Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Do you feel like time is running out to find love? Whether you're worried about starting a family, comparing yourself to friends who are coupled up, or just feeling urgent pressure to “catch up” in your dating life, this episode is for you. Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey explore how to handle dating confidently when the stakes feel high, and how to avoid letting fear and anxiety sabotage your decisions. If you've ever felt behind—unsure whether to stay hopeful or make a bold change—this episode will give you the tools to find love and ease the pressure others try to put on you. In this episode we cover: Why the fear of “running out of time” is so common in dating today. How to create urgency without falling into panic mode. The illusion of progress: How “distraction relationships” can quietly steal years of your life. Real stats on women having children after 35. How to stop comparing your timeline to everyone else's. Reframing societal pressure and internal anxiety. Dating intentionally vs. dating reactively. How to bring up having kids in early dating conversations. The importance of a backup plan—and how it can actually help your love life. Links:  – Try Matthew AI for free: AskMH.com – Join the Love Life Club with exclusive courses and live events: JoinLoveLife.com – Get your ticket to the Matthew Hussey Retreat: MHretreat.com – Watch the free masterclass: Casual to Committed: GetCommitment.com – Send us your stories or questions: podcast@matthewhussey.com

I have something really cool to share today, This is a conversation I had with Jay Shetty for his On Purpose podcast, where we talked about the modern dating dilemma of endless options and the fear of settling. We discussed the danger of always looking for “someone better” as a dating strategy, why we miss out on meaningful connections, and how to find a real relationship rather than optimizing for the perfect partner. If you've ever felt like you're always torn between chasing someone exciting or someone who brings you peace, this episode will help you create a love life that actually works for you. --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com  

What could possibly be more painful than rejection? Turns out, there's one feeling that IS. In this week's Rewind episode, I reveal what it is and share the one mindset that will get you over your fear of rejection once and for all so you can finally put yourself "out there" without worrying about getting hurt again... --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn More About the Matthew Hussey Retreat at . . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com ►► Get The Momentum Texts → http://www.MomentumTexts.com ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . .  → http://www.AskMH.com

Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners? Are you dating someone who pulls away just when things get close? When this happens, it's easy to feel lost and wonder if the person you're dating is avoidant or simply not that interested. In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey dive deep into the topic of avoidant attachment, exploring how it develops, signs to look for, and what you can do if you're dating someone with avoidant behavior. Topics Covered: The 5 key traits of avoidant partners. Why avoidants and anxious people are magnetically drawn to each other. Whether we overuse the “avoidant” label as a defense mechanism. How early experiences shape attachment patterns. What to do if you're anxiously attached and dating someone avoidant. How to tell the difference between an avoidant and someone who just doesn't want a relationship. How to anticipate the needs of a more independent partner. The importance of not mistaking emotional unavailability for “value.” Links: DatingWithResults.com – Free training for finding love without the chaos of modern dating. JoinLoveLife.com – Become a member and access exclusive live coaching sessions and courses. AskMH.com – Try Matthew AI and get real-time coaching from an AI trained on Matthew's advice. MHRetreat.com – Book your place for the October Miami Retreat (virtual + in-person options available). Cozy Earth – Get 40% off loungewear and bedsheets with code LOVELIFE at CozyEarth.com

What makes someone truly irresistible in the early stages of dating? In this episode, I share four powerful ways to boost your attractiveness in the first weeks of getting to know someone . . . so you can create intrigue and keep things moving forward. If you're over surface-level chats, have a hard time balancing your heart and your head, or just feel stuck, this one's for you. I also tell a personal story that shows how small changes can make a huge impact on your dating life. Don't miss it!   ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

