Divorce Cowboy

Disagreement can turn into conflict. In this episode I'll share a way to minimise the conflict, by using "Tactical Empathy" (From Chris Voss). For more visit: https://www.divorcecowboy.com.au/

In this episode I'm talking with Billy, my co-parent about what has worked for us and how we do life. Hi, I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach.

Men are often shocked by the separation. It's because we're living in a world with a false narrative teaching men to be "Male Mules". Hi, I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach.

70%-80% of separations are initiated by women. Here's my take on why. Hi, I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach.

How do you risk manage a separation, and what are anchor statements. Hi, I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach.

A few years ago I was going through separation. One of the things I've tried was equine therapy. Guess I liked it as now I'm an equine therapist. Hi, I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach.

I share another piece of my journal from June 2020 (Said May in the recording) . How angry and sad I feel. Still on the emotional rollercoaster. Appreciating what I've achieved and how far I came in the last 4 years. I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

I share another piece of my journal from May 2020. How I communicated my boundaries, changed my people pleasing default and found I'm good enough. I'm Tamir Berkman, a relationship and separation coach for men.

Daniel shares his journey and experience in my program, including: 1. How he was when we first met. 2. What it takes to succeed in the program. 3. Where he's now. My name is Tamir Berkman and I'm a relationship and separation coach for men.

Me having enough. Taking ownership. Creating boundaries. Done with people pleasing. My name is Tamir Berkman and I'm a relationship and separation coach for men.

Covid time is bringing me to think about my boundaries. I start thinking about my future and develop an understanding of self-care. My name is Tamir Berkman and I'm a relationship and separation coach for men.

First connection/date brings up some questions about my ex. How much am I still connected to her? What will I do if she find someone? My name is Tamir Berkman and I'm a relationship and separation coach for men.

Separation was the most challenging thing I've ever went through. It was also one of the biggest gifts I've recived. My name is Tamir Berkman and I'm a relationship and separation coach for men.

Lawrence shares his journey and experience in my program, going from lost to clear, from pain to gratitude, from sadness to excitement in 7 weeks. It was a pleasure working with you mate, great to chat and all the best! My name is Tamir Berkman and I'm a relationship and separation coach for men.

Clear communication is essential for an healthy separation. Check your ego, emotions and listening skills. Whenever you're ready, here are 3 ways I can support you:

Expanding on Identity crisis, anger, fight or flight, three pain points of separation, three stages of the work. Whenever you're ready, here are 3 ways I can support you:

Here's how I found my freedom, my abundance and my momentum. Whenever you're ready, here are 3 ways I can support you:

The ManKind Project (MKP) is a global brotherhood of nonprofit/charitable organizations that conduct challenging and highly rewarding programs for men at every stage of life. https://mankindproject.org/ Whenever you're ready, here are 3 ways I can support you:

How do I start voicing my wants and needs? How do I talk about my emotions? Here's a script. Whenever you're ready, here are 3 ways I can support you:

The truth is that money is just an excuse. Most men that need support are not doing it because they don't put themselves as a priortiy. Whenever you're ready, here are 3 ways I can support you:

In this episode: Separation is an emotional challenge. As a man you were taught out of your emotions. Emotions, are guides and working with them is life chancing. The pain points of separation: #1 Emotional rollercoaster. #2 Drain of drama. #3 Identity crisis. 70% of separations are initiated by women. Understanding the grief cycle. Whenever you're ready, here are 3 ways I can support you:

Hold your beliefs in court and ask for evidence: are they really true or false? Use Socratic questioning to expose and unravel deeply held values and beliefs that frame and support what we think and say. Whenever you're ready, here are 3 ways I can support you:

1. Denial 2. Anger 3. Acceptance 4. Responsibility 5. Growth 6. Forgiveness 7. Self love Whenever you're ready, here are 3 ways I can support you:

By asking myself: Does it serve me? What is the feeling? What is the thought? What is the opposite from these feelings and thoughts? Whenever you're ready, here are 3 ways I can support you:

