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Eva Hagberg Fisher is the New York-based author of HOW TO BE LOVED: A MEMOIR OF LIFESAVING FRIENDSHIP. Listen to our discussion about her new book which she says is either "a critique of capitalism dressed up as a narrative about friendship with a little bit of chronic illness and non-chronic illness to move the plot along" or "a memoir about how three friends in particular saved my life when I needed it to be saved in various and extremely different ways."
Eva explores the isolation so many of us feel despite living in an age of constant connectivity; how our ambitions sometimes pull us apart more than bring us together; and how a simple doughnut, delivered by a caring soul, can become the essence of what makes a life valuable.
HFSS Season 2 builds on the transformational instruction of how to move your feelings through you to help you enhance your healing. Voyuer on a fascinating conversation between Rachel and a long standing client Eva Hagberg Fisher, author of the critically acclaimed debut memoir HOW TO BE LOVED: A MEMOIR OF LIFESAVING FRIENDSHIP. Take the quiz to find out the emotional tone of your core wound at yourcorewound.com. To get into a guided group journey through the Sh*t Show, go to healingfeelingshitshow.com
Lyme disease Awareness 2019 This year, I asked friend and recurring guest, Eva Hagberg Fisher to join me in an open conversation about Lyme disease awareness. Eva Hagberg Fisher ( https://www.evahagbergfisher.com/ ) is an author, educator, and media strategist. Her work has appeared in the New York Times, Wallpaper, Dwell, Wired, Tin House, Guernica, and more. How To Be Loved, about the life-saving power of friendship, is her debut memoir and was called “stunning” by the New York Times, “dazzling” by publishers weekly, and “surprisingly funny” by most readers. Discussed in this Episode: Lyme myths and facts—where is it and how you treatAntibiotics vs. natural healingHow to come into acceptance How to afford treatments and lifeHow Eva and I became woo-woo patientsThe placebo effectMast cell and Lyme disease Lyme disease awareness Resources for Lyme disease Awareness: International Lyme and associated diseases society—find doctors and more infoAnatomy of an Illness by Norman Cousins Support this Podcast: Follow me on IG @sheajackiesubscribe/rate/review on itunes or any other platformFollow me at www.jackieshea.comJoin the Healing Out Loud with Jackie Shea Facebook group More Episodes on Lyme: Lyme and Healing in NatureLyme and Why Women are so SickLyme and Community and the Spoonie TheoryLyme and Saving your Own Life Happy Listening! Fun+Love, Jackie
Eva comes on to discuss her debut memoir, how to be loved, a gorgeous and artfully crafted book. Memoirs with narrative arcs, working a program of recovery, Sedona, self-talk, therapy, validation, mold, brain surgery, book tours, codependence, breakups, talking to the dead, and owning your shit. Also, humility is not humiliation. Rebecca explains 3 times how she found the book. @EvaHagberg @ComicsBookClub
Eva Hagberg Fisher is the guest. Her new book, How to Be Loved: A Memoir of Life-Saving Friendship, is available from Houghton Mifflin Harcourt. Eva's writing has appeared in the New York Times, Tin House, Wallpaper*, Wired, and Dwell, among other places. She holds degrees in architecture from UC Berkeley and Princeton as well as a PhD in Visual and Narrative Culture from UC Berkeley. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The Power of Friendship Eva Hagberg Fisher ( https://www.evahagbergfisher.com/ ) is an author, educator, and media strategist. Her work has appeared in the New York Times, Wallpaper, Dwell, Wired, Tin House, Guernica, and more. She holds degrees in architecture from Princeton and UC Berkeley, and a PhD in Visual and Narrative culture from UC Berkeley. How To Be Loved, about the life-saving power of friendship, is her debut memoir and was called “stunning” by the New York Times, “dazzling” by publishers weekly, and “surprisingly funny” by most readers. Discussed in this Episode: Brain surgeryMast Cell Activation SyndromeMold Toxicity and living in a tent in the desertElusive illness vs. traditionally accepted illnessesHow illness softens a personSurrendering to illnessThe healing power of friendship through illness Facing and healing intimacy issuesThe miracle that occurs when you need to ask for helpVulnerabilityThe need for reassurance and learning to trust yourselfEmotionally abusive relationshipsGrowth through difficult experiences Friendship with others who are sick vs. friendships with those who don't understandHow helpful social media is and the useful tool it is in healingEva's advice to those who don't have as strong of a support networkJudging the sick—we both did! Deep griefHealing illness PTSD with yoga teacher training and EMDR Resources Mentioned: How to Be Loved: A Memoir of Lifesaving FriendshipJen Brea's film, UnrestI am Lonely, I am Loved, the essayThe Two Kinds of Decay, the book Self-Care Tool: While the power of friendship is transformative and necessary sometimes it's good to have a reminder that you have everything you need already inside of yourself. Eva brings us the practice of placing a heavy hand on our chests in moments of desperation for external support, feeling your chest rise and fall and reminding yourself: I have everything I need inside. You are powerful, my love. Go get 'em. Other Episodes like This: How to (Actually) Help a Sick Friend: Codependent to Supportive Lyme disease and How Community Helps us Heal Support this Podcast: Become a patronFollow me on IG @sheajackiesubscribe/rate/review on itunes or any other platformFollow me at www.jackieshea.comJoin the Healing Out Loud with Jackie Shea Facebook group Happy Listening! With Fun + Love, Jackie
First Draft interview with Eva Hagberg Fisher, author of How to be Loved: A Memoir of Lifesaving Friendship.
Eva Hagberg Fisher is the author of How to be Loved: A Memoir of Lifesaving Friendship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week on Relationships 2.0 my guest is Eva Hagberg Fisher author of How To Be Loved: A Memoir of Lifesaving Friendship About the book: A luminous memoir about how friendship saved one woman’s life, for anyone who has loved a friend who was sick, grieving, or lost—and for anyone who has struggled to seek or accept help Eva Hagberg Fisher spent her lonely youth looking everywhere for connection: drugs, alcohol, therapists, boyfriends, girlfriends. Sometimes she found it, but always temporarily. Then, at age thirty, an undiscovered mass in her brain ruptured. So did her life. A brain surgery marked only the beginning of a long journey, and when her illness hit a critical stage, it forced her to finally admit the long‑suppressed truth: she was vulnerable, she needed help, and she longed to grow. She needed true friendship for the first time. How to Be Loved is the story of how an isolated person’s life was ripped apart only to be gently stitched back together through friendship, and the recovery—of many stripes—that came along the way. It explores the isolation so many of us feel despite living in an age of constant connectivity; how our ambitions sometimes pull us apart more than bring us together; and how a simple doughnut, delivered by a caring soul, can become the essence of what makes a life valuable. With gorgeous prose shot through with empathy, pain, fear, and the secret truths inside all of us, Eva writes about the friends who taught her to grow up and open her heart—and how the relentlessness of suffering can give rise to the greatest joy. About the author: Eva Hagberg Fisher's writing has appeared in the New York Times, T: The New York Times Style Magazine, Tin House, Wallpaper*, Wired, Guernica, and Dwell, among other places. She lives in California and New York City.
At age thirty, an undiscovered mass in her brain ruptured. So did her life. A brain surgery marked only the beginning of a long journey, and when her illness hit a critical stage, it forced her to finally admit the long-suppressed truth: she was vulnerable, she needed help, and she longed to grow. She needed true friendship for the first time.
