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Nicci is back on Bumble and decided to put less effort in her profile because guys are doing the bare minimum on there and Alex found a list of what men think is wrong with women in the dating world.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This week we're joined by Victoria (@flyforaginger), a plus size fashion blogger that has lots of open & honest conversations with her followers about dating & sex. During our conversation we discuss online dating, bidets, advocating for yourself in the bedroom, sex toys & so much more.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

During our online dating detox we've been making an effort to step out of our comfort zones to put ourself out there. It's hasn't been all success but we're learning a lot as we go!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We're back from Greece!!! We had the best vacay and can't wait to tell you all about it. In true Alex & Nicci fashion this recap is chaotic and theres some surprises and mistakes along the way.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We're joined by AshleyMarie Marie (@ayemarie.marie) to learn about her journey with Slow Dating!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We're back from summer break!! This week we're joined by plus size model & content creator, Ashley Braxton (@itsashleybraxton) to talk about what it's been like for her dating as a queer woman. We discuss everything from lesbian tiktok, not being over sexualized unlike when you're not dating a straight man and body insecurities.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

...or the lack of flirting going on. Nicci thinks she's forgotten how to do it and needs help and we find out if Alex made her Hallmark dating profile!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This week we're joined by Alex Frankel (@alexfrankelthelionhaird) AKA the CEO of the Hot Fat Guy Club to learn more about what it's like to date as a fat man and why he thinks they're less willing to date plus size women.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It's been awhile since we did personal updates! Nicci posted a video that hit the wrong side of tiktok and has brought up a lot of feelings and we get ready for our first Swipe Fat Vacation in Greece!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This week we're joined by Daniela Gutierrez (@lifewithdaniela1) a plus size influencer and model to talk about dating, intimacy with yourself and her first healthy relationship.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

As plus size women we over compensate - in our daily life and relationships. We shouldn't have to! A Tiktok Alex found really got as thinking about why and how we can reframe our thoughts about people who are attractive to fat bodies. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Quick introductions, the story of how Alex and Nicci met, and the struggles of dating when you're fat. 

We break down our dating profiles, set a challenge for ourselves, talk about the guys we'll swipe on, and how we're scared we'll catfish a date. 

We find out what happened when we put that we were fat in our dating profiles and had a little therapy session.

We made new friends on Tik Tok, find out what happened when we swiped for each other, talk about feeling obligated to give second chances, Alex's friends want to set her up and we set a new challenge that we need your help with! 

We talk about all things reality tv! If we would ever go one a dating show and what needs to change.

This is a weird one. And honestly, our mics messed up & we sound like we're underwater but the conversation is too good not to release it! We talked about all things from Nicci giving a guy a second chance, what's the difference between thick and being fat, having a penis for a day & Alex has a softcore Hallmark project in the works.

You asked us questions and we answered 'em! We talked dating in the pandemic, told stories about crazy & good dates, stories about the first time we were discriminated against by boys for being fat and so much more! 

You had so many questions we had to do an AMA Part 2! We talk about our relationship goals, red flags on dating apps, how we handle negative comments and feeling comfortable in our body.

We have our first guest! We dive into Facebook Dating, figure out why Nicci might still be single, take a detour, and chat a little bit about The Challenge and discuss receiving compliments from men.

We're going to be on a reality dating show!! We talk about the show and then take a deep dive into fat fetishes and dish on some sexual preferences.

We dish on our first days of filming our dating show, discuss a fat prank on youtube, fat suits & fat women in the media, and open up about our body insecurities and feeling like we aren't enough.

We're joined by our first guest Natalie Craig from @NatalieInTheCity_!!! We talk about all things mixed weight relationships, lingerie, creepy men on social media, reality tv and how beautiful fat women are.

Nicci got a surprising text from a guy she went out with this summer. A viral TikTok about Tinder expectations had us thinking about if we've ever had sex with someone because we were fat and it was expected. We talk about our different experiences with guys growing up and Alex questions if she's valid in the fat community because she hasn't always been fat. 

