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Hi! I'm Beka Elle. I'm a coach, creative, and engineer. In this podcast, we discuss life from many angles: spirituality (particularly non-duality), creativity, purpose, play, and the insights I came upon while seeking answers for my own struggle with eating disorders, anxiety, and depression. DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed therapist or medical professional, and my services are not intended to diagnose, prescribe, or treat any medical condition, be that physical or mental.

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    • May 2, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
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    • 29m AVG DURATION
    • 119 EPISODES


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    ep119: what does "surrender" even mean?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2025 18:54


    People talk about "surrendering" a lot in spiritual circles... but HOW does one actually do that?www.bekaelle.com

    ep118: the trap of time

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 28, 2025 37:04


    What opens when we let go of "psychological time?"www.bekaelle.com

    ep117: back to breath

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 25, 2025 27:12


    "No thought is as important as this breath that I'm taking"- Chris the Shamanwww.bekaelle.com

    ep116: starting from scratch

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 28, 2024 40:40


    I MISSED YOUUUUUUUUU www.bekaelle.com

    ep115: the witch went to church

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 21, 2024 30:58


    Correction: Bible study www.bekaelle.com

    ep114: noooooo, not politics!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 20, 2024 52:47


    Will probly delete this one in 5 minutes. Love ya, bekaelle

    ep113: marianne does it again

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2024 38:59


    'Are our feelings ours? Do we "get into heaven two by two?" Is it actually happening how it's supposed to? These and other thoughts from yours, truly [confused]. www.bekaelle.com/coaching#soul-huddles

    ep112: "BEKA ELLE, A SINGLE PERSON"

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 2, 2024 54:26


    More life updates and insights from one cacoon escapist to another. www.bekaelle.com/contact

    ep111: it's safe to hate yourself

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2024 28:33


    This is kind of a life-update episode with recent explorations weaved in.

    ep110: return of the dave [with dave fry]

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2024 53:43


    Another episode featuring the one-and-only Dave Fry. In this conversation, we discuss the mind's crafty ways, "doership," art, and creativity. Find Dave here: https://dramyjohnson.com/coach/dave-fry/ Find me here: www.bekaelle.com

    ep109: dark night of right and wrong

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 17, 2024 45:16


    Storytime! About my most recent breakdown (lol). No but really... here's a story about second guessing myself and the continual learning curve to trust myself and trust life. I hope something in it rings true for you too. www.bekaelle.com Soul Huddles

    ep108: overthinking [with becca gardner]

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2024 48:48


    I feel lucky to have Becca Gardner on the podcast! In this episode, we discuss the topic of overthinking: how we all do it, and how we can make peace with it rather than letting it run our lives. Becca's website: https://www.themissingpeacecotswolds.com/ My website : www.bekaelle.com Join SOUL HUDDLES!

    ep107: fear of gaining weight

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 3, 2024 24:37


    This is an excerpt from the February SOUL HUDDLE... my response to a question that was sent anonymously from a member. The question: What to do about the fear of gaining weight, and fear of uncontrollable eating? If you have a question, feel free to enter it in the contact form, or the anonymous contact form, on my website: www.bekaelle.com/contact Sign up for SOUL HUDDLES! It's freeeee

    ep106: how to connect to your inner wisdom [with julieanne chazotte and kristina bruce]

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2024 47:35


    Welcome back to another roundtable, this time featuring the brilliant Julieanne Chazotte and Kristina Bruce! We discuss what "wisdom" or "intuition" is, and how to recognize it. Julie's website SimpleSHIFT (Julie's platform) Kristina's website my website book a session with me join SOUL HUDDLES

    ep105: it's all made up and the points don't matter [with crystal saltrelli]

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 18, 2024 52:47


    What if goals and desires were pure fun, rather than stressful? How would striving feel if you knew your self worth wasn't on the line? Join the waiting list for Next Right Step Contact Crystal Contact me Book a session with me Join Soul Huddles

    ep104: welcoming it all [with missy maiorano and jessica silverman]

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 11, 2024 53:30


    This roundtable was a complete lovefest. I hope you enjoy it. Find Jessica here: https://www.parentingwithclarity.com Find Missy here: https://www.missymaioranocoaching.com Find me here: www.bekaelle.com Join SOUL HUDDLES!

