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Join us for a thought-provoking episode tackling some of today's most talked-about issues. We dissect the Shedeur Sanders draft narrative, questioning the underlying dynamics and potential strategies at play. Our conversation then shifts to the pragmatic realities of achieving goals, as we share experiences and insights on strategically "playing the game." We delve into the evolving definition of masculinity, examining how different moments demand distinct forms of leadership and character. We also address the serious allegations against Shannon Sharpe, fostering a discussion around accountability and due process. To conclude, we offer a detailed review and analysis of Ryan Coogler's impactful new film, Sinners

Is the mental health movement fostering resilience or creating a culture of victimhood? We dive deep into the complex relationship between mental well-being and personal accountability. Join us as we challenge the narrative, exploring whether therapeutic language is empowering or enabling. Are we building shields against life's challenges, or equipping ourselves with the tools to overcome them? Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation on mental resilience and the crucial balance between self-care and self-responsibility.

Is it time to bring back the manhood that we used to know and love? Have we overcorrected away from toxic masculinity to a point that men don't understand what their rightful place is in a society? Is the younger generation too coddled? Have we gone from toxic masculinity to remedial masculinity? We explore the idea that in the search a more balanced idea of what a man should be maybe we are losing the true essence of manhood. A society without true manhood is just as dangerous as a society with manhood that is too toxic.

In this podcast, we have a real and necessary conversation about the impact of drugs on the entertainment industry. We reflect on the many entertainers we've lost to addiction and explore how substance use has influenced not only the younger generation but also those who came before them. We shed light on the alarming rise of harder drug use among today's youth and the changing landscape of substance culture. We also discuss the broader societal issues that contribute to this crisis, including the pressures and anxieties faced by young people in today's world. From the normalization of pill use to the ways in which entertainment romanticizes addiction, we tackle the hard truths that need to be addressed. It's time to have an open and honest dialogue about the realities of drug culture and its deep-rooted influence on our society.

Today we are talking the 2024 Election between Kamala Harris and Donald Trump. We discuss the real disagreements and the opinions that people have during the election season. We talk about the conversations that are happening between friends, family and strangers. We discuss how we are coping and dealing with election season.

Today we are discussing how the transactional society has started infiltrating marriages. Has there been a shift in the fulfillment of the greater good when it comes to marriages? Does the marriage model serve men in a beneficial way? Are families still at the forefront of the black community? Is the family unit as important as it used to be?

You've heard the question before. What is your why? If you could not use your family or friends as a reason for your why what would you have left? Are you interests and the things you love outside of family enough? What is your source for waking up and doing what it is that you do everyday. How often do we think about our actual true purpose?

Today we are having a conversation of provision and what it means to provide as a man. The definition of a man providing is completely different than what men provide today. Are the ways in which men used to provide even relevant to the life that we are living today. We have to be careful to listen to people who speak to our community, but do not find love there. Has the disappointment in black men contributed to the view that people have when it comes to what black men can provide? We discuss outside of a paycheck there is monetary value in the other things that men contribute to the relationship. Has the idea of respect for the man deteriorated in relationships?

We start by having a conversation about Amanda Seales appearance on Club Shay Shay and her self-diagnosing herself as autistic. This episode we are discussing what it means to be neurodivergent. We discuss the different types of trauma that has been passed down and how our brain creates the mechanisms that assists us in handling the things that life throws at us.

Today we are discussing what it takes for a man to encourage himself. What does self determination looks like and how is that developed over time. We also discuss the frustration with not accomplishing what we feel is our best potential.

Today we are discussing the gravitational pull of the barber shop and how it is instantly of sacred place where men feel comfortable expressing themselves. Sometimes the barbershop gets a bad reputation because of the locker room talk, the derogatory comments that are made and the fact that it may be a breeding ground for what people call toxic masculinity. We must highlight the positive aspects of what happens in these barber shops and comradery, conversations, and lessons that are learned in spaces where generations of men talk to each other. We discuss our favorite barbershop conversations.

