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Welcome to HerGems, a platform for women to inspire and connect through transparent conversations of vulnerability, strength, resilience, and perseverance. Your host Kaitlin is proud to be able to drop small gems in your ear to keep you inspired, motivated, and ambitious!

Kaitlin Alexander


    • Nov 11, 2021 LATEST EPISODE
    • every other week NEW EPISODES
    • 15m AVG DURATION
    • 52 EPISODES


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    54. What Got You Here Won't Get You There; Lessons Learned & Light Bulb Moments

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 11, 2021 26:17


    It's #Reflection Friday a new series on the podcast where I reflect on the lessons learned and light bulb moments I had throughout the week. In this episode we talk about my new job, being confident, and bringing your whole self to the table. Being confident is not something that came natural to me. I've had moments where I was courageous and did things boldly, but, to be confident is to stand firm in who you are and where you are and not give a crap about other people's opinions. For me, confidence happens manually and I'm okay with that. Also, this new job has been testing my inner gangster, I explain how I am allowing myself to grieve my old job while being resilient in my job. It's giving "the most" right now, but, "I gots to see it through my boy." As always, thank you so much for listening! IG: @TheBudgetAffair #NewJob #Confidence #Selfreflection #InnerG --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thebudgetaffair/message

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    53. Bonus Episode: How My Sister Became My Bestfriend

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 4, 2021 9:12


    Hey Ladies, In this episode I talk about how letting go of a "parentified" mindset allowed me to have a "bestfriend" type of bond with my sister.  If you like what you hear, follow us on IG at @TheBudgetAffair and leave a review on Apple Podcast. Thank you so much for listening! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thebudgetaffair/message

    52. Me vs Shady Credit Card Company

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 4, 2021 25:33


    Do you have space for me? I just need to vent for a second, because "one thing about me, if it's on my chest...Ima get it off of me." Since October 20th I have been dealing with a credit card company who took $1800 out of my account. This company stated they would refund the transaction within 7 business days, but they didn't. Now they are saying they have to send me a check, which takes 7-10 business days to process and 7-10 business days to arrive to me. So that's a 3 week wait for money that I could have received sooner had I gone through my bank, stopped the payment, and paid a $35 fee. I didn't know what I didn't know and I'm just a human processing her feelings about it all. Things seem to have taken a turn for the worse, or so it seems, because we know that ALL things work out for our good. I get into a lot more detail about why I feel disheartened and irritated so tune in and hear me out. As always, thank you so much for listening. IG @Thebudgetaffair #financialjourney #debt #venting   --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thebudgetaffair/message

    51. Today Was a Good Day #GirlTalk

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 30, 2021 30:32


    This episode honors the great day I had on 10/29/2021. May this inspire and uplift you on whatever journey you're on. Today I had my first "intake session" as a member of #NACA, the Neighborhood Assistance Corporation of America. "A non-profit organization that is committed to assisting economically disadvantaged individuals with becoming homeowners." I started this journey in March 2021, 7 months later we are standing strong and moving forward. It's been a long emotional journey more than it has been physical, which is why we get into how most journey's are 90% mental. How are you handling your mental health during seasons of waiting? Sis, it's hard. But, with the right support and healthy connections, anything is possible. I've made great strides in my financial journey of creating a life where I am financially safe, and this is coming from someone who, at one point, considered themselves to be the "broke friend". I am committed to breaking the cycle of financial insecurity and poverty and I'm sharing my highs and lows along the way. If you'd like to stay connected follow us on IG @Thebudgetaffair #FinancialJourney #Budgeting #singlemom #Budget --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thebudgetaffair/message

    50. Things That Make Me Feel Financially Secure

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 21, 2021 16:35


    In this episode I share some of the things I have in place that allow me to feel financially safe. I hope this inspires you to build a safety net. Thanx for listening! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thebudgetaffair/message

    49. Surviving Car Repairs & Experiencing Financial Safety

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2021 12:21


    In this episode we reflect on the experience of getting car repairs in a financially safe environment. I hope this episode encourages you to create financial safety in your life and on your own terms. As always, thank you for listening! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hergems4/message

    48. Budgeting: Creating a Personal Finance Mission Statement

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 10, 2021 11:26


    Hey girl hey! In this episode I share my personal financial mission statement. A mission statement gives you clarity and allows you to define your financial experience. I hope this episode brings you one step closer to financial peace, abundance, and prosperity. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hergems4/message

    That Last Episode Was Incomplete; Self-care!!!

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 27, 2021 17:01


    Thanx for listening! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hergems4/message

    Compassion For You When Self-Care is Hard

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 25, 2021 16:24


    Thanx for listening ❤️ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hergems4/message

    Life Update - It's Giving Emotional Rollercoaster

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 23, 2021 61:44


    Some Things Is Just Bad Practice

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2021 25:05


    Thank you for listening

    Words of a Girl Who Keeps Going

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 9, 2021 2:58


    Thank you for listening

    Having Compassion For Yourself

    Play Episode Listen Later May 27, 2021 9:47


    Hey Budget Bestie, you know that I believe that money management and mental health go hand in hand, and in this episode, I talk about giving compassion to ourselves. It is a powerful and valuable thing to be able to advocate for yourself and make adjustments as necessary, it's one of the ways I've been able to consistently show up for myself and begin to create a life that I love. Let's be budget besties IG - @Thebudgetaffair YT - The Budget Affair --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hergems4/message

    Control The Controllable

    Play Episode Listen Later May 20, 2021 7:18


    Hey Budget Bestie, in this episode I encourage you to do what you can with what you have because even the small, mundane, scary, risky steps matter! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hergems4/message

    Brace Yourself - Forgive Yourself For Getting On That Ride

    Play Episode Listen Later May 6, 2021 10:00


    Hey Girl, Hey, This is a weekly reminder that if you're in a season of struggle, just like rollercoasters come to an end, so will that season! Sometimes we find ourselves strapped on a ride and by the time we realize it's not for us, it's too late! Forgive yourself for what you didn't know.  Let's be budget besties: IG - @thebudgetaffair YT - The Budget Affair  https://linktr.ee/Thebudgetaffair --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hergems4/message

    The Power of Visualization

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2021 6:17


    Hey, Girl, Hey, thank you so much for tuning in to my podcast. In this episode I tell you how I visualized my way to purchasing my very first functioning car (insider) LOL. I hope you enjoyed this episode, let's be budget besties!!! IG - @TheBudgetAffair YT - The Budget Affair Email - budgetaffair@gmail.com  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hergems4/message

    Your Current Income is Worthy of Time and Attention

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 22, 2021 8:33


    Hey, Girl, Hey!!!! In this episode we talk about how most people don't think their current income is worthy of their time and attention. "Those people" used to me. How did I overcome that perspective? I got tired of making silly mistakes and feeling/being broke all the time. Plus, I got a little person looking after me so it's only right that I set a good example AND set him up financially. As always, thank you so much for listening.  YT and IG: https://linktr.ee/thebudgetaffair --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hergems4/message

    The Budget Affair Podcast Introduction

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 18, 2021 1:44


    Hey Girl Hey!!! This is just an intro to the AMAZING podcast for The Budget Affair. I hope you enjoy and stay tuned for more

    I'm Rebranding; Let's Talk Success

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 16, 2021 14:07


    Hey ya'll!!! In this episode I am introducing The Budget Affair Podcast. Yes, you heard it correctly! This is now The Budget Affair Podcast where we will have weekly chats about money, mind, and emotions. My budgeting philosophy is that it's not all about the numbers, it's about the mental and emotional experience we have with it. Join me every week for money goal updates, life updates, laughs, connection, and much more. Hope you enjoy and thank you so much for listening! IG - @thebudgetaffair YT- The Budget Affair --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hergems4/message

    5 Great Things About My Childhood

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2021 6:57


    Hey Ladies, welcome back!!! Get to know your favorite host in this episode as I explore some of the great parts of my childhood. Thank you so much for listening, it makes my heart flutter

    How You Feel is Valid AF'

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2021 11:28


    Hey Ladies, welcome back!! In this episode we talk about validating our own emotions and I give an example of what that looks like in my life. I hope you enjoy this episode and feel inspired to connect with and validate your own emotions. Thank you so much for listening, you make my heart flutter. IG - @Hergems_ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hergems4/message

    2am Brain Dump

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 6, 2021 34:15


    Hey Ladies, in this episode we talk about YouTube Drama, boundaries, skating, goals, money and more. I couldn’t sleep

    08. No Either Or

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 4, 2021 14:21


    In this episode we talk about self-care and caring for others, and how the two go hand in hand! Thank you for listening! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hergems4/message

    Money, Shame, Guilt, Regret - The Ultimate Break up

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 31, 2021 8:11


    Hey Ladies, in this episode I talk about how I overcome guilt, shame, and regret with money. *SPOILER- the cure is facing it head on! I hope you enjoy ❤️ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/hergems4/message

    School, Politics, and life With My Baby Sister

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 23, 2021 17:29


    Hey Ladies, in this episode I talk with my baby sister. We talk politics, school, life, and much more

    Being Able to Say, I love You....

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 16, 2021 10:38


    Hey Ladies, in this episode I talk about my fear of being vulnerable in relationships, and why arguing in romantic relationships turn me on

    Peace from Within

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 3, 2021 9:23


    Hey Ladies, I missed y’all. Just me rambling about my thoughts on “peace”. Thank y’all so much for listening, it means the world to me ❤️

    Brain Dump: The Hardest Part of Life is Choosing Happiness

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 12, 2020 7:29


    Hey Ladies, in this episode I ramble to you about choosing happiness and taking ownership of the meaning we assign to things! Thank you so much for listening ❤️

    How to Handle Criticism At Work - Yearly Reviews

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 26, 2020 3:36


    Hey Ladies, it’s that time of year when yearly reviews are rolling out and we are preparing to get that good ole “constructive criticism” from our boss!! Let me tell you how I am handling those pesky thoughts that make me feel anxious and worthless around this time of year! As always, thank y’all so much for listening, it means the world to me ❤️

    Follow the Footprints of Your Heart

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 19, 2020 3:17


    Hey Ladies, it’s a quickie but a goodie!! In this episode we talk about how we can look within ourselves to find out who want to be and go be the person we PREFER to be. Thank you so much for listening and follow us on IG @HerGems_

    Essence of Self-Acceptance

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 1, 2020 24:45


    Hey ladies, in this episode we talk about self-acceptance and it’s important role in building a relationship with yourself!

    Birthday Behavior

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 1, 2020 23:23


    Hey ladies, I’m back with another episode. Hope you enjoy ❤️

    Sarah Baartman; The History of Body Criticism; Toxic Masculinity

    Play Episode Listen Later May 20, 2020 51:52


    #HeyLadies in this episode we talk about body liberation, self-love, and toxic masculinity with Ariana, the host of Jewel’s Space Podcast.

    16. Discrimination Disguised as Entertainment + Quarantine + Money Thought Work

    Play Episode Listen Later May 6, 2020 23:35


    Hey ladies, welcome back. In this episode we discuss negative money patterns, quarantine hardships and easy-ships, and the media discrimination against fat people calling it entertainment. IT GETS JUICY GIRL! Grab your headphones and some tea and let’s chat!

    15. Mommy wins + Self-belief + Therapy

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2020 13:14


    #HeyLadies welcome back! In this episode we talk about celebrating mom wins, self-belief and the inner dialogue, and why therapy is important. Grab your snack, headphones, and let’s have #GirlTalk

    14. I don’t need Corona to be great, self-awareness, and budgeting

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 22, 2020 15:53


    15. #HeyLadies Kaitlin is back with another #Girltalk. Grab your headphones, relax, and let’s chat. Follow us on IG @HerGems_Podcast

    13. Dark skin femininity, plus size femininity, anti-diet culture, HAES, self-worth

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 14, 2020 32:22


    #HeyLadies Kaitlin has decided it’s time to have real #girltalk. In this episode she is candid and open about topics that are on her mind and in her heart. Talk back on IG, @hergems_podcast, youtubers mentioned: @Chrissie, @TeannaEmpowers

    12. All Bets On Me

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2020 10:17


    #GirlTalk Dating and knowing her self-worth, Kaitlin has learned how to say no and date with purpose!

    11. Talk About Him Sus, PERIOD!

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 11, 2019 15:10


    In this episode Kaitlin talks about being an imperfect person who wants to talk about God. “God doesn’t ask us to be perfect he asks us to try” ~Onieism

    10. Aligning with Gods Agenda

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 18, 2019 11:56


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    09. Forks, Roads, and God

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 28, 2019 18:29


    In this episode we talk about decision making and how God fits into that part of our lives. I reflect on my experiences with making big life decisions and give you all my perspective. Thank you for listening.

    Career Life Prayer Life

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 26, 2019 18:30


    Welcome Back! In this episode we talk about Kaitlin’s career journey and how it relates to her prayer life.

    Jobless, Emotional, and full of faith

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 12, 2019 10:38


    In this episode we reflect on the 6 weeks Kaitlin was jobless, emotional, and full of faith.

    Practice Grounds

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 23, 2019 22:20


    Hey, in this episode Kaitlin talks about perfection, therapy, and healing. Hope you enjoy!

    07. Whats the Alternative

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 3, 2019 9:27


    In this episode we talk about commitment, faith, and fear. We have a choice to make. Will we believe our fears or will we believe our faith. Thank you for listening. Morning Motivation Video: https://youtu.be/M8yhPmkxYNk

    11. Unfamiliar to Our Senses

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 11, 2019 8:39


    06. Ugly Baby Syndrome

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2019 12:29


    In this episode we talk about believing that God has called us to do something and trusting that he has qualified us. I am so very grateful that God used me for this episode. Enjoy!

    05. The Right Kind of Suffering

    Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2019 9:53


    In this episode I give you all a little bit about how I am including God in my fitness and health goals. I hope you all enjoy!

    04. Fully Equipped

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 10, 2019 11:05


    In this episode I shed some tears and get real about my feelings and fears about my son, his dad, and being a single mother. This episode is one for the books, I am so very grateful that God gave me the right words to speak and the courage to be honest. Thank you for listening.

    03. Failure is My Bestie

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2019 14:47


    In this episode we discuss resolutions and failure. We often make resolutions and set goals but the fear of failure keeps us from success. Make sure to like and subscribe and leave feedback! Also, like our Instagram to keep up with the conversation! Thank you for listening

    02. BE THE CLAY

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2019 13:11


    HerGems is baaaackk!!! In this episode we talk about being used by God and what it means to be the clay. We also discuss how even in "un-favoring" circumstances, we are still being used by God. Be gracious to our host as she had to record in an office near a busy street, so you may hear some funky sounds!

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