What is your mission? What are your values? Whenever you're ready, here are 3 ways I can support you:

The three main pain points of separation are: 1. The emotional rollercoaster 2. The blame game 3. The identity crisis Whenever you're ready, here are 3 ways I can support you:

Men support and empowerment: MKP Man Kind Project: https://mankindproject.org/ MKP Man Kind Project Australia: https://mankindproject.org.au/ Whenever you're ready, here are 3 ways I can support you:

Things I mention in this episode: Book: Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends Men support and empowerment: MKP Man Kind Project: https://mankindproject.org/ MKP Man Kind Project Australia: https://mankindproject.org.au/ Want more? Check out my website.

Four years ago, I was sitting with my fear. Here's what I wrote… Want more? Want more? Check out my website.

1. Awareness 2. Work 3. Physical change Want more? Want more? Check out my website.

Why we believe that we're right even when being "right" isn't what we need, what does it rally mean to "put your kids first", and what's the biggest advice for dads? In this episode, Andy Heller , a successful businessman, talks about his separation story and the book that came after: Take the High Road. Andy Heller is not a divorce professional such as a divorce attorney, mediator, therapist, co-parenting counselor, or the host of other professionals that support and service those going through divorce. Among his professional accomplishments, Andy co-authored two best selling real estate investment books in the 2000s. While the books were well received, Andy had no interest in writing another book. That decision changed after his own divorce. While navigating through his own divorce Andy read countless support books to help him navigate through the process. While helpful, Andy identified a crucial hole in the self-help space for men and women navigating through divorce. Andy's book “Take the High Road, Divorce with Compassion for Yourself and Your Family” is his give back with a stated goal of making the divorce process easier for those who are considering or who are on the divorce path. Several factors make his book truly groundbreaking. First, Andy brings a businessman's objective perspective into his counsel. Andy interviewed attorneys, divorcees, therapists, co-parenting counselors, mediators, special masters, and others to arrive at advice and guidance from the leading industry experts. Andy presents the guidance in 46 strategies, tools, and tips that armed with the experience and counsel of these experts, the readers can themselves, hopefully their former spouses, and most importantly their children land in a healthier place in the months and years after the conclusion of their divorces. Shortly after the launch of his book Andy was asked what he is most proud of upon releasing his book. Andy highlighted the varied glaring reviews from other divorce book authors and expert therapists that serve the divorce community. Such accolades and reviews validated the 8-year project and hours of research that went into the creation of “Take the High Road, Divorce with Compassion for Yourself and Your Family”.

What's it like "being on the fence", why we believe "others have it all" and being single after separation. In this episode, James Grima , a Life and Business Coach for Men, talks about his personal story through separation. In a genuine, revealing and accurate way, James paints a picture of what's it like being the one initiating the divorce, what was the process he went through before making the decision and why he finally made the choice to leave. Another separation story, showing courage through vulnerability. Why Divorce Cowboy? A cowboy is a man who gets thrown off, gets up, and tries again. Every man who survived separation is a divorce cowboy. Are you that man?

In this episode, John Oliffe, Professor and Canada Research Chair in Men's Health Promotion at The University of British Columbia, talks about the insights from his latest research into men and relationships. Talking with hundreds of men that experienced divorce and separation, and listening to practitioners that are involved in this field, John shares insights, anecdotes and his own reflections. A must listen to any men who wants to know more about how men do relationships.

In this episode, Gabby McDonald, a divorce coach, and a practitioner at Simple Separation, explains what a divorce coach is, what is the process of working with a divorce coach and why it's so important to self development an future growth. Please check out the website: https://www.simple-separation.com.au/ Or email: gabbydmcdonald@gmail.com Hope you enjoy our conversation. The Divorce Cowboy Podcast is available on Spotify and Apple. open.spotify.com/episode/5thGH3iaqC2zwEiPfLN5Ew Spotify podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/divorce-cowboy/id1579280136 Apple #separation #divorce #mental health

There's a better way to separate!

