The Introvert's Bubble

I feel like I have to revisit this twice a year. Not just with people who are new to the actual concept of “introversion” but people around me who should know better. Honestly, I wish that Merriam-Webster who actually change their definition. Yes, many are reserved or quiet, but that is not all that they are. There is so much research out there saying shyness is an entirely different thing.  Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubblePoetry Book TenTo keep updated on other episodes, books, and all the fun jump on our email Support the show

The work landscape out there is rough out there. It's hard to know what to say, what is actually important. You only get so much time. And as an introvert, talking about ourselves is nerve-racking as it is. You want to make a good impression and also give all the info they will need to get them to choose you.  Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubblePoetry Book TenTo keep updated on other episodes, books, and all the fun jump on our email Support the show

Dispositional Autonomy determines how you feel about solitude and what you end up getting from it. So for us introverts this determines how well we take the solitude we actually need. Because this can be something we are taught. If we are forced into it then we can get less from it.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubblePoetry Book TenTo keep updated on other episodes, books, and all the fun jump on our email Support the show

We should always thank people when they do something nice for us. Gratitude is actually a good thing to have. But it does not have to be a public declaration. Why am I see people get angry that someone didn't come to them personally and get on their knees to thank them? There are levels, calm down.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubblePoetry Book TenTo keep updated on other episodes, books, and all the fun jump on our email Support the show

We are all stuck on our screens. Scrolling social media, checking emails, and just generally working. Our brains cannot take it all day every day. So sometimes you just need to get and do something. It's not only good for you physically, but mentally.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubblePoetry Book TenTo keep updated on other episodes, books, and all the fun jump on our email Support the show

Phubbing is a somewhat new term which is a combination if ‘phone' and ‘snubbing'. Meaning you are snubbing a person who is right in front of you to look at your phone. Which is a problem for us with everything you can do on your phone. Social media sites work on getting you one their apps and keeping you there. Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubblePoetry Book TenTo keep updated on other episodes, books, and all the fun jump on our email Support the show

I know it is a shocker to some, but most introverts do like to go out. We go dancing and hang at bars sometimes. The difference is in how we get ready, especially pre-gaming. For most, you get together beforehand to have some drinks and hang. This can be a few hours before you even leave. For introverts, we need to be alone. Preserve that energy so we can last as long as we can.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubblePoetry Book TenTo keep updated on other episodes, books, and all the fun jump on our email Support the show

We've all heard of creating less friction in life to help with good habits. Laying out your workout clothes the night before, meal prepping, and many others. That is getting rid of friction. But the opposite can be true to helping you be more productive. Having an app that will get you off certain apps while you work. Both can be used to get the desired result.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubblePoetry Book TenTo keep updated on other episodes, books, and all the fun jump on our email Support the show

We all have schedules. You can't really do any work or hang with friends without it. But the other thing you need to keep in mind when making your schedule, for work and fun, is how much energy you will have before, during, and after. And as an introvert you need to try and figure out what will be best for you. To actually have the energy needed.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubblePoetry Book TenTo keep updated on other episodes, books, and all the fun jump on our email Support the show

Just like everything in life, there are things that don't work together. And that includes within ourselves. We are complicated creatures and nothing in life works perfectly so some of the pieces of ourselves will not work well together. Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubblePoetry Book TenTo keep updated on other episodes, books, and all the fun jump on our email Support the show

I love taking personality traits. Many are very useful to know about yourself. Even the fun, goofy ones teach you things. Even though they can give deep insights into yourself with great tips on how to better yourself or use these out into the world, they are not all there is to you. Some even don't seem to work well together. That does not mean that you can't be or do something that doesn't “fit”. Check out the blog post hereOne of the episodes talking about specific traitsBuy Get Out Of My BubblePoetry Book TenTo keep updated on other episodes, books, and all the fun jump on our email Support the show

We all have things that we need to do but don't want to. No one actually loves doing all chores. Some we don't mind and others can give us space to let our minds wander. We don't always enjoy doing things for others but want to be helpful. Not everyone loves their job. Most have parts that they don't like. So there are ways you can make it easier to do. Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubblePoetry Book TenTo keep updated on other episodes, books, and all the fun jump on our email Support the show

