Gates Of Perception

In this episode I explore what I believe is a misdiagnosed hunger for tribe, elders, touch, and true belonging in a world that's lost the village. We unpack the collapse of communal life, the overconsumption of intimacy, and why many are mistaking emotional starvation and gluttony for expansive love.Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @jeremielotemoAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Most men lose their woman's desire because they forget the three P's: penetration, presence, and polarity. In this episode, we break down how to embody these core masculine principles so she stays turned on by you not just emotionally, but sexually. If you've ever felt her pull away or have been in a sexless relationship without knowing how you got there, this will hit different.Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @jeremielotemoAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Women are just as wild, kinky, and sexual as men—sometimes even more. But if she's not bringing that side out, it's not because she doesn't have it… it's probably because she doesn't trust you with it. This episode is for you if you want to unlock a deeper level of attraction, passion, and desire in your relationships.Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @jeremielotemoAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

If you have to constantly set boundaries and remind someone how to treat you, you didn't choose a partner you may have signed up for a renovation project. In this episode, how to spot misalignment before you get attached, and the key to choosing relationships that don't require you to potty train, coach, or micromanage their healing work. Tune in and learn how to stop dating potential.

Possessiveness gets a bad rap, but what if a little bit of it is actually healthy? In this episode, I break down the difference between obsession (toxic and rooted in insecurity) and possessiveness (a natural, protective instinct). Learn how to set boundaries that make her feel claimed, not caged, and why embracing your territorial nature is part of being a strong, integrated man.Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @jeremielotemoAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, we dive into the complex struggle of wanting to save a woman we care about, only to realize that some battles are beyond our control. That we are not heroes or superhuman, but simply humans. What does it mean to let go and trust a higher power?Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @jeremielotemoAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, we explore how to be truly open and vulnerable with women in a way that connects, not pushes them away. Learn the art of male vulnerability—what works, what doesn't, and how to show up authentically without losing your strength or her respect.Looking to improve your focus and mental clarity? Use code GATES20 for 48% off a subscription or 20% off a one-time purchase of MagicMind here.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, we dive deep into the raw, untamed power of a man who's unafraid to face his shadows. We explore how owning your darkness makes you magnetic, confident, and surprisingly, safe in relationships—and why it's the key to attracting the kind of deep intimacy you've always craved. Tune in to learn how tapping into this primal energy not only sets you apart but makes you the man she respects and feels safe with.Looking to improve your focus and mental clarity? Use code GATES20 for 48% off a subscription or 20% off a one-time purchase of MagicMind here.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Why are so many men avoiding therapy? Is it really just the stigma, or is the system not built to meet men where they are? In this episode, we explore the untouched conversation around why men aren't showing up to therapy and what needs to change.Looking to improve your focus and mental clarity? Use code GATES20 for 48% off a subscription or 20% off a one-time purchase of MagicMind here.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Think your sex drive is higher than hers? Think again. In this episode, we explore the misconceptions about women's sexual desires. We dive into the societal norms, communication issues, and emotional neglect that can shape a woman's level of interest. If you want to deepen your understanding or enhance your relationship, this episode is for you.Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, we dive deep into five ways to inspire and empower masculine energy. Whether you're looking to support your partner, or close friend these powerful insights will help you welcome more balanced, supportive, and fulfilling connections with the men in your life. Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Explore with me how this complex emotion can actually serve as a powerful tool for personal growth and self-awareness. We'll delve into how understanding the root causes of jealousy can reveal the desires and values that matter most to us. Tune in to redefine your relationship with jealousy and harness it for your benefit.Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, we explore the complex journey of loving and understanding men who harbor negative feelings toward women. We unpack some of the origins of these attitudes, their impact on relationships, and some strategies for mutual healing.Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

