The Morning Show with Traci and Kayla

This episode dives into the honest truth that will help get you unstuck from your repeating unwanted patterns in life. Sometimes life can feel like a hamster wheel stuck Running in place feeling exhausted from all of the effort without getting anywhere. This episode will give you everything you need to hear even though you may not want to hear it in order to help you get off the hamster wheel and moving in the right direction.

We all struggle with the impulse to push ourselves to get momentum towards more success. We focus on achieving and can easily burnout in the process. This leads to us feeling lazy when we are taking the rest we need. So begins the cycle of anxiety vs depression in the "go-getter" lifestyle. In this episode we talk about how to navigate growing your capacity through consistency in order to prevent burning out.  If you have questions or even a topic request you would like to hear on the podcast, feel free to email us!  hello@traciandkayla.com Lots of love!!!

Are you tired of waiting for things to go back to normal so that you can get back into your routines? The reality is, we are no longer waiting out a phase - this pandemic has shifted our entire world and we are coming up on a year now. A year is no longer a phase, this has become our lifestyle and our reality. It is time to embrace the reality of our life today, and step into our new normal. We take time on our podcast episode to help bring some inspiration to your day and help you start to think about how you can create your new normal in your life today. It may be what we want to hear, but it will feel better than waiting for a time that will never happen. 

What a wild year!! We are so excited to announce that we are back behind the microphone and are bringing you some support to close out 2020 and help you navigate this next year together. We want you to know that you may feel alone this holiday, but there is a silver lining and we are in this together. We share our hearts, and also give you a quick lovenote. We hope you feel loved, we are thinking about you... Merry Everything!!  xo Traci & Kayla

We have a tendency to overcomplicate things in your goal planning. You will only see failure in the long run. We always want to add more things in when we are creating the plan, but when we are implementing the plan... it gets tricky.  We have our FREE facebook group: Get Your Lifestyle Together and we would love to have you join us. Here we will be keeping you held accountable to making lifestyle changes over the spring season. Hope to see you there so we can connect deeper from the podcast.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/getyourlifestyletogether

There is a lot happening in the world right now and everyone is in a state of panic. Today we open up and share our point of view on what is happening with the virus and how best to handle it all emotionally.  We have our FREE facebook group: Get Your Lifestyle Together and we would love to have you join us. Here we will be keeping you held accountable to making lifestyle changes over the spring season. Hope to see you there so we can connect deeper from the podcast.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/getyourlifestyletogether

There is a lot happening in the world right now and everyone is in a state of panic. Today we open up and share our point of view on what is happening with the virus and how best to handle it all emotionally.  We have our FREE facebook group: Get Your Lifestyle Together and we would love to have you join us. Here we will be keeping you held accountable to making lifestyle changes over the spring season. Hope to see you there so we can connect deeper from the podcast.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/getyourlifestyletogether

In order to find fulfillment and happiness in your life you have to be able to articulate what brings you joy. Most people overlook this part of the journey because it seems too simple, but here is really were the magic begins. We have our FREE facebook group: Get Your Lifestyle Together and we would love to have you join us. Here we will be keeping you held accountable to making lifestyle changes over the spring season. Hope to see you there so we can connect deeper from the podcast.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/getyourlifestyletogether

People in general have a tendency to make things more difficult than they need to be. This is because effort is often placed, in the wrong direction. We think that we are doing the work, when in actuality we are putting tons of effort to even get to where the REAL work begins. Today we use the examples from 90 Day Fiance, Married at First Sight, and Love is Blind to help illustrate this point  We have our FREE facebook group: Get Your Lifestyle Together and we would love to have you join us. Here we will be keeping you held accountable to making lifestyle changes over the spring season. Hope to see you there so we can connect deeper from the podcast.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/getyourlifestyletogether

Everyone is busy these days. We all hear this from our coworkers, loved ones, and friends. But being busy is a slippery slope and can turn into the most common reason to not achieve success in your life. We are all busy. The real reason is... you are CHOOSING to not prioritize or have time for your goals. No more using this as an excuse. Maybe you just don't want it bad enough.  We have our FREE facebook group: Get Your Lifestyle Together and we would love to have you join us. Here we will be keeping you held accountable to making lifestyle changes over the spring season. Hope to see you there so we can connect deeper from the podcast.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/getyourlifestyletogether

In order to have get your lifestyle together, you need to prioritize rest. It may sound counter productive, but when you are rested you will be able to achieve more.   We took some time to talk about this in more depth on our podcast this morning. Take a listen, take the quiz, and learn more about what you need.   Here is the quiz: https://chronoquiz.com/   Here is a great blog post that can help you map out your daily routine and schedule according to your sleep chronotype:   https://brightside.me/inspiration-psychology/heres-the-perfect-daily-schedule-that-corresponds-to-your-chronotype-506010/   I took the quiz again just to be sure my body chemistry hasn't changed with being pregnant. I got the same result I have been... I am a bear!   I would love to hear from you. Create your post on what chronotype you are, as well as what changes you are going to implement to your daily routine and schedule. Does this help your goals? Does this help you organize your time?   Excited to hear your thoughts in our FREE facebook group: Get Your Lifestyle Together.   https://www.facebook.com/groups/getyourlifestyletogether  

You can't stop negative thoughts, but you can stop negative words. The words we say carry more weight to our beliefs than our thoughts actually do. Today we give you a quick tip on how you can change your words to help turn the positivity train around. Positivity is hard for most people, but focusing on our words can be a bit easier because they stand out to others.  We have our FREE facebook group: Get Your Lifestyle Together and we would love to have you join us. Here we will be keeping you held accountable to making lifestyle changes over the spring season. Hope to see you there so we can connect deeper from the podcast.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/getyourlifestyletogether

Nowadays we live in what is referred to as "opinion culture." It seems like everyone has criticism to offer and is ready and willing to be the first person to let you know what you are doing wrong. Today we are asking you to dive a bit into some self awareness and check on your own personal positivity. Are you someone who is influenced by the opinion culture, or are you spreading positivity wherever you go? We give some tips and reminders on how we can be the change the world needs in order to create more happiness in our lives.  We have our FREE facebook group: Get Your Lifestyle Together and we would love to have you join us. Here we will be keeping you held accountable to making lifestyle changes over the spring season. Hope to see you there so we can connect deeper from the podcast.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/getyourlifestyletogether

Everyone faces the moment when giving up would be way easier than accomplishing their goal or task. Today we talk about how to implement self accountability to help get you through those tough moments and overcome them. We also have our group accountability available for you to help support you through it all.... We have our FREE facebook group: Get Your Lifestyle Together and we would love to have you join us. Here we will be keeping you held accountable to making lifestyle changes over the spring season. Hope to see you there so we can connect deeper from the podcast.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/getyourlifestyletogether

Spring cleaning isn't just a deep clean for two days in the spring time. We share our tips on how to spring clean your home and create more ease in the consistency of your routines. Just like goal setting, if you take the time to plan out your strategy and set small goals to accomplish each day - you could be living in an entirely transformed home in the next few months.  We have our FREE facebook group: Get Your Lifestyle Together and we would love to have you join us. Here we will be keeping you held accountable to making lifestyle changes over the spring season. Hope to see you there so we can connect deeper from the podcast.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/getyourlifestyletogether

It is hard to know where to start when all you feel is stuck and overwhelmed. Today we are focusing on helping you get movement in your life. You don't have to know exactly what you want or exactly what is next in order to get started today. Sometimes the clarity happens after you have begun. We give you some simple advice on steps to take today that will help move your life in the direction needed for more happiness to transpire.  We have our FREE facebook group: Get Your Lifestyle Together and we would love to have you join us. Here we will be keeping you held accountable to making lifestyle changes over the spring season. Hope to see you there so we can connect deeper from the podcast.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/getyourlifestyletogether

When people think of routines they can sometimes roll their eyes and picture eating boring oatmeal every day and feeling dull. We are here to shake up what you think about routines because they are the secret sauce to the success of your goals. In this episode we break down what it really means to have a routine and how to implement one today to help you in your personal goals.  We have our FREE facebook group: Get Your Lifestyle Together and we would love to have you join us. Here we will be keeping you held accountable to making lifestyle changes over the spring season. Hope to see you there so we can connect deeper from the podcast.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/getyourlifestyletogether

Spring is right around the corner and in order to fully prepare - it's time to set some spring goals! You want to take a look at the next 3 months and ask yourself what you can truly accomplish in that time frame, what the priority is, what you want, what you need, and also what will bring you happiness each day.  We have our FREE facebook group: Get Your Lifestyle Together and we would love to have you join us. Here we will be keeping you held accountable to making lifestyle changes over the spring season. Hope to see you there so we can connect deeper from the podcast.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/getyourlifestyletogether

If you want to set yourself up for success you will need to understand what needs to be placed as the priority and what you need to let go of. You can't accomplish everything at once, so before you can goal set, you must understand what you are willing to say yes and no to in order to keep the priority set.  We have our FREE facebook group: Get Your Lifestyle Together and we would love to have you join us. Here we will be keeping you held accountable to making lifestyle changes over the spring season. Hope to see you there so we can connect deeper from the podcast.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/getyourlifestyletogether

We all need some "me time" while we are implementing change and setting our goals. Creating happiness every day and finding the little things in the moment is how you truly live a lifestyle of happiness rather than waiting for special moments to feel happy.  We have our FREE facebook group: Get Your Lifestyle Together and we would love to have you join us. Here we will be keeping you held accountable to making lifestyle changes over the spring season. Hope to see you there so we can connect deeper from the podcast.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/getyourlifestyletogether

It is essential to get clear on what you are looking to work on first in your lifestyle. You may want it all to happen at once, but that isn't how you reach results or happiness. You will want to look at a specific area that you feel can be accomplished or helped during the spring season. Listen for more details, and don't forget to continue the conversation with us in our FREE facebook group. We will be holding you accountable as we implement change during the spring season together: Get Your Lifestyle Together https://www.facebook.com/groups/getyourlifestyletogether

Today we are introducing our new FREE spring challenge! Welcome to "Get Your Lifestyle Together" our spring edition. We have a free facebook group for you to join where we can connect deeper and keep you accountable. We are going to be taking you through a process of change and transformation during the spring season.  JOIN US HERE  https://www.facebook.com/groups/getyourlifestyletogether

We are redefining manifesting today in an effort to help differentiate the way we teach here and also clarify what sets us apart from the rest. I have created a new word for the way we manifest: Lifestyle Design.  THIS IS DIFFERENT THAN MANIFESTING & TRADITIONAL GOAL SETTING METHODS. Our signature method not only shows you HOW to reach your end result, but also how to set multiple “goals or benchmarks” to guide you along the way to build more confidence. Most of the “goal planning” or “manifesting” information out there teaches us that you should ask for it, believe it will happen, and receive it. If you don't receive it, you either didn't believe in your worth enough, or repelled it away by your thoughts. *insert massive face palm here* No more wishing, waiting, and hoping for something to happen. If you want it, you must take action towards it. With this strategy, you will be able to understand HOW to get there. You can read more about it here:  https://traciandkayla.com/work-with-kayla-hines

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Today we are excited to announce that our new live program is launching and ready for you to join!! This will be the last opportunity to work with us live this year as Kayla just announced her pregnancy. We have combined all of our best offerings into one signature program to help you get the most out of your own life transformation. Don't mis out on the opportunity, we start March 2nd.  All the pretty details can be found here: https://traciandkayla.com/the-vip-makeover

We each have a unique way of how we want to give and receive love. The people in our lives also have their own way to give and receive love. In order to feel the love that is being given to you, you will need to understand how the other person operates.  When you are in a relationship, you can have communication around the way you need them to express love and in return you can change the way you show you love the way that the other person needs it.  There is a quiz called: The 5 Love Languages There are five different categories that you get scored in. Sometimes your language can change along with your relationships, healing, life phase, etc..  Read more on the blog:  https://traciandkayla.com/what-is-your-love-language/  

Everyone needs a good reminder. We all set reminders for work, to do lists, grocery lists, chores.. but what about reminders of who we are and what we are capable of? Lots of people teach about affirmations, but usually these tend to be so broad the meaning and power get lost in the process.  We want to share with you how we use reminders and affirmations really work.  Read more on the blog:  https://traciandkayla.com/affirmations-that-actually-work/  

What is the "in between" phase? This phase is the time when you are letting go the old and taking steps towards something new. Whenever we make a change in our life, we don't step right into the results. We usually have to let go of something first, and trust that our desire will work out.  When you are waiting for the results, and you don't know when the change will happen -- it is hard to wait it out. This is where doubt tries to sneak in to break your flow and revert you back to the old ways and patterns.  In this phase you will need to have consistency and faith. Read more on the blog:  https://traciandkayla.com/the-in-between-phase/  

Priorities and goals go hand in hand. When you have a goal, your priority should be aligned with that goal. When you shift your priority, your goals should fall. You wont get anywhere if you have opposing priorities and goals.  For example: If you are wanting to prioritize sleep and your goal is massive productivity, both are great but these two don't necessarily fit together.  In order to be productive you will need sleep and if you are prioritizing sleep you can still get things done. When you are making choices, having this priority and goal combination will make it difficult for you to clearly see what the best choice is for you.  Read more on the blog:  https://traciandkayla.com/your-goals-and-priorities-need-to-be-aligned/  

You want to approach change knowing yourself, even your triggers, so that you can further take care of yourself in the process. Emotions will always come up during the process of change. You will find a deeper sense of control and confidence when you are able to anticipate your needs and help yourself through the emotional dips that happen.  Our minds are driven by patterns. You can watch the patterns of your mind and start to notice who you really are when you are experiencing change. Be sure to detach from this meaning as well, it is JUST information.  If you don't know your patterns, the best place to start truly is your body. The body doesn't lie, the mind will play tricks on you. The body can show you your own patterns, behaviors, and beliefs.  Read more on the blog:  https://traciandkayla.com/focus-on-the-process-not-the-progress/  

When you connect to a strong why, it will empower you to hang in there when the going gets tough. It gives you a reason to make a tough choice that doesn't feel good.  The results are sometimes very far away. It takes time to overcome and achieve things, so you need something else to help get you through. For example, if I am going back to school - the degree is the goal -- not the motivation. The motivation needs to be more immediate so it helps you in the moments when it is tough to study. The part of me that is coming full circle and showing myself how smart and determined I am is what is pushing me forward in the moments today. The overcoming of something that I have felt insecure about is giving me the confidence and motivating me to do more.  Read more on the blog:  https://traciandkayla.com/your-why-is-your-biggest-motivator/  

The pivotal moment is never the choice at the beginning of the process. The pivotal moment is the moment you go "all in" with the commitment and consistency of your choice.  There is a moment when you are in momentum, you are living with confidence, and life is aligned.  Usually when you are making a choice, there is some area of life that you are unhappy in. Therefore, the alignment comes AFTER the choices have been made.  Read more on the blog:  https://traciandkayla.com/the-pivotal-moment-of-transformation/ Check out The Inspired Lifestyle Program:  https://traciandkayla.com/the-inspired-lifestyle

Anger can be a positive influence on your behavior. We can use the anger we feel when we align it with the vibration of passion. People tend to fear the experience of lower vibration feelings. When you are afraid of your emotions, your emotions are in control of you and not the other way around.  So many people post on social media that they want "positive vibes only" or are only looking for "positive people" to comment or post.  The funny thing is, people who understand motivation and the process of change are very comfortable in the lower vibrations. These people don't dwell in those vibrations however, they are empowered to utilize these vibrations to get them moving towards their goals.  Read more on the blog:  https://traciandkayla.com/anger-can-be-your-motivation/  

You need to reframe what you want, by looking at where you are willing to get uncomfortable in today. Here is where you know what you are ready to work towards next.  The magic isn't in the plan, it is in the willingness to complete the plan.  The effort is required, and not everyone is mentally prepared for the amount of work that is required to achieve their dreams. Don't be surprised, expect the process of change to challenge you.  If you keep consistent, the process of being uncomfortable will continue to get easier. The moment where everything clicks, and momentum flows, happens in the consistency of the effort, not the motivation of the desire. ;) Read more on the blog:  https://traciandkayla.com/when-you-are-asking-for-change-you-are-asking-to-get-uncomfortable/  

