Having never been divorced is one thing, but Scott and Anne come from households that share a combined total of 13 marriages between their parents. It’s safe to say they’ve seen some shit. And what they’ve seen inspired them to want to help others avoid those pitfalls. Thou Shalt Not Kill speaks right to the heart of the challenges couples face. You’ve probably had battles and moments that if unaddressed could make or break your solemn partnership. Whether you’ve hit the wall, or whether you think things just can’t get any better, they’ve got you. Scott and Anne entertain you, they teach you, and they show you how to overcome those challenges with both conventional and unconventional means; helping you get back to the “why†of your union. In their own words, “We never claim to be doctors or board certified marriage counselors, but we did go to one in the first few years when we had “issues†and their advice was more how to f**k the other one when divorcing each other. That didn’t work for us. That’s why we want to bring hope and light through the dark and rough times of life with your partner.†Let’s get your love affair with your spouse to a place where you’ve always hoped it could. Starting with the first rule. Thou Shalt Not Kill. Hosted by marriage veterans of 35 years, Scott and Anne Travis.
The Thou Shalt Not Kill: A Podcast About Marriage is an exceptional podcast that dives deep into the complexities and challenges of marriage. Hosted by Scott and Anne, this couple offers insightful advice and relatable stories that truly resonate with listeners. Their vulnerability and willingness to share both the ups and downs of their own marriage make this podcast incredibly refreshing and entertaining.
One of the best aspects of this podcast is the couple's authenticity and chemistry. Scott and Anne have a natural rapport that draws listeners in, making it feel like you're sitting down for a conversation with friends. They discuss a wide range of topics, from handling adversity in life to navigating the trials of marriage, providing valuable insights and practical advice along the way. Their down-to-earth approach makes it easy to relate to their experiences, creating a sense of connection for listeners.
Another standout aspect of this podcast is its ability to provide guidance on how to work through challenges in marriage. Scott and Anne are not afraid to dissect their own struggles, offering a glimpse into their journey of growth as a couple. This transparency allows listeners to learn from their experiences, gaining valuable lessons on how to strengthen their own relationships. The podcast also emphasizes that there is always another way to resolve issues, showing that there isn't a one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to marriage.
While there aren't many negative aspects to highlight about this podcast, some may find that certain episodes focus more on personal anecdotes rather than offering direct advice or strategies for overcoming marital challenges. However, these personal stories still provide valuable insights into the couple's journey and can inspire listeners to reflect on their own relationships.
In conclusion, The Thou Shalt Not Kill: A Podcast About Marriage is an incredible resource for anyone looking to improve their relationship or gain insight into successful marriages. Scott and Anne's vulnerability, relatability, and practical advice make this podcast an absolute must-listen for couples seeking guidance or those who simply enjoy heartfelt and entertaining conversations about marriage.
La La La ... We just go on in life thinking that it's all gonna be rainbows and Butterflies ... HAHAHAYou don't just wake up to a great Marriage, you don't wake up to being your ideal weight .. It all takes work. The Leave it to Beaver family of the 50s is not nor never was the route in life we were given. We jump into the struggles in everyday life and how to MAKE your marriage awesome. Hopefully, we open some eyes and ears to seeing that through the work comes a great reward.Thanks for all your support !!!Happy listening
Today we talk about Emotional Safety with your partner .. DO you feel "Safe"? Sounds crazy to have a long-term relationship and NOT feel safe ...We talk about what we think it takes and looks like to be open, safe, and secure in a Partnership.Thanks for listening ..
Are you finding yourself dying on every hill to be right? well, I guess you love the loneliness that comes with that. Why do we feel being Stubborn is a power move? it erodes and cuts off communication quick! Let talk about what the stubborn person gets to enjoy when they always need to be right .Thanks for listening !!
Social media has taken over in the "Fix it" space.How many people do you know that "Fix" themselves by watching a Video or a person after seeing someone like them having the same issues is miraculously "Cured" just from one or two videos? The problem is NOT in identifying the issue but the Work needed to change after the issue is in the open for them .. It sure is nice to see someone else have the same problem as us, BUT until you change your behavior, nothing changes. not all the TikToks in. the world are going to the work needed.Thanks for listening !!"