She got through brain surgery, heart surgery, and House-level chronic illness (oh, yeah, and addiction) and came out the other side with a brand-new memoir, but could Eva Hagberg Fisher make it through a podcast-session without catching a cold from her host? We tempt fate with a long conversation about How To Be Loved: A Memoir of Lifesaving Friendship (HMH), the unlikely friendship that saw her through this, the self-jinx of writing about her health, the perverse urge to see her tumor marker tests get worse because at least it would end the uncertainty of her diagnosis, and how pain taught her to balance sobriety with moralizing and martyrdom. We also get into the performative aspect of social media, her ongoing impulse to deception and secrecy and the act of performing vulnerability, the right and wrong way to process one's emotions, her anxiety in the wake of her recent essay on being in debt, her problems with The Artist's Way, her immense thanks that her editor cut 95 pages of relationship drama down to two paragraphs, and the stuff you really want to hear us talk about: her dissertation on the professionalization of architectural publicity via the letters of Eero Saarinen and Aline Bernstein Louchheim! • More info at our site • Support The Virtual Memories Show via Patreon or Paypal
My guest is Eva Hagberg Fisher. Her new book, How To Be Loved (https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Loved-Lifesaving-Friendship/dp/054499115X), is a luminous memoir about how friendship saved one woman’s life, for anyone who has loved a friend who was sick, grieving, or lost—and for anyone who has struggled to seek or accept help. Eva Hagberg Fisher spent her lonely youth looking everywhere for connection: drugs, alcohol, therapists, boyfriends, girlfriends. Sometimes she found it, but always temporarily. Then, at age thirty, an undiscovered mass in her brain ruptured. So did her life. A brain surgery marked only the beginning of a long journey, and when her illness hit a critical stage, it forced her to finally admit the long‑suppressed truth: she was vulnerable, she needed help, and she longed to grow. She needed true friendship for the first time. How to Be Loved (https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Loved-Lifesaving-Friendship/dp/054499115X) is the story of how an isolated person’s life was ripped apart only to be gently stitched back together through friendship, and the recovery—of many stripes—that came along the way. It explores the isolation so many of us feel despite living in an age of constant connectivity; how our ambitions sometimes pull us apart more than bring us together; and how a simple doughnut, delivered by a caring soul, can become the essence of what makes a life valuable. With gorgeous prose shot through with empathy, pain, fear, and the secret truths inside all of us, Eva writes about the friends who taught her to grow up and open her heart—and how the relentlessness of suffering can give rise to the greatest joy. Special Guest: Eva Hagberg Fisher.
Eva Hagberg FIsher, Author of upcoming book, "How to be Loved" Holiday Self-Care Tips: This can be a stressful time of year for everyone. Add chronic illness to the mix and it can be totally daunting. Like, is there a cave I can hide in until January 2nd daunting. Join me and Eva Hagberg Fisher as we embark on a discussion about holiday self-care tips and end up talking about the deepest level of self-care that will support you all year long and *probably* change your life! I know that's a big statement, and I'm making it because the things we talked about have 100% changed my life. Eva (https://www.evahagbergfisher.com/) is the author of the forthcoming memoir, "How to be Loved" (out February 5th, preorder now by asking your local bookstore to buy it! or on indiebound.org), a recent PhD in Visual and Narrative culture and longtime architecture critic. Discussed in this Episode: Self-compassion Friendship Trusting the love of a friendship Burnout What happens when we give too much Balancing giving and self-care during the holidays Draining yourself and ending up resentful Releasing self-judgment Releasing comparison How comparison harms us The myths of perfection Flawed humanness Self-worth wrapped up in productivity Social Media and comparison Worthiness in imperfection Why I love xmas and why Eva doesn't engage with xmas Can we cure illnesses by working on our emotions? The debate. Saying NO Living in authenticity Unapologetic Holiday self-care tips Resistance vs. acceptance Taking the SHOULD out of it choices Holiday martyrdom Boundaries Having no goals Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Eva's memoir Amy B. Scher books, etc. Self-care checklist No weekly challenge this week! Support this Podcast: Become a patron Follow me on IG @sheajackie subscribe/rate/review on itunes or any other platform Follow me at www.jackieshea.com Join the Healing Out Loud with Jackie Shea Facebook group Other Episodes Like This: Amy B. Scher Happy Listening! Fun and Love, Jackie
This episode of Buildings on Air! We talk to the inimitable Eva Hagberg Fisher (@evahagberg) about Architecture’s PR problem! Then we answer your listener questions about buildings with Craig Reschke, 1/2 of the regular mailbag duo. Lastly, we talk to David Work (@WDavidWork) about alt-right twitters obsession w/ “traditional” architecture!
Eva Hagberg Fisher on dressing for sexual harassment proceedings, Oprah at the Golden Globes, Print goes digital, Fire and Fury pop-up book, Jacques Tati’s PlayTime