Dating is hard, dating when you're fat is even harder. In this weekly podcast, Alex Stewart and Nicci Nunez will take you through the chronicles of dating as a plus-sized woman.
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We reflect on our first week of our dating app detox and then discuss how being rejected has been making us feel. What's worse: being rejected for your weight or your personality?
This week we're joined by dating coach, Lily Womble (@DateBrazen) and it was a rollercoaster emotions! We discuss how to make dating an act of self care with self compassion, bragging and I am for the few not the many. Why the number game and dating apps are a scam and how to have a more joyus dating life with "thank you, more please." Lily also has all of her clients do a dating app detox, and one of us had an emotional response to it.
This week we're joined by Mary Fran (@itsmaryfran) to discuss fat phobia, how being comfortable in your body effects your wardrobe, the 2000's trends & diet culter and how we should normalize that it's okay if you've never been in an adult relationship.
We're joined by Jerrin Nicole (@awkwardfatgirl on tiktok) to learn about her confidence journey, talk about her dating life and gross messages from men on the internet.
Every month on our Patreon we do a Fat Chat - where we talk to you!! Since they're some of our favorite conversations we've had since starting the podcast, we thought we'd give you a taste.
What's the best opener on dating apps? We found a list of some real losers and then try to come up with our new go-to line!
We both had a life-changing experience when we watched the same porn video. We dig into that, our experience with porn and learn more about why people in the industry use bbw.
This is about all of the things. Alex is mad about people suggesting toxic responses to Nicci's rejection text, opening up when dating new people and a little refresher on Alex's bumble profile.
We both have dating updates that lead to a discussion about ghosting AND we give you our tips to have the best fat hot girl summer!
We're joined by Whitney Bischoff Angel, our nurse at Ova Egg Freezing!! We get a lot of questions about the egg freezing process and if our weight is a factor, so we're going straight to the source! Use code SWIPEFAT for $100 off Ova View Testing through July. Use code SWIPEFAT for 30% off your order at dia.com
We all know the "nice guys" that turned out to f*ck boys in disguise and we finally figured out how to spot them and we get dating updates for Alex.
Does the sex-positive movement alienate people who aren't sexually active? Is the next phase of sex-positivity waiting to have sex? We discuss a vogue article and how waiting to have sex can feel isolating. https://www.vogue.com/article/sex-positivity-late-in-life-virginity
This week we're joined by Sonalee Rashatwar (@thefatsextherapist,) an award-winning clinical social worker and sex therapist. They are a superfat queer bisexual non-binary therapist and co-owner of Radical Therapy Center, specialized in treating sexual trauma, diet trauma, racial or immigrant trauma, and South Asian family abuse, while offering fat positive sexual healthcare.
A listener got us thinking about why a guy not being able to perform in the bedroom makes us so insecure and how more communication can help with that. Alex had a scratched her itch before her three upcoming dates this week & Nicci is feeling very discouraged on the apps.
We both went on first dates last week! Those dates got us thinking about eating on dates and the feelings we have about that as plus size women.
This week we're joined by Jamie Varon (@jamievaron), who is an author and novelist, and her new book Radically Content is out on April 12th! We find out what it means to be radically content, how to find self-trust and live with intention.
Our dating app matches and conversations have been worse than normal, so we're doing a little spring cleaning!
We're joined by Joyniece K (@flynfluffy) - a super fat model, writer, and influencer who encourages people of all sizes to live unapologetically! We discuss doing things in the world even if you're worried about your size, how she met her boyfriend, dating people who haven't dated anyone plus-size before and not being everything to your partner.
We're finally giving Woo Plus a chance. Together we make our profiles and see who's on there. We're off to a rocky start but fingers crossed it gets better.
Have you ever felt more attractive or confident in a certain city? That's because of Astrocartography! This week we had our resident astrologer, Lauren (@themodernastrologer) on to give us a rundown of the map and what all of those lines mean for love, work, partnerships, and yourself. Visit astro.com to check out your chart and follow along. Use code BEBOLD to get $300 of a Big Fig Mattress through March 15th. Use code SWIPEFAT for 30% off your next Dia.com order
We had so much hope for Season 2 of Love Is Blind because they promoted that they'd have TWO plus-size women on the cast. We discuss our disappointment and opinions of the season.
You asked so many questions we had to do a part 2!! This round we answer questions about dating, sex, and traveling.
It's our 60TH EPISODE and we thought it would be fun to do another Ask Us Anything!! We got so many questions - so here's a little Swipe Fat 101. Part Two to follow next week!
This week we're doing it for the plot and learning lessons along the way. Nicci had a whirlwind romance with a man who was moving and Alex gives details about two dates she went on.
