That Anger Management Crap

Talking to my new psychologist she said something that blew me away. I never knew that bipolar disorder can present with rage in the manic phase! Right! Maybe you knew that but that is news to me. I had to look over my past and find some articles on this idea.  Have you experienced this? Do you have people in your life you can reach out to with trust and vulnerability? If not I am willing to be your safe place to share and talk without judgment. An Unrecognized Symptom of Bipolar Disorder: Rage by Dominique Castro Bipolar Disorder & Anger: Understanding and Getting Control of Irritability By Denise Mann

It is one thing to say that we are working to be better it is quite another to put it into action. In the last episode of season three, Matthew shares a chance to put his compassion into practice. At the moment there are a lot of changes in the show and his personal and professional life. We are also going to be launching an official Patreon page.

Matthew sits down with Marie Thouin to talk about her doctoral thesis on compersion. She shares some of her insights. Music is original and produced by Chad Rohrbaugh at Rohr Sound Studios. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Please stop telling people that it is just as simple as “all you have to do is choose to be happy!” This is dangerous and damaging to people. They feel broken or wrong when they can't choose to be “happy”. What does it mean to be happy? Music is original and produced by Chad Rohrbaugh at Rohr Sound Studios. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/that-emotional-/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get bonus content on Patreon See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Make an apology that is meaningful. If in your words you still blame “others” it is not going to be heard. Find a way to take ownership of your part without negating the experience of others. There is a great deal of power in a simple “I'm sorry.” Don't get hung up on being right, or showy. Once you realize your mistake take ownership, say sorry, and move on.  Music is original and produced by Chad Rohrbaugh at Rohr Sound Studios. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/that-emotional-/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get bonus content on Patreon See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

**Content Warning** This episode contains references to Polyamory, , & Masturbation. In this episode, I am joined by a guest to talk about compersion. What is this new emotion that is currently being studied? We talk about ways to incorporate it into your own life. This idea that there could be more, yet unfamiliar emotions are one that I find fascinating. Music is original and produced by Chad Rohrbaugh at Rohr Sound Studios. Huge thanks to Podcorn for sponsoring this episode. Explore sponsorship opportunities and start monetizing your podcast by signing up here: Podcast Monetization Sponsorship Opportunities Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/that-emotional-/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get bonus content on Patreon See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

As men, we are taught that to be venerable is to be weak. It is not manly to cry or share your emotional life. When we allow ourselves to open up we can finally be open to living in freedom. Never mind, I had a plan for this episode and it just didn't work. So instead you're getting me, vulnerable and open. What better way to have an episode on vulnerability than to just be. I share some stories that occurred this week that knocked me back a few steps. Music is original and produced by Chad Rohrbaugh at Rohr Sound Studios. Huge thanks to Podcorn for sponsoring this episode. Explore sponsorship opportunities and start monetizing your podcast by signing up here: https://podcorn.com/podcasters/ Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/that-emotional-/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get bonus content on Patreon See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In this bonus, I share an insight I had during a conversation with Chrissy. I realized that I had been meditating more than I thought. Now I invite you all to join me taking a moment each day for meditation. Even if it is only just a long, slow, deep inhale and exhale. Then head over to the website and share your results in the comment section for this episode. Music is original and produced by Chad Rohrbaugh at Rohr Sound Studios. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/that-emotional-/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get bonus content on Patreon See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Boundaries are a struggle to set, pain to enforce, and if they are placed wrong. Today we will examine them from a very high-level overview. I will share what I have uncovered on how to set enforceable, healthy, self-protecting boundaries.  Oh and please excuse my voice. I was just recovering from COVID when I recorded this. Music is original and produced by Chad Rohrbaugh at Rohr Sound Studios. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/that-emotional-/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get bonus content on Patreon See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Chrissy and Matthew sit down to catch up on the last year and a half or more. They have both seen major changes. The biggest one is in how Matthew was able to bring the walls down. Open up emotionally and share his vulnerability with her. Now we join him and Chrissy, sometimes, as he dives deeper into his emotional self. Fun note for the end, you get to hear me in real-time put the pieces together in my head! Good times! Music is original and produced by Chad Rohrbaugh at Rohr Sound Studios. Your support is appricated! Consider a one-time or monthly donation to help us grow. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/emotionalpod Mentioned in this episode: Review Request Take a moment and review the show on Apple Podcast, Spotify, Podchaser, or Facebook. It's free and it helps us grow!

In today's bonus episode, I talk about how we have to train ourselves to see everyone as another person. I know it seems odd but how often do you road rage on the "car" in front of you. Give that driver back their humanity and watch the road rage melt away. Well kinda, it helps to build empathy for all those around us. Music is original and produced by Chad Rohrbaugh at Rohr Sound Studios. Your support is appricated! Consider a one-time or monthly donation to help us grow. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/emotionalpod

Welcome to the first episode of the rebrand. Are you ready for a deep, interesting look into emotional intelligence? First, I have to wrap up the loose ends of my journey with anger. I share what I found to be the steps we have to follow to overcome destructive anger and control. I am so excited to share my journey with everyone all over again only with EVERY emotion!