I don't need to tell you to have good solitude can be. Us introverts love it. But there is actual research out there to show all the good it can do for all of us. Not just introverts.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubblePoetry Book TenTo keep updated on other episodes, books, and all the fun jump on our email Support the show

We all love some alone time. But there are times when it can be bad. There is a term for people who never go out and can't really function in society in Japan called hikikomori—the Japanese recluse. It can be easy to slip into this. There are some signs to look out for yourself and others. Here are 5 things to look for to see if your solitude is off.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubblePoetry Book TenTo keep updated on other episodes, books, and all the fun jump on our email Support the show

We all know what it feels like to be awkward. It happens all the time. Sadly I've known it a lot more with all the moving I've done in my younger years. So as fellow awkward people, we can do small things to make others feel less left out. Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubblePoetry Book TenSupport the show

Sometimes being out and about is just too much. Having to talk to people and be engaging. And if you have to go to something specific that you need to make a good impression. Whether it's for networking, business, or just a wedding, so then get a partner to help. I call this tag-teaming. Check out the blog post here.InstagramSupport the show

All relationships would improve if we all actually understood each other. Who we are as people, like and dislikes, and personality. Ultimately our levels of introversion and extroversion.Check out the blog post here. Support the show

I recently came back from my first solo trip abroad in a long time. Which gave me some more good tips to give to people. Especially for longer trips in a country that does not speak english. Because all these combined can make your trip great or difficult if you do not plan for it.Check out the blog post here. Also a few other episodes on travel solo, groupsBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show

This came from a Kari Leibowitz article in The Conversation. And to see that I already do this makes me feel a little better. And I have seen this in some of the situations I have been in. I still remember as a teen feeling like I can't take the upset and pain. Which is valid since its the first time going through that situation. But with time and a good mindset you can not let many things ruin your day or week. Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show

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Medium article “3 Acting Exercises That Can Help Introverts Have Better Conversations”.   Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show

We should be intentional about out life. We should be going towards something, even if its simple enjoyment. But strangely enough people don't realize that that takes work. You need to know what you want out of your life to actually go for it. If not you are just following other paths with no idea where or why. But there are small ways to fix that and get the life you really want.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show

Everything we do takes energy. Some more than others, but no one looks at how some things and activities can have different outcomes depending on other factors. Nothing happens in a vacuum. And there have been things that I thought I hated doing but ones I changed a factor or two I actually enjoyed them.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show

This is a little funny since anyone that knows me knows I'm not really a kid person. But I have no problem hanging with them. (Of course as long as they are raised right.) Kids can be such run to be around. There is less pressure and a lot less prejudice. Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show

Many of us are music lovers. And going to a full-day or several day festival is a great way to immerse yourself in the music you love. Which can seem like not a place an introvert would want to be. But there are ways we can have fun and enjoy the music we love with a lot of people.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show

My personality is all me, but my attitude is up to you.I get tired of people thinking that you can just stop being an introvert. First, that it is a bad thing. Second, that we can teach out of people. Not gonna happen. We get used to things or get more comfortable. But who we are fundamentally do not change.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show

It's great there is research out there looking at the good and bad about everything. But people do not know that they sometimes have to make it very simple to get actual results. Also, that when others talk about it (ie the media) they have to cut it down so much to make an article out of it. To the point where the main parts are missing. Or they take parts out that make it sound like their opinion is right. Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show

Weddings can be a fun and great celebration. But for some of us it can be overwhelming. Even as the one getting married. But you can do some small things and plan to make it easier and less anxiety-ridden for yourself and others.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show

This is not about hating on extroverts. We love them because they are people we love; friends, family, and co-workers. But there are some things they do, that they think are perfectly fine to do, which are not. Sometimes it's outright rude and they don't know. This may be just something for yourself to keep an eye out so you can bring it up yourself. Or just send this to the extrovert in your life and I can tell them.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show

Relationships, whether romantic or platonic, can be hard. Making new connections and strengthening the ones we have. But there are small ways that we can slowly build up a bond. And a lot of them are actually easy for an introvert to doCheck out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show