This week's video will help you cut through all of the anxiety, uncertainty, and stress. I go deep on three very specific questions you can ask yourself to determine whether staying or leaving is the right decision for you. I also break down a new model that will help you identify what to watch out for and the dangerous cocktail of certain traits we must avoid in someone . . . these are the traits that can make a relationship so toxic that over time, it will erode our confidence and identity to the point that leaving the relationship is the only option. Understanding this model may just save your self-respect, sanity, and happiness. And once you know how it works, red flags will be much easier to spot. This is a video you'll also want to return to anytime you're stuck in that fog of fear and confusion and want to feel a sense of clarity . . . so you can stop second-guessing your choices and move on with confidence. --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn More About the Matthew Hussey Retreat at . . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com ►► Get The Momentum Texts → http://www.MomentumTexts.com ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . .  → http://www.AskMH.com

In this episode, Matthew sits down with artist, activist, and author Mary Fisher (@maryfisher), whose landmark 1992 speech at the Republican National Convention changed the face of AIDS awareness and made her a global icon of truth-telling and compassion. Now in a new chapter of her life, Mary reflects on what it means to grieve not just people, but old lives, family, identity, and the loss of a place in the world. Together, she and Matthew explore how we rebuild, find chosen family, use creativity to heal, and speak up after a lifetime of being told to stay quiet. This conversation is for anyone feeling disconnected, disempowered, or unsure of how to move forward when life has drastically changed. Mary's words are a reminder that it's never too late to reinvent your life, speak your truth, and create beauty from pain.   Topics Covered: The distinction between grief and depression—and how naming grief gave Mary her life back What it feels like to lose family who are still alive, and how to navigate that emotional terrain How to build a chosen family when your biological one isn't safe or supportive The courage behind Mary's 1992 speech and how mortality shifted her priorities Why radical honesty can be the foundation for deep connection Finding the right level of vulnerability early in relationships How to let go of the fantasy of who someone was “supposed to be” Creating through pain—how art and creativity became her medicine Learning to speak up after a lifetime of silence, guilt, and being told to “be a good girl” How to rewire your inner voice and create safety to be heard Understanding the difference between connection and one-sided emotional dependence in relationships   Resources & Links: Mary Fisher's new book: Uneasy Silence Mary's website: MaryFisher.com Instagram: @maryfisherart Project Angel Food (charity supported by Mary's book): angelfood.org   Matthew AI (24/7 coaching): AskMH.com Join our retreat in October: MHRetreat.com

Are you stuck comparing everyone you meet to an ex who felt like “the one”? In this new video, you'll learn why we hold on to past relationships, and discover a surprising truth about closure that might just change how you see your breakup. If you've ever felt like no one measures up to the chemistry or excitement you had before, this is a must-watch. A powerful mindset shift I share will help you (finally!) let go of the fantasy and open yourself up to the love you truly deserve. --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

When you're texting with someone you like, do you struggle to know what to say next? Or maybe it feels like you're in a texting rut, and keep having the same conversations . . . Today's episode is a mini toolkit for these exact situations, with 5 high-value texting suggestions that restart attraction, lead to a date, or just bring you more emotional connection. Use these practical messages to inspire better communication in any dating situation! --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn More About the Matthew Hussey Retreat at . . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com ►► Get The Momentum Texts → http://www.MomentumTexts.com ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . .  → http://www.AskMH.com

What really makes someone commitment-worthy in dating? And what qualities do we need to make sure are there if we want someone to choose us?  In this episode, Matthew, Stephen and Audrey look at 4 crucial must-haves for commitment. If you've ever been unsure if you're choosing the right person (or want to make yourself someone who is seen as a great potential partner), this is for you. Topics include: Why chemistry isn't enough for commitment How to decide what is “enough” in the qualities you need in a potential partner Attractive micro-behaviors that make someone see you as the person they want to commit to A listener question on whether you should keep trying to get commitment from someone working through their own blocks and traumas The importance of a “shared vision” in commitment   Links mentioned:

