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Best podcasts about ken sande

Latest podcast episodes about ken sande

Cross & Gavel Audio
SPECIAL EPISODE: Relational Wisdom for Lawyers — Ken Sande (Wellness Program)

Cross & Gavel Audio

Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2025 54:04


It is no secret that law students and attorneys exist in a stressful environment. As Amy Levin recently wrote, "[l]aw student mental health is at an all-time low." The American Bar Association (ABA) has conducted a study that shows how this environment tends to contribute to high rates of mental health disorders and substance abuse. In an effort to face this challenge, LSM has launched the Wellness Program—focused on providing students resources and discussions to face this issue, together.   In this special episode, Michelle Williams talks to Ken Sande about relational wisdom, emotional intelligence, and developing healthy habits in navigating the challenges of legal pratice.  Helpful resources for continuing education: Relational Wisdom 360 [Home Page] A Stolen Baby, $200M Lawsuit and an Astonishing Reconciliation [READ] Attorneys as Peacemakers and Conciliators [PDF]  Reconciled by a Baby Moose [READ] Lincoln's Relational Wisdom [READ] Emotional Intelligence for (Secular) Attorneys [READ] For more with Ken Sande, listen to our other conversatioin here. Link to SUBSTACK here. Music Credit: Tokyo Music Walker  

Hope Bible Church
Leadership Meeting with Ken Sande

Hope Bible Church

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2025 106:25


D6 Podcast
#462 | Guarding Against Narcissism - Tom Bump

D6 Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 24, 2025 30:08


Tom Bump is a seasoned ministry leader and pastor's kid who has dedicated his career to full-time ministry since the age of 18. Known for his passion for connecting with people, Tom combines his experiences and spiritual insights to address contemporary issues in leadership and community, particularly leadership and narcissism.During our conversation, Tom dives into the topic of narcissism, especially in leadership roles. He explained how to differentiate between narcissists and leaders. He also talks about the importance of understanding one's God-given identity and emphasizes the role of accountability and self-awareness in guarding against narcissistic or selfish tendencies.He shared strategies for parents and church leaders, who are discipling kids, to help young people develop a healthy sense of self, highlighting the necessity of setting an example and emulating Christ-like humility.Get a free sample or order D6 Curriculum at www.d6everyday.com  Get your copy of Creating Healthy Church Systems by BradRansom here: https://bit.ly/4bTER3G Learn more about Tom Bump's ministries here: https://tombump.com/ Check out The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict by Ken Sande here: https://amzn.to/3XXf5pI

Veritas Community Church Sermons
Bold, Peaceable, & Holy

Veritas Community Church Sermons

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 9, 2025 46:10


Pastor Garrison GreeneTEXT: Genesis 33:1-20BIG IDEA: Our transforming relationship with the Lord transforms the way we relate to others.OUTLINE: Knowing God….1. Helps Us With Our Fear Of Others2. Moves Us Pursue Peace With Others3. Causes Us To Be Distinct From OthersRESOURCES: ESV Study Bible; Genesis Commentary by John Calvin; Reformed Expository Commentary: Genesis by Richard Phillips; Living in the Grip of Relentless Grace: The Gospel in the Life of Jacob by Iain Duguid; When People Are Big and God Is Small: Overcoming Peer Pressure, Codependency, and the Fear of Man by Ed Welch; The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict by Ken Sande

The Word Before Work
7 biblical principles for resolving conflict at work

The Word Before Work

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 2, 2024 4:47


Sign-up for my free 20-day devotional, The Word Before Work Foundations, at http://TWBWFoundations.com--Series: 7 Biblical Principles for Resolving Conflict at WorkDevotional: 7 of 7Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you (Ephesians 4:32) If you've been following the biblical principles in this series, your efforts to make peace with those you're in conflict with will likely go well. But they very well might not.How are we to respond to those who are unrepentant and unmoving? Depending on the situation, you may be called to pursue mediation, arbitration, or public accountability (all three of which are addressed biblically and helpfully in Ken Sande's excellent book, The Peacemaker).But regardless of whether your situation calls for one of those more escalated responses, I can tell you one response we are all called to in every situation: “Forgive as the Lord forgave you” (Colossians 3:13).Commenting on this verse, Dr. N. T. Wright says: “it is utterly inappropriate for one who knows the joy and release of being forgiven to refuse to share that blessing with another. [Furthermore] it is highly presumptuous to refuse to forgive one whom Christ himself has already forgiven.”Amen. But hey: I know how impossible it can feel to forgive someone who has wronged you at work. If that's you today, hear these words from pastor Tony Merida: “When your tank is empty, remember the tomb is empty!” The price Christ paid to forgive you was cosmically greater than the price you must pay to forgive your neighbor. Go and forgive likewise.Today's passage brings us to the 7th and final principle we'll explore in this series. Here it is in context of the full list of 7 biblical principles for resolving conflict at work: Praise the Prince of Peace for the grace and mercy he has shown you (Matthew 5:9)Make the First Move to resolve any conflict (Romans 12:18)Resolve to Overlook or Address the offense that has caused a lack of peace between you and someone else (Proverbs 19:11, 27:5)Pluck the Plank from your own eye before you address the offense of another (Matthew 7:3-5)Prepare Your Heart to bless the person you are in conflict with (Psalm 51:10)Address the Conflict with Grace that flows out of the grace you've been shown by Christ (Colossians 4:5-6)Forgive Freely as Christ has forgiven you (Ephesians 4:32) Believer, you and I are called to be “salt and light” in our workplaces. How did Jesus say people will taste our proverbial saltiness? Check out Mark 9:50: “Salt is good, but if it loses its saltiness, how can you make it salty again? Have salt among yourselves, and be at peace with each other.” Pursue peace as a means of preserving your saltiness for God's glory this and every day!

The Table Podcast - Issues of God and Culture
Christians Need Relational Skills Too

The Table Podcast - Issues of God and Culture

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 26, 2024 37:29


In this episode, Kymberli Cook and Ken Sande discuss Sande's work at Relational Wisdom 360 and how the tools and principles they teach can help us be more like Christ and have flourishing relationships.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The Table Podcast - Issues of God and Culture
Christians Need Relational Skills Too

The Table Podcast - Issues of God and Culture

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 26, 2024 34:45


In this episode, Kymberli Cook and Ken Sande discuss Sande's work at Relational Wisdom 360 and…

The Word Before Work
How to produce a “Golden Result” in your conflicts with others

