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From wipeouts to riding a wave... surfing has a lot to teach us about life. Surfing gives me the ability to face and break-through fears, push my personal boundaries and is a reminder about going with the flow, resilience, and surrendering. 

Whilst surrendering is very important I think it is just as important to balance this with inspired action. The balance of surrender and inspired action = co-creation of your life. You co-create with God/Source/Universe (whatever you call your faith). I share how I listen to my instincts that guide me to take action. I call this inspired action and often these ideas that come to me can be very random…but I follow the breadcrumbs. In fact, this is how this podcast was born! By inspired action…I never planned to start a podcast.

Like you, I find it very challenging some days to stay present…especially when it feels like things aren’t ‘going to plan’, ‘out of control’ or ‘everything feels like it is crumbling around you.’ I share the ways I stay present through the difficult times and how surrendering in the moment has lead me to live a very adventurous life. You can do the same!!!

It’s time we encouraged people to love and accept their body. And one of the important ways to do this is NOT let anyone you care about ever dismiss their body. How I have learned to love my body and express it…and I hope you’ll join me in the mission – for all of us to love and accept ourselves fully – this includes our BODY! It does such a great job in keeping us alive and able to experience life.

The World Health Organization estimates more than 800,000 people take their own lives each year, and suicide remains the second leading cause of death among 15-29 year olds. That’s why in today’s episode we will be discussing: How perfection is killing people by suicide! I have invited Dr Dain Heer to discuss this as he is on a mission to shed light on this global epidemic. We talk about the self-talk of "perfectionism" and why he believes it is leading to suicides, how you can KILL the feeling of perfectionism.  For more information visit www.drdainheer.com| Grab his free book – www.beingyouchangingtheworld.com YouTube videos – https://www.youtube.com/user/drdainheer

The title of this podcast says it all...listen to why I think it is possible and how to achieve your dreams!

In today's episode, we will be discussing something I know a lot of women ask…it is the golden question – when is the right time to sleep with someone you are dating? For the female's perspective, I've invited Monique Sorgen to the show. She was inspired by this topic to write a novel called “How long you should wait to have sex.” She shares what she discovered when researching this topic for her novel (she spoke to men and women).  Buy How long you should wait to have sex on Amazon  

In today's episode, we will be discussing something I know a lot of women ask…it is the golden question! When is the right time to sleep with someone you are dating? For the male's perspective, I've invited Jason to the show. Not only does he gives us an open and honest insight into this golden question, he also shares advice on how we can encourage our man to open up and feel comfortable with being vulnerable. We also talk about why men find women confusing and often say, "I don't know what women want." 

Today I talk about masculinity for men nowadays as I think this is something important we need to talk about. Like JuVan said on my podcast, "men are suffering in silence". There are two states of masculinity that you can sense in a man - the empowered masculine energy or the toxic masculine energy. There can be so many illusions it can be confusing to know which masculine energy you are carrying. I focus on the healed masculine man that is vulnerable and what this looks like.  So many of us women want our man to feel comfortable in being vulnerable. It's time to realize no one is perfect and I think we should remove this word from all languages. 

In American, almost one third of working women are out-earning their husbands, they’re going to college at higher rates than men, and they’re blowing their male counterparts away in CEO and leadership positions nationwide. But many of us are starving for genuine intimacy. That’s why in today’s episode we will be discussing: How to have a rocking career and profound intimate relationship.    I have invited Londin Angel Winters to share her perspective, after reading her book - The Awakened Woman’s Guide to Everlasting Love. I highly recommend this book!    We talk about -  Boardroom versus Bedroom: Why are different approaches required for success in each area of your life? Alpha and Omega…both men and women flow in and out of these two modes throughout the day. We discuss how you can concsiously flow between these and what it means in a relationship with the various combinations (Alpha/Alpha; Omega/Omega; Alpha/Omega) as well as how we help our man step into Alpha. How do men and women repel love, when they wish they could attract it?   For more information about workshops and private coaching, visit www.LondinAngelWinters.com and https://www.awakenedwomansguide.com/   The Awakened Woman’s Guide to Everlasting Love is available on Amazon.

