais à quoi ça sert cette théorie ? Et comment sortir de ce triangle infernal ? Écoutez la suite de cet épisode de "Maintenant vous savez". Un podcast Bababam Originals, écrit et réalisé par Johanna Cincinatis. À écouter aussi : Qu'est-ce que le syndrome du nid vide ? Qu'est-ce que l'effet du témoin ? Qu'est-ce que le syndrome de l'imposteur ? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's be honest, drama in the workplace can sometimes be fun - who hasn't had a bit of a whinge about how hard done by they are, or jumped in to the rescue (cue blasting trumpets!) or even, perhaps, created a bit of drama themselves?!  Kate & Max discuss the roles played out in the drama triangle, how they can rotate and when drama might be a distraction to avoid the real issues that are too hard to address head on.  How do you notice the drama if you're in it?  And what can you choose to do about it - whether it's your drama or not?  Find out if it's you or them - or something else that's going on - and how to get out of the pattern in order for effective work to happen.Find out more about how to deal with the drama triangle  at theaccidentalmanager .  That's where you'll find the 5-minute noodles Drama Triangle, Conflict types and Boundaries - all of which help you to notice and disrupt unhelpful patterns in working relationships.  The book we mention in this episode are Eric Berne - Games People Play, and the models are the Drama Triangle by Stephen Karpman and the Empowerment Dynamic by David Emerald and Donna Zajonc.Join the chat at noodle.space and follow us for daily snippets to boost your day on Instagram @noodle_space.

In this episode I talk about Stephen Karpman's "Triangle of Drama." I share about how I got out of living in that triangle through AA's 12 Steps, and my wife escaped its clutches through the ACA program. Thank you for over 230,000 listens! My website. My Instagram.ACA

Welcome to this episode of Best Friend Therapy, where we chat about what's on our minds, to get deeper in our minds.This week we're talking about games. Not Monopoly, as Elizabeth discovered, but the shortcuts we take in relationships to try and get our needs met, without even realising.Relationship games are the emotional sleight of hand we use to defend our vulnerability but they rarely get us what we want. Emma explains where games stem from and why they get in our way at work and with friends, and Elizabeth looks back on her dating past to understand that what she'd needed was clear communication, not a soulmate who could mind-read. We also discuss the likeability of cheese.---Emma quotes the work of Eric Berne in this episode. You can find out more at https://ericberne.com/games-people-play/The Drama Triangle, is a model developed by Stephen Karpman and originally featured in his article: Karpman MD, Stephen (1968). "Fairy tales and script drama analysis". Transactional Analysis Bulletin. 26 (7): 39–43. You can read more about his work at https://karpmandramatriangle.com If you're interested in the therapeutic approach of Transactional Analysis, which Emma practices, a great entry point is a book by Iain Stewart and Vann Joines called TA Today, available at all good booksellers or at https://www.amazon.co.uk/Today-New-Introduction-Transactional-Analysis/dp/1870244028---Best Friend Therapy is hosted by Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp. To contact us, email contact@bestfriendtherapy.co.uk---Social Media:Elizabeth Day @elizabdayEmma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrellBest Friend Therapy @best.friend.therapy

Do you feel like you're doing everything you can to have a great marriage…But it's just not happening?You're making the changes your wife wants you to make, but she still doesn't want to have sex with you?Or she isn't forgiving you for your mistakes, isn't willing to end a separation or divorce?You may be caught in what Stephen Karpman called “The Karpman Drama Triangle.”Learn how to step out of this so that you can…-Feel loved and confident in your marriage-Communicate to get a deep mental and emotional connection with your wife-Create incredible intimacy in your marriageFind out what to start and stop doing in today's episode.Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. MikeP.S. Are you a self-motivated, goal-oriented man (or couple) with Christian values who wants to create love, connection and intimacy in your marriage? CLICK HERE to apply to work with me. I'll review your answers and reach out for next steps.P.P.S. Want more love, connection and intimacy in your marriage? Watch my free training. CLICK HERE to watch now. https://mikefraziermd.mykajabi.com/more-intimate-marriage

How can letting go of control increase your power? If you're a recovering type A personality intrigued and yet nervous about following energy, meet your new best friend: choice. In this episode, Staci starts by connecting choice as a teacher with a tool for transforming codependency. Next, guest Jacqueline Hartman shares how choice has helped her navigate chronic pain and explore change-making work. From there, Staci and Jacqueline laugh hard about the benefits of losing control and embracing choice (with healthy boundaries!) as an agile ally for following energy to create great work. For more information, visit www.dancing-tree.com.

This week's show is with Lynne Forrest. Lynne is regarded as a non-traditional psychotherapist who has been in private practice for over twenty-five years, is widely known as a Reality Guide and Personal Growth Mentor for her empathy, compassion and her no-nonsense approach in dealing with life issues. She uses ancient spiritual principles to help those who struggle to find their way into right alignment with themselves and their life purpose. Her original work in recognizing victim consciousness as a widespread epidemic with its own set of definable and recognizable characteristics has revolutionized her approach with clients and transformed the lives of many. She has developed a unique understanding of how the mind works and ways to liberate it from the throes of what she calls the “victim mind.” Lynne came up through the ranks of experiential learning rather than the more traditional academic route and has sought and found practical ways of applying those principles for immediate positive change. She out in the mental health field in the early seventies, hired and trained by an HMO (health maintenance organization) in social work and mental health. She has been in the field of personal growth ever since - moving to the addictions field in the early eighties after successfully transforming her own addictive lifestyle into a more creative and productive one. Lynne has run her own private practice since 1985. As a perpetual student of life and consciousness, Lynne has devoted herself to studying with masters of various disciplines. Her first teacher was her mother, Estelle Sanford, a student of metaphysics, who was herself an intuitive that drew upon her inner knowing for wisdom and spiritual truths. In this show, Lynne and Lian spoke about the Victim Triangle (based on the Drama Triangle created by Dr. Stephen Karpman), how this is about ancient human stories and archetypes, and how we can move into observer consciousness. I'd love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let's carry on the conversation…  please leave a comment below. What you'll learn from this episode: The archetypes on the Victim Triangle are defense strategies that we take on out of a core belief about who we are in world, who we are in our family, who we are as an identity that we take on, based on the feedback we're getting from the world around us As we become aware of and begin to consciously participate in the story we've been living, we can actually use the same archetypes that were using to keep us in it to now begin to liberate ourselves: spotting when we're being the Victim and projecting the Persecutor on someone else As we move more into what Lynne calls Observer Consciousness and we call Sovereignty we are able to watch the Victim Triangle stories play out within us and others, without being compelled to move into the Persecutor to make ourselves or them wrong for living what is a deeply human story Resources and stuff that we spoke about: Official Website: Lynne Forrest – Transforming Victim Consciousness Reality Formula Live (vhx.tv) Lynne Forrest's Book: The Book: Life Beyond Victim Consciousness Faces of Victim article: The Three Faces of Victim – An Overview of the Victim Triangle – Lynne Forrest Guiding Principles Vs. Victim Perspective Thank you for listening! There's fresh episode each week, if you subscribe then you'll get each new episode delivered to your phone every Tuesday (that way you'll never miss an episode): Subscribe on Apple Podcasts/iTunes Subscribe on Android Thank you! Lian & Jonathan

