Welcome to the Lawyers & Mediators International Show & Podcast by InstantMediations, where we discuss law and conflict resolution topics to educate both professionals and every day people. Top experts join co-hosts Mac Pierre-Louis & Natalia Olowska-Czajka weekly to discuss legal and nonlegal solutions to contemporary problems.
France-based Luke Archer, creator of Verbal Aikido (verbalaikido.org), discussed with Dr. Barbara Manousso (manousso.us) and Mac Pierre-Louis (macpierrelouis.com) the conflict resolution concepts found in Verbal Aikido. Topics like posturing, empathy, de-escalation, are points that come up. Learn more about how martial arts intersects with interpersonal communications. Links: https://www.verbalaikido.org/ https://www.verbalaikido.org/discover-verbal-aikido/ Original Blog Post: https://lmipodcast.com/from-conflict-to-conversation-with-luke-archer-on-manousso-musing/
Jeff Aresty of Internetbar.org chatted with Mac Pierre-Louis (macpierrelouis.com) to discuss for Cyberweek (odr.info), and also the story of The Internet Bar and its many projects since 2005, which helps promote a justice layer of the internet. Learn more about what IBO is; -why we need a global justice system; -how the internet promotes accessibility to justice in web 3.0 -what does the future hold in your perspective when it comes to this movement. Links: https://www.internetbar.org/ https://odr.info/ YouTube Full Interview: https://youtu.be/BJNc8-BX0Is YouTube Short: https://youtube.com/shorts/k_1-iZF-eOY
Mediator Ken Sande, founder of RW360.org discusses faith based methods for resolving conflict, especially societal or global conflicts involving ethnic rivalries and conflicts. The creator of "Relational Wisdom", Ken appears with Mac (macpierrelouis.com) and Sheryl Jackson-Matthews, President of Houston's Association for Conflict Resolution (ACRHouston.org) and delves into a much needed conversation of our time. YouTube video https://youtu.be/TmvsQl87hOg
A follow-up to the first video at https://youtu.be/dbpmyUPHU2s?si=wUAOfaZ4RTwefcB6 with Lawyer, Mediator, & Author Hesha Abrams of HoldingTheCalm.com, who joins Mac of Macpierrelouis.com on LMIPodast.com to discuss the war in Israel and give further precedent to the role Saudi Arabia could play in helping resolve the conflict. Original blog post article coming soon. #isreaelihamasconflict#conflictresolution Watch on YouTubehttps://youtu.be/WRf2N_mV3IU
On the show, Mediator Ken Sande, founder of RW360.org discusses "relational wisdom" and how it helps separated or divorced co-parents needing to maintain peace while raising their kids from separate homes. With Mac (macpierrelouis.com) and Sheryl Jackson-Matthews, President of Houston's Association for Conflict Resolution (ACRHouston.org). Watch YouTube video: https://youtu.be/yAfC6z9-GoQ
Mediator Ken Sande, founder of RW360.org stopped by to discuss "Relational Wisdom" with Mac (macpierrelouis.com) and Sheryl Jackson-Matthews, President of Houston's Association for Conflict Resolution (ACRHouston.org), and how Relational Wisdom goes further than "emotional intelligence," known commonly to conflict resolution professionals as EI. Not just for mediators, this episode gives all of us, Christians and non-Christians alike, another framework for understanding how to take more preventative approaches to conflicts before they arise in our personal relationships.
Lawyer, Mediator, & Author Hesha Abrams of HoldingTheCalm.com joins Mac on the LMIPodcast.com to discuss the war in Israel and share her thoughts on one surprising way to quickly resolve the conflict. She also shares FriendsofLibi.org, a non-profit volunteer organization raising funds to help buy bulletproof vests for soldiers of Israel's Shaldag Unit who are helping defend the innocent (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shaldag_Unit).
ACR President Sheryl Jackson-Matthews stopped by to catch up about ACRHouston.org, the professional organization for mediators in the Houston, TX area. Part of ACR International. Conflict is pervasive in our society, especially interpersonal conflict. Learn more about how ACRHouston can help, and how Conflict Resolution Month is being recognized through one local organization: Sam Houston State University.
Doug Noll of DougNoll.com is back, this time to help parents gain the knowledge they need to work together over their kids after separation or divorce.
Sherell Carter of JusticebyCarter.com discusses with Mac of MacPierrelouis.com TX statutory factors courts can consider when deciding whether the guideline child support amount is unfair. See the statute here in section 154.123 https://statutes.capitol.texas.gov/Docs/FA/htm/FA.154.htm
Sherell Carter of JusticebyCarter.com and Mac Pierre-Louis of Macpierrelouis.com discusses the "custody" vs. "conservatorship" difference in Texas Family Law and out of court resolutions parents can make over their kids.
Fran Brochstein
Angela Miller
Tye Bourdony
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Lawyer, mediator, business woman, veteran, mom, and now podcast co-host Sherell Carter of JusticebyCarter.com brings new insights into how to "change the narrative" from the past and grow to achieve dreams. Appealing to First Generation & Non- Traditional Law Students, Newly Licensed Attorneys as Well as Those Considering Entering in the Legal Profession. Let Discuss Barriers, Conflicts Around Those Barriers, and Achieving a Resolution
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Fran Brochstein of FamilyLaw4U.com with Tye of CFMediationCenter.com with Mac and Natalia of OlowskaPierre.com with golden tips for the mediation beginners. A guide into a good mediation for everyone.
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Patricia Barret (LifeTimePlanning.cc) is a guest of Dr. Barbara Sunderland Manousso (manousso.us) and Mac and Natalia (olowskapierre.com) to discuss money and matrimony. In this video filled with very important pre-marital and marital advice, Patricia shares how her experience as Certified Financial Planner and Certified Divorce Family Advisor helps individuals and couples grasp and understand the financial transparency, which in her words contributes directly to sexual intimacy in the marriage. She pointed out that being transparent in your finances is the way to avoid financial bitterness which in turn can save the intimacy in the marriage. In other words, sexual intimacy is strongly connected with financial intimacy a way to which goes through financial transparency. In this video Patricia shares how to achieve it all and how to make a spouse (or fiance) to open himself to talking about it and how to make it a custom. A must - to watch for everyone in the marriage or planning to contract one!
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A discussion with Pavel Mischenko on the impact of birth order when dealing with interpersonal conflict later in life. Dr. Barbara Manousso (Manousso.us) with her guest Pavel Mischenko (leadertalent.com), a Tedex speaker and business coach, together with Mac and Natalia (OlowskaPierre.com) show an interesting feature which goes underestimated when resolving conflicts - the characteristics of a person in conflict depending on the birth order in the family. A lot of ideas to think through!
A discussion with Pavel Mischenko on leadership personalities.
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Dr Michael Leach being a guest of Dr Barbara Manousso of Manousso.us and Mac and Natalia of OlowskaPierre.com and talks how the psychological assessments can help in mediation. He discusses different approaches and different types of roles, which can be present in mediation to represent the child (amicus, evaluator) and what benefits it brings to mediation.
In this video Tye Bourdony of cfmediationcenter.com together with Mac and Natalia of OlowskaPierre.com are explaining if mediation is mandatory in divorces in different jurisdictions (including Florida, Texas and Poland). They explain what issues pertaining to divorce can be mediated (like parenting plans, property settlements) and whether it is better to do mediation before or after filing for divorce.
Tye Bourdony of cfmediationcenter.com and Mac and Natalia of OlowskaPierre.com present different aspects of whether bullying can take place in mediation at all and what if it does. They go through how a mediator can stop a bully and present how you can trust a mediator will not allow that you are bullied. This video explains how a caucus mediation work and why it can be effective in preventing or stopping attempts of bullying and what other tools a good mediator has to make parties feel safe in mediation and free from the threat of bullying.
Mac Pierre-Louis and Natalia Olowska-Czajka of OlowskaPierre.com talk with Tye Bourdoney of CPLSPA.com to explain why a mediator can be trusted by both parties to the conflict, even if a particular mediator is indicated by the other party or this party's attorney. They are also showing how to choose a mediator yourself if you do not have a clue how to do it, showing the mediators' directory available at InstantMediations.com. Mediators are not biased and they are not there to judge any of the parties. Mediators need to be transparent to the parties of who they are and what they do in the mediation process and on top any circumstance which might raise doubt as to the mediator's neutrality and impartiality should be disclosed by the mediator at the very beginning of the mediation. There are also safeguards in mediation to ensure that mediator can be trusted, such as its confidentiality and the fact that it is voluntary throughout the entire process. Lastly, mediators are bound by the law, the ethical rules and the contracts they enter into with the parties.
Mac and Natalia of OlowskaPierre.com in conversation with Fran Brochstein (FamilyLaw4u.com) about the family conflicts which can arise with the ageing of our loved ones - moms, dads, grandmas, grandads, uncles and aunts, brothers and sisters. Handling such a situation with dignity and gentleness requires skills which can be offered by a family mediator specializing in elderly care mediations. Such a mediation may engage a few generations yet assures that a tailored made solution is reached when it comes to the care of family members and covering the costs of it.
Fran Brochstein of FamilyLaw4U.com and Tye Bourdony of CPLSPA.com joined Mac and Natalia of OlowskaPierre.com to discuss emotions in mediations. They explain in simple words and show practical examples of how a good mediator can create a safe place for the mediating parties, even if difficult emotions come into play. It's not just about showing empathy or allowing parties to vent - it is also about leading them through understanding the emotions and making the parties at ease with whatever they are going through to help them reach an agreement. Amongst practical solutions, Douglas Noll's concepts of emotional validation, deep listening and de-escalation are being mentioned (see another video on this podcast with Doug Noll: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FzDQYVc_dtI) as well as some other tools available to mediators, like caucus mediation (placing the parties in different rooms to mediate separately), working closer on improving communication between the parties or simply taking a break.
Rev. Tope Popoola (topepopoola.com.ng) as a guest of Dr. Manousso (manousso.us) and Natalia and Mac (OlowskaPierre.com) talks about leadership based on Rev. Tope Popoola's two books: "Lead as you go" (which is about to be published) and "Leadership is for the dead" (already available for purchase). Out of his own experience in life and as a minister, Rev. Popoola states credible and understandable principles of leadership which are often misunderstood. He starts with an assertion that the society blames the leaders for a lot of things - not realizing or perhaps forgetting that the leaders themselves are the products of this very society (in Rev. Popoola's words: "The system produces the leaders after their own kind"). This shows a crucial characteristic of leadership which we need to keep in mind always - the leaders are poisoned by the same problems that the society is - and this can be traced in the previous work and service of the leaders. So the leaders come to their offices with the experience gained in this very society - yet on top, the power has the ability to amplify the real self of a man, bringing new traits and strengthening the pervious mistakes and errors. However, the key to good leadership is to understand that leadership is a service to others, not a way for fulfilling one's ego and as such it needs to embrace the sacrifice. Hence Rev. Popoola speaks about "the dead" - as a lot egoistic traits and myths need to die before a good leader is created. Leadership is therefore the ability to take responsibility for the outcomes and consequences. Also, you can't give what you do not have. The virtues the leader wishes to offer should arise in this leader first and only then can be given to the society. Therefore integrity is such a vital feature in any leader and makes them authentic and easy to follow and identify with. As power is the ability to influence people to make them do the desired things, the leader using the power needs to be service minded and community oriented and willing to act, to do things that others are not willing to do. And when these things are done - accept the responsibility for the outcomes. LINKS: https://books2read.com/ap/nzM75p/Tope-Popoola https://books2read.com/b/4NjMKG https://www.facebook.com/lifempower/ https://twitter.com/topheritage?lang=en https://ng.linkedin.com/in/tope-popoola-clc-cmt-fimc-cmc-b89b35a
Hank Moore of HankMoore.com is being the guest of Dr. Barbara Manousso (manousso.us) with Mac and Natalia of OlowskaPierre.com. In his widely recognised work as a business consultant not only did Hank work with the most important business entities and chains but also worked with the top figures in the music world. He had the chance to speak to Elvis Presley and obtain some interesting answers to his queries, he had a chance to interview the Beatles and hear All You Need is Love long before it became a slogan popularised by them based on the song. Hank explains the truths of the music world, explains how the conflicts get resolved there and what they build upon, shares some fascinating insights about the people and pop culture. His book "Pop Music Legends" leads the reader through 100 years of changes in the musical industry, going backstage and showing interesting stories of the most famous music performers of all times, including, apart from those already mentioned, Frank Sinatra and Beyonce. The book goes also through genres and changes in the music world. More can be found in Hank Moore's “Big Picture of Business” series (books 1-2-3-4) (nominated for the Pulitzer Prize). LINKS: http://www.hankmoore.com/ http://www.facebook.com/hank.moore.10 http://www.linkedin.com/profile/view?id=43004647&trk=tab_pro
Hank Moore of HankMoore.com is being the guest of Dr. Barbara Manousso (manousso.us) with Mac and Natalia of OlowskaPierre.com. In his widely recognised work as a business consultant not only did Hank work with the most important business entities and chains but also worked with the top figures in the music world. He had the chance to speak to Elvis Presley and obtain some interesting answers to his queries, he had a chance to interview the Beatles and hear All You Need is Love long before it became a slogan popularised by them based on the song. In his book "Pop Music Legends" he leads the reader through 100 years of changes in the musical industry, going backstage and showing interesting stories of the most famous music performers of all times, including, apart from those already mentioned, Frank Sinatra and Beyonce. The book goes also through genres and changes in the music world. More can be found in Hank Moore's “Big Picture of Business” series (books 1-2-3-4) (nominated for the Pulitzer Prize). LINKS: http://www.hankmoore.com/ http://www.facebook.com/hank.moore.10 http://www.linkedin.com/profile/view?id=43004647&trk=tab_pro
Rev. Tope Popoola (topepopoola.com.ng) as a guest of Dr. Manousso (manousso.us) and Natalia and Mac (OlowskaPierre.com) explains the secrets of the customer relationship management for mediators. In his latest book (Customer Relationship Management, Rules of Engagement) Rev. Popoola shares concepts checked out in practice in his own life as a customer and coach, to shift the perspective of any business to the proper core of it, which is not making money but serving the customer. His thoughts shared in this video make us aware that it is the customer who pays our salaries and that pay comes as a reward for the value we give. And since we serve our customers in every business, also as mediators and attorneys, we need to satisfy our customers' needs in the most fulfilling manner, and especially focusing on their emotions. He expands on the concept of the brand and how visual identification gives us the first distinction, which in terms of value is a promise of what they can get. Yet then come the next steps - expectation based on the brand and the first contact and then the real experience - which ultimately leads to perception - which becomes the reality of being served by the business. An crucial part in this entire process plays good communication - which in fact is the ability to connect with the customer and in other words is all about how we make our customers feel. We need to remember, that every customer decision is based on their emotions, and if these emotions are positive and if we avoid being perceived as just selling something to the customer - we should be successful and our pay should be in place without discussion. Being aware of these steps is a key to taking care of the customers the way which creates a value - and the value gives the reward - which is the ultimate step of the customer relationship management and the economical purpose of the existence of the business.
Hank Moore of HankMoore.com is being the guest of Dr. Barbara Manousso (manousso.us) with Mac and Natalia of OlowskaPierre.com. In his widely recognised work as a business consultant Hank found certain truths regarding the crises and shows the challenges and opportunities they bring, including the ones connected with Covid-19. He presents business trends, challenges and opportunities that will affect the business going forward and shows some interesting business aspects of the new after-Covid reality. He is now working on a book which will describe the consequences of Covid-19 for the businesses and the trends resulting from it. More can be found in Hank Moore's “Big Picture of Business” series (books 1-2-3-4) (nominated for the Pulitzer Prize). LINKS: http://www.hankmoore.com/ http://www.facebook.com/hank.moore.10 http://www.linkedin.com/profile/view?id=43004647&trk=tab_pro
Dr. Angela Miller of mediationnikan.com in conversation with Natalia and Mac of olowskapierre.com discuss the necessity of bringing mediation skills to schools to educate children as young as 13 years of age till they are adults (8 grade till 12 grade). The time of adolescence is crucial when learning to resolve conflicts in an amicable manner as these are the moments when the children are appreciating of their peers' views more than those of the adults, like teachers and parents. Teaching mediation skills to the youngsters not only enables them to solve the conflicts by themselves but also equips them with the skills they will take outside of the classroom - like active listening, avoiding prejudice and understanding and accepting differences. It also produces the effect of calming down stressful situations in the school territory and outside of it in any peer groups leading to better anger management and improving social skills. Angela shows how this should be the mediator's initiative as part of their community service and how it will benefit long term the individuals themselves and their environment: families, communities, workplaces.
Monika Perkowska talks about children in divorce.
Tye Bourdony shares thoughts on being neutral in mediation.
Hear Dr. Manousso share what the heart of mediation is truly all about.
Dr. Barbara Manousso's (http://manousso.us ) guest Dr. LaVena Wilkins (https://peacefromconflict.com/) presents a fresh and insightful view on solving conflicts in the workplace in the post pandemic world, joining the discussion with Mac Pierre-Louis & Natalia Olowska-Czajka of https://olowskapierre.com. Dr. LaVena Wilkin shows how conflicts in general give an opportunity to change through open, honest and courageous communication. First condition though - you must engage in the conflict and not avoid it. There are some rules to solving the conflicts via this sort of communication: 1. being respectful 2. listening to other people's perspectives and thus build trust and a safe workplace. In the post pandemic world what helps a lot is mindfulness - being hyperaware of our emotional reactions and understanding that we would not have a conflict if we were not emotionally engaged in this particular issue ourselves. LINKS: https://www.degruyter.com/document/doi/10.1515/9783110746365/html?lang=en https://peacefromconflict.com/
Dr. Barbara Manousso (https://manousso.us ) and her guest Dr. Neil Katz (https://neilkatzconsulting.com ) with Mac Pierre-Louis & Natalia Olowska-Czajka of https://olowskapierre.com speak about the ombuds and their role in conflict solving. Dr. Neil Katz gives a definition of what an organizational ombuds is by giving the main features of such a post: an informal, independent, neutral person acting in confidentiality to resolve disputes and address concerns of the employees or group of employees. What an ombuds can do is not just address a particular issue but also listen to the worries of an employee, resulting from e.g. burnout or lack of satisfaction at work trying to remedy it. The range of actions of an ombuds in the organizational space is huge and the sky seems to be the limit for it - starting from informal visits to learn about the problem, through facilitating meetings (also in the form of caucus), up to group interventions. Dr. Neil Katz presents some practical examples and how such an institution can be more effective than trying to seek a solution via the HR departments.
Hosts: Mac-Arthur Pierre-Louis & Natalia Olowska-Czajka of https://olowskapierre.com Co-Hosts: Dr. Barbara Manousso of https://manousso.us Guest: Dr. LaVena Wilkins of https://peacefromconflict.com/ YouTube Podcast: https://youtu.be/dSzmW-0-6E4