R E S P E C T... We ALL want it but are we willing to give it ?It's a word that garners so much debate, do you give respect before you get it OR do you get it first and then decide if who you are giving respect to is deserving of it?In a marriage /Relationship it's a key element to having AND Giving.. Let's see if we can challenge your view on RESPECT ..Thank you!
Well ... Emotional Safety.We tackle the Emotional safety in a relationship and how unbelievably crucial it is to get the depth of TRUST you developed in being vulnerable to your partner.Women want safety in the relationship and believe it or not Men can release their emotions on a TRUSTED woman .. We all win if we can be honest and authentic, especially in our marriage.Thanks for listening
Perception determines your reception ...How often do we have a "Perception" BEFORE we know what's about to happen?.We talk about how much time we Assume we know what is coming and then have an opinion or perception of what is coming only to present ourselves with an opinion or a thought as to what is happening.Your perception is not always the truth of what to come.let's drop the assumptions, wait to hear, and listen BEFORE we are disappointed and put our partner on the defense.Thank you !!
Friendship OVER Passion ?.What ? ... Well let's breakdown that statement We NEED to be friends AND we need Passion, but what catapults your marriage than having your partner be your most intimate and BEST friend?We spend way more time dressed and in public than we do naked and in bed, it sure is great to have a partner that yo can show, tel,l and explore life with a buddy.This DOES NOT eliminate the passion but we talk about how much our passion has exploded when we became the best of friends.Enjoy and Thank you
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What does it look like to "Heal"?We go into this past year and the work we've done to heal parts of our lives from the past .This will maybe help see that saying you want change and actually doing the work is completely different .We go through the steps on how we did and are still doing it Theres a process and TIME that it takes .We felt this needed 2 parts so welcome to part 1
Welcome 2025 !!Were starting off the year with the way were gonna speak this year to our partners ..The tongue is a sward and can cut us in half , Lets work on how we speak to our partners and watch the changes! ONLY YOU can change YOU .. Lets start with how we approach our partner with the words we say .
How are you when your partner comes to you with an issue or complaint ?? Are you Receptive OR Defensive? Today we go into ways to approach your partner with issues and how you can react .. We ALL want to be heard .. How will your partner receive what you say ..tune in. Thank you all !!
Welcome!This is an episode that we can all relate to ... Why am I doing what I didn't like when I was a child to my kids OR my spouse?We talk about changing the course of history in YOUR family !All it takes is some courage and strength to make that change .Nothing changes overnight, BUT little steps can drastically help and change your family's path to a happier and more fruitful life.We all have this we said when we were kids... " When I grow up I will NEVER do that to my kids or my friends" ... Well you now are old enough to keep that promise when you were younger.Thanks for listening and we hope this helps just a little bit !!
Keeping your Circle Clean ..What the heck does that mean? We go into how outside relationships can dirty up your circle of friends.This episode is about outside influences and your relationship could get dirty if you don't keep on top of who and what you let into your space.Join us as we talk about keeping your circle clean .We thank you for listening and hope we can help make life a little easier or look at your circumstances differently.
Power V Balance......Do you deal with a "Power Struggle" in your Relationships?In this episode, we talk about Power in our relationship, and how the only true "Power" we have is when we are together as a team, Power is not great in a relationship when there is a struggle. If you deal with this in yours take a step back and ask why ?Thanks so much for all your support and thanks for Listening.
What does a "Healed" Person look like?In this episode, we talk about what it is to heal, and why. I always told my kids when they were little, they would learn lessons in life maybe 16 or 26 or 36 BUT eventually, we learn a life lesson.We are still learning lessons on this in our late 50s.I hope you enjoy it! Thank you so much for listening.
Are you accessible to your partner? I mean EVERYTHING !!Nothing hidden, We think of "Accessibility" as access to something. However, here we chat about being accessible to your partner with everything.Is there anything that your partner does NOT have access to?Thanks for listening, are you as accessable as we are?
Where do you land when times get rough? It's really easy to say that you are there for your partner but when it comes down to it are YOU a soft place to land?A soft place to land is when you can run to your partner with problems, and issues and have just been beaten up, are they there to soften the blow? Take into account on how we are there for each other, are you a good place to land? Thanks for listening and all your support!
Unexpressed Expectations, How many of us do this to our partner, friends, and Family??.In this episode we discuss how we NEED to tell each other what WE expect or want.It's futile to sit and "Expect" someone to know what we want or need.Let's be real, if we could read minds we would not need to talk to each other, yet some of us have a hard time realizing we get mad at our partner for not reading our minds..Let's go, and Thank you so much for listening.