When first going through separation it's easy to fall into thinking there's only one way to go about it. In this episode, Alina Kleiman from Bayside Mediation explains about the mediation process, the mindset required and why it's better for everyone, especially the kids! Alina is helping couples separate amicably, evolve the relationship and establish a good co-parenting routine. Please check out their website - https://baysidemediation.com.au/ Hope you enjoy our conversation. The Divorce Cowboy Podcast is available on Spotify and iTunes. open.spotify.com/episode/5thGH3iaqC2zwEiPfLN5Ew (Divorce Cowboy podcast Spotify) podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/divorce-cowboy/id1579280136 (Divorce Cowboy podcast Apple) #separation #divorce #mental health

A cowboy is someone who falls down, gets up and tries again. The men I interview decided to survive, overcome and thrive after separation, making all of them divorce cowboys. Are you going through a separation? Download your free Separation Survival Guide: https://www.divorcecowboy.com.au/ Would you like to chat, ask a question, collaborate or be a guest on the show? Email: tamir@divorcecowboy.com.au

A cowboy is someone who falls down, gets up and tries again. The men I interview decided to survive, overcome and thrive after separation, making all of them divorce cowboys. Are you going through a separation? Download your free Separation Survival Guide: https://www.divorcecowboy.com.au/ Would you like to chat, ask a question, collaborate or be a guest on the show? Email: tamir@divorcecowboy.com.au Book mentioned in this episode: Wired for Love : How Understanding Your Partner's Brain Can Help You Defuse Conflicts and Spark Intimacy - By Stan Tatkin

MKP (The ManKind Project) is a significant part of my life. During my separation I found this organisation, it's programs and men circles to be so valuable, it became my "church" - A place where I go to share, hold space, grow and be inspired. The experiences and men I have met there changed my life. I was honoured to speak with my friend Peter Lustig, who is shedding some light on what's happening inside the circles, every week. I hope many men will find this episode useful. Links mentioned in this episode: Man Kind Project Australia: https://mankindproject.org.au/ Peter's email: psl@peterslustig.net Are you going through a separation? Download your free Separation Survival Guide: https://www.divorcecowboy.com.au/ Would you like to chat, ask a question, collaborate or be a guest on the show? Email: tamir@divorcecowboy.com.au

A cowboy is someone who falls down, gets up and tries again. The men I interview decided to survive, overcome and thrive after separation, making all of them divorce cowboys. Are you going through a separation? Download your free Separation Survival Guide: https://www.divorcecowboy.com.au/ Would you like to chat, ask a question, collaborate or be a guest on the show? Email: tamir@divorcecowboy.com.au Links mentioned in this episode: Men thriving after separation FB support group https://www.facebook.com/groups/menthrivingafterseparation

Download The Separation Survival Guide for FREE: https://www.divorcecowboy.com.au/ This episode is a step by step walkthrough of The Separation Survival Guide which includes: 1. Learn to identify and deal with your emotions. 2. Ask for support and be ok with being vulnerable. 3. Become aware of your escaping and coping actions. 4. Reshape your identity. 5. Stop victimising yourself and blaming others. 6. Learn techniques to achieve calmness and inner peace. 7. Learn to Love Yourself Again.

These are the stories of men that overcame separation, divorce and break up. It is meant to serve as an inspiration, documenting the emotions, vulnerability and truth. For more information please visit: www.divorcecowboy.com.au

These are the stories of men that overcame separation, divorce and break up. It is meant to serve as an inspiration, documenting the emotions, vulnerability and truth. For more information please visit: www.divorcecowboy.com.au For more info about the collaborative separation process and Peter's work please visit: https://peterslustig.net/

These are the stories of men that overcame separation, divorce and break up. It is meant to serve as an inspiration and to document these men emotions, vulnerability and truth. For more information please visit: www.divorcecowboy.com.au