Small Jar Podcast

Do you ever feel like everyone else has parenting figured out while you're struggling to keep up? In this episode, I explore why this thought comes up so often during the teen and young adult years, and how comparison can turn everyday parenting challenges into evidence that we're somehow failing. I'll also look at the hidden costs of measuring yourself against impossible standards...how it erodes your confidence, affects your relationship with your child, and keeps you focused on what's wrong instead of what's working. Most importantly, I'll share a different way to think about what it means to be a good mom during this season of motherhood. If you've ever wondered whether you're doing enough, getting it right, or somehow falling behind, this episode will help you build more trust in yourself. Because having it together isn't about being perfect...it's about continuing to show up with love, even when parenting feels hard.

Have you ever wished your teen would open up to you...but when they finally do, you find yourself giving advice, asking too many questions, or trying to fix the problem? In this episode, I explore why helping your teen feel safe enough to talk isn't about finding the perfect words. It's about understanding what's happening inside of you in those moments. I'll uncover three common mindset patterns that can unintentionally push teens away, even when they're rooted in love and good intentions. You'll learn how to let go of anxiety, stop overthinking, and show up as the calm, connected mom you want to be. Whether you're parenting teens or navigated the empty nest, this conversation will help you strengthen your relationship, practice letting go, and navigate motherhood with more confidence, self-awareness, and trust.

As much as you love your big kid, do you ever sometimes think, “I'm dreading having them home this summer?” In this episode, I'm unpacking one of the thoughts moms are often too ashamed to say out loud. As summer approaches, many of us imagine the tension, worry, conflict, or disruption that might come with having an older teen or college-aged child back under our roof. And before summer even begins, we've already convinced ourselves we know exactly how it's going to go. I'll explore why this thought creates so much emotional weight, the hidden mindset trap behind it, and how our brains turn past experiences into predictions about the future. More importantly, I'll show you how those predictions can quietly shape your relationship with your child...and steal your peace before anything has even happened. If you're parenting teens, navigating the empty nest transition, or simply wanting a more connected and peaceful summer with your child, this episode will help you let go of the story you've already written and open yourself to what's actually possible.

Have you ever noticed how quickly you move from celebrating a win for your big kid to worrying about what comes next? In this episode, I explore a hidden challenge many moms face: our tendency to rush past our kids' successes (especially the small ones) instead of fully experiencing it. After receiving incredible news from my son about a goal he had worked toward for years, I caught myself doing exactly what so many of us do. Instead of staying present in the joy, my mind immediately jumped to the next challenge and the next thing that could go wrong. That experience inspired a deeper conversation about why Moms often struggle with letting go, even when things are going well. In this episode, I share three common ways we rob ourselves of our children's wins, how our mindset keeps us focused on future worries, and why learning to be present for success is just as important as preparing for challenges. You'll leave with practical life insights to help you stay present for the moments that matter most.

If you're parenting teens or navigating the empty nest, there's a good chance you've felt it... that sense that no one else is carrying what you're carrying. Not because you don't have people around you. You might have a partner, friends, even other moms in your life. But something about this stage feels uniquely isolating. The things that are hard now are harder to say out loud. And when you do try to talk about it, you walk away feeling like the other person didn't quite get it. So you keep it in. You edit. You share just enough... and privately wonder why this feels so hard for you when everyone else seems to be managing just fine. And that story..."I'm alone in this..." starts to impact how you show up with your child. And the way you trust, or stop trusting, your own instincts. . What if that loneliness isn't telling you the truth about your situation? What if there's a different way to understand what's actually happening in your mind... and what it's costing you? Join me in this episode to feel less alone, and more present in the moments that actually matter.

If you're a mom of teens or an adult kid approaching graduation, you already know this season brings up way more than pride and excitement. One minute you're soaking it all in... the next, you're spiraling into questions like: Did I do enough? Are they ready? Why is letting go so hard? In this episode, I talk about the hidden layers underneath graduation season... the grief about time passing, the identity shift that comes with stepping out of the daily structure of motherhood, the loss of influence we feel as our kids head into their own lives, and that quiet, nagging question so many of us carry: did I get this right? Understanding what's really driving these emotions is the first step to finding your footing in this chapter of motherhood.

Do you ever feel like you just can't stop worrying about your kids? No matter how old they get or how independent they become, your mind keeps replaying conversations, imagining worst-case scenarios, and searching for ways to make sure they'll be okay. If you're a mom navigating parenting teens or the empty nest and you find yourself doing this, you are so not alone. In this episode, I'm talking about why letting go can feel so incredibly hard in motherhood and what's really happening when we get stuck in overthinking and anxiety about our kids. I share a personal story about my son that helped me see how deeply our brains and nervous systems are wired to protect the people we love, and why worry can start to feel almost impossible to turn off.

