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"He's back... but he's not the man you remember."Today on MentalHealness, I'm telling the story of Timmy and Michelle. They were young, they were in love, and Timmy blew it with drugs and cheating. Fast forward 20 years—Michelle has moved on, but Timmy shows up with a "surprise" visit. He's older, he's divorced, and he's got 6 kids he doesn't even take care of.I'm breaking down the psychology of why an aging narcissist returns to an ex after decades. It's not about "true love" or "destiny"—it's about finding a soft place to land now that his options have dried up.IN THIS STORYTELLING SESSION:The Nostalgia Trap: Why they think you'll forget the pain because of the passage of time.The Reality Check: Breaking down the "New Timmy"—6 kids, no responsibility, same entitlement.The Audacity: Why showing up unannounced is a massive boundary violation.Michelle's Choice: Why "Closure" means keeping the door locked.Don't let a 20-year-old ghost haunt your current peace.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"It was the only time I felt like they actually loved me."In a narcissistic relationship, physical intimacy is rarely just about connection—it's about control. As a self-aware narcissist, I'm breaking down the truth about the "Bedroom Power Dynamic." We're discussing why the bedroom becomes the only place you feel "seen," and how a narcissist uses that bond to keep you stuck in a cycle of toxicity.If you've ever felt like intimacy was being used as a reward or a punishment, this Live is for you. We are talking about reclaiming your autonomy and understanding the difference between a "soul tie" and a "trauma bond."Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"But they're your family..."It's the phrase that keeps people trapped in cycles of abuse for decades. But what happens when the people who were supposed to protect you are the ones you need protection from? Going No Contact with a narcissist is hard; going No Contact with an entire narcissistic family system is a battlefield.Today, I'm breaking down the mechanics of the "Toxic Family Unit," the role of Flying Monkeys within your own siblings, and why the "Family Scapegoat" is usually the only one who finds peace. I'm giving you the perspective of the person left behind—what we think when you finally stop answering the group chat.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Does the narcissist in your life become a completely different person when they drink, or are you finally seeing who they really are? Many people believe that alcohol "changes" the narcissist, but from the perspective of a self-aware narcissist, I can tell you that it usually just lowers the inhibitions that were keeping the rage in check.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Have you ever wondered if narcissists are born that way or if life made them that way? Today, we are doing a full "workup" on how male narcissists are created. As a diagnosed narcissist who has spent nearly a decade in therapy, I'm taking you behind the mask to show you exactly how the environment, parenting, and societal pressure combine to create the personality you see today.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"If I'm still chasing, they must be worth it... right?"Wrong. As a self-aware narcissist, I'm telling you the truth about what happens in our heads when you pursue us after we've treated you like trash. To you, the chase is an act of love. To us, the chase is a "Get Out of Jail Free" card.When you chase a narcissist, you aren't showing them your value; you are showing them that their behavior has no consequences. Today, we are breaking down the "Forgiveness Trap" and why your silence is the only thing that actually forces a narcissist to face reality.IN THIS LIVE, WE DISCUSS:The Forgiveness Fallacy: Why chasing tells the narcissist that everything they did was "okay."The Ego Boost: How the chase fuels the narcissist's sense of superiority.The Power Shift: How you lose your leverage the moment you try to "fix" what they broke.Breaking the Cycle: How to stop the "chase reflex" and reclaim your dignity.Stop giving them the validation they didn't earn.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Holly Kabler spent years cheering for her husband at marathons, convinced running just wasn't for her. But after spectating the London Marathon and asking the question “how hard could it be?”, she decided to find out for herself. What started with Peloton treadmill classes and a spontaneous half marathon turned into a full training cycle and a start line at the Chicago Marathon.In this episode, Holly shares how she learned to pace herself for the first time, figured out fueling after years of running without water, and approached her first marathon with one goal: have a damn good time. From dancing through the Chicago course to finishing in 4:36 and immediately wanting to do it again, Holly's story is a reminder that sometimes the best race strategy is simply letting yourself enjoy the ride.Follow along with the show:
Have you ever tried to hold a narcissist accountable, only to end up being the one apologizing? That isn't an accident. Narcissists have a specific set of excuses they use to deflect, distract, and devalue your concerns. Today, we are breaking down the Top 5 excuses I used—and that most narcissists use—to stay in control of the narrative.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"Get out then!"It's what they've been saying for weeks. They've devalued you, ignored you, and treated you like a burden until you finally had enough and packed your bags. But instead of the relief you expected them to feel, they exploded. They raged. They begged. They lost their minds.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Are you addicted to "Pain Shopping"? In this video, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock explains why survivors compulsively check their ex's social media and how narcissists use their profiles as a weapon. Learn how to break the digital trauma bond and stop the cycle of self-harm today.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