The Word Before Work

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 11, 2024 5:14


Sign-up for my free 20-day devotional, The Word Before Work Foundations, at http://TWBWFoundations.com--Series: 7 Biblical Principles for Resolving Conflict at WorkDevotional: 4 of 7Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, “Let me take the speck out of your eye,” when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye. (Matthew 7:3-5)Out of nowhere, my colleague blindsided me with a super offensive comment—the kind of remark that could have easily destroyed our relationship. I was furious and wanted nothing more than to retaliate. But by God's grace, I took some time to see “the plank” in my own eye and realized that I had contributed greatly to the conflict.I went to my friend and apologized for my part in the disagreement. And before I could even address how he had offended me, my friend offered up a sincere apology of his own. Today, our personal and professional relationship is stronger than ever.This is an example of what Ken Sande calls the “Golden Result,” which is a corollary to the “Golden Rule.” As the expert peacemaker explains in his book, “If we blame others for a problem, they will usually blame in return. But if we say, ‘I was wrong,' it is amazing how often the response will be, ‘It was my fault too.'”How does God often bring about the Golden Result in conflict? By his people following this biblical principle…Principle #4: Pluck the Plank from your own eye before you address the offense of another.Commenting on Jesus's words about “planks” and “specks” in Matthew 7:3-5, pastor Tony Merida says this: “Our assessment of the other person [in a conflict] is wrong…because something is blurring or blocking our vision. And it's not a speck—it's a 2 x 4! Jesus is saying our vision…in the midst of conflict is totally compromised when we fail to assess ourselves first.”So, how practically do we go about plucking the plank from our own eye? Here are three ideas.First, accept Jesus's premise that you are the primary contributor to the problem. Again, here's Merida: “While we most often think the other person has the log and we have the speck (‘Sure, I can own up to about 10 percent of this conflict, but they are most certainly creating 90 percent of it!'), Jesus flips this assumption around!”Second, ask God for supernatural humility to see how you've contributed to the conflict.Finally, journal about how you may have contributed to the conflict in the note I've been encouraging you to build throughout this series. Need some help? Journal through these questions:What underlying desire do I have that this person is allegedly blocking? Is that desire God-honoring?What habitual sins, fears, insecurities, or past wounds might be fueling my reaction to this conflict?If a wise, Christ-like mentor observed this conflict, what planks might they see in my own eye?In what ways can I demonstrate Christ's work in me by owning my part in this conflict?I'm praying those practices put you on a path to pursuing peace with those you work with today!

The Word Before Work
3 steps to decide if you should overlook or address an offense

The Word Before Work

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 4, 2024 4:42


Sign-up for my free 20-day devotional, The Word Before Work Foundations, at http://TWBWFoundations.com--Series: 7 Biblical Principles for Resolving Conflict at WorkDevotional: 3 of 7A person's insight gives him patience, and his virtue is to overlook an offense. (Proverbs 19:11)We're in a series exploring seven biblical principles for resolving conflict at work. Here's the third…Principle #3: Resolve to Overlook or Address the offense that has caused a lack of peace between you and someone else.You may be surprised to learn that Scripture commends overlooking certain offenses, but it's there in black and white (see Proverbs 19:11). And I think we see evidence of this in the life of Christ. Take Jesus's exchange with the “rich young ruler.” After Jesus pointed to God's commands such as the ones to “not murder,” and “not commit adultery,” the young man said, “All these things I have kept from my youth” (see Matthew 19:16-22). To which Jesus must have thought, “Really?”While this man may not have technically murdered or cheated on his wife, Jesus's Sermon on the Mount made clear that no human (save Christ himself) is capable of keeping those commandments perfectly. Jesus undoubtedly saw pride and spiritual blindness in this young man's heart. But he chose “to overlook [the] offense” in this particular interaction.So yes, sometimes we'd be wise to overlook an offense. But other times, we'd be wise to address an offense that is leading to a lack of peace (see Proverbs 27:5). How can we discern when to overlook and when to address an offense that is causing conflict? Here are three steps.#1: Write down the offense as clearly as you can. Because as Charles Kettering once said, “A problem well stated is a problem half solved.” Go back to the note I encouraged you to start last week and complete this sentence: “I feel a lack of peace with [Name] because…” And be as detailed as you can about why you feel a lack of peace towards this person.#2: Pray for wisdom on whether to address or overlook the offense. James 1:5 says, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”#3: Ask yourself these diagnostic questions.Does the offense dishonor God?Has the offense damaged my relationship with the person?Has this person's actions hurt themselves or others?Was the offending action done intentionally?Is the offending action a recurring issue?If I overlook the offense, will I continue to dwell on it?If the answer to all of these questions is “no,” then it's probably wise to overlook the issue which, according to Ken Sande, “involves a deliberate decision not to talk about it, dwell on it, or let it grow into pent-up bitterness or anger.”If you can do that, praise God! If not, we've got some more work to do together next week.

The Word Before Work
New Series: 7 Biblical Principles for Resolving Conflict at Work

The Word Before Work

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 21, 2024 5:12


Sign-up for my free 20-day devotional, The Word Before Work Foundations, at http://TWBWFoundations.com--Series: 7 Biblical Principles for Resolving Conflict at WorkDevotional: 1 of 7Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. (Matthew 5:9)In his excellent book The Peacemaker (which was hugely influential in my writing of this series), author Ken Sande defines conflict as “a difference in opinion or purpose that frustrates someone's goals or desires.”With that definition as our guide, it's easy to see that “conflict” is everywhere in our work. But the command to make peace is everywhere in God's Word. After declaring “Blessed are the peacemakers,” Jesus went on to dedicate huge portions of the Sermon on the Mount to the art of resolving conflict (see Matthew 5:21-26, 38-41, 43-48, 6:14, and 7:1-5). Commenting on that sermon, pastor Tony Merida says, “Clearly being a peacemaker is a big deal to Jesus!”It was also a big deal to Jesus's followers. As Ken Sande points out, “every Epistle in the New Testament contains a command to live at peace with one another.” Take 1 Peter 3:11 as just one example. Peter says believers “must seek peace and pursue it.”I am not a natural peacemaker. And I'm willing to bet that you'd admit the same. So, what will compel us to pursue peace per Christ's command? That brings me to the first biblical principle for resolving conflict at work…Principle #1: Praise the Prince of Peace for the grace and mercy he has shown you.You and I were once God's enemies (see Romans 5:10). But “since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ” (see Romans 5:1). And staring at the peace Christ has secured for us is the key to sharing peace with others (see Matthew 18:21-35). What does it look like practically to stare at the peace we've been given? Here are three ideas.First, get on your knees and remember what God has saved you from. One of my closest friends starts every day this way as a means of praising the Prince of Peace.Second, add a time of confession to your quiet time routine. Why? Because as Paul David Tripp points out, “No one gives grace better than [the one] who humbly admits that he desperately needs it himself.”Finally, breathe in grace and mercy. Sande says that Christians ought to be people who “breathe grace” in conflict. But “we cannot breathe out what we have not breathed in.” So, try this physical practice. Literally exhale slowly as you confess your sins. Then breathe in slowly as a means of physically representing the life-giving peace that Christ secured on your behalf at Calvary.

Cross & Gavel Audio
175. Habits of a Peacemaker — Steven T. Collis

Cross & Gavel Audio

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 2, 2024 53:37


In this episode, I talk about a new book that models the ten habits that any peacemaker should adopt. The author is Steven T. Collis and the book is Ten Habits of a Peacemaker. For those wondering how this book compares to the work of Ken Sande's The Peacemaker, the two are excellent companions. While Ken's is more theological (LISTEN), Steven's project looks at the process and psychological challenges of creating a space for constructive dialogue and common life. To that end, him and I spoke about the importance of habit formation, the challenges of navigating perception, the psychology underlying group-think, the various steps that an individual can take to develop the heart of a peacemaker, and much more. Steven researches and teaches on religion law, productive discourse, and other First Amendment topics at the University of Texas at Austin School of Law. He is the founding faculty director of the Bech-Loughlin First Amendment Center and its Law & Religion Clinic. Before joining Texas Law, he was a Research Fellow in the Constitutional Law Center at Stanford Law School. Faculty bio. My first conversation with Steven can be found here. Cross & Gavel is a production of CHRISTIAN LEGAL SOCIETY. The episode was produced by Josh Deng, with music from Vexento.

