Podcasts about lasting love

Beginning again in midlife can feel equal parts terrifying and exhilarating. Whether life forced a reset through divorce, loss, burnout, empty nesting, or you simply feel a quiet ache for something more, this conversation explores what it really means to start over — and why so many women find themselves standing at this crossroads. We unpack the fear of change, the comfort traps that keep us stuck, and the surprising beauty that can come from allowing yourself to become someone new. We also get honest about reinvention, post-traumatic growth, intuition, grief, and learning to trust yourself again. From sitting in uncertainty to reconnecting with the parts of yourself that got buried under responsibility, this is a conversation about choosing yourself without apology and creating a life that finally feels aligned. Episode Highlights[0:03] Why beginning again is such a common midlife experience for women[4:23] How comfort and familiarity quietly keep us stuck longer than we realize[6:57] Colette shares the painful aftermath of divorce and the growth that came from it[10:17] Why transformation sounds inspiring but often feels brutal while you're living it[12:34] The difference between wanting change and fully committing to it[15:47] Letting life move through you instead of trying to force every outcome[18:49] Powerful questions to ask yourself when you feel disconnected or stuck[20:25] Learning to disappoint others in order to stop abandoning yourself[23:57] Understanding “the void” and why uncertainty can actually be part of growth[26:46] Small ways to reconnect with intuition, creativity, and inner wisdom[31:13] Why reinvention is often about remembering who you were before the world shaped you[35:22] Gentle ways to begin again without blowing up your entire life[37:13] Measuring yourself by your growth instead of how far you still have to go[38:29] The powerful life regret that changes how we think about purpose and fulfillmentIf today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

Do you struggle with shame due to your past? Do you feel the heaviness of unworthiness and are desperate for change in your life and in love? In our heartfelt conversation, special guest Loral Pepoon shares her " Led to Lasting Love" God Story about her midlife devastation due to her past relationships and why she carried the weight of unworthiness that negatively impacted her health and career as a creative team leader. She shares how God healed her heart for a new life of healthy love. Loral is an award-winning author of Led-to Lasting Love, is a writing coach, book editor and beach enthusiast and resides in Nashville with her husband and cat. Enjoy listening to Loral's faith-building and encouraging God story!

Ever wonder what really keeps a 26-year relationship strong when everyone else is telling you “just wait, it fades”? Or how you protect your boundaries when family gets toxic, or what to do if you feel “less than” beside your brilliant, articulate partner? Homie, this is your episode. In today's episode, I'm going all-in, 100% real, answering your top questions about love, loyalty, betrayal, boundaries, sex, and what it truly takes to create a relationship that lasts (and feels amazing from the inside).  From navigating in-laws who question your worth, to fighting that gut-crushing insecurity when you don't feel smart enough, I'm giving you my cheat codes, my battle scars, and the real conversations I've had with my husband after 26 years together. Here's exactly what we dive into: How I broke free from the insecurity of feeling “less smart” than my husband Setting unshakeable boundaries (even when it's your partner's family crossing the line) Preventing your triggers from ruining your relationship: step-by-step The truth about cheating: why it's never about your worth Creating bulletproof intimacy and never letting your sex life quietly die How to actually heal after betrayal and trust again without losing yourself SHOWNOTES The Real Story Behind My 26-Year Marriage: Ups, Downs, and What Changed Everything Can Relationships Survive If Only One Person Wants to Grow? “I Hate My Role!”: When You Need to Change Who You Are in a Relationship Feeling Insecure When Your Partner Is Smarter or More Articulate Discovering Your Own Superpowers and Building True Partnership The Surprising Pool Hall Lesson That Shifted Our Relationship Power Dynamic Shifting Out of Inferiority and Building Real Confidence Turning Jealousy Into Admiration, and the Work You Must Do Protecting Your Relationship From Toxic Family and Criticism Why You Must Set Boundaries With In-Laws (And How To Do It With Respect) How To Deescalate Triggers and Navigate Major Differences With Your Partner Recognizing Red Flags: My Exact Game Plan for Trigger Pivots Agreeing To Disagree… And When Value Differences Mean It's Time To Walk Can You Actually Prevent Cheating? (And Why It's Never About Your Worth) How Important Is Sex and Intimacy, And The Pact That Changed Everything “Bed Death” Is Real: How We Keep Intimacy Alive for Decades Healing After Betrayal: Owning Your Role Without Losing Your Worth Trust Is Earned, Never Given: What To Do Before Loving Again Thank you to this week's sponsors! Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa HomeServe: Plans start at just $4.99 a month https://homeserve.com OneSkin: 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co/lisa IQ Bar: 20% off and FREE shipping, text LISA to 64000 K18: 10% off with code LISA at https://k18hair.com Monarch: 50% off your first year with code WOI https://monarch.com Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.lisabilyeu.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section. That's 100% a scammer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ever wonder what really keeps a 26-year relationship strong when everyone else is telling you “just wait, it fades”? Or how you protect your boundaries when family gets toxic, or what to do if you feel “less than” beside your brilliant, articulate partner? Homie, this is your episode. In today's episode, I'm going all-in, 100% real, answering your top questions about love, loyalty, betrayal, boundaries, sex, and what it truly takes to create a relationship that lasts (and feels amazing from the inside).  From navigating in-laws who question your worth, to fighting that gut-crushing insecurity when you don't feel smart enough, I'm giving you my cheat codes, my battle scars, and the real conversations I've had with my husband after 26 years together. Here's exactly what we dive into: How I broke free from the insecurity of feeling “less smart” than my husband Setting unshakeable boundaries (even when it's your partner's family crossing the line) Preventing your triggers from ruining your relationship: step-by-step The truth about cheating: why it's never about your worth Creating bulletproof intimacy and never letting your sex life quietly die How to actually heal after betrayal and trust again without losing yourself SHOWNOTES The Real Story Behind My 26-Year Marriage: Ups, Downs, and What Changed Everything Can Relationships Survive If Only One Person Wants to Grow? “I Hate My Role!”: When You Need to Change Who You Are in a Relationship Feeling Insecure When Your Partner Is Smarter or More Articulate Discovering Your Own Superpowers and Building True Partnership The Surprising Pool Hall Lesson That Shifted Our Relationship Power Dynamic Shifting Out of Inferiority and Building Real Confidence Turning Jealousy Into Admiration, and the Work You Must Do Protecting Your Relationship From Toxic Family and Criticism Why You Must Set Boundaries With In-Laws (And How To Do It With Respect) How To Deescalate Triggers and Navigate Major Differences With Your Partner Recognizing Red Flags: My Exact Game Plan for Trigger Pivots Agreeing To Disagree… And When Value Differences Mean It's Time To Walk Can You Actually Prevent Cheating? (And Why It's Never About Your Worth) How Important Is Sex and Intimacy, And The Pact That Changed Everything “Bed Death” Is Real: How We Keep Intimacy Alive for Decades Healing After Betrayal: Owning Your Role Without Losing Your Worth Trust Is Earned, Never Given: What To Do Before Loving Again Thank you to this week's sponsors! Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa HomeServe: Plans start at just $4.99 a month https://homeserve.com OneSkin: 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co/lisa IQ Bar: 20% off and FREE shipping, text LISA to 64000 K18: 10% off with code LISA at https://k18hair.com Monarch: 50% off your first year with code WOI https://monarch.com Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.lisabilyeu.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section. That's 100% a scammer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We can hardly believe we're celebrating 100 episodes of Insights from the Couch — and this conversation became such a meaningful reflection on everything we've learned alongside all of you. In this episode, we revisit some of our favorite guests, biggest mindset shifts, and the ideas that have most deeply impacted us as therapists, women, mothers, and humans navigating midlife in real time.From Katherine Woodward Thomas's powerful work on “source fracture stories” to conversations around menopause, reinvention, purpose, parenting adult children, and stepping into your next chapter, this episode is about what it really means to stay engaged with your life. We talk honestly about grief, growth, fear, ambition, creativity, and why midlife may actually be the richest, most transformative season yet. If you've been feeling stuck, restless, uncertain, or quietly craving more, this conversation is for you.Episode Highlights[0:00] - Celebrating 100 episodes and reflecting on the journey that brought us here[1:20] - Remembering Katherine Woodward Thomas and the impact of her work on transformation[3:25] - “Source fracture stories” and how self-limiting beliefs quietly shape our lives[5:40] - How we unknowingly recreate the very fears and narratives we carry[8:40] - Colette opens up about social anxiety, public speaking, and setting “impossible” goals[10:20] - Incremental growth vs. radical expansion: how women hold themselves back from bigger possibilities[11:45] - Favorite guests and conversations that shifted our perspectives on relationships, narcissism, menopause, and midlife health[14:00] - Why simpler living, less clutter, and more intentionality feel increasingly important[16:35] - Estate sales, accumulation, and the emotional weight of “stuff”[19:05] - Reinvention, beginning again, and why midlife can become a creative renaissance[20:30] - Why these years can either become fertile ground for growth or a season of feeling emotionally stuck[22:15] - Processing the grief and identity shifts that come with children growing up and leaving home[24:20] - Why women deserve fully vibrant emotional, creative, and purposeful lives[26:35] - Parenting adult children and learning from the freedom and courage of their 20s[28:00] - How source fracture stories and self-limiting beliefs quietly block purpose and fulfillment[29:10] - Why becoming an “activated adult” is one of the greatest gifts we can give our children[30:20] - What it means to stay actively engaged with your life in midlife and beyondLinks & ResourcesIf today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

