Secure Marriage Podcast

Want to work on having a happier marriage while enjoying the beautiful blue waters and white sandy beaches of the Caribbean? Listen in on the conversations from the couples who went on our 2024 Secure Marriage Cruise and hear how their marriages have changed for the better.

Ever had to make a decision which is guaranteed to make at least one person angry, and there's absolutely nothing you can do to get out of it? On today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we'll give you crystal clear instructions on what to do if your friend tells you they're having an affair, […]

What are you supposed to think (or do)when you've told your husband for years that you want to be celebrated on your birthday, and he still completely forgets or does lame last-minute things? That's what we're tackling on today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast. P.S. We're also taking a painful walk down memory lane […]

Do you know how to get emotionally reconnected after a fight? In today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we'll walk you through the secret recipe you need to know that will make your wife's heart melt with love and affection.

We understand that you get frustrated with your wife and kids at times. But losing control and blowing up on your family does damage that can last for years. In today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we'll look at why losing your temper is actually causing more problems than it's solving, and the two […]

If you spend a lot of time beating yourself up internally, chances are you're pretty critical of everyone else around you, including your spouse.  On today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we're exploring how shame becomes a toxic element in your relationship and why it's important to become the healthiest version of yourself.

Remember the last time you or your spouse blew up in anger during a fight? Remember what they said and how they acted. Now imagine the same fight except without the blow up. How would things have gone differently? How would it have felt. In today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we're introducing you […]

Shannon and I have committed to doing planks everyday of 2024. So far, we've kept our promise despite being sick for the first two weeks of the year. So what does this have to do with marriage? You'll have to listen to today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast to find out.

Husbands… have you ever woken up and the first thing you realize is, your wife's really mad at you? Welcome to my world today.  In today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we're inviting you into our humor-filled morning of a wife who didn't get enough sleep. Buckle up!

It's Christmas Day on the podcast, and out of the goodness of our hearts, we'll share with you the RIGHT way to pick a Christmas Tree… which obviously is Shannon's way.

At some point in your marriage, you've probably said (either verbally or internally), “We're sooooo in love!” And I have no doubt that this was (and maybe still is) true. But being in love will never be enough to have a healthy and secure Marriage. “Why?” I'm so glad you asked. That's what we're covering […]

When your spouse starts sharing the intimate details of your relationship with other people, it can feel like a major betrayal. It can hurt even more when you find out those other people are extended family members, On today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we're exploring the options you have as you work through […]

In today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we're challenging the belief that dating others can inherently strengthen a committed relationship or marriage. We'll shed light on the emotional risks and potential damage it will inflict on the foundation of love and trust.

If you truly want to be heard whenever you speak, you need make sure your nonverbal communication (posture, attitude, tone, and timing) isn't sabotaging your message. In today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, you'll learn why HOW you say things says more about WHAT you're saying than the actual words you use.

When things are getting bad in your relationship, where's the line between continuing to fight for the relationship and calling it quits? In today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we'll attempt to answer this difficult question as well as explore one of the deeper issues that lead to this question in the first place.

It's pretty difficult to find resolution when your spouse is trying to avoid any conversation about the topic. It usually leads to frustration, disappointment, and eventually discouragement. Instead of getting mad, in today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we want to help you understand why they're withdrawing and show you a better way to […]

It's been a hard week at our house this week. Shannon went through an experience that scared the crap out of me, and my response, as I tried to care for her, was to yell at her. Yes, we know it doesn't make sense, but in a backwards sort of way, it does. If you […]

On today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we're going to listen and respond to one the best answers to this question we've ever heard. It's honest. It's clear. It's blunt. And, it's also the truth. Thanks to @discovergrace and @pastormikeadkins on IG for the 30 second clip you're going to listen to today.

When your spouse is doing something that's bugging you, the first (and most natural) thing your survival brain tells you to do is to tell them what they're doing wrong. Of course, you expect they'll be ever-so-grateful that you told them how wrong they were because, after all, you were just trying to be helpful. […]

What do you do when your husband, who is genuinely loving and kind most of the time, admits he finds other women attractive? In today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we'll show you how to navigate the variety of confusing feelings and learn how to respond in an appropriate manner.