Today we are discussing the association between men choosing to take care of themselves and the guilt that can be associated with that. When men take charge of their own mental health we get judged. Is selfcare and happiness synonymous? Self-care is about quality of life. Is a lack of happiness built into the definition of a man? The concessions that men make are usually silent. We make decisions that can be detrimental to our health and no one knows. Mikell points out how religion speaks to how men have been indoctrinated to servitude and accepting suffering.

Today we take on the the topic of Clay and AD from Love Is Blind. We discuss how much hate that Clay has been getting since the season of Love is Blind ended. We discuss how black men should learn to accept love even if they feel unworthy. We also speak on how to move on from generational trauma.

Today we are tackling the idea of Peter Pan Syndrome within the black community. We discuss is this something that truly exist and what the impacts may be of our people not wanting to grow up. Mikell contends that black society actually has more of the "Wendy Syndrome" where we end up growing too fast and that this Peter Pan syndrome is not born from black society. Sam contends that there are specific parts of black culture that glorifies staying in a younger mindset. Hip hop artists would be married for years, but all of their content would be about living a young carefree life. Warren P is tired of this generation not taking responsibility for not wanting to take control of their own lives.

Today we are discussing the lack of historical knowledge of how men and women worked together during the civil rights movement to advance black society. We haven't been taught the impact of how black women have impacted our movement. If we were taught to hold black women in higher regard would we protect them better? Have we been conditioned to see the opposite sex as the enemy? Is the bar of perfection negatively impacting the way we connect with one another, have empathy for one another? Have we lost the concept of the greater good when it comes to black relationships?

Today we are tackling topic brought to light by Ebony K. Williams and the backlash of her stating that she would only date a bus driver if they owned the bus. We discuss how the way women view status impacts the value that men place on themselves. We discuss how those thoughts impact our decision making process.

Today we are talking about the man's ability to have close friendships. Are low maintenance friendships just an excuse for men not to connect with each other properly? Less than half of men report that they are satisfied with their friendships, and only about 1 in 5 said they had received emotional support from friend in the last 2 weeks. What would take for men to be better friends to each other.

The dilemma of mental health for black men when it comes to money almost has a direct correlation. We discussed how finances have become central to a man's identity. We discuss our regrets of what we have given up for money and how we want to start looking at our relationship with money. Forbes Article: https://www.forbes.com/sites/rahkimsabree/2023/05/08/self-worth-and-money-the-dilemma-of-mental-health-for-black-men/?sh=2f48dab0169f Money and mental health as stand-alone topics are riddled with taboos across the general public. For Black men, the relationship between the two is nuanced with a complexity that exists at the intersection of Beliefs; Behaviors; Relationships; And safety.

Today we discuss Dr. Umar's stance that black men having to take responsibility their role in black women being masculine.

Today we had a chance to talk to Tunji Adebayo aka The Most Blessed Man Alive regarding his dream to build a community of 100 black men to commit themselves to Flow State through his company Rhyme LLC. Last year Tunji set out on a journey to post an inspirational message on his social media platforms for everyday of the year. Tunji discusses the impact of the daily inspirational drops and what it means for him to have inspired so many people.

Today we are speaking on vulnerability. We talk about what it means to cry and the underlying feelings that men feel when they are being emotional. We discuss the times we were most ashamed with our vulnerability.

Today we discuss cycles and how they play a very critical part of our lives. We discuss generational cycles and how strong they can be and even how behaviors can be written into DNA. We discussion the connections that you can make even with family members that you haven't known.

Today we discuss the Tory Lanez trial and the impact that it had on society. We talk what protection looks like for black women post this trial and also how wee feel about the results of the trial.

