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One thing I see in so many of us highly sensitive folk is that we're experts at consistently overestimating our capacity. When we overestimate capacity, the outcome is written long before we land there: we fall in a heap; exhausted and burnt out. Why oh why do we repeat this cycle? Well ... for one, the world kind of demands it. So what do we do if we want OUT of that cycle and to finally honour the truth of our capacity? Join me for this episode of SelfKind - a podcast for highly sensitive people - where I'm exploring this question (and, no, I don't have all the answers! But I have plenty of questions and food for thought!).About your host, Erica WebbErica Webb is a registered counsellor, somatic exercise coach, yoga teacher and highly sensitive person (also diagnosed AuDHD). She supports other highly sensitive and neurodivergent people to discover their sensitivity superpowers and more confidently navigate the tricky bits of being a sensitive person in an often insensitive world.About the Podcast, SelfKindSelfKind is for Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) who want to navigate the tricky bits of their sensitivity with more ease while finding their sensitivity superpowers. Here, we're all about being, living and moving through a lens of self-compassion and kindness.

Send us Fan MailThis message centers on the profound truth that the mystery of God's redemptive plan—formerly hidden but now revealed—is the unity of Jew and Gentile in one body, the Church, through faith in Christ. Drawing from Ephesians 3, it emphasizes that this inclusion was not part of the Old Testament revelation but was made known by the Holy Spirit to the apostles and prophets, fulfilling God's promise to Abraham that all nations would be blessed through his seed, Jesus Christ. The preacher underscores Paul's identity as a prisoner of Christ for the Gentiles, not as a victim of circumstance, but as one divinely positioned to proclaim this inclusive gospel, demonstrating that God uses every situation—especially suffering and imprisonment—for His greater purpose. The message calls believers to embrace their identity in Christ, recognizing that salvation, adoption, and spiritual blessings are gifts of grace, not earned by works, and that true maturity comes through enduring trials with faith, allowing patience to have its perfect work. Ultimately, the sermon calls for humility, gratitude, and worship, reminding listeners that all glory belongs to God, who empowers believers through Christ to live faithfully and share the gospel with all peoples.Eph 3:1 For this reason I, Paul, the prisoner of Christ Jesus for you Gentiles-- 2 if indeed you have heard of the dispensation of the grace of God which was given to me for you, 3 how that by revelation He made known to me the mystery (as I have briefly written already, 4 by which, when you read, you may understand my knowledge in the mystery of Christ), 5 which in other ages was not made known to the sons of men, as it has now been revealed by the Spirit to His holy apostles and prophets: 6 that the Gentiles should be fellow heirs, of the same body, and partakers of His promise in Christ through the gospel, 7 of which I became a minister according to the gift of the grace of God given to me by the effective working of His power. A.   A MYSTERY ONCE HIDDEN, NOW REVEALED (1-7)1. Interrupting himself, Paul makes mention of His StatusHow Did it Effect Paul v1,2,7V1 Paul was a Prisoner of Christ 2Ti 1:11 to which I was appointed a preacher, an apostle, and a teacher of the Gentiles.12 For this reason I also suffer these things; nevertheless I am not ashamed, for I know whom I have believed and am persuaded that He is able to keep what I have committed to Him until that Day.Ac 9:10-16A.   V2 Paul was a Steward of the Mystery- He was entrusted with a great taskB.   V3-5 The Mystery is that Jews and Gentiles would be joined in the ChurchHow Did it Effect the GentilesA.   V6 A new relationship1)    Fellow Heirs of the Inheritance…sums up Eph 3:11-222)    of the same body 3)    and partakers of His promise in Christ through the gospel,Gen 12:3 I will bless those who bless you, And I will curse him who curses you; And in you all the families of the earth shall be blessed."Galatians 3:28-29 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus. 29 And if you are Christ's, then you are Abraham's seed, and heirs according to the promise.A.   V7 New PowerPaul's role as a minister to the Gentiles of this "mystery" was a gift from God (7)         a. A gift of God's grace         b. A gift given to him by the effective working of God's power To Live the Christian Life – Overcome Sin, suffering and temptation to be able to walk in righteousness

2nd Sunday after Pentecost; Sermon based on Genesis 12:1-9 and Matthew 9:9-13, 18-26. Preached at The First Presbyterian Church of Brooklyn (https://linktr.ee/firstchurchbrooklyn). Podcast subscription is available at https://cutt.ly/fpcb-sermons or Apple Podcasts (https://apple.co/4ccZPt6), Spotify....This item belongs to: audio/first-church-brooklyn-sermons.This item has files of the following types: Archive BitTorrent, Columbia Peaks, Item Tile, Metadata, PNG, Spectrogram, VBR MP3