Hicksville Cornerstone Church Podcast
Peacemaker: All Glory to God

Hicksville Cornerstone Church Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 10, 2024 31:42


Message from Pastor AJ Swanson Matthew 5:9; 1 Corinthians 10:31 New Sermon Series inspired by book The Peacemaker by Ken Sande

Smiling at the Future
93. Relational and Communication Skills with Dr. Ernie Baker

Smiling at the Future

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 18, 2024 35:51


Biblical counselor Dr. Ernie Baker shares insights on how couples can grow in relational and communication skills by answering the following questions: What are God-honoring motives for pursuing growth in these two areas? What is the difference between character qualities and relational skills? What are the core areas of communication we need to put intentional effort into improving? What counsel would you give a couple who have different communication styles? What are the common ways that couples stumble regarding conflict resolution?  Website: smilingatthefuturepodcast.com  Email: smilingatthefuturepodcast@gmail.com  Support The Podcast: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://donorbox.org/smiling-at-2024⁠⁠ Recommended Resources:  “Marry Wisely Marry Well” by Dr. Ernie Baker “Help! I'm in a Conflict” booklet by Ernie Baker  “Peacemaking for Families” by Ken Sande  “Marriage Maintenance and Minefield Management” article by Ernie Baker: https://www.biblicalcounselingcoalition.org/2021/04/26/marriage-maintenance-and-minefield-management/

Pepe Bas, Jr
Episodio 98. Cuando el conflicto llama a tu puerta

Pepe Bas, Jr

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 10, 2024 6:45


NOTAS SUELTAS: ¿Alguna vez te has preguntado por qué el conflicto parece ser una constante en nuestras vidas? En esta serie de cinco capítulos exploraremos la Solución Bíblica al conflicto, basada en los principios de Peacemakers Ministries™ dirigido por Ken Sande. Acompáñanos mientras desbloqueamos el misterio del conflicto y descubrimos cómo manejarlo de manera efectiva. _________________________________ PASTOR PEPE RECOMIENDA: LIBRO: The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict (Inglés) Por: Ken Sande https://amzn.to/4caPlew LIBRO: Cómo resolver los conflictos: Solucionando los problemas con otros Por: June Hunt https://amzn.to/4efAr8G ÁLBUM - “Adoramus Te” Pastor Pepe en el Violín interpretando himnos selectos...¡en un estilo único y original! DISPONIBLE EN PLATAFORMAS DE DESCARGA Amazon Music - https://amzn.to/4c2oYqK ÁLBUM - "Soberano Rey" Pastor Pepe y su esposa, Iva en un álbum sublime de adoración. DISPONIBLE EN PLATAFORMAS DE DESCARGA Amazon Music - https://amzn.to/3yBj6GD _________________________________ Síguenos: Podcast: Spotify open.spotify.com/show/2L9gk6T37buGqqjxOArj5s?si=ccd11765097e455a Sígueme: Facebook facebook.com/pepebastv Sígueme: Instagram - PepeBasTV instagram.com/pepebastv Comunion de Vida Igl Hispana comuniondevida.org _________________________________ Adquiere: Logos Bible Software logos.refr.cc/josebas Adquiere: Música de Pepe Bas pepebasjr.hearnow.com Ahorra con energía solar! powur.com/whysolar?ref_id=19595 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pastorpepeenlared/message