Das Dramadreieck ist ein Begriff aus der Transaktionsanalyse. Es beinhaltet drei Rollen: Verfolger, Retter und Opfer. Dieses Dreieck findet man in vielen Geschichten. Ein besonders gutes Beispiel sind Märchen. Stephen Karpman hat das Dramadreieck in der Transaktionsanalyse verankert. Es gilt heute als eines ihrer Kernmodelle. Die Rollen zeichnen sich durch drei Grundpositionen aus. Sie zeichnen sich in der Wirkung durch abwertende Denk-, Fühl- und Verhaltensmuster aus. Die Opferrolle wertet sich selbst und andere ab (Negativhaltung), während Retter dazu tendieren, sich selbst ab- und andere aufzuwerten. Verfolger neigen dazu, insbesondere andere Menschen ab- und sich selbst aufwerten. Nah am Dramadreieck ist in der Transaktionsanalyse das Konzept der psychologischen Spiele. Armin "Brille" Ziesemer und Thomas "Bart" Böhlefeld zeigen Wege aus dem Dramadreieck auf. Als Entwicklungsdimension für Personen und in organisationalen Dynamiken stellen sie dem Dramadreieck das Gewinnerdreieck entgegen. Das Gewinnerdreieck ist ähnlich aufgebaut wie das Dramadreieck. Die Rollen im Gewinnerdreieck sind: Hilfesucher, unterstützender Helfer und Konfrontierender Verhandler. Die Grundposition hier ist die vierte: "Ich bin OK - Du bist OK". Dabei begegnen sich Beteiligte auf Augenhöhe und sind bereit, Bedürfnisse auf Augenhöhe zu auszutauschen und eine konstruktive Lösung gemeinsam zu gestalten. Zu Armin Ziesemer Synop-Sys: Organisationsentwicklung und Coaching https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO--QZjEaIaWQ7QGrVvp_ng https://www.facebook.com/SynopSys1 https://www.linkedin.com/company/synop-sys info@synop-sys.at Zu Thomas Böhlefeld kommitment in Hamburg und im Web. - kommitment - Refactor your Organization Thomas Böhlefeld - Organisationsentwickler, Berater & Interim Manager. - kommitment - Refactor your Organization

Das Dramadreieck ist ein Begriff aus der Transaktionsanalyse. Es beinhaltet drei Rollen:Verfolger,Retter undOpfer.Dieses Dreieck findet man in vielen Geschichten. Ein besonders gutes Beispiel sind Märchen. Stephen Karpman hat das Dramadreieck in der Transaktionsanalyse verankert. Es gilt heute als eines ihrer Kernmodelle.Die Rollen zeichnen sich durch drei Grundpositionen aus.Sie zeichnen sich in der Wirkung durch abwertende Denk-, Fühl- und Verhaltensmuster aus. Die Opferrolle wertet sich selbst und andere ab (Negativhaltung), während Retter dazu tendieren, sich selbst ab- und andere aufzuwerten. Verfolger neigen dazu, insbesondere andere Menschen ab- und sich selbst aufwerten. Nah am Dramadreieck ist in der Transaktionsanalyse das Konzept der psychologischen Spiele. Armin "Brille" Ziesemer und Thomas "Bart" Böhlefeld zeigen Wege aus dem Dramadreieck auf. Als Entwicklungsdimension für Personen und in organisationalen Dynamiken stellen sie dem Dramadreieck das Gewinnerdreieck entgegen. Das Gewinnerdreieck ist ähnlich aufgebaut wie das Dramadreieck. Die Rollen im Gewinnerdreieck sind: Hilfesucher, unterstützender Helfer und Konfrontierender Verhandler.Die Grundposition hier ist die vierte: "Ich bin OK - Du bist OK". Dabei begegnen sich Beteiligte auf Augenhöhe und sind bereit, Bedürfnisse auf Augenhöhe zu auszutauschen und eine konstruktive Lösung gemeinsam zu gestalten.Zu Armin ZiesemerSynop-Sys: Organisationsentwicklung und Coachinghttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO--QZjEaIaWQ7QGrVvp_nghttps://www.facebook.com/SynopSys1https://www.linkedin.com/company/synop-sysinfo@synop-sys.atZu Thomas Böhlefeldkommitment in Hamburg und im Web. - kommitment - Refactor your OrganizationThomas Böhlefeld - Organisationsentwickler, Berater & Interim Manager. - kommitment - Refactor your Organization

