Attack Life, Not Others

Tim and Steve cut through the fluff and get real about leadership and teaching. A leader isn't your friend or parent — their job is to push you toward your goals, even when you don't know what they are. Listening beats talking, every time. They share stories about teachers who were tough but fair — the kind who demanded respect and made people grow. They also talk about spotting potential in others before they see it themselves. That drive to push people forward is what keeps them passionate about teaching and leading.

"Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one." — Eleanor Roosevelt

Tim and Steve take a closer look at what "meta" really means — not just in tech or gaming, but in everyday life. It's about self-awareness, reflection, and the inner work needed for real growth. Through the lens of martial arts, the discussion breaks down the balance of mind, body, and spirit. True strength comes from looking inward. The takeaway: understanding yourself is the key to improving in all areas of life.

"We do not have to become heroes overnight. Just a step at a time, meeting each thing that comes up, seeing it as not as dreadful as it appears, discovering that we have the strength to stare it down." — Eleanor Roosevelt

As technology races ahead, artificial intelligence is becoming part of nearly every corner of life. This episode explores how we can use AI to enhance learning, boost productivity, and spark creativity without losing what makes us human. Steve shares his take on schools restricting AI for research and assignments, suggesting that while students should learn to think independently, AI can also deepen understanding and save time. Together with Tim, the conversation uncovers the fine balance between embracing innovation and staying grounded in the natural world. While AI can guide and assist, it should never replace our imagination, individuality, or human connection.

“Fear is natural, but panic is fatal. You train your mind as much as your fists to stay cool under pressure.” — Gene Tunney

The Breath of Greatness: Tim and Steve talk about commitment and what it really takes to be great at something. They share a story about a young football player who wants to learn from a retired coach. The boy keeps asking the coach to teach him, showing how much he really wants it. Finally, the coach agrees — but he teaches the boy in a very surprising way. He takes the boy into the water and holds him down for a few seconds. When the boy comes up gasping for air, the coach tells him, “When you want to be great as badly as you wanted to breathe just now, that's when you'll be great.” Tim and Steve explain that this means you have to want greatness every single day, not just sometimes. Being good is nice — but when you work hard, stay focused, and never give up, that's when you become truly great.

“A happy life consists not in the absence, but in the mastery of hardships.” — Helen Keller

For any task, you need the right tool to get the job done — for instance — a hammer for a nail, a screwdriver for a screw. Having the right tools and information makes success easier. Tim and Steve discuss staying open to new tools, people, and experiences that push you to improve.

“Don't speak negatively about yourself, even as a joke. Your body doesn't know the difference. Words are energy and they cast spells, that's why it's called spelling. Change the way you speak about yourself, and you can change your life.” — Bruce Lee

Tim Hoover and Steve Mittman dive into what it truly means to live in a “ready stance.” Drawing from lessons in martial arts, they explore how readiness isn't just physical — it's mental, emotional, and spiritual. The conversation expands beyond the dojo, reminding listeners that in today's chaotic world, no one's coming to save you — you must be prepared to rely on yourself. Tim shares how the simple act of standing in a ready position, practiced for decades, evolved into a mindset of self-awareness and focus. Steve connects this to everyday life — staying alert, calm, and grounded no matter what's coming your way. Whether you've trained in martial arts or not, this episode is about cultivating awareness, confidence, and readiness in every part of life.

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” — Aristotle

In this 400th episode of Attack Life Not Others, Tim and Steve reflect on 8 years of podcasting and over 600 episodes: They share lessons from their martial arts journey, including how tragedy reshaped teaching to focus on resilience, awareness, and positivity They address recent feedback from last week's episode, reaffirming their commitment to honest conversations that uplift, challenge, and inspire This milestone episode is a celebration of growth, leadership, and the power of speaking from the heart

“Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” — Robert Collier

Mindset and action are what Tim and Steve discuss, opening with the quote from Carl Jung: “You are what you do, not what you say you'll do.” They share a story about a boy in his first martial arts class whose reluctance to be touched showed the gap that can exist between goals and actions. They joke about “bullshido” — martial arts without substance — as a reminder that words without action don't amount to much. Their message is clear: real growth requires consistency, effort, and a willingness to struggle. Change comes gradually, but only when mindset and actions truly align.

“Great things are done by a series of small things brought together.” — Vincent van Gogh

Habits — good or bad — are powerful. Steve shares a quote from Samuel Johnson: “The chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken.” It's a reminder that habits can sneak up on us, and building the right ones takes effort but pays off in the long run. Tim and Steve touch on how it usually takes a few weeks to make a new routine stick and how too many people give up before they see results. That's why a strong foundation and a supportive community are key. Consistency, discipline, and community matter. Stick with the process, stay committed, and surround yourself with the right people.