Introduction: Introduction: How Do I Love? (1 Corinthians 13:1-7) Love ABSENT. (1 Cor 13:1-3) Love ACTIVE. (1 Cor 13:4-7) 1 John 4:8 – God is love. Ephesians 5:1 – Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. LOVE is Patient. LOVE is Kind. LOVE Does Not Envy. LOVE Does Not Boast. LOVE Is Not Arrogant. LOVE Is Not Rude. LOVE Does Not Insist On Its Own Way. LOVE Is Not Irritable. LOVE Is Not Resentful. LOVE Does Not Rejoice At Wrongdoing. LOVE Rejoices With The Truth. LOVE Bears All Things. LOVE Believes All Things. LOVE Hopes All Things. LOVE Endures All Things. Sermon Notes (PDF): BLANKHint: Highlight blanks above for answers! Questions and Answers: How Do I Love? Jeff Miller Download Audio Transcript 00:36Open up your Bibles with me please to the book of 1 Corinthians and chapter 13 While you're turning there as is our custom I'm going to ask that you would please pray for me to communicate God's word clearly and accurately as I should and I will pray for you to have a heart open to receive what it is the Lord wants to teach us from his word today All right? Let's just take a moment and pray. Father, just a few minutes ago we were talking about being watchful in prayer. Father, make us watchful for the fruit that will come as your word is applied. The radical difference There will be when your people in this church apply what it is you've told us in this passage we're looking at today. Let your Spirit be our teacher. Father, open our hearts up. Remove any distractions from our hearts and minds. Help us to really dial in right now. We ask in Jesus' name.02:03And all of God's people said, Amen. Amen. 1 Corinthians chapter 13. If you've been with us through this study in 1 Corinthians, you've seen that Paul was going through problem after problem after problem after problem in the church. This church had a lot of problems. There were cliques and there were lawsuits There was sexual sin, and there was people insisting on their rights, and they made the Lord's Supper a fiasco. But really, if you wanted to sum up chapters 1 through 12, it really all boils down to one thing. Paul's saying, your lack of love for one another is the problem.03:04They just didn't love each other the way that God has called us to love. And because that's the problem, now we get to chapter 13 where we get to the solution. It's love. It's love. And some of you might be like, ah, yes, yes, yes. 1 Corinthians 13, I know this one. This is where Paul writes the wedding poem.03:34But this passage is used a lot at weddings, but I want you to understand, Paul wasn't in the middle of addressing the church's problems and was like, yeah, we've got to figure out this spiritual gift thing because you're all messed up. Oh, I just had an idea for a wedding poem. I better write this down while it's fresh. It's not a wedding poem.04:00Pastor Taylor talked last week about how the Corinthian church was so messed up about spiritual gifts. And Paul's like, no, no, no, I'm going to show you a more excellent way. Here's the more excellent way. The heart of ministry. The heart of using spiritual gifts. It's not talent.04:30It's not who works the hardest. It's not who puts in the most hours. It's not who's the most creative. The heart of ministry is love. And if you're sitting here today and you're like, yeah, love's not really my thing. Well, it's God's thing. And if you're like, well, you know, I'm just not really a loving person.05:00Well, then you better get on board. Because love is at the top, according to God. When the fruit of the Spirit is listed in Galatians 5, what's first? It's love, right? Paul tells us in Romans 13 that love fulfills the law. Jesus in John 13 said, Do you know? Oh, come on. I gave you so many hints. It's love. It's love. We've got to get on board. We have a little problem, though, in our language. We use the word love so generically, right? We say love for everything, right? But it doesn't all mean the same thing, right?06:00I can say I love hockey and I love my dog and I love my wife, but I don't love all those things the same way. You see, the Greek was a more specific language. They had different words for love. One word was eros. That's where we get the word erotic. That's the hubba hubba, husband and wife kind of love. Another word for love is, That's friendship love. Like Philadelphia, the city of brotherly love. But the grandest word for love we're going to be talking about today is agape love. Agape. Agape is self-sacrificing. Agape is you ahead of me.07:02And understand that love isn't about feeling. All right? Feelings come, sure. And feelings go. But love isn't about feeling. Love is about doing. Right? Did Jesus love? Did Jesus love? How do we know? Everything from washing the disciples' feet to laying down his life on the cross, everything he did was an experience.07:30of love.07:35So how about you?07:38Are you a loving person?07:45Oh, in church we certainly idealize it.07:49Right?07:52But do we actually do it?07:56So on your outline today, how do I love?08:00I want to encourage you to not let, look, okay.08:04Because some of you have told me that you like to try to fill in the blanks ahead of time.08:10All right, fess up. Who does that? Raise your hand. Who tries to fill in the blanks? Okay.08:14Come on, this is a safe place to confess, and it's also a good place to repent.08:18I'm going to ask you to please not do that, because you're going to look at the outline today, and be like, oh, this one's easy. Love, love, love, love, love, love.08:25I'm going to ask you to hold on, hold on, all right?08:28and just walk in step with me. Will you do that? All right. So how do I love? In this passage we're looking, it's a very familiar passage, and he just talks about two things. There's two things here, right? And the first one is love absent. Love absent. Look at the first three verses. He says, if I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love.09:01I'm a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.09:08And if I have prophetic powers and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith so as to remove mountains but have not love, I am nothing.09:22If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned I have not love.09:31I gain nothing.09:36You see this list here, what he's doing.09:38He's mentioning certain spiritual gifts here.09:42Did you see that?09:43And what he's doing is he's giving exaggerated examples of using spiritual gifts.09:51Like using them to the max.09:54But he says, if I use spiritual gifts, even to their peak performance, if I use them, but I don't genuinely love people, it results in, you see it? Nothing. It's not worth a thing if you don't love. See, the Corinthians, like us, so many times want the gifts of the Spirit, but not the fruit of the Spirit.10:24Paul says anything done without love is useless. Look at this example list of spiritual gifts. First of all, he talks about tongues. We're going to spend in a couple weeks quite a bit of time talking about what the spiritual gift of speaking in tongues is about. But notice here, he says, if I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, like what's angel language? What is that? Well, biblically, there is no such thing.10:54You see throughout these verses, He's exaggerating everything. He's saying, even if I speak a language that they only speak in heaven. He says, even if I did that, but I don't genuinely love people, it's just noise. It's just like banging a gong over and over.11:24How would you last? Probably not very long, right? And somebody would say, well, what happened in church? And you would say, nothing happened in church today. Well, there was some great music. And then the pastor got up and thought he was on the gong show. It was ridiculous. Next, he talks about prophecy.11:54Oh, by the way, he says prophecy is the greatest gift. In chapter 14, verse 1, we talked about this before. Prophecy literally means speak before. It's speaking God's truth before people. We cannot possibly overstate the magnitude of what happens when the Word of God is proclaimed.12:24I was reading about preaching this past week, and one preacher put it this way. He says, when the Word of God is proclaimed, we are bringing eternity into time. I was like, wow, wow, that's what's happening. But to get up and proclaim the Word of God, motivated by self-glory or fame or pride, but not motivated by loving people, it's nothing.12:54Next gift he talks about is knowledge. Do you notice the exaggeration? Here it is again. He says, understand all mysteries and all knowledge. More exaggeration, right? Like, who understands all knowledge? Who understands all mysteries? Like, what do you mean by mysteries? Well, the mystery was just things unknown to man, things only God knows. He's like, even if I knew Every single thing that God himself knows. Things no one else knows. You see, church, you can be highly educated. You can know the Bible frontwards and backwards. But if you don't love people, it's a big nothing.13:55All right, next gift, he talks about his faith. Do you see that? He says, if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains. Does that sound familiar? Faith moving mountains. Jesus talked about that. Matthew chapter 17, Matthew chapter 21. You know, it's the person that's like, you know, I have all faith. I believe. I believe for it. I claim the promise. I believe for it.14:24I just don't love those church people. Paul says you're nothing. And then he talks about the gift of giving. Again, exaggeration, hyperbole. He says I could give away every single thing that I own. And we do know that giving can be motivated by man's applause, right? Matthew 6. Giving can be motivated by guilt or peer pressure or obligation.14:57But if your giving isn't motivated by love, it gets you nothing. Even, even giving your body to be burned. You're like, time out, time out. Who gives their body to be burned? Like, what other motivation could somebody have for giving up their life for someone?15:24or for a cause or... Well, you could ask the Muslims. Because in Islam, dying as a martyr is the only sure way to heaven. They tell these young men, yeah, if you give your life to the cause of Islam, when you get to heaven, you're going to have 70 virgins to enjoy for all of eternity. Do you think they're motivated by love? So see, you can be a martyr.15:56But it doesn't necessarily have to be motivated by love, does it? Here's the bottom line with these first three verses. Paul's saying it doesn't matter what you do in ministry. It doesn't matter how well you do it. Because if you don't love people, you're wasting your time. To what degree? Well, notice in verse 1, he says if you don't love, you produce nothing.16:23Right? Just a clanging cymbal. You produce nothing. Verse 2, he says, if you don't love, you are nothing. And in verse 3, he says, if you don't love, you gain nothing. You've wasted your time. Since this is true, we better understand how to love people.16:53Love Absent. Secondly, let's talk about Love Active. You didn't start filling in your outline yet, did you? Like getting ahead? You didn't start getting ahead, did you? Okay. All right, Love Active. Love Active. Like, okay. A lot of people have different ideas about what love means, what it looks like, how to do it. What does the Bible say? Well, I get some great news for you. There's no ambiguity here whatsoever.17:23Actually, there are 15 words and phrases here that describe love. All right? 15 sub-point sermon. When's the last time you had one of those? All right? Look at verses 4 through 7. He says, love is patient and kind. Love does not envy or boast.17:53It does not insist on its own way. It is not irritable or resentful. It does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Yep.18:27That's not really the point though, is it? The point's not FYI. The point is not for you to walk out here today to say, well, now I have a better understanding of how the Bible defines love. That's not the point. The point is, is this how you love? The point is, Does this list describe you? Does this list describe me? And isn't it just so ironic that church can be the hardest place to love people? Do you notice that? Sometimes it is. Why is that?19:27Well, we're not all BFFs, right? We're just not. We're a family. We're a body. It's easy to love the people that you like. But God allows difficult people in the church.19:53And difficult people are here to test you. To see whether you really love or not. Do you? We'll find out when you encounter somebody that's hard to love. So, here's what we're doing with your outline. You know, 1 John 4 and verse 8 says, God is love.20:26In Ephesians chapter 5 and verse 1, says, therefore be imitators of God as beloved children.20:35So, if God is love, and we are called to imitate God, that means we are to imitate God's love.20:51So your outline here this morning is more of a test. And this is going to show you where you need to grow in love. Since God is love, and since we are to imitate God, here's what we're going to do as we go through, and we're just going to spend a moment on each of these.21:21in the Bible, you should be able to put your name in the blank. And if you truly love like God, the passage should still make sense. Right? So here's what I want you to do. As we go through these, I want you to write your name on the blank. And I want you to hold on to this outline. I want you to keep it as a bookmark in your Bible. And I want this to be a test that you give yourself to say, Does this describe me? Is this how I love people in the church? Alright? It's going to get uncomfortable. But we're committed to this. Right? Put your name down. First it says, love is patient. Put your name down. Can you say that? Can you say, Jeff is patient?22:23Is that you? Because you realize some people just require more patience. Have you noticed? Have you noticed that there are people that we deal with in the church are like, they should have gotten it by now. They should have gotten it six months ago and they still haven't gotten it. Are you a patient person? Patience means I don't write them off.22:51You know what? I'm done. Patience says, you know what? I'm committed to them. Put your name down. Jeff is patient. Can you say that? Secondly, love is kind. Put your name. Jeff is kind. Are you a kind person? The Greek root for the word kind is literally It's always trying to benefit others. Always looking to bless others. Kindness is not tearing people down. It's looking to build up and encourage. That's what kindness is. Can you say that? Jeff is kind. Put your name in there. Next. Love does not envy.23:51Jeff does not envy.23:56We saw last week in verse 31, Paul says, you're coveting the showy gifts.24:05Paul's like, you just want to look like you're the most spiritual person at the church.24:13They had a problem with envy.24:17So let me ask you, how are you doing with envy?24:23Like when somebody in church is talked about, and somebody says, wow, they are such a godly example. And you hear somebody being honored at church, and ooh, that just rubs you the wrong way. And you're like, they're nothing special. Jeff doesn't envy. You know why? Because love looks at people's gifts.24:50different. Love is glad when someone is used by God. Not critical. Love is cheering the rest of the team on. Not envying. Jeff doesn't envy. Next. Love does not boast. Put your name in. Can you say that? Jeff does not boast. This could literally be translated blowhard boasting. It's the person that does and says everything to make himself look good. Everything they do, everything they say, put the spotlight on me. Do you see how awesome and godly and great and perfect and biggest, best, most, goodest I am? Always wanting the attention, always wanting the accolades, You see, envy, wants what other people have. Boasting is to try to make people envy what you have. And love does neither. Right? Can you say that? Jeff does not boast. Next, love is not arrogant. Put your name in the blank. Write it down. Write it down. You're like, I haven't signed my name this many times since I bought a house. Right? Write your name down. Can you say that? Jeff is not arrogant. Arrogance is just the force behind boasting. Right? It's that belief that I'm better than everyone else. I'm the most spiritual person here. But you know, when you truly love other people, you're not going to exalt yourself over them. You're like, you know what?26:50I'm nothing special. I'm a saved sinner. Just like the rest of you. I'm not on any higher plane or exalted status. We're all in the same place here. Sinners saved by grace. So what do I possibly have to be arrogant about? Put your name in the blank. Can you say that? Jeff is not arrogant. Next, love is not rude.27:21Jeff is not rude.27:26That's just treating or speaking to people with disdain.27:32Right?27:32We talked about the rudeness of the Corinthians, right?27:35They had their potluck and people would show up early.27:41And they brought a tuna new casserole or whatever to share with everyone.27:45But they'd show up early and they'd hog it all down themselves.27:48And then people would come later and there wasn't anything for them. Do you know what that's called? Rude! That's rude! And love is not rude. So Jeff should not be rude. And you should not be rude. Right? Lots of ways to be rude. There's lots of ways. Interrupting people. Just talking right over them. Making sure you get in your jerky comment. Go zing them! Right?28:18Just being dismissive. Love isn't rude. Next, love does not insist on its own way. Can you say that and it still makes sense? It's convicting, isn't it? You think the only reason I'm sweating is because it's 120 degrees?28:51Jeff does not insist on getting his own way.28:59That's the biggest problem in church.29:04We're all self-centered.29:06We're all self-centered.29:08I want everything how I prefer.29:10Okay?29:11Church will be great as long as I get everything that I prefer.29:14The music, the kids' ministry, how money is spent, etc., etc., No, no, no, no. Jeff doesn't insist on getting his own way. Love says, look, I want what's best for everyone. I trust the leadership to make decisions. And if things are decided at the church, even if it's not my preference, I just want what's best for everyone. That's what love says. I was thinking about these characteristics, by Jesus, specifically this one, you realize Jesus never did anything just for himself. Did you ever notice that? Everything Jesus did was in perfect submission to his Father and to benefit and bless other people. Jesus never took a day where he's like, you know what, today's about me. I'm having a me day. I'm having a mental health day. I'm going to the spa. Jesus never did that.30:19Jeff does not insist on getting his own way. Next, love is not irritable. Can you say that? Put your name in the blank, write it down, write your name. Jeff is not irritable. This term, irritable, it's actually an explosive term. It's talking about the outbursts.30:48it comes when you're annoyed to the point of breaking. Do you know what I'm talking about?30:56Do you know what I'm talking about?30:58You're annoying me now. Do you know what I'm talking about?31:02I'm getting a little irritated.31:03Do you know what I'm talking about?31:05Where you're just like annoyed and you just keep eating it and annoyed, you just keep eating it and then find like, enough!31:11I've had enough!31:13It's explosive, right?31:15That's what this word means.31:17Like, irritable. Irritable. And some people just, they're personally offended by everything. Some people are just personally offended by everything. What will offend me today? They just roll out of bed on my way to church. What's going to offend me at church today? Is it going to be something said in a sermon? Is it going to be something said in a conversation where the ironing board used to be?31:50What's going to offend me today? Just constantly looking for something to irritate them. But no, no, no, no. Love doesn't do that. Love doesn't take up an offense. Love doesn't get irritated. I care too much about these people to take issue with everything. Jeff isn't irritable.32:18Next. Love is not resentful. Put your name down. Jeff is not resentful. By the way, your name. I keep saying Jeff because that's my name. I better not see your outline where it says Jeff down. Your name. Okay, so like irritable is the explosive term. Resentful is the slow burn term. Resentful. It's just, it's holding a grudge.32:47That's what it is. Actually, in the Greek, it was an accounting term. That's why some Bibles translate this, love keeps no record of wrong. Jeff is not resentful. Jeff should never keep a record of wrong. Can you say that? Oh, we're so good, right? Our memory is terrible.33:17except when it comes to other people's mistakes. Then our memories are great. Right? I don't like her. Why? Because this one time she said this. I don't like him. Why? Because this one time, you know, back in 1987, he did this. I will never forgive her for doing that. It's resentful. You know, somebody, that person could have been having a bad day.33:46The whole thing could have been a complete misunderstanding, but no, no, no, no. I got that in the vault now. All right? I'm resentful. I'm resentful. But love keeps no record of wrong. Do you know why? Do you know why? Do you know who else doesn't keep record of wrong? God. What is it? Jeremiah 31, Hebrews 8, a promise so glorious. He said, in both testaments. God has promised under Jesus Christ He will remember our sins no more. And if there's ever anybody who is justified to keep a record of wrongs against me, it would be God. That because of Jesus Christ, when you receive Him, when you believe in Jesus Christ, when you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, He takes your sin away.34:48And he keeps no record of it. God keeps no record of sin. Love says, Jeff shouldn't either. Right? Can you say that? Next, love does not rejoice at wrongdoing. Jeff does not rejoice at wrongdoing. You're like, rejoice at wrongdoing?35:16Who does that? Everybody does that. We take pleasure. We take pleasure in other people's sins. Like, what do you mean? But just imagine if one of the leaders of our church was caught in some sin. Oh, you're going to see some nastiness come out of people if that would happen. One is you're going to see, People comparing themselves to that leader. You're like, well, I'm not a great person, but I'm not as bad as him. Or the gossip, right? The leader was caught in some sin. There'd be so much gossip. Hey, did you hear what he did? Did you hear about that? There'd be so much gossip going around about that. We delight in other people's sin.36:16Oh, and the slander. That guy, you know, Gossip's ugly cousin, slander. Like, oh, did you hear what he did? Oh, he's not so high and mighty now, is he? Oh, he, oh, leader in the church, huh? Oh, look at him now. Love doesn't rejoice at wrongdoing. So Jeff should not rejoice at wrongdoing because if something offends God, why would I take joy in that? Love is never happy at someone else failing.36:46But love rejoices with the truth. Jeff rejoices with the truth. Dishonesty leads to distrust. Relationships must be built on truth. Can you say that? You rejoice with the truth. You rejoice with honesty because dealing in truth is God's way. And homestretch here.37:16Love Bears All Things. Jeff Bears All Things. Your name Bears All Things. What does that mean? Bears All Things. Literally, the word means to cover. That's literally what the Greek word means. It's covering. It's covering someone's failures and covering someone's sins. Now, yes, when someone is in sin, we talked all about this, we address sin.37:46But what we do not do is parade it around for other people. Like we tell our kids, don't tattle. Right? Don't tattle. Why? Because love doesn't do that. Right? When I was a kid, you know what we called tattling? See who remembers. Being a narc. How many people remember being a narc? Okay? Don't be a narc. All right?38:16we address sin, but we don't parade it around. All right, next, love believes all things. Jeff believes all things. Your name believes all things. But that doesn't mean you're gullible. She'll believe anything. Like, hey, the moon's made out of ham. Like, oh, didn't know that. Like, no, no, that's not what it means.38:46It means believing the best about a person. That's what it means. It's believing the best about a person. It means not being suspicious. That means if a comment is made, if a comment is made that can be taken one of two ways, you take it the good way. That's what it means. I believe the best about them. I don't believe that he said that to hurt my feelings.39:15I believe the best about them. That's what it means. Does that describe you? Or like you hear some rumor, right? Like somebody's like, hey, you know, last Thursday I heard, I was at Walmart and the Browns were in Walmart and I heard Taylor cussing out his wife. I would say, I don't believe that. I don't believe that. Why? Because I believe the best about Taylor.39:47That's what love does. Like, I know this guy. He wouldn't do that. Love believes the best about people, right? Negative example, Job's friends. Remember we went through Job a while back. Remember them? They come to comfort Job and they're like, so you're having a bad day, are you? Well, you must be a terrible sinner. No, love believes.40:15best. Love hopes all things. Jeff hopes all things. Your name hopes all things. Can you say that? It's never giving up on a person. That's what it means. It's never giving up on a person. Oh, he messed up again. I'm disappointed again. Love remembers. Jeff remembers. You remembers. We are all works.40:45in progress. Every single one of us works in progress. And love says, he'll get there. He'll get there. I'm not giving up hope. And then finally, love endures all things. Jeff endures all things. Your name endures all things.41:18Can you say that? That means we survive. The relationship that we have survives even terrible times. That's what that means. With all this patience and kindness and selflessness, you know, the hard times are going to come.41:48And when the dust settles, I'll still be here.41:56No matter what happens, listen, I am for you.42:04No matter what.42:06Because love never lets go.42:13Our worship team would make their way back up to the platform. You might be looking at your list right now. And like me, you look at some areas here. You're like, wow, this doesn't quite describe me the way that I wish that it did. What do I do about that?42:43that are like, meh, meh. I guess I gotta try harder, huh? No. No. Because you can't, look, when it comes to love, you can't fake love. But you also can't muster it up. There's only one thing you can do with love.43:14And that's funnel it. It has to come from God. So I want you to hang on to this. Because wherever you are deficient, you need to take that to God. And I'd like us to do that right now. If you just bow your heads for a moment, please.43:43Just bow your heads. And I want to pray a prayer that is for all of us. Father, we look at your word, we look at this list that under inspiration of the Holy Spirit, Paul wrote to the Corinthians and ultimately to us. We look at this list, Father, and there's so many ways that we fall short. So many ways we should be doing so much better. So many ways we have completely blown it.44:15But Father, we thank you that this list describes you. You haven't given up on us. You continue to pursue and change us. Father, you have called us to imitate you. But the only way we can have love at all because you first loved us.44:48So Father, I pray not just for myself, but for my brothers and sisters here, for those who are streaming or listening to the podcast later.44:56I pray, Father, that we would take this list before you and take an honest assessment and cry out to you for the kind of heart change that only your Holy Spirit can bring about.45:13And Father, might we be a church where more and more our testimony is.45:25We're not perfect and we've got a lot of growing to do, but we are committed to loving one another.45:34We ask this in Jesus' holy and precious name.45:38Amen. Small Group DiscussionRead 1 Corinthians 13:1-7What was your big take-away from this passage / message?Which aspect of love (1 Cor 13:4-7) seems the easiest (“most natural”) for you? Why?Which aspect of love do you personally find the most difficult for you? How can you grow in this area?Why do you think the kind of love described in these verses can be so difficult in the church? BreakoutPray for one another.

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Most relationships don't sour because of one big moment. They slowly drift because of patterns that never change.A sarcastic comment here. A lack of appreciation there. Avoiding hard conversations. Interrupting. Assuming the worst. Being distracted when someone is trying to connect.Over time, these repeated habits create repeated outcomes.The good news? The same principle works in reverse. Healthy relationships are built through healthy habits practiced consistently over time.If there is a habit that is hurting one of your relationships, consider these four steps:See It. Self-awareness is the starting point for change. You can't change what you refuse to acknowledge.Ask yourself:"What am I doing consistently that may be creating distance instead of connection?"Decide. Every habit has a cost. When we choose to keep an unhealthy pattern, we are also choosing the consequences that come with it.Ask yourself if the habit is worth what it is costing you.Replace It. Don't just remove a habit—replace it.If you want to stop criticizing, replace it with encouragement.If you want to stop interrupting, replace it with listening.If you want to stop assuming, replace it with asking questions.The goal isn't simply to stop a behavior. The goal is to replace it with one that strengthens the relationship.Invite Others In. Change happens faster with accountability. The people who care about us often see our blind spots more clearly than we do.Ask someone you trust:"Would you help me notice when I slip back into this habit?"A healthier relationship rarely requires a completely different person. More often, it requires a different pattern.Be sure to check out this week's episode of the Relationshifts podcast, where we wrap up our Crossing Generational Lines series. We discuss why what we often call a generational gap is really a relational gap—and how stronger relationships begin when we recognize and replace the habits that create distance.When you shift from habits that hurt to behaviors that help, it will make a difference.Larry

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I'm going to describe three women in this episode.And I need you to be honest with yourself about which one makes your stomach tighten.Not the one that sounds the worst.The one that feels a little too familiar.Because that recognition is not the diagnosis.It's the doorway.In this episode, I'm breaking down the three money identity roles I see show up in women over and over again.The Survivor.The Prover.And The Avoider.These are not personality types.They are protection strategies.They are the roles your nervous system created to keep you safe around money, worth, pressure, survival, fear, and uncertainty.And most women are running them without even realizing it.We talk about:✨ Why the Survivor struggles to feel safe even when money is in the bank✨ How the Prover ties achievement and income to self-worth✨ Why the Avoider disconnects from money completely✨ The nervous system patterns underneath overworking, scarcity, and avoidance✨ Why awareness alone does not create transformation✨ The hidden cost of protection mode✨ The difference between surviving and thriving✨ How identity patterns quietly shape your financial realityThis episode goes deep into the emotional side of money.Not budgeting.Not strategy.Identity.Because you cannot out earn a belief that says you are not enough.And you cannot create expansion while your nervous system is still trying to survive.I also share more about The Unblocked Money Reset, my free training designed to help women interrupt the deeper identity patterns shaping their relationship with money, abundance, safety, and self-worth.Because naming the pattern is awareness.Interrupting the pattern is transformation.✨ Ready to go deeper?Join The Unblocked Woman Collective™ and step into the work of identity, nervous system regulation, emotional safety, abundance, and becoming magnetic from the inside out.If this episode resonated with you, send it to a woman who needs to know there is nothing wrong with her.She's just running an old pattern.

In this episode of the podcast, 585, I talk about something that has come up in conversations several times over the past few weeks with different friends and colleagues: the challenge of photographing familiar places. There's a tendency in photography to believe the next great image exists somewhere else. So we travel to new cities, another country, or another landscape. We just want something new, but some of the most meaningful photographic work comes from returning to the same places over and over again until they begin to reveal something deeper. Familiarity can make us stop paying attention. We move through our neighborhoods, parks, and daily routines sort of zoned out and not really paying attention. As photographer, we become convinced there is nothing new left to see. Yet if we let it, the camera has a remarkable ability to slow us down and reconnect us with the ordinary. When we revisit a location repeatedly, our attention shifts away from novelty and toward nuance. We can start to see the changing light, the shift of the seasons, weather, mood, gesture, rhythm, and timing of a place. Over time, the work stops being about documenting a place and becomes more about understanding our relationship to it. The photographs become less about where it was taken and more about how we see it and feel about it.

Some key points:Interrupting or jumping in is a skill that is acknowledged in the ICF Core Competencies and ICF 37 Markers.Use language and principles that work for you and makes you want to jump in.Practice and develop your intuition on when to jump in.Use permission or direct communication to jump in.Keep reflecting on your own experience using your coaching, mentorship or coach supervision to develop this skill.If you want to coach, mentor or do coach supervision with me, reach out to info@holisticcoachtraininginstitute.comAbout Beverly:Beverly Sartain is the President of the Holistic Coach Training Institute, where she trains coaches on coaching skills and a holistic approach. The Holistic Coach Certification Programs are ICF Level 1 and Level 2 accredited that focuses on a holistic approach to coaching. We see clients as whole, complete and resourceful to create creative solutions to their challenges and dreams. During her ten-year career in nonprofits, she managed and developed domestic violence and co-occurring residential programs. Beverly is a Certified Addictions Professional. She has her PCC (Professional Certified Coach) from the ICF and loves developing human beings through coaching.Connect with HCTI:Sign-up for Holistic Coach Newsletter to get coaching skill and coaching business inspiration ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign-up for a Discovery Call ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so you can join our Holistic Coach Certification Program or receive coaching.Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://holisticcoachtraininginstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find transcription here.

Sitting on the edge of the pool before my Ironman 70.3 swim time trial, I felt every excuse in the book flood my mind — and I had to make a choice: jump in or talk myself out of it forever. In this episode, I break down exactly what happens in your head when you've been away from something important, and how to shut those voices down before they cost you everything. If you know you've been putting something off, this one is for you. Key Takeaways The longer you think about doing something hard, the less likely you are to actually do it — so stop thinking and just jump in. Interrupting your negative thought pattern by literally telling yourself to stop can break the downward spiral before it takes over. Accepting your current baseline — no matter how far back you feel — is the only way to move forward with clarity and focus. The voices telling you that you're tired, slow, or behind will quit if you outlast them — they want comfort more than you do. Starting over is not starting from zero. Your experience, wisdom, and insight don't disappear just because you took a break. Action Steps The next time you catch yourself spiraling into excuses, say your own name out loud and tell yourself to stop — interrupt the pattern before it takes root. Write down your honest current baseline in the area of your life you've been avoiding, and commit to working from where you are, not where you wish you were. Do the one thing you've been putting off today without testing the water first — no toe-dipping, no second-guessing, just jump in and let momentum do its work. Notable Quote The voices that want you to quit will themselves quit — if you can just keep going long enough to outlast them.