There are no ready-made partners in life, everyone brings their shadows and scars into relationships. This episode is to help men who are willing to engage in that complexity, not just to bridge gaps of mistrust, but to foster mutual healing. Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, we dive into the complex dynamics of emotional expression in relationships. Exploring a nuanced reality behind a woman's preference regarding male vulnerability and the misunderstandings that often come up in the emotional communication between men and women.Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

If you want to experience a breakthrough in healing your father and mother wounds then this episode is for you. Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, I share my relationship to my purpose and calling in this life, how I am navigating the challenges that come with it and the spiritual aspect that keeps me grounded and centered. Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Discover a game-changing approach to elevate your dating life. We delve into a simple yet profound strategy that will transform how you meet and connect with high-quality individuals. If you're tired of the usual superficial dating scene and want to step up your game, this episode is for you. Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

If you're looking for more than just a beautiful face, but a partner to build a lifetime of love with, this episode is for you. In this episode, we explore the subtle cues and profound gestures that signify a woman who embodies the elements that can help you create a foundation for a lasting and meaningful connection.Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This episode is a journey into redefining intimacy, leadership, and connection, perfect for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of love and partnership in the modern world. Tune in to discover new ways of connecting that are not just about leading or surrendering, but about creating a union built on mutual respect, and understanding, and embraces the fullness of our humanity.Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This episode unpacks the fine line between being cherished and claimed and feeling controlled and owned. Join us for an insightful discussion and practical advice on nurturing a bond that balances emotional belonging with personal autonomy. It's all about loving and being loved, without the shadows of possession. Perfect for anyone looking to deepen their devotion while maintaining their sense of self.Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, we unpack the challenge of staying grounded amidst a crisis. Discover how to discern the media you consume, remain present during conflict, and approach your privileges with compassion. Gain insights on how to nurture self-love, unity, and personal integrity in a polarized world. Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, we dive deep into the dark textures of our sexual fantasies and explore how they can be powerful components of creating a fulfilling and empowering relationship and how unveiling our darker textures is key to unlocking a more authentic version of ourselves.Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

While it's not a lifestyle I choose for myself, my research and interactions with those who do have offered me invaluable insights into love, commitment, and human connection. So whether you're poly-curious, in a polyamorous relationship, or like me, prefer monogamy, I hope this episode will invite you to think more deeply about what love can look like.Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this eye-opening episode, we dive into the often-misunderstood concept of unconditional love. While the idea of loving someone without conditions may seem ideal, it can actually hinder personal growth and authentic connection. Explore with me why seeking unconditional love can lead to unrealistic expectations and how embracing a more nuanced understanding of love can foster deeper, more fulfilling relationships. Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Do you know the difference between dating and courting? In this episode, we dive into the lost art of courting and how it distinguishes itself from modern casual dating. I share the intentional, respectful, and masculine approach along with key principles and guides to follow when truly courting a potential wife.If this episode resonates with you, please take a moment to leave a review. Your insights not only help us grow but also allow these important conversations to reach more people.Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, we delve into the intricate and complex wounds of our relationships with our parents. We explore the idea that the wounds we have from these experiences are far from being barriers, and can actually serve as transformative gateways or initiations leading us toward profound spiritual growth. If this episode resonates with you, please take a moment to leave a review. Your insights not only help us grow but also allow these important conversations to reach more people.Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, we dive deep into the fabric of what truly creates an enriching relationship. How to move beyond societal expectations, beyond the cooking and cleaning, beyond the paying of bills. This conversation is an invitation to shift your perspective and cultivate relationships that are truly enriching. If this episode resonates with you, please take a moment to leave a review. Your insights not only help us grow, but they also allow these important conversations to reach more people. Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

If you grew up with a father that was physically absent, emotionally unavailable, or verbally or physically abusive, chances are the relationship you had with him is still impacting your relationships and self-worth. In this podcast episode, we confront this deep-seated issue, its manifestations, and ways to heal. If you're seeking to understand how this wound holds you back, this episode is for you.Links: Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasTo learn more about my private mentorship programs for both men and women, click the link below. https://www.byermeas.com/1-on-1-coachingAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

