NOT MEDDLING JUST MOTHERING- parenting adult children

We want to wish you all a Merry Christmas by giving you a glimpse of a few of our favorite "Christmas" things. As promised in the episode, We are sharing the recipes for our favorite Christmas appetizer and Christmas cookie below. Amid the joy of the season, it is with mixed emotions, that we also bid farewell to our listening audience with our final episode. We want to express our gratitude to all who have listened over the past few years, you will be in our prayers. If you feel led, feel free to reach out to us at notmeddlingjustmothering@gmail.com Cheese ball recipe 2 8oz pkg cream cheese 1/2 pkg ranch dressing mix(more or less to taste) half a can of chopped olives 8 oz pecan chips Bring cream cheese to room temp, mix in ranch dressing mix and chopped olives blend well, and shape into a ball (or whatever shape you like) coat with pecans then enjoy with your favorite crackers. Recipe for Mexican Wedding cookies (or as Asha calls them "snowballs")link: https://www.food.com/recipe/traditional-mexican-wedding-cookies-162213 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Have you ever wondered why there's so much evil and where God is in the midst of it? Well, you are in good company. Habakkuk had the same questions. Join us as we discuss faith and doubt. Please feel free to reach out by email @ notmeddlingjustmothering@gmail.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Take a listen to our thoughts on moms for hire, holiday event planning, and encouraging our adult children. If you have any questions or suggestions please feel free to reach out to us via email: notmeddlingjustmothering@gmail.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Today we are sharing a talk given at LPU for their new student (and parent) orientation weekend by Pastor Jen Lord. Jen Lord is the lead pastor of Restoration Church in Valencia, CA. She has been married to her high school sweetheart, Craig, for 27 years and they have two beautiful daughters, Meagan, 22 and Kelsey 20. Jen's passion is to see people restored to God's love and truth and to give them tools to live that out in their identity on mission. Because of her roles as both a mom and a pastor, Jen chose her capstone research project, while earning her Masters In Strategic Leadership, to focus on understanding Gen Z as emerging adults and discovering effective ways parents can continue to parent and disciple them effectively. Jen is committed to following the Spirit's leading and discipling this next generation of God's people! Jen shares tools to help parents walk out this season, even if your child is not attending college this episode is worth the listen. Here is the link for the Aly Raisman video that Jen mentioned in the talk:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=baJuHllm_Uo --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

We as parents have so many hopes and dreams for our children. Listen to this episode from a previous season to hear our experiences, struggles, and thoughts on hopes and dreams for our adult children. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Asha and Missey had the chance to sit down with author Jessica “Jess” Hernandez regarding her book from the Train Up A Child series. Will You Take Me? (Train Up a Child) https://a.co/d/08d9wnM. She's also a mom of adult children and we really enjoyed the time and you will also! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

We start off a little wacky because it does make us giggle but honestly this is an important topic and we hope it will help someone listening Here is the link to the sermon Asha talked about: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1Qxqo9P3f6xjrioBHNWezv?si=UtW7ii5oQ9ydAX-ym4lo0w. This is the article that prompted the whole discussion. https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/calm-parenting-what-to-do-when-you-dislike-your-child/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Join Asha and Missey for a quick conversation honoring our fathers and our husbands. It's easy to buy a card or a necktie but taking time to listen to their advice and apply it to our lives is actually where the true blessing is! To get more info and help the Jojo Family click on this link: https://secure.givelively.org/donate/one-hope-of-northern-colorado/urgent-call-to-action-stand-with-the-masumbuko-family-in-crisis --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

This week we are going back to 2021 to get our podcast episode. This is one from the first year that we started our podcast. We discuss our dreams for our adult children and what happens when they don't come true or they are not the dreams that our Children want for themselves. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

