SheWolf Alchemy Podcast

Join Ress and Gabby for a hilariously insightful ride through the messy intersection of childhood wounds and modern dating. Are you really into bad texters, or is that just your inner child clinging to emotionally unavailable dad vibes? Ress breaks down how dating your “type” might actually be a subconscious stroll down memory lane, while Gabby makes the case for therapy, self-reflection, and choosing peace over chaos (hint: boring isn't always bad). Expect personal stories, uncomfortable truths, and a reminder that you don't need to be perfectly healed to date—just self-aware enough to spot your patterns and swipe differently.

Nique and Ress dive into why the American Dream feels more like a group chat myth for many millennials. From 9/11 to the 2008 crash, COVID, and today's wild job and housing markets, they unpack how their generation got dealt a rough hand. With personal stories and sharp insights, they tackle rising costs, student debt, and the pressure to “have it all” by 30. Instead, they champion community, collective care, and alternative paths—think tiny homes, remote work, and redefining success on your own terms. The key takeaway? Ditch perfection, embrace progress, and balance big dreams with bite-sized goals.

In this soul-nourishing episode, Ashley and Ress from She Wolf Alchemy unpack the wild ride from “me” to “mom.” They spill the tea on losing (and finding) yourself in the chaos of motherhood, the myth of the Supermom, and why bubble baths aren't a cure-all. With honesty and humor, they talk about setting sacred boundaries, carving out solo time (without guilt), and parenting with self-love as the compass. From burnout to breakthroughs, this convo is your permission slip to reclaim your magic—one messy, magnificent moment at a time.

Ashley and Ress discuss the concept of 'Call Me Out Therapy'—the type of therapy that involves harshly calling out clients—and the growing trend of folks wanting some one to "go awwffff" and 'get me together". We explore can this actually hinder genuine healing by creating dependency rather than fostering self-awareness and sustained progress. The hosts emphasize the significance of creating a therapeutic environment that feels safe and emotionally supportive, allowing for true accountability and growth. Ress and Ashley explore if the desire to be 'called out' is just rooted in past traumas and cultural norms, that mimic abuse disguised as healing.

Ress and Nique discuss various relationship and friendship dilemmas posted by people in online forums. The first question revolves around a woman dating a man who is still legally married and financially supporting his estranged wife. In another scenario, a woman struggles to adjust after her husband discovers he has a 9-year-old son from a previous relationship. Additional topics include a fiancée suspecting her partner is settling for her, a university student feeling isolated and struggling to make friends, and a man unsure about expressing his feelings to a friend after already being rejected by this very friend.

Ashley and Ress dive deep into the 'Lifestyle Over Love' debate, emphasizing the need to prioritize lifestyle compatibility over mere affection. Drawing from personal stories, they highlight the pitfalls of dating potential and the importance of being with someone who complements your lifestyle ambitions. The episode is peppered with humorous anecdotes about lazy exes, the necessity of dating problem solvers, and the red flags that should make you rethink your romantic decisions. The duo also tackles societal expectations, support systems, and relationship dynamics, urging listeners to choose partners that enhance their lives rather than becoming burdens. It's a lively, insightful session reminding everyone that love should never mean compromising on your way of life.

Ress and Nick of She Wolf Alchemy dive deep into the hilarious and heartfelt dilemma of choosing to have kids in your 30s and 40s. From battling the ticking biological clock to imagining wrangling toddlers in their sixties, they leave no stone unturned. The episode is a candid conversation reflecting on past parenting experiences, lifestyle shifts, and those inevitable societal pressures. Whether you're planning babies, contemplating cruisy kid-free future, or finding yourself somewhere up in the air, this episode dishes out real talk, relatable fears, and a lot of laughter. Tune in for some self-reflective exercises, personal anecdotes, and all the feels about possibly being 'old mom' or enjoying the white-furnitured, free-wheeling childfree life.

Join Nique and Ress in a breakdown of the perils of modern dating and 'being strung along' . Ever felt like you're in a relationship limbo? Or maybe you're the one dangling the strings? They dish out personal anecdotes, including unsentimental breakups, being the safe harbor for someone else's emotional baggage, and why potential is a trap. From the complexities of online dating to the illusion of endless options and the downfalls of being a placeholder. Buckle up for insights, laughter, and the harsh truths about why you should cut the string—either way.

