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In this episode, Hannah interviews one of the Libido Fairy coaches, Shannon Hamaker. Shannon is a certified sex coach, educator, and somatic practitioner on a mission to help people shed shame and reconnect with their authentic sexual selves with a specialization in midlife, menopause, perimenopause, and pelvic floor pain. Learn about how to work with us: https://hannah-deindorfer.mykajabi.com/90-day-intimacy-accelerator

In this episode, Hannah talks about foundational ideas that can help women who struggle with desire finally understand more about what's going on in the bedroom. Free quiz mentioned in the episode: https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/6552a91c0f189100149493e1 Get support from The Libido Fairy team: https://hannah-deindorfer.mykajabi.com/90-day-intimacy-accelerator

In this episode, Hannah's interviewed by Abigail Jensen on Rat Girls podcast. We walk through how to go from faking orgasms to enjoying mind-blowing sex with your partner and finding pleasure within yourself. From nervous system regulation, to identifying what you want, to desire types. Learn more about how to work with our team here: https://hannah-deindorfer.mykajabi.com/90-day-intimacy-accelerator

Today I'm interviewing one of the incredible coaches on my team that works with our students, Bri Carey. Bri is a postpartum intimacy expert and certified sex and relationship coach with over 17 years of experience in sexual health education. Her specialization is in helping parents rebuild intimacy, improve communication, and find their way back to one another. We are giving SO MUCH practical knowledge here for moms and parents and I hope you love the episode. Learn more about Bri: https://www.instagram.com/_brianna_carey_/ How we can help you: https://hannah-deindorfer.mykajabi.com/90-day-intimacy-accelerator

In this episode, Hannah is breaking down the seven biggest libido lies that are keeping you stuck, and giving you the truth so you can finally feel empowered and turned on again.

In this episode, Hannah is interviewed on the Fluently Forward podcast to unpack the real reasons why so many women struggle with low desire in long-term relationships. From the stress connection, to the hidden role resentment plays in killing your turn-on, Hannah breaks it all down with compassion, clarity, and zero shame. We talk about: Why you're avoiding affection (hint: it's not just about your partner) How “blue balls propaganda” messed with our boundaries What responsive desire really is—and why it's not just a “you” problem Her genius tool, the Sexual Menu, that makes intimacy feel easier Bridging activities, libido myths, and how to finally enjoy sex again Free likes and limits checklist: https://hannah-deindorfer.mykajabi.com/likes-and-limits-checklist

In this episode, Hannah (aka The Libido Fairy) walks you through a practical, compassionate process for discovering what you actually want in the bedroom—so you can stop deferring, stop hoping your partner reads your mind, and start having sex that feels good for you. Turn on type quiz: https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/6552a91c0f189100149493e1

If you're a high-achieving, do-it-right kind of woman who finds herself overthinking, shutting down, or checking out during sex—you're not alone. In this episode, Hannah (aka The Libido Fairy) unpacks how perfectionism is sabotaging your pleasure, why “good girls” often struggle in the bedroom, and what to do when sex starts to feel like another thing to perform or fix.

Feeling like you should want sex more — but you don't? You're not broken, but you might be making a few common mistakes without realizing it. In this episode, Hannah (aka The Libido Fairy) unpacks the sneaky habits that make it harder to feel turned on, connected, and excited about sex in your relationship — and why it's not your fault.

In this episode, Hannah (aka The Libido Fairy) breaks down the real reasons why women get stuck in their heads during sex—like stress, performance pressure, and nervous system dysregulation—and how to finally get out of your mind and back into your body. You'll learn: Why it's not a personal flaw—it's a nervous system pattern How performance and people-pleasing kill pleasure The top 5 tools to feel more present, relaxed, and turned on Why redefining success in sex is the key to enjoying it This episode is packed with practical tips and loving reminders for any woman who wants to stop checking out during sex—and start truly feeling it.

In this episode, I'm sharing the five things I wish someone had told me back then—the things that could've saved me years of faking it, freezing up, and feeling broken. You'll learn:

Ever wonder how couples with mismatched sex drives actually make it work? In this episode, I'm giving you a real, behind-the-scenes look into my relationship with my partner Taylor—and exactly how we navigate our desire discrepancy without pressure, guilt, or disconnection. You'll learn:

Most people think sexual compatibility is either there or it's not—like some magical, uncontrollable force. But that's bullshit. In this episode, I'm busting that myth and breaking down what actually makes you and your partner sexually compatible. I'll walk you through 7 real signs of sexual compatibility, including: ✅ The #1 thing that matters most (hint: it's not your sex drive) ✅ How to tell if your partner is willing to collaborate or just compromise ✅ Why effort—not “chemistry”—is the key to long-term passion ✅ The surprising reason respecting a no actually leads to more yeses If you've ever worried that you and your partner are just sexually incompatible or questioned whether you're in the right relationship, this episode will help you get real answers. Let's dive in and talk about what it actually takes to create a sex life that works—for both of you.

The best sex you've ever had is on the other side of deep emotional connection with your partner. And the opposite is true, too – when you are not on the same page emotionally with your partner, sex can feel even more disconnecting. So, how do you build this amorphous thing called emotional intimacy? I'll tell you.

In this episode, I'm breaking down: ✔️ The five steps to reclaiming your sexual power ✔️ How to identify the beliefs that are keeping you small ✔️ Why women lose connection to their desire in the first place ✔️ How to stop performing and actually enjoy sex for yourself ✔️ Why your pleasure is NOT an inconvenience (and how to ask for what you want) Your sexual power has always been yours. Now it's time to own it.

In this episode, Hannah breaks down her answer to whether or not relationships need sex to survive.

If you're struggling to orgasm with your partner, it's not because something is wrong with you. So many women can orgasm alone but not with a partner—or feel like their body just won't cooperate, no matter how much they want to climax. And here's the thing: it's not just about technique. There are hidden reasons why orgasms feel out of reach, and today, I'm breaking down the five biggest ones—and how to fix them. In this episode, we'll cover: ✔️ The #1 mistake stopping women from orgasming (it's not what you think) ✔️ How stress & your nervous system affect your ability to climax ✔️ The breathing mistake that blocks orgasms mid-build-up ✔️ Why more foreplay = better orgasms (and how to slow things down) ✔️ The essential tool most people skip (hint: it's lube) ✔️ The power of communication & how to ask for what you need in bed

In this episode, I'm breaking down: The biggest myth about libido that's keeping you stuck Why your desire disappears in long-term relationships The real reason you want sex when you do How to identify your unique motivators for intimacy The question that will completely change how you see desire If sex has started to feel like another chore on your to-do list, this episode is for you.

In this episode, Hannah shares a personal story of her experience uncovering the way she was being inauthentic in sex and shares tips for feeling more confident taking up space in sex and allowing yourself to feel more pleasure.

Do you ever say yes to sex when you really mean no? You're not alone—so many women fall into this pattern out of fear of disappointing their partner or avoiding awkward conversations. But saying yes when you don't mean it doesn't just hurt you—it can lead to resentment, disconnection, and a lack of desire over time. In this episode, I'm breaking down why we say yes when we mean no, why it's time to stop, and how to create a more authentic, fulfilling connection with your partner. Learn actionable tools like the willingness scale, pleasure mapping, and how to have honest, loving conversations that transform your sex life into something you can truly enjoy.

In this episode, Hannah interviews Dr Nancy Beliveau. She is a functional medicine expert who helps women and men with complex hormonal issues so they can live their best lives. Ending needless suffering and cultivating joy is the most important part of her practice. She and her team ensure they get to the root cause of a problem, and help you to overcome it naturally and effectively so you can thrive, not just survive through life. Instead of masking every ill with a pill, try their proven approach to fix things holistically and effectively. You can sign up for one of her free online master classes at holisticwholenessinstitute.com or give their practice a call at 732-813-1133 to book a free 15-minute consultation for yourself. They are a 100% virtual practice so can help you wherever you are in the world.

In this episode of The Libido Fairy Podcast, Hannah reveals the often-overlooked secrets to creating deeply fulfilling and connected sexual experiences: what happens before and after sex. She shares how intentional preparation and aftercare can transform intimacy, enhance pleasure, and eliminate feelings of disconnection or regret.

In this episode, Hannah dives into one of the most common challenges in intimacy—faking pleasure and performing in bed. She breaks down why faking orgasms or pretending to enjoy things does more harm than good, for both you and your relationship. With practical steps and real talk, Hannah shares how to reconnect with your body, communicate honestly with your partner, and create a deeper sense of trust and intimacy. Learn how to stop enduring, start enjoying, and redefine what success in sex really means. If you're ready to leave the pressure to perform behind and build a truly fulfilling sex life, this episode is for you!

In this episode of The Libido Fairy Podcast, Hannah dives into the most powerful tools and frameworks for improving communication about sex and intimacy with your partner. Drawing from years of experience helping women create better relationships, she breaks down the essentials of effective communication. Whether you're struggling to express your desires or simply want to strengthen your relationship, this episode is packed with actionable advice to help you communicate with confidence and create deeper intimacy.

In this special year-end episode of The Libido Fairy Podcast, Hannah reflects on her personal and professional growth in 2024, sharing nine transformative lessons she's learned. From navigating public mistakes and embracing imperfection to prioritizing self-care, building a supportive team, and fostering meaningful relationships, Hannah candidly shares how these lessons have shaped her life and business. She discusses the challenges of overcoming people-pleasing, dealing with criticism, letting go of toxic relationships, and learning how to trust others and herself.

In this conversation, Hannah Deindorfer, a sex coach known as the libido fairy, discusses the importance of understanding the menstrual cycle and its impact on libido and intimacy. She emphasizes the concept of cycle syncing, which involves aligning intimacy with the different phases of the menstrual cycle to enhance emotional and physical wellbeing. Hannah provides practical tips for tracking the menstrual cycle and explores how each phase influences energy levels and sexual desire. She also addresses the effects of hormonal birth control on libido and offers insights on maintaining sexual health and pleasure.

In this episode, Hannah talks about sexual motivators, how sex drive really works, and answers the question of whether you need to have sex to have a healthy relationship.

Is sex your duty? A friend sent me this tweet yesterday about “duty sex” that is blowing up on X. I think within 2 days it had over 5 million views and the responses got dicey. We're going to check out that original tweet, read some of the wildest replies, and I'm going to give my take as a sex coach that's helped thousands of women deal with sex challenges like this.

In this episode of The Libido Fairy Podcast, Hannah breaks down the challenges and strategies for initiating sex in a way that builds intimacy and connection. She begins by explaining the different types of desire—spontaneous and responsive—and how they affect the way partners approach sex. Hannah dives into the common struggles of initiating, such as fear of rejection and mismatched desire types, and offers practical tips on how to overcome these challenges.

In this episode of The Libido Fairy Podcast, Hannah delivers 10 years of brutally honest sex advice that transforms your relationship with sex, your body, and your partner. Drawing from her experience coaching thousands of women, she dives into the most effective, no-nonsense tips that will help you reclaim your pleasure, stop faking orgasms, and boost your desire.

In this episode of The Libido Fairy Podcast* Hannah introduces a simple yet transformative bedroom tool that can enhance intimacy, boost confidence, and bring more playfulness into your sex life. Sharing personal stories and client experiences, she explains how this underrated addition can heighten your senses, reduce performance pressure, and build deeper trust with your partner. Hannah offers practical tips on how to introduce this tool into your relationship, create playful experiences, and explore new sensations, all while keeping things fun and low-pressure. If you're looking to deepen your connection and try something new without the intimidation of high-tech gadgets, this episode is for you!

In this episode of The Libido Fairy Podcast, Hannah takes on the topic of faking orgasms—a common issue for many women. Drawing from personal experiences and stories from her students, she explores the reasons why women fake it, ranging from wanting to protect their partner's feelings to feeling insecure about their own ability to orgasm. Hannah explains why faking orgasms is damaging to both personal pleasure and relationship intimacy. She shares actionable tips on how to own your pleasure, communicate openly with your partner, and prioritize connection over performance. By reclaiming your body and embracing real pleasure, you can stop the cycle of faking and start experiencing deeper sexual satisfaction. If you've ever felt the pressure to perform rather than enjoy sex, this episode will help you break free and build a more authentic and pleasurable sex life.

In this powerful episode of The Libido Fairy Podcast, Hannah dives into the topic of sexual confidence and freedom. Inspired by a conversation with one of her students in The Intimacy Accelerator, who expressed jealousy of Hannah's ease and playfulness around sex, Hannah shares what it truly takes to let go of guilt, shame, and years of awkwardness in the bedroom. She discusses how women can start feeling relaxed and free in their sexual expression by addressing deep-rooted conditioning, shifting their mindset to make sex fun and playful, reconnecting with their bodies, and communicating desires with confidence. This episode provides heartfelt guidance on how to cultivate a deeper sense of freedom and joy in your sex life. If you've ever struggled with feeling awkward or pressured during sex, this episode is for you!

In this episode of The Libido Fairy Podcast, Hannah dives into one of the most challenging aspects of intimacy: giving honest feedback about sex without hurting your partner's feelings or causing conflict. Drawing from her personal experiences and years of coaching, she shares practical tips on how to approach these conversations with compassion, openness, and curiosity. Hannah discusses why it's crucial to address discomfort rather than avoiding it, how to frame feedback in a way that builds connection, and the common mistakes people make—like waiting too long or using critical language. She also provides actionable steps to create a deeper, more fulfilling sexual connection with your partner through regular, honest communication. If you've ever struggled with giving feedback in the bedroom, this episode is for you!

In this episode of the Libido Fairy Podcast, Hannah Deindorfer busts common myths about sex in long-term relationships. She discusses how desire discrepancy (when one partner wants sex more than the other) is normal, the prevalence of responsive desire (needing emotional or physical stimulation to feel aroused), and the fact that many women don't orgasm during sex—yet this doesn't mean the sex is unsatisfying. She also addresses the importance of communicating needs, using lubrication, and embracing breaks during sex. Ultimately, Hannah emphasizes that many aspects of sexual experiences that people may find unusual or concerning are, in fact, completely normal.

In this episode, Hannah Deindorfer, the Libido Fairy, shares five actionable tips to enhance sexual satisfaction. She highlights the importance of supporting the nervous system, adding more time for foreplay, engaging in self-touch, stimulating nerve-rich areas like the clitoris and nipples during sex, and using lubrication to prevent discomfort.

In this episode, Hannah is interviewed by Marina on The Deep Within Podcast about her journey to overcoming sexual trauma, mental health issues, and gives practical tools for overcoming negative sexual experiences.

In this episode, Hannah gives simple tips to help you figure out what you want in the bedroom so you can communicate it effectively with your partner and have better sex.

In this episode, Hannah Deindorfer, also known as the Libido Fairy, dives into the critical changes you need to make in your beliefs and behaviors to reignite your sexual desire. She shares practical steps to overcome common misconceptions about sex, prioritize your pleasure, and create a more fulfilling intimate life. Learn how simple shifts can break the cycle of rejection and help you crave sex again, leading to a deeper connection with your partner.

Listen in on a conversation between The Period Nutritionist and The Libido Fairy. We chat all things women's sexual health, body connection, and regaining periods and libido.

In this episode of The Libido Fairy Podcast, Hannah dives into the rejection-pressure-avoidance cycle that so many couples face when there's a difference in libido. She breaks down why forcing yourself to have sex just to please your partner can actually harm your desire even more, and shares what you should do instead. Learn how to explore your own pleasure, build security in your relationship beyond sex, and create deeper intimacy, even when your libido levels differ.

In this episode, Hannah dives deep into the topic of intimacy avoidance. She shares her personal experiences of avoiding intimacy and provides insight into how avoidance creates a reinforcing feedback loop of fear and anxiety. Discover how fear often amplifies what isn't real and how exposure therapy can help you confront and dissolve those fears. If you've ever found yourself avoiding your partner's touch, shutting down conversations, or pretending to be asleep to avoid intimacy, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn practical tools to break the cycle of avoidance, shift towards what scares you, and ultimately, make intimacy fun and empowering again.

74% of sexless marriages end in divorce. Hannah shares seven mistakes to avoid when it comes to sex. If you're making any of these mistakes, they're a recipe for becoming that statistic.

In this episode, Hannah gives tangible tips for getting out of your head and into your body during sex so you can stop spectatoring and start experiencing more pleasure.

In this episode, Hannah is putting words to some things that can be hard for low libido partners to describe.

In this episode, Hannah talks about the secret to turning on that no one teaches in school. This week's voice memo is for you if… …you feel like it's complicated, challenging, or takes a long time for you to get turned on …you don't feel the same spark and excitement in your relationship that you did at the beginning …you wish you could snap your fingers and instantly create turn-on

In this episode, Hannah breaks down the 5 rules she uses in her relationship to keep date nights hot, exciting, and fun.

In this episode, you get two Libido Fairies answering your vulnerable questions about sex, orgasms, shame, and long-distance intimacy.

In this episode, Hannah tells a story about a recent experience she had with awkward sex and how she worked through it with her partner.

In this episode, Hannah addresses common fears about orgasm, feeling too complicated, taking too long, and other performance anxiety related challenges in the bedroom.

Join Hannah as she answers listener questions on Seggs Talk Radio Sleepover with Thea. Topics range from keeping things spicy in long-term relationships to cucking and more.