I believe most people fear their greatness more than fear of failure. And many of us have a huge fear of failure. But there is a greater fear of our greatness because we care what other people think. We are scared of being judged if we are our authentic self. But we would experience peace and joy if we were to be authentic and be our best self. 

What happens when a group of women get together and talk about dating, sex, and relationships? This conversation is unfiltered and we share our opinions about ghosting, threesomes, men, what women want - in the bedroom and in a relationship, how to share your sexual fantasies with your partner and much more.  Men you need to know what 'jackrabbiting' is and why women don't want this! And for my female listeners, I'm sure you will be able to relate to some things said and join us in a laugh or two. So tune in. I'd like to thank the five women that joined me to share their truths. 

I'm pretty sure most of us have wondered this -- why do we live? What is the point of life? Well, this is my answer to that question...

People are communicating so much to us without ever uttering a word. In fact, 93% of all communication is non-verbal. That’s why I thought it was time to discuss Body Language when dating or in a relationship. To discuss the unspoken signs communicated via body language I've invited Tracey Thomson to the show. We talk about signs when someone is showing interest in you from across the room (plus signs someone isn't interested when on a first date), signs someone is lying or a narcissist, spotting the "player" and navigating genuine instincts versus negative self-talk.  Tracey is the co-founder of TRUTHPLANE and co-author of TRUTH & LIES What People Are Really Thinking. The new book explains all these subtle cues to assist us when dating or even in our current relationships. TRUTH & LIES What People Are Really Thinking is available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Truth-Lies-People-Really-Thinking/dp/1443452092

This episode is inspired by a painting I saw online...and I don't know who the artist is but I have thought about this art and the messages. The artwork represents love and fear. I believe the human experience is a dance between love and fear...the only two states of mind we can exist in. But we can only be in one -- it is a choice. Today I talk about these two different states of mind, manifestation and transcending fear into love.

Today Brandon Bozarth and I talk about the fact we don’t need to experience pain to evolve and grow. Most people wait for tragedy, pain, life-altering or near death experiences, major breakups, basically any pattern of pain or self-sabotage to show up again and again until they break before seeking change. My personal coach actually says most people seek help when they’ve felt enough pain. However, there is another choice. Brandon believes we don't need to experience this amount of pain in order to grow. In fact, we can be experiencing joy and freedom and still evolve. We also talk about depression, anxiety, instincts and how to live a life in a state of joy.    More information on Brandon Bozarth -  https://www.brandonbozarth.com

Looking at the road less traveled right now? Not sure if you should take a leap of faith? Are your heart and soul screaming for something yet you feel terrified to follow this? Today I talk about taking a leap of faith and how you muster the courage to jump.

Tired of the conventional dating scene and its cold, rejecting, non-loving atmosphere? Tantric Dating teaches a new mindset and shares exercises to help you bring love and awareness to the dating process. Today I've invited Catherine Auman to the show to share her wisdom about tantric dating.  Catherine is the author of - Tantric Dating: Bringing Love and Awareness to the Dating Process. We talk about how to bring love and awareness to dating, chemistry and trusting your gut instincts, getting comfortable with rejection and how you can experience divine love.  Get yourself a copy of her book - Tantric Dating: Bringing Love and Awareness to the Dating Process on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Tantric-Dating-Bringing-Awareness-Process-ebook/dp/B072SVB6ZF For more information about Catherine - http://catherineauman.com  

A train is something we don't think twice of...but I believe how a train operates is very reflective of life. As we go along on the train tracks (the journey of life), we pick people up and drop them off (every human we connect with) all the time, just like a train does. I believe we can learn about connection and detachment from thinking about a train and what it symbolizes...time and connection.

I feel like every guy or woman has this conversation with a friend or even family member in regards to someone they are crushing on…Do you think she likes me? So today I talk with Gracie to get the female's perspective. We talk about the texting stage, first date, dating and general signs. Join us in the fun and have a few laughs. Because dating shouldn't be taken too seriously...life is about having fun and enjoying the journey!