Have you ever promised yourself you'd stay calm, stop overthinking, or finally focus on yourself, only to end the day feeling frustrated that you reacted the same way again? If you're a mom navigating parenting teens or the empty nest, this episode will help you understand why that happens, and why it's not a lack of discipline. In this episode, I'm talking about the boundaries we set with ourselves and why they're often the hardest ones to keep. I'll show you how your mindset and emotions drive reactions you later regret. More importantly, I'll help you understand how to stop reacting on autopilot and start showing up with more intention and self-trust.

Have you ever caught your big kid in a lie? Well...you're not the only one. In this episode, I'm exploring why this hits us so hard in motherhood... not just because of the behavior itself, but because of what we make it mean about our kids, our relationship, and ourselves. I'll walk you through the mindset shifts that help you let go of anxiety and respond in a way that actually builds connection instead of creating more distance. This isn't about excusing the lie or letting go of your values. It's about redefining trust, setting boundaries from a grounded place, and learning how to show up as the mom you want to be, even when things feel out of control. If you're navigating the challenges of parenting teens, feeling the emotional weight of letting go, or searching for a deeper sense of purpose in this season of motherhood, this conversation will help you feel more steady, more confident, and more connected... both to your child and to yourself.

Mother's Day used to leave me feeling unexpectedly disappointed...and I know I'm not alone. If you're a mom navigating parenting teens or stepping into the empty nest, you might find yourself wondering why a day meant to celebrate motherhood can feel so heavy. In this episode, I open up about that disconnect and the invisible emotional weight so many of us carry. I take you behind the scenes of what motherhood really looks like at this stage...the constant mental loop, the overthinking, and the pressure of letting go while still wanting to stay connected. This isn't just about one day; it's about the deeper mindset that shapes how we experience motherhood, our relationships, and even ourselves. When we don't feel seen, it can create anxiety, self-doubt, and that nagging sense that we're getting it wrong. But here's what I want for you: a shift. As a life coaching practice, I help moms begin to recognize the emotional labor they carry and learn how to reduce anxiety, stop overthinking, and show up with more clarity and confidence. This episode will help you see why your experience makes sense...and how you can start giving yourself the acknowledgment you've been waiting for.

I know how easy it is to feel emotionally overwhelmed in this stage of motherhood, whether you're in the thick of parenting teens or stepping into the empty nest. I've lived it, and I see it every day in the moms I support. In this episode, I open up about why that constant pressure, worry, and mental load doesn't actually go away as our kids grow. If you've been trying to “fix” the emotional overwhelm by doing more, planning more, or even setting boundaries perfectly, this conversation will feel like a deep exhale. I walk you through a powerful mindset shift that changes how you relate to your emotions, your kids, and yourself. Because the truth is, overwhelm isn't coming from your life...it's being created in the way you're thinking about it. This is where everything opens up. When you understand what's really driving that emotional weight, you can finally start letting go without pulling away from your kids or your role as a mom. If you're craving more peace, more clarity, and a deeper sense of purpose in this next chapter, this episode will show you what's actually possible.

Have you ever noticed how much better you feel when your teen or adult child is open, responsive, or appreciative… and how quickly your mood drops when they're distant or uninterested? Like you're okay when they're okay with you, but unsettled when they're not? Today, I'm continuing the Mindset Traps of Parenting Teens and the Empty Nest series with a focus on validation seeking—the habit of relying on your child's responses to determine how you feel about yourself. In this episode, I unpack why this pattern is so common for moms in this stage of motherhood, especially as you're navigating letting go and redefining your role. You'll start to see how easy it is to tie your sense of connection, purpose, and even identity to how your child shows up. But more importantly, I'll show you what's possible when you shift this. When you stop relying on your child's responses to feel steady, you open the door to a deeper kind of confidence—one that allows you to set boundaries, trust yourself, and stay grounded no matter what. This is the work that changes how you experience both parenting teens and the empty nest, helping you feel more at peace, more connected, and more like yourself again.

