How She Really Does It

Last year, I found myself on a retreat utterly exhausted. I knew I was craving more space in my life and business. So in the fall, I started doing just that. I began shutting down certain lines of business while continuing to do high-quality work with my clients, and after 17 and a half years and over 1000 episodes, I've made the decision to hit pause on the podcast too.   Join me this week as I share why my soul is craving space, rest, and even boredom, how I'm creating more space in my life and business by hitting the pause button, and the endless possibilities that I believe await us both on the other side. Until we meet again, stay curious, stay open, and stay true to yourself.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/4a7oRtF

As a child, we had parents, teachers and other authoritative figures to lead the way. But as we make our move into adulthood, it can become difficult to step into leadership roles - in any aspect of our lives. In fact, this is a topic I discuss with my clients regularly. So I'd like to emphasize that leadership is about identity and way of being, rather than titles merely bestowed upon us by others. Tune in to discover the importance of self-trust, self-compassion, and self-accountability in being the leader of your life. By embracing agency, taking ownership and leading with integrity and compassion, you can make changes in both your personal and professional endeavors.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3xbm4AU  

As a leadership coach, one of the things I do a lot of coaching on is communication. Communication can be scary and intimidating. Maybe it's something you think you should know how to do, but let me tell you, it's a learnable skill.    In this episode, I share the story of one of my clients from a situation where she was brave and gave positive feedback to someone. Discover what makes you feel safe, and if it involves refraining from clear communication with others, you'll learn how to cultivate the skillset of communication.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/4cfU5jO

Sometimes, when you become so anxious about what's going to happen, you may start to under-function, allowing the unknown to manage you instead of managing it. This week, I'm discussing moving into the unknown, whether it involves performances, events, or waiting for a diagnoses.    Tune in this week to learn how to become a compassionate observer in your life and embrace the vulnerability that comes with uncertainty. I'll share the challenges I faced in navigating the unknown during my senior year of college and how I had stealth expectations about ending my college career.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3wKndiT  

Are any of your expectations influenced by fear, shame, and magical thinking? These are called stealth expectations and they will go unnoticed until they resurface when challenges occur. It's crucial to be aware of them and to know how to recognize if you have stealth expectations.   In this episode, I discuss the impact stealth expectations can have on you if you don't pay attention to what's going on inside yourself, and how to start creating self-awareness around the things that you expect.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/48AX9UB

How amazing would it be to go back in time and change the way you did things? Recently, during multiple sessions with clients, the topic of how wonderful it would be to be a freshman in college again came up. It made me think about the fantasy of going back in time with the knowledge that we have now and changing the way we did things then.   If you're experiencing similar thoughts, tune in this week to discover how everything you've learned over the years is valuable, and how to use all this knowledge you have in the present to create the future you desire.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3uMmPQb

Loss, empty nesting, challenges at work - these are obstacles we didn't picture when we thought of adulthood, and sometimes, we want to avoid them. In today's episode, I talk about how vulnerability is part of life and how to overcome the heartache and obstacles that we encounter.   Tune in this week to learn why the belief that there's a way to avoid difficult times actually creates pain and how to find ways to navigate through them. I also explore the importance of embracing life's heartwarming moments and share some resources to help you recover and move forward.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3wl6Wkg

I am thrilled to welcome Karen Walrond back to the show this week. She has recently published the book Radiant Rebellion: Reclaim Aging, Practice Joy, and Raise a Little Hell and is here to share how the process of writing it allowed her to see things she hadn't seen before.   Tune in to learn more about Karen's unique ability to embrace vulnerability while owning her experiences. We cover a range of topics including expressing gratitude, ageism, and the power of journaling. I hope this discussion inspires you to give yourself permission to do what you've been refraining from doing, just as reading her book did for me.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/49pMPQ0

Sometimes emotions come unexpectedly and surprise us. When they do, it can be tempting to run away from them and keep ourselves busy with work or seek artificial happiness.   This week, I talk about emotions and authenticity, a topic that has become more personal to me due to an unexpected loss. I offer advice on navigating through difficult emotions when they come and embracing authenticity through the ups and downs of life.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3Oo3prq

Whether it's at home or in the workplace, we are all leading different aspects of our lives. One of the responsibilities of a leader is to provide feedback, which takes a lot of courage and is very vulnerable.   This week, discover how to lead, coach, and provide feedback with effectiveness, compassion, and in a way that allows people to thrive. Learn the questions leaders should ask themselves when providing feedback and why it's important to never let the fear of disappointment get in the way of setting goals.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3vQnr7H

Are you self-aware of your own being? In this episode, I discuss how to become self-aware of your being and I explore two questions and skill sets that have helped me make a significant change in my life.   Join me this week to discover which small steps you can start incorporating in your life to make the changes you want to see, as well as some tools to help you make a space for yourself.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3vFme33

While we are all emotional beings, some of us don't have a language for emotions or maybe we've been told that emotions are weak. One thing you can do to grow your self-awareness is to learn the language of emotions.   Emotions are not a weakness. They communicate what is going on inside yourself when you are too busy to notice. They give you a signal, but it's your job to feel, identify and give yourself the space to move through it. In this episode, I'm showing you how to do just that.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3NYFf6A

Our beliefs guide us into thinking in a way that is not necessarily aligned with our true mindset. They can also make us do what we think we're supposed to do, rather than what we truly want.    Discover how to be aware of the things you say to yourself and identify your limiting beliefs. Learn how things start to change when you listen to your stories and become aware of those beliefs. Unpacking the thoughts swirling in your head is the first step towards self-awareness.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3v2HXBk

As the new year approaches, there's a lot of talk about being your best self for 2024. While the definition varies from one person to another, something high achievers all have in common is setting unrealistic standards for what it means to be our best selves.    This week, I discuss what being your best self every day looks like and why having unrealistic expectations leads to exhaustion rather than learning and growing. We'll explore different simple things you can do to have realistic standards of what is possible for you to do in one day.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3RG80HI

What in your life can be dropped, whether it's for the time being or completely? I'm giving personal examples of things that were no longer relevant that I kept on doing because I'd always done them and what happened when I let go of them.   Discover how to recognize the things that you don't need to carry around anymore and why leaving them in 2023 can only be beneficial for you and your loved ones.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3uVIrtb

During the holiday season, we try to do everything that is expected from us, but there is one important thing that we don't always take the time for: taking care of ourselves.   This week, I give you examples of various ways you can take care of yourself during the holidays and discuss the importance of finding ways to show yourself love. Discover tips to understand what you need from this season, discern what makes you feel resourced, and identify what makes you feel depleted.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3N4jZfn

Our brains have the capacity to make up stories, and to create tragedies in which we are the main character. While some stories are happy, the thoughts we entertain can also contribute directly to the pain in our lives.   This week, I encourage you to notice the stories your mind conjures up. Discover some of the ways to create awareness of the thoughts you're thinking, how to check in with them to see what is true, and how to react compassionately when your brain makes up stories.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/47x3VuI

Do you ever get home from work and find yourself dwelling on the one thing that went bad that day rather than celebrating the many good things you achieved?   This week, I look at how perfectionism affects our lives by getting in the way of personal growth. Discover how to let go of the survival mode that is ingrained in your brain and embrace the good things in life in a way that will create positive change.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3GdGxX4

Our idea of the perfect holiday season can be guided by our cultural surroundings or by the happiness of our family or spouses. We want to make things perfect for everyone, but how can you keep giving if you are exhausted?   Discover how to allow yourself to breathe, to fill yourself up in a way that will give you the ability to offer as much as you want this holiday season. Remember that we can't give what we don't have.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3SKU285

I have never enjoyed cold weather. Yet, for a long time, I put myself in a situation that didn't make my life more enjoyable during that season: I didn't turn on the heat.   My friends, this week I invite you to look at the choices you've made and try to pinpoint what causes unnecessary suffering in your life. Discover how to make a positive change and stop suffering when you don't need to.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/40xND21

Why are our achievements overshadowed by our perception of the time taken to reach them? Too often, we judge ourselves or compare our journey to that of others before celebrating our victories.   Tune in this week for some questions to ask yourself to break the pattern of self-judgment. Learn how to nurture the feeling of self-love, as well as respect for your journey towards achieving your big dreams and goals.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/40qP5Da

Do you sometimes feel like you can't help but be bittersweet when things come to an end? Endings certainly come with a lot of mixed and competing feelings.   This week, discover how to let go and embrace the new things that enter your life after others leave it. I'll share my personal experiences with things coming to an end and some ways to embrace everything you've learned, taking it with you into the next chapters of your life.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3tXAbIA

Communication in relationships can sometimes feel murky. This week, we emphasize the significance of honest and vulnerable communication.   Discover the value of building connections and techniques for communicating with kindness. Understand why embracing vulnerability, though challenging at times, is always worth it.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3S7AavC

