The Joy in Failure Podcast

Many of us are constantly chasing happiness and wondering why we aren't making any head way. The truth is happiness starts with us and no one else. We get to decide how far we are willing to go or how much we are willing to do to change our lives for our happy. On today's episode, I share the 4 things (when done consistently) I believe can help you change your life to be happy. This episode is perfect for anyone looking to reinvent themselves and don't know where to start. Book recommendations: Atomic Habits by James Clear Compound Effect by Darren Hardy For more happy hacks, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

Lately, our world seems to be up in smokes with all the chaos and negativity swirling around. Thus making it pretty hard to stay positive by seeing the light in the darkness or the message in the mess or the joy in the failure. And since I get asked frequently "how do you always stay positive", I was inspired to share my main tips and tricks for being optimistic in the midst of negativity. In today's episode, you'll learn my positivity hacks and my survival strategies in navigating our negative world. This episode is perfect for anyone surrounded by negative people/environment and is looking for ways to cope. For more juicy bits, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

Is it really selfish to love yourself first? And why do we expect others to love us when we don't want to love ourselves first? This is one debate that I tackle joyously on today's episode. For so long, I felt it was wrong to love myself first. This is why I denied myself from loving and validating myself, while desperately seeking love and validation from others. But the truth is we cannot give others what we don't have. We cannot give others from an empty tank, and expect others to give us from their full tanks. On this episode, I dive deep into why loving yourself isn't selfish, how self love transforms lives and what it really means to be self absorbed. This episode is perfect for anyone feeling depleted and is finally ready to start living life to the fullest. For more juicy beets, check out the blog at www.thejoyinfailure.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

On today's episode, I delve into how you can feel confident no matter what circumstance you find yourself in. Personally, I believe self confidence starts with self love, as confidence is simply one's ability to allow one's light to shine. As you listen, I share all the insights I've learned about confidence such as how confidence isn't a destination but a journey. This episode is perfect for anyone who struggles with confidence, and craves to always show up as their best selves. My intention with this episode is to inspire and show you how to build your confidence one authentic action at a time. For more juicy bits, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

Today's episode is all about how to stop limiting yourself and level up. This episode was inspired by the famous experiment of the fleas in a jar. As one of my favorite stories, this experiment is the ideal analogy on how our beliefs can truly hold us back from tapping into our fullest potential. On this episode, I go in depth and share tips on how we can start choosing our beliefs intentionally and begin to unapologetically live our limitless lives. For more juicy bits, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

Today's episode is an answer to a question from a subscriber, wanting to know how to overcome anxiety and fear once and for all. Like my beautiful subscriber, I myself have struggled with fear and anxiety on so many occasions - especially the commonly known ‘impostor syndrome'. On this episode, I share 3 key strategies that I've found very effective in dealing with fear and overcoming anxiety. As Jack Canfield says “ everything you want is on the other side of fear”. This is why it's so crucial for us to accept our fear and learn how to navigate it. The good news is I explain just how to do so. This episode is great for anyone tired of being ruled by anxiety, and finally ready to experience freedom even in the midst of fear. For more, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

Today's episode is all about self-love and self-worth. Personally, I believe lack of self-worth brings so much unhappiness into our lives. Yes, we constantly hear how important it is to be more confident, love ourselves more and increase our self-worth. But rarely do we hear how we actually go about doing so. Like so many, I've devalued myself more times than I can count. Thanks to all those hard times and rock bottoms, I finally learning how to truly love myself and increase my self-worth. And what I've discovered is that self-love is actually the antidote to self-worth. On this episode, I discuss just how to love yourself and increase your self-worth. I share my personal experiences, daily practices and how I'm learning to be a more confident human being. This episode is great for anyone struggling with confidence, self-love and self-worth; and is looking for a simple guide on how to increase self-worth and love oneself more. Resources mentioned on this episode: YouTube video by Adia Gooden ‘Cultivating Unconditional Self-Worth' Louise Hay's Mirror Work For more details, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

Your talent is God's gift to you. What you do with it is your gift back to God ~ Leo Buscaglia. Have you ever looked at a talented and gifted person, and wondered if you had any talents and gifts as well? If so, you are definitely not alone. The problem is that many of us are so focused on what other people have that we fail to realize the abundance in the talent(s) that we have. This is why I absolutely the “Parable of the Talents”. As one of my favorite stories from the bible, I find myself time and time again reflecting and learning so many lessons from this parable. On today's episode, I go in-depth about all the lessons the "Parable of the Talents" teaches us about life; and what you lose if you don't use your talents and gifts. For example: - What happens if you don't use your talents and gifts - Why comparison distracts us from our purpose in life - Why it's never about what you have, but about what you do with what you have - How investing in your talents and gifts benefits everyone - And so much more… Today's episode is for any one searching for his/her purpose life, and would love to discover and use his/her talents/gifts. For show notes, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast/episode22 or www.thejoyinfailure.com/blog For more juicy bits, be sure to follow me on instagram and twitter at @joyogunneye; and sign up for the weekly newsletter at www.thejoyinfailure.com Intro and outro music by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

Yay! I'm back! I can't believe Season 2 of the podcast is already here. I've missed you so much. On today's episode, I discuss all the incredible things I experienced during my hiatus (i.e. getting knocked up for the second time) as well as all the mind-blowing lessons I learned along the way. Listening to episode 22, you'll hear me get super vulnerable and share my personal experiences and why I know perfectionism doesn't lead to lasting happiness. Be prepared to learn why perfectionism is stopping you from living your best life and how to truly let it go. This episode is perfect for anyone struggling with the disease called perfectionism and is looking for relief and a way out. For show notes, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast/episode21 or www.thejoyinfailure.com/blog Intro and outro music by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

Each moment of the year has its own beauty – Ralph Waldo Emerson. Wohoo!!! Today's episode is season 1 finale of the Joy in Failure podcast. I can't believe I've recorded 20 whole episodes in such a short period of time. Words can't begin to describe my gratitude for each and every one of you – for listening and reaching out and sharing all your stories, testimonies and love with me. My heart overflows with deep appreciation for you all. On this episode, I share the profound lessons I've learned in the past 5 months since starting this podcast, and how I continue to learn how to embrace all the seasons of life.  Listening to this podcast, you'll hear me share how I've learned to see the beauty in everything, while receiving the gifts that each season brings. As you wait for the Season 2 of the podcast, feel free to binge on the other 19 episodes here on on iTunes, Stitcher & Soundcloud and GooglePlay.  This episode is perfect for anyone struggling with change, and understanding how to navigate this game called life.   If you are looking to start a podcast of your own, definitely check out Pat Flynn at www.smartpassiveincome.com. He has been very instrumental in my life.  For show notes, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast/episode20 or www.thejoyinfailure.com/blog Music by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

“Playing big doesn't come from working more, pushing harder, or finding confidence. It comes from listening to the most powerful and secure part of you, not the voice of self-doubt.” ― Tara Mohr Today's episode is inspired my one of the most transformative books I've read thus far called Playing Big: Find Your Voice, Your Mission, Your Message by Tara Mohr (https://amzn.to/2Nw62q3). Lately, I've been reminded how essential it is to play big if we want to fully express who we are on this earth to be. Many of us have been taught how to play small, and hold ourselves back from doing exactly what our hearts calls or speaking our minds and expressing our true voice. On the episode, I share several A-Ha moments I've experienced recently that has taught me how to embrace the fuller expressed person I'm becoming , and to play big and commit to no longer playing small and being inauthentic to who I'm destined to be. Personally I find playing small rather constraining and super painful.  Listening to the episode, you'll hear me share how I learned to let go of 'comfortable yet painful and limiting situations' that aren't serving me any longer. At the same time, I've learned how embrace the 'uncomfortable more expansive situations' that continues to help me unleashed my inner voice.  This episode is perfect for anyone looking to find their voice and fully embrace who you are on this earth to be. For show notes, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast/episode19 or www.thejoyinfailure.com/blog Music by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

Today's episode was inspired by lessons learned while attempting to bake my 5 year old daughter's graduation cake. Since I started to learn how to bake, I've realized time and time again that baking is exactly like life - to be successful, you have to expect to fail and mess-up countless of times. In this episode, I share a story about my buttercream disasters and redos during this particular baking escapade, and how I wanted to give up so many times and resort to a store bought cake. I share the profound life lessons I learned along the way. This episode is perfect for anyone who is tired of beating themselves up, and wants to learn how to navigate life with ease and flow.  For show notes, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast/episode18 or www.thejoyinfailure.com/blog Music by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

Today's episode is a huge celebration and testimony on how making friends with failure and rejection got me a dreamy job. Wohoo!!!! This week I started a juicy job with a super nice company that literally cuts my daily commute by 3.5hrs. And the best part, I can still go on my long alignment morning walks :).  For those who may be new to the podcast, I got laid off from my previous job at the end of December, and I couldn't be more grateful for that 'perceived' setback which was actually a 'divine' setup. As you listen to this episode, you'll hear me share my entire job story of mishaps turned miracles : from the profound experience, last year that forced me to reevaluate what was truly important to me (i.e. quality of life, peace of mind, flexibility, inspiring & empowering people) to a mentor of mine encouraging me to write down my ideal job description (i.e. a transformative job crafting/job visioning exercise) to the number rejections I got including getting laid off - which according to my 5-year-old daughter, I got fired lol. This episode is a celebration of love, joy and resilience. A celebration on what's possible when you are aligned to your soul's calling and purpose in life. It's perfect for anyone who is looking to feel inspired and believe in miracles again, while feeling joy and alignment- no matter what! For full show notes, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast/episode17 or www.thejoyinfailure.com/blog Music by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

Honesty and transparency make you vulnerable. Be honest and transparent anyway! – Mother Teresa In today's episode, I delve deep and show you through my personal stories how to be your true self and live like you've got nothing to hide. As you listen, you'll hear me share my experience last year in Oslo that inspired me to finally stop hiding from my truer, bigger self and decide no matter the situation I find myself in, to live life like I've got nothing to hide. I also get super candid about the postpartum anxiety and breastfeeding struggles I experienced after the birth of my daughter, and how I overcame the intense shame that haunted me. For full show notes, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast/episode16 or www.thejoyinfailure.com/blog Music by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

"There is no path to happiness. Happiness is the path "– Buddha I recently discovered one of the most amazing books from an superly eclectic store in the Minneapolis airport called Frivolous (wonderfully unnecessary). The book I found is appropriately titled ‘Find Your Happy', written by M.H. Clark, designed by Sarah Forster and published by Compendium Publishing. I've literally read it to myself every single morning, which has been extremely transformative for me. On today's episode, you'll hear me recite the book and share the insights I've learned from the concept of finding your happy. Please buy this book for yourself at www.live-inspired.com. This episode is perfect for anyone who just wants to experience unconditional happiness - which is basically the idea of being happy for no reason :) For full show notes, go to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast Music by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

There is only one person responsible for the quality of your life. That person is YOU!! – Bob Proctor Today I talk about why it's so important for us to treat our lives as businesses, and how we can begin to embody our personal power by becoming the Chief Executive Officers of our lives. Thanks to an epiphany I had recently, I realized instead of striving so hard at becoming the boss of something outside of me (such as a company), I always felt more powerful and in control of my life when I focused on being the boss of the magic inside of me (aka CEO of my life). Like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz, I discovered the power that I had been chasing all along was simply buried within me. I just had to spend more quality time with myself to uncover it. Focusing on becoming the CEO of my life has truly helped me harness my inner power and empowered me to take on the world. In this episode, I share all the great things I've learned from my career as a marketer that really helped me in becoming the CEO of my life- which essentially is the same thing as becoming the fullest version of myself. Listening to the episode, you'll hear me share ways that you can flip your life script and focus your efforts on becoming the CEO of your life (i.e. how to determine your vision, mission, purpose, unique selling proposition and so much more), as well as how to take responsibility for your life, invest in yourself and show yourself compassion no matter what! I also showcase a quick tool that I learned from Marie Forleo that helped me determine my superpowers, and understand who I really am. Some worthy quotes to contemplate from the episodes: -You can't create what you want if you don't know what you want. -You aren't able to determine what your purpose is without failures. -The more your focus on yourself and less on the competition, the more you can truly become the CEO of your life. -The more we focus on what others are doing and spend all our energy trying to become the CEO of other people's lives, the more we fail to understand who we truly are. -Own your life. Be the CEO of your life. -Stop blaming other people. Take responsibility for your life. -Own your failures. Own your faults. Own your mess-ups. -Inspire yourself by loving yourself. This episode is perfect for anyone who is looking to embody their inner power, and unleash who they truly are in an amplified way. For show notes, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast/episode14 or www.thejoyinfailure.com/blog Music by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

Faith and fear both demand you believe in something you cannot see. You choose! – Bob Proctor Today I explore the topic of how to choose faith over fear. To experience the joy in failure, I believe faith is one of the most useful tools we have at our disposable to help us overcome our fears and preserve despite the odds. I love the definition of faith in Hebrews 11:1, which states "faith is the confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see". I also love the common definition of fear which states "fear is the false evidence appearing real". In this episode, I share why I believe fear and faith are part of the same coin, and why faith and fear each have a purpose in our lives. If fear is simply part of our lives, I believe we need to spend less time trying to become fearless and more time learning to dance with fear.   In this episode, I show you 3 simple steps on how to choose faith over fear, so you can feel joy no matter what. For full show notes, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast/episode13 or www.thejoyinfailure.com/blog Music by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

Today I explore the topic of self-worth and how the act of feeling unworthiness tends to prevent us from experiencing the joy in failure. Once upon a time, we were kids who were so sure of ourselves and so full of self-worth. Until we were conditioned to depend on circumstances and people outside of ourselves to feel whole and worthy. As adults, we continued on our quest for worthiness by seeking external things primarily to determine our self-worth. And now we find ourselves craving other people to like us before we feel worthy, wanting to succeed so badly just to give ourselves permission to feel worthy….and the mad pursuit of trying to feel worthy goes on and on and on. Endlessly chasing of conditional worthiness, even though we simply have no control over eternal forces except our internal mindsets. In this episode, I remind you of the TRUTH that “You are worthy because you exist. We are all worthy because we exist”. Irrespective of societal labels like race, gender, religion, background, sexual preference, we are all made of God stuff which makes us worthy. Listening to the episode, you'll hear me delve into what I think about the term “being full of yourself”, and how I embrace this term wholeheartedly and why I inspire you to do the same. I believe in the power of practicing, so I share 3 themes with 2 practices per theme that I believe will help you feel worthy no matter the circumstance, no matter the situation. This episode is perfect for anyone tired of people pleasing, goal chasing and waiting on outside forces to determine if you are worthy or not, before feeling the joy you were made to feel. Some worthy mantras to contemplate: “I'm worthy because I say I'm worthy." “I get what I want because I give what I want.” “I focus on my superpowers and not my flaws.” Awesome things I mention on the podcast: Marie Forleo's Bschool at www.marieforleo.com/bschool/ Marianne Williamson quote “Everything we do is either an act of love or a cry for help." For full show notes, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast/episode12 or www.thejoyinfailure.com/blog Music by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

Not until we are lost do we begin to find ourselves – Henry David Thoreau In today's episode, I explore the question on “how to find joy when you feel lost”. Right now, I'm in this space of the 'unknown' after losing my job a couple of months ago. And lately, even though I have become very skilled at finding the joy no matter what (thanks too many of life's complexities), I still find myself from time to time feeling rather lost. On this episode, I go deep and share a personal crazy story about me and my family, and how my 5-year old daughter taught me how to find the joy in the midst of feeling completely lost. In that situation, one profound lesson she taught us was no matter what happens, no matter what situation we find ourselves in, no matter what things we lose, there is always something to be grateful for - as nothing is ever as bad as it may seem. Listening to the episode, you'll hear me delve into the following 3 steps that has always helped me find the joy whenever I find myself feeling lost:   1)    Dedramatizing the situation 2)    Appreciating the situation 3)    Trusting the situation I also teach you how to recalibrate your course when you take a wrong turn in life and how you can actually find yourself while you are lost. My personal mantra when I feel lost is “ I haven't lost myself, I have found myself “ This episode is perfect for anyone who feels lost and overwhelmed with life and is craving for a way out.  For show notes, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast/episode11 or www.thejoyinfailure.com/blog Music by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

The purpose of life is to know yourself and love yourself and trust yourself and be yourself – Yogi Tea quote In honor of the 10th episode of the podcast, I was incredibly inspired to share 10 lessons that have changed my life. In this conversation, I get super candid about what held me back in the past from being true to my inner being, following my heart's calling and expressing myself to the fullest. In this episode, you'll hear me go really in depth and share some radical concepts on what it takes to live a fulfilling life, and how and why these lessons have completely transformed my life. I delve deep with lots and lots of personal stories and observations on how I continue to still feel joy in spite of all of life's failures and challenges. The lessons are as follows: 1. Choose Your Joy No Matter What 2. Know Your “Why” 3. Follow The Bread Crumbs 4. Trust The Process 5. Fill Your Cup/Well (from the inside out) 6. Give Without Expectations. Love Without Regrets 7. Don't Take Anything Personally 8. Don't Put Anything or Anyone on a Pedestal 9. Everything Is Possible 10. Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy This episode is perfect for anyone looking for help and inspiration in navigating this game called life in such an easeful and joyful way. Books mentioned in the episode: Simon Sinek's book “Start With Why” - https://amzn.to/2HvTv6P Bentinho Massoro's book "Super Accelerated Living" - https://amzn.to/2r2Q8sR Don Miguel Ruiz's book "The 4 Agreements"- https://amzn.to/2r1ylSU For show notes, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast/episode10 or www.thejoyinfailure.com/blog Music by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

Today's interview is with the incredibly inspiring financial guru, Bola Sokunbi. She is a long-time friend of mine who I love dearly and has personally transformed my life. Bola is a Certified Financial Education Instructor (CFEI), finance expert, speaker, writer, podcaster, social media influencer and founder of Clever Girl Finance, a platform that empowers and educates women to make the best financial decisions for their current and future selves and to pursue their dreams of financial independence in order to live life on their own terms. CleverGirlFinance.com has also been voted as one of the top personal finance websites for women. Bola had been featured by NYC's PIX11 News, CBN News, The Chicago Tribune, as well as on several other finance websites and podcasts.  One big thing Bola has taught me is how to face my money fails, which is something i've adopted in everything in my life. In this episode, she shares her tips and tricks on how to effectively adopt a money mindset and live life on your own terms. She delves into why it is so important to determine your “why” before you begin to change your financial situation, and why letting go of your mistakes and forgiving yourself for your past money mishaps is super crucial to achieving financial freedom. She shares the different resources we can utilize, as well as how to set up fun money challenges that can help us find the joy in our money mishaps while we forge ahead to financial freedom. She also shares her financial failures, how she navigated them and how every failure helped her become the Clever Girl she is today. Some profound tweetable quotes from Bola @clevergirlfinance: {Failure is not final – unless you are dead.} {Failure is just the opportunity to keep making progress.} {Money is not the dream. The dream is what money can help you accomplish.} {You want to realize the A-ha moments in the mess. Those A-ha moments will give you insights into how you can change things} {There is joy in minimalism} {I am proud to fail} This episode is perfect for anyone looking for financial freedom and wanting to find the joy in spite of money mishaps. Check her out at www.clevergirlfinance.com, instagram.com/clevergirlfinance.com, twitter.com/clevergirlfinance, and facebook.com/clevergirlfinance.  For the video interview I did with Bola, check out https://youtu.be/yWtICqz5iIw For full show notes, go to www.thejoyinfailure.com/blog Music by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

