Am I A Bad Mum?

We’re digging up our very first Facebook and Instagram posts and honestly, some of them should have stayed buried. We talk about the trends that come and go at lightning speed, the things that have somehow stuck with us for years, and why maybe we all need to stop chasing the next big thing. Plus, 90s R&B, pasta guilt, Sizzler nostalgia and a debate over who is actually the bigger germaphobe.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

From haircuts and skincare to weight, clothes and spending money on ourselves, we unpack what “letting yourself go” really means in your 40s. Is it actually about how we look or is it about self worth, priorities and finally giving ourselves permission to invest a little time, money and energy back into ourselves?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

One of us is sending her girls to Schoolies and trying not to panic. The other has already started bribing hers with trips so they never go. In this episode, we talk about our own Schoolies experiences, how much trust comes into parenting teenagers, the horror stories that make us nervous, and the uncomfortable reality that eventually you have to let your kids step into the next phase of growing up. Would you let your kids go to Schoolies?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, we have a very personal conversation about relationships, red flags and the things you sometimes only recognise years later. Katie shares the story of a relationship she was in at 21 the jealousy, control, gaslighting and ultimately physical violence, and why, for years, she never allowed herself to call it domestic violence. We talk about why it can be so hard to leave, the shame that can come with looking back, and how much of it comes down to self worth. It’s a confronting conversation, but an important one and a reminder of just how powerful sharing our stories can be.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why does desire seem to disappear in your 40s? In this episode we unpack hormones, mental load, exhaustion, body confidence, feeling “touched out” and why sex can start to feel like another item on the to do list. Plus, things take a very unexpected turn into the sex lives of ducks, bush turkeys and the octopus “penis arm.”See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When did life become one giant to do list? In this episode we talk about the mental load, constantly doing things for everyone else, and why so many women struggle to make room for joy and pleasure. From spontaneous chicken tenders to leaving the washing for tomorrow, this episode is about finding small moments that remind you life is happening right now, not six months from now when you finally get a holiday.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When your body feels flat, your mind can quickly follow. In this episode we chat about exhaustion, exercise, food guilt, social batteries, and that relentless voice in your head - and why sometimes the answer is simply cutting yourself some slack.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After Katie’s very memorable Bali massage story went viral, she and Rach discover there’s actually a sensual massage service designed entirely for women. They’re joined by Goddess Glow’s Alice and Andy to talk happy endings, orgasms, consent, body confidence and what really happens behind the massage room door.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Wax play is apparently a thing and we needs answers! Rach explains the world of temperature play, safe words and body safe candles before we call in someone who actually knows what she’s talking about. But while some people find it seriously sexy, Katie can’t stop thinking about the sheets, the carpet… and the fire risk.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode taken from This Is Me podcast a few years ago, Rach shares the story behind the life people thought they knew - from her childhood and lifelong friendship with Sam, to a terrifying health scare at 21, marriage and motherhood, and the postnatal depression that almost broke her. An emotional conversation about losing yourself, asking for help and slowly finding your way back.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After one innocent joke went viral, the internet had plenty to say! We read some of the wildest comments, talk about what happens when your content suddenly reaches the wrong crowd, and why Rach briefly put her Instagram on private.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Fresh from a therapy session, Katie unpacks a pretty huge realisation: after losing her radio job, she didn’t just leave the career behind she almost convinced herself it never counted. Katie and Rach talk self worth, imposter syndrome, making ourselves smaller and why women can find it so bloody hard to own their success.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Katie shares the unexpected chemist visit that left her questioning everything, while Rach admits how one innocent conversation during a photoshoot triggered all her insecurities. From ageing and dry skin to hairy knees and the pressure to look forever young!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of Who Even Are We?, Katie and Rachel are joined by resilience coach and mental health educator Luke Evans to explore the powerful concept of parenting your inner child. Together, they unpack how past experiences influence the way we think, feel and respond, and why learning to become your own compassionate inner parent can transform your mental wellbeing, relationships and resilience. From overcoming self criticism and understanding trauma to building practical tools for emotional regulation, Luke shares simple, actionable strategies for navigating life's challenges with greater self-awareness and kindness. If you've ever felt like your own worst critic, this conversation will help you understand why and how to start changing that. If you'd like connect with Luke and the work he does head to www.emotivework.com or contact him on Instagram @lukeevans_See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