We take a deep dive into friend-zoning! Are they friend-zoning us OR do we subconsciously friend-zone ourselves? Alex & Nicci both share stories of being friend-zoned and shooting their shot! *Link in our Instagram & Tiktok Bio's to shop our Dia & Co Wishlist*

We talk with Lauren O'Connell, The Modern Astrologer, and learned how having your birth chart read can help with knowing yourself, the difference between Chemistry vs. Compatability, High Vibe vs. Low Vibe & how to survive Mercury in Retrograde. You can reach out to Lauren at themodernastrologer.com or @themodernastrologer on Instagram. Shop all of our Dia & Co looks through the link in our Instagram Bio and our Wishlist at Dia.com/SwipeFat

This week we sat down with Cheyenne Davis (@cheymodee), a writer who is doing a series on dating apps and their fat friendliness!! We talk about how problematic dating apps can be, the struggles she's faced as a fat black femme, Bumble's new harassment policy and dive into the fat friendliness of the first three dating apps she's profiled. Link in bio to shop out Dia & Co Wishlist! Use code SWIPEFAT for 30% off of your first order.

We dish on our reactions to the first episode of Dating in the Modern Age and then dive into thin privilege - how we were treated differently when we were thinner, struggles that straight-sized people don't have to think about, Alex discusses what it's like to travel and be adventurous in a fat body and Nicci opens up that she is nervous for a date this weekend.

Fat women are either ostracized or over-sexualized which can lead to being a sexual late bloomer. Alex shares her experience with being over-sexualized at a young age and Nicci talks about how bullying affected her relationship with men. We take a big turn and talk about eating disorders and how our relationship with food has affected us with men. Alex admits that she thinks every guy that likes her is a chubby chaser, so Nicci sets her with the task of asking a guy that slid in her DMs if he is to help ease her fears. We were all over the place, but it's a good one!   Shop our Dia & Co Wishlist: https://linktr.ee/swipefat

We find out if Alex completed her challenge from the last episode and then dive into all things SEX BA-BY! How do we navigate it as fat women? What was our first time like? Did we have a sexual awakening? What struggles do we have to overcome while having it? How do you have a conversation about concerns? We open up about it all. 

We have on Tony P aka @weightsinthewings who does Plus Size Q&As from a guy's perspective on TikTok! We talk about fat preference vs. fat fetish, how he's always been attracted to plus-size women, Nicci gets a little too heated over a couple of his videos, but by the end, we're all friends and getting sex position advice from him. 

Part 2 with Tony P from @weightsinthewings on TikTok.  We talk guys jumping into DMs, why he thinks you should wait to have sex, he diagnoses Nicci with intimacy issues, we learn about a new sex toy and what a FUPA actually is, and a lot more!

On this episode we dive into why we keep dating guys we're not that into, what we want out of a relationship, stalk freezing eggs and PCOS, and we come up with our new dating mantra.

We dive into Fat Fishing, the insecurities we have from the trauma of guys on apps thinking we misrepresent our body (WHICH WE DON'T), and if we think there should be body preference options on dating apps. We jump all over the place in this episode but it's a fun ride!

Dating in the Modern Age recap, Nicci is told her body is disgusting on the bus which turns into a conversation on negging.  We discuss the difference between negging and guys having awful "locker room" talk. And then that turns into a discussion about how we don't feel safe in the world. Also, there's a little Ted talk.

We asked for questions and you delivered! We answer questions about dating, body confidence, sex, grief and so much more.

Rosey Blair (@roseybeeme) hosted our Dating in the Modern Age Reunion so we had her on to talk about the show, her dating journey, how she ended up with her now fiance, Houston, and fat people in the media.

Dating in the Modern Age has wrapped and filming brought up a lot of feelings for us. We discuss those, feeling alone and our long-distance situations. 

We wrote an article for HuffPo called "This Is What It's Really Like To Date While Fat." The trolls in the comment section had lots of issues with us, so let's break down the article and see if we minced any of our words!    READ IT HERE: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/dating-while-fat-alex-stewart-nicci-nunez_n_6096e16de4b0aead1b846ab9

Nicci got sent a boomerang, we get an update on Alex's weekend and we're joined by Natalie Drue AKA @nataliemeansnice!!! We talk all about her dating journey and the lessons she learned, dating mantras, being fat-shamed while traveling, Mouth to South and so much more!!

We find out about Nicci's weekend with her visitor, get an update on Colorado, take an Attachment Style quiz, dig into our results and how they affect us.

It's our 30th episode, so we thought it'd be fun to get your assumptions about us. You didn't hold back! And Alex has a dating update.

Are Chubby Chasing and having a Fat Fetish the same? We're joined again by Cheyenne M. Davis (@cheymodee) to get her take on it, she drops more wisdom on us and we get a dating update from Alex.

We're joined by Megan (@msgiggles) who is a content creator, fat activist, business owner and OnlyFans content creator. We talk about dating after the pandemic, what Megan's looking for in a partner, OnlyFans, she gives us her dating tips and Alex gives us a Happy Endings update!

