Podcasts about lasting love

Some days just feel heavy. You're discouraged, comparing yourself to everyone around you, questioning your progress, and suddenly your brain has decided everything is terrible. We've both been there—and in this birthday episode, we're talking about what actually helps us move through a bad day without pretending we're fine or forcing ourselves into positivity.We also get into the very midlife realities of getting older, becoming more aware of time and mortality, figuring out what we want the “back nine” of life to look like, and why having something to anticipate can make such a difference. Plus, we talk anxiety, gratitude, career disappointment, regret versus disappointment, and the surprising lesson Laura pulled from Good to Great about resilience, patience, and staying out of the dreaded “doom loop.”Episode Highlights[0:03] - What to do when you're having a bad day and everything feels heavy[1:21] - Birthday reflections, getting settled, and why a quiet day can be the perfect celebration in midlife[4:35] - How what we consider “fun” changes as we get older[5:18] - Kids moving farther away and the surprisingly existential side of becoming an empty nester[7:29] - Feeling grateful to be alive, healthy, and increasingly aware of how precious time really is[8:16] - Turning 49, mortality, aging parents, and realizing there may be fewer healthy years ahead than we imagine[10:47] - Careers heating up in midlife while simultaneously thinking about retirement and the next season of life[12:48] - European summers, slowing down, and intentionally designing the life we want[13:34] - Why “anticipation is my drug of choice”—and the power of having something to look forward to[15:18] - Have we lost the ability to anticipate anything in an instant-gratification world?[16:49] - Anxiety, negativity bias, and learning to notice what's actually beautiful in your life right now[17:50] - Gratitude as a way to shift your attention without dismissing difficult emotions[18:35] - Colette's really bad day: career comparison, disappointment, envy, and feeling behind the pack[21:56] - Laura's bad-day rants and why sometimes tomorrow genuinely feels completely different[23:19] - Why trying to cheerlead yourself out of difficult feelings can backfire[24:42] - Taking useful information from disappointment—and why regret may hurt more than trying and failing[25:42] - The power of “not yet” and lessons from Jim Collins' Good to Great[26:57] - The Stockdale Paradox: accepting reality while maintaining faith that things can work out[28:37] - The “flywheel” versus the “doom loop”—and what both can teach us about our own goals[29:17] - Why a good kvetch can help, as long as you don't set up permanent residence there[30:45] - Patience, momentum, anticipation, and staying excited enough about your goals to keep going[31:01] - Our reminder for your next bad day: feel it, reach out, don't overthink it—and remember tomorrow may feel completely differentIf today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share Insights from the Couch with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

Have you ever wondered why you keep choosing emotionally unavailable people, getting stuck in the same relationship patterns, or craving closeness while simultaneously being terrified of it? So much of what drives us in our adult relationships is happening beneath the surface—and often, the survival strategies that helped us as children become the unconscious patterns we repeat as adults.In this episode, we sit down with renowned psychoanalyst and bestselling author Dr. Galit Atlas to talk about her new book, Come Closer, and the six core childhood wounds we carry into adulthood: the frightened child, melancholic child, ashamed child, invisible child, guilty child, and chosen child. We get personal about our own childhood roles (because of course we do!) and explore emotional unavailability, parentification, shame, intimacy, vulnerability, and why understanding the child we once were can completely change the way we see ourselves and our relationships today.Episode Highlights[0:03] - Why do we keep repeating the relationship patterns we desperately want to change?[2:04] - Dr. Galit Atlas explains how childhood experiences, defenses, and survival strategies become adult relationship patterns.[4:11] - Laura gets personal about being both the “chosen” and “invisible” child—and how those roles still show up in adulthood.[6:06] - What psychoanalysis actually is and why what we see on the surface may be a defense against deeper feelings.[10:32] - Why part of us wants self-awareness while another part is really, really afraid of what we might discover.[13:58] - Meet the six childhood wounds—and why most of us carry more than one.[16:50] - The invisible child: the urge to disappear while secretly longing to be truly seen and known.[18:37] - The chosen child, parentification, and the complicated adult consequences of being a parent's confidant or caretaker.[23:31] - Colette opens up about being her father's confidant as a child and why feeling “special” can make the chosen-child dynamic so difficult to recognize.[26:14] - When childhood wounds overlap: being chosen, unseen, and emotionally responsible for others at the same time.[27:42] - Why we can desperately crave intimacy and still unconsciously choose relationships where true closeness feels impossible.[29:24] - Childhood wounds aren't always trauma: how ordinary losses, family chaos, illness, divorce, and emotional disconnection shape us.[32:15] - The ashamed child, fear of rejection, cycles of blame, and the pursuit of the “perfect” partner.[35:54] - How do we actually heal? Giving the child inside us a “seat at the table” and hearing our story from their perspective.[39:57] - Recognizing when a wounded child has “the wheel” in our adult relationships.[41:13] - Why even years of therapy and self-work don't mean we're finished discovering our unconscious patterns.[42:50] - The melancholic child: unprocessed loss, separation anxiety, and the surprising ways childhood grief can repeat in adult relationships.[47:42] - How curiosity, compassion, and awareness can help us challenge old relationship patterns and move toward authentic self-acceptance.Links & ResourcesWild Analysis with Galit Atlas: wildanalysiswithgalitatlas.substack.comDr. Galit Atlas' Website: www.drgalitatlas.comIf today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share Insights from the Couch with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

Hotline Date Night is BACK. I am recovering from hernia surgery, Timmy just celebrated his 45th birthday, and we are here by our new fancy bookcase to cuddle up, listen to all your problems, and try to give our best advice. The questions were so good! We get into finding love after starting over, how much your tone matters in a relationship, setting boundaries while living with your in-laws, navigating a child-free family wedding, becoming more vocal in the bedroom, and making space for a partner who has trouble expressing what they need. We may not be qualified, but we certainly have opinions. LOVE YOU. This episode is brought to you by Sam Edelman. Sam Edelman has everyone covered this fall. Visit SamEdelman.com to explore everything you need for fall and get 15% off with code WITHWHIT15This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What really keeps attraction alive in a long-term relationship? Legendary relationship expert John Gray joins Rebecca Whitman to reveal how hormones, communication, and emotional needs influence chemistry, connection, and lasting love. In this powerful episode of The Balanced, Beautiful & Abundant Show, the bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus shares practical ways to better understand your partner, strengthen intimacy, and keep the spark alive at every stage of love. John Gray is one of the most recognized relationship experts in the world, and this conversation takes a fascinating look at the biology and psychology behind lasting passion. Rebecca and John explore how hormones can affect attraction, stress, mood, and the way men and women connect. They also discuss why couples can love each other deeply and still misunderstand one another—and how learning to recognize those differences can create more compassion instead of conflict. John shares insights into what helps women feel supported and cherished, what helps men feel appreciated and connected, and why maintaining polarity, affection, and emotional intimacy matters in long-term relationships. Whether you're single, dating, married, or simply want to understand relationships on a deeper level, this episode offers game-changing insights for creating more love, chemistry, and connection. In this episode, you'll learn: * How hormones can influence love, attraction, mood, and intimacy—and why understanding your biology can improve your relationship. * Why men and women may respond differently to stress and emotional connection, and how to stop taking those differences personally. * What helps men and women feel genuinely loved, valued, and appreciated in a relationship. * How to keep attraction and passion alive over time instead of allowing romance to get lost in routines and responsibilities. * Simple relationship shifts that can create deeper intimacy, better communication, and more lasting chemistry. John's wisdom is a powerful reminder that lasting love doesn't mean the chemistry has to disappear. With greater understanding, intention, and connection, relationships can continue to evolve—and passion can grow right along with them.

Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) - Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com Episode 3150: Lisa Petsinis continues her look at what it means to love a highly sensitive person, covering the realities that shape daily life together: magnified physical pain, a sharp eye for the details other people miss, a low threshold for overstimulation, and feelings that bruise easily. She explains why an HSP partner needs real decompression time rather than a push to toughen up, and how the same depth of processing that overwhelms them is exactly what lets them read and understand you so well. It closes on the payoff, which is the loyalty and passionate commitment highly sensitive people bring to their closest relationships. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://highlysensitiverefuge.com/hsp-relationship-you-should-know/ Quotes to ponder: "And by being aware of these subtleties, they will help you to bring your best self to the world." "Their senses are working furiously, and it's normal to need a break from all that stimulation." "Finally, know that they don't take anything lightly, including commitment." Optimal Relationships Daily is a daily relationship advice podcast where we narrate the best articles on healthy relationships, dating, marriage, and parenting, read to you by a professional narrator so you can strengthen your closest connections a little more every day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) - Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com Episode 3146: Eddie Corbano lists the seven character flaws he sees destroy relationships most often: jealousy, clinging, lack of respect, wrong ideas of what a relationship is, expectations set too high, lost communication, and settling into routine. He traces the first two back to a shared root in the fear of loss, and argues that knowing the pattern is what lets you catch yourself before it does damage. It is straightforward relationship advice for anyone rebuilding after a breakup or trying to keep a good thing from going stale. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/ Quotes to ponder: "In my opinion jealousy is one of the most negative and destructive emotions there is." "Losing communication in a relationship is a silent killer." "To know that you have to work in your relationship every day for your happiness is the key to success." Optimal Relationships Daily is a daily relationship advice podcast where we narrate the best articles on healthy relationships, dating, marriage, and parenting, read to you by a professional narrator so you can strengthen your closest connections a little more every day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What keeps a relationship strong after the honeymoon stage is long over…and real life has had years to test it? The answer goes much deeper than bringing more romance to your game.In this episode, we put together helpful relationship wisdom, practical ideas, faith and honest experience to explore what helps two people grow together instead of slowly drifting apart.We share seven meaningful (and sometimes surprising!) ways to protect your connection, change the atmosphere in your relationship and see each other through a more loving lens. Along the way, we look at how grace, prayer and allowing God to work on our own hearts can help us love each other better.Whether you've been together for decades, you're building something new or you hope to find lasting love someday, press play and discover seven steps that could change the way you approach love for the long haul.Send us Fan MailFor more info on IMAGINE YOURSELF,  visit imagineyourselfpodcast.com. You'll find blogs, inspirational quotes and of course our podcasts!Join the conversation  on our  FACEBOOK, or INSTAGRAM pages.  Email at imagineyourselfpodcast@gmail.com Thanks for being  part of the Imagine Yourself Family! Follow or subscribe so you don't miss an episode! "Imagine Yourself" is hosted by Lanée Blaise and Sandy Kovach—two dynamic voices with a passion for inspiring and uplifting others. Lanée, a TV writer, producer, motivational speaker, and podcaster, brings powerful storytelling and insight. Sandy, a radio personality, voiceover artist, and podcaster, delivers warmth and wisdom with every conversation. Broadcasting from the Detroit Metro area, they welcome guests from around the world to share valuable perspectives on health, career growth, faith, and personal transformation. Tune in and imagine the possibilities for your life!