This week we're joined by Drew Afualo, The Crusader of Women on Tiktok. We discuss misogyny and the patriarchy, how she started fighting back at bigots, why men get away with the bare minimum, and the steps you can take to defend yourself. Use code SWIPEFAT for 30% off at dia.com/swipefat and 20% off at manscaped.com
Dating Coach, Christan Marashio (@dateologycoach on tiktok) joins us this week after reviewing Nicci's dating profile on Tiktok!! We review Alex's Bumble profile and then she gives us dating profile tips and how to weed out people who aren't interested in a relationship and gives her theory on the "if he wanted to he would theory." Spoiler Alert: one of us cries
Alex had a dating marathon this week and one of her dates leads us to a discussion about feeling obligated to hook up after a date. When is the right time to have sex and why do we feel like once you walk into their house that you're agreeing to it? Does it even matter if they put us in a hook-up box or relationship box before the date?
We're back from winter break and have a lot of dating updates! We talk about rejection and why our internalized fatphobia always makes us think it's because of our weight and then we play a fun dating game.
It's the last episode of the year!! We recap our holiday party and then discuss sleeping naked. When did you feel comfortable, why do you do it, and how it can help you accept your body!
We get dating updates from Alex, Nicci got a very disturbing email and we get into a discussion about fat fetish vs fat preference and how fatphobia comes into play.
We're joined by our friend Carli, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor to answer questions from YOU that we're not quite qualified to answer.
Taylor Swift dropping her 10-minute version of All Too Well on Red (Taylor's Version) brought up A LOT of feelings for one of us, we got dating updates and a new manifestation mantra!
It's our 50th episode and we're joined by Raeann Langas (@raeannlangas) from The Confident Collective!! We're talking confidence in dating and how to get it, the ick list, and male validation.
It's been an entire year since we launched Swipe Fat and it's been a wild ride!! We go down memory lane and talk about the lessons we've learned so far.
Everyone is talking about red flags, so we had to get in on the action! We get a dating update, discuss some of our red flags AND our green flags.
We all getting dating burnout, especially with the mental energy that goes into online dating. Here are ways to help it not take everything out of you!
Lauren, @themodernastrologer joins us to talk about the dos and don'ts of mercury in retrograde.
This week we take a kink quiz and find out which one of us is kinkier. The results are surprising and things get weird!
Vacation Alex came out to play and had a hook-up! It got us talking about how we're less self-conscious about our bodies when we're with a stranger.
How do you get over someone? We go through a list of "healthy" ways and how we deal with a breakup.
Nicci has a little life update and Alex breaks out a list of 2021 Dating Terms! Do we know what they mean? Do we do them? Are they are toxic? We're now on Patreon!! We'll be putting out at least two extra episodes a month on there, as well as other fun things! https://www.patreon.com/swipefat
We're joined by Sean Taylor (@heyseantaylor) from Season 1 of The Circle!!! We talk about her time on The Circle, fat representation in reality TV, and learn the story of how she met her boyfriend.
Why is it easier to hook up with an extremely hot guy than with an average dude? We dig into social currency and how it affects our relationships. Tiktok we discuss is by: @queenreenuka
Let's talk about sexts, baby! Alex is in two sexting situationships, we get details on those, talk sexting rules, our preferred ways of doing it, and our regrets.
This is a true look into a typical Alex & Nicci conversation that jumps between ghosts, shaming, pimps, and MMA. The bulk of our discussion is shaming which stems from Tess Holiday being named one of the "worst beach bodies" and we talk about how it's affected us and our relationships.
This week we're joined by body-positive sex educator Elle Chase @theellechase. We talk body confidence, sex positions, and even get some personal advice!
We get an update on Alex's second date she told us about last week and then dive into the worst dates you all have been on!
While out at a bar Nicci was accosted by a drunk woman and then she was given an unsolicited pep talk that Alex got unwillingly dragged into. This starts a discussion about people commenting on our bodies because of their internalized fatphobia and then we open up about our own internalized thoughts. We also give a listener some advice after she sent us a DM seeking help with battling her insecurities of dating someone shorter and thinner.
We're back and we have updates!! A lot has changed in two weeks! Alex and Nicci recap their vacation, they had some adventures, we get dating updates, one went to an astrologer and the other got a drawing of their future partner from a psychic and they both open up about feeling a little insecure at the moment - but in different ways.
We're joined by Megan (@msgiggles) who is a content creator, fat activist, business owner and OnlyFans content creator. We talk about dating after the pandemic, what Megan's looking for in a partner, OnlyFans, she gives us her dating tips and Alex gives us a Happy Endings update!