We're back and we have updates!! A lot has changed in two weeks! Alex and Nicci recap their vacation, they had some adventures, we get dating updates, one went to an astrologer and the other got a drawing of their future partner from a psychic and they both open up about feeling a little insecure at the moment - but in different ways.  

While out at a bar Nicci was accosted by a drunk woman and then she was given an unsolicited pep talk that Alex got unwillingly dragged into.  This starts a discussion about people commenting on our bodies because of their internalized fatphobia and then we open up about our own internalized thoughts. We also give a listener some advice after she sent us a DM seeking help with battling her insecurities of dating someone shorter and thinner.

We get an update on Alex's second date she told us about last week and then dive into the worst dates you all have been on!

This week we're joined by body-positive sex educator Elle Chase @theellechase. We talk body confidence, sex positions, and even get some personal advice!

This is a true look into a typical Alex & Nicci conversation that jumps between ghosts, shaming, pimps, and MMA. The bulk of our discussion is shaming which stems from Tess Holiday being named one of the "worst beach bodies" and we talk about how it's affected us and our relationships.

Let's talk about sexts, baby! Alex is in two sexting situationships, we get details on those, talk sexting rules, our preferred ways of doing it, and our regrets.

Why is it easier to hook up with an extremely hot guy than with an average dude? We dig into social currency and how it affects our relationships.   Tiktok we discuss is by: @queenreenuka  

We're joined by Sean Taylor (@heyseantaylor) from Season 1 of The Circle!!! We talk about her time on The Circle, fat representation in reality TV, and learn the story of how she met her boyfriend.

Nicci has a little life update and Alex breaks out a list of 2021 Dating Terms!  Do we know what they mean? Do we do them? Are they are toxic? We're now on Patreon!! We'll be putting out at least two extra episodes a month on there, as well as other fun things! https://www.patreon.com/swipefat

How do you get over someone? We go through a list of "healthy" ways and how we deal with a breakup. 

Vacation Alex came out to play and had a hook-up! It got us talking about how we're less self-conscious about our bodies when we're with a stranger.

This week we take a kink quiz and find out which one of us is kinkier. The results are surprising and things get weird!

Lauren, @themodernastrologer joins us to talk about the dos and don'ts of mercury in retrograde. 

We all getting dating burnout, especially with the mental energy that goes into online dating. Here are ways to help it not take everything out of you!

Everyone is talking about red flags, so we had to get in on the action! We get a dating update, discuss some of our red flags AND our green flags.

It's been an entire year since we launched Swipe Fat and it's been a wild ride!! We go down memory lane and talk about the lessons we've learned so far.

It's our 50th episode and we're joined by Raeann Langas (@raeannlangas) from The Confident Collective!! We're talking confidence in dating and how to get it, the ick list, and male validation.

Taylor Swift dropping her 10-minute version of All Too Well on Red (Taylor's Version) brought up A LOT of feelings for one of us, we got dating updates and a new manifestation mantra!

We're joined by our friend Carli, a  Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor to answer questions from YOU that we're not quite qualified to answer.

We get dating updates from Alex, Nicci got a very disturbing email and we get into a discussion about fat fetish vs fat preference and how fatphobia comes into play. 

It's the last episode of the year!! We recap our holiday party and then discuss sleeping naked. When did you feel comfortable, why do you do it, and how it can help you accept your body!

We're back from winter break and have a lot of dating updates! We talk about rejection and why our internalized fatphobia always makes us think it's because of our weight and then we play a fun dating game.

Alex had a dating marathon this week and one of her dates leads us to a discussion about feeling obligated to hook up after a date. When is the right time to have sex and why do we feel like once you walk into their house that you're agreeing to it? Does it even matter if they put us in a hook-up box or relationship box before the date?

Dating Coach, Christan Marashio (@dateologycoach on tiktok) joins us this week after reviewing Nicci's dating profile on Tiktok!! We review Alex's Bumble profile and then she gives us dating profile tips and how to weed out people who aren't interested in a relationship and gives her theory on the "if he wanted to he would theory." Spoiler Alert: one of us cries

This week we're joined by Drew Afualo, The Crusader of Women on Tiktok. We discuss misogyny and the patriarchy, how she started fighting back at bigots, why men get away with the bare minimum, and the steps you can take to defend yourself.   Use code SWIPEFAT for 30% off at dia.com/swipefat and 20% off at manscaped.com

This week we're doing it for the plot and learning lessons along the way. Nicci had a whirlwind romance with a man who was moving and Alex gives details about two dates she went on. 

It's our 60TH EPISODE and we thought it would be fun to do another Ask Us Anything!! We got so many questions - so here's a little Swipe Fat 101. Part Two to follow next week!

You asked so many questions we had to do a part 2!! This round we answer questions about dating, sex, and traveling.

We had so much hope for Season 2 of Love Is Blind because they promoted that they'd have TWO plus-size women on the cast. We discuss our disappointment and opinions of the season.

Have you ever felt more attractive or confident in a certain city? That's because of Astrocartography! This week we had our resident astrologer, Lauren (@themodernastrologer) on to give us a rundown of the map and what all of those lines mean for love, work, partnerships, and yourself. Visit astro.com to check out your chart and follow along.   Use code BEBOLD to get $300 of a Big Fig Mattress through March 15th. Use code SWIPEFAT for 30% off your next Dia.com order

We're finally giving Woo Plus a chance. Together we make our profiles and see who's on there. We're off to a rocky start but fingers crossed it gets better.

We're joined by Joyniece K (@flynfluffy) - a super fat model, writer, and influencer who encourages people of all sizes to live unapologetically! We discuss doing things in the world even if you're worried about your size, how she met her boyfriend, dating people who haven't dated anyone plus-size before and not being everything to your partner.

Our dating app matches and conversations have been worse than normal, so we're doing a little spring cleaning!

This week we're joined by Jamie Varon (@jamievaron), who is an author and novelist, and her new book Radically Content is out on April 12th! We find out what it means to be radically content, how to find self-trust and live with intention.

We both went on first dates last week! Those dates got us thinking about eating on dates and the feelings we have about that as plus size women. 

A listener got us thinking about why a guy not being able to perform in the bedroom makes us so insecure and how more communication can help with that. Alex had a scratched her itch before her three upcoming dates this week & Nicci is feeling very discouraged on the apps.

This week we're joined by Sonalee Rashatwar (@thefatsextherapist,) an award-winning clinical social worker and sex therapist. They are a superfat queer bisexual non-binary therapist and co-owner of Radical Therapy Center, specialized in treating sexual trauma, diet trauma, racial or immigrant trauma, and South Asian family abuse, while offering fat positive sexual healthcare. 

Does the sex-positive movement alienate people who aren't sexually active? Is the next phase of sex-positivity waiting to have sex? We discuss a vogue article and how waiting to have sex can feel isolating. https://www.vogue.com/article/sex-positivity-late-in-life-virginity

We all know the "nice guys" that turned out to f*ck boys in disguise and we finally figured out how to spot them and we get dating updates for Alex.

We're joined by Whitney Bischoff Angel, our nurse at Ova Egg Freezing!! We get a lot of questions about the egg freezing process and if our weight is a factor, so we're going straight to the source!   Use code SWIPEFAT for $100 off Ova View Testing through July. Use code SWIPEFAT for 30% off your order at dia.com

We both have dating updates that lead to a discussion about ghosting AND we give you our tips to have the best fat hot girl summer!

This is about all of the things. Alex is mad about people suggesting toxic responses to Nicci's rejection text, opening up when dating new people and a little refresher on Alex's bumble profile.

We both had a life-changing experience when we watched the same porn video. We dig into that, our experience with porn and learn more about why people in the industry use bbw.

What's the best opener on dating apps? We found a list of some real losers and then try to come up with our new go-to line!

Every month on our Patreon we do a Fat Chat - where we talk to you!! Since they're some of our favorite conversations we've had since starting the podcast, we thought we'd give you a taste. 

We're joined by Jerrin Nicole (@awkwardfatgirl on tiktok) to learn about her confidence journey, talk about her dating life and gross messages from men on the internet.

This week we're joined by Mary Fran (@itsmaryfran) to discuss fat phobia, how being comfortable in your body effects your wardrobe, the 2000's trends & diet culter and how we should normalize that it's okay if you've never been in an adult relationship.

This week we're joined by dating coach, Lily Womble (@DateBrazen) and it was a rollercoaster emotions! We discuss how to make dating an act of self care with self compassion, bragging and I am for the few not the many. Why the number game and dating apps are a scam and how to have a more joyus dating life with "thank you, more please." Lily also has all of her clients do a dating app detox, and one of us had an emotional response to it.

We reflect on our first week of our dating app detox and then discuss how being rejected has been making us feel. What's worse: being rejected for your weight or your personality? 

We decided to jump on the NGL trend that all over instagram stories and answered your anonymous questions!