Podcast appearances and mentions of doug noll

Doug Noll was this week's guest on Success Profiles Radio. He is the author of the book De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less, and he teaches people how to solve difficult and highly emotional problems. His groundbreaking work in de-escalating anger in potentially violent confrontations has transformed the lives of thousands. We talked about the business lessons he learned from being a trial lawyer for 22 years, the three key steps to de-escalating an encounter with an angry person, the mistakes people make when trying to do this, and the difference between emotional intelligence and emotional competence. In addition, we discussed various situations where de-escalating strategies are useful and why we need to learn how to do this, examples of successful mediations he has facilitated, fixing a toxic corporate culture, and how to get buy-in from key team members on your goals. We discussed a lot more on the show. You can follow and download the show on Apple Podcasts/iTunes, Spotify, Audible, iHeart Radio, and at Success Profiles Radio | Live Internet Talk Radio | Best Shows Podcasts.

George Noory and author Doug Noll explore his work helping resolve people's interpersonal and ideological conflicts, why people have become more confrontational than they were in the past, and how the Popeye cartoon illustrates a myth of violence always helping the good guy win a showdown.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Power of Empathy in Leadership with Doug NollIn this episode of The Thoughtful Entrepreneur, host Josh Elledge speaks with Douglas E. Noll, owner of DougNoll.com, emotional intelligence expert, mediator, and award-winning author. Doug brings decades of insight into how empathy—often misunderstood as weakness—is in fact the foundation of strong, effective leadership. With a background that spans law, neuroscience, and international peacebuilding, Doug shares transformative tools for emotionally intelligent leadership in today's complex world.Leading with Empathy: Why Emotions Matter More Than EverDoug opens by dismantling the myth that emotions have no place in leadership. In reality, empathy is one of the oldest and most powerful human tools for communication and connection—far older than language itself. For over a million years, humans relied on nonverbal emotional signals to form social bonds and navigate conflict. That legacy is still with us today.Through his work, Doug has developed affect labeling, a neuroscience-backed technique that helps leaders de-escalate tension by naming and reflecting others' emotions. This method calms the brain's emotional centers, creating space for rational thought, trust, and clarity. Whether you're managing a team, facing conflict, or navigating change, Doug's approach makes emotional intelligence both teachable and tactical.Doug also warns leaders about relying on “gut instinct” during high-stakes decision-making. Gut feelings are often just pattern recognition—and without emotional clarity, those patterns can be misleading. The best leaders, Doug argues, are emotionally attuned, vulnerable when needed, and skilled in human behavior—not authoritarian by default.About Doug NollDouglas E. Noll, JD, MA, is the owner of DougNoll.com. After leaving a successful 22-year career as a trial lawyer, Doug became a full-time peacemaker. He is an award-winning author, mediator, teacher, and trainer whose work ranges from international conflict resolution to helping life-sentenced inmates become mediators inside maximum-security prisons. He is the co-founder of the Prison of Peace project and the creator of the Noll Affect Labeling System. His fourth book, De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less, has been published in multiple languages and is now in its second printing.About DougNoll.comDougNoll.com is the home of Doug's consulting, speaking, and training work. He helps leaders, educators, mediators, and organizations master emotional intelligence to build trust, resolve conflict, and foster stronger relationships in any setting. Through keynotes, workshops, online resources, and his best-selling books, Doug equips people with science-based strategies to lead with clarity and connection.Links Mentioned in this Episode:DougNoll.comDoug Noll on LinkedInDe-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or LessPrison of Peace ProjectEpisode Highlights:Why empathy is one of the oldest human leadership traitsThe neuroscience behind affect labeling and how it calms conflictHow military leadership prioritizes...

In this episode of the Daily Mastermind, host George Wright III interviews Doug Noel, a former trial lawyer who transitioned to becoming a peacemaker. Noel shares his journey from practicing law to focusing on emotional intelligence, de-escalation, and conflict resolution. They discuss the importance of recognizing and managing emotions, both in personal and professional settings, through techniques such as affect labeling. The conversation covers how emotional competence can enhance leadership, build trust, and create emotional safety, ultimately leading to more fulfilled and successful lives. Doug also provides practical steps for mastering these skills and offers resources for further learning. 01:29 Doug's Journey from Lawyer to Peacemaker02:44 The Philosophy of Tai Chi and Its Impact03:22 The Turning Point: Questioning the Legal Career04:32 Pursuing a New Path in Peacemaking08:06 Understanding Emotional Intelligence12:12 The Science Behind Affect Labeling16:35 Practical Application of Affect Labeling19:21 Overcoming Social Prejudices in Emotional Labeling19:52 The Power of Self-Awareness and Emotional Intelligence20:29 Mastering Emotional Competence in Business21:37 The Myth of Rationality and Embracing Emotions24:59 The Two Types of Listening27:26 Creating Emotional Safety in Leadership31:49 Practical Steps to Develop Emotional Competency Thanks for listening, and Please Share this Episode with someone. It would really help us to grow our show and share these valuable tips and strategies with others. Have a great day. George Wright III“It's Never Too Late to Start Living the Life You Were Meant to Live”FREE Daily Mastermind Resources:CONNECT with George & Access Tons of ResourcesGet access to Proven Strategies and Time-Test Principles for Success. Plus, download and access tons of FREE resources and online events by joining our Exclusive Community of Entrepreneurs, Business Owners, and High Achievers like YOU.Join FREE at www.JoinTheEvolution.comAbout Doug NollDoug Noll is an expert in resolving complex and emotional conflicts, with a distinguished career as a lawyer turned peacemaker, mediator, and leadership consultant. After 22 years as a trial lawyer, he shifted to mediation and leadership development, earning recognition as one of the Best Lawyers in America and Northern California Super Lawyer. He co-founded the pro bono Prison of Peace project, winning California Attorney of the Year in 2012.An acclaimed author, Doug has written award-winning books, including De-Escalate and Elusive Peace. He teaches at Pepperdine's Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution and is a sought-after trainer and lecturer on peacemaking and conflict resolution.Outside his professional life, Doug is a skilled violinist, pilot, tai chi master, and chef. He lives in the Sierra Nevada, California, with his wife Aleya.Guest Resources:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/douglasenoll/Website: DougNoll.comCLICK HERE to submit your request for a FREE PERFECT Interview on Valiantceo.com Magazine.

If you find it uncomfortable to deal with difficult people and highly emotional problems, stay tuned! Our guest is distinguished attorney Doug Noll, who has a lot to say about how we can improve our skills in handling such situations. Doug is the co-founder of the award-winning Prison of Peace Project, which teaches long-term inmates in maximum security prisons to be peacemakers and mediators. Doug's latest book is called, "De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less".  His website is https://dougnoll.com/ Ritual's clinically-backed Essential For Women 18+ multivitamin has high-quality, traceable key ingredients in clean, bioavailable forms.  It's gentle on an empty stomach with a minty essence that helps make taking your multi-vitamin enjoyable. Our Nobody Told Me listeners! Get 25% off your first month at ritual.com/NTM.  Start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription today. Thinking about starting your own business?  Already have one?  Shopify is the all-in-one commerce platform that makes it simple for anyone to start, run and grow your own successful business.  With Shopify's single dashboard, you can manage orders, shipping and payments from anywhere.  Businesses that sell more, sell on Shopify!  Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/nobody  

Doug Noll left a successful career as a lawyer to become a peacemaker. He is an award-winning author, teacher, trainer, highly experienced mediator, and co-founder of the Prison of Peace project. He talks to Josh about the importance of listening to emotions rather than words and shares his tips on how to not let your emotions control you. Learn more about Doug here: https://dougnoll.com/

Doug Noll, an award-winning author, speaker, and trainer, shares his journey from being a trial lawyer to becoming a peacemaker and mediator. He discusses how his practice of Tai Chi and the realization of the limitations of the legal system led him to make the decision to leave his law practice and pursue a career in conflict resolution. Doug also explains the concept of affect labeling, a three-step process that involves ignoring the words, reading the emotions, and reflecting back the speaker's emotions using U statements. In this conversation, Doug Noll discusses the power of affect labeling and its ability to de-escalate conflicts and build rapport. He explains how affect labeling can be used in various contexts, such as parenting, coaching, and sales. Noll emphasizes the importance of emotional mastery and the role of emotions in effective communication. He also challenges the notion of competition and highlights the value of serving others and creating a more peaceful world. Noll provides resources for further exploration of affect labeling and offers workshops, coaching, and training.Connect with Doug via his website www.dougnoll.comTakeawaysPutting your mind to something can lead to amazing accomplishments over time.Transitioning from one career to another may require personal growth and patience.Success can be redefined to prioritize service to others.Being open to opportunities can lead to unexpected and impactful projects.Affect labeling is a powerful technique for deescalating conflicts by reflecting back the speaker's emotions. Affect labeling is a powerful tool for de-escalating conflicts and building rapport.Affect labeling can be used in various contexts, including parenting, coaching, and sales.Emotional mastery is essential for effective communication and understanding others.Competition has its place, but it should not define our lives.Serving others and creating a more peaceful world should be the focus of our actions.Sign up for the monthly newsletter with Steve and Career Competitor by providing your details here - Request to become part of our communityAlso be sure to give him and the show a follow on Instagram @careercompetitorpodcast

