Podcast appearances and mentions of angela wheeler

About the guestAngela Wheeler's family roots are embedded in Baltimore City – and, therefore, America's story of Black excellence in law, politics, art, and education. She belongs to a creative family of accomplished writers, thinkers, entrepreneurs, and artists, including her great aunt and acclaimed Harlem Renaissance painter and art educator, Laura Wheeler Waring, who is her professional and artistic muse. Ms. Wheeler's unique background, passion, and purpose to uplift Black voices has led her to raise funds for students of color pursuing higher education, currently those enrolled at the Maryland Institute College of Art. This endeavor is an ongoing pursuit resulting in more Baltimore-based African American students enrolling and graduating with an art and design degree from the prestigious college. Ms. Wheeler is also an award-winning fundraising strategist who has worked with nonprofit leaders in the Baltimore region. She has served key institutions in the arts and cultural scene, such asThe Reginald F. Lewis Museum of African American History and Culture, the Greater Baltimore Cultural Alliance, and the Banneker-Douglass Museum that is operated by the Maryland Commission on African American History and Culture.As an entrepreneur, Ms. Wheeler is passionate about community service.  In recent years, she has focused her energies on a project serving underrepresented families in the Reservoir Hill neighborhood of West Baltimore, orchestrating successful annual and capital campaigns to renovate and reopen a fifty-year old after-school program and community center. In addition to leading the fundraising strategic planning efforts, Ms. Wheeler led recruiting, training, and motivating a high-level volunteer team to success. Today, the Revoir Hill community enjoys expanded services for low-income children, adults and families in a newly renovated, state-of-the-art building that also features upgraded youth education programs. The building and programs were nearing closure when Ms. Wheeler became involved. One colleague's feedback sums up her professional approach: "Angela Wheeler's work ethic represents the highest levels of professionalism -- incorporating her unique vision, her polished skills in [fundraising], journalism, PR, consulting & production and her continuous attention to detail -- all performed with a very sharp, friendly wit which ensures that every project will be a joyful, productive journey."In her spare time, Ms. Wheeler enjoys international travel and curating The Door Project, a documentary art project and collection of full-size entryway doors painted by acquaintances and friends.The Truth In This ArtThe Truth In This Art is a podcast interview series supporting vibrancy and development of Baltimore & beyond's arts and culture.Mentioned in this episodeAngela's websiteTo find more amazing stories from the artist and entrepreneurial scenes in & around Baltimore, check out my episode directory.Stay in TouchNewsletter sign-upSupport my podcastShareable link to episode★ Support this podcast ★

This week, I had the opportunity to talk to my friend, Angela Wheeler. We had a great discussion about her 120-pound weight loss, getting over fears of the gym even as a former athlete, and then we spent a good portion of the show discussing mental health and how to develop a healthy mindset. To wrap up the podcast, Ang steps into Brett's Corner and answers the 5 toughest questions in podcasting! Stay tuned for that! We had a great discussion and I look forward to hearing your feedback. Remember to rate and review on Apple Podcasts! Follow Angela on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/getfitagain.ang (https://www.instagram.com/getfitagain.ang) Follow Angela's Le Blog of Accountability: https://getfitagainang.weebly.com/ (https://getfitagainang.weebly.com/) Follow the show: https://www.instagram.com/becomingmorepod (https://www.instagram.com/becomingmorepod) Follow Brett: https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrett (https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrett) Visit My Website: https://www.becomingbrett.com/ (https://www.becomingbrett.com)

We conclude our Working While Black series on The Generational View this week with the second part of our conversation with Black Baby Boomers. Thank you for coming on this thought-provoking journey these past few weeks. In this episode, we talk about generations, and you'll hear our guests' perspective on how their generation and other generations show up in the fight for racial equity. Our Guests Dr. Angela Wheeler is an accomplished Family Medicine and Sports Medicine Physician and was one of 10 physicians selected to support the U.S. Olympic team in Sydney Australia. Ben Harrigan is Director in Market Risk Management for a large financial institution. He's the father of two Gen Zers-- age 18 and age 15. What you will hear in this episode: How being a generally non-vocal generation presents a unique challenge in how they fight racial inequity at work (43:03) Their response to claims from Millennials and Gen Zers that perhaps they are not bold enough in the fight for racial equity in the workplaces where they've now amassed a  degree of influence and power. (46:12) How they bridge the generational gaps in their own communities and workplaces (58:24) The characteristics of the generations that follow them that give them hope in the fight for racial equity (1:03:19)

Throughout our Working While Black series here on The Generational View, we have explored the generational similarities and differences among generations when it comes to their thoughts, feelings, and experiences working while Black amidst the traumatic events taking place in the news, specifically regarding Black lives and law enforcement. We conclude this series with thought-provoking conversation with two emotionally available Black Baby Boomers.   Our Guests Dr. Angela Wheeler is an accomplished Family Medicine and Sports Medicine Physician and was one of 10 physicians selected to support the U.S. Olympic team in Sydney Australia. Ben Harrigan is Director in Market Risk Management for a large financial institution. He's the father of two Gen Zers-- age 18 and age 15.   What you will hear in this episode: How racial stress affects their ability to show up as their whole selves at work (3:33) How COVID-19 has exacerbated some of that racial stress (12:06) What they expect from the companies/ institutions they work for regarding the fight for racial equity and Black lives (25:57) What they request of their non-Black colleagues, friends, and peers regarding the same (29:59) Advice they would give other Black Baby Boomers and professionals on coping with racial trauma (38:10)

Angela Wheeler aka @angdawn.w Originally from Alaska, Angela lived a life constantly moving, which kept her weight in check. However, moving away and working in an environment that had her sitting often. She looked up in the mirror up over 100 pounds. At her heaviest Angela weighed over 300 pounds. After making the decision to live a more accountable life she is down over 120 pounds!! Join The FREE COMMUNTIY-Discord: https://discord.gg/ycaTdtpListen or Watch: YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/c/AccountableLifeGroup Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/31r4MEd3guDXPNkmEZJIao?si=2G7GlZO-TNmagsa3Nq55lw Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/algs-podcast/id1523929361 Podcast Website: https://alg.buzzsprout.com

Angela Wheeler is a coach, author, speaker, and facilitator who teaches people how to thrive and lead by becoming aware of their strengths, creating nourishing boundaries, and cultivating the courage to become their best selves. She is the co-founder of Productive Flourishing. You'll hear how being diagnosed with a second autoimmune disorder, having a near death experience and a nervous breakdown lead her to helping others lead their best lives. Please go HERE for this episode's show notes. Tweet me your biggest takeaways from the episode at @KariGormley -- I'd love to hear from you!

Ever thought of starting a business with your spouse? It takes strong boundaries, vision, and understanding to do it right: something that Charlie Gilkey and Angela Wheeler, founders of Productive Flourishing, have refined over the last 10+ years of working together. The post EP 148: Building For Business & Life With Your Spouse with Productive Flourishing’s Charlie Gilkey & Angela Wheeler appeared first on What Works.

As the year comes to a close, we have a natural inclination to look back on what’s happened over the past year. Many of the Productive Flourishing readers and listeners have been asking questions about ways to do annual reviews or think about assessing the year. In today’s episode, Angela and Charlie talk through their new annual review worksheet, and share several tips on reviewing your year, as well as self-care during the holidays. Key Takeaways: [4:55] - A lot of time during the holidays, people have tension between being productive, spending time with family, and being in the season. Being with family and reflecting is a way of being productive, and it’s important to make time for those things. [7:10] - When you start thinking about the year in review, always start with the celebration of the things that you’ve done. Think about the top three things from the year that you want to remember. Charlie encourages people to separate their personal and professional lives into separate buckets to give both the credit they deserve. [10:47] - One of Angela’s biggest celebrations from this year in her professional was developing her new coaching practice, Clarity Coaching. This has gotten her back into the work that she loves the most, helping someone realize what they’re able to do. Her biggest personal celebration is the way she’s invited boundaries into her life in her relationships with people. [14:45] - Charlie’s biggest celebration in his professional life is his book deal! He’s under contract to write a book tentatively titled Start Finishing: How to Go From Idea to Done. They’ve also experienced a lot of growth with Productive Flourishing. In his personal life, his biggest celebration also had to do with boundaries, and taking a step back from some things to avoid burnout. This allowed him to get clear about the expectations and intentions for himself, and he was able to reclaim a lot of time. [19:10] - Do this reflection not only for yourself, but think about whether there is someone else in your life that can do this reflection as well so you all can celebrate each other. If you’re doing this with a team, make sure you explain why those things are important to you, because that’s where the real strengthening will happen. [22:20] - The next question on the worksheet is what three things challenged you the most over the past year. People often see a tight relationship between the things that challenged you professionally and the things that challenged you personally. [24:54] - The next question evaluates the top three lessons learned or reaffirmed. This is really pushing you towards a growth mindset. The goal is to not have to keep learning the same lesson over and over again. Later on in life, you may be learning the same thing, but it’s usually at a higher level. [27:03] - Charlie talks about the four steps of the Wayfinding Academy. The first step is knowing where you are, the second step is knowing where you’re trying go, the third step is having a road map between where you are and where you’re trying to get, and the fourth step is knowing how to get back on track when you get off-course. [28:30] - When thinking about the top three goals for the coming year, there are two different types. One is quantitative goals, and the other is more milestone or baseline goals. As you are thinking about goals, it’s important to get to a place where you can be sure you did it or you did not do it. This is also true for personal goals, so try to avoid vague goals that won’t motivate you. [31:35] - The next question to think about is what needs to change to be able to achieve those goals. Sometimes nothing needs to change, but for most people, something has to change. You may have to change your day-to-day focus to achieve your overall goal, or you may have to drop some things to make the time for a new focus. [37:10] - The next question asks what sprints, strategic projects, or experiments you could run to help you achieve those goals. Charlie goes over what each of these look like, and how you can utilize them to starting working on your goals. Sprints keep you in the project long enough that you’re still interested, but doesn’t drag it on. [42:08] - Moving through the worksheet, the next question encourages you to identify someone who will support you through the sprints, projects, and experiments. Whenever you have a “how” problem, find a “who” solution - there’s probably someone who has been in your shoes or can help get you moving forward. It also helps build your success team. [44:15] - The last major question on the worksheet is ‘When will you reach out to the people who can support you?’ Giving people advance notice of when you will need their help will increase their willingness and ability to provide support, and it also gives you enough time to pay it forward for that particular person. Ask them what you can do to support them in the meantime. [48:00] - In real time, these questions take about 15 or 30 minutes to sit down and work through. Charlie shares some final reminders for working through the sheet. 1. Remember to start from a place of celebration before getting into the challenges. 2. Continue to think about what affects your personal life and professional life discreetly, while keeping in mind that they often overlap. Treat your life like your work - carry over what works in your job into your personal life. 3. Be thinking about what needs to change, and focus on the internal changes more than external changes. 4. Think about who you are going to reach out to, and reach out to them early. [51:10] - Self-care is tied into all of these, especially looking at your goals, victories, and challenges. For this specific time of year, be sure to take some time to slow down and allow yourself the opportunity to reflect. Mentioned in This Episode: Productive Flourishing Productive Flourishing Podcast Episode 121: How to be Intentional During the Holidays Productive Flourishing Podcast Episode 108: How to Align Your Goals and Projects with Your Seasonal Energy How to Set SMART Goals on Productive Flourishing

Both Charlie and Angela work as coaches. In this episode, Angela and Charlie talk about how to know when it’s time to work with a coach or a consultant. The conversation gets to the heart of some of the ways that we don’t allow ourselves to get the help and support that we might be needing. Key Takeaways: [2:28] - What Charlie and Angela often find in their work is that people will put the support they need further down the pipe. One of the common things people say is that they’ll get the help or support they need after they finish a list of certain things. Many times, this list of things is something a coach could help you do faster or more effectively. [5:23] - Angela notices that clients often express their excitement to work with her, but they say they have too much going on at the time. Again, these things are usually the exact things a coach or consultant could help with. [7:07] - It almost feels like people wait to work with a coach because they feel like they need to diagnose themselves, and heal themselves or make themselves well before they go to the doctor. Too often, Angela and Charlie cross paths with people who haven’t given themselves the permission to invest in themselves to get the support that they need. [8:46] - The busier you are, the more important it is that you have to make better decisions. When you’re busy, you’re more likely to continue to make easy decisions that don’t solve the problem, or participate in patterns that keep things going that aren’t actually conducive to making a change. Sometimes, the best time to talk with someone is during the hard parts of life - it may not be the best decision to wait for things to slow down. [11:03] - For Charlie, it’s about energy and attention. If your energies and attentions are focused on taking care of someone else or a rough situation, it may not be the best time to work with a consultant. In general though, if there’s a lot going on, chances are there will continue to be a lot going on. So that may not be the best indicator of whether you could benefit from a coach or not. [14:55] - One thing to consider is that is it more likely that you and whoever you work with will be able to co-create something to help you get out of a busy cycle, or can you figure it out faster on your own? Usually, working with a coach or consultant will allow you to figure it out faster. What would it be worth to you to have the trouble issue solved? [18:12] - Some people think they already know what they need to do to get moving in the right direction. Charlie’s question to them would be how long have you known that? If you know what you need to do, and you’re not doing it, ask yourself why. Additionally, just because you think you know what needs to be done, doesn’t mean you’re right. Having someone hold you accountable for those things can be helpful. [22:11] - It can be useful to commit to people that you’re going to do something. A good coach will ask you about these commitments, rather than just letting them go. It can be a delicate situation because you don’t want to end up in a situation where you’re frustrated to meet with your coach or consultant because they’re going to grill you about those commitments. [24:03] - Sometimes a coach will challenge you to do more than you would on your own. It’s important to make sure this is something that resonates with you. Make sure that the goals are your own, and the coach is helping you do what you already want or know you need to do. [26:26] - Angela leaves us with these thoughts: Whatever the facet of life, if there is a goal and future you see for yourself that is important to you, invest in yourself. Spend the time on yourself like you would for other people. [27:45] - Charlie leaves us with these thoughts: How is what you’re doing working for you? If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’re going to keep getting what you’re getting. At what real point in the world will you make a different decision and go about something in a new way? Mentioned in This Episode: Productive Flourishing Leave a Review

In today’s episode, Charlie and Angela discuss what it means to live away from family when they are dealing with health challenges and medical issues. Whether you are close or far from your relatives, you may have to be part of the healthcare journey of aging parents or grandparents. Charlie and Angela talk about different ways to determine your values, how to work with others in the family to come to decisions, and how to overcome the shame and guilt that may arise in these difficult situations. Key Takeaways: [3:30] - As we approach this conversation, it’s important to remember that every person’s relationship with their family is different, and their experience is going to be different. As you start making decisions about things related to family, you have to distinguish the fine line between your values, family values, and social pressures of “the way things should be.” [4:55] - The context for Charlie and Angela’s family is that both their parents and Angela’s grandparents live in Arkansas, and now they live in Portland, Oregon, and it has created a barrier in time and distance. [7:07] - For many creative people, it can be hard to find career opportunities where you’re from. Sometimes the place you’re from doesn’t resonate with you culturally, or allow you to be your most productive self. For Charlie and Angela, they’ve made the decision to stay in Portland for those reasons (and more), rather than packing up and moving closer to family. [9:20] - Almost everyone is going to have to think about decisions related to family health at some point in time. Even if you’re in the same place as your parents or family, you may still be involved. But there is a whole new set of logistics that comes into play when you are not where your family is. [11:25] - The thing Angela relies most on when determining whether an event is something she needs to be there for is her intuition - what felt right and what felt resonant in her heart. It wasn’t always the same as what her friends thought it would be or what society thought it would be. [13:35] - Both Charlie and Angela have dealt with dementia in their family. For Charlie, it’s tricky because he wants to be there for everything, but on the other hand, he knows he can’t be there for everything. In addition to this, with dementia, his dad is not always present, even when he’s there, and too many people around can be too much in his dad’s situation. [16:45] - Logical is not always what happens when it comes to our relationships with families. One of the best things we can do for ourselves and our families is to be able to have open and healthy conversations about what we’re able to do, what we want to do, and what we realistically can do in certain situations. Having this understanding is especially important in situations where maybe the family relationship isn’t the best, or there aren’t shared values. [19:40] - It is important to try to get aligned on what outcome everyone wants. Everyone may have different ideas of how to get there, but it can help make the process easier to get everyone on the same page. You can set up different conditions and agree on them, and then get into the discussion of how best to achieve them. [21:50] - Another important thing to remember is that everyone’s contribution may not look the same. Charlie talks about situations where maybe one person can’t be there, but could provide money or off-site planning to make things happen. Every contribution is important. [23:28] - If you want a condition that’s different than the rest of your family, you have to be willing to be part of the solution to make it happen. If you’re in a situation where you can’t contribute time, energy, money, etc., you may not get as much say as someone who is able to be there and do the work. [26:00] - If you are the sibling or child who is there, you may have to let go of being the martyr and ask for help or support. As the one who is with the family making the day-to-day decisions, asking for help and support can actually benefit the person you are caring for as well. Be careful not to close yourself off to people offering help as well. If you are a primary caregiver, it can be very valuable to have a therapist or a coach. [33:15] - Guilt and shame are things many people wrestle with in these family situations. It is important to distinguish what is coming from yourself, versus what is coming from what other people think. Once you identify the source, figure out what it is that is not being manifested, and figure out what you can do to change the situation. [37:37] - Identifying what is not in alignment for you (versus what other people think should be happening) is an important aspect of dealing with guilt and shame. Us developing as people is the constant awakening of ourselves - uncovering what our truths and values are. [40:22] - As a caretaker, your life matters too. You make choices based on what will benefit everybody, including yourself. Put yourself in the mix of people and things that matter. [42:15] - Whether you are the caretakee or the caretaker, Charlie is sending love. Do the best you can to take care of yourself and the people involved. At the end of the day, it’s really about the people. Mentioned in This Episode: Productive Flourishing The Rise of the Creative Class, by Richard Florida Who’s Your City, by Richard Florida Leave a Review

What do we do when we’re feeling guilty about not being productive? Today’s episode is a discussion on the topic of productivity guilt. Charlie and Angela discuss some of the different ways productivity guilt can manifest itself, as well as provide some perspective and encouragement about whether we’re truly not being productive. These guidelines can help determine whether a change needs to be made. Key Takeaways: [2:14] - Oftentimes, when we talk about productivity, we focus on work and primarily the work we are not doing. But usually, to feel that guilt, you are doing something. [3:45] - Anything you do that helps you flourish and become the person you want to be in the world, can and should be counted as productive. Eating, exercising, being a great a parent - all of these things make you a productive person. [6:12] - Is what you’re doing actually a waste of time? This is a question you can use to help yourself gauge whether you’re really being productive. Charlie suggests evaluating a task by determining if you’re generating the results you need to be generating. If you’re not, something may need to change. [9:20] - We are hardwired to be productive. Your body can be a good indicator of when you are accomplishing things, and on the flip side, when there are changes that you may need make. [11:05] - Many people have the assumption about themselves that they are not a productive person. Everyone should have the assumption that they are productive, they are creative, and they want to get things done. When you’re doubting your productivity, whose voice and judgment are you using to determine that? [12:53] - Charlie and Angela discuss our habit of comparing ourselves to others, and the trend of being okay with some aspect of ourselves (salary, level of productivity), until you learn about someone else’s and start comparing yourself to them. The more your friends are high achievers, the more you have to watch out for this. You have to have a lot of information about someone’s general context before you can fairly evaluate yourself against them. [16:24] - When we talk about comparing ourselves to others and feeling guilt, it comes back to a conversation about priorities. If you are clear about what your priorities are, and you’re spending your time and energy on them, that’s the way it should be! The results may be different from someone else’s, but that’s because your priorities are different. [19:57] - Today’s pace of life is setting the scenario for not allowing ourselves space to be human, and we’re trying to do a lot. Setting realistic expectations for what you can commit to, achieve, and be proud of can be good motivation. Stand on small successes and build from there. [23:42] - For entrepreneurs, if you’ve been planting for a long time but you’re not yielding what you want, you may have a money model problem. You’re not alone! You may have to find another economic outlet that you can do simultaneously while growing your business. [27:35] - The conversation about productivity is not just about things counted, but about moments spent and lives nourished. Looking at it this way can give you a better lens for whether you’re being productive or not. Mentioned in This Episode: Productive Flourishing Leave a Review

In today’s episode, Angela joins Charlie to talk about personal change. Most of the work that’s done at Productive Flourishing is around personal transformation and self-mastery. In Angela’s new coaching role, she’s been doing more and more of this with others. Charlie and Angela share some of the changes they’ve made in their personal lives over the last year, and how their relationship fits into how they navigated these changes. Key Takeaways: [2:05] - For Charlie, the impetus for personal change often comes from something specific that has happened in his life, and figuring out what he can do to fix it. He is constantly changing and working on things, and likes to experiment with them in his own life before he shares them with others. [3:15] - For Angela, she sometimes lets things get really painful (physically or emotionally) before she makes a decision to change and follows through with the decision. [5:32] - Charlie talks about the dynamic in their house; both Angela and Charlie are coaches and empathetic people, so they’ve had to learn how to constructively invite change dialogue into their home life outside of their work. Attentive listening, thoughtful questions, and knowing the right time and context to bring up issues of habits and change help to guide their discussions. [10:00] - One of the most counter-productive things you can do is trying to get someone to change when they aren’t ready, and they don’t want support. [12:50] - Charlie shares a time where his daily work was presenting a type of pain or discomfort. For Charlie, working too much or too long was causing him to feel more and more pain. [17:52] - The Kaizen approach encourages incremental, small changes over time that add up to a big effect. The trick is knowing whether it’s time to take an incremental step or tip over an edge with a big change. [20:25] - When Charlie began noticing pain, he started to incorporate 30 minutes of movement each day, and also invited daily writing into his practice. This spurred some adjustment to his schedule so he’s only working 8 hours a day, which has affected not only him but Angela and the team as well. [28:15] - It is important to consider how the changes will impact those around you. For Charlie, he is still uncertain and nervous about how his new practices might interfere with the relationships he has with people. Being aware of what conversations might need to happen in the face of change is important so that you can create and maintain boundaries. [34:05] - Charlie introduces the five keys to managing change, which will be the focus of the next book he’s writing: intention, awareness, boundaries, courage, and discipline. [37:50] - Angela shares some of the personal changes she has been making throughout the course of the last year. One of the main changes is centered around weight and diet. In February, she made a pretty dramatic change and went on a diet that helped change her metabolism. This was an important change because it would affect not only Angela, but Charlie as well. [42:35] - He started out on the diet with Angela out of solidarity, but also had to learn a balance between encouragement and looking out for Angela’s best interests. [47:50] - When you’re in relationships with people, some of the things that matter the most are the most awkward to talk about. [50:36] - It is important to note that everyone will experience and handle personal change differently, based on your life experiences. Not everyone’s journey is going to be the same when it comes to the difficult, but it is important to make sure you’re on the right road for you. [55:14] - Charlie’s invitation/challenge for this episode: Think about what incremental steps you could start taking today that would make your life a little easier. Starting with a small change can build the foundation for making other changes that could have a big payoff over the course of a year. Is there a big change you could make? 57:28] - Angela’s invitation for this episode: Be gentle - be kind with yourself, and make a purposeful decision about what it is that you want to change. Mentioned in This Episode: Productive Flourishing What Do You Need to Form Healthy Habits that Stick?, by Charlie Gilkey The Two Dynamics of Change, by Charlie Gilkey Leave a Review