After some positive feedback from my last life update episode, I decided to keep the series going. In this episode, I vulnerably and openly share my struggles with trust in my life and relationships. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

When women are objectified they're seen as just bodies, instruments and objects designed for the use and pleasure of others. But what drives us as a collective to reduce women to less than human, is it cultural norms, gender roles, religious institutes, or is it the media we consume? And is there anything we can do about it? Links: Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasTo learn more about my private mentorship programs for both men and women, click the link below. https://www.byermeas.com/1-on-1-coachingAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What happens when you grow up in a world where communication is instant, where you have access to so much information, and so many different types of people, their lives, relationships, and personal story, and you can interact with whoever you wanted whenever you wanted? How does this impact our psychology and our relationship with self and others?Links: Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasTo learn more about my private mentorship programs for both men and women, click the link below. https://www.byermeas.com/1-on-1-coachingAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Maybe you've heard the Buddhist philosophical concept of impermanence before, and maybe you haven't. But in this episode, I share my relationship with impermanence and uncertainty and navigating the possible shadows that manifest as a result of this integration. Links: Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasTo learn more about my private mentorship programs for both men and women, click the link below. https://www.byermeas.com/1-on-1-coachingAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This episode is a brief update on my life. I talk about the importance of sharing the messiness and complexities of the human experience, my challenges around balancing work and play, and making time for my spiritual practice. Links: Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Have you found yourself constantly attracting the same person in a different body? In this episode, I share why this may be happening and provide insight into a five-step process that when followed can create lasting changes in the type of partners and dynamics you attract. Links: Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasTo learn more about my private mentorship programs for both men and women, click the link below. https://www.byermeas.com/1-on-1-coachingAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I think productivity is over-glorified, over-valued, and over-emphasized in our culture. The glorification of productivity conditions us to externalize our value and believe that our worth does not exist beyond what we are capable of producing and doing for others. In this episode, I also unpack and explore what the obsession with productivity, being busy, and chasing goals is helping us avoid.Links: Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasTo learn more about my private mentorship programs for both men and women, click the link below. https://www.byermeas.com/1-on-1-coachingRegister for my upcoming two-part online workshop: https://resources.byermeas.com/empowering-women-nurturing-men-workshopAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, I share 5 reasons why I believe every man needs to go celibate at some point in his journey. I share some of the benefits I noticed from my own celibacy journey, things men need to unlearn and deprogram, and how future relationships will be impacted as a result.Links: Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasTo learn more about my private mentorship programs for both men and women, click the link below. https://www.byermeas.com/1-on-1-coachingAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, I discuss why I do not identify as a polarity teacher, the ways that these teachings can be harmful rather than constructive in a relationship, and how I apply these teachings in my own personal life. Links: Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasTo learn more about my private mentorship programs for both men and women, click the link below. https://www.byermeas.com/1-on-1-coachingAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, I talk about what dark masculine and feminine energy are, what they are not, and how we can begin to integrate, purify and embody these energies in an authentic and empowered way.Links: Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasTo learn more about my private mentorship programs for both men and women, click the link below. https://www.byermeas.com/1-on-1-coachingAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, I cover my 6 tips to help you set stronger boundaries. So whether you are new to developing this skill, or have had years of practice, the tips I share will be able to support you in refining and strengthening this ability no matter where you're at in your journey. Links: Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasTo learn more about my private mentorship programs for both men and women, click the link below. https://www.byermeas.com/1-on-1-coachingAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Healing our deepest wounds and improving ourselves is such a gift not only to ourselves but also to our relationships, but often this endless ambition to be better or more "healed" feels more comforting and safe than being and accepting who we are right now in this moment at this point in our journeys. This is how healing gradually becomes a cover-up for perfectionism...Links: Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasTo learn more about my private coaching programs for both men and women, click the link below. https://www.byermeas.com/1-on-1-coachingAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

