Podcasts about codependence

Codependence can look like loyalty, romance, or “just being a good partner” until you realize it's costing you your peace. I'm joined by dating, relating, and sex coach Louis Brantmeyer, who brings a sharp, sometimes confrontational lens to a question most of us avoid: are we building love, or are we negotiating for relief from our own discomfort?We talk about codependence as the tendency to hand your emotional steering wheel to the outside world, then blame a partner when you don't feel okay. Lewis breaks down what changes when you stop outsourcing your happiness and start practicing a cleaner internal locus of control. We get practical about boundaries, standards, and why “love confronts dysfunction” instead of cushioning it. You'll also hear a clear roadmap from dependence to codependence to independence to interdependence, plus how triggers and conflict can become data for nervous system healing rather than proof that someone is “wrong.”Because this show doesn't dodge sex and intimacy, we also dig into attachment theory and Lewis's take on polyamory. He challenges the idea that more partners automatically equals more freedom, and offers a different question: does your relationship structure support deeper intimacy and secure attachment, or does it help you keep love at arm's length?If you want better dating advice, healthier relationships, and more honest conversations about intimacy, hit subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review. What part of this conversation do you most agree or disagree with?Send us Fan Mail Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @tamaraschoondatingTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic now TamaraSchoonDatingWant to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

If you can't ask anyone for help, and "I've got this, I don't need it" runs your life, this is what it actually is.Hyper independence is not strength. It is a trauma response, and the one survival persona our culture rewards most.In this video: the day I described the person who drives themselves to the emergency room bleeding and says "I'm fine," and realized I was talking about me. Then a client who became so needless he couldn't name his needs, the bubble of self-security, where hyper-independence comes from, and the six-step process for rewiring it.Hyper-independence is the falsely empowered end of the codependence spectrum. The disempowered codependent says "please don't leave me." The falsely empowered codependent says "please don't get too close." Both organize their life around other people, in opposite directions.Counter dependency is still dependency. The love avoidant who says "I don't need anyone" is expressing the same childhood wound as the person who says "please don't leave me." Underneath the independence is severe abandonment, and underneath the cold, distant exterior is a craving for deep intimacy the person never learned how to have.A child who is neglected, or whose parent leans on them emotionally, learns that you get love by being needless: I won't have any needs, I won't be any burden, I'll be the easy one you don't have to parent. That needlessness gets rewarded as maturity in adulthood.A 2024 study in BMC Psychology found that people with avoidant attachment use suppression as their main emotion regulation strategy. Their visible distress went down, but their internal arousal stayed high. The body stays flooded even when the face says "I'm fine."The frameworks in this video: the Worst Day Cycle™ (trauma, fear, shame, denial) explains how a childhood where nobody came installed the pattern; the Authentic Self Cycle™ (truth, responsibility, healing, forgiveness) is the way out; and the Emotional Authenticity Method™ is the six-step process, including titration and Feelization, that rewires the emotional blueprint.Kenny Weiss is a relationship, communication and childhood trauma recovery specialist, author of Your Journey to Success and Your Journey to Being Yourself, and creator of the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™ and the Emotional Authenticity Method™.TOPICS COVERED: hyper independence, hyper independence trauma response, counter dependency, love avoidant, I don't need anyone, falsely empowered codependent, fear of intimacy, asking for help, emotional neglect, codependency recoveryTIMESTAMPS0:00 The emergency room and "I'm fine"1:02 "I've got this, I don't need it"1:28 Codependence that looks like strength2:32 The needless child: a client story4:46 The bubble of self-security5:58 Where hyper-independence comes from6:45 Severe abandonment underneath the independence7:39 The research: fine on the outside, flooded inside8:13 "This is the most real me I know"9:29 The Worst Day Cycle™10:33 The Authentic Self Cycle™12:19 The Emotional Authenticity Method™14:48 Feelization: stepping out of the bubble15:38 Forgiveness comes on its own