Das Dramadreieck ist ein Begriff aus der Transaktionsanalyse. Es beinhaltet drei Rollen:Verfolger,Retter undOpfer.Dieses Dreieck findet man in vielen Geschichten. Ein besonders gutes Beispiel sind Märchen. Stephen Karpman hat das Dramadreieck in der Transaktionsanalyse verankert. Es gilt heute als eines ihrer Kernmodelle.Die Rollen zeichnen sich durch drei Grundpositionen aus.Sie zeichnen sich in der Wirkung durch abwertende Denk-, Fühl- und Verhaltensmuster aus. Die Opferrolle wertet sich selbst und andere ab (Negativhaltung), während Retter dazu tendieren, sich selbst ab- und andere aufzuwerten. Verfolger neigen dazu, insbesondere andere Menschen ab- und sich selbst aufwerten.Nah am Dramadreieck ist in der Transaktionsanalyse das Konzept der psychologischen Spiele. Armin "Brille" Ziesemer und Thomas "Bart" Böhlefeld zeigen Wege aus dem Dramadreieck auf. Als Entwicklungsdimension für Personen und in organisationalen Dynamiken stellen sie dem Dramadreieck das Gewinnerdreieck entgegen. Das Gewinnerdreieck ist ähnlich aufgebaut wie das Dramadreieck. Die Rollen im Gewinnerdreieck sind: Hilfesucher, unterstützender Helfer und Konfrontierender Verhandler.Die Grundposition hier ist die vierte: "Ich bin OK - Du bist OK". Dabei begegnen sich Beteiligte auf Augenhöhe und sind bereit, Bedürfnisse auf Augenhöhe zu auszutauschen und eine konstruktive Lösung gemeinsam zu gestalten.Zu Armin ZiesemerSynop-Sys: Organisationsentwicklung und Coachinghttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO--QZjEaIaWQ7QGrVvp_nghttps://www.facebook.com/SynopSys1https://www.linkedin.com/company/synop-sysinfo@synop-sys.atZu Thomas Böhlefeldkommitment in Hamburg und im Web. - kommitment - Refactor your OrganizationThomas Böhlefeld - Organisationsentwickler, Berater & Interim Manager. - kommitment - Refactor your Organization

Das Dramadreieck ist ein Begriff aus der Transaktionsanalyse. Es beinhaltet drei Rollen: Verfolger, Retter und Opfer. Dieses Dreieck findet man in vielen Geschichten. Ein besonders gutes Beispiel sind Märchen. Stephen Karpman hat das Dramadreieck in der Transaktionsanalyse verankert. Es gilt heute als eines ihrer Kernmodelle. Die Rollen zeichnen sich durch drei Grundpositionen aus. Sie zeichnen sich in der Wirkung durch abwertende Denk-, Fühl- und Verhaltensmuster aus. Die Opferrolle wertet sich selbst und andere ab (Negativhaltung), während Retter dazu tendieren, sich selbst ab- und andere aufzuwerten. Verfolger neigen dazu, insbesondere andere Menschen ab- und sich selbst aufwerten. Nah am Dramadreieck ist in der Transaktionsanalyse das Konzept der psychologischen Spiele. Armin "Brille" Ziesemer und Thomas "Bart" Böhlefeld zeigen Wege aus dem Dramadreieck auf. Als Entwicklungsdimension für Personen und in organisationalen Dynamiken stellen sie dem Dramadreieck das Gewinnerdreieck entgegen. Das Gewinnerdreieck ist ähnlich aufgebaut wie das Dramadreieck. Die Rollen im Gewinnerdreieck sind: Hilfesucher, unterstützender Helfer und Konfrontierender Verhandler. Die Grundposition hier ist die vierte: "Ich bin OK - Du bist OK". Dabei begegnen sich Beteiligte auf Augenhöhe und sind bereit, Bedürfnisse auf Augenhöhe zu auszutauschen und eine konstruktive Lösung gemeinsam zu gestalten. Zu Armin Ziesemer Synop-Sys: Organisationsentwicklung und Coaching https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO--QZjEaIaWQ7QGrVvp_ng https://www.facebook.com/SynopSys1 https://www.linkedin.com/company/synop-sys info@synop-sys.at Zu Thomas Böhlefeld kommitment in Hamburg und im Web. - kommitment - Refactor your Organization Thomas Böhlefeld - Organisationsentwickler, Berater & Interim Manager. - kommitment - Refactor your Organization

Originally proposed by Dr. Stephen Karpman, M.D., the Karpman Drama Triangle and its relation to Dr. Eric Berne, M.D.'s Transactional Analysis, give a basic explanation and theory to help understand how we find difficulty in direct assertive communications. This can be used to help understand problems in boundaries, self esteem, communications, conflict, even the concept of self. Books I've referenced: “A Game Free Life. The definitive book on the Drama Triangle and Compassion Triangle by the originator and author. The new transactional analysis of intimacy, openness, and happiness” by Dr. Stephen B. Karpman https://www.amazon.com/Game-Free-Life-definitive-Compassion/dp/0990586707/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Steven+karpman+drama+triangle&qid=1633920037&sr=8-2 “COLLECTED PAPERS IN TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS - 30 articles on the drama triangle, dysfunctional family scripting, alcoholism, work games, intimate communication, with Eric Berne's New Science” by Dr. Stephen B. Karpman https://www.amazon.com/COLLECTED-PAPERS-TRANSACTIONAL-ANALYSIS-dysfunctional/dp/057822156X/ref=sr_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=Steven+karpman&qid=1633921758&sr=8-3 "Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships" by Eric Berne https://www.amazon.com/Games-People-Play-Psychology-Relationships/dp/B011T7FOQ2/ref=sr_1_2?crid=2MK9FJKK4WLOP&dchild=1&keywords=eric+berne+games+people+play&qid=1633988785&sprefix=Eric+berne%2Caps%2C149&sr=8-2 “The Karpman Drama Triangle Explained: A Guide for Coaches, Managers, Trainers, Therapists – and Everybody Else” by Chris West https://www.amazon.com/Karpman-Drama-Triangle-Explained-Therapists/dp/0993023363/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=the+karpman+drama+triangle&qid=1633920213&sr=8-2 For more information: www.ChangingPatternsPsychotherapyServices.com (443) 261-5950 Office Telephone ------------------------------------------------------------ DISCLAIMER: Information contained in this video is for educational purposes only. It should not be perceived as a substitution for professional medical or psychological advice, diagnosis or treatment. It does not take the place of psychological or medical services. If you are experiencing any conditions or have specific symptoms and you might suspect that you are suffering from a mental or medical problem that would require mental health or medical services, please seek out the appropriate specialist for assistance. Changing Patterns Psychotherapy Services, LLC © 2021

