Becoming Wildly Well with Brandi Lea

Sometimes it takes hitting rock bottom to recognize the need for a change. Kaylin's therapist had been encouraging her to attend a rehab center for substance abuse, but it wasn't until she found herself in her most challenging times that she finally recognized the need for help. And that's all it took. Today, Kaylin has been able to learn the coping skills she needed to get to a better place in her life. Not only has her personal life benefited, but her business has as well. Kaylin Hill is the owner of Kollab Creative, a small marketing agency in Oklahoma. She shares how going to rehab helped her to escape the weight of the looming cloud that had been there for so long. Feeling more clear and free, Kaylin was able to grow her business alongside her recovery journey amidst a global pandemic. Tune in to hear her full story.    Find Kaylin & Kollab Creative online:  https://www.instagram.com/kollab.creative/  kollabcreative.com  Shop Kaylin's vintage clothing store: kalology.com Connect with Brandi:  https://www.instagram.com/brandigilstrap1/

One step at a time. The most important piece is to just begin. This is therapist Hillary Vance's advice for moving forward in your life. She acknowledges that where we start is often not where we end up. Our goals and direction transform throughout the journey, but we have to start somewhere.  Hillary has been a licensed clinical social worker and therapist for over a decade. She started her own online relationship coaching and behavioral health consulting business 3 years ago. She and Brandi met through a mastermind they both enrolled in. Hillary shares how her work was born out of her own struggle. She faced unhealthy and destructive relationships as a teenager, as well as a violent partner relationship. Through her healing, she decided that she wanted to help others do the same.  Today, Hillary's goal is to share with women in particular that healthy relationships are possible, as well as healing from past pain and learning to move forward. The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. As we become healthier, our relationships and other facets of our lives tend to become healthier as well.  Join Hillary and Brandi as they dive deeper into relationships and personal healing and how you can start making progress today.    Connect with Hillary online:  https://www.instagram.com/thefaithbased.coach/  Women's Relationship Revolution group on Facebook    Connect with Brandi:  https://www.instagram.com/brandigilstrap1/

Brandy's life changed when she went to the hospital for stomach pain and found out she needed emergency surgery on an atopic pregnancy. She'd always wanted children but never had been given the opportunity. In this moment, it felt ripped from her. Why did she deserve this?  Today, Brandy Ayers is the owner and operator of Brandy Cakes, an Oklahoma-based bakery that opened in August of this year. Brandy says how she never would have had the confidence to pursue this dream of hers without going through her trauma.  Opening her bakery gave Brandy a newfound purpose and goal. She finally has something beautiful and good she could put her energy into that celebrates the happy moments in the lives of others.  In this episode, Brandy shares about her loss, as well as the humbling experience of quitting her corporate job to start her business. Tune in to hear how her greatest loss inspired her now greatest purpose.    Find Brandy & Brandy Cakes online: https://www.instagram.com/brandycakes36/ Connect with Brandi: https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrandilea/

Brandi is back with a solo episode to give you an update on her life and business. She dives into how she has evolved over the past year, what her renewed focus is, and what her plans are moving forward. She also shares some exciting news about a new family member joining her and her husband this coming January! Tune in the hear Brandi's newfound purpose, her journey with starting a family, the meaning behind the name they chose, and more. This is a good one!  Grab Brandi's free Self Care Advent Calendar by visiting the link in her Instagram bio! 24 days of self-care, starting December 1st. You can also drop in, say hi, and let her know what you'd love to hear next on Becoming Wildly Well. https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrandilea/

At some point in your life, you may find yourself asking yourself, “Why did this happen to me?” This was the case for Linda as she reached burnout after being in a long abusive relationship and an unhealthy work environment.  Today, Linda Martinez is a mindset coach who focuses on cultivating intuition, energy, and inner leadership within her clients. Her goal is to help women get back in the driver's seat of their lives. But it wasn't always this way.  Prior to becoming a coach, Linda had her own healing to do. She remembers feeling empty. Like something was missing. She felt like life was moving fast and she was being pushed in one direction, but also had no idea where she was headed. She developed chronic headaches, neck pain, and panic attacks. It was then that she knew something was wrong.  Tune in to hear Linda's healing journey, as well as how she helps women today.    Learn more about Linda: https://www.instagram.com/lindamartinez_o/ Connect with Brandi: https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrandilea/

Are you aware of your true feelings? If so, do you allow yourself to really FEEL them? Asking yourself questions like, why do I feel this way? Or, what have I done in the past week that may be bringing this up for me?  These are the questions to ask yourself in order to begin any healing process, as described by Britney Behenna.  Britney, owner of Native Roots Healing, is a certified Reiki Master, yoga instructor, holistic health coach, and soon-to-be doula who was transformed through her own spiritual healing journey.  In this episode, Britney dives into her personal story as well as how she helps women through their healing in the work she does today. She describes it as “guiding women back home to themselves”.    Connect with Britney online & learn more about the work she offers: https://www.instagram.com/nativerootshealing/ https://www.facebook.com/britney.benard Connect with Brandi: https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrandilea/

“Empathy without boundaries is self-destruction. Trauma is an explanation, not an excuse. ” - Emily Mick If you identify as an empath, there is so much beauty in that. You can feel and understand in ways that not everyone can. However, your gift can also be used against you. Something that Emily reminds us of in these powerful quotes.  Emily Mick is a licensed professional counselor and counselor candidate supervisor in private practice. She's passionate about mental health access, normalizing and destigmatizing mental health, and discussing issues related to individual experiences in business, relationships, and life. Emily was the victim of her own physiologically & emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist. Even as a therapist who knows all the signs, has all the tools and resources to recognize this form of abuse, she struggled to get out of the relationship because of denial, fear of abandonment, and attachment. She was afraid of what would happen if she left. She was fearful of being on her own. And gaslighting from her abusive partner forced her to doubt herself.  Now on the other side, Emily knows she's not the only person to have experienced this. Today, she shares her story along with examples of red flags that may help you identify abusiveness in your own relationship. If you know someone who could benefit from hearing Emily's experience and her advice as a trained professional, pass this episode along.    Connect with Emily online:  https://www.fourgrownasswomen.net/ Information about her practice can be found on Psychology Today  Connect with Brandi: https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrandilea/

Do you consistently feel unhappy, stressed, or anxious? It's time to check in with yourself. Too often, we don't notice how we feel within ourselves because we're so busy taking care of others. Once we can see and acknowledge what we are truly feeling, we can begin to make a change.  This is exactly what transformation coach Gabrielle Haili facilitates inside her coaching programs. Gabrielle faced years of sexual abuse from childhood into her own adult relationships. She tried everything and anything to numb the pain - she kept herself busy all the time with work and school, she struggled with substance abuse, she even considered suicide as a last resort. Through her own awakening, she realized it was time to heal.  Gabrielle found hope through the stories of others. Seeing other people go through traumas, work through them, and come out the other side happy showed her that it just might be possible for her too. Today, Gabrielle helps other women heal from their own lingering traumas through 1 on 1 coaching. Identifying triggers and thought loops, creating a feel-good list, establishing new habits, and learning how to listen to your intuition are just a few of the steps she walks her clients through to aid their healing process.    Connect with Gabrielle to learn more about her & the services she offers:  https://www.instagram.com/gabrielle.haili/ https://linktr.ee/Gabrielle.Haili Connect with Brandi: https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrandilea/

Reaching for the next action step without getting to the root of your thoughts won't give you different results. You'll find yourself stuck in the same loop, wanting to quit, unable to lose the weight, still unhappy and unfulfilled… just as Kiah did, until now.  Coach Kiah is a former cattle rancher turned life coach who grew up struggling with her weight. She says how obesity was her greatest curse - one she always felt victim to. It wasn't until one day, that a flight and Rachel Hollis' book, Girl Wash Your Face, changed everything. Kiah realized she had been playing victim to her weight, relationships, and unhappiness when in reality, it wasn't on anyone else but her to start making different choices for herself. This was the catalyst for her to turn her life around, lose 125 lbs, and start life coaching other women on how they could change their lives, too.  As more and more people saw Kiah's transformation, they wanted to know how she did it. They first reached out to her about weight loss, wanting the exact diet and recipe to success. But Kiah quickly realized that it was so much more than that. Weight loss isn't the only goal in creating a healthy, fulfilling lifestyle. Mental health is a huge priority as well. As Kiah teaches in her programs, mindset comes FIRST, so that when you do lose weight, you already know how to be happy and fulfilled.    Learn more about Kiah & connect!  https://www.instagram.com/coach_kiah/  https://www.facebook.com/coachkiah  https://www.coachkiah.com/ Connect with Brandi: https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrandilea/

She didn't care whether or not she woke up the next day. What do you do when you've hit rock bottom? For Krystal, it was an opportunity to start over. After years of trauma and abuse throughout her childhood, she finally asked herself why all these bad things had come into her life. She realized that she'd been put through these trials in order to help others in similar situations.   Krystal Marazzi, financial advisor and health & wellness coach, turned her life around by becoming aware of what was going on in her mental, emotional, and physical realities, and then taking things one step at a time.  It is never too late to make a change in your life. It's never too late to pursue a new mission. You get to start over whenever you want. Listen in to hear Krystal's story and how she was able to start over.    Say hi to Krystal on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/krys.marazzi  Connect with Brandi: https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrandilea/ 

Have you ever done something because someone else thought you should? Have you ever found yourself living more according to the opinions of others, rather than your own? This was exactly the case for Mandi Briggs, life coach, yoga teacher, and owner of The Collective, a co-working space for women.  After 3 years of marriage and 12 years total, Mandi realized she'd been living for “we” and had no idea how to be “me”. Despite her fears, she divorced her husband, quit her corporate job, and took a year to travel solo around the world. People voiced their opinions, telling her what she should and shouldn't do, whether she should get a divorce and travel or not. But Mandi learned to listen to just one important voice - hers.  People are often projecting when they give you their opinions, which is why it's so crucial to understand how to listen to your own intuition and inner guidance. Taking a big leap doesn't come without fear, but the fear is exactly what tells you it's big enough to push you outside your comfort zone and help you grow.  Tune in for the full episode to hear how Mandi changed her entire life and healed through turning inward.  Find Mandi online:  https://www.instagram.com/mandibriggs/  https://www.simplymandi.com/ Connect with Brandi: https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrandilea/

Learning the ins and outs of motherhood isn't the only thing Angela has been learning to navigate as a new mom. She has also spent her time recovering from domestic abuse and ovarian cancer. Today, helping other women is how she's able to help herself continue through the healing process.  It was tough to get to where she is today, especially with gaslighting being so common. Angela learned to fight against gaslighting by becoming extremely deliberate in her actions. She made a habit of writing down exactly what she was feeling in those tough moments so that she'd be able to come back to them later. Having it written down removed the chance of her feelings being invalidated. If you're going through something similar, Angela's best advice is to ask for help. You can't do this alone. Allow yourself space to process your emotions. Give yourself 30 minutes a day to break down! Feeling and processing your emotions is a major step to healing. Not every day is great, but eventually, you'll be able to see how worth it that first step was.  Angela is in the works of creating a YouTube channel to support women who have been through abuse! Stay tuned.  Connect with Brandi: https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrandilea/

Living life as a transgender woman in Oklahoma, Bridgett Loftiss has faced many struggles on her way to becoming her most authentic self. From 4 years old, Bridgett knew she was different. She remembers going to a costume store with her mom to pick out a Halloween costume and immediately choosing a Wonder Woman outfit. Despite her knowing this innate difference within her, there were no resources and no support for her to begin to understand it.  Now, over 40 years later, Bridgett is finally living into her true self. She is committed to understanding the biology and psychology behind what makes her different. She hopes that by living truthfully, it can encourage other transgender individuals to do the same.  Bridgett notes how people are allowed to tattoo their bodies, get breast implants, or take testosterone to change their image to look and feel the way that makes them feel best. Transgender is really no different. Stepping into this authenticity, Bridgett wants us to know that she's not choosing to “be brave”. She's choosing to live. Tune in to hear Bridgett's full story.    Connect with Bridgett online:  https://www.instagram.com/dustbowltough/ https://www.instagram.com/bridgettloftiss/ Connect with Brandi: https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrandilea/

Sarah Bendure's career as a Lactation Consultant was spurred on by her experience of becoming a mom at 17 years old. When she was in the hospital after giving birth, the nurses were rude. They were condescending and ignored her. Sarah spent her first night in the hospital in tears because they were so mean. This experience led her to want to become a nurse to make sure this never happened to anyone else. Eventually, her nursing career turned into her launching her Lactation Consulting practice.  As the daughter of a pastor and one of nine children, Sarah learned quickly that the world holds expectations and preconceptions about people. She discovered that you have to stand up for yourself, do the work to heal both yourself and your relationships, and find your purpose outside of what others think. In Sarah's words, “Just be you, and that's enough.”  Connect with Sarah & learn more about Ally Lactation: https://allylactation.com https://www.instagram.com/allylactation/  Follow along with Brandi: https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrandilea/