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, I don't trust myself to know what to do as a mom?.. And then immediately felt a wave of guilt or shame? In this episode, I walk you through why this thought is so common in motherhood, especially as our kids grow more independent and push back in ways that challenge us. If you've been feeling lost, second-guessing your instincts, or wondering what your role even is in this next phase, this episode will help you reconnect with your inner guidance. You'll begin to see that accessing trust in this season of motherhood isn't about having all the answers. You'll walk away with a clearer understanding of what to do in those moments when you feel unsure. The result? More peace in your relationships, more confidence in your decisions, and a greater sense of control over how you show up...no matter how your big kid responds.

If you've ever felt caught between holding on and letting go as your kids grow up, this episode will feel I'm talking directly to you: the mom navigating the messy, emotional middle of the raising and launching big kids. Where you're still needed… but no longer in control. I know how confusing this stage of motherhood can feel. One moment you're deeply involved in parenting teens, and the next you're questioning your role, your boundaries, and even your sense of purpose. It's easy for your mind to spiral...into overthinking, anxiety, and the pressure to “get it right.” But what if nothing has gone wrong? In this episode, I'm sharing three powerful truths that will completely shift how you experience this transition. You'll begin to understand why letting go feels so hard, how your brain is wired to resist it, and what it really takes to let go of stress and anxiety without losing your connection to your child. If you're ready to feel more grounded, more confident, and less consumed by worry…this conversation will meet you exactly where you are.

Do you ever experience painful moments with your big kid and think, “I don't think they like me anymore." The thought brings up so much heartbreak...and even shame. You think, "How did we get here?" In this episode, I take you inside that exact experience...the overthinking after they don't text back, the knot in your stomach when they seem fine with everyone else but distant with you, the way your mind tries to make sense of it by turning it into something personal. I will show you how we unknowingly hand over our emotional power, tie our peace to our child's behavior, and start questioning ourselves in ways that create even more distance. Join me to consider that this isn't about losing your relationship… it's about finding a deeper, more grounded way to stay connected...to them, and to yourself.

If you're parenting teens or standing in the empty nest, you may be feeling a heaviness you can't quite explain. It might show up as sadness, or frustration. Maybe anxiety, or even disconnection. Whether your relationship with your big kid feels close or strained, this stage of motherhood can bring up emotions that are hard to name. In this episode, I'm talking about the grief that comes with letting go...of who your child used to be, of how your relationship once felt, and even of the version of you who knew your role so clearly. This isn't something we often talk about in motherhood. But when we don't understand what's really happening beneath the surface, it can lead to even more pain and disconnection. What I want to offer you is a different perspective that helps you see this experience not as something to fix, but as something critical to the process of letting go.

Have you ever walked away from an interaction with your big kid and thought, “I love them… but I don't actually like them right now?” And then immediately wondered what that says about you as a mom? If you're in the thick of parenting teens or navigating the emotions of the empty nest, this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale. Because you're not alone...and more importantly, there's nothing wrong with you. In this conversation, I'm getting real about those moments we don't say out loud in motherhood. I'll show you what's actually happening in your mind when those thoughts come up, and how your brain is trying (in its own imperfect way) to protect you. We'll talk about the subtle mindset patterns that keep you stuck and I'll walk you through how to shift out of those patterns so you can respond with intention instead of reactivity.

Have you ever had that moment where you realize… you can't protect your child from what they're going through? That no matter how much you love them, guide them, or worry about them...you don't actually have control? That realization can hit hard, especially when parenting teens and even well into theempty nest. If you've ever felt that mix of love, fear, frustration, and heartbreak all at once, this episode is for you. Because today, I'm sharing a personal story from one of the hardest seasons I had as a mom… and the shift that helped me stop pushing my child away, stay connected, and become stronger in the process.

Have you ever had the thought as a mom… it's all on me? If you're parenting teens or navigating the empty nest, you probably know exactly what that feels like. The constant pressure, the mental load, the overthinking… the sense that if you don't stay on top of everything, something important could slip through the cracks. In this episode, I unpack why this mindset feels so true, and why so many moms carry it. I talk about how love and responsibility get tangled together in motherhood, and how that can create anxiety, pressure, and even resentment. But here's what I want you to see: letting go doesn't mean caring less. It means learning how to show up in a way that feels more more intentional and sustainable. You'll walk away with a new perspective on what it really means to be a “good mom,” along with simple mindset shifts that can help you reduce anxiety, stop overthinking, and begin letting go—without losing connection to your child.

Have you ever felt like no matter what you do as a mom… it's just not enough? Like you should be more patient… more present… handling everything better, but you're never quite getting it right? Today, I'm continuing the Mindset Traps of Parenting Teens and the Empty Nest series with a focus on what I call the Should Trap. It's when your mind is constantly telling you what you "should" be doing that's different, but the result is that you stay stuck in guilt, pressure, and self-doubt, especially in this stage of raising teens and navigating the empty nest. You'll start to see where these “shoulds” come from, why they feel so true… and most importantly, how to step out of them so you can feel more confident, more at peace, and actually trust yourself again.