In this episode, Angela joins Charlie to discuss how they are balancing service work and volunteerism within their personal and professional lives. Both Charlie and Angela have taken on new commitments with various organizations, and they’ve been examining how much time they’re giving to service and volunteerism, as well as making some important decisions about what those boundaries look like. Key Takeaways: [1:38] - Charlie and Angela talk about the new commitments they’ve taken on - in many cases within organizations they had already been previously involved in. Their boundaries for what they can take on are being tested as these new commitments displace other things. They have had many conversations about how much time they’re giving to service and volunteerism, as well as taking a hard look at those boundaries. [4:18] - At the Wayfinding Academy, they are flipping the college experience on its head - it starts by focusing on students first and who they want to be in the world, and helping them cultivate themselves and their next steps needed to be that person. Charlie has recently become the board Chairman within this organization. His work with Social Ventures Partners, where he is also on the board, focuses on bridging the gap in Pre-K education for minority populations. [6:45] - Angela has also taken on a new role within the Wayfinding Academy, as Chairperson of the Wisdom Council (Charlie’s old position). In addition to this work, she is involved with the board of a women’s spiritual community in Portland, serving as the right-hand person for the spiritual leaders of that community. This commitment is twofold; in addition to the administrative commitment, there is also a spiritual commitment. [9:15] - Angela talks about why they are involved in these acts of volunteerism. In addition to it just being part of who they are and what they do, there is a big focus at Productive Flourishing on community integration. It’s a great quality to have to jump all in with the things you’re involved in, but sometimes you may get into a situation where you jump in too fast. Charlie and Angela keep this under control by checking in with each other on boundaries and making sure these commitments are aligned with the work they want to do in the world, while continuing to take care of themselves. [12:43] - Charlie talks about value (both economic and otherwise) and how that can guide our decisions about what we’re involved in and continue to do. He also talks about Proactive Activism: a strong civic involvement to help bridge the gap between the public and private spheres. Instead of just preaching, they get involved because they want to model the message as well as sharing it. For them, a big focus is education, as it is a pathway to equality. [15:55] - Finding institutions that advance your political or social priorities is really important. Charlie and Angela talk about the personal reasons they have for choosing their particular organizations to be involved in, and what it means for them to be involved in those organizations now. [21:50] - Charlie talks about their involvement on the boards of their organizations - both Charlie and Angela don’t like to be passive in an organization, and being on the board allows them to be in a high-leverage scenario to make the the most impact. These positions also fit their specific skill sets. Additionally, they both prefer greater involvement in a few organizations rather than spreading themselves too thin across several organizations. [25:55] - Integrating volunteerism and service into business: How do these organizations further Charlie’s professional and personal development? For Charlie, these organizations are a natural outgrowth of the people he’s involved with in the community and embody who he is as a person. It has been challenging to incorporate the results of his involvement professionally, because the leadership is more committee-based rather than the type of leadership he would use for a small business. Although it has challenged him, it’s been a good learning period. [28:53] - Your business can’t fuel all parts of you - volunteerism and service provide another context for leadership and taking on big goals. [31:25] - In addition, having these extra involvements has made Charlie more intentional with his business work with Productive Flourishing. It has also made him more intentional about spending his extra time to further Wayfinding Academy and Social Venture Partners (SVP), rather than killing time on Facebook or something that is not as fulfilling. Charlie has experienced a lot of personal growth. [36:00] - Angela shares her experience of how volunteerism and service have influenced her personal and professional growth. She feels that her leadership skills have been tested and challenged, and have gotten better in the past few years. She has also gotten more comfortable speaking up and using her voice to make her perspective clear. Being able to use her past experiences in her new contexts has allowed her to better show up with her work with Productive Flourishing. Her work with Productive Flourishing, Fourteenth Moon, and Wayfinding Academy seem to feed each other. [39:11] - In Angela’s work, she has been challenged by engaging in and facilitating hard questions and conversations. It has been an interesting development for Angela, but she’s been able to take the ability to facilitate tough conversations in her personal life into other areas, like Productive Flourishing and her council and board work. This is an excellent example of the benefits of being involved in civic organizations; they can help you develop skills you may not have otherwise developed. In addition, it gives you an additional avenue to cultivate and practice these skills. [44:10] - Being involved in outside organizations also allows you to keep your growing pains and strife outside of your personal relationships. Keeping those aspects in outside organizations that are in service to your community is a good way to build synergy and a good life where you are able to grow and develop in service to other people. [45:17] - There can be some downsides. Investing your emotional energy into external or volunteer organizations can decrease it in other areas. It is important to find a balance and make sure you have ways to “fill your cup” as it becomes depleted. Angela and Charlie both speak to the fact that working through these challenges themselves has allowed them to help other people with them as well. [49:44] - Charlie describes the effects of their involvement in these organizations as catalytic, both in business and in personal life. It has allowed for new growth and awareness. We don’t always realize what we can do and who we are in a lot of ways until we have the external situations that reflect those things back to us and give us a mission, trial, or opportunity to play out what we can do. [50:55] - If you’re looking for ways to thrive and flourish in the world, find places to volunteer or be of service in your local community, and align those things with the ways that you want to grow. Mentioned in This Episode: Productive Flourishing Wayfinding Academy Social Venture Partners Women of the Fourteenth Moon Democracy on Trial, by Jean Bethke Elshtain Bowling Alone, by Robert Putnam Leave a Review

In this episode, Angela joins Charlie to talk about tipping points in your career or business that require you to change something. These tipping points could be changing in family arrangements, burn out, or a number of different things. They look at these periods of time when you’re going through something and you can’t do “business as usual,” how to recognize those times, and what to do to deal with them. Key Takeaways: [3:50] - With summertime rolling in, for people who may be more naturally energetic in the earlier parts of the year, the changing of the season can create different tensions as you start to slow down. While it’s important to listen to these signals, they may not always coincide with your business demands. [6:27] - Whether you’re burnt out, “well done,” or you see it coming, these are all things to be paying attention to. This may also be a good time to invite some reflection into your life. [8:27] - While these situations may look different for different people, they are all situations where we need to be internally more aware. No matter what your work situation is, it’s important to be able to tune in to where your energy is at and what is going on in your personal and work life. [11:00] - Many of our creative listeners are constantly pushing and driving. One of the life lessons to learn is to moderate the driving, or lean into the driving in certain ways. It can be easy to localize what we’re going through, but there seems to always be something else that needs to be done. Zoom out - don’t look at just what you have to do this week or this month. Look for patterns to make sure you’re not overworking yourself. [17:32] - One thing that happens for Charlie when he gets in these situations is that it takes him a lot of effort to engage with projects he usually enjoys (and also that need to get done). For example, writing is usually cathartic, but that’s one of the things he has trouble with when he’s getting close to well-done. When he notices this, he is able to ease up slowly to avoid reaching the burn out stage. [23:17] - For Angela, there are a few things that start to happen. She can usually tell when she’s getting closer to burn out by the fact that her mood is more easily upset, and she tends to focus on things that aren’t very helpful. [26:55] - Both Charlie and Angela pay attention to their behaviors as an indicator of their emotional state. All of us have different ways in which the toll of stressors show up for us. You may have to ask yourself “what am I doing that’s uncharacteristic of me?” or “what’s different and what could be causing it?” [30:35] - Some reasons for these feelings creeping up could be changes in your external world, rather than you, or your work. Any of these things can increase emotional and cognitive pressure. Sometimes it’s hard to acknowledge how they’re affecting us. [33:28] - Business and life are always connected. We have to acknowledge when work bleeds into our lives outside work. [35:02] - What do we do when we notice ourselves in these situations? Charlie advocates for self-compassion - when you notice you’re going through something, the first response should not be to just soldier on. Before you jump right into fixing, acknowledge that something’s going on and take it seriously. [37:08] - Whenever you know that something major is happening in your world, stop and think about how it affects you and what you had planned to do. Think about how it may requiring you to shift around the things you need to do. [38:33] - Finally, try not to make a really drastic change, because this seems to make things considerably worse. Go through the process of who might be able to help you lighten your load or share responsibilities. If the load becomes too heavy to bear for you, find people and other sources to help distribute that load. [42:36] - As he wraps this episode up, Charlie encourages you to think about where you are as far as the total load that you carry in your life, and seeing where you are on the spectrum on the way to well-done. Be compassionate with yourself about what you discover. No matter where you are, be thinking about what personal resources or practices you have that you can go to if you are getting too close to burnt-out. Building this team before you need it can help you avoid crashing and burning. [46:22] - There are many people out there dealing with a similar feeling or situation, and Angela hopes that you will take some time to reflect on anything that has resonated with you in this episode, and pay attention to that. Mentioned in This Episode: Productive Flourishing Falling Upward, by Richard Rohr Leave a Review

Sometimes, you commit to a few things and then life intervenes and throws a few more things on your plate, and it can sometimes get away from you. You feel like "how am I going to do all of this?", "what do I need to let go?", "how do I handle my own expectations for what I'd be able to do?" - That's what Charlie Gilkey & Angela Wheeler will chat about on this episode.     Key Takeaways:   [02:08] Charlie talks about the major products he has going on at once   [05:03] Angela points out that each project has many other mini-projects within it [06:27] Self-care is about being gentler with yourself, not beating yourself up [07:24] A venn diagram analogy on ‘the work’ and ‘the story about the work’  [11:01] Feeling frustrated with yourself - what is it getting you? what is it doing for you? [13:56] Angela is harder on herself than on other members of the team [14:35] We wouldn't ride a donkey the way we ride ourselves, because it would be inhumane [15:21] You’re not a computer nor a robot, and can't work 24-7. You're human & stuff comes up  [16:29] How do you communicate with people when you have overcommitted and need help? [18:00] Ego prevents us from asking for help, but not asking is the worst thing you can do  [21:58] Asking for help can be seen as a weakness [23:40] Asking for help may feel like it's a 'taking' [25:50] Always ask the yea-sayers & people you trust, if they're willing to help you [28:25] Ask for help by welcoming people to be of service to you [28:54] You matter just as much as somebody else [30:55] How not to get there again by giving yourself enough room for a margin [32:50] People confuse focus and capacity [33:19] Proactive communication with others and with yourself [34:27] Choosing the projects that matter to you [38:53] Deciding what's really important and what to let go of, is hard, but worth it [39:50] Defining what you want your good life to look like - rather than what others think [40:18] Choosing projects and priorities that matter most to you and sticking to them      Mentioned in this Episode:   Live Your Legend Start Finishing [book proposal] Jeffrey Davis from Tracking Wonder   Rain Maker "No" vs. "Not now" Why strategic planning is so hard for creative people?    

Angela Wheeler joins Charlie Gilkey in today's podcast episode. Charlie and Angela talk on how sometimes it's difficult to practice self-care and take care of all of your responsibilities at the same time. The two explore the subject of self-care and talk on why they're not feeling 100% at the best on the show.   Key Takeaways: [2:05] Charlie and Angela weren't in the best of places today. [3:20] Maybe we use the excuse of not feeling well to avoid responsibilities. [4:15] Look at your schedule two weeks in the past and assume it'll be the same. [6:30] Not looking your best is different for everybody. [9:00] Self-care is the highest priority. [14:00] When is that thing you're putting off going to get done? [17:40] Don't be a victim of the 9-5 schedule. [20:50] Are the important things showing up in your schedule? [24:40] Remember, you can't do everything. [28:00] Take care of yourself, your priorities, and do your best. [29:50] What are you doing to take care of yourself and what are you doing today to build a better tomorrow?   Mentioned In This Episode: http://www.productiveflourishing.com/  

Charlie Gilkey and Angela Wheeler have been together for over 18 years and discuss on today's podcast what's it like working with each other. Angela shares her struggles on leaving her academia career, catching up with Charlie's four year learning curve in the business, and surviving a near-death experience. Charlie and Angela talk on the importance of understanding each other's cycles and rhythms and to have boundaries in the relationship where it's not all work and no play.   Key Takeaways: [1:50] Angela talks a little bit about her background.  [4:30] Working with your partner is great, but there can also be bumps in the road. [7:40] Charlie and Angela have been in business together since 2010. [8:40] What kind of challenges did Angela face when she joined Charlie's business? [15:50] Charlie and Angela have been together for 18 years and have had a lot of time to grow together. [20:00] The difference in income can be awkward with your partner. [25:50] Working around your partner's natural rhythm can be challenging. [30:45] Three years after the car crash, the couple can finally talk about what happened. [31:30] Charlie talks about Angela's near-death experience. [37:10] After Angela's accident, Charlie had to plan for Angela not to be a part of the business and setup the business up accordingly. [43:10] Admitting your weaknesses can be hard, but once you do, you can build a stronger business. [47:40] So what is it like working with your life partner? [51:00] You can share something meaningful together. [52:40] Be transparent with your partner and have an open communication with them at all times.   Mentioned In This Episode: The Five Love Languages by Gary D. Chapman  

Angela Wheeler is the Operations Specialist and Community Manager at Productive Flourishing. She successfully climbed a ladder of academic success earning a Ph.D in sociology. While working in her academic teaching appointment Angela realized this was not a good fit for her. Angela had spent her life doing what she thought she was supposed to do and what others expected her to do which lead her to a near death experience. Angela has been on quite a journey with her health and recovery. She has been open about her journey on Productive Flourishing and started a powerful conversation – Extraordinary Women Change the World. Angela is here to talk about how you can understand yourself and your strengths through adversity. In this interview we discuss: doing what you are supposed to do – doing what others expect of you health scares being vulnerable empowering women Two takeaways – for the listeners to practice to practice empowerment Click the player below to listen now Connect with Angela Extraordinary Women Change the World twitter facebook If You Enjoyed this Interview . You ll LOVE my newsletter. Get interviews and reminders of interviews delivered straight to your inbox. Special newsletter-only promotions The takeaway of each interview (only available to newsletter subscribers). music Christine Kane – Virginia smiling, The post Angela Wheeler appeared first on howshereallydoesit.com.