Are you ready to explore a wide range of emotional life? I know I am. That is why the show is going through a rebrand. That Emotional Crap is born!

I know it has been a while. I am in a wonderful, healthy place now. This is my sign-off for this show. Fear not my loyal, loving listeners I have a new show in the works. What the Emotional Health is in the works and the first episodes are being recorded now. Stay tuned for more details.Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/whattheeqhealth

So I was a little scattered and disconnect on this one. I still wanted to share what has been going on the last few days. I had a strange experience with what I have been told is anxiety. Thanks so much for sticking with me while we take a detour from our regular content.

Everything's zen... I don't think so! After going to the doctor and talking to a councilor only a couple times I feel like I should be better. I, in my head, have made it out like everyone expects that as well. Maybe it should be and I'm just that messed up!

As we go through our day there is one thing that keeps us going. Hope. Hope is what makes you put one foot in front of the other. When it is gone so is that light at the end of the tunnel.

It often feels like we are at war with our emotions. We fight to keep our anger under control. We fight to not fall back into old patterns. When we can focus on this battle alone it seems doable. When our energy is split between many emotions it can feel overwhelming

There are two ideas in Buddhist philosophy I have used both to help me in my journey. I thought I would share them with you. No matter your faith or beliefs these ideas can be very helpful. FYI, I am not trying nor do I want to convert you to any other beliefs.

I know has been awhile since my last episode. I apologize for that. In this episode I share what has been going onto cause that absence. I also share a story about a HUGE fight my wife and I had. It's not all bad though, I did learn something about myself in that moment. I will share with you what I learn and maybe you can learn from it as well.

“Liquid Courage” as it is often referred can play a huge role in anger. There are certain predictable things that will happen when we drink alcohol. It is not the best for ourselves or our anger to mix the two. I talk about some of the things that we can experience when we drink while angry.

We often confuse the cause of our anger with the stimulus for our anger. We need to separate our anger from what we think is the cause if we ever want to really learn to handle it in a healthy way. Today I talk briefly about REBT therapy and irrational beliefs.Join me on my Patreon page. https://www.patreon.com/thatangerpodcast

What do we do when we encounter difficult situations or people? Should we avoid them to maintain our growth? Should we never put ourselves in a difficult situation again? Do you know when to walk away to not get angry? Today I will share some ideas on this this can help maintain our peace of mind. Learn how to deal with those difficult people and situations. Thank you Dustin Chenney & Carolyn Marks for joining me on Patreon.Join me on my new Patreon page. https://www.patreon.com/thatangerpodcast

When we read any story, myth, poem, limerick, whatever about a hero they all have a very similar structure. This structure can show us a pretty accurate view of what our journey will be as we work with our anger.What makes a hero? - Matthew Winkler https://youtu.be/Hhk4N9A0oCAJoin me on my new Patreon page. https://www.patreon.com/thatangerpodcast

When we are in the grip of fear and stress it can manifest as anger. When it does it can cause us to be ashamed of ourselves. To shut down and resist admitting we are wrong.Join me on my new Patreon page. https://www.patreon.com/thatangerpodcast

I got Chrissy to sit down with me again. This time we talk about the long journey she and I took as I learned to handle my anger, let go of my control, and come to grips with the abuse I put her through. She shares some of the things she did when I was at my worst to deal with it. How she had plans to leave but just could never commit to the "right" time. Listen until the end as I learn something about her I never knew before. She is one very smart woman!Join me on my new Patreon page. https://www.patreon.com/thatangerpodcast

In relationships, it is important to have healthy boundaries. In order to do this we must know how. In this episode I share some ideas on how to set theses boundaries. Also how to handle it when boundaries are placed on us.Join me on my new Patreon page. Find the video for this episode there. https://www.patreon.com/thatangerpodcast

I, for a long time, felt that anger was a very useful and valuable emotion. I have changed that idea some over the last few months. I think that real power for change lies in compassion.Join me on my new Patreon page. Find the video for this episode there. https://www.patreon.com/thatangerpodcast

We all hear things that hurt or bother us all the time. There are four ways we can approach them. Two of them we are all very familiar with. The other two will help us slow down our anger.Help support the show! Your one time or monthly donations are greatly appreciated.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/theangerguru

This episode originally was part of my YouTube Channel. I want to share it here because this is great information. When you start to feel anger well up it can help to have a word, phrase, or something to bring that energy back down. I share a way to help give our mind just a moment to stop and reframe our anger. It can only take a second to choose to either go full rage or full understanding. If we have something to help us get that moment it can be invaluable.