I know what it feels like as a mom of big kids to look back and think, "I wish I had done things differently." Especially when you start seeing who your child is becoming and wondering how your parenting shaped it. In this episode, I walk you through why that thought feels so heavy...and why it's not actually about the past at all. If you've been stuck in regret, overthinking your parenting decisions, or questioning whether you did enough (or too much), this conversation will help you understand what's really going on in your mind. I share how our desire for certainty and control in motherhood keeps us holding onto guilt, and how that impacts the way we show up with our kids today. You'll learn how to begin letting go, not of your child, but of the pressure, self-blame, and anxiety that come with this stage of motherhood.

Have you ever looked at your teen or adult child and wondered, Are they going to be okay? When our kids struggle, it's easy to believe that their choices today will define their entire future. In this episode, I'm going to help you understand why that fear shows up, how our expectations about our kids' potential create stress and tension, and how to support your big kid without feeling like you have to control their path. If you want to feel more calm, confident, and connected as your kids figure out their lives, don't miss this episode.

I know how painful it can feel when your relationship with your big kid changes and you find yourself thinking, “What my kid does is hurtful.” In this episode, I open up about a truth many moms experience but rarely say out loud...the heartbreak that can come up while parenting teens and young adults. If you've ever felt rejected, blamed, or unappreciated by your child, you're not alone. I share how easy it is for us moms to start questioning ourselves, overanalyze every parenting decision, and slip into patterns of overthinking or self-blame. This conversation is about more than difficult moments with our kids...it's about what letting go really means in this phase of motherhood. If you're navigating the emotional rollercoaster of raising teens or stepping toward the empty nest, this episode will help you reconnect with the love that's still there even when the relationship feels strained.

If you're a mom who has spent years parenting teens and putting everyone else first, you might expect that once your kids grow up and you find yourself in the empty nest, life will finally open up for you. But many moms discover that the habit of putting themselves last doesn't disappear—it simply follows us into the next stage of motherhood. In this episode, I share a realization I've been having about how easy it is to keep postponing joy, even when our kids no longer need us in the same way. I talk about the fears that make letting go of responsibility feel uncomfortable. If you're navigating a new chapter of motherhood, it might be time to start creating space for yourself again. Join me to figure out what standing in your way.

If you've ever caught yourself thinking, “I only have a few months left before my kid leaves home,” you're not alone. I remember thinking this constantly during my boys' senior years of high school. As moms raising teens and navigating the empty nest transition, it's easy to feel pressure to fix everything, teach everything, and make every moment count before our kids leave. In this episode, I explore how a scarcity mindset shows up in parenting teens...whether it's trying to repair the relationship before they go, worrying they're not ready for the world, or feeling responsible for making their final months at home perfect. I share my own story, including a moment during my son's senior year when I realized how much pressure I was putting on myself. When we shift from scarcity to an abundant mindset, letting go becomes less about loss and more about trust. If you're looking at the calendar and feeling pressure to make the most of the months before your big kid leaves home, this episode will help you breathe a little easier as you navigate the powerful, bittersweet process of letting go.

Have you ever woken up at 2am with your mind racing…convinced that the distance between you and your child means the relationship is slipping away… or that their struggle is going to define their future… or that the tension in your house is never going to get better… or that this heavy, almost empty nest feeling means the best part of your life is behind you? That spiral where your brain takes something uncertain or hard and turns it into a permanent disaster? Today, I'm continuing the Mindset Traps of Parenting Teens and the Empty Nest series with a focus on Catastrophizing. I'm going to talk about why your brain does it, how it steals your peace, and how to interrupt that worst case scenario spiral so you can approach your life and your big kid with calm confidence and self-trust…even when things are unpredictable and messy. Join me to learn how to stop falling prey to the worst case scenario spiral.

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, other moms seem closer to their kids than I am? As moms, we care deeply about our relationships with our kids. When they pull away, we can feel anxious, rejected, or even convinced we've done something wrong. And when they stay close, that can bring its own pressure and responsibility. In this episode, I unpack how both experiences—distance and closeness—can trigger the same internal struggle: learning the delicate balance between holding on and letting go. If you're parenting teens and find yourself overthinking your interactions, worrying about whether you're doing it right, or feeling the emotional weight of motherhood shifting as your kids grow more independent, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are.

