The Dildorks

How do you get over a friend who doesn't like you back? This week, we wade deeper into the topic of unrequited feelings within a friendship. Crush Eras | “The Friendzone” | Straight vs. Queer Scripts | Gendered Narratives | Processing Unrequited Feelings | Re-Channelling Obsessions | Grieving Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

What happens when you catch feelings for your friend? This week, we discuss the tricky art of keeping a friendship afloat while attraction rocks the boat. When Feelings Dissipate | Developing Feelings | When to Say Something | Changing the Label | Flirting vs. Being Direct | Flirting is Hot | Soft No vs. Hard No | When to Let It Go | Gender Imbalances | Should You Tell Them? Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Friendships with benefits are an important part of our sexual landscape, so this week we discuss how to navigate casual ongoing sexual partnerships with kindness and grace. FWBs vs. Fuckbuddies | Demisexuality | Romantic Attraction | Safety & Trust | Familiarity & Practice | Sex is Fun | Intimacy & Connection | Finding a FWB | Asking a Friend | Labeling | “What Are You Looking For?” | “We Should Make Out” | Relationship Escalator | Managing Expectations Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Sexual pleasure can be wonderful self-care, even during some low-libido times. This week we discuss our favorite methods of sexual self-care. Happy Pride Month! | Not Jerking Off | Perfunctory Masturbation | Reducing Friction | Opportunities to Feel Sexy | Sexual Health | Setting & Enforcing Boundaries | Self-Knowledge | Focusing on Pleasure | Curiosity & Creativity | “Just Do It”? Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

This week Kate chats with her wife mb about how HRT (hormone replacement therapy) can affect transfeminine people's skin sensitivity, orgasm intensity, desire levels, and more!Your Mileage May Vary | Softer Skin | Girl Smell | Erectile Changes | Responsive vs. Spontaneous Desire | Maintaining Erectile Function | Context & a “Why” | Hormonal Cycle | Sensitivity | /r/GrowYourClit | Orgasms | Cum | Domming & Topping | Subbing & Bottoming | Aftercare | Penile Health Maintenance | Dancing | Trans Healthcare Access Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Happy Masturbation Month to those who celebrate! This week we're answering listener questions on jerkin' it.Want to Want It | Solo Pain Play | Masochism vs. Self-Harm | Fantasies Making a Comeback | Achievable Fantasies | Pets in the Room Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Living with your polycule: bad idea, or best idea? This week we discuss the emotional and practical realities of Billy's recent decision to move in with his partner and metamour! Kitchen Table Polyamory | Combining Households | Chore Distribution | Building New Routines | Bedroom Privacy | Gross Little Gremlin | Largest Room | Fears | Chosen Family | Poly Stigma | Complementary Skillsets Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

This week, Kate chats with friend of the show Addison Finch about the ritual and reverence of bootblacking, and what we can learn about our current political moment from studying the history of kink. CLAGS Lecture Series | Leather History | Can Straight People Be “Leather”? | Kink Awakening | History & Context | Kink Reading Group | Activism & Organizing | Bootblacking & Leather Care | Boot Worship Scenes | Longevity of Leather Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

As is tradition, this week we celebrate 4/20 by getting intoxicated and answering silly hypothetical questions about sex. Last Prisoner Project | Movie Quotes | Cooking Implements | Tantus Plunge | BJ Dildo | Condiments | Exes & Past Selves | Gifting Kinks | Inanimate Objects | Fireworks Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Whether you prefer to plan dates or have them planned for you, a date's location or activity can play a big role in how well it goes – so this week we discuss how to successfully plan early dates with a new person. Whose Responsibility? | Providing Input | Dietary Restrictions | Go-To Locations | Civil Liberties | Pour Boy | Activity vs. Conversation | Movies & Museums | Too Loud | Poor Planning & Incompatibility | Free/Cheap Date Ideas | “Sexy” Dates | Kate's Upcoming Musical Improv Shows Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Lots of people like to incorporate multimedia into their sexting, so this week we discuss the benefits of sending voice memos and provocative pictures, among other things. Eggplant Emoji | Shy Texters | Digital & Emotional Context | Parenting | Voice Notes | Phone Sex | Lewds & Nudes | Photography Tips Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