“Pressure is a privilege” — Billie Jean King Consider pressure to be a privilege. It doesn't happen TO you, it happens FOR you. It means great things are expected of you.

Tim and Steve break down why keeping life simple makes things easier and more meaningful. They touch on Hick's Law — the idea that too many choices slow us down — and show how focusing on a few core habits and skills leads to better results. With personal stories and down-to-earth examples, the guys remind us that health, family, and simple moments matter most.

"Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning." — Benjamin Franklin

Tim and Steve take a look at the power of small, steady improvements by exploring Kaizen and Parkinson's Law — the idea that work expands to fill the time we give it. They discuss why setting deadlines (and beating them) is a game-changer, freeing up more space for the things that really matter. They share real-life stories, from martial arts lessons to a friend's passion for restoring cars, showing how dedication to little steps can lead to big results. Listeners are encouraged to think about their own routines, how they spend their time, and the way everyday choices add up to long-term growth. It's a reminder that whether in training, personal projects, or daily life, consistent effort and conscious choices move us forward.

Tim and Steve talk about how big goals don't happen overnight — they come from small steps every day. They share how even a champion like Larry Holmes had to win one fight at a time to reach the top. The message is simple: stick to a winning process, focus on little wins each day, and you'll get closer to your dreams.

Tim and Steve talk about how things have changed from the old days to now. They remember when food, like McDonald's fries, used to be made in a healthier way, and laugh about kids today not even knowing what a pay phone is. They explain how life with Siri and smartphones can be helpful, but we still need old-school habits like moving our bodies, sitting up straight, and eating real food. The big message is that we need to balance new technology with smart choices and lessons from the past.

“You know, I never looked down the road and said, 'Hey look, one day, the Hall of Fame.' It's always about playing each and every game 100 percent and I thank my teammates for getting me into the Hall because football is a team sport, not an individual sport.” — Jerry Rice

Tim and Steve take a deeper look at what “true fame” really means. It's not about followers, headlines, or being in the spotlight. Instead, it's about lasting fulfillment: feeling healthy, secure, connected, and at peace with yourself. The conversation breaks down the four pillars of a truly fulfilling life — mental health, physical health, financial freedom, and meaningful relationships. These are what create those rare “perfect days” where everything just feels right. Fame in the traditional sense often fades. Too many celebrities and athletes struggle once the applause dies down. Real success is found in resilience, balance, and living in line with your values — not in chasing temporary recognition. At its heart, this episode is about redefining success. True fame is building a life you don't just remember, but cherish — one filled with joy, strength, freedom, and connection.

“Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere.” — Albert Einstein

Tim and Steve explore the enduring power of words, reflecting on the wisdom of historical religious figures like Buddha, Christ, and Muhammad, along with Seneca and other Stoics. They discuss history's peaks of enlightenment, the lasting truth found in the written word — especially the Bible — and the importance of seeking light and wisdom in a world often filled with disorder.

“If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough.” — Albert Einstein

Tim Hoover and Steve Mittman dive into how martial arts shaped Tim's life — and how its principles can apply to anyone seeking purpose. From childhood inspiration to becoming a sensei, Tim shares how discipline, growth, and passing on knowledge fuel fulfillment. They discuss the danger of “mailing it in,” the power of taking small steps, and why purpose matters more than ever in today's world. Whether or not you practice martial arts, this episode will inspire you to live with intention, face fear, and keep learning.

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” — Mahatma Gandhi

Tim and Steve talk about the power of everyday conversations — especially with strangers like Uber drivers. Some drivers are quiet, others love to chat — but each ride shows how a small moment of connection can brighten someone's day. They also touch on how society is becoming more disconnected — and how even a smile or quick “hello” to a waiter, cashier, or stranger can make a difference. It's a simple message: be kind, be open, and don't be afraid to talk to people. You never know the impact you might have.

“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.” — Marcus Aurelius

Tim and Steve explore the power of being present and attuned to the moment, especially in how we connect with others. They reflect on how rigid expectations and a linear mindset can hinder growth — whether in personal relationships or martial arts. Drawing from real experiences, they emphasize the importance of sensitivity, receptivity, and creating space for genuine connection.

“You have power over your mind, not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” — Marcus Aurelius “The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.” — Marcus Aurelius

Tim Hoover shares how a cancer diagnosis at 36 became a life-changing blessing The power of adversity to teach gratitude and perspective Why doing the hard work matters — especially when life gets tough The vital role of community, family, faith, and friendship — your “tribe” Steve Mittman highlights the importance of taking ownership of your circumstances A call to action: find your tribe — whether through faith, martial arts, or meaningful relationships A powerful reminder: resilience grows through connection and support

“I feel like I'm the best, but you're not going to get me to say that.” — Jerry Rice

Tim Hoover and Steve Mittman talk about endurance — how going through hard times builds real strength. Tim shares how he trains his martial arts students to push through both physical and mental challenges. He explains that nothing worthwhile comes easy, and even young kids can understand the value of earning something. They discuss how today's generation often avoids struggle, but real growth only comes when you push past your limits. Endurance isn't just about the body — it's about the mind staying strong when things get tough.

“It is not the man who has too little, but the man who craves more, that is poor.” — Seneca

Discipline today creates freedom tomorrow. Tim shares a recent conversation with Bernie, a living example of vitality and wisdom, to explore the true meaning of the "golden years." Bernie talks about the four pillars of a fulfilling life — mental health, physical health, financial freedom, and meaningful connection. From daily prayer and stair climbing to lessons in hard work and shared happiness, Bernie reminds us that a rich life is built with intention. The golden years, Bernie teaches, aren't just for the elderly — they start whenever we commit to living well.

“Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one.” — Marcus Aurelius

Seneca's quote, "No man was ever wise by chance," sets the tone for this episode as Tim and Steve explore how wisdom isn't a byproduct of aging alone, but the result of intentional effort, experience, and learning. Aging alone does not guarantee wisdom; it is the experiences we gather and the lessons we learn from them that shape our understanding of life. Growing older comes with a unique opportunity to acquire wisdom, but this process is not automatic. It requires intentional effort — an active engagement with the world and the people around us.

“It is not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste a lot of it.” — Seneca

Tim and Steve share a heartwarming Father's Day story that shows why the little moments in life matter most. In this episode, Tim talks about how his daughter Chelsea surprised him to train together — just like they did when she was a kid. They rode bikes, laughed, shared a drink, and created an unexpected memory that reminded Tim how special these times are. Listen to hear: A real-life reminder of how powerful father-child connections can be Why it's important to stay present and appreciate the simple joys How even an ordinary day can turn into a memory you'll never forget If you're a parent, a child, or just someone trying to make the most of life, this episode is a feel-good reminder to slow down and cherish what really matters.

“Any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad.” — Anne Geddes

Understanding Life's Archetypes In this episode, Tim and Steve talk about four powerful roles we all play at different times in life: The Hero – pushes through hard times with courage and purpose The Healer – helps others and brings comfort The Victim – feels stuck, powerless, or overwhelmed The Villain – acts out of pain, fear, or anger to protect themselves They explain how we shift between these roles depending on what's going on in our lives — and why it's so important to notice when we're slipping into the Victim or Villain. By staying connected to our values, we can choose to step into the Hero or Healer more often and live with purpose. Takeaway: Which role are you playing today — and is it helping you grow?

"June is the month of potential — halfway through the year, and still time to become everything you set out to be." — Unknown

Avoid the corrosion of inaction: If we neglect our space, it can quickly become cluttered with negativity and stagnation — much like debris filling an empty room. The key is to keep moving and shaking things up! Whether it's going for a run, surrounding yourself with uplifting people, or simply trying something new, these actions can prevent your space from becoming unmovable and corroded. Remember, a flat soda loses its appeal, just like a stagnant life loses its vibrancy. Tim Hoover and Steve Mittman talk more about “chasing your space” — taking care of your mental and emotional well-being. They compare it to blowing up a balloon. If you don't fill it with good things like positive thoughts and actions, it will fill up with negativity instead. Tim says if you don't pay attention to your space, it gets messy and unhelpful. He also compares personal growth to the fizz in soda — movement and energy keep life exciting, and being around positive people helps you grow. The message: Don't ignore your space — fill it with things that help you grow and stay happy.

“Summertime is always the best of what might be.” — Charles Bowden

Tradition matters — in martial arts and in life. It teaches discipline, respect, and perseverance. Old-school practices like kata still have value, even if modern systems move away from them. Tradition connects us — like family meals and passed-down customs — helping us stay grounded. Be present — Tim ties in the four dimensions (height, width, depth, time) to explain how being mindful of posture and breath can keep us aware in both martial arts and daily life. Life is short — every breath matters, so walk with confidence and make each day count.

Some fitting Memorial Day quotes: "This nation will remain the land of the free only so long as it is the home of the brave." "Home of the free, because of the brave.” “I only regret that I have but one life to lose for my country.” — Nathan Hale “America without her soldiers would be like God without His angels.” — Claudia Pemberton “We don't know them all, but we owe them all.” Their sacrifice lives on in the freedoms we cherish. Honoring our heroes today.

Sensei Tim Hoover and Steve Mittman talk about a scary real-life incident where a woman was threatened and attacked in a movie theater parking lot. They break down why being prepared and aware in dangerous situations is so important. Tim shares lessons from his weapons training and Steve explains why "self-protection" is better than "self-defense." This episode will help you think differently about staying safe.