One TV appearance sparked a huge argument at home. Katie shares why Meghan Markle's MasterChef guest spot left her frustrated, while Rach and her brother Luke weigh in on royal titles, media strategy, and the never-ending fascination with Harry and Meghan.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever looked at your relationship or friendships and wondered, have we grown apart… or have I just grown? This week we're diving into what happens when one person starts doing the work -therapy, healing, building confidence and rediscovering themselves while the other seems happy to stay exactly where they are. We chat about resentment, self-worth, jealousy, parenting, friendships and why putting yourself first isn't selfish. It's an honest conversation about growth, change and whether love can evolve with you.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dogs in prams. Cats in backpacks. Emotional support animals on planes. Somewhere along the way, something changed... but is it for the better? Are we doing this for our pets... or for ourselves?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Halfway through the year is the perfect time to pause, reset and refocus. In this episode, Katie and Rachel share how they're re-evaluating their goals for the next six months without the pressure of trying to change everything at once. From health and friendships to career, confidence and self worth, they explore how small, realistic habits can create lasting change. Plus, they challenge each other with one surprisingly difficult question: What do you actually like about yourself?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After using ChatGPT to diagnose everything from a UTI to future proof careers, Katie and Rach ask whether AI is making life easier or quietly taking over. They unpack their growing reliance on it, fears about jobs and the future, and why it may be time to start asking bigger questions.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode we unpack the growing fear that AI is replacing real jobs, real creativity, and even real human connection. From legal letters and podcast scripts to driverless cars, robot massages and AI relationships, what happens when convenience starts making our brains and our humanity redundant?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this bonus episode of Who Even Are We?, we reveal the last five things we Googled - and let’s just say, the search history tells a story. From everyday life admin to bizarre late night questions and unexpected confessions haha.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode we explore ancestral trauma, family patterns, and the emotional weight passed down through generations. Rach reflects on motherhood, career, grief, and the lessons she wants to break before they reach her daughters, while Katie opens up about adoption, identity, and the stories we inherit without even knowing it. Together, they ask: what parts of our family line do we keep, and what can we finally choose to.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode we are unpacking stalkers, unwanted attention and the bizarre ways some people mistake obsession for romance. From Katie’s radio days, when a listener’s behaviour became serious enough for police involvement, to Rach’s unsettling encounter overseas, we share the stories that are funny now but definitely weren’t at the time.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode we ask the big life question: how long is too long to keep your undies, bras, pyjamas and everything else hiding in the top drawer? From ancient wedding jocks to grey granny undies, old sports bras, mystery stockings and the “not clean but not dirty” chair - the things we probably should have thrown out years ago.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Katie shares the wild story of a night out in London that unexpectedly turned into a private “afterparty” with Hollywood actor Christian Slater before one jaw dropping comment sent her and her friend straight for the exit.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When was the last time you sat in silence without reaching for your phone or finding another job to do? In this episode, we unpack why boredom feels so uncomfortable, the pressure to always be productive, and how slowing down could help us reconnect with creativity, rest and the little things happening around us.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Katie reveals how she’s managed to miss multiple flights, including one unforgettable incident involving an airport bathroom, while Rach shares the very different travel personalities that make flying so stressful.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode we chat about the little things we’ve quietly let go of with age - nightclubs, uncomfortable clothes, people pleasing, loud music, fake tan, diet culture and replying to texts straight away. We look a little deeper into whether getting older means becoming more yourself, or losing little parts of who you used to be.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode we get passionately petty about the little things we feel far too strongly about - from paying for parking, long emails and self-service checkouts, to pineapple on pizza, splitting the bill, airport wine and whether you actually wash your legs in the shower.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode we unpack what it means to step away from constant hustle - from work guilt and phone boundaries to the mental load of motherhood, productivity pressure, and finding small ways to make life feel easier. It’s a funny, honest chat about craving freedom, flexibility, and a little more breathing room.