Things go wrong in life. We are in constant conversation looking for feedback in our choices, thoughts, and feelings. When you have lived a life full of pain, any little moment of something going wrong feels like a mistake. This is where the belief pops up in our mind that: "it just not be meant to be." Life will always have obstacles that you will need to overcome. Healthy minds understand that obstacles are just obstacles and don't define our destiny.  When you have a past full of unhealed pain or trauma, the perceptions are going to be skewed and the truth of the situation will be harder to see. In pain, we often look for excuses, and our beliefs come forward to bring relief to our experience. This is why we say: Relief is not the definition of happiness. Relief is relief.  Read more on the blog:  https://traciandkayla.com/when-things-go-wrong-it-isnt-the-universe-telling-you-no/  

The tendency in many of is to want change in every area of our life at the same time. Typically the more overwhelmed you are, the more you try to over compensate and accomplish more at once in order to "make up" for lost time.  We all want the results of change immediately, which leads to feeling overwhelmed. Don't look at the things you want, but rather look at the choices you have made. Take a look at the 3 biggest choices you have made in 2019. Now look at the results of those choices. Think about the consequences of those choices stepping into this new year. There can be both positive and negative consequences of our actions. Typically your choices have a theme. Your desires won't but your choices will. Read more on the blog:  https://traciandkayla.com/where-to-start-when-you-feel-overwhelmed/  

Why do we start and stop all of the time? If you have unhealed trauma or are triggered in your past painful experienced, you actually have two versions of yourself. Current self: Desires results and change (I would like to lose weight, pay off debt, start dating again) Wounded self: Looking to always protect (goes into isolation, self sabotage behavior, and hiding) There are two separate agendas within yourself that compete against each other. When things get triggered and safety gets poked, your behavior reverts back to the old habits and patterns. It will be helpful for you to realize that there are two different sides of you that are going to cause the start and stop pattern.  Read more on the blog:  https://traciandkayla.com/breaking-the-cycle-of-starting-and-stopping/ Check out: The Inspired Lifestyle  https://traciandkayla.com/the-inspired-lifestyle

Yes you can heal from trauma - if you are willing to. Results are dependent on one thing -- ACTION.  You have to be willing to do the work, but if you do the reward will be healing and triumph. You can't remove memories or experiences, but what heals is your reaction and perspective on them.  Your pain and experiences don't define you. You can adopt a mindset and lifestyle of resilience.  The human experience is to overcome challenges and hard situations. This is how we grow confidence, happiness, and grow.  You can read more on the blog:  https://traciandkayla.com/can-you-heal-from-trauma/

Pain makes you feel behind. Most people don't understand the effort and time behind reaching results and overcoming obstacles in their life. If you have had a painful past or have experienced trauma, sometimes this can make you feel behind and feel as though something has been taken from you. It is not that you are a “crappy person” and aren't happy for other people, it's merely triggering the belief that you are behind and things get taken from you.  Rewards should never prove your worth or reason for pain experienced in life.  When you have experienced a painful past, there is a NEED for the meaning behind rewards and achievements you experience. Read more on the blog here:  https://traciandkayla.com/why-is-it-so-hard-to-change-when-you-have-had-a-painful-past/ We are here for you, always feel free to reach out if you need additional support and help.  hello@traciandkayla.com

A lot of people seek help to reach their goals, but usually want to go around the key element that is influencing the behaviors and patterns that keep them stuck. No one wants a label, but if we look at the information that labels bring us in a neutral way, we can see the steps necessary to lift the blocks in our life.  You can't avoid therapy and jump into coaching to work on success if there are certain behaviors holding you back.  You don't have to take on a diagnosis as your identify, but if you have something that your behavior is impacted by, it is essential for you to explore the information that comes along with the label or diagnosis in a detached way to see the tools that can help you.  You can read more on the blog here:  https://traciandkayla.com/labels-dont-define-you/

Happy people have routines! We get inspired in the moment. We believe we will be inspired in the moment of action but it rarely happens, consistently. We will talk ourselves out of the work of change every day. Preparation routines help us take the initial inspiration and then create a plan. We no longer have to wait for inspiration to move forward. We just do the plan. Read more on the blog: https://traciandkayla.com/preparation-routines-create-success/