Alcohol is so normalized in our culture that it can be surprisingly hard to tell when a casual habit has quietly become a coping mechanism. In this episode, we're having an honest, judgment-free conversation about women, alcohol, and midlife—and asking a question that's worth considering no matter where you fall on the spectrum: Is alcohol actually serving you anymore?We talk about the nightly wine creep, using alcohol to manage anxiety and stress, drinking as a reward or social lubricant, binge drinking, tolerance, and the subtle signs that your relationship with alcohol may be changing. We also get personal about our own experiences and explore why midlife can be such an important time to get curious about old coping mechanisms, what we're trying not to feel, and whether it might be time to reset the table.Episode Highlights[0:03] - Why we're finally talking about women, alcohol, and our relationship with drinking at midlife[1:54] - Colette opens up about leaning on wine and cigarettes as coping mechanisms during her divorce[3:52] - Why being high-functioning doesn't necessarily mean your relationship with alcohol isn't problematic[5:54] - Growing up in a culture where heavy drinking was normalized—and how those early messages stick with us[8:09] - The “second wave” of alcohol at midlife and how our relationship with drinking can change as we age[9:40] - The nightly wine creep: when a glass while cooking becomes your signal that you're finally allowed to relax[11:06] - Using alcohol to quiet anxiety, stress, rumination, and difficult relationships[12:42] - Sleep disruption, rebound anxiety, and the ways alcohol can leave us feeling worse instead of better[14:14] - “I deserve this”: when alcohol becomes the reward for surviving another exhausting day[14:47] - Weekend binge drinking, blackouts, and when getting wasted becomes synonymous with having fun[16:35] - Laura gets personal about how problematic binge drinking affected her marriage[17:27] - Why alcohol can be so compelling as a coping mechanism—and how tolerance and dependence can creep up on us[20:35] - Signs worth paying attention to: exceeding your own limits, increasing tolerance, and creating rules around drinking[21:52] - Hiding, minimizing, sneaking, or becoming protective of your alcohol use[22:46] - When you feel like you need alcohol to sleep, socialize, have sex, relax, or tolerate difficult emotions[25:05] - Listening when someone you trust expresses concern about your drinking[25:26] - An important warning about alcohol dependence and why suddenly stopping heavy, regular drinking can be dangerous[26:16] - Moving beyond the label of “alcoholic” and understanding alcohol problems as a continuum[28:47] - Asking ourselves the bigger midlife question: Do I want to reset my relationship with alcohol?[29:48] - Experimenting with changing familiar drinking patterns when it is medically safe to do so[30:21] - Colette reflects on going an entire year without alcohol—and why she's still questioning whether she wants it in her life[31:52] - Looking underneath the drinking habit at the feelings, fears, and experiences we may be trying to avoidIf today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

The Chemistry of Love - John Gray on Hormones, Attraction & Lasting Passion What really keeps attraction alive in a long-term relationship? Legendary relationship expert John Gray joins Rebecca Whitman to reveal how hormones, communication, and emotional needs influence chemistry, connection, and lasting love. In this powerful episode of The Balanced, Beautiful & Abundant Show, the bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus shares practical ways to better understand your partner, strengthen intimacy, and keep the spark alive at every stage of love. John Gray is one of the most recognized relationship experts in the world, and this conversation takes a fascinating look at the biology and psychology behind lasting passion. Rebecca and John explore how hormones can affect attraction, stress, mood, and the way men and women connect. They also discuss why couples can love each other deeply and still misunderstand one another—and how learning to recognize those differences can create more compassion instead of conflict. John shares insights into what helps women feel supported and cherished, what helps men feel appreciated and connected, and why maintaining polarity, affection, and emotional intimacy matters in long-term relationships. Whether you're single, dating, married, or simply want to understand relationships on a deeper level, this episode offers game-changing insights for creating more love, chemistry, and connection. In this episode, you'll learn: * How hormones can influence love, attraction, mood, and intimacy—and why understanding your biology can improve your relationship. * Why men and women may respond differently to stress and emotional connection, and how to stop taking those differences personally. * What helps men and women feel genuinely loved, valued, and appreciated in a relationship. * How to keep attraction and passion alive over time instead of allowing romance to get lost in routines and responsibilities. * Simple relationship shifts that can create deeper intimacy, better communication, and more lasting chemistry. John's wisdom is a powerful reminder that lasting love doesn't mean the chemistry has to disappear. With greater understanding, intention, and connection, relationships can continue to evolve—and passion can grow right along with them.

The Chemistry of Love - John Gray on Hormones, Attraction & Lasting Passion What really keeps attraction alive in a long-term relationship? Legendary relationship expert John Gray joins Rebecca Whitman to reveal how hormones, communication, and emotional needs influence chemistry, connection, and lasting love. In this powerful episode of The Balanced, Beautiful & Abundant Show, the bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus shares practical ways to better understand your partner, strengthen intimacy, and keep the spark alive at every stage of love. John Gray is one of the most recognized relationship experts in the world, and this conversation takes a fascinating look at the biology and psychology behind lasting passion. Rebecca and John explore how hormones can affect attraction, stress, mood, and the way men and women connect. They also discuss why couples can love each other deeply and still misunderstand one another—and how learning to recognize those differences can create more compassion instead of conflict. John shares insights into what helps women feel supported and cherished, what helps men feel appreciated and connected, and why maintaining polarity, affection, and emotional intimacy matters in long-term relationships. Whether you're single, dating, married, or simply want to understand relationships on a deeper level, this episode offers game-changing insights for creating more love, chemistry, and connection. In this episode, you'll learn: * How hormones can influence love, attraction, mood, and intimacy—and why understanding your biology can improve your relationship. * Why men and women may respond differently to stress and emotional connection, and how to stop taking those differences personally. * What helps men and women feel genuinely loved, valued, and appreciated in a relationship. * How to keep attraction and passion alive over time instead of allowing romance to get lost in routines and responsibilities. * Simple relationship shifts that can create deeper intimacy, better communication, and more lasting chemistry. John's wisdom is a powerful reminder that lasting love doesn't mean the chemistry has to disappear. With greater understanding, intention, and connection, relationships can continue to evolve—and passion can grow right along with them.

Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) - Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com Episode 3135: Liz Keneski and Taylor Anne Morgan share findings from a study asking engaged and married people how much they discussed marriage, proposals, rings, and weddings before getting engaged. Talking about the possibility of marriage tracked with higher satisfaction and commitment for engaged couples, while frequent pre-engagement talk about the proposal, the ring, and the wedding tracked with lower satisfaction among married ones. They are careful about causation, but suggest the difference may be focusing on the relationship itself rather than on the events and objects around it. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.luvze.com/is-there-such-a-thing-as-planning-too-far-ahead/ Quotes to ponder: "As a couple grows closer and their relationship becomes more serious, it's entirely natural to discuss future plans." "According to our results, discussing plans to marry may be an important step in moving a relationship forward and likely reflects something happy couples are naturally inclined to do." "However, planning far ahead with frequent discussions about the specifics of getting engaged and having a wedding may not help the relationship or your chances of experiencing a more satisfying proposal, ring, or wedding." Optimal Relationships Daily is a daily relationship advice podcast where we narrate the best articles on healthy relationships, dating, marriage, and parenting, read to you by a professional narrator so you can strengthen your closest connections a little more every day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

With one in six American adults now taking an antidepressant, we wanted to ask some big questions: Are we overmedicating? Are we overdiagnosing? When is medication genuinely helpful—and when might what we're feeling simply be an appropriate response to a difficult season of life?We're joined by our dear friend and incredibly talented psychiatrist, Dr. Brady Bradshaw, for a nuanced conversation about modern psychiatry, depression, anxiety, SSRIs, mental health diagnoses, and the role medication can play alongside therapy. We also get into ADHD, OCD, personality disorders, medication side effects, and the important distinctions between postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, and postpartum psychosis. If you've ever wondered whether medication might help you—or worried about what taking it means—this episode offers a thoughtful, humanistic perspective.Episode Highlights[0:03] - Are antidepressants being overprescribed? We open up the conversation around modern psychiatry, diagnoses, medication, and mental health.[2:01] - Moving beyond the “chemical imbalance” explanation and looking at the many layers that can contribute to depression and anxiety.[5:14] - Why a good psychiatric evaluation doesn't automatically mean walking away with a prescription.[6:37] - SSRIs for depression and anxiety: why they're still considered a first-line treatment, how long they can take to work, and other medication options.[8:47] - When life itself hurts: how do we distinguish normal emotional pain from symptoms that may benefit from medication?[11:41] - Colette shares her own resistance to psychiatric medication during her divorce—and why a short course ultimately helped her cope, sleep, parent, and function.[14:36] - Medication and therapy together: why reducing symptoms can sometimes make it possible to do deeper therapeutic work.[17:18] - Challenging the idea that you have to be completely falling apart before medication is worth considering.[19:00] - “You can still go touch grass and take Lexapro.” Dr. Bradshaw explains which mental health conditions may particularly benefit from medication.[20:42] - OCD and ADHD: how symptoms can affect daily functioning and relationships—and when medication can be transformative.[22:37] - Personality, temperament, anxiety, and medication: what medication can and can't change.[26:14] - Personality disorders versus mood and anxiety disorders, and why the timeline of symptoms matters in diagnosis.[29:25] - The real value of a thoughtful mental health diagnosis: informing treatment rather than defining your identity.[30:51] - “You're not marrying the medication.” Can you eventually come off psychiatric medication?[32:03] - Withdrawal symptoms, “brain zaps,” and why tapering medication carefully with medical guidance matters.[33:09] - Postpartum depression and postpartum psychosis: what women and their loved ones need to know.[35:12] - Recognizing postpartum psychosis, why it's considered a medical emergency, and what symptoms can look like.[38:24] - Intrusive thoughts versus psychosis: an important distinction in postpartum anxiety and mental health.[40:32] - Why seeking treatment for postpartum depression and anxiety can also support the parent-child attachment bond.[41:56] - Why therapy, medication, and healthy lifestyle choices don't have to be either/or.[43:18] - Where psychiatry can go wrong: polypharmacy, treating medication side effects with more medication, and the importance of reassessing treatment.[45:24] - Why finding a provider who takes the time to understand the whole person can make all the difference.Links & ResourcesDr. Brady Bradshaw, MD: www.bradybradshawmd.comIf today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

Communication, healthy conflict, emotional triggers, attachment styles, and healing after divorce are at the heart of this conversation with licensed psychotherapist and author Colette Fehr.Colette is the author of The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love, a powerful guide to understanding what happens when we suppress our needs instead of communicating them—and how to break those patterns.In this episode, Erica and Colette talk about:

Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) - Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com Episode 3130: Evan Marc Katz makes the case that the generosity people hope to receive from a partner usually has to be spent first. He points out how easy it is to catalog every criticism you have received while forgetting the small digs you hand out, and why positive reinforcement brings out a better version of the person you are with. It is straightforward relationship advice on how acceptance, not correction, builds lasting love. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/understanding-men/do-you-want-your-partner-to-treat-you-like-royalty Quotes to ponder: "Treat your partner like royalty every single day." "Positive reinforcement makes a man feel great about himself AND about you." "Want to be treated like a princess? Start treating your men like kings." Optimal Relationships Daily is a daily relationship advice podcast where we narrate the best articles on healthy relationships, dating, marriage, and parenting, read to you by a professional narrator so you can strengthen your closest connections a little more every day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you constantly yearning for a deeper connection with your partner? Do you tend to feel that your mate is disinterested in what's going on in your inner or outer world? Common issues like these leave many romantic partners feeling dissatisfied with the quality of their intimate relationships. And when parenting, family, and work issues arise, the sense of disconnection can get far worse--and even lead partners into going their separate ways. Yet I've found that many relationships can be resuscitated--and made stronger than ever--when partners invest in mindful emotional connection. Today, we're joined by a top relationship expert, Dr. Laura Gambrel, who will guide us into powerful world of EFT, Emotionally Focused Therapy, to help you get the loving connection you crave!Topics discussed include love, relationships, marriage, children, stress, societal messages, emotional availability, emotional connection, secure attachment, attachment style, insecure attachment, avoidant attachment, anxious attachment, compliments, positive reinforcement, shame, curiosity, suffering, individual therapy, self-growth, and couples therapy.Please note that this episode contains sensitive material; listener discretion is advised.Emergency Assistance Details: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911," "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline), or SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). As applicable, additional resources may be provided in the show notes.Non-Emergency Online Mental Health Information: https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helpline/and https://odphp.health.gov/myhealthfinder/healthy-living/mental-health-and-relationshipsIMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: No expert is offering medical or psychological direction or advice; the content is purely informational in nature. Please consult your physician or healthcare provider before undertaking any new regimen or procedure.Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter/X: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr_carlamanly_imperfect_loveTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBooks by Dr. Carla Manly:Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love Fearlessly Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and Beyond The Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Imperfect Love Relationship & Oracle Card Deck by Dr. Carla Manly:Etsy AmazonConnect with Dr. Laura Gambrel:Website: http://www.relational-mindfulness.org/ LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/gambrel Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

In this episode, we're tackling a heavy, complicated, and deeply divisive conversation: the Lindsey Clancy case and what it brings up about postpartum depression, postpartum psychosis, maternal mental health, and the ways our systems may be failing women. As two therapists, we unpack the difficulty of assessing someone's mental state from the outside, the limits of psychiatric intervention, and why this case has become such a lightning rod online.But because this is us, we also wander into a little potpourri—from Colette's husband rupturing his bicep moving the world's most expensive dust collector (aka her Peloton), to how defensiveness can derail a relationship in seconds, the darker side of social media and true crime culture, and, yes, Harry and Meghan. Underneath it all is a bigger question: Are we taking good enough care of one another? This is a raw conversation about guilt, mental health, motherhood, relationships, social media, and why we could all stand to give each other a little more grace.Episode Highlights[0:03] - Setting the stage for a sensitive conversation about the Lindsey Clancy case, women's mental health, and everything else on our minds.[2:07] - How Colette's unused Peloton led to Steve's major bicep injury—and an unexpected lesson in guilt and defensiveness.[3:25] - Catching the urge to defend yourself before it turns a misunderstanding into an unnecessary argument.[5:55] - Laura's childhood story about an ill-advised swing-set game and the very human experience of feeling responsible when someone gets hurt.[10:33] - Turning to the Lindsey Clancy trial and the heartbreaking questions surrounding postpartum depression, psychosis, criminal responsibility, and maternal mental health.[13:59] - Why postpartum depression can be so difficult to recognize—even when someone has support and people know they're struggling.[18:54] - Murder-suicide, severe depression, and why determining someone's mental state at a specific moment can be extraordinarily complicated.[20:52] - Our own experiences with postpartum depression and anxiety—and how little anyone asked about our mental health after becoming mothers.[22:05] - Why getting women appropriate mental health care isn't as simple as telling someone to seek help or assuming hospitalization is always an option.[25:04] - The isolation of new motherhood, intrusive thoughts, anxiety, and the pressure to look like everything is fine.[27:27] - Discussing altruistic filicide, suicide, unbearable psychological suffering, and the disturbing rise of murder-suicide cases.[29:02] - What other societies can teach us about community, healthcare, family support, and creating stronger safety nets.[31:48] - The dark side of true crime culture and what happens when tragedy becomes content, clicks, and social media entertainment.[35:21] - Why online pile-ons can become dangerous for someone who may already be struggling with their mental health.[37:13] - A pivot to Harry and Meghan, public scrutiny, conflicting narratives, and whether multiple things can be true at the same time.[43:07] - From the enormous to the everyday: everybody is dealing with something, whether we can see it or not.[44:39] - Our takeaway for the week: give people grace, assume the best instead of the worst, and just be kind.If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share Insights from the Couch with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

Talking about sex can feel awkward—even with the person you love most. But avoiding the conversation doesn't make the issues disappear. It often creates more distance. In this episode, Dr. Kim and Nancy have an honest, grace-filled conversation about building a healthy sexual relationship through open communication, emotional safety, and mutual respect. They share lessons from their own marriage, discuss why every couple experiences different seasons of intimacy, and offer practical ways to have conversations about sex without shame, fear, or defensiveness. Whether you've been married for six months or sixty years, this episode will encourage you to communicate with honesty, pursue one another with love, and create an environment where intimacy can continue to grow. Main Takeaways: Every marriage experiences different seasons of intimacy—and that's normal. The healthiest conversations about sex happen when both spouses feel safe, heard, and respected. Comparison is one of the quickest ways to create dissatisfaction in your marriage. Small, honest conversations build stronger intimacy than avoiding difficult topics. A thriving sex life isn't about perfection—it's about pursuing one another with love, grace, and intentionality. Quotes from this Episode: Dr. Kim Kimberling "Our marriage is not just about sex. It's about all of life, and our intimacy has to fit the season we're in." "When you approach conversations about sex with love instead of criticism, you're setting your marriage up to grow instead of to fail." "Don't compare your marriage to Hollywood or someone else's story. You have to define what works best for the two of you." "Stay at the comfort level of the person who's least comfortable. There's always another way to build intimacy together." "It's not really about the quantity of sex—it's about the quality of the connection." "The goal isn't proving who's right. The goal is making your marriage better together."     Nancy Kimberling "We've always approached these conversations with love, not a critical spirit." "Nothing is more personal than your own body, so sharing it with someone else is the ultimate vulnerability." "Warmth is the best culture to keep between you when you're talking about intimacy." "Emotional safety is foundational. It's hard to be sexually vulnerable if you don't feel emotionally safe."   Time to Talk About it: What helps you feel the safest, most loved, and most connected to me—both emotionally and physically? Are there any conversations about our intimacy that we've been avoiding? If so, what's one small step we could take to talk about them with honesty and grace? What's one thing I do that makes you feel pursued, appreciated, or desired, and what's one thing I could do more often? What would it take to take our sex life up one point? How can we make that happen?   Mentioned in this Episode: Sign up for our daily One Thing email! Our Love Making Survey is a great way to keep conversational loving rather than critical.  Sex is intended to be a gift for your marriage, if you're having a hard time talking about it with your spouse, try this resource: 62 Questions About Sex. Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. You'll love our 14 Keys to Lasting Love. Check it out with your spouse! If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Be the first to hear about all things Awesome Marriage, receive monthly bonus content straight from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy, and take advantage of big discounts by becoming a Marriage Changer!   

Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) - Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com Episode 3125: Anita Chlipala explains how couples drift from loving talk into logistical talk without noticing, and offers ten open-ended questions that reopen the conversation, covering childhood memories, unmet needs, private worries, unfulfilled dreams, and physical intimacy. She notes that the couples who stay connected are simply deliberate about it, setting aside twenty distraction-free minutes and letting themselves be vulnerable rather than staging grand gestures. It is small, repeatable relationship advice for keeping a marriage close over the long run. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/10-questions-happy-couples-constantly-asking-one-another/ Quotes to ponder: "Too many couples become emotionally disconnected and they never saw it coming." "Let yourself be vulnerable. It's a pathway to intimacy and it helps you build and maintain trust." "Intimacy suffers when people stay focused on the things that aren't going well or take the good things for granted." Optimal Relationships Daily is a daily relationship advice podcast where we narrate the best articles on healthy relationships, dating, marriage, and parenting, read to you by a professional narrator so you can strengthen your closest connections a little more every day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Julie and David Bulitt in this insightful episode as they welcome relationship therapist Jamie Bronstein, LCSW, to discuss the keys to finding and maintaining healthy relationships. Jamie shares her expertise on healing unresolved issues, trusting your intuition, and knowing when you've found "the one." They explore common relationship challenges including infidelity and financial issues, the importance of empathy and communication, and how to differentiate between past trauma triggers and genuine red flags. Jamie also reveals her unique approach to helping couples reconnect and discusses her book "Manifesting" and upcoming Ready for Love Summit. Plus, hear candid insights about how relationship professionals navigate their own partnerships.Guest: Jamie Bronstein, LCSWWebsite: https://therelationshipexpert.comInstagram: @therelationshipxpertBook: Manifesting (available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble)Ready for Love Summit: https://readyforlovesummit.comPodcast: Love Talk LiveThe Bulitts Website: https://thebulitts.com/

Are you actually feeling your feelings—or are you really good at thinking about them? In this episode, we're joined by somatic coach, educator, and Healing Embodied founder Chelsea Horton to explore why insight alone doesn't always create change. We unpack what Chelsea calls “thought-feeling fusion” and “emotional constipation,” why so many of us automatically analyze, judge, or suppress emotions, and what can happen when we learn to let the body do what it naturally knows how to do.We also get into anxiety, nervous system regulation, body awareness, sensuality, and Chelsea's love of pole dancing as a path toward embodiment and self-expression. Whether you're a big thinker who lives like a “floating head in a jar,” someone who feels everything intensely, or someone who struggles to feel much at all, this conversation offers a different way to relate to your emotions—and your body.Episode Highlights[0:03] - Are you feeling your feelings—or just analyzing them?[2:39] - Why emotions happen in the body and the “floating head in a jar” problem[5:15] - Understanding thought-feeling fusion and why we become “emotionally constipated”[8:43] - Why feeling can be scary and how to build your capacity for body awareness[13:32] - Why we can't selectively numb emotions—and what it really means to feel alive[16:16] - Chelsea shares how pole dancing helped her reclaim sensuality, sexuality, and embodiment[21:32] - Using movement and somatic work to move through shame and insecurity[24:11] - How staying with bodily sensations can transform our relationship with anxiety[27:44] - Learning to feel as a skill—and why you can eventually practice it on your own[31:42] - Making friends with anxiety and recognizing the gifts inside an anxious mind[34:37] - Practical body-awareness exercises for highly sensitive people and those who feel numb[38:42] - Where to begin with somatic work: building a relationship with your body instead of trying to “fix” itLinks & Resourceswww.healingembodied.com/connectwww.facebook.com/groups/embodiedleaderparadigmIf today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share Insights from the Couch with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

Chemistry feels exciting. Compatibility creates lasting love.Have you ever met someone who gave you instant butterflies, only to discover later that the relationship left you anxious, exhausted, or questioning yourself?In this episode, Bela Gandhi sits down with bestselling author and relationship coach Sabrina Bendory to explore why so many smart, successful people mistake chemistry for compatibility. Together, they unpack the hidden patterns that keep us chasing emotionally unavailable partners and explain why healthy love often feels very different than what we've been taught to expect.Whether you're dating after divorce, healing from heartbreak, or simply ready to build a healthier relationship, this conversation offers practical tools to help you date with more confidence, clarity, and self-worth.In this episode you'll learn:• The real difference between chemistry and compatibility• Why emotionally unavailable partners can feel so attractive• How childhood conditioning shapes adult relationships• Why healthy love can feel unfamiliar at first• How to recognize emotional availability• Practical ways to break old dating patterns and find lasting loveIf you're ready to stop chasing the spark and start building a relationship that actually lasts, this episode is for you.