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode we sit down with sex worker Carly Electric for a raw, funny and surprisingly emotional conversation about life in the sex industry. Carly opens up about escorting, OnlyFans, intimacy, lonely clients, safety, boundaries, NDIS clients, the cost-of-living impact on sex work, and why leaving the industry can be harder than people think.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Katie and Rach dive into the big, weird questions of life - the universe, belief, manifestation, aliens, dreams, death, purpose and whether everything happens for a reason. It’s a funny, honest and unexpectedly deep chat about taking the blinkers off, questioning what we’ve been told, and trying to live more fully in the short time we have.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this bonus episode we get honest about social media, doom scrolling, unfollow guilt, comparison traps, likes, ads and why an app can still mess with your head in your forties. And when is it time for a little social media cull?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, we’re talking about death — the thing we all know is coming but somehow never really know how to talk about. From cremation vs burial, living wakes, signs from loved ones, fear of the unknown, and what changes once you become a parent, we go deep, get emotional, and somehow still manage to laugh about funeral songs, ashes, champagne, croissants and headstandsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this bonus episode of Who Even Are We, we take on one of life’s most unexpectedly divisive topics: picking up after your dog. From proud poo-bag swingers to community Facebook vigilantes and the awkward moment your dog chooses the worst possible place to go!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode we get honest about the never-ending world of beauty maintenance. From Botox, brows and box dye to laser, nails, nose hair and the guilt of spending money on yourself, we unpack the things women feel pressured to do, the treatments we swear by, and the beauty trends we just don’t understand. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode we get honest about aging, beauty standards, plastic surgery, grey hairs, sagging skin, social media filters and the pressure to “age gracefully.” From nose jobs and boob jobs to skincare, sea moss and the things we obsess over in the mirror, but wanting to feel confident while also learning to be kinder to ourselves.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode we talk about the strange, emotional and sometimes freeing stage of life when kids start to leave home. After years of being needed, organising everyone and building life around the family, what happens when the house gets quieter? We unpack identity, purpose, guilt, freedom, relationships and the big question so many parents face: who am I now?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why is it that as we get older we don't enjoy going as much or being in large groups? Once upon a time we loved to socialise and now we like to be at home!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode we talk about our 20-year-old selves and how, although we wish we looked like we did back then, it's taken a long time to realise our self-worth. Katie admits she feels sad for her 20-year-old self and reveals something she never thought she would share.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Katie decided to take her kids on a day out in the city to ride Lime scooters, but it didn't quite go to plan!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode we chat about the things we worry about - which, as females and Mum's feels like EVERYTHING! There are techniques we use that we want to share to help our fellow worryers! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode Katie has researched Cortisol and has some interesting information to share around fasting and how we should be eating as women in our 40's.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode we chat about the work we need to do on our own self esteem to equip us with parenting teenagers because it's a wild ride that can do terrible things for our confidence! From being a team to feeling like the odd one out in the household and always the bad guy struggling to get through, we get really honest.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode we discuss 3 different acts of kindness and how Katie made hers more about herself!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As Mum's we tend to carry the mental load but is it because our brains are wired differently?? And why do we feel guilt over asking for help? In this episode we chat what we do v what we should be doing!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode we chat about the jobs that could soon be taken by AI. Katie has 2 examples of using AI instead of going to the GP but Rach is NOT convinced!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We've both watched the show and have our own takes on the controversial Louis Theroux: Inside the Manosphere show on Netflix! Why we think the men are nothing but salesmen and our concern for the girls.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode we are Joined from Los Angeles by Evidential / psychic / trance medium Barbra Banner to chat about connecting with spirits, the messages that come through and how to trust the signs. You can connect with Barbra at www.bannermedium.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Rach spends a lot of time researching what we do and don't need, and Katie wastes a lot of money on what she sees on Instagram that she thinks she needs. So what should we be taking that won't break the bank??See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode we chat about jobs and Rach changing her career in her 40's. Also when you lose your job, who are you left with? We unpack identity loss, Katie’s “fallen star” moment after radio, and the harsh reality of fair-weather friends when the spotlight fades.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.