This week we discuss some of our favorite things about sexting – like how it can build rapport, establish compatibility, and even increase your empathy. Filling Time at Work | Why We Love Sexting | During Daily Life | Intent & Desire | Good Sexts = Good Sex? | What Makes It Good/Bad? | Talk About the Clit | “Yes, And”-ing | Word Preferences | Attunement | Suddenly Vanishing | “Don't Know What to Say” | Self-Censoring Critic | Psychological Element | Multi-Threaded Conversations | Metacommunication | Words & Empathy Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

This week, we answer more questions about asking questions – including questions that can help you suss out somebody's politics or kinks, negotiate safer sex protocols, and (maybe) call the whole thing off. Personal Questions | Touchy Subjects | Political Alignment | STI Testing | Disclosing Kinkiness | Assessing Chemistry Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Diving deeper into our recent discussion on how curiosity is sexy, this week we discuss the practice of asking questions on dates: why it matters, why it's hot, and what kinds of questions we like to ask and be asked. Why Ask Questions? | Demonstrating Interest | Assessing Compatibility | Conversational Labor | Building Connection | Carrying the Conversation | Different Conversational Styles | Easy Questions | Questions We've Loved Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Polyamorous dating can be pretty different depending on whether you're single versus in a long-term relationship already; this week we discuss our experiences of both kinds. Primary vs. Anchor | Hierarchy | Scarcity vs. Abundance | Avoiding Codependency | Growth & Change | New Relationship Energy | Monogamous-Minded People | Dating Newbies | Bringing It Up | New People | Couples' Privilege | Security | Humanizing Metamours Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

This week we're discussing some interesting and unusual fetishes we've stumbled across recently, from glossy magazines to nail-biting to haircutting. Glossy Magazines | Eggs | Job Ethics | Squidly Co. (Discount Code DILDORKS20) | Non-Consensual Haircutting | Forced Masculinization | Nail-Biting | Context-Dependent Desires Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

This week we discuss two crucial qualities that can make you exponentially better in bed (and out of bed, too): curiosity and creativity.Sexual Skills | Communication | Curiosity | Accepting Feedback | Limitations | Compassion & Empathy | Conflicts & Problem-Solving | Solo Curiosity | Curiosity is Attractive | Asking Questions & Listening | Long-Term Relationships | Brainstorming & Decision-Making | “Short Kings” Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Pursuing pleasure isn't always as easy as it may seem, so this week we're discussing some common hurdles to pleasure and how to overcome them, among other things. What is Pleasurable? | Resistance to Sensation | Underprepared for Pleasure | Hurdles | Daydreaming | Romanticizing Your Life | Posting About Pleasure | Nervous System Regulation | Mental Preparation | “How Can I Make This Fun?” | Workarounds for “Productivity” Anxieties | Idle Brain Time | Gender Euphoria | Public-Facing Persona | Suggestions Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

When times get tough, pleasure becomes more important than ever. This week, we discuss our favorite ways of accessing pleasure, and the role it plays in our lives, both in and out of the bedroom. Pleasure Activism | “A Rising Tide Lifts All Boats” | Taking the Leap | Beacon of Pleasure Permission | Our Favorite Pleasures | Cocktails & Rituals | Cleaning & Organizing | Learning & Improving | Savoring | Joy as Resistance | Pain & Masochism | Conversations | Chastity & Denial | Disordered Eating (42:00–46:50) | Alleviation of Discomfort | Trans Youth Healthcare Action Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

This week we're continuing to discuss some of our favorite films about the LGBTQ+ experience – plus a few about non-monogamy and sex work, for good measure! 750GB of Trans Content | Obsession & Bigotry | Sylvia Scarlett | Call Me Kate | Katharine Hepburn | Angels in America | Spirituality for Queers | Fellow Travelers | The Apprentice | Lavender Marriage | Some Like It Hot | Tootsie | She's the Man | Disclosure | Mulan | Cruising | Dog Day Afternoon | The Dog | Theodora Goes Wild | Design for Living | Two Girls and a Guy | Fire Island | The Leather Boys | The Telephone Book | The Heart Machine | Love and a Major Organ | Sanctuary Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