You Give what you get ...>Do you believe that ?? Let's see how living life to serve your partner is ... Its more likely to get what I want as I fulfil my partner. If I'm selfish and all about me .... Life sucks.Hope you enjoy this little chat If you ever have Questions or Topics you'd like us to address .. Please reach out @ ThouShaltNotKillPodcast@gmial.com
We all love to point out what our partner is doing wrong or pointing out what bothers YOU .How about we replace our pointing finger with a mirror? When we are busy complaining or upset at what our partner is doing why not look in the mirror and see if it's YOU that YOU have a problem with.Interesting take, we hope you will enjoy it!
What do you do when life challenges you and you want to "Follow your Dream"?..Well, this is crazy that we think we can't Follow our Dreams WITH our partner, this is one of the reasons we chose each other TO follow those dreams..You may or may not agree to what our opinions are but Is your spouse holding you back from your dreams? What a shame .... Listen in and let us know your thoughts
Well here we are , numb er 200 !I can remember our first setup and sitting down to do number one and having only one mission ... Just help One couple realize marriage is wonderful and EASY !In this episode we just chat about where we started and where we want to go, our dynamic and our style is US and we hope we can unlock that one lock that you just cant seem to get over..Thank you all so much for the love and support.
I know we just talked about Adversity but Damn .... When God speaks we listen , As we go through more and more obsticals and Adversity we MUST communicate through it !.In this episode we talk more about the tricks and dangers of AVOIDING Adversity .. Noyt good for the long run..Come on with us as we talk more..Thank you
Well, probably one of the least talked about topics here on our Podcast. We said it ONE TIME in the last 37 years and NEVER have said it again.Why ? Because we can not go forward if we are looking for an EXIT !!.Come with us and see what we've done to try and bulletproof our marriage..Thank you for listening!
Adversity .......You Can use this in your marriage as an opportunity to get closer and learn so much about your partner.Come join us on this little exploration on the good and bad of Adversity..Thank you so much for joining us !!!
BULLEPROOFING your marriage..We discuss the divorce rates and some of the leading causes, some you may find interesting. looking at statistics and how they are manipulated to fit one's opinion or desired outcome, Divorce is so much more prevalent today rather that in the early days and WHY ?? .We have our own opinion and looking throughout history on divorce , its NOT supposed to be a common thing but we sometimes just use it as a "Get out of Jail" free card.. >IF you belive the statistics its showing s delince in marriages biut maybe not the reason you think ..>Welcome to Thou shalt not Kill Podcast !!!
Welcome to another edition of TSNK ..Compromise ... Its often looked at as there is a winner and a looser .. Restructure your brain when it comes to a winner and loser in your marriage..We discuss the real-life compromises we do daily in our relationships and how itdoes NOT need to be a win-or-lose battle.Join us a s we walk though compromise in our daily lives.Welcome !
SO looks like we have been married for 12 MILLION Hours ( According to Anne ).We had a little fun on this one and Anne tells about how she came up with 'being married that long . Its a fun light hearted approach to seeing that TIME together really is the best way to know each other.Thanks for listening
Who we can be there for each other ..In this episode we talk a lot to the men and what it looks like for a Woman to feel that they have a partner who understands what they want .How can you communicate what you want in those times that you may just need an ear to hear you .Thanks for Listening .
We look and explore the fact that we love those that we feel connected to and Help in life MORE than those that help us.it's a fascinating concept, but think about it, I want to helpeveryone that I love and want a deeper connection to. Whereas when we get help from others we may not feel the same way.Let us remember that people are trying to love us and help us without expectations, We should accept help and love from those who support us.Thanks for listening
Well , Here we go ....Intimacy isn't just for the bedroom.How does your partner view Intimacy? There are many forms it takes, in this episode, we go over what can be considered Intimate and discuss those intimacy killers .I hope you enjoy and Thank you for all your support.
Its always good to talk about what you are willing to accept as a partner in ANY Relationship.We jump back into the discussion on this and WHay can you do to get what you want ,Im sure there are issues that you will not accept , But guess what .... Your partner has some thing they don't want to put up with , so the best way to figure this out is ....... Simple communication ..Thanks for listening and the support ..