This episode originally was part of my YouTube Channel. I want to share it here because this is great information. Some often I hear others say they just ignore anger. They don't allow it to exist. This is very dangerous. Our anger will manifest itself no matter how hard we suppress it. The healthy way is to acknowledge the anger and allow yourself to feel it. Then choose a different way to express it. Instead of it consuming us and being destructive it can be healthy in its expression.

This episode originally was part of my YouTube Channel. I want to share it here because this is great information. Self-confidence starts with self-acceptance. The only way to truly get a grip on anger is to learn to love yourself just as you are. Then you can learn to accept others. Our anger is so often a reflection of how we view ourselves.

This episode originally was part of my YouTube Channel. I want to share it here because this is great information. Here is one of my favorite ways to work with my anger. I use the power of neuroplasticity to help rewire my brain. I literally change the pathways that anger follows. This is a very useful way to teach yourself a different way to engage when your anger starts to arise.

This episode originally was part of my YouTube Channel. I want to share it here because this is great information. Here I will introduce you to two key definitions that will be very important going forward. I will offer a new definition of anger and violence.

With so many people stuck at home for the next few weeks, there is likely to be a rise in stress, tension, and anger. As a result, there will be more spouses arguing. I offer some quick help on how to have those fights while still maintaining a healthy relationship.Help support the show! Your one time or monthly donations are greatly appreciated.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/angerpodcast

I had a very fun experience and learning opportunity today thanks to a change in my medication. I can feel angry without being angry,Help support the show! Your one time or monthly donations are greatly appreciated.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/angerpodcast

We have all made mistakes. We have all done things we wish we had not. What if we could change how we view our mistakes and never see this the same again.Help support the show! Your one time or monthly donations are greatly appreciated.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/angerpodcast

Yep, I got her to join me again. We talk about how to make healthy requests. Then we get a little sidetracked but it is all fun. Listen as we dive deep into how much of a control freak I used to be.Help support the show! Your one time or monthly donations are greatly appreciated.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/angerpodcast

Can we all get everything we need in a compromise? Find out in this episode. It is so important to be willing to compromise to keep our relationships healthy.Help support the show! Your one time or monthly donations are greatly appreciated.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/angerpodcast

It's now officially a new year and a new decade. Why not make your New Year's resolution to be more forgiving. In this episode, I share some ways to approach forgiveness.Help support the show! Your one time or monthly donations are greatly appreciated.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/angerpodcast

Yeap, it's a new episode. I am very raw and real with you all in this one. I have been in a very dark and lost place for the last few months. I hope that you can all forgive me. Depression and anger are very similar. Thanks for being a part of the show and I hope you enjoy the new stuff.Help support the show! Your one time or monthly donations are greatly appreciated.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/angerpodcast

Be impeccable with your word. Seems simple, right? Chris and I dive into this topic. It is based on the concepts from the book "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz. It is so easy to forget the power that comes from our words. Our words can repair a fragile relationship or destron a healthy one. We also go into how our Word (Capital W) plays into our anger as well. Special guest Chris Barthelme

This is a quick bonus episode. In the wake of two deadly mass shootings in the US in the past 24 hours, I felt compelled to share this message. Please seek help if you are feeling overwhelmed and like you could hurt yourself or others.

I talk to Dennis Sumlin from The Core Confidence Life podcast. We talk about how our confidence can affect our anger. We also touch on the ego as a cause for anger. There are some great ideas and insight into how we can change some destructive thought patterns.

When we learn our love language it is almost magic. It can help us connect and feel loved. In this episode, I talk through some basics of a great book. "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. Learn them, express them to each other, use them, and be amazed. Amazed at how much better your relationship will become.

If I just avoid the stuff that makes me angry I won't get angry. This is an idea I hear so often. The problem with it is you never learn to overcome the triggers of your anger. In this episode, I talk about the value of leaning into your anger triggers. When you can deal with a trigger and remain calm you have really mastered anger.

I talk with Patrick who has been dealing with and learning to handle his anger. We talk about violence, control, and a great book on anger. I also share more about mothers day last year. (I am awful at these summaries!)

The idea that personal growth is this easy, straight line process. We will all fall back. We will all have a moment we take a step or two back. On this episode, I talk about my big step back last year. Then I offer what that step back has to teach us.

It has been a while but I'm back with a new episode. We all need something. We may not always know what that is. Listen this week as I talk about what it means to have needs. I also talk about a change in the show that I am working on. Sit back and enjoy. Then go comment and share what you think over on the website.

I used "The Egg" by Andy Wier to find a new way to see my anger. I love this short story as it is a perfect way to understand the idea of non-self. With this concept applied to our anger management, we see why getting angry or violent with others always hurts us as well.

Anger can seem to come out of nowhere at times. The smallest things can set us off. We struggle to find the answer. What if the answer is that seed of anger that we allow to grow until the smallest thing sets us off.