Have you ever stayed quiet because bringing something up felt harder than just letting it go? Between busy schedules, phones, family responsibilities, and years of falling into familiar patterns, it can be surprisingly easy to become disconnected from the people closest to you without realizing it. I sat down with licensed marriage and family therapist Colette Jane Fehr to talk about why avoiding conflict can quietly create distance, and how approaching difficult conversations with honesty and vulnerability can actually bring you closer. We unpack the difference between sharing what you're truly feeling and turning your interpretations into facts about the other person. You'll walk away with practical ways to start hard conversations, recognize when you're abandoning your own needs to keep the peace, and begin rebuilding connection even if your relationship has been on autopilot for years.You'll Learn:How to start a difficult conversation without blame or defensivenessHow to separate your feelings from the story you're telling yourself about your partnerWhat to do when your partner says, “Nothing's wrong” or “You're overreacting”How to recognize the “siren song of avoidance”Ways to protect your relationship while still getting support from friendsWhy midlife can be an opportunity to reconnectHow to stop keeping the peace at your own expenseLinks:Connect with Colette:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/colettejanefehr TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@colettejanefehrSubstack: Secrets from a Therapist https://colettejanefehr.substack.com/Watch Colette's TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8tSUOB2yEd0 Order a copy of The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book Get a copy of Amy's Best selling book: CANNONBALL! FEARLESSLY Facing Midlife and Beyond hereMake sure to share with friends and family and would love if you could leave a review. There are so many shows out there floating around and if you are finding value in the The Right Sized Life Podcast share it with the world – a review means so much.And sign up for the Radiant Woman Reset hereAnd don't forget to follow along on all the socials:http://instagram.com/theamy.schmidthttps://www.facebook.com/fearlesslyfacingfifty/https://www.linkedin.com/in/amy-schmidt-a5684412/

This episode is devoted to one deceptively simple question: How do you stay close to your partner over time through the inevitable exhaustion, misunderstanding, conflict, disappointment, and change?This episode is brought to you by:Eight Sleep Pod Cover 5 with dual-zone temperature control, so each partner sleeps at their perfect temperatureIn this episode: Esther Perel begins with the basics: appreciation, affection, and replacing chronic complaints with clear requests.Brené Brown explains why marriage is never 50/50 and how she and her husband create what Brené calls a “plan of kindness.” Brad Feld describes the monthly “life dinners” that have helped him and his wife review the previous 30 days, talk honestly about the future, and prevent resentments from building upJim Dethmer offers a practical way to distinguish observable facts from the stories we make up about our partners.Sheila Heen explains how humor and genuine curiosity can serve as an interrupt on an argument that is heating up The late Dr. Sue Johnson then walks us through a “Hold Me Tight” conversation—a way of moving beneath anger and defensiveness to the fear, vulnerability, and need for connection underneath.Terry Real then offers a strikingly simple model for repair and introduces the term “normal marital hatred” - as he put it, nobody ever goes up to him and says “What do you mean by that?!”Finally, Diana Chapman describes what it means to let an outdated version of a marriage end so that two people can consciously choose what comes next for their relationship.Timestamps:Intro from Tim: 00:00:00Esther Perel: 00:01:58Brené Brown: 00:08:21Brad Feld: 00:12:02Jim Dethmer: 00:16:51Shelia Heen: 00:23:04Dr. Sue Johnson: 00:29:26Terry Real: 00:40:14Diana Chapman: 00:46:19Short bios:Esther Perel is an internationally renowned psychotherapist, the New York Times bestselling author of Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, and the host of the award-winning podcast Where Should We Begin?Brené Brown is the author of six number-one New York Times bestsellers exploring courage, vulnerability, shame, and resilience; a research professor at the University of Houston; and a professor of practice at the University of Texas at Austin.Brad Feld is an early-stage investor and entrepreneur and a co-founder of Foundry Group, Mobius Venture Capital, and Techstars. He writes on entrepreneurship, leadership, mental health, and sustaining a life beyond work.Jim Dethmer is a co-founder of the Conscious Leadership Group and co-author of The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership, an influential framework for building candid, responsible, high-trust relationships.Sheila Heen is the deputy director of the Harvard Negotiation Project, founder of Triad Consulting Group, and co-author of the New York Times bestsellers Difficult Conversations and Thanks for the Feedback.Dr. Sue Johnson was the pioneering clinical psychologist who created Emotionally Focused Therapy. She was named Psychologist of the Year by the American Psychological Association and appointed to the Order of Canada for her global impact on psychotherapy.Terry Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, a bestselling author, and the creator of Relational Life Therapy. He has spent more than four decades helping couples restore intimacy and connection.Diana Chapman is co-author of The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership, a cofounder of the Conscious Leadership Group, and founder of the Signal Institute, working with leaders on radical honesty, somatic intelligence, and transformation.*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when AI becomes more than a tool—and starts becoming a thinking partner, emotional regulator, therapist, or even a relationship? In this episode, we're getting very honest about our own relationships with ChatGPT, Claude, and AI: how often we use them, what we actually find helpful, and the parts that already make us a little nervous.We're digging into the tension between the convenience of AI and the very human things we don't want to lose: creativity, critical thinking, emotional regulation, vulnerability, and real connection. Is AI helping us think—or slowly teaching us not to? Can an always-available chatbot change what we expect from relationships? And what happens when people start turning to AI for therapy, dating advice, companionship, and comfort? This one left both of us thinking about some boundaries we may need to put in place.Episode Highlights[0:40] - Confessing how much we're actually using AI in our everyday lives.[2:29] - Why AI can feel like another relationship where you're just not being understood.[4:10] - The “ick” of AI validation, false flattery, and having a companion who never gets annoyed.[5:35] - Where AI shines as a strategic thinking partner for work, career moves, and problem-solving.[7:05] - Using AI for emotional regulation—and why we're starting to see some genuine value in it.[9:06] - Why AI support can't replace human co-regulation, responsiveness, and connection.[11:34] - Are we eliminating the “friction of humanity” by choosing synthetic relationships over messy real ones?[12:56] - How quickly AI has infiltrated our lives—and why that raises questions about cognitive atrophy.[14:40] - What GPS can teach us about outsourcing our memory, thinking, and problem-solving.[16:00] - Creativity, imagination, and the danger of letting AI do the messy ideating for us.[17:55] - Why we may need to think for ourselves before asking AI what it thinks.[18:27] - Esther Perel, AI relationships, and the reality of people forming bonds with artificial companions.[20:08] - Dating, rejection, vulnerability, and why synthetic relationships may become especially seductive.[23:04] - Asking AI what someone else is thinking—and whether AI could eventually replace parts of therapy.[24:06] - What happened when a young couple arrived at therapy already armed with AI-generated attachment insights.[26:39] - AI couples therapy: far-fetched idea or something therapists need to prepare for now?[27:17] - The human advantage: presence, relational skills, nuance, and the personal touch AI can't fully replicate.[28:58] - The Master and His Emissary, right-brain thinking, and protecting the parts of ourselves that make us beautifully human.[30:25] - Why human beings being flawed, nuanced, and messy may be exactly what's worth holding onto.If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share Insights from the Couch with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

In this episode I sit down with Colette Fehr, licensed psychotherapist, couples therapist, and author of The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love, whose 2025 TEDx talk Secrets of a Couples Therapist was selected as a TED Editors' Pick and whose work has been featured in The New York Times, Oprah Daily, and The Wall Street Journal. Colette makes such a compelling case for why avoiding conflict is not keeping the peace — it is costing us our relationships, our sense of self, and our emotional freedom. We talk about the neurobiological reason hard conversations feel so dangerous, what a healthy apology actually sounds like, how to identify your needs when you have spent years not having any, and how to soothe your inner child before you ever say a word to someone else.This conversation is going to change the way you think about conflict — and I think you are going to feel that shift in your body as you listen.Connect with Colette:www.colettejanefehr.comwww.instgram.com/colettejanefehrBook: www.thecostofquiet.comSubstack: www.colettejanefehr.substack.comPodcast: www.insightsfromthecouch.orgWORK WITH ME 1:1:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support: https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewformDOWNLOAD FOR FREE:Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guideAttatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-groundAlive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-alignedTrigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:https://marinatriner.com/resources CONNECT WITH  ME:Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/marinatriner/ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"Conflict might just mean someone stepped on an old wound — and now you have the opportunity to heal, to be known more deeply, and to feel more connected." — Colette Fehr"Your voice deserves to be spoken. Your needs matter. We get sick physically and mentally when we are not clear and honest." — Colette Fehr"It is never about the dishes. It is about the old wounds, the insecurities we carry inside. We are all, as human beings, afraid of abandonment and rejection." — Colette Fehr"Vulnerability naturally invites vulnerability. We have mirror neurons — when we come forward this way, people start to open up and be on that same channel without even thinking about it." — Colette Fehr"How you talk to yourself first sets you up for success. You have to tend to your inner child before you communicate with anyone else." — Colette Fehrsomatic healing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, hard conversations, attachment healing, inner child work, emotional regulation, relational healing, self worth, people pleasing, self abandonment, codependency healing, self compassion, conflict and connection, secure attachment, boundaries, deep within podcast, Colette Fehr, cost of quiet, couples therapy 

Avoidance doesn't always look like silence, shutting down, or refusing to communicate. In fact, you can be highly verbal, expressive, and even confrontational—and still be avoiding the conversations that actually matter. In this episode, we're unpacking the sneaky ways avoidance shows up in relationships, from people pleasing and hyper-independence to criticism, passive aggressiveness, bickering, and numbing out.We're also getting personal about the ways we've recognized these patterns in our own lives and relationships. If you've ever thought, “It's not worth bringing up,” waited until resentment exploded, expected someone to read your mind, or convinced yourself you're just better off handling everything alone, this conversation is for you. We'll help you recognize avoidant communication and start moving toward more honest, assertive, self-connected conversations—without sacrificing kindness.Episode Highlights[0:39] - Why avoidance is so misunderstood—and why being highly communicative doesn't mean you're not avoiding.[2:15] - The “siren song of avoidance”: “It's not worth it,” “It'll only start a fight,” and “Why bother?”[4:20] - When holding things in turns into overcommunicating, sarcasm, resentment, or a “victim volcano.”[8:08] - Outsourcing emotional intimacy to kids, friends, family, or someone outside your relationship.[11:16] - Distracting and numbing with phones, TV, work, social media, and other forms of escape.[12:44] - People pleasing, “good girlitis,” and learning to tolerate other people being disappointed in you.[15:40] - A practical way to build your assertiveness muscle without starting with your hardest conversation.[19:58] - How criticizing and blaming can masquerade as communicating your needs.[23:16] - Replacing harshness with direct, kind communication that your partner actually has a chance of hearing.[25:48] - Hyper-independence, the “I'll handle it myself” mentality, and the self-fulfilling prophecy it creates.[28:37] - Shutting down, stonewalling, and compartmentalizing uncomfortable relationship problems.[30:10] - Victim volcano syndrome and passive aggressiveness: what sarcasm, digs, and “jokes” may really be telling you.[34:13] - Why seemingly harmless bickering—or “toxic ping pong”—can slowly damage connection.[37:02] - Sweeping frustrations under the rug and recognizing just how many “normal” relationship behaviors are actually avoidance.[38:52] - Self-connected communication: getting underneath frustration, naming your emotions, identifying your needs, and coming forward clearly.[41:36] - Practicing communication people can hear, repairing when you get it wrong, and taking responsibility for your side of the street.If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