Why does commitment seem so hard right now? In this week's video, Matthew sits down with entrepreneur and speaker Anas Bukhash to talk about everything from the addictive pull of dating apps to the unrealistic expectations created by the seemingly endless “buffet” of people from which we can choose a partner. The conversation also unpacks a better approach to finding love that stops you getting caught in the same trap as everyone else. (This may just change how you approach dating!) --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com --- ▼ Connect with Anas ▼ Website → https://www.abtalks.ae Instagram →  / abtalks   YouTube → ‪@AnasBukhash‬ TikTok →  / abtalks  

Why do we stay in relationships that erode our confidence, self-worth, and happiness? In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of trauma bonds and how empathy—one of our greatest strengths—can become our biggest weakness in toxic relationships. We'll explore why we get stuck in these cycles, the danger of hoping someone will change, and how to reclaim your power by prioritizing your own well-being. If you've ever felt trapped in a relationship that's draining your energy and warping your reality, this conversation is for you. Tune in for practical insights, empowering advice, and a reminder that your compassion should always extend to yourself first.

In this powerful and deeply human conversation, Matthew sits down with Laurie Woolever—author of Care and Feeding: A Memoir—to explore the journey of reclaiming one's voice after years of living in the shadow of larger-than-life figures like Anthony Bourdain and Mario Batali. Topics covered: Why Laurie finally chose to write her memoir after decades in food media. What it's like to stop headlining other people's lives and start showing up in your own. Her path through addiction, shame, and sobriety—and how it shaped her. The emotional toll and moral complexity of writing honestly about people she's loved. The collapse of a marriage and the ripple effects of one deeply vulnerable moment. Infidelity, accountability, and what radical self-acceptance really looks like. Why “nice but boring” often hides deeper emotional safety—and how to spot a mature relationship. Dating in your 40s and beyond. What “playing the tape forward” teaches us about addiction, impulse, and the allure of red flags. Advice for people stuck in toxic attraction loops or mourning heartbreak they fear they'll never get over. Whether you're grappling with heartbreak, questioning your worth, or trying to navigate the messy terrain of self-reinvention, this episode will feel like a conversation with someone who's lived it and survived to tell the truth.  

The rules of modern dating can feel so confusing. You don't know how much texting is too much, how to make the first move, or whether to keep trying if their interest is hot and cold. In this week's video, I sat down with bestselling author Jay Shetty for his On Purpose podcast to talk about how to have confident, attractive communication and reject the shallow culture that defines so much of modern dating. If you're tired of playing games and want to find real, honest love, this is for you. --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

Can you relate to this . . . You've been dating someone for months and see them once or twice a week. You've gotten into a pretty good rhythm, but at the same time, things aren't really moving forward either. You're wondering: “Do they like me? I feel like they do, and yet, I don't know whether this is going anywhere . . .” In this week's brand-new video, I give you 3 specific things to look for when you want to know if someone's serious (or headed in that direction). --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn More About the Matthew Hussey Retreat at . . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . .  → http://www.AskMH.com

What REALLY kills relationships? We often think it's huge differences in personality or values that cause break ups, but just as often it's the small, subtle, repeated behaviours that lead to relationships ending. From the "Four Horsemen" of relationship conflict to the resentments that go unspoken until it's too late, Matthew, Stephen and Audrey explore how these silent killers show up—and how to catch and heal them before they do lasting damage. Topics include A deep dive into criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling (and how they sabotage love) Why “repair” matters more than perfection in long-term relationships The unconscious reasons some people can't say sorry and how to deal with it How resentment builds when we don't feel seen, appreciated, or included The importance of creating a relationship culture where nothing is off-limits to talk about A listener question about red flags before marriage The difference between expecting love to be perfect vs. building a love that lasts Links mentioned:

What does emotionally available love really look like? In this new video, I break down six key signs of emotional availability so you can spot the difference between fleeting attention and real intention. If you're tired of wasting time on people who aren't serious, I also share how to recognize emotional availability early on . . . without coming across as too intense. Plus I reveal the subtle behaviors that separate healthy connection from love bombing, so you can protect your heart and invest in the right person. --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

