queer maintenance

Hi!  You are probably thinking, "What?! An episode of Queer Maintenance?" Yes, it's true. You'll discover that my girlfriend, Deana, and I (Jess) have jumped onto the podcast wagon to create an episode together. We're going to continue to do so as long as we have things to talk about.  We'll highlight our individual roads to recovery, blending our family, possibly some advice that you may or may not want to take, and loads of other ramblings that we hope you enjoy at least some part of.  IG: queermaintenance Jess: _iamjustjess  

Story time Social media and time off Book of the month Individuality in a relationship Appreciate y'all listening and if you have any questions or want to respond to some of what I discuss, please DM @queer_maintenance and mention my name or send me a personal DM @jess_culpepper. Have a great week! Jess 

New things happening for 2023!  If you're still here, you're a very patient person and we love you tons.  Have a question or topic you'd like one or both of us to answer in a future episode? DM us @queer_maintenance or separately @jess_culpepper and @askajanything on Instagram.  Love, Jess & AJ

AJ and I are taking a short pause on the podcast to regroup and come back with new ideas and a potential direction. Think of it like a break between seasons from your favorite show.  If you have any ideas for what you'd like to see from us moving forward, please DM us on IG @queer_maintenance.  We love you! Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

it's in the title. We take user responses (keeping it anonymous) and talk about our most embarrassing sexual moments. We even add in our own because that's what this is about.  Thank you for listening and spending time with us. Also thank you for giving us a couple of weeks off without question. We love sharing with you all and sometimes our life outside of the cast gets a little crazy and we need a break to focus. If you liked this, why not leave us 5 stars?! If you hated it, let us know on IG @queer_maintenance.  Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

Earliest childhood memory; how does trauma shape our memories? AJ's big 44! Happy birthday!! how loud is too loud? Coffee shop etiquette. Thanks so much for spending time with us this week. Happy Labor Day! Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)  

Social media tell-all: one of my exs was apparently in love with her professor that first kiss though who decided: masculine v feminine presenting you are the absolute greatest for taking time out of your day to hear us talk about life. if anything strikes your fancy and you want to respond, hit us up on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok.  Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) for QM swag search us on Etsy; to book coaching sessions with Jess, go to www.thepolishedpigeon.com  

TSA suitcase finds who's feeding the chickens? consider your first relationship; with what you know now, what would you go back and tell yourself? cherry-poppin' karaoke You are amazing for taking time out to listen to us. This podcast is a way for us to connect with our community and/or build community by talking about all the weird nuances of life as we step into different stages.  If you want us to answer questions, find us on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) ps. if you'd like to grab our swag look up Queer Maintenance on Etsy and if you'd like to get coached by me, Jess, book an appointment on www.thepolishedpigeon.com. Thanks!

sleeping bag, you dirty birds.  Setting boundaries with our parents. Embarrassing (birthday) moments. We appreciate you for taking the time to listen to us and hope that you enjoyed at least 70%, I'll take a solid C. If you would rate us an A, maybe consider dropping 5 stars or even a comment to let us know. It helps get us to more ear holes across this great big world.  Catch us on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) ps. if you'd like to inquire about getting coached by me (Jess), my focus is on relationships, getting through break-ups, and finding out who you really are and how to bring that forward. Book a Discovery session here: https://www.thepolishedpigeon.com  

Listener question: first girlfriend from 13 years prior reaches out... what to do? when you're just not feeling up to it, sometimes just showing up is what matters most the most adorable AIM screenname, mina. Thanks for giving us a listen. If you feel so inclined, please drop us 5 stars as it helps get us to more people who might also be interested. If we aren't at 5 stars yet, send us a DM and let us know how we can improve @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok.  We love our mechanics! Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) ps. follow Jess' coaching social @thepolishedpigeon on IG! Thanks :) 

If you could be someone else for a day, what would that look like? Think gender, sex, etc... Do you ask someone you just met/went on a date with to text you when they get home?  Costco: the best kept lesbian day date secret We very much appreciate the time you take to listen to us. It warms out little queer hearts. If you'd like to speak directly with us, we are available on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok, but mostly IG.  Also! I (Jess, that's me) just launched my new business IG account and my new website, which I've been working on over the last couple of months while I've been away from social. This is all about coaching with a splash of queer maintenance and some other fun things. If you'd like to check it out, give me a follow or just creep-stalk me, that's ok too @thepolishedpigeon and www.thepolishedpigeon.com We love you. Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