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“When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.” – Unknown Grief is a topic that we need more and more insight and understanding, and my guest, Thomas Attig, will bring depth to this conversation. He comes to us today highly credentialed and has been honored with several distinguished awards for his contributions to the study of grief, bereavement, and applied philosophy. The wake of our loved one's last breath washes over our world. We can easily lose our bearings in swirling winds of change and in a fog of suffering, separation, and aloneness. The color and vitality go out of things, places, events, activities, and experiences.  Those closest to us can seem distant. It can feel as if chaos has broken out, even as we resent the larger world going on as if nothing has happened. Thomas Attig is the author of The Heart of Grief: Death and the Search for Lasting Love and How We Grieve: Relearning the World.  His new collection, SEEKING WISDOM IN DEATH'S SHADOWS: Collected Writings on How We Grieve, distills a lifetime of listening, reflection, and teaching into understanding and guidance for mourners, caregivers, and counselors. Oxford is offering a 30% discount on the purchase of Seeking Wisdom in Death's Shadows. Information Below!   Connect with Thomas: Website - https://griefsheart.com/   Here is how to secure the 30% discount: Steps for ordering Seeking Wisdom in Death's Shadows by Thomas Attig 1. Search for the title at the Oxford University Press website - global.oup.com 2. Enter the title and press "go to cart" to begin ordering a copy 3. Enter the promotion code  - AUFLY30 - to secure the 30% discount   CONNECT WITH DEBI Website – https://www.debironca.com Instagram - @debironca Email – info@debironca.com Free Group Coaching - https://debi.sequoiatransitioncoaching.com/group-coaching YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@DebiRoncaOfficial Amy Throw | Stylist & Image CoachI style women in clothes they love & build opportunities they believe in https://www.cabionline.com/?pws=styledwithsoul   Check out my online course! Your Story's Changing, Finding Purpose in Life's Transitionshttps://course.sequoiatransitioncoaching.com/8-week-program The Family Letter by Debi Ronca – International Best Sellerhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B07SSJFXBD Free Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/debironca/free-clarity-call

Sarah Cleveland joins us for an honest and inspiring conversation about reinvention, midlife, and what happens when women finally start saying yes to themselves. From creating her new series Love in All the Small Places to navigating fear, vulnerability, people pleasing, and second chances, Sarah opens up about the realities so many women face in this season of life. We talk about online dating, perimenopause, rebuilding identity after years of caring for everyone else, and why midlife can become one of the most freeing chapters yet.We also dive into Sarah's journey as an actor, writer, producer, and director, including how she rebuilt her creative life after years devoted to motherhood and family. This episode is a reminder that it's never too late to start over, take a chance on yourself, or go after the life you really want.Episode Highlights[0:40] - Sarah shares the inspiration behind Love in All the Small Places[2:54] - Why online dating can feel so disconnecting in midlife[6:05] - Returning to acting after years focused on family life[9:33] - Saying yes, taking chances, and creating your own opportunities[12:33] - Moving through fear instead of waiting for confidence[16:40] - The vulnerability of creating and starring in your own work[18:58] - The health crisis that changed Sarah's outlook on life[24:45] - How life-changing moments clarify what matters most[27:32] - Divorce, dating, menopause, and rediscovering identity[30:16] - Letting go of people pleasing and choosing yourself[32:06] - What healing after heartbreak can really look like[36:40] - Why holding onto anger keeps people stuck[39:51] - Sarah shares favorite acting projects and meaningful roles[41:57] - Why midlife can become the most fulfilling chapter yetLinks and ResourcesInstagram: @realsarahcleveland and @liatsptheseriesSarah Cleveland Official WebsiteSarah Cleveland IMDb PageEver stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

For one couple’s 75th anniversary, they shared the secret to love that lasts. After 7 and a half decades, their answer is pretty good. AND A must-read about a 9-year-old with a big heart who created autism emergency kits for first responders. To see videos and photos referenced in this episode, visit GodUpdates! https://www.godtube.com/blog/75th-anniversary-advice.html https://www.godtube.com/blog/autism-emergency-kits.html Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Send us Fan MailIt was Dr. John Gottman that said that one of the first things to go in marriage is politeness. Increasing comfort is natural in relationships but often leads to partners taking each other for granted. FOLLOW US ON LINKS BELOW:NEW Links:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpl_PlNkmUgUIp_DRlcXssAhttps://www.jdwilliamscoachingandconsulting.comVISIT OUR WEBSITE AND GET YOUR FREE PHONE OR VIDEO CONSULTATION TODAY!!Support the showhttps://addingperspectivewithjosh.buzzsprout.com

Here you are, leaving that friendship hangout frustrated again. You swear you'll tackle the issue at the next meet-up, but then, time goes by. You've pushed the problem aside. Until it happens again. And again. Suddenly, this little issue has become a major one.Today's guest is Colette Jane Fehr, a therapist, TEDX speaker, and author of the Amazon bestselling book, The Cost of Quiet. Her work is rooted in couples therapy, but don't press pause! Every single skill she teaches transfers directly to friendships.If you have ever swallowed something hard and pushed it down because you didn't know how to bring it up, this episode is for you. In this episode you'll hear about:Conflict avoidance: the tendency to not be too intense or demanding with friends – and consequently push issues under the rugWhat Colette calls the “victim volcano,” when untended issues stack up and eventually eruptColette's and my own personal experiences navigating issues between friends that need to be addressedSelf-connected communication, which helps us prepare before sharing our grievances with friends, and “Good Girl-Itis”Resources & LinksListen to Episode 12 and learn about my theory about the Roots framework.Order Colette's book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love. And preorder my book! Are We Friends Yet? comes out June 16. The missing vocabulary for every relationship in your life and a real plan for what to do with it. When you sign up to order the book, you get immediate access to the Less Lonely Club Community and the 10-Day Connection Reset Private Podcast.Like what you hear? Visit my website, leave me a voicemail, and follow me on Instagram and TikTok!Want to take this conversation a step further? Send this episode to a friend. Tell them you found it interesting and use what we just talked about as a conversation starter the next time you and your friend hang out! This episode is sponsored by Slowly, a digital pen pal app used by over 10 million people worldwide. If you've been looking for a low-pressure way to connect with someone completely outside your normal friendship circle, this is it. Exchange letters at your own pace, no small talk panic required.Download Slowly free and get 30% off Slowly Plus using my link: https://open.slowly.app/miXL/l8ei5iw6WANT MORE? My book, Are We Friends Yet? hits shelves June 16. Get on the waitlist for pre-order bonuses + a first look. Dive into The Connection Reset. A 10-day private podcast to help you see the abundance of connection that already exists in your day-to-day (Yes. Really. I promise you have more than you realize). Start today. 

We're unpacking a topic that quietly impacts so many relationships but rarely gets talked about: Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD). We break down what it actually is (and what it's not), especially how it differs from OCD, and why it can go undiagnosed for years. If you've ever felt stuck in patterns of perfectionism, control, or rigidity—either in yourself or a partner—this conversation might feel very familiar.We also get into how OCPD shows up in real life and relationships—from communication struggles to feeling like you can't quite measure up. And while we don't shy away from the challenges, we also explore the strengths, the nuance, and what growth can realistically look like. There's a lot here that might shift how you understand yourself, your partner, and your dynamic.Episode Highlights[0:03] - Welcome + why OCPD is such an important and overlooked topic[2:30] - Reframing “personality disorder” and removing the stigma[5:00] - Why OCPD often goes unnoticed until relationships are impacted[6:30] - Key differences between OCD and OCPD[9:30] - Core traits: rigidity, control, perfectionism, and overwork[14:00] - Real-life relationship dynamics and relatable examples[18:00] - How OCPD affects communication, compromise, and connection[22:00] - Signs this might be showing up in your relationship[24:00] - The internal experience: self-criticism, shame, and pressure[26:30] - Strengths of OCPD and why these traits are often rewarded[28:30] - What actually helps in therapy: building emotional flexibility[31:00] - Growth for both partners + navigating differences[34:30] - Why relationships can be both challenging and healingIf today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!   Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

