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We are not alone, reach out, this is what we hear but do others truly understand? Well we do not know unless we start that conversation with others. Others telling their stories helps ease the fears and concerns of judgement and rejection. Charlie has definitely done that. We talk about her story of mental health and how this has led her on a path of self discovery and within that discovery how she can help others. She has some excellent nuggets of wisdom, reflecting on how you must start with yourself and what you can control, that although reaching out is difficult and you may not understand why you feel the way you do, talking to others and finding support can make a real difference. Charlie also wanted to share a youtube video of how just listening to others can help all by itself. Because sometimes we don't want to be fixed, we just need to be heard. Thank you Charlie for taking the time to talk to me and tell your story, I enjoyed nattering with you. And thank you all for listening. Good day, Good brew. YouTube video. https://youtu.be/-4EDhdAHrOg Find Charlie on Instagram @charlie_red_x

Turning 38, closer to 40, gives me the desire to reflect. Coming from the viewpoint of what I expected at 38. A house, a car, wealth, health, a family. The funny thing is I have all of them but none are as I expected.  The markers we set are generally not set by us. They are the traditions and standards passed on, normally with care and the want for happiness but is it our happiness or what others envision happiness for us because what they were sold was happiness and being content in life.  Living my life backwards children first, then house, car and then career it's easier (not easy just easier) to see the flaws and the false advertising or at least feel it's not quite one size fits all. Your path can only be walked by you, which means it can only be forged by you. Yes, there's help along the way and others can teach you skills but the glass ceiling is up to you. Your best all you can do and it is enough for you. Do your best, until you know better, then do better.  Thank you for listening, Good day, good brew.  #mentalhealth #expectation #life

I woke up this morning and saw something that really made the penny drop.  Not being able to see the wood for the tree is a saying that invokes the concept of being lost yet, it's right in front of you. Something which is resonating with a lot of people close to me just lately and especially myself.  These ideas and targets we have for ourselves, our north stars, what happens when we don't reach them, or moreover what happens when we do? What then? What do we do next?  The blackhole we find ourselves in leaves us feeling lost without a sense of direction. Not knowing where to turn. What is the right path? What is our yellow brick road?  What we also need to remember is we are not alone when we feel lost. It is so easy to not want to put on others, to believe we are alone in what we are feeling but I can hand on heart say you are not. Sometimes all it takes is a listening ear.  We have our own answers but support and care and compassion can make it alittle easier. Those that are there for you will listen.  This podcast was inspired by a couple of people close to me, those that are around you can be your mirror and the love and care for them because of this can not be worded.  Thank you for listening, so much love to you all and if you need an ear and feel there is no one, I will do my best to be that.  Thank you agaoin, stay beautiful and good day, good brew.  #mentalhealth #lost

Starting with a big thank you. My last podcast saw a huge influx of listens and I can not be more grateful so many of you took the time to listen to my podcasts, old and new. I speak from the heart and somehow it's connecting with you. I appreciate you all. SPeaking of connecting... Purpose and connection.  Without them we feel lost. We need a goal to work towards, a north star. Purpose gives life meaning, yet meaning is an individual idea. What is meaning for one is pointless to another. Additionally, how we are connected to our own meaning is equally diverse.  Connection involves a magnitude of connotation. From friends, family, partners to a career, a possession or goal. They interlink and become harder to separate the more we engross ourselves in what matters to us.  Purpose involves connection but without connection there is no purpose.  Recently I have felt lost in the position of my north star and I wonder do we ever really know or does it change as we do? leading to the question I think we all face, what's next and what the hell am I doing.  Thank you for listening. Good day, good brew. #purpose #connection #mentalhealth

Something out of the blue can change your view.  A week ago I was taken to the hospital because they suspected I was having a heart attack. What it gave me was a change of heart. This was not some grant, near death experience where people see the error of their ways and change their life story like a movie. Fuck that romantised BS.  What it can make you realise is the support network you have. Who do you call and are you really as alone as you thought you once were.  Many tangents, so be warned. None of my podcasts are scripted or edited. From start to finish you get the full thought process of me speaking from my heart. Nothing fancy, just one yorkshire lass trying to connect with others over a brew.  What is personal is usually experienced generally.  Thank you for listening.  #mentalhealth #alone #together #heartattack

F*ck anxiety, and all its friends like self doubt, fear, and worthlessness. As a long time member of the 'I'm not enough and too much all at the same time' club, day to day can seem exhausting. You look to others believing they have it together when in fact they are just as lost as you. The hope that one day these thoughts will do one and the need for peace of mind. Not wanting to be a burden while craving love and affection you never received. I speak about my own struggles, the management and how counselling helps. This podcast episode is more vlog form this week. Sharing honestly is the best way to help others feel less alone, yet something I feel we all struggle with for fear of judgement and the very thing we are exposing in our most vulnerable times is used against us. All we can do is our best, until we know better then we can do better. Thank you for listening. #mentalhealth #vlog #notalone

We all make plans. Whether they're errands to do or distance far off dreams of one day, but these are just ideas, concepts. We never really know how things and life is going to go. With time and experience plans change, yet we hold on to what we were, rather than what we are. However, this doesn't change the fundamentals of ourselves, yet we are rooted in the structures we made of what we would like our lives to look like, never acknowledging we to, change and evolve. Furthermore, we don't recognise we are supposed to enjoy ourselves, life does not have to be about misery and the daily grind. Plans are the love handles of life, we hold on to them as something for stability as we are understanding what we are doing we're able to let go and hopefully enjoy ourselves. Thank you for listening. I appreciate you all. Share, like and hopefully subscribe. Good day, good brew. #plans #mentalhealth #enjoyment

Emotions. Valid right? yes but to what extent. It is that emotions are valid. You can feel the way you feel. If something upsets you, then it upsets you. If it makes you happy then, by all means be happy. It is when we lend all our responses to our emotions. We all know a moment in our lives of what I like to think of as Hadgrid moments. Shouldn't of said/done that. The more we accept and understand our emotions, the more we control the responses rather than the way we feel, giving an opportunity for reasoning to play a part. This week I meditate on the idea of why we react and how we can lessen it. Because we all know it's not always going to work but naming the demon takes it control, mostly. Thank you for listening. Like, comment, subscribe, sharing and all that jazz. Good day, good brew.  Oooo fyi. I failed my mod 1. Gutted of course and reason why this is late but it's rebooked.

The good, the hope in people, in a person for their innate individualism and creativity they have to share with the world. What is good for others, might not be for some and those that might not be good to you can go on to be a huge beacon of good to others. This is something I believe in and just recently lost it. We all have core beliefs, something we hold on to that makes us, us. The experiences we have been through shapes them and continues to do so as we move through this thing called life. Losing this hope made me realise how important keeping the positive that I had worked so hard to maintain for my own well being, the hope in others, means I lose hope in myself. Because if there is no good in the world, so we decide to be the good, doesn't that mean it does exist. Existential moment. We all have value integral to us. What is yours? Thank you for listening and I'd love to hear your thoughts. #thegood #mentalhealth #corebeliefs

Two weeks away. Between restarting work and coming off the back of a motorcycle (don't worry, I am fine, just a bruised bum and ego), I need to gather my thoughts so they can be expressed in a manner that I feel would be of some value to others. The want to help others is something I feel very strongly about, but just lately have lost that spark, that flame of hope in the good of others and, more importantly, myself. The phrase, no sudden exits, is a way to remind me that we need people here making memories rather than just being one, including me. There has been and will be a lot to overcome in my future, just like others and following the examples led by others such as Rich Roll, someone that inspires me while being at a level that I aspire to be in ideas and colloquial expression. The idea of being the lighthouse, the light that shines to attract those wishing to hear your voice and the information you hold, can only shine if you keep the light, that flame, glowing even in the darkest of times. Thank you for listening, and if any of the subjects ring true for you, there is help out there, such as your support group, local GP, and charities such as Mind and Smartiants. Good day, good brew.

100th episode! (Ignore the break in between). I cannot thank guests and listeners, old and new, for taking the time to be a part of my conversations with a brew. I appreciate you all. Having said that, this week I muse over the idea of what is "healthy". Breaking it down into bite size understanding and my perspective of balance. If there is such a thing. Happy to hear your views and opinions. What do you think "healthy" consists of? Thank you for listening. #healthy #whatdoyoumean #100

Debs is a content creator on Instagram and YouTube, showing the journey of being fit in your mature years. Debs weight loss journey has been well documented, highlighting all sides from feelings to abilities. Lately Debs has been diagnosed with uterine prolapse and although it's been described as normal and she's far from alone in this diagnosis, she discusses how she feels far less than "normal". Forewarning, there are some discussions of intimate body parts. I've known Debs for several years now and I cannot express the care and love I have for this woman. Forever brings love and kindness to whoever she interacts with, despite any personal issues she may be experiencing. Thank you Debs for returning to the podcast. If you would like to know more about Debs please find her at Lovin'DebsFaithandfit50s on YouTube and Instagram and if any of the topics have affected you or you would like to talk to someone if you're worried please contact your local GP. Thank you for listening. #normal #love #different

Growing up, I sensed something was different about me. I wasn't the same as my siblings, nor did I ever feel fully connected to family or friends. My view points were clear, it was people that made them messy. Why couldn't people's words and actions be the same. Why did I never feel I belonged anywhere and so many more whys. 4 weeks ago I got the answers, I am on the spectrum and although it was a relief to finally understand a large part of myself, it started new questions. These questions and perspective changes have brought a sense of unpicking of self. Bringing a kinder view to myself. I am still me, but me with a better understanding. Autism has its strengths and its weaknesses. A late diagnosis has different challenges compared to those that have known all their life and I'm currently working through mine. Thank you for listening and if you would like to know more about autism or ASD I recommend you check out the NHS website or autism.org.uk. Also if you too believe you could be on the spectrum, please speak to your local GP about referrals. Once again Thank you. Stay beautiful. #autism #knowthyself

Run,Talk,Run is a mental health running group. Providing a group 5k at a pace everyone is comfortable with. It has been running (excuse the pun) since 2017, building itself to create 100s of groups talking and moving their feet, all with one purpose, to aid mental health. Whether it is theirs, others, or both. Ash is one of the run leaders of the Sheffield group. We discuss how he came to be a part of RTR, why he does it and how it matters to him. As a person that has joined several RTR in the past, I have experienced first hand how they help simply by showing up and listening as feet are shuffled forward. The group leader's accountability shows up every week even when no one attends, and is a beacon of light of care and reliability. Ensuring they are leaving people just that little better than they found them. Thank you Ash for joining me and all those listening. If you wish to find Ash or Run,Talk,Run please visit their Instagram or their website runtalkrun.com and find your local group. #mentalhealth #running #runtalkrun

What a person's needs are in relationships, friend, partner, family or otherwise, are individual to them. Through childhood and like experiences as we go through, what was not met could be essential to the person as they mature to feel cared for, loved, heard, seen and most importantly feel safe. Needs are a way of us having a sense of security no matter the confines of the relationship. Needs not met can lead to anxiety, stress and as well as many others. In this podcast I contemplate the whats, whys and hows a person may be able to achieve these. I am not limiting it to these ideas, I am just giving a different perspective on the needs of others while sharing my experiences. Thank you for listening. #needs #podcast #what #why #how #mentalhealth

Vulnerability is the strength to expose your weaknesses without expectations of outcome. It's an extremely hard process, fear stops just. Fear of judgment and proof we shouldn't trust as it's weaponised against us. This involves, being open and opening up, two very different concepts but both equally helpful in the process. In this episode I discuss the difference. Please leave a comment on your thoughts. Thank you for listening. Your support is appreciated. #vulnerability #fear #courage

Love, a hard thing to pin down. It's felt and expressed in many ways, but what happens when love isn't the happy story we're taught in films and stories? The ideas created do not always sync up to reality and where does self love and worth play its part and how does it effect us. In this podcast, I meditate over the concept, while sharing some of my experiences. Thank you for listening.

After nearly 3 years of not doing this I'm back. Podcasting is something I've missed and has been niggling for me to return for a while now. Having the courage to step back into something you turned away from is hard, whether that's a career, a hobby or a relationship. Courage is not the absence of fear, it is feeling the fear and doing it anyway. So here we are. Stay beautiful.

These are not times our generation or several before have ever been through. And like many I'm not going to deny I've had my struggles at times. Knowing this I want to share my 6 tips to how I manage through. Remembering we're all human so what works for one, might not necessarily work for another. But hopefully at least one can help. Stay safe and look after you and your loved ones.

Vulnerability has never been easy, especially when I've spent most my life in fight or flight. Finding out one thing, like my dyslexia, can lead to a whole can of worms opening and unimaginable emotions flowing out. Realising you are so far off your path and if you still want to do the things you are doing, because you never fully trusted yourself is hard. But it's an opportunity to reconnect. This is me being open to you all. I hope you're all well and looking after yourself.

Body positivity. What is it? Who does it include? Well, as my guest put, it's everybody. Because we all have a body. Body positivity is people being positive about their body. And to do that you have to first be happy with the body you have. Kayleigh delves in to her story and journey to why she is so passionate for change. After listening, You'll be hopefully left feeling more positive about yourself and your body.

Just because you can. Doesn't mean you want to or in some cases should. I meet so many women that look sheepish when you're talking about family or kids in normal conversations. Just because they don't want to explain again that they don't want children or in some cases, can't. So many people ask when are you gonna have kids? Like that's it. The bee all and end all of a relationship. But the word when, has so many implications. But essentially it comes down to, its nobodies business. If you want kids great, if you don't great. If you can't I'm sorry and hope you're well and if you can't and don't want any, that's great as well. You know why it's all good. Because as long as the person is OK. That's all that matters. Stop asking when they're going to have a little person and start seeing the person they already are.

Our inner monologue is the most powerful conversation we have. Simply because there's nothing to stop it, unless we say it out loud and why would we. We believe it to be true, so don't question it. Just lately I've realised my inner monologue has been telling me a story that I believed was true, even though something inside of me felt off. What happens when you realise it's been wrong. And wrong for a while. It changes your view on everything, including yourself. I said I'd always be honest within my podcast. So here it is. Thank you for listening.

Disclaimer; these are only my opinions gathered from my experiences and the voices of others. A new stigma seems to of arisen from the mental health movement. We are now able to speak about it but, there's seems to be a new stigma from the ability to speak on the subject. From self diagnosis, grouping, influencers, what is "in" and what diagnosis are accepted and what are not, there is a lot to this topic. This is me giving my opinions, while offering a view on how to change it.

When people think of students, they usually think of someone aged under 21. Probably just starting life. There is a huge group of students that are older. Mature students are generally a side part of student information, but with over 750 thousand mature students per year and a drop out rate double than their younger counter parts. Maybe it's time we helped one aspect of mature student life, so the rest maybe eased. Our population is getting older. We're likely to change careers several times, education could be a big part of those changes. So let's talk about what it's like being a mature student and how we can help each other.

You don't have to have a drinking problem, to know drinking is hiding your problems. Just finishing a dry year taught me this. Realising I had 20 years of a bad relationship with alcohol that should of ended, or at the very least faced, long before it did. Bad habits, numbing and bad coping mechanisms. I want to stress, I have never been diagnosed with alcoholism. And takes nothing away from those that are. It is a hard addiction to quit and I wish you the best of luck. This is just my experience of what I had to face with stopping drinking for a year to help heal myself. This comes with a strong recommendation that if you feel your drinking is getting out of hand, it may be time to look at why. Also the attitudes, groups, people and your finances change. It's amazing that alcohol has such an affect on so much without us being aware.

A new year usually means everyone trying for a new version of themselves. Here are my 5 tips for helping habits and routine for anytime of the year. These are tips I use myself. Also as my alcohol free year ends, find out what the new challenges ahead that I have. Looking outside myself, yet controlling my own environment. Thank you for listening.

This year has been an interesting one. I want to thank everyone for listening and being a part of this podcast. With out you there would be no podcast. This is just some of the past, the present and possible future from this year. Including some takes from my experience being alcohol free for the year and what I want to focus on going forward. Thank you again.

Music has the power to help anyone overcome any adversity, and that rings true for KT. She gives a open and honest view in to her life and how she's working on herself for a better future. With one main lesson, everyone's beautiful. In their own way.

Dennis Relojo-Howell is the meaning of, you don't have to experience to help. But given his background, he has plenty of resilience. He uses his resilience and interests in the mind, to be able to help those that live with mental health issues or just want to know more. With Psychreg.org he has managed to start just that.

As I reach the point of my life where I've been a parent for half of it. Looking back as a teenage mother was the scariest time of my life. Yet, I didn't know at the same time. Its emotional for me to speak about but, it has to be said. Your life doesn't not end having a child. You just get a new version. I go through my experiences and emotions as I take you on my journey.

Help Sheffield does a lot for it's community. But service to others can sometimes show what we've been through. Speaking frankly about his mental health, anxiety and panic attacks from a young age. It's understandable why, sometimes focusing on helping others can help us. Also stay tuned to the add on, as an unexpected listener to the recording may of found what she was looking for.

100 days update. 100 days I sweated and panted. Moved and shaked. Stretched and ran. It changed my view point on a lot. So here is a run through (pun intended) of what I've learnt about myself and other things while doing it.

Being the frontwoman of a band can seem like someone has all the confidence in the world. This is not always the case. Jojo talks openly about her issues, change in career and how she copes on a daily basis. She shows that she can not be put in box. She is just simply Jojo

Diverse people means diverse ideas and beliefs. Reginald has experienced this in its truest form. Growing up not knowing what mental health was to now speaking to kids around America about how it's OK to talk about it. He took the ability to learn for himself about himself and turn that in to a way to help others. Reginald speaks openingly about his family's views on mental health and how he changed it for himself.

Alexandra, with all her grace and playful yet, beautiful abilities as a violinist, has seen some difficult times. With the loss of some one close, she experienced her own battles with depression. This her discussing how she found a way with understanding herself and others, learning about diet and how she become desperate to find a way out.

It's been a year since Hayley was on the podcast, and a lot has happened. From loosing more loved ones to suicide to sobriety. We talk about all subjects of mental health and how what is best for you will always look different to everyone else's best.

Your 30s is a weird decade. You're suppose to know better and societal expectations are that you're settled down, in a decent job, maybe thinking about children or house, or both. But with all these apparent targets. Where is connection. Friendships play a big part in the role of stopping the lonely feelings, if maybe we haven't met these so called targets. With a study posted in The Guardian that 30% of 30 years olds feeling lonely. What are some possible causes and how can we change this.

Everyone has a story. Claire didn't fully believe she had one. But we all do. Claire talks about her mental health, being a mum while having issues, abusive relationships and coping with a family tragedy. Her daughter Scarlett speaks a lot in this episode but, its important for you to hear that being a mum and life in general, does not stop just because you want it to. It continues on. And so do we.

Anger is something we've all felt at some point. Usually when something has been unfair or we feel we've been "wronged" in some way. Here's my experiences and 4 steps that could help you understand your anger, like it did mine.

This year, so far has been a wild ride for me, on a personal level. I suppose I'm just a voice but, a voice so grateful to you all for listening. So I thought I'd get honest. It's a jumbled mess of thoughts, but we all feel like that sometimes. I beat my doubt by doing this first thing. Excuse the half asleep voice. Thank you. To you all, from the bottom of my jumbled thoughts.

Scars have stories behind them. You cannot have a scar without going through something. Whether that's mentally or physically. On this episode I talk of my tale of the washing machine and how its lessons can be used in to accept and heal. Humour is also a good way to tell a story and maybe you'll have a giggle at the same time.

Addiction to anything can be devastating. It has the potential to ruin lives. Growing up with my mother's addiction shaped how I viewed love and the need to help. From what love is to how to addressing difficult situations. Which bleed on to future relationships. But adding, this is solely my personal experience from the outside.

It sadly all to offer children are caught in the middle when parents split. The back and forth seems the norm, yet when parents get on or actually are friends after they split, it seems strange and unfamiliar. This is my take after being told so many times that getting along with my children's father is great but weird. And as always their are some expectations to the rule. But children should not be used to hurt your ex partner, just because they hurt you.

Starting a company from home is never easy. Add 3 children, special needs and personal mental health issues, it can be made alot harder. Sabina, with help from daughter Phoebe, talks about what she has overcome to get to this point and what possibilities lay ahead. All to give people that one moment of happiness, some may desperately need.

Revenge, in my opinion, has no good outcome. Learning from a young age, its just not worth it. It's easier said than done. But if you drink the poison, don't expect the other person to die. You cause yourself more pain being obsessed over something the other person is probably not even thinking about.

The impact small things have on the big goals is more important than we give credit for. Our brains are simply overwhelmed by a big idea. So that's what it stays as, an idea, a goal, a someday. This are my tid bits on how to make those big ideas and goals, achievable. And also some announcements to some of my changes. Thank you for listening.

The make up of your parents has the possibility of affecting you later in life. Especially if you've been kept in the dark. This is my experience of how I recently put to bed the issue of my genetic history. How it effected my mental health and how I've felt since letting go. My words to this is, if children ask you questions, to borrow from Jordan Peterson, tell the truth or at least don't lie.

One day Julie's life changed. And like all life changing situations, it took time and self exploration to come to terms with. Now she's using her story to help others. She's learnt that there's no right way of doing things, just your own. Which is always going to be different. From pain to relief to mental health. She has overcome these difficulties, she's not just to become a survivor, but a warrior.

Ectopic pregnancy is something that people might of heard about or have alittle information but the actual experience is something very different. I've never fully shared my story. Now feels right and the hope is that it sheds a little light on the subject. Ectopic pregnancy is a hard but personal situation to go through. But sharing it could mean helping others.

It's Autism Awareness Week and with my son being on the spectrum only seemed fitting to have him on. He's 9 (nearly 10 as he tells you) and we have our little chat and I give you a peak in to life with a child on the spectrum.