Jess' hiatus: explained Growing, evolving, and creating a sustainable platform How it works: the things we do behind the scenes to get this podcast moving and shaking We're working on a new strategy in order to enhance viewer engagement. We love what we do here on Queer Maintenance and are doing the best we can to stay fresh and make changes in order to appeal to our listeners. It's not always going to be great but if we can get "good" most of the time, I'm stoked. We value your time and understand that you're here for us and with us, so thank you for allowing us the space to grow. If you'd like to reach out to us and get a real response from one or both of us, slide into our DMs @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. We also accept old school email communication at queermaintenance@gmail.com. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

San Diego Pride Listener questions: am I codependent or do I just miss my partner? AJ finally gives away what the gift was for fun friend's birthday; happy birthday, fun friend! Thanks so much for listening! We do all of this from our sheer desire to connect with people and feel a sense of community. If you enjoyed this one, why not rate it 5 stars? We would greatly appreciate it. If you'd like to connect via social hit us up @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok or email us at queermaintenance@gmail.com. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

yup, it's marriage talk LBC Pride weekend our opinions on what marriage means We would love to get some responses to these topics, especially the marriage one. If you have a comment or question, please hit us up on social @queer_maintenance on IG or TikTok or you can go old school and email us at queermaintenance@gmail.com.  Appreciate all your time and love. This was a shorter episode in order to accommodate AJ's Pride weekend schedule... we'll be back next week with a much longer one! Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

what to get your SO/FF (significant other/fun friend) after dating for a short time what is AJ like after happy hour are you truly living in integrity Thanks for taking time out to listen to us gab. Just a couple of wild chickens having the time in our 40's. If you feel inspired, send us a message on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. We're also available via email for those who want to go old school: queermaintenance@gmail.com. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

yacht rock being at peace with your life choices/making amends for the rest of it sometimes you just have to make out with your mic a little Thanks for spending time with us this humid Monday (in San Diego). We appreciate your time and if you have anything you'd like to tell us, hit us up on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. If you want to bring it back old school and send us an email, Jess will gladly respond! (queermaintenance@gmail.com) Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

the joys of being a woman when everyone thinks you're a man queer parenting and donors and half-siblings, oh my! when to move in with your partner Appreciate you spending some QT with us this week; again we had so much to talk about and we hope that you were able to follow along at home. If you enjoyed this one, click on 5-stars and maybe drop a comment if you have 30 seconds. If you hated it, try another! Send in questions and we'll read and answer them on the cast at some point. Email us at queermaintenance@gmail.com or shoot us a DM on IG/TikTok @queer_maintenance.  Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

the many forms of jealousy; this was a tough one to talk about for me dating while parenting in the LGBTQ community (divorce etc...) divine timing, something greater than ourselves Thanks for spending your time with us on this Monday morning (or whenever you're listening). We appreciate all of you and hope that you get something out of these fireside chats. If you feel so inclined, leave us 5-stars or a simple comment letting us know what you liked.  If you want to find us on social, search @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

COVID hit me Pride month and what it all means Sometimes we have to edit out what we say and dub over; I prefer the rough edits Appreciate you coming back to us after we took a week off to recover. As always, we are super thankful to everyone who spends time with us and who engages with us on social. If you'd like to chat with us outside of this episode, hit us up on IG and TikTok @queer_maintenance.  If you enjoyed this episode, consider leaving a 5-star rating or even dropping a short comment. All of it helps get us to more ear holes. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

If you're into length, this one's for you. AJ's not so traumatic trip to the gyno. We both have impeccable oral hygiene. What even is love? Hi Gay- This is AJ. Usually Jess writes these little show snippets, but it's my turn this week!! Hope you liked this episode. Need gay advice (or if you're straight we'll try our best)?? Send your queries about anything dating, sex, relationships, the meaning of life, whatever, to us (info below) and we'll spend about 4.27 seconds formulating a response. But we're talking QUALITY advice here. If you'd be so kind to spend .4 seconds giving us 5 stars that would be amaizing. Find us on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok.  Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)  

showing up for your person even if it's not your bag, baby how your love language is only half the equation the prodigal son (praa-duh-gl) You're amazing for spending some time listening to this episode. If you feel so inclined, help us get to more ear-holes by giving us 5 stars and maybe leaving a sweet sweet comment.  Find us on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok.  Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