Have you ever walked away from a conversation with your teen or adult kid thinking, “I need to set a boundary here.” You're tired of the disrespect. You're so done with reminding them. You want to see progress and you don't want to keep getting into the same power struggles. Here's what most moms don't realize: the problem isn't that you don't have strong enough rules. It's that you're thinking about boundaries in the wrong way. In this episode, I'm going to show you why your boundaries might not be working — and what actually does. If you're ready to stop the power struggles, calm the anxiety, and create more connection with your big kid without constantly feeling on edge… this one is for you.

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I don't know who I am if I'm not a mom.” When your days have revolved around motherhood for decades, letting go can feel disorienting. The quiet house leaves space not just for freedom, but for overthinking, self-doubt, and anxiety. In this episode, I explore how staying stuck in “I don't know” is actually a form of protection. Together, we unpack the fear that nothing will ever feel as meaningful as motherhood, the guilt that comes with setting boundaries around your emotional energy, and the belief that finding purpose now is somehow selfish. If you're standing on the edge of the empty nest wondering who you are becoming, this conversation will help you see that you're not lost. You just need to find a way back to yourself.

Do you have a big kid who's struggling with their mental health… and find yourself lying awake at night wondering if you're doing enough? When your child isn't okay, it doesn't just worry you, it can take over. Your thoughts. Your energy. Your sense of peace. You're researching, supporting, advocating… and still questioning yourself. In this episode, I explore how to parent a teen or adult kids through mental health struggles without losing yourself in the process. We'll talk about how fear and guilt can intermix with love, and how that can leave you exhausted. And we'll look at the question so many moms in this position face...When can you really know if you've done enough? If you're parenting a teen who is battling anxiety, depression, addiction, or other mental health challenges, this conversation will help you step into a steadier way of showing up, for your child and for yourself.

Have you ever felt tense in your own home… bracing for the sound of your teen's footsteps or the tone of their voice? As moms parenting teens, this is one of the thoughts we're often ashamed to admit: I feel like I'm walking on eggshells with my big kid. If you're parenting teens or standing at the edge of the empty nest, you might recognize that constant fear of saying the wrong thing and making it worse. In this episode, I unpack what that “eggshell” feeling really means. You'll hear a very personal story from my own journey raising my boys and how learning the difference between influence and control changed everything. I share how learning to set down what wasn't mine to carry helped me feel calmer, stop replaying every conversation in my head, and show up in a way that slowly rebuilt trust. Join me to learn how.

Do you ever feel like you know how you want to show up as a mom, and even as a woman in your own life, and still find yourself wondering why it feels so hard to actually show up that way? You know you want to be calmer and less reactive … and yet when your big kid pulls away, struggles, or no longer needs you the same way, you find yourself falling into patterns of control, self-doubt, or taking things personally. In this episode, I'm going to help you understand why this happens, and how to more consistently access that version of yourself who you really want to be. I call her Mom 2.0...not a better version of you, but the empowered version of you as a mom and a woman who already exists (even if it doesn't always feel that way). Join me to learn how to reconnect with her.

My kid was struggling... and I didn't even know it. We spend so much of motherhood trying to keep our kids safe, happy, and successful. We set boundaries. We try to stay one step ahead. And yet… sometimes we still miss something. In this episode, I share a personal story about discovering that my son had struggled years ago, and I had no idea at the time . I unpack the shame of “I should have known,” the fear that letting go means failing, and the mindset that keeps so many moms stuck in hyper-responsibility. I'll also explore the hard truth that we can guide our kids, love them, and support them...but we can't force change, happiness, or success. They have to decide. And learning to trust that process is one of the most humbling...and freeing...parts of this stage of motherhood. If you're trying to stop overthinking, set healthy boundaries, and figure out what letting go really looks like without disconnecting from your child, this episode will help you find your footing. Missing something doesn't mean you failed.It might mean you're raising a human...and you're allowed to be one too.

Have you ever felt that knot in your stomach when your big kid seems off—and you immediately start wondering what you did wrong? This reaction doesn't come from insecurity—it comes from love. Especially in this stage of motherhood, when your role feels less clear and so much feels uncertain, it's easy to make your child's experience mean something about you. Today, I'm continuing the Mindset Traps of Parenting Teens and the Empty Nest series with a focus on Personalization. Once you understand why your brain keeps pulling you into taking responsibility for things that aren't actually yours to carry—and how much that's costing you—you'll start to see a different way to stay connected to your child without carrying so much guilt, anxiety, or emotional weight. This episode will change how you think about taking things personally so that you can let go of emotional responsibility and find real peace in this stage of motherhood.

