Climbing Henge Podcast

On this episode of the podcast we explore the phenomena whereby women attempt to control and domesticate their male partner. We first explore the reason why this happens. We then talk about the techniques that women use to control men. Then finally, we talk about the methods you can use to reduce her attempts to control you. You 

In this episode of the podcast we explore the “double bind,” or impossibly to win situations. First, we describe and define what the double bind is and how it works. Next we describe the profile of people that tend to do this and why they do it. And finally, we describe how you can use the AEP^2 (Accept -Empathy - Pivot - Proactive) method to deal with this situation successfully. 

On this episode of the podcast we are going to describe and review the concept of psychological entitlement. First, we define psychological entitlement so we can understand it. Second, we talk about how entitlement evolves as a defensive mechanism. And finally, we describe a three step method  you can use to move your partner from entitled to healthy and constructive. 

On this episode of the we explore the phenomena of amygdala hijack. Amygdala hijack os entered into when a person experiences some form of threat to their self autonomy. The threat could be non acceptance by another of their emotional state, or a threat to their emotional well being. A state of amygdala hikack then suppresses the persons congnition, memory and other emotions. 

On this episode of the podcast we introduce the Force Powers AEP method. In this case AEP stands for Acceptance - Empathy - Pivot. On the podcast we first give a brief background on the power of Acceptance and Empathy and how they activate “reward” in the brain. Second, we articulate the AEP method. And finally, we go through several examples to illustrate how the method is used.

On this episode of the podcast we explore the nature of the unconscious mind. First, we explore and describe the nature of the unconscious mind and how it drives human behavior, motivations and goals. Then we describe 9 Force Powers that affect the unconscious mind in order to motivate another person to “move” towards you and be more attracted, trusting and safe.   

On this episode of the podcast we discuss and describe the concept of expectations. Basically, when someone rejects you they will expect your behavior to be negative. We can hack this mind / body process by exceeding their expectations. If we do exceed their expectations, they experience a feeling of being “rewarded” as dopamine is secreted into their body. On this podcast we describe a three step process by which you can hack another persons expectations whereby you become the reward. 

On this episode of the podcast we provide a model whereby you flow from empathy into mission seamlessly. But first, we go back 70,000 years to describe male and female mating behaviors. From those behaviors we can see how modern day mating behaviors have evolved. Knowing how these behaviors have become innate allows us to understand and evolve to a better place. We can do this by using the empathy (first) into mission model of the flowing of the masculine and feminine. 

Famous psycho analyst Carl Jung speaks of the Anima and Animus, or the masculine and feminine energies which exist inside all. On this podcast we first work to understand this concept. And then we discuss how behaviors and hormones change and enhance each other. Finally, we discuss methods by which you can harmonize these energies within you to achieve a balance.

On this episode of the podcast we explore the secrets of female sexual desire and lovemaking. First, we look at the research that tells us that female sexual desire declines more rapidly for females than men in marriage. We then review the research on female sexual fantasies to understand what they truly desire. Next, we explore the female's need for their partners to truly love and appreciate their bodies. And finally, we put it all together so that you can use and exploit this information and unleash your partners desires. 

Women will sabotage relationships due to a number of reasons. Relationship self sabotage is fundamentally about protecting the self from harm. In this episode of the podcast we first explain what relationship sabotage is and give examples. We then give first hand accounts from women with regards to why they sabotage. We then describe how you work to negate this sabotage by becoming the fox. 

On this episode of the podcast we explore the idea of the “perfect date.” First, we explore the research on dates to better understand how females evaluate dates and what they are looking for in terms of cues, interest / attraction levels and conversation. The w e go through the specific actions that you want to execute in order for your date to feel desired, safe, special and that she's having fun.

On this episode of the podcast we explore and define empathy. First, we give some background research on empathy to understand what it is and how it works. We then go through different models to explain how to use it. And we finish off with exercises you can do to improve your empathy. 

The red fox is cunning and full of deception and guile. The fox is able to capture a carrion as a meal by “playing” dead. You too must learn the skills and the are of playing “dead” in order to reunite with the woman you love after a severe breakup. On this episode of the podcast we describe the three core reasons you can't get your partner back using “direct” actions. And then we describe what exactly you need to do in order to play “dead” and enact your plans. You must become the fox. The dead fox. 