We needed a dose of queer resilience this week (maybe you do too!), so we're talking about some of our favorite queer films and the evolution of LGBTQ+ cinema. The News | Hope Throughout History | The Struggle | The Birdcage | The Celluloid Closet | Philadelphia | Straight Actors in Queer Roles | Making Love | Nathan & Robin on Oprah | Ben-Hur | Hays Code | Saturday Night | Coming Out & Outing People | The Children's Hour | Shame & Self-Loathing | Framing Agnes | Cis vs. Trans Audiences | Before Stonewall | Forbidden Love | P.S. Burn This Letter Please | Kumu Hina | The Final Member | Scotty and the Secret History of Hollywood Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

This week we get real vulnerable (and a li'l intoxicated) and tell you about some of our favorite new fantasies from 2024, the goals we set for our sex lives last year, and what we want to try in 2025. Fantasies | Pleasure Inequality | Meta-Fantasies | Plausibility | Zero-Consequences Room | Severance | No Nut November | Skull-Fucking | Last Year's Goals | New Goals | Paring Down | DP | Ask For What You Want | Sex for Pleasure, Not Money | Sex Therapy | Socializing | Good Gender Feelings | Archiving Media Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

How did you grow and change in 2024 when it comes to sex and relationships? This week, we're reflecting on our biggest (and kinkiest) shifts over the past year, plus discussing our current favorite sex toys. Overall Shifts | Uneventful? | Openness to Long-Distance | Alone Time & Codependency | New Things | Rimming | Horny Genders | Cryo | Penis Pumps | Cages & Sleep Sex | VR Porn, Trance Triggers & Flat Cages | Mod Love Deluxe Thruster | Kate's Favorite Toys of 2024 | Lovecore Night King | Myth Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Vocal tone can have a big effect on kink scenes and everyday conversations alike, so this week we're discussing our feelings on voices and dirty talk. Dirty Talk & Humiliation | Voice Kink & Praise Kink | Long-Distance | Off-Camera vs. On | Speaking vs. Typing | Attraction | The Ick | Performativity | Billy's Yes/No/Maybe List | Gender & Pitch | Dom & Sub Voices | Archetypes & Parts | Gender & Bottoming Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

People are always coming up with new and interesting fetishes, and this week we discuss some unusual ones we've seen lately. Current Definition | “Deviating” from the “Norm” | Taboo & Shame | Cream Pies & Facesitting | Bubble-Blowing | Sex Work Stigma | Mind-Reading | Sex Worker Fetish | Accelerator & Brakes Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

This week, a conversation about denial kink devolves into a wide-ranging discussion of gendered sex narratives, the kinky legacies of trauma, and the Big Nut. Orgasms vs. Other Stuff | Enough to Make You Blush | (Lack of) Power | Motivation & Specialness | Big Shiny Stakes | Self-Worth & “Deservingness” | Family Influences | Working Toward a Reward | Healing | Topping | “Throw ‘Em a Bone” | “Men Only Want One Thing” | Hyperawareness | Begging | Solo Processing | Orgasm Intensity | Mindfulness & Meaning Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

What if celebrity crushes can be healthy, actually? This week, we discuss some of the benefits of parasocial relationships, for people on both sides of the slash. Masculinity in the Sex Shop | Benefits for Crush-er | Emotional Energy | Low Investment | Is It New? | The Tragedy of Heterosexuality | Dead Famous | Stalkers | Benefits for Crush-ee | Motivation & Inspiration | Needing Reassurance | Fame & Self-Expression | Persona vs. Self | “Cool Guy” Masculinity | Domme Energy | Something More? Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

This week Kate and her spouse mb discuss the politics and philosophy of No Nut November, and how it compares to chastity play. NNN vs. Chastity Kink | Greater Purpose | Love & Affection | “Don't Think About It” | Teasing | Sleep Hygiene | Insomnia | Working Out | Flagging | Unusual Turn-Ons | Concentration | Willpower & Inescapability | Political Spectrum | NNN's Far-Right Roots | Locktober | Nut Hunters | Religion | Daily Task | Mandatory Semen Sample | Different Desires | Pussy-Free | Social Motivation | Friend As Keyholder Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