We had the pleasure of sitting down and having a conversation with the next generation of leaders and talked about mental health, stress, school and coping skills. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yougoodbruhpodcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yougoodbruhpodcast Twitter: https://twitter.com/yougoodbruhpod Ryan Cameron Foundation: https://www.ryancameronfoundation.org/

Today we are discussing whether or not people today are using mental health as a way of not taking accountability. As mental health advocates we must also acknowledge when it is being taken advantage of and speak out about it. Is there a line where accountability must come into play and mental health must take a back seat?

Today we are discussing the therapist who goes by @unusuallybre on tik tok and how she addressed men on their need to get more emotionally intelligent and seek therapy. She took a very different approach to spreading her message using profanity and a tone that many did not find acceptable and she ultimately lost her job because of the post. In the age where Kevin Samuels was given free reign is it okay that this therapist was speaking like this. How do we feel as men about her message? Does her point resonate with any of us? We discuss this and much more.

We are talking about the burdens that men carry and how to recognize when a burden is too much for you to take personally. Men tend to absorb burdens as most times we handle tough situations very well and many lean on us to be that strength, but how much is too much. How do you know when you are overburdened?

Today we are talking about what it looks like when a man is just not happy with life and how that dissatisfaction can impact society as a whole. Sam Dupe and Warren discuss moments in their life where they could potentially been an unhappy man. We speak on the dangers of man not addressing the sources of his unhappiness. We also discuss how important it is to remember to take control of your life in general and not allow life to just happen to you.

Today we are talking about how trauma bonds can create toxic relationships. We discuss trauma bonds from a romantic relationship perspective. Warren speaks on the trauma bond he had with his father. We discuss the characteristics of trauma bonds and authentic bonds and how to tell the difference.

Do black men get criticized too much for the things that bring them joy? Are women okay with men having a good time without them.....why or why not? Is black boy joy something that society is really trying to block. We discuss the idea of solo enjoyment and the importance of it to your mental health.

This week we took some time do dissect a clip of TD Jakes sermon stating that women are being raised to be men and are applauded for their masculine behaviors. He proceeds to list a set of behaviors that he believes women in society are applauded for and they are all very off-putting characteristics of men. We discuss whether or not there is any truth to what TD Jakes said. What are the barriers to men marrying successful women? Are black relationships really in danger and our black families struggling because of the inability for black men to sustain relationships with successful black women? Tell Mikell speaks on issues that manifest in relationships are usually based on expectations and not based on what has actually been articulated. Are black men and women expecting too much and not articulating enough and communicating enough in relationships?

There was a conversation that took Twitter by storm regarding who is carrying the emotional weight in black relationships. Today we discuss whether or not women have been overcompensating and bearing the brunt of the emotional weight of relationships due to the lack of empathy, emotional maturity, and emotional intelligence of men. Warren P gives his perspective that he feels the weight that men carry in relationships has been overlooked. Tell Mikell speaks on the lack of emotional maturity he has witnessed from men when he is actively helping couples and gives us a glimpse of the feeling wheel and how he has to develop men and their ability to point out their feelings in a healthy way. Sam Dupe discusses different ways in which he has fallen short emotionally and how it contributed to some of the hardest relationship struggles he's had in his marriage.

Sam Dupe brought his younger cousin Gethro onto the show to discuss the Mental Health of the Gen Z generation. We discuss how the Gen Z generation is one that has not had the luxury of growing up without social media. We talk about what that means from a mental health standpoint. Gethro discusses the type of mental support that he receives from the older generation. We discuss the clout-chasing generation and how it is impacting the mental state of the Gen Z as a whole.

What does your support structure look like? Who do men call when they are in a bad mental space, bad relationship space, bad financial space? Today we are talking about the support structure for men as they go through life and what it looks like to have healthy support structures. We are encouraging men not to wait until they need support to develop a support structure of people that can help them, listen to them, and potentially talk them off the ledge if need be.