I feel like every guy or woman has this conversation with a friend or even family member in regards to someone they are crushing on…Do you think he likes me? So today I talk with Dallas to get the male's perspective. We talk about the texting stage, first date, dating and general signs. Join us in the fun and have a few laughs. Because dating shouldn't be taken too seriously...life is about having fun and enjoying the journey!

I believe some rules are meant to be broken as some rules in place by society or ourselves control and restrict us from being our authentic self. Rules that keep us in an emotional fear space I believe we should question...obviously there are many rules we do need in society, and I am not talking about these ones. I'm talking about holding yourself back because of fear of judgment. 

It feels like we can often attach to the phrase "I love you" from a partner...it can mean so much or it can affect your relationship if it isn't said enough, at the right time etc. This is why I think we often attach to it. When we attached to "I love you" this means we have expectations and this is where the danger can lie.  Today I talk with Cheryne Blom about attachment to this phrase, the different types of love as well as different love strategies. Love strategies mean the way you show your partner that you love them.   Check out - www.cheryneblom.com - for her new e-book called “Think yourself happy. 101 Positive affirmations to empower your day.” You just need to click on the read now button. 

I believe the magic happens outside of your comfort zone and today I want to share my personal experience of this and how you can get out of a routine and use fear to motivate you instead of paralyzing you. 

Themes for today’s episode and some quotes I’d like to share with you all: “Love when you’re ready and not when you’re alone” ~ UNKNOWN. “The wrong relationships teach you how to recognize the right one when it arrives”~ Mandy Hale. And finally: “you can’t make someone be ready for what you’re ready for. And you’re not obligated to wait around for them to make up their mind”~ UNKNOWN. Today we are going to talk about: Are you or your love interest emotionally ready for each other? I’ve invited to the show Antia & Brody Boyd to discuss this and share their thoughts and advice for anyone wants to know if a love interest is emotionally ready or possibly discover you aren't as ready as you personally thought yourself. Antia & Brody are dating coaches and have been helping thousands of successful single men & women all over the world for over two decades combined. They help people to attract the ideal partner of their dreams quickly without the feelings of loneliness, frustration or like you’re wasting any more precious time!http://FindTheOneElite.com 

“It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, not by heaven or hell” said the Buddha. To expand on this further, I wonder if feeling complete self-love is how we experience heaven on earth? So today we are discussing the concept of creating Heaven on Earth for yourself. I’ve invited back to the show, Brandon Bozarth, to explain to us his concept of creating Heaven on Earth. We talk about detachment, self-love, being excited to die, how to see something previously perceived as negative as a blessing and why self-love is important for our relationships...in particular when dating or in a romantic relationship. Brandon helps visionaries, entrepreneurs and thought leaders mater their life’s work by integrating their fear so they can experience true freedom. He has a coaching business, holds retreats, workshops, and seminars in the U.S. and abroad and is available for coaching here in Los Angeles and of course, anyone else situated outside of LA, thanks to technology.  https://www.brandonbozarth.com

Today I wanted to discuss the best way to end any form of romantic relationship – especially when you want to call it quits when you don’t want to date someone anymore. It feels like the earlier stage of the dating period can be awkward in the sense…many people don’t know what the “right” way is to end it with someone that you aren’t in a formal relationship with…   Today I’ve invited Gene Stark to share his perspective. Over the years we’ve had many conversations about relationships and dating, so I thought it was time to bring him on the show.

Today I wanted to discuss the best way to end any form of romantic relationship – especially when you want to call it quits when you don’t want to date someone anymore. It feels like the earlier stage of the dating period can be awkward in the sense…many people don’t know what the “right” way is to end it with someone that you aren’t in a formal relationship with…   For the female’s perspective, I’ve invited a friend, Jenny and we have a lot of fun. We also talk about ghosting and even have a live Tinder swiping session!