Join Gabby and Ress as they dive into the rollercoaster world of surviving a girls' trip. They spill the tea on those unforgettable (sometimes regrettable) travel tales that leave friendships hanging by a thread - from epic Tulum clashes to almost becoming the international no-fly list stars. This episode is a compilation of the types of friends you should (or shouldn't) take on a trip, the cardinal rules of roommate assignments, and the art of balancing jam-packed itineraries. If you've ever had to navigate the minefield of trip payments, dodged travel divas, or survived drunk drama, this guide is for you! Laugh, learn, and pick up key survival tips to ensure the group trip doesn't end with someone blocking you on all social media.

Join Nique and Ress as they dive into the tricky terrain of why your besties shouldn't play therapist! They explore the emotional toll of unloading your baggage onto friends and share personal anecdotes about setting boundaries. From learning when to vent and when to seek professional help, to the importance of asking for consent before unloading your drama, this episode is packed with hilarious and heartfelt insights. Plus, they discuss how to balance emotional support with fun activities, ensuring your friendships remain vibrant and not just dumping grounds.

Join Ashley and Ress as they dive into the controversial topic of using sex as a coping skill. They revisit why hopping into bed might sound like a good distraction but explain why it can be a ticking time bomb for your emotional health. From the allure of dopamine hits and false intimacy to the potential pitfalls like codependency and emotional drainage, they cover it all. They even call out the media for glamorizing unhealthy sexual escapades and offer healthier alternatives . The message is clear: use sex for fun and connection, not as your personal stress-relief strategy.

Join Ress and Ashley on She Wolf Alchemy as they dive into the misunderstood world of mental health and accountability. They tackle the myth that a mental health diagnosis excuses bad behavior, sharing personal stories, venting and debunking TV stereotypes . From childhood trauma to navigating relationships while dealing with depression, they highlight the importance of owning up to your actions, advocating for better mental health management, and setting boundaries. They also dish out advice on forming a support system and sidestep potential pitfalls like self-diagnosing via Reddit.

In this episode of 'She Wolf Alchemy,' hosts Ress and Nique dive into quirky questions from the internet advice forums . They tackle dilemmas such as a friend debating whether to tell her friend about her cheating husband, dealing with a boyfriend's messy financial situation, making a career leap into the unknown, and deciphering mixed signals from a partner who basically screams 'I'm not ready for this!' Join them as they offer advice and share personal stories..

Join Ress and Gabi from She Wolf Alchemy as they dive deep into the murky waters of 'struggle love.' This concept, much like a full-time job with no benefits, involves one-sided efforts, endless disputes, and dating someone who believes communication is optional and therapy is witchcraft. From high school dramas to adult relationship woes, Ress and Gabi recount their own 'struggle love' scenarios, highlighting the differences between relationships in your 20s versus your 30s. Expect gaslighting, broken dreams, and endless efforts with little to no return. However, they offer a beacon of hope with insightful tips on escaping these toxic cycles, embracing self-worth, and finding a love that feels like a warm embrace rather than a cold war.

Ress and Ashley dive into the minefield known as sibling relationships in this episode of She Wolf Alchemy. They tackle everything from favorite-child syndrome to handling surprise siblings popping up out of nowhere . Whether it's treating a brother like a loan shark or figuring out if you should text or flee during family gatherings, they cover it all. They also break down the do's and don'ts of repairing strained sibling bonds, all while dropping hilarious anecdotes . Spoiler: not every sibling relationship is Mary-Kate and Ashley-level tight, and sometimes you've just got to find the natural rhythm and accept it for what it is.

Join Ress and Nique as they dive into the wild world of free spirits and the perplexing habit some people have of trying to cage them. Ress and Nique explore the emotional rollercoaster of being the untameable and those who try, often awkwardly, to tame them. Expect talk of big hair, colorful personalities, existential parenting woes, and relationships that clash between freedom and structure. With anecdotes about dating chaos, structuring finances, and the psychosocial dynamics of friendship, this is a heartfelt yet hilarious look at why some people just can't let free birds fly and a reminder that being a free spirit is a chaotic kind of magic that needs no leash.