Have you ever felt a sense of relief when your big kid leaves the house, and then felt terrible for feeling that way? In this episode, I explore the thought, “I'm relieved when my kid isn't home.” If you've ever wondered what that thought says about you as a mom, you're not alone. And you're not a bad mom. Whether you feel like you're walking on eggshells, struggling with anxiety about your child's choices, or feeling the hurt of your kid pulling away, this episode will help you feel seen. I'll discuss the difference between loving your child and taking emotional responsibility for who they are, how they feel, and how their future turns out. I explain why moms so easily slip into overthinking, self-blame, and chronic anxiety, and how this keeps us feeling stuck and exhausted. The relief you crave isn't found in your teen's absence, but in learning how to set boundaries and focus on who you choose to be in the relationship.

What if the anxiety and exhaustion you feel as a mom right now isn't a sign that you're failing—but a sign that you're carrying more than you were ever meant to? If you're parenting teens or young adults and stuck in that constant mental loop of when to step in, when to back off, and whether you're somehow getting this stage wrong, this episode is for you. In this conversation, I unpack why control feels so necessary for us moms and why it's not a character flaw or a parenting mistake. I explain how control often becomes a coping strategy for fear, responsibility, and uncertainty, and why it stops working as our kids grow and need to figure life out on their own. You'll hear a compassionate reframe of letting go—one that doesn't mean giving up, checking out, or caring less. I walk through tangible, real-life examples of what letting go looks like in everyday moments, from overthinking conversations to checking for reassurance, and how this shift creates more peace for you and more independence for your child. If you're a mom who wants to feel calmer, more confident, and more grounded while parenting teens or young adults, this episode will help you see control, letting go, and yourself in a whole new way.

Have you ever wondered if your teen or adult kid even cares how you feel? In this episode, I'm sharing a deeply personal story from my own journey of parenting teens. I take you with me on a long, lonely overnight drive home from Chicago with my teenage son. At the time, it looked exactly like what so many moms fear: that all the love, effort, and sacrifice didn't matter. But years later, that same moment resurfaced in a way I never could have predicted. In this episode, I explore why this stage of parenting teens can feel so heartbreaking, why it's so easy for moms to personalize our kids' withdrawal, and how our brains naturally fill in the gaps with painful stories about our worth and our role. I unpack what's really happening beneath the surface — emotionally and developmentally — and why a lack of appreciation in the moment doesn't mean your love isn't landing. If you're navigating the empty nest transition, struggling with letting go, or feeling dismissed and invisible in your relationship with your teen or young adult, this conversation will help you feel less alone. You'll walk away with a new lens for understanding your child's behavior and an invitation to stay open to connection without chasing it or losing yourself in the process.

If you've ever found yourself holding back advice with your teen or big kid—wondering whether to say something or let it go—this episode is for you. Because parenting teens and young adults puts us in a really uncomfortable place. We still have wisdom to share… but far less influence over their choices. And suddenly, advice that used to land now feels like it creates distance and power struggles. In this episode, I'm going to explore the difference between advice, expectations, and boundaries. You'll learn how to decide when to speak up, when to step back, and how to show up in a way that protects both your peace and your relationship with your child. Join me to stop second-guessing yourself and start feeling more grounded and confident in how you show up with your teen or big kid.

I don't feel close to my kid anymore. If you've ever had that thought while parenting teens or navigating the empty nest, this episode is for you. I'm talking honestly about what it feels like when the relationship with your big kid changes—when they share less, pull away, or seem like they don't need you in the same way they used to. This isn't a sign you're failing. It's a painful and very human part of letting go. In this episode, I explore why this kind of distance hurts so deeply, how disappointment turns into fear, and why we often try to fix the relationship by asking our kids to show up differently. What I've learned—through my own experience and my work with moms—is that demanding connection isn't what restores it. Learning how to sit with our own discomfort, trust the bond we've built, and love without pressure is what changes everything. This episode is an invitation to rethink what letting go really means in the parenting teens and empty nest years—and how staying steady inside yourself is often the most powerful way to stay connected.

Have you ever noticed how much mental energy you spend wondering if you're doing this parenting thing "right"? Maybe you replay conversations in your head, second-guess a boundary you set, or feel that pressure to do just a little more…just in case. That pressure doesn't come from being overly critical or demanding — it comes from caring deeply. And from the belief that if you can just find the right way to handle things, you'll finally be able to relax. Today, I'm continuing the Mindset Traps of Parenting Teens and the Empty Nest series with a focus on perfectionism. In this episode, we're going to talk about how the search for the “right” way fuels anxiety, erodes self-trust, and keeps you carrying more than you need to. And we'll explore what it actually looks like to decide what's enough — without waiting for your kid or your life to be different first. This episode will change how you think about effort, responsibility, and what it really means to let go in this stage of motherhood.