sneaky sneaky codependency your partner should be a place for you to land softly tell your SO if you really don't like doing something they enjoy... don't get stuck doing it for years until one day you finally pop! If you hate baseball, tell them :) Thanks so much for listening to this episode. If you liked it, consider giving us 5 stars and dropping a quick comment. If you didn't get anything out of it, try another if you're feeling fancy.  Hit us up on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok! Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

labeling your relationships feed the squirrels, tuppence a bag get that love language, yo You are rad for spending your Monday with us (or whatever day you're listening to us) and we appreciate you. Please click 5 stars and throw down a comment if you feel so inclined. It helps get us to more ear holes who might enjoy an episode or two.  Love and gratitude, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

unsportsmanlike conduct the fall from grace fear of appearing needy We're just two people having some life chats -- mostly about things that people are less inclined to say outloud. If you liked this episode, please consider giving us a rating or event commenting because it (super-feeds our egos) helps us get seen by those who might need to hear from us.  We appreciate every single listen, share, and response. If you'd like to chat with us on social, hit us up @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

I tried as hard as I could to make some sense in this episode but my sick brain was having trouble, so apologies. This is real life so I hope you still enjoy. I'm already feeling better as I upload this so next week should be right as rain.  Thanks to my super rad co-host, AJ, for helping to bear the load on this one.  If you didn't like this episode because I was sick, find another one and try again :)  Find us on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)  

what is sex between two women? STIs and have we had any AJ ran into a sound bath with fun friend It's still the greatest to know that you are spending your time listening to our chats. These come out every Monday and we can't thank you enough for clicking on us. If you enjoyed this, or other episodes, consider giving us a rating or a comment. Our goal is to reach those who should hear us chat about every day life as a queer person in this world.  Hit us up on social if you're feeling fancy @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok.  Love and gratitude for this rad life, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

alien life forms? best friends and girlfriends I swear I'm not on my phone Appreciate you taking time to listen to this episode. This week we decided to just chat (which is what we do most weeks) but this one was plan-free. Sometimes we just need to shoot the shit and you get to listen to it, if you so choose.  Hit us up on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok.  Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

what are your fears in a relationship and how do you face them? anxiety got me like... what does that word even mean? Appreciate you taking the time to listen to this episode. If you have time and enjoyed it please consider rating us or leaving a comment. It's definitely not required but I think it helps get us out to more people who might also enjoy it.  Always grateful for our "mechanics" (that's you!) and if you want to reach out to us on social, you can! @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

- see title - how long do you wait to fart in front of your partner? - what is our take on being friends with our exes Thanks for joining AJ and I on another random episode where we discuss things we have absolutely no business discussing in public. It's our take on life and how we experience it and we hope you enjoy. If you did, please consider rating us and possibly even leaving a comment!  If you'd like to connect with us on social, slide into our DMs @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok.  With all the gratitude we can muster, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

have you ever fallen asleep during sex? the marriage toothbrush where is the weirdest place you've ever had sex? If you loved this episode, please take a second to give us a rating or even leave a rad comment. This helps us get more exposure to those who might be searching for a podcast like ours.  We are so grateful for you being a part of this next chapter with us and if you have any topic suggestions or questions, slide into our DMs on social @queer_maintenance on IG and TikTok! Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

*see title. labeling your relationship with "girlfriend" or "boyfriend" vs just committing to them when to introduce your partner to your family We love seeing new people tune in and connect with us on social. If you have IG or TikTok, give us a follow @queer_maintenance and send us a message to say hi! We always respond.  If you have a couple extra seconds and enjoyed this episode, consider giving us a rating or even leaving us a comment! If you hated it, try another one ;)  Super grateful to be here and to connect with everyone.  Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

You read the title. vaginal hygiene. warning: there are talks about blood during consensual sexual intercourse, so if you're squeamish, maybe this isn't the episode for you Appreciate you spending some time listening to us have our weekly chat. This one was a little more on the preferential side, although I guess that's what this podcast is anyway. If you have questions or want to reach out, hit us up on social @queer_maintenance. And if you have an extra minute and think this episode was fire, rate us 5 stars and throw down a comment. I think it helps us?? Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

