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Think of this podcast as a conversation with two of your Black girlfriends sharing their opinions on dating, social justice issues, love, parents, and everything in between. So lock in, because when it's according to these two black girls, it will be real

Melissa & Amron


    • Jan 8, 2024 LATEST EPISODE
    • every other week NEW EPISODES
    • 30m AVG DURATION
    • 61 EPISODES


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    Latest episodes from According to This Black Girl

    Smoking Etiquette: Setting Boundaries and Valuing Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 8, 2024 53:24


    So we are almost done with this season and of course we are having technical issues! We will be working them out, but in the meantime, lock in to listen (only) to an episode that may clear the room the most. Your two favorite Black girls talk about boundaries and valuing those you love. Melissa shares the troubles she's having with her family (the saga continues) and talks about how her and her husband went from dating, to engaged, to married in a timeline that would make most people think they were crazy! This episode is not to be missed!

    Put that in your Pipe and Smoke it: Dating Much Older Men

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 17, 2023 44:58


    Did yall catch whatever cold is going around like Melissa did? If so, we hope you're feeling better and after a week of rest are ready to listen to an episode that's sure to make you sit up in your seat! We have a guest (Melissa's good friend) who dated a man 30 years older! How old is too old? What's it like to have several generational gaps in age? sex...? Tap in with your two favorite Black girls as we chat with Jalynn about these things and more!

    Sending Smoke Signals: A Man's POV with Dating Coach Derrick Bradley

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 4, 2023 58:49


    We havne't had a Man's POV episode in a long time and this one was a wild ride! Your two favorite Black girls were joined by dating coach Derrick Bradley to discuss communication in relationships. One topic of discussion: everyone should be self-interested, but are we narcissists? And before you get up in arms about the use of the word, tap into this episode with us and our guest Derrick.

    Was it all Just Smoke and Mirrors? Letting Go of Girlfriends

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 20, 2023 37:07


    We are back!!! Your two favorite Black girls took a much needed break at the halfway point in the season we are back with a topic that's sure to have people in their feelings. Sometimes you have to cut friends loose and that's what this episode is about. Do yall just keep friends in your life just because they have been "down" with you in the past? Protect your peace and tap in with us!

    Chain Smokers: Stress and its Effects

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 5, 2023 51:44


    We are half way through this season and your two favorite Black girls are STRESSED!! From health issues to anxiety, it's a time, and we are podding, laughing, and praying our way to the other side. Listen in as we share what's causing the stress and how we are managing (or not). We keep it real at According to this Black Girl, so lock in with us as we give you an honest look at our lives.

    Has Dating Gone Up in Smoke? Where Women are Not Going on a First Date

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 29, 2023 53:07


    We are keeping Season 5 hot with our first guest! SavagelyHumble joins your two favorite Black girls as we talk first dates! If y'all haven't seen the list, there are a TON of places you can't take a woman on a first date and we break that down on this episode. Some are spot on and some are just outrageous. Listen in and make draw your own conclusions!

    Are They Smoking Crack?? Jada Pickett Smith and Will Smith

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 22, 2023 40:27


    #wewantoutthegroup chat! Well, we'll leave after this episode lol! This week, your favorite Black girls are talking about the saga that is Jada Pickett Smith and Will Smith. We aren't sure if they are smoking crack or the rest of us are, but this has got everyone spinning (and checking social media). While all of this sounds nuts, it looks like they are going to stick beside each other. Tap in, as we talk wellness versus happiness when it comes to marriage. You won't want to miss it!

    Sometimes There's Smoke and No Fire: Leave Kayla Nicole Alone!

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 15, 2023 38:16


    On this episode of According to this Black Girl, Amron and Melissa talk football (kind of). Some of these folks been acting up over Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce and interrupting good football, but most importantly, they have dragged Kayla Nicole into it (again, leave here alone). You know we didn't hold back on this topic, so strap in and hit us on our socials and let us know what you think!

    All the Smoke: Welcome to Season 5!

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 9, 2023 40:06


    Y'all we have been gone for so long we said this was Season 4 like five times! But, welcome to SEASON 5!!! We have had some life changing events occur since you last heard from us, but your two favorite Black girls are back and ready for all the smoke (only kind of like that sounds). Lock in, and get ready for a season like no other!

    The Good Challenge

    Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2023 37:03


    Thank y'all for sticking with us through this challenging season! This week, your two favorite Black girls wrap up Season 4 by discussing negative self talk and when is a challenge a good thing. When you pray and are giving the desires of your heart, is it supposed to be easy? Do you have "the right" to feel overwhelmed by your blessings? Melissa open up about her struggles with her job and life, and Amron gives her perspective on giving 100% as a mother (Happy Mother's Day Amron and all the good mother's listening)! Tap in with us for one last time this season and stay tuned for the Season 5 premiere date!

    The Good Lie: Is It For You Or For Them?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 7, 2023 34:51


    Have you ever lied to protect someone's reputation? Was that person your ex? Why did you do that? This week your two favorite Black girls discuss flat out lies, lies by omission, and being "named" when someone tells their side of the story. Also, y'all ever considered sending an NDA while out in these dating streets? We are almost done with this season, so you won't want to miss this one!

    Good Toxic

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2023 35:07


    Has social media made us more attracted to negativity or were we always like this and social media is just the medium in which we express ourselves? Your two favorite Black girls tackle this topic (again, but it's remixed and still funny) as only they can. Tap in with us as we also talk about who gets to come to the cookout and clickbait.

    The Good Scheme: Is Too Much Ambition a Thing?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 16, 2023 42:14


    Stay Schemin (shoutout to Rick Ross)!! On this episode, your two favorite Black girls talk ambition and can you have enough of it? We talk about "little" achievements and how lame people are for qualifying another person's effort (really stop this $hit). There are lots of gems and laughs in this episode, including a moment where Amron shows her growth when it comes to dating (check out Season 3, episode 10). Thank you to all of our listeners, we shoutout ya'll out in this episode :)

    Good Vain: Does Looking Good = Feeling Good?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 9, 2023 34:55


    We are back (again) y'all! Your two favorite Black girls tap into a topic about vanity. Can vanity be a good thing? Melissa gets personal about her sinus surgery struggles and her journey to look and feel better. Set with the backdrop of Angela White's very recent and very talked about journey to undo several cosmetic procedures, this is one episode you won't want to miss!

    Good Naked: Is there a Mother/Wife Costume?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 19, 2023 39:40


    Your favorite two Black girls are back (this will probably be a constant theme as Melissa works through having a sinus procedure and losing her voice on and off) with a Man's POV episode! Are women the problem?? Do we make the rules or are men driving this "less is more" trend? We have Flan from the TWS Podcast with us to discuss nakedness when it relates to mothers and the supposed "costume" they "should" be wearing. Ciara's Oscars dress is the linchpin for the conversation so if you haven't seen it, hit Google and then strap in for our first episode with a guest this season!

    The Good Simp

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 12, 2023 37:15


    Happy Valentine's Day y'all! Your two favorite Black girls jumped right into this one! Social media would have women believe that just because a man shows you attention that he a "simp," but we here at According to this Black Girl think that's not only crazy, but detrimental to women finding the happiness they deserve. On this episode, we ask the question "can a woman be a simp?" and chat about famous simps (the list will shock you!) Down with the simp! We love a man who knows how to love, communicate, and how affection.

    The Good Slut: Society, Woman, and Sex

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 29, 2023 43:57


    The idea that women should be a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets is still alive and well in 2023! And on the surface, it's fine, but has it gone too far? Are women "oversharing" (y'all saw Caresha and the "Pee" Diddy stuff trending) or should society stay out of our sexual lane and our bodies. On this episode your two favorite Black girls discuss this and so much more! Also, check out Melissa's new hair!

    Good Stereotypes: Congrats to Keke Palmer on the Baby!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 8, 2023 28:26


    We are keeping Season 4 going with an episode about how Keke Palmer is glowing and growing and the haters can't stand it! Some are calling Keke a stereotype - an unwed Black mother - but your two favorite Black girls think she is not only a beacon of hope for woman with PCOS, but also minding the baby and fine ass baby daddy business that pays her! Embrace being a "stereotype" if it works for you!

    Welcome to 2023: Let's Get Into Some Good Trouble

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 2023 27:18


    Happy New Year and we are back for Season 4!!! We missed y'all and in this episode listen in to catch up with your favorite Black girls. Some things have changed, but some things have stayed the same. This season we are getting into all types of "good trouble" to bring in 2023.

    Glowing Til the End: Dating a H.E.N.R.Y

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 18, 2022 34:46


    This is the season finale! Melissa and Amron reflect on the season's ups and downs, while expressing what they have learned while trying to glow up. Listen in as your two favorite Black girls talk about H.E.N.R.Ys (high earners, not rich yet) and how dating men with "potential" is working out. You won't want to miss this episode filled with laughs and self-love as your girls close out this season.

    Going It Alone: Do you Need a Support System to Glow Up?

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 13, 2022 27:55


    On this episode, Melissa and Amron get serious and talk about just how hard it can be to glow up. Do you need a "team" or a support system to glow up? Or to become your best self only something that you can only do alone? Tap in as we stay real about mental health and how going it alone may work for some and not for others.

    Glowing Past the Pain: Forgiveness Without a Resolution?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 28, 2022 38:22


    On this episode, Melissa and Amron get serious and talk about forgiveness and how to find your peace without an apology. Although there are some laughs on this episode, there are also some tears as Melissa recounts how she feels about her relationship with her dad and stepmom, what her therapist thinks she should do, and how Amron does not agree with the former first lady's famous philosophy (sorry Michelle). Can you give forgiveness with no apology or resolution? Can you glow past the pain? Your two favorite Black girls give their opinions on a topic impacting so many of us.

    Glowing to the Altar: Marriage and Cheating

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2022 35:25


    On this episode, Melissa and Amron talk about marriage and cheating. Melissa is coming to you from Cleveland, Ohio where she experienced married men hitting on her and her other single colleagues at a conference (these men really ain't sh!t). In the age of open relationships, situationships, and everything in between, is marriage "still" a glow up? Watch and listen as your favorite Black girls discuss love, marriage, cheating, and what they want from a partner.

    Grow Up Sis, Glow Up Sis: Do Women Have Higher Dating Standards Now?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2022 33:00


    On this episode, Melissa and Amron discuss an article from Psychology Today entitled: The Rise of Lonely, Single Men (you can find the link to the article in our IG story). The article talks about how women's dating standards have changed and these two Black girls definitely agree! No more swiping right on "trash" men or men just "because." Do higher standards come with age or just with maturity? Shouldn't men want a women who has set standards for herself? Tap in as your favorite Black girls tackle these questions and more. Also, Panda (and her squeak toy) make an appearance on this week's episode.

    When the Glow Up Means Tightening Up: Taking Control of Your Health

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 7, 2022 38:31


    We are halfway through Season 3! On this episode, Melissa and Amron chat with their high school friend Jasmine about glowing up and tightening up. Listen in as these ladies discuss dealing with the struggles of working out and staying healthy, while celebrating the bodies they have (and the bodies the men want!) Abs may be made in the kitchen, but According to the Black Girl is always cooking up the laughs.

    Is He Making "Mistakes?": Glowing Up and Owning Your Choices Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 31, 2022 36:21


    Should we keep saying "poor Khloe?" On this episode, Melissa and Amron discuss mistakes versus choices when it comes to dating and specifically cheating, using the most recent Khloe Kardashian/Tristan Thompson drama as an anchor. Melissa even reflects on her own relationships as she continues to glow up and move on past men who don't have their sh!t together. Listen in for the laughs and lessons learned.

    Glow Forth and Conquer: Black Girls Travel

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 24, 2022 34:28


    On this episode, Melissa and Amron are joined by Ulei Moore from Popcorn and Mimosa podcast to talk about Black girls traveling, specifically traveling internationally alone. Listen in to Melissa share her scary, but spiritual experience in Mexico for her 35th birthday. If you're looking to travel alone and want some laughs and some tips, tap into this episode.

    Letting Sh*t Glow: Ending Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 18, 2022 27:00


    This week, Melissa and Amron talk about ending relationships, specifically friendships. Melissa share about the end of one of her friendships and how that impacted her. Tap in, and watch and listen how your favorite two black girls glow through letting relationships go.

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    Welcome Back: The Glow Up

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 10, 2022 25:15


    Y'all we back! This season Melissa and Amron are talking all things glowing up, including having video (that works this time) for each episode. Catch up with your favorite two Black girlfriends as they share what's been going on in lives since the end of Season 2.

    Consumerism in the Time of COVID

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 20, 2022 39:38


    And that's a wrap for Season 2! On this last episode of the season, we talk about consumerism during the COVID-19 pandemic. There was so much to buy and no much time to buy it in! Melissa and Amron also discuss how they were raised as children with relation to money and saving. Thank you all for listening to According to this Black Girl and we will be back in July!

    Achievements? F*%K Out of Here!

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2022 27:57


    Strap in because this one gets hot! Melissa and Amron discuss men on the podcast Highly Initiated and their thoughts on women achieving "too much." You won't want to miss this episode, as the ladies hold nothing back.

    Finding Us: Missing Black Girls

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2022 42:40


    On this episode, Melissa and Amron discuss how they feel about knowing two Black girls who are missing, how the media treats missing Black girls, and the things that all women have to face when it comes to safety. Most of our episodes are funny, but we wanted to touch on this important topic that effects so many.

    New Family, Who Dis?: Adults Adopting Adults

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 27, 2022 36:19


    On this episode, Melissa and Amron discuss the show Adults Adopting Adults (which they feel was suspiciously canceled), work family, and what it really means to have and seek out "regular" parental relationships. If you've never heard about adult adoption, strap in because some of this is wild!

    Preference or Fetish: A Man's POV with Rome Davis

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 21, 2022 34:43


    On this week's episode, we bring back comedian Rome Davis to discuss the difference between having a preference and a fetish. We keep it real about what is out of bounds and what isn't. Rome gets wild (as always), but these two Black girls don't back down. DISCLAIMER: we do not support any forms of racism or discrimination. We love all of our listeners and value their preferences.

    Valentine's Day, Galentine's Day and Side Chick Day

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2022 38:56


    In this week's episode, Melissa and Amron discusses the BIG day: Valentine's Day! They talk about being a hopeless romantic, good and bad Valentine's Day, and the more important holiday...GALENTINE'S DAY! Melissa also invents a holiday for men to love their bros!!

    Giving Grace All 2022: Men and Their Feelings

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 6, 2022 29:49


    On this episode, Melissa and Amron discuss the difference between how men and women "can" express themselves in public and private and how differently society treats, and at times mocks men for being vulnerable. Do we want alpha males, and all that comes with that? Or should be be shriving for men who are emotionally whole, which means they cry? Tune in and hit us on the socials to let us know what you think.

    New Year, New Energy!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 30, 2022 47:07


    Since we are still on our "new year, new us" ish, we asked Melissa's spiritual advisor Cody Le Goddess to bless us with her presence for this episode. Cody chats with us about Mercury in retrograde (we hope we all get out in one piece), candle work, and Cody gave us a one-card reading. If you're wanting to get your life and need a little guidance, hit Cody up on Instagram @codylegoddess or at @legoddesstribe.

    I Don't Care Ari Fletcher and Domestic Violence

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 16, 2022 40:37


    In this episode we discuss the Ari Fletcher's separation with Rihanna's lingerie brand Savage X Fenty. Conversation's start off really black and white but Melissa and Amron discuss parenting choices, freedom of speech sorta and a woman's voice in the world. Like many conversations Melissa and Amron give their perspective as black girls.

    Dating in Your 30's

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 9, 2022 39:59


    In this episode we discuss the ups and downs of dating and this point in life. Melissa and Amron discuss, boundaries lessons and admit to some rough dating years in our twenties!! We're all at different stages in life - family dynamics, income, career trajectories, and just doing our best to figure things out from day to day. They talk about how they deal with the harsh realities about themselves, expectations, realized hopes and dreams and how the heartaches have led them to reset and grow stronger.

    Set the Record Straight: Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 29, 2021 3:26


    Here is part one of a three-part series that we are calling Set the Record Straight! During this series, you will hear Melissa and Amron comment on some of episodes from Season 1, including addressing some of the questions and feedback they received from listeners. For this clip, Melissa is talking about Episode 3 and why she choose to stay after the disclosure.

    When They Go Low, Do We Go High?: Tristian Hutton from T.H.E Bad Decisions Good Intentions Podcast

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 11, 2021 2:23


    We took a few weeks off, but we are back at it with never before released bonus content from Season 1! Everyone knows the famous Michelle Obama quote, "when they go low, we go high" but are we practicing it (I know I don't always)? Listen while Amron and Tristian Hutton from T.H.E Bad Decisions Good Intentions Podcast share their opinions. My girls DOES NOT back down!

    Season 1 Finale: Minding Your Mental Health

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 28, 2021 41:29


    Season 1 is a wrap! On this final episode of the season, we talk with Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, Daria Mallard about all things mental health including "praying the depression away," parental trauma, and she even helps us through a difficult conversation related to therapy. You know we keep it real, and we hope that this episode will not only entertain, but will help you mind your own mental health.

    Daddy's Girls Cult Pt. 2: Still WTF??

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 21, 2021 15:22


    Everyone loves an exclusive and we have one for you! Monee Love, a former cult member, shares her experience with trying to help some of the women in the Daddy's Girls Cult (check out Episode 6 for the full scoop on this cult).

    Trailer 10: Daddy's Girls Cult Pt. 2 with Monee Love

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 17, 2021 0:42


    Did y'll listen to our Daddy's Girls Cult episode? Did you want more? We thought so! Check this clip out for our next episode, an exclusive interview with Monee Love, a former member of a different cult who interacted with Angela herself! Full episode drops 11.21.21. You won't want to miss this one!

    A Man's POV with Garry O'Neal Jr

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2021 29:08


    Our second man on the show! On this episode we have Garry O'Neal Jr and we ask him questions about relationships (plutonic and romantic). Interested in finding Garry! Check out his podcast The See.Plan.Do Show. Garry also is a certified C.P.R and a Life Coach. https://linktr.ee/garryoneal

    Trailer 9: A Man's POV with Garry O'Neal Jr

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 11, 2021 0:56


    Our second man on the show! Here is the trailer for our upcoming episode where we interview Garry O'Neal Jr and ask him questions about relationships (plutonic and romantic).

    Toxic Women: Real Thing or Myth???

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2021 46:27


    From our research, the consensus is that women can't be toxic on their own...now we know that isn't true lol. Listen in as we share our toxic traits and explain how we move in relationships. Lock in, because you won't want to miss the gems we drop!

    Daddy's Girls Cult: WTF???

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 31, 2021 40:41


    This week, we dive into the craziness that is the Daddy's Girls Cult. Have you ever done anything wild for a man? ever traveled to another city or even another country? We also discuss how COVID-19 may have played a part in the need for affection, and how relationships can be transactional. You won't want to miss this episode!

    Trailer 8: Daddy's Girls Cult

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 28, 2021 0:47


    Have y'all heard of the Daddy's Girls Cult? Check out this trailer and stay tuned, we will drop the full episode on 10.31.21.

    A Man's POV: Rome Davis

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 24, 2021 40:03


    Check out the first of many episodes were we invite a man to give his point of view on our podcast. Listen to comedian Rome Davis give his opinion on relationships, cheating, karma, and so much more. And because this will ALWAYS be According to this Black Girl, you know we don't let him off the hook!

    Trailer 7: A Man's POV with Rome Davis

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 20, 2021 0:57


    Check out our newest trailer for our first POV episode with Rome Davis.

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