Cities Church Sermons
Agree in the Lord

Cities Church Sermons

Play Episode Listen Later May 12, 2024


For those of you who have been Christians for a long time, have you ever heard a sermon before and thought, “Wow! When the pastor said that one part, it was like he was talking straight to me”? Can you imagine what Euodia and Syntyche must have felt after this letter was read to the church at Philippi?This letter from Paul was read aloud in one sitting to the gathered church, and in the audience of that church would have been the two women that Paul names here, Euodia and Syntyche. And all we know about these women are three things:They both were members of the church at Philippi — they've got strong Greek names, not Jewish names. So they would have been some of the Gentiles who converted to Christ when the gospel advanced to Philippi in Acts 16.They both labored with Paul in the gospel as his friends. These two women were not church consumers or ministry bystanders, but they were active with Paul in the mission — and that's why Paul addresses them by name. He's not shaming them by doing this, but it's just the opposite. By saying their names he is highlighting his personal connection to them. We know these women were important to Paul and to the church.They had a disagreement. We know this because Paul entreats them to “agree in the Lord” and Paul would not say that if they already were agreeing. So they had some kind of disagreement.And other than these three things, we don't know much else about what's going on here, and it kinda drives some people crazy. There's a lot of mystery in this passage: Who is this “true companion” Paul mentions? Who is Clement? What exactly was this conflict about? Commentators have spilled a lot of ink with all kinds of speculations here, and I'm not going to get into any of that — I figure that if Paul wanted us to know more details then he would have given us more details. So instead, for this sermon, I just want to highlight three observations in these verses that are relevant for our life together as a local church. Here they are:Local church unity really matters (verse 2).Local church unity is owned by everyone (verse 3a).Local church members' names are written in the book of life (verse 3bc).We're gonna slow down and focus on each one of these, but first let's pray, and ask the Father to do more in this time than what we have expected:Father in heaven, we believe that the Bible is your word to us, and that means that anytime we hear your word preached it is always for us. By your Spirit, through your word, you address us as a local church and as individuals who are part of the local church. And so we ask: give us hearts to receive what you have for us this morning, in Jesus's name, amen. Local church unity really matters (verse 2)When Paul tells Euodia and Syntyche to “agree in the Lord” — to have unity — it's the third major mention of unity in this letter. Unity has been a theme, going back to Chapter 1, verse 27. Pastor David Mathis mentioned this verse again last week. Philippians 1:27, “Only let your manner of life be worthy of the gospel of Christ, so that whether I come and see you or am absent, I may hear of you that you are standing firm in one spirit, with one mind striving side by side for the faith of the gospel …”1:27 is extremely connected to our passage today. Notice three ideas back in 1:27: Standing firm; Striving side by side in the gospel; Having unity …And if you remember, the unity part continues into Chapter 2:“So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind.”Unity!So standing, striving, unity — each of these ideas in 1:27 show up again in the first few verses of Chapter 4. Everybody look at those words “to agree” in Chapter 4, verse 2.Those two words “to agree” is literally to have “the same mind” — and those are the exact same words that Paul uses in Chapter 2, verse 2. So the idea of unity in Philippians 2:2 and Philippians 4:2 is the exact same, it's just that now in 4:2 Paul is repeating that idea with practical application. Paul has obviously known about the disagreement with Euodia and Syntyche since the start of the letter, so it's kind of like the whole letter has been heading toward this moment. Chapter 4, verse 2 is not an afterthought, but Paul saying this has been his plan. It reminds us that unity in the local church is not theoretical, but unity really matters, because disagreements really happen. This is real-life.Talking ‘Everyday Conflict'When you put a bunch of people together, each with their own stories and experiences, and personalities and preferences, there will be moments when we relationally bump into each other. The writer Ken Sande calls this “everyday conflict.” And we've all been there. We've either been involved in these conflicts or we've known about conflicts, and as a fact, in the life of our church over the past decade, most of our relational conflicts have been between women. Now these have not been massive disruptions — most of the time they're small disagreements —but I think they tend to happen more among women because women care more than men. I'm going to do some natural theology here, but we have to be okay with speaking in general. In general, men are more externally-oriented. Men think: “let's go build something.” And of course there are disagreements among men, but with men we either resolve them or we separate. Because we're looking externally. We're shoulder-to-shoulder, and the question is about the work: Can we get over this to keep doing the work together? We're externally-oriented. But see, men and women are different. Women are integrators. They are internally-oriented. They cultivate and beautify inside. Women have wombs and make wombs. Sisters, hear me, in general, and profoundly so, you are nesters. And it's glorious and indispensable to the local church, but it also means that when conflict arises, your first instinct is not to resolve or separate, but it's to go silent. Because you want to integrate. You want it all to go together, and so maybe if you just keep your distance on that issue, maybe it will go away, maybe it won't be that big a deal, maybe a little tension won't be so bad. You just want to hold everything together. And that's precious! That's motherly. Happy Mother's Day!That's at least how things started in the church at Philippi. We don't know the details of why these two women are disagreeing, but we know this: the conflict was not severe enough to split the church, but it was also not minor enough not to be addressed.Better Than OkayAnd probably tells us something about Paul's standard of unity. Most likely these women were “okay.” They were tip-toeing around each other, making it all work. They were okay. But Paul wants them to be better than “okay” — he wants them to agree in the Lord. The way Paul puts this is important. He says the exact same thing to both women and he addresses them in alphabetical order: “I entreat Euodia” and “I entreat Syntyche.” He's not taking sides here. He speaks to both women individually and he appeals to what they both have in common — they both are in the Lord. This means that whatever the root of the issue was, whatever caused the conflict, because they are both in the Lord — they are both united to Christ — let that be the source of their unity together.The blood of Jesus that cleanses us from all sin! — the resurrection power of Jesus at work in our hearts! — the Spirit of Jesus who is completing in us the good work that he began! — That can do better than “okay.” Because of THAT, we can agree.These sisters are already on the same page when it comes to the most ultimate things in reality, now get on the same page about this conflict. It doesn't mean they have to become ‘besties,' and it doesn't mean that act like the thing never happened, but they can come to resolution in Christ. They can think the same way in Christ, for Christ, because of Christ.Paul entreats these women to do that, and so I would like to entreat the women in our church. My sisters, I thank God for you. Our church needs you. You shape the heart of this community. You are the warmth of our fellowship. You are like the welcome of God to everyone who comes here, and so, sisters, I entreat you: agree in the Lord. Unity really matters.Here's the second observation …2) Local church unity is owned by everyone (verse 3a)Look at the first part of verse 3:“Yes, I ask you also, true companion, help these women. …”And like I mentioned earlier, there's a lot of speculation about who Paul is talking about here, and some arguments are better than others, but I'm not going to mention them because the main thing I want us to see here is the high-level fact that there are two women who have a conflict, and there is somebody else who is supposed to help them. You Can Be a PeacemakerPaul gives a command here. This true companion, another member of this local church, is commanded to help Euodia and Syntyche to agree in the Lord. This means that we should expect disagreements between two parties to require a third-party helper. When there's a conflict between some members of the church, it's other members of the church who should help them resolve the conflict. The name we might give these other members, these helpers, is “peacemaker.” And I think it's helpful that Paul doesn't mention this peacemaker by name, because it's actually the responsibility of anyone in the church. Any of us could be a peacemaker. If we're all leaning in and moving in the same direction, and doing what Paul exhorts us to do — if we're living in a way that witnesses to the all-satisfying value of Jesus (1:27a), if we're “being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind” (2:2) — if we're all doing that and any of you finds out about two members who are disagreeing, you should move toward them to help them. The whole church must take ownership of the church's unity. Which means if there's ever festering conflict in a church, if there's disunity, it's not just because two people disagree, but it's also because others are not helping like Paul says we should. Every single one of us should be ready to become peacemakers. And there's not really an alternative here, unless you also want to become part of the problem. Conflict in one part of the church is the whole church's business because unresolved conflict will eventually affect the whole church.When It FestersAnd you can imagine how this goes: Euodia has this issue with Syntyche, and she says it's not a big deal but then she tells another friend about it. And that friend brings it up in a Life Group as a prayer request, and then suddenly there's three women who think Euodia is right.At the same time, Syntyche tells one of her friends about it, a little more removed from Euodia, and that friend is all in with Syntyche and she can't believe Euodia would do that. And then that friend's husband gets in on it too, but here's the thing: Euodia and Syntyche are cold toward one another but cordial — maybe they're okay — but the unresolved conflict means that sides slowly begin to form. Charitable judgment is pushed aside and suspicions toward one another start to creep in. And the local church, which is the family of God, which is an embassy of heaven on this earth, it starts to become a place of anxiety — and the focus is not on How do we make Jesus known in this world? but the focus is: How do we make all this hold together? And meanwhile, Satan is throwing a party because the whole thing started with an argument about carpet color. And we should laugh here because it's silly, but church, Jesus isn't laughing. Do we have any idea how disunity in the church must grieve him? He bought us with his blood. He has given us the Spirit of unity! His Spirit is the love of God poured into our hearts! — and what are the things that we let come between us?Getting in the RoomI've tried to be a peacemaker one time, in a formal sense, years ago. I was part of a different church, there was a disagreement between two individuals, and I felt like I had enough rapport with them both to help them agree. And so we got together in a room, and they sat across from one another and I sat here, and honestly, that was the hardest part. It was just getting in the room, in front of one another. And the only way it happened — the only way it happens — is because both individuals want to be there. Both individuals have to want to, in humility, count the other more significant than themselves. They have to want to look not only to their own interests but also to the interests of the other. They have to want to have the mind of Christ — which means they will suffer the discomfort of that conversation for something greater than comfort. They will risk humiliation because the honor of unity is more precious that the honor of winning.Church, I'll tell you, if we can have a Philippians 2-heart like Jesus and just do what the Bible says, everything around here is going to be good. I promise. So for all of us, each one of you true companions, if there's disagreement, help. Let's point one another to Philippians 2. Let's be peacemakers. Local church unity is owned by everyone. 3. Local church members' names are written in the book of life (verse 3c)In verse 3 Paul makes it clear that Euodia and Syntyche are his friends. They are his sisters whom he loves and longs for. They are his joy and crown, his beloved, and they've served the Lord together. They've “labored side by side with [Paul] in the gospel together with Clement and the rest of [Paul's] fellow workers” — and here's the sentence to end on — “whose names are in the book of life.”What Is the Book of Life?What is that? We probably heard something about a “book of life” before, but it's not from Paul. This is the only time in all of Paul's letters that he mentions the “book of life.” So where does this idea come from?Well, we first see it in the Old Testament, in the Book of Daniel, Chapter 12. Daniel is talking about the very end of time and he says that those who will be saved are “everyone whose name shall be found written in the book” (12:1). Then later, in the New Testament, John, in the Book of Revelation, picks up that same theme. The Book of Life is mentioned six times in Revelation, and Revelation 21:27 basically says the same thing as Daniel 12:1. On the last day, the day of judgment, the Book of Life will be opened and only those whose names are written in the book will enter the kingdom of heaven.So we read about this book in Daniel, and then in Revelation, but most notable of all is that Jesus talks about it. In Luke 10, Jesus sent out 72 missionaries to go into every town and prepare these towns to receive him. So they're commissioned out, two by two, and then later they return with joy, and they're blown away by the mission. They said, “Lord, even the demons are subject to us in your name!” And do y'all know how Jesus replied?He said, “Do not rejoice in this, that the spirits are subject to you, but rejoice that your names are written in heaven” (v. 20).Written in the book of life. That's what Jesus is talking about. Isn't it great when Paul says the same things that Jesus said?Paul is getting this from Jesus. There is a book in heaven and it has names written in it — and it's everyone who has put their faith in Jesus — and it's really important. Eternally important! Because, if your name is in this book, you get to be with Jesus forever. And if we could remember that our names are written in that book, do you think it could change the way we handle our conflict? That's why Paul goes here, because remembering that book changes things.How Does This Impact Our Conflicts?So I want to close with this question: How does this fact — that our names are written in the book of life — how does that impact how we handle conflict?Three ways:When we remember that our names are written in the book of life …First, we will see one another as loved by Jesus. Paul is thinking here like a Baptist, because he assumes that every member of the local church is a born-again believer. If the local church was a mixed community of Christians and non-Christians, then when there's conflict, the immediate question is whether the other person is really a Christian or not. It's instant suspicion. But, because the local church is made up of only those who have been brought from spiritual death to spiritual life, conflict in the local church is always between two people for whom Jesus died. That's not theoretical. I'm being very literal here. The person you are disagreeing with — if they are a church member in good standing, duly affirmed by an elder-led covenant membership — that person is your brother, your sister, and Jesus loves them. He knows them and he loves them. Jesus wrote their names down in the book in his blood.And so someone's response to conflict — someone's resistance to even try to agree — actually says more about them than it does anything else. Can you really love your Savior if you despise the one he saved? (See 1 John … Chapter 4, verse 20)Jesus loves the person you got beef with. Their name is written in the book.When we remember that our names are written in the book of life …Second, we will come to help one another with hope.I think one of the biggest barriers to sustained unity in the local church is our cynicism toward conflict. If we've been around long enough and we've seen enough conflict, we can do the whole ‘Here we go again.' That's cynicism. It's a subtle doomsday mentality that the conflict will go about as badly as it could. And look, I get it, I've been there — but that mentality is wrong. If our names are written in heaven, the expectation should be that we can agree and we will. We should be eager to get together in the same room and work it out. Look, Jesus is pulling for us! The Spirit is gonna help us! We move toward resolution with hope — humbly and prayerfully, God help us. We can have hope!When we remember that our names are written in the book of life …Third, we will rethink our disagreements in light of Jesus's face.One thing that Paul is doing at the end of Chapter 4, verse 3 is that he's sending us back to 3:21. This is for perspective. He's reminding us: Our citizenship is in heaven, and from it we await a Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ, who will transform our lowly body to be like his glorious body, by the power that enables him even to subject all things to himself.Because our name is in that book, we will see Jesus face-to-face one day. We will stand right there with him, transformed. That will be a real moment. And imagine for a second, in that moment, imagine yourself explaining to Jesus your side of the story. Your looking at him, he's looking at you … “Well, Jesus they blah, blah, blah; but they blah, blah, blah; then they blah, blah, blah.”I can't help but wonder if on that day all our disagreements will be seen as petty, because on that day we will truly know that there is something more glorious than being right. Whatever you're holding on to, you're gonna explain it to Jesus. Could we rethink our disagreements now in light of that day?Our names, brothers and sisters — our names are written in the book.Kinda feels like the pastor is talking straight to me.I'm talking to all of us. Let us agree in the Lord. That's what brings us to the Table.The TableEvery week when we come to the Lord's Table, it is a uniting ordinance. It's called communion — we remember our union with Christ by faith and our union with one another in Christ. And today, I'd like to talk to two categories of folks in the room. First, if you're here today and you're not a Christian, you might wonder: How can I get my name written in that book? The answer is faith in Jesus Christ. So I invite you to put your faith in him right now. Right where you are, know that you cannot save yourself. Trust in Jesus. Just tell him, Jesus, I trust you. Save me.Second, if you're a member at this church and there's some conflict between you and another member of this church, as we receive this table, resolve in your heart that, if possible, as far as it depends on you, you will be at peace with this brother or sister. Church, Jesus loves you and he has freed you from your sins by his blood. To all who trust him, receive his Table and give him thanks.