When you think of long-lasting relationships, does the word ‘compromise' come to mind? Katie Harris would say yes, but she would then tell you how she disagrees with the idea of it. Compromise so often looks like one person winning and one person losing. Someone gets what they want, while the other has to suck it up. What if there was a better way?  Katie's parents divorced when she was young. Her mother also struggled with addiction. As a result of the conflict she so often witnessed, she learned to people-please in order to avoid it as much as possible. For years Katie thought of herself as being great at communication. It wasn't until she got married that she realized she was actually just really good at keeping conflict at bay. She had become terrified of conflict and viewed it as relationship ruining.  This was when Katie decided to stop running away. She saw the need to learn about the purpose of conflict, healthy communication, and conflict resolution skills in order to create a strong, intimate relationship with her partner.  Tune in to hear the steps Katie took to take her from people-pleaser to couples coach. Connect with Katie online and learn about the proactive work you can do as a couple.  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katieallenharris/  Podcast: The Teammates Podcast     Connect with Brandi: https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrandilea/ 

In a field where the number of men FAR outweighs the number of women, Dawn Rohrs has had to learn a lot in order to get to where she is today. For the majority of her career as a Drilling Engineer, being a woman in a field of men hasn't been an issue. The men she works with support her and back her up when she needs it. However, there are times where she's dealt with discrimination - men assuming she must be a man when emailing her, thinking she's the receptionist or the caterer, men refusing to shake her hand, refusing to listen to her in a meeting to the point where they had to have someone translate to get the point across (even though they were all speaking the same language!).  While these occurrences are infuriating, Dawn has learned to shrug them off, largely because it's not worth her energy and she knows she's amazing at her job! Although she admits that when other men learn she's actually the one in charge, it's pretty satisfying to see the look on their faces.  As someone with ADHD, Dawn has also learned how to make this into her strength, rather than her struggle. While there are daily challenges, she loves her unique ability to multitask and remember very specific things. She may get distracted daydreaming, tap her leg, and hyper-focus on certain things... but she firmly believes that her ADHD allows her unique skills and makes her great at all that she does.   Tune in to hear Dawn share on owning your power, finding a seat at a table of men, sharing in your successes, and not letting people define who you're going to be based on what you've been through.    Find Dawn on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/d_rohrs/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DawnRohrs  Connect with Brandi: https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrandilea/

“When you're living in survivor mode, you put up so many walls around you, that it's not other people holding you back, it's yourself.” These are the words Jessica shared with Brandi as she reflected on how her healing couldn't begin until she finally owned the trauma she had been through.  Jessica Fitzpatrick has spent the past few years working on her own healing from sexual assault and miscarriage trauma, while helping other women feel encouraged to do the same. “Becoming Jess” is the blog she started to not only tell her story, but to share what the journey truly looks like - the good days AND the bad days. She has found that this is what so many others need to hear to know that they are not alone and they can get better, too.  Healing from trauma is not linear. Jess has good days and bad days. She held in what had happened to her for a long time. Eventually, she realized she was holding herself back by not verbalizing her trauma. Her healing journey truly began the day she told her husband what had happened to her. Therapy, medication, and a CrossFit gym membership have all played integral parts in her journey as well.   Find Jess on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/becoming_jess/ Blog: https://becomingjess.net/  Connect with Brandi: https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrandilea/

Childhood trauma, her parent's brutal divorce, and two miscarriages left Ashley St.Clair feeling broken, depressed, and even guilty. But these things have also helped shape her into the strong woman, mother, wife, and business owner she is today.  She says how those traumas taught her so much. Ashley knew that so many women had similar stories as her, yet it felt like no one was talking about it. This led her to her passion for supporting and building up other women through boudoir photography. She saw the need for women to be given the opportunity to rediscover themselves, to feel beautiful and sexy, to feel empowered and confident again.  Along with her photography, Ashley created a Facebook community specifically for women to come and support, listen to, and love on each other. What started as something so simple is creating massive ripple effects. These women, along with Ashley, are truly beginning to heal.  What does this work look like? What does it mean to heal? Ashley says this work starts within. We carry so much on our shoulders. We hold on to what people say and think about us. But the only opinion that matters is YOURS. Tune in to hear Ashley's whole story and how you, too, can begin your healing journey.  Two books that Ashley and Brandi recommend are The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck, and The Big Leap.  Get ready for Ashley's LIVE Women's Event coming up on June 24th where Brandi will be speaking and coaching! Connect with Ashely on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashley_stclairphotography/  Check out her website: www.ashleystclairphoto.info  And her epic Facebook Group! Ashley St.Clair Photography's VIP Boudoir Group for FIERCE + BADASS Women: https://www.facebook.com/groups/714307142822371    Connect with Brandi: https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrandilea/