“Men are at war – within themselves. That is what is fueling the division of our families, communities and the world.” This is a quote from the man I’ve invited to the show today, JuVan Langford…an inspirational thought-leader whose mission is to help empower men. Today we talk about The War Within: Men Are Suffering In Silence.  In light of Father’s Day in the states last week, this episode has a very powerful message for fathers and men. Listen up. This one is dedicated to all the men in my life. Starting with my family – my incredible father who has taught me much and to my strong and loving brothers. Also, to all the men that I call a friend or colleague, thank you, this is also dedicated to you.  The MENtour™, established May 2012 in Los Angeles, by founder, JuVan Langford, is an educational non-profit committed to delivering social-emotional and character development skills to middle and high school-aged boys. During the most impressionable period of their lives, The MENtour offers a safe space where young men learn how to thrive in the classroom and beyond. Having served 1200+ male scholars to date, our vision is to triple our impact globally by the year 2020. For more information: http://juvanlangford.com

Compromising in a relationship -- we've all been there and most likely definitely over-compromised in a relationship. Today we discuss this and how to find the balance. We all know a healthy relationship is a balance of giving and take and there definitely needs to be compromises made, but how much is too much compromise? For the male's perspective, Josh, shares his personal experiences of over-compromising and how it affected his life. After many years married he decided to end his marriage and start over again. This includes recently leaving a longstanding career and leaping into the unknown. 

Compromising in a relationship -- we've all been there and most likely definitely over-compromised in a relationship. Today we discuss this and how to find the balance. We all know a healthy relationship is a balance of giving and take and there definitely needs to be compromises made, but how much is too much compromise?For the female's perspective, Liliane Grace, shares her personal experiences. She is an author and in an interesting twist of events, the book she was writing, Wanted: Greener Grass, unexpectedly started imitating life. This is an interesting conversation about choosing someone consciously and what this means. We also discuss why we hold ourself back, over-compromise and choose to stay small. To find out more about Liliane -  https://lilianegrace.com

Recently I watched a very inspirational video called “It’s Time To Wake Up”. Every moment in life we have a choice to live by design or default. We can create our own reality as life is about choices. Every single day. So today we are discussing why it is time to play big and share your gifts with the world and how you do this. I’ve invited the man behind the video, Brandon Bozarth. We discuss discovering your purpose, personal superpowers, why people keep themselves small and how to shift out of this into greatness. Brandon helps visionaries, entrepreneurs and thought leaders master their life’s work by integrating their fear so they can experience true freedom. Brandon has a coaching business, holds retreats, workshops, and seminars in the U.S. and abroad.     Watched the inspiration video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hycq4GPHwn4   Connect with Brandon: https://www.brandonbozarth.com  

I have a very real and raw conversation with a friend about dating in your 20's compared to your 30's. We offer some advice for people in their 20's...having lived it and now being in our 30's. Plus we talk about what it is like dating in your 30's...if you're newly single...it is not as scary as you think!

I have a very real and raw conversation with a friend about dating in your 20's compared to your 30's. We offer some advice for people in their 20's...having lived it and now being in our 30's. Plus we talk about what it is like dating in your 30's...if you're newly single...it is not as scary as you think!

People are craving connection...especially whilst dating, yet most are not experiencing genuine interactions on the dating scene. I’ve often wondered why humans as a whole generally really want to be in a relationship. Today we discuss this with my coach, Cheryne Blom.  In relationships, we can feel connected or we can feel attached to another, we discuss what is the difference between connection and attachment? To me, it feels like people want to be treated with respect…naturally, yet they don’t treat others like this when dating. It’s double standards. I talk to Cheryne about why so many people do this? Expect a behavior that they are not doing themselves… We also talk about: how to experience genuine connections when dating, why it is important to connect with yourself and how you do this and much more. Cheryne has her own podcast which has incredible meditations and you should subscribe for guided meditations, it’s called Peace In My Pocket.