Ress and Gabi from She Wolf Alchemy dive deep into the murky waters of frenemies, those 'friends' who might secretly hate you. They share personal stories of backhanded compliments, shady behavior, and even some wild college days. Offering tips on how to spot these toxic friendships, they emphasize the importance of trust, setting boundaries, and sometimes just disappearing gracefully. The duo also discuss why some friends might unknowingly harbor resentment and how comparison, social media, and jealousy play into it. All of this is wrapped in their signature blend of humor and raw honesty, making for an engaging and enlightening conversation on the complexities of friendships.

In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ashley and Ress dive deep into the struggles of maintaining the Christmas spirit amidst financial woes, emotional exhaustion, and the general chaos of 2024. They offer heartfelt advice on acknowledging your feelings, setting realistic expectations, and finding joy in simplicity. From insightful discussions about gift-giving on a budget, and dealing with family pressures, to innovative ways of celebrating New Year's Eve at home, this conversation is a blend of humor, vulnerability, and practical tips. Join them as they navigate the holiday craze, reminding everyone that it's okay if this Christmas looks a bit different.

Join Ashley and Ress from SheWolfAlchemy as they delve into the 'Sunken Cost Fallacy' and discuss how it impacts our relationships, friendships, and careers. In this insightful episode, they explore why people stay invested in bad situations and the emotional and financial costs of doing so. Learn how to recognize when you're caught in this trap and get practical tips on setting boundaries, seeking new perspectives, and celebrating the courage to start over. Don't let the past dictate your future—discover the freedom and happiness that comes from letting go.

In this hilarious and insightful episode, Ress and Nique of SheWolf Alchemy dive into juicy, unanswered questions from the web. They tackle dilemmas ranging from unresolved office flings to navigating elderly care, finding love, and pawning precious jewelry. The co-hosts don't hold back with their raw, genuine advice and a dash of quirky humor. They serve up the reality check some might need about situationships, misplaced feelings, and strategically dealing with stealing spouses. Whether it's about moving on, confronting your crush, or secretly stashing your jewelry, this episode has it all—with an extra helping of laughter.

In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ashley and Ress dive deep into the topic of gentle parenting, especially focusing on the Black child. Bucking tradition and critiques from older generations, they passionately explain that gentle parenting is far from letting kids run wild. Instead, it's about nurturing emotionally intelligent, self-aware, and empathetic little humans. They tackle misconceptions like 'spare the rod, spoil the child' and share personal experiences. They even touch on co-parenting challenges and dealing with family boundaries. With humor and heart, they explore the importance of creating safe spaces at home, while also ensuring kids are well-prepared to tackle the world. All in all, this is a heartfelt conversation about breaking generational cycles and guiding kids with love rather than fear.

In this episode of SheWolf Alchemy, Ress and Nique delve into the rising and complex world of house husbands! Listen as they discuss the growing number of men who trade briefcases for brooms while women climb the corporate ladder. Ress grapples with ambition versus domestic bliss, while Nique humorously tries to figure out how a house husband would work when she is trying to be a housewife. The pair talk about societal judgments, gender norms, and the occasional Xbox antics. With witty banter and personal anecdotes, they explore everything from financial dynamics to public displays of affection, striking a balance between humor and serious reflections on modern love. Don't miss out on tips for vetting house husbands and avoiding 'professional bums'—this insightful and funny look at non-traditional relationships is a must-listen!

In a thought-provoking session by Ress and Gabi of SheWolf Alchemy, they delve into the complex emotional landscape shaped by emotionally immature parents. The duo ask, 'What happens when you're the mature one in the relationship between you and your parents?' Drawing insights from Dr. Lindsay Gibson's book, 'Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents', the conversation highlights the generational patterns and impacts of parenting styles on children and their adaptation into adulthood. Gabi touches on what it feels like to have a rejecting parent that makes it feel like you are bothering them with your love. Ress explores what might happen when your parents are the "driven" type of parent that treats you as an extension of themselves instead of your own person . While the episode runs a bit longer than normal, we promise you the conversation is worth a listen!