Grief has a way of cracking everything open—and in this conversation, we sit down with Laing Rikkers to explore what can emerge from that opening. From unexpected loss to creative awakening, we unpack how life's hardest moments can become invitations to reconnect with yourself, your purpose, and what truly matters. This is a deeply human conversation about courage, identity, and what it really means to begin again.We also get honest about fear—why it keeps so many of us stuck in midlife—and how to gently move through it without needing all the answers. Whether you're navigating loss, burnout, or simply feeling the pull for “something more,” this episode offers grounding insights, practical tools, and a refreshing reminder: you don't have to choose just one version of yourself.Episode Highlights[00:00] - Welcoming Laing and setting the stage for rewriting your life after major transitions[01:40] - Laing shares the unexpected loss of her sister and how grief reshaped her path[04:11] - Discovering “morning pages” and the healing power of creative expression[07:05] - The surprising emotions of grief beyond sadness—anger, loneliness, and reevaluation[11:43] - “Talk it, walk it, write it” — a simple, powerful framework for moving through grief[13:02] - The biggest mistake in grief: isolation and the importance of connection[14:58] - Fear, identity, and stepping into a multi-dimensional life in midlife[18:54] - Why doing hard things becomes the actual journey of growth[21:22] - Behind the scenes of publishing a first book and navigating creative risk[25:17] - Creating a new chapter: blending business, creativity, and meaningful work[29:14] - Writing through grief vs. making meaning after it[33:05] - The healing power of nature, movement, and simply taking the next stepLinks & ResourcesWebsite: www.laingrikkers.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/laing-rikkersInstagram: @morning_leaves_and_poetryIf today's discussion resonated with you Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

In this energizing conversation, we sit down with Allison Walsh—business consultant, personal branding expert, and founder of She Believes She Could—to unpack what it really takes to build confidence, scale your impact, and turn your personal brand into a meaningful business. From pivoting out of law school to helping grow unicorn startups, Allison shares how bold moves and consistent action shaped her journey.We dive into being mission-driven in midlife, aligning purpose with profit, and why so many women feel called to something more. If you're ready to build your brand, monetize your expertise, and step confidently into your next chapter—this episode is for you.Episode Highlights:[0:03] – Welcome back to Insights from the Couch and an introduction to today's guest, Allison Walsh.[3:03] – Allison reflects on hearing her own bio and the grit behind the highlight reel.[4:20] – From law school to healthcare leadership: how one unexpected opportunity sparked her first big pivot.[6:34] – Scaling companies, leading massive teams, and building influence behind the scenes.[8:35] – The birth of She Believes She Could during the pandemic—and creating opportunity in uncertainty.[13:13] – Laura opens up about feeling behind on “business skills” and why so many women relate.[14:06] – Who Allison serves: mission-driven women ready to turn their brand into a business.[19:08] – Where to start when you want “more” but don't know what that looks like yet.[20:48] – The 5 M's framework: Mindset, Messaging, Marketing, Monetization, and Momentum.[24:48] – What a personal brand really is (hint: it's your reputation).[29:45] – Allison's definition of confidence—and why action is the ultimate builder.[31:30] – Where to find Allison and what's next for She Believes She Could.Links and Resources:Allison Walsh Consulting: www.allisonwalshconsulting.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/allisonwalsh Podcast: www.shebelievedshecouldpodcast.com  Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

We tend to think of love as something that just happens. You meet the right person, you feel a spark, and everything else just falls into place. However, love doesn’t come effortlessly. It's something we build over time. In this episode, we're exploring the key ingredients of lasting love and the everyday behaviors that keep love alive. My guest is Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, an award-winning social psychologist, TED Speaker, and relationship expert. Her latest book, Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love, introduces the Emergent Love Model, a framework born from research with hundreds of couples across 41 countries. Some of the specific topics we address include: How can you sustain and cultivate attraction over time in long-term relationships? Why is respect one of the most overlooked ingredients of love? How is trust built in small, everyday interactions? How can we learn to be more compassionate in our relationships? Learn more about Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh at www.Sara-Nasserzadeh.com and join her online community here and follow her on Instagram here.  Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors!  Soaking Wet from VB Health is the world’s first probiotic specifically designed for vaginal and vulva health and wellness. It’s a doctor formulated blend of prebiotics, probiotics, and vitamins specifically designed to restore balance and increase lubrication. Visit vb.health and use code JUSTIN for 10% off. Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you’ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Bluesky to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

Family cutoffs, estrangement, and going “no contact” are everywhere right now—and they're stirring up a lot of strong opinions. We're unpacking what's really going on beneath the surface of this cultural moment, and why this topic is so much more complex than it seems. From media conversations to what we're seeing in therapy rooms, we're exploring when cutting ties might actually be necessary—and when it might be a reaction to something deeper.We also get into the emotional and generational ripple effects of these decisions, the role of boundaries versus disconnection, and how to navigate relationships that feel difficult without immediately going to extremes. If you've ever questioned whether to step back, speak up, or walk away entirely, this conversation will give you a lot to think about. Episode Highlights[01:14] – Why family estrangement has become such a hot (and controversial) topic right now[03:28] – The cultural shift toward “protecting your peace” and what it's costing us[07:41] – When going no contact is actually warranted—and the key factor most people skip[10:03] – The “dial method” for relationships: a middle ground between closeness and cutoff[14:47] – The real emotional fallout of estrangement—for both sides of the relationship[21:05] – Why every family needs an emotional leader (and what happens when no one steps up)[30:01] – A healthier alternative: taking space without permanently shutting the door[34:13] – How family cutoffs get passed down through generationsIf today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

Modern dating feels like a shitshow, and if you're struggling to find love, burnt out by dating apps, or wondering why dating feels harder than ever… this episode is for you. In part 2 of our conversation with relationship expert Amy Chan, we're diving into how to date smarter, overcome toxic dating patterns, and build healthy relationships that actually last. Amy breaks down why the modern dating landscape feels so dysfunctional (half of US singles went on ZERO dates last year), the difference in modern gender dynamics, biggest mistakes singles are making, and how to stop self-sabotaging your love life. We also explore the truth about chemistry vs compatibility, why instant sparks aren't always a green flag, and how to recognize when your “type” may actually be keeping you stuck.  Amy has been a trusted voice in modern relationships for almost two decades. She's the author of UNSINGLE: How to Date Smarter and Create Love that Lasts (which comes out this April 28th!) and her popular first book, Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart, was featured in The New York Times. She's the founder Renew Breakup Bootcamp, the world's first heartbreak retreat, and she's on faculty at Esalen and The Omega Institute. If you've ever wondered whether you're being too picky and expecting perfection, or struggling to know if someone is “the one,” this conversation is a science-backed no-bullshit guide to navigating dating with confidence and emotional intelligence. We cover: Why dating feels broken right now How dating apps and social media have changed relationships The biggest self-sabotaging dating patterns people fall into Amy's Dating Funnel framework for getting unstuck Have we become “ick”-obsessed assholes? How much chemistry matters early on What you might not realize about your “type” The debate of going slow VS fast in dating The real green flags and red flags that predict lasting love What actually creates healthy, sustainable relationships This is part TWO of a two-part series with Amy Chan! If you're going through a breakup and missed part one, be sure to go back and listen here. Follow Amy on Instagram and her website.  You can order her new book, Unsingle, here. Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Are you in a relationship? Do you think love is hard work? Half of the US households' children will spend time in a divorced home and are more likely to end up divorced later in their own lives as well. So what can we do about this? Join Lisa today as she talks with Dr. Susan Jeffers, author of "Lasting Love: The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love" about what love really is, how we can create lasting loving relationships, and more. Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., has helped millions of people throughout the world overcome their fears, heal their relationships, and move forward in life with confidence and love. She is the author of many internationally renowned best-selling books including "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway," "Feel the Fear . . . and Beyond," "Feel the Fear Power Planner," "End the Struggle and Dance With Life," and many more. Her latest book at the time of the interview was "The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love." Info:  SusanJeffers.com.