You can calm that angry person in 90 seconds or less Treat anger as a normal emotional response that you can control Episode 199 (Doug is based in California and this is a repeat of episode 117) Why you need to listen to this episode now. If you ever need to face angry people and want a better way to manage the situation, listen to this conversation to save the situation and relationship. If you ever feel out of control from your own anger, examine this perspective to maintain your dignity while deescalating the situation. ----- George Torok and special guest, Doug Knoll - an attorney turned peacemaker - explore the nuanced world of anger and its impact on both personal and professional environments. Focusing on de-escalation strategies and the key role of active listening, this podcast sheds light on how to manage one's emotions, particularly anger, in challenging situations. Knoll provides a unique perspective on anger, viewing it as a response to boundary violations rather than labeling it as “good” or “bad”. His de-escalation strategies have found success in the most unlikely of places, including maximum-security prisons, attesting to their effectiveness. The takeaways from this episode can help leaders better understand their team's emotions, promote effective conflict resolution, and ensure a healthier, more empathetic workspace. The podcast dives deep into the concept of triggers and their role in hijacking rationality, offering effective tactics to anticipate, understand, and respond to these emotional triggers. The importance of self-awareness and self-regulation are highlighted, along with a novel approach to redirect the frustration caused by commonly-encountered triggers. Transitioning into the more sensitive realm of emotional invalidation, the episode examines its harmful effects in personal and professional relationships. The discussion is geared towards parents, teachers, team leaders, and anyone looking to foster emotional safety and create deeper, healthier relationships. The importance of emotional validation is underpinned, coupled with practical techniques to effectively validate and address emotions. Notably, this episode not only offers intellectual paths to managing anger but also guidance for those grappling with pervasive anger issues stemming from trauma. Prepare to be drawn into a riveting conversation about controlling anger for personal growth and professional success as you tune into this podcast. ----- About Doug Noll Doug Noll is a lawyer-turned-peacemaker. In addition to his law degree, he has a Masters Degree in Peacemaking and Conflict Studies.  In 2000, he left a successful law practice as a civil trial lawyer to help people resolve conflicts without litigation or conflict. Doug was born nearly blind, partially deaf, and with two clubbed feet. His disabilities were challenging to overcome….and he did He's a second-degree black belt and tai chi master, a certified ski instructor, an airplane and helicopter pilot, a white-water river rafter, and a jazz violinist. Doug teaches people how to de-escalate angry people in 90 seconds or less. His fourth book, an Amazon bestseller, is called De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less. Doug has online video courses and provides workshops and coaching to individuals and organizations desiring to increase their emotional competency. As a listener of Your Intended Message you are entitled to receive a free book, How to Listen Others into Existence. Learn more Doug Noll here https://dougnoll.com/ ----- ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We'll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more.   Your host is George Torok George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He's fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success.   Connect with George www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/ https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/    

In this episode, Doug Noll and I discuss the pain he endured as a child having been born with several disabilities and how he struggled through school until a teacher discovered he could barely see… Doug's life story is one of overcoming, not succumbing to challenges he was faced with… sharing his experience with emotional wounding and deep grief. Doug has taken his experiences and molded them with his purpose for peace. Douglas E. Noll, JD, MA left a successful career as a trial lawyer to become a peacemaker. His calling is to serve humanity, and he executes his calling at many levels. He is an award-winning author, teacher, trainer, and a highly experienced mediator. Doug's work carries him from international work to helping people resolve deep interpersonal and ideological conflicts to training life inmates to be peacemakers and mediators in maximum-security prisons. His fourth book, De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less, was published by Beyond Word Publishing in September of 2017. De-Escalate is now in four languages and its second printing. He is the co-founder of Prison of Peace, and creator of the Noll Affect Labeling System. In 2012, Doug was honored by California Lawyer Magazine as California Attorney of the Year.   I am your host, Marci Nettles. I have had a lifetime of opportunities where I had the choice to Breakdown or Breakthrough. It is my hope this Podcast may become your light in the darkness, as you listen to the stories of people I consider “heroes.” Each one had a point where they too had to choose to either Breakdown or Breakthrough! Working from home, with my husband/business partner, helping people around the world find new levels of success in their health and wellness, is part of what makes me tick! If you are open to opportunity, let's connect!    Thank you for listening! Please connect with Doug: DougNoll.com Purchase Doug's Book here: MarciNettles.com/books   Find Marci at marcinettles(.)com Don't forget to claim your FREEBIE from Doug by going to Marcinettles.com/freebies  

If you find it uncomfortable to deal with difficult people and highly emotional problems, stay tuned! Our guest is distinguished attorney Doug Noll, who has a lot to say about how we can improve our skills in handling such situations.   Doug is the co-founder of the award-winning Prison of Peace Project, which teaches long-term inmates in maximum security prisons to be peacemakers and mediators. Doug's latest book is called, "De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less".  His website is https://dougnoll.com/

What can an attorney tell us about peace-making? A lot! His big claim: In 90 seconds he can extinguish any argument (and teach you to do the same). What is leadership level listening? • Type One Listening is to get information that you can use and then close out the conversation • Type Two Listening is about validating the other person, making the other person feel heard. When you're flooded with emotions, yours or someone else's, try Affective Labeling. A leader's job is to provide Focus, Direction, and Safety. We can only identify others' emotions if we're calm. There are several layers of emotions that act as triggers. These include: • Anger • Disrespect • Fear • Disgust • Shame • Abandonment To get to the heart of another person, get them to tell you their story. Ask open ended questions. Seek to observe four non-voluntary responses: • Head • Nod Verbal Responses • Relaxed Shoulders • Sigh Doug's book: Deescalate: How to Calm Anyone in 90 Seconds or Less Reach out at: www.DougNoll.com and directly at Doug@DougNoll.com

Welcome to another illuminating episode of "The Last 10%". Today, we have the pleasure of welcoming esteemed guest Doug Noll, an expert in conflict resolution and emotional intelligence. In this episode, Doug shares his unique insights and groundbreaking techniques that can help us navigate conflicts, validate emotions, and tap into our hidden genius.Drawing from his years of experience, Doug emphasizes the importance of labeling emotions and empathizing with others in conflict situations. He explains how this approach has the power to de-escalate tensions and create emotional safety, ultimately leading to more harmonious resolutions. However, Doug's expertise extends beyond conflict resolution. He also sheds light on the commercial concept of emotional intelligence, offering a fresh perspective on how we can develop true emotional competency.Prepare to be inspired as Doug takes us on a captivating journey through his own experiences. From his involvement in the Prison of Peace Project, where he teaches peacemaking and mediation skills to incarcerated individuals, to his profound insights on embracing emotions as a hidden superpower, Doug's story will leave you with a deeper understanding of the human psyche. Stay tuned as we dive into the world of emotional intelligence and discover the profound impact it can have on our lives.Get ready to transform the way you perceive and navigate conflicts as we delve into the riveting conversation between our host, Dallas Burnett, and the remarkable Doug Noll. This episode of "The Last 10%" is sure to empower and enlighten you. Let's dive in!Find more information on Doug and his books and training by visiting: www.dougnoll.com Mentioned in this episode:1on1 App Informationhttps://www.thinkmovethrive.com/1on1-app/

This week's guest is appearing on the show for a second time, Doug Noll is a mediator and peacemaker who teaches people how to listen and validate others' emotions, which he calls Listening Others Into Existence. He believes everyone has a deep need to be heard and validated and that listening and validating someone's emotions is the most powerful and precious gift you can give, costing you nothing. Our culture however teaches us that emotions are bad, and we have learned from our parents to repress our emotions. This causes people to feel uncomfortable when someone is crying or angry, not knowing how to console a grieving friend, dealing with a screaming child, or avoiding hard conversations. As a result, people do not live in emotional safety, are scared of emotions, and are even afraid to admit to their fears, leading to misery, unhappiness, and despair, especially in relationships. Doug's life became one big struggle as he was born nearly deaf, almost blind, and crippled with two club feet. He learned that emotions were not safe, and he became numb to his emotions. However, his work as a mediator and peacemaker forced him to confront human emotion straight on, and he discovered how to listen to others into existence. He taught inmates serving life sentences how to be peacemakers in maximum security prisons and then taught his skills at the highest levels of government in Washington, D.C. Today, he focuses on teaching emotional competency and de-escalation skills based on how our brains are hard-wired, which he believes is a solid foundation of empirical neuroscience. Find Doug here; www.facebook.com/DouglasNoll www.linkedin.com/in/dougnoll/ www.twitter.com/dougnoll www.dougnoll.com/emotional-competency/toxic-person-at-work www.dougnoll.com/

