The Quick & The Dirty Podcast

Goodbyes are never easy. On this episode of the podcast, Hilary and Sandra say goodbye to over 4 years of The Quick and The Dirty. It has been an absolutely phenomenal ride, but they've decided to hang up their podcast mics. Thank you for listening to our little sex and relationships podcast. It has

Open and honest conversations are our favourite. On this episode of the podcast, Hilary and Sandra welcome Rita O'Link. Rita was born a man, and in her early 50's transitioned. Her marriage of over 30 years ended sadly, she was ostracized from her church, and lost many other relationships. Yet Rita talks about the lessons she's learned, the importance of living your authentic life and how religion continues to be a big part of that….She also shares her one big regret.

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It's not easy being single during a pandemic. Just ask MaryAnne Ivison. She's a former radio host and a friend of Hilary and Sandra's. On this episode she opens about the realities of being single and living alone in a pandemic, and trying to have a dating life. She talks about how important it is to listen to your gut, and how pandemic dating has made it easier to spot the assholes.

Have you ever thought of relationships as a science? Maybe it's time that we all did. On this episode, Hilary and Sandra welcome Logan Ury. She is the director of Relationship Science at Hinge and the author of How Not To Die Alone. They talk about pandemic dating and how we are going to get back into a world of IRL dating again. Are we ready to get back out there?

Have you ever had a fantasy of being watched while having sex? Some might call it exhibitionism. On this episode of the podcast, Hilary and Sandra talk to Becca. She wouldn't necessarily call herself an exhibitionist…but she does like to be watched by other people while having sex with her husband. She describes how important communication is in her relationship, and it has evolved to this point and why. Oh, and don't think we don't talk about that one dirty week they spent at Hedonism in Jamaica.

What is your sleeping situation with your partner? By now you've probably heard of The Sleep Divorce and why many couples say it's a game changer. On this episode of the QATDP Hilary and Sandra talk to renowned clinical sex and relationship expert Sue McGarvie. Is a sleep divorce really a relationship saver, or is it the beginning of the end. Sue McGarvie https://sexwithsue.com

Breakups are something that Hilary and Sandra talk about all the time on the Quick and the Dirty Podcast. On this episode, Sandra shares some personal news and talks about the breakup of her longtime marriage. They welcome one of their favourite guests Dr Carlen Costa who helps navigate the process. She is a Clinical Sexologist, Psychotherapist & best-selling Author of “ The Women's Guide to Not F**king Settling”. She talks about how to handle the aftermath of a breakup, treating yourself with grace and not getting Dickmatized (which is now our new favourite word).

Have you ever heard the expression “Platonic Intimacy?” If you listen to Chunky Coyote: A Couple's Podcast, you might be aware. On this episode of the Quick and the Dirty Podcast, Hilary and Sandra welcome the hosts of Chunky Coyote, Sierra and Caroline. They talk about the evolution of their friendship and how they've evolved their friendship to platonic intimacy. What does that mean for them, and the other relationships they may have in their lives?

The last thing you want to want to associate with sex is pain. Yet so many women experience it on a regular basis. On this episode Hilary and Sandra talk to Pelvic Floor Physiotherapist Yolanda Tsang. This conversation covers so many women's pelvic issues from childbirth, to sexual trauma, to menopause, and incontinence. Find Yolanda on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUqNJMsdRdx3TtRAgL4-7OQ

How comfortable are you being uncomfortable? If you talk to Kate Goora Fried, being uncomfortable isn't necessarily a bad thing. In fact, it's a very good thing. She's a certified disruption coach and believes that growth comes from a very uncomfortable place. She talks with Hilary and Sandra about everything….. from jealousy to honesty to sitting in your discomfort.

Have you ever wondered why cheaters cheat? It's not like it's a new thing. Cheating has been going on since the beginning of time. But what would it be like to get into the brain of a cheater? On this episode of the podcast Hilary and Sandra talk to “Al”. No, that's not his real name. He's been married for 15 years and says his cheating actually started the day before his wedding. He admits to cheating on his wife several times during his marriage… and he's never been caught. We try to figure out why he's doing it, whether he has any regrets, and if he's really prepared to lose everything

Imagine spending 4 years trying to start a family. IVF, IUI… you name it. And finally, the day comes that you discover you are pregnant. Beaming with excitement, you tell your husband and a short time later he declares that he no longer wants to be involved. That is the heartbreaking story of Shannon Spencer. But there is another chapter. On this episode we talk with Shannon about the situation she never saw coming and how she's managed to move forward, move on, and find forgiveness in the joy of motherhood.

Her name is Becca Atkinson and in September she told the world that she was an alcoholic. Since that time she's started a podcast called THE UNASHAMED ALCOHOLIC and has been openly talking about her battle with the bottle. It's a battle a lot of people may be struggling with, especially during a pandemic. At the very least this conversation may force some to examine their own relationship with alcohol, and how/if it has affected other relationships in your life.

Marci Warhaft has quite a story to tell. In fact, it's such a big story that she wrote a memoir! The Good Stripper is about her journey from young woman, to married woman, to warrior woman… and yes, it's even about that time she became a stripper. She eventually fought her way back and has become one of the top experts on body image and self-esteem.

It's been a memorable year on the Quick and the Dirty Podcast. Who knew that it would get even dirtier during a pandemic? Hilary and Sandra take a look back at their most memorable guests of the year: from the world-class luxury companion to a cuckold they found on Fet Life, to a shocking moment with a real live porn legend!

What does sexual wellness mean to you? It's a pretty big question, and one that the people at PornHub think really matters. I mean, afterall, sex is their business. On this episode, Hilary and Sandra talk to the Director of Pornhub's Sexual Wellness Centre Dr Laurie Betito. She talks about sex as entertainment, and sex as reality,,,,and what's the difference between those two things. Also, how has the porn industry changed the way we're having sex and our expectations in the bedroom

When you think about plastic surgery or intimate cosmetic procedures you probably think about the porn industry, but we learn from Dr. Erin Lovett that it's really more about sexual health and wellbeing. Dr. Erin is an OBGYN with a typical practice delivering babies, who also works out of a clinic called Yazdani Aesthetics in London, Ontario. We talk about some of the procedures she does there like labiaplasty, vaginal rejuvenation, and the O shot (Yes it's as good as it sounds!) and we even learn all about the Emsella Chair that makes you do 11'000 Kegels in 30 minutes!!! https://yazdaniaesthetics.com/ https://www.instagram.com/yazdaniplasticsurgery/

If you're single, you know that it's not easy out there. You don't have to tell that to Jami Styan. The 29 year old supply teacher is looking for love, and has taken her quest to a new level. In fact, she's currently taking applications on her website www.datejami.com On this episode she talks to Hilary and Sandra about the website, what she's looking for, and if she really thinks she can find it in this unconventional way Follow Jami on IG @jamisonsty91

Do you think you would know if you were being targeted by a scammer? Most people would say yes….including Sherry. Yet she lost $20,000 to a man pretending to be in love with her. On this episode of the podcast Hilary and Sandra talk to Sherry about the sophisticated world of catfishing. She tells her story of meeting a man online in 2018, and how he convinced her to give him money, even when she started to suspect that he wasn't who he said he was. Yes, he was that good.

He's not just any nudist. Matt is a Top Notch Nudist.He caught Hilary and Sandra's attention when he followed them on social media. Kind of hard not to notice a naked guy. On this episode, Hilary and Sandra talk to Matt about the nudist lifestyle, why he loves being naked so much… and why he loves being naked around other naked people.

Jeff likes to watch. He is a self-described cuckold who likes to watch the women he's dating have sex with other men. On this episode, Hilary and Sandra talk to Jeff about the psychology of the cuckold. Why does he like watching his partner with other men so much? Most men would find it really upsetting right? In this very open and honest conversation, Jeff explains why it turns him on so much and he talks about the one ingredient his relationships should always have when venturing into this taboo world.

Prabhjot Seehra used to go to high school with Hilary. They haven't really seen each other in over 20 years until recently when he released a very compelling video where he came out as gay. That's not really a big deal in 2020. But it is when you are a member of a very traditional Sikh family. On this episode of the podcast, Hilary and Sandra welcome Prabjot who tells his coming out story. He talks about the pressure he faced as the only son in his family. His marriage to a woman. And the day where he finally came out to his wife.

Ginger Lynn is considered to be one of the greatest porn stars of them all. She hit the scene in the 1980s and became a star almost instantly. On this episode of the podcast, Hilary and Sandra have a conversation with the legendary Ginger Lynn. She talks about her evolution in the porn industry, how her family handled it, and the stars she worked with: good and bad. And most importantly, she also reveals the secret to great sex. Find her at GingerLynn.com Twitter: @blameitonginger

Nothing kills a sex party like a pandemic. Just ask Fatima Mechtab, who knows her way around an orgy. She's done what most people have done in the last few months….she's improvised. And she's like most people who have to work from home, so have her sex parties. What does a virtual sex party look like? How can you give participants a similar vibe that they would be experiencing in person? And what exactly is the future of the sex party? All of these questions are answered in this episode. Find Fatima Mechtab at Planningismypassion.com

Is the idea of the traditional relationship dead? If you talk to relationship coach Effy Blue, the answer is maybe. This episode was originally going to be about the world of polyandry… but it became about something bigger. Why are non-traditional relationships so appealing to so many people? And how are people able to make relationships work with multiple people when they struggle to have a monogamous relationship Effyblue.com

Imagine having a baby with someone that you weren't in a romantic relationship with? It's the very definition of a modern family, right? On this episode, Hilary and Sandra talk to Ivan Fatovic. He's the founder/CEO of a company called Modamily. They match people who want a family…but not necessarily the romantic relationship that comes with it Or maybe you do want the romance. They do that too. Either way, it's a tricky and very detailed negotiation at the front end of the relationship. But the bigger question, does it work? And is this the future of the family? For more info, go to https://www.modamily.com/

Madelyn Fabray is smart, educated, beautiful and the mother of one. She also gets paid by men to be their companion. Sometimes for one night, sometimes for much longer. On this episode of the podcast, we talk to world class luxury companion Madelyn Fabray. What's it like to be paid for sex and companionship? What are men really looking for? How much money can you make doing it? And how does it affect the other relationships in your life? And what if you really aren't that attracted to your client? So many questions. For more info www.madelynfabray.com Twitter: @MadelynFabray IG @madelyn_fabray

How comfortable do you feel walking into a sex store? Imagine what it's like if you are in the LGBTQ+ community and you don't feel represented. On this final (and slightly late) Pride episode of the podcast, Hilary and Sandra talk to Sam Whittle. She's a sex educator and therapist and owner of Venus Envy Ottawa. We talk queer friendly toys, how the industry is changing to serve that community and more importantly how people's attitudes towards sex is changing. More info at VenusEnvy.Ca

He's known as Tranpa in the trans community. But Buck Angel wears a lot of hats. He's a porn actor, sex educator, motivational speaker and he also happened to be born female. He's the first to admit that he doesn't speak for the trans community but he certainly doesn't shy away from an honest conversation. On this special Pride episode of the Quick and the Dirty Podcast we talk about everything from what it was like to transition over 20 years ago, how his family handled it, and why he feels education is so important to the younger generation. Sandra's son Olsen also makes a cameo in this episode. But things also got emotional as Sandra shares her story of her son's transition. If you're a parent of a child who is transitioning, if you are an ally, or even if you just want to know what fearlessness looks like, you need to listen to this episode. Follow the amazing Buck Angel on his socials @buckangel.

Happy Pride This month, THE QUICK AND THE DIRTY PODCAST is celebrating Pride Month with some really special guests. On this episode Hilary and Sandra talk to one of Calgary's most well known drag kings, Duke Carson. What a great story he has to tell. From becoming a drag king, exploring his masculinity and how his family handled the news. Follow Duke on Social Media. FB @dukecarsondrag IG @thedukecarson Twitter @DukeCarson1 TikTok @thedukecarson8

When you see an older guy dating a younger woman what do you think? We all have a preconceived idea of what is really going on in that relationship. Is it a mid life crisis? Does she have daddy issues? Is he just looking for a trophy wife? On this episode, Hilary and Sandra talk to Kevin. Not only is he a listener of the podcast… but he reached out when he heard we were looking for older guys who date younger women. He's 46 and his girlfriend is turning 27. And nothing about their relationship is stereotypical.

