Podcasts about mental load

Do you ever walk into a room and forget why you're there—because your brain is juggling 35 invisible tabs at once?In Episode 302 of Her Home and Heart, we're unpacking the mental and emotional load that so many Christian homeschool moms silently carry. From constant planning to managing emotions, homeschool, meals, and life—it's no wonder we feel exhausted. I'll walk you through how to recognize the signs of cognitive overload, how to dump and delegate what's weighing you down, and how to create flexible rhythms that work with your season—not against it.

Snag Our Simplified Budget System!This episode is a ride through the real-life money moments we see in coaching all the time. From the confusion around bankruptcy payments to finally feeling not broke even when you're actually doing great—this one's full of eye-openers.We're pulling back the curtain on our coaching sessions to walk you through what's really going on behind the numbers. Because if our clients are struggling with it, chances are you might be too.Here's what we get into:

With this being a holiday weekend, we invite you to relisten to one of our most listened to episodes! We had so much positive feedback when this episode went live since it was one of the first times we had a male perspective on the podcast. If you haven't listened yet, it's a great alternate perspective and a great one to pass along to your male partners! Our guest, Eli Weinstein, is a dad of two and a psychotherapist that isn't afraid to give it to people straight. He has an honest, blunt, but always kind style. Eli has been working as a therapist for over eight years and shares some of the struggles he has faced since becoming a dad, including his perspective as a dad going through loss and infertility.As women, we often ask ourselves if dads ever feel the same weight of the mental load. Eli shares his perspective on this and what advice he has for women who are feeling the mental load burden. We cover the topic of postpartum mood disorders in men, what it's like to be the starting player versus the bench warmer in parenthood, and how we have to be able to switch on and off as the preferred parent even when our children aren't as comfortable with it. We hope that by revisiting this episode, you hear a new piece of wisdom to take away. Or, if you're new and hearing this for the first time, we hope you find this episode just as helpful as we did! And don't forget to share this with your partner!Links & Resources:30% off your first order of Cornbread Hemp using code ‘HERSELF'Free sample pack with purchase of LMNTFollow Eli Weinstein Instagram Eli's WebsiteListen to Eli's Podcast: The Dude Therapist PodcastLet's connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastJoin our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Contingency planning (Amazon Affiliate) is second nature for first responders—but constantly living in "what if" mode comes at a cost. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the mental load of always having a backup plan—and how it affects decision-making, relationships, and long-term emotional health.

Whether you're in the early days of parenting or years into raising kids, this conversation is going to speak to your heart. Dr. Joanna Parga-Belinkie, neonatologist, pediatrician, and mom of three, joins me to talk about what babies really need from us (hint: it's not perfection), how those early moments of connection matter more than we realize, and why the same emotional tools that build strong bonds with our kids also strengthen our marriages. This episode is full of warmth, wisdom, and truth, and I know you're going to feel so seen and encouraged by it. Tune in to discover: What truly helps your baby feel safe, loved, and connected from day one Why bonding is about showing up consistently, not getting it “right” How your relationship with your baby lays the foundation for all future relationships The powerful overlap between parenting and marriage connection A new way to think about missed moments (and why it's never too late to reconnect) This is the episode every new parent (and honestly, every human) needs to hear. And if you know someone who's expecting or in the thick of new parenthood, send it their way. It's also a beautiful conversation about what makes connection last—for our children and for ourselves.   Connect with Joanna: Purchase her book! https://a.co/d/8wykSfW Website: https://www.jpbelinkiemd.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jopargalinkiemd/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joanna-parga-57133923/ Connect with Lindsay: FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids  

Today, I'm talking about something every working mom knows too well: the mental load. You know—that invisible checklist running nonstop in your brain? After a full month of birthdays, family visits, and a DIY deck project (yes, really), I found myself wide awake at 5am, completely overwhelmed. So I decided to record an episode about it. I'm breaking down what the mental load really is, the 3 biggest lies we believe about it, and the exact 4-step process I teach my clients to finally feel some breathing room again. If your brain feels like it has 47 open tabs and no off switch—this one's for you. Topics in this episode:What the mental load actually is (and why it's more than just to-dos) Why common solutions (like quitting your job) won't fix it 3 myths that keep working moms stuck in overwhelm The exact 4-step process I teach clients to manage the mental load How managing your thoughts gives you your time and joy back Show Notes & References:You can watch this episode on YouTube! Check it out by clicking here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPZA5JKXYxjCMqodh4wxPBg Book a free breakthrough call here: https://www.rebeccaolsoncoaching.com/book Learn more about Ambitious & Balanced here: www.rebeccaolsoncoaching.com/ambitiousandbalanced The Daily Kickstart (Free Tool): www.ambitiousandbalanced.com/daily-kickstart Enjoying the podcast?Make sure you don't miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or where ever you listen to podcasts.Leave a rating and review in Apple Podcasts or Podchaser.

Have you ever felt overwhelmed in your relationships or struggled with the mental load? If yes, this episode is a must-listen! In this episode, Dr. Morgan Cutlip, an Enneagram 9 and author of the new book, A Better Share reveals how understanding her Enneagram type has shaped her approach to relationships, especially with her husband, who is a Type 3. We explore the dynamics of their relationship, including the challenges of maintaining connection while navigating the complexities of life and parenting. Morgan shares her journey of reclaiming her voice and agency, which is particularly resonant for those of us who identify with the steady, reliable nature of the Enneagram 9. One of the key topics we discuss is the concept of the "mental load"—the invisible tasks and emotional labor that often fall disproportionately on women in relationships. Morgan provides practical insights on how couples can tackle this load together, fostering a more equitable partnership that leads to less resentment and greater fun! Here are a few highlights from the episode: The importance of understanding your partner's Enneagram type to improve communication and connection. How to navigate feelings of resentment and the need for appreciation in relationships. Strategies for creating a more balanced share of responsibilities at home. Whether you're a 9, a 3, or any other type, this episode offers valuable insights that can help you strengthen your relationships and enhance your emotional well-being. As always, thank you for being a part of the Typology community. 

Does sex feel like a chore to you? According to 86% of our audience? Yes. Maybe sex doesn't feel great. Maybe it it's more about your partner getting their needs met than you. Maybe it's just started to feel like another thing to check off your list. But maybe the issue isn't sex at all. Maybe it's that you're carrying too much — between the keeping the household running (and kind of clean), parenting logistics, and the weight of every single thing it takes to adult… It's not that sex is a chore: it's that chores are sabotaging your sex life! In this episode, we're breaking down how mental load affects desire, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction (spoiler alert: a lot more than you think). And of course, we're sharing practical tools to help lighten the load and bring the connection back.

Ever feel like feeding your family is a full-time job no one sees?In this episode, I'm unpacking the mental load behind feeding kids—especially picky eaters—and how much of your day is consumed by invisible decisions before anyone even sits down to eat. From meal planning, grocery runs, and anticipating meltdowns, to managing emotions (yours and theirs), it's […] The post The Invisible Work of Feeding a Family [The Mental Load] appeared first on Nutrition for Littles.

Today, we're diving into the invisible but exhausting reality of the mental load—the constant thinking, planning, and remembering that so many moms carry daily. You'll learn what the mental load really is, why it feels so heavy, and how to begin lightening it through six practical, mindset-shifting steps. From redefining your household standards to sharing responsibilities more effectively and reclaiming your recovery time, this episode offers a powerful reset for any mom who feels like she's always on. You don't have to carry it all—and this is your starting point for feeling lighter, clearer, and more at peace.If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

On This Episode:THE MENTAL LOAD FOLLOW-UPI heard from several of you on the "mental load." I have some clarifying thoughts.COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGEThat Mental Load discussion led me to recognize that communication in marriage is fundamental to healthy marriages. I have some pitfalls I've seen and some helpful tips.A COUPLE CHURCH THOUGHTSWhy are worship thoughts so long?How does a church recognize holidays like Memorial Day?

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!If you're raising littles, you know exactly what it means to be touched out.In this episode, I am joined by Molly Ryden from Mommy Needs Me Time and we discuss the concept of being 'touched out'—the physical and emotional exhaustion that parents, especially mothers, often experience.Tune in to hear Molly discuss the causes and effects of being constantly touched by children and how it can impact your mental health and marriage and what you can do to support yourself whenever you reach that point so that it doesn't have to negatively impact your most important relationships anymore.Connect with Molly!IG: @mamaneeds.metimehttps://www.mamaneedsmetime.com/Join Molly's Mom Squad: https://www.mamaneedsmetime.com/mom-squadThank you for listening!If you resonated with this episode and you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarityConnect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

In today's episode of the podcast, we're doing something a bit different. This episode features a course from my new company, Not Boring CEs (don't worry - Abundance isn't going anywhere).  At Not Boring CEs, we offer an engaging way to earn your asynchronous continuing education credits without sacrificing enjoyment. You can listen to the training sessions on the go through the Not Boring CEs podcast (available on all major podcast platforms) or watch the video content before completing the required CE quiz and evaluation to receive your certificate. Here are a few more of my favorite on-demand CEs that you can access right now: “Harry Potter & Trauma Renegotiation” with Kellie Hayes, LPC “Evidence-Based Treatment for OCD" with Beth Brawley, LPC “Headache Psychology” with Emily Foxen-Craft, PhD, LP As a special offer to all of our podcast listeners, you can receive a $50 discount by using the coupon code ABUNDANCE. Join us today and never be bored by continuing education again! To learn more about today's featured guest, Maggie Holland, visit https://www.abundancepracticebuilding.com/blog. To learn more about Not Boring CEs, visit https://notboringces.com/. 

Have you ever found yourself prepping everything before you leave the house—or swooping in to “just fix it” when your partner handles a parenting moment differently than you would? It might feel helpful or necessary in the moment, but over time, it can quietly erode your partnership and leave you feeling more like a manager than a teammate. In this episode, I'm breaking down the hidden cost of stepping in too often, why it happens (hint: it's not just about your spouse), and how you can begin to shift this pattern in a way that benefits everyone in your family. This isn't about blame—it's about awareness, relief, and building the kind of marriage where you feel held, supported, and safe to let go a little. Tune in to discover: The deeper reasons why moms step in, even when they don't want to What stepping in too often teaches your partner (and why it's not helping) The emotional weight of always being “on” and how it builds resentment The powerful mindset shift that helped me finally stop doing it all Conversations that build real partnership instead of more to-do lists   Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

May is notoriously a busy month for moms. From end-of-the-year events and the flood of school emails, it's not surprising so many of us hit our breaking points. In this episode of Electric Ideas, Whitney opens up about the emotional toll of trying to juggle it all and the weight of being everything for everyone. It's a compassionate reminder that being busy isn't always a badge of honor—it can be a quiet cry for help.   Whitney takes us back to a season in her life that looked ideal from the outside, but felt overwhelming from the inside. She reflects on the lessons she learned the hard way about boundaries, burnout, and the unrealistic pressure to prove her worth after becoming a mom. She encourages us to prioritize not just self-care, but soul-care. You'll also learn about her simple yet powerful tool called “Align, Yes, Filter,” designed to help you protect your peace and say yes with intention.     If May seems like a mental and emotional whirlwind, you aren't alone. This episode offers a grounding moment to reconnect with yourself so you can stop running on autopilot and start showing up for yourself, too.   Here's what you can look forward to in this episode:  The chaos of May for moms  Personal story of struggling to balance work and motherhood  The journey to self-care and alignment  Self-care and soul-care tips for moms  Aligned, Yes, Filter - Making conscious choices  Reflection question to ponder:  What's one simple nourishing thing I could do this week just because it brings me joy?   Calling Her In: 10 Soulful Journaling Prompts to Connect with Your Future Self   Join the waitlist for the next round of Season to Shift starting Fall 2025   Connect with Whitney: Instagram l Website l 5 Days to Less Stress, More Satisfaction l Tend to Your Soul Toolkit l Electric Ideas Podcast

Today on the podcast, we are honored to have relationship expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip on to talk all about sharing the mental load as mothers and some tangible tips on how to do so. Transitioning from committed partners or a married couple to parents of young children can come with seemingly never ending to-do lists and a lot of emotions. Sharing the mental load of household tasks, schedules, expectations, and more by having open and honest conversations with our spouse can help prevent feelings of resentment and keep you feeling connected. Dr. Morgan shares with us that weekly family meetings foster closeness and can create positive shifts in your relationship, like increased intimacy and a more enjoyable time in the bedroom! We know that after having babies, some women feel uncomfortable in their new bodies. Dr. Morgan shares some encouraging words about how to shift the mindset to how powerful your body is after baby!If you enjoyed listening to this episode, we would love it if you could share it to your Instagram stories and tag us, @drmorgancutlip and @expectingandempowered. As we like to say, knowledge is power, and we just really want to give more people the information that they may need on their motherhood journey!Follow Dr. Morgan Cutlip on InstagramDr. Morgan's WebsiteOrder Dr. Morgan's new book, “A Better Share”Links & ResourcesExpecting and Empowered App - Enter code 'PODCAST25' at checkoutExpecting and Empowered WebsiteExpecting and Empowered InstagramThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Can a neurodiverse marriage actually work when communication constantly breaks down? If you've ever felt like you and your partner are speaking two different languages—especially in an autism or ADHD relationship—this episode is for you. Stephanie & Dan Holmes share how they redefined their roles at home, and used coaching to rebuild connection, reduce resentment, and finally feel like a team again.

Balancing parenting, finances, household duties, co-parenting, and emotional support as a single mum can feel overwhelming. This week, we're diving into practical strategies to lighten the mental load and reclaim your energy. From routines to mindfulness, discover how to navigate the chaos with greater ease and peace of mind. Links mentioned in the episode:  Click HERE to download the free guide accompanying this episode and get practical tips to lighten your daily responsibilities and create a calmer, more manageable routine. Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

Motherkind Moment is your place for calm and connection and a shift in perspective before the week ahead.  This week we're joined by New York Times bestselling author, Eve Rodksy, who tells us about her system of balancing domestic responsibilities. She highlights the difference between how men and women look at tasks and offers her gamified approach - guaranteed to reduce friction and frustration in your home! For more powerful insights from Eve Rodsky listen to the full episode here: ⁠The new game-changing solution for when you have too much to do⁠ Click Here to order your copy of 'Motherkind: A New way to thrive in a world of endless expectations' Motherkind is sponsored by Wild Nutrition, the brand raising the bar for women's supplements. Want to feel the Food-Grown difference yourself? Get 50% off for three months at wildnutrition.com/motherkind. Ts and Cs apply. For a £100 sponsored job credit visit Indeed.com/ Motherkind Get 40% off a Calm premium subscription at calm.com/motherkind This show is sponsored by FreePrints. Download the Free Prints app for iPhone and Android from the App store or Google Play or visit freeprints.co.uk. Continue the Conversation: Join our community over on Instagram for inspiration, tips, and sometimes a bit of humour to get us through our day - @zoeblaskey Join our mailing list to receive news, updates and new episode releases Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you sometimes feel like, even after years of marriage, your partner still doesn't know how to love you in the way you truly need? In this episode, I'm opening up about a pivotal shift in my own relationship—one that completely changed the way I felt seen, loved, and supported in my marriage.   If you've ever found yourself wishing your partner could understand your needs without you having to constantly explain them, or if you've felt the slow burn of resentment building, this episode will speak directly to your heart. Tune in to discover: Why feeling unloved doesn't mean your marriage is broken What needed to shift in me before I could ever expect change in him The quiet ways resentment builds (and how I stopped it) How I helped my spouse understand the kind of love I actually needed What changed when I stopped dropping hints and started being clear Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

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Welcome back to The Postpartum Plan podcast! In this episode, I'm joined by Paige Connell as we dive into Gender Equity & The Mental Load.Tune in to hear:

Welcome back to another episode of The Becoming Podcast, all! I'm delighted to bring you my conversation with writer Cindy DiTiberio today.  I've been following Cindy's work on her Substack, The Mother Lode, for quite a while now, and I know you're going to love our conversation.  So many of my clients and the women I connect with are experiencing – or thinking about – the end of their intimate partnerships, and I think Cindy's wisdom will really resonate with you.  This episode is especially for you if it's your transition into motherhood that has instigated a reckoning in your relationship.   Here's some of what we talked about in our conversation: > How MDMA therapy helped Cindy know that she needed to leave her marriage. > What so often happens to relationships when a couple has a baby.  We talk about everything from sex to paternity leave to caregiving and the mental load. > The feeling of being trapped by oppressive systems of capitalism and patriarchy and how heterosexual couples often end up in traditional, gendered roles without ever intending to.  We talk about the role of internalized patriarchy, the devaluing of women's time, and how both Cindy and I (and so many other mothers we know) ended up squeezing our full time work into part time hours so we could also be primary caregivers. > How personal growth journeys – whether that's into deeper spiritual paths or into a feminist awakening – can cause couples to drift apart. > How the pandemic awakened our culture to the many ways modern hetero partnership has failed women and mothers.   I think you're going to love my conversation with Cindy.  I think it's so relatable for so many of us who are mothering and perhaps grappling with how to navigate our relationships, whether they're ending or evolving.  

This episode is all about priming your mind and relationship for great sex.  Years ago, Dr. Morgan Cutlip, who is my guest on this episode today, made her first appearance on my podcast, (and if you want to listen to it, it's episode number 50). What she taught me then about the mental load made a deep impression on me. The mental load as it's often called, is this invisible, never ending to-do list, that is usually carried more by the wives than husbands in marriages, even if both spouses are working. It is the ever present mental load of things that are still works in progress that occupy the back of our mind. Not surprisingly, the mental load issue carries its effects into the intimate relationship, and this is what we get to explore today in depth on today's episode with Dr. Morgan Cutlip. I read her recently published book called A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load For More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex. We especially get to explore the great sex portion of her book in this episode. :-) I hope you enjoy this episode with Dr. Morgan Cutlip! *** Our team has put together a great resource to help you tackle the mental load in your relationship! And it's on sale for the month of May. Check it out! As always, if you're looking for help to take your marriage to the next level, check out our Get Your Marriage Program. Let us help you be the next success story!   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

When was the last time you just called a friend because you wanted to talk?We carry these super computers in our pockets, but sometimes, using them to stay in touch feels more complicated than ever. There are some people we can ring spontaneously. Others require multiple rounds of scheduling.This episode is about the gap between wanting to stay connected and actually doing it. Today's guest Mark Houghton, doesn't just relate to this problem; he decided to solve it by creating the SoonCall app, which tracks connections and reminds you when it's time to reach out. Here, Mark and I dive into the complexities of staying in touch. What I love most about our conversation? Mark has normalized something we've all been feeling guilty about: the mental load of maintaining modern friendships, and how some of us need a little extra help.Intrigued by SoonCall? Mark has created a special offer for Friendship IRL listeners with six months of free access to SoonCall pro. In this episode you'll hear about:How the SoonCall app was created out of Mark's own personal need to manage long-distance friendshipsFeatures of SoonCall, from tracking calls to reminding us of birthdays and important datesHaving open conversations with our friends about how they feel about different kinds of connection, including spontaneous callsUsing SoonCall and other tools as ways to support (not replace!) personal interactionsThe exclusive SoonCall offer for Friendship IRL listeners: six months of free access to SoonCall ProResources & LinksMore on friendship goals: listen to Episode 23, where I talked about my personal friendship goals, or Episode 60, where I dive into why friendship goals matter and how to make them.Be sure to read Good Friends: Bonds That Change Us and the World by Priya Vulchi and her first book, Tell Me Who You Are: Sharing Our Stories of Race, Culture, and Identity, which she wrote with Winona Guo.Like what you hear? Visit my website, leave me a voicemail, and follow me on Instagram and TikTok!Want to take this conversation a step further? Send this episode to a friend. Tell them you found it interesting and use what we just talked about as a conversation starter the next time you and your friend hang out!

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!If you feel like the only way you can get more partnership in the home is by nagging, this episode is for you!In this episode, I am addressing the all so relatable challenge of how to get more partnership without having to resort to nagging. Turns out, nagging is not at all effective and can actually cause more harm than good so tune in to hear me share practical strategies for initiating productive conversations, managing expectations, and creating a balanced household dynamic.Thank you for listening!If you resonated with this episode and you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarityConnect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

Let's be real, you're not just juggling work and motherhood. You're carrying the mental load too: remembering school events, buying birthday presents, packing lunches, and keeping everything (and everyone) running smoothly. It's invisible. It's exhausting. And it's not sustainable. From the silent stress to the constant remembering, planning, and doing, it's no wonder we feel like we're running on empty. In this podcast I cover: What the mental load really is, and how it quietly burns us out The default parent trap (yep, you probably know it well) A powerful 4-step strategy to lighten the mental load and reset your home life How to shift from martyr mode to shared responsibility - without the guilt This isn't about doing more, it's about doing less and sharing more. You deserve support. You deserve to breathe. So if you've been carrying it all and wondering why you're so tired this episode is for you.     Show links Follow Working Mumma on Instagram @workingmummacommunity Sign up for the Working Mumma newsletter  Get your free 'How to share the mental load' checklist workingmumma.com.au/mental-load/ Connect with Carina on LinkedIn    

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Do you ever feel the weight of an invisible to-do list burdening your relationship? In this illuminating episode, Rebekah and Gabe Lyons welcome Dr. Morgan Cutlip, psychologist and author of "A Better How: Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex." Dr. Cutlip breaks down how the mental load—that seemingly endless list of tasks, responsibilities, and emotional calculations we carry—affects intimacy and connection in marriage.Dr. Cutlip explains the three domains of tasks that make up the mental load (physical, mental, and emotional labor) and why women typically carry a disproportionate share in home and family life. She offers practical insights on how couples can better understand each other's needs when it comes to sex and connection, including the differences between spontaneous and responsive desire. The conversation reveals how scheduling intimacy, creating margin for emotional connection, and practicing appreciation can transform a relationship from resentment to joy.Whether you're struggling with a relational rut or simply want to deepen your connection, this episode provides actionable steps for fighting for your marriage by tackling the mental load together. As Rebekah and Gabe honestly share from their own journey, you'll be encouraged that healing and growth are possible when we understand each other more deeply.Order The Fight for Us:https://a.co/d/aJehu4fJoin the Marriage May Challenge:https://www.rebekahlyons.com/marriagemayRegister for the Marriage & Parenting Retreat:November 20-21, 2025 at https://www.rebekahlyons.com/retreatParticipate in the THINQ resource, Let's Talk Relationships: https://events.thinqmedia.com/relationships

In today's episode, I go in depth into one of my favorite topics... mental load. Is the problem really mental load/emotional labor? What is underneath this convenient trope in many couples that I see? Often depression, anxiety, ADHD, codependency, and enabling. Great episode if you hate the term "mental load"... even greater if you love it but want to interrogate that love a little more in case it's covering up things that you would benefit from thinking harder about!Follow me on Substack!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@drpsychmom1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "The Random Couple Reframe: How To Gain Objectivity About Your Belief System."For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or life coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/

39. If you ever thought, "It'll get easier when they get older," think again. This Mother's Day, we're diving into the mental gymnastics of parenting—from toddler tantrums to college applications—and how sharing the load can be your saving grace.In this episode, I share my personal journey of navigating the college application process with my daughter, Iris, and how my husband, Mike (aka "my guy"), and I have learned to co-parent effectively by job sharing the mental load. We'll explore practical ways to apply job sharing principles at home, especially during the chaotic month of May—affectionately dubbed "Mayday!"—filled with end-of-school activities, tests, and graduations.Plus, we'll uncover what moms really want for Mother's Day (hint: it's not flowers) and how everyone can pitch in to give Mom the gift of shared responsibility.Here's What You'll Learn:The concept of job sharing at home and how it can alleviate parental stress.How my husband and I co-parented our daughter through the college application to acceptance process, perhaps as hands-on on toddler days!What is Lead Parenting and how can this pitch-and-catch concept help me?Strategies to manage "Mayday" madness—the end of school countdown!—with shared responsibilities4 stats on what moms truly desire for Mother's Day (that might surprise you) Links Mentioned:Fair Play by Eve RodskyThe Double Shift substack by Katherine Goldstein Grab The Work Muse Guide to Job Sharing  ✅More from Me:Join Work Muse Facebook Community: Job Share Live Life + Slay Work ✅DM me on LinkedInEpisode Website: workmuse.com/39Transcript hereSend Melissa a Text Message.RATE, REVIEW & FOLLOW ON APPLE PODCASTS Thank you for supporting my bootstrapped social good business and mission! “I love Melissa and Jobshare Revolution.”

Have you ever asked yourself: "Why can't I just stop overthinking?" "Is this constant worrying normal for men?" "How can I quiet the noise in my head and be more present?" If these questions keep you up at night, you're not alone. Today's conversation offers a lifeline to a calmer, more focused mind. Joining me is Dr. Jett Stone—a clinical psychologist, author, and fellow dad. His new book, Quiet Your Mind: A Men's Guide, unpacks the relentless mental loops of overthinking, worry, and rumination that so many of us experience. Dr. Jett Stone brings a wealth of knowledge to this crucial topic, explaining the science behind why our minds get stuck and how overthinking uniquely impacts men, often centering on our deepest concerns: our kids, our marriages, and our self-worth.   Become the best husband and leader you can: www.thedadedge.com/mastermind In this episode, we dig into: Why our minds won't let go of certain thoughts and the science behind rumination. How overthinking manifests specifically in men and the pressures that fuel it. Actionable, practical tools to quiet your mind without judgment, from micro-mindfulness moments to reframing self-talk. How harnessing creativity can be a surprising yet effective way to regulate your emotions. The importance of community and the barriers men face when seeking support for their mental struggles. Dr. Jett Stone's insights are crucial for any man who's ever felt trapped in their own head, struggling with worry and the constant mental noise. This episode will equip you with relatable strategies and a renewed sense of hope for a quieter, more present life. Let's jump in! www.thedadedge.com/525 www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.jettstonephd.com www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-souls-men www.instagram.com/flex.flexibility  

Mother's Day is supposed to be a celebration of moms—but for many of us, it just ends up highlighting how much we're carrying, how little help we're getting, and how unseen we feel most of the time. While the cards and flowers are sweet, they don't solve the deeper issue of the mental load so many moms are buried under. In this episode, I'm getting real about what's really going on beneath the surface, and why one day of appreciation isn't enough when you're carrying it all the other 364. I'll walk you through the steps I took to get out of resentment, build true partnership, and create a system where I feel supported every day—not just on Mother's Day.   Tune in to discover: Why the mental load is about way more than just household tasks What your heart is actually craving (and it's not a better gift) How to feel more emotionally supported by your spouse The difference between a “manager” and a true partner—and how to shift out of that role What to ask for when you're tired of holding it all alone   This episode is for every mom who feels like one day of celebration just isn't enough (because it's not). Let's create the kind of marriage and support system that makes every day feel like you matter. Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Are you constantly juggling your family's calendar and feeling the weight of the mental load? In this episode of The Parenting Reset Show, Tess Connolly, LCSW, talks with Jessica Etting, founder of Jam, the AI-powered family organization app designed to help parents of tweens and teens lighten their mental load and foster independence.They explore how Jam helps families:Centralize and simplify family schedulesEmpower kids and teens to manage their own activitiesTransition from parental “policing” to supportive partnershipImprove family communication and reduce stressJessica also shares how the Jam Family Calendar integrates with existing tools, protects privacy, and encourages responsibility in tweens and teens. If you're a busy parent looking for smarter ways to stay connected and get organized, this episode is a must-listen.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage02:23 Introducing Jam: The AI Family Organizer05:35 The importance of Organization in Family Life 07:59 Empowering Kids with Jam11:47 Enhancing Family Connectivity thorough Organization15:35 Transitioning from Policing to Partnership16:50 Integrating Family Calendars21:46 Managing Privacy and Personal Schedules24:57 Subscription and Accessibility of Jam Family Calendar28:05 Mental Load And Emotional Well-Being32:03 Gratitude and Family SupportFind out more about Jessica Etting's App Jam here

Ever been asked where the birthday candles are—or when your kid last went to the dentist—and realized YOU are the walking, talking family database?In this episode, we unpack the invisible, often unspoken labor of running a household and raising children: the mental load. We define what it actually is: not just doing the chores, but thinking about them, planning them, and carrying the responsibility if they don't get done. From remembering what jackets the kids need based on the weather to wondering if anyone's had protein today, we shine a light on the constant hum of logistics many parents—especially moms—carry. But instead of just venting, we invited a fresh perspective. Our guest, Nick, is a father who shares how he shows up, takes initiative, and helps shoulder the load in meaningful ways. Together, we explore: Why moms often become the “default parent” What shared responsibility can actually look like in practice Why some dads struggle to take initiative—and how they can learn The unseen mental load men may also carry, from finances to emotional pressure to provide We ask the big questions: Can we talk about the load without resentment? Can we build true partnership? And what are we teaching our kids through our choices? The mental load might not vanish—but it can be seen, shared, and named.  Plus, we read submissions from listeners about their own mental load moments. Let's get into it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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You're listening to the Best of VLM episode series featuring the most popular episodes of the Viva la Mami podcast!In this episode, we welcome Erika Milla, creator of Spanish En Casita, an online community for parents striving to raise bilingual children. As a dedicated mom raising bilingual kids, Erika shares how she's preserving Spanish at home.In our conversation, we dive into the mental and emotional struggles of bilingual parenting and the ups and downs of dual immersion programs. Erika also opens up about homeschooling her kids and gives tips for other parents on similar journeys. In addition, talk about the importance of community, cultural pride, and staying intentional in raising bilingual children.For full show notes, visit vivalamami.com/episode123Follow Erika Milla!Instagram: instagram.com/spanish.en.casitaFeeling overwhelmed by navigating cultural expectations and modern parenting as a Latina mom? Join Balanced Madrehood, Viva la Mami's signature coaching program designed to empower Latina moms to create a more balanced and fulfilling madrehood journey. Head over to vivalamami.com/balanced-madrehood to learn more!Love this episode? Subscribe wherever you are listening, share this episode with an amiga, and leave a review⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Apple podcasts.Follow Viva la Mami on Instagram @vivalamamiJoin the ⁠⁠⁠⁠Viva la Mami newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you won't miss a thing!Have a suggestion for an episode topic? Click HEREHave a suggestion for a guest? Click HEREVisit the Viva la Mami Websitewww.vivalamami.comHave questions or want to connect? Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠podcast@vivalamami.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

We would love to hear from you! Text us any feedback. The invisible weight of mental load is crushing marriages silently - creating resentment where there once was partnership. Continuing with a candid exploration of household management,I delve deeper into why the mental burden of maintaining a home can fall unevenly and how couples can recalibrate their approach through genuine connection.Drawing from Dr. Morgan Cutlip's groundbreaking book "A Better Share," I shares six practical strategies couples can implement to better distribute the mental workload, including the powerful practice of "overdosing on appreciation". TThe episode introduces John Gottman's ATTUNE framework as an essential tool for productive conversations around mental load: Attend with undivided attention, Turn Toward each other physically, Understand through questions rather than fixing, practice Non-defensive listening, and Empathize genuinely. This structured approach creates space for vulnerable discussions without defensiveness.We will explore how mental load distribution shapes children's future relationship templates. By establishing zone responsibilities, encouraging initiative-taking, and modeling healthy partnership, parents set their children up for balanced relationships. With the profound questions - "Would I want my children to marry someone who behaves as I do?" and "What skills do we want to instill in our children for healthy relationships?" - we can be challenged to examine how our current patterns influence generational outcomes.Ready to transform your home from a one-person show to a true partnership? Listen now to discover practical strategies that honor both partners' needs while creating a family culture where everyone contributes meaningfully to your shared life.JOIN ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA:Follow Along @ - https://www.instagram.com/nikkicronksmith/

Nadia Koski sits down with Dagmar Glow, ICF-certified Business and Mental Health Coach, in Part 2 of their interview talks that delves deeper into the critical topic of mental health, particularly in the workplace.They discuss the stigma surrounding mental health, signs of burnout, and how leaders can balance their responsibilities while maintaining their mental well-being. The conversation also touches on the concept of mental load, personal boundaries, and the challenges women face in leadership roles. Dagmar emphasizes the importance of recognizing signs of distress in colleagues and the need for self-awareness in managing one's own mental health. In this conversation, Dagmar Glow and Nadia explore the themes of perfectionism, unconscious bias, and the challenges women face in the workplace and during midlife transitions.They discuss the impact of gender bias, the importance of recognizing and addressing unconscious biases, and how midlife can be a time for reflection and change. The conversation emphasizes the need for women to align with their core values and embrace authenticity to find fulfillment in their lives.LINKS & RECSConnect with Dagmar GlowListen to Part 1 of the Mental Health conversation with Dagmar.Identify your Top 5 Personal Core Values (for free) with Dagmar's online quiz:The is fully anonymous, no personal data is collected: dagmarglow.comWatch our “Mental Health in a Digital Space” series with DagmarDeloitte Mental Health Report 2024Produced and Hosted by Nadia KoskiEngineered by Phil McDowellProject Lead Dennis KirschnerYou can contact the show at womenleadpodcast@the-digital-distillery.comor go to the website.Find us on LinkedIn, Facebook & Instagram

Feeling overwhelmed by the mental load of motherhood? You are not alone, and there is a better way. In this episode, relationship expert and psychologist Dr. Morgan Cutlip returns to the Doctor Mom Podcast to unpack what is really behind the mental load many moms carry and how it impacts your relationship, emotional health, and even your sex life. You will learn how to lighten the invisible to do list, communicate effectively with your partner without it turning into a blame game, and rebuild connection in a way that feels genuine and natural. Dr. Cutlip shares relatable stories, practical frameworks, and powerful mindset shifts that help moms move from resentment to reigniting the spark with their partners. We also explore the concept of intensive mothering and how the pressure to do everything perfectly is leaving many moms feeling exhausted and unseen. If you have ever felt like you are parenting alone, even in a partnership, or struggling to feel intimacy after becoming a mom, this episode offers a breath of validation and hope. Whether you are craving more connection, appreciation, or simply a lighter mental load, this is your invitation to create more balance in your relationship and reconnect with your sense of self. Do not miss this encouraging conversation filled with practical tools to help you reclaim your time, energy, and joy. Topics Covered In This Episode: The invisible load of motherhood How to reduce relationship resentment Reigniting intimacy after kids Sharing parenting responsibilities  Breaking free from intensive mothering Show Notes: Learn more about Morgan Order A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex   Follow @drmorgancutlip on Instagram Click here to learn more about Dr. Elana Roumell's Doctor Mom Membership, a membership designed for moms who want to be their child's number one health advocate! Click here to learn more about Steph Greunke, RD's Substack Mindset + Metabolism where women can learn how to nourish their bodies, hit their health and body composition goals, and become the most vibrant version of themselves.  Listen to today's episode on our website Dr. Morgan Cutlip is an author and relationship expert. With her down-to-earth style, she equips couples and individuals to tackle the trickiest relationship issues, offering fresh perspectives and empowering frameworks. She is experienced and trained in translating psychological theory and research into practical, accessible, and actionable advice, which she shares with her clients and social media followers (@drmorgancutlip) through her books, courses, podcast, and her blog as cofounder of MyLoveThinks.com. Dr. Morgan earned her master's in human development and family science and her doctorate in counseling psychology. She is the author of Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself and a mother of two incredible kids, wife of her high school sweetheart, and lifelong lover of all things relationship. Her latest book, A Better Share, will be available nationwide April 8, 2025. This Episode's Sponsors  Enjoy the health benefits of PaleoValley's products such as their supplements, superfood bars and meat sticks.  Receive 15% off your purchase by heading to paleovalley.com/doctormom  Discover for yourself why Needed is trusted by women's health practitioners and mamas alike to support optimal pregnancy outcomes. Try their 4 Part Complete Nutrition plan which includes a Prenatal Multi, Omega-3, Collagen Protein, and Pre/Probiotic. To get started, head to thisisneeded.com, and use code DOCTORMOM20 for 20% off Needed's Complete Plan! Active Skin Repair is a must-have for everyone to keep themselves and their families healthy and clean.  Keep a bottle in the car to spray your face after removing your mask, a bottle in your medicine cabinet to replace your toxic first aid products, and one in your outdoor pack for whatever life throws at you.  Use code DOCTORMOM to receive 20% off your order + free shipping (with $35 minimum purchase). Visit BLDGActive.com to order. INTRODUCE YOURSELF to Steph and Dr. Elana on Instagram. They can't wait to meet you! @stephgreunke @drelanaroumell Please remember that the views and ideas presented on this podcast are for informational purposes only.  All information presented on this podcast is for informational purposes and not intended to serve as a substitute for the consultation, diagnosis, and/or medical treatment of a healthcare provider. Consult with your healthcare provider before starting any diet, supplement regimen, or to determine the appropriateness of the information shared on this podcast, or if you have any questions regarding your treatment plan.

Talking about the Mental Load with Paige Connell is so helpful that we're sharing more. In part 2, Tabria + Paige tease out why telling moms to stay home instead of work doesn't lighten their systemically heavier Mental Loads, how an equitable home teaches children gender equality, the role race plays in the Mental Load, and why it's so important to brag about good male partners. Join the convo to find out how Paige's work (including her free guide!) equips people with effective tools + language to discuss sharing the Mental Load with partners, and why our country's affordable childcare crisis negatively impacts everyone, including the economy and paid family leave.Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode. Produced by Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you find yourself spiraling after a single comment, text message, or weird tone from your spouse—wondering what it meant, why it happened, and if your marriage is okay? If you've ever found yourself overanalyzing or panicking that you'll never feel truly loved or happy again, this episode is for you. I'm sharing exactly how I stopped freaking out about my marriage (yes, even when things feel hard!) and how you can too. This isn't about ignoring real issues. It's about building systems, tools, and a mindset that help you feel calmer, more secure, and able to respond in a way that creates the connection you're really craving. Tune in to discover: Why spirals and freakouts happen—and why they don't mean something is wrong with you or your marriage What I realized in one powerful moment that changed everything for how I show up in my relationship The mindset shift that keeps me grounded and out of panic-mode (even during conflict) The exact tools I use when I start to spiral—so I don't push my spouse away when I'm actually craving closeness How to create a system with your partner to get through tough moments together This episode will help you replace panic with peace—and feel more secure, connected, and loved in your marriage. Share it with a friend or partner who needs it too! Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids  

On This Episode:-What is the "mental load," and why are women on the internet complaining about it?-There's a brewing conflict on the Right that Jordan Peterson and Douglas Murray are bringing to light. I'll weigh in.-Owen Strachan with a good word on masculinity.

Have you ever wished you could just clone yourself to get it all done? Between the mental load, never-ending tasks, and the weight of invisible labor, it's no wonder so many moms are feeling burned out. But what if there was a better way to manage your household—and your energy? In this episode, I sit down with Hannah Morgan, entrepreneur, mom of three, and founder of Heron House Management—the first-ever virtual house management service. Hannah shares how her company is revolutionizing the way families handle daily logistics, projects, and mental overload by providing dedicated house managers who help anticipate, organize, and execute tasks before they pile up. We talk about what the mental load really looks like, why asking for help is a strength (not a weakness), and how breaking generational cycles around domestic responsibility starts with open communication, boundaries, and support. To find out more about Morgan, check out her links:  Facebook Instagram Website VIPs (Very Important Parents) Schedule a Free Coaching Call Now! Essential Minute | Motivate 

We would love to hear from you! Text us any feedback. Have you ever found yourself wondering how you spent an entire day feeling completely exhausted yet somehow accomplished "nothing"? The mental load you're carrying might be the answer, and you're not alone in feeling its weight.In this candid exploration of mental load, I dive into Dr. Morgan Cutlip's illuminating book "A Better Share" and unpack the hidden burden that many of us—especially mothers—carry silently every day. This isn't just about completing tasks; it's about the constant cognitive, physical, and emotional labor that goes into managing a household and caring for everyone within it.What exactly makes mental load so exhausting? It's the "triple threat" combination of cognitive tasks (the endless to-do lists), physical responsibilities (housework and errands), and emotional labor (managing everyone's feelings and needs) that creates an overwhelming burden. Research shows women typically shoulder all three simultaneously, while men primarily carry cognitive load concentrated in their work environment.The most revealing insight might be understanding what each partner truly needs. Women generally desire to be Pursued, Appreciated, and have a Reliable partner (PAR), while men typically seek Peace, Affection, and Respect (PAR). When mental load isn't shared effectively, both partners end up with unmet needs, creating cycles of resentment and disconnection.This conversation isn't about assigning blame—it's about recognizing a scientifically documented imbalance affecting countless relationships. By understanding mental load and learning to communicate about it honestly, we can create partnerships where both people feel seen, valued, and properly supported. Join me next week for practical strategies on managing mental load as a team and involving children appropriately in household responsibilities.A Better Share by Dr. Morgan Cutlip:https://amzn.to/4itJm6YJOIN ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA:Follow Along @ - https://www.instagram.com/nikkicronksmith/

The mental load in families isn't just about remembering school events or planning meals - it's an invisible, boundaryless, and enduring form of labour that impacts relationships, careers, and wellbeing. Join Professor Leah Ruppanner from the University of Melbourne as she unpacks groundbreaking research on how mental load affects modern families, why it's not just about task-sharing, and what couples can do to create more balance. Quote of the Episode: "The mental load is the emotional thinking work that we do to keep our households functioning." Key Insights: Women carry 71% of household mental load tasks. Mental load is invisible, boundary-less, and enduring. Both partners often duplicate mental load without realising. Schools generate nearly 3,000 WhatsApp messages per child annually. Men in equitable relationships report better health, sleep, and life satisfaction. Single parents (both mums and dads) share similar mental load levels. Work structures and social norms make it difficult for men to step into care roles. Mental load cannot be eliminated but can be better understood and managed. Resources Mentioned: Fair Play cards system Goldie app for managing school communications University of Melbourne research Misperceived podcast Professor Leah Ruppanner (@ProfLeah on Instagram) Action Steps for Parents: Start conversations about mental load without blame or past baggage. Consider how technology (like AI assistants) might help manage communications. Acknowledge both partners' different but equally valid mental burdens. Practice accepting help and taking breaks without guilt. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever feel like motherhood is a never-ending juggling act—and maybe just a tad unfair? Same. Paige Connell (aka @sheisapaigeturner) is in the house today and we're chatting the mental load of motherhood, gender inequality in marriage, and all the unspoken truths so many of us have felt but haven't quite found the words to say—until now. This conversation is raw, validating, and full of “YES, exactly!” moments. If you're a mom who's ever felt overwhelmed, under-supported, or just plain fed up, you're going to feel SO seen. And for our male listeners, this one's for you too! Want more from our guest this week? Instagram: @sheisapageturner FREE guide to the Mental Load Convo Fair Play Spreadsheet Want more from Sarah? Personal Instagram: @SarahMerrill_Hall Share some Laughs: @bigkidproblems Check out our new Show IG! @bottleserviceBKP Shop Sarah's Pregnancy/ Postpartum Must Haves on Amazon Shop Bottle Service MERCH!  Big thank you to our episode sponsor! Lume - Postpartum can stink, but you don't have to! Get 15% off with code BOTTLESERVICE at LumeDeodorant.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever feel like you’re holding it all together—barely? This episode of The Encourager Podcast dives into the invisible mental load that women often carry and how to lighten it without letting everything crash. Rebekah shares: A personal story of a stressful May launch (hello, Maycember!) Why invisible tasks like remembering school forms and food preferences matter 3 key strategies to reduce the load: Externalize it with a brain dump Delegate & automate Use pre-decided rhythms to save mental energy

You know something feels off in your marriage—but where do you even begin? When you're not fighting, but also not feeling close… when you're carrying the load and still feeling unseen… it can feel overwhelming to figure out what to do next. This episode answers one of the most common questions I hear: “Where do I start if I want things to change?” I'm breaking down where to focus your energy (especially if your partner isn't on board yet), and how just one shift can start bringing you back to a place of connection and support. Tune in to discover: What to stop focusing on when you want things to improve The mistake many couples make when they're feeling disconnected Where to start when your partner isn't doing their part Why your emotions are the key to reconnecting (yes, even the hard ones) The first step toward a marriage that feels more loving, supportive, and connected   If you've been stuck in “I don't know where to begin,” this episode will give you the clarity and encouragement to take that first powerful step forward.   Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Today, we had the pleasure of sitting down with relationship expert, wife and mom of two- Dr. Morgan Cutlip to chat about managing the mental load in marriage for more joy, less resentment, and deeper intimacy. All topics she covers in depth in her new book, A Better Share! This conversation was both eye-opening and encouraging. We gained valuable insights on recognizing unhealthy patterns in how we carry our mental loads, how to prevent the resentment from creeping into your marriage and how to keep your marriage playful and fun despite how long it's been! Let us know your thoughts in the comments