Recover Your Soul Practices: The Power of the BreathWhat if one of the simplest spiritual practices is something you are already doing all day long?Your breath is always with you. It can bring you back to the present moment, help you slow down, and create a little more space between what is happening around you and how you are choosing to respond.In this Soul Practice, we explore the breath as a simple and accessible way to turn within, reconnect with ourselves, settle into the present moment, and create space for a deeper awareness of our soul and our connection to something greater than ourselves.You don't have to know how to meditate or have a perfect spiritual practice. Your breath is already here, waiting for you to notice it. Sometimes healing begins with something as simple as stopping, taking a breath, and remembering that we are here, now.Ready to go deeper?The Recover Your Soul Self-Study Collective is a self-paced opportunity to work through the full 9-Step Recover Your Soul™ Process of Healing and Awakening in your own time and at your own pace.Each Step includes videos with teachings that feel like you are being coached one-on-one with me, along with guided meditations, reflection, and journaling to help you move beyond simply learning the Steps and begin doing the deeper, transformative work of healing and awakening.And you don't have to do it alone.Each month, we gather for two live Zoom sessions with me for continued support, additional teachings, questions, reflection, and connection around the Steps and the process.Join to work through the Steps. Stay to integrate, deepen, and connect with community.If you're feeling called to go deeper into your own soul journey, I would love to have you with us.Learn more and join us at RecoverYourSoul.net.

What's She Up To Now: Finding the Line Between Love and Codependence! Connection or Codependence? What's SHE Up To Now Day 3154? Supersize Challenges, AI, Projects...? Join us every day in 2026 for a quick challenge that is all about you Improving and creating the life you want! https://www.facebook.com/ThrivingSharon Ask your questions and share your wisdom! #supersize #emotion #emotionalintelligence #supersizechallenges #AI #wordsmatter #whatthingsmeantoyou #emotion #feelingwheel #frustration #journal #whatmessage #stressinbody #supersizechallenges #resilience #anxiety #calm54321 #SOAP #supersizechallenges #boundaries #SOAPframework #EQ #emotionalintelligence #empathy #connection #codependence #whatssheupto Are you struggling to maintain emotional connection without losing yourself? Learn how to distinguish between healthy bonds and codependence. We are on day 3154 of the What's She Up To Now series, and today we are addressing a common challenge in both our personal and professional lives. It is easy to blur the lines between supporting others and overextending yourself, but understanding the mechanics of your interactions is essential for sustained success. This session breaks down why codependence often masquerades as closeness and how to pivot back toward authentic, balanced interactions. By establishing healthy boundaries, you protect your energy and ensure that your professional relationships remain productive and fulfilling rather than draining. Subscribe for daily personal growth perspectives, and share in the comments: have you ever felt the difference between true support and relying too heavily on someone else?

What if one of the most powerful things we can do for our healing is to stop holding ourselves hostage to the past?I have been thinking a lot about self-forgiveness lately. We can spend so much of our lives going back over what we should have done, what we wish we had said, the choices we regret, the ways we think we failed, or the times we weren't who we wanted to be. And when we keep judging ourselves for those moments, we keep ourselves connected to the pain.In this episode, I share a simple practice that has been opening something up for me: “I forgive myself for…” I sat down one morning and began writing, and what came out surprised me. I found myself forgiving the younger parts of me who thought I had to perform to be loved, forgiving myself for choices that weren't kind to myself, and offering compassion to the woman I was in moments when I simply didn't know another way.Self-forgiveness doesn't mean that we pretend something didn't happen or that we don't take responsibility for our choices. It means we stop using shame, guilt, regret, and judgment to continue hurting ourselves. We begin to understand the patterns and beliefs that shaped us, give ourselves grace, and remember that we can choose again.I also share how this practice has shown up in my marriage and in my own recovery, and why I now see self-forgiveness as such an important part of Step Five of the Recover Your Soul Process.If Recover Your Soul is about anything, I believe it is about self-love. And sometimes self-love begins with simply saying, I forgive myself.Together we can do the work that will Recover Your Soul.  