Doug Noll says murderers are not born, they're bred. Today kids revert to what they see around them...violence. Doug Noll founded the Prison of Peace Project. Noll teaches hardcore inmates how to de-escalate an angry, emotional person in 90 seconds or less. It's a skill that we can all benefit from learning in this era of violence. Hello, this is Robert Riggs taking you inside the crime scene tape in this episode of the True Crime Reporter® Podcast. Besides telling interesting crime stories, it is also my mission to educate. Unless you have been living under a rock, you know we live in an epidemic of violence.  school shootings, mass shootings at malls and public places, road rage murders, senseless violent acts, and, as I have reported, outlaw motorcycle gangs shooting each other in broad daylight on Interstate Highways. Some days I think the world has gone crazy. Mediator Doug Noll with Chowchilla inmates in "peace circle" photo by Susan McRae 10/2/2010 Doug Noll is here to explain the causes and offer a solution that's working in prisons. The California lawyer felt a calling in 2010 to create the Prison of Peace project at the Valley State Prison for Women in Chowchilla, California, the largest women's prison in the world.  Link to Noll's Book De-Escalate FOLLOW the True Crime Reporter® Podcast  SIGN UP FOR my True Crime Newsletter THANK YOU FOR THE FIVE-STAR REVIEWS ON APPLE Please leave one – it really helps. TELL ME about a STORY OR SUBJECT  that you want to hear more about

Doug Noll says murderers are not born, they're bred. Today kids revert to what they see around them...violence. Doug Noll founded the Prison of Peace Project. Noll teaches hardcore inmates how to de-escalate an angry, emotional person in 90 seconds or less. It's a skill that we can all benefit from learning in this era of violence. Hello, this is Robert Riggs taking you inside the crime scene tape in this episode of the True Crime Reporter® Podcast. Besides telling interesting crime stories, it is also my mission to educate. Unless you have been living under a rock, you know we live in an epidemic of violence.  school shootings, mass shootings at malls and public places, road rage murders, senseless violent acts, and, as I have reported, outlaw motorcycle gangs shooting each other in broad daylight on Interstate Highways. Some days I think the world has gone crazy. Mediator Doug Noll with Chowchilla inmates in "peace circle" photo by Susan McRae 10/2/2010 Doug Noll is here to explain the causes and offer a solution that's working in prisons. The California lawyer felt a calling in 2010 to create the Prison of Peace project at the Valley State Prison for Women in Chowchilla, California, the largest women's prison in the world.  In closing, here's my Reporter's recap and reflections. A recurring theme in my past stories has been the impact of the lockdown on people's emotions during the Covid pandemic. Plus, there's the loss of civility in American politics.  As you may know from a previous episode, I worked as a Congressional Staffer in the early 1970s, and later in the 1980s, I covered the administration of President Ronald and Congress as a reporter. Today, those institutions look like an alien from outer space.  You can't insult people and then expect them to vote for your legislation. Politics used to be the art of compromise, but now it's a blood sport. I can tell you this. Having worked on a Defense Committee with a top-secret security clearance and as a reporter covering wars and national security…our adversaries love what's happening to our Democracy, And they are chipping away at it.  Because at the end of the day, they want our wealth…our stuff. Are we just going to give it away? You've been listening to the True Crime Reporter® Podcast: Stay True. Stay Safe. And Stay Tuned for more stories from inside the crime scene tape. This is Robert Riggs Reporting. Link to Noll's Book De-Escalate

Doug Noll says murderers are not born, they're bred. Today kids revert to what they see around them...violence. Doug Noll founded the Prison of Peace Project. Noll teaches hardcore inmates how to de-escalate an angry, emotional person in 90 seconds or less. It's a skill that we can all benefit from learning in this era of violence. Hello, this is Robert Riggs taking you inside the crime scene tape in this episode of the True Crime Reporter® Podcast. Besides telling interesting crime stories, it is also my mission to educate. Unless you have been living under a rock, you know we live in an epidemic of violence.  school shootings, mass shootings at malls and public places, road rage murders, senseless violent acts, and, as I have reported, outlaw motorcycle gangs shooting each other in broad daylight on Interstate Highways. Some days I think the world has gone crazy. Doug Noll is here to explain the causes and offer a solution that's working in prisons. The California lawyer felt a calling in 2010 to create the Prison of Peace project at the Valley State Prison for Women in Chowchilla, California, the largest women's prison in the world.  In closing, here's my Reporter's recap and reflections. A recurring theme in my past stories has been the impact of the lockdown on people's emotions during the Covid pandemic. Plus, there's the loss of civility in American politics.  As you may know from a previous episode, I worked as a Congressional Staffer in the early 1970s, and later in the 1980s, I covered the administration of President Ronald and Congress as a reporter. Today, those institutions look like an alien from outer space.  You can't insult people and then expect them to vote for your legislation. Politics used to be the art of compromise, but now it's a blood sport. I can tell you this. Having worked on a Defense Committee with a top-secret security clearance and as a reporter covering wars and national security…our adversaries love what's happening to our Democracy, And they are chipping away at it.  Because at the end of the day, they want our wealth…our stuff. Are we just going to give it away? You've been listening to the True Crime Reporter® Podcast: Stay True. Stay Safe. And Stay Tuned for more stories from inside the crime scene tape. This is Robert Riggs Reporting. Link to Noll's Book De-Escalate We want to become your favorite true crime podcast. Please leave a review wherever you listen. Join our true crime community and follow us here.  The True Crime Reporter® podcast features stories about serial killers, mass murderers, murder mysteries, homicides, cold cases, prisons, violent criminals, serial rapists, child abductors, child molesters, kidnappers, bank robbers, cyber criminals, and assorted violent criminals. True Crime Reporter® is a @2023 copyrighted and trade-marked production by True Crime Reporter®, LLC, in Dallas, Texas.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I sit down with highly experienced mediator Doug Noll to dive into his work as a highly experienced mediator who is passionate about using proven strategies to help people de-escalate conflicts and even more specifically, calm an angry person in 90 seconds. What You'll Discover In This Episode: ✔ What Emotional Invalidation Is And How It's Harmful ✔ The Toxic Lie We All Believed Was True ✔ What Emotional Competency Is And Why It Matters ✔ The 3 Basic Emotional Competencies Worth Learning ✔ The 7 Different Negative Emotions People Feel & How To Use Them To De-Escalate Conflicts To access resources and links from this episode, click on https://AmberDeLaGarza.com/293. P.S. If you want help managing your time, creating efficiency, making a new hire, reducing the stress and overwhelm of running a business, or making strategic decisions that will help you level up your business, I'd like to talk to you. Let's discuss how we can partner together to help you get unstuck, reduce stress, and determine a clear path to increased profits! Schedule your Discovery Call  

Doug Noll and Laurel Coffer started the Prison Peace Project in 2009, which has trained over 1000 women and 1000 men to be peacemakers and mediators. The project has expanded to 15 California prisons, a prison in Connecticut, 14 prisons in Greece, and startups in Italy and Nairobi. The curriculum teaches inmates how to listen, de-escalate, conduct listening peace circles, make durable agreements, coach people, manage strong emotions, and morally reengage people who are morally disengaged. The project has had a 0% recidivism rate, and none of its students have reoffended. The speaker discusses their work teaching incarcerated individuals conflict resolution skills, which has led to a transformation in their behavior and a shift towards promoting peace. They explain their technique of cognitive empathy, which involves reflecting on someone's emotions to them, and how it can lead to a calming effect on the brain. The meeting discussed the use of "you" and "I" statements in communication, with the conclusion that "you" statements are ineffective and "I" statements should be used to express one's own emotions. The importance of emotional competency was also emphasized, with the distinction made between emotional intelligence (a measure) and emotional confidence (a set of skills). The meeting discussed how emotional incompetence is passed down from parents to children, causing emotional stunting in adults. The solution is to learn emotional competence and identify triggers through environmental cues and affect labeling. Doug offers public speaking, coaching, and workshops on listening skills and emotional confidence. His goal is to help people become better listeners and spread peace.   Action items Use "I" statements instead of "you" statements in communication. Learn emotional competence and identify triggers through environmental cues and affect labeling. Attend public speaking, coaching, and workshops on listening skills and emotional confidence offered by Doug Noll.  Links LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/dougnoll/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/doug.noll.52/ https://www.facebook.com/DouglasNoll Twitter https://twitter.com/dougnoll Instagram https://www.instagram.com/douglasnoll/ DN YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtAHXdBT1Y0Pl7SGrM_HcFw EC YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLMgSgzfVqHdriHEN3MiIKA Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/b990204361f85f4a8ac1a25a9a0920   Use Discount Code Podcast to get 50% off The Emotional Competency Courses https://dougnoll.co/dead-america 