Join Ress and Gabby on 'She Wolf Alchemy' as they tackle questions from advice forums. This episode covers dilemmas like balancing career ambitions with relationship demands, handling mishaps at work, confronting defensive partners, and navigating unexpected spicy bedroom talk. With heartfelt advice and personal anecdotes, Ress and Gabby offer listeners a mix of humor, wisdom, and relatable life lessons.

In this week's episode, hosts Ress and Gabby dive into the delightful tug-of-war between nurturing your own growth and being the ultimate do-gooder for everyone else. Ever wonder if you love yourself as much as you love everyone else? Sure, you might say “yes,” but does your daily life really show it? Ress and Gabby are here to unravel the mystery of whether being the world's best helper is actually holding you back from personal progress. They'll chat about how being too generous with your help might derail your own development, and why investing in yourself is like putting on your own oxygen mask first. They'll explore the juicy topics of discipline, accountability, and kicking the fear of failure to the curb. Plus, they'll highlight the magic of self-validation, the art of persistence, and the importance of taking concrete steps toward your goals. So tune in and get ready to rethink how you juggle helping others and chasing your dreams. This episode is your pep talk on turning obstacles into stepping stones, keeping yourself in check, practicing some self-love, and, most importantly, putting your dreams front and center. Are you ready to make yourself a priority?

In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ress and Nique serve up a sizzling conversation about the sneaky little betrayals that can sneak up on you—from family, friends, lovers, and even yourself. We're talking about those small but mighty acts of disloyalty that slowly chip away at your well-being and self-esteem if left unchecked. Tune in as we dish on the importance of spotting these casual betrayals, setting some fierce boundaries, and working through the emotions they stir up. We'll also chat about the sweet release of anger—because while forgetting might be a tall order, letting go of those toxic vibes is essential. Plus, we'll dive into the art of rebuilding trust and why it's crucial to pay attention to those repeated, minor betrayals that can add up over time. Don't miss this deep dive into reclaiming your peace and power!

Ress and Nique discuss the concept of emotional permanence, comparing it to object permanence in child development. They explore how emotional permanence: the ability to trust that others care for you, even when are they are not there constantly validating it. The question is , do I struggle to believe the love is there unless the person is right there constantly validating it for me? Do I spiral into anxious behavior to quench my thirst for validation? By reflecting on childhood experiences, they highlight the significance of things like emotional regulation. The duo emphasizes the role of self-care, therapy, and mindfulness in nurturing one's emotional health and fostering secure relationships. Through a blend of humor and insight, they underscore the journey toward personal growth, self-compassion, and emotional stability.

Ress and Nique tackle a segment called "Questions That Nobody Asked Us," where they answer questions from advice forums around the web. One users ask for advice after struggling with feeling like they will never be the "main character" in their own life. A widowed mother of two, hesitant to date seeks out advice on how to start. A young woman involved with a married man, struggles with guilt . Someone reconnects with an ex and faces confusion over mixed signals . And lastly someone questions the existence of "safe people" due to past hurtful relationships, seeking advice on trust and self-work. Ress and Nique offer heartfelt and practical advice rooted in their own experiences , emphasizing the importance of self-trust, setting boundaries, making conscious choices, and the value of personal joy.

In this episode of SheWolfAlchemy , Ress and Gabi explore the 'cool girl' archetype and its impact on relationships, drawing inspiration from the movie 'Gone Girl.' They share personal experiences about striving to fit this unrealistic and often harmful mold, while stressing the significance of being true to oneself. The conversation highlights the importance of authentic communication, self-reflection, and setting boundaries in fostering genuine connections. Additionally, the hosts discuss the role of supportive female friendships and the personal growth needed to break free from societal and media pressures. The discussion concludes with practical advice on navigating personal boundaries and living authentically.

In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, hosts Nique and Ress discuss the challenges and consequences of detachment culture on intimate and meaningful relationships. They explore the societal appeal of emotional detachment, its promotion in pop culture, and its personal impacts, including loneliness and unfulfilled bonds. They share personal experiences and emphasize the importance of vulnerability, communication, and effort in fostering authentic connections. The conversation covers the detrimental effects of playing emotional games in both romantic and platonic relationships, as well as practical steps for breaking the cycle of detachment and building stronger, healthier bonds.

In this podcast episode of SheWolf Alchemy, hosts Ashley and Ress explore the relevance of chivalry and courtship in contemporary dating. They define chivalry, share personal stories, and discuss online conversations about traditional romantic gestures. The hosts emphasize the importance of intentionality and setting boundaries in relationships while critiquing societal changes influenced by pop culture. They conclude that chivalry is still alive, requiring genuine effort and respect.

In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, hosts Ashley and Ress delve into the topic of escapism as a sole coping mechanism. They discuss the consequences of relying solely on isolation or other forms of escapism like maladaptive daydreaming, binge-watching, and substance abuse. The hosts emphasize the importance of understanding the underlying reasons for the need to escape, recount personal experiences, and stress the value of healthier coping strategies such as effective communication, community support, and emotional regulation. They conclude by highlighting the necessity of mindfulness and balanced behaviors to address life's challenges more constructively.

Ashley and Ress discuss a topic that's often overshadowed by its counterpart: the mother wound. While conversations about "daddy issues" are abundant, we rarely hear about the emotional, psychological, and sometimes physical pain inherited from mothers. This discussion aims not to bash mothers but to bring some overdue awareness to the wounds that can arise from complex mother-child relationships.

Ress and Ashley lead a thoughtful and insightful discussion on the importance of mindful social media engagement. They tackle the addictive nature of social platforms, the impact on mental health, and tips for balanced online presence, encompassing managing algorithms, emotional responses, and the thin line between online portrayal and reality. With personal anecdotes and reflections, they stress the significance of thoughtfulness in the digital world for a healthier relationship with social media.

In this episodes the ladies explore the essence of maintaining strong female friendships and community, focusing on communication, setting boundaries, and adapting to life changes. It underscores the importance of honest conversations, mutual support, and celebrating successes, while navigating challenges like toxic relationships and financial disparities.

In today's episode we delve into the theme of when something looks good on paper but the reality of it is not what we expected. We talk managing expectations in relationships, careers, and lifestyle choices. By exploring actual realities versus perceived ideals, this episode promotes introspection, reassessment of personal criteria, and alignment of choices with genuine needs. It underscores the need to adapt, evolve, and be open to change for individual growth and satisfaction.

Join Ashley and Ress on a journey through the tangled web of respectability politics! Together, they delve into its effects on marginalized communities, navigating the fine line between fitting in and staying true to yourself. From exhausting social norms to the perpetual struggle for authenticity, they shed light on the paradoxical nature of these so-called rules of engagement. Get ready for a witty discussion that emphasizes the need for critical dialogue in forging a more inclusive and just society—one that offers grace without sacrificing authenticity!

In this episode of the 'SheWolfAlchemy' podcast, hosts Ress and Ashley delve into the concept of the 'glass cliff', a situation where women, often in corporate America, are promoted to leadership positions during times of crisis with little chance of success. Using personal anecdotes and broader societal examples, they discuss how this sets women up for failure, reflecting on their own experiences with difficult leadership roles and the pressures they entail. Additionally, they touch upon the lack of infrastructure and support in these positions, the challenges of navigating corporate culture as women, and the broader implications of being set up to fail. This candid conversation sheds light on the subtle ways gender discrimination manifests in the workforce and the personal and professional ramifications of these glass cliff scenarios.

Welcome back to another QNAU ( Questions Nobody Asked US) episode where we tackle questions from online advice forums . In this episode we have a ex stalking their former flames social media pages , when they previously ghosted them after a two year relationship. One user has a better job opportunity but feels guilty about leaving their small company. The host follows up with a question from a woman struggling with extreme feelings of guilt and shame when it comes to sex. Ress and Ashley provide advice and share stories from their personal life's- even though.... no body asked. Sit back and enjoy the last QNAU !