From mental illness and physical abuse, to drugs, loss, and death, intense trauma has surrounded Amanda Graves for many years of her life.  *Trigger Warning* Please note that Amanda goes into vivid detail as she reflects on her life and shares her stories around the subjects listed above.  Amanda also shares how she was able to heal. She recalls how she so badly craved love from her parents over the years, but she realized that she didn't yet love herself. She says, “If you don't use yourself to love yourself, how can you love anyone else?. Those who are meant to love you, will. You don't have to chase it.” If you or someone you love is currently facing a similar battle, Amanda wants you to know this: It has to get hard before it gets easier - that's how you heal. Healing will lead you to a joy you've never felt before. It's a high you won't get from anywhere else.  She reminds us of the power of connection and that healing is not something you have to do alone. There are people out there to help you heal. People that have stories of their own. You are NOT alone in this. You don't have to stay trapped in your story. And by telling your story, you begin to heal.  Connect with Amanda on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/amanda.d.graves and Instagram https://www.instagram.com/msadgraves/  Connect with Brandi: https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrandilea/ 

Colleen O'Hara just turned 38, which is incredible because she didn't think she would even make it to 30. With an eating disorder diagnosis at age 10, prescription drugs for ADHD and anxiety turned drug addiction in college, her mother's death, followed by her brother's death from overdose, it's evident that Colleen has faced many battles. She acknowledges that at one point, it just felt like one thing after the next. After years of being in and out of recovery centers with little success, Colleen had finally had enough. She was sick and tired of being sick and tired. She was finally ready to heal. The process took nearly six years, and although Colleen is still healing to this very day, she feels like a completely different person now. Today, it's a totally new life for Colleen, and in her words, “it's awesome”. Tune in to hear Colleen's story of how she went from “surviving to thriving” and the advice she has to help you or a loved one do the same. If you're someone who's struggling to heal in your own life, Colleen wants you to know this: If she can heal, anyone can. You're here for a bigger purpose. Keep going. “We're not here to work, sleep, and eat. We're here to make a difference”. Connect with Colleen on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cohar83/  Follow along with me: https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrandilea/

Overthinking, perfectionism, people-pleasing… these things have so often taken control of us without even realizing it. In this episode, Kayla Roge shares how her journey to self-awareness and authenticity included getting real about her perfectionist tendencies. She opens up on her struggles with anxiety and depression and acknowledges how therapy, support from her partner, and hearing the stories of others were some of the biggest factors in helping her heal. While these are the methods that worked for Kayla, she recognizes that everyone is different. What works for her might not work for you. And that's okay. Your work is to figure out what does. Because if your energetic bank account is at zero, you burn out! Tune in to learn more about finding your “secret sauce” and how to stop letting overthinking get in the way. Connect with Kayla on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kayla_roge/ Listen to her podcast: Overthinking With Kayla  Follow along with me: https://www.instagram.com/becomingbrandilea/

This episode is both light hearted and extremely vulnerable. We talk about how our past creates habits and thoughts that don't serve us but the beauty of being able to explore new thoughts and better results. When your back is against the wall, you choose to sink or swim. 

In this episode we talk all things energy. From how to create a foundational routine to create energy, how to guard your energy and how to live a more fulfilled life through taking small sustainable steps that add up to achieving big results. 

The journey of Becoming Wildly Well is about prioritizing mind, body and soul. Listen to Kaley Swanson discuss how she prioritized her health journey by treating the cause instead of symptoms of her brain fog. 

Listen in as we discuss creating our emotional home within. Don't let the world keep you from feeling how you want to feel now... your vision board is great but what if we convinced you that you could FEEL it NOW before reaching that next big goal or getting the next shiny thing. 

It's the holiday season. There can be so much to do, so many gifts to buy, so much to think about, so many difficult family members, hard times for so many... it all starts stacking up and can be absolutely overwhelming. This episode I give you tips to finding peace and overcoming overwhelm during this season. 

From surviving domestic abuse to recording a documentary, this mama is ready to tell her story to help others use their voice and step out of their pain. A message of hope and help is here.  If you need immediate help call: 1- 800-273-8255 or your local 211 mental health support line.  Connect with NAMI- https://nami.org/Home

Are you ready to hear an incredible story of transformation? From working in a 6 figure corporate career while being unhappy and over weight to a woman that is now training to be a ninja warrior. Tune in for an inspiring story on how to find your inner ninja warrior. It's already within you! 

Listen to this episode to learn how to overcome adversity, start healing and to grow in your career! 

Are you choosing to go within or to stay without? What's on the other side of the choice to heal? 

The first episode of Becoming Wildly Well is sure to shine light on vulnerability and accepting your hurt so you can heal and work on becoming the best version of you!