No woman is simply going to give you a map to her heart. You can forget about that ever happening. Instead, you must understand what the map to her heart looks like and learn to successfully navigate the storms and waves. In this episode of the podcast we describe 6 key things that you need to navigate on the map in order to have a loving and intimate Union. 

On this episode of the podcast we explore the idea that the partner in a relationship must portray and act in a manner that personifies the captain of the ship. We describe five dimension in which the masculine partner acts as the captain of the ship. First and foremost, the captain's duty is the safety of the crew and passengers (your partner, wife, girlfriend, etc). If you lose sight of this when adversity and rejection hit, it's highly likely your female partner will lose trust and love for you.

We talk about the waves and storms of the feminine. David Deida talks about the “layers of wilderness” of the female. But what exactly drives these storms? On this episode of the podcast we describe and articulate how female hormone levels go up and down in cycles. The first cycle is the monthly menstrual cycle. Later in life it's the menopausal cycle. During these cycles estrogen, testosterone and progesterone swing up and down. These changes affect moods, emotions and behavior. Knowing these cycles allows us to understand and offer a “safe harbor” for our partners. 

On this episode of the podcast we explore the situation of when a relationship ends and your partner is “out of control” and behaving in manic ways. We often call this “escaping” and “rebounding.” It turns out that specific types of stress actually trigger bouts of hypomania and mania. On this podcast we first define hypomania / mania. We then describe the types of stress that trigger mania. We discuss how mania works. And then we walk through case studies and illustrate how to handle this. 

Hostility and arguments often start when one person feels slighted / hurt or disrespected. And that hostility is usually returned by the recipient -‘d an argument ensues. In this episode of the podcast we work through a 4 Step Conflict Resolution model that allows us to de-escalate the situation and move onto problem solving. 

On this episode of the podcast we explore the ideas of “being heard” and acceptance. We first define “acceptance” and then we hi-light the research as to why it's so important for a woman to feel heard and accepted. We then describe how to make your partner feel heard and accepted using both non-verbal and verbal methods. Finally, we walk through four scenarios and demonstrate how to be fully accepting in how your partner feels.

On this episode of the podcast we focus why your partner / ex won't simply let you just walk up the mountain to become a free and loving person. First we describe the three reasons why she won't let you just walk up the mountain. Then we describe how to handle her challenges and provocations as you climb the mountain to become a superior free and loving man or woman. 

Feeling a “loss of control” in your life can be debilitating and the cause of adverse health events. Divorce, separation, break up and job loss are all likely to a feeling of “loss of control.” On this episode of the podcast we first explain the negative mental and body health impact of perceived loss of control. We then explain how the power of your written words allows you to gain perceived control. Finally, we describe a method of reflective journaling you can use to take back control. 

In this episode of the podcast we first define flirting and discuss why the ambiguity and vagueness of flirting is especially important to woman. Second, we discuss female body language that signals she's interested in you. Third, we describe the male body langue that females are attracted to. And finally we discuss the nature of “touch” and how it can be used in the flirting process. 

“You have to make your reality whereby only you and the fish exist.” What are we talking about here? What we want to do is eliminate unnecessary distractions that cause us to self sabotage and experience failure. On this podcast we first describe three types of irrelevant distractions that cause failure. Then we describe four methods you can use to eliminate distractions and increase your focus. 

On this episode of the podcast we describe that art of Terraforming! Radiating positive energy in your environment and positively impacting those around you. First we describe what terraforming is, then we describe the process by which emotions act as a contagion influencing the moods and the emotions of everyone we encounter. You can radiate positive energy everyday and essentially act as a magnet and draw people to you. 

On this episode we explore and describe the science of rejection. First we describe how being rejected impacts the body from a physiological and neurological perspective. Then we walk through Three steps you can undertake to lessen the blow of rejection and use it as positive event.   

In this episode of the podcast we explore and define the psychological phenomena known as “cognitive dissonance.” First, we define cognitive dissonance from a psychological perspective. Then we describe and give examples of how it surfaces in relationships and breakups. Third, we describe and articulate the strategies you use when your partner / ex is behaving in ways that align with cognitive dissonance. 