Ress and Ashley talk about the emotionally-taxing role millennials are pigeonholed into and tango around the delicate dance of dealing with boomers in the family tree. Tune in for a hearty giggle, unexpected stories, and pearls of wisdom on establishing and respecting boundaries. This isn't your usual podcast episode—it's an entertaining expedition through life's generational rollercoaster.

Ashley and Ress discuss various aspects of adulthood, including financial responsibilities, forming friendships, perception of adulthood from their parents' perspective, and work-life balance. The hosts reflect on how different their lives are from their previous expectations and the seemingly unattainable societal standards set for them. They humorously explore concepts such as the misunderstanding around what becoming an adult truly means, and their encounters with realities of adulthood. One of the significant themes of the discussion is the challenges associated with financial independence and being responsible for personal decisions. The conversation ends on a note that there's no set path or feeling associated with adulthood, it changes with each person, and one's age doesn't necessarily reflect their level of "adulthood".

Ress and Ashley talk cults - what they are, how individuals get attracted to them and the challenges faced when leaving them. The hosts share various anecdotes and perspectives on the topic, highlighting numerous characteristics and techniques these cults utilize, such as charismatic leaders, a sense of specialness, isolation, manipulation, love bombing, and more. Ashley talks in-depth about someone she is almost certain is a cult leader/scammer of some sort and Ress discusses her likelihood of accidently funding a cult because she's a sucker for well mannered strangers with big eyes and soft voices. Come take a listen !

In this episode, Ashley and Ress discuss "medium ugly men", focusing on the concept in popular culture and online forums. Both hosts share personal anecdotes and opinions. The topics include whether relative attractiveness determines a person's behavior, the influence of ego on one's skills in bed and the impact of self-awareness.

This episode focuses on dishonesty , more specifically, lies by omission. Ashley and Ress discuss the implications of leaving out important details and how it can affect relationships. They also touch upon various aspects such as gender roles, power dynamics, trust issues, and impact of lies on mental health. While sharing personal anecdotes and societal observations, they essentially underline the importance of honesty and transparency for maintaining healthy relationships.

Ashley and Ress answer questions about a range of topics from help forums from around the web, giving advice based on their experiences. The topics discussed include dealing with a partner who lacks ambition, how to handle unfair compensation, parenting styles, and dealing with a partner's crush.

Join Ashley and Ress as they dive into the relatable and often hilarious world of millennial adulthood. From grappling with emotional intelligence to deciphering the basic mechanics of everyday tools, this dynamic duo fearlessly explores the uncharted territory of being a grown-up. Ashley and Ress dissect the reality of millennials feeling unprepared for the challenges of adulthood. From the elusive handbook on emotional intelligence to the mysteries of adulting, they've got it all covered. The hosts share personal anecdotes, touching on the struggles of understanding tools that seem to have skipped their generation. Who knew a wrench could be so intimidating?

Ashley and Ress discuss the idea of signs and signals in life, and the importance of understanding one's individual "flow". They share personal experiences and anecdotes about recognizing these signs, how they push forward through challenges and practice resiliency.

Welcome back, did you miss us? In this episode, we delve into what it means to really let go of who we thought people were . We explore what it means to accept the reality of who they are. Through insightful discussions and personal stories, Ashley and Ress discuss the liberating journey of releasing preconceived notions of celebrities. We explore what its like when a tragedy strikes in the form of mental illness or life altering diseases change the people we use to know. What happens when they no longer fit into the box we had custom made for them in our minds?

Final episode of 2023- We explore the concept of media manipulation and discuss the importance of mindfulness and recognizing biases in the media landscape. Join us for an insightful discussion on how media influences our perspectives and ways to navigate through it.

In this episode Ashley and Ress explore the nuanced experiences and perspectives of black individuals in various black spaces. Recognizing that Black people are not a monolith, we delve into the diversity of experiences within the Black community and highlight the importance of understanding and respecting the unique stories and perspectives of individuals

In todays episode Ress and Ashley talk about including your partner in holiday festivities. Can holidays be the make it or break it point for couples? Ashley talks about the importance of being able to blend your partner in with your current life. Ress discuss what this might look like if you're simply not a 'family' type of person . What kind of details should you be looking out for when you're meeting the family and friends? And at what point should you take possible red flags seriously?