RDr. Thomas Attig, PhD is one of the most influential voices in contemporary grief theory and applied philosophy. He is the author of Seeking Wisdom in Death's Shadows: Collected Writings on How We Grieve published by Oxford University Press. Also, The Heart of Grief: Death and the Search for Lasting Love and How We Grieve: Relearning the World, also published by Oxford University Press. His work centers on the idea that grieving is an active, choice‑filled process — a relearning of how to be in the world after loss. s.Attig has written extensively on grief, loss, care of the dying, suicide intervention, death education, and the ethics of interactions with the dying. He is a past President of the Association for Death Education and Counseling and has delivered keynote talks and workshops across the U.S., Canada, England, Australia, Israel, and Germany.He taught philosophy at Bowling Green State University for nearly 25 years, serving as department chair and helping establish the world's first Ph.D. program in Applied Philosophy. Since 1995, he has worked independently as an applied philosopher, writer, and speaker.Attig's central theme: grief is not about letting go — it's about learning to love in separation, carrying forward the legacies of those we mourn while rebuilding our lives.He currently lives in Victoria, British Columbia, where he continues writing, teaching, and speaking.Dr. Thomas Attig's Sites:Website: https://www.griefsheart.com/links.phpBooks: Seeking Wisdom in Death's Shadows: Collected Writings on How We Grieve AT https://global.oup.com/academic/search?q=Seeking+Wisdom+in+Death%27s+Shadows&cc=us&lang=en30 % Discount on book with Promotion Code: "aufly30" on left side of checkout screenLook for all his work at https://global.oup.com/academic/search?q=+Thomas+Attig&cc=us&lang=enor other fine book stores (Amazon and others in home website above).OTR Sites:Podcast Website: https://bobadleman.wixsite.com/otrmentalhealthBlog: https://realplus.bearblog.dev/otr-lies-from-the-tablecloth/Public Square Community Ko-Fi.com/otrachieving Mail: OvertheRainbowbob@gmail.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/otrachievingmentalhealhfrInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/over_the_rainbow_achievingX: https://twitter.com/overtherain1bowYouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChEYTddPDUaiZbFliit1r5QLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robert-adleman/This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podder - https://www.podderapp.com/privacy-policyPodtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

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Divorce is often portrayed as a battle—one that leaves everyone emotionally exhausted and financially depleted. But what if that's not the only path forward? In this episode of This Is Woman's Work, Nicole Kalil sits down with Erin Levine, founder and CEO of Hello Divorce, to challenge the common misconceptions surrounding divorce and explore what it actually takes to have a good one. After nearly two decades as a family law attorney, Erin witnessed firsthand how the traditional legal system often creates unnecessary conflict, higher costs, and prolonged emotional distress. That experience inspired her to build a different approach—one that supports people through one of life's biggest transitions with greater clarity, compassion, and confidence. In This Episode, Nicole and Erin Discuss: The three legal steps every divorce requires. Why 95% of divorces are resolved through agreement rather than trial. Common misconceptions about the divorce process. State-by-state differences that can significantly impact divorce timelines. Why divorce should be viewed as a life transition—not just a legal proceeding. Erin's definition of a "good divorce" and what makes it possible. Why fear and anger often lead to poor decisions during divorce. The financial mistakes that frequently cost people thousands of dollars. The role divorce coaches, mediators, therapists, financial professionals, and real estate experts can play throughout the process. Practical conversations and ground rules couples can establish before filing for divorce. Common misconceptions surrounding custody arrangements. Important considerations when dividing real estate and retirement assets. Why the end of a marriage doesn't necessarily mean the relationship failed. Ultimately, the conversation reframes divorce as a process that can be navigated with clarity, dignity, and support rather than conflict. Thank you to our sponsors! Don't wait to teach your kids real-world money skills! Start your risk-free Greenlight trial today at Greenlight.com/TIWW.  Go to https://CovePure.com/tiww to get $250 off. Thanks to CovePure for sponsoring this episode! Connect with Erin: Website: https://hellodivorce.com/  LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erinlevine/  IG: https://www.instagram.com/hellodivorce  Related Podcast Episodes: 047 / Mindset, Resilience & Divorce with Susan Tripi The Collaborative Co-Parent (How To Put Your Kids First) with Gabriella Pomare | 401 Healing Relationships: The 4 Essential Pillars for Lasting Love with Dr. Rachel Glik | 283 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform!

If you've ever left a doctor's office feeling dismissed, confused, or wondering if you're asking the wrong questions, you're not alone. We sat down with menopause expert Esther Blum for an eye-opening conversation about hormone replacement therapy, why so many women struggle to get the care they deserve, and what every woman should know about advocating for herself. This conversation challenges outdated beliefs, tackles common myths, and explores why so many women are being told they're "fine" when they know something isn't right.We also unpack the long-term impact hormones can have on brain, bone, and cardiovascular health, why finding the right provider matters, and what changes need to happen so future generations of women receive better care. Whether you're already navigating perimenopause or simply want to be informed before you get there, this is a conversation you won't want to miss.Episode Highlights[0:03] - Welcoming Esther Blum and introducing her TEDx talk on the "prescription pad of misogyny."[0:56] - Why so many women are being dismissed, gaslit, and offered outdated menopause advice.[5:02] - Laura shares her own experience trying to access hormone therapy and asks the question so many women are asking: when is the right time to start?[8:16] - Esther explains early signs of perimenopause, why waiting for severe symptoms isn't necessary, and the importance of early intervention.[12:49] - We discuss the frustration of receiving completely different advice from different providers—even menopause specialists.[18:32] - Practical strategies for finding a hormone-literate provider and becoming your own best advocate.[24:20] - Esther shares resources, recommended testing, and why education is one of the most powerful tools women have.[29:30] - We unpack testosterone pellets, alternative treatment options, and common misconceptions about hormone therapy.[34:05] - Esther shares her advocacy work to improve menopause education in medical schools and create better access to care for women everywhere.[39:05] - Where to connect with Esther, learn more about her work, and watch for her upcoming TEDx Talk.If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share Insights from the Couch with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

A conversation on deep listening, dukkha, vulnerability, acceptance, and using relationship as spiritual practice.In this episode of The Midlife Spirituality Project, I'm joined by Devon Hase, co-author of This Messy, Gorgeous Love: A Buddhist Guide to Lasting Partnership.This conversation explores what Buddhist wisdom can teach us about love, marriage, conflict, and the very human messiness of being in close relationship with another person. Devon shares why difficulty in partnership does not mean something is wrong, how the Buddhist concept of dukkha can help us normalize the “bumpy ride” of love, and why our closest relationships often become some of our greatest opportunities for spiritual growth.We also talk about deep listening — to ourselves, to our partner, and to the relationship itself — and how this practice can help us move from projection and criticism toward curiosity, compassion, and connection.Devon and I also discuss vulnerability, codependency, attachment, the middle way, accepting our partners as they are while still honoring our own needs, and the importance of deliberately practicing joy and appreciation in long-term relationships.In This Episode, We Talk AboutWhy relationships can feel especially complicated in midlifeThe Buddhist concept of dukkha and why love can feel like a “bumpy ride”Deep listening as a practice for ourselves, our partners, and the relationshipHow meditation helps us see our projections more clearlyRelationship as a path of spiritual growthAccepting your partner while still naming your needsCodependency, attachment, autonomy, and connectionThe Buddhist “middle way” in partnershipVulnerability, boundaries, and “having no skin” with the people closest to usPracticing joy, appreciation, and tech-free connectionConnect With Devon & Nicowww.devonandnicohase.comIG: @devonandnicohase.comBuy The Book: This Messy, Gorgeous LoveAbout Katie FarinasKatie Farinas is a midlife coach, yoga teacher, and spiritual guide who helps women navigate midlife with clarity, peace, purpose, and empowerment. Through yoga philosophy, mindfulness, nervous system regulation, and energy-based practices, Katie supports women in reconnecting with themselves and stepping fully into their most aligned and authentic lives.✨ Ways To Go Deeper:If you're ready to feel less overwhelmed and more connected to your body, needs, and inner voice, explore my 4-week private coaching experience for midlife women: Reconnect With Your Body and Yourself. Learn more here.Record your question here and I will answer it on the show!! https://www.speakpipe.com/KatieFarinasJoin the Monthly SatsangVisit Katie's websiteJoin the newsletter for soulful insights and to receive weekly practicesRead and watch on SubstackBook a reflective Insight Seat to come on the show and receive live coachingSchedule a Clarity Call to see if my coaching is right for you.

Healthy relationships begin with the relationship you have with yourself. In this episode of Permission to Thrive, Suzi Lula shares three simple daily practices that can help you create healthier relationships, deepen self-love, strengthen emotional connection, and cultivate the kind of lasting love that begins from within. Whether you're nurturing a current relationship or calling one into your life, these practices will help you embody more appreciation, intention, and love in every relationship. Plus, stay until the end for a bonus guided meditation to help you integrate these practices and open your heart to healthier, more loving relationships. If you'd like to continue exploring what creates lasting love, be sure to listen to these episodes: "27 Years of Healthy Marriage Begins With This Inner Work," https://www.suzilula.com/27-years-of-healthy-marriage-begins/ “3 Steps To Self-Love”https://www.suzilula.com/3-step-self-love-practice-everyone/Start with my free Gift 3-Part Relationship Intensive:https://courses.suzilula.com/FREE3PartRelationshipINTENSIVEAnd if you're ready to go deeper, explore my Transform Your RELATIONSHIPS course:https://courses.suzilula.com/Transform-Your-RELATIONSHIPSIf you're ready to continue your journey in a deeper, more immersive way, join Suzi's upcoming SANCTUARY experience: https://courses.suzilula.com/SANCTUARY If this episode spoke to your heart and you're ready to go deeper, I would love to support you inside my programs. I've created these experiences to help you embody self love, reconnect with your inner light, and gently step into a more grounded, supported, and thriving life:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://courses.suzilula.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Have questions? You can always reach us at Team@SuziLula.comIf this episode supported you, please follow or subscribe, leave a 5-star review, and turn on notifications so you never miss a new episode every Wednesday.Thank you for being here with me. Your support helps this message reach more people who are ready to move from surviving to truly thriving.Until next week, give yourself permission to thrive.Much love,SuziConnect with MeWebsite: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.suzilula.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/SuziLula⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/suzi.lula/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@SuziLula⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Simplified Impact⁠⁠⁠