Honey ..... Can WE talk ?How intimidating is THAT ?!!Having the Hard Conversations is very simple if you practice the little conversations about the little things.We go through some ways to make those "Hard" talks easier..Thanks for listening and please reach out for any Questions or topics Thoushaltnotkillpodcast@gmail.com
Boy, How do we get around Liers and their Lies?We talk about the ramifications and problems when we continue to lie to our partner and HOW to stop the Lies>Wake up and see that a Lie will NEVER get you what you want I'm the long run ..Thanks for joining us
In this episode we re-address Trauma ... I know , I Absolutely hate that word .I think its a catch all phrase for some to just not deal with the issue at hand , but This last year we have really examined and dove deep into some longstanding issues that Scott has been deal;ing with and Lo and behold there just might be something with childhood Trauma... Listen in and see if you agree, I guess an old dog can change their mind . LOL
OK .. This is a discussion on the difference between Righteous Anget and just being Bitchy, We go into this episode explaining the difference and how we deal with BOTH Anger and Bitchyness...It's not real hard to hold onto anger but there is a ,line that once you cross it, you now have opened up a whole new issue.Thanks for listening and Happy New Year !
The Room Mate phase ...... Who likes that ?When you are married it can happen and its not always good . Scott and Anne talk about how you can avoid it and work through this very easy habit that we can all fall into ..
We go into one of the hardest talks about ehn is enough. Anne and I NEVER want to open the door to divorce, but when dealing with a Narcissist it's VERY hard to live in a complete marriage..We point out some of the difficulties.. WE ARE NOT psychologists, psychiatrists, or any other Dr. We just have been around and seen relationships when one is a Narcissist and it usually isn't pretty.
Boundaries.. RevisitedWe discuss Boundaries Again and you should have an open conversation about what you are willing to accept in your marriage and or your relationships.This is a very easy discussion to have and does not need to be an all-out war. Take the time to work on your relationship when things are good !!just revisit what you are willing to give and take in your marriage,
Here we go ! In this Episode Scott and Anne talk about how NO ONE thought they could, would or should make it in their marriage .. Not Or Single one ..But lets see and hear how they did and are making a great life filled with Joy, Love and all around Fun ..
In this episode, you hear Anne and Scott relive an issue they thought was resolved. Still, as they start to discuss, you can see some lingering animosity or anger ..BUT by communicating through it live you can see how they communicate and LISTEN to each other's views.This is a MUST-listen
Are you tired of hearing that " Marriage is Hard"? We do NOT believe in "hard" its a process of learning what each other needs.. EVERYTHING has issues, its how you attack the issue without labeling it easy or Hard... Listen in and hear how we do it.Thank you for all your support!
There is NO easy trick or tool you can do to get better results than Doing the Work !We all have our place in the decisions we make and the work that needs to be done to create AND keep a happy Marriage .Just do the Work .....
Bully ... What is that ?Being a Bully in your relationship NEVER works out for the good.This Episode we talk about how Anne ( She says it in this Episode ) was a bully in the beginning of ours.Tune in and hopefully we can give some insight on how to change your behavior IF you are THAT bully in your relationship..
Todays podcast is all about LESS talk and MORE action on your words.
Words have all the power ... How are you using them? to edify or tear down ...We chat about how WE talk to each other and how we avoid the triggers.Enjoy!
We say Sex is a way to communicate feeling Love and respect.Are you using it as a tool? In this episode we talk about how bad it is if used to reward or punish your partner, We are all about having fun and sexy games BUT to use it to feel bad is NOT what it's about.Thanks for tuning in
Respect ... What a concept nowadays .Many consider the word respect a dominant or master role in a relationship.We talk about the respect you have for and with your space, which can only enhance it as respect is key to getting more of what you desire as you respect your spouse more .. let's see what you think.Got a topic ... Thoushaltnotkillpodcast@gmail.com
Our Words have SO much meaning,In this episode, we talk about how a simple word can change the direction of a fight, a dinner, or a conversation at bedtime. Think of it like this ... We can have ANYTHING we want!It's all in how we say it. Do a verbal check-in with your spouse and join us !!!!
OK .... We all just get 1 life, BUT within that life, we have so many choices and decisions that we all have. In this episode, we talk about some of the options and life decisions we all need to make. So join us for our fireside talk.
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