Relationships can be challenging in the best of times. But what trying to keep your relationship strong during a pandemic… when you aren't living together? How do you keep it fresh and sexy? On this episode, Hilary and Sandra welcome returning guest and cam girl Curvy J. She knows a thing or two about the art of video sex. So how do you look your best on camera, and more importantly, is there an art to video (or phone) seduction?

If you're online dating, you might find it challenging to find a real connection with someone during regular times…so is it even possible to find love during a pandemic? On this episode of the podcast we welcome Chelsea Sauve. She's the co-founder of the innovative dating app Wandure and says they have come up with interesting ways for people to date……virtually. Can sparks fly when you're never even in the same room? She says they've come up with some pretty cool ways to break the ice and help couples build a connection. For more information go to www.wandure.com

Do you dye your hair because the thought of going grey horrifies you? More importantly, have you ever asked yourself why going grey horrifies you in the first place? Your answer may have changed since the outbreak of the coronavirus. Let's be honest, self isolation has changed the grey game for a lot of people. This week, Hilary and Sandra talk to holistic nutritionist and healthy lifestyle expert Nicole Scott. She's the founder of the Gorgeous Grey Movement , and has written a book coming out next month, called GET NAKED WITH YOUR NATURAL HAIR COLOR. They talk about what inspired this movement….and more importantly, why is hair such an important part of a woman's identity? To learn more about the Gorgeous Grey movement find Nicole Scott online : nicolescott.online

What is an Isolationship? It's the new term to describe your self isolation relationship during the coronavirus pandemic. Most of us probably never thought that the person we chose as our partner could end up being our quarantine buddy… and that isn't always a good thing in some cases. On this episode, Hilary and Sandra talk to one of their favourite guests Dr Carlen Costa. She's a clinical psychologist and a psychotherapist and really believes that this pandemic can either strengthen your relationship or be the beginning of the end. And why neither one is bad thing If you would like to reach out to Dr Carlen, find her at www.CarlenCosta.com or @carlencosta.

What is your definition of a man whore? Because comedian Billy Procida has been called one more than once. Ultimately he decided to start a podcast called THE MANWHORE PODCAST to try and figure out why some women would sleep with him, but wouldn't date him. Is there such a thing as being undateable? He wanted to know. On this episode, Hilary and Sandra talk to Billy about his evolution of dating, polyamory, and the importance of communicating with your partner. Find the ManWhore Podcast at https://www.manwhorepod.com/ Follow Billy on social media: Ig @billyisprocida Twitter @thebillyprocida Facebook @BillyProcida

Do you know someone who has opted out of being in a relationship? On this episode Hilary and Sandra talk to Kimothy Walker. She's a former TV News reporter, journalist, and high profile business woman in Ottawa. You'd think it would be easy for an empowered woman to find a mate. Well… not if you don't want one. She explains why she is opting out of the dating world and why many women in their 50s would rather be alone than in relationships.

Don't we all have at least one sweet memory of music and sex? Or maybe it wasn't so sweet. On this episode, Hilary and Sandra welcome Chris Biggs, the cohost of the Biggs and Barr Show from 106.1 Chez in Ottawa. In one of their most hilarious conversations, they talk about how music has shaped so many of their sexual memories. Think Genuine …and even Frank Zappa.

She's a clinical sexologist and a relationship coach, and she's the author of the book “Erotic Integrity.” On this episode, Hilary and Sandra welcome Dr Claudia Six. She explains how being true to yourself sexually is so important in every healthy relationship. And if you are looking for the right partner, you might want to consider making a list! If you want to learn more about erotic integrity and find out if you have it, take the quiz HERE.

What is a sex addict? Do you think that it's even a real thing? Anyone who's struggled with a sex addiction will tell you not only is it real, but it has real life consequences. On this episode of podcast, Hilary and Sandra talk to self-described sex addict and host of the Pornified podcast Chris Behnisch.

If you've ever been pregnant or thought about having a child, chances are you know what a doula is. They provide emotional support for people who are in various stages of pregnancy. They even help expectant moms and new moms deal with all those feelings of insecurity (especially when it comes to all those other judgy moms). But did you know that a doula does so much more including services surrounding abortion, surrogacy and even adoption? On this episode of the podcast, Hilary and Sandra talk to Jen and Crystal from The Peaceful Path. As doulas, they offer a lot of insight into how they can add to a unique experience in your life.

Imagine how hard it would be if you had a partner that was struggling with addiction. Now imagine what it would be like if you were actually an addiction coach and married to a junkie. What are the odds? On this episode, Hilary and Sandra talk to Dr Cali Estes. She's an addiction and yes she was married to junkie. She and her husband Tim Estes wrote the book “Married a Junkie: Put to the Ultimate Test by Addiction, Love and Life”. She talks about how she found out her husband was using, how it almost destroyed their marriage, and how they fought their way back as a couple.

Do you know what tantric sex is? Most people heard about for the first time 20 years ago, when lead singer of The Police, Sting, famously talked about having sex with his wife for 7 hours. Is that kind of mind-blowing sex even possible for everyone else? On this episode, Hilary and Sandra talk to tantra and intimacy coach Heidi Leoppky. She is the founder of Shamaya Tantra and tells all about the lifestyle. From eye gazing to breathing, she gets into tantra techniques — including the health benefits of being so connected to your own body. You can learn more by going to shamayatantra.com.

How many myths do you think exist about the vagina? You'd be surprised how many there are. This week, Hilary and Sandra welcome Dr Jen Gunter on the podcast. She is an OBGYN, a health columnist, the host of “Jensplaining” and the author of THE VAGINA BIBLE. A lot of people are talking about this book because it is considered the ultimate guide to everything you need to know about the vagina and vulva. But it also tackles the myths surrounding vaginas, and why they even exist. Oh yes, we are about to have a conversation about the patriarchy. Instagram @drjengunter

You really learn a lot about a person when you hear how they lost their virginity. On this episode, Hilary and Sandra find out for the first time how each other lost their VCard. They also welcome radio colleague Wendy Boomer and Q&D listener Lee Williams to talk about their first time. Sometimes there's love, sometimes there's laughter, sometimes there's tears. Spoiler: Alcohol seemed to be a common thread in all their stories.

Do you know what a Japanese Love Hotel is? There are over 10,000 in Japan… and now there is one in Canada. On this episode we talk to Priscilla Tang. She is one of the founders of the Tokyo Love Hotel that opened in Toronto recently. So what is a Love Hotel? And how is it different than a No Tell Motel? And let's talk about the people that rent these rooms. Yes, some are cheaters who are looking for a discreet location. But you'd be surprised who else is checking in!

You've probably heard a lot of stories involving men behaving poorly in the workplace, especially in the wake of #MeToo and #TimesUp. But what happens if it's a woman behaving badly? Katy Perry was recently accused of sexual misconduct. Are we treating women the same way we're treating men facing similar accusations? This week on The Quick & They Dirty, Hilary and Sandra welcome Karen Brownrigg, the CEO of IHR Advisory Services. She's seen it all in the HR world. She says there are just as many women behaving poorly on the job as men and even breaks their behaviour down into 2 categories: the Climber and the Thrill Seeker.

Do you like to get tickled? Some people hate it, some people like it… and then there are those that LOVE it. On this episode, Hilary and Sandra welcome a man by the name of Mike who admits it's his fetish. He talks about the evolution of tickling from his childhood to his adult life. How does he tell women he's dating that tickling is his big turn on? Tune in to find out!

What does food have to do with what happens between the sheets? If you ask psychotherapist and holistic nutritionist Kristina Virro, the answer is A LOT. On this episode, she joins Hilary and Sandra to talk about the relationship between food and sex. Yes, food can help you with hormones, which can directly affect your libido….but what about oysters as aphrodisiacs? And ahem, haven't we all wondered about pineapples? And yes, we even talk about bringing food into the bedroom. Things get sticky on this episode. FB @freshinsighthealth IG: freshinsighthealth Twitter @kristinavirro

If you could sit down with a porn star, what would you want to know? On this episode of the Quick and the Dirty Podcast, Hilary and Sandra talk to adult film star Voodoo. They cover everything from his early days in the biz, how much money he was making at his peak, how the industry has changed …and how porn has changed the way people are having sex. He also reveals how many women he's had sex with (whatever you're thinking, it's higher).