Provocative language can be hurtful, upsetting and disorientating. If you’re not prepared your responses to provocative language will likely worsen an already bad situation. In this podcast we walk through some of the well worn statements heard in relationships. We then introduce a framework you can use to develop persuasive responses to provocative statements. Finally, we give examples using this framework. 

Do women really love to punish the men that hurt and anger them within the context of a relationship? If you’ve emotionally hurt, angered Or disrespected the women you love, there’s a good chance she will punish you. On this episode of the podcast we explore why women love to punish men. We then explain why absorbing her punishment is key to her forgiveness. 

Many people ask, “what’s the plan” without having a clear understanding of what a “plan” is. In this podcast we describe the framework for a plan that has both a vision and objectives. The objectives are timeless and enduring and are vital in any relationship. You can learn and master these objectives to reunite and have a “Union of the Two” with the person that you love. 

Many people ask, “how do I sustain and muster the energy to keep going on when it seems so bleak?” The answer is that you must have a singular and committed purpose. To climb the mountain you must live that purpose. On this episode we define and describe what singular purpose is, and we describe exercises that you can practice to help you harness your singular purpose. General Zod has a singular purpose, for that there is no doubt. You can too. 

On this episode of the podcast we explore describe female communication styles. First, using academic research we describe both female and male dominant communication styles. In looking at that research it’s evident that women place great emphasis on connecting and feelings and being heard and understood. Using that knowledge we then describe a two step method for “Listening” to your partner. 

On this episode of the podcast we describe what it means to be a Free and Loving man / woman. We first define what “free and loving” means.  After that, we describe a guide / compass you can use to assess your “direction” in order to assess if your behavior is Free and Loving. Finally, we give some scenarios and examples to illustrate and highlight how we use this compass / guide on actual practice. 

On this episode of the podcast we explore and describe the science of social proof. Social proof is a psychological method whereby you can signal your value to others using specific mechanisms. On this episode we first define what social proof is. We then describe how and when to use it. And finally, we give examples to illustrate how it can be used. 

Men will often say that they want a girl “to miss me!” Or they might say they want a girl to “wonder about me.” What we want to do is harness the power of scarcity in order to create draw or attraction. On this episode of the podcast we define what scarcity is from both a psychological and physiological perspective. We then give examples of when and when not to use scarcity to create attraction. Then finally we walk through a few scenarios to illustrate how to effectively implement it. 

On this episode of the podcast we define and describe the nature of attraction on relationships. We first describe how attraction evolved from evolutionary forces. We then give a definition of attraction from a biological perspective. Then we define what “chemistry” is. And then we articulate the three dimensions of attraction: physical, structural / status and behavioral. 

On this episode of the podcast we explore the idea of fairness in relationships. First we explain the nature of relationships and why notions of “fair” don’t always apply. Second, we explore differences in male and female sensory awareness and how this affects notions of fairness. Third, we discuss the differences between masculine and feminine energy to understand why notions of fairness don’t apply to specific aspects of relationships. Finally, we give examples to illustrate specific behaviors that men say “aren’t fair.” 

On this episode of the podcast we explore how trauma and stress impact the functioning of the brain. Trauma and stress can cause long term damage to the brain which can have an impact on female behaviors over a life time. First we explore the types of trauma and stress that can cause damage. Then we discuss the resulting behaviors that can result from this trauma and stress. 

Why Needy Behavior is Disgusting To The Female. And why you as a man need to be aware of this, and take the necessary steps to curtail your excessive desire for affirmation and affection. 

In This Podcast We Explore The Nature Of Being “Unaffected” And Why It’s So Powerful. Unaffected Essentially Means That You Do Not React In Negative Ways To The Provocations And Test Of The Female. We Explore The Science Behind Being Unaffected And The Neurological Reasons It’s So Effective In Building Trust And Safety With The Female.