Good News for Today
Most Americans Say Religion’s Influence is Waning, Kendrick Brothers ‘The Forge’ Movie & Strike the Shepherd and the Sheep Will Scatter

Good News for Today

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 22, 2024 2:59


A new poll from Pew Research says religious influence on society is shrinking. It mirrors a family reunion from the best of the Kendrick Brothers' work. “The Forge” revives beloved characters from “War Room” and features actors from “Courageous” and “Overcomer.” And, Ken Sande of Peacemaker Ministries should do their bests to hold on to their pastors.

OPC Ruling Elder Podcast
Ruling Elders and Conflict

OPC Ruling Elder Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 15, 2024 40:19


Greg Reynolds talks to Stephen Tracey about how ruling elders respond to conflict in the church,  whether it is among members, among the session, or with the pastor.More Resources“A Training Program for Elders.” (Greg Reynolds & William Shishko) 10:3 (Jul. 2001): 55-58. Available here. The updated version of this training program titled Let Them Serve is available from Greg upon request. reynolds.1@opc.orgBooks on Conflict resolution in the church recommended by Greg:Marshall Shelley, Ministering to Problem People in Your Church: What to Do With Well-Intentioned Dragons. Bethany House Publishers. 1985, 2013.Ken Sande, The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict, Baker Books, 3rd edition, 2004.Jay Adams, Handbook of Church Discipline: A Right and Privilege of Every Church Member, Zondervan, 1896.Greg's three (he gave 5) books he believes elders must read:Samuel Miller, The Ruling Elder: The Warrant, Nature, and Duties of the Office in the Presbyterian Church.David Dickson, The Elder and his Work.Lawrence R. Eyres, The Elders of the Church.Gerard Berghoef and Lester De Koster, The Elders Handbook - A Practical Guide for Church Leaders.The Westminster Confession of Faith and Catechisms.

Harvest Baptist Church
Peacemaker, Week 1

Harvest Baptist Church

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2023 33:00


Introduction - Chapter 1 of Ken Sande's book -The Peacemaker-

Brick by Brick | Arcade Church

Chris Vaughan and Shelby Glass discuss Biblical conflict resolution, some personal experiences, and how to behold Christ in the midst of conflict. Ken Sande, The Peacemaker, A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict, 2004. https://a.co/d/iXKbb3q Send your questions to behold@arcadechurch.com Visit us at arcadechurch.com Follow us on social media Instagram: @arcadechurch YouTube: @Arcade.Church Facebook: Arcade Church Also find us on YouTube: https://youtu.be/0cQuahNlXGw

Gifts and Graces
Ken Sande | Relationally Wise Shepherd Sande

Gifts and Graces

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 19, 2023 51:19


On this episode of Gifts and Graces, we get to hear from Ken Sande as he shares how to be a relationally wise shepherd. Ken Sande is founder of Peacemaker Ministries and Relational Wisdom 360. This was originally recorded as a seminar delivered at the 2023 General Assembly. Let's listen as Ken Sande shares practical teaching and educational tools for pastors.