We've experienced parasocial relationships from both sides of the coin, so this week we're discussing our experiences with this sometimes-nice, sometimes-yikes type of attraction. That Fuckin' Election, Man | People vs. Characters | “Mainstream” Pop Culture | Presumed Intimacy | Social Staircase | Is It A Problem? | Avoiding Vulnerability | Manic Pixie Fucktoy | Tech Adaptations | Crushworthy Traits Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Happy Halloween! This week we're discussing our favorite fantasies outside the realm of realism. Fantasies Changing Over Time | Impossibilities | Tropes & Genres | Hypnosis | Being Watched | Magic vs. Medicine | Mind-Reading | Fairies | Dragons | Love Potions | Settings & Mechanics Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

We're taking the week off, so here's the full, previously-unreleased conversation we had when Kate interviewed Billy for Making Magic in September of last year! We touched on the Magic Wand's role in queer sex, trans sex, porn, kink, and our lives as a whole. First Memories | Current Relationship to the Wand | Aesthetics | Porn | Conducting Vibrations | Dysphoria | Trans Sex | Queer Sex | “Best” Vibrator? | Tech Considerations | Kink | Safewords | Roleplay | Casual Hitachi'ing | Surgery Recovery Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

This week, we dig deeper into the fear of rejection, sharing some ways we cope with this fear in our own lives and discussing how cultural and hormonal factors can influence it. Asking for Reassurance | Self-Soothing | What's “Too Much”? | Incels | What Does Sex “Mean”? | Hormones | Confidence & Self-Awareness | Vote for Making Magic! Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Halloween is coming up, so we decided to talk about fear… of rejection! Fear Fluctuations | Self-Soothing | Vulnerability Points | Pandemic Changes | Building Resiliency | What Are We Afraid Of? | Scarcity Mindset | “Hey, Fuck You!” | Rejecting vs. Rejected | “Beggars Can't Be Choosers” | Guilt vs. Shame | Non-Monogamy | Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria | Vote for Making Magic! Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Sadists get a bad rap sometimes, so this week we're discussing some of the things we love about them. Stigma | Consent | Emotional Complexity | Intimacy & Vulnerability | Fantasy vs. Desire | Empathy & Understanding | Trust & Holding Space | Communication Tools | Joy Over Normalcy | Comedy vs. Psychodrama Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

This week Billy chats with his partner, Dee Darkholme, about their shared love of cannibalism kink. Cannibalism Is Romantic | Obsession & Limerence | Butchering & Preparing | Silence of the Lambs | Primal Mauling | Vore & Tinies | Media | Cannibalism: A Perfectly Natural History Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Friend of the show Mx. Nillin Lore has a new book out called How Do I Sexy?: A Guide for Trans and Nonbinary Queers, so this week we spoke with them about trans sexuality, furries, body modifications, and more! How Do I Sexy? | ‘Own Voices' Trans Art | I Saw the TV Glow | Beacons of Permission | Trans Joy | HRT | Don't Have to Hate It to Change It | Good vs. Bad Doctors | Body Mods | Disturb the Comfortable | Furryism | Video Games Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