This week's episode relates to a topic that I see coming up again and again in my work coaching and training executive assistants and administrative professionals. The Drama Triangle is something you will relate to both in terms of your work environment and in your personal life. Are you a victim, a persecutor, or a rescuer? If you're human, chances are there will be different situations where you may view yourself (or be seen by others) as all three.  The Drama Triangle was the work of psychotherapist Stephen Karpman in the 1960s. He developed it as a way to articulate the three dysfunctional roles that operate in any relationship where conflict arises. I've created a free one-page download to help you reflect on the 3 ways you can understand and escape The Drama Triangle.  https://bit.ly/linchpin140 Learn more about The Drama Triangle concept: https://powerofted.com/drama-triangle/ https://youtu.be/ovrVv_RlCMw https://www.forbes.com/sites/drnancydoyle/2020/02/17/avoiding-workplace-drama-4-steps-to-being-an-ally-not-a-rescuer-victim-or-persecutor/?sh=43fd46dca3d1

GUESS WHO IS BACK!!!! ME!!! For real this time! I am back from moving and just taking a break and I have missed you all... I did an interview with a friend and fellow classmate of mine Jonas Bull who is a polymath: anthropologist, technologist, podcaster, ultra-runner, and terrible guitarist. His reason for being is simple: present knowledge to others in a way that makes them think. He believes that this is important - and dangerous and he inspires people to have ideas. He is the Owner of Toro Strategic, host of the Education is Painful podcast, and co-host of Noonish Sports & Tech Show. He came with a story of how he had to forgive himself and having to get rid of destructive habits, this was a powerful interview and I encourage you all to listen in! Also for all listeners please leave a 5 star written review on iTunes, it helps the podcast get more reach, I appreciate you! Jonas Bull: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jonasbu11/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thejonas/ Education is Painful Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/0mOIUcuWmj8rlaoIwjNdcS NOONISH Sports & Tech: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/noonish-sports-tech/id1558063578 Show Notes: When Jonas spoke about working with former Baltimore Ravens star, Mark Clayton, I pulled out my Lamar Jackson Funko Pop toy! Yes I was pressed and I am a proud Ravens fan! Jonas spoke on the Drama Triangle which was developed by Stephen Karpman, M.D. The triangle includes the victim, rescuer, persecutor and is a dynamic model of social interaction and conflict developed by Dr. Karpman when he was a student of Eric Berne, M.D. father of transactional analysis. (https://lindagraham-mft.net/triangle-victim-rescuer-persecutor-get/) "I have shown you in every way, by laboring like this, that you must support the weak. And remember the words of the Lord Jesus, that He said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.'" Acts 20:25 New King James Version (NKJV) "Where there is no counsel, the people fall; But in the multitude of counselors there is safety." Proverbs 11:14 NKJV Story of the Prodigal Son - Luke 15:11-32 NKJV Schedule a Coaching Session with Me!: https://dwaynestaten.setmore.com/ My Social Media: The Power of Forgiveness Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/dwaynestaten/ **New TikTok Page!!** https://www.tiktok.com/@dwaynestaten? Leave me a Voice Message! https://anchor.fm/dwayne-staten5/message Music: Moody by Jay Someday https://soundcloud.com/jaysomeday Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0 Free Download / Stream: https://bit.ly/_moody Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/WJHTZpx9d2o

En este episodio nos acompaña la Psicóloga Fátima Cruz para hablar del Triángulo Dramático de Stephen Karpman, donde comparte cómo los seres humanos en las relaciones adoptamos un rol que muchas veces daña la interacción, identificarlos ayudará a generar mayor consciencia de uno mismo y el entorno. Sígueme en @psic.lauracardenas y @_uncafecontigo

In this episode we will be covering different roles we might be playing on the ‘drama triangle', first described by Stephen Karpman in 1961.Do you often feel hopeless? Is anger your first reaction when circumstances come up? Do you tend to blame others when things aren't going your way? Do you feel the need to save others and end up overdoing it?Here we are playing one of the three roles on the drama triangle: the victim, the persecutor, or the rescuer. These roles tend to create drama in any type of relationship and leave us feeling like things our of our control. I know through personal experience, how easy it is to slip into any of these roles; however, once we learn to recognize the game and apply the tools that work, we will enjoy having healthier relationships, and become more assertive and empowered. Music credit to: Mixound, Youth by JayJen & Krishi Sarma | https://soundcloud.com/jayjenmusicMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported Licensehttps://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

Dans la vie de tous les jours, les relations humaines peuvent tourner autour de trois rôles existentiels distincts qui régissent vos rapports aux autres : le persécuteur, le sauveur ou la victime. Ces rôles sont schématisés dans un outil psychologique appelé « Triangle de Karpman ». Né en 1968 du psychologue Stephen Karpman, ce triangle est un outil qui permet de donner une explication à de nombreux problèmes d'ordre relationnel. Et vous ? Quel est votre rôle dans la vie de tous les jours ? La Woman Mag vous livre ici de précieux détails pour faire la lumière sur vos rapports humains. Le persécuteur De nombreux livres expliquent comment sortir du Triangle de Karpman et en quoi il consiste. Bernard Raquin, auteur de « Sortir du triangle dramatique », présente ce Triangle de Karpman comme une sorte de scénario pratiqué de façon inconsciente. Le persécuteur au sein de ce triangle est un protagoniste qui inflige des souffrances pour essayer de maîtriser les siennes. Le persécuteur est l'instigateur d'ordres, il impose une façon d'agir et donne des leçons, au motif qu'il sait mieux et qu'il est le mieux placé pour parler. Sorte de tyran inavoué, le persécuteur repère les faiblesses de sa victime afin de mieux l'inférioriser et la pousser à persécuter à son tour d'autres personnes, en provoquant la rancune. Il est important de souligner que le persécuteur au sein du triangle de Karpman peut également être une maladie ou une addiction comme l'alcoolisme : ce n'est pas forcément une personne mais bel et bien tout ce qui peut maintenir la victime à sa position de victime. La suite sur : La Woman Mag --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/la-woman-maga/message

