Refocused with A&E

What does it really take to stay married and like each other after 10 years?In this special anniversary episode, we (Anthony & Essence) share the honest, hard-earned lessons we've picked up over a decade of marriage—from emotional intelligence and vulnerability to therapy, faith, and growing up for real. Whether you're newly married, seriously dating, or praying for a future spouse, this conversation is full of insight, laughter, and truth to help your relationship thrive faster.

Summary This is a conversation between Anthony and Essence, discussing the importance of #vulnerability in #relationships, especially #marriage. They emphasize that being closed off to one's spouse hinders growth and #intimacy. They explore the power, necessity, and risks of #vulnerability, highlighting that it fosters connection and is essential for deepening relationships. They also discuss their personal experiences and challenges with vulnerability, advocating for openness and sharing as a means to strengthen bonds and understand each other better. Analogy The analogy of an "emotional bubble boy" is used to describe someone who is closed off and avoids vulnerability. Just like the bubble boy is protected but isolated, an emotionally closed-off person misses out on the full experience of relationships and growth. Notes

SUMMARY "Fix Your Marriage Before It's Broken" is a detailed conversation about the importance of self-awareness, communication, vulnerability, and trust. This discussion covers the types of things folks should want to know about themselves and each other before marriage, the role of external perspectives in understanding oneself, and the significance of embracing individual growth alongside marital unity. RESOURCES NAMED Temperments (Arno Profiling System) https://aandbcounseling.com/history-of-arno-profile-system/ ANALOGY Navigating marriage is like gardening together; it requires understanding the soil of your own and your partner's emotional landscape, regular communication like watering, removing weeds of misunderstanding through vulnerability and nurturing growth through trust. Just as gardens thrive with care, patience, and attention to the needs of each plant, marriages flourish when both partners actively work on themselves and their relationship. NOTES

Essence and Anthony discuss the unconventional idea of married couples living separately. They express skepticism about such arrangements, questioning how it could impact intimacy and the traditional understanding of marriage. The episode explores the broader implications of this trend, considering how it aligns with or deviates from Christian teachings on marriage. The hosts emphasize the importance of togetherness and shared living spaces in fostering a healthy, intimate marital relationship. ------------------------------------------------ Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ------------------------------------------------ FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refocused.ae/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/refocused.ae/ TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdj9XBMP ------------------------------------------------ For you PODCAST listeners, you can find us on all platforms, just pick your favorite: ANCHOR: https://anchor.fm/anthony-and-essence APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/refocused-with-a-e/id1586192271 GOOGLE: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82YzU4ZThkNC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/4gfRDlINIjUH7YDuSEJws9 ------------------------------------------------ Biography: Anthony, growing up in St. Louis always wandered around life with a semi-awareness to what is going on in his life and in the world. Navigating through college, career, entrepreneurship the real attention to detail did not come into play until Christ became Lord for him at 24, and was then magnified upon his marriage and introduction to father. Being a Father, Husband, pastor, employee, entrepreneur, has been a blessing given everything for him is centered around Christ. Essence is born and raised out of Kansas City, MO. With a huge heart to serve, lead, nurture, and create she has given a lot of time to mentoring children, delivering spoken word poetry, and lifting those around her who need wise and Christ centered advice. Between all the hats that she wears she still finds the time to be an excellent wife and phenomenal mother. ------------------------------------------------ Chapters 00:00 - Introduction and Vacation Recap + Some Jokes 13:54 - Unconventional Marriage Views: Anthony and Essence discuss a woman's desire for separate living spaces in marriage. 15:24 - Marriage and Cohabitation: The conversation on the importance of living together for a healthy marriage. 18:03 - The Essence of Intimacy: Discussing how cohabitation affects intimacy in a marriage. 23:14 - Upholding Marriage Vows: Essence's strong stance on the commitment and significance of living together in marriage.

Essence and Anthony discuss the dynamics of marriage, particularly in relation to financial habits and mindset. They talk about the importance of trusting in God and each other, and how their individual financial attitudes complement and balance their relationship. The episode emphasizes the significance of unity in marriage, both spiritually and financially, and how couples can work together to overcome differences and challenges. ------------------------------------------------ Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ------------------------------------------------ FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refocused.ae/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/refocused.ae/ TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdj9XBMP ------------------------------------------------ Biography: Anthony, growing up in St. Louis always wandered around life with a semi-awareness to what is going on in his life and in the world. Navigating through college, career, entrepreneurship the real attention to detail did not come into play until Christ became Lord for him at 24, and was then magnified upon his marriage and introduction to father. Being a Father, Husband, pastor, employee, entrepreneur, has been a blessing given everything for him is centered around Christ. Essence is born and raised out of Kansas City, MO. With a huge heart to serve, lead, nurture, and create she has given a lot of time to mentoring children, delivering spoken word poetry, and lifting those around her who need wise and Christ centered advice. Between all the hats that she wears she still finds the time to be an excellent wife and phenomenal mother.

In this episode of Refocused, A&E take a deep dive into self-perception, particularly examining the concept of being a 'quitter.' The hosts engage in a candid discussion about their past decisions and how they align with their personal and spiritual growth. They challenge negative self-labels, exploring how such perceptions can impact one's life and choices. The conversation underscores the importance of reassessing one's self-image in light of God's guidance and the truth of one's actions and intentions. ------------------------------------------------ Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ------------------------------------------------ FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refocused.ae/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/refocused.ae/ TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdj9XBMP ------------------------------------------------ Biography: Anthony, growing up in St. Louis always wandered around life with a semi-awareness to what is going on in his life and in the world. Navigating through college, career, entrepreneurship the real attention to detail did not come into play until Christ became Lord for him at 24, and was then magnified upon his marriage and introduction to father. Being a Father, Husband, pastor, employee, entrepreneur, has been a blessing given everything for him is centered around Christ. Essence is born and raised out of Kansas City, MO. With a huge heart to serve, lead, nurture, and create she has given a lot of time to mentoring children, delivering spoken word poetry, and lifting those around her who need wise and Christ centered advice. Between all the hats that she wears she still finds the time to be an excellent wife and phenomenal mother.

For this episode they on the critique of societal norms regarding dating and relationships. Essence and Anthony challenge various 'lists' that define ideal partners, arguing these are often superficial and not aligned with Christian values or common sense in general. They stress the importance of spiritual alignment and personal growth over materialistic or external factors in relationships. The discussion also touches on issues like judgment, societal pressures, and the importance of understanding one's self-worth and values in the context of dating. ------------------------------------------------ Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ------------------------------------------------ FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refocused.ae/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/refocused.ae/ TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdj9XBMP ------------------------------------------------ Biography: Anthony, growing up in St. Louis always wandered around life with a semi-awareness to what is going on in his life and in the world. Navigating through college, career, entrepreneurship the real attention to detail did not come into play until Christ became Lord for him at 24, and was then magnified upon his marriage and introduction to father. Being a Father, Husband, pastor, employee, entrepreneur, has been a blessing given everything for him is centered around Christ. Essence is born and raised out of Kansas City, MO. With a huge heart to serve, lead, nurture, and create she has given a lot of time to mentoring children, delivering spoken word poetry, and lifting those around her who need wise and Christ centered advice. Between all the hats that she wears she still finds the time to be an excellent wife and phenomenal mother.

Anthony and Essence delve into the concept of waiting and trusting in God's timing. They discuss the challenges of waiting for God's intervention in various situations and emphasize the importance of patience and persistence in prayer. The conversation includes personal anecdotes and reflections on how waiting on God's timing, while challenging, can lead to growth and deeper faith. They explore how waiting can test and strengthen one's trust in God, and the peace that comes from this trust. ------------------------------------------------ Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ------------------------------------------------ FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refocused.ae/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/refocused.ae/ TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdj9XBMP ------------------------------------------------ Biography: Anthony, growing up in St. Louis always wandered around life with a semi-awareness to what is going on in his life and in the world. Navigating through college, career, entrepreneurship the real attention to detail did not come into play until Christ became Lord for him at 24, and was then magnified upon his marriage and introduction to father. Being a Father, Husband, pastor, employee, entrepreneur, has been a blessing given everything for him is centered around Christ. Essence is born and raised out of Kansas City, MO. With a huge heart to serve, lead, nurture, and create she has given a lot of time to mentoring children, delivering spoken word poetry, and lifting those around her who need wise and Christ centered advice. Between all the hats that she wears she still finds the time to be an excellent wife and phenomenal mother.

This conversation revolves around understanding and managing our emotions. Anthony shares a personal experience about feeling angry at work, leading to a broader conversation about identifying and acknowledging emotions. They explore the importance of emotional intelligence, especially in recognizing different emotions like frustration and anger. The episode emphasizes the significance of prayer and seeking God's guidance in dealing with emotions, discussing how emotions provide valuable information and should be handled in a spiritually mature way. ------------------------------------------------ Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ------------------------------------------------ FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refocused.ae/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/refocused.ae/ TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdj9XBMP ------------------------------------------------ Biography: Anthony, growing up in St. Louis always wandered around life with a semi-awareness to what is going on in his life and in the world. Navigating through college, career, entrepreneurship the real attention to detail did not come into play until Christ became Lord for him at 24, and was then magnified upon his marriage and introduction to father. Being a Father, Husband, pastor, employee, entrepreneur, has been a blessing given everything for him is centered around Christ. Essence is born and raised out of Kansas City, MO. With a huge heart to serve, lead, nurture, and create she has given a lot of time to mentoring children, delivering spoken word poetry, and lifting those around her who need wise and Christ centered advice. Between all the hats that she wears she still finds the time to be an excellent wife and phenomenal mother.

Essence and Anthony discuss their challenging year, emphasizing the importance of faith and resilience. They delve into personal hardships like financial struggles and car issues, reflecting on how these experiences tested their faith. The episode focuses on their commitment to God's work and ministry despite difficulties, and highlights moments of divine provision and learning. They stress the value of perseverance and trust in God's plan, sharing insights on the complexities of living a faith-driven life. ------------------------------------------------ Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ------------------------------------------------ FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refocused.ae/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/refocused.ae/ TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdj9XBMP ------------------------------------------------ Biography: Anthony, growing up in St. Louis always wandered around life with a semi-awareness to what is going on in his life and in the world. Navigating through college, career, entrepreneurship the real attention to detail did not come into play until Christ became Lord for him at 24, and was then magnified upon his marriage and introduction to father. Being a Father, Husband, pastor, employee, entrepreneur, has been a blessing given everything for him is centered around Christ. Essence is born and raised out of Kansas City, MO. With a huge heart to serve, lead, nurture, and create she has given a lot of time to mentoring children, delivering spoken word poetry, and lifting those around her who need wise and Christ centered advice. Between all the hats that she wears she still finds the time to be an excellent wife and phenomenal mother.

Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ------------------------------------------------ FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refocused.ae/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/refocused.ae/ TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdj9XBMP ------------------------------------------------ Show Notes: This episode's conversation between Essence and Anthony, co-hosts of Refocused. They reflect on the growth and changes since their previous season. They discuss the hiatus between seasons and the personal growth that took place. The episode details their experiences, including relocating, facing challenges, and trusting in God throughout the process. Their journey involves overcoming logistical hurdles and financial constraints, highlighting the importance of community support and faith in their lives. ------------------------------------------------ Biography: Anthony, growing up in St. Louis always wandered around life with a semi-awareness to what is going on in his life and in the world. Navigating through college, career, entrepreneurship the real attention to detail did not come into play until Christ became Lord for him at 24, and was then magnified upon his marriage and introduction to father. Being a Father, Husband, pastor, employee, entrepreneur, has been a blessing given everything for him is centered around Christ. Essence is born and raised out of Kansas City, MO. With a huge heart to serve, lead, nurture, and create she has given a lot of time to mentoring children, delivering spoken word poetry, and lifting those around her who need wise and Christ centered advice. Between all the hats that she wears she still finds the time to be an excellent wife and phenomenal mother.

Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ------------------------------------------------ FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refocused.ae/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/refocused.ae/ TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdj9XBMP ------------------------------------------------ For you PODCAST listeners, you can find us on all platforms, just pick your favorite: ANCHOR: https://anchor.fm/anthony-and-essence APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/refocused-with-a-e/id1586192271 GOOGLE: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82YzU4ZThkNC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/4gfRDlINIjUH7YDuSEJws9 ------------------------------------------------ Show Notes: ------------------------------------------------ Biography: Anthony, growing up in St. Louis always wandered around life with a semi-awareness to what is going on in his life and in the world. Navigating through college, career, entrepreneurship the real attention to detail did not come into play until Christ became Lord for him at 24, and was then magnified upon his marriage and introduction to father. Being a Father, Husband, pastor, employee, entrepreneur, has been a blessing given everything for him is centered around Christ. Essence is born and raised out of Kansas City, MO. With a huge heart to serve, lead, nurture, and create she has given a lot of time to mentoring children, delivering spoken word poetry, and lifting those around her who need wise and Christ centered advice. Between all the hats that she wears she still finds the time to be an excellent wife and phenomenal mother.

Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ------------------------------------------------ FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refocused.ae/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/refocused.ae/ TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdj9XBMP ------------------------------------------------ For you PODCAST listeners, you can find us on all platforms, just pick your favorite: ANCHOR: https://anchor.fm/anthony-and-essence APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/refocused-with-a-e/id1586192271 GOOGLE: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82YzU4ZThkNC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/4gfRDlINIjUH7YDuSEJws9 ------------------------------------------------ Show Notes: We have heard the adage of "Loving Thy Neighbor" all our lives, but how do we truly apply this, and when is it used out of line? The Story of the woman at the well (John 4: 7-26) Then a woman from Samaria came to draw water. Jesus said to her, “Give Me a drink”— 8For His disciples had gone off into the city to buy food— 9The Samaritan woman asked Him, “How is it that You, being a Jew, ask me, a The Jews considered Samaritan women ceremonially unclean. Samaritan woman, for a drink?” (For Jews have nothing to do with Samaritans.) 10Jesus answered her, “If you knew [about] God's gift [of eternal life], and who it is who says, ‘Give Me a drink,' you would have asked Him [instead], and He would have given you living water (eternal life).” 11She said to Him, “Sir, The woman's response is due to the fact that “living water” was the normal description for running water. She probably thought that Jesus was referring to the underground water source that fed the well. You have nothing to draw with [no bucket and rope] and the well is deep. Where then do You get that living water? 12Are You greater than our father Jacob (renamed Israel in Gen 32:28) was the son of Isaac, grandson of Abraham and father of the twelve sons who established the twelve tribes of Israel. Jacob, who gave us the well, and who used to drink from it himself, and his sons and his cattle also?” 13Jesus answered her, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again. 14But whoever drinks the water that I give him will never be thirsty again. But the water that I give him will become in him a spring of water [satisfying his thirst for God] welling up [continually flowing, bubbling within him] to eternal life.” 15The woman said to Him, “Sir, give me this water, so that I will not get thirsty nor [have to continually] come all the way here to draw.” 16At this, Jesus said, “Go, call your husband and come back.” 17The woman answered, “I do not have a husband.” Jesus said to her, “You have correctly said, ‘I do not have a husband'; 18for you have had five husbands, and the man you are now living with is not your God does not regard cohabitation as marriage. Marriage is a binding, legal covenant between a man and a woman. husband. You have said this truthfully.” 19The woman said to Him, “Sir, I see that You are a prophet. 20Our fathers worshiped on this mountain, but you Jews say that the place where one ought to worship is in Jerusalem [at the temple].” 21Jesus replied, “Woman, believe Me, a time is coming [when God's kingdom comes] when you will worship the Father neither on this mountain nor in Jerusalem. 22You [Samaritans] do not know what you worship; we [Jews] do know what we worship, for salvation is from the Jews. 23But a time is coming and is already here when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit [from the heart, the inner self] and in truth; for the Father seeks such people to be His worshipers. 24God is spirit [the Source of life, yet invisible to mankind], and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth.” 25The woman said to Him, “I know that Messiah is coming (He who is called Ch

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Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ------------------------------------------------ FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refocused.ae/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/refocused.ae/ TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdj9XBMP ------------------------------------------------ For you PODCAST listeners, you can find us on all platforms, just pick your favorite: ANCHOR: https://anchor.fm/anthony-and-essence APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/refocused-with-a-e/id1586192271 GOOGLE: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82YzU4ZThkNC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/4gfRDlINIjUH7YDuSEJws9 ------------------------------------------------ Show Notes: In this episode we explore how and why others are offended by the Christian faith. Where it's wrong, and where it doesn't add up. ------------------------------------------------ Biography: Anthony, growing up in St. Louis always wandered around life with a semi-awareness to what is going on in his life and in the world. Navigating through college, career, entrepreneurship the real attention to detail did not come into play until Christ became Lord for him at 24, and was then magnified upon his marriage and introduction to father. Being a Father, Husband, pastor, employee, entrepreneur, has been a blessing given everything for him is centered around Christ. Essence is born and raised out of Kansas City, MO. With a huge heart to serve, lead, nurture, and create she has given a lot of time to mentoring children, delivering spoken word poetry, and lifting those around her who need wise and Christ centered advice. Between all the hats that she wears she still finds the time to be an excellent wife and phenomenal mother.

Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ----------------------------------------------- FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refocused.ae/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/refocused.ae/ TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdj9XBMP ------------------------------------------------ For you PODCAST listeners, you can find us on all platforms, just pick your favorite: ANCHOR: https://anchor.fm/anthony-and-essence APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/refocused-with-a-e/id1586192271 GOOGLE: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82YzU4ZThkNC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/4gfRDlINIjUH7YDuSEJws9 ------------------------------------------------ Show Notes: With the social status where it is this day and age with relationships, the high value man, and the independent woman. Where is the room for submission between man and woman. Let's explore it this week's episode. ------------------------------------------------ Biography: Anthony, growing up in St. Louis always wandered around life with a semi-awareness to what is going on in his life and in the world. Navigating through college, career, entrepreneurship the real attention to detail did not come into play until Christ became Lord for him at 24, and was then magnified upon his marriage and introduction to father. Being a Father, Husband, pastor, employee, entrepreneur, has been a blessing given everything for him is centered around Christ. Essence is born and raised out of Kansas City, MO. With a huge heart to serve, lead, nurture, and create she has given a lot of time to mentoring children, delivering spoken word poetry, and lifting those around her who need wise and Christ centered advice. Between all the hats that she wears she still finds the time to be an excellent wife and phenomenal mother. #Marriage #RelationshipGoals #Submission

Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ------------------------------------------------ FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refocused.ae/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/refocused.ae/ TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdj9XBMP ------------------------------------------------ For you PODCAST listeners, you can find us on all platforms, just pick your favorite: ANCHOR: https://anchor.fm/anthony-and-essence APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/refocused-with-a-e/id1586192271 GOOGLE: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82YzU4ZThkNC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/4gfRDlINIjUH7YDuSEJws9 ------------------------------------------------ Show Notes: In this episode of Refocused we welcome back Anthony and Essence for Season TWO of their show. In this episode they cover everything from resting when necessary, to parenting, to even more. Stay tuned for this episode and the remainder of season 2 for more great content. ------------------------------------------------ Biography: Anthony, growing up in St. Louis always wandered around life with a semi-awareness to what is going on in his life and in the world. Navigating through college, career, entrepreneurship the real attention to detail did not come into play until Christ became Lord for him at 24, and was then magnified upon his marriage and introduction to father. Being a Father, Husband, pastor, employee, entrepreneur, has been a blessing given everything for him is centered around Christ. Essence is born and raised out of Kansas City, MO. With a huge heart to serve, lead, nurture, and create she has given a lot of time to mentoring children, delivering spoken word poetry, and lifting those around her who need wise and Christ centered advice. Between all the hats that she wears she still finds the time to be an excellent wife and phenomenal mother.

Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ------------------------------------------------ FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refocused.ae/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/refocused.ae/ TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdj9XBMP ------------------------------------------------ For you PODCAST listeners, you can find us on all platforms, just pick your favorite: ANCHOR: https://anchor.fm/anthony-and-essence APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/refocused-with-a-e/id1586192271 GOOGLE: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82YzU4ZThkNC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/4gfRDlINIjUH7YDuSEJws9 ------------------------------------------------ Show Notes: We hear that we should not judge others our whole lives, however we challenge that judgement should come with some parameters. Let's explore this conversation together. ------------------------------------------------ Biography: Anthony, growing up in St. Louis always wandered around life with a semi-awareness to what is going on in his life and in the world. Navigating through college, career, entrepreneurship the real attention to detail did not come into play until Christ became Lord for him at 24, and was then magnified upon his marriage and introduction to father. Being a Father, Husband, pastor, employee, entrepreneur, has been a blessing given everything for him is centered around Christ. Essence is born and raised out of Kansas City, MO. With a huge heart to serve, lead, nurture, and create she has given a lot of time to mentoring children, delivering spoken word poetry, and lifting those around her who need wise and Christ centered advice. Between all the hats that she wears she still finds the time to be an excellent wife and phenomenal mother. #judgement

Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ------------------------------------------------ FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refocused.ae/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/refocused.ae/ TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdj9XBMP ------------------------------------------------ For you PODCAST listeners, you can find us on all platforms, just pick your favorite: ANCHOR: https://anchor.fm/anthony-and-essence APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/refocused-with-a-e/id1586192271 GOOGLE: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82YzU4ZThkNC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/4gfRDlINIjUH7YDuSEJws9 ------------------------------------------------ Show Notes: With so many people "deconstructing" their faith these days its only a given that there will be those who were once Christian in their business, but now a question mark. Should those individuals still make money while using something they don't believe in? ------------------------------------------------ Biography: Anthony, growing up in St. Louis always wandered around life with a semi-awareness to what is going on in his life and in the world. Navigating through college, career, entrepreneurship the real attention to detail did not come into play until Christ became Lord for him at 24, and was then magnified upon his marriage and introduction to father. Being a Father, Husband, pastor, employee, entrepreneur, has been a blessing given everything for him is centered around Christ. Essence is born and raised out of Kansas City, MO. With a huge heart to serve, lead, nurture, and create she has given a lot of time to mentoring children, delivering spoken word poetry, and lifting those around her who need wise and Christ centered advice. Between all the hats that she wears she still finds the time to be an excellent wife and phenomenal mother. #deconstructing #religion #honesty #faith

Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ------------------------------------------------ FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refocused.ae/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/refocused.ae/ TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdj9XBMP ------------------------------------------------ For you PODCAST listeners, you can find us on all platforms, just pick your favorite: ANCHOR: https://anchor.fm/anthony-and-essence APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/refocused-with-a-e/id1586192271 GOOGLE: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82YzU4ZThkNC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/4gfRDlINIjUH7YDuSEJws9 ------------------------------------------------ Show Notes: Many people in society today talk about the benefits of #forgiveness being in their own hearts. While this is true, we believe that forgiveness has to be extended on to #reconciliation as well. This can be a hard one to swallow because it involves humility and vulnerability on our own end. ------------------------------------------------ Biography: Anthony, growing up in St. Louis always wandered around life with a semi-awareness to what is going on in his life and in the world. Navigating through college, career, entrepreneurship the real attention to detail did not come into play until Christ became Lord for him at 24, and was then magnified upon his marriage and introduction to father. Being a Father, Husband, pastor, employee, entrepreneur, has been a blessing given everything for him is centered around Christ. Essence is born and raised out of Kansas City, MO. With a huge heart to serve, lead, nurture, and create she has given a lot of time to mentoring children, delivering spoken word poetry, and lifting those around her who need wise and Christ centered advice. Between all the hats that she wears she still finds the time to be an excellent wife and phenomenal mother.

Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ------------------------------------------------ FOLLOW US: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refocused.ae/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/refocused.ae/ TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdj9XBMP ------------------------------------------------ For you PODCAST listeners, you can find us on all platforms, just pick your favorite: ANCHOR: https://anchor.fm/anthony-and-essence APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/refocused-with-a-e/id1586192271 GOOGLE: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82YzU4ZThkNC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/4gfRDlINIjUH7YDuSEJws9 ------------------------------------------------ Purchase Your Merch here: https://refocused-ae.com/shop ------------------------------------------------ Show Notes: Relationships. Everyone has them, some people want them, we ALL need them. The question is are you doing everything you can to make sure you are pursuing them, maintaining them, and most importantly, categorizing your relationship the proper way? ------------------------------------------------ Biography: Anthony, growing up in St. Louis always wandered around life with a semi-awareness to what is going on in his life and in the world. Navigating through college, career, entrepreneurship the real attention to detail did not come into play until Christ became Lord for him at 24, and was then magnified upon his marriage and introduction to father. Being a Father, Husband, pastor, employee, entrepreneur, has been a blessing given everything for him is centered around Christ. Essence is born and raised out of Kansas City, MO. With a huge heart to serve, lead, nurture, and create she has given a lot of time to mentoring children, delivering spoken word poetry, and lifting those around her who need wise and Christ centered advice. Between all the hats that she wears she still finds the time to be an excellent wife and phenomenal mother.

Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ------------- For you podcast listeners, you can find us on all platforms, just pick your favorite: ANCHOR: https://anchor.fm/anthony-and-essence APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/refocused-with-a-e/id1586192271 GOOGLE: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82YzU4ZThkNC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/4gfRDlINIjUH7YDuSEJws9 -------------------------------------------- Purchase Your Merch here: https://refocused-ae.com/shop ------------------------------------------------ Show Notes: The cultural norm is to "test the waters". We have to make sure everything is just right to 'our' standards [I.E. perfect] before we commit to one person. Well, here we are ANTI that rhetoric. Don't let the false standards of cohabitation be the downfall to your potential blessing. ------------------------------------ Biography: Anthony, growing up in St. Louis always wandered around life with a semi-awareness to what is going on in his life and in the world. Navigating through college, career, entrepreneurship the real attention to detail did not come into play until Christ became Lord for him at 24, and was then magnified upon his marriage and introduction to father. Being a Father, Husband, pastor, employee, entrepreneur, has been a blessing given everything for him is centered around Christ. Essence is born and raised out of Kansas City, MO. With a huge heart to serve, lead, nurture, and create she has given a lot of time to mentoring children, delivering spoken word poetry, and lifting those around her who need wise and Christ centered advice. Between all the hats that she wears she still finds the time to be an excellent wife and phenomenal mother.

#TravisScott #idols #christ Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ------------- For you podcast listeners, you can find us on all platforms, just pick your favorite: ANCHOR: https://anchor.fm/anthony-and-essence APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/refocused-with-a-e/id1586192271 GOOGLE: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82YzU4ZThkNC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/4gfRDlINIjUH7YDuSEJws9 -------------------------------------------- Purchase Your Merch here: https://refocused-ae.com/shop ------------------------------------------------ Show Notes: We can often times allow the efforts of our lives turn into complete idol worship, OR the things we enjoy most turn into idols themselves. Where does that stem from, and how do we go past this issue. Let's talk about it! ------------------------------------ Biography: Anthony, growing up in St. Louis always wandered around life with a semi-awareness to what is going on in his life and in the world. Navigating through college, career, entrepreneurship the real attention to detail did not come into play until Christ became Lord for him at 24, and was then magnified upon his marriage and introduction to father. Being a Father, Husband, pastor, employee, entrepreneur, has been a blessing given everything for him is centered around Christ. Essence is born and raised out of Kansas City, MO. With a huge heart to serve, lead, nurture, and create she has given a lot of time to mentoring children, delivering spoken word poetry, and lifting those around her who need wise and Christ centered advice. Between all the hats that she wears she still finds the time to be an excellent wife and phenomenal mother.

Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ------------------------------------------------ For you podcast listeners, you can find us on all platforms, just pick your favorite: ANCHOR: https://anchor.fm/anthony-and-essence APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/refocused-with-a-e/id1586192271 GOOGLE: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82YzU4ZThkNC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/4gfRDlINIjUH7YDuSEJws9 ------------------------------------------------ Purchase Your Merch here: https://refocused-ae.com/shop ------------------------------------------------ Show Notes: We often get this strong urge to move when it comes to faith. Sometimes to the fault of irresponsibility. Now don't get it wrong, when God says move we need to be doing just that. The question is, is it truly God or just the ambitious voice in your head wanting to skip steps? The Bible says to test prophecy and hold on to what is good; or even more clear, what is GOD! Yes that means even prophecy from yourself… Look at Peter in the book of Matthew when he stepped out, ON FAITH, to walk on water to get to the destination with Jesus. Jesus told them to be courageous, yes. But Peter followed up with a double-check, not out of disbelief, but out of reassurance that he wasn't just tripping or listening to himself, but truly HEARING FROM GOD. Be encouraged to move on faith, but let your faith be a responsible move in GOD. Kingdom Man Shirt: https://www.facebook.com/ClothedInChristModestyApparel Covenant Shirt: https://kingdomvesseldesigns.ecwid.com/ ------------------------------------ Biography: Anthony, growing up in St. Louis always wandered around life with a semi-awareness to what is going on in his life and in the world. Navigating through college, career, entrepreneurship the real attention to detail did not come into play until Christ became Lord for him at 24, and was then magnified upon his marriage and introduction to father. Being a Father, Husband, pastor, employee, entrepreneur, has been a blessing given everything for him is centered around Christ. Essence is born and raised out of Kansas City, MO. With a huge heart to serve, lead, nurture, and create she has given a lot of time to mentoring children, delivering spoken word poetry, and lifting those around her who need wise and Christ centered advice. Between all the hats that she wears she still finds the time to be an excellent wife and phenomenal mother. #Christ #Faith #LifeMastery #Responsibility

Get more blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: https://www.refocused-ae.com ------------- For you podcast listeners, you can find us on all platforms, just pick your favorite: = ANCHOR: https://anchor.fm/anthony-and-essence APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/.../refocused.../id1586192271 GOOGLE: https://podcasts.google.com/.../aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vc... SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/4gfRDlINIjUH7YDuSEJws9 -------------------------------------------- Purchase Your Merch here: https://refocused-ae.com/shop ----------------------------------------------- Show Notes: This episode is dedicated to the loving memory of Dr. Amber Williams. We must learn what it means to not waste our time by wasting time. There are so many things in this life that God has us here for specifically for His kingdom, and if we get off track then we can remove purpose from ourselves or from someone else. We have to learn to be skeptical about culture's way of living and move in decency in our relationships, ambitions, and plans. ------------------------------------ Biography: Anthony, growing up in St. Louis always wandered around life with a semi-awareness to what is going on in his life and in the world. Navigating through college, career, entrepreneurship the real attention to detail did not come into play until Christ became Lord for him at 24, and was then magnified upon his marriage and introduction to father. Being a Father, Husband, pastor, employee, entrepreneur, has been a blessing given everything for him is centered around Christ. Essence is born and raised out of Kansas City, MO. With a huge heart to serve, lead, nurture, and create she has given a lot of time to mentoring children, delivering spoken word poetry, and lifting those around her who need wise and Christ centered advice. Between all the hats that she wears she still finds the time to be an excellent wife and phenomenal mother. #ambition #selfcare #timemanagement #workhard

In this episode we learn a lot about the difference and importance in setting your faith in God, and giving your obedience to Him as well. There are a lot of different ways we can remove ourselves from his plans, in good spirits, but misguided all the same. Check out what we have to say about this, and their own experiences in this as well. ------------- Get more like blog posts, photos, and specials at our website: www.refocused-ae.com ------------- For you podcast listeners, you can find us on all platforms, just pick your favorite: ANCHOR: https://anchor.fm/anthony-and-essence APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/refocused-with-a-e/id1586192271 GOOGLE: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82YzU4ZThkNC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/4gfRDlINIjUH7YDuSEJws9 Purchase Your Merch here: https://refocused-ae.com/shop Show Notes: Kingdom Vessel Designs (https://kingdomvesseldesigns.ecwid.com/)

Join us as we talk about why we left, what we've been doing, and what to expect in the future. It's no secret for anyone who has been following us for the last few years that we once had a show before. Well some things happened and we took some time away. But after some difficult conversations with God we understand the assignment and are now back with purpose.