We often hear men state that, “shes playing games!”  The term “games” is used as a euphemism for manipulation. When men state that “she’s playing games,” they feel that the female is somehow manipulating them. In this podcast we first explain how use of words / terms impacts how we think and behave. As such, we want to be careful about the words (games) we use to describe things. In fact, we want to eliminate use of the phrase “she’s playing games.” Second, we review specific female behaviors that men classify as “games.” Third, we describe and articulate the nature of these female behaviors so that we fully understand them and don’t label them “games.”

On this episode of the Podcast we explore the myth of the “nice guy” who finishes last with girls. First, we define what “nice” means. Second, we review research in terms of what females are really attracted to in a man. Third, we describe the balance of male behaviors and attributes that a female needs in a man. And finally, we dispose of the “nice guy” label once and for all. 

All relationships have a balance of power. Sometimes one partner has more power than the other. In this podcast we first describe the sources of power in an intimate relationship. We then describe sources of power that are exclusive to the female. We then describe why a partner with more power will exhibit less pro relationship behaviors. And why the importance of having a balance of power in the relationship critical for long term relationship success. 

On this episode of the podcast we discuss how you should be thinking about how you spend time with your partner after a breakup / separation / divorce. After or during a breakup your partner is likely to have a negative emotional valence towards you. If they have a negative emotional valence towards you it’s likely they don’t want to spend a lot, or any time with you. We then discuss how you use positive interactions to move your partners emotional valence from negative to positive. And as you do that you slowly start to spend more time with her. 

Men feel the need for “respect” to a much higher degree than females. When a man feels his partner / wife is not respecting him it can cause the man to feel devalued and he can become angry or upset. On this episode of the podcast we explore the nature of respect in intimate relationships. First, we define what respect is. Second, we describe the “respect worthy” qualities that a mate uses to evaluate your respect worthiness. And finally, we give examples of scenarios that may make a man feel disrespected, and offer ways to deal with each effectively. 

Many men will say, “but my girl is different!” Meaning, she is somehow unique and different from all other women. And of course; every woman, and every human, is unique and different and a blessing. However, we need to understand the difference between personality and emotions. Personality and identity reside in the frontal cortex area of the brain. The frontal cortex is relatively new as far as human evolution (150,000 - 300,000 years old). Emotions are derived from the amygdala, which is more powerful and ancient (millions of years old). The amygdala gives emotions salience, or meaning. This podcast will explain the nature of emotions vs personality. 

Achieving long term goals can be difficult, especially when signs of success are not very apparent. At least not apparent to the inexperienced eye. As such, when you’re trying to reunite with an estranged wife or girlfriend, you need to understand how to increase goal commitment, and use strategies to persevere and increase mental toughness. On this podcast we first discuss how to increase goal commitment. The two most important factors in goal commitment are the “importance of the goal,” and your belief that you can “achieve the goal.” We tech you how to approach these two things. We then discuss the importance of observing changes in your partners behavior and how you should report this so you can understand that any changes may be signs of success. Finally, we describe methods to increase your emotional strength and mental toughness. 

Most men are threatened by their partners (wife, girlfriend, etc) use of their phone. The feeling of being threatened by her phone use usually results in either controlling (“you’re always on your phone!”) or needy behavior (“I wish you gave me more time, you’re always in your phone.”) Both of these behaviors weaken the man and make the female feel less comfortable. On this podcast we will describe the specific steps and mindset you need in order to deal with your partners phone usage. 

Males have a “lock in” orientation, whereas females have an “Options Open” orientation. On this episode of the podcast we describe what an “options open” orientation is, any why females are embedded with this from a purely biological and reproductive standpoint. We then share some statistics on this, and what contributes to a female having a greater “Options Open” orientation. We then share how you as the partner of a female need to accept this and how you decrease a females “Options Open” orientation through positive behaviors and actions.

Many men will often say, “I don’t know if I can trust her!”  This is the wrong thing to say. As the masculine partner in the relationship your role is to lead. That means you behave in specific ways that allow your partner to feel safe and have trust in you. On this podcast we explore three dimensions of trust. We first explore cognitive trust, which is about your competency and reliability. We then explore affective trust, which deals with benevolence and care and understanding. And finally, we deal with behavioral trust, which is the embodiment of all you say and do. You must learn to behave in trusting ways and this podcast will guide you in doing that.