11. afsnit handler om offerrollen - og hvem gider egentlig være i den? Flere, end man umiddelbart skulle tro, og en hel del uden at vide det. Sæt dig godt til rette og lyt med: Menuen består denne gang af nye aha-oplevelser i dramatrekantens tegn, når vi snakker om rollerne offer, redder og krænker og samspillet af disse. (Det er i øvrigt Stephen Karpman, der er ophavsperson, men den fangede vi ikke lige under optagelsen).

Bienvenidos a Entrepodcast, donde cada semana dos amigos se sientan a hablar sobre Podcasts. Somos Edu Garriga y Telmo Cillero, y juntos os invitamos a participar de la conversación. En este "Capítulo XII: Triángulo dramático de Karpman, victimismo y una nueva historia con la ayahuasca” partimos del episodio número 45 de Álex Rovira en el que se aborda el modelo triangular psicológico y relacional del analista transaccional Stephen Karpman. En el que es quizás nuestro programa más práctico hasta la fecha abordamos la formalización consciente e inconsciente de roles a la hora de interactuar con otras personas, la importancia de evaluar nuestras opiniones y cómo cambiar las reglas del juego dramático, entre otros puntos de profundo interés. ¿Cuál es el deporte más extendido del mundo según Telmo? ¿qué es el "Problema de los nueve puntos" y cómo puede hacernos entender nuestro funcionamiento interno y comunicativo? 

 Es el momento de viajar una vez más en esta aventura "radiofónica". ¿Nos acompañas? Únete y comparte con nosotros tu opinión.