Dwell On These Things
Ken Sande: The Gospel's Hope in Conflict

Dwell On These Things

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 1, 2023 33:26


Dwell Pastor Scott Risley talks with the author of The Peacemaker, Ken Sande, about the powerful and practical resources Christians have to resolve conflict and, in his current Relational Wisdom 360 ministry, to prevent conflict in the first place. He shares the hope that nothing is impossible with Christ and that it's never too late to get on a better track in our relationships. Check out the video version of the podcast at https://www.youtube.com/@DwellCommunityChurch

The Point VA
Relational Wisdom in the Workplace

The Point VA

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 13, 2023 49:18


In week 2 of our Work series, Ken Sande, author of “Resolving Everyday Conflict”, shares how to incorporate Gospel-centered relational wisdom into our everyday lives through our relationships with God, self, and others.

The Point VA
Relational Wisdom in the Workplace

The Point VA

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 13, 2023 49:18


In week 2 of our Work series, Ken Sande, author of “Resolving Everyday Conflict”, shares how to incorporate Gospel-centered relational wisdom into our everyday lives through our relationships with God, self, and others.

For the Gospel Podcast
How to Ask for Forgiveness

For the Gospel Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2023 21:55


In this episode, Costi Hinn breaks down the "7 A's of Confession" from Ken Sande and helps to clarify the difference between genuinely seeking someone's forgiveness vs. making excuses about sin. Relationships will never heal and conflict cannot be reconciled if we do not take ownership of our sin. Many people don't know how to seek forgiveness or confess sin biblically. This episode will equip everyone to do that. 

Feeding & Leading
26: Conflict Mediation with Ken Sande

Feeding & Leading

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 1, 2023


Todd and Andy are joined by Ken Sande, the executive Director Relational Wisdom 360 (RW360) and author of the best selling book “The Peacemaker.” Listen as Ken shares insights into the cause, concerns, and first steps toward conflict resolution and reconciliation.

NorthWoods Church Matters
Ep 149 || Peacekeeping 101, Part 1

NorthWoods Church Matters

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 12, 2023 31:16


How do we define peace? Why don't we have peace with other people?  Why don't Christians encourage peace with others? As we begin a series on conflict resolution Pastor Matt and his friend Nathan answer all these questions and more in this episode of NorthWoods Church Matters. Books mentioned: Not the Way It's Supposed to Be: A Breviary of Sin Paperback by Cornelius Plantinga Jr.  The Peacemaker:A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict by Ken Sande. Pursuing Peace: A Christian Guide to Handling Our Conflicts by Robert Jones. 

Takeaways with Kirk Cameron
Ken Sande: Understanding Emotion and Relationships | Ep. 110

Takeaways with Kirk Cameron

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 11, 2023 22:41


Takeaways: Kirk Cameron is joined by Ken Sande to discuss relationships and the emotions behind them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Table Podcast - Issues of God and Culture
The Societal Cost of Broken Marriages

The Table Podcast - Issues of God and Culture

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 21, 2023 47:30


In this episode, Kymberli Cook and Ken Sande discuss the unseen effects divorce can have on families, cities, and the country as a whole.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The Table Podcast - Issues of God and Culture
The Societal Cost of Broken Marriages

The Table Podcast - Issues of God and Culture

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 21, 2023 44:46


In this episode, Kymberli Cook and Ken Sande discuss the unseen effects divorce can have on…

Refining Rhetoric with Robert Bortins
Relational Intelligence God's Way with Ken Sande

Refining Rhetoric with Robert Bortins

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 15, 2023 44:32


How can we improve our ability to anticipate and resolve relational conflicts? In episode 37, Robert speaks with Ken Sande, the founder of Peacemaker Ministries and Relational Wisdom 360 (RW360). Over the course of his career as a lawyer and professional mediator, Ken has mediated hundreds of conflicts in familial, business, church, and legal settings. Classical Conversations® Challenge B families should be especially excited to hear this episode because Ken is also the author of the bestselling book The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Conflict, a recommended resource for parents of students enrolled in our Challenge B program. Here, Ken discusses ways to improve our relational wisdom and peacemaking skills so that we can better love one another. After the interview, Robert uses the fifteen classical tools to analyze students' low math and reading proficiencies and then introduces two proposed bills that could ban the U.S. government from creating its own central bank digital currency (CBDC). Show notes: refiningrhetoric.com/ken-sande

The Gospel for Life
Responding to Conflict Biblically – Part 25

The Gospel for Life

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 21, 2023 14:00


Just as Christ saved us from sin, we as Christians are called to respond to conflict just as Christ did for us. Easier said than done right? We are basically asking you to respond to conflict that is completely opposite to the way the rest of the world responds to conflict. Being in conflict with someone is never fun, but it must be resolved. How do we do that biblically? The Pastors begin a new series using the writings of Ken Sande to discuss how we can resolve conflict just as the Bible intended. About Gospel for Life Join a group of Treasure Valley pastors, all committed to showing that the Gospel is not just for the religious part of your life. Rather, it is for all of life. Tune in Monday through Friday at 8 am to hear Russell Herman, Jonathan Van Hoogen, Vinnie Hanke, and Ryan Hemphill as they teach you how to make the Gospel the forefront of your life! For more information about this group, please visit their website at reformationboise.com. If you have a question, comment, or even a topic suggestion for the Pastors, you can email them at thegospelforlifeidaho@gmail.com. There is only one rule: Be Kind!

The Gospel for Life
Responding to Conflict Biblically – Part 24

The Gospel for Life

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2023 14:00


Just as Christ saved us from sin, we as Christians are called to respond to conflict just as Christ did for us. Easier said than done right? We are basically asking you to respond to conflict that is completely opposite to the way the rest of the world responds to conflict. Being in conflict with someone is never fun, but it must be resolved. How do we do that biblically? The Pastors begin a new series using the writings of Ken Sande to discuss how we can resolve conflict just as the Bible intended. About Gospel for Life Join a group of Treasure Valley pastors, all committed to showing that the Gospel is not just for the religious part of your life. Rather, it is for all of life. Tune in Monday through Friday at 8 am to hear Russell Herman, Jonathan Van Hoogen, Vinnie Hanke, and Ryan Hemphill as they teach you how to make the Gospel the forefront of your life! For more information about this group, please visit their website at reformationboise.com. If you have a question, comment, or even a topic suggestion for the Pastors, you can email them at thegospelforlifeidaho@gmail.com. There is only one rule: Be Kind!

The Gospel for Life
Responding to Conflict Biblically – Part 23

The Gospel for Life

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2023 14:00


Just as Christ saved us from sin, we as Christians are called to respond to conflict just as Christ did for us. Easier said than done right? We are basically asking you to respond to conflict that is completely opposite to the way the rest of the world responds to conflict. Being in conflict with someone is never fun, but it must be resolved. How do we do that biblically? The Pastors begin a new series using the writings of Ken Sande to discuss how we can resolve conflict just as the Bible intended. About Gospel for Life Join a group of Treasure Valley pastors, all committed to showing that the Gospel is not just for the religious part of your life. Rather, it is for all of life. Tune in Monday through Friday at 8 am to hear Russell Herman, Jonathan Van Hoogen, Vinnie Hanke, and Ryan Hemphill as they teach you how to make the Gospel the forefront of your life! For more information about this group, please visit their website at reformationboise.com. If you have a question, comment, or even a topic suggestion for the Pastors, you can email them at thegospelforlifeidaho@gmail.com. There is only one rule: Be Kind!

The Gospel for Life
Responding to Conflict Biblically – Part 22

The Gospel for Life

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 16, 2023 14:00


Just as Christ saved us from sin, we as Christians are called to respond to conflict just as Christ did for us. Easier said than done right? We are basically asking you to respond to conflict that is completely opposite to the way the rest of the world responds to conflict. Being in conflict with someone is never fun, but it must be resolved. How do we do that biblically? The Pastors begin a new series using the writings of Ken Sande to discuss how we can resolve conflict just as the Bible intended. About Gospel for Life Join a group of Treasure Valley pastors, all committed to showing that the Gospel is not just for the religious part of your life. Rather, it is for all of life. Tune in Monday through Friday at 8 am to hear Russell Herman, Jonathan Van Hoogen, Vinnie Hanke, and Ryan Hemphill as they teach you how to make the Gospel the forefront of your life! For more information about this group, please visit their website at reformationboise.com. If you have a question, comment, or even a topic suggestion for the Pastors, you can email them at thegospelforlifeidaho@gmail.com. There is only one rule: Be Kind! 

The Gospel for Life
Responding to Conflict Biblically – Part 21

The Gospel for Life

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 15, 2023 14:00


Just as Christ saved us from sin, we as Christians are called to respond to conflict just as Christ did for us. Easier said than done right? We are basically asking you to respond to conflict that is completely opposite to the way the rest of the world responds to conflict. Being in conflict with someone is never fun, but it must be resolved. How do we do that biblically? The Pastors begin a new series using the writings of Ken Sande to discuss how we can resolve conflict just as the Bible intended. About Gospel for Life Join a group of Treasure Valley pastors, all committed to showing that the Gospel is not just for the religious part of your life. Rather, it is for all of life. Tune in Monday through Friday at 8 am to hear Russell Herman, Jonathan Van Hoogen, Vinnie Hanke, and Ryan Hemphill as they teach you how to make the Gospel the forefront of your life! For more information about this group, please visit their website at reformationboise.com. If you have any questions or comments for the Pastors, you can email them at thegospelforlifeidaho@gmail.com. There is only one rule: Be Kind! 

The Gospel for Life
Responding to Conflict Biblically – Part 20

The Gospel for Life

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2023 14:00


Just as Christ saved us from sin, we as Christians are called to respond to conflict just as Christ did for us. Easier said than done right? We are basically asking you to respond to conflict that is completely opposite to the way the rest of the world responds to conflict. Being in conflict with someone is never fun, but it must be resolved. How do we do that biblically? The Pastors begin a new series using the writings of Ken Sande to discuss how we can resolve conflict just as the Bible intended. About Gospel for Life Join a group of Treasure Valley pastors, all committed to showing that the Gospel is not just for the religious part of your life. Rather, it is for all of life. Tune in Monday through Friday at 8 am to hear Russell Herman, Jonathan Van Hoogen, Vinnie Hanke, and Ryan Hemphill as they teach you how to make the Gospel the forefront of your life! For more information about this group, please visit their website at reformationboise.com.

The Gospel for Life
Responding to Conflict Biblically – Part 19

The Gospel for Life

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2023 14:00


Just as Christ saved us from sin, we as Christians are called to respond to conflict just as Christ did for us. Easier said than done right? We are basically asking you to respond to conflict that is completely opposite to the way the rest of the world responds to conflict. Being in conflict with someone is never fun, but it must be resolved. How do we do that biblically? The Pastors begin a new series using the writings of Ken Sande to discuss how we can resolve conflict just as the Bible intended. About Gospel for Life Join a group of Treasure Valley pastors, all committed to showing that the Gospel is not just for the religious part of your life. Rather, it is for all of life. Tune in Monday through Friday at 8 am to hear Russell Herman, Jonathan Van Hoogen, Vinnie Hanke, and Ryan Hemphill as they teach you how to make the Gospel the forefront of your life! For more information about this group, please visit their website at reformationboise.com.

St. Andrew's Church
Mt Pleasant :: Randy Forrester : The Power of Overlooking an Offense

St. Andrew's Church

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 12, 2023 22:27


Bible Study Don't just take our word for it . . . take His! We would encourage you to spend time examining the following Scriptures that shaped this sermon: Proverbs 17:14, 19:11, Col 3:12-17. Sermon Notes Overlooking an offense is a practical and powerful tool in biblical peacemaking The precondition of overlooking is to be slow to anger. To cultivate a "slow-to-anger" response, consider these suggestions:express your anger in healthy and safe ways remember your own faults (log and speck - Matt 7) remember God's character – he is slow to anger Overlooking is not always the right responseextreme offenses or injustices should not be overlooked – such as physical or verbal abuse Sins which do damage to that person, to you, or to someone else should not be overlooked Overlooking is not excusing a wrong Overlooking is an active response of choosing to forgive the offense without conversation or confrontation Overlooking is not keeping a record of wrongs to use it against a person later Overlooking means not telling other people about the offense Suggestions for practicing overlookingbe practical – it takes a lot of time and emotional energy to prolong a conflict Stop the internal debate – overlooking means you do not have to figure out who was right and who was wrong, you can simply apply grace discipline your emotions – hurt feelings, anger, and annoyance are real emotions. Don't deny them, but discipline them rather than letting them keep you from walking in obedience remember God's mercy – he does not bring up all of our wrongs but allows his grace to cover over a multitude of our sins Sermon Application Why is undisciplined anger a barrier for overlooking an offense? What are some additional practices for safely dealing with anger? Is it easy for you to recognize your own faults? What might help you better see your own shortcomings? When is overlooking not the right response? Is overlooking excusing a wrong? Describe some of the practical benefits of overlooking? Describe a conflict you had when overlooking would have been the best response. For more on the topic of Biblical peacemaking, check out The Peacemaker by Ken Sande. Questions? Do you have a question about today's sermon? Email Randy Forrester (RForrester@StAndrews.Church).

The Gospel for Life
Responding to Conflict Biblically – Part 18

The Gospel for Life

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 10, 2023 14:00


Just as Christ saved us from sin, we as Christians are called to respond to conflict just as Christ did for us. Easier said than done right? We are basically asking you to respond to conflict that is completely opposite to the way the rest of the world responds to conflict. Being in conflict with someone is never fun, but it must be resolved. How do we do that biblically? The Pastors begin a new series using the writings of Ken Sande to discuss how we can resolve conflict just as the Bible intended. About Gospel for Life Join a group of Treasure Valley pastors, all committed to showing that the Gospel is not just for the religious part of your life. Rather, it is for all of life. Tune in Monday through Friday at 8 am to hear Russell Herman, Jonathan Van Hoogen, Vinnie Hanke, and Ryan Hemphill as they teach you how to make the Gospel the forefront of your life! For more information about this group, please visit their website at reformationboise.com.

The Gospel for Life
Responding to Conflict Biblically – Part 17

The Gospel for Life

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 9, 2023 14:00


Just as Christ saved us from sin, we as Christians are called to respond to conflict just as Christ did for us. Easier said than done right? We are basically asking you to respond to conflict that is completely opposite to the way the rest of the world responds to conflict. Being in conflict with someone is never fun, but it must be resolved. How do we do that biblically? The Pastors begin a new series using the writings of Ken Sande to discuss how we can resolve conflict just as the Bible intended. About Gospel for Life Join a group of Treasure Valley pastors, all committed to showing that the Gospel is not just for the religious part of your life. Rather, it is for all of life. Tune in Monday through Friday at 8 am to hear Russell Herman, Jonathan Van Hoogen, Vinnie Hanke, and Ryan Hemphill as they teach you how to make the Gospel the forefront of your life! For more information about this group, please visit their website at reformationboise.com.