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, I'm the only one who cares — and felt both justified and completely exhausted by it? I hear this from so many moms who are parenting teens or navigating the early empty nest years. You care so much about your kids' safety, happiness, and future, yet it often feels like you're the only one paying attention, thinking ahead, or worrying about the consequences. In this episode, I explore how this belief often turns into they don't care, so I have to — and how that mindset keeps us stuck in anxiety, frustration, and over-responsibility. If you're struggling with parenting teens, feeling on edge as your role shifts, or wondering how to practice letting go without giving up, this episode will help you see what's really driving your reactions — and how to begin showing up in a way that supports your kids and yourself.

Change is uncomfortable. And if you're parenting a teen or standing on the edge of the empty nest, you may be feeling that discomfort more than ever. In this episode, I'm talking about why change feels so hard—even when it's the change we want—why so many of us try to avoid that discomfort by staying busy, fixing, or just avoiding our pain, and what it actually looks like to sit with that discomfort in a way that brings peace instead of overwhelm. If this season of motherhood feels harder than you expected—if you're feeling anxious, uncertain, or unsure how to let go—join me as I talk about what's really happening underneath that discomfort, and how to face change in a new way.

“I don't know what I want anymore.” If you're parenting teens, launching a child into adulthood, or standing on the edge of the empty nest, this thought might feel painfully familiar. It begins to show up in the space that opens as your kids need you less—and event more when the structure of motherhood shifts and you're left wondering what's next for you. In this episode, I'm talking about why so many moms feel disoriented during this stage of motherhood—and why it's not because you've lost yourself or failed to plan ahead. I share a personal story from when my boys were still young, and how the same feeling I experienced then shows up again and again as we move through parenting teens, letting go, and eventually facing the empty nest. What if the problem isn't that you don't know what you want… but that you've spent years being needed? In this episode, I unpack the hidden mindset that keeps so many moms stuck waiting—waiting for the kids to be settled, for the anxiety to ease, for life to feel calm enough to finally focus on themselves. I talk about how this shows up differently when your kids are still at home versus when they're grown, and why even after they leave, your mind can stay on duty long after your hands are no longer needed. If you've ever told yourself you should be enjoying this phase more.... If you've felt restless, resentful, or sad, even though your life looks fine from the outside…If the idea of “finding your purpose” feels overwhelming or out of reach…This episode will help you see yourself with more compassion and clarity.

Have you ever looked at your child's life and wondered, what if they never figure it out? I hear moms use the phrase “my kid is failing to launch” all the time, and I know how much fear is in those words. Because this isn't really about timelines or independence—it's about the anxiety that creeps in when your kid seems stuck, and how quickly that fear starts to feel personal. And even if your child is still in college, still at home in high school, or you're deep in the season of parenting teens, this worry can already be there. In this episode, I unpack what we really mean when we say a kid is “failing to launch” and why the usual advice about boundaries often leaves moms feeling more frustrated. I talk about the invisible expectations we carry and why trying to manage your child's motivation only creates more anxiety and resentment. Most importantly, I explore what letting go actually looks like—not letting go of your kid, but letting go of the belief that you should be able to control their timeline. If you're a mom raising teens, launching young adults, or standing on the edge of the empty nest wondering if you did enough, this episode will help you come back to what is in your control. You'll learn how to set boundaries that protect your peace, stop carrying responsibility that was never yours, and show up with more calm and confidence—even when the future feels uncertain.

I used to think this feeling would go away with time. That eventually I'd be used to the goodbyes, the quiet, the shifting rhythm of motherhood. But whether your child is heading off to college, spending more time behind a closed bedroom door, or simply growing into their own independence, you can feel the ache that comes with realizing something is changing. In this episode, I talk about that feeling when your kids don't need you in the same way, when they pull away just a little more, when the house feels different even though everyone still lives there. These moments might look different on the outside, but emotionally, they often stir the same grief and confusion. What makes it harder isn't the sadness itself—it's the judgment we place on it. The belief that because we've done this before, or because our kids haven't technically “left” yet, we shouldn't feel this way. But letting go doesn't start at college drop-off. It starts the first time you realize your child is becoming someone you can't fully follow anymore. Whether your kids are young, teens, or grown, this episode invites you to stop judging your emotions and start understanding them—so this season of motherhood doesn't feel like something you just have to endure, but something you get to navigate with intention and self-trust.