This episode was inspired by Will Smith's YouTube video titled “Facing My BIGGEST Fear”. In this video, he says towards the end “The question is not can you handle the situation. The question is can you handle your mind? Can you manage the thoughts and emotions that are trying to poison your progress? Forget managing the situation, manage your mind. Train your mind to sit calmly in the eye of storm”. I found this quote extremely powerful, that I decided to riff on it. In today's episode, I talk about why I think managing our minds is one of the most important things we can do for ourselves. Most of us aren't taught in schools or at home how to manage of our minds, even though it is such a crucial part of navigating life's failures more easily. And the crazy thing is that most of us don't even realize that our minds need managing nor do we realize we have the capacity to control our minds. On this episode, I share some life-changing ways that I've found tremendously helpful in managing my mind and helping me to remain calm in the storm. Just like our minds, we have control over all things technology (phones, email, social media etc). Technology is not the enemy- the problem is we allow it to control us. In this episode, I share simple tips on how I manage technology, email and social media, which frees my mind and time to focus on my “why” and to do more things that spark joy.  I go further and riff on how we can focus more on the magical wonder and beauty in our lives (just like children), and focus our energy on doing less multi-tasking and more uni-tasking (single focus activities – basically being more present). This episode is perfect for anyone looking for ways to manage their thoughts, time, technology, social media and ultimately our minds more effectively, and to learn how to remain calm in the midst of life's chaos. I've found that the more you are able to stay still in your thoughts, the more you are able to manage your mind. So let's work together at training our minds. For full show notes, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast/episode8 or www.thejoyinfailure.com/blog Will Smith's video mentioned above is at goo.gl/Xn956L Music by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

In today's episode, I explore the idea of letting go and discuss how letting go holds us back from reaching our fullest potential. I delve into why letting go is so necessary if we truly want to be free and embrace our true selves. As Yung Pueblo states in his book 'Inward' “Letting go doesn't mean forgetting. It means we stop carrying the energy from the past into the present”. One of the main reasons why we are so resistant to failing is because of all the emotional baggage we carry. The truth is to experience the joy in failure is to free yourself and let it go. To experience the joy in failure is let go of all the unnecessary baggage, all the stuff that serve us no more. On this episode, I teach how we can break free from all the societal labels, identities, ideologies and expectations to free ourselves from the baggage that weighs us down. I also discuss a recent ‘perceived' failure/disappointment that I experienced, and I share how I navigated it and freed myself from my ego mind. Letting go is the magic to happiness. We have to be willing to lose ourselves to become who we truly are meant to be. Listening to episode, you'll hear me share how detrimental holding on to our failures, successes, negative beliefs and all other unnecessary things hold us hostage to being the best versions of ourselves. This episode is perfect for anyone looking to learn how to navigate life's ups and downs more easily, while feeling the joy and freedom you are born to feel. For full show notes, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast/episode7 or www.thejoyinfailure.com/blog To read more about Yung Pueblo's book 'Inward', go to https://amzn.to/2uMbmAp Music by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

Today's episode is a super powerful one. It's a transparent interview with my friend and former colleague, Bisi MacGregor. She is a TEDx Speaker, Certified Fearless Life Coach and Certified Fearless Trainer who empowers professional women to break the mold in their lives and businesses, so they can wholeheartly live out their true essence. Bisi is a truly inspiring human being, who empowers me every day to live my best self. In this episode, you'll get to eavesdrop on an intimate conversation between friends on our life lessons and perceived failures, and how breaking the mold in life and business is possible for us all. In this episode, you'll get to eavesdrop on an intimate conversation between friends on our life lessons and perceived failures, and how breaking the mold in life and business is possible for us all. Bisi candidly shares how she found her true calling through all of life's curveballs in her career and marriage, and how compassion and her deep self-reflections saved her life.  On the episode, she teaches us how to break out of societal molds that inhibit us from living from our true essence. She helps us realize that we all have the power to create our own molds, and urges us to stop struggling so hard to fit into ‘other people's' molds as they simply don't fit us. She also shares how we can start to be comfortable being uncomfortable, and how to brave unchartered waters beyond our comfort zone, while still staying true to ourselves no matter what! In our conversation, we delve into how we can start early by teaching our children how to fail, and consciously helping them to tap into their essence. This episode is perfect for anyone trying to break free from life's rat race, let go of societal shackles and embrace living the fulfilled life you were born to live. To follow Bisi as infects the world with her fearless wisdom, connect with her on Instagram/Twitter @atokelifesprings, via her website at www.atokelifesprings.com and join her facebook community of Fearless Professional Women at www.facebook.com/groups/fearlessprofessionalwomen For full show notes, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast/episode6 or www.thejoyinfailure.com/blog Music by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