What happens when the relationship that's supposed to feel the safest becomes the one that keeps you stuck? In this episode, we sit down with journalist and author Ashley Oreman to explore the complicated reality of mother wounds, dysfunctional parent-child relationships, and the healing that becomes possible when we stop waiting for someone else to change.Together, we unpack why setting boundaries can feel so difficult, how childhood attachment shapes our adult relationships, and what it really looks like to grieve the mother you wish you had while creating a healthier future for yourself. Whether you've struggled with people-pleasing, emotional enmeshment, or simply wondered why certain relationship patterns keep repeating, this conversation offers compassion, insight, and hope.Episode Highlights[0:03] - Welcome back! We introduce today's powerful conversation on motherhood, healing, and midlife growth.[1:08] - Ashley shares the inspiration behind her book and how her own experiences led her to write about mother wounds.[3:01] - Discover how childhood experiences can quietly shape self-worth, relationships, and emotional patterns in adulthood.[8:15] - We explore why understanding a parent's history may bring clarity—but doesn't erase the impact of emotional neglect.[12:59] - What happens when you finally speak your truth? Ashley shares her journey of communicating boundaries and what followed.[18:12] - The difficult reality of low contact, honoring yourself, and accepting what someone else may never be able to give.[21:54] - How creating healthy distance reduced rumination, anxiety, and emotional overwhelm.[24:25] - We dive into attachment theory, relational templates, and how early family dynamics influence adult partnerships.[26:07] - Ashley discusses family reactions, navigating guilt, and staying grounded after setting firm boundaries.[30:14] - Why grieving the relationship you hoped for is an essential part of healing.[31:50] - Ashley explains the interactive exercises in her book and practical ways readers can process difficult emotions.[35:41] - We talk about the pressure of "but it's your mom," and why every relationship deserves healthy boundaries.[39:03] - An important reminder: this isn't about blaming mothers—it's about accountability, healing, and breaking unhealthy cycles.[43:47] - Where to find Ashley, her book, and more of her work.Links & ResourcesAshley Oerman is a health and wellness journalist, editor, and author of Motherfcked: How to Stop Your Mother's Toxic Drama From Ruining Your Life.Book: Motherfcked: How to Stop Your Mother's Toxic Drama From Ruining Your Lifehttps://www.amazon.com/Motherf-cked-Mothers-Toxic-Ruining/dp/1637748612/Substack: https://ashleyoerman.substack.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleyoerman/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashleyoerman/If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) - Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3090: Dr. Diana Kirschner of Love In 90 Days explains what to do when you find your soulmate at the wrong time. In part 1, she shares the story of Clarissa, who fell for a coworker while married, and shows how expressing your real needs can turn a struggling marriage back into a passionate, healthy relationship. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://lovein90days.com/when-you-find-your-soulmate-at-the-wrong-time/ Quotes to ponder: "Instead of acting on your impulses, it is usually best to try to take that exquisite energy that you are feeling with the new guy and see if it can be cultivated in your present relationship." "Your journey begins with owning and expressing your own needs to your spouse." "Remember, your partner is alive and it is you who is currently the beneficiary of all his or her goodies." Optimal Relationships Daily is a daily relationship advice podcast where we narrate the best articles on healthy relationships, dating, marriage, and family, read to you by a professional narrator so you can strengthen your closest connections a little more every day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to another episode of Man vs Marriage. I'm Quincy Moran, aka the Q-DawG, coming to you live from the Moran Family Studio.Today I am honored to sit down with a man who has spent more than four decades helping people grow in their relationships and personal development. Dr. Roger K. Allen is a psychologist, bestselling author, and relationship educator. In 1980 he founded and served as president of the Human Development Institute, where he provided thousands of hours of individual, marriage, and family therapy. He has taught hundreds of thousands of people through seminars, workshops, and online programs and has certified more than 1,500 coaches and consultants worldwide in his methodologies.Roger is the author of several powerful books, including The Hero's Choice, Living from the Inside Out, Raising Responsible Emotionally Mature Children, Six Habits of a Healthy Marriage, and How to Build Trust, Connection, and Lasting Love.Check out his work! : https://www.rogerkallen.com/meet-roger/#journeyIn this conversation we talk about:What 50 years of marriage has taught him about personal and relational maturationWhy marriage is one of the most powerful contexts for becoming more Christ-likeThe journey of “becoming” and how we grow through the hard momentsHow to handle conflict without defensivenessLearning to pause, own your emotions, and create emotional safetyThe difference between reacting and respondingPractical tools for creating shared understanding instead of winning the argumentBringing grace to yourself and your spouse when you mess upRoger shares real, vulnerable stories from his own marriage — including moments at the dinner table, phone scrolling, emotional differences between partners, and how he has learned to take ownership instead of defending himself.This is a rich, practical, and deeply encouraging episode for any man who wants to lead better at home and grow in emotional maturity.Key TakeawaysMarriage is one of the greatest classrooms for personal growth, humility, and becoming more Christ-like.Lasting love is not luck — it is built through intentional daily choices rooted in awareness, kindness, and responsibility.Emotional maturity starts with managing yourself first (your feelings, your reactions, your defensiveness) before trying to communicate better.When you get triggered, pause. Own what you are feeling. Then come back and create a safe space for your spouse to share.You do not have to be perfect. You can ask for a “do-over.”Shared understanding matters more than being right.Bring grace to yourself and to your spouse.Your Call to ActionThis week, practice pausing the next time you feel defensive. Name what you are feeling. Then invite your spouse to share without interrupting or defending.Tag a brother who needs this conversation and share the episode with him.Men Helping Men. Hope Starts Here. Legacy is the long game.Contact & LinksQuincy Moran Email: quincy@mvsmpodcast.com Website: https://quincymoran.comFor more from Dr. Roger K. Allen, search for his books: The Hero's Choice • Living from the Inside Out • Six Habits of a Healthy Marriage • How to Build Trust, Connection, and Lasting LoveHashtags #ManVsMarriage #DrRogerAllen #HealthyMarriage #EmotionalMaturity #LegacyRoadmap #MenHelpingMen

Clutter isn't just about having too much stuff—it's about what that clutter may be doing to your mind. In this episode, we explore the psychology behind why clutter can increase stress, drain your energy, contribute to decision fatigue, and make it harder to focus. We also share our own very different relationships with clutter, from compulsive purging to sentimental keepsakes, and how life experiences can shape the way we hold onto things.Whether you're staring at an overflowing closet, hanging onto items that no longer serve you, or simply craving a little more peace in your home, this conversation offers practical strategies and science-backed insights to help you create more space—both physically and mentally. If you've been feeling overwhelmed or weighed down, this episode may be exactly what you need.Episode Highlights[0:03] – Why clutter is so much more than a housekeeping issue—and how it may be quietly impacting your stress, focus, and overall well-being.[1:08] – We share our very different relationships with clutter, from compulsive purging to growing up around hoarding, and how those experiences shaped us.[3:45] – The surprising sense of peace that comes from simplifying your surroundings—and the science that explains why it feels so good.[6:53] – How visual clutter increases cognitive load, decision fatigue, and even cortisol levels without you realizing it.[10:37] – Why major life transitions, grief, and emotional wounds often show up in the way we accumulate and hold onto our belongings.[15:28] – The emotional pull of sentimental items, why it's so hard to let go, and how to curate what truly matters.[20:10] – What we learned from downsizing, moving, and starting over—and why owning less can create more emotional freedom.[23:48] – Practical decluttering strategies you can actually stick with, even if you're feeling completely overwhelmed.[29:20] – A fresh perspective on minimalism, consumer culture, and becoming more intentional about what you bring into your home.[33:07] – Why decluttering during busy seasons of life can feel impossible—and the small changes that make the biggest difference.[36:19] – We leave you with a simple challenge to consume less, create more space, and protect your peace.If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share Insights from the Couch with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

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We've been taught to believe that love is something you fall into. That when you meet the right person, you'll just know. The chemistry will be undeniable. The connection effortless. But what if almost everything we've been taught about love is wrong? In this episode of The Language of Love, I sit down with social psychologist, relationship expert, and author of Love by Design, Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh. For more than two decades, Sara has studied thriving couples across 40 countries to understand what actually creates lasting, fulfilling love. Her research challenges many of the myths we've grown up believing and offers a refreshing, evidence-based perspective on what makes relationships flourish. One of the biggest takeaways? Lasting love isn't something you stumble into. It's something you intentionally create. We explore why the butterflies we chase can sometimes be our nervous system responding to familiar patterns rather than genuine compatibility, why peaceful relationships can initially feel unfamiliar, and what it really takes to build a relationship that grows stronger over time. In this episode, we discuss: • Why love is built, not found • The biggest myth about love that keeps people stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns • Why intense chemistry isn't always a sign you've found the right person • How your nervous system shapes who you're attracted to • The difference between anxiety, excitement, and genuine compatibility • Why healthy love can sometimes feel "boring" at first and why that's often a good sign • The six essential ingredients Sara has found in thriving, long-term relationships • How to cultivate attraction and intimacy long after the honeymoon phase ends • A simple practice that helps couples feel more connected without saying a word • Why your relationship patterns show up not only with romantic partners, but also with family, friends, and colleagues • The powerful question that can reveal whether you're settling for the love you think you deserve Whether you're dating, married, healing from heartbreak, or simply wanting stronger relationships in every area of your life, this conversation offers practical wisdom grounded in decades of research and real-world experience. To learn more about Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, visit her website and pick up a copy of Love by Design. If this conversation resonated with you, please share it with someone who could use the reminder that healthy love isn't about finding the perfect person. It's about creating the kind of relationship where both people can truly thrive. To learn more about Dr. Sara's work, grab her book Love by Design or connect with her at her website. And if this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear that love doesn't have to be a mystery. It can be a choice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when frustration quietly turns into contempt—and what does that mean for the future of your relationship? In this conversation, we sit down with relationship therapist and author Zach Brittle to unpack one of the most destructive dynamics couples experience and why it's often misunderstood.Together, we explore where contempt comes from, how unrealistic expectations and unspoken needs fuel disconnection, and what it really takes to rebuild trust and intimacy. If you've ever wondered whether your relationship is stuck in a painful cycle—or how to shift it—this episode is full of practical insights that will challenge the way you think about connection.Episode Highlights[0:03] – Welcoming Zach Brittle and introducing why contempt is one of the biggest threats to healthy relationships.[1:20] – The Gottman Method, the Four Horsemen, and why contempt stands apart from the rest.[5:25] – How contempt develops over time and why it's far more than simply feeling annoyed with your partner.[7:50] – Expectations, comparison, and the hidden ways resentment begins to grow.[10:37] – Solvable versus perpetual relationship problems—and why acceptance matters.[13:19] – Losing positive sentiment and how couples begin viewing everything through a negative lens.[15:50] – Recognizing the warning signs before contempt becomes the default dynamic.[18:40] – The importance of asking clearly for what you need instead of expecting your partner to read your mind.[20:41] – When your needs aren't being met: accepting reality, setting boundaries, and making difficult relationship decisions.[22:08] – Why trying to "win" or change your partner often creates even more distance and frustration.[24:27] – A memorable analogy using sexual communication to explain why direct feedback strengthens connection.[26:13] – What being a responsive partner really looks like and why assumptions get couples into trouble.[28:36] – The "pasta and mailbox" examples: how neutral everyday actions can be interpreted through either appreciation or resentment.[30:02] – Negative sentiment override, confirmation bias, and why we often assume the worst of the people we love.[32:00] – Challenging the stories we tell ourselves and taking responsibility for how we show up in conflict.[35:28] – Practical ways to intentionally cultivate appreciation and prevent resentment from becoming contempt.[36:52] – Zach shares his latest book, his Substack, final relationship wisdom, and where listeners can connect with him.Links & ResourcesMarriage Therapy Radio Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-therapy-radio/id1295458667Zach Brittle's Books: https://zachbrittle.com/writing/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagetherapyradio/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marriagetherapyradio/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagetherapyradioIf today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