I've been listening to a lot of sales coaching calls this week, and I keep hearing the same blind spot from managers over and over again. There are two distinct things you have to address when you're coaching someone — the person and the process — and most coaches are only doing one. In this episode, I break down why the process-only coach runs an informational boot camp that nobody acts on, and why the people-only coach just gets their team fired up to execute the wrong things with maximum enthusiasm. The real skill isn't just knowing both levers — it's knowing which one to pull with the right person at the right moment.//Welcome to The Ray J. Green Show, your destination for tips on sales, strategy, and self-mastery from an operator, not a guru.About Ray:→ Former Managing Director of National Small & Midsize Business at the U.S. Chamber of Commerce, where he doubled revenue per sale in fundraising, led the first increase in SMB membership, co-built a national Mid-Market sales channel, and more.→ Former CEO operator for several investor groups where he led turnarounds of recently acquired small businesses.→ Current founder of MSP Sales Partners, where we currently help IT companies scale sales: www.MSPSalesPartners.com→ Current Sales & Sales Management Expert in Residence at the world's largest IT business mastermind.→ Current Managing Partner of Repeatable Revenue Ventures, where we scale B2B companies we have equity in: www.RayJGreen.com//Follow Ray on:YouTube | LinkedIn | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram
Being in shape used to be respected. Strength, discipline, and taking care of your body were seen as standards. Now the culture often celebrates comfort more than fitness. In this episode, I break down why America doesn't value being in shape the way it once did and why that mindset is hurting people's health.
"Will this ever end?"Channel Memberships For More perks- www.youtube.com/channel/UCm1vYQOEQRo6X4Dy8KoGPMw/joinIt's the question that keeps you up at night. You've gone No Contact, you've blocked the numbers, but you're still looking over your shoulder. As a self-aware narcissist, I'm going to give you the honest truth about the "Mental Rolodex" we keep. Do we ever truly let go, or are you just "on ice" until we get bored?Today, we are breaking down the mechanics of the hoover, the concept of "shelf supply," and what it actually takes for a narcissist to decide you are no longer worth the effort.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
The Action Academy | Millionaire Mentorship for Your Life & Business
Sam helped grow Dan Martell from under 100,000 followers to over 10 million across platforms. In this episode, Sam breaks down exactly how they built a media machine generating eight figures per year and why most creators are focused on the wrong metrics.Sam shares what actually drives growth today, why views do not matter if they do not convert to followers, and how to monetize content without relying on sponsorships or AdSense. You will hear the Hook, Explain, Illustrate, Teach framework, how to validate ideas before filming, and why life experience is the real unfair advantage in content creation.If you want to build a personal brand, turn content into revenue, and stop overthinking camera gear and tactics that do not move the needle, this is a tactical masterclass on becoming a serious creator.Want To Quit Your Job In The Next 6-18 Months Through Buying Commercial Real Estate & Small Businesses?
The Cathy Heller Podcast: A Podcast for Soulful Entrepreneurs
How do you manifest anything you deeply desire, without waiting years for it to happen? In this powerful coaching call, Cathy guides a student through a transformative hot seat about calling in her next home and stepping into true abundance. You'll learn why the vibration must precede the 3D reality, how self-love shifts the quantum field, and what it really means to “become the match” for what you want. - Join Business Class for a chance to get 1:1 hot seat coaching cathyheller.com/businessclass - Mayte's website mayte.me
My story from beginning to right now about how I have been diagnosed with NPD or narcissistic personality disorder Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealness◦All My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
