Being The One

You avoid love altogether because you're afraid of losing your freedom and identity. What if you didn't have to scarifice who you are in order to be loved? Freedom in relationships IS possible.  Free quiz: Is this person right for you? LAST CALL. Deadline to apply to FFY is on 2/18: https://www.gabriellevaldes.com/finally-found-you

Are you addicted to the chase? A lot of your connections start off strong but then fade away. You're tired of situationships or things ending after a few months. You want a fulfilling and long-lasting relationship, but you don't know how to break this pattern. Listen to this episode to learn how to kick your love addiction. Deadline to apply to FFY is on 2/18: https://www.gabriellevaldes.com/finally-found-you

You feel embarrassed to cry in front of people. You don't want to seem weak, too needy, or too sensitive, so you hide your emotions to appear strong. But, no matter how hard you try to toughen up, you cry a lot especially when your crush hurts your feelings. This episode will change your perspective on crying so that you can find your person. Deadline to apply to FFY is on 2/18: https://www.gabriellevaldes.com/finally-found-you

You feel embarrassed that you're the friend that always has a new boo every few months. Your friends are getting engaged or getting married, and you're still trying to figure out your love life. It's hard to not feel ashamed! This episode helps you overcome that shame so that you can feel confident putting yourself out there again... and again. https://www.gabriellevaldes.com/newsletter

You want to find your person, but when it comes to love and dating you're always waiting. Instead of putting yourself out there, you wait to be chosen. You think your life will start once they finally come around and pick you. Except, you've been waiting for years and you still feel hopeless and disappointed about finding love. If you're waiting for your fairytale ending, then this episode is for you. This episode will teach you how to create your happily ever after. Stop waiting, start creating! Apply to Finally Found You: https://www.gabriellevaldes.com/finally-found-you

It's hard to trust yourself. You overthink every little thing before making a decision. You can't tell the difference between your intuition and fear. Sometimes, you avoid or opt out of making decisions altogether because it's so overwhelming. This episode teaches you how to trust yourself so that you can create the love you've always longed for. Apply to Finally Found You: https://www.gabriellevaldes.com/finally-found-you

"I want my relationship to challenge me." Yes, but, there's a difference between a relationship that challenges you to grow into the best version of yourself versus a relationship that constantly chips away at your self-worth. If you want to create a fulfilling relationship, you have to know what you're aiming for. This episode gives you clarity on what a thriving relationship looks and feels like. Part one focuses on the qualities of survival relationships and part two focuses on the characteristics of a thriving relationship.  Is your relationship right for you? Find out now by taking this simple quiz: https://www.gabriellevaldes.com/right-for-you

"I want my relationship to challenge me." Yes, but, there's a difference between a relationship that challenges you to grow into the best version of yourself versus a relationship that constantly chips away at your self-worth. If you want to create a fulfilling relationship, you have to know what you're aiming for. This episode gives you clarity on what a thriving relationship looks and feels like. Part one focuses on the qualities of survival relationships and part two focuses on the characteristics of a thriving relationship.  Is your relationship right for you? Find out now by taking this simple quiz: https://www.gabriellevaldes.com/right-for-you

If friendships and dating are hard for you, you might believe that you're not cut out for them. I've been there. I've wanted to give up on relationships because I thought I was bad at them. This podcast episode debunks the myth that friendships and relationships should come easy. You'll gain a new perspective on relationships after listening to this episode. Nothing's wrong with you. Trust me. 

Whether you're going through a breakup or feeling lonely because you've been single for a while now, this guided meditation will help you feel less alone. Download the audio-only version: https://www.gabriellevaldes.com/feel-less-alone

Are you gung ho about something at first but then lose interest quickly? You likely compulsively buy self-help books but never finish them. Maybe you've bought online courses but you're always falling behind. If you struggle to stay motivated learning a new skill or remain hopeful while looking for love, then this episode is for you. You'll learn how to finish things and how to put yourself out there. Teach yourself the skills needed to find your person: https://www.gabriellevaldes.com/blog

When you first start using dating apps, you might feel like the conversations are dry and rigid. And if you've been on the apps for a while now, it feels like you have to pull teeth to get a response back. Why is it so hard to really connect with people? Listen to this episode whether you're struggling to get to know someone you just matched with or a crush you've been seeing for a while now. I share questions you can ask someone to get to know who they really are.

Times ticking and you feel the pressure to find someone. You don't understand why it's so hard for you... your friends make finding love look so easy. Deep down you worry that something is wrong with you. This episode helps you understand yourself more so that you stop feeling ashamed for being single. Trust me. There's nothing wrong with you! In fact, your dating process is different (and that's a good thing). Learn more: https://www.gabriellevaldes.com/blog

And I'm back! If we haven't met yet, I'm Gabby Valdes. I'm a dating coach that helps singles looking for love find someone to share their life with. Tune in every week for a new episode. You'll learn how to find your person and ways to overcome rejection - and everything in between. It's going to be a great season! Can't wait? Start learning how to find your person on my new blog now.

Online dating can be overwhelming. You might even burn yourself out before you start talking to anyone. This episode is for you if you dislike online dating or if you're already burnout. This episode will help you find success on the apps and get you excited about online dating again.

Listen to this episode to find out if you're being love bombed or if they are genuinely interested in you. You will learn the difference between love bombing and healthy love, how to figure it out yourself and how to avoid being swept up in it.

We first learn how to love from our caregivers. This was when I first learned that love was distant, unavailable and inconsistent. This carried over well into my adult life. I crafted a story that I was unloveable and unworthy because of it. This story had serious consequences. I was repulsed by healthy love and instead chased emotionally unavailable people. This episode helps you learn how to accept healthy love so that you can break the unavailable cycle for you (and your future kids) once in for all. https://www.instagram.com/gabriellevaldes/

Before being best friends, Dustin and I thought about becoming romantic partners. We get real and share our story to show you the difference between friendship and romance. This episode is packed with tools that help you navigate unspoken attractions, the friend zone, red flags and how to respectfully let someone know that you aren't interested in them. Connect with Dustin: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-big-believer-podcast/id1500071696 https://thepersonalfinanceplaybook.com/ https://www.instagram.com/dustinstern/ 

It's hard to love again when things end with the person you thought was the one. I've been there. I share my story about how I found and passionately pursued "the one" only to have him abruptly break up with me. This episode helps you finally accept the breakup and learn how to move on. https://www.gabriellevaldes.com/

Starting new relationships can be scary especially when they always end up in heartbreak. You're probably jaded and thinking "what's the point anyway?" This episode will help you start dating or start a new relationship when you're afraid that the relationship will eventually end. 

Finally Found You is back for another season! This episode walks you through a 4-step process that will help calm your anxiety when you notice a date pull away.

I want to share some exciting news with you! I'm in the middle of a podcast rebrand. Introducing: Finally Found You. A podcast that helps you, the highly-sensitive and highly-selective dater, attract your life partner. Tune into this episode for juicy updates!

This episode shares courageous questions that you can ask on the first date, second date, the third date and beyond.  https://www.patreon.com/gabriellevaldes https://www.instagram.com/gabriellevaldes/

If you haven't started dating or putting yourself out there because you feel you aren't attractive enough, this episode is for you. Attraction and body image is a tricky subject — and we know how triggering counting calories can be. Listen to learn what the new road map to lasting love is (and it doesn't involve spending hours at the gym). https://www.mollykatewellness.com/your-body-and-dating

Intuitive Eating/Body Image Coach Molly Kate joins us on the show to talk about intuitive eating, food obsession, body image, rejection, and the “shoulds” and “should nots” of food and dating. Ready to feel at home in your body and start dating confidently? Let's do this.

Maya Rose is an intuitive and somatic coach. She works with women who struggle with setting boundaries and speaking up for themselves in their relationships. This episode teaches you how to cultivate your own intuitive practice, how to listen to gut feelings, how to discern between fear versus intuition, and how to set boundaries on dates and in the bedroom.   https://mayarose.love/ https://www.instagram.com/mayapapayarose/

The quality of your relationships is determined by the quality of your boundaries. Boundaries cultivate self-trust and allow for deeper connections to build. Learn how to create individualized boundaries that are specific to you and your needs by listening to this episode. https://www.patreon.com/gabriellevaldes

Self-doubt can be crippling and you deserve to get unstuck in your romantic life. This episode unpacks important questions around self-doubt while dating and second chances in long-term relationships that may be swirling around in your mind. I share supportive guidelines on whether it's in your best interest to pursue or leave a connection.

We must unlearn the dating "rules" and decide for ourselves what dating approaches we want to take. Historically, dating "rules" have had power over us and this podcast gives you to tools to learn how to cultivate power within. Ready to be liberated? This episode breaks down the 4 types: power over, power with, power to, power within.  Full episode on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/gabriellevaldes

This episode walks you through the 3 types of energies you can embody while dating/being in a relationship: codependent, independent and interdependent. I define all three energies, discuss the characteristics they have and the gifts associated with each. This episode is packed with tools, insights and reflections questions. Keep this work thriving by supporting me on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/gabriellevaldes

Online dating apps trigger the "I'm not good enough" and "I'm too sensitive" story. Every left swipe and ghosting experience discourages you. You claim that online dating just isn't for you. This episode will change the way you view online dating for good. Need more guidance? Become a Patreon to receive an exclusive episode that outlines what to put on your online dating profile and how to swipe with intention.  Pledge and receive access to the podcast on 6/7/2020. www.patreon.com/gabriellevaldes

Part of the intimacy journey involves grieving the loss of the ideal or "perfect" relationship. We hold on so tightly to what "should" be. If this person finally picks us, then we will be fulfilled and worthy. In order to break free from this pattern, we must educate ourselves on our romantic attractions. Our romantic attractions give us insight into the lessons we must learn to graduate to the next level of our intimacy and love journey. Gift 1:1 Coaching Call: https://bit.ly/datingdeepdive Ken Page: https://deeperdatingpodcast.com/

Putting feelings into words is a skill to be practiced. It's not something that we are inherently born with. Building this skill takes time, compassion, and self-awareness. It's not about getting it perfect it's about beginning and beginning again. Emotions are tools and allies that enrich the relationship that you have with yourself and others. This episode gives you a concrete framework to help you feel, process, and allow your emotions. Schedule a gifted 1:1 30-minute coaching call with me: https://calendly.com/gabriellevaldes/dating-deep-dive

This episode talks about the two different roadmaps to love (being perfect versus being human) and the two strategies that accompany each path. To make your dating journey more concrete I share specific examples of what each type looks like on paper. You leave this episode with a clear understanding of the difference between persona vs. character and "cool" dates vs. "kind" dates.  Let's be friends: https://www.instagram.com/gabriellevaldes/ Support me on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/gabriellevaldes The full episode transcript can be found here: www.gabriellevaldes.com/podcast-transcripts 

Dating burnout is real. Don’t give up. Dating is not about avoiding rejection. It’s about building the emotional resiliency needed to handle rejection with confidence. This is how you cultivate self-trust. Self-trust is what sustains you in love and in life. Know that you are one step closer to the love you actually want. Trust yourself. This episode contains: 4 things to remember when you want to give up on dating The difference between 2 dating mindsets. (1) Dating to become the best version of yourself. (2) Dating to find the one. Both yield different results. What rejection really means about you Avoiding dating burnout by creating sustainable dating practices 5 powerful questions that will guide you through your own dating breakthrough Concrete and relatable examples from my last romantic relationship Full transcript of the episode can be found on www.gabriellevaldes.com/podcast-transcripts

This podcast supports you in becoming your own best partner first. Because true love starts with you. Conventional dating advice encourages you to seek answers outside yourself. You need to spend hundreds of dollars buying clothes or to force yourself to lose weight. This perpetuates “not enough” culture and the only way to be chosen by “the one” is to “fix” yourself. This advice is wrong and is only effective if you are seeking an emotionally unavailable partner. You’re the type of person who would only be fulfilled in a mutually loving, consistently caring, and equally inspiring relationship. This podcast invites you to get introspective and focus on the inner work so that you can make powerful and sustainable changes in your love life. It’s not going to be easy, but it will be worth it. Promise.