Podcasts about Family law

Episode Description:Healing from divorce trauma, betrayal, addiction, and grief starts with understanding what you can control—and releasing what you can't.In this deeply personal episode of Doing Divorce Different, Lesa Koski sits down with author Dana Killion to explore healing from divorce trauma and what it really takes to move from surviving something painful to becoming emotionally whole.Dana shares her experience of discovering her husband's secret life while he was in treatment for alcoholism, the difficult decision to eventually end their marriage, the deaths of both parents, and the devastating loss of her oldest son.Together, Lesa and Dana explore why getting an answer to “why?” can be so important after betrayal—and what to do when the person who hurt you cannot give you that answer. Dana introduces her “story of why” process: using the facts you know to create enough understanding to stop cycling through resentment and begin finding closure.They also discuss healing from divorce trauma when addiction is involved, why loving someone doesn't mean you can save them, how boundaries can coexist with love, and how to recognize when unresolved anger may be a sign that your healing isn't finished.Most importantly, this episode offers hope for anyone who feels overwhelmed by what comes next. You don't have to solve your entire future today. One small step can become another—and those baby steps can eventually become a ladder.If you're navigating divorce, betrayal, addiction, grief, or another major life transition, this conversation about healing from divorce trauma will remind you that what happened to you does not have to determine what happens next.Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction to Dana Killion and Becoming Unbreakable(02:00) Dana's story of addiction, betrayal, divorce, and profound loss(05:30) Why trauma makes us question our history and identity(08:00) What to do when you never get the “why”(10:00) Creating your own “story of why” to find closure(13:00) The three versions of your trauma story(16:00) Loving someone struggling with addiction(20:00) The question: “What if this is as good as it gets?”(24:00) Why you cannot save another person(28:00) How to know whether you're actually healed(32:00) Turning a wound into a scar(36:00) Trauma, forgiveness, and releasing resentment(40:00) Why both people have emotional work to do(43:00) What to do when trauma knocks you off your feet(47:00) Baby steps: rebuilding confidence one action at a time(50:00) How small steps become a ladder forwardKey Takeaways:Closure doesn't always have to come from the person who hurt you. Dana's “story of why” can help you create understanding from the facts you already know.Loving someone with an addiction does not give you the power to do their recovery work for them.Lingering bitterness and resentment may be signs that a traumatic experience still needs healing.You control how much of your story you share—and with whom.When divorce or trauma feels overwhelming, don't solve your entire future. Take one small, constructive step and build from there.Guest Bio:Dana Killion is an author, speaker, and trauma-informed guide whose work focuses on resilience, healing, and moving beyond survival. Her newest book, Becoming Unbreakable: A Big Sister's Guide to Trauma, draws on her lived experience with an addictive marriage, divorce, the loss of both parents, relocation, and the death of her oldest son. Dana uses her story and hard-earned insights to help others understand trauma and move toward emotional wholeness.Resource Links:https://www.danakillion.com/?utm_source=chatgpt.comhttps://amplifypublishinggroup.com/product/nonfiction/health-medicine-and-wellness/mental-health/becoming-unbreakable/?utm_source=chatgpt.comOsteoStrong Minnesota — https://osteostrongmn.com/affiliate-referral-koski/Soberlink for Family Law — https://www.soberlink.com/divorce/family-law?utm_source=affiliatelink&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=lesa-koski-affiliatelinkAffiliate disclosure: Some links above are affiliate links, which means I may receive a commission if you purchase through them, at no additional cost to you.Tags/Keywords:healing from divorce trauma, divorce trauma, divorce recovery, healing after divorce, betrayal trauma, divorce and addiction, alcoholic spouse, addiction and marriage, divorce after infidelity, trauma recovery, finding closure after divorce, emotional healing after divorce, divorce support for women, women over 40 divorce, divorce mediation, divorce coach, co-parenting, rebuilding after divorce, grief after divorce, forgiveness after betrayal, boundaries in marriage, Dana Killion, Becoming Unbreakable, Doing Divorce Different, Lesa Koski