We are talking Will Smith smacking Chris Rock at the Oscar's. This is a longer podcast, but it is a good one, especially towards the end. We discuss how every black man is just one moment away from snapping in the way that Will did. Tell Mikell talks about how people don't act depressed they act like they are good, but really they are not, and how that can impact everyone around you. We also wrap up by talking about the insecurity of being a husband.

Today we are talking about the Meg Thee Stallion Tory Lanez situation. Warren and Sam Dupe have had an ongoing argument regarding how the court of public opinion has treated Tory Lanez during this whole ordeal. Warren feels that black men don't get enough grace in situations that involve any type of criminal activity and wants people to extend the same grace to men that women get. Sam Dupe perspective is clearly Tory Lanez's neglect in one way or another caused harm to Megan and the consequences of the public's opinions were brought on by his decisions. We discuss what responsible gun ownership is and Tell Mikell explains how what Tory Lanez is going through is a product of his decisions and his immaturity. We have a discussion about what manhood looks like during trying times and how sometimes you have to take things on the chin until the facts can be cleared.

Tell Mikell had the privilege of being invited to a Women's Retreat centered around healing and empowerment. Tell Mikell came to give the women a man's perspective and also answer any questions. We discuss what happens when people commit to working on their healing. We also discussed how jealous Tell Mikell was about how many of these spaces that women have to work on themselves and how few of these spaces men have. Why don't we create spaces where men can heal. Men often have impromptu get-togethers that sometimes can turn into real transparent moments and healing spaces, but for some reason, there aren't many planned spaces where men can work on healing. Tell Mikell emphasizes how black men have not been taught or really rewarded for creating spaces of empowerment.

Today we talk about how difficult it is for men to rest because our perceived worth is embedded within our everyday grind and our everyday struggle. So many men work themselves to exhaustion and don't think twice about it because they are taught that their value is tied to how much they can produce or how much they can perform. We break down how the need and the want to grind can also be tied to a trauma response instead of just passion or drive. We really dive deep into the self-doubt that creeps in even when we do decide to take more of a break or work less.

Today we are talking about narcissism and taking a deeper dive into how our current society feeds the narcissistic personality. We discuss the traits of narcissism and the spectrum of where it fits when it comes to mental health. Tell Mikell talks about how narcissism feeds dysfunction and makes dysfunction look great. Sam Dupe wants to know why people do not empathize with narcissists in a crisis as they empathize with other more prominent mental health issues such as bipolar or depression. We also tackle how many of the leaders of black culture especially in the arts have exhibited narcissistic behavior which has impacted black people as a whole. We also talk about how everyone has a little bit of narcissism in them.

Today we are having a conversation about men that are scared to be in successful relationships. Sam Dupe has an interesting theory that he feels like there are a lot of men out here that are afraid of the responsibility associated with being the head of household. We analyze whether or not that fear manifests itself in the sabotage of romantic relationships that otherwise could be successful. We also talk about being a support system to help men get over the fear and what that looks like. The reality is the role of being a protector and provider comes with a lot of pressure that can be a strong deterrent and the goal is to restore confidence in these men so that we can grow our families and our legacies. Follow us on Instagram @yougoodbruhpodcast