    ep103: lessons I learned while traveling

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 4, 2024 38:24


    In case you missed it, I haven't had a lease since Feb of 2023... I've been traveling, and living nomadically in monthly AirBnB's. I've learned a lot from this experience and thought it might be fun to share some of the lessons- both philosophical and practical ones! www.bekaelle.com Join SOUL HUDDLES!

    ep102: the self illusion [with amanda jones and judi wolinsky]

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 28, 2024 49:43


    Buckle up for a ride down the rabbit hole with your two magical tour guides, Judi Wolinsky and Amanda Jones! Find Amanda here: https://www.uncoveryspace.com/ Sign up for The Wonderland Course, hosted by Amanda Jones and Alex Linares. Reach out to me to get in touch with Judi! Get in touch with me: www.bekaelle.com Join SOUL HUDDLES!

    ep101: manifesting

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 21, 2024 36:48


    My journey with the concept of manifestation/law of attraction. Our first VIDEO episode! Whhhaaaaaattttt?!!?! www.bekaelle.com Join SOUL HUDDLES

    ep100: understanding the human experience [with Lindsey Elliott and Dave Fry]

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 14, 2024 53:26


    Welcome, Lindsey Elliott, and welcome back, Dave Fry, for a special roundtable episode! I have so much respect for these two excellent coaches. Come hang out with us as we discuss how out experience works, and why that is useful for overcoming anxiety and other mental health woes. Find Lindsey's website here. Reach out to Dave: dave.fry.tsb@gmail.com My website: www.bekaelle.com

    ep99: head to heart

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 7, 2024 27:02


    Magic happens when we take our focus out of the head and into the heart (or breath, or bodily sensations). www.bekaelle.com Join SOUL HUDDLES

    ep98: does restriction necessarily lead to binge eating? a f.a.q.

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 6, 2023 30:03


    We haven't talked about food stuff in a while! Here's a common question that has looked different to me recently.

    ep97: is any thought necessary?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 29, 2023 38:18


    Do we need any thinking to survive? Is it possible to exist without thought? Can the mind be completely quiet? www.bekaelle.com

    ep96: theseus' ship

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 22, 2023 9:23


    Investigating Thomas Hobbes' thought experiment: Theseus' Paradox, and tying it back to the question of "who are you?" Book mentioned: "30 Second Science of Thought," published by New Burlington www.bekaelle.com

    ep95: two beckys and a bill walk into a podcast

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 15, 2023 58:28


    Welcome to the first ROUNDTABLE! This one features Becky Anderson (www.pauseitivecoaching.com) and Bill DeKramer (www.amazinghealtheffortlessly.com) ... we talk about making peace with being human. www.bekaelle.com

    ep94: love or attachment?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 12, 2023 16:46


    Musings about the ways we confuse love with egoic attachment. www.bekaelle.com

    ep93: my ayahuasca experience

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 8, 2023 76:33


    Let's talk about drugs. In this episode, I talk about my overall experience at an ayahuasca retreat, why I decided to do it in the first place, some of the insights I had, and what psychedelics appear to do for/to the brain. Things I mention in this episode: Rythmia (The retreat center I went to. I am not affiliated with them or being compensated for this episode.) How to Change Your Mind by Michael Pollan Fantastic Fungi (a Netflix documentary) Long-term effects of psychedelics study www.bekaelle.com Join SOUL HUDDLES I'M NOT A DOCTOR OR THERAPIST OR WHATEVER. Don't take this as advice; take it as entertainment.

    ep92: making peace with being human

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 6, 2023 26:00


    Insights from the workshop I held with Becky Anderson, involving a journal prompt where we wrote out a "job description" for one role that we have in our lives (e.g. your role as a parent, sibling, friend, chess player, marathon runner, Netflix enthusiast, or whatever!). Join the "MAKING PEACE WITH BEING HUMAN" four-week series, which starts Tuesday Nov 7. If you want to be a "featured participant" and get the course for free, reach out to me: www.bekaelle.com/contact Join SOUL HUDDLES!