Ever wonder why certain conflicts keep resurfacing in your relationships, or why you wake from a vivid dream feeling shaken without understanding why? Sometimes, the real roots of our struggles with loved ones aren't just out in the open—they're buried in the deeper layers of our own subconscious. When we ignore these internal signals, challenges can feel insurmountable, and solutions remain out of reach. In this episode, listeners will explore how dreams and moments of inner reflection can act as a mirror, revealing hidden emotions and unresolved patterns that shape the way we connect with others. By diving into the interplay between our inner world and our daily lives, practical techniques are shared to help harness the wisdom of dreams and self-inquiry—so relationships can become more creative, connected, and resilient in the face of recurring challenges. Bonnie Buckner, PhD, is founder and CEO of the International Institute for Dreaming and Imagery®, author of THE SECRET MIND, and Program Lead for George Washington University's One Humanity Leadership Coaching Certification Program, where she uses dreaming and imagery work to develop coaches.   Episode Highlights 04:37 How nighttime reflections illuminate daily life and relationships. 08:52 Emotional processing: Recalibrating through dreams. 11:39 Dreams as personal mirrors: Identifying patterns and insights. 14:06 Creativity, imagination, and the value of contemplative states. 16:25 Applying dreamwork principles to relationship challenges. 19:31 Inner conflict, projection, and energetic shifts in relationships. 24:05 Linking inner awareness to relationship dynamics. 28:53 The essentials of effective dream journaling. 30:58 Benefits of detailed dream recall and handwriting practices. 35:11 Shifting relationship patterns through dream awareness. 39:45 Perspective-taking and empathy through dream-inspired creativity. 42:31 Navigating mystery and uncertainty in relationship communication. 48:18 Best practices for couples exploring dreams together.   Your Checklist of Actions to Take Record Your Dreams: Write down your dreams in detail as soon as you wake up, resisting the urge to edit or judge the content. Reflect Without Editing: Practice non-editing and non-judging by documenting all aspects of your dream, including emotions, images, and phrases, to foster honest self-inquiry. Identify Emotional Themes: Look for recurring emotions or patterns in your dreams, such as anger or anxiety, which may point to unresolved inner conflicts. Apply Dream Insights to Waking Life: If you notice yourself using strong language (e.g., "nightmare boss") in daily life, pause to examine your emotional response and recalibrate internally. Practice Waking Dream Exercises: Revisit challenging dream scenarios while awake, imagining new responses—like facing a monster instead of running—to shift internal dynamics. Acknowledge All Facets of Self: Recognize that different dream symbols represent multiple aspects of yourself, helping you better understand your reactions and behaviors. Share Dreams Mindfully With Partners: When discussing dreams with your partner, speak from your own perspective (e.g., "If it were my dream...") and avoid interpreting their experience as fact. Embrace Curiosity and Mystery: Approach both your dreams and your partner with openness to not knowing, allowing for shared exploration and growth even through uncertainty.   Mentioned The Secret Mind (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) One Humanity Leadership Coaching Certification (*George Washington University) (program) Jeremy Taylor (dream worker) (article) DreamSenseMemory - a Gestalt-based dream-work approach embracing all our senses (National Library of Medicine) (article) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love (free relationship guide)   Connect with Dr. Bonnie Buckner Websites: bonniebuckner.com | institutefordreamingandimagery.com Facebook: facebook.com/drbonniebuckner/ | facebook.com/institutefordreamingandimagery Instagram: instagram.com/bonniebucknerdotcom/ | instagram.com/dreamwithiidi LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/bonniebuckner/ | linkedin.com/company/international-institute-for-dreaming-and-imagery/posts/?feedView=all  

In this Parsha Review Podcast episode on the double portion Matos-Masei, Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe explores the continuation of Pinchas' story from last week. As the Jewish people prepare for war against Midian, Moshe sends 1,000 men from each tribe along with Pinchas — carrying the sacred vessels and trumpets. Rashi explains that Pinchas was singled out because he had begun the mitzvah of zealously defending Hashem's honor and was therefore told to complete it. The episode also highlights the Midrashic connection between Pinchas and Yosef through his mother's lineage (Putiel / Yisro).Rabbi Wolbe focuses on the seven names of Yisro, particularly “Putiel.” While it can be interpreted negatively (fattening calves for idol worship), it can also be seen positively: Yisro was at the “fat” (peak) of his illustrious career and sacrificed everything to join the Jewish people. This leads to a powerful discussion on perspective — choosing to see the positive in people, situations, spouses, children, and even world events.The episode ties beautifully into the Three Weeks: lasting change in avoiding Lashon Hara comes not from simply stopping negative speech, but from changing how we view others. Rabbi Wolbe encourages judging the whole person favorably (kol ha'adam l'kaf zechus), practicing hakaras hatov (gratitude), and refusing to be kafui tov (one who rejects the good done for us). He applies this to family life, parenting, and current events, urging listeners to avoid knee-jerk negativity from media narratives._____________This episode of the Parsha Review Podcast is dedicated in honor of Lenny & Teresa FriedmanDownload & Print the Parsha Review Notes:https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1ncaRyoH5iJmGGoMZs9y82Hz2ofViVouv?usp=sharingRecorded at TORCH Meyerland in the Levin Family Studios (B) to a live audience on July 7, 2026, in Houston, Texas.Released as Podcast on July 9, 2026_____________Subscribe: Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/parsha-review-podcast-rabbi-aryeh-wolbe/id1651930083)Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/22lv1kXJob5ZNLaAl6CHTQ) to stay inspired! Share your questions at awolbe@torchweb.org or visit torchweb.org for more Torah content.  _____________About the Host:Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe, Director of TORCH in Houston, brings decades of Torah scholarship to guide listeners in applying Jewish wisdom to daily life.  To directly send your questions, comments, and feedback: awolbe@torchweb.org_____________Support Our Mission:Help us share Jewish wisdom globally by sponsoring an episode at torchweb.org. Your support makes a difference!_____________Subscribe and Listen to other podcasts by Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe: NEW!! Hey Rabbi! Podcast: https://heyrabbi.transistor.fm/episodesPrayer Podcast: https://prayerpodcast.transistor.fm/episodesJewish Inspiration Podcast: https://inspiration.transistor.fm/episodesParsha Review Podcast: https://parsha.transistor.fm/episodesLiving Jewishly Podcast: https://jewishly.transistor.fm/episodesThinking Talmudist Podcast: https://talmud.transistor.fm/episodesUnboxing Judaism Podcast: https://unboxing.transistor.fm/episodesRabbi Aryeh Wolbe Podcast Collection: https://collection.transistor.fm/episodesFor a full listing of podcasts available by TORCH at http://podcast.torchweb.org_____________Keywords:#Torah, #Parsha, #Numbers, #Bamidbar, #Matos, #Masei, #Perspective, #HakarasHatov, #ThreeWeeks, #PositivePerspective, #Pinchas, #Yisro, #JudgeFavorably, #BeGrateful ★ Support this podcast ★

In this Parsha Review Podcast episode on the double portion Matos-Masei, Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe explores the continuation of Pinchas' story from last week. As the Jewish people prepare for war against Midian, Moshe sends 1,000 men from each tribe along with Pinchas — carrying the sacred vessels and trumpets. Rashi explains that Pinchas was singled out because he had begun the mitzvah of zealously defending Hashem's honor and was therefore told to complete it. The episode also highlights the Midrashic connection between Pinchas and Yosef through his mother's lineage (Putiel / Yisro).Rabbi Wolbe focuses on the seven names of Yisro, particularly “Putiel.” While it can be interpreted negatively (fattening calves for idol worship), it can also be seen positively: Yisro was at the “fat” (peak) of his illustrious career and sacrificed everything to join the Jewish people. This leads to a powerful discussion on perspective — choosing to see the positive in people, situations, spouses, children, and even world events.The episode ties beautifully into the Three Weeks: lasting change in avoiding Lashon Hara comes not from simply stopping negative speech, but from changing how we view others. Rabbi Wolbe encourages judging the whole person favorably (kol ha'adam l'kaf zechus), practicing hakaras hatov (gratitude), and refusing to be kafui tov (one who rejects the good done for us). He applies this to family life, parenting, and current events, urging listeners to avoid knee-jerk negativity from media narratives._____________This episode of the Parsha Review Podcast is dedicated in honor of Lenny & Teresa FriedmanDownload & Print the Parsha Review Notes:https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1ncaRyoH5iJmGGoMZs9y82Hz2ofViVouv?usp=sharingRecorded at TORCH Meyerland in the Levin Family Studios (B) to a live audience on July 7, 2026, in Houston, Texas.Released as Podcast on July 9, 2026_____________Subscribe: Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/parsha-review-podcast-rabbi-aryeh-wolbe/id1651930083)Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/22lv1kXJob5ZNLaAl6CHTQ) to stay inspired! Share your questions at awolbe@torchweb.org or visit torchweb.org for more Torah content.  _____________About the Host:Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe, Director of TORCH in Houston, brings decades of Torah scholarship to guide listeners in applying Jewish wisdom to daily life.  To directly send your questions, comments, and feedback: awolbe@torchweb.org_____________Support Our Mission:Help us share Jewish wisdom globally by sponsoring an episode at torchweb.org. Your support makes a difference!_____________Subscribe and Listen to other podcasts by Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe: NEW!! Hey Rabbi! Podcast: https://heyrabbi.transistor.fm/episodesPrayer Podcast: https://prayerpodcast.transistor.fm/episodesJewish Inspiration Podcast: https://inspiration.transistor.fm/episodesParsha Review Podcast: https://parsha.transistor.fm/episodesLiving Jewishly Podcast: https://jewishly.transistor.fm/episodesThinking Talmudist Podcast: https://talmud.transistor.fm/episodesUnboxing Judaism Podcast: https://unboxing.transistor.fm/episodesRabbi Aryeh Wolbe Podcast Collection: https://collection.transistor.fm/episodesFor a full listing of podcasts available by TORCH at http://podcast.torchweb.org_____________Keywords:#Torah, #Parsha, #Numbers, #Bamidbar, #Matos, #Masei, #Perspective, #HakarasHatov, #ThreeWeeks, #PositivePerspective, #Pinchas, #Yisro, #JudgeFavorably, #BeGrateful ★ Support this podcast ★

Emotional intelligence isn't something you're born with—it's a skill you can strengthen, and it has the power to transform your relationships, your confidence, and your overall well-being. In this episode, we're unpacking what high EQ really looks like (hint: it's probably different than you think) and sharing the key markers of emotional maturity that help people thrive at work, at home, and within themselves.Join us as we explore practical ways to become more self-aware, regulate emotions, communicate with greater clarity, and navigate relationships with more compassion and confidence. Whether you're looking to grow personally or strengthen your connections with others, this conversation will leave you with plenty to reflect on—without giving away all the insights before you hit play.Episode Highlights[0:00] – Why emotional intelligence matters more than ever in midlife.[1:25] – What EQ really is—and the common misconceptions people have about it.[5:44] – The difference between sensing something is wrong and assuming you know why.[8:58] – Learning to recognize, name, and express emotions in healthy ways.[13:54] – Self-compassion, emotional regulation, and why feeling your emotions matters.[17:00] – Understanding your needs and learning to ask for them.[20:10] – Conflict, repair, and why emotionally healthy relationships can handle hard conversations.[24:52] – Receiving feedback without shame or defensiveness.[28:54] – Why your words, body language, and emotions need to align.[30:38] – Emotional intelligence is built through intentional practice—not just age.If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