You can also begin with the FREE Recover Your Soul 9-Step Workbook:https://www.recoveryoursoul.net/whatisrecoveryoursoulWhat do you do when something is happening that you really, really want to change?When you're worried about someone you love, something isn't going the way you hoped, or you're feeling triggered and activated, our first instinct can be to try to fix it, control it, or make it different.But what if peace doesn't require the situation to change?In this Soul Practice, I want to share a tool that I have been using for years: All Is Well. I first began working with this practice when I was getting sober and attending Al-Anon meetings, when there was plenty happening around me that I desperately wanted to change. At first, saying "all is well" felt almost impossible. How could I say that when things clearly weren't well?Over time, I began to understand that this wasn't about pretending everything was okay or bypassing the pain. It was about bringing myself back into the present moment, back into my body and my heart, and remembering that I could be okay even when I couldn't control what was happening around me.In this episode, I walk you through the practice and share how I have used it through some very complicated situations in my own life. We talk about releasing control, changing our perception, calming our nervous system, and finding that place inside where we can be with what is without fighting against it.The more we practice these tools, the easier it becomes to reach for something new instead of automatically falling back into our old patterns.This is the first episode in my Soul Practices series, where I am sharing simple, grounded spiritual tools that you can actually use in your everyday life.Try it with me. Use it once a day this week, whether you're in the middle of something difficult or simply want to practice coming into a deeper sense of peace.All is well.Not because everything is going to happen exactly the way we want it to.But because, in this moment, we can come back to ourselves.The Recover Your Soul Bonus Podcast is where I share Soul Practices like this one, along with deeper teachings, spiritual book studies, interviews, and reflections inspired by Al-Anon, metaphysics, and healing from within.The Bonus Podcast is available to Patreon members, Apple Podcast and YouTube  subscribers.If you'd like to explore it without making a commitment, you can become a FREE Patreon member and receive new Bonus Podcast episodes for the first few weeks after they are released.And if you want to go deeper, members and subscribers have access to the full Recover Your Soul library of more than 200 episodes for about the price of a cup of coffee.There is a lot of goodness in that library, and I'm happy to have you there.Take what you need and leave the rest.I'm so glad you're here.Namaste,Rev. Rachel

What does it mean to be spiritually awake? I don't believe it means that life suddenly becomes easy or that we stop having painful, complicated, very human experiences. Life is still going to be lifey. For me, awakening is becoming more aware of what is happening inside of me and remembering that I have a choice in how I experience what is happening around me.In this episode, I share a very real situation with my son that gave me an opportunity to practice the Recover Your Soul Process right in the middle of something scary and emotional. Rather than simply talking about the nine steps, I walk through them as I was actually experiencing this situation. What was I feeling? What was I trying to control? What was underneath my reaction? And how could I choose to see it differently?This is what Recover Your Soul has become for me. Not fixing ourselves or getting to a place where nothing ever hurts, but becoming aware of our patterns, beliefs, and stories and learning that we can choose again.In this episode, we explore:• What spiritual awakening looks like in everyday life • Working the Recover Your Soul 9-Step Process through a real-life experience • Releasing control and changing our perception • Recognizing old patterns when they show up • Moving from reaction into awareness and choice • Finding peace without needing everything around us to be peacefulIf you've found Recover Your Soul through Al-Anon, codependency, addiction, people pleasing, or the struggle to let go of control, I hope this conversation gives you a glimpse of where the work can take us.I'm still learning and practicing this right alongside you. Sometimes the moments we never would have chosen become the moments that show us how much we've changed.Take what you need and leave the rest.I'm so grateful you're here.Namaste, Rev. Rachel

In this episode of Acta Non Verba, Marcus Aurelius Anderson talks with Stefanos Sifandos, an author and transformational advisor. They discuss closing the gap between outer success and inner freedom. Stefanos shares his own journey through childhood bullying, addiction, and self-worth struggles. He explains how self-forgiveness, radical honesty, and genuine relational connection create lasting transformation. The conversation also covers fatherhood, marriage, control, resilience, and living in one's truth. Episode Highlights: 0:55 Marcus introduces Stefanos Sifandos and his 25 years working with Olympians, CEOs, and top performers. 10:06 Stefanos explains that self-forgiveness comes from being met with compassion and non-judgment. 22:12 They discuss truth-telling as a remedy for disconnection in relationships. 38:06 Stefanos opens up about the profound love he feels as a father. Stefanos Sifandos is an author and transformational advisor. He has spent 25 years working with Olympians, world champions, CEOs, and leaders at the top of their fields. His work focuses on closing the gap between outer success and inner freedom. He uses behavioral science, trauma resolution, and spiritual truth to guide his clients. His new book, Tuned In and Turned On, is available now at tunedinandturnedonbook.com. Learn more about the gift of Adversity and my mission to help my fellow humans create a better world by heading to www.marcusaureliusanderson.com. There you can take action by joining my ANV inner circle to get exclusive content and information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

EMOTIONALLY DRUNK ON YOU A Deeper Investigation Into Whether Insecure Attachment and Codependence Turn Love Into an Emotional Substance We Use to Escape Ourselves With Special Guest Dr. Allen Berger SYNOPSIS A lover can enter your bloodstream without ever touching your body. One text settles the panic. One unanswered call restarts it. A warm tone restores your worth. A distant look sends your identity into free fall. No chemical entered the system, yet the entire internal climate changed. What, then, have you been consuming? Human beings rarely describe romantic attachment as intoxication. Culture gives it prettier names. Passion. Loyalty. Devotion. Chemistry. Ride-or-die love. Yet beneath some of these celebrated experiences lives a dangerous emotional arrangement: another person has become responsible for producing the inner condition you cannot yet produce, tolerate, or sustain for yourself. Their attention becomes medicine. Their approval becomes evidence that you matter. Their availability becomes protection against abandonment. Their need for you becomes proof that you deserve to exist. Their obedience becomes peace. Once love carries this burden, relationship stops functioning as an encounter between two free human beings. It becomes a private emotional economy in which one person must keep paying so the other person does not collapse. Attachment theory helps explain how early bonds can shape the adult nervous system's expectations of closeness, separation, safety, and loss. Codependence adds another layer. A person may manage, rescue, fix, please, monitor, sacrifice, or overfunction in order to maintain access to emotional security. The behavior can look loving from the outside while fear quietly writes the contract. The anxious partner may call control “connection.” The avoidant partner may call emotional disappearance “freedom.” The rescuer may call indispensability “service.” The self-erasing partner may call surrender “commitment.” Every strategy attempts to solve the same unbearable problem: how can I keep another person from awakening feelings I do not know how to live with? Dr. Allen Berger's concept of emotional sobriety attacks this arrangement at its foundation. His work challenges the hidden belief that personal peace depends upon people, places, and circumstances behaving according to our private rules. “I am okay if you call.” “I am okay if you stay.” “I am okay if you understand.” “I am okay if you choose me.” These conditions turn another person's freedom into a threat. Could emotional sobriety begin when “I am okay if” finally loses authority? This does not require emotional coldness, radical isolation, or the fantasy that mature adults need nobody. Human beings require connection. The deeper question concerns governance. Who governs your inner life when someone disappoints you? Who controls your identity when affection gets withdrawn? Who becomes responsible for calming the fear that existed before the relationship began? Clinical maturity may involve learning to experience jealousy without surveillance, loneliness without self-erasure, uncertainty without interrogation, disappointment without retaliation, and grief without turning loss into proof of personal worthlessness. Philosophically, emotional sobriety confronts our understanding of love itself. Can love remain love when it demands psychological captivity? Can intimacy survive without control? Can commitment retain meaning when fear serves as the lock? A partner who cannot leave has not necessarily chosen you. A partner who must constantly regulate you has little room left to meet you. Culturally, many communities teach people to endure emotional dependence as evidence of loyalty. Men may learn to hide dependency behind authority, possession, silence, or rage. Women may receive praise for transforming self-neglect into service. Family systems can reward the person who carries everyone while quietly punishing the same person for developing a self. Under these conditions, codependence can wear the clothing of morality. Metaphysically, the topic reaches even further. What happens when consciousness seeks completion through possession? Can another person ever provide permanent shelter from an interior world you refuse to inhabit? Perhaps every attempt to make someone else the source of your emotional stability places sacred responsibility in human hands that cannot carry it. Tonight's investigation enters the space between love and dependency, support and self-abandonment, care and control, attachment and intoxication. Are you loving your partner? Or are you drinking them? And when the emotional supply runs low, who do you become?