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    ep91: words aren't it

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2023 25:38


    Words are making less and less sense lately. They feel less important. So here's me trying to explain that... using words. (*facepalm*) www.bekaelle.com Join us for the "Making Peace With Being Human" workshop. Join SOUL HUDDLES.

    ep90: no-self not debunked? my reaction to an article...

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 29, 2023 31:21


    These are my musings about an article entitled "Actually, neuroscience suggests 'the self' is real." I love the discussion around the self-concept, because... well... the self-concept runs our lives. I'm grateful to the author of this article for furthering the discussion! Sign up for the "Making Peace With Being Human" workshop! Join SOUL HUDDLES. Reach out to me: www.bekaelle.com/contact

    ep89: why we hate the word "coach" [with becky anderson]

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 25, 2023 83:21


    My lovely friend Becky and I discuss why we don't like calling ourselves "coaches"... This episode will, I think, be interesting for everyone. Because we really talk about the heart of what we do... the "fundamentals" if you will... and why we think it's helpful. Find Becky Anderson at www.pausitivecoaching.com Fine me at www.bekaelle.com

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    ep88: "other" people

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 7, 2023 40:34


    How often do you think about other people? ... ...Whether it's what they're thinking about you, or what made them how they are... What if you are other people? What if your perception of others is actually made of the same thing as the perception you have of yourself? We explore this concept multiple ways in this episode. www.bekaelle.com join soul huddles here

    ep87: when dance isn't dance

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 30, 2023 47:57


    Recent realizations I've had about what dance really is, and the dance industry, and kind of everything else, as I've learned about immersing more into feminine energy and balancing it with the masculine. www.bekaelle.com Sign up for "WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?" - course starts Thursday! I also talk about these teachers, in case you want to look them up: Dana Alexa Angelo Dilullo and Violet Synergy Sarah Jenks Mishka and Maxie (those are my cats) The spider that Mishka ate after it crawled on my face (R.I.P.)

    ep86: body acceptance [with kristina bruce]

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 24, 2023 61:02


    This episode features the lovely & brilliant Kristina Bruce! Kristina is a body acceptance coach. You can find her at her website, www.kristinabruce.com and also @kristinabrucecoach on Instagram. Sign up for "WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE," the course! Starts Oct 5th. Join Soul Huddles here.

    ep85: autofocus

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 16, 2023 23:08


    What if zooming out/losing focus every once in a while feels good for a reason? And what if we can trust life to pull us back in? www.bekaelle.com "Who do you think you are?" -- the course! Join SOUL HUDDLES

    ep84: "who do you think you are?"... the course! [with alex linares]

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 9, 2023 38:25


    I'm so excited to have Alex on for another episode. In this episode, we discuss our upcoming course, centered around inquiring into this simple question, "who do I think I am?" ... which often has answers that reveal the layers of belief that we walk around with. Our identities and self-concepts are often so deep and unquestioned that they run our lives without us even noticing. By inquiring into these layers of belief, we can allow limitations to fall away, enabling us to live life in a freer, softer, simpler way. Join us this October! For details, check out: whodoyouthinkyouare.space Find more about Alex here: www.canaimacoaching.com And as always... you can reach out to me here: www.bekaelle.com

    ep83: there's no "happy"

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 2, 2023 28:12


    What is happiness? What makes us happy? How is happiness different from other emotions? When you really dissect it, you might be surprised by what you find. www.bekaelle.com Join SOUL HUDDLES!

    ep82: i'm pooped but my mind says i shouldn't be

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 26, 2023 30:15


    REST IS PRODUCTIVE. Our minds often don't think so, though. What's with that?! www.bekaelle.com Join SOUL HUDDLES here.

    ep81: there's only discomfort

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 19, 2023 47:41


    An insight I had recently about how we're either feeling discomfort of the present, or the discomfort of trying to get out of it. And what if the reliable presence of that thing we call "discomfort" is ... actually comforting?

    ep80: you don't need to believe in yourself

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 12, 2023 17:32


    If you think your problem is not believing in yourself enough, maybe just let that one go. You can do things, successfully, without believing you can. Contrary to the manifesting/self-help manifesto. Don't let a lack of confidence, or a "low-vibration" feeling, stop you from getting started. Belief in yourself just makes the process a lot more fun. But it's not a requirement. www.bekaelle.com Join SOUL HUDDLES here.