In this episode, we sit down with the incredible Dr. Rachel Goldman to unpack how small, intentional shifts can create powerful change in your life—without the overwhelm of a full overhaul. We dive into the real mechanics behind Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and why understanding the connection between your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors can be a total game changer.We also explore body image, perfectionism, and the sneaky ways our inner dialogue keeps us stuck. From “all-or-nothing” thinking to building confidence through simple daily tweaks, this conversation is packed with practical insights that will leave you thinking, okay… maybe I can do this differently. Press play—you're going to want to hear this.Episode Highlights[0:00] - Introducing Dr. Rachel Goldman and her new book When Life Happens[2:30] - Why small “tweaks” (not overhauls) are the key to lasting change[6:40] - Breaking down CBT: how thoughts, emotions, and behaviors are connected[10:30] - Where to start—changing your thoughts vs. changing your actions[12:15] - Why body image always shows up (even when it's not the main issue)[14:00] - A simple confidence boost: how what you wear impacts how you feel[16:30] - Becoming aware of your inner dialogue (and why it matters)[20:50] - Real-life example: all-or-nothing thinking and getting “unstuck”[25:00] - Perfectionism and why waiting until it's “just right” keeps you stuck[27:30] - Planning for when life happens (instead of reacting to it)[31:20] - Why you don't need a life overhaul—just one small step today[34:20] - Normalizing food noise and emotional eating Links & ResourcesDr. Rachel Goldman Instagram: @DrRachelNYC If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

Are you living a life that looks great on paper, but feels like something's missing beneath the surface? You've climbed the ladder, checked all the boxes, yet relationships and real fulfillment seem just out of reach. The cycle of "almost, but not quite" can leave even the most accomplished individuals wondering why old patterns keep resurfacing and why true connection remains elusive. In this episode, listeners will explore how subconscious beliefs, habitual thought patterns, and unresolved emotional baggage shape the dynamics of love and connection. Through practical approaches like interrupting negative cycles, clarifying desires and values, and learning to rewire internal narratives, this conversation offers actionable steps to break free from unhelpful relationship patterns and begin creating the kind of intimacy and fulfillment you truly crave. Riana helps high-achieving women who've built a life they're proud of in their career, family, friendships, and growth, but still feel stuck in the same old love patterns. Through her signature method, she helps them rewire the subconscious beliefs and recode the nervous system responses that have shaped their relationships for decades, so they can finally create extraordinary love that matches the life they've built.   Episode Highlights 04:01 Finding identity during life transitions. 08:31 Getting exactly what you ordered. 11:54 Rewiring neurology and internal beliefs. 13:01 Exploring therapeutic approaches. 17:24 Breaking negative thought patterns. 22:02 Accessing emotions to change behaviors. 24:39 Creating your vision board. 27:56 Shifting to positive self-talk. 31:44 Clearing out mental clutter. 35:04 Shifting mindset and frequency. 42:27 The power of forgiveness. 46:13 Steps to heal relationships.   Your Checklist of Actions to Take Clarify Your Desires: Take time to specifically identify what you truly want in relationships and life, beyond vague wishes, by listing your non-negotiables and values. Perform the Away/Toward Exercise: Write out everything you don't want on one piece of paper ("away") and all that you do want on another ("toward") to bring awareness to your focus. Wear a Rubber Band: For 72 hours, wear a rubber band on your wrist. When you notice negative thoughts, snap them to create an instant pattern interrupt and remind yourself to shift focus. Redirect Your Thinking: When you catch yourself focused on the "away" list, immediately replace the thought with something from your "toward" list or its positive opposite. Cultivate Genuine Gratitude: If struggling to generate positive feelings, ground yourself in something you are authentically grateful for in the present moment. Serve Others: If feeling stuck, perform a small act of kindness to shift your emotional state and break negative patterns. Incrementally Improve Your Emotional State: Don't force a leap from low emotions to joy—focus instead on moving up one or two levels on the emotional scale at a time. Release the Old Story: Set boundaries around retelling painful past stories to others; instead, focus conversations on new goals and dreams to reinforce a forward-looking identity.   Mentioned Extraordinary Love Index™ (Free Diagnostic Quiz) Brilliance Brunch (Events Page) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love  (free guide)   Connect with Riana Malia Website: rianamalia.com Facebook: facebook.com/RianaMalia YouTube: youtube.com/@rianamalia Instagram: instagram.com/rianamalia TikTok: tiktok.com/@rianamalia121 Podcast: podcast.rianamalia.com

Parenting teens today isn't just challenging—it's a completely different landscape than what we grew up in. In this episode, Colette explores what it really looks like to raise teenagers in a world shaped by social media, constant comparison, and higher stakes than ever before alongside parenting expert Keesha Scott. From body image struggles to the pressure of being “always on,” this conversation reveals why today's teens are navigating an intensity many of us never experienced.Colette and Keesha also dig into what it takes to parent effectively in this climate—letting go of one-size-fits-all approaches, meeting your child where they are, and knowing when to bring in outside support. It's an honest, eye-opening conversation filled with practical insight and a powerful reminder that even the most challenging teens can grow into strong, resilient adults.Episode Highlights[00:03] - Introducing the episode and why parenting teens can feel harder than ever[01:23] - Keesha's story and how her teenage years shaped her path[06:41] - The modern teen experience: social media, body image, nonstop pressure[10:02] - Why teens today never fully “escape” stress like past generations[12:15] - Substance use today vs. the past—and why parents must stay alert[13:09] - Warning signs a teen may be struggling beyond typical behavior[14:13] - Why outsourcing support can be a game-changer for families[17:15] - Fear-based parenting and how it creates distance, not connection[21:47] - The myth of the “perfect” parenting style—and why flexibility matters[24:41] - Giving teens freedom with boundaries—and letting them earn trust[27:35] - Strong-willed vs. compliant kids: completely different approaches[28:18] - Growing challenges for teen boys: isolation and digital addiction[30:25] - Collaboration over control: how to better connect with your teen[31:36] - Speaking your teen's language to build trust and understanding[32:41] - Reframing “difficult” teens as confident, resilient adultsLinks & Resources·      Website: https://www.keeshascott.com·      Instagram: Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

Romantic relationships are not supposed to stay frozen in the honeymoon phase forever. In this episode, Nicole Kalil sits down with attachment theory expert Thais Gibson—bestselling author, PhD, and founder of The Personal Development School—to break down the six stages of relationships, why the power struggle stage is where so many couples get stuck, and what it really takes to build healthy, lasting love. Because, contrary to everything rom-coms, bad advice, and old conditioning taught women, a strong relationship is not about never changing. It is about learning how to grow, communicate, repair, and keep choosing each other when life gets messy, inconvenient, and very unsexy. In this episode, Nicole and Thais discuss: The 6 stages of relationships, from dating to everlasting love Why the power struggle stage is normal, not proof something is broken Why vulnerability is the price of deeper connection The communication mistake couples make on repeat Why women often overfocus on being chosen instead of doing the choosing Why people date potential and how that blows up later What it takes to move from stability into devotion and lasting partnership This conversation gets into the real stuff: dating red flags, codependency, conflict resolution, self-abandonment, subconscious patterns, and the truth about what it takes to create a healthy relationship that evolves with you instead of trapping you. Thank you to our sponsors! Shopify has everything all in one place, making your life easier and your business operations smoother. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at shopify.com/tiww  Gusto is online payroll and benefits software built for small businesses. It's all-in-one, remote-friendly, and incredibly easy to use—so you can pay, hire, onboard, and support your team from anywhere! Try Gusto today at gusto.com/TIWW, and get three months free when you run your first payroll. Connect with Thais: Website: personaldevelopmentschool.com  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchoolG:  IG: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/?hl=en  Related Podcast Episodes: All The Ways We Get In Our Own Way with Thais Gibson | 235 Healing Relationships: The 4 Essential Pillars for Lasting Love with Dr. Rachel Glik | 283 163 / Do You Believe in Love? with Arielle Ford Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform!

Health anxiety is one of those things that can quietly take over your mind—and before you know it, you're stuck in a loop of symptoms, spiraling thoughts, and constant checking. We're unpacking what this actually looks like in real life, from those sudden “something's wrong with me” moments to the deeper patterns that keep the cycle going.We also get into the why behind it all—the underlying fears, life stressors, and emotional experiences that can trigger health anxiety in the first place. Along the way, we talk about what actually helps, how to break out of the loop, and how to find your way back to feeling grounded in your body and your life.Episode Highlights[0:00] - Welcome back + introducing health anxiety[1:00] - Laura shares her personal experience with health anxiety[2:30] - What health anxiety is (and what it's not)[3:45] - Health anxiety vs. hypochondriasis[6:30] - How physical symptoms turn into obsessive focus[9:30] - The reassurance trap: doctors, Google, and ChatGPT[11:15] - The feedback loop between anxiety and body sensations[15:45] - The deeper roots: core fears, grief, and life stressors[18:00] - Why reassurance-seeking keeps the cycle going[20:45] - Intuition vs. anxiety—how to tell the difference[24:30] - Avoidance, fixation, and how anxiety pulls us out of life[25:30] - The role of boredom and ADHD in anxiety patterns[28:00] - Why health anxiety connects to existential fear[29:15] - What actually helps: breaking cycles and shifting focus[31:00] - Engagement and healthy distraction as a way out[32:00] - Normalizing health anxiety and learning to navigate itIf you saw yourself in any part of this conversation, you're not alone—this is such a human experience, even when it feels overwhelming. Take what resonates, leave what doesn't, and be gentle with yourself as you navigate it.And if this episode supported you in any way, don't forget to rate, follow, share, and leave a review—it means so much to us and helps others find their way to these conversations.  Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