Today's episode is about a very personal yet inspiring email exchange I had 6 years ago with a very good friend of mine, Gita Sjahrir. We met back at Wharton and have been good friends ever since. She is the Co-Founder and Chief Rider of Ride Studio- Indonesia's first boutique indoor cycling studio.  This episode is based on a very heart provoking email she sent me back in 2012. Listen to the episode and hear me read her inspirational article titled 'What I Done Did With My Schoolings' . In this episode, I share Gita's wisdom as she teaches us how our failures get us back on track to pursuing our childhood dreams. On the podcast, you'll hear how a major ‘perceived' failure helped her reconnect with the dreams of her 10-year-old self, and how our fancy dreams may be preventing us from truly following our heart's calling. Gita is such a transparent writer and wise soul, and I truly hope you find this episode as inspiring as I do. In Gita's words: “Don't be afraid.  Trust yourself.  Push along.  If not for you, then follow your heart, because it is the right thing to do”.  And as she also says: "Never be comfortable, never stop dreaming." To follow Gita as she takes on the world one ride at a time, connect with her on Instagram @gitasees or via her website at www.ridejkt.com To read the full article and show notes, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast/episode5 or www.thejoyinfailure.com/blog Music by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

On today's episode, I dive deep into questions that I keep on getting asked such as ‘how to get out of a rut', 'how to find the joy when in a rut', 'how to stay joyful when all you want to do is stay angry'. One thing these questions have in common is the fact that they are about how we navigate our negative emotions. We aren't taught how to deal with or process our emotions. On this episode, I discuss why it's so important for us to feel and embrace all our emotions including the negative ones and why it is imperative for us to express all our emotions, because what we resist persists. I share how we can use the Abraham Hicks' Emotional Guidance Scale or any online sources to help us understand our rainbow of emotions. I walk you through the 5 steps that has helped me navigate my negative emotions, and helped me get out of a rut. These 5 steps are encased in an acronym which I call iCARE and the steps are as follows: 1. Identifying the emotion(s) and understanding the why behind the emotion(s) 2. Compassion for yourself and others in the situation(s) 3. Accept and Acknowledge the emotion(s), and allow the emotion(s) to pass through you 4. Reframe the situation(s) and Release the emotion(s) 5. Embrace the emotion(s) no matter what! I also delve into a personal failure of mine that triggered lots and lots of negative emotions, and I share how the iCARE framework could have been used to help me get out of that rut and navigate my negative emotions more easily. Get full show notes and more information here: www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast/episode4 Music by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com Also definitely check out and join https://www.clevergirlfinance.com and subscribe to my friend Bola's amazing 'Clever Girl Knows' podcast. I'm sure you'll love it as much as I do. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

In today's episode, I talk about how to always feel ‘good enough' without being so dependent on external acceptance/validation. Inspired by Quincy Jones quote {“Not one drop of myself worth depends on your acceptance of me”}, I discuss my thoughts on why we are constantly seeking external acceptance/validation and how this prevents us from taking risks and living joy filled lives. We tend to be so scared of failing, so resistant to failing and judge ourselves so harshly when we do fail. The clarifying questions I love to ask when trying to discern our resistance to failures are as follows: 1. Why are we so scared to fail? 2. What is the worst thing that can happen if we fail and/or when we fail? In the past when I've asked people question 1, the common answers I receive are: a. “I don't want to seem or look foolish” b. ”I don't want to be embarrassed” Basically, the reason why we are so scared of failure is because we are so scared of what people will think of us. We are so scared of others judging us. I can completely relate because for a long time, I focused on external acceptance/validation as I so deeply wanted to be liked by others, as I just wanted to feel ‘good enough'. But everything changed when I realized I was already ‘good enough' because I exist. In this episode, I share my observations on how society has raised us to focus so much on external acceptance/validation, even though we have no control over what people think or their acceptance of us. I share how I've learned that it doesn't matter what people think of us, what truly matters is what we think of ourselves. I've found that our self-worth doesn't depend on what other's think of us. I also explore our unhealthy relationships with external acceptance/validation especially on social media and how we can begin to make our relationship with social media healthy again. I ask that we consider focusing more on internal acceptance/validation and less on external acceptance/validation. We can choose to accept, like and love ourselves harder than anyone else, rather than always waiting for others to like, love and accept us first. Our freedom and joy lies in our hands. There is so much sweetness in life when we validate ourselves without waiting on others to validate us. In this episode, I also go in-depth on how the book “He's not just that into you” changed my life and made me realize that we all don't have to be liked. And not because I'm not someone's cup of tea, doesn't mean I'm not a delicious cup of tea. That's really the beauty of life, there is something and someone for everyone. Let us all love ourselves. Let us all validate ourselves. Let us acceptance ourselves, so we can fail more, and live more joyful lives no matter what. For more juicy bits, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast Music: Be Together by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