This week, we discuss how we'd prepare for a first date, a threesome, a first sex/kink conference, and a new crush, in honor of National Preparedness Month. Why Prepare? | Managing Anxiety | Neurodivergence | First Dates | Conversation Topics | Sex on the First Date | Condoms & Vibrators | Threesomes | First Con | Oncoming NRE Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Can people-pleasers be into service kink? This week, we're discussing our evolving relationships to providing and receiving service (sexual, domestic, and otherwise) within kink dynamics. Trauma & the Past | Explicit Instructions & Praise | Defining Service | Intentionality | Anxiety & Neurodivergence | Misdirected Service | Turn-On vs. Love Language | Purpose & Meaning | Intimacy & Being Seen | Caretaking & Attachment | Receiving Service | Self-Service | Achievement | Cleaning | Praise Without Service Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Can you believe we've done 400 episodes?! This week, we look back at some of our old “hot takes” and see whether we still agree with them. Vulnerability | Categories | Friendship | Things We Hate | New Crush Energy | LGBT | Kate's Favorite Episodes | Dating Vanilla People | Scheduling Sex | Growth Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Vore is one of the most interesting and fantastical kinks out there, and this week we're doing a deep-dive on it while continuing to discuss animated porn.Devil's Cookie | Vore | Horror | Genital Transformation | Cis Men Writing Women | Swallowing | Cock Vore | Death By Pussy | Gender Politics | Cute Aggression | Spit | Stigma & “Weirdness” Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Is animated porn as hot as “the real thing”? Sometimes it's even hotter! This week we're discussing what animated porn can do that live-action porn can't, and the elements we most love to see in these clips. Curating Porn | Why? | Wet Dreams | Authenticity vs. Acting | Neurodivergence | Cartoonishness | “Oopsie” Series | Campiness | Sexting with an A.I. | Stuffed | Stuffed 2 | Tentacles | Mime and Dash | Voice Actors Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Ghosting may not be the most mature way to end things with someone, but it does happen – so this week we're discussing the ethics of ghosting, and offering our best advice for people on both sides of this practice. Defining “Ghosting” | Expectations of Availability | How to Not Ghost | Meta-Communication | When Is It OK? | Emotional Self-Care | Asking What's Up | Coming Back & Apologizing Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Intelligence play, such as bimbofication, is an edgy-yet-intriguing kink for many people – so this week we're discussing our own feelings about it, and about intelligence in general. Identity & Value | Perception | Ableist Language | Humiliation | Vulnerability | Smart Tops | Multiple Intelligences | Smartness vs. Hotness | Confidence | Infantilization | How to Do It | Fragrance | Music | Loose & Free Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

This week we're diving deeper into our discussion of kissing, covering common issues people have with making out, like finding tongues gross or not knowing what to say between kisses. Tongue | Closed-Mouth Kissing | Dirty Talk | LDRs | Setting Boundaries | Date Kate Survey Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Kissing is hot, and can tell you a lot about a person. This week we're answering listener questions about making out. Evolving Opinions | Kissing vs. Sex | Kissing vs. Making Out | Duration | Sexual Chemistry/Compatibility | The Most Important Skill | Setting a Precedent | Communication & Consent | Memorable (Not-)Kisses | Intoxicants Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

We're continuing our discussion on emotional sadomasochism this week, covering hypnosis, negotiation, mid-scene troubleshooting, and how to subvert harmful experiences into hot scenes. Intimacy & Vulnerability | Intentional Emotional Extremes | Trauma & Triggers | Negotiation & Scene-Planning | Reassurance | Transphobia & Misogyny | 24/7 Emotional S&M | Attractiveness | Hypnosis Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Sadomasochism isn't just physical – many kinksters play with pain and discomfort in the emotional and psychological realms, too. This week we're discussing the art of emotional S&M! What is Emotional S&M? | Enough to Make You Blush | Emotional vs. Psychological | Hot Ones | Hurts So Good | Grown-Up Playtime | Healing | Winning | Topping | Communication Tools | Channeling Bad Impulses | Abuse | Generating Ideas Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Why are first times so hot? This week we're interrogating our feelings on first times, both real and roleplayed. What is a “First Time”? | First Times Fetish | Surprised & Overwhelmed | Special & Notable | First Date Roleplays | Finding Authenticity | Virginity Loss Roleplay | Confidence & Experience | Tops vs. Bottoms | /r/RandomActsOfMuffDive | Ethics of Sex with Virgins | Innocence vs. Corruption | Virginity | Sex with New People | How to Be a Good First Fuck Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

We're answering listener questions this week about rimming, condoms, masturbation, fetishes, and more! Rimming | Sick People | Textured Condoms | Lifestyles Tuxedo Condoms | One Pleasure Plus | Masturbation Shame | Our Fears | Advice We Don't Follow Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

This week Billy talks with his partner Dee Darkholme about some of the unusual kinks and dynamics that have emerged in their relationship. Feet | Future Relationships | Intimacy & Demisexuality | Need vs. Occasional Want | Curiosity & Non-Judgment | Feet, Again | Piss | Squirting | Testosterone | Bringing Up New Kinks Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

This week we're chatting with the brilliant author and podcaster Tina Horn about her new book, Why Are People Into That?: A Cultural Investigation of Kink! Fisting | Circlusion | Citing Sources | CNC | Bad Tweets | Footnotes | Connoisseurs | Glasses Fetish | Sex & the City | Bimbos | Gender Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.