This is the first episode of my podcast, Self-Defined Human. Let's see where we go from here.Stop being a Victim. Be a Creator instead. Learn about the Drama Triangle vs. the Empowerment Dynamic. Two radically different paradigms for viewing your role in the world.The Drama Triangle comes from Stephen Karpman.The Empowerment Dynamic is from David Emerald.TranscriptThe first episode is about the Drama Triangle and the Empowerment Dynamic. The drama triangle is invented by the psychologist Stephen Karpman, and the Empowerment Dynamic comes from David Emerald.Most of us look at life in terms of the drama triangle. every interaction you have with other people, you put yourself and other people into one of three roles.You're either the Victim, the Persecutor or the Rescuer. You could think of this like you’re either a Victim, a Villain, or Hero.We’re taught to do this. This is the way the culture is, this is the way we are. All the time. We take it for granted. We don’t even notice that we’re doing this. It’s a specific way of thinking about things. A specific way of structuring our reality. And we take it for granted.It’s not a good thing or bad thing. It’s just a thing. It’s just how we do it. the whole structure of our society is based on this concept. You have a Victim and yellow Persecutor, and the Persecutor is doing something bad to the Victim , and The Rescuer has to save the Victim from the Persecutor. We take it for granted.Everything we do. You go to school and this is how it is. All these Notions about fairness, about Justice, all these ideas are based on this concept that there are good guys and there are bad guys. There are Victims and there are Villains. And, either we are a Victim, or we are a Villain, or we need to rescue the Victims from the Villains.You may say, “well, obviously.” it seems so obvious that this is just how it has to be. Because, if someone is suffering, then it means that someone else has caused it. And, and if you can see that someone is causing it… what is the conclusion that you draw from this, when you see that somebody is suffering as a result of something that someone else did?The way that you link these two events together, it’s up to you. It’s not obvious. It’s not just a foregone conclusion that this is just how it’s going to be. It’s not.You think it is, right?Why do you do that? You have to ask yourself this. You have to take yourself to task here. Don’t just take this for granted. That’s a big mistake, come on. Huge mistake. Don’t take these things for granted.You know, you’re the one who’s responsible for this, You’re the one who’s telling the story.Nobody wants to be a Victim. Nobody wants to be called a Victim. If I call you a Victim, what happens? I become a Persecutor. Immediately. If I tell you that you’re letting someone else take advantage of you, if I tell you that you are the one who’s responsible, that you are the one who is responsible for your own suffering, you see me as a Persecutor.Why is that? Why don’t you want to hear that?I mean, I don’t like hearing that either. I don’t like hearing it. Nobody seems to like hearing this.Sometimes I’ll say something, and somebody else will think I’m saying that. Because, we know that it’s not good to be a Victim. We know that.But, why is that the story you’re telling? Why is the drama triangle the story that you’re telling? Why do you put everything into that framework, into that little triangle? Why? Why is that the way it has to be?You know, the way that you interpret events is that you take the things that happen, the things that you could observe objectively, and you string them together. You connect the dots and you make a story out of it. You find some interpretation on it.Your mind does this automatically. You don’t even know that you’re doing it. Most people don’t even think about this kind of thing. It just happens.This is how you’ve been conditioned. this is how you heard people talk around you. These are the stories you’ve heard, this is what you’ve seen on TV, this is the behavior that’s been modeled for you. Since you were a little kid, this is what has happened. These are the roles that people play, and these are the rules that people follow, that they have to follow. And, when something happens, these are the consequences that must follow.We blame people for things, when something bad happens. We say that it’s somebody’s fault. we say, they deserve something.I didn’t invent these words. I didn’t. Not me. You’re the one who invented these words. I didn’t. You. Not me.It has nothing to do with me, because I don’t speak that language. That’s my choice. But, you do, right?Why? Because you want to be a Rescuer? you obviously don’t want to be a Victim, but sometimes you’re forced to. If somebody does something to you. somebody says something to you that you don’t like.“Oh, no no no, Michael. It’s not that I don’t like it, it’s an offensive thing. It’s inherently offensive.”Yep. Uh huh.Inherently offensive.No, the problem is that you don’t like it. You. Why? Because it’s your preference. You would prefer that those things weren’t said to you.Yeah, okay. That’s not even true. You prefer that these things are said to you. That’s why you get so excited when somebody says it. When somebody offends you.You love that.Why? Because now you get to be The Rescuer, and now you get to save the world from that person, from that evildoer. you get to jump to the rescue. you want me to offend you. You’re just waiting for it. You’re just itching for it.That’s great.So, you want to be a Victim, and you want to be a Rescuer. But, you don’t want anybody to call you that. You don’t want to be called a Victim. Do you want to be called a Rescuer? I don’t know. You tell me. What about a Persecutor? Do you want to be called that? Do you want to be a Persecutor? of course not. Nobody wants to be a Persecutor. You see that as an evil thing. Right? When you’re a Persecutor, that means that you are bad. That means that you deserve punishment. You did something wrong,  because you made somebody else suffer. Think of all the ways that you spend all your day, that you spent all your time and energy, trying to avoid being the Persecutor. How much time do you spend on that?And when you do something accidentally that causes suffering, what happens? You beat yourself up about that, you feel guilty about that, you feel ashamed about that, you try to fix it. You’re spending all your time doing this, because you don’t want to be a Persecutor. That’s a bad thing too.Is this fun for you, to live your life that way? In that drama triangle?I doubt it very much.There’s an alternative. The alternative is the empowerment dynamic. This is invented by David emerald. You should check out this book he’s got, The Power of TED*.In the empowerment Dynamic, we’ve got three roles as well. We’ve got the Creator, the Challenger, and the Coach. Instead of the Victim, we’ve got the Creator. Instead of the Persecutor, we’ve got the Challenger. And instead of The Rescuer, we have the Coach. These are three roles which are much more productive.Because, you see, you are a creator. You are the creator of the universe. The whole universe. Everything. You may as well accept it, may as well own it, may as well claim it. “I am the Creator.  I am God “Does that offend you? of course it offends you. you don’t want to be a Creator.Why is that? Because creators have a lot of responsibility.Calling you a Creator, if you’re stuck in the drama triangle, is equivalent to calling you a Victim. now, I’m calling you to task and I’m asking you, “hey, why haven’t you been created? Why have you been spending all your time running away from Persecutors? Why has that been occupying all of your time? “when I call you a Creator, you’re forced to confront that. you’re forced to ask yourself, “hey, why haven’t I been  making the universe that I want to make? Why haven’t I been making the world into the world that I want to live in?”And because you’re stuck in the drama triangle, this is a horrible thing. It’s a horrible thing to be called out like that.See, I don’t see it that way. You know, sometimes I’m a Victim. You can call me a Victim, that’s okay. You can ask me, “hey Michael, why haven’t you been creating? “ yeah, I don’t know. Sometimes I’m lazy, sometimes I’m tired, sometimes I’m scared of something, sometimes I’m hungry.That’s fine. That’s fine for me, because when I notice that I’m in the drama triangle, I step outside of it. I don’t see myself as a Victim, I don’t see other people as Persecutors , and I don’t believe that anybody needs to be rescued. I don’t. The whole thing’s a game. I always think about Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Nonviolent Communication, who says, “don’t do anything that isn’t play.”See, it’s not that serious. But, you want it to be so serious.Remember, when you were a kid, you created a lot. Kids are very creative. All day long, creating things. That’s how I was. I don’t need to give you examples, you know it’s true.But then, we become adults, and what happens?It’s not even when we’re adults.This happens, maybe 9 years old or so? We get fearful. We get really scared, and we see that the purpose of life is to follow rules and not break the rules. And not be in the wrong. To not be the ones who are to blame for anything, because we want to be right.So, we invent these religions where we learn how to be saved, Because we have this compulsive need to be in the right. We have to be the ones where the teacher can’t look at us And say, “You’re the one. You’re the one who broke the rule. You’re the one who needs to stay after class.  You’re the one who needs to clean up this mess, because you did it. you caused it. You’re responsible for all this pain and suffering.  And if you don’t fix it, there’s going to be consequences later on. There’s going to be consequences after you're dead.  you’re going to be stuck in eternal damnation, forever. That’s how bad it’s going to get.”That’s how future-fixated you are. you imagine this infinite future where you’re going to be suffering the whole time. That’s what it’s like for you, because you’re so obsessed with this idea that you need to follow the rules. That’s your thing, Because you don’t see it as a game. You see it as something that has dire consequences.See,  in a game, when the game’s over, game over. Put it away, go do something else, and come back to it when you want to play again. You know it’s just a game. that’s fine. No problem.But, when you make things serious, you can’t do that. You’re attached to it. You have to stay in it. You have to stay in the game, even after it’s over. When you die in the game, you’re dead in real life, so you better not let that happen. That’s how you look at it. Big mistake.So, you can be a Creator. Just be a Creator. You’re the one who gets to decide what happened.See, this changes everything. This changes how you look at everything else. A Victim doesn’t look at it that way. A Victim doesn’t have choices about what the Victim is going to create. A Victim is only responding to what happens. As a Victim, I need to keep everyone else at bay.The Victim is only concerned with maintaining stability. That’s it. The whole story the Victim tells is, “I was just trying to go about my business, just trying to do my own thing, just trying to relax, just trying to have a good time, and then you came along and messed everything up for me.”That’s the story the Victim tells. ” I was just doing nothing, and then you messed it up. “What’s so great about nothing? Why is that the story? Like, that’s the ideal state: “I’m just doing nothing I’m just minding my own business.”You’re going to be spending a lot of time after you’re dead doing nothing. See, this is the chance you have right here to do something. These few years, where you could potentially do something. But no, you’re just complaining about how no one’s letting you do nothing. I mean, come on, that’s ridiculous.You can do whatever you want.But now, you have some responsibility, because if you’re the Creator, you can’t look at other people as Persecutors. Or, as Rescuers. You can’t, because that doesn’t have any importance anymore. When you look at somebody as a Persecutor, that’s what they’re doing. They’re messing you up. But, you’re the one who’s deciding what happens, because you are the Creator. So, the Persecutor becomes the Challenger.The Persecutor becomes the task. That’s what you’re doing.You are confronting Challengers.See, there’s no Adventure otherwise. think of any great adventure story. Just imagine there were no obstacles on the path. What is that? It’s nothing. The only reason that the story means anything is because of the obstacles. if you just stay at home, you have nothing. There’s no story. You don’t grow, you don’t change, you don’t learn anything. The Challengers are good things. They’re good guys. They’re not bad guys. The Victim is the bad guy. The Victim is the one who says no, we’re not going to go on an adventure, we’re not going to learn, we’re not going to grow, we’re not going to change.And, it’s good to be a Challenger. You don’t want to be a Persecutor, because you don’t want to hurt other people. But, the Challenger doesn’t mind hurting other people, because the Challenger knows that by hurting other people that you’re helping them grow.They might not see it that way, because if they’re stuck in the drama triangle, they’re not going to appreciate that, but so what?You are a Creator. They are a Creator. When you’re in the empowerment Dynamic, you just see it that way.If they don’t want to be a creator, you don’t even hear it. You treat them as creators whether they know it or not. Whether they admit to it or not. You can’t have Rescuers either. No one needs to be rescued. See, the Challenger is a good guy. When the Creator is hurt by the Challenger, that’s a good thing. So, The Rescuer becomes the Coach.The Coach’s job is to help the Creator create. it’s not to save the Creator from anything. The creator doesn’t need to be saved. The Creator is God.You don’t need to save God from anything. You need to help God do God’s work. This is a public episode. 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Dans ce 32e épisode de l'Académie de la Haute Performance, Pierre répond à une question posée par Stéphane : comment installer une cohésion de groupe.  Dans ce podcast, Pierre et Mikaël nous parlent aussi du triangle de Karpman, un jeu de manipulation psychologique théorisé en 1968 par Stephen Karpman.  Le but de ce podcast c'est de créer une Académie où tout le monde peut apprendre les règles et les lois universelles qui permettent à chaque être humain de pouvoir reprendre confiance en soi pour s'épanouir et s'accomplir dans tous ses domaines de vie. N'aurait-on pas une bonne raison de ne pas vouloir changer ? Créer un mouvement où chacun peut apprendre à se connecter et utiliser son propre potentiel.Si vous êtes déjà dans la performance, vous aurez les clés pour être et dans la performance et dans le Bien Être.Pensez à liker ce podcast s'il vous a plu et le partager autour de vous ;-)Retrouvez la webconférence "Comment être confiant et serein le jour des compétitions en éliminant la peur de l'échec" en suivant ce lien. Webconférence Bonheur Illimité Page Facebook.  Chaîne Youtube.  [Crédit musique : "Express" - Eveningland]