Send us Fan MailBetrayal can make you feel impulsive, panicked, and desperate for answers. That's exactly why I wanted a seasoned family law voice on the show, someone who has seen what helps and what quietly wrecks a case. I'm joined by Mark Chin, a Mississippi divorce attorney with 48 years in practice, and we get honest about the early moves that protect your future if you're facing separation, infidelity, or divorce.We start with the two patterns Mark sees over and over: people wait too long to talk to a divorce lawyer, and they confront a suspected affair too soon. He explains why an early consultation doesn't force you into divorce, it simply gives you options. We also dig into the “evidence trail” most couples accidentally create through angry texts and emails, and how emotional discipline can keep your pain from becoming courtroom ammunition.From there, we move into the hardest parts: kids and money. Mark shares why children usually already know something is wrong, why many kids assume divorce is their fault, and how a parenting plan can work better than winner-loser custody labels. We talk financial reality, what “equity” means in family law, and why the court is not there to crown a winner. Finally, we explore AI legal advice and why tools like ChatGPT can educate you but can't replace experience, human care, or “knowing your judge,” then we end with a hopeful look at collaborative divorce as a more peaceful path.If this helped you, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs steady guidance, and leave a review so more people can find support when life breaks open.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com take the Free Quiz to find out how- How healed you are? 

Divorce doesn't have to be a battle. In this episode, Jaime takes the guest seat as producer Cee Cee Huffman interviews her about her book, A Year and a Day: Divorce Without Destruction. Jaime shares key strategies for approaching divorce with preparation and intention, covering how to initiate separation, build a strong support team, focus on what truly matters, prioritize children's well-being, and maintain emotional health. Whether you're contemplating divorce or already in the process, this episode offers expert guidance on navigating this major life decision with clarity and confidence.If you are in need of legal assistance in North Carolina, contact us at Gailor Hunt by visiting www.divorceistough.com.Like this show? Rate it here! 

⚖️ Do I Have to Disclose All My Assets in a California Divorce? | Los Angeles Divorce ⚖️ Do you have to disclose all your assets in a California divorce? California divorce requires financial disclosures covering relevant assets and debts, and complete and accurate disclosures are an important part of the process. Financial information may include property, bank accounts, investments, vehicles, debts, and other relevant financial interests. Properly identifying and documenting financial information helps ensure that both spouses have the information needed to address the financial issues in their divorce.

⚖️ How to Keep Your Divorce Out of Court. | Los Angeles Divorce ⚖️ Think every divorce ends in a courtroom? Think again. If you and your spouse can agree on property division, support, and custody, you can often complete your California divorce without ever appearing before a judge. The key is having the right paperwork and a properly prepared settlement agreement.

⚖️ What Are the Best Legal Strategies for a Smooth Divorce? | Los Angeles Divorce

⚖️ What Happens If Your Spouse Hires an Expensive Lawyer? | Los Angeles Divorce

❌ Can You Refuse Child Support Payments? | Los Angeles Divorce ⚖️ Can you refuse child support payments in California? In most cases, no. Child support is considered a right that belongs to the child, not either parent. Even if both parents agree to change support, the court generally must approve the agreement before it becomes legally effective.

⚖️ How to Prepare for a Divorce Deposition | Los Angeles Divorce

⚖️ The Most Common Legal Mistakes to Avoid in Divorce. | Los Angeles Divorce ⚠️ Divorce doesn't have to be complicated—but simple mistakes can cause major delays. Missing forms, incomplete financial disclosures, or incorrect paperwork can send your case right back from the court and cost you valuable time.

⚖️ How to Prepare for a Divorce Mediation. | Los Angeles Divorce

⚖️ How to Avoid a Contested Divorce Battle. | Los Angeles Divorce ⚖️ Worried your divorce is heading toward a courtroom battle? A contested divorce can be expensive, stressful, and time-consuming—but it doesn't have to be. When both spouses focus on reaching agreements instead of "winning," the process becomes faster, more affordable, and less emotionally draining.

⚖️ How to Protect Your Rights During a California Divorce | Los Angeles Divorce

⚖️ What If Your Ex Is Using Child Support for Personal Expenses? | Los Angeles Divorce

⚖️ Can You Get Full Custody Without Going to Court? | Los Angeles Divorce

⚖️ What to Do If You Are Served Divorce Papers Unexpectedly | Los Angeles Divorce

⚖️ How to Establish a Fair Child Support Agreement. | Los Angeles Divorce

⚖️ Can Child Support Be Waived If Both Parents Agree? | Los Angeles Divorce

⚖️ What Is a Divorce Judgment in California? | Los Angeles Divorce ⚖️ What is a divorce judgment in California? A divorce judgment is the court's final order resolving the terms of the divorce. Depending on the case, it can address property, debts, support, custody, visitation, and other agreed or court-ordered issues. A settlement agreement explains what the spouses have agreed to, but the judgment is the court order that makes the divorce terms part of the final court record. Properly preparing the judgment paperwork is an important step toward finalizing the divorce.

⚖️ How to Modify a Child Custody Agreement After Divorce. | Los Angeles Divorce

⚖️ How to Deal with a Controlling Co-Parent. | Los Angeles Divorce

⚖️ How to Get a Divorce Without Going to Trial | Los Angeles Divorce

⚖️ What to Do If Your Ex Won't Communicate About the Kids. | Los Angeles Divorce

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⚖️ How to Restore Your Former Name in a California Divorce Judgment | Los Angeles Divorce

⚖️ What Happens If One Parent Wants to Move the Kids to Another State? | Los Angeles Divorce ✈️ Want to move to another state with your child after a California divorce? It's not as simple as packing your bags. If the move would affect the other parent's custody or visitation rights, you may need court approval before relocating.

⚖️ How to Reduce Conflict in Shared Custody Arrangements. | Los Angeles Divorce

⚖️ How to File Divorce Papers Correctly the First Time | Los Angeles Divorce

⚖️ What Happens If a Judge Denies Your Divorce Settlement? | Los Angeles Divorce

⚖️ What Happens If Your Spouse Doesn't Respond to Divorce Papers? | Los Angeles Divorce

⚠️ These Common Divorce Mistakes Could Delay Your Case | Los Angeles Divorce ⚠️ What are the most common legal mistakes people make during a California divorce? Incomplete paperwork, missing financial information, unclear agreements, and failing to properly follow court requirements can create unnecessary complications and delays. Divorce paperwork requires careful attention to detail. Even seemingly small errors involving signatures, dates, financial information, or required documents can create additional steps before the case can move forward.

⚖️ What Is a Notice and Acknowledgment of Receipt in a California Divorce? | Los Angeles Divorce ⚖️ What is a Notice and Acknowledgment of Receipt in a California divorce? It is a method that can be used to document that a spouse received certain legal papers through a formal acknowledgment process. California provides specific procedures for acknowledging receipt of legal documents. Understanding how this process works can help spouses properly document service and avoid confusion about whether required paperwork was received.

⚖️ How to Make Co-Parenting Work Even If You Disagree. | Los Angeles Divorce

⚖️ How to Avoid Legal Pitfalls in a DIY Divorce | Los Angeles Divorce

In the latest episode of the Texas Family Law Insiders Podcast, Holly sits down to talk with criminal defense attorney Hunter Biederman of Biederman and Burleson, PLLC in Frisco, TX to discuss the all-too-common intersection of family law and criminal law.A former prosecutor with 20 years of experience in Collin and Denton Counties, Hunter walks through what a family lawyer should do the moment a client gets arrested — getting them out of jail quickly through a bail bondsman rather than a cash bond, then slowing down to loop in a criminal defense attorney. Both agree that every family lawyer should cultivate a go-to relationship with a criminal defense attorney, since the crossover between the two practice areas, often driven by alcohol, stress, and the emotional toll of divorce, is constant. The two also cover the cardinal rule of criminal defense — never talk to the police — and why that advice holds true even in emotionally charged domestic violence calls where both parties are pointing fingers.The conversation turns to the mechanics of domestic violence cases: why a “complaining witness” can never unilaterally drop criminal charges once police are involved, how affidavits of non-prosecution work differently depending on whether a prosecutor or a defense attorney prepares them, and how this dynamic can badly undercut a family law case when a client who once claimed abuse later recants. Hunter and Holly discuss how prior domestic violence allegations, or the lack of any paper trail, can become a weapon in custody disputes and protective order hearings, and how differently individual judges weigh an arrest or a protective order that was issued on thin evidence.Hunter and Holly close with practical guidance for family lawyers whose clients have a criminal case running alongside a divorce or custody matter: the real timeline of a criminal case (often nine months to a year and a half, far longer than a family law case), the competing interests at play when deciding whether a client with pending charges should testify, and the practical reality that prosecutors rarely go looking for family court transcripts. They wrap up with an overview of expunctions and non-disclosures — how a dismissed or resolved criminal case can still show up and hurt a client in front of a judge or jury unless that extra step is taken to clear the record.In This Episode You'll Discover:• What to do the moment a client gets arrested• The number one rule from every criminal defense attorney.• Why a complaining witness can't just “drop the charges”• The difference between bond conditions and a protective order• How a criminal case timeline collides with a family law case• What expunctions and non-disclosures can (and can't) erase

⚖️ What If One Parent Wants to Change the Custody Agreement? | Los Angeles Divorce

⚖️ Who Can Serve Divorce Papers in California? | Los Angeles Divorce ⚖️ Who can legally serve divorce papers in California? Generally, the person serving the papers must be at least 18 years old and cannot be a party to the case. The spouse who filed the divorce cannot personally serve the other spouse. Proper service is an important part of starting and moving a California divorce case forward. Understanding who can serve the documents can help prevent service problems and unnecessary delays.

⚖️ How to Handle Co-Parenting with a Difficult Ex. | Los Angeles Divorce

Divorce grief, people-pleasing, trauma, healing after divorce, and finding your voice—Chel Cartmill shares how to move through loss and rebuild.What if divorce isn't just the end of a marriage—but the death of an entire life, identity, and future you thought you were going to have?In this powerful episode of Doing Divorce Different, Lesa sits down with Chel Cartmill, a divorce coach, trauma coach, grief coach, wellness coach, and breathwork facilitator, to talk about the emotional side of divorce, healing from trauma, people-pleasing, and learning to finally use your voice.Chel shares her deeply personal story of divorce, betrayal, people-pleasing, calling for help, and the shocking experience that followed. Her story ultimately became the foundation for her work helping others navigate divorce, co-parenting, grief, major life transitions, and the process of becoming more fully themselves.Together, Lesa and Chel explore divorce grief and why divorce can feel so much like a death. You aren't only grieving a relationship—you may also be grieving the life you thought you would have, your identity within the relationship, family expectations, and the future you imagined.They also dive into the surprising connection between people-pleasing and self-abandonment, including why people-pleasing can actually keep you focused on how others perceive you rather than allowing you to live from your own truth.Chel explains how understanding your core values can help you make better decisions, recognize what you're saying yes and no to, and stop looking outside yourself to fulfill needs like love, connection, acceptance, and belonging.If you're navigating divorce, betrayal, grief, people-pleasing, or a major life transition—or you're simply wondering, "Who am I and what do I actually want?"—this conversation offers practical insight, compassion, and hope.In this episode, you'll learn how to understand divorce grief, move through difficult emotions without judging them, identify your core values, find your voice, and begin creating a life that actually aligns with who you are.Listen, save, and share this episode with someone who may need the reminder that they are not alone—and that difficult transitions can become opportunities for healing, growth, and transformation.Timestamps:(00:00) Introduction to Chel Cartmill and her book Spider On My Neck(XX) Chel's early desire to help people and her journey into coaching(XX) Marriage, people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, and searching for answers(XX) Chel's divorce story, calling for help, and the experience that changed everything(XX) Finding your voice and learning to prioritize yourself(XX) Turning trauma into a mission to help others(XX) Why difficult life transitions can become opportunities for growth(XX) The connection between divorce and grief(XX) Why divorce can feel like a death(XX) Understanding ambiguous loss and grieving the life you thought you'd have(XX) How to move through the stages of grief without judging your emotions(XX) People-pleasing: what it is really costing you(XX) Why Chel calls people-pleasing "the most selfish thing you can do"(XX) Finding the fear underneath people-pleasing(XX) Core values and making decisions that align with who you are(XX) Learning to fill your own emotional "bucket"(XX) Chel's values exercise and how to use it(XX) Final thoughts on healing, grief, and moving forwardKey Takeaways:Divorce is a form of grief. You're not only grieving the relationship; you're grieving an identity, a lifestyle, and a future you believed you were going to have.People-pleasing can disconnect you from your own truth. Becoming aware of what you're saying yes to—and what you're saying no to for yourself—is an important step toward finding your voice.Your core values can become your compass. Knowing what truly matters to you helps you make decisions that align with the person you want to be.Grief doesn't follow a predictable timeline. Emotions can come in waves, and you may move between different feelings and stages rather than progressing in a straight line.Healing means allowing your emotions without judging them. Learning to notice, feel, and move through emotions can help you process loss in a healthier way.Guest Bio:Chel Cartmill is a divorce coach, trauma coach, wellness coach, grief coach, and breathwork facilitator who has spent nearly two decades helping people navigate divorce, grief, trauma, major life transitions, and feeling stuck.After experiencing her own traumatic divorce in 2006, Chel became a certified coach in 2007 and went on to develop a body of work focused on helping people find their voice, regulate their emotions, understand their values, and create a life that feels aligned and authentic.Chel is also the author of Spider On My Neck, a memoir based on her own extraordinary divorce experience and the healing journey that followed. She wrote the book not simply to tell her story, but to help readers recognize that they are not alone in what they're experiencing.Resource Links:OsteoStrong Affiliate Referral:https://osteostrongmn.com/affiliate-referral-koski/Soberlink – Divorce & Family Law:https://www.soberlink.com/divorce/family-law?utm_source=affiliatelink&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=lesa-koski-affiliatelinkChel Cartmill's Book: Spider On My Neckhttps://spideronmyneck.com/Core Values Worksheet:https://www.chelcartmill.com/valuesTags/Keywords:divorce grief, divorce recovery, healing after divorce, divorce healing, divorce coach, trauma coach, grief and divorce, grief after divorce, emotional healing after divorce, divorce trauma, people pleasing, how to stop people pleasing, people pleasing recovery, finding your voice, finding yourself after divorce, self abandonment, core values, discovering your core values, life after divorce, rebuilding your life after divorce, divorce and grief, ambiguous loss, processing grief, healthy grief, emotional regulation, divorce support, divorce advice, co-parenting after divorce, healing from betrayal, divorce recovery for women, midlife divorce, personal growth after divorce, trauma healing, breathwork, Shell Cartmill, Spider On My Neck, Doing Divorce Different

⚖️ How to Make Sure Your Divorce Paperwork Is Legally Sound. | Los Angeles Divorce ⚖️What are the best legal strategies for a smoother divorce in California? Preparation, clear communication, cooperation, and properly organized paperwork can help couples move through the divorce process with less conflict and fewer unnecessary delays. Divorce can become more complicated when important decisions about property, finances, custody, or settlement terms are unclear. Having a plan and properly documenting agreements can help create a more organized path forward.

⚖️ How to Prove You Are the Better Parent in Custody Cases. | Los Angeles Divorce