Have you ever felt that panic that if you don't stay on top of things with your big kid, that something might go terribly wrong? You feel that urge to say the right thing, to remind them one more time, or to give them advice they didn't ask for. This urge doesn't come from wanting to control your kid. It comes from love, especially when life becomes so uncertain as your kids grow up. Today, I'm continuing the Mindset Trap series with a focus on the illusion of control. Once you understand why your brain keeps pulling you into fixing and managing, and how much that's actually costing you, you'll see a different way to support your kid without carrying so much anxiety. This episode is going to change how you think about helping, letting go, and finding real peace in this stage of motherhood. Let's dive in.

If you find yourself thinking, “Nothing changed this year,” I hear you. And I've been there. So many of us moms reach the end of the year still feeling anxious, triggered, or unsure, and assume that means we haven't grown. In this episode, I talk about why that thought feels so true—and why it often misses what really matters. As our kids grow, the challenges don't go away; they change. Raising and launching teens requires more trust, more restraint, and a deeper tolerance for uncertainty. And yet, we rarely recognize our ability to meet those changes as growth. In this episode, I explore what it really means to let go—not perfectly, but year after year, in ways that shape us even when we don't feel different. If you're navigating the emotional complexity of parenting big kids or stepping into the empty nest, this episode will help you see the quiet ways you've been evolving all along.

Have you ever stopped to recognize how much strength it's taken to be the mom you are today? If you're parenting teens or standing on the edge of the empty nest, this season of motherhood can feel like a constant balancing act between holding on and letting go—of your kids, your role, and the version of yourself you used to be. In this episode, I'm not talking about resolutions or fixing yourself. I'm inviting you to pause and recognize the quiet, powerful growth that's already happened as you've navigated raising and preparing to launch your kids. I share my own journey of learning to release self-judgment, understand why we cope the way we do, and give myself credit for showing up—even when things felt messy or hard. If you've ever said to yourself, “I need to be better in the new year,” this episode will help you reconnect with your strength, honor your past selves, and step into this next chapter with more compassion, confidence, and awe.

I'm already disappointed by the holidays.If you've ever had that thought—even before the holiday is over—this episode is for you. The holidays are supposed to feel joyful and connected, and yet, for so many moms of teens and adult kids, this season brings a quiet mix of love, overwhelm, frustration, and disappointment that no one really talks about. You can adore your family and still feel exhausted by the mess, the noise, the disengagement, or the feeling that the holidays don't look the way they used to. In this episode, I talk honestly about why the holidays can feel so hard, and why that discomfort doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. I explore how we often cope by working harder and taking responsibility for everyone else's emotions, all in an effort to finally feel at peace. And why that approach, as understandable as it is, leaves us feeling even more disappointed. If you're feeling worn down by the pressure to make the holidays magical, this episode will help you let go and actually find moments of peace in your life without needing to change anything first.

As the holidays approach, parenting teens and adult kids can bring up for us a wish for more ease, more connection, and a way to let go without feeling like you're losing yourself or your relationship with your kids. In this episode, I share three powerful gifts you can give yourself that will change how you experience this stage of motherhood. We'll explore what it means to stop taking responsibility for other people's emotions, how to stay connected to your teen without conditions or expectations, and why treating yourself with compassion is essential as you navigate the emotional shifts of letting go. If you've been feeling drained, stuck, or unsure how to show up as your role as a mom evolves, this conversation will help you approach parenting teens — and the empty nest ahead — with more intention and emotional freedom. These simple but meaningful shifts can transform not just the holiday season, but the way this next chapter of motherhood feels.

I'm worried my teen will ruin the holiday for me. Even saying that out loud feels uncomfortable. But if you're parenting teens or adult kids, you've probably had some version of this thought at one point or another. The holidays can magnify distance, tension, and unmet expectations, leaving us bracing for moods instead of enjoying the moments we hoped would feel meaningful. In this episode, I explore what's really underneath that fear. It's not about your teen being difficult — it's about how easily we tie our sense of connection and peace to how our kids show up. I'll explore the mindset trap of emotional outsourcing, why connection starts to feel conditional in this phase of motherhood, and how letting go can feel both necessary and terrifying at the same time. Join me to learn how to create connection without waiting for your teen to meet you halfway, and how to let go of the belief that your child gets to decide whether the holidays — or your relationship — feel good.