    ep79: if you DID know, what would it be?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 5, 2023 31:26


    Do you catch yourself saying, "I don't know" when you really do know, but you're afraid of admitting it because you think it sounds immature, unwise, petty, or shameful? Do you not admit what you want, even to yourself, because you're afraid of the disappointment of not getting it? We do this a lot. And minds can be sneaky about it. www.bekaelle.com Join SOUL HUDDLES here.

    ep78: "who do you think you are?" [with alex linares]

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 29, 2023 43:13


    "Who do you think you are?" is a question that gets thrown around, rhetorically, as an insult. But when we genuinely ask it, it has the potential to shake our entire foundation, enabling us to experience fluidity and freedom beyond our habitual self-concepts.

    ep77: sharing your stuff is scary, but worth it! [with becky anderson]

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 22, 2023 57:16


    I'm honored to have my friend and colleague, Becky Anderson, on the podcast! Becky is great at noticing and articulating the nuances of how the mind works and how it can make us feel stuck. This makes her a great coach, because so much freedom comes from just getting that high level view of the little innocent games and computations that our minds are making all the time, in a smart-but-not-wise effort to keep us safe. She opens up in this episode about what it's been like to put her work out there, and also what she's been seeing about emotion and the way that our minds tell stories about what we're feeling, and how that is and isn't helpful. Find Becky at: www.pauseitivecoaching.com Find me at www.bekaelle.com

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    ep76: i'm not brave

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 15, 2023 27:17


    People sometimes call me brave, but that is NOT how I see it. I'm scared sh*tless most of the time. I do things while terrified because I like gathering evidence that my mind is a silly little liar. Join SOUL HUDDLES! Next meeting Monday July 17 at 2pm Pacific. All the other things are over at www.bekaelle.com

    ep75: caffeinated in prague [mini-sode]

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 12, 2023 8:24


    For this bonus minisode, I'm releasing an unfiltered voice note that I recorded while I was walking in Prague, thinking about a common question. The question is essentially: do we have control of our thoughts? www.bekaelle.com

    ep74: "shift happens" with dave fry

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 7, 2023 54:14


    Dave Fry has moved past something that people don't usually move past… an intense, 17-year struggle with major depression, anxiety, and bipolar… lots of diagnoses and medications… until… he stumbled on an understanding of life that completely changed all that. He now helps people through similar struggles. As you'll see in this interview, Dave is caring, hilarious, and a brilliant coach.  Reach out to Dave at dave.fry.tsb@gmail.com Find me at www.bekaelle.com

    ep73: what's "good?"

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 30, 2023 25:04


    What does "good enough" mean? Where's the line? Is there one? If so, who drew it? Was it you? If you're not putting yourself, or your art, out there, because you're afraid of not being good enough, this episode is for you. www.bekaelle.com

    ep72: action without agenda is more fun

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 10, 2023 27:27


    In this episode, I talk about my recent insights around dance, which led to more insights about our actions in general. What if we can just do things, because we're doing things, and the meaning that our mind innocently puts behind it is less true than we've been believing? www.bekaelle.com

    ep71: creativity f.a.q.

    Play Episode Listen Later May 27, 2023 38:07


    In this episode I discuss four concerns that a lot of people have when they are leaning into their creative urges... #1: "I should improve my technique before I create my own stuff." #2: "I don't know what to create." #3: "I'm just not a creative person." #4: "I don't have time." sign up for CREATE CLUB here! (starts June 5) www.bekaelle.com

    ep70: wtf is going on?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 20, 2023 31:00


    In this episode, we really just zoom the f out. SOUL HUDDLES sign-up here ⁠www.bekaelle.com⁠

    ep69: this changes everything

    Play Episode Listen Later May 13, 2023 50:35


    What if we could truly see that there is nothing to fear in any feeling? It would change everything. There would be no need to cope using our unwanted habits and addictions. There would be no anxiety. There would be no "stuckness." When we truly look into our feelings, and see that every single one is safe, and that the story we have in our minds has nothing to do with the feeling itself, everything changes. www.bekaelle.com

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