In today's Rewind episode, I talk about what might be the most insidious form of ghosting. If someone ghosts you after a couple of tepid dates (which doesn't feel good, don't get me wrong) you can usually assume they just weren't feeling the chemistry . . . But what does it mean when someone pulls away after saying they want to be exclusive, or after texting constantly and telling you they want to see you all the time? In this episode, I give you three reasons why someone might do this, what you should do when it happens, and the strange reason why they may choose to ghost but leave the door open. You can't miss this topic! --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn More About the Matthew Hussey Retreat at . . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . .  → http://www.AskMH.com

Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen dive into what truly makes a long-term relationship successful—beyond the clichés. Whether you're in a new relationship, struggling with resentment, or simply curious about what happy couples do differently, this episode is packed with insight from experts on what really makes love last. In this episode: Results from a 20,000-person Instagram poll on what people think makes a relationship last. The Gottman Institute on bids for connection, and the 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions. The toxic buildup of micro-resentments—and how to address them early. How to repair arguments when one person wants space and the other wants closeness. Relationship “hacks” you've never heard of (including love mapping and emotional buttons). Why “perfect” couples still argue—and how to argue better. The Michelangelo Effect: how great couples help each other grow. Links:

If you've ever found yourself stuck in a pattern of falling for the wrong people, you're not alone—but that doesn't mean you're doomed to repeat the same mistakes. In this video, I'll show you how to rewire the way you experience attraction. In it, I share five specific shifts that will help you break free from the patterns sabotaging your love life. From microdosing on emotionally unavailable exes to losing yourself in someone who isn't ready, we're getting honest about the real cost of staying in cycles that erode our confidence and waste our time.  --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

Does absence really make the heart grow fonder . . . especially when the person you're into seems to forget you exist when you're not in the same room? When you're together, life couldn't be better. You have off-the-charts chemistry, they're totally focused on you, and your connection feels genuine. The catch? When you're apart, you feel invisible as communication slows to a crawl and often drops off completely. As a result of these mixed signals, you're essentially living in two completely different realities, and you'd do anything to get some clarity. You might even ask yourself: “Should I try to invest in this relationship even more to show how serious I am? Or would it be better to mirror their behavior and go cold?” In today's Rewind episode, I walk you through what you must absolutely NOT DO in this hot and cold scenario . . . plus I give you two very specific text messages that can (finally!) get you out of this frustrating situation. --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn More About the Matthew Hussey Retreat at . . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . .  → http://www.AskMH.com

In this episode Matthew and Audrey sit down for a review of the last quarter of the year and dive into the hidden forces that shape our relationships with others and ourselves.  They also discuss the perfectionism that keeps us from connection, overthinking texts, and the emotional blocks that hold us back in our relationships. Plus, they answer a listener's question on whether showing interest in someone inevitably drives them away, and how to strike the balance between authenticity and attraction. Topics include: Why the fear of being "too much" makes us play small in dating and friendships The truth about why people pull away when we show interest—and how to handle it How perfectionism sabotages your communication and creates disconnection A simple but powerful quarterly reflection exercise to reset your year Why overthinking texts can ironically make you seem distant or cold The invisible difference between "connecting" and "protecting" modes in life How to be more warm, proactive, and magnetic in your communication What it really means to “create the culture” in your relationships ---

Why do amazing people—kind, self-aware, emotionally intelligent—keep falling for partners who can't meet them halfway? In this week's video, we uncover the five reasons behind this painful cycle and how to finally break free. From the scarcity mindset to the addictive highs and lows of unstable relationships, we'll explore why we settle for less and how to rewrite the story we tell ourselves about love. If you've ever felt stuck between the chaos of unhealthy relationships and the “dullness” of safe ones, this video is for you. Learn how to break the patterns that keep you tethered to the wrong people, and start creating the love life you truly deserve. --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

Have you ever found yourself stuck thinking about an ex who's no longer in your life? It's a painful trap, but one that so many of us fall into when we tie our worth to someone else's story instead of our own. In this episode, we uncover the mindset shift that frees you from this cycle and helps you reclaim your confidence. By focusing on the one thing you truly own—yourself—you can start building a life that feels fulfilling, no matter what's happening around you. If you're ready to let go of what's holding you back and invest in your own happiness, this episode is your guide. Don't miss it! --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn More About the Matthew Hussey Retreat at . . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . .  → http://www.AskMH.com

Why do great dates sometimes lead to radio silence? In this new Love Life episode, Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen dive into the mystery of why someone might pull away after what seemed like a perfect first (or second, or third) date.    From the elusive “spark” to deeper compatibility issues, you'll learn surprising reasons why people choose not to pursue another date—and how to avoid taking it personally.    ---

Have you ever sent a text and immediately wished you could take it back—or worse, been met with silence? In this week's new video, I'm sharing 7 texts that not only greatly increase your chances of a reply, but also build real attraction. These aren't your run-of-the-mill messages, either. They're crafted to create tension and spark desire. Whether you're tired of ghosting, lukewarm responses, or conversations that fizzle out, these texts will help you go from being someone they kind of like to someone they can't stop thinking about. --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

How do you know if someone's really over their ex? Sometimes you meet a person who ticks all your boxes, but they also haven't 100% gotten over the heartbreak of their last relationship. Of course, the first questions you ask yourself are: “Is this a huge red flag? Does it mean they are emotionally unavailable? Should I walk away?” This is a really important topic in today's video, and my answer to this probably isn't what you'd expect. Give it a watch to find out the signs you can look out for to discern whether someone is truly a bad bet or if they have real potential. --- ►► FREE Video Training: “Dating With Results” → http://www.DatingWithResults.com ►► Get 24/7 coaching from Matthew AI: AskMH.com   

Are you stuck in a cycle of tolerating disrespect or avoiding tough conversations?  In this episode of Love Life, Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen dive into why so many of us stay in challenging relationships—whether romantic, familial, or platonic—for far too long, and how to reclaim your power by setting boundaries and addressing the issues. You'll learn how to stop obsessing over someone else's actions and start focusing on why you're allowing it, plus practical tools for having those difficult conversations you've been avoiding. 

How do you flirt without looking desperate? When you meet someone you're into, it can feel like walking a tightrope—you want to show interest, but not come off as too eager. In this week's episode, I share five subtle-yet-powerful flirting techniques that create attraction . . . without the fear of looking desperate or risking rejection. (Plus, I reveal a playful way my wife flirted with me early on that left a lasting impression—and it's something you can easily try yourself.) --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

We all know we won't connect with everyone we meet . . . but one of the most frustrating situations we can find ourselves in is one where we feel an initial spark and a connection, but things just don't seem to progress. And in the end, they end up fading as we feel a lack of momentum. Rather than giving in to our desire to double down on communication, there's a simple shift we can make on a date that allows unique attraction to grow. And it's the kind of thing that will leave them thinking of us long after the date has ended . . . If you'd like to learn what this ingredient is and how you can add it to your next date, don't miss this week's brand-new video. --- ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► FREE Video Training: “Dating With Results” → http://www.DatingWithResults.com

Are you walking away too fast—or staying when you shouldn't? In this episode, Matthew Hussey shares an honest look at how we misread red flags in dating in an interview with Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu). You'll learn how to spot real red flags vs. amber lights, when to pause instead of panic, and how the right relationship can help you heal.

If you've ever found yourself saying, “I'm so done with dating,” this video is for you. Dating burnout is real, and it's easy to see the process of finding love as a chore.  But what if there was a way to make dating fun again? That's right. Going out, dating, finding a meaningful connection—this can be a rewarding part of your life, regardless of whether you're looking for a committed relationship. So if you need a refresh for your brain right now, here are 7 powerful mindsets that will make dating feel easier.  --- ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

Breakups are incredibly hard. And a split can be even more excruciating when your partner moves on while you're still healing. It can leave you with all kinds of painful questions like: “Why wasn't I good enough?” “What does that person have that I don't have?” “Have I lost the love of my life to someone else?” It's one of the worst types of pain there is. And if we don't learn the right lessons from our breakup, it can create baggage in the form of insecurities and an unwillingness to open up to someone new. (Risking your chance to find real, lasting love.) But closure can come faster than you expect with a simple shift in the way you choose to think about your ex, and yourself. I'm sharing this powerful shift with you today. If there's anything I want you to take from this video, it's that while what you're going through is hard, it's also an opportunity. A chance to let go of someone who couldn't see your value, so that you can make space for a man who can. If someone doesn't choose you, they cannot be right for you. Period. There's someone better on the other side of all this. I promise. Today's video was inspired by a brave male audience member who was devastated when his girlfriend of 5 years moved on only four months after their breakup. Not only will you learn something from the response I give him, but you'll also get insight into how men process pain. Spoiler alert… we ain't that different. --- ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► FREE Video Training: “Dating With Results” → http://www.DatingWithResults.com

In this episode of the Love Life Podcast, Matthew, Audrey, Stephen, and producer David dive deep into one of the most common struggles in dating: flirting. So many people feel stuck when it comes to creating chemistry, worrying they'll come off as desperate, awkward, or get rejected. This episode breaks down how to define “flirting” rather than just talking, and gives some simple-but-powerful ways to do it in early attraction.

If finding love feels harder than ever in 2025, it's not just you. In today's episode, I explore the cultural shifts and challenges that are fueling the “relationship recession.” Drawing inspiration from the Netflix series Adolescence, we'll dive into the disillusionment many men are facing, the frustrations women are experiencing, and the hidden dynamics making connection feel so elusive. From surprising stats to the subtle mindsets that sabotage us before love even begins, this video connects the dots. If you've ever wondered why someone amazing vanished after two dates—or why you might be pulling away yourself—this will explain what's really going on and how to rise above it to create meaningful relationships. Let me know what you think! --- ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

at really makes someone commitment-worthy in dating? And what qualities do we need to make sure are there if we want someone to choose us?   In this episode, Matthew, Stephen and Audrey look at 4 crucial must-haves for commitment. If you've ever been unsure if you're choosing the right person (or want to make yourself someone who is seen as a great potential partner), this is for you. Topics include: Why chemistry isn't enough for commitment How to decide what is “enough” in the qualities you need in a potential partner Attractive micro-behaviors that make someone see you as the person they want to commit to A listener question on whether you should keep trying to get commitment from someone working through their own blocks and traumas The importance of a “shared vision” in commitment Links mentioned:

Have you ever deeply fallen for someone only to feel them gradually fading away? It feels awful. You panic. You overthink every text message. You worry that losing this person could mean losing your chance at a real connection, or your dream of a relationship with someone truly special. I've found there are 3 common mistakes people make when they get into this panic mindset, and in today's new video, I'll show you the best strategy to give yourself the maximum chance of salvaging the relationship (or help you move on to find the RIGHT person for you). --- ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► FREE Video Training: “Dating With Results” → http://www.DatingWithResults.com

In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey dive into the “box theory”—the idea that people get placed into one of three boxes when dating: "Want to date," "Just for fun," or "Not interested." But is it really that simple? And can you change boxes over time? We break down the psychology behind first impressions in dating, whether it's possible to shift from casual to committed, and what really makes someone decide we're ‘relationship material'. Topics Covered: What is the “3 Box Theory” of dating Can someone change the box they're in—or are they stuck? Signs you're being kept in the “casual” box and how to respond Why first impressions aren't always final in attraction Emotional connection vs. chemistry: how to tell the difference Dating consistency, standards, and sexual boundaries How to communicate your relationship intentions without fear ►► Subscribe to my Brand New Love Life Podcast channel → @LoveLifePodcast   ►► Ask Matthew AI for personalized advice: AskMH.com   ►► Free training to go from casual to committed: GetCommitment.com   ►► Join the Love Life Club: JoinLoveLife.com   ►► Email us your thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com  

Why do so many people struggle with the idea of commitment—even when they want love? What fears do you have to confront? And what does it really take to feel ready? In this conversation, I interview newly-married bestselling author and entrepreneur Lewis Howes about managing the “storms” of life, avoiding the self-doubt trap, and what it means to give your heart fully to a relationship. But we don't stop there. We also get into money—why it's so emotionally charged, and how unhealed financial wounds can quietly sabotage your dating life. There's a lot of raw honesty in this conversation, and I hope it meets you where you are. --- ▼ Connect With Lewis Howes ▼ Get Lewis's NEW Book → http://lewishowes.com/moneyiga Website → http://lewishowes.com/ Instagram → @lewishowes TikTok → @lewishowes  X → @lewishowes --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

We've all been told that we should never come on too strong, and that playing it cool is the best way to get someone interested. But how much interest is the right amount to show in the early days of dating? If we show too much interest, we worry we'll lose all our “power,” but if we show too little, they may not even realize we're interested.  In today's Rewind episode, I share 5 tips on how to approach this in the early stages of dating so you can not only show the right amount of interest, but also encourage the same in the other person. --- ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► FREE Video Training: “Dating With Results” → http://www.DatingWithResults.com

In this episode, we dive deep into the biggest challenges people face in dating — from rejection and insecurity to feeling like the odds are stacked against you.  Whether you feel stuck due to age, lack of experience, body image, or financial worries, this episode is packed with reframes, real-life listener questions, and practical mindset shifts to help you get out of your own way and start moving forward with confidence. PLUS: A special interview with Lewis Howes on handling overwhelm, emotional regulation, and why taking imperfect action is the key to growth in both life and love. ✨ Main topics covered: How to reframe limiting stories that are holding you back in dating Dating with insecurities around age, experience, weight, or finances Listener questions answered with real advice for building confidence How to stop pre-rejecting yourself and “take yes for an answer” Lewis Howes on emotional regulation, handling pressure, and showing up without perfection Fun “Instant Reframe” segment to turn common dating obstacles into positives

You may have an idea of your perfect partner—the person who feels like the missing piece you've been searching for. When you finally meet someone who appears to tick all your boxes, you tell yourself, “This is it—the search is over!”  But is that really what makes someone right for you? What if that person rejects you? In this episode, I show the TRUTH about compatibility in a relationship and what really makes someone “The One,” so that you never obsess over the wrong person again.  --- ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com    

We've been told from a very young age to “play it cool” . . . But as we grow up, we realize that when we feel we need to “play it cool” to keep someone interested, that often means we're feeling anything but cool . . . and it usually comes from a place of insecurity or a fear of being rejected. Pretty soon, we find ourselves calibrating our conversations and contorting ourselves to meet the other person's needs so we don't come off as needy or a nuisance, and little by little, we start to show them that our needs can be ignored with no repercussions . . . In today's Rewind episode, you'll learn the best way to increase attraction and investment in a way that doesn't diminish your value or make you feel like a nuisance simply for stating your needs. --- ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► FREE Video Training: “Dating With Results” → http://www.DatingWithResults.com

In this episode, Matthew, Stephen and Audrey have a candid conversation about whether dating your "type" is actually helping or hurting your chances of finding love.  Topics include: Are you stuck dating your "type"? How being overly attached to your type can blind you to better matches The difference between chemistry, compatibility, and long-term happiness Why your “type” might be based on old patterns or insecurities The modern fear of commitment: How people get stuck in relationship “TV shows” (endless flings) instead of committing to the “movie” (deep relationships) Practical signs you or someone else is afraid of committing The dating app “Hobby Dilemma”: How people feel pressured to showcase impressive hobbies Why not everyone fits the “hobby highlight reel” and why that's okay --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com

Ever had that sinking feeling that something in your relationship isn't quite right—but you push it aside because everything seems too good to be true? We've all been there. And no film captures this better than Anora, this year's Best Picture winner at the Academy Awards. If you've ever rushed into commitment, been swept away by grand gestures, or felt like you're in a one-sided relationship, then you need to watch today's episode. I break down the 5 biggest red flags that signal your relationship could be headed for disaster—and how to spot them before it's too late. --- ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com  

Have you ever dated someone who's so hard to stay away from EVEN THOUGH they're not interested in a relationship and you know you should keep your distance? It's like a drug . . . or the worst kind of junk food . . . even after you swear it off for good, your resolve crumbles the moment they reach out. When you're in this vulnerable position, the hope that they may change and that things could be different is what drags you back in. And before you know it, you go right back to feeling powerless—holding on to someone who's not giving you what you need. So how can you break this cycle once and for all? Don't miss today's brand-new video! --- ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► FREE Video Training: “Dating With Results” → http://www.DatingWithResults.com

Welcome to the new re-branded Love Life Podcast, where Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen bring you fresh relationship insights, answer your questions, and throw in a silly game or two every week! In this inaugural episode, we're flipping the script on dating talk—everyone loves to discuss red flags, but today, we're diving into green flags: the subtle but crucial signs that someone is truly relationship material. Topics Covered in This Episode: Why society is obsessed with red flags and how to shift focus to green flags The #1 trait that predicts long-term relationship success The power of celebrating each other's successes in a relationship Why curiosity and learning about your partner is a game-changer How to recognize real green flags vs. performative charm What to do if you're only attracted to red flag energy Plus: We introduce Green Flag Dilemmas, a fun game that may or may not return

We tell ourselves we have high standards—but is that actually true? Or are we just prioritizing the wrong things? And what if we meet someone who's perfect on paper, but there's no spark? Can chemistry slowly grow, or is it something we either feel instantly . . . or never will? For today's new episode, I sat down with Kristin Cavallari on her “Let's Be Honest” podcast to talk about chemistry vs. compatibility, one of the biggest mistakes people make in dating, and what actually matters when you're looking for a lasting relationship. --- ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com

In today's Rewind episode, I share very specific principles that will be useful the next time you feel like you're getting carried away with someone you like. And remember, no one (including yourself!) should make you feel like you're “not enough.” No matter who you're dating, by investing in yourself, you can come into any situation feeling like an equal. --- ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► FREE Video Training: “Dating With Results” → http://www.DatingWithResults.com

In this episode, Matthew sits down once again with Yung Pueblo, the #1 New York Times bestselling author of "How To Love Better", to explore deeper insights into love, relationships, and emotional growth.  Topics Covered: How to cultivate emotional peace and avoid sabotaging relationships The challenge of maintaining non-attachment while desiring love Navigating dating anxiety and fear of loss How to balance personal happiness and the search for a relationship The role of mindfulness in long-term partnerships How friendships, mentors, and community can support personal growth Understanding intuition when choosing a partner The difference between attraction and true compatibility How to navigate conflict with compassion and understanding ▼ Connect with Yung Pueblo ▼ Website → https://yungpueblo.com/ Instagram → @yung_pueblo X → https://x.com/yungpueblo ►► Transform Your Life in 2 Powerful Days. Learn More About The Matthew Hussey Weekend Retreat at. . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com

This week's new video is an extra special one: the first half of my interview with poet, meditator, speaker, and bestselling author Yung Pueblo. We talk about specific signs that a relationship will last, the myth of “if it's right, it will be easy,” how to stop toxic communication patterns, navigating the early stages of dating, and so much more.   No matter which stage of a relationship you're in, this interview is a must-watch. I can't wait to hear what you think! --- ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at →  http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com