Today I delve into the idea of choosing to be happy first. A lot of us are taught as kids that it is selfish to choose our happy first, and I was inspired to explore this belief a bit more . As I consider myself a recovering people pleaser, the idea of choosing to be happy first has been something I've wrestled with for a while now. I believe strongly in serving others. However, what I've come to realize in my journey is that we can't give what we don't have, so we need to fill ourselves up first. I share how when I feel depleted, I'm not the happiest person in the world (I'm rather quite miserable ). And I've come to believe it serves no one when we give from our empty wells. I discuss how I've discovered that the most selfless thing we can do is to focus on being happy first. Today I go deep into how I've learned to choose my happiness thanks to tons of trials and tribulations -from parenting to struggling with finding work life balance to getting laid off from my job (not once, twice!). In the midst of my struggles and failures such as losing my jobs and not being a present mom, I rediscovered myself and my true joy after Marie Kondo-ing my life to immersing myself deeply into personal development to practicing an 1-2 hours morning alignment of all things centering, balancing and joyous to playing more and having fun. In this episode, I also share why we may want to give up society's definition of success and focus on what truly makes us happy, why we may want to consider identifying less with external labels such as our jobs and titles and why we may want to always give from our overflow rather than from our depletion. This episode is perfect for anyone struggling to find balance in life and wanting to be happy no matter what. I share how I've progressively learned that the most selfless thing we can do is focus on our happy first. Personally, choosing my happy first has helped me navigate my failures more easily. Choosing my happy first has helped me find appreciation, love and joy even in my failures. Choosing my happy first has helped me accept losing my job the second time around, and discovering that a job doesn't define who I am. As Marianne Williamson says “you can lose your job but you cannot lose your calling”. So let's cheers to heeding our callings and choosing our happy no matter what. For more juicy bits, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast Music: Be Together by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support

Hello and welcome to the very first episode of the Joy in Failure podcast. I'm your host Joy Doyin Ogunneye, former banker turned beauty executive turned joyful creator, whose life's work is to live a life full of beauty and joy no matter what! I created this ‘joy' cast to help you navigate life's failures more easily. My intention is to make failing less taboo and more fun. In today's episode, I share my soul story and why I felt so inspired to create this podcast, and share the message of love, beauty and joy with the world. With all of life's ups and downs, failures and curveballs, I go really deep into why we have all forgotten our true essence and reason for being. I believe at the core, we are all the same, we are all looking to feel love, beauty and joy. Love, beauty and joy are the actual feelings behind our constant quest for success. In this episode, I delve into the several life lessons I've learned along the way (mostly the hard ones) such as how to let go control and float, how to find the beauty in the chaos, how to find the message in the mess, and how to always feel joy in the failure and not-so-pleasing circumstances. As a society, we are really not taught how to navigate our failures. As a result, we find it so hard to even say the word “Failure”, let alone embrace the idea of failing. In general, we've been conditioned to view the act of failing as such a bad thing, a taboo; rather than simply seeing it as a pathway to joy. I believe this is one of the many reasons why we are so scared of failing and are so risk averse. I also share a personal story aka ‘mini epiphany' on how I've learned and continue to learn how to always find the joy in my failures. I talk about how I decided to make it one of my life missions to teach others, shift mindsets and explore ways in finding joy in our failures no matter what. Joy is our birthright, and if failing is part of life, we might as well have fun with it. For more juicy bits, head over to www.thejoyinfailure.com/podcast Music: Be Together by DJ Babus at www.djbabus.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thejoyinfailurepodcast/support