IN THIS EPISODE WE'LL DISCUSS...All conflicts arise from emotions rather than from rationality and logic3 steps of listening people into existence4 involuntary relaxation responses to look forDouglas E. Noll, JD, MA left a successful career as a trial lawyer to become a peacemaker. His calling is to serve humanity, and he executes his calling at many levels. He is an award-winning author, teacher, trainer, and a highly experienced mediator.Doug's work carries him from international work to helping people resolve deep interpersonal and ideological conflicts to training life inmates to be peacemakers and mediators in maximum-security prisons. I'M HERE TO SERVE & SUPPORT YOUConnect with me to Guest on my Podcast, join me for a Virtual Coffee where we just chat and get to know each other or experience a Business & Life Strategic Consultation at no chargeGuest on my Podcast  |  Virtual Coffee  |  Business-Life Strategic Consultation  Enjoy the show. James Heppner Website  |  LinkedIn  Psss.... If you like the podcast episode, let us know by subscribing, leaving a little review, and sharing with a friend as you feel appropriate - the guests that I host on this show love the feedback and I love knowing that you are listening. NOW BOOKING PODCAST GUESTS: CLICK HERE https://podcast.jamesheppner.com/podcast-guest

IN THIS EPISODE WE'LL DISCUSS...What is emotional competency?Why is it important?Why are we not taught how to be emotionally competent as children?The myth of rationalityDouglas E. Noll, JD, MA left a successful career as a trial lawyer to become a peacemaker. His calling is to serve humanity, and he executes his calling at many levels. He is an award-winning author, teacher, trainer, and a highly experienced mediator.Doug's work carries him from international work to helping people resolve deep interpersonal and ideological conflicts to training life inmates to be peacemakers and mediators in maximum-security prisons. I'M HERE TO SERVE & SUPPORT YOUConnect with me to Guest on my Podcast, join me for a Virtual Coffee where we just chat and get to know each other or experience a Business & Life Strategic Consultation at no chargeGuest on my Podcast  |  Virtual Coffee  |  Business-Life Strategic Consultation  Enjoy the show. James Heppner Website  |  LinkedIn  Psss.... If you like the podcast episode, let us know by subscribing, leaving a little review, and sharing with a friend as you feel appropriate - the guests that I host on this show love the feedback and I love knowing that you are listening. NOW BOOKING PODCAST GUESTS: CLICK HERE https://podcast.jamesheppner.com/podcast-guest

Hey, Energizer. Welcome to another episode of The Jonesin' For Show, the show that's here to help you live your life to the max and just be the best you can be, right? Let your light shine bright. And today, we have a special guest joining us to share his wisdom, his knowledge with all of us so that we can shine even brighter or even better way to say that is to let our true light shine. He was a lawyer for 22 years, doing business and commercial trials and all that stuff. But what's cool is he's taken that experience.He took his experience there and then transitioned it into helping leaders. To do problem solve, peacemaking, do arbitration, mediation, all those things so that he's helping bring peace in the world and especially in the corporate world. Let's all welcome Doug Noll.

Doug Noll is an award-winning author, teacher, trainer, and highly experienced mediator. His work carries him from international work to helping people resolve deep interpersonal and ideological conflicts to training life inmates to be peacemakers and mediators in maximum-security prisons. His fourth book, De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less was published by Beyond Word Publishing in September 2017. De-Escalate is now in four languages and in its second printing. He is the co-founder of Prison of Peace, and creator of the De-Escalate Emotional People (DEEP) skills.During the episode, we discuss:attributes of an emotionally competent personthe difference between emotional intelligence and emotional competencede-escalating an angry person in 90 secondswhy we are 98% emotional and only 2% rationalwhy emotional invalidation is the first deadly sinGet in touch after the interview:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dougnoll/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DouglasNoll/Twitter: https://twitter.com/dougnollYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/douglasnollWebsite: https://dougnoll.com/Podcast Agent Email: deen@podcastconnection.orgGet Doug's book on Amazon today: “De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less” https://www.amazon.com/Escalate-Calm-Angry-Person-Seconds/dp/1582706557Doug is also offering a free one-hour spot on his new project called Difficult Conversations With Doug which will be live-streamed on YouTube. This will be made available to any two of your listeners who may be avoiding difficult, yet crucial, conversations. You can find out more about this freebie here

Doug Noll is an award-winning author, speaker, and trainer. Doug is the co-founder of the award-winning Prison of Peace Project. He has trained mediators and leaders in Europe, the Middle East, and Asia in his innovative peacemaking and mediation processes.   Doug's honors include California Lawyer Magazine Attorney of the Year, a Purpose Prize Fellow, and Best Lawyers of America Lawyer of the Year.   In this episode, Doug shares with Mike why he shifts from being a successful lawyer to pursuing a career as a mediator and peacemaker. Doug explains the best way to help an angry person calm down and how those skills work in different scenarios.

Douglas E. Noll is an award-winning lawyer-mediator who has mediated thousands of conflicts. His calling is to serve humanity by focusing on helping people resolve deep interpersonal and ideological conflicts. He is an award-winning author of three books, a teacher, speaker, and a trainer. His fourth book De-Escalate was published by Beyond Word's Publishing in September of 2017. De-Escalate is now in four languages and in its second printing. He is the co-founder of Prison of Peace, and creator of the Noll Affect Labeling System. In 2012, he was honored by California Lawyer Magazine as California Attorney of the Year. Learn more about Doug below: https://dougnoll.co/dylan Want to learn more about Dylan or book a session, check out his website: www.dylansessler.com ____________________________________________ Socials: Email: invictus.dev.grp@gmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dylan_sessler/ Tik Tok: https://tiktok.com/@dylan_sessler Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dylansessler LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dylan-sessler-69a29b19a/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Dylan_J_Sessler --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Co-Host Doug Noll (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/noll) It's not uncommon for us as men to imagine ourselves as warriors. But the wisest warriors know a valid war isn't about the fighting, it's about the peace at the end. Even soldiers are often tasked as peacekeeping forces. Popular guest Doug Noll returns to discuss how we as men are actually at our best when we're peacemakers. This guy works in maximum security prisons teaching murderers how to be exactly that, with great success...so you know he's on to something. Indeed, Doug hits the ground running with a full-scale explanation of why violence is perhaps the least evolved of possible masculine responses. And when it comes to keeping peace with the women in your life, wait until you hear Doug explain his genius concept of 'listening your girlfriend into existence'. Then, hang in there for Doug's explanation of how another concept can help propel your career as well as your relationships with others, including women. Next, what are the fascinating ways your hormones and body chemistry contribute to building rapport, decreasing aggression and fomenting peace? A lot of this is about negotiating skill, which is POWERFUL. Nevertheless, to completely throw a scientific wrench in the works, listen in as Doug explains what he thinks of Stephen Covey's strategic habit of 'thinking win/win'. Keep calm and carry on to https://mountaintoppodcast.com/ === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!