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You set up your 401(k) contributions years ago. They go out of your paycheck automatically, before you even see the money. You've been doing this for years. And you've been telling yourself you're saving for retirement. You're not saving. You're investing. Automatically, often without much thought, into a market-linked account where the value can drop without you withdrawing a single dollar. https://www.youtube.com/live/ISSLntYMpig That distinction isn't just semantic. It explains why so many high-earning, responsible people feel like they're not making real financial traction even when they're doing everything they were told to do. I've worked with clients across this exact transition for years. And what Bruce Wehner and I talked through on the podcast this week gets to the root of it. Not which products to use. The order. Save automatically. Invest intentionally. Get that order right and everything changes. Key TakeawaysThe Difference Between Saving and Investing (And Why Most People Get It Wrong)What About Inflation?The Language ProblemWhy the Default Financial Playbook Works Against YouThe Automatic Investing TrapThe Syndication Cautionary TaleThe Savings VoidHow the Wealthy Reverse the SequenceThe Personal Economic ModelThe Client Who Saved His Way to RetirementLifestyle Creep: The Silent UnderminerWhy You Save Automatically, and What That Frees You to DoThe Counterintuitive LogicWhat Gets Freed UpWhy Interrupting the Compounding Curve Costs More Than You ThinkWhat Interruption Actually CostsWhat It Means to Invest Intentionally, and How to Know If You AreInvestor DNAReal Due Diligence in the Current EnvironmentSafety, Liquidity, and GrowthThe Savings Vehicle That Bridges Both StagesHow It Works in PracticeThe Death Benefit BackstopWhere Saving and Investing Fit in the Wealth Creator's Cash Flow SystemChange the Order, Change the OutcomeBook A Strategy CallFrequently Asked QuestionsWhat is the difference between saving and investing?Why is automatic 401(k) investing not the same as saving for retirement?How do I start saving automatically?What does intentional investing actually mean?How does whole life insurance fit into saving automatically?Why do wealthy people save before they invest? Key Takeaways Saving and investing are not the same thing. Saving has a dollar-value floor - your $100 stays $100. Investing doesn't - the value can drop without you touching a cent. Most people have been calling one thing the other. The order you do them in determines your financial outcome. The default playbook is: invest automatically first, spend second, save whatever's left. The wealthy do it in reverse: save automatically first, spend from what remains, invest intentionally from the surplus. Automatic 401(k) contributions are investing, not saving - and doing them without due diligence, in a market-linked account you don't control, is a bet most people don't realize they're making. Automating saving is a cognitive strategy, not a cop-out. It removes a high-stakes decision from your mental queue, so your best thinking goes toward evaluating actual investments, where discernment genuinely matters. Interrupting the compounding curve is more costly than it looks. The exponential gains happen late in the cycle. Most people never get there because they restart the clock repeatedly by spending, redirecting, or skipping months. Intentional investing means deploying capital into things you understand, with control, sized to what you actually have, not automatically following historical performance into deals you don't fully understand. The Difference Between Saving and Investing (And Why Most People Get It Wrong) Let's start with a precise definition, because the confusion between these two things is where most of the problem lives. Saving is placing money somewhere it cannot lose dollar value. If you put $100 into a savings vehicle, those $100 will be there when you come back. The amount won't become $60 or $80 because of market conditions. You haven't taken the money out. No one stole it. It's just there, in full, because you put it there. Investing is different. When you invest, you're placing capital somewhere it has the potential to grow, but also to lose value. Not because you withdrew anything. Because the asset itself dropped. You can wake up to an account statement showing your $100 is worth $50, and that's investing. What About Inflation? This is where people push back, and it's a fair point. Inflation erodes the purchasing power of savings over time. That's real. But what often gets missed is that inflation erodes investments too. The same monetary forces that reduce what your saved dollars can buy are working on your invested dollars simultaneously. And an investment loss on top of inflation doesn't solve the inflation problem. It doubles it. Losing hundreds of thousands of dollars in a badly-timed deal isn't an inflation hedge. It's your money going backward at speed. The distinction we're drawing is about the dollar-value floor. Savings has one. Investing doesn't. That's it. The Language Problem The reason this gets so muddled is that the phrase "saving for retirement" has become the universal shorthand for 401(k) contributions, which are, by this definition, investing. Money in market-linked funds can drop. It has dropped. For many people, it's dropped dramatically at exactly the wrong moment. Calling that saving doesn't make it safer. It just makes it harder to think clearly about what you're actually doing. Why the Default Financial Playbook Works Against You Here's how most working Americans handle their money, in order: First, a payroll deduction flows automatically into a 401(k) or similar vehicle before the money arrives in their account. Then spending happens. Then, if anything is left at the end of the month, it might get saved. Maybe. The sequence is: invest first, spend second, save whatever remains. The problem isn't the investing. It's what that order produces in practice. The Automatic Investing Trap That first move, the automatic 401(k) contribution, is made without active due diligence, without specific knowledge of the underlying assets, and without meaningful control over timing or allocation. For most people, the decision is: pick a fund from a list, or accept the target date fund default. That's it. Target date funds are a genuine improvement over doing nothing. They diversify automatically and grow more conservative as you approach retirement. Financial advisors help take emotion out of the process, which matters more than most people realize. These are real improvements. But they don't solve the core problem. You've still lost control of that capital. You face future tax liability. And if you need access to it before retirement, the options are limited, costly, or both. The Syndication Cautionary Tale Bruce has been in over 6,000 client meetings. And one thing he's seen play out repeatedly in recent years is what happens when the "must always be invested" mindset runs into a changing economic environment. A lot of people deployed capital into real estate syndications because the historical performance looked strong and the tax benefits were real. What they didn't fully evaluate was what happens when interest rates rise sharply, and when deals structured around balloon-payment loans need to be refinanced. Rates went up. Sponsors couldn't refinance. Distributions stopped. In many cases, that capital is effectively gone. Not because real estate is a bad investment category. Because people committed capital without evaluating the current monetary environment, and instead relied almost entirely on historical performance as their due diligence. The people who pushed that money in because they felt they couldn't afford to leave it sitting somewhere safe are the ones who lost. Their money didn't just fail to outrun inflation. It evaporated. The Savings Void Because saving is residual in the default sequence, it often doesn't happen at all. By the time spending is done, there's nothing left to put aside. And that's the trap. When a genuinely good investment opportunity appears, there's no capital ready to move on it. The people who can act are the ones who built up savings first - liquid, available, usable cash that's safe and in their control. The others watch the opportunity pass. How the Wealthy Reverse the Sequence The pattern Bruce sees consistently across his wealthiest clients is the opposite of the default. They save automatically first. They determine spending second. They invest intentionally from what remains. The order of priority is reversed, and everything that follows is different because of it. The Personal Economic Model Think of your money as moving through a system. Income arrives. Taxes come out. Then every dollar faces a decision. The first and most important decision isn't to save or invest. It's: how much of this am I going to spend? Spending less than 100% of what you earn is the prerequisite for everything else. It sounds basic, but it's the step most people skip conceptually, even when they think they're doing it.  The Richest Man in Babylon put it plainly: set thy purse to fattening.  A part of all that you earn is yours to keep. Mike Michalowicz made the same argument for businesses in Profit First. If you wait to see what's left after spending, there won't be anything left. There never is. Once you've decided what you're keeping, the next question is the order. Save first, spend from what remains, then invest intentionally from the surplus you've built. The Client Who Saved His Way to Retirement Bruce shared a story that most financial commentators would dismiss as a cautionary tale, but it's actually the opposite. One of his clients kept his 401(k) in a money market account for his entire c

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The way you relate to power is the way you relate to everything around and within you–your work, your people, your sense of what's possible. And most of us have never actually examined that relationship.And in this season we are in, when everything is changing so quickly, any unexamined beliefs we hold will quietly run the show. They will shape the risks we take, the rooms we walk into, and the moments we either step up or shrink back. If we don't have something to ground us internally to our values, our body, our nervous system, and our beliefs, we run the risk of looking to external validation and trying to control everyone and everything around us. We do damage control and play nice at the expense of real connection and progress.Which is why I am thrilled to welcome back Dr. Amanda Aguilera to talk more about the Right Use of Power framework for personal power and her new book, Shaping Power for Good: Wayfinding to Right Relationship. She reminds us that staying rooted and using our personal power for good isn't a box to be checked, but a continuous practice and commitment to ourselves and our relationships. Dr. Amanda Aguilera currently serves as the Executive Director of the Right Use of Power Institute and co-leader of Sacred Wayfinding. She has dedicated most of her career to helping people and organizations understand systems, conflict, and social power dynamics to create right relationships and a sense of belonging. She has a knack for making difficult conversations easier, complex ideas more accessible, and resistance more workable. Integrating power, contemplative practices, neurobiology, and restorative practices, she works by finding a balance of head and heart and facilitating the co-creation of strategic maps that lead us forward in a more equitable way.Listen to the full episode to hear:Defining the six core types of power through the lens of relationships to others, ourselves, and the collectiveHow four essential aspects of being in right relationship show up in us and othersWhy checking in on power and relationships starts with connecting to our bodies How committing to being in right relationship helps us overcome how we've been socialized to access power and belongingWhy right relationship fundamentally starts with ourselves, our boundaries, and our valuesHow each of us can use our power for good, conscientiously and in alignment with our valuesLearn more about Dr. Amanda Aguilera:Right Use of Power InstituteInstagram: @rightuseofpowerinstituteShaping Power for Good: Wayfinding to Right RelationshipLearn more about Rebecca:rebeccaching.comWork With RebeccaThe Unburdened Leader on SubstackSign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader EmailResources:ParenthoodEP 88: Right-Use-of-Power: Navigating Leadership Dynamics with Dr. Cedar BarstowEP 125: Power, Regulation, and Leadership: Connecting to Your Personal Power with Dr. Amanda AguileraBelonging: The Science of Creating Connection and Bridging Divides, Geoffrey L. CohenEP 149: Interrupting the Fawning Trauma Response: Leadership, Safety, and Self-Trust with Dr. Ingrid ClaytonMaya Angelou's 1992 Commencement Address at Spelman CollegeIn the Absence of the Ordinary Soul Work for Times of Uncertainty, Francis WellerChico Gospel - ma museHannah GadsbyChapters:(00:00) - Introduction (08:20) - Meet Dr. Aguilera (09:02) - Six Types of Power (17:25) - Rooted vs Socialized Power (23:09) - Right Relationship (27:56) - Checking in with Your Body (30:03) - Checking with your Why (35:51) - The Messy Truth of Power (38:48) - Showing up in Relationship Differently (41:08) - Up Power, Down Power (45:25) - Shaping Power For Good (49:49) - Double Loop Learning (52:10) - Quick Fire Favorites (55:49) - How To Connect (56:38) - Closing Thoughts

Uncontrolled anger can quietly damage relationships, distort communication, and pull us away from God’s design for righteous living. James 1:19–20 offers clear, practical wisdom: be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. Sinful anger isn’t just about emotion—it’s often rooted in pride and self-focus, leading us to say things we don’t mean and hurt the people we care about most. Highlights Unrestrained anger often leads to hurtful words and broken connection Sinful anger is usually rooted in pride and self-centeredness James 1:19–20 calls us to listen first, speak carefully, and slow down anger Interrupting and reacting quickly fuels conflict instead of resolving it The Holy Spirit helps us respond with patience and humility Repentance and forgiveness restore relationships after conflict Growth in handling anger is part of ongoing spiritual maturity Do you want to listen ad-free? When you join Crosswalk Plus, you gain access to exclusive, in-depth Bible study guides, devotionals, sound biblical advice, and daily encouragement from trusted pastors and authors—resources designed to strengthen your faith and equip you to live it out boldly. PLUS ad free podcasts! Sign Up Today! Full Transcript Below: The Harm of Sinful Anger By: Emily Rose Massey Bible Reading: “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God” (James 1:19-20, ESV). My husband and I have been married for sixteen years, and although we would never admit to “having it all together,” one thing that we have always fought to hold onto is our pursuit to work through our disagreements, however heated they may become, and never go to sleep angry with one another. With the help of the Holy Spirit, we try our best to be quick to forgive and ask for forgiveness. But since we are still on this side of eternity, we are continually being sanctified every day, and sometimes our flesh and pride get in the way of that pursuit for peace, and that was the case in a recent argument that he and I experienced. The two of us became so angry with one another that we continued to go in circles and rehash the argument. I found myself not thinking clearly and saying things that were hurtful towards my husband, things that I did not believe to be true. I would constantly interrupt my husband with what I wanted to say and never let him voice his concerns. In my frustration, I became so exhausted and confused that I didn’t have any energy to continue the conversation. Thankfully, before we drifted off to sleep, we both took some time to calm down and began to apologize for our anger and hurtful words. Knowing anger that is not restrained can often lead to sin, and in this case, it did; we both repented to the Lord and to each other. We can find much instruction and wisdom in the Bible regarding the sin of unrestrained anger. James 1 has some beautiful instruction for us that is a wonderful reminder for our hearts, especially in a marriage relationship: “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God” (James 1:19-20, ESV). Intersecting Faith & Life: Do you notice how our conversations with each other can be tied to the misuse of anger? This is especially true if we are not considering others before ourselves when we want to voice our opinion or concerns. The misuse of anger is called unrighteous anger because it is selfish and prideful in nature. Those who do not think of others when speaking are walking in pride, which can often lead to anger if met with resistance and tension. When anger is unrestrained and rooted in pride, we are not walking righteously before God. We are to be quick to listen before speaking and patient when engaging in a tense discussion. What wise advice for married couples! Anger is sure to occur when two people disagree, but we do not have to give into the temptation to allow that anger to fuel hurtful or hate-filled words towards the other person, sinning against them and, more importantly, sinning against God who calls us to walk in righteousness. We need to prefer others above ourselves in our conversations with one another. May the Lord help us and sanctify us in our marriages and relationships with others. The Word has so much to say on the sin of anger, yet we give in to this temptation all the time when we are challenged in our selfishness. This is especially true in marriage. We must be careful not to allow our pride to lead us into unrestrained anger by lashing out and interrupting in disagreements. The Lord will help you be slow to speak and quick to listen so that anger does not cause you to walk in unrighteous behavior towards your spouse and brothers and sisters in Christ. The Holy Spirit will give you grace to empower you to walk more Christ-like. Further Reading: Ephesians 4:26-27 Proverbs 16:32 Proverbs 29:22 Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Why does knowing we overthink not help us stop? Dr. Rick and Forrest discuss why rumination becomes a self-reinforcing habit,  and why insight alone rarely helps. They distinguish between rumination and reflection, and talk about how balancing acceptance and agency can help us go from one to the other. Forrest talks about the relationship between overthinking and feelings of disappointment and failure, and Rick shares practical ways to interrupt the cycle, shift into more concrete forms of problem-solving, and finally stop ruminating. Rick's Rumination Course: If rumination is a persistent issue for you, check out Rick's five-week online course focused on practical tools for letting go of these negative thought loops. Learn more at RickHanson.com/ruminating, and use coupon code BeingWell25 to receive a 25% discount. Previous episodes on rumination and overthinking: Breaking the Self-Awareness Trap: How to Stop Overthinking | Being Well Rumination: How to Disrupt Obsessive Thoughts Key Topics:  0:00: Intro: what is rumination 5:35: Why we ruminate 21:06: Why rumination doesn't help us 25:24: Moving from rumination to reflection 31:35: Rumination as a habit 38:40: Interrupting the rumination habit 46:44: Radical helplessness and radical resourcefulness 53:43: More ways to move from abstract to concrete thinking  1:07:23: The role of mindfulness 1:13:32: Recap Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell.  Level up your bedding with Quince. Go to Quince.com/BEINGWELL for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You were not failing at your diet. Your nervous system was doing exactly what it learned to do to survive. In this episode, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof go deep on one of the most personal and most pervasive patterns they have both lived through: the disordered relationship with food and the body. Building on their recent conversation with Luis Mojica, this is the episode where they go further, bringing the neuroscience, the lived experience, and the practical path forward into a single, honest conversation. Both hosts have a long history with binge eating disorder. For decades, food was the primary regulation strategy, the way the nervous system found relief from stress it had no other tools to process, the way the body found pleasure when pleasure felt dangerous, and the way a dysregulated system managed to keep functioning. They are not talking about this from the outside. They are talking about it from the other side. The conversation moves through several layers. First, why food behaviors are regulation strategies, not character flaws, and why disordered eating works, at least until it doesn't. Then into interoception, the brain's ability to sense internal body signals, and how disrupted interoceptive awareness drives everything from not knowing you're full to being unable to feel your own emotional states. They trace how visual processing deficits can distort body image and increase stress load, how the default mode network gets locked into self-referential rumination and body obsession, and how the salience network learns to flag the body itself as a threat. Elisabeth breaks down what is actually happening neurologically when the obsessive loop runs, why insight alone does not stop it, and what actually interrupts it: sensory anchoring, movement, proprioceptive tools, and the slow building of emotional processing capacity over time. Jennifer brings it back to the body and the breath, to shame, to the secret eating and the shame spirals that followed, and to what it actually felt like to slowly, gradually come out of that. The episode closes with one of the most important reframes in the whole conversation: healing your relationship with food and your body is not about getting the food right. It is a portal into self-attunement, emotional processing, and relational capacity that ripples into every area of life. It is post-traumatic growth.     In This Episode, You Will Learn: Why food behaviors are nervous system regulation strategies, not willpower failures How the absence of early co-regulation leads to using food as a modulation tool Why diets fail without somatic and nervous system support in place How interoceptive deficits drive disordered eating, emotional disconnection, and body image distortion How visual processing issues can compound stress load and body dysmorphia What the default mode network and salience network have to do with food obsession and body rumination Why psychedelics can soften rigid thought loops temporarily but cannot rewire them without nervous system preparation and integration How to interrupt the rumination loop using sensory anchoring, orienting, movement, and proprioception Why shame is harder to metabolize than any food behavior and how to begin working with it somatically How uncoupling pleasure from shame is a critical and often overlooked part of healing the relationship with food and body Why healing the food relationship is one of the deepest portals to relational health and post-traumatic growth   Chapter Markers 0:00 - Food as Energy, Rest, and the High Performer Trap 01:08 - Welcome: Moving From Control to Self-Attunement 03:20 - Six Years of Conversations About Food and How Far We Have Come 06:24 - Every Diet Failed. Here Is Why. 08:31 - Food Behaviors Are Regulation Strategies, Not Character Flaws 11:29 - Safety Has to Come Before Pattern Change 14:19 - Perfectionism, the Inner Critic, and Controlling Appearance as a Stress Response 15:43 - How Vision Training Changed Body Image 19:50 - Interoception: The Missing Piece in Food and Body Healing 23:56 - Physical Hunger vs Emotional Need: Learning to Tell the Difference 28:13 - Interrupting the Pattern in Real Time 30:28 - Building Emotional Processing as a Skill 36:56 - The Default Mode Network and Why the Obsessive Loop Runs 40:05 - The Salience Network: When Your Brain Learns Your Body Is a Threat 41:58 - How to Interrupt the Loop: Sensory Anchoring, Movement, and Proprioception 53:14 - Shame, Secret Eating, and How They Get Woven Together 56:12 - Uncoupling Pleasure From Shame: A Portal Back to the Body 1:01:32 - Food as One of the Deepest Portals to Post-Traumatic Growth Ways to Engage with Neurosomatics  Join us inside Rewire: This is where you actually experience the practices Jennifer and Elisabeth talk about on the podcast that brought us freedom, self-attunement, a new relationship with food and our body.  rewiretrial.com   Explore the neurosomatics of boundaries: boundaryrewire.com   Introduction to neurosomatics for practitioners, coaches and therapists - The NSI foundations Bundle: https://neurosomaticintelligence.com/workshops/   Wayfinder Journal: Track nervous system patterns and support preparation and integration through Neurosomatic Intelligence: https://stan.store/illuminated   Join Jennifer on Sacred Synapse to explore the intersection of neurosomatics and Psychedelic neuroscience: https://www.youtube.com/@sacredsynapse-23   Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors:  FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired   Resources and Research   Feusner, Jamie D., et al. "Abnormalities of Object Visual Processing in Body Dysmorphic Disorder." Psychological Medicine, vol. 41, no. 11, 2011, pp. 2385–2397. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21557897/   Feusner, Jamie D., et al. "Abnormalities of Visual Processing and Frontostriatal Systems in Body Dysmorphic Disorder." Archives of General Psychiatry, 2010. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2853756/   Madsen, Sarah K., et al. "Visual Processing in Anorexia Nervosa and Body Dysmorphic Disorder: A Review." Journal of Psychiatric Research, 2013. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3786585/   Dhir, S., et al. "Parameters of Visual Processing Abnormalities in Adults with Body Dysmorphic Disorder." PLOS ONE, 2018. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6261110/   ​​Khalsa, Sahib S., et al. "Interoceptive Awareness in Anorexia Nervosa: Disturbances in Body Awareness." Biological Psychiatry, vol. 75, no. 4, 2014, pp. 275–281. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24090776/   Pollatos, Olga, et al. "Reduced Perception of Bodily Signals in Anorexia Nervosa." Eating Behaviors, vol. 9, no. 4, 2008, pp. 381–388. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18928907/   Jenkinson, Paul M., et al. "Interoceptive Sensitivity and Eating Disorder Psychopathology: A Meta-Analysis." Neuroscience & Biobehavioral Reviews, vol. 92, 2018, pp. 387–397. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29935263/   Trauma Rewired podcast  is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear.  We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being.  If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.  If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911.  We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available.  We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast. We  invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization. We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs.  We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional. The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis.  Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. 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For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares three practical mindfulness tools you can reach for the moment you feel anger starting to build. Whether it's a comment that lands wrong, a situation that spirals or just one too many things going sideways in a single day, these tools work when things are heating up, not just when everything is already calm.Rather than offering a generic "take a deep breath" and leaving it there, Alastair explains exactly how each tool works, why it works and how to use it in real life. And the good news is that none of these require any prior experience with mindfulness.Key Takeaways:Mindfulness isn't meditation retreats or cushions. It's simply the practice of being present. And that tiny gap between what you feel and what you do is exactly where anger management happens.Deep breathing works,but most people aren't doing it correctly. Done properly, it sends a direct signal to your nervous system that the threat has passed, calming your body whether your mind wants to or not.Anger almost always shows up in your body before your awareness catches up. The body scan trains you to notice those early warning signs in time to do something about them.Mindful observation breaks the mental spiral that keeps anger burning. Focusing on a nearby object pulls your attention back to the present and softens the intensity of the emotion enough to respond rather than react.A lot of what fuels anger isn't the situation itself. It's the story your mind builds around it. Interrupting that narrative early is one of the most effective moves you can make.Resources & Next Steps: If you'd like support managing your anger in the moment and doing the deeper work to understand what's driving it:Visit AngerSecrets.comBook a free 30-minute phone callAccess the free training on "Breaking The Anger Cycle"

Norma Montague shares of her experiences going from awareness to action, interrupting bias in the classroom on episode 618 of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast. Quotes from the episode One thing that my work on inclusive teaching focuses on, is really being able to understand your learner’s motivations. -Norma Montague One of the ideas that I learned from a colleague who had recommended a book was the idea of rebranding office hours as student hours. -Norma Montague I think it’s important to help students understand what those student hours are for and how they can get the most out of them. -Norma Montague When students feel safe in the classroom, then they’re going to contribute, invest. That’s when I find that I can really increase their rigor and challenge them more. -Norma Montague Resources Norma Montague at Wake Forrest University Episode 425: Inclusive Teaching with Viji Sathy and Kelly Hogan Inclusive Teaching: Strategies for Promoting Equity in the College Classroom, by Kelly Hogan and Viji Sathy Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, by Susan Cain Mind over Monsters: Supporting Youth Mental Health with Compassionate Challenge, by Sarah Rose Cavanagh Tiny Desk Concert: Mumford and Sons Crucial Tracks Alan Levine's Cool Tech RSS Feed Mix It Up Scratch Off Date Nights

Would you like to enjoy an uninterrupted adult conversation for once, without a little one tugging on your arm and whining, “Hey Mom…hey Mom?” Are you administering consequences for the same acts of disobedience day in and day out, but it doesn't seem to be working? Join Ginger Hubbard and Alex Cody as they discuss how you can use the Wise Words for Moms chart to address these struggles and more from a heart-oriented, biblical perspective. *** For show notes and episode downloads, go to https://www.gingerhubbard.com/podcast/episode-274-cheating-interrupting-disobeying   *** Support this podcast:   https://www.gingerhubbard.com/support *** Sponsor for this episode:   CTC Math | ctcmath.com We Heart Nutrition | weheartnutrition.com, code GINGER REDEEM HealthShare 

Would you like to enjoy an uninterrupted adult conversation for once, without a little one tugging on your arm and whining, “Hey Mom…hey Mom?” Are you administering consequences for the same acts of disobedience day in and day out, but it doesn't seem to be working? Join Ginger Hubbard and Alex Cody as they discuss how you can use the Wise Words for Moms chart to address these struggles and more from a heart-oriented, biblical perspective. *** For show notes and episode downloads, go to https://www.gingerhubbard.com/podcast/episode-274-cheating-interrupting-disobeying   *** Support this podcast:   https://www.gingerhubbard.com/support *** Sponsor for this episode:   CTC Math | ctcmath.com We Heart Nutrition | weheartnutrition.com, code GINGER REDEEM HealthShare 

This episode explores the difference between interrupting thoughts and suppressing emotions—and how trying to control what we feel can quietly keep us stuck. I share how I've learned to stop feeding the mental loop while still allowing emotions to move, instead of shutting them down.Why interrupting thoughts can accidentally suppress emotionsThe hidden ways we avoid feeling (and why they backfire)How to let emotions exist without making them biggerA simple, real-time process for breaking ruminationThe shift from controlling feelings → allowing them to moveThrive With Leo Coaching: If you want to reduce your psychological pain, regain your purpose and forge your own path, go to www.thrivewithleo.com to begin your journey.If you or anyone you know is considering suicide or self-harm, or is anxious, depressed, upset, or needs to talk, there are people who want to help:In the US: Crisis Text Line: Text CRISIS to 741741 for free, confidential crisis counseling. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 or 988The Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386Outside the US:International Association for Suicide Prevention lists a number of suicide hotlines by country. Click here to find them.

We had a scheduled interview with our Leading Ladies Live! show star Alexandra Kay but she was running a little late. Turns out, it was all because she was in the middle of a TikTok live! When we did get her on with us, we chatted about blowing up during COVID and her coffee line. 

Hey friends, Chase here. I want to talk about something that might be uncomfortable — but if you're willing to really look at it, it can change everything. What if you're working incredibly hard… at the wrong thing? This is one of the scariest patterns I've seen — not just in the creators I coach, but in my own life. People are climbing. Grinding. Achieving. But they're climbing a mountain that isn't theirs. What's Really Going On Most people don't realize they're succeeding at the wrong thing. From the outside, it looks like progress: Momentum Validation Money Status But internally? There's a low-grade unease. Something you can't quite name. You tell yourself: "I just need one more win." "One more level." One more external yes." But what if that feeling isn't about not being there yet? What if it's because you're on the wrong mountain entirely? Why This Happens We humans are mimetic creatures. We learn what to want by watching what other people want. In a world optimized for visibility, comparison, and performative success… that instinct goes into overdrive. We chase what's celebrated. We optimize for what's rewarded. We pursue what looks like a "good life" from the outside. And somewhere along the way, we stop asking the most important question: Why am I doing this? Not the polite answer. Not the resume answer. Not the Instagram caption. The honest one. The Core Idea When you're unclear on your why, you default to someone else's. And when that happens, success becomes incredibly easy to misplace. You can chase: 100,000 followers A bigger team More money A certain lifestyle But if you don't know why… You can end up winning a game you never meant to play. What You'll Hear in This Episode Why we unknowingly adopt other people's goals How mimicry shapes our definition of success The danger of chasing external validation without internal clarity Why "one more win" can actually be a trap How to start defining your own version of success Timecodes (So You Can Jump to What You Need) 02:00 – The idea of climbing the wrong mountain 03:02 – The feeling of low-grade unease 03:27 – Mimetic behavior: why we want what others want 04:16 – The most important question: why? 05:21 – Why people succeed at the wrong thing 05:47 – The reframe: you might be pursuing the wrong end 06:13 – That restless feeling is actually alignment 07:06 – Clarity over chaos: small shifts, not big resets 07:33 – Interrupting mimicry 08:06 – Trading achievement for energy 08:29 – Choosing one honest action 09:16 – Stop outsourcing your ambition 09:38 – The danger of succeeding at the wrong thing 09:59 – Finding your mountain If You Feel That Unease, Read This That restless feeling you can't shake? It's not dissatisfaction. It's alignment trying to get your attention. And the fix isn't blowing up your life. It's pausing. Pausing long enough to get honest about what you actually want. Not what looks good. Not what's rewarded. Not what other people expect. What's true for you. Three Ways to Reorient Yourself 1. Interrupt the Mimicry If nobody could see what I'm doing, would I still want this? 2. Trade Achievement for Energy Which of your recent wins actually energized you — not just relieved pressure? 3. Choose One Honest Action Do one small thing aligned with what you actually care about — even if no one sees it. The Truth Most People Learn Too Late The fastest way to feel trapped isn't failure. It's succeeding at something that was never yours. I've lived this. I've climbed the wrong mountains. And when I found the right one? Everything changed. Your Assignment This week, get clear. What would you pursue if no one was watching? What actually energizes you? What's your mountain? You don't need a perfect plan. You just need enough clarity to take one honest step. Until next time: Stop chasing someone else's definition of success. Get clear on your mountain. And start climbing the one that's actually yours.

The Mancave discusses all the news from the week! Brazil outlaws interrupting a woman or even doubting a woman, Canada criminalizes the Bible, More "No Kings" rallies full of deranged and mentally ill folks, and the Green Party of Canada has their party convention and it was as you might expect....And much more!

Are you finding it impossible to stop the worry today? If you are caught in a cycle of checking, scanning, and returning to the same health-related thoughts over and over, you are not alone. This is health anxiety, and your mind isn't malfunctioning—it is simply a sign that your nervous system is working very hard and hasn't yet been given permission to rest.In this session, Martin Hewlett—Clinical Hypnotherapist and former Paramedic—guides you through the creation of a mental sanctuary, a place where no worry can enter without your permission. Drawing on years of experience in the back of an ambulance, Martin explains the difference between vigilance and safety, helping you step sideways out of the health anxiety loop and into a place of genuine, lasting anxiety relief.Episode Chapters00:00 – Intro: A Paramedic's Perspective on Health Anxiety 01:25 – Foundation: Building Your Mental Sanctuary 03:00 – The Mechanism: Why Vigilance Is Not Safety 04:15 – Interrupting the Loop: Stepping Sideways into Stillness 05:40 – Subconscious Healing: Affirmations for a Safe Body 08:05 – 3 Daily Caring Tips for Managing Health Worry 09:30 – Outro: Your First Step Toward Lasting Self-Care Affirmations for Health Anxiety ReliefRepeat these internally to reclaim your sense of safety:My body is doing its job without my help. The worry is a visitor. It does not live here. I am allowed to rest. I am safe. I am here and I am enough. 3 Daily Caring TipsName Your Sanctuary: Give your safe place a specific word or color. The more specific it is, the faster your nervous system learns to find it when distress surfaces.Set a Worry Window: If your worry is persistent, allow yourself just 10 minutes to think about it consciously, then close the gate. Everything else stays outside.Notice What Didn't Happen: Your body kept going today through every thought your mind put it through. Give your body the credit it deserves.You have already taken a meaningful act of self-care. Choosing guided meditation over a search engine is your first step toward real anxiety relief. If this session helped you find a moment of peace, please share it with someone else in need of calm today.I am always here for you. Take care of yourself and love all that you are.I'm Martin. This is Calming Anxiety. Be Kind

Do you find yourself lying awake, unable to stop worrying about your health? When the house is quiet and the world slows down, health anxiety and "symptom checking" can become overwhelming.In this session, Martin Hewlett—a clinical hypnotherapist and former paramedic—guides you through a "Night Calm" practice specifically designed to interrupt the health worry loop. Drawing on years of frontline emergency experience, Martin explains the difference between what your mind tells you at 2:00 AM and what your body is actually doing. Using the power of your parasympathetic nervous system, you will learn to move from a state of hyper-vigilance into deep, safe rest.Episode Chapters00:00 – Intro: The Paramedic's Perspective on Health Anxiety 01:30 – Physiology of Calm: Activating the Parasympathetic System 03:15 – Releasing the Day: Sinking into Deep Rest 05:00 – Interrupting the Loop: Visualization & Affirmations 07:45 – 3 Daily Caring Tips for Health Anxiety Relief 08:50 – Outro: Be Kind to Your Beautiful Self Affirmations for Health AnxietyRepeat these internally to break the pattern of illness anxiety:I am not my symptoms. I am not my search history. I am here—breathing, present, and safe. 3 Daily Caring TipsClose the Tabs: If you have been searching symptoms tonight, close those browser tabs. Your mind cannot find peace within a search engine.Check Your Jaw: Right now, let it drop. Release the physical tension you have been holding.Acknowledge the Effort: Worrying is exhausting. Give yourself credit for taking these 10 minutes to do something different.Break the cycle of panic and worry today.Take the next step in your recovery with the Anxiety Circuit Breaker Course. Over 6 hours of clinical guidance to help you regain control.Join now at calminganxiety.fm for only $67.

Episode SummaryIn this third episode of the March basketball series, Molly shares transparently about a recent three-week stretch of travel that disrupted her Mostly Alcohol-Free rhythm.With retreats, vacation, conferences, disrupted sleep, and limited access to her usual alternatives, she drifted from her typical low-risk limits and had fewer alcohol-free days than usual.Instead of spiraling, she chose to rebound.This episode explores the neuroscience of short-term pattern shifts, why regulation comes before restriction, and how to interrupt a streak without shame. Molly shares her real-time rebound plan — including five alcohol-free days this week — and what she'll do differently next time.Drifting happens.Rebounding builds self-trust.In This EpisodeWhy travel and novelty increase dopamineThe impact of sleep disruption on regulationHow environment shapes drinking behaviorWhy streaks strengthen neural pathwaysThe difference between drifting and spiralingWhy curiosity regulates and shame dysregulatesMolly's five-day rebound planKey TakeawaysDrift is human.Regulation comes first.Interrupting a streak restores flexibility.Pre-decision reduces in-the-moment choices.You are defined by your response, not your slip.ReflectionIf you've drifted recently, ask yourself:What contributed to it?What would your rebound look like this week?What can you pre-decide next time?Work With MollyLearn more at:www.mollywatts.comOr email: molly@mollywatts.comLow risk drinking guidelines from the NIAAA:Healthy men under 65:No more than 4 drinks in one day and no more than 14 drinks per week.Healthy women (all ages) and healthy men 65 and older:No more than 3 drinks in one day and no more than 7 drinks per week.One drink is defined as 12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine, or 1.5 ounces of 80-proof liquor. So remember that a mixed drink or full glass of wine are probably more than one drink.Abstinence from alcoholAbstinence from alcohol is the best choice for people who take medication(s) that interact with alcohol, have health conditions that could be exacerbated by alcohol (e.g. liver disease), are pregnant or may become pregnant or have had a problem with alcohol or another substance in the past.Benefits of “low-risk” drinkingFollowing these guidelines reduces the risk of health problems such as cancer, liver disease, reduced immunity, ulcers, sleep problems, complications of existing conditions, and more. It also reduces the risk of depression, social problems, and difficulties at school or work. ★ Support this podcast ★

Most of us believe we're choosing how we respond to what we see online—but often, our nervous system has already decided for us. In this episode, you'll learn how to recognize when autopilot has taken over, what activation actually feels like in your body, and how to create just enough space to interrupt the pattern. This isn't about suppressing your reactions or caring less—it's about reclaiming the ability to choose your response with intention. Because the more you interrupt autopilot, the more you return to clarity, self-trust, and conscious leadership over your own life.

This week, Erika and Kristen take a brief detour from the usual Regretful Parents subreddit and dive into a viral post from the “Am I Overreacting?” corner of Reddit. The situation? A mom who hasn't had a solo shower in four days after caring for two sick kids alone while her husband enjoyed a bachelor party weekend. She finally gets a moment to herself… only to have it interrupted.When her husband returns home, things quickly spiral from mildly inconsiderate to fully infuriating. Instead of watching their one-year-old for five minutes while she showers, he places the baby in a playpen and leaves the house to run an errand. The result is a text exchange so ridiculous that Erika and Kristen perform a dramatic reenactment — and have plenty to say about communication, mental load, and weaponized cluelessness in parenting partnerships.Is the original poster overreacting… or is this guy just the worst?What We Talk AboutThe realities of parenting while your partner is awayWhy moms so often feel like they need to “ask permission” for basic self-careWhether the OP should have been more direct—or if the husband should have used common senseA dramatic reading of the couple's painfully awkward text exchangeThe absolute audacity of leaving a baby alone during a showerThe difference between a partner and an extra child you have to manageThe fantasy revenge scenarios we'd personally consider in this situationReddit's best comments roasting this guyMORE FROM USWebsite: https://www.dinkypod.com/ Patreon: https://patreon.com/dinkypod Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dinky--5953015/support.

In this episode, Jogen explores how Zen practice extends beyond the meditation cushion into the challenges of everyday life. From observing habitual thought patterns and interrupting unhelpful mental habits to cultivating pockets of quiet mind in daily tasks, he emphasizes continual practice as a path to clarity, awareness, and grace. Listeners are invited to engage with their own minds, relationships, and routines as living opportunities for mindfulness, reflection, and transformation. ★ Support this podcast ★

 Inflammation has become a central theme in health discussions, especially for cancer survivors seeking to support their healing and overall wellness. Today on Beating Cancer Daily, Saranne welcomes Jacqui Bryan, a functional medicine expert and longtime survivor, to discuss the significance of phosphatidylcholine (PC) in supporting cell health, reducing inflammation, and boosting memory and brain function. Their engaging conversation highlights the importance of whole foods for cancer patients and caregivers, provides practical strategies for incorporating PC into daily meals, and brings humor to the sometimes tricky world of medical terminology and nutrition. Jacqui Bryan is a certified nutrition specialist, registered nurse, whole health educator, and certified health coach. With over twenty-two years as a breast cancer survivor and fifteen years in clinical practice, she uses her experience and compassion to guide patients, caregivers, and survivors toward food-based choices that protect and rebuild their health. Jacqui's expertise in functional medicine and dedication to patient empowerment make her a trusted voice within the cancer community. "Phosphatidylcholine is actually found in many foods and it's also made in the body, your body is this brilliant machine, and it really takes what it needs and then it lets go of the rest." ~Jacqui Bryan Today on Beating Cancer Daily:·     Phosphatidylcholine, or PC, is vital for supporting cell health, memory, inflammation, and liver function·     Food sources of PC include egg yolks, soybeans, preferably organic, sunflower seeds, fish, peanuts, and liver·     Cancer survivors and caregivers should focus on whole, clean foods rather than supplements for PC·     Supplements may carry risks of side effects, medication interactions, and unpredictable potency·     Whole foods containing PC offer additional benefits, such as protein and fiber, for overall well-being·     Approaches to soy in cancer diets vary and should be based on individual health and medical advice·     Moderation is key; excessive PC or supplement use can cause unwanted symptoms, including upset stomach, sweating, and fishy body odor·     Always consult with medical providers before introducing supplements, especially for those in active cancer treatment or with chronic conditions. Guest Contact Information: Jacqui Bryan 2025 People's Choice Podcast Awards Best Health Series FinalistRanked the Top 5 Best Cancer Podcasts by CancerCare News in 2024 & 2025,and #1 Rated Cancer Survivor Podcast by FeedSpot in 2024 to 2025. Beating Cancer Daily is listened to in 140 countries across 7 continents and features over 400 original daily episodes hosted by Stage IV survivor Saranne Rothberg. To learn more about Host Saranne Rothberg and The ComedyCures Foundation:https://www.comedycures.org/ To write to Saranne or a guest:https://www.comedycures.org/contact-8 To record a message to Saranne or a guest:https://www.speakpipe.com/BCD_Comments_Suggestions To sign up for the free Health Builder Series live on Zoom with Saranne and Jacqui, go to The ComedyCures Foundation's homepage:https://www.comedycures.org/ Please support the creation of more original episodes of Beating Cancer Daily and other free ComedyCures Foundation programs with a tax-deductible contribution:http://bit.ly/ComedyCuresDonate THANK YOU! Please tell a friend whom we may help, and please support us with a beautiful review. Have a blessed day! Saranne

In this episode, Sathiya unpacks whether porn addiction is more like cocaine or alcohol — and explains why the answer is actually both. Drawing from neuroscience and personal experience, he breaks down how pornography hijacks the brain through rapid dopamine spikes (like cocaine) while also becoming a predictable emotional coping tool (like alcohol). He explains why minimizing porn leads to ineffective recovery strategies and why willpower alone fails. Because porn trains both the brain's reward system and emotional regulation system, recovery must intentionally retrain both.  Sathiya closes with practical steps: interrupt dopamine loops by optimizing technology, identify what porn has been providing emotionally, and pursue freedom in community rather than isolation.  

You walk into a networking event. You hover. You don't want to bother anyone. Or you send a follow-up email that says "just checking in." Or you audition without really framing who you are or why you're there. And then nothing happens, and you think, I'm doing everything right. Why isn't this working? Here's what I think is actually going on. It's not effort. It's orientation. What "Subtle Intrusion" Actually Means I want to unpack a phrase that sounds edgy but isn't what you think. Subtle intrusion is not manipulation. It's not loud. It's not ego. It's the art of placing yourself where opportunities happen, strategically, intentionally, and with respect for the room you're entering. Influence doesn't come from volume. It comes from clarity. As actors, we're trained to pour out, to express, to expand. But nobody really teaches you how to be seen in business spaces. So most of us figure it out by trial and fire, usually after a few cringe-worthy networking moments and a string of emails that went nowhere. The Two Traps Most Actors Fall Into Trap one: thinking that being loud and flashy gets you noticed. Trap two: thinking that staying quiet keeps you safe. Neither works. The people who build real careers are the ones who enter with intention, speak with awareness, and follow through with respect. That's not a personality type. It's a learnable skill. What Intentional Presence Actually Looks Like Before you step into any room, physical or digital, I want you to notice the rhythm first. Observe. Orient. Then insert. Your first sentence is not your line. It's your offer of value. And your follow-up? Never "just checking in" or "bubbling this back up." Instead: here's where we left off, here's what I suggest next. That's it. Clean, clear, useful. Be predictable in how reliable you are. Be unpredictable in your value. People remember consistency and clarity, not chaos. The Email Problem (Yes, This Applies There Too) I'll call it out directly. Most actors write emails that ask too much, ask too little, lack structure, or feel emotionally loaded. A subtle intrusion email is clear. It gives a reason. It gives an action. It makes responding easy without forcing a response. If your emails run three times longer than they need to, that doesn't read as thorough. It reads as anxious. And anxiety is not confidence. I have three email courses for exactly this reason. One for agents, one for cold leads, and one for casting directors and other entertainment industry contacts, because each of those relationships requires something different from you. The Real Reason It Feels Uncomfortable If subtle intrusion sounds hard, I think I know why. You don't fully trust that you're enough without all the effort. So you overcompensate. You flood the space. You over-explain, over-perform, overshare. And it doesn't land the way you want it to. Professional energy is steadiness. It means you don't emotionally offload onto strangers. You don't need immediate validation. You show up anchored, and anchored reads as competent. Your Homework Pick one area. Auditions, emails, meetings, content, conversations. Ask yourself: where am I adding noise instead of clarity? Then remove one thing. One extra sentence. One unnecessary explanation. One emotional hedge. See what happens. You don't need permission to take up space. You need awareness of how you take it. Want to Talk Through This? Set up a free consult with me. Reach out at mandy@actingbusinessbootcamp.com and grab a spot on my calendar. Let's talk clarity and systems.

Most of us know about the “fight, flight, freeze” responses to trauma. But there is another concept that has been steadily gaining awareness over the last several years, in large part due to pop psychology on social media: Fawning.You might have heard it described as akin to extreme people-pleasing, over-accommodating, over-functioning, and fundamentally a problem in the person doing the fawning. But as my guest today illuminates for us, it's not a personal failing, or even always a conscious choice. It is human nature to prioritize safety and connection, and fawning is a means of keeping ourselves safe. But when fawning runs the show, self-leadership diminishes and quietly drifts toward conflict-avoiding, blurred boundaries, and self-abandonment.Waking up to your fawning response takes courage. You will meet resistance from some as you shift the dynamics of your relationships. But it also unlocks deeper intimacy, more honest connection, and the joy that comes from trusting yourself and letting others meet the real you.This conversation invites you to consider where and with whom you fawn, and how you might want to respond in the future. Fawning has a real purpose when safety is on the line, but the more we are aware of it, the more we can be intentional about how we show up in our relationships.Ingrid Clayton is a licensed clinical psychologist with a master's degree in transpersonal psychology and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. In her private practice in Los Angeles she supports individuals in healing trauma, reclaiming agency, and reconnecting to their authentic selves.She is a regular contributor to Psychology Today, and her work has been featured in Oprah Daily, The New York Times, Women's Health, Forbes, 10% Happier with Dan Harris, Girls Gotta Eat, and NPR's On Point with Meghna Chakrabarti. Ingrid's latest book, Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves and How to Find Our Way Back, explores the often-overlooked fawn response to trauma.Listen to the full episode to hear:Why fawning shows up as an unconscious response to ongoing relational traumaHow understanding fawning helped Ingrid understand and heal from her own complex traumaHow our culture demands and reinforces fawning for women and marginalized peopleThe often very real bind of choosing safety over self and the feedback loop it createsAccessible practices to build a sense of internal safety and self-trustHow chronic fawning and self-abandonment contribute to burnoutLearn more about Ingrid Clayton, PhD:WebsiteInstagram: @ingridclaytonphdFacebook: @ingridclaytonphdYouTube: @ingridclaytonphdUnfawning on SubstackFawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves–and How to Find Our Way BackBelieving Me: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Complex TraumaLearn more about Rebecca:rebeccaching.comWork With RebeccaThe Unburdened Leader on SubstackSign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader EmailResources:What Is the Fawning Trauma Response? | Psychology TodayPeter LevineThe Greatest Showman Cast - This Is MeThe Traitors

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)We break down escalation loops in co‑parenting, why they entrench, and how divorce coaches can interrupt them with practical, evidence‑informed tools. We share the pause protocol, BIF writing, nervous‑system resets, and real‑time awareness checks that end reactive volleys and protect the long game.• definition of escalation loops and why they persist in divorce• reactive communication and negative reciprocity mechanics• amygdala hijack and dysregulation as baseline conditions• pattern entrenchment and confirmation bias reinforcing the story• the pause protocol as an active strategy• choosing structured channels and using BIF for concise replies• loop awareness questions to stop mid‑exchange• regulate first, respond second using body‑based tools• reframing the real goal from winning arguments to stable co‑parenting• the coach's role as steady, strategic partnerIf today's episode was useful to you, please share it with a colleague, leave a review wherever you listen to your podcast, or come find me at the DCA community. And if you would like to learn more about the training we provide to support the professional practice of divorce coaches, please check us out at divorcecoachesacademy.com This episode includes a sponsored segment featuring Soberlink, a court-recognized alcohol monitoring system designed to support families navigating divorce and co-parenting. Soberlink provides objective, real-time accountability that helps reduce conflict, increase trust, and support safer parenting arrangements when alcohol use is a concern. Learn more about Soberlink and their professional resources at soberlink.com. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Welcome to episode 3 of Reclaim Your Calm! This is a 5-episode podcast mini-course for HSPs who are ready to quiet the mental spirals, interrupt unhelpful thoughts, and reconnect with their calm. Each episode combines mindset work with gentle nervous system support so you can stop spiraling and start feeling more grounded. Through real talk, guided reflections, and somatic tools, you'll learn to rewrite the stories that keep you stuck and come back to yourself, one breath at a time.In this episode:When you feel overwhelmed, it's easy to spiral fast. This episode teaches you how to gently disrupt that cycle with real-time tools like breathwork, movement, and sensory resets so you can ground yourself when it matters most.Becoming You is a 1:1-centered healing mentorship for highly sensitive people who want lasting inner change. This work blends deep emotional support, subconscious belief clearing, and gentle integration—so healing doesn't just make sense, it actually sticks. Learn more & apply now⁠Leave a voice memo (a story, a question, a helpful tip, etc.) to be played in a future episode!⁠⁠Join our HSP Community⁠– free private online group & live monthly meetings ($25/month for live meetings)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Lauren's email list⁠ to access her free mini-course, Embracing Your Sensitivity⁠Become a Patreon subscriber for bonuses and to help support the podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect with Lauren on Instagram:⁠ @⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠iamlaurenlasalle⁠If you have ideas for episode topics, questions for Lauren to answer on the podcast, or if you would like to write an email sharing your story for Lauren to read on the podcast, email ⁠lauren@laurenlasalle.com⁠ (email title: For Podcast).You can find out more about Lauren's programs and links to her social media at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠laurenlasalle.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Brian and Kristen return after completing their homework: mapping their recurring conflict pattern step-by-step. And something shifts. Instead of focusing on who's right, they begin identifying when the pattern starts, how it escalates, and where they might choose something different. They talk about having a “good week,” more laughter, and fewer misunderstandings—but Zach presses deeper: Was it luck, or was it intentional? What unfolds is a layered conversation about stress, chronic pain, medication changes, PMS, defensiveness, and the powerful internal story Brian carries that says, “If there's a problem, it must be me.” Zach helps them connect the dots between depression's lies, physiological stress, and how quickly neutral requests can turn into personal threat. The couple names their 10-step pattern openly—fight or flight, overthinking, mounting a defense, physical withdrawal—and begins experimenting with something new: interrupting the script before it reaches step six. This episode isn't about resolution. It's about pattern awareness and learning how to redirect before old muscle memory takes over. They close by identifying the next layer to explore in Episode 3: their over-functioner / under-functioner dynamic—and how it triggers deeper family-of-origin wounds. Key Takeaways A “good week” is often intentional, not accidental Externalizing the problem (“us vs. the schedule”) strengthens the team Physiological stress (sleep, pain, hormones, meds) directly impacts conflict Depression distorts perception and reinforces “I'm the problem” narratives Defensiveness often protects something deeply valuable Mapping a conflict pattern creates space for choice Interrupting the script—even once—builds momentum Repair matters more than resolution “Something new” is the antidote to “more of the same” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Brian and Kristen return after completing their homework: mapping their recurring conflict pattern step-by-step. And something shifts. Instead of focusing on who's right, they begin identifying when the pattern starts, how it escalates, and where they might choose something different. They talk about having a “good week,” more laughter, and fewer misunderstandings—but Zach presses deeper: Was it luck, or was it intentional? What unfolds is a layered conversation about stress, chronic pain, medication changes, PMS, defensiveness, and the powerful internal story Brian carries that says, “If there's a problem, it must be me.” Zach helps them connect the dots between depression's lies, physiological stress, and how quickly neutral requests can turn into personal threat. The couple names their 10-step pattern openly—fight or flight, overthinking, mounting a defense, physical withdrawal—and begins experimenting with something new: interrupting the script before it reaches step six. This episode isn't about resolution. It's about pattern awareness and learning how to redirect before old muscle memory takes over. They close by identifying the next layer to explore in Episode 3: their over-functioner / under-functioner dynamic—and how it triggers deeper family-of-origin wounds. Key Takeaways A “good week” is often intentional, not accidental Externalizing the problem (“us vs. the schedule”) strengthens the team Physiological stress (sleep, pain, hormones, meds) directly impacts conflict Depression distorts perception and reinforces “I'm the problem” narratives Defensiveness often protects something deeply valuable Mapping a conflict pattern creates space for choice Interrupting the script—even once—builds momentum Repair matters more than resolution “Something new” is the antidote to “more of the same” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We communicate every day, yet we rarely stop to think about what we are actually doing when we enter a conversation. In this episode, Trisha and Elissa explore the basics of communication through a simple but powerful metaphor: conversation as a game of catch. What does it mean to throw well? To catch well? To take turns? To play generously? Together they unpack how conversations flow, how they break down, and how we can become more mindful, generous participants in the everyday exchanges that shape our relationships at work, at home, and in our communities.   Conversation Overview Conversation as a game of catch Throwing and catching: sending and receiving skills Interrupting, over-talking, and holding the ball Asking good questions and keeping the game moving Generosity, anxiety, and when catch turns into dodgeball Staying in the game instead of taking the ball home   Guest Bio Elissa Lappenga is a professional educator, trainer, and coach with over 20 years of experience in education, non-profit, corporate, and community settings. Elissa earned her Master of Education (M.Ed.) from UCLA with a concentration in counseling and was one of the first facilitators of the university's Intergroup Dialogue program. She also maintains a SHRM-CP certification with the Society for Human Resources Management and is a PROSCI certified change management practitioner.   Resources and References Mentioned Elissa on The Leaders Journey Register for the Upcoming Zoom: How to Have a Converstation

Our custom is to extend the "Yeheh Shemeh Rabba" response during Kaddish all the way to "Da'amiran Be'alma." It sometimes happens that the Hazzan does not recite "Yeheh Shemeh Rabba" slow enough to allow the congregation to complete their response before he recites "De'Kudsha Berich Hu." The congregation is meant to answer "Amen" to "De'Kudsha Berich Hu," and the question thus arises as to whether they may answer if they are still in the middle of their "Yeheh Shemeh Rabba" response, having yet to reach "Da'amiran Be'alma." The Arizal, in Sha'ar Ha'kavanot, implies that one should not respond to "De'Kudsha Berich Hu" if he is still in the middle of "Yeheh Shemeh Rabba." This is the ruling of the Ben Ish Hai (Rav Yosef Haim of Baghdad, 1833-1909), in Rav Pe'alim. One could explain that the "Amen" response to "De'Kudsha Berich Hu" is less significant than the other "Amen" responses to Kaddish, as evidenced by the fact that not all customs require answering "Amen" at that point. This response therefore does not justify interrupting "Yeheh Shemeh Rabba." In truth, however, the Ben Ish Hai applied this ruling even if the Hazzan recites "Yeheh Shemeh Rabba" so fast that he reaches "Da'amiran Be'alma" before the congregation. In the Ben Ish Hai's view, even the "Amen" response to "Da'amiran Be'alma" does not justify interrupting "Yeheh Shemeh Rabba." This was the position also of Hacham Bension Abba Shaul (Jerusalem, 1924-1998). Hacham Ovadia Yosef, however, disagreed. He maintained that although one should not interrupt "Yeheh Shemeh Rabba" to respond to "De'kudsha Berich Hu," one should interrupt to respond to "Da'amiran Be'alma." Optimally, of course, the Hazzan should recite "Yeheh Shemeh Rabba" slowly, in order to allow the congregation to complete their response before the Hazzan reaches "De'Kudsha Berich Hu." The Ben Ish Hai laments the fact that he was hardly ever able to answer "Amen" to "De'Kudsha Berich Hu," because the Hazzanim in Baghdad recited "Yeheh Shemeh Rabba" too quickly. He repeatedly asked them to recite it more slowly, but they did not. The Hazzan should preferably pause before beginning "Yeheh Shemeh Rabba," and then recite it slowly, so that the congregation can finish their response in time to answer to "De"Kudsha Berich Hu." Summary: Hazzanim should recite "Yeheh Shemeh Rabba" in Kaddish slowly, to ensure that the congregation completes their response in time to answer "Amen" to "De"Kudsha Berich Hu." If one has yet to complete his "Yeheh Shemeh Rabba" response before the Hazzan reaches "De"Kudsha Berich Hu," he should not interrupt his response to answer "Amen." Regarding one who does not finish his "Yeheh Shemeh Rabba" response before the Hazzan reaches "Da'amiran Be'alma," different views exist among the Poskim as to whether he should interrupt his response to answer "Amen" at that point.

Have you ever had someone interrupt your conversation? Those moments tend to reveal what's already in our hearts - either frustration, indifference, or grace. We want to be a people who choose to see God's surprises as Him calling our names and getting our attention so He can fuel our fires.