Have you ever offered a compliment only to have it shrugged off or downplayed? Or perhaps you've found it challenging to truly accept a compliment yourself?   In this episode, we'll explore the factors that may prevent us from fully embracing a compliment, whether it's the discomfort of feeling "too much" or something else altogether. Learn how cultivating compassion for yourself and those around you can pave the way for receiving more.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/46PCw6u

Welcome back to the celebration of 17 years of How She Really Does It! This week, tune in to discover four more practices and mindsets that will help you conquer your desires and live your dream life. Learn how to identify what you want and the steps necessary to move into your next level of being.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3LYr947

To celebrate the 17th anniversary of this podcast, I'm reflecting on how far I've come and sharing 7 lessons that I've learned along the way. This week, discover 3 important lessons to get started on your true desires in life and business. Learn why support, starting small, and being vulnerable are essential when beginning down the path of your dreams.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3RNpja7

Do you know your why? What is it that keeps you striving?    In this episode, discover the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, how these motivations develop over time, and why it matters. You'll learn how to play the long game and start developing intrinsic motivations that keep you doing your deep work for longer.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/48yHgis

I've confronted feelings of shame and not belonging many times in my life, but specifically in my days of summer camp. So this week, I'm sharing some stories from camp in which I grappled with feeling like I didn't belong, and how I found my own sense of belonging. Tune in and discover how to bring awareness to your limiting stories, question them, and choose to own them.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/460omiQ

One of my superpowers lies in my ability to lean into resistance, and this week, I want to share a few stories from my recent Camp Reunion Trip where I had the opportunity to put this superpower into action.   Discover tips for overcoming resistance, some ways to get to the bottom of your resistance, and find out why being vulnerable is so important. Learn from my recent trip to my Summer Camp Reunion and the gift of evaluation afterward.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3RlYlpY 

Being an entrepreneur is no walk in the park. It takes many skills, commitments, and time for rest. Even then, you will experience challenges. However, these challenges can be some of your greatest lessons.   Discover the big win that I experienced on a recent trip despite being exhausted and overextended. I invite you to feel your feelings and find empathy for yourself when you are struggling, pushing too hard, and feeling overwhelmed.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3Z0HmeA

I'm joined by author, global keynote speaker, and professional certified life coach, Andrea Owen. Andrea helps high-achieving women maximize their confidence and master resilience, and she's here this week to share her experience with drinking, addiction, sobriety, and recovery.   Discover why sobriety and addiction can look different for different people, the pervasiveness of alcohol addiction in women, and how to address the trauma beneath the drink.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/458fRBY

We are told that we all have the same 24-hour day. But the reality is more complicated than that. We all have different circumstances, support systems, and resources. Those successful people you admire have teams of invisible support systems behind the scenes.  This week, I invite you to be honest with your 24 hours. I share some ideas for saving time, and some methods to get the most value from your day.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/43GAwM0

The ability to understand emotions is often considered a weakness in corporate environments. But it is an invisible skillset and the scaffolding that bolsters your leadership. This week, I walk you through different types of invisible skillsets and explain how understanding soft skills can help you overcome resistance, find connections and build trust.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3Kito1m 

Do you consider yourself a leader? I'm here to tell you that no matter what your title is at work or at home, you have huge leadership potential.   Discover why you are already a leader and how to step into a new level of leadership. Learn the difference between domination and bravery, how to develop skills to enhance your leadership, and what it means to be a balanced leader.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3Og4jWh

Parenting, a journey filled with both joys and hardships, presents itself as one of life's greatest challenges. Just when you start feeling confident and capable, new phases of growth emerge, bringing along fresh sets of hurdles.   Tune in this week to discover methods of checking in with your expectations of parenting. Learn how to see your wins, move outside of shame spirals, and avoid peer-pressure by digging into your family values.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3rPn62O

Part of our human experience is dealing with the judgments of others. Whether it's family members or someone at work, when we feel judged, it can trigger a slew of reactions.   I invite you to STOP taking on the judgment of others, identify what is important to you, and dig in to how you want to be perceived. Discover how clarity can help you manage the opinions of others, how judgment can impact your emotions, and some methods for dealing with it.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/46T14MV

If you're like me, you've got big audacious goals. But sometimes, your big goals might bring you down because they're overwhelming, abstract, and hard to know how to achieve.   This week I share an essential method for achieving the big dreams of your life and business. By identifying the right process and staying aligned with your vision through the small steps, you can move forward, sequentially, with ease.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3rsL3wQ

Do you ever find yourself asking, "what am I missing?" or "am I doing it right?" Most of us ask ourselves these questions from time to time. Well, this week, I invite you to look at the questions you pose as a tool to understand your emotional state.   Discover why these are two questions all leaders should leave behind, and how shifting the questions we ask can open avenues of new thought, discovery, and leadership.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/449wVac

Are you hard on yourself? A perfectionist? Sometimes, we miss that we are already living our dreams because we are so busy with our heads down, moving on to whatever is next.   This week, I unpack how we view achievements. Learn to own your story by celebrating wins and letting go of perfectionism. We look closely at measurements of success, methods for overcoming obstacles, and how to mitigate magical thinking. By making space to recognize our successes (big and small), we honor ourselves and our progress.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3CTJeLW

As your birthday approaches this year or next, how would you like to spend your day? With family, in solitude, with a big party, a delayed celebration a month late? There is no wrong answer; your birthday is for you. I share methods that I've been using to get clear about my birthday so that you can do the same, because sharing your birthday desires is a gift to yourself and to others.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3NiT2Us

Building the tool of self-awareness is essential for identifying strengths and moving through your thoughts. Re-framing the stories within your head takes time, ownership, and assistance.   Today, I discuss the nature of our minds and messy internal landscapes. I share stories from my high-performing clients to showcase that we all experience limiting beliefs. Learn some methods for identifying the voices within your head, and what to do with them.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/43LieJK

This week, I share some stories of building resilient cultures. May you feel inspired by these stories to see what is possible in your own life, to cultivate resilient cultures wherever you show up in the world and within yourself.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3Pmi5ZF

I unpack the importance of scheduling time for connecting with  yourself and connecting with others, and finding the right balance. Find out why the little lessons and messages that come along the way are huge and worth listening to. I invite you to schedule unstructured time so you can discover these little lessons for yourself.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3MN9zzD

Cell phone, landline, text, WhatsApp, email, Zoom... the list goes on of how to reach out and connect. By clarifying our personal communication methods and tactics with others, we can encourage a more easeful experience without the communication fatigue.   Learn how to create communication boundaries, manage your mindset, and share with clarity your communication methods.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3qcTfAx

Wins come in all shapes and sizes: big goals to “yay me” moments. My clients are high-performers who are hard on themselves and unfortunately, this keeps them from celebrating their wins. Finding the time to honor and celebrate makes all the difference. I share my experience with a challenging week and how it is important to celebrate even in the “shit-show” moments.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/42jX4ST

Family travel can be hard to manage for many reasons. Your money mindset, scheduling time, and assumed parental obligations all impact your trip. Plus, our families don't always connect with our visions about vacation.    This week, I share how I have handled our family vacations over the years. Every trip is imperfect but finding methods of feeling fulfilled from your travels rather than depleted is essential. Let's explore how to set your family up for success at home and abroad.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3VCdinO

As we build our ability to listen and treat ourselves well, we build momentum in all areas of life. This week, I share various methods and activities for caring for yourself.   Caring deeply looks different for everyone. It can be spending time in nature, exploring, having a quiet moment with a book, playing, resting, and more. I encourage you to give yourself permission to care in a way that truly honors your whole being.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3p5CG9c

Celebrating wins, small and large, is essential. It fills us up and allows us to see our successes in the midst of challenging times. One thing I'm celebrating this week is spring cleaning.   I honor my clients' and my own successes this week on the show. I share how I am a work in progress and how this is reflected in my physical space. Spring cleaning, small successes, and managing our mindset is a journey, so tune in today to start celebrating where you're at.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3Hx20eL

Leadership takes time and practice. We learn from experiences, showing up, doing the work, and making adjustments. How we choose to confront challenges in our life is what defines our character.   This week, I explore fairytale characters and unpack the human behavior these characters embody. By recognizing these tropes in our own actions, we can learn to change and find balance.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/41FCR9o

I share the story of my family field trip to one of my ancestral lands, Korea. I discuss the highs and lows of the trip, how I supported my health, travel “shit-show” moments, and how I curated my own experience.    My invitation to you this week is to create experiences of a lifetime. Create moments of connection that fuel you and bring you meaning. My family field trip was filled with learning and beautiful memories. It was an experience of a lifetime.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/41pKctF

In this episode, I share my travel checklist and how I try to travel in a way that supports my schedule. I share examples of how you can swirl social responsibilities with other life responsibilities while on a trip and the various methods that I use to support myself so that I can travel and be at my best simultaneously. If you're traveling in the near (or far) future, you don't want to miss this!   Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3moYyeR