The Gospel for Life
Responding to Conflict Biblically – Part 16

The Gospel for Life

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 8, 2023 14:00


Just as Christ saved us from sin, we as Christians are called to respond to conflict just as Christ did for us. Easier said than done right? We are basically asking you to respond to conflict that is completely opposite to the way the rest of the world responds to conflict. Being in conflict with someone is never fun, but it must be resolved. How do we do that biblically? The Pastors begin a new series using the writings of Ken Sande to discuss how we can resolve conflict just as the Bible intended. About Gospel for Life Join a group of Treasure Valley pastors, all committed to showing that the Gospel is not just for the religious part of your life. Rather, it is for all of life. Tune in Monday through Friday at 8 am to hear Russell Herman, Jonathan Van Hoogen, Vinnie Hanke, and Ryan Hemphill as they teach you how to make the Gospel the forefront of your life! For more information about this group, please visit their website at reformationboise.com.

The Gospel for Life
Responding to Conflict Biblically – Part 15

The Gospel for Life

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2023 14:00


Just as Christ saved us from sin, we as Christians are called to respond to conflict just as Christ did for us. Easier said than done right? We are basically asking you to respond to conflict that is completely opposite to the way the rest of the world responds to conflict. Being in conflict with someone is never fun, but it must be resolved. How do we do that biblically? The Pastors begin a new series using the writings of Ken Sande to discuss how we can resolve conflict just as the Bible intended. About Gospel for Life Join a group of Treasure Valley pastors, all committed to showing that the Gospel is not just for the religious part of your life. Rather, it is for all of life. Tune in Monday through Friday at 8 am to hear Russell Herman, Jonathan Van Hoogen, Vinnie Hanke, and Ryan Hemphill as they teach you how to make the Gospel the forefront of your life! For more information about this group, please visit their website at reformationboise.com.

The Gospel for Life
Responding to Conflict Biblically – Part 14

The Gospel for Life

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 6, 2023 14:00


Just as Christ saved us from sin, we as Christians are called to respond to conflict just as Christ did for us. Easier said than done right? We are basically asking you to respond to conflict that is completely opposite to the way the rest of the world responds to conflict. Being in conflict with someone is never fun, but it must be resolved. How do we do that biblically? The Pastors begin a new series using the writings of Ken Sande to discuss how we can resolve conflict just as the Bible intended. About Gospel for Life Join a group of Treasure Valley pastors, all committed to showing that the Gospel is not just for the religious part of your life. Rather, it is for all of life. Tune in Monday through Friday at 8 am to hear Russell Herman, Jonathan Van Hoogen, Vinnie Hanke, and Ryan Hemphill as they teach you how to make the Gospel the forefront of your life! For more information about this group, please visit their website at reformationboise.com.

The Gospel for Life
Responding to Conflict Biblically – Part 13

The Gospel for Life

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2023 14:00


Just as Christ saved us from sin, we as Christians are called to respond to conflict just as Christ did for us. Easier said than done right? We are basically asking you to respond to conflict that is completely opposite to the way the rest of the world responds to conflict. Being in conflict with someone is never fun, but it must be resolved. How do we do that biblically? The Pastors begin a new series using the writings of Ken Sande to discuss how we can resolve conflict just as the Bible intended. About Gospel for Life Join a group of Treasure Valley pastors, all committed to showing that the Gospel is not just for the religious part of your life. Rather, it is for all of life. Tune in Monday through Friday at 8 am to hear Russell Herman, Jonathan Van Hoogen, Vinnie Hanke, and Ryan Hemphill as they teach you how to make the Gospel the forefront of your life! For more information about this group, please visit their website at reformationboise.com.

The Gospel for Life
Responding to Conflict Biblically – Part 12

The Gospel for Life

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 2, 2023 14:00


Just as Christ saved us from sin, we as Christians are called to respond to conflict just as Christ did for us. Easier said than done right? We are basically asking you to respond to conflict that is completely opposite to the way the rest of the world responds to conflict. Being in conflict with someone is never fun, but it must be resolved. How do we do that biblically? The Pastors begin a new series using the writings of Ken Sande to discuss how we can resolve conflict just as the Bible intended. About Gospel for Life Join a group of Treasure Valley pastors, all committed to showing that the Gospel is not just for the religious part of your life. Rather, it is for all of life. Tune in Monday through Friday at 8 am to hear Russell Herman, Jonathan Van Hoogen, Vinnie Hanke, and Ryan Hemphill as they teach you how to make the Gospel the forefront of your life! For more information about this group, please visit their website at reformationboise.com.

Footnotes with Foothill Church
Episode 75: Family Dynamics – Tough Conversations

Footnotes with Foothill Church

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2022 32:14


How do we love our family members well when they don't share the same biblical worldview? Steve DuBransky joins us to talk more about how we should first be in a good heart posture before entering those tough conversations. -------- The Peacemaker by Ken Sande: https://a.co/d/3tAtCAY Peacemaking for Families by Ken Sande: https://a.co/d/3qgKGVqA behind the scenes look at what we value and why it matters here at Foothill Church in Glendora, California. https://foothill.church/footnotes 

Where We Land
82. Books that Shaped Us (Pt. 1)

Where We Land

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 4, 2022 40:29


In this episode, Tim and Aaron talk about the books that shaped them, and how they may benefit you in your own personal growth and development. www.whereweland.org Tim's Books: "Love Does" by Bob Goff"Unveiling Mercy" by Chad Bird"Fresh Wind, Fresh Fire" by Jim CymbalaAaron's Books: ”Living by the Book” by Howard G. Hendricks & William D. Hendricks “On Being Pastor” by Derek Prime & Alister Begg “The Peacemaker” by Ken Sande 

Takeaways with Kirk Cameron
Applying Biblical Principles To Resolve Conflict | Ken Sande | Ep. 67

Takeaways with Kirk Cameron

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 15, 2022 27:51


Kirk Cameron sits with Ken Sande to discuss apologetics and the ways to resolve conflicts through biblical principles. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Strong Women
S2 33: Bring It to the Light With Lori Leander

Strong Women

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 3, 2022 42:33


Lori Leander loves mentoring young women. After struggling with an eating disorder and post-partum anxiety, Lori reflects on how bringing those things to the Light and seeking counseling helped her. She is taking what she learned and is intentionally meeting with other women to share who God is.    Lori Leander Show Notes  Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis  True Spirituality by Francis Schaeffer  The Strong Women Podcast 66. Welcoming the Stranger with Rosaria Champagne Butterfield  Connecting by Larry Crabb  The Peacemaker by Ken Sande  A Young Girl After God's Own Heart by Elisabeth George  Hinds' Feet on High Places: An Engaging Visual Journey by Hannah Hurnard  CSLewisDoodles on YouTube  Union with Christ by Rankin Wilbourne  Breakpoint  Join Strong Women on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/strongwomencc   Erin and her husband, Brett, run Maven which “exists to help the next generation know truth, pursue goodness, and create beauty, all for the cause of Christ.” Check out more about Maven here: https://maventruth.com/    The Strong Women Podcast is a product of the Colson Center which equips Christians to live out their faith with clarity, confidence, and courage in this cultural moment. Through commentaries, podcasts, videos, and more, we help Christians better understand what's happening in the world, and champion what is true and good wherever God has called them.  Learn more about the Colson Center here: https://www.colsoncenter.org/    Visit our website and sign up for our email list so that you can stay up to date on what we are doing here and also receive our monthly book list: https://www.colsoncenter.org/strong-women