Today we are having a conversation that has been had in family group chats regarding the vaccine. Joe speaks on the agenda to depopulate the earth and how there are bigger things at play. Tell Mikell and Sam aren't convinced that the plan to depopulate the earth is actually working or a functional plan at all. We all give our insights into our thoughts on vaccination and have the conversation that we are sure has been had by many people. Check it out let us know what you think. Sources used in the Episode Joe Dupe Vaccine Death Numbers: https://dailyexpose.co.uk/2021/07/18/5522-people-have-died-within-28-days-of-having-a-covid-19-vaccine-in-scotland-according-to-public-health-scotland/ https://cv19.fr/2021/08/19/au-moins-36557-morts-suite-a-la-vaccination-covid-19/ CDC Vaccine Adverse Reaction and Deaths: https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/vaccines/safety/adverse-events.html CDC Vaccine Information https://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/covid-19/clinical-considerations/covid-19-vaccines-us.html CDC Myths Vs. Facts https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/vaccines/facts.html Robert Malone (Creator of MRNA) Spiked Protein cytotoxic when it accumulate in the Ovaries https://undercurrents723949620.wordpress.com/2021/06/27/vaccine-causes-lipid-nanoparticles-to-accumulate-in-ovaries/ https://citizenfreepress.com/column-2/top-immunologist-and-pro-vaccine-doctor-byram-bidle-issues-warning-the-spike-protein-in-covid-vaccine-can-kill-you/ Study showing no change in function of Ovarian follicular https://www.medrxiv.org/content/10.1101/2021.04.09.21255195v1.full This site has all the peer-reviewed articles and context left out of these spike protein cytotoxic arguments https://byrambridle.com/ Some perspective on Robert Malone https://www.theatlantic.com/science/archive/2021/08/robert-malone-vaccine-inventor-vaccine-skeptic/619734/ Geert Vanden Bossche https://childrenshealthdefense.org/defender/interview-rob-verkerk-vanden-bossche-mass-covid-vaccinations/ Rebuttal to Vanden Bossche and conflict of interest from the same website https://childrenshealthdefense.org/defender/rebuttal-rosemary-frei-bossche-vaccination-concern/

Today we talk with Justina Victoria, a Men's Psychosexual Expert, to have a dialogue about the sexual experience. We discuss how men are taught early that sex is a performance rather than an experience and how those teachings have a strong impact on the male psyche. We discuss how emotional issues can resurface as sexual issues if not dealt with properly. We talk about why certain men seek out sex therapy and issues such as erectile dysfunction, hypersexuality, and men working on boosting their sexual comfort level. We also discuss why there aren't enough safe spaces for men to discuss sexual problems and when it comes to sex no one cares whether a man feels safe. We talk about how male feelings are not protected and the pressure for men to measure up to society's definition of a man and how that pressure has become detrimental to men as a whole.

Today we bring on a special guest Cam J who speaks about his struggles with Post-Graduation Depression. Cam talks about how the transition from college to working every day and trying to balance his old social life with his new post-graduate life was difficult for him. He discussed his issues with being the youngest at his job and how at times it felt as if he didn't have what it took to fulfill his duties and responsibilities. Imposter syndrome and bad management diminished his professional confidence and how he was able to overcome those things. Cam also discussed how he was able to get himself back in order through helping others, mentoring, and taking care of himself physically. Post-Graduation Depression is very common and needs to be talked about more in order to help others understand that they are not alone.

Today we are talking with Pastor Theodore Rollins of Suwannee Worship Center regarding the state of the black church. We discuss how the black church went from being a staple in the community to one of the most criticized parts of the community. We discuss the emergence of megachurches and what that means for the black community. We also talk about how black churches used to be the driving force in political change for blacks but no longer holds that position in our society and why that is. We discuss how the church has lost its mission. Pastor Ted talks about what churches have to do in a post-COVID-19 world in order to grow membership and bring back the relevance of the church. Pastor Ted wraps up the conversation with a message on how to exercise their faith moving forward in life. Suwanee Worship Center http://www.worshipchurchumc.org/ Pastor Ted Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/teddyrollins/

Today we are talking all about crime and how it has spiked over the past year or so. Tell Mikell believes that the rise in crime is due to organized crime and Joe Dupe thinks that the rise in crime specifically in Atlanta is based on an energy shift and high anxiety and normal people are committing violent crimes who have never committed a violent crime. It seems like everyone is on high alert and ready to end each other's lives at a moment's notice. High anxiety that has not been dealt with maybe the reason for this spike in violent crime because people have not been able to release and actually deal with what they went through in 2020. We also talk about the young people who are now carrying guns at a higher rate than usual and making poor decisions trying to seek a certain status in their organized crime families. We also discuss how we have moved differently and react differently because we see every interaction as a possible life and death interaction.