It's already known the differences between introverts and extroverts. And many are seeing the blind spots in the medical field. So much research out there was only tested on men. Mainly because they didn't want to work with the variables of menstruation. And more is coming out on how many girls and women are not being diagnosed with autism or heart attacks because the narrow symptom list is so narrow.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show

There are situations where being polite and having manners is necessary. Which I know is funny to say now since I did not give this advice first. But it's easy to slide too much on being polite that people think they can change your mind. Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show

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Dating is suppose to be fun. Getting to know someone that could potentially turn into something more. But, like most things in life, it isn't easy. For some of us we don't have the best reactions to flirty or just the whole process. Sometimes we have a fight or flight responses. But there are small things we can keep in mind to be a little betterCheck out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show

I know, a bit of a strong title. This might be for you or maybe you need to send this to someone. We all have had times when we dominated a conversation. But some people really don't let or can't see that they take over in every conversation. So here are some things to look for or think of to see if sometimes you just need to shut your mouth.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show

We all have had to present before, with the odd school assignment to a whole group project. Honestly, most people do not like doing them and it can bleed into adulthood. But there are times it is good and necessary to do. And one tip that I always keep in mind when I do it is to shift the focus to the audience. Give as much value as you can and ask questions because it shouldn't be about you.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show

Putting your attention on something - direct attention / hard fascination - requires effort. Soft fascination requires little effort but also leaves mental space for reflection. More things can take more effort to do as an introvert and we need to figure out which of these it is to fully be able to recharge.  Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show

People get so worried and scared about missing out on things that they don't really have a direction. There is a time and place to put limits on things. It's the same with setting up boundaries. It gives you direction and space to really work on things. Having limits on some of the things in your life will actually open up your life.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show

A lot of cultures try to keep things the same. Nothing wrong with trying to make things easier but it doesn't work well for everyone. It has already been shown in schools that many kids do not learn well in the same environments. So we also do not work our best this way alsoCheck out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show

Trying to level up your life takes being a little uncomfortable sometimes. Trying new things means not being good at the beginning and people knowing that you are new. But it doesn't always have to be hard and painful. There are easy ways to make it fun sometimes because there is less pressure.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/anung)

We all have an online life. Pieces of ourselves we share with the world or just a select few. But you should clean it up. On how to you want to be perceived but also what you want to see while you are onlineCheck out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/anung)

Social habits are things that we do automatically when we are out with people. For the most part, we are trained by adults to do these things. In America, we shake hands when meeting people while in Asia the bow. It's the little things. For introverts, it can be hard to do some of what society deems “acceptable behavior”Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/anung)

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There is a lot of moving going on in the world. it really is to move these days. And I have a lot of experience with this. By now I've moved at least 25 times, and one of those times was out of the United States. So I have some idea about how to adjust to new places, especially with the culture shock. I'm going to need it as I get ready for my move.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/anung)

I know that not everyone is good at handling rude people or confrontation. I wasn't always good at (sadly a lot of practice). And not everyone wants to be snarky or is comfortable doing it. So there are some responses you can give people who are kind of rude, since going full blast isn't always necessary. Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/anung)

Having a conversation usually mean talking. But too many times people mix up that idea with engagement, which is not the same. From hanging out with friends to participating at work or school we need to get away from the idea that everyone has to talk to be a part of things. Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/anung)

The idea for this came from the article in the Journal of Personality about how withholding good news can backfire. And for a lot of us introverts, it stems from the fear of bragging, taking up time on things that are not important. Essentially we don't think people would care really about the news.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/anung)

I do love seeing introverts being represented in media not as a problem but just a normal thing. It makes us seem less weird and not something to be changed. Since I talked about this in some of my favorite books and musical artists we might as well look at movie characters. Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/anung)

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Not gonna lie, us introverts can check out of conversations a lot. We can just get lost in our own heads or just get bored. But there are some things you can do and us all to keep us engaged.Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/anung)

There have been so much change in the last few years. (And I'm so tired of saying that too.) So there needs to be a small update for when it comes to travel. With things starting to get figured out around the world we are able to travel more and farther. Of course, we all know the different things to stay safe and these tips work whether you are going alone or in a group. Check out the blog post hereBuy Get Out Of My BubbleSupport the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/anung)