Zu den menschlichsten Bedürfnisse zählen Zugehörigkeit, Liebe und Harmonie. Deswegen meiden die meisten von uns Konflikte. Wir nehmen unbewusst unterschiedliche Rollen an. Eine Theorie beschreibt der Psychologe Dr. Stephen Karpman im Drama-Dreieck. Er meint, dass wir diese Rollen perfekt und ungeübt, aber immer im selben Muster, spielen.

“The most effective change requires doing things differently both on a mental and a physical level.” (4:40-4:49)Tasha Blasi The FU Project Podcast Kate Rouze, our mindset and relationship coach for the FU Project Workshop, teaches women how to improve their mindsets and relationships during the crazy fertility process. This was the topic for my latest episode of the FU Project podcast. You can listen here. The key to changing your life is to realize that you can actually change and that there is a huge mind-body connection. This happens when you break the internal victim dialogue of “I am this, because this happened.” Where are you on the Drama Triangle? The Drama Triangle: Victim, Villain, Hero You are in Drama Triangle anytime you criticize yourself or someone else, are stressed out, or have repeating emotions and thoughts. The Drama Triangle model, created by Stephen Karpman in the 1960s, represents three different roles you can play while in drama: Victim - “Poor me, I can't …” Villain - “It's all your fault; if you would do this, then I could ...” Hero - “Let me help you, because you're incapable.” When filling one of these roles on the Drama Triangle, anyone you are interacting with will play one of the other two roles. Most of us are in some version of the Drama Triangle dance all day long, every day, with everybody. “Everything on the Drama Triangle is a flavor of victim. The antidote to victim is empowerment, which is saying, “I am creating my life.'” (EP 17 33:59-34:10) While you can't choose what someone else says or does, you can choose how it affects you. You can choose to be a victim or you can choose to grow and be stronger because of it. Relationships and the Fertility Journey The most frequent relationship question we get from women on the fertility journey is how to get more support from their partner. If you're asking this question, the answer is simple. If you want more of something, start by appreciating what you already have. It's when we start thinking we have a lack that relationships go downhill. “I receive exactly the amount of support that I am capable of receiving. So if I want more support, my job is not to go tell my partner what they're doing wrong. My job is to go inside and expand my own capacity to receive.” (EP17 42:49-43:24) The fertility journey can bring tension and friction into our relationship with our partner. When this happens, awareness is the first step to change. Often the issue at hand isn't the REAL problem. When you give yourself the space to look at the underlying issue, you'll understand yourself and your partner in a new way. It's amazing to see how this intentionality can melt away those issues that have caused one million fights for partners over the years. The Most Important Skill for Women Struggling with Fertility The fertility journey brings up every edge in your psyche that you haven't been willing to address. The most important skill you can learn is to flow with and then let go of those emotions so that you're not carrying around stress, anger, bitterness, and resentment. This fertility stuff is intense. Women who choose to work through these issues have a strong chance of getting what they want because they've allowed themselves to receive the support they need. Give yourself the freedom to dig deep, adjust your mindset, and take one step closer to holding that precious baby in your arms. With thanks & love, Tasha How to get involvedIf you would like more information about The FU Project and my mission to get you pregnant so much faster and smarter than I did, please check out my website. If you would like to work with Kate regarding fertility, you may contact her at  support@tashablasi.com or her website: www.katerouze.comIf you liked this episode, be sure to subscribe and leave a quick review on iTunes. It would mean the world to hear your feedback and we'd love for you to help us spread the word.  There are so many women suffering in silence that could use this help and support.