What if happiness isn't something you find—but something you create? In this episode, we sit down with author, speaker, coach, and three-time cancer survivor Claudia Noriega-Bernstein for a powerful conversation about choosing authentic happiness from the inside out. We explore why so many of us unknowingly hand our happiness over to other people and circumstances—and what it really takes to reclaim it.Together, we unpack the power of personal responsibility, gratitude, healthy relationships, purpose, and becoming the highest version of yourself. Whether you're navigating midlife, healing from life's challenges, or simply wondering what's next, this conversation is full of practical wisdom and inspiring perspective that will leave you thinking differently about what it means to truly thrive.Episode Highlights[0:03] - Welcoming Claudia Noriega-Bernstein and introducing the journey to authentic happiness[2:11] - Why no one else is responsible for your happiness but you[3:01] - How surviving cancer three times changed Claudia's perspective on living with purpose[5:06] - Why waiting for the "right time" keeps us from living fully today[7:58] - The difference between temporary pleasure and authentic happiness[9:37] - Daily habits that help you intentionally create more joy[13:45] - Teaching children gratitude and emotional resilience from an early age[14:50] - Why your partner isn't responsible for making you happy[18:43] - Becoming the person you're hoping to attract in your relationships[20:55] - Building inner abundance instead of seeking external validation[23:41] - Creating an avatar of your highest self to guide everyday decisions[26:46] - Growing individually while building stronger relationships[28:18] - Claudia's nonprofit mission to support and empower single mothers[33:15] - Finding your purpose by reconnecting with your "why"[35:27] - Choosing radical responsibility as the path to lasting happiness[36:22] - Where to connect with Claudia and support her Author of the Year nominationLinks & ResourcesClaudiaNoriegaBernstein.comInstagram: @Claudia_Noriega_BernsteinFacebook: @ClaudiaNoriegaBernsteinLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/claudia-noriega-bernstein/Vote for Claudia for the International Impact Book Awards – Author of the Year:https://apply.internationalimpactbookawards.com/public-voting-formIf today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!  Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

Are you exhausted no matter how much you sleep? Feeling detached from things you used to enjoy? In this episode of Insights from the Couch, we're diving into a topic that so many midlife women experience but often misunderstand: burnout.We unpack the clinical signs of burnout, how it differs from everyday stress, and why so many high-achieving, people-pleasing women are especially vulnerable. We also explore the surprising role that hopelessness plays in burnout and share practical ways to recharge when life feels heavy, overwhelming, and out of your control. If you've been running on empty, this conversation may help you recognize the warning signs—and start finding your way back to yourself.Episode Highlights[0:40] - What burnout really is—and why it's different from being stressed or busy[1:38] - The World Health Organization's three key markers of burnout[6:34] - Why hopelessness often becomes the hidden driver of burnout[8:50] - Reduced effectiveness, brain fog, and losing the ability to focus[10:54] - The difference between a difficult day and a true season of burnout[12:35] - Fantasizing about escape and other warning signs to watch for[13:21] - The personality traits that make some people more susceptible to burnout[15:35] - How self-improvement culture can accidentally fuel burnout[18:17] - A powerful story illustrating what happens when hopelessness takes over[23:49] - Why midlife women are especially vulnerable to burnout[25:06] - Finding purpose and meaning when life feels overwhelming[26:34] - The first step to recovery: subtraction, not addition[27:22] - The healing power of connection, laughter, and community[30:15] - Returning to the basics: sleep, nature, movement, and self-care[32:20] - The “knitting needles” metaphor and why letting go is so difficult[34:45] - Questions to ask yourself if you think burnout may be creeping in[36:03] - Why the mindset that created burnout won't necessarily get you out of itIf today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more! Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

In this fun and empowering episode of The Midlife Makeover Show, Wendy Valentine sits down with Sandy Weiner — Chief Love Officer at Last First Date, internationally known TEDx speaker, and author of three books on dating and relationships — to talk about what it really takes to find love in midlife. Sandy gets refreshingly real about the dating mistakes we make, from the attraction trap to the fantasy-attachment spiral, and why the key to finding lasting love isn't finding the right person first — it's becoming the right person first. From setting boundaries on a first date to discovering your core values through your biggest pet peeves, this episode is packed with practical, no-nonsense wisdom for anyone navigating love after 40.What You'll Learn•       What's truly different about dating in midlife vs. your 20s and 30s — and why that's actually a very good thing•       How to uncover your core values using Sandy's simple "what annoys me" method•       Sandy's practical "Boundaries in Your Back Pocket" approach for communicating your needs with confidence on dates•       The attraction trap — and why chemistry can make us overlook major red flags•       How to know when you're truly ready to date again after divorce or loss — and what to do if you're not sure yet

What if one simple nutrition strategy could support healthy aging, improve metabolic health, boost energy, and even help your skin look better? In this episode of Insights from the Couch, Laura sits down with Renee Fitton, VP of Growth at Prolon and a leading voice in nutrition and longevity science, to unpack the research behind fasting and the fasting mimicking diet.We explore the growing confusion around nutrition in midlife, from protein overload to supplement fatigue, and discuss a more balanced approach to health, longevity, and wellness. Renee shares how fasting mimicking works, why autophagy matters, and what the science says about supporting your body through midlife and beyond. If you've been curious about fasting but overwhelmed by conflicting advice, this conversation is a great place to start.Episode Highlights[0:03] - Laura introduces Renee Fitton and the science-backed world of fasting and longevity[2:13] - Why so many midlife women feel overwhelmed by health and nutrition advice[2:52] - What Prolon is and how a fasting mimicking diet works[6:30] - The current protein craze: what's helpful, what's excessive, and what longevity research suggests[13:36] - Understanding autophagy and the body's natural repair and rejuvenation process[15:44] - The surprising health benefits linked to fasting mimicking, from metabolic markers to skin health[17:28] - How long the benefits last and why fasting may improve your relationship with food[19:30] - Renee shares her personal experience completing multiple fasting mimicking cycles[22:19] - What you actually eat during a Prolon fast and how manageable it feels day-to-day[24:02] - The real-world changes Renee notices in energy, sleep, skin, and mental clarity[27:01] - Who should avoid fasting mimicking and important safety considerations[28:24] - Fasting, cancer recovery research, and resources for survivors[30:18] - Why a gentle 12-hour circadian fast may be more effective than extreme intermittent fasting[32:35] - The hidden impact of skipping breakfast and relying on coffee[34:03] - Why fasting mimicking can be especially beneficial for women in midlife[37:43] - Where to learn more about Prolon and how to get startedLinks & ResourcesProlon Life: https://prolonlife.comRenee Fitton on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fittonnutritionRenee Fitton on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/reneefitton/If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

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Ever wonder what really keeps a 26-year relationship strong when everyone else is telling you “just wait, it fades”? Or how you protect your boundaries when family gets toxic, or what to do if you feel “less than” beside your brilliant, articulate partner? Homie, this is your episode. In today's episode, I'm going all-in, 100% real, answering your top questions about love, loyalty, betrayal, boundaries, sex, and what it truly takes to create a relationship that lasts (and feels amazing from the inside).  From navigating in-laws who question your worth, to fighting that gut-crushing insecurity when you don't feel smart enough, I'm giving you my cheat codes, my battle scars, and the real conversations I've had with my husband after 26 years together. Here's exactly what we dive into: How I broke free from the insecurity of feeling “less smart” than my husband Setting unshakeable boundaries (even when it's your partner's family crossing the line) Preventing your triggers from ruining your relationship: step-by-step The truth about cheating: why it's never about your worth Creating bulletproof intimacy and never letting your sex life quietly die How to actually heal after betrayal and trust again without losing yourself SHOWNOTES The Real Story Behind My 26-Year Marriage: Ups, Downs, and What Changed Everything Can Relationships Survive If Only One Person Wants to Grow? “I Hate My Role!”: When You Need to Change Who You Are in a Relationship Feeling Insecure When Your Partner Is Smarter or More Articulate Discovering Your Own Superpowers and Building True Partnership The Surprising Pool Hall Lesson That Shifted Our Relationship Power Dynamic Shifting Out of Inferiority and Building Real Confidence Turning Jealousy Into Admiration, and the Work You Must Do Protecting Your Relationship From Toxic Family and Criticism Why You Must Set Boundaries With In-Laws (And How To Do It With Respect) How To Deescalate Triggers and Navigate Major Differences With Your Partner Recognizing Red Flags: My Exact Game Plan for Trigger Pivots Agreeing To Disagree… And When Value Differences Mean It's Time To Walk Can You Actually Prevent Cheating? (And Why It's Never About Your Worth) How Important Is Sex and Intimacy, And The Pact That Changed Everything “Bed Death” Is Real: How We Keep Intimacy Alive for Decades Healing After Betrayal: Owning Your Role Without Losing Your Worth Trust Is Earned, Never Given: What To Do Before Loving Again Thank you to this week's sponsors! Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa HomeServe: Plans start at just $4.99 a month https://homeserve.com OneSkin: 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co/lisa IQ Bar: 20% off and FREE shipping, text LISA to 64000 K18: 10% off with code LISA at https://k18hair.com Monarch: 50% off your first year with code WOI https://monarch.com Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.lisabilyeu.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section. That's 100% a scammer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ever wonder what really keeps a 26-year relationship strong when everyone else is telling you “just wait, it fades”? Or how you protect your boundaries when family gets toxic, or what to do if you feel “less than” beside your brilliant, articulate partner? Homie, this is your episode. In today's episode, I'm going all-in, 100% real, answering your top questions about love, loyalty, betrayal, boundaries, sex, and what it truly takes to create a relationship that lasts (and feels amazing from the inside).  From navigating in-laws who question your worth, to fighting that gut-crushing insecurity when you don't feel smart enough, I'm giving you my cheat codes, my battle scars, and the real conversations I've had with my husband after 26 years together. Here's exactly what we dive into: How I broke free from the insecurity of feeling “less smart” than my husband Setting unshakeable boundaries (even when it's your partner's family crossing the line) Preventing your triggers from ruining your relationship: step-by-step The truth about cheating: why it's never about your worth Creating bulletproof intimacy and never letting your sex life quietly die How to actually heal after betrayal and trust again without losing yourself SHOWNOTES The Real Story Behind My 26-Year Marriage: Ups, Downs, and What Changed Everything Can Relationships Survive If Only One Person Wants to Grow? “I Hate My Role!”: When You Need to Change Who You Are in a Relationship Feeling Insecure When Your Partner Is Smarter or More Articulate Discovering Your Own Superpowers and Building True Partnership The Surprising Pool Hall Lesson That Shifted Our Relationship Power Dynamic Shifting Out of Inferiority and Building Real Confidence Turning Jealousy Into Admiration, and the Work You Must Do Protecting Your Relationship From Toxic Family and Criticism Why You Must Set Boundaries With In-Laws (And How To Do It With Respect) How To Deescalate Triggers and Navigate Major Differences With Your Partner Recognizing Red Flags: My Exact Game Plan for Trigger Pivots Agreeing To Disagree… And When Value Differences Mean It's Time To Walk Can You Actually Prevent Cheating? (And Why It's Never About Your Worth) How Important Is Sex and Intimacy, And The Pact That Changed Everything “Bed Death” Is Real: How We Keep Intimacy Alive for Decades Healing After Betrayal: Owning Your Role Without Losing Your Worth Trust Is Earned, Never Given: What To Do Before Loving Again Thank you to this week's sponsors! Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa HomeServe: Plans start at just $4.99 a month https://homeserve.com OneSkin: 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co/lisa IQ Bar: 20% off and FREE shipping, text LISA to 64000 K18: 10% off with code LISA at https://k18hair.com Monarch: 50% off your first year with code WOI https://monarch.com Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.lisabilyeu.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section. That's 100% a scammer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices