Attack Life, Not Others

The 80/20 Rule for a Better Life is what Tim and Steve discuss on this podcast episode. It's a new spin on the 80/20 Principle, also known as the Pareto Principle: Health: 80% eating, 20% exercise Wealth: 80% habits, 20% math Talking: 80% listening, 20% speaking Learning: 80% understanding, 20% reading Achieving: 80% doing and taking action, 20% vision and dreaming Happiness: 80% purpose, 20% pleasure and fun Relationships: 80% giving, 20% receiving Self-Improvement: 80% persistence, 20% ideas Focus on the vital 80% — and the rest will take care of itself!

“If a man aspires towards a righteous life, his first act of abstinence is from injury to animals.” — Albert Einstein

There's a powerful, often cyclical connection between teaching and learning. Tim and Steve explore how the best teaching stems from a desire to understand more deeply, and how teaching others is one of the most effective ways to grow ourselves. Key Takeaways: Teaching Is Learning: Tim shares his personal journey as a teacher and how every lesson he's ever taught helped solidify his own understanding. The process of teaching, as Steve says, often forces us to internalize knowledge more completely. Learning What You Want to Teach, Teaching What You Want to Learn: The hosts unpack the idea that our desire to teach something often reveals a deeper desire to master it. And as we teach, we discover new insights that reflect our own ongoing growth. The Student-Teacher Relationship Is a Two-Way Street: Great teachers remain open to learning from their students. Sensitivity to the needs and emotions of others is vital, not only in classrooms but in all areas of life — relationships, work, parenting, and leadership. Lessons from Master Hawk: Tim reflects on wisdom passed down from his mentor, Master Hawk, who taught that teaching is as much about knowing yourself as it is about educating others. Peeling the Onion: Teaching — and life — is like peeling an onion. As layers are removed, self-awareness and deeper emotional truths are uncovered. Growth often comes from vulnerability and reflection. The 80/20 Rule of Giving and Receiving: The episode closes with a guiding principle: effective teaching (and living) involves giving 80% and receiving 20%. In the act of giving, we often receive far more than we expect. A universal message: Whether you're a parent, coach, friend, or professional, this episode reminds us that when we teach with humility and openness, we grow in ways that continue to shape us long after the lesson ends.

"I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought, and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder." — G.K. Chesterton

Tim and Steve dive into what it really means to push through life's tough moments — taking inspiration from the incredible life and legacy of boxing legend George Foreman. We talk about resilience, personal growth, and that powerful idea of finding your "second wind" — that hidden reserve of strength you only discover when you're tested. George's journey from an intimidating knockout artist to a wise, enduring champion reminds us that real strength isn't just physical — it's mental, emotional, and spiritual too. We also reflect on how easy it is to take things like our health, stability, and loved ones for granted. Life's challenges — whether it's illness, money troubles, or personal hardships — have a way of teaching us what really matters. And often, it's in helping others that we find true purpose. Plus, we celebrate Foreman not just for his boxing career, but for the humor, heart, and generosity he shared with the world. His story is a beautiful reminder that strength can be soft, and that giving back is one of the most powerful things we can do. “In my first boxing career, I never ran more than three miles at a time during training. I didn't need much stamina, I always knocked opponents out in the early rounds. I knew it would be a different story the second time around. My wife would drive me eight or ten miles, then drop me off so I could run home. I found out what athletes meant when they described getting their 'second wind.' I realized I had more willpower than I thought. Once I got past the initial pain, I felt I could run forever, that's how a lot of things are in life. You might be in a situation that's uncomfortable or even painful at first, but once you push past the pain, you find your second wind - and then nothing can stop you.” — George Foreman

“Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning.” — Albert Einstein

There's a balance between chaos and order — in the universe and in our everyday lives. While the world around us can seem messy and unpredictable, we believe our purpose is to bring meaning and structure to it. Tim and Steve explore the idea that being made in God's image means we're meant to make a positive impact, even when things feel out of control. They also touch on the importance of accepting that we won't always have all the answers. We encourage you to find peace and purpose in the middle of life's chaos.

“Once you choose hope, anything's possible.” — Christopher Reeve

Life is a journey — and much like the belt system in martial arts, it's made up of different stages of growth. Each stage brings new challenges, new lessons, and a deeper understanding of who we are. In martial arts, the white belt represents a fresh start — a blank slate, full of curiosity and potential. As you move through each belt color, you gain more knowledge, skill, and confidence. Eventually, the black belt isn't just a symbol of mastery — it's a reminder of everything you've learned along the way. Tim and Steve talk about all of this, but point out how it's not limited to martial arts. It applies to all areas of life. We grow by showing up, staying curious, and being open to learning. Life is both a playground and a battleground — there are moments to laugh and play, and there are moments that challenge us to dig deep, face fear, and keep moving forward. Growth is never just about getting to the "next level." It's about becoming more aware, more responsible, and more connected to who we are and what we're here for. Each stage is meaningful, and each color along the way teaches us something new. So wherever you are in your journey — whether you're just starting out or years into your path — know that you're exactly where you need to be. Keep learning, keep playing, and never forget: your body is a temple, and your life has purpose. “Hope is like the sun, which, as we journey toward it, casts the shadow of our burden behind us.” — Samuel Smiles

“Hope is the only thing stronger than fear.” — Suzanne Collins, The Hunger Games

Tim and Steve explore the powerful influence of energy and presence in everyday interactions. They share a heartfelt story about a young martial arts student who was deeply impacted by a simple act of support. The conversation touches on the value of acknowledgment, positivity in the workplace, and the importance of being an "energy transmitter" rather than an "energy vampire." A reminder that small gestures can leave a lasting impact. They also highlight the creative spirit behind Sensei Troy and Sara's wedding, and the role of music in setting the tone in martial arts classes.

“Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.” — Bruce Lee

Discipline makes life easier by being difficult. It's about doing what needs to be done before what you want to do. Tim and Steve discuss how self-respect is the precursor to self-discipline and how it lays the foundation for personal growth and relationships — loving yourself allows you to care for others. Plus, they explore the importance of finding your "why" — the driving force behind your actions, from daily habits to self-defense. “The more disciplined you become, the easier life gets.” — Steve Pavlina

“Through discipline comes freedom.” — Aristotle

Inspired by Chuck Missler, Tim and Steve discuss how embodying positivity not only fuels personal growth but also strengthens those around us. Mentorship and community are key, and love is at the heart of everything. They talk about the ripple effect of positivity — what we put out into the world comes back to us. This is especially important when teaching kids, as they pick up on our energy. The takeaway? By consistently choosing love and light, we can uplift others and live more fulfilling lives.

“We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.” — Jim Rohn

Ever notice how people tend to talk about others instead of going straight to them? In this episode, Tim and Steve break down why that happens and what it says about human nature. They dive into the fear of confrontation, the need for validation, and how gossip can sometimes feel easier than a tough conversation. With real-life examples, relatable stories, and even referencing Ted Lasso, they explore how this plays out in friendships, family, and even at work. You'll walk away with a better understanding of your own communication habits and some simple tips to have more open, honest conversations. Ready to step up your communication game?

"Speak softly and carry a big stick — you will go far." — President Theodore Roosevelt

We explore the difference between mediocrity and greatness, emphasizing that while mediocrity may seem acceptable, it often leads to disappointment. As William Arthur Ward said, “The price of excellence is discipline; the cost of mediocrity is disappointment.” Those searching for purpose must not only strive for greatness but also recognize the right moments to showcase it. Inspired by Unstoppable, the story of a one-legged wrestler who achieves success through discipline, Tim and Steve highlight the importance of timing in reaching one's full potential. Greatness isn't just about effort — it's about knowing when to seize the moment.

“Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines, practiced every day.” — Jim Rohn

Life is both a playground and a battleground — perspective shapes our growth. Challenges may put us at a disadvantage, but they also create opportunities to learn and improve. Growth comes from discomfort, and true success is earned, not given. Patience is key — there are no shortcuts to mastery. Overcoming obstacles is what brings purpose and fulfillment.

“The 4 predominant factors that determine who you'll become in life: You'll become your thoughts You'll become the people that you hang out with the most You'll become what you watch and listen to You'll become what you consume All 4 of these factors are 100% within your control.” — Bedros Keuilian

All things in life — including faith, family, relationships, and careers — require eliminating casualness and embracing focus. Tim and Steve disuss how casualness may be fine for relaxation, but when it comes to what truly matters, we must be intentional. A strong relationship, a fulfilling career, or a deep spiritual connection doesn't thrive on half-hearted effort. Just as we dress formally for important events, we should approach our commitments with the same seriousness. In a world full of distractions, staying focused on what serves our growth allows us to build discipline, purpose, and a meaningful life.

“No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again.” — Buddha Gautama

Disconnecting from Devices – The importance of stepping away from screens to experience the real world and nature Physical Awareness – Engaging in real, tactile experiences, feeling the ground beneath you, and being present in your surroundings Strength Through Adversity – Pushing past challenges to develop resilience while also finding balance and flow in everyday life Awareness & Breath – The role of mindfulness, breath control, and staying present, similar to practices like yoga or meditation Real Human Connection – Encouragement to engage in authentic, face-to-face communication and meaningful interactions beyond digital distractions

“You are never too old to set a new goal or to dream a new dream.” — CS Lewis

Tim and Steve discuss insights from business guru Alex Hormozi. Believing you have plenty of time is false. First, tomorrow is never guaranteed. Second, tomorrow will arrive sooner than you think. Success requires hard work, discipline, and consistency. Four key takeaways: Start early to get ahead Challenges are inevitable — expect and embrace them Improvement demands effort — there are no shortcuts Procrastination is dangerous — time waits for no one

“Any new beginning is forged from the shards of the past, not from the abandonment of the past.” — Craig D Lounsbrough

Ponder on living in the moment and the importance of mindfulness, through the lens of two significant moments: the moment we live and the moment we lose. Feelings of doubt, fear, anxiety, and anger detract from our ability to fully experience life. Reflect on your daily choices and the impact of living in a fresh moment versus being consumed by negative thoughts. Join Tim and Steve as they challenge conventional thinking and inspire a deeper understanding of what it means to truly live in the moment.

“The bad news is time flies. The good news is you're the pilot.” — Michael Altshuler

Tim shares a heartfelt conversation he had with 83-year-old Bernie, who shares his reflections on the importance of staying relevant and connecting with genuine people. As Bernie continues to embrace life through travel and physical activity, he emphasizes the need for authentic interactions in a world that often feels disconnected. He candidly expresses his desire to surround himself with real individuals and challenges himself to be present and engaged in conversations. Join us as we explore the significance of meaningful connections and the quest for relevance at any age.

“I don't know where I'm going from here, but I promise it won't be boring.” — David Bowie

Tim shares a valuable nugget of wisdom from his daughter, a nutritionist, who reminds him that "motion is the lotion." It far too easy to succumb to discomfort and inactivity, opting for sedentary habits like lounging or binge-watching TV. Moving our bodies — whether it's walking the dog or engaging in a favorite sport — can significantly improve our emotional and physical well-being. Tune in for insights on maintaining an active lifestyle and the positive impact it can have on our health.

“The universe is under no obligation to make sense to you.” — Neil deGrasse Tyson We should not expect the cosmos to neatly fit into our preconceived notions. These mysteries are reminders to embrace faith as a complement to reason, trusting the process of discovery and inspiring growth in knowledge, perspective, and awe.

The impact of words and actions carry a responsibility. Tim and Steve reflect on the irreversible nature of choices made in anger, illustrated by a metaphor of a wolf chasing a bird off a cliff. It's a great reminder for all of us to be mindful of our expressions and the lasting effects they can have. Tune in for insights on self-reflection, emotional control, and the importance of thoughtful communication.

“You are what you eat. You are what you think. You are who you hang out with. You are what you watch and listen to. You have more control than you think fellas.” — Bedros Keuilian

Tim and Steve liken the new year to boarding a flight — Flight 2025. If you lose your positive attitude under pressure, we suggest reaching up for a prayer, which will be activated by faith. This faith can then help others who may be struggling. Our captain, God, has cleared us for takeoff with a destination set for greatness. We wish everyone a new year filled with new hope, joy, and beginnings. Let's take off and embrace the journey ahead!

The importance of nothing. “You get up every day, you're entitled to … nothing. Nobody owes you … nothing. You could have talent, but if you don't have discipline, if you don't execute, you don't focus, you get nothing. If you're complacent, and not paying attention to detail, what does that get you? Nothing.” — Steven Yates

There is a critical distinction between motivation and discipline. While most people believe motivation is essential to cultivate discipline, the reality is that discipline must come first. Tim and Steve compare discipline to railroad tracks that guide a train — without a solid foundation of discipline, motivation can easily fade. They explore the excitement of starting new endeavors, and how that initial motivation often wanes if you don't develop the necessary discipline. Tune in to discover how to shift your mindset from seeking motivation to building lasting discipline for success.

“Fear is an insidious and deadly thing. It can warp judgment, freeze reflexes, breed mistakes. Worse, it's contagious.” — Jimmy Stewart

THE POWER OF APPROPRIATE CONFRONTATION Build Strength by Facing Your Weaknesses: Confronting (different than confrontational) is key to personal growth Personal Insight: Steve shares how bullying led to martial arts and self-empowerment Key Lesson: Tim explains how strength comes from facing challenges, not avoiding them Embrace life's obstacles as opportunities for transformation

“Love the giver more than the gift” Timely and appropriate for Christmas — as it reminds us to cherish the love, generosity, and thoughtfulness behind the act of giving, which embodies the true spirit of the season.

Tim and Steve talk about innovation versus tradition, highlighting the importance of thinking outside the box to solve problems. They reference Albert Einstein's assertion that we cannot solve problems with the same thinking that created them, emphasizing the insanity of repeating the same actions while expecting different results. The discussion delves into the evolution of martial arts, focusing on Bruce Lee's groundbreaking approach that challenged conventional systems. Tim shares his journey of embracing an eclectic and progressive training style, advocating for the idea of discarding what doesn't work and cultivating what does. Tune in for insightful perspectives on growth, change, and the courage to think differently in both martial arts and life.

Marriage is hard. Divorce is hard. Choose your hard. Obesity is hard. Being fit is hard. Choose your hard. Being in debt is hard. Being financially disciplined is hard. Choose your hard. Communication is hard. Not communicating is hard. Choose your hard. Life will never be easy. It will always be hard. But we can choose our hard. Choose wisely.

In this brief episode, Tim and Steve highlight the value of sparring with more skilled opponents to learn and improve — rather than taking the easy route. The takeaway: Embrace challenges, learn from those at a higher level than you currently are at, and treat every experience as a chance to grow.

Never take advice from people who are not where you want to be.

In this special Thanksgiving episode, Tim and Steve revisit a timeless and impactful discussion on the importance of respect and gratitude, both in martial arts and in life. They reflect on the value of giving thanks, emphasizing that gratitude should be a daily practice, not just reserved for holidays. The conversation explores the etymology of "holiday," tracing its roots to the Hebrew word kadosh, meaning "holy" or "to separate." This separation from ordinary days underscores the respect and appreciation that make holidays meaningful and significant. As we celebrate Thanksgiving, this episode serves as a heartfelt reminder to cherish the people and moments that matter, express love and gratitude openly, and cultivate a positive outlook on life.

“Comfort is the worst addiction and a cheap ticket to depression.”

Discipline is key to achieving success in every part of life, and Tim and Steve dive into what it really means and how it works. Tim explains that discipline is a personal journey, not just a set of rules or religious ideas. He shares how it shapes his mind, body, and spirit — reflecting on a conversation with his wife, who pointed out how discipline drives his faith, workouts, and mentoring. Together, Tim and Steve break it down, showing how discipline is a practical way to live rather than some big, abstract idea. They encourage listeners to embrace it and discover its power to transform their lives.

Someone makes 10x more than you do in a 9-5 job because they have more "leverage" with their work. Distraction is the greatest killer of success. It stunts and destroys your brain.

It's no secret that fear is pervasive in today's society. Tim reflects on his own experiences with fear, noting how it hindered him in his early years until he broke the chain through martial arts training and faith. He discusses the current climate of anxiety surrounding politics, weather, and everyday life, highlighting how people are overwhelmingly fatigued by these stressors. As a sensei and coach, Tim shares how he finds peace in various aspects of his life, including prayer and the dojo, and emphasizes the importance of maintaining high expectations for both himself and his students.