When advice like "if he wanted, he would" goes viral and is validated and approved by thousands of people we end up taking it at face value, ignore the nuances and fail to skillfully filter it through the context of our life and unique relationships. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, I wanted to share more about my personal and spiritual journey. What are the events that lead me to the work that I'm doing today, what are the experiences in my childhood that shaped the beliefs I have, and a glimpse into my spiritual awakening and initiations that took place in my early 20s. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What does the rise of the sacred feminine mean to us as a collective, as individuals, and to our future? How can we consciously participate in this awakening? Links: Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasTo learn more about my private coaching programs for both men and women, click the link below. https://www.byermeas.com/1-on-1-coachingAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I hear this all of the time, “where are all the good men?” “All the available people are taken and married.” But what does this belief secretly give us permission to do, what is the unconscious benefit/payoff we get from believing this? Links: Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasTo book your FREE introduction with me, click the link below. https://www.byermeas.com/1-on-1-coachingAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Being authentic is about being your true self, accepting yourself, and not shrinking who you are or your values to avoid rejection or being misunderstood. But how can we be authentic without trying to control other people's views of us? How can we be our full, vibrant selves while also being mindful of those around us?Links: Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasTo book your FREE introduction with me, click the link below. https://www.byermeas.com/1-on-1-coachingAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

There comes a time in your journey when the most empowering, healing, and healthiest thing you can do for yourself is to choose to no longer engage or maintain a relationship with your toxic family. This episode is a guide to help you know when and how to establish no contact.If you enjoyed this episode, please feel free to leave a review. It helps get this message to other listeners that may also enjoy and benefit from it. Links: Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasTo book your FREE introduction with me, click the link below. https://www.byermeas.com/1-on-1-coachingAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

When it comes to dating women there's a common belief amongst men that in order to get the girl, you have to embody and become the asshole or the jerk. So the saying goes, “nice guys finish last.” But this is so far from the truth so today I want to demystify this myth and talk a little about what women actually want from a man.If you enjoyed this episode, please feel free to leave a review. It helps get this message to other listeners that may also enjoy and benefit from it. Links: Instagram | Twitter | TikTok - @byermeasTo book your FREE introduction with me, click the link below. https://www.byermeas.com/1-on-1-coachingAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

There was a time when the primary purpose of our relationships was to ensure our survival and the continuation of our lineages. Now today that has become only one aspect of why we seek partnership and love. We now are driven by the desire for emotional depth, intimacy, spiritual evolution, and healing. But the fulfillment of these desires cannot truly unfold when we are relating to each other within the context of assigned gender roles. If you enjoyed this episode, please feel free to leave a review. It helps get this message to other listeners that may also enjoy and benefit from it. @Byermeas to follow me on Instagram | Twitter | TikTok Subscribe on Apple | Spotify | Google PodcastsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

There's no doubt that the consumption of porn is more accessible and more acceptable in our society and sometimes even in our relationships. Porn sites get more traffic than Twitter, Instagram, Netflix, Pinterest, and LinkedIn combined. Even though for the most part it is free, there is definitely a price we pay. And when it comes to creating healthy, intimate connections with others, the price may be too high.If you enjoyed this episode, please feel free to leave a review. It helps get this message to other listeners that may also enjoy and benefit from it. @Byermeas to follow me on Instagram | Twitter | TikTok Subscribe on Apple | Spotify | Google Podcasts

There is this sweet and nice girl persona that women tend to embody as a way to create safety for themselves but also as a way to secure a man. But the men that they secure that desire them to be sweet and nice in order to love and commit to them, are not actually real men. In this episode, I explore why men like this are immature and what fears they're protecting themselves from by being with a woman that's sweet and nice all the time. If you enjoyed this episode, please feel free to leave a review. It helps get this message to other listeners that may also enjoy and benefit from it. @Byermeas to follow me on Instagram | Twitter | TikTok Subscribe on Apple | Spotify | Google Podcasts