Podcasts about codependence

Gay culture rewards visibility, desirability, and dominance, so a lot of what looks like confidence is actually performance under pressure. In this episode, we unpack the myths of self-confidence gay men inherit and what real confidence looks like when no one's watching. In this conversation, we explore: What traits often get mistaken for confidence in gay culture How social media amplifies performative confidence and quietly fuels insecurity Why confidence built on validation, desirability, or status is inherently fragile How childhood experiences and early coping strategies shape what confidence feels safe to express The difference between looking confident and being confident Why real confidence isn't the absence of insecurity and why it naturally shifts over time This episode isn't about fixing yourself or learning how to project confidence. It's about understanding why the version you were taught to chase often feels exhausting, and what a quieter, more grounded confidence actually looks like in real life. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report. Chapters (00:00:05) - Gays Go Deep: Why So Many Confident Gay Men Are(00:00:59) - How Confidence For Gay Men Is Decoded(00:04:32) - What Are The Traits That Get Mistaken for Confidence in(00:09:03) - The Gay Gay Male Hypothesis(00:10:39) - Gay Men Reveal How Much Confidence They Have(00:15:52) - The Need for Codependence(00:16:48) - What Makes a Confident Person?(00:21:58) - Is Your Confidence Dependent on Social Media?(00:23:11) - The Need for Self-Confidence(00:25:15) - Want to Attend a Connection Circle? Here!(00:26:10) - What Does Real Confidence Look Like In Real Life?(00:29:16) - What Does Real Confidence Look Like In Real Life?(00:33:28) - Is There A Difference Between Confidence And Heart-centered Confidence(00:35:59) - What does real confidence look like in real life?(00:36:24) - How to Handle Failure and Defeat(00:38:01) - Who Is The Most Confident Person That You Know?(00:41:55) - What Is It That Gay People Get From Being Confident?(00:47:03) - How to Build a Confidence(00:48:20) - Thank You!!

Hi lovers, it's officially love month, and leading into Valentine's Day, we're revisiting some of the most powerful relationship advice we've heard on the podcast, from 3 of the internet's top couples therapists and relationship experts.Whether you're single or in a long-term relationship, this episode is for you if you're grappling with an anxious or avoidant attachment, fear around intimacy/relationships, or learning how to regulate and rebuild during conflict.Thankfully, I've had the privilege of talking with the best when it comes to navigating love and partnership, which has helped me immeasurably in building the foundation of my own relationship. So today, I'm bringing you a roundup of the top advice from:❤️ Baya Voce, MSW, Relationship Repair Expert (Supervised by Esther Perez): The art of repair, and how to maintain love and connection through conflict. Baya's 4-step relationship repair framework, why curiosity is the antidote to defensiveness, and how to stay regulated during conflict. (Listen to our full episode here.)❤️ Trevor Hanson, Marriage & Family Therapist, Founder of The Art of Healing: Why fear is the #1 killer of relationships and how to communicate through it. Plus, how to navigate common communication “landmines” and how anxious & avoidant partners can build safe emotional intimacy. (Listen to our full episode here.)❤️ Jess Baum, Psychotherapist, Couples Counselor, & Author of Anxiously Attached: How our attachment styles are amplified or healed based on your relationship, breaking our anxious attachment patterns and prioritizing consistent love, recognizing red and green flags in chemistry, and moving from codependency to interdependence. (Listen to our full episode here.)Wherever you are in your relationship journey, know that you are loved!  Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Send one way text to Rev Rachel While I am away this month, I'm sharing another listener-favorite replay from the Recover Your Soul Bonus Podcast. This episode comes from our reflections on Al-Anon through the lens of the Recover Your Soul Process, exploring one of the most life-changing shifts on this journey: the surrender that frees us from codependency.So many of us have lived in the exhausting cycle of trying to fix, control, or anticipate someone else's behavior. We analyze every interaction. We hold silent resentments. We tense our bodies hoping we can make everything okay. But eventually the strain becomes too much. We feel tired. We feel defeated. And we know something has to change.In today's episode, we reflect on a powerful reading from In All Our Affairs that asks the simple, courageous question:Am I willing to give up the struggle?This invitation isn't resignation. It's remembering your own wholeness and handing back what was never yours to carry. It's letting go of the quiet contempt, the overthinking, the need to understand every detail, and the belief that your safety depends on managing someone else's life.When we choose surrender, we choose peace.When we stop trying to control the uncontrollable, something softens.If this episode speaks to you, you may love listening each week to the Recover Your Soul Bonus Podcast. Apple Podcast subscribers and Patreon members receive an extra episode every Friday, a beautiful w Start your journey with the FREE Recover Your Soul™ 9-Step Mini-Workbook- A gentle spiritual path to healing, letting go, and awakening. This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not allied or representative of any organizations or religions, but is based on the opinions and experience of Rev. Rachel Harrison or guests. The host claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein. Take what you need and leave the rest.Support the showRev Rachel & Recover Your Soul www.recoveryoursoul.net FREE Support Group on Zoom 6-7PM MT on the 1st Monday of the Month Work the Process with Rev Rachel TRYASESSION for 40% off 1st session Working the Steps Program WORKSTEPS%50 Instagram, Insight Timer, TikTok, YouTube and Facebook private Facebook group RYS Bonus Podcast Patreon Member or subscribing on Apple Podcasts. Transcripts

Send one way text to Rev Rachel This week, while I am away, I'm sharing a replay from the Recover Your Soul Bonus Podcast. Together, we explore one of the tender teachings from Al-Anon through the lens of Recover Your Soul, the quiet courage it takes to stop pretending you're fine and to gently return to yourself.Many of us learned to people-please as a way to stay safe. We tried to hold the family together, soften the edges for everyone else, and become whatever version of ourselves we thought was needed in the moment. And over time, that way of living can pull us farther and farther away from our own truth, our own voice, and even our own feelings.In this episode, we reflect on a beautiful reading from In All Our Affairs about “the obligation to be myself.” We look at what it means to slowly release the façade, to feel what you feel without managing the emotions of everyone around you, and to begin discovering who you truly are and not who you learned to be.Through my perspective in Recover Your Soul, we look at • why authenticity is part of spiritual awakening • how people-pleasing keeps us disconnected from our true selves • why detachment creates space for everyone's growth • the difference between being “nice” and being whole • how to honor your feelings without laying them on others • and what it means to walk through your life as the real youIf this conversation resonates with you, I invite you to subscribe on Apple Podcasts or become a member on Patreon, where you receive a new Recover Your Soul Bonus episode every week. It's a beautiful way to deepen your practice and stay connected to this supportive community. This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not allied or representative of any organizations or religions, but is based on the opinions and experience of Rev. Rachel Harrison or guests. The host claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein. Take what you need and leave the rest.Support the showRev Rachel & Recover Your Soul www.recoveryoursoul.net FREE Support Group on Zoom 6-7PM MT on the 1st Monday of the Month Work the Process with Rev Rachel TRYASESSION for 40% off 1st session Working the Steps Program WORKSTEPS%50 Instagram, Insight Timer, TikTok, YouTube and Facebook private Facebook group RYS Bonus Podcast Patreon Member or subscribing on Apple Podcasts. Transcripts

Send one way text to Rev Rachel What do you do when someone you love is hurting and you cannot fix it?This episode explores one of the most challenging spiritual lessons, learning to detach with love. Through the lens of both Al-Anon and the Recover Your Soul process, we look at how to witness another's pain without absorbing it, rescuing them, or losing yourself in the process.We reflect on trusting each soul's journey, creating compassionate boundaries, and choosing your own peace even when the people you love are struggling. This is tender, sacred work, and it reminds us that we are held by something greater still.This episode is from the Recover Your Soul Bonus Podcast earlier this year, and if this episode resonates with you, I invite you to become an Apple Podcast subscriber or Patreon member. You'll receive an extra Recover Your Soul episode every Friday and have access to an entire library of deeper teachings, meditations, and spiritual reflections.Thank you for being part of the Recover Your Soul community. Start your journey with the FREE Recover Your Soul™ 9-Step Mini-Workbook- A gentle spiritual path to healing, letting go, and awakening. This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not allied or representative of any organizations or religions, but is based on the opinions and experience of Rev. Rachel Harrison or guests. The host claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein. Take what you need and leave the rest.Support the showRev Rachel & Recover Your Soul www.recoveryoursoul.net FREE Support Group on Zoom 6-7PM MT on the 1st Monday of the Month Work the Process with Rev Rachel TRYASESSION for 40% off 1st session Working the Steps Program WORKSTEPS%50 Instagram, Insight Timer, TikTok, YouTube and Facebook private Facebook group RYS Bonus Podcast Patreon Member or subscribing on Apple Podcasts. Transcripts