Blossom Your Awesome Podcast Episode #91 Emotional Competency With Doug NollDoug Noll is back on to help us with deeper insights into emotional intelligence. He is a lawyer-turned-peacemaker, mediator, best-selling author, trainer, coach, and speaker. He has worked in places as diverse as maximum security prisons and the U.S. Congressional Budget Office. Doug is dedicated to helping people de-scalate intense confrontations and develop emotional intelligence and awareness. Doug is also the cofounder of Prison of Peace. Created in 2010 at the request of inmates at Valley State Prison for Women in Chowchilla, Ca the largest women's prison in the world. Prison of peace helps inmates serving life sentences become peacemakers, mediators and trainers.  Since its inception, Prison of Peace now operates in two California women's prisons, two men's prisons, THe Los Angeles County Jail, and internationally in Spain and Greece.To learn more about Doug and his work checkout his website here. To see more of my work  - blossomyourawesome.com https://blossomyourawesome.com/mindfulness-1Where I write and cover mindfulness and other things to help you Blossom Your Awesome. Or follow me on instagram where I post fairly regularly and ask an inquisitive question or two weekly in hopes of getting you thinking about your life and going deeper with it. My Instagram - i_go_by_skd

In this episode, Doug Noll, lawyer turned peacemaker, talks about his story going from being a lawyer to a peacemaker. He also discusses the Prison of Peace Project and the concept of "listening others into existence". Additionally, he goes into detail on the teachings of his book De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less. Douglas E. Noll, JD, MA is an award-winning author, speaker, and trainer. After 22 years as a trial lawyer, he became a peacemaker and mediator. Today, he helps people solve deep and intractable conflicts and teaches others to do what he does. Mr. Noll is an adjunct professor of law at the Pepperdine School of Law Straus Institute where he teaches Decision Making Under Uncertainty Conflict and is also the co-founder of the award-winning Prison of Peace Project, in which he teaches murderers in maximum security prisons to be peacemakers and mediators. He has trained mediators and leaders in Europe, the Middle East, and Asia in his innovative peacemaking and mediation processes. He has personally mediated over 1,500 disputes, including sexual abuse cases in the Catholic Church and criminal victim-offender cases. On a personal note, he is a jazz violinist, aircraft and helicopter pilot, ski instructor, 2nd degree black belt, tai chi master, and whitewater rafter. He lives with his wife Aleya Dao in the foothills of the central Sierra Nevada south of Yosemite National Park. Find Doug: Website: dougnoll.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/dougnoll/ Facebook: facebook.com/DouglasNoll Youtube: youtube.com/channel/UCtAHXdBT1Y0Pl7SGrM_HcFw

I talk with founder of Prison of Peace, lawyer-turned-peacemaker, best-selling author of four books, speaker, visionary, and teacher. We discuss his journey and what Prison of Peace is all about. Doug also facilitates difficult conversations between people who are avoiding a tough topics. Read more on Doug: https://dougnoll.com/ and https://dougnoll.com/blue-collar-enlightenment --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thebceshow/message

WELCOME TO THE BEST OF 2022! Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday through December, we'll be reposting some of our favorite episodes from this year to give you inspiration and motivating to both end this year strong, and kickstart 2023 on a positive note! Below are the original post's notes. _____________________________________________________ About: Douglas E. Noll, JD, MA left a successful career as a trial lawyer to become a peacemaker. His calling is to serve humanity, and he executes his calling at many levels. He is an award-winning author, teacher, trainer, and a highly experienced mediator. Doug's work carries him from international work to helping people resolve deep interpersonal and ideological conflicts to training life inmates to be peacemakers and mediators in maximum-security prisons. His website is dougnoll.com. __________________ Thank you again for joining us today! If you know anybody that would benefit from this episode please share it with them and help spread the knowledge and motivation. Don't forget to show your support for the Rise Up For You Podcast by writing a review on iTunes. Your feedback helps the success of our show and pushes us to continuously be better! Check out www.riseupforyou.com for more podcast episodes, webinars, events, and more to help you get to the next level in your personal and professional life! You can also follow us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and Youtube @riseupforyou Looking for more support? Grab your free coaching call with our team completely FREE! Bring your questions about Confidence, Leadership or Business and we will assign you the best coach to provide customizable support. SCHEDULE YOUR FREE CALL HERE calendly.com/riseupforyou/coaching _____________________________________________________ Thank you again for joining us today! If you know anybody that would benefit from this episode please share it with them and help spread the knowledge and motivation. Don't forget to show your support for the Rise Up For You Podcast by writing a review on iTunes. Your feedback helps the success of our show and pushes us to continuously be better! Check out www.riseupforyou.com for more podcast episodes, webinars, events, and more to help you get to the next level in your personal and professional life! You can also follow us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and Youtube @riseupforyou Looking for more support? Grab your free coaching call with our team completely FREE! Bring your questions about Confidence, Leadership or Business and we will assign you the best coach to provide customizable support. SCHEDULE YOUR FREE CALL HERE riseupforyou.com/coaching

If you find it uncomfortable to deal with difficult people and highly emotional problems, stay tuned! Our guest is distinguished attorney Doug Noll, who has a lot to say about how we can improve our skills in handling such situations.   Doug is the co-founder of the award-winning Prison of Peace Project, which teaches long-term inmates in maximum security prisons to be peacemakers and mediators. Doug's latest book is called, "De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less".  His website is https://dougnoll.com/   Note: This episode was previously aired.   Our sponsor, Ritual's Essential Protein, is a delicious, plant-based protein powder with three distinct formulas designed to meet the body's changing protein needs during different life stages.  There's Daily Shake 18+, Daily Shake 50+ and Daily Shake Pregnancy and Postpartum. Each of these three thoughtful formulas contains 20 grams of pea protein per serving. Ritual's Essential Protein powder is a good foundation for your health that's easy to incorporate into your daily rituals—just add water, shake and sip! Ritual offers a super flexible subscription service with free shipping for subscribers, free, easy cancellation and a money-back guarantee within the trial period. Ready to shake up your protein Ritual? Our Nobody Told Me! listeners get 10% off during your first 3 months at ritual.com/NTM.

I'm excited to introduce this week's guest, Doug Noll. Doug was born with multiple disabilities: he had both audio and visual disabilities as well as two club feet. After struggling with sports in school, he turned to Scouts and the outdoors and started to thrive. Doug is a whitewater guide, Level III PSIA ski instructor, sailor, and fly fisher. He has also been a rock climber, mountaineer, competitive swimmer, and Class IV kayaker. His various outdoor adventures have taught him discipline, persistence, patience, mental endurance, and fortitude, which he applies in his career as a peacemaker and mediator. In this episode, we discuss Doug's adventures, how he overcame his disabilities to thrive in the outdoors, and what he's learned over the years.   About Doug Noll Douglas E. Noll, JD, MA left a successful career as a trial lawyer to become a peacemaker. His calling is to serve humanity, and he executes his calling at many levels. He is an award-winning author, teacher, trainer, and highly experienced mediator. Doug's work carries him from international work to helping people resolve deep interpersonal and ideological conflicts to training life inmates to be peacemakers and mediators in maximum-security prisons. His fourth book, De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less, was published by Beyond Word Publishing in September 2017. De-Escalate is now in four languages and in its second printing. He is the co-founder of Prison of Peace, and creator of the Noll Affect Labeling System. In 2012, Doug was honored by California Lawyer Magazine as California Attorney of the Year.   Doug's Links LinkedIn Facebook Facebook Twitter  Instagram DN YouTube EC YouTube Pinterest  Free gift   Listen To This Episode        What You'll Learn How Doug overcame his disabilities to thrive in the outdoors Meaningful moments in Doug's adventures and what he's learned from them How Doug's adventures informed his career as a mediator   Things We Discussed Doug's Difficult Conversations Project  Outward Bound  Counterstrain therapy  Rolfing  Peacemaking: Practicing at the Intersection of Law and Human Conflict  Sex, Politics & Religion at the Office: The New Competitive Advantage  De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less  Elusive Peace: How Modern Diplomatic Strategies Could Better Resolve World Conflicts    Related Episodes 436 Tori Joy Geiger ~ How to Have Outdoor Adventures When You've Got a Chronic Illness 385 Holly Worton ~ How Your Adventures Can Revolutionize Your Relationship With Your Body (now with downloadable transcript!) 373 How Outdoors Adventures Can Help You Give Yourself Permission to Be You (now with downloadable transcript!) 367 Holly Worton ~ Finding Yourself Through Solo Travel and Outdoor Adventures (now with downloadable transcript!) 293 Holly Worton ~ How to Get Back on Track & Get Sh!t Done After Illness or Burnout (now with downloadable transcript!)   Connect With Holly Website Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn   How to Subscribe Click here to subscribe via iTunes Click here to subscribe via RSS Click here to subscribe via Stitcher   Help Spread the Word If you enjoyed this episode, please head on over to iTunes and kindly leave us a rating and a review! You can also subscribe, so you'll never miss an episode.   Connect With Holly Website Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn   How to Subscribe Click here to subscribe via iTunes Click here to subscribe via RSS Click here to subscribe via Stitcher   Help Spread the Word If you enjoyed this episode, please head on over to iTunes and kindly leave us a rating and a review! You can also subscribe, so you'll never miss an episode.