On today's podcast we are talking about languishing which is often referred to as the middle child of mental health. Languish often gets overlooked because it is not quite depressed and not quite thriving it is a weird stage in the middle. Languishing is like living but looking at your life through a foggy window. You're not quite depressed and have the energy to do life, but life for some reason or another is not bringing you the joy that you once had. We all discuss how we felt languish throughout 2020 and how we individually got out of that state. We talk about goal setting and the importance of doing things to take control over your life even when times are uncertain and unveil our 2020 superpower that we have brought with us into 2021.

Today we are talking about a depressed black community. We discuss why it is that some black communities are in such a distressed state. Can a community as a whole be depressed? We discuss whether or not black communities have pride in things that have been detrimental to us as a whole. Mikell discusses how the black community attacked the church and although the church did have many faults, the church has been vital to our spirituality and has been a hub for improving our communities. Sam, Joe Dupe, and Mikell have a debate about pride and how Mikell thinks that black communities have too much pride which leads to some of the issues that black people have and Sam thinks that black communities have pride in the wrong things and should shift their pride to the things that actually matter. We discuss how it is time for black communities to change their value system in order to make changes. How do we work on our value system and change our environment?

Today we are talking about the show All-American which airs on the CW television network. The show has embedded several mental health themes into this show and we thought we should cover some of them. We discuss the way that mental health can manifest into physical ailments. We also discuss how sometimes we are avoidant with issues that bother us and we can end up in more pain because of it. Sometimes when it comes to the people we love we would rather avoid our issues in order to try to protect their feelings, but all we are doing is creating more issues because those feelings fester and transform into more problems. We also talk about how sometimes avoidance can cause us to take out our emotional issues on the wrong people and be misplaced completely. We discuss attachment styles and how they impact how we interact with the people around us and how we solve problems or avoid them. We also talk about how parents can impact our attachment styles and the attachment styles are usually formed within the first 24 months. Support the Podcast with a small donation anything you give will help us to keep bringing you quality content click here to send a small donation.

This episode is about family and how dysfunctional family relationships are more common than we realize. We talk about the notion of whether or not you can choose a family. At what point do you have to choose your sanity over your family? When is it okay to give family passes on how they treat you? Should the family be a forced concept or should we be allowed to categorize people as we see fit? We also talk about how we measure our chosen family. We also briefly discuss Kobe Bryant and Vanessa Bryant’s issues with their parents and Kirk Franklin’s son issues as well. Support the Podcast with a small donation anything you give will help us to keep bringing you quality content click here to send a small donation. Shop Podcast Sponsor Scotch Porter click here

Today we take a look at is the role of men really needed in society. Are there imperative roles that men play in society and are these roles innate or assigned? We take a deep dive at the value of men and what they bring to society, to family, to relationships. How do men hold men accountable for the pain that men cause throughout the years? We discuss sexual assault and how a patriarchal system makes it very difficult for women to get justice. We discuss how feminism truly isn't an attack on manhood, but it is actually making changes in order to obtain true social equality. We discuss the Biblical creation and what we feel was God's purpose when creating man and woman.

Tell Mikell got a question from his sister asking him is sexism always a bad thing. The question was sparked by a previous conversation we had in the "Women Drive the Message" Podcast. We have a conversation with a friend of the show Jessica regarding the difference between sexism and gender roles and whether or not there is ever an instance in which sexism is potentially a good thing. We discuss what the definition of sexism is and how socially we often confuse sexism and gender roles. We also discuss how overly done gender roles can potentially become sexist. We also talk about how men and women have communication issues and we should learn to communicate in a way that the opposite sex will not perceive as sexist. Support the Podcast with a small donation anything you give will help us to keep bringing you quality content click here to send a small donation. Shop Podcast Sponsor Scotch Porter click here