Podcasts about codependence

Have you ever noticed that even when things are going well, there can still be a part of you looking for what's missing, what's not working, or what needs to change before you can finally feel at peace?In this episode of Recover Your Soul, I share a teaching from Pema Chödrön's book How We Live Is How We Die that has stayed with me for weeks: the propensity for discontent.The phrase struck me because I could see how often many of us move through life carrying an unconscious habit of looking for what's wrong. We think that if we could just fix the relationship, heal the wound, change the circumstance, or get to the next goal, then we would finally be okay.But what if peace isn't waiting on the other side of everything changing?What if the invitation is to become aware of the lens through which we're already seeing our lives?In this conversation, I explore the Buddhist teaching of the kleshas: attachment, resistance, and delusion. These are the habitual ways we become disconnected from our peace and our true nature. As I share in the Recover Your Soul process, these patterns often show up as our unconscious beliefs, stories, fears, judgments, and attempts to control life around us.Together we'll look at how attachment keeps us grasping for things to be different, how resistance keeps us fighting reality, and how delusion can keep us trapped in old stories and misunderstandings that prevent us from seeing ourselves and our lives clearly.This isn't about pretending everything is fine or pushing away difficult feelings. It's about learning to be present with what is, while bringing more awareness, compassion, and curiosity to the patterns that create suffering.The beautiful gift of this work is that the very places where we get stuck can become doorways to wisdom, healing, and awakening.In This Episode:What Pema Chödrön means by "the propensity for discontent"How the habit of looking for what's wrong affects our happinessUnderstanding the three kleshas: attachment, resistance, and delusionThe connection between Buddhist wisdom and the Recover Your Soul processHow our patterns, beliefs, and stories shape our experience of lifeLearning to witness difficult emotions without judging ourselvesWhy awareness is the first step toward healing and transformationHow to find greater peace in the present moment, even when life isn't perfectMy hope is that this episode helps you become a little more aware of the ways you may be searching for what's missing and instead begin noticing what is already here. We are all learning together how to release old patterns, soften our judgments, and reconnect with the wholeness that has always existed within us.As always, thank you for being part of the Recover Your Soul Community. It is an honor to walk this healing and awakening journey with you.Send a one way text to Rev Rachel

Thom's Nutshell: “So much energy we spend wishing things to be different.There are always better uses of our time.” Anxiety is consistent, persistent and disciplined. It wakes up first and works out every morning. To change we must be at least as disciplined. Joe C. talks about the many ways (often with the help of community) we medicate this condition. Allen digs into our relationship with Self, highlighting what we call the “intimate self,” in our navigation of anxiety. This all takes work! Learn more about Joe C., Secular AA and Rebellion Dogs here: https://rebelliondogspublishing.com  Our music is provided by the great southern artist Jefferson Ross. Learn more about Jefferson at jeffersonross.com Visit our website: www.emotionalsobriety.info Follow us on social media: Instagram: thomrutledge2 Joe C. Twitter: @Rebellion_Dogs   Friendly Circle Berlin workshops: https://friendlycircleberlin.org/events   Allen's book, 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: https://www.amazon.com/12-Essential-Insights-Emotional-Sobriety/dp/1955415129/   Join Allen & Thom at our Thursday night, 7pm PST Zoom meeting on Emotional Sobriety and the Steps (login information below):  https://zoom.us/j/330149513 Password: 375986   For our ongoing workshop video series on Emotional Sobriety and the 12 Steps, visit our YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHEM2-kqLkfp3I4c0jy-X-g   Also, please join our “Emotional Sobriety and Recovery” FB Group at the following link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/120450976662519 We'd love to stay in touch in between meetings.   We appreciate feedback! Contact Patrick, our producer, at pndirective4@gmail.com for any questions or comments. Chapters (00:00:07) - Emotional Sobriety(00:03:13) - The Rock is the Thing(00:08:02) - The Importance of Emotional Sobriety(00:11:35) - Joe and What They Talk About in Recovery(00:13:55) - The Fear of Being Nothing(00:17:22) - Brandon on Codependence and the Intimate Self(00:23:50) - Living on an Airplane(00:28:10) - Having Reached a Spiritual Awakening

This one is a little different. And a little special.Today I am joined by my husband Rich — the man who has been by my side through all of it. Nearly 34 years together, two recovering alcoholics, kids in addiction, a marriage that almost did not make it, and a healing journey that quietly changed everything between us.We are talking about the new memoir — Recover Your Soul: A Spiritual Journey of Healing from Addiction, Codependency, and People Pleasing — and what Rich experienced reading our story told through my eyes. Rich wrote the foreword before he had even read the book. His willingness to let me share our real story with the world is one of the greatest gifts he has ever given me. Thank you Rich.

Free Recover Your Soul Mini Workbook — your soul journey starts here: www.recoveryoursoul.net/whatisrecoveryoursoulThere is a movement happening right now, and if you have found your way to this community, you are already part of it. A movement away from codependency, people pleasing, and betraying yourself to keep everyone else comfortable.So many of us have spent a lifetime in the supporting role and forming ourselves around what our partners want, what our kids need, what our families expect — without ever asking: who am I, and what do I actually want? That question is at the center of the Recover Your Soul process. And it is at the heart of my new memoir Recover Your Soul: A Spiritual Journey of Healing from Addiction, Codependency, and People Pleasing — launching April 13th. (Help me to get the book out into the world!! Make this a Best Seller, and then write a review ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️)We talk about what happens when you begin to disrupt the roles others have come to expect from you, and why the discomfort you feel when you finally choose yourself is not a sign you got it wrong. It is a sign that something real is shifting.This episode is an invitation to get curious. To ask yourself where you are still forming yourself around someone else's approval. And to recognize that choosing yourself — fully, finally — is not selfish. It is the most healinSend a one way text to Rev Rachel