The more time I spend in the United States, the more I am realizing Americans don’t fully understand the concept of Friends With Benefits when it comes to dating...Aussie style! Therefore it appears that Aussies can teach Americans and possibly other cultures a thing or two when it comes to dating as Friends With Benefits is a huge part of our culture when it comes to dating. Therefore in today’s episode, we will be discussing the Aussie way of dating and the difference between Booty Calls vs Friends With Benefits. There is a huge difference! And of course I couldn’t do this without a fellow Aussie, so I’ve invited my mate, Chris Mclean. Chris has produced for many years the multiple Emmy Award-winning show, Undercover Boss. And currently, he is focusing on his own projects and company, Road Dog Films.

I’ve invited my very good friend A.J Mayers to gives us an insight into gay relationships and share his wisdom, as I believe straight couples can learn a thing or two from gay couples. AJ is the author of Final Boarding as well as other books. He also works in film marketing at Lionsgate.We discuss defining and setting boundaries, the different dynamics of relationships, and gender roles.

I talk about this A LOT in LIFE and I know it is considered taboo to include sexual compatibility as a serious item on the checklist when dating. Today we discuss sexual compatibility and whether it should be considered an important item on the checklist when dating. Barrett Perlman joins me today to share the female perspective. She is a TV and documentary director & producer and is very candid...an episode I'm sure you'll enjoy.  I often hear this comment “Sex gets better over time”? So today we discuss this as well as infidelities, having a list of sexual things you'd like to experience and much more. This episode is dedicated to everyone and may we all have GREAT sex!  

I talk about this A LOT in LIFE and I know it is considered taboo to include sexual compatibility as a serious item on the checklist when dating. Today we discuss sexual compatibility and whether it should be considered an important item on the checklist when dating.  I often hear this comment “Sex gets better over time”? So today we discuss this as well as infidelities, having a list of sexual things you'd like to experience and much more. This episode is dedicated to everyone and may we all have GREAT sex!

Addiction comes in many forms and LOVE is one of those forms. Today we talk to my coach, Cheryne Blom, about Love Addiction.  We discuss: what is love addiction, why do people get addicted to love, what are the signs, how to cut ties from toxic relationships and enlightened relationships and how you experience them.  To connect with Cheryne - http://www.beyoubetrue.com.au  

In today's episode, we discuss anger and how it affects dating and romantic relationships…in particular anger that many men feel. Our guest today, Andy, shares his personal experience with anger and how it has affected all of his romantic relationships his whole life as well as his children.  We talk about: how it shows up, what are some of the signs, the effects and how in the end he has learned it results in you being alone. He also shares how he has healed the anger he has felt since a three-year-old boy and shares advice for men feeling angry and women in relationships with these men.

In today's episode, we will be discussing Personal Growth Steps Before Your Next Relationship. I recently read an article Jillian Turecki wrote for Mind, Body Green about this and that is what has inspired this episode as I couldn’t agree more.  Today she is here to help us understand the important growth steps we need to do before our next relationship so we can enter into a new relationship and give it the best chance it has to not only survive but thrive! Jillian Turecki is a relationship expert, yoga teacher, and public speaker. For 18 years, she has been studying the art and science of fulfillment. Under the masterful guidance of Anthony Robbins, Jillian is certified by the Robbins Madanes Center for Strategic Intervention/Coaching, known for employing innovative strategic solutions to the most pervasive difficult problems. She says what she knows with complete certainty: there is no pain like relationship pain. She cares about teaching others how to be proactive in their lives and relationships so that they CREATE the fulfillment they need and deserve. To learn more about Jillian or to engage her services - http://www.jillianturecki.com

Today's episode we get a real insight into what it's like to be in an open relationship. Tony is very authentic as he opens up about his open relationship with his wife, Scarlett. They have been together for 17 years, married for 12 years and have a pre-teen daughter and he says they are very happily married. We talk about how they opened their marriage up, the ups and downs, advice for anyone wanting to open up their relationship, the rules, religion as well as other social pressures, and jealousy as well as other challenges that come up.

Today's episode we get a real insight into what it's like to be in an open relationship. Scarlett is very authentic as she opens up about her open relationship with her husband, Tony.  They have been together for 17 years, married for 12 years and have a pre-teen daughter and she says they are very happily married.  We talk about how they opened their marriage up, the ups and downs, advice for anyone wanting to open up their relationship, the rules, social pressures, and jealousy as well as other challenges that come up.

Open Relationships are becoming popular and today we discuss the dynamic of these relationships with Erik Newton. He is the Founder of Together Magazine and host of the podcast Together.We discuss: what is the definition of an open relationship and what does it mean to live such a lifestyle? What are the rules? How do you deal with jealousy? And general advice for anyone considering an open relationship. Erik is a former family law attorney, and describes himself as someone who’s “been through a thousand divorces and still believes in love.” Ultimately, his calling to help couples build healthy relationships superseded his legal career, and he decided to dedicate himself full-time to creating a place couples could go for information, inspiration, and a big dose of truth. That’s when Together was born. He has interviewed dozens of non-monogamous couples and written several articles on the subject. Make sure you check out Together.   Together Magazine: http://together.guide/magazine/ Together podcast: http://together.guide/podcast-2/   Erik's article about what monogamists can learn from polyamorists http://together.guide/monogamists-can-learn-polyamorists/

It feels like many people are now questioning monogamy – I know I definitely am. It feels like most relationships are coming to an end because someone has had either one or multiple infidelities. So the question is - Deep down inside, do we really want to be monogamist? Or is this an old belief and way of life that no longer serves society and humanity?   To share the male’s perspective today I have invited back Roman Wyden, host of the podcast You. Love. Life.   You can listen to his podcast via iTunes and GooglePlay www.youlovelifepodcast.com

It feels like many people are now questioning monogamy – I know I definitely am. It feels like most relationships are coming to an end because someone has had either one or multiple infidelities. So the question is - Deep down inside, do we really want to be monogamist? Or is this an old belief and way of life that no longer serves society and humanity?   To share the female’s perspective my friend Sal joins me.

Many women find it hard to orgasm, so this week I have my coach, Cheryne Blom, on the show to discuss why women are finding it so difficult and what we can do about it. How can a man assist "in the moment" to make sure she isn’t in her head and is present in the moment? Can he even help her?    What can women do to be present so they can experience an incredible orgasm? Cheryne is the Founder of Be You Be True. She is a self-empowerment coach, author and speaker. To connect with Cheryne - http://www.beyoubetrue.com.au/  If you have any questions about this topic that you don't feel were answered please email - myquestion@ourdeepestsecretsrevealed.com - and we will do a follow up episode. 

This week we are discussing orgasms...how do they feel for the opposite sex, is there such a thing as too many orgasms in one sex session, self-pleasure, different types of orgasms (multiple vs. one big one) and how guys can get a woman to orgasm. My mate, Barrett Perlman, TV and documentary director & producer, was brave enough to join me and talk about her orgasms and shares her point of view for the female perspective this week.Guys, you have to listen to this episode!

This week we are discussing orgasms...how do they feel for the opposite sex, is there such a thing as too many orgasms in one sex session, self-pleasure, different types of orgasms and how our sexuality is suppressed within society.   Roman Wyden, host of the podcast You. Love. Life., today shares the male perspective.  You can listen to Roman's podcast, You. Love. Life. via iTunes and GooglePlaywww.youlovelifepodcast.com

Ghosting, breakups via text, failure to commit – can you relate to these situations or know someone that can? The dating world can feel overwhelming at times and like a battlefield. The question is, are these love crimes?   The inspiration for this topic has come from a new comedic web series, the Broken Hearts Division.   Creator, Nicole Feenstra tackles the world of modern dating. Whether it is same-sex or heterosexual couples, each episode’s theme is very relatable to anyone currently dating as she tackles texting under the influence, wrongful wooing, serial dating, ghosting, breakups via text, serial dating, failure to commit and of course, the excessive use of a dick pic, just to name a few.   Join us for a laugh as we discuss what defines a love crime, is love black and white, the inspiration behind her show and bad dates.   Watch Episodes of The Broken Hearts Division: https://www.youtube.com/brokenheartsdivision