AJ's finger adventure pet peeves lesbian bed death jess' big reveal We know your time is valuable and we can't thank you enough for spending some of it listening to us gab like schoolgirls with crushes. Connecting with people is the number one reason why we do this and if any of our episodes work for you, please let us know. Rate us, comment, whatever you're in the mood for :)  Get us on social @queer_maintenance Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

let's talk about rejection. the curse of flowers. show your partner love every day. We can't thank you enough for spending some part of your day with us. We're just a couple of old friends chatting about whatever comes up with the hope that something hits you right in the heart strings. We love chatting with our "mechanics" (that's you!), so feel free to slide into our DMs on IG/TikTok @queer_maintenance.  Grateful for life. Grateful for you. Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

That's right, we talk about sex toys. Thanks, AJ.  Bar etiquette: AJ opens up about how to get 86'd. And I would like to be the first (I think) to dub TikTok ticks. Listen to figure out what these are. We're just a couple of old friends having super random conversations with each other about life and everything in it. Sometimes we get deep, and sometimes we keep it REAL light. If there's anything you'd like us to discuss, shoot us an email @ queermaintenance@gmail.com or hit us up on IG or TikTok @queer_maintenance and slide into those DMs. Rate us if you have an extra minute. I think it helps us. Who knows? Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

Cut your own fruit. Create your non-negotiables before entering a relationship. How do you know you're in love? Creating safety and trust in romantic relationships in the very beginning. We appreciate you taking the time to listen. If you have any extra time, please rate us and let us know what you thought! We're just here to discuss the potentially mundane things that we don't always get a chance to open up about. If you want to connect with us on social, find us on IG and TikTok @queer_maintenance. Feel free to message us too! Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

Is it ever worth going back to an ex? A little bit about Jess' sobriety journey. Some suggestions on how to better connect with your partner during conflict.  We love you. We love this. And we love ourselves. It's all hard work but the reward is so worth it. We hope you got something out of this episode and, if not, try another one. Remember to rate us and help move us along that algorithm :)  Find us on IG and TikTok @queer_maintenance Love,  Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

Do you believe in "the one"? TikTok makes me cray-cray. How many times can we say Patreon in one episode? Tell me a time that you've felt brave... what does brave feel like in your body? Sometimes when I write "thank you" I cringe because it just never feels like it actually has the full feeling of what I'm trying to say to anyone who supports and listens to us. I am grateful that you took time out of your day to listen to us. If you liked this episode, maybe consider rating us and leaving a review. If you didn't, maybe consider a different episode and trying again?  Find us on IG & TikTok @queer_maintenance. Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

Sometimes it's best to just show them who you are right out the gate and if they like you, great, if they turn and run the other way, also great. Be who you are from the inception and never be anything else.  Help us do more things with this podcast by rating us!! We're doing the best we can with what we have but would love to do more and ratings could potentially help us get ads. Or maybe I'm just saying things that I know nothing about. Cool. Love to all the people who took time to listen. Find us on IG and TikTok @queer_maintenance. Woohoo! Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

This week we finally discuss attachment styles and what we both have been and are working towards, plus what we did for NYE, how we're both looking to meet someone organically, and more on dating apps.  As always, we appreciate that you support what we're doing. The goal is to share information about us with the hope that someone out there is able to feel a little bit better about something that they are going through.  If you're feeling fancy, please rate us even if you thought the episode was terrible, just be gentle. We really want to know what you get out of these.  If you'd like to find us, check us out on IG and TikTok @queer_maintenance.  Love and gratitude for reals, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

So much sex in this one that maybe that's all we need to put in the 'script ;) Find us on IG @queer_maintenance. If you're feeling fancy and like/don't like what you heard, review us and let us know. Just a couple of squirrels trying to get nuts, IYKWIM. Love and gratitude, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

Happy holidays, folks! This episode is all over the place but that's just the way we like it. AJ shares some super personal information about a childhood prank that I'm still laughing about, we discuss healthy relationship habits that people typically think are toxic, and lots more. Thank you for spending your time with us! It means everything.  Find us on IG @queer_maintenance and slide into our DMs.  Love, Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

Welcome to the holigay season, folks. In this episode we chat about a few bad dates; I thought for sure AJ would bring up the vibrator catching the bed on fire, but no, that's apparently not one of these. And we dig into the awkwardness of buying someone you are newly dating a gift (for the holidays or otherwise). Plus the typical rigmarole you can expect from us crazy kids. We are students of life and would love to hear from our listeners. You can follow us on IG @queer_maintenance and slide into our DMs for questions, comments, or if you have a topic you'd like to hear covered in the future. Follow us together updates on all the happenings.  So much love and gratitude for everyone supporting our new adventure.  Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