Introduction: David Emerald and Donna Zajonc are a husband and wife team and also business partners & founders of the Bainbridge Leadership Center. David is the author of the best selling book The Power of Ted and has recently published his second book called 3 vital questions, transforming workplace drama. Donna is a Master Certified Coach and together they teach, facilitate and speak to the power of TED and the 3 Vital Questions framework to transform workplace drama.  Podcast episode summary: This episode describes what it means to be human and how we succumb to drama.  Stephen Karpman described a social model of human interaction called the drama triangle. As humans in reaction to problems we often jump onto the drama triangle and assume one of three roles, the Victim, Persecutor or Rescuer. The antidote is another triangle, called The Empowerment Dynamic or TED, which speaks to our inherent capacity to be creative. Three roles comprise TED, the Creator, Challenger and Coach. David's next book Three Vital Questions is set in an organisational context and speaks to how we are thinking, relating and acting in our business, often informed by our way of being in our personal lives. TED can be described as a self-Leadership book and the 3 Vital Questions an answer to our Leadership and teamwork choices in work. David and Donna share the auspices of their books, the motivation behind the writing and share what each involves through the course of this episode. Each book is a very digestible fable that perhaps masks the inherent complexity and nuances behind the material. This is not a Pollyanna type answer to drama but a conscious consciousness and call for us to wake up to our patterns and begin to exercise choice.  Donna and David liken themselves to translators condensing complex human conditions into digestible and applicable frameworks David started by sharing our very essence is as creators. We have the capacity to be in choice about the outcomes we want, to think about how we are thinking and to raise our awareness about how we are relating to others and ourselves. We then create by taking baby steps.  The core of what David and Donna teach is shifting from a set of relations/roles and dynamic in the dreaded drama triangle or DDT for short when we are in the dance of Victim, Persecutor and Rescuer to a more empowering set of relations/roles or dynamic called TED.  In order to develop our inherent capacity as creators we can cultivate the antidote roles of Creator, Challenger and Coach called TED.  We have an internal DDT triangle and TED available to us as well as these roles in relation to others.  A good start is to self diagnose how we relate to ourselves and then learn to pause, stop and allow for the whisperer creator to emerge.  Do not be numb or seduced by the inherent simplicity of the models they belie a lot of unconscious unravelling and neurological wiring. The roles are dynamic but the triangles serve to depict a static depiction of dynamic reality. Once we can notice we have the capacity to shift and alter our operational models.  These roles can be enacted by organisations in the culture they create, between sub-groups or functions and of course on teams as well.  Donna shared a story of a team who once they understood the DDT and the choice to pursue TED they were able to first change the language on their website that was predominantly problem focused.  The work moving from DDT to TED is not simplistic or “Pollyannaesque” The work is often beset with problems. The trick is to first outline what outcome/purpose/mission the team wants to achieve and then enumerate the problems to be encountered in service of an outcome Problem-solving is still part of the work but the difference is we are not reacting to problems coming at us.  The important role of Coach on TED. People are very able to tell you what they don't want but less able to articulate what they desire or really want. A Leader or leader as a coach can learn to help people get on the balcony and not be subject to persistent reactivity.  Two different mindsets are explored in TED and 3 Vital Questions. The first is in a continuum of focus on problems. The second is an orientation towards outcomes supported by facilitation and enquiry to get at the creator essence in all of us.  Not an easy step for many Leaders to become leaders as coaches, especially when we have been brought up in organisations were expertise is prised.  3 Vital questions are shared in a fable. 3 questions are supported by a subtext of questions to bring the TED framework to life.  1st Question: Where are you putting your focus? The subtext is whether your focus is on problems that evoke an inner state of anxiety or whether you are tapping into your passion and care that is outcome oriented.  2nd Question: How are you relating, which speaks to David's first book TED. Are you relating from a problem mindset or an outcome mindset and from the archetype roles, which accompany, Victim, Persecutor and Rescuer or Creator, Challenger and Coach.  3rd Question: What actions are you taking with the subtext of in the moment problems or creative and generative actions in service of a bigger purpose.  The work in teams and in organisational life is about awakening our inner observer.  We have to be mindful that regression is part of the work-the question why can't we do this all of the time requires compassion and an understanding that we are fallible human beings.  Our neurology is organised in such a fashion that we are wired, not hard-wired, to keep ourselves safe. This explains why the DDT is live in all of us.  Our work is to upgrade our human operating system It is also worthy to note that the DDT roles are not always bad or unhelpful sometimes they are needed but the idea is not to stay in them.  Conscious consciousness is required along with practice.    Quotable Quotes: “We are always at a point of choice” “Our essence is as Creators” “When we pause, stop and breath, the whisper of Creator, Challenger and Coach can rise” “Value of model of DDT and TED is static depiction of a dynamic reality”  “Get to the balcony and not in subject to persistent reactivity” “Compassion is fuel for upgrading our Neurology”    Resources: the following includes the resources we alluded to over the course of our conversation   The Power of Ted, https://powerofted.com/,  3 Vital Questions, https://3vitalquestions.com Subscribe to Free Friday Newsletter on both websites Books available in Print through Amazon, Audible and as an e-book on Kindle also on Amazon