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"I know who they are... but I'm staying."Not everyone is ready to leave. Whether it's for the kids, financial stability, or a hope that things will change, many people choose to remain in a relationship with a narcissist. As a self-aware narcissist, I want to have a real, judgment-free conversation about what that actually looks like.If you choose to stay, you have to know the price you are going to pay. Today, we are talking about the "Trade-Offs"—the isolation, the loss of self, and the reality of radical acceptance. This isn't about shaming you for staying; it's about preparing you for the life you are choosing.IN THIS LIVE, WE DISCUSS:Radical Acceptance: How to stop waiting for the "Old Version" of them to come back.The Isolation Factor: Why your world gets smaller the longer you stay.The Death of Expectation: How to survive when you know your emotional needs will never be met.Building a "Life Within a Life": How to find pockets of peace while living in the storm.If you've decided to stay, you need to know how to protect your spirit while you're there.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Are they "scared" of intimacy, or are they "managing" you?It's the question that keeps thousands of people stuck in toxic cycles. You see them pulling away, shutting down, and becoming cold—but is it because they have an Avoidant Attachment Style or is it Narcissistic Devaluation?All My Links (Coaching, Courses, Merch): https://link.me/mentalhealnessAs a self-aware narcissist, I'm breaking down the nuances that therapists often miss. I'm explaining the difference between the "Avoidant's Fear" and the "Narcissist's Control." If you treat a narcissist like an avoidant, you will end up destroyed. If you treat an avoidant like a narcissist, you'll miss the chance for a healthy boundary.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Are you swiping right on a predator? Online dating is a narcissist's dream. It allows them to curate a "Perfect Mask" before you ever meet them. As a self-aware narcissist, I'm pulling back the curtain on how we use dating profiles to target empathetic, successful, and high-value people. From the "Nice Guy" bio to the weaponized religious photos, I'm showing you exactly what the "bait" looks like.IN THIS LIVE, WE DISCUSS:The Visual Bait: Why they use gym selfies, "flex" photos, or photos with kids that aren't theirs.The "Nice Guy" Paradox: Why labeling themselves as "God-fearing" or "wholesome" is a major red flag.The Intent Trap: What "Short-term open to long-term" actually means in narcissist-speak.Keywords to Avoid: Why phrases like "drama-free," "soulmate," and "can handle me" are immediate "Swipe Left" warnings.Don't fall for the mask. Learn to read between the lines.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
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Today, we're discussing the power of your attention and how you can harness it to reach your full potential! Book a 1:1 Coaching Call: https://hoo.be/patmahan CONNECT WITH ME ON: Facebook https://www.facebook.com/likeattractslike11 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/patmahan_ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRDc1pT4/
Getting in shape isn't complicated — but most people still never do it. Why? Inconsistency, excuses, lack of structure, and avoiding the hard parts of fitness. In this episode, I break down exactly why most people never get in shape and what actually separates people who get results from those who don't.
Are you spiraling because the narcissist replaced you with someone who feels like a massive "downgrade"?It's not about love; it's about logistics. As a self-aware narcissist, I'm explaining the concept of "Transitional Supply." This is the person we jump to out of pure necessity—because we need a place to stay, money for bills, or simply because we cannot stand to be alone with our own thoughts for five minutes.IN THIS LIVE, WE DISCUSS:The "Band-Aid" Supply: Why we choose someone who isn't our "type" just to fill a void.Convenience Over Connection: How housing, food, and financial stability dictate our next move.The "Palate Cleanser": Why we sometimes choose someone "easier" after a strong partner (Grade A) sets boundaries.The Lifespan of the Transition: Why these relationships usually burn out as soon as the narcissist gets back on their feet.Stop comparing yourself to the person who is just a temporary life raft.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Are you "Grade A Supply" without even knowing it?Most people think narcissists target "broken" people. As a self-aware narcissist, I'm telling you that's a lie. We want the best. We want the person with the biggest heart, the most success, and the most to give. But there is a dark side to being "the best"—to a narcissist, you are a high-value asset that is ultimately replaceable.IN THIS LIVE, WE ARE DISCUSSING:The Anatomy of Grade A Supply: The 4 traits that make you an irresistible target.The "Reflector" Effect: How we use your light to hide our darkness.The Cold Truth on Replaceability: Why we can move on in 24 hours even after you gave us everything.Breaking the Pedestal: How to stop being "supply" and start being a person again.If you've ever felt like you were "special" to them only to be discarded like trash, this Live is for you.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
On this episode of Coaching Call, Sifu Rafael welcomes Dr. Fred Moss for a powerful conversation on mental health, authenticity, and the courage to speak your truth.Dr. Fred Moss is a distinguished psychiatrist, mental health advocate, keynote speaker, expert witness, podcaster, coach, and teacher. His work centers on helping people rediscover their authentic voice and break free from labels, limitations, and outdated systems of care. With decades of experience in psychiatry and human behavior, he challenges conventional approaches and invites individuals to reclaim responsibility for their mental and emotional well-being.This episode goes beyond theory. It dives into what it really means to be heard, understood, and aligned with who you truly are. When communication improves, clarity improves. When clarity improves, leadership improves. That's the foundation of transformation.Sifu Rafael is a master instructor and the founder of Speaking Prowess, where he combines expertise in communication and leadership to help individuals unlock their full potential. As a professional speaker, solutions expert, and executive coach, Sifu Rafael leverages years of experience to guide clients toward their goals with clarity, purpose, and strategic insight. His mission is to make the art of effective communication accessible to all, empowering personal and professional growth. Sifu Rafael's unwavering dedication to improving communication skills has earned him a reputation as a trusted mentor and coach. His vision is clear: to enhance communication worldwide, one individual at a time.This episode is brought to you by Sifu's Mind Body Method, a 90-day lifestyle transformation that blends movement, mindset, nutrition, hydration, fasting, journaling, and faith. Learn more at www.sifurafael.com/smbmWatch on Facebook, LinkedIn, X, and YouTube. Subscribe and share: https://www.youtube.com/@sifurafaeltv?sub_confirmation=1Through Speaking Prowess and Sifu's Mind Body Method, Sifu Rafael helps leaders, entrepreneurs, and experts refine their message, command a room, and step onto more stages with clarity and confidence. From podcasts and live shows to keynote stages and curated experiences, Sifu Rafael helps people get seen, heard, and positioned as trusted voices in their industry while sharpening their speaking skills along the way.If you know you're meant to speak, lead, and impact at a higher level, this conversation is your invitation.Visit sifurafael.com to connect, explore speaking opportunities, and start positioning yourself for more stages, stronger presence, and real influence.That's where connecting with Sifu Rafael matters.#CoachingCall #SifuRafael #SpeakingProwess #MentalHealth #Leadership #Communication #MindBodyMethod
On this episode of Coaching Call, Sifu Rafael welcomes Dr. Esther Zeledón for a powerful conversation on resilience, reinvention, and what it truly means to make your dreams work.Dr. Esther Zeledón embodies the resilient spirit of a Latina immigrant. Her diverse and dynamic background has shaped her trailblazing work as a life coach, speaker, workshop facilitator, former international diplomat, and scientist. She has transformed the lives of thousands around the world by bridging gaps across communities, corporations, and countries with a deep commitment to inclusivity and impact.Through her unique journey, Dr. Esther has developed a powerful formula for balanced success and brilliant productivity. She empowers leaders, professionals, and change-makers to envision and manifest their limitless life without sacrificing their well-being or identity. This is more than achievement. This is alignment.In this conversation, Sifu Rafael and Dr. Esther explore how resilience is built, how identity shapes performance, and how to step into the next version of yourself with clarity and courage. If you've ever felt called to more but unsure how to integrate purpose, productivity, and peace, this episode will challenge and inspire you.You can watch on Facebook, LinkedIn, X, and YouTube. Be sure to subscribe and share this link:https://www.youtube.com/@sifurafaeltv?sub_confirmation=1Sifu Rafael is a master instructor and the founder of Speaking Prowess, where he combines expertise in communication and leadership to help individuals unlock their full potential. As a professional speaker, solutions expert, and executive coach, Sifu Rafael leverages years of experience to guide clients toward their goals with clarity, purpose, and strategic insight. His mission is to make the art of effective communication accessible to all, empowering personal and professional growth. Sifu Rafael's unwavering dedication to improving communication skills has earned him a reputation as a trusted mentor and coach. His vision is clear: to enhance communication worldwide, one individual at a time.This episode is brought to you by Sifu's Mind Body Method, a 90-day lifestyle transformation that blends movement, mindset, nutrition, hydration, fasting, journaling, and faith. Learn more at www.sifurafael.com/smbmThrough Speaking Prowess and Sifu's Mind Body Method, Sifu Rafael helps leaders, entrepreneurs, and experts refine their message, command a room, and step onto more stages with clarity and confidence. From podcasts and live shows to keynote stages and curated experiences, Sifu Rafael helps people get seen, heard, and positioned as trusted voices in their industry while sharpening their speaking skills along the way.If you know you're meant to speak, lead, and impact at a higher level, this conversation is your invitation.Visit sifurafael.com to connect, explore speaking opportunities, and start positioning yourself for more stages, stronger presence, and real influence.That's where connecting with Sifu Rafael matters.#CoachingCall #SifuRafael #SpeakingProwess #MindBodyMethod #LeadershipDevelopment #Resilience #LatinaLeadership #BalancedSuccess #BrilliantProductivity #PersonalGrowth #ExecutiveCoaching
Have you ever discovered a betrayal—infidelity, a lie, or a discard—and suddenly felt a surge of intense desire to be close to the person who hurt you? That isn't love—it's Hysterical Bonding.Hysterical bonding is a biological survival response. When a narcissist pulls away or betrays you, your brain treats the loss of the relationship as a life-or-death threat. This triggers a frantic need to reclaim the bond, often through intense physical intimacy or emotional desperation, just to feel "safe" again.In this video, I'm breaking down this phenomenon from the perspective of a self-aware narcissist. I'm explaining why this response is exactly what a narcissist wants, because it resets the cycle and gives them ultimate control over your panic.IN THIS VIDEO:The Panic Response: Why betrayal leads to an obsession with reconnection.Biological Warfare: How your own hormones (Oxytocin/Dopamine) keep you trapped.The Narcissist's Reset: Why we use your "bonding" to avoid accountability for what we did.Breaking the Cycle: How to recognize the difference between love and trauma-induced panic.Your body is reacting to a threat. Don't let the narcissist convince you that your panic is "passion."Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
ou finally figured out your partner was a narcissist—and then you looked at your parents. Then your friends. Then your boss.It's called the "Awakening," and it is one of the most overwhelming parts of the healing journey. Once you learn the patterns of narcissistic behavior, you can't "un-see" them. Today, I'm explaining why this happens and why you aren't "crazy" for suddenly seeing these traits in the people you've known your whole life.As a self-aware narcissist, I'm breaking down why we often seek out people who were already "trained" by narcissistic parents or friends to accept our behavior.IN THIS LIVE SESSION:The Blueprint: How growing up with a narcissistic parent prepared you for a narcissistic partner.The Friend Group Cleanup: Why you're suddenly realizing your "closest" friends are actually energy vampires.Frequency Illusion vs. Reality: Is everyone really a narcissist, or did you just finally learn the language?Q&A: Ask me anything about navigating these new realizations without losing your mind.The fog is lifting. It's painful, but it's the only way to get free.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
If you were targeted by a narcissist, it wasn't because you were weak. Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) explains why self-aware narcissists look for high-value, resilient targets to consume.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Today, we're discussing beliefs-- where they come from, how to become aware of them, how to change them, and why it even matters! What if the only thing between you and your next level isn't effort, but belief? Our current belief systems are always running beneath the surface impacting our choices, actions, and behaviors every single day. You don't get what you "want" in life, you get what you believe you deserve. This means, that as your goals and vision for your life elevates, your mindset and belief system will need to upgrade along with it. So how do we go about upgrading our beliefs? We're diving into it today! Book a 1:1 Coaching Call: https://hoo.be/patmahan CONNECT WITH ME ON: Facebook https://www.facebook.com/likeattractslike11 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/patmahan_ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRDc1pT4/
Motivation fades. Habits stay. The people who transform their bodies aren't chasing motivation — they're building systems and routines they stick to daily. In this episode, I break down why habits build bodies and how creating structure is the key to long-term fitness results.
The fallout of a boundary is usually a war. Here is how to survive it.You watched yesterday's video on the 3 Ways to Set Boundaries with a Narcissist, but now you're living through the reaction. Why do they get more aggressive when you say "no"? Why does a simple boundary lead to a smear campaign or a week of silence?As a self-aware narcissist, I'm breaking down the "punishment phase" from the inside out. In today's LIVE, we are discussing:The Smear Campaign: Why they tell everyone you're the "abuser" the moment you set a limit.Guilt Tripping: How they use your empathy to make you feel bad for having needs.The Escalation: Why things get worse before they get better (The Extinction Burst).Live Q&A: I'll be translating your specific situations in real-time.Don't let their reaction bait you back into the cycle. Let's talk about how to hold the line.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Why does a narcissist "forget" their promises? Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) explains the truth behind "Narcissistic Amnesia." It's not a memory problem—it's a lack of accountability.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
In a recent coaching call with Janie, a mother navigating the shift from a professional career as a social worker to a stay-at-home mom, we delved into the deep-seated challenges that accompany such a monumental transition. Janie, like many, found herself yearning for personal connection and a sense of self amid the continuous tasks of motherhood. Throughout our discussion, we addressed practical strategies to help Janie reclaim her identity while embracing her chosen responsibilities as a mother. By exploring pressure-free mindset shifts and grounding habits, Janie is starting to balance self-care with motherhood. The journey towards progress involves small, consistent steps, focusing on what resonates personally rather than rigid routines. Here to Stay Drive: join the Supporters Club to keep About Progress around for good + participate in a whole month of special prizes. A little from many makes this work sustainable! Book Launch Committee aboutprogress.com/bookcommittee Sign up as a Supporter to get access to our private, premium, ad-free podcast, More Personal. Episodes air each Friday! More for Moms Conference use code “LISTENER” for $20 off Leave a rating and review Check out my workshops! Follow About Progress on YOUTUBE! Book Launch Committee Full Show Notes Transform your space now. Go to https://www.quince.com/monica for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns; Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home; Join