More on having attractive friends and how to proceed with caution, how to properly handle someone emotionally cheating on you (hint: it does not involve throwing their phone across the room), and plenty more for you to enjoy your morning coffee too.  We are students of life and would love to hear from our listeners. You can follow us on IG @queer_maintenance and slide into our DMs for questions, comments, or if you have a topic you'd like to hear covered in the future. Follow us to get updates on all the happenings.  So much love and gratitude for everyone supporting our new adventure.  Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything) 

This episode is brought to you either by Jess' deep desire to be lazy today (a Saturday if you must know) or B) us wanting to provide you with the most raw version of our conversation by editing nada.  We dive into our bouts with anxiety and how we cope(d), dealing with friends catching feelings (including us being the ones who fall for our friends), what high school was like for us, and some other fun things thrown in the mix.  We are students of life and would love to hear from our listeners. You can follow us on IG @queer_maintenance and slide into our DMs for questions, comments, or if you have a topic you'd like to hear covered the future. Follow us to get updates on all the happenings.  So much love and gratitude for everyone supporting our new adventure.  Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

In this episode we discuss the fears that come along with being intimate for the first time after getting sober, how to have a conversation while a cat is leaping from the fridge to your back, and when to know if you should try harder or finally walk away from a relationship. So many things, as usual.  We are both students of life and would love to hear from our listeners. You can follow us on IG @queer_maintenance and slide into our DMs for questions, comments, or if you have a topic you'd like to hear covered in the future. Follow us to get updates on all the happenings. So much love and gratitude for everyone supporting our new adventure.  Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

This episode we discuss financial disparity within a romantic partnership and how to navigate who pays for what, unsexy things to discuss in a relationship, our experiences with being poly (although I would like to preface this episode by saying that what I experienced was not true poly, it was a catalyst to end a relationship; no disrespect to the poly community), and how to restore trust after cheating, etc. We are both students of life and would love to hear from our listeners. You can follow us on IG @queer_maintenance and slide into our DMs for questions, comments, or if you have a topic you'd like to hear covered in the future. Follow us to get updates on all the happenings. So much love and gratitude for everyone supporting our new adventure.  Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

This week we discuss how to properly kiss someone with your eyes OPEN (AJ!), how our younger selves had no idea the importance of becoming friends before dating, and how saying "I love you" to your friends is equally as important as saying it to your romantic partner.  We are both students of life and would love to hear from our listeners. You can follow us on IG @queer_maintenance and slide into our DMs for questions, comments, or if you have a topic you'd like to hear covered in the future. Follow us to get updates on all the happenings.  So much love and gratitude for everyone supporting our new adventure.  Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)   

This week we talk about the difference between being single during the holidays versus the rest of the year (hint: there's no difference), how to properly spoon someone (yes height matters!), and what to do with your social timeline after a break-up, along with many other side topics that we know you're here for.  We are both students of life and would love to hear from our listeners. You can follow us on IG @queer_maintenance and slide into our DMs for questions, comments, or if you have a topic you'd like to hear covered in the future. Follow us to get updates on all the happenings. So much love and gratitude for everyone supporting our new adventure.  Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

TV show finales, which apparently don't affect AJ in the slightest, try saying Real World 3 times fast, and different ways to be attracted to someone who you might consider as a romantic partner. This one is all over the place, as you might expect if you've been following along at all.  We are both students of life and love hearing from our listeners for any reason. Please DM us on IG @queer_maintenance for any comments, questions, or any future topics you'd like to see discussed.  We are incredibly grateful for the opportunity to be supported by our community and appreciate you all for listening. Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)

This episode we talk about all the things. From AJs relationship with her mom, to how we both handle death, smoking cigarettes as a final wish, and way more. If you wanted a longer episode, this is the one.  We are both students of life and would love to hear from our listeners. You can follow us on IG @queer_maintenance and slide into our DMs for questions, comments, or if you have a topic you'd like to hear covered in the future. Follow us to get updates on all the happenings.  So much love and gratitude for everyone supporting our new adventure.  Jess (@jess_culpepper) & AJ (@askajanything)