In this episode, we sit down with writer, producer, and longtime friend Maylen Dominguez to talk about what it really looks like to pursue creativity in midlife. From leaving a stable career to producing her independent film Ethan Bloom, Maylen shares what it means to listen to that inner creative voice—even when the path forward feels uncertain.Together, we explore the messy middle of reinvention, the courage it takes to follow a creative calling, and how small daily commitments can lead to extraordinary outcomes. If you've ever wondered whether it's too late to pursue something meaningful or creative, this conversation is the reminder you didn't know you needed. Press play and join us as we talk about fear, commitment, creativity, and trusting the process. Episode Highlights[00:39] – We introduce our guest, Maylen Dominguez, and her impressive journey as a writer, producer, and educator.[03:32] – Maylen opens up about being in the “messy middle” of a career transition and choosing to fully commit to her creative work.[07:38] – The simple habit that changed everything: writing three screenplay pages a day and how small commitments create big results.[10:31] – Why “done is better than perfect” and how letting the work be messy helped move the creative process forward.[18:40] – Maylen shares how she's embracing uncertainty, writing a novel, and learning to trust the natural seasons of life and creativity.[28:55] – The behind-the-scenes journey of turning a screenplay into an independent film—and how the right creative partnership made it possible.[32:32] – The power of commitment: pushing through obstacles, raising funds, and refusing to give up on bringing the film to life.[37:14] – Why it's never too late to create, pivot, or pursue something meaningful—and the importance of supporting independent film.Links & ResourcesMaylen Dominguez: https://instagram.com/maylendoFollow Ethan Bloom: https://instagram.com/ethanbloomEthan Bloom will be at the Enzian Theater on March 25th (now sold out!). Maylen Dominguez and the film's director, Herschel Faber, will return for another screening on April 6th, and the film will begin playing at Regal Winter Park Village on April 17th.Enzian Theater tickets: https://enzian.org/film/ethan-bloomFuture Screenings: https://wEver stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

Welcome back! Today we're joined by Colette Jane Fehr, a licensed couples therapist, nationally recognized relationship expert, and author of the #1 Amazon bestseller ⁠The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love⁠.We chat about:​How Colette "quiet quit" her marriage​Dating after divorce​Dating as a single parent​Conversations that could save your relationship​Why having no conflict is actually a red flag​How to bring up things that bother you in a relationship​Tools for healthier communication& moreFind Colette on Instagram ⁠@colettejanefehr⁠, order her book ⁠here⁠, or check out her Substack, ⁠Secrets from a Therapist⁠.Read my most recent Substacks: ⁠⁠⁠Signs You're Ready To Date Again After A Breakup⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Exactly What I Did To Manifest My Dream Relationship At 33⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Conversations Every Couple Should Have In The First Year Of Dating⁠⁠⁠As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com. 

Alison Armstrong is back for her third round on Heart of Man, and it continues to be a real honor to learn from this woman whose work has deeply shaped the way I understand men, women, partnership, and the often hidden dynamics that govern our relationships.For those who may not yet know her, Alison has been teaching and speaking about men, women, human behavior, and relationships for over three decades. Through her seminars, books, online programs, and media contributions, she has given millions of people access to more fulfilling lives, loving relationships, stronger families, and more productive organizations.In our first conversation, we explored a man's relationship to shame...In the second, we explored the stages of development within a man...And in this third dialogue, we turn toward one of the most charged and important territories of all: how men and women come together in romantic partnership, and what happens when sexuality, protection, and provision enter the field...At the heart of this conversation is Alison's framing of our instinctual responses, not simply as procreate, protect, and provide, but more accurately as procreate first, then protect, then provide. From there, we begin to unpack what tends to happen when chemistry leads the way, when sexuality is used to meet deeper unmet needs, and why so many people end up bringing out the worst in one another while actually longing for love, safety, connection, and partnership.In this episode, discover:Why attraction and sexual chemistry can quickly derail connection in the early stages of datingHow sex is often used to meet deeper needs for love, safety, and connectionWhy you should not have sex with someone if you cannot clearly communicate your needs and boundariesHow leading with chemistry can trigger a “taking” dynamic instead of genuine connectionWhat happens when a man feels he has to protect himself, and how that impacts his ability to provide in a relationshipThe difference between men living with an ever present sense of death and women living with an ever present sense of life How understanding these instinctual dynamics can change the way you approach dating, intimacy, and partnershipThis was a deeply rich and valuable conversation, one that brought us into some of my favorite territories to explore: man-woman relating, relationships, sex, and purpose.Alison continues to offer a level of clarity that I find both humbling and incredibly insightful, and I trust that this conversation will give you much to reflect on in your own life and relationships.—Connect with Alex Lehmann:

The more options people have, the harder it becomes to choose. The hosts share their personal stories... What makes someone stay emotionally? What actually creates lasting connection? We discuss how gay men are redefining what relationships look like often without children and with monogamy and open relationships... We talk alignment in a relationship and even when you find a partner you need to continually align... What makes relationship material?? The hosts discuss Hot Topic: Gay men share the moment they realized their partner was 'the one' Hot Topic: "Heated Rivalry" cast have a message to 'toxic fandom'... Hot Topic: New Study talks about the size of penises and which states have the largest Hot Topic: George Michael new concert film and album coming out soon! Advice: Saw a colleague at an orgy and now it's potentially awkward... Advice: My BF is giving hints that he wants to explore BDSM but not sure I want that... Thirst Trap: Who took the hottest shot of the week?! Visit: Steve V's new app - Studio.com/stevev for the website version and visit the app version: Studio.com/stevev/connect Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this episode, we sit down with trauma psychotherapist Dr. Janie Lacy to talk about a topic many women quietly struggle with—toxic relationships and love addiction. As therapists and women who've navigated our own relationship journeys, this conversation hits close to home as we unpack what truly defines a toxic relationship and why these dynamics can be so hard to recognize or leave.We also explore the roots of love addiction, trauma bonds, and attachment wounds—and why even strong, successful women can get stuck in painful relationship cycles. Dr. Lacy shares insights into the healing process and how women can rebuild self-worth, break unhealthy patterns, and move toward healthier relationships.Episode Highlights[0:00] – We welcome Dr. Janie Lacy and introduce today's conversation on toxic relationships, love addiction, and healing.[2:28] – Dr. Lacy explains what defines a toxic relationship—and why unhealthy behaviors often become normalized.[8:30] – We explore where the line is between normal relationship struggles and toxic patterns.[11:50] – A discussion on power imbalance and how attachment styles shape relationship dynamics.[15:04] – We discuss financial dependence, traditional roles, and whether economic imbalance creates unhealthy relationships.[21:21] – What love addiction is, why it's not in the DSM, and how obsessive thinking and fear of abandonment appear in relationships.[26:59] – Why we mistake intensity for intimacy—and how it keeps people stuck in painful cycles.[31:22] – The impact of gaslighting and how it makes people question their reality.[36:40] – Trauma bonds and why toxic relationships can feel chemically addictive.[37:22] – Dr. Lacy explains the difference between self-worth and self-esteem.[39:20] – Inside the Women Redeemed program and how group work and deep healing support recovery.Links & ResourcesDr. Janie Lacy WebsiteDr. Janie Lacy InstagramIf today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!   Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

In this episode, we dive into a conversation that feels deeply personal—especially if you're in a season of striving, questioning, or quietly wondering, Is this it? Inspired by Colette's recent reading of A Million Miles in a Thousand Years, we reflect on success, purpose, and why even the seasons that look “good” from the outside can feel surprisingly disorienting and exhausting.We lean into the uncomfortable middle—the stretch where you've worked hard for something but still feel unsure of what's next. We talk about the younger parts of ourselves that flare up when plans don't unfold as expected, the urge to pull back when it all feels like too much, and the realization that joy may not come from avoiding struggle—but from staying in it long enough to be changed. Episode Highlights: [0:03] – We're back on the mic and jumping straight into existential midlife questions.[1:01] – Colette shares how reading A Million Miles in a Thousand Years sparked a deeper reflection on what makes a life “well lived.”[5:13] – The power of story: Are we meant to attain something—or be transformed by the search?[8:59] – Familiarity as the greatest seducer: Why we stay stuck even in “comfortable” unhappiness.[10:56] – Laura opens up about meeting a young, entitled part of herself when life doesn't go according to plan.[15:02] – Coaching yourself through emotional overwhelm: movement, naming feelings, and creating space.[18:30] – The fear of making the wrong choice—and why meaning matters more than accolades.[24:40] – Forcing yourself into growth: committing before you feel ready (TEDx talks, book deals, Machu Picchu).[27:13] – The marathon as metaphor: Laura's renewed commitment to the New York City Marathon and doing hard things differently.[31:35] – Why suffering may actually be the pathway to joy.[33:49] – When you want to quit everything: the difference between discernment and hiding.[35:30] – Our closing thesis: Happiness isn't eliminating obstacles—it's being willing to stay in the game.If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