In this short episode, we share how to recognize and pray through spiritual battles. This is just scratching the surface, there is so much more that you can dig into, we hope it helps and motivates you in the battle. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Our Bible has the exact prescription for how to mentor younger people and how to act ourselves. This episode is about self control and being aware there's a whole generation watching us --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Whew! We made it to the end of this great book, Finding Joy in the Empty Nest and the last 3 Chapters are awesome! Put on your combat boots and jump in because it takes strength to be a single parent of an empty nest and it takes guts and determination to grandparent! Be sure to listen til the end to hear the win Asha talked about "Stain" by HAN. Like what you hear? Want to connect? Email us at notmeddlingjustmothering@gmail.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Chapters 6&7 are all about putting on your own oxygen mask. If you think your life worth diminishes when your last child walks out the door then you need to listen to this episode. There's so much more about you and the talents God gave you that it's actually your turn to shine! Consider Job 12:12 Is not wisdom found among the aged? Does not long life bring understanding? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Join Asha and Missey as they tackle Chapter 4 & 5 of Finding Joy in the Empty Nest. We laughed, we blushed, but somehow we took the plunge! Today is all about the hugs and kisses but it's mostly about communication. Tell us what you thought of the topic at Facebook: Not Meddling Just Mothering or on our website at www.yougotthismamas.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Join as e we discuss the empty nest in regards to change and loss, celebrating this rite of passage as our children launch into independence, and looking for your own adventure! Isaiah 43:19 says “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?” What a promise to hold onto as you and your adult children face this new time called the empty nest. Check out our website at yougotthismamas.com or on Facebook as Not Meddling Just Mothering where you can share your favorite points of this episode --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Missey is an old empty nest veteran of over 6 years and Asha is just facing this as a new reality. Today we interview author, speaker and Godly example of parenting fantastic adult children- Dr Jim Burns. We'll be going through this book for the next several episodes but join in as we discuss why he wrote the book and how it can encourage both single parents and married couples. To enter our giveaway, first, subscribe to our podcast and then go to our Instagram or Facebook Page, follow and like, and comment on our giveaway post, it's that easy! We will select a winner on March 3rd. If you want to get the book right away go to  Homeword.com/store/ enter "yougotthismamas" at checkout and you will receive a 15% discount. This discount is applicable sitewide through Monday, March 6th! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

What a roller coaster it is to parent adult children. Our proud moments take us so high and the shame we as parents feels when our child's bad choices cause pain, take us so low. Don't attempt this alone! Ride this adventure with friends, family, and others who will be there for you. Then- do the most important! Go to God and his Word to get your daily strength. Hebrews 10:24-25 And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another….” Ecclesiasties4:9-10 Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their toil. 10 For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. Hurry and get your book for our upcoming series featuring Finding Joy in the Empty Nest by Jim Burns https://churchsource.com/products/finding-joy-in-the-empty-nest-discover-purpose-and-passion-in-the-next-phase-of-life?currency=USD&variant=39631903916129&gclid=CjwKCAiAuaKfBhBtEiwAht6H7096zYHx9l1C1UKGDg-XQJNisFxkJAWXq_y_5Zhf2fuFue1XEtZ2mhoC2cwQAvD_BwE --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Deuteronomy 19:14 tells us: You shall not move your neighbor's boundary mark, which the ancestors have set, in your inheritance which you will inherit in the land that the Lord your God gives you to possess. God really does have a blessing for us and our adult children and one of those blessings is the privilege of being in each other's lives. But as we round the corner of a new year we've learned so much about mutual respect, setting and leaving boundaries in place, and realizing there's joy in allowing these adults we've raised to grow and be themselves. Join us as we talk about when our kids need us to be their “surrogate” best friend, hear verses about how we should season our words, and enjoy the warmth of grace for our kids and grace for ourselves. You've got this mama! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

We've made it to 2023! It's the first episode of the year and we've got new ideas and new topics. We're super excited that we're nearly at the 2 year anniversary and hope you'll check in for this short talk among friends. Do you have topics or feedback? Email us at notmeddlingjustmothering@gmail.com! Looking forward to connecting with you. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

I think Asha's husband said it best, Proverbs chapter 31 isn't an exact job description for all women. However, when we read it as a letter from a mom's heart, we see that the goal was to outline what a woman looks like who sacrifices for her family, makes her children and husband proud, and is generous of heart. We're so excited that our husbands joined us this time. Enjoy this final episode for 2022- see you on the flip side --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Whether your adult children are young and still carving out their career or they're established in a management role they can still be a leader that others count on. They can still approach the world with integrity and bring peace to a situation. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Just some good ole mom talk about wisdom, humility, and laziness! For the first time ever Asha & Missey share the same adult child WIN! That's what best friends do. Cheer each other's children on! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Proverbs 23 & 24 really gives us insight into how God desires us to show self control. Whether that's in seeking the approval of wealthy people, desire for sex outside of marriage, or addiction to alcohol. In the end the answer still stands- we need God's wisdom and so do our Adult children. It may be that if advice is not taken then we will all face discipline, but these tests are for our own good and our own growth. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

God's wisdom is so relevant for today. As we discuss Proverbs 21 & 22 it brings us to conversations about our children's careers, their dedication to their health, planning for the future- including budgets, and disciplining grandchildren the way their parents want you to discipline. Join Asha and Missey as they speak about ways to encourage your adult children in the Lord. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

In this episode we covered Proverbs 19 & 20, we battled technical issues but got through it and hope it helps and you enjoy it. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

It started out rough, gets better, and finishes strong. I hope you take the time to listen to a discussion my boys and I had on Proverbs 17 and 18. You will hear how the importance of relationships, communication, and making God first in our lives will lead us to good things. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

This chapter is fascinating. So many times we make plans for our future or decisions in the present without waiting for God to speak. Read chapter 16 of Proverbs and listen to the podcast to understand how to encourage your adult children to seek God's will for their lives and know that He will provide a way- even when there seems to be no way. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Proverbs 15 is an in-depth study on talking and listening. A study in how we use our words to encourage or to tear down our adult children. Also there's many verses about how we take advice and listen to others who are wiser than us. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Sometimes as parents we see our adult children surrounding themselves with foolish, lazy people or worse- people who encourage them to make bad decisions and choices. We were so overjoyed to see Proverbs 14:26-27 Whoever fears the Lord has a secure fortress, and for their children it will be a refuge. The fear of the Lord is a fountain of life, turning a person from the snares of death. We also talk about fear, stress, and worry and being humble. We can encourage our adult children to build a trust relationship with God with our own actions and sometimes our words. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

If you've ever watched one of your adult children suffer because simmering something they had really hoped would work out- did not come to pass, then you know what we're talking about in this episode. Proverbs 13:12 is a reminder that God knows what we feel and He understands that there's a true mind body connection in depression and disappointment. Chapter 13 is a wealth of wisdom regarding laziness, choosing who influences us, and really choosing God's way over the world's way. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Does your adult child appreciate correction? Do you? No one likes correction but it's so so necessary if any of us are going to become wiser. Today we talk about how our adult children take care of their pets, about the role of military wives (all 3 of Missey's kids have served or are serving in the military), and critical spirits vs. speaking good, positive, encouraging words! It's a full line up of topics so grab your coffee and your Bible and follow along with these two moms. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

It's amazing how God's Word gives us so many topics to explore- not just for our adult child's life but for us parents as well. Join in as we explore Proverbs chapter 11 regarding many topics such as what we portray on social media, modesty, honesty and integrity, and what a prodigal or family “black sheep” does to their own family. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Sometimes Proverbs is specific to young people and sometimes, parents- it's about us! Either way, God's Word has something for everyone. Listen in as we tackle Chapter 10 of Proverbs and discuss how it affects both the lives of our Adult Children and our own. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

As Missey and Asha review Chapters 8 & 9 from the book of Proverbs,they point out what may seem obvious… There are many voices calling to our Adult Children. Unfortunately, what's not so obvious is sometimes which way they should go. Yes the Bible is pretty clear about some choices but others require prayer. Listen as we discuss not just wisdom and folly but also when to just keep our mouths shut because sometimes our children aren't listening anyway. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Proverbs Chapters 5, 6, & 7:As parents we have lots of opinions about who is ideal for our adult children. But those opinions about how neat they keep house, their personality or even their looks mean nothing compared to that person'a integrity and motivations. But who your child should not chase is an adulterous situation. How do you start that conversation? This episode also includes a quick discussion about judging our kid's friends and love interests on social media. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Not only does Proverbs talk about the advice we give our adult children but this chapter reminds us of the advice we got from our parents! Verse 18 has an amazing promise that “The path of the righteous is like the morning sun, shining ever brighter till the full light of day”! What a great contrast to those who don't seek wisdom and a life focused on what God gives. Listen as we discuss how to guard our hearts as parents and how to encourage our children to guard theirs. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

With all the stress and anxiety in the world our adult children need to know what it will take to lay down in perfect peace and actually sleep. In this episode we discuss modeling tithing, living God's best for our lives, and understanding that our Heavenly Father uses discipline to teach us the path we need to follow. Happy Father's Day to all the dads everywhere- --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Chapter 2 of Proverbs is so insightful. Over and over we're reminded that without wisdom we and our adult children will suffer the consequences brought on from ignoring God's best for our life. But there's one area of our adult children's life that really requires an invitation- their dating life. Long before you say to them, “I don't think they're the one for you.” a lot of love, kindness, wisdom, and grace have to be walked out. If you've not been building towards that conversation or they're already married- then just work on keeping the doors of communication open. Because they need you. Whether it's dating, their job, raising kids, or choosing a college- our Adult Kids need Wisdom to set them on the right path. If they will seek it as if selling precious silver and hidden treasure it will completely change their lives. So sit down, enjoy the conversation. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Today we start a new series and use the Book of Proverbs to glean as much wisdom as possible for ourselves and for other parents! Ephesians 6:4 says And ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Yes, we have so much advice to share with our adult children but sometimes it's just too stressful for them. Listen in to get tips on how to give advice and how to respect them as adults. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Asha and Missey stop to remember sweet stories from when our children were younger. It's so amazing to look back at little things they said and did and see how that personality, passion, and interests are shaping their life now as adults. Happy Mother's Day! Join us for a new Season using the book of Proverbs as our guide to parenting Adult Children --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

With so much evil in the world it seems like the attacks against our children are coming from all directions- infertility, substance abuse, suicidal thoughts, job loss. But all hope is not lost. Ephesians 6:10-18 tells us the we can put on the full armor of God. We can extinguish those fiery darts we don't have to be victims and neither do our adult children. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Whether your adult child is starting their first job, moving into their first apartment, or having their first child- each and every milestone is a different blessing from God but can be a real challenge. As you pray for them, do so with patience and understanding. These are big steps! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Have you walked through divorce or marriage difficulty with your adult child? As painful as those moments are, you don't have to face them alone. Look to God for strength and joy. Listen as Asha and Missey describe your role as a mom and a mother in law. Scripture to use in prayer for our adult children 1. Ephesians 4:2  2. Ephesians 4:29  3. Ephesians 6:12  4. James 1:19  5. Job 1:10  6. Colossians 3:13  7. Malachi 4:2  8. Joel 2:25-27   9. 1 Peter 3:7  10. Romans 15:5-6 11. Psalm 30:5 for his anger lasts only a moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime; weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning. Prayers for ourselves: 1. Psalm 19:14  2. 2Corinthians 2:7-11  3. Psalm 130:1-2  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Chapter 7 of Praying Scripture Over Your Adult Children is all about the joy and challenges of your children's marriage. Missey and Asha discuss things you can teach them before they get married along with helping your adult children when they are in conflict with their spouses. There's so much to talk about on this subject, that this is just part 1. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Take a moment to listen in as Asha and Missey remember the true “Reason for the Season”- Jesus. We pray that this holiday season your life involves family and friends and many blessings --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

This episode is a continuation of our conversation as we go through the book, Praying the Scripture for Your Adult Children. As a parent of Adult kids, Missey wonders if she prayed enough when they were little. Asha's kids are all single but she doesn't want any one of them to feel pressured to rush into marriage with someone that isn't truly God's best. Join us today as we go through the joy and pain of praying for our Adult Children's Marriage Partner --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

This chapter discusses the importance of relationships, with others and with God. We have always known that who our children hang out with is who will have the most influence over their lives- but now… as they navigate marriage, new jobs, etc these relationships can affect them forever. Join in to see what you can be praying about --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Asha and Missey discuss chapter 3 of the book, Praying the Scriptures for Your Adult Children by Jodie Berndt. Listen is as we discuss chapters 3 entitled, Transitioning through Adulthood. Have you ever wondered why this younger generation does things so differently? They seem to take their time getting to certain milestones, they seem to change their minds about work and school, and to be honest they don't always see life the way we do. Although they were lent to us, they still belong to God. As you listen, pray the Lord softens your heart. Release your adult children to God- let him convict them of their sins and let him guide them to using their talents and interests. This isn't an easy phase but it's a great one! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

Join Asha and Missey as they start a new series by going through the book, Praying the Scriptures for Your Adult Children by Jodie Berndt. Ever feel like everyone else's kids are perfect and your family is the only one struggling. Well that's not true for anyone, not even Christian families. Listen is as we discuss the 2 chapters entitled, The Battle Begins and Blessing and Releasing Your Child --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

In this continuation of the last episode, Asha and Missey discuss how to deal with your adult child's behavior and choices. Honestly, most of the work done in this area starts when they're a child but even if your life was too busy, too stressful, or not based on God, you can still find ways to 1.admit there is sin, 2. show your child how to own their choices while being open about how the situation affects both you and them, and 3. Pointing their hearts towards a relationship towards God. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message

When your child is a thief, a liar, unkind, an addict, or promiscuous - do you acknowledge that or ignore it? Some parents don't see these shortcomings and others ignore them because they won't know the solution to correctly handling it, if this is true. Others are scared to address it could cause a riff in the relationship. How can we as parents recognize our kids' faults and correct them before they stray too far? Do we even have the responsibility or right when they are adults? Join us as we tackle this subject matter and give you tips on how to respect them as adults while bringing up the hard stuff. If your child is younger, star now! If they're always adults, you'll need to be more creative. Here are some of the verses we reference: Romans 4:17, 2 Samuel 13-19, Proverbs 22:6 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notmeddlingjustmothering/message