Realizing you've been a less-than-stellar husband to your wife?. On today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we explore the journey of self-discovery and self-improvement when you've finally woken up to your shortcomings as a partner. Whether you've recently had this realization or it's been a long time coming, this episode offers valuable insights on […]

In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we'll reveal the things to say and, more importantly, NOT to say  when your wife has “strong feelings”. Learn how to navigate these situations with patience and grace and create a more harmonious and supportive partnership, even when emotions are running high.

On today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, join us on an informative, humorous, and empathetic journey to understand the nuances of supporting your wife whenever “Aunt Flo” comes to visit. Learn how you can be a more loving and supportive husband even while the two of you are riding the rollercoaster of her hormone […]

Negative self-talk is a subtle cancer that can disrupt, and even escalate, everyday conflicts. In today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I are exploring the intricate connection between your inner dialogue and how it impacts your conflict resolution skill.

Working through a fight is one thing. Getting emotionally connected is an entirely different skill—one that not many couples have learned to do really well. In today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we'll talk through the psychological barriers to getting reconnected and a few practical steps to make it easier over time.

Fixing a marriage when one spouse is not willing to do the work can be challenging. In today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we talk about the difficult decisions a spouse has to face when they realize they're alone in wanting to improve their relationship.

In today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we'll teach you the fine art of turning your loving husband into a certified expert in avoidance tactics. Forget about teamwork, communication, and shared responsibilities—we're here to show you how to master the art of making your man conveniently disappear whenever there's work to be done. After […]

In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we're sharing some insights that underscore how acts of selflessness and generosity can lead to thriving relationships. From the small gestures that strengthen emotional bonds to larger sacrifices that shape the foundation of lasting relationships, we uncover why embracing the philosophy of giving ultimately paves the way […]

When you can understand and manage your own and others' emotions, especially in the midst of complex and stressful situations, you've finally mastered the essential skill of emotional intelligence. On today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we'll show you how EQ will help you to communicate, collaborate, and positively influence your spouse despite them […]

Earlier today, Shannon typed a question about marriage and relationships into an AI engine and was stunned by the response she received. Surprising, the answer it returned showed a strong bias against husbands. In today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we'll share with you the response she got and what it means for men […]

In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we're talking about the art of creating unforgettable moments for your spouse. Through self-less, intentional acts of service, you can learn how to fill your spouse's cup and make them feel loved and cared for.

On today's episode of the Secure Marriage podcast, Shannon and I try to answer the question “Why is it so […]

When you become aware of something that needs to change in your life, it's not always easy knowing how to […]

It's not easy to be emotionally vulnerable in front of your wife (or pretty much anyone). For a lot of […]

(A little FYI… Last week, we released a different episode with this week's title. (Doh!!) While I have some words […]

Showing love to your spouse is an important part of a healthy and happy marriage—even when you don't feel like […]

Over the last week, I haven't been a kind and loving husband. The times I've been wrong, I've responded with […]

Does it feel like your husband spends more time on his phone than with you? Are you starting to get […]

Are you able to anticipate what your husband's or wife's needs before they need it? In today's episode of the […]

One of the biggest complaints we hear from couples is “My spouse expects me to do everything.” or “My spouse […]

It's terrifying if your husband or wife continually blows up in anger. You never know what's going to set them […]

If you've ever discovered your spouse has cheated on you, you're immediately hit with a flood of emotions and questions. […]

In today's episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we're tapping into some of the wisdom from your favorite mustachioed “football” […]

So, you want to work on making your marriage better, but the idea of sitting in some hotel ballroom for […]

You know how we're constantly saying, “We don't have a perfect marriage, but we do have a Secure Marriage.” Well, […]

Being emotionally vulnerable isn't always easy for men (duh). What makes it harder is when a husband makes an awkward […]

Your survival brain says, “I want to make sure I get all my needs met first.” So what happens when […]

You've probably heard the phrase, “Hurt people hurt people”. Unfortunately, the words your spouse throws at you in the midst […]

Do you want to get some outside help for your marriage, but your husband doesn't want to “air our dirty […]

You've heard the terms “love & respect” thrown around for years now, but chances are you don't actually understand what […]