In this episode DJ sat down with previous trial lawyer, now peacemaker and award-winning author, Doug Noll to discuss raising emotionally healthy and competent kids. Listen in as they discuss how human beings are more emotional than rational, that keeping your own emotions in check will help your child feel safe and secure and how you can be a successful emotional coach for your child.Douglas E. Noll, JD, MA left a successful career as a trial lawyer to become a peacemaker. His calling is to serve humanity, and he executes his calling at many levels. He is an award-winning author, teacher, trainer, and a highly experienced mediator. Doug's work carries him from international work to helping people resolve deep interpersonal and ideological conflicts to training life inmates to be peacemakers and mediators in maximum-security prisons. TIMESTAMPS• [6:01] Doug talks about one of his passions is getting parents to stop invalidating their children's emotions, which in his view, is the most insidious and pervasive form of emotional abuse that exists.  • [10:36] “Most of us were brought up to believe that human beings, what separates us from other animals is rationality or ability to reason. That is simply not true. It's a myth.”  • [17:45] “They got there because the parents have the correct skills to teach them emotional competency, by reflecting back their emotions, and by modeling in the adult relationship.”  • [24:51] Doug shares that you have a choice to raise emotionally healthy kids or you can raise emotionally unhealthy kids… It's a simple choice and is a skill you can master in four to six weeks. For more information on the Imperfect Heroes podcast, visit: https://www.imperfectheroespodcast.com/Connect with Us!DJ Stutz - DJ Stutz: https://www.littleheartsacademyusa.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/littleheartsacademy/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/littleheartsacademy/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOpphCRklDJiFXdS76U0LSQDoug Noll - Website: https://dougnoll.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/doug.noll.52/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLMgSgzfVqHdriHEN3MiIKALinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dougnoll/Special website for Imperfect Heroes podcast listeners: https://www.dougnoll.co/imperfect-heroes

1389 - Conflict Resolution in the Workplace with Doug Noll

“Listening People Into Existence.” In this second episode with Doug Noll of the Prison of Peace program, Bill and Megan continue their conversation about this program that leads incarcerated individuals through intensive workshops to become Peacemakers, and eventually Certified Trainers who go out into their communities after their release, using their new peacemaking skills. In this episode, Doug continues telling us about: success stories the skill of affect labeling and the research behind it recidivism rates for those who have been through the program where it's been and is being implemented, and preparing for massive growth Listen in as Doug, Megan and Bill dig deep into why this program works.Links & Other NotesDOUG NOLL'S WEBSITE & BOOKS https://dougnoll.com/podcast/high-conflict-institute/ https://www.prisonofpeace.org/ Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (02:52) - Learning to Change (07:44) - You Have to Show Up (14:47) - Motivation (17:30) - Gratification (18:37) - The Draw (24:10) - Greatest Satisfaction (25:10) - Wrapping Up (25:53) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Ginger Gentile Learn more about our exclusive Family Law Consultation Group right here and sign up to be part of the 2024 session today!

“From Serving Life to a Life of Service.” This is the motto of the Prison of Peace program created by Doug Noll and Laurel Kaufer, two lawyers with big hearts from California. Through Prison of Peace, incarcerated individuals are led through intensive workshops as they progress through the various program levels from Peacemaker to Certified Trainer, mastering the art of communication and conflict resolution, enabling them to create safer, more peaceful lives for themselves and others, in prison and beyond.In today's episode, the first of a two-parter, Bill and Megan are joined by Doug Noll who will talk about the transformative Prison of Peace program. They discuss: what the program is and how it works how it started what led inmates to being incarcerated (think trauma background) program success whether it can work for everyone Listen in as Doug talks about “Listening people into existence” in this first episode of two.Links & Other NotesDOUG NOLL'S WEBSITE & BOOKS https://dougnoll.com/podcast/high-conflict-institute/ https://www.prisonofpeace.org/ Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (03:09) - Doug Noll and Personal Transformation in Inmate Populations (03:34) - Doug's Background (05:07) - Questions (09:00) - Prison of Peace (16:35) - Affect Labeling (19:47) - Back to Prison of Peace (31:00) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Part 2 with Doug Noll Learn more about our exclusive Family Law Consultation Group right here and sign up to be part of the 2024 session today!

Imagine the results when you can calm an angry person in 90 seconds - or less Anger is a normal emotion and you can manage those angry people in your life Episode 117 (Doug is based in California) In this conversation with Doug Noll, we explore: That angry is simply one part of our emotional personality How to quickly sooth the angry soul Anger is an indication of a boundary violation What is emotional invalidation and how does it harm Mistakes to avoid with facing angry people Why anger is not necessarily bad How to manage your own anger and recognize the triggers Why ranting is not a helpful solution About Doug Noll Doug Noll is a lawyer-turned-peacemaker. In addition to his law degree, he has a Masters Degree in Peacemaking and Conflict Studies.  In 2000, he left a successful law practice as a civil trial lawyer to help people resolve conflicts without litigation or conflict. Doug was born nearly blind, partially deaf, and with two clubbed feet. His disabilities were challenging to overcome….and he did He's a second-degree black belt and tai chi master, a certified ski instructor, an airplane and helicopter pilot, a white-water river rafter, and a jazz violinist. Doug teaches people how to de-escalate angry people in 90 seconds or less. His fourth book, an Amazon bestseller, is called De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less. Doug has online video courses and provides workshops and coaching to individuals and organizations desiring to increase their emotional competency. As a listener of Your Intended Message you are entitled to receive a free book, How to Listen Others into Existence. Take advantage of this offer here www.DougNoll.co/intended-message ----- Excerpts from this conversation with Doug Noll: 03:04 Well, it's very interesting. There are at least 12 Different kinds of anger. And we don't have time to go into all the different kinds of anger there are, but there are at least 12 Different kinds of anger. And at its root, of course, Anger is an emotion. And there are many levels and intensities of anger. So you can be frustrated, which is an anger, emotion, you can be annoyed, you can be enraged, you can be irritated, you can be you can have hatred, so many, many different levels. The key to all of these emotions are that when we get triggered into an angry emotion, the emotional centres of our brain take over. And they shut down the thinking part of our brain. And we've all had this experience when we've seen it, you get angry, you can't think what some really interesting brain scanning studies show is that when the listener labels the anger to the angry person, the speaker, the anchor goes away in about 90 seconds. And all I would say is something like this, Hey, George, you are really pissed off, you're angry, you're frustrated, you feel completely disrespected and ignored. You don't feel appreciated. You feel a little bit of anxiety and worry about all of this. And you're sad because you feel betrayed. And the whole thing is just really frustrating to you. If you were really angry by me saying those words in that way to you, your brain would literally calm itself down. What's effectively happening is that because your prefrontal cortex is offline when you're angry, when I tell you what you're feeling, it allows your prefrontal cortex to grab a hold and figure things out and all of a sudden calm itself down. And it's how every human brain is hardwired. And it happens in less 90 seconds. It's how it works,   05:04 Doug, if if we did nothing else in this conversation today that that phrase that you just did, you just delivered there is enough to provide tremendous value. Because what I'm noticing is one when you said that you were not responding, anger to anger, which is the typical response, well, you're angry, I'll be even angrier. Yes, I can be a bigger jerk than you no problem. That's the typical response. And then we wonder why he was so unproductive. And we both go away feeling frustrated and unsatisfied. But when you said that, and even though I mimicked anger before, I wasn't angry, but I could imagine if you were saying that to me, and I was angry, it's like, oh, you get me? You understand me?   05:50 Exactly. That's exactly right. And here's what's happening. angry people need to be listened to, they're angry because they're not being heard at a deep emotional level. And when you can fulfil that need by validating their emotional experience, when I call listening another person into existence, anger goes away instantly. And it happens every single time without failure. And I have had 12 years of field experience teaching murderers and maximum security prisons, how to become peacemakers and mediators to stop prison violence. And I've taught over 20,000 inmates these skills, and every single one of them has had success with it in many cases. We started in 2010, my colleague Wolkoff and I started in 2010, in the largest, most violent women's prison in the world. Valley State Prison for Women and Chowchilla, California. Two years into the program, we trained 800 women out of a population of 3600. We got an unsolicited letter from the warden saying the prisoner quieted down because of prisoner peace. It works. ----- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by improving your communication skills. We'll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more.   Your host is George Torok George is a specialist in executive communication skills. That includes conversation and presentation. He's fascinated by way we communicate and influence behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success.   Connect with George www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/ https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/   For weekly tips to improve your presentations visit https://toroktips.com/   ----more----    

I teach parents how to listen to their children into existence through emotional reflection. This is a foundational skill that deepens trust, emotional safety, and intimacy. Many parents are not emotionally competent and pass on their incompetency to their children. By learning how to be an emotional coach for your children, you will create deep peace in your family and promote resilience, emotional strength, and emotional intelligence in your children. In his words: I am a lawyer-turned-peacemaker, author, speaker, teacher, and visionary. FIND HIM HERE: Audience page: https://dougnoll.co/becoming-parents (this is a bit.ly link to the podcast page) Group coaching link: https://www.deescalate.dougnoll.com/groupcoachingorder Website: https://dougnoll.com LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/dougnoll/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/doug.noll.52/ https://www.facebook.com/DouglasNoll Twitter https://twitter.com/dougnoll Instagram https://www.instagram.com/douglasenoll/ DN YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtAHXdBT1Y0Pl7SGrM_HcFw EC YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLMgSgzfVqHdriHEN3MiIKA Pinterest www.pinterest.com/b990204361f85f4a8ac1a25a9a0920 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-parents/message

Doug Noll claims he can calm an angry person in 90 seconds or less. Growing up in an affluent Southern California community, he was born with many disabilities: partially deaf and almost blind, he couldn't walk until he was three years old. Although he had a loving family, the community and society at large didn't fully understand how to interact or connect with a disabled child. Noll  cites learning to overcome his physical disabilities and emotional turmoil as his introduction to reinvention. Watching his father go through bankruptcy and rebuild himself as a stockbroker gave him a second window into reinvention. Eventually, Noll went on to become a trial lawyer for over 20 years, learning martial arts, tai chi, and energy healing work in his free time. By his mid-40s he had chosen to go back to school for a master's in peacemaking and conflict studies. Walking away from a ten million dollar law practice, Noll  chose to become a mediator. Working in prisons, courtrooms, and beyond, he developed a simple technique for calming anger in less than a minute and a half. “Once you start doing this, you start to change yourself,” Noll observes. Listen in on his conversation with CoveyClub founder Lesley Jane Seymour to learn how you can adopt this simple technique and bring more peace, compassion, and authenticity into your life. FREE GIFT! Don't start your reinvention without downloading CoveyClub's starter guide called “31 Badass Tips for Launching Your Reinvention Without Fear!”   Bio: Doug Noll speaks about and teaches people how to solve difficult, intractable, and highly emotional problems. He was a business and commercial trial lawyer for 22 years before turning to leadership development, problem-solving, and peacemaking. He is a Senior Consultant with Mobius Executive Leadership and maintains a high-level mediation and arbitration practice. Key Links: Website Book Join CoveyClub: If you like what you hear, you can support the CoveyCast podcast with a five-star rating, and subscribe to CoveyClub for more inspiring conversations.  Social & Website CoveyClub website Facebook Twitter Instagram LinkedIn

Today's topic is how to increase your emotional competency from Doug Noll on the Learning from Smart People Podcast with Rob Oliver. Doug was born with multiple disabilities and learned to overcome those. Today, he is a world-class mediator and peacemaker. His story is fascinating and I'm sure you are going to learn from what he has to say. Here are several key points as Doug Noll and Rob Oliver discuss how to increase your emotional competency: · Doug has a background as a lawyer where he learned about negotiation · His understanding was shaken while studying martial arts · Doug's list of disabilities at birth was extensive · The physical disabilities were painful, but the emotional issues were more difficult · His own experiences in teaching himself gave him insights into how to teach others · It's about breaking things down into small, discrete pieces · What is impossible today is difficult tomorrow but in three weeks we can be asking why did it take so long to get here? · You can find deep meaning in life by serving other people · There is a balance between emotionality and rationality · We are 98% emotional and 2% rational · The rational mind cannot see problems · We teach people to be rational instead of emotional but that needs to change · Emotional competency is about three things: emotional self-awareness, emotional self-regulation and empathy · You can't increase your emotional intelligence, just emotional competency · Cognitive empathy is about emotional reflection · Doug's favorite laboratory is Starbucks · You can listen another person into existence · Most people are emotionally self unaware · The majority of people stop maturing emotionally at 6 years old · Emotional incompetency is passed from generation to generation · Our emotions are often invalidated You can learn more about Doug Noll through the links below. Especially check out the offer on his website. Website: http://DougNoll.co/smart-people Website: https://dougnoll.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/dougnoll Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DouglasNoll Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/douglasenoll/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dougnoll/ Thanks for listening to the Learning from Smart People Podcast! Please Subscribe, leave a comment and follow us on social media: Twitter: http://twitter.com/LFSPPodcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/LFSPPodcast Facebook: http://facebook.com/LFSPPodcast LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/lfsppodcast/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/imroboliver/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbWV_LuUad7ZWuE9j5D9v-w You can also use the “Contact” page on the “Learning from Smart People” website: https://www.learningfromsmartpeople.com Code: pIeacCy3txLv17moCDUG

If you're looking for solid advice on how to up-level your negotiation skills, then you won't want to miss this episode. Cindy Watson interviews negotiation expert, Doug Noll. Douglas left a successful career as a trial lawyer to become a peacemaker. His calling is to serve humanity, and he executes his calling at many levels. He is an award-winning author, teacher, trainer, and a highly experienced mediator. Doug's work carries him from international work to helping people resolve deep interpersonal and ideological conflicts to training life inmates to be peacemakers and mediators in maximum-security prisons.   You'll come away with a deeper understanding about:   What does peacemaking mean How this works in prisons The art of negotiation, and how that helps as a peacemaker, mediator and in life  What role gender plays in negotiation Negotiating with bullies or people with more power Howpreparation can elevate your effectiveness in negotiation The key role emotion plays in negotiations Key reasons negotiations fail Skills that make a great negotiator   Learn more about Doug at: Website: https://dougnoll.com  LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/dougnoll/  Facebook https://www.facebook.com/douglasnoll    If you're looking to up-level your negotiation skills. I have everything from online to group to my signature one-on-one mastermind & VIP experiences available to help you better leverage your innate power to get more of what you want and deserve in life. Check out our website at www.ArtOfFeminineNegotiation.com if that sounds interesting to you.   And be sure to grab your copy of my AOFN book Follow Cindy: WEBSITE https://www.womenonpurpose.ca/ INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/womenonpurposecoaching/ LINKEDIN https://www.linkedin.com/in/thecindywatson/ CLUBHOUSE: @HERsuasion TWITTER https://twitter.com/WomenOnPurpose1 YT: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCHOGOsk0bkijtwq8aRrtdA Website: www.ArtOfFeminineNegotiation.com

Why are you angry and how do you de-escalate?Divorce isn't easy and emotions almost always run high. In today's episode, Seth and Pete talk with Doug Noll, an expert peacemaker who co-founded Prison of Peace, an organization dedicated to training maximum security prison inmates how to be peacemakers and mediators in their prison communities. He had been a trial lawyer, so knows a thing or two about battles in the court room. So today, we're having a conversation about conflict and de-escalation.It all starts with emotions. We're emotional beings, and they far often outweigh rational thought. But why do we get so emotional? And how can we start learning our triggers and how to respond? Those are things Doug knows a thing or two about. Once you're there, how can you bring yourself down? And what do you do to de-escalate the conflict when it's your ex who's bringing it? Doug talks Seth and Pete through some tools that can help you when you're dealing with high conflict in your divorce. About DougDouglas E. Noll, Esq. is an award-winning lawyer-mediator who has mediated thousands of conflicts. His calling is to serve humanity, and he executes his calling at many levels. He is an award-winning author of three books, a teacher, speaker, and a trainer. His fourth book De-Escalate was published by Beyond Words Publishing in September of 2017. De-Escalate is now in four languages and in its second printing. Doug's work carries him from international work to helping people resolve deep interpersonal and ideological conflicts. He is the co-founder of Prisonw of Peace, and creator of the Noll Affect Labeling System. In 2012, Doug was honored by California Lawyer Magazine as California Attorney of the Year. Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!Get Your Resources from Doug HereDoug's websiteDoug on LinkedIn, Twitter, Facebook and YouTubeDe-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Meet Doug Noll (01:07) - Prison of Peace (03:35) - Why Do Arguments Spin Out of Control (07:28) - Tool to Calm Down (12:29) - Responses (14:34) - Affect Labeling (18:53) - What Happens in You When You Affect Label (20:43) - Day to Day (29:13) - Structuring Data (33:08) - In a Contentious Divorce (39:25) - For the Lawyer (43:00) - The Structure (44:34) - Opposing Counsel (50:03) - Resources (52:52) - Wrapping Up