Masterclass for 15% off at masterclass.com/progress Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The high is over. The "holiday" is gone. Now comes the fallout.If you woke up today to the silent treatment, a cold shoulder, or a partner who is acting like the chaos of yesterday never happened—you are experiencing the "Valentine's Fallout." On this Sunday after, the narcissist has reclaimed control by ruining your expectations, and now they are using the "Day After" to test how much you'll tolerate.In this episode/Live, we are breaking down:The Emotional Hangover: Why you feel "crazy" today and they feel fine.Selective Amnesia: Why the narcissist refuses to acknowledge the fight they started yesterday.The Power of the Pivot: How they shift from "Villain" to "Victim" within 24 hours.Holding the Line: How to protect your peace when the mask is officially off.Stop waiting for an apology that isn't coming. Start understanding the game.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
When you stop giving a narcissist "supply," they don't just walk away quietly. They enter an "Extinction Burst." As a self-aware narcissist, Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) explains why the behavior gets 10x more aggressive when you start setting boundaries. Learn the signs of the burst and why your reaction is exactly what they are looking for.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
In this video, we discuss:The Spotlight Struggle: Why your joy feels like a threat to my ego.The Obligation Trap: Why being "forced" to be romantic makes a narcissist want to rebel.Devaluation as a Tool: How ruining a special day gives the narcissist back the control.The "Gift" of Chaos: Why a fight is easier for us to handle than genuine intimacy.If you are feeling the "holiday dread" right now, this video is for you. Stop blaming yourself for their behavior.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
What happens when a narcissist can no longer rely on their looks, their money, or their status to control people? As a self-aware narcissist, Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) explains the shift from "Grandiosity" to "Bitterness.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
On this episode of Coaching Call, Sifu Rafael welcomes Debbie, Amy, Lisa, and Michaela from ECHO, a powerful collaborative project dedicated to amplifying the voices of remarkable women around the world.ECHO is more than a platform. It is a movement. A ripple effect. A call to speak, to be heard, and to create impact that extends far beyond a single conversation. Through bold storytelling and courageous dialogue, these women are creating hope, opening doors, and sparking meaningful discussions about boundless potential.Debbie, Amy, Lisa, and Michaela share how ECHO was built on the belief that when one woman speaks her truth, it does not end with her. It reverberates. It empowers. It invites others to rise. Each shared story sends waves of encouragement into communities, cultures, and countries across the globe.Sifu Rafael is a master instructor and the founder of Speaking Prowess, where he combines expertise in communication and leadership to help individuals unlock their full potential. As a professional speaker, solutions expert, and executive coach, Sifu Rafael leverages years of experience to guide clients toward their goals with clarity, purpose, and strategic insight. His mission is to make the art of effective communication accessible to all, empowering personal and professional growth. Sifu Rafael's unwavering dedication to improving communication skills has earned him a reputation as a trusted mentor and coach. His vision is clear: to enhance communication worldwide, one individual at a time.This episode is brought to you by Sifu's Mind Body Method, a 90-day lifestyle transformation that blends movement, mindset, nutrition, hydration, fasting, journaling, and faith. Learn more at www.sifurafael.com/smbmThrough Speaking Prowess and Sifu's Mind Body Method, Sifu Rafael helps leaders, entrepreneurs, and experts refine their message, command a room, and step onto more stages with clarity and confidence. From podcasts and live shows to keynote stages and curated experiences, Sifu Rafael helps people get seen, heard, and positioned as trusted voices in their industry while sharpening their speaking skills along the way.If you know you're meant to speak, lead, and impact at a higher level, this conversation is your invitation.Watch on Facebook, LinkedIn, X, and YouTube and subscribe here https://www.youtube.com/@sifurafaeltv?sub_confirmation=1Visit sifurafael.com to connect, explore speaking opportunities, and start positioning yourself for more stages, stronger presence, and real influence.That's where connecting with Sifu Rafael matters.#CoachingCall #SifuRafael #ECHO #WomenVoices #Leadership #SpeakingProwess #MindBodyMethod #Empowerment #AmplifyYourVoice
On this episode of Coaching Call, Sifu Rafael welcomes Dr. Oliver T. Reid for a powerful live conversation designed to ignite your thinking and elevate your strategy.Dr. Reid is an international multi-bestselling and award-winning author, dynamic motivational speaker, and founder of I Am a Solution Consulting Firm, LLC, a human development organization transforming relationship and business consulting through cutting-edge coaching techniques. Known as The Writing Coach, Dr. Reid has authored 25 bestselling books and contributed to 12 anthologies, earning honors such as the IALA Distinction of Excellence Legendary Honoree and the NAACP Black Men Image Award. His work has been featured on HuffPost, Black Enterprise, ABC, CBS, FOX, NBC, Roku TV, and other international platforms, and he has spoken to millions across four continents.In this live Coaching Call, the focus goes beyond accolades. It is about solutions. It is about mindset. It is about stepping into the version of yourself that leads with clarity, confidence, and conviction. Dr. Reid's innovative creation, The InnerView™, challenges individuals and couples to explore deeper conversations that unlock growth and transformation from the inside out.Sifu Rafael is a master instructor and the founder of Speaking Prowess, where he combines expertise in communication and leadership to help individuals unlock their full potential. As a professional speaker, solutions expert, and executive coach, Sifu Rafael leverages years of experience to guide clients toward their goals with clarity, purpose, and strategic insight. His mission is to make the art of effective communication accessible to all, empowering personal and professional growth. Sifu Rafael's unwavering dedication to improving communication skills has earned him a reputation as a trusted mentor and coach. His vision is clear: to enhance communication worldwide, one individual at a time.This episode is brought to you by Sifu's Mind Body Method, a 90-day lifestyle transformation that blends movement, mindset, nutrition, hydration, fasting, journaling, and faith. Learn more at www.sifurafael.com/smbmThrough Speaking Prowess and Sifu's Mind Body Method, Sifu Rafael helps leaders, entrepreneurs, and experts refine their message, command a room, and step onto more stages with clarity and confidence. From podcasts and live shows to keynote stages and curated experiences, Sifu Rafael helps people get seen, heard, and positioned as trusted voices in their industry while sharpening their speaking skills along the way.If you know you're meant to speak, lead, and impact at a higher level, this conversation is your invitation.Watch on Facebook, LinkedIn, X, and YouTube and subscribe here https://www.youtube.com/@sifurafaeltv?sub_confirmation=1Visit sifurafael.com to connect, explore speaking opportunities, and start positioning yourself for more stages, stronger presence, and real influence.That's where connecting with Sifu Rafael matters.#CoachingCall #SifuRafael #DrOliverReid #SpeakingProwess #MindBodyMethod #Leadership #Communication
"You're too sensitive." "I never said that." "You're lucky to have me."
On this episode of Coaching Call, Sifu Rafael welcomes Eric Holsapple, a developer, entrepreneur, and mindfulness leader who proves that success and stillness are not opposites, they are partners.Eric Holsapple is a successful developer and entrepreneur who has used mindfulness to transform his life and business, and now helps others do the same. With a PhD in Economics, nearly 40 years as a real estate CEO and developer, 20 years lecturing real estate at Colorado State University, and more than 30 years practicing yoga and meditation, Eric brings a rare integration of boardroom strategy and inner awareness.As the founder of Living in the Gap, Eric teaches CEOs and high-level professionals how to operate from presence instead of pressure. His workshops help leaders strengthen decision-making, reduce stress, and improve performance without sacrificing well-being. He demonstrates that merging business discipline with mindfulness is not soft, it is strategic. It impacts culture, clarity, and the bottom line.In this conversation, Sifu Rafael and Eric explore what it truly means to lead from within. They unpack how mindfulness sharpens communication, elevates leadership, and aligns personal growth with professional excellence. This is about closing the gap between who you are and how you lead.Sifu Rafael is a master instructor and the founder of Speaking Prowess, where he combines expertise in communication and leadership to help individuals unlock their full potential. As a professional speaker, solutions expert, and executive coach, Sifu Rafael leverages years of experience to guide clients toward their goals with clarity, purpose, and strategic insight. His mission is to make the art of effective communication accessible to all, empowering personal and professional growth. Sifu Rafael's unwavering dedication to improving communication skills has earned him a reputation as a trusted mentor and coach. His vision is clear: to enhance communication worldwide, one individual at a time.This episode is brought to you by Sifu's Mind Body Method, a 90-day lifestyle transformation that blends movement, mindset, nutrition, hydration, fasting, journaling, and faith. Learn more at www.sifurafael.com/smbmWatch on Facebook, LinkedIn, X, and YouTube and be sure to subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/@sifurafaeltv?sub_confirmation=1Through Speaking Prowess and Sifu's Mind Body Method, Sifu Rafael helps leaders, entrepreneurs, and experts refine their message, command a room, and step onto more stages with clarity and confidence. From podcasts and live shows to keynote stages and curated experiences, Sifu Rafael helps people get seen, heard, and positioned as trusted voices in their industry while sharpening their speaking skills along the way.If you know you're meant to speak, lead, and impact at a higher level, this conversation is your invitation.Visit sifurafael.com to connect, explore speaking opportunities, and start positioning yourself for more stages, stronger presence, and real influence.#CoachingCall #SifuRafael #MindfulnessInBusiness #LivingInTheGap #LeadershipDevelopment #SpeakingProwess #SifusMindBodyMethod #ConsciousLeadershipThat's where connecting with Sifu Rafael matters.
Why do narcissists ignore your boundaries? Because they don't respect feelings—they respect consequences. In this video, Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) provides a raw, self-aware look at what actually goes on inside a narcissist's head when someone sets a boundary.Most people make the mistake of explaining their "why," which only gives the narcissist more leverage. Learn the 3 specific shifts you need to make to stop being an "easy target" and start being "high cost."Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
Why a Narcissist's Treatment of You is Actually a Confession
"I wish I would have known."
Why 75% of Marriages That Start as Affairs End in Divorce. Does an affair ever actually lead to a "happily ever after"? The data says probably not. In this video, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the grim statistics of relationships that start through betrayal.While it may feel like "destiny" in the beginning, the transition from a secret affair to a legal marriage is a psychological minefield. We discuss why only 3-7% of affair partners ever marry, why the divorce rate for these unions is a staggering 75%, and the "Trust Deficit" that poisons the relationship from day one.Key Topics Covered:The "Unreality" Bubble: Why affairs die in the real world.The "Once a Cheater" stigma and internal suspicion.The lack of social support and family isolation.Why a "Soulmate" born in a lie can't handle the truth.Stop living in the fantasy and start looking at the facts. Stay Aware. Stay Healed.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.
"Was it all a lie? Did I ever actually matter?" In one of his most requested deep-dives, Lee Hammock answers the question that keeps every survivor awake at night. Discover the difference between being "loved" and being "useful," and learn how a narcissist's lack of object constancy allows them to discard you without a second thought. This is the closure you've been looking for.Key Topics:Why you mattered as a "Tool," not a "Person"The science of Object Constancy in NarcissismWhy they don't mourn the relationship like you doReady to find your own closure? Hit Follow and join our community of survivors.
In this episode, I'm inviting you behind the scenes for a real, unfiltered sneak peek into a live coaching call inside The Revenue Accelerator. No polish, no edits—just me meeting my clients where they are and naming the patterns I see show up again and again for smart, seasoned women when it comes to selling, launching, and leading with clarity. I break down why webinars, masterclasses, and trainings aren't meant to convince or overteach, but to help your audience make a clean, safe decision—and how trying to prove your depth often creates resistance instead of conversion. I also share why simplicity doesn't mean shallow, why intrigue opens the door but clarity closes the gap, and how your brilliance actually lands more powerfully when the structure underneath it is clean and grounded. This episode isn't about more tactics—it's about unlearning outdated models, trusting yourself at a higher level, and learning how to lead people to a clear yes without force, pressure, or over-explaining. If you've ever felt like your nuance makes things harder instead of easier, this conversation will help everything click. Liked this episode? Make sure to subscribe to our podcast and leave a review with your takeaways, this helps us create the exact content you want! KEY POINTS: 00:00 Introduction to Woman of Influence 00:49 Recording from an Ice Storm 01:21 Unfiltered Coaching Session 02:24 Navigating Marketing Challenges 04:17 The Power of Simplification 06:20 Psychological Insights on Decision Making 08:53 Special Offer: Growth Collective 10:36 Masterclass Strategy and Execution 15:48 Balancing Depth and Simplicity 21:57 Conclusion and Final Thoughts 24:39 Subscribe and Stay Updated QUOTABLES: “ Unless I reframe that fear, no amount of information in a masterclass is going to get them to a point of decision. So I have to lower resistance, I have to reframe fear, and I have to make sure that the path that I am showing them is available to them, feels safer than staying where they are.” - Julie Solomon “ If you notice yourself second guessing , or adding more, or wanting to explain more, that's not a flaw. It's so common. But it's also a signal that you're having to unlearn an old model to step into a more precise one. And that's exactly the work that we're doing here.” - Julie Solomon RESOURCES:
Are you "Pain Shopping"? In this episode, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the compulsive urge to check an ex's social media. Learn why your brain is addicted to the "Digital Self-Harm" of seeing their fake new life and how narcissists weaponize their profiles to keep you stuck in the trauma bond. It's time to close the "Pain Store" and start your real recovery.Key Topics: > * The Dopamine Trap of "The Scroll"Why the Narcissist's "New Life" is a Billboard, Not a RealityHow to Break the Compulsion to Check Their PageFollow for more insights into the narcissistic mind. Stay Aware. Stay Healed.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal.