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I am a father and grandfather, and I know I have passed trauma to my kids and grand kids. Adverse childhood experiences ( ACE's) are not talked about, taught or looked at with urgency it should have. * A person with a ACE score of 4 or more is twice as likely to have heart disease, seven times more likely to be alcoholic and 12 times more likely to attempt suicide. Of the 17,000 mostly white, college-educated people with jobs and great health care who participated in the study, 64 percent had an ACE score of 1 or more; 40 percent had 2 or more and 12 percent had an ACE score of 4 or more. If it's affecting the middle class like think how it's affecting those dealing with discrimination, homelessness, poverty, those coming from other countries etc. We have to talk openly, clearly with vulnerability and courage or we can continue to pretend it's not affecting us, it's someone else problem. Deep down you know that's not true. Email: cheersport@me.com to come and speak to your youth, families, coaches and leadership teams. Get my ebook on fear or addiction. Let's talk

I woke up today and thought about how sex has changed my life and how my relationship have been ruined from doing it and not doing it. I am not blaming my parents for all of my dysfunction around sex, after childhood I still continued to do in a lot of misinformed and irresponsible ways. What I came to realise was what I was really wanting was someone to love and accept me from all gifts but most of all for my flaws and mistakes past, present and future. That should be one of the classes I teach in the school I going to open for youth one day. The course will talk about what sex is for real and what relationships are, for real and why people run from both. And why people use both like they are just toys. This podcast touches on my life growing up around sex and relationships, up to where I am today. You can sex anyone but if you don't sex yourself, sex it's not just inner course people, sex is so much more. And many people don't know this but you can't have a trusting effective, growing and loving relationship if you don't have that sort of relationship with yoursel. Enjoy the podcast and leave a comment or reach out on my Instagram or Facebook page. Be well

We are trapped in our own self made prisons and our capitalist creation is taking advantage of our weakness for food, sugar, alcohol, cars, gambling, shopping, binging on reality TV, Netflix etc. These media companies and other marketing systems know us better then we know ourselves, and they are also banking on our fear and frustration to keep us coming back. What all this really is is our trauma. Check out the podcast and leave a comment and share.

The most devastating mental wealth issue on the planet is rarely mentioned or talked about when come healing our youth. Many of you will never hear the term Adverse Childhood Experiences or ACES for short. Again you won’t here about ACEs at home or in general conversation unless your child’s teachers or Doctors mentions it. The ones that are afraid or the ones that go long just to protect their jobs won’t bring it up because it opens the door to not only the child’s trauma but the mental wealth struggles of their parents. Parents have their own childhood adverse experiences that were never healed. If you need a coach that has experience and emotional intelligence reach out today. Email: cheersport@me.com Follow me on Instagram and Facebook - Sanford McMurray

Why are we not getting the help we need? We are in a very aggressive digital age and it’s killing our connection to our centre or KWAH! I made that word up, it’s so fun to say,?KWAH! We are disconnected though and we need to find our way back. Are you feeling worried all day and night? Feeling depressed at the job or at home often? Not fulfilled even though you the house, car and kids? Are always struggling with your finances and budget? Are finding you wake up often with worry or anxiety? This why I am still talking about mental and emotional health issues because we are still not addressing the real issues and now our kids are dealing with their mental and emotional injuries. And we can not help because we have ignored our own so, that we have taught them how to ignore theirs. Let’s get the help we need not tomorrow TODAY!

We are so busy hiding in our prisons, I mean our houses we have forgotten their is whole world out there. We keep complaining about people, COVID, men complaining about women and women complaining about men, jobs, property all tough issues yet are they as tough the lie we keep telling ourselves about racism in our world systems of education, governments, law and medicine. Not as big as the lie of telling our kids get your education, your job, your house, kids, cars, boats and forget about the rest of the world, survival of the fittest ideology. How does any of that help if you are alone, looking for love (sorry real love). How does it help when your kids hate you or your relationship with family is in tatters. What about when a friend is depressed or so low they want to kill themselves. We are in such state of denial in the world, we have forgotten we are social, craving, connection driven creatures. Share this podcast and share it some more we need to be remind how to help each other reach our dreams and share our gifts with each other

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Part of what we should be teaching our kids is how to follow their dreams, their calling, their purpose on this planet. Many of us have lost or gave up figuring out a way to follow our dreams so we pass that quitting or fear on to our children. Men we have a bigger responsibility then we know and as men we should not be trying to do it alone. We need raise the barn by sharing with each other as men how to collaborate, how to lead and how to lift each other up. We have gotten to afraid, to comfortable and lost in survival mode that we have forgotten how to keep ourselves and other men accountable to each other, our families and our dreams

Since being back in the dating world I feel much hasn’t changed. Society is still pitting men against women and women against men. It is a steady competition of men and women trying to out do each other, and providing who has the most stuff, power and ego over each other. What ever happen to talking, empathy, emotional engagement, trust and vulnerability? Man we have to open our eyes to the signs a women may be hurting, using use or not share how to be herself. It’s an interesting world dating, it helps to know yourself men and to know why you are there. Make sure you like and share my podcast.

This is just not fathers who are not physically there, it’s fathers who are destructed with work or other projects. Fathers who are arguing with their wife or partner all the time. Fathers who have medical disabilities. And fathers who are emasculated by their wife or partner, they are constantly told they are useless or incapable of doing anything right. These are causes and signs of fatherless homes. If you think of others drop a comment. I hope this podcast bring insight and help to those men who are struggling. There is help out there and I am one of many.

Men go through life constantly on guard as if the world is going to attack them at anytime. So many of us are ridiculed, mocked and bullied, and forget it if you are from another country or culture as a men you get the shaming triple. Men carry huge amounts of shame that we are afraid to talk about. We would much rather lie about how we really feel, what’s going on for us or show we feel we cate for something to deep in case because we have remain stoic and manly up on our white horses. Brene’ Brown reminds us that shame needs three sources of fuel to survive silence, secrecy and judgment. Let’s get into this topic. If it resonate for leave voice comment or connect with me on Facebook or Instagram just look up my name Sanford McMurray. Enjoy and thank you for your support

Why is disagreements, confrontations and being wrong corporal crimes and major disasters? In school they teach us li s about history, it’s that a real crime. At our jobs or in the office they instruct to through out co- workers under the bus to advance our own careers, it’s that not only sad but a major disaster for the leadership of those work places. We have learn as adults to disagree, confront and shed our stigma of what being wrong is about . Enjoy the short but eye open episode

If you have been taught 9+4 = 13 and someone else is taught 6+7=13. When these two meet they start to argue saying their teacher said this is how you get to 13, what’s missing in both their arguments? A lack of true understanding. And that is the same with relationships when it comes to men and women friendships. Join me as I explore why we are experiencing FAT in our relationships and how we can change the narrative when it comes to make and female friendships.

When it comes to mental health, shame is a major player. Men and women both feel shame and it keeps us from expressing who we really are. It makes us lie and pretend we are who we are not. When it comes to shame it can shape the trajectory of our lives. Shame is a mental health issue that keeps in jobs they don’t love, pretending to like things they don’t really like, shame keeps us from showing real live and empathy for others as well as our selves. This world needs less shame practicing and courage

I was driving in my car and it came to me why rejection is for our benefit, just like love, sex, caring and sharing has benefits. So I recorded in my car driving .... so forgive the poor sound quality. Rejection is quite painful and there is no stronger feeling that stays in our minds and body longer the rejection. There is something that wakes us up or drowns us in sorrow when it comes to rejection. There is much we can’t change,understand or figure out, the relationship or job interview or friendship was going so good. Reject seems to come out of left field and slam into us. But there is learning, growing and a realisation of self conscious awareness that comes out of this pain. Enjoy this podcast drop a comment and share with your friends.

We attract all kinds of people in our lives. The challenge is are they the correct people for the life you are striving to creat? To find out who you want in your life , one, it takes awareness of who you are. Two, time together sharing, conversations, observing each other, hanging with each other’s friends and family. Connection takes time. And the big thing friends should take in to account in the very beginning is intuition and openness. Looking for the signs that are just chemistry is not as important as being compatible. Practice both yet know what they mean for your life

High depression, high bullying, high mental health issues schools today have seen there best years behind them. The system is not creating confident, creative and problem solving human beings. Yes they understand computers yet know social skills. Nhg

Join us as we talk about a question so many people talk about, and if they are not talking about it they’re thinking about it .Do we have a purpose on the planet? We talk about how we followed our purpose and started a joint podcast. We talk about the importance of listening to intuition, procrastination, the power of collaborations and much more. Stop in and listen to this podcast especially if you are on your quest to discover your purpose. Share, drop a commitment and keep your head up. Sending you peace and power.

Today my guest Micheal, Trevor and I talk about the quote “It takes a village to raise a child” It is an often used phrase in the works yet results like high depression rates, divorce, mental health issues, disease and on purpose isolation and imposed social distancing how does this concept fit into today’s world. Share your thoughts on if you feel we are moving closer together or further apart as a society, if so why. Thanks for listening, make sure to tell your friends and family about our podcast.

Join Sanford and his two special guess Micheal and Trevor who both have their own passionate views when it come the corona virus. We all discuss health, life, how fear has divided the world and how we hope we can do our part to bring us all together again.

I wanted to type a longer title but I think that says it all. Join me today as I talk about my journey with wanting to commit suicide, the rising pandemic around suicide and mental health. The world is putting on a face of lies, hate, cover ups and ignorance, while this is nothing new, I did not start seeing any of this until I wanted to kill myself and was finally diagnosed with dyslexia and depression in my 50’s. When I was suicidal I had lost not just hope, I had lost meaning, connection and felt totally alone in a courtly that never talked about feelings or trauma. There was not one thing I did to find my way back, and that is what I want to share with people who are struggling with suicidal thoughts and mental health issues. Come on let’s talk candidly, no more hiding or half ass stories. Only the truth will set any of us free.

In this episode I talk about one of toughest topics for us as black and white people to have honest, hard hitting conversations on, race and racism. Join me as I draw insights from two extraordinary women, Dr. Robin DiAngelo and Dr. Joy DeGruy. Once we tell ourselves the truth, keep educating ourselves, have the tough conversation and keep taking action steps, we as a society are closer to healing this pandemic called, racism.

There are plenty if books and TV, movies and YouTube clips out there talking about whether men and women can be friends but few about can men be friends with other men. Studies show men are poorly prepared by our culture to be masculine men who know the power of emotional expression. The number one killer of men is loneliness which is associated with obesity, elevated blood pressure and a compromised immune system. And yes, our women are many things to our world yet they can not truely understand and related to the lived experience of a man. The biggest part missing from men’s life is the fight for and connection of menships.

It doesn’t take any courage to be nice and the trauma so many of us are dealing with does not respond to nice either. Nice is thinking you judging, discriminating, avoiding, holding on to shame is not trauma, it is. You blaming folks for your suffering, not being able to be vulnerable or not being able to express the ugly feelings within yourself, this is all trauma. In this podcast episode I lay out things that trigger the trauma state, and in my research I found a technique that I used to help me navigate my trauma and still use today. So join me for this confronting yet healing episode. Make sure you like, share and leave a commit. Sending you joy and discovery ✌

I know it’s scary to bring up and talk about mental and emotional health because we can not bring it up without going into our own pain and suffering as well as our families. Yet studies have shown a lot of parents, teachers, doctors, managers, administration teams and even our world leaders don’t even know they are struggling with a mental or emotional health issue. Well today we want everyone to stop hiding, denying and lying about these personal yet universal conditions, that over 450 million people that’s 1 in 4 people deal with everyday.

So often you hear podcast or read articled telling us not to judge or compare yet they never tell why we do it or how. This episode will try to help you understand they why and how. We. Will also look at the primary emotions that come up when these sub-conscious behaviors take over. Enjoy the podcast. Make sure to leave a comment and share if this topics resonates with you or somebody you know.

Most people get into relationship believing they are the center of the world or the center of that relationship. Meaning they have either been alone to long or they have intimacy issues that makes them believe they are always right or they are always being wronged by. I would suggest real relationships help us figure out two truly important matters. 1. Who we are not and 2. Who the other person truly is. Real relationships as I call them in this podcast requires stepping out of all our judgements and perceived ideas, and getting back to love, vulnerability and authenticity. Enjoy the podcast and share this work. Thank you ✌

It’s human nature for adults and youth to disagree but when disagreement becomes filled with anger and/or one or both parties start to feel they are being rejected, being abundant or in danger of losing love, we get scared and that fear leads to war.

Oh now this episode is not for everyone because you are happy living lie after lie after lie. If you got your stuff together, you are living comfortably and your all good, then I am not talking to you. But if you are always complaining, feeling like the world is against you, attracting negative and angry people, and you are wanting success but you are only putting in 35, 50 or 60 percent then this definitely for you. Now only listen if you want the truth because that’s all I got to offer. Hit the like and share button. Let me know the schools you want me to contact and speak at.

As parents we are suppose lead and be in charge yet whether we know if something is good for our child or not we let them tell us they know better because we don’t want to hurt their feelings, get them mad at us or feel like we are encroaching on their rights. Parents we are afraid of our kids opinions of us. I had a parent say to me my “boy is a boys boy.” Code for he doesn’t want to go. I said what is that? She said he doesn’t want to hang around girls and do cheerleading stuff, she was talking about one of my youth programs. I said to her, my youth programs are focused on sports and performing arts. It’s designed for teens to be able to express themselves physically, mentally and emotionally. Activities include but not limited to are tumbling, dance, basketball, theater etc. And because we deal with the emotional, mental and physical aspects of expression we teach youth what their triggers are for anger, sadness, anxiety, fear etc. My mission is to unlock in our youth their love, their gifts, their trigger as well as help them express themselves with vulnerability and courage.

Part 3 of FASI ( today’s coaching session is S ( shame). Shame is triggered in many different ways depending on the culture, so what this tells us is that shame is learned, not automatic or innate. According to psychology today, if a child’s “transgression” is followed by punishment or an even sterner lecture that makes the child feel like a bad person especially if this is repeated - the child will grow up with what Brene’ Brown calls “ Toxic Shame” Enjoy today podcast. And remember to hit the like and share button. Thank you for your support ✌

In my EMPC Youth Life Coaching, my day to day life and even in my daily meditation fear seems to find its way into the mix. What I have learned is that fear is hardwired into our brains, from back in the days of running from dinosaurs and having to survive harsh terrain and weather. What’s really interesting is that fear is also a lier, it does want us or our youth to take chances, to risk being heard, seen or explore anything that might involve risk. The last thing before you dive into the podcast is most of our fears are actually taught to us. Fear of most people, most animals, many adventure, relationships and going after the life you want, these are just a few examples of taught fears. Enjoy the podcast, like and share. And remember to practice each day having a fearless life.✌

Jack Ma Chinese business man, investor and philanthropist who is worth over $20 million dollars believes that by 2030 over 800,000 jobs will be automated. And it is the soft skills that will prepare our youth for their future work and relationships that are being sought after right now. These soft skills which include team work, leadership, collaboration, communication, creativity, person to person skills and self reflection. Are taught in the very work I have doing and coaching in all my life things sports, arts; performing arts, circus arts and music. Enjoy the podcast and leave a comment below.

Many of us as parents want to get back at our teen or punish them or ignore them or their behavior. Let’s be honest here as parents when we feel disrespected or rejected, and we don’t recognize that child in front of us we get bitter and just want to do something to make them appreciate what they have. In my research I discovered that when our kids “act out”,they are just doing or reacting out what they can not say in words. And our stress and repression has a lot to do with it. Enjoy this podcast, like and share. I can only grew if you give me honest feedback that will help me give to parents and our youth better. Thank you ✌

Episode 10 Youth Brokeness and creative healing. Our youth are suffering from EMPSB addictive behaviors. EMPSB is emotional, mental, physical and spiritual brokenness . The addiction behaviors are fear, anxiety, shame and insecurity based around the obstacles and triggers that prevent them from expressing how their own personal trauma has affected them. Not all youth experience deep death defying trauma yet as unique as we are, we all have our own trauma voice or numbing’s that disconnect us from open communication, listening with our guard down, speaking without rage, without daggers at the ready and vicious intent toward others who might offend or say something true.

I have been working with athletes, performing artist and youth for the last 35 years and I believe I have found the one thing that stops each of us from having the life we say we want and/or desire to get too. It’s that we have told our self a lie and we fear being exposed. Not just to others but ourselves. We don’t want to think we can be happy, have love, be successful at our art or sport. It may not be a simple journey back to your true self but I bet with deep reflection, professional help, your coaches, family and close honest friends you can stop the lies that cover up your fear so much. Enjoy this revealing episode. And if you want to spend more time with me live, contact me on cheersport@me.com for your sporting club, school, youth club or one on one coaching or mentor sessions. Share this podcast and comment below. Thank you. Love Your Mission

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “respecting yourself means setting boundaries, excepting your flaws, excepting that you are a human being prone to error yet seeing your self worth, and not letting others mistreat us - because our minds just might believe that” This is part of the foundation of connecting to our confidence. And I will share with you the four confidence from Ed Laitmore’s book ‘The Four Confidences. Ed was a great boxer, physicist, chess player, poet and author. Leave your comments and share this podcast with your friends. Sending you peace and all green lights.

Lies and hiding have become a part of what we do everyday, and to reveal ourselves is a sign of weakness. I wanted to speak from the point of healing and revealing. I also wanted to share some of the reasons we get addicted to lies, drugs, sex, food etc. There are some very strong yet vulnerable reasons we get caught in the webs of lies, covering and addiction. It’s important that we look at what we are getting from these behaviors not to judge or belittle ourselves or others. Enjoy the blog and send me a voice comment, would love to hear your thoughts on lies and addiction.

When we are growing up we each have our share of abuse, mishaps, traumas, tragedies, and stuff we did that we are either running from or blocking out. This escapism comes back to haunt us when we become adults or get older. My goal is to work with young athletes and performing arts so they are about become conscious buy tapping into their sub conscious of how they feel, believe and habit driven, so they are able to use their pain, fears and insecurities to empower their lives instead suppress, hide, prove, protect and defend these toxic behaviors. Please commit, like and share this podcast so we can continue to help our youth.

While fasting has proven health benefits like boosting energy, cleansing the body, regenerating cells, blood and other organs, it’s has far reaching meaning and benefits for me. Join me as I dive into ancestry, spiritually, what I call empathic consciousness, parenting and much more.

In today’s episode I have with me Angie Baxter former professional dancer, and now owner and director of Currumbin Gymnastics And Cheerleading Academy on the Gold Coast. Angie and talked about some of the things holding back our youth. The emotional, mental and physical blocks that stop them from being themselves. Of course social media is a part of that social vacuum but it’s so much more and we share some our perceptions on that in today’s podcast. Join us and share with other youth, coaches and parents if you go some value out of this topic today’s.

I read an article of a 9 year old black girl who committed suicide due to relentless bullying and racism, and it hit close to home. Suicide does not care about race, gender or social economical status, it’s an equal opportunity employer. We have to stop standing by, sweeping it under the carpet or acting like it’s not happening, it is and it’s directly and indirectly affecting everyone. For our youth thoughts and behaviors are connected to a range of social, personal and childhood adversities, tune in and learn more during my podcast. We can all help, even just a little bit. Help support my programs as I do my bit to bring awareness to our youths mental, emotional and physical health and well being. Please like, share and support.

I talk about why I started podcasting. I talk about the indoctrination of our youth in schools, and the fear, shame and insecurities they face each day. Also I look at how the media and government is using divide a conquering technique to break down our relationships.

Podcast Title: Unlock Your Hidden Fear 2 Unleash Your Extraordinary Potential: It so easy to use what we were taught intellectually because we have been so indoctrinate by a school and government system that tells us to be like everyone else. Have what they have, be who they are, want what they want, think like they think and act like they act. The number one and two global health issues by 2030 will be lack of real human connection and mental and emotional health disorder. This globally is estimated to cost up to $16 trillion between now and 2030. And this human disconnection will be primarily because our lives will automated. Not just our work but how we talk to and share our time with our friends, families and lovers. It will all feel the effects of automation if we do not stop and change things now. My part is our youth I have created this blog to help youth find and connect to their gifts, their true meaning their purpose on this planet. As s former competitive athlete and professional actor, dancer and stuntman, I will utilize my experiences, my study in mental health and addiction as well as interview off air and on air people that want to see a huge paradigm shift for our youth to live their extraordinary potential.