EMOTIONALLY DRUNK ON YOU A Deeper Investigation Into Whether Insecure Attachment and Codependence Turn Love Into an Emotional Substance We Use to Escape Ourselves With Special Guest Dr. Allen Berger SYNOPSIS A lover can enter your bloodstream without ever touching your body. One text settles the panic. One unanswered call restarts it. A warm tone restores your worth. A distant look sends your identity into free fall. No chemical entered the system, yet the entire internal climate changed. What, then, have you been consuming? Human beings rarely describe romantic attachment as intoxication. Culture gives it prettier names. Passion. Loyalty. Devotion. Chemistry. Ride-or-die love. Yet beneath some of these celebrated experiences lives a dangerous emotional arrangement: another person has become responsible for producing the inner condition you cannot yet produce, tolerate, or sustain for yourself. Their attention becomes medicine. Their approval becomes evidence that you matter. Their availability becomes protection against abandonment. Their need for you becomes proof that you deserve to exist. Their obedience becomes peace. Once love carries this burden, relationship stops functioning as an encounter between two free human beings. It becomes a private emotional economy in which one person must keep paying so the other person does not collapse. Attachment theory helps explain how early bonds can shape the adult nervous system's expectations of closeness, separation, safety, and loss. Codependence adds another layer. A person may manage, rescue, fix, please, monitor, sacrifice, or overfunction in order to maintain access to emotional security. The behavior can look loving from the outside while fear quietly writes the contract. The anxious partner may call control “connection.” The avoidant partner may call emotional disappearance “freedom.” The rescuer may call indispensability “service.” The self-erasing partner may call surrender “commitment.” Every strategy attempts to solve the same unbearable problem: how can I keep another person from awakening feelings I do not know how to live with? Dr. Allen Berger's concept of emotional sobriety attacks this arrangement at its foundation. His work challenges the hidden belief that personal peace depends upon people, places, and circumstances behaving according to our private rules. “I am okay if you call.” “I am okay if you stay.” “I am okay if you understand.” “I am okay if you choose me.” These conditions turn another person's freedom into a threat. Could emotional sobriety begin when “I am okay if” finally loses authority? This does not require emotional coldness, radical isolation, or the fantasy that mature adults need nobody. Human beings require connection. The deeper question concerns governance. Who governs your inner life when someone disappoints you? Who controls your identity when affection gets withdrawn? Who becomes responsible for calming the fear that existed before the relationship began? Clinical maturity may involve learning to experience jealousy without surveillance, loneliness without self-erasure, uncertainty without interrogation, disappointment without retaliation, and grief without turning loss into proof of personal worthlessness. Philosophically, emotional sobriety confronts our understanding of love itself. Can love remain love when it demands psychological captivity? Can intimacy survive without control? Can commitment retain meaning when fear serves as the lock? A partner who cannot leave has not necessarily chosen you. A partner who must constantly regulate you has little room left to meet you. Culturally, many communities teach people to endure emotional dependence as evidence of loyalty. Men may learn to hide dependency behind authority, possession, silence, or rage. Women may receive praise for transforming self-neglect into service. Family systems can reward the person who carries everyone while quietly punishing the same person for developing a self. Under these conditions, codependence can wear the clothing of morality. Metaphysically, the topic reaches even further. What happens when consciousness seeks completion through possession? Can another person ever provide permanent shelter from an interior world you refuse to inhabit? Perhaps every attempt to make someone else the source of your emotional stability places sacred responsibility in human hands that cannot carry it. Tonight's investigation enters the space between love and dependency, support and self-abandonment, care and control, attachment and intoxication. Are you loving your partner? Or are you drinking them? And when the emotional supply runs low, who do you become?