This week on Insights from the Couch, we sit down with the fierce and unapologetic Valerie Jones to talk about her powerful book, The Selfish Year. And yes—we mean selfish in the most revolutionary way possible. Together, we unpack what it really means to stop abandoning yourself, to take radical responsibility for your life, and to choose your freedom—even when it disappoints other people.We dive into divorce, people-pleasing, inner child work, emotional abuse, and what Valerie calls “First Girl” and “Hurt Girl.” This conversation is about midlife awakening, reclaiming your voice, and learning how to sit in the fire of discomfort without losing yourself. If you've ever felt stuck, resentful, lost, or like you're living someone else's version of your life… this episode will hit home. Press play. This is the work. Episode Highlights:[00:00] – Welcome back! We introduce Valerie and why The Selfish Year moved us so deeply.[02:45] – Redefining “selfish”: why selflessness has been conditioning women to self-abandon—and what it means to be “full of self.”[05:22] – Laura shares her own rescuer pattern and what it took to hit the wall.[08:42] – Valerie opens up about childhood sexual abuse, people-pleasing, and her first marriage marked by bipolar disorder and addiction.[13:12] – Divorce as transformation—not failure—and why we should be applauding women who walk through it.[16:11] – “First Girl” and “Hurt Girl”: how we exile our authentic self to survive—and how to bring her back.[21:05] – Sitting still with yourself: why there is no shortcut to healing and why everything is data.[25:56] – The “villain era”: disappointing others, standing in the fire of disapproval, and building resilience.[33:35] – Playing the game of your life instead of sitting on the sidelines.[38:42] – Radical responsibility: moving from victimhood to sovereignty and reclaiming your power of choice.[44:00] – The woman dancing in the surf: the moment that symbolizes the freedom we're all craving.[48:17] – How to connect with Valerie and get your copy of The Selfish Year.  If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more! Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

If you keep attracting the wrong people or sabotaging good relationships, this masterclass reveals why.Lewis brings together the most powerful insights from Esther Perel, Jillian Turecki, Matthew Hussey, Baya Voce, and Mel Robbins to show you how your unhealed wounds are running your love life.You'll learn why you chase what hurts you, how your nervous system sabotages connection, and what it actually takes to stop repeating the same painful cycles. The path to lasting love starts with understanding yourself first, learning to regulate your emotions, and choosing partners who can help you heal rather than partners who keep you broken.Make Money Easy: Create Financial Freedom and Live a Richer LifeThe Greatness Mindset: Unlock the Power of Your Mind and Live Your Best Life TodayThe Mask of Masculinity: How Men Can Embrace Vulnerability, Create Strong Relationships, and Live Their Fullest LivesThe School of Greatness: A Real-World Guide to Living Bigger, Loving Deeper, and Leaving a LegacyIn this episode you will:Identify what role you played in past relationship failures instead of only blaming your exRecognize when your childhood wounds are triggering fights about cardboard boxes or daily frustrationsUnderstand why depending on your partner for happiness creates catastrophic disappointmentDiscover how play and humor keep relationships alive when everything else feels deadTransform conflict into healing by learning to tolerate uncomfortable emotions in your bodyFor more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1891For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes we think you'll love:Esther PerelMatthew HusseyMel Robbins Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What if the reason love keeps slipping through your fingers has nothing to do with the people you date and everything to do with the relationship you have with yourself?In this deeply honest and soul-stirring episode of Mirror Talk: Soulful Conversations, we explore the unseen inner work that creates real, lasting love. Our guest, nationally recognised relationship coach and bestselling author Roy Biancalana, invites us to look beyond manifestation clichés and dating strategies and instead turn inward, where true transformation begins.Roy introduces the powerful concept of being in “relationship shape” and explains why repeating the same romantic patterns is not bad luck but unexamined conditioning. Together, we unpack emotional blind spots, unconscious resistance to intimacy, masculine and feminine energy balance, and why solitude is not a weakness but a necessary initiation into mature love.This conversation is not about finding the right person.It is about becoming the person who can sustain love.Key Quote from This Episode“You do not attract love by wanting it more. You attract it by becoming emotionally capable of sustaining it.”Resources and LinksWebsite: https://coachingwithroy.comThe Attracting Lasting Love PodcastRelationship Bootcamp by Roy BiancalanaUltimate Relationship Fitness TestIf this episode resonated with you, please follow, rate, and share Mirror Talk with someone who is ready to stop repeating old relationship patterns and start living in truth.Chapters00:00 - Welcome and episode overview01:12 - Roy's background and transition04:24 - The courage to let go of childhood dreams and past regrets06:30 - The pivotal role of working on oneself before finding love08:36 - How past relationships and baggage impact current dating cycles11:07 - Working with coaches to discover unconscious patterns and family influences14:25 - The importance of getting in "relationship shape" like an athlete17:39 - Asking the right questions: focus on self-improvement, not just partner-finding19:36 - Meeting your partner when you're in the best version of yourself22:21 - Seven relationship muscles to develop for lasting love24:54 - Letting go of past pain and trust issues to build connection28:39 - Is total healing from past hurts possible? The difference between triggers and unresolved wounds32:21 - Transcending emotional wounds to live above them35:22 - Embracing ongoing growth and staying present during challenges37:19 - The value of alone time in relationship readiness40:00 - The importance of asking for help and building a support team42:45 - Spotting common blind spots in early dating cycles44:28 - The perils of playing dating games and the power of honesty48:25 - Other key relationship muscles: emotional intelligence, communication, and mindset52:15 - Managing your inner neurotic and negative thought patterns53:14 - Accepting your current relationship status and trusting the universe's timing54:11 - Roy's resources: free book downloads, relationship test, and coaching options55:36 - Final advice: become the right person, not just find the right personCONFESSIONS is now available: https://mirrortalkpodcast.com/confessions-book/ Your opinions, thoughts, suggestions, and comments are important to us. Please share them here: https://mirrortalkpodcast.com/your-opinion-matters/ Could you support us by becoming a Patreon? Please consider subscribing to one or more of our offerings at http://patreon.com/MirrorTalk All proceeds will help enhance the quality of our work and outreach, enabling us to serve you better.We use and trust these podcasting tools, software, and gear. We've partnered with amazing platforms to give our Mirror Talk community exclusive deals and discounts: https://mirrortalkpodcast.com/best-podcasting-tools/

In this episode, we sit down with the brilliant Fran Houser for a conversation that feels especially relevant if you're trying to be successful at work without losing yourself along the way. We talk about ambition, empathy, boundaries, and the exhausting double bind women still face in the workplace—where you're expected to be both warm and bulletproof. Fran brings such grounded wisdom from her decades in corporate leadership, startup investing, and now her portfolio career, and we found ourselves nodding along the entire time.Together, we explore what it really means to lead with kindness and strength, why empathy is not a weakness but a strategic advantage, and how women can rethink networking, ambition, and career pivots in a way that actually fits real life—especially at midlife. This conversation is honest, practical, and deeply validating. You'll walk away feeling both seen and energized to rethink how you show up at work and beyond. Episode Highlights:[0:00] – Welcome to Insights from the Couch and why this conversation matters at midlife [2:10] – Fran's upbringing, immigrant parents, and early lessons about work and responsibility [6:45] – The origin of The Myth of the Nice Girl and redefining leadership for women [10:40] – How empathy creates trust, influence, and better outcomes at work [15:30] – The fine line between kindness, people-pleasing, and setting boundaries [19:50] – A real workplace story that shows how “being nice” can backfire—and how to repair it [26:30] – Ambition, likability, and the double bind women still face [31:00] – Why women still hesitate to speak up and how perfectionism gets in the way [34:00] – Networking at midlife: why it matters and how to do it in a way that fits you [39:00] – Portfolio careers, career pivots, and designing work that supports your life [47:30] – Fran's upcoming book on time, perfectionism, and doing less better Links and Resources:Fran's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/franhauser/ Fran's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fran_hauser/  If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

Forget the typical meet-cute; this episode features individuals whose paths crossed in extraordinarily unique circumstances. Alex and Sue Tatham met each other on the globally televised dating show "Blind Date" in the UK, leading to a wedding watched by millions. Heather and Tony are Disney enthusiasts who found love across continents thanks to a dating site for fellow fans, MouseMingle.com And after three years of chatting online, Robbie Romu and Avichai Sofer finally met… Only to have their relationship immediately tested by the outbreak of the Israel-Hamas war during their first in-person meeting. Suggested episodes: Audacious Love Playlist GUESTS: Alex & Sue Tatham: a couple who met on the British dating show Blind Date in 1988. Their wedding in 1991 was watched by 17 million people Heather & Tony Lash: Heather from Australia and Tony from Florida met through Mousemingle.com, a dating site for Disney fans, in 2015. They got married at Walt Disney World in 2018 Robbie Romu & Avichai Sofer: Robbie from Canada and Avichai from Israel met on a dating site in 2020. Robbie traveled to Israel to meet Avichai in person for the first time on October 6, 2023, a day before the Israel-Hamas war began Support the show: https://www.wnpr.org/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever noticed how, in love, we sometimes vanish before anyone asks us to? How we shrink, soften, and quiet ourselves—not because someone else forced us to, but because we learned avoidance as survival?In this episode, I sit down with Colette Fehr, licensed marriage and family therapist and author of The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love. We dive into the patterns of self-silencing that many of us develop in relationships—patterns that quietly erode connection and teach us to disappear.Colette's book illuminates a truth that's both shocking and liberating: it's not only avoidant partners who create distance. Our own avoidance—our quiet quitting, our reluctance to speak up, our people-pleasing—shapes how we show up, how we love, and how we protect ourselves from rejection.Together, we explore:How we become avoidant ourselves through self-silencing and people-pleasingThe slow erosion of connection caused by avoiding the “hard conversations”Identifying our emotional triggers and taking full responsibility for our feelingsCommunication strategies that honor both our needs and our partner's, without losing ourselvesThe radical Breakupward insight: noticing where we shrink is not shame—it's a roadmap to reclaim our presence, voice, and boundariesThis conversation isn't just about heartbreak. It's about transformation: seeing the ways we've disappeared in love, understanding why, and learning how to step fully into ourselves again.If you've ever felt the tension between wanting closeness and fearing conflict—or found yourself quietly giving up pieces of yourself to keep love intact—this episode is for you. Colette and I break down the psychology, the patterns, and the radical path to self-loyalty that emerges when we Breakupward.Listen, lean in, and discover how your own avoidance has been both a signal and a teacher—and how reclaiming your voice can change everything.Get in touch with Colette Fehr:WebsiteBookTEDx TalkPodcastInstagramChelsea Leigh Trescott: Email: chelsea@breakupward.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak Advice Column: https://www.huffpost.com Writing: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott

In this episode, we sit down to talk about Colette's new book, The Cost of Quiet, and the patterns we see over and over again in couples therapy. We've watched brilliant, capable women slowly lose their voices in relationships, convincing themselves that staying quiet will keep the peace, all while resentment quietly builds. We unpack what really happens when conflict gets avoided, needs go unnamed, and emotional intimacy starts to erode. If you've ever found yourself thinking, “It's not worth bringing up,” this conversation will challenge you to reconsider what that silence is actually costing you.Episode Highlights[00:48] Why writing The Cost of Quiet became a three-year mission[02:41] The common pattern we see in high-achieving women who stop speaking up[04:44] How conflict avoidance turns into self-abandonment[05:18] Introducing self-connected communication and what it actually means[08:22] The hidden cost of indirect communication in marriage[11:53] A real-life example of addressing a small hurt before it hardens[14:25] The 10 avoidant behaviors that quietly undermine connection[16:17] What “quiet quitting” a relationship really looks like[18:42] Emotional layaway and why avoidance never truly works[22:54] How attachment patterns shape the way we handle conflict[27:44] What to do when your partner responds with defensiveness or distance[28:19] The “3 D's and an F” communication report card explained[35:18] When self-compassion becomes essential in hard conversations[37:49] How assertiveness can create a virtuous cycle in relationships[38:56] The difference between a surface marriage and emotional intimacy[41:00] Resources, tools, and what's next as the book launchesLinks & ResourcesThe Cost of Quiet, available now: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-bookEver stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

In this episode, I explore what it really takes to break free from the relationship patterns that keep us stuck—with trained educator and relationship expert Stefanos Sifandos. With a background in behavioral science, trauma, and somatics, Stefanos brings a grounded, embodied perspective to the way we love, attach, and relate to ourselves and others.We unpack how early experiences and unprocessed trauma quietly shape our nervous systems, our choices, and the dynamics we recreate in intimate relationships. Stefanos explains why awareness alone isn't enough, and how lasting change requires working with the body—not just the mind—to rewire safety, trust, and emotional regulation. If you've ever found yourself repeating the same cycles despite years of “knowing better,” this conversation sheds light on why that happens and what actually helps shift it.We also talk about self-leadership, emotional responsibility, and what it means to cultivate a healthier sense of self without bypassing the discomfort that growth often demands. Stefanos shares practical insights on boundaries, communication, and how to meet conflict as an opportunity for deeper connection rather than something to avoid or dominate.This episode is an invitation to relate more consciously to your partner, your past, and yourself. If you're committed to personal growth, healing relational wounds, and stepping into your highest potential with honesty and integrity, this conversation offers both clarity and depth.Order Stefanos' book, Tuned In and Turned On: A Path to True Connection, Deep Healing, and Lasting Love, at tunedinandturnedonbook.com.DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only and not intended for diagnosing or treating illnesses. The hosts disclaim responsibility for any adverse effects from using the information presented. Consult your healthcare provider before using referenced products. This podcast may include paid endorsements.THIS SHOW IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:BON CHARGE | Use the code LIFESTYLIST for 15% off at boncharge.com/lifestylistQUANTUM UPGRADE | Start your 15-day free trial at lukestorey.com/quantumupgradeFOUR SIGMATIC | Get a free bag of their bestselling mushroom coffee at foursigmatic.com/lukeLVLUP HEALTH | Get 15% off with code LUKE15 at lukestorey.com/lvlupMORE ABOUT THIS EPISODE:(00:00:00) Place, Memory, and the Moment Everything Broke Open(00:20:03) How Childhood Wounds Shape Our Adult Relationships(00:33:33) Codependency, the Nervous System, and the Real Work of Intimacy(01:14:34) Celibacy, Solitude, and Rebuilding Self-Worth from the Inside Out(01:45:15) Body Shame, Transparency, and Emotional Responsibility in Relationship(02:10:35) The Mother Wound, Enmeshment, and Integrating Growth(02:32:58) Integrity, Service, and the Inner Conflict Around Being Paid to HelpResources:• Website: stefanossifandos.com• Instagram:

Throughout history, there have been countless songs, poems, and books written about love. Yet, we know that turning to pop culture for advice on finding love is not the wisest course of action. In this message, Pastor J.D. reminds us from Song of Solomon 1 and 2 of some foundational truths about love that are helpful in navigating singleness, dating, and marriage. In the end, these earthly forms of love are intended to be a signpost, pointing us to the much greater love that God has for us.

In this episode, Bela Gandhi is joined by Dr. Justin Garcia, Executive Director of the Kinsey Institute and author of The Intimate Animal, for a fascinating conversation on modern dating, emotional availability, and healthy relationships.They explore why humans crave both intimacy and novelty, how sex influences connection, why dating apps feel overwhelming, and what actually helps high achieving women and men find love again without settling.This episode blends research, compassion, and real life dating wisdom you can actually use.Apply to work with our dating coaches:https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contactWebsite:https://www.smartdatingacademy.comPurchase Justin's book:https://www.amazon.com/Intimate-Animal-Science-Fidelity-Live/dp/0316594032

Healthy relationships don't thrive on chemistry alone they grow when both partners are committed to personal growth.In this episode of Coaching In Session, relationship and mindset coach Michael Rearden explores why personal development is the foundation of strong, lasting relationships. He explains how relationships stagnate when growth stops, why responsibility and communication matter more than intention, and how mutual support creates deeper emotional connection.Using powerful analogies like gardening and camping, Michael breaks down how nurturing yourself directly impacts the health of your relationship. When both partners show up fully, take ownership of their growth, and support each other's evolution, relationships don't just survive, they strengthen.If you're feeling disconnected, stuck, or unsure how to grow together instead of apart, this episode offers practical relationship coaching insights to help you build a partnership rooted in growth, communication, and shared commitment.

What if the real reason marriages fail isn't a lack of connection but years of staying silent and avoiding conflict? Licensed marriage and family therapist Colette Jane Fehr joins us in an attachment-based discussion to discuss her new book The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love (releases February 3, 2026). As a Type 7, Colette shares how even optimistic, future-focused types can fall into avoidant patterns, sidestepping day-to-day disputes and brushing problems under the rug to "keep the peace." We explore how silence (as well as to damaging reactivity) often lead to emotional disconnection, self-abandonment, and essentially "quiet quitting" your marriage. Drawing from attachment science and evidence-based therapies, Colette gives us tools to approach our spouse with openness, honesty, and vulnerability. Whether you're the one staying silent or living with someone who won't speak up, this conversation will show you why a good relationship is worth fighting for—and how to start having the hard conversations that create secure, lasting love. Find The Cost of Quiet wherever books are sold starting February 3rd. Watch on YouTube! Get Colette's book here! https://a.co/d/5HMlsJh Get on her email list here! https://www.colettejanefehr.com/ Visit Colette here on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/colettejanefehr/ Need mental health tips in this time? Sign up for the FREE EnneaSummit here! ⁠https://www.tylerzach.com/mh26/enneasummit?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tylerzach.com%2Fa%2F2148228842%2FLS2nNmzL The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount ⁠⁠⁠⁠here ⁠⁠⁠⁠or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Relationship expert Colette Fehr discusses her book 'The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love', relationship "red flags" and how she "got it right" in her second marriage.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dino and Ashley Petrone have lived a whirlwind life — they married young, started a family, and have had many adventures remodeling homes together. They don’t want to settle for what’s “comfortable,” because they believe God has often called them to harder, more challenging paths in order to become the best couple and parents they can be! Receive a copy of Designed to Last and an audio download of "How to Cultivate Lasting Love" for your donation of any amount! Get More Episode Resources If you enjoyed listening to Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, please give us your feedback.

Send us a textMission to Marriage: Finding Love with Intent and PersistenceIn this episode of From The Inside Out Podcast with Rivkah & Eda, we bring you Ira Ziff, the president of Precision Research Group, and Robyn Barsky, an executive recruiter and career coach, sharing their unique love story. We hear how Ira systematically approached finding a bride, employing his executive search skills and team resources. Despite a rocky first date, Ira and Robyn's journey underscores the importance of persistence, open-mindedness, and focusing on deeper values over surface-level attributes. The episode also discusses strategies for successful dating and career advancement, emphasizing the role of mentors, the importance of respect in relationships, and the value of taking proactive steps to achieve personal goals. Additionally, the hosts reflect on the wisdom gained from past guests and express gratitude for community support and feedback.This episode is dedicated in loving memory of Rabbi Mordechai Shmuel Antal, of blessed memory. May his neshama have an aliyah.Huge shoutout to Rivkah's sister, Chana Herzog, on the release of her beautiful new children's book My Inner Spark: A Journey of Self-Discovery and Jewish Spirit—a heartfelt story about “big feelings,” inner courage, and timeless Jewish values, told through stories of wise and resilient Jewish women that help kids build confidence and hope. Discover the book and purchase here: https://www.innerspark.world/And if you're already dreaming of Pesach, Kosher Travelers is hosting an unforgettable Pesach 2026 program in Rhodes, Greece, with inspiring davening/learning, kids + teen programming, and multiple Seder styles (private, semi-private, communal). Rivkah will be there as a matchmaker—and Kosher Travelers has been sharing a special offer of 12 nights for the price of 10 (mention Rivkah's name when you inquire/book)! https://koshertravelers.com/pesach-2026-the-5-elysium-resort-spa-hotel-rhodes-greek-isles/GUEST BIOIRA ZIFFIra Ziff is President of Precision Research Group (PRG), a boutique executive search firm known for high-stakes, time-sensitive placements. He also coaches job seekers on strategy, resumes, LinkedIn, interviews, and negotiation. B.S., George Washington University.ROBYN BARSKYRobyn Barsky is an executive recruiter and career coach with leadership experience across corporate and nonprofit roles, including Jewish Funders Network, Sara Lee's Olympic partnership, World Cup USA, and the Women's Sports Foundation. She co-chairs the Boca Beach Chabad Jewish Center Advisory Board. B.S., St. John's University; MBA, George Washington University.TOGETHERIntroduced by a matchmaker in 2003 and married in 2004, Robyn and Ira have helped many navigate career transitions through their community work. Now based in Boca Raton, they're active at Boca Beach Chabad and are grandparents of 11.CHAPTERS00:00 Introduction07:26 The Matchmaking Journey19:09 The First Date Disaster21:21 The Second Chance26:52 Finding Common Ground36:01 Advice for Singles and Career Seekers51:06 The Reality of Job Satisfaction51:47 Navigating Career ChangesCOMMUNITYJoin the Community! Connect with us on socials to discuss Episode 101, share insights, and continue the conversations you want to have:

Most entrepreneurs are crushing it on paper… but quietly starving for connection behind the scenes.And that's exactly why I'm so fired up about today's episode of The Happy Hustle Podcast, because I'm sitting down with my brother Stefanos Sifandos for a real, raw, and deeply powerful conversation about relationships, masculinity, healing, and what it actually takes to feel “turned on” by your life again.Stefanos is the kind of guy who doesn't just talk about connection, he lives it. He's a husband, a father, an international speaker, and a transformational coach who's helped people heal trauma, redefine masculinity, and build deeper, more connected lives for over two decades. He's also the author of a brand new book called Tuned In and Turned On: A Path to True Connection, Deep Healing, and Lasting Love, and trust me… It's not just a book, it's a blueprint.In this episode, we go way beyond surface-level “relationship tips.” We talk about the stuff most people avoid… the triggers, the trauma patterns, the disconnection that sneaks in when you're busy building a business and trying to be the provider… and the emotional armor that slowly kills intimacy if you don't face it.Stefanos breaks down how many of us aren't actually struggling because we're “bad at relationships”… we're struggling because we're operating from old wounds, unconscious protection strategies, and a nervous system that's been stuck in survival mode for way too long.And the reason this conversation matters so much right now is that the world is more connected digitally than ever… but emotionally? Spiritually? Intimately? We're disconnected as hell.This episode is an invitation to come back home to yourself and, from that place, build relationships that actually feel safe, alive, and deeply fulfilling.If you're an entrepreneur trying to build a business while also being a great partner, parent, and human… this episode is for you.What does Happy Hustlin mean to you?Stefanos says embracing the multi-layered aspects of being humans, right? That involves commerce and money and success and family and love and joy and tragedy and health and wellness and novelty and variety, like all the things, man. And really embracing that in a deeper way and submitting to that, like submitting to the you know, the fruits that God has given us, that our soulful expression has the opportunity to experience. Find Stefanos on his website: https://stefanossifandos.com/ www.tunedinandturnedonbook.com

Get Ready for a Sex Education Like No Other: We're Talking Fantasies, Oral Sex, and Everything in Between Whether you're partnered or solo, this episode is full of actionable insights that can help you connect more deeply, communicate more clearly, and bring more pleasure into your life and relationships. Dr. Aly also shares details about her upcoming courses, retreats and intimacy coaching. Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills online course on Weds, Jan 27th-Mar 17th We all receive messages about who we are supposed to be, how we ought to feel, and how we should express ourselves, often enforced through shame and disconnection. Featuring 8 classes with a woven balance of science-based data, embodied exploration, and skills development designed to support you in creating, deepening, and sustaining sexual and emotional intimacy in your relationship(s). Recordings available for those who can't attend live or want extra review. Use code "shameless" for $100 off! Sustainable Intimacy: Refuel Passion for Lasting Love retreat for couples in April 23rd-26th in Sonoma, CA (also available as an on-demand course rental) Differences in desire, changing needs, and the pressures of daily life can crowd out time for intimacy. Whether your goal is to rekindle passion or simply carve out meaningful time together, this 3-night, 4-day retreat offers a supportive space to slow down and savor each other. Uncover what's blocking intimacy and gain customized tools to support your unique dynamic. Plus, indulge in delicious meals, a heated pool and hot tub, scenic trails, movement and mindfulness classes, a workshop on passionate and dominant touch, and a sensual soirée. Early Bird tickets currently on sale for $200 off!  And reach out to Dr. Aly for 1:1 and couples coaching!  To learn more go to www.TurnON.love https://www.turnon.love/sexual-and-emotional-intimacy-skillshttps://www.turnon.love/sustainable-intimacy-retreat https://www.turnon.love/sex-and-intimacy-coaching For full episodes: #253 Keeping it Hot with Fantasies and Role Play #405 How to Eat Pu$$y Like a Champ 2.0 #425 How to Suck That D Like a Champ Learn more about the Intimacy Rewired program on episode #458 or click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.intimacyrewired.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. And mention Shameless Sex to get $100 off! Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wish List⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Other links: Get Erika Lust's beautiful , connected, ethical, and SUPER HOT porn at ⁠⁠⁠http://erikalust.com⁠⁠⁠, and use code XMAS45 to get 45% off! Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://uberlube.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 10% off while learning the art of pleasure at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://OMGyes.com/shameless⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://purepleasureshop.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

God Centered Concept Discipleship Series is now live. Our first book is now on Amazon called the Victory in 7. Help support us by purchasing your copy today on your kindle or paperback.Victory in 7: The Foundational Process (God Centered Concept Discipleship Series): Wright, TS: 9798274946032: Amazon.com: BooksTo have TS Wright speak at your event or conference or if you simply want spiritual or life coaching or just a consultation visit:www.tswrightspeaks.comVisit our website to learn more about The God Centered Concept. The God Centered Concept is designed to bring real discipleship and spreading the Gospel to help spark the Great Harvest, a revival in this generation.www.godcenteredconcept.comKingdom Cross Roads Podcast is a part of The God Centered Concept.In this conversation, T.S. Wright and Lori Yarbrough discuss the foundational concepts and skills necessary for building and maintaining a strong, Christ-centered marriage. They explore the importance of healthy expectations, communication, and the role of spiritual principles in navigating challenges. Lori shares practical advice for couples, emphasizing the need for grace, forgiveness, and ongoing courtship, while also addressing the impact of past trauma and the necessity of spiritual warfare in relationships.TakeawaysHealthy expectations are crucial for a strong marriage.Align your expectations with God's word.Prioritize love over personal desires in marriage.Recognize your spouse as a partner, not a savior.Communicate needs clearly and humbly to avoid misunderstandings.Expect forgiveness and grace as a lifestyle in marriage.Embrace growth and change together as a couple.Courtship should continue even after marriage.Words of affirmation can significantly impact your spouse's behavior.Seek professional help when dealing with deep emotional issues.Mentioned in this episode:Victory in 7 Book on Amazon - Get your copy today