Douglas E. Noll, JD, MA left a successful career as a trial lawyer to become a peacemaker. His calling is to serve humanity, and he executes his calling at many levels. He is an award-winning author, teacher, trainer, and a highly experienced mediator.  Doug's work carries him from international work to helping people resolve deep interpersonal and ideological conflicts to training life inmates to be peacemakers and mediators in maximum-security prisons.  In this episode, we discuss: - Getting bogged down by obligations and taking on too much at one time. - Shifting practicing law from fight-mode into problem-solving into peacemaking. - A broader perspective in peacemaking leads to understanding the human condition than the traditional transactional relationship of the lawyer and client. - Working within the prison systems to find key factors in developing peacemaking programs. Please let me know your thoughts!  Connect with Doug Noll: Website: https://dougnoll.com/  Connect with Cindy Watson: Wesbite: https://watsonlabourlaw.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/womenonpurposecommunity/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/WomenOnPurpose1  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/womenonpurposecoaching/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCHOGOsk0bkijtwq8aRrtdA?view_as=subscriber  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EPISODE 147 - Doug Noll was born partially deaf, nearly blind, crippled, and super smart. (All buzz kills for the girls in his early years!) He graduated from Dartmouth College, earned his law degree, and was a ferocious civil trial lawyer for 22 years. Then he went back to school to become a peacemaker. Since he left his lucrative law practice in 2000, Doug has devoted his life to understanding human conflict. His groundbreaking work in de-escalating anger in potentially violent confrontations has transformed the lives of thousands. In the episode, Doug explains why de-escalation is a critical first step in any conflict, how to calm an angry person in 90 seconds (or less!), why emotional invalidation is extremely problematic…and more! EPISODE WEBPAGE: thehealthinvestment.com/147 P.S. – If you're liking The Health Investment Podcast, be sure to hit “subscribe/follow” so that you never miss an episode

Trial Lawyer turned peacemaker, Doug Noll, has since 2009 been working with prisoners, some serving life sentences, who want to learn how to stop the prison–violence. Doug coaches them on how to become mediators and de-escalate conflicts which have had life-changing repercussions and I got him on to share some of his wisdom and methods with us.We cover:- How he got into this line of work.- The softer you are, the stronger you are. The more vulnerable you are, the more powerful you are.- What made him walk away from $10 million to pursue peacemaking. - How to listen.- How to ignore the words to make an emotionally safe environment. - Real life example on how to put this into practice (I'm your guinea pig with an example from my dayjob).- What a world without violent conflicts means.- Emotional invalidation and how it plays into the unhappiness of couples.- Debunking the worst tips on how to calm someone down.- Affect vs emotions (a difference between animals and humans).- How triggers can be used for self-awareness and how to rewire your brain to clear those triggers.- How to self-regulate your emotions.- What working with prisoners has taught him about life and people.- How listening to others into existence can change your life and theirs.- We round up with Doug sharing the most powerful story from his work with prisoners. Find Doug: https://dougnoll.co/too-old (am not an affiliate) His program is called Prison Of Peace Program. If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations

It seems that conflict is all around us these days, from political discord to conflict on the job, to fights with partners. The interesting thing is if asked, most people would say the one thing we want more than anything else is peace. However, if that's the case, then why does it seem that so many of us are having trouble controlling tempers, comprising, and finding the peace they say they want. Some research would say it's because we have not been taught the power of using emotional intelligence to harness peace. Emotional intelligence (EI) refers to the ability to perceive, control, and evaluate emotions. The ability to express and control emotions is essential, but so is the ability to understand, interpret, and respond to the emotions of others. I've brought in Doug Noll to help us dissect this topic. He's a lawyer, speaker, and author, Doug has spent much of his life examining human conflict. His latest book, De-Escalate, helps people resolve deep interpersonal and ideological conflicts. This is a must-listen-to interview. He truly shares nuggets of wisdom.GuestDoug Noll is an award-winning lawyer, mediator, author, teacher, speaker, and trainer who has mediated thousands of conflicts. After serving as a civil trial lawyer for 22 years, Doug is passionate about understanding human conflict. His groundbreaking work in de-escalating anger in potentially violent confrontations has transformed lives everywhere, including in maximum-security prisons. Doug's fourth book, De-Escalate, is now available in four languages. Key Takeaways1. All conflict can be resolved in 90 seconds or less2. We must address the emotions before we address the problem 3. Ignore the words and read the emotion Research on the TopicEmotional intelligence is the ability to perceive, reason, understand, and manage emotion (Cherry, 2020). While some argue that we are born with a set level of emotional intelligence, others argue that it is a skill that can be strengthened with knowledge and practice. Much research points to the latter argument, and programs for social and emotional learning have become standard curriculum in many schools. Gaining a greater understanding of emotional intelligence can have many benefits. Strengthening and understanding emotional intelligence helps you to think before you react to situations, maintain a greater sense of self-awareness, and have more empathy than others. To improve your emotional intelligence, it's important to listen, empathize, and reflect the emotions of those around you as well as yourself. Overall, working to improve your emotional intelligence is beneficial in many, if not all, aspects of life. Want More?Check out episode 72: Exploring Mindfulness, Meditation, and Manifestation with Mahima for more information on keeping your cool in stressful times!Resources/Things Mentioned During The Show:Doug Noll https://dougnoll.com/BackStory Masterclass Sign Up https://neely-counseling-center-plc.ck.page/93288607abDrop The BS Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dropthebspodcast/

Learn more about Doug's basic and advanced Emotional Competency course, the De-Escalate video course, and his book De-Escalate by going to DougNoll.co/biohacks. That link saves you $800 of his Emotional Competency courses.    Douglas E. Noll, JD, MA left a successful career as a trial lawyer to become a peacemaker. His calling is to serve humanity, and he executes his calling at many levels. He is an award-winning author, teacher, trainer, and a highly experienced mediator. Doug's work carries him from international work to helping people resolve deep interpersonal and ideological conflicts to training life inmates to be peacemakers and mediators in maximum-security prisons.Learn more about Doug's basic and advanced Emotional Competency course, the De-Escalate video course, and his book De-Escalate by going to DougNoll.co/biohacks. That link saves you $800 of his Emotional Competency courses.    - Learn more about our one-on-one Biohacker Coaching program www.BiohackerCoaching.com   - Grab your free copy of The Biohacker's Guide to Upgraded Energy and Focus (just help with s/h) https://biohackersguide.com/free-guide   - Subscribe to our free email newsletter www.biohackersguide.com/energycrash    - Subscribe to The Biohacking Secrets Show podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-biohacking-secrets-show/id1139825099   Join Our Uncensored Telegram Channel for VIP Biohacking Content You Can't Get On Social

Douglas E. Noll, JD, MA left a successful career as a trial lawyer to become a peacemaker. An award-winning author, teacher, trainer, and a highly experienced mediator, his calling is to serve humanity through conflict resolution and the understanding of human communication.   In this episode Doug shares effective strategies for recognizing and labeling emotions and using those insights to make the people you interact with feel heard and appreciated.   Talking Points:   How Doug overcame an en extremely difficult childhood including being born nearly blind The vocation of peacemaker and what it entails How our emotional regulation affects our wellbeing The difference between emotional intelligence and emotional competence How to read the emotions of others     Quotes:   “When you learn how to serve others in a meaningful way, that's when your life really changes and becomes happy.” “You can teach people to become emotionally aware faster, by teaching them how to read other people's emotions.” “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel.”   Find out more about Doug Noll at: https://dougnoll.co/ng

Doug Noll just blew mind. As a mediator and peace maker, Doug has a lot to teach us about de-escalating angry people.  Learn these techniques and never have an argument again.  Find OPP episodes, discounts on health optimization gear and learn about the work I do as a Life Coach and Performance Coach at Seanmccormick.com  EPISODE SPONSORS - BioProtien+ - Boost HGH Naturally - Get $30 off here  In this episode we cover:  •A research backed strategy for emotional growth •Emotional invalidation destroys the brain •Why people are more angry today •Free Ebook HERE •Why you should never expect people to be reasonable - WHAT •How ALL conflict is emotional •The power of affect mirroring •The specific 3-step technique to handle challenging people •The importance of honoring your own and other's emotions •How most of our social skills have atrophied •96% of all families are emotionally dysfunctional •How we're never taught how to be social •Why you have to de-escalate before you problem solve •Prison of Peace Project

Doug is a former California attorney of the year, award-winning author, and mediator who has mediated thousands of people to help them resolve deep interpersonal and ideological conflicts. In this episode, he shares the simple yet powerful technique to calm anyone in 90 seconds or less by listening them into existence. He also discusses why emotional invalidation is the first deadly sin, why being soft actually signifies strength, and how vulnerability is powerful.  Connect with Doug at dougnoll.co/positivehead Care to play a game with the youniverse? Now you can let the youniverse choose the episode you are meant to hear next by clicking here! Download The Golden Key audio or e-book at GoldenKey.Gift with the Code: POSITIVEHEAD Follow Brandon on Instagram and text him to receive regular golden nuggets of wisdom at 310.564.0750

We will learn: Why emotional invalidation is the first deadly sin.  The secret to de-escalating emotions in just a few minutes.  How to get through to unresponsive people. Today we're going to learn how to calm an angry or upset person in 90 seconds or less. And I will tell you, it's not only easy to learn, but so far I found that it works miraculously. Our guest is Douglas Noll, award-winning author, teacher, trainer